The Cure for Simping

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  • čas přidán 25. 07. 2024
  • What simping is, why it happens, why it's a problem, and what to do instead
    #simping #simps #boundaries #selfrespect #masculinity #dating #attraction #datingadviceformen
    Links:
    Chris & Andy LIVE: Attraction
    part 1: czcams.com/users/livezzGX17DdsBQ
    part 2: czcams.com/users/livekYiFMLCeeUQ
    Credits for material created by other CZcamsrs and used under Fair Use assumption
    Hoe_math
    Manvsstreet
    Stock Video:
    Video by cottonbro studio: www.pexels.com/video/son-with...

Komentáře • 17

  • @andymholt
    @andymholt Před 4 měsíci +1

    Spot on Chris, it’s amazing how so many people (including the old me) only consider how much they like someone, which is irrelevant.
    All that matters is how much the other person likes you. So choose to spend time with someone who likes you.

  • @Sonicxis4ever
    @Sonicxis4ever Před 4 měsíci +1

    Well, this is what we are taught: chase the girl, go to the gym, get abs, be funny, take professional photos....its exhausting and why so many of us are "simps". I'd much rather talk to girls in real life.

    • @busybecomingmyself
      @busybecomingmyself  Před 4 měsíci +1

      Wanting relationships with women and making yourself more attractive isn't simping.
      But too much focus on a woman who doesn't want you, is.

  • @tanuki532
    @tanuki532 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Thx for the video!

    • @busybecomingmyself
      @busybecomingmyself  Před 4 měsíci

      No problem. Please feel free to pass it on to anyone you think might get some value/enjoyment from it.

  • @darksubconscious7604
    @darksubconscious7604 Před 4 měsíci +1

    I would like to find a way to stop feeling love for someone who disrespects you. I just got refused by a woman, and now I have no motivation for dating or trying to find one.

    • @busybecomingmyself
      @busybecomingmyself  Před 4 měsíci +2

      When I used to do daygame, I would approach around 30 women in a few hours. Only the ones I was strongly attracted to. I'd get rejected instantly by most of them. I'd have a short conversation with some. I'd get around 5 numbers and go on 2 dates. And some days would be better and some days would be worse.
      But exposure and acclimatization to rejection is important for men. Once you speak to enough women, you'll realize that there's so much variability in what they find attractive and their response to you. You can be dressed the same, be in the same mood, and approach in exactly the same way, and one girl will adore you and another girl will look at you like it's an insult that you're even speaking to her. But that huge variation teaches you to not take rejection seriously. If she doesn't want you, someone else will.
      This is another video I made, on the topic of rejection: czcams.com/video/FxPuGKNwHM4/video.html

  • @gregorysmull8068
    @gregorysmull8068 Před 4 měsíci

    Excellent video. Right on point. Make yourself high value and they will come. Your odds of a LTR are much better the more the woman invests in you from the start. After disappointing flings with party girls I met a nice gal chatting on an online game we both enjoyed. After a few weeks we began emailing and then exchanged pics. She then drove 350 miles, crossing over 3 states for our first date which went great. We dated like this for a few months before she moved in. This kind of motivation blew my mind and still does. It helps that I am an athlete and earn a 6 figure salary even back then but I am only 5' 11''. Now happily married for over 20 years with 2 kids.

  • @lawshorizon
    @lawshorizon Před 4 měsíci +1

    I admit I’ve simped a few times, in my life-time, but only as a short-lived, final, desperation ploy for a girl I was crazy about. In other words, if all else fails then try simping (at least for a short period). As you say, it’s an extreme long-shot that it will make any difference. What gets me is the guys that make a lifestyle out of it - I don’t know what’s going on there? Maybe they’re masochists?

    • @busybecomingmyself
      @busybecomingmyself  Před 4 měsíci +2

      Many people live repeating the same failed strategies for decades, hoping that they'll get a different result. Hope is an addictive drug.

    • @lawshorizon
      @lawshorizon Před 4 měsíci +1

      @@busybecomingmyself ... Then simping must be the hope of the hopeless.

  • @cerdic6586
    @cerdic6586 Před 4 měsíci

    Simple: respect yourself and women will likely gravitate to you more without the degrading clinginess

    • @busybecomingmyself
      @busybecomingmyself  Před 4 měsíci +1

      Many men have no idea what self respect looks like, unfortunately. I didn't until my 30s.

    • @cerdic6586
      @cerdic6586 Před 4 měsíci +1

      @@busybecomingmyself I agree. I am still learning and I am 29.

  • @CharisBrinkley
    @CharisBrinkley Před 4 měsíci

    In all my 33 years of living I’ve never none any man as described in the video. Must be foreign because that isn’t American men.