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The lessons I've learnt have been costly, and so it's my duty to share them.
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"Treat them mean, keep them keen"?
A discussion on dating avoidant women and whether you should hold back on your love in order to keep them around
#datingadviceformen #relationships #avoidantattachment
#datingadviceformen #relationships #avoidantattachment
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"I wanted him to keep trying (after I said no)"
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A discussion into the meaning behind when women turn down a man's advances and expect him to still pursue her, with phrases like "I wanted him to fight for me!" (Ironically I decided to cut the clip where the exact phrase was used from this video but the sentiment is there even if it is worded differently in the opening videos). #masculinity #datingadviceformen #relationships #selfimprovement
"This is the most r3tarded thing I've seen in a while, and I own a mirror"
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What a one line joke told me about advise and friendship #censorship #honesty #selfimprovement
The thing keeping you single
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#datingadvice #relationships #selfimprovement #attachmentstyles #rocd #relationshipanxiety Content clip is from Teal Swann but I couldn't find the original
Why Nice Guys see themselves as good people
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#niceguys #simping #selfimprovement #niceguysyndrome Using the examples of Will Smith and my own experience, I share some thoughts on why Nice Guys and Simps see themselves as morally good and also why they cling to toxic relationships.
Can marriage be saved?
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In a world where more and more marriages end in divorce, with huge financial and familial implications, can marriage be saved? #marriage #divorce #relationships #selfimprovement
Why am I so superficial and shallow?
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#selfreflections #selfimprovement #dating #relationships #attraction More than a year ago, I googled "Why am I so shallow?" and nothing came up. All I found was advice on how to deal with shallow people, but nothing from the perspective of someone who found themselves focused on superficial traits, and conscious of it. In this video I share my thoughts on this question.
"Just a Friend"-ing your way into a relationship is NOT a win
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#datingadviceformen #relationshipadvice #infidelity Being Mr Steal Your Girl is not a good approach for finding long term relationship partners. Referenced video: czcams.com/video/65oM_Emq32A/video.html
Wheat Waffles Waves Goodbye: I disagree with his conclusions but he made some good points
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BlackPill CZcamsr Wheat Waffles announced his departure from CZcams this week and I wanted to critically address a few points he made in his video, as well as the movement as a whole. Original video I'm responding to: czcams.com/video/-8gGs7qdoMU/video.htmlsi=tgn1kjHgPHEkWu4E #blackpilled #wheatwaffles #redpill #selfimprovement
Low Expectations Stay With You For YEARS
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#selfimprovement #movingon #relationships How even years after a very bad relationship, even after healing and turning your life around, low expectations can stay with you in ways you don't even notice
Bumble: Women starting conversations is a "burden"
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#onlinedating #selfimprovement #masculinity A discussion around Bumble's decision to give up on it's chief principle that women should make the first move.
Developing a State of Serenity and Peace
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#selfimprovement #meditation #serenity #innerpeace Some thoughts on the journey towards serenity which I have discovered over the years
Stop Wasting Time on the Man vs Bear "debate"!
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#manvsbear A few quick thoughts on the "would you rather meet a man or a bear in the woods?" "debate" which is generally a whole waste of time in a world where most people never meet a bear.
"Men are Useless" but "Women are Wonderful" ???
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"Men are Useless" but "Women are Wonderful" ???
"He Was Too Perfect For Me" - Why women divorce "perfect" men
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"He Was Too Perfect For Me" - Why women divorce "perfect" men
The heart wants what it wants (but is dumb AF) - How to stop repeating the same mistakes
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The heart wants what it wants (but is dumb AF) - How to stop repeating the same mistakes
Hamza makes these mistakes about relationships
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Hamza makes these mistakes about relationships
"Men are all sleeping around" - The men women complain about VS the invisible majority
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"Men are all sleeping around" - The men women complain about VS the invisible majority
"Just Bang 'Em All" - Older Woman's Advice to Younger Women
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"Just Bang 'Em All" - Older Woman's Advice to Younger Women
dignifAI - will it end simping and thirst traps?
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dignifAI - will it end simping and thirst traps?
"If you cant handle me at my worst, then you don't deserve me at my best"
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"If you cant handle me at my worst, then you don't deserve me at my best"
High Intensity Full-Body Workout in under 20 minutes
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High Intensity Full-Body Workout in under 20 minutes
Viewer Question: Will I regret waiting until marriage?
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Viewer Question: Will I regret waiting until marriage?
The "sex isn't everything" excuse in sexless marriages - a rant
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The "sex isn't everything" excuse in sexless marriages - a rant
Hello! You've mentioned a couple times about having a support group for men or something like that. How did you find that? I'd like something like that but I'm having a hard time finding it.
@@lguinancio I'm an admin in Male Survivors of Female Narcissistic Abuse on Facebook. This particular conversation was not from that group though.
Why is our story so similar?? I could feel your pain because I am going through the same. In this sexless marriage and I don’t know what to do. I have been so committed, never ever thought about anyone else even though I have been in this sexless marriage for 10 years now. A couple of months back I found a lot of hidden stuff about him. I gave him everything.. loyalty love care and he was just cheating on me. It is hard to find love, it’s hard to find someone loyal and doesn’t just want to use you and throw you out when done. I hope you find someone who truly deserves your love. :)
Thanks man for the video and your honesty. I have my first infusion coming up. It sounds like you dissociated on your first round. May I ask what dosage they gave you? Was it the .5mg/kg? Little nervous for the first one.
@@FredBarchetta yes I think that's what I started on. Went up each of the first sessions and settled at 0.8 I think.
great way to express it, I have his memories? so true. we all approach sex differntly. take time to know her, women can be connviving deceitful and mean. Im 70 and have meet them and married them now i am married to the most caring and loving person for the last 15 years, stop buying material things this is not love.
Good one Chris
You are truely a wise and well educated men,your channel give us all so much.Thank you for the thinks you say and do for us.✌
From what your explaining it almost sounds like your mother may have had Narcisstic personality disorder. Your ex definately had a really bad case of it, her behaviour had all the symptoms of that. You never described much about your mom or dad, but given that you were raised mostly by your mom, and seemingly explain being conditioned to be submissive to shame and gaslighting, well, that tells me she may have been too dominant and controlling. Sounds rough, your ex was a straight up Narco with a sociopathic tendencies, unfortunately, I began to realize that NPD is a real epidemic in the human population, so many people seem to have this psychological disorder and often times it goes undiagnosed, since baby boomer protrayed it as normal and even encouraged it thoughout the 80's and 90's. They call it the formula for success when it was actually a sickness.
It definitely wasn't NPD on her side. Too much ability to later in life reflect and apologise for her mistakes. Maybe my dad though. I agree that narcissistic traits are encouraged especially in women in the Instagram generation.
This is pure GOLD , men need to stop entertaining , giving time attention and giving relationships to damaged women . Thanks for sharing
The part where she said “you just set us back”, that really got me. What blatant manipulation. Some people are not much more evolved than animals. So glad for you that you got out before you had any kids. Consider that a blessing and now your blessing other young men by sharing your experience. 🙏
I belive i played house for too long that i don’t want a b marry /live in no more im realized i never been alone & im only child now the 50 yrs old i want to time to self
Similar story. They withhold sex to break you down, they see it makes you miserable not having it and that makes them wicked and cruel. They still have happy endings other ways, just hide it. The straw for me was when I noticed his need to entertain other women all while knowing i am starved of sex and I started hearing they cheated and knew they did and refuse to come clean. Noone will ever keep sex out of my life again, the moment they do and i tell them to stop and they dont, i am moving on that day, period.
While I think there are genuine things like sickness, grief, and other low points, I think people should have an end to the patience they give a relationship partner.
Whose raising these clowns For the love of god. Dum and annoying
My brain just got fried from these 2 idiot girls
No means no. No means, "Move on, you dusty loser." No is your final answer. Period. No exceptions. If you say no, expect a self-respecting man to take it as a no.
In the old pick up artist literature, this was known as “token resistance” where a woman says “no” even though she really means “yes” because she doesn’t want to be seen as a slut and she wants to see if the man is willing to fight for her. It should be interpreted as “not right now, try again later” instead of a hard “no”. Regardless, it’s best to avoid such silly games and it warms my heart to see that men aren’t tolerating it anymore.
I think it's playing a dangerous game to toy with the idea of LMR. No can mean not right now. And it's best to treat it as such, but not to immediately keep trying. There has to be a consequence for the no. Some girls, if they really want you, will set things up for you to have an easy yes the next time around.
That is why guys have Playstation, XBOX, cell phones with a shit load of GAMES on it, we take things LITERALLY, .
This happens a LOT. Most guys have the right idea. Accept the no and disengage. It is not worth it. She will try to lure you back with sex but dont do it. If she changed her mind before she can change it again. The safest way to avoid an sa charge is to not have the sex. Women like this are broken beyond repair and you want to let her go ruin some other mans life. Not yours.
❤ You're really inspirational. Thanks for telling your story. Wishing you happiness😊
Thank you. All the best to you too.
This just shows how stupid women are men don't read mind's or play these stupid games.
Ladies, ladies, ladies, I thought no meant no. Is that not the case anymore? To a man, no does mean no, so off we go, gbye!
beyond repair
No one wants to go to jail for some over some pussy 😂
This is a bit dangerous, if something happens to them and the lawyer get’s his/her hands on this…
Both chicks have arm tats.......................red flag!!! No thanks!
There's a correlation with tattoos and impulsivity but I try not to be too black and white on these things. I've also met girls with no tattoos who were highly impulsive and not relationship material.
Delusional women are why men are done!!!
“Damn, I missed a chance to have him arrested for SA”
Lately I’ve been wanting to stay single. I’ve been through shitty relationships and lately all I’ve wanted is to be alone no attention from anyone. There’s a girl right now who calls me every day and wants a relationship. Ive made it clear we should take it slow. But lately I’ve been thinking that maybe this is something I don’t want. Is this normal? Is it messed up to tell them I don’t want anything after investing her feelings?
Anyone can change their mind at any time. However just be aware of patterns. I recently had to lean into not quitting a relationship when my gut told me to run, because I noticed I would do the same thing at the same point with different girls. I always found an imperfection and treated it like the worst thing in the world. My fear was keeping me single. I now in a loving relationship, 4 years after making this video. See some of my more recent videos for more on this.
@@busybecomingmyself my problem is I get attached at certain points during getting to know the person. So this time I caught myself I feel. To end it in its tracks. But I also don’t want to hurt their feelings. I’ve noticed my own loneliness is what made me get into relationships in the first place. My own expectation of what a men should do at certain times in their lives. But all that’s done is cause trauma and disorder. I sit here in my room alone. I come home to an empty house. I ride alone in my car. I go to gatherings and don’t feel like socializing. If I go with friends I don’t feel like I’m there so I don’t really engage in much. With this girl we was having a blast and I noticed it getting too deep so I told her let’s be just friends nothing more. But I just feel so empty and lost. Don’t know where I’m heading.
@@franka6680 I used to do similar things and the possibility still lives in me. Getting used to riding out discomfort, not giving into spiralling thought patterns, and making decisions over months not moments is what helped me. Books I would suggest: Attached by Levi and (can't remember the other name right now) How to Stubbornly Refuse to Make Yourself Miserable by Dr Albert Ellis
I’m calling it B.S this is nothing but emotional m@strubation
Calling BS on what part exactly?
They want to play games, and men aren't playing.
*Slow. golf. clap.* Your jib, sir. I like the cut of it.
but refusing to take "NO" for an answer is the very essence of a RAP!ST.' So if a woman says NO I am outa there and this at the bare minimum i do out of respect for her own expressed preference. if she wants to play games let her play them with her self. if they will NOT say what they mean and mean what they say they show THEIR WORD IS WORTHLESS and their character base and untrustworthy they cannot have it both ways
There's a word for a man who doesn't take no for an answer... Harassment.
Women will say no mean no, except when they don't mean it. When is which? Even she doesn't always know. This is why most men would rather spend time on their own, hanging out with their friends, or just spend time with their dogs, over being around a woman. My dogs don't play these games. They make it pretty clear that they enjoy going for walks and sitting on the couch with me scratching their bellies.
If she wants something different from what she says, she wants a mind-reader, not a man. You on the other hand, don't need a liar or someone that can't communicate clearly. I.e. a healthy, functioning adult.
I want him To keep trying after i said no....she says in this post...literally the last post i seen from a wahmen said wohmen dont play games....holy fuck, thats all they know how to do is play games....
natural directors and commanders
Women don't know what they want and they won't stop until they get it.
Well said sir....
Such behavior is а power struggle - she wants to dominates you and you to be a beggar. For simps it is OK, for real men - not at all. There's someone for everyone...
Women need to realise that Men don't fight for trash......and what is making women trash is playing these stupid games.
You failed to speak about the duplicitous nature of this request. If a man does pursue her then he is obsessive, controlling, a stalker, she feels harassed etc etc and so on into the female dark psyche we go
I see the retention rates on videos. Less than half of people can concentrate for even 5 minutes. The video was long enough to get a message across.
When a women says “he should know, I shouldn’t have to tell him what I want” I think they are talking about anticipating what her needs are. This is of course not true with all women especially the ones that would be deemed as unhealthy. But for the healthy women who make this statement I agree to a point. If you have already been in a relationship for a few months, and had the talks that address what each person is wanting out of the relationship then anticipating each other’s needs is kinda part of being in a relationship. For example when my wife knows that I’ve had an exhausting day at work, she will do extra little things to make the rest of the evening more comfortable for me, like get my sweatpants out for me, have a cold drink ready for me, and things like that. And I do the same for her in return, without either of us asking the other. As far as the “no” but try anyway part, I can see how while dating that would be completely stupid of the woman to think he’s going to keep trying after she made it clear by saying no. But as a married couple my wife makes it a playful game where I’ll end up chasing her around the house, but she makes it clear she ok with whatever I’m asking for by playfully saying no.😎
My girlfriend sometimes anticipates my needs. Not all the time. And I never feel annoyed about her not anticipating something I haven't said. That's just a waste of time.
Wow, he sounded like he sincerely liked you and was a gentleman. If you just wanna be a hoe, pass him my way 😂
Remember guys, no means yes, and yes means anal
62 retired don't want kids. there no need for annoying woman in my life.
A real man loves himself so much that he doesn't need the love of anyone else.
I strongly recommend you all the song "No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Alice Cooper. You can find it here on CZcams.
Its simply demonising men. Don't care if they burn, but they can do it on there own away from me. I may be nice, but doesn't mean when pushed I'm a nice guy.
I'll pass on the prison sentence.
Play stupid games win stupid prizes, jesus christ.....🙄
Bitchs be crazy.