The Female Psychopath
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- čas přidán 26. 12. 2023
- A discussion of female psychopathy and how to defend yourself from them #psychopath #femalepsychology #narcissism #boundaries
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This is one of the better videos on giving solutions or rather, how to conduct yourself around people like this
My mother encouraged my brother to kill himself, and he did in 2019. She destroyed him for being the result of her secret affair. A monster. The last time I saw her was at his funeral and she was upset one of her friends went to Pizza Hut and didn't share with her. She moved into the apartment he took his life in less than one week later. I couldn't imagine. She used to torture me mentally, but my saving grace was she hated me for looking like my father, so she was happy to be rid of me when I was 18. My brother was a different story.
Heart breaking. Bet you're a softhearted and strong minded person. Start and focus on your journey of healing and along the way start healing others you will find it beyond rewarding
@@greenjupiter Thank you. I've battled with myself since she is now an old woman. However, she has my number and is not blocked anywhere. The last time she called m was in 2020 to tell me her dog died. She doesn't care about me and I'm learning to not care about her. Harder than it should be but getting easier. Thanks again.
@@show_me_your_kitties you're a great human being. I hope you never stop loving yourself while sharing your light with others. I'm available to talk whenever u ever feel like it
I told my mother, we could talk, but only in companion to a therapist. This is the best, I can offer.
I'm so sorry to hear this.
You say wise things there. Believe it or not, the video puts a lot into perspective for me. Thank you sir!
Thanks!
It sounded like he was comparing her in bed and didn't like it and dropped her and kicked her out of his house. She said she hated him b/c he was comparing her while she was hitting him. So if that's the case who really is the narcissist???
It could be. However, her reaction was sustained, with destruction of property, stealing from a wallet and the threat to have him arrested and ruin his life, doesn't sound like someone who just got to the point of saying or doing a single act out of being wound up.
Single men, STAY single! Stay focused and take a break from women. Grow your $$$, go to the gym, empower yourself!
Such breaks for a time can be useful. In general, build the life (including social) and the women will come.
If you test others reaction, you act unethically. It simply takes time and consciousness to build up relationships. This is the "trick".
Nowhere did I say to "test others reactions". I said to "be totally yourself, and see how they react". Are you saying that that's unethical?
Chris, how is it that women like this are able to convince a man to get into a relationship?
Poor boundaries, attachment issues and/or low expectations on the man's part
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#WAP
With all due respect... you are totally making this woman out to be a physco BUT fail to mention anything wrong doing about the man. I'm not buying it. HE is way too calm and SHE is way too fired up. There's a reason he filmed her during this reaction. Did he film himself when he said what he said to her or treated her how he did? Just labeled her.. not fair and totally not right.
@@anniefn3068 I do believe there's a possibility he did something to make her really hurt and angry.
A normal person would have raised their voice or shouted an insult and stormed out.
If you think destroying property, stealing from someone's wallet, and threatening to ruin their life are normal reactions, you're simply not a normal person.
My son is married to a girl who claimed an older friend of hers r*ped her, went on the run and killed himself. That when dna was done on her kit that he had r*ped several other women. She also claimed that this friend had re written his will a year before leaving her everything as he was unmarried and had no children. Basically making her a multimillionaire. Turns out the guy wasnt dead, i have my doubts as to the rape because it never went anywhere in the courts. Once the deception started unraveling she has now settled on he did r*pe her, promised to give her money if she would drop charges so she did and then he didnt follow through. She claims the elaborate lies were because she couldn't deal with reality and had a psychotic breakdown. There have been several claimed miscarriages in their marriage and a few months ago supposedly had a stillbirth at somewhere around 6 or 7 months along. The pregnancy was kept secret from me. I think it was because she knew i wouldn't believe it and would try to expose that as a lie if it was. She is now supposed to be pregnant again. There have been many lies he has caught her in over the years so he knows that this is not new behavior but he is basically brain washed. He has cut all contact with me.
I'm very sorry to hear that. My ex wife also separated me from my parents. She even couched it with the phrase "I never wanted to make you choose but" then made me choose. And since my parents were so disappointed in me anyway, I thought "maybe I can make one person not disappointed instead of none of them". Hardest and most painful decision of my life.
Don't give her any (more) possible ammo against you. My parents, especially my mother objected to my marriage but always attacked superficial and irrelevant things, instead of core things that mattered, so it was easy for her to paint them as vindictive.
Give it time for the relationship to collapse itself. Don't try to assist in that process.
@@busybecomingmyself thank for your words of hope. I can't tell you how much I appreciate them.
@busybecomingmyself did you have kids with this woman
I notice people in the comments saying they can't tell who is the narcissist and who is the reactive victim, and tbh, from the short clip, you cannot tell.
How you can tell a victim from a narcissist though is easily done over a period of time.
After a year or 2 after the breakup and away from the narc, the cptsd victim starts to calm down/go to therapy, etc.
Point is, eventually the person ab*sed calms down.
They also might get married to someone nice, live happily, etc.
Meanwhile, the Npd goes out, finds new supply almost immediately, doesn't go to therapy, or even ask why or consider what they did wrong, and tells their new fiancé "yeah, my ex was crazy."
5 years later the fiancé, now wife, is also being treated the same as the first person.
"You are crazy!" The narc shouts to his wife as he peers through the window and bangs on the house door at 12 pm at night, drunk as a skunk.
Meanwhile, she is huddled behind the locked kitchen door with their kids, praying to god for safety and peace.
What I'm trying to say is, the narc doesn't change, ever, but the victim eventually does, even if they have reactive abuse in the beginning.
I don't think it's necessary to label someone as one or the other. Behaviours should be condemned, not people. Labels seek to exonerate one party completely and condemn the other completely. In this video I wanted to address psychopathic behaviour rather than using labels to focus on external parties and factors. If we focus on what we can control - ourselves - we can make ourselves incompatible with those who would exploit us, clinical diagnosis or not, and be aware of when we are exhibiting behaviours which seek to exploit others.
the video at beginning def seems more like borderline behaviour... just my opinion
It could be. There is a lot of ambiguity to the term psychopathy like I mentioned in the video, and also the definitions aren't so cut and dry. The "I'll destroy your life (using the legal system)" seems strongly psychopathic to me.
What if she is a victim of narcissist abuse? Would just be like the narcissist to rile her up then take a video of her reaction. While he remains all calm and perfect for the camera.
The victim of Narcissistic abuse should not be breaking up the house physically and tampering with his wallet. Then making threats to have him arrested. He might not be perfect but a lot of men would have not tolerated her behaviour long before this encounter happened imho!
An innocent victim is not going to say "I could call the police and have you arrested and ruin your life". Reactive abuse is a flash in a pan which disappears quickly, not trying to burn everything down, or in this case, destroying property, stealing from his wallet and threatening to abuse the legal system to ruin his life.
@@busybecomingmyself ever had reactive abuse? I beg to differ..
@@anniefn3068 yes. I didn't do this.
I raised my voice. I used harsh language. I didn't have to destroy property, steal or threaten to ruin her life. That would make me an abuser, which I am not.
Well, everyone is different and kudos to you. However, lengthy relationships are super confusing with all the ups n downs.. to the point where one doesn't even know WHO they are or WHY they react in such a way.. there's alot more behind this than what one may think. I just don't understand why people treat people this way! I have coached my kids to be simple.. acceptable or unacceptable.. and don't stray from your gut feelings. Life is too short to be treated any other way ❤✌
Yes. He is the arsehole. So is Gracie. So is Steve. They all sound toxic af. But, the OP seems to think he has the moral high ground when he does not. He took it too far. He set out to destroy his friend’s life for the sake of some cheating narcissistic guy he didn’t even know or like. He betrayed her when he owed her some degree of loyalty due to the friendship. Maybe not enough loyalty to lie on her behalf and become complicit, but more than going out of his way to expose her to her family and ruin her life. If he had such a moral objection to what she confessed, he could’ve just quietly pulled back from the friendship.
And if she is given as an example of how a psychopath responds to betrayal (cheating), then maybe for the sake of his safety and wellbeing, he shouldn’t have joined in and betrayed her himself. You’re better off with a psychopath on your side than as an enemy.
I think the fact that there are people out there who would argue that the truth of a rape accusation being a lie is somehow less important than loyalty to a friend, is a huge argument in favour of my stance of "take seriously claims, but don't automatically believe them". There are far too many people who are comfortable with non-rapists being labelled as rapists. And that muddying of the waters just makes it harder for true rape victims.
The difference is facts and truth vs lies. There should be consequences to facts and truth not for false accusations. Based on Gracie's false accusation of rape it throws everything she may have said about Steve before as suspect of more lies. She likely uses lies regularly to manipulate the people in her life.
To me it looks like he is the one who is the problematic one in the relationship.
First drives you crazy, then when you lose your temper, he takes out the phone and starts recording her.
In such situations normal people are usually very reactive and emotional and narcissists/psychopaths are like this guy, enjoying it and taking in all the fuel.
Plus having a nice video of the "crazy" girlfriend is just the cream on top.. as he also gets his "evidence"..
Yeah.. i have been in a relationship with an actual female narcissist, and this is not how they behave.
They behave like the guy filming this video.
Exactly.
That first video looks staged AF.