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I here what she saying about religious talk and it used to keep people in a box shamefully for working and giving themselves the life they do deserve. I have a toxic group I want nothing to do with always meddling talking about Im focusing to much on the things I plan to buy which is blessing myself with my own income and Im homeless right now. Crazy as it is your never asking on desiring to much neither expecting to much when you know your going to be the onlg one who blesses you with the things you neex in life adding things into your home, saving for vacations and ect. Toxic people want you to settle for less than what you deserve. To never bless yourselves. Being around these type of people life will past you by and you die and you have nothing to show and have gone nowhere bc people who dont even pay your bills get comfortable with wanting you at a loss, and having nothing for yourself. To tell the true live under a poor coat and will all your hard cash to them that is the best thing you can do for toxic people. Or stay in one place anx allow them to schedule tasks for your daily life as if your a child who's private goals in life is now a privilege if they call the shots. But go nowhere and be happy leave yourselves behind.

When I say you sent me sideways when you said you believe you were the wrong gender for so long because of the father wound. I can't put into words how validating that was to hear another human being say they experienced that too. Thank you. I just started getting in touch and learning endlessly about stepping onto my femininity and that energy. It blew my mind wow.

"Even though the adults in your life who raised you had/have limitations and their own stuff, that doesn't make you unlovable or unworthy." This is of great value to me!

I was drinking you were drinking we was all drinking kids were drinking. I want to drink now should we all drink later ?lol😂

I have got depressed & dont want to live bcoz of my narcissistic mother she spoiled my whole life Iam all alone bcoz of her

And the ones whose children passed away...

Not only did my therapist never point out the many characteristics of narcissism in my husband that I shared with her repeatedly, she never pointed out my traits as a codependent. And never offered ways to respond rather than react or share books, articles, etc to educate me on our dynamic. I’ve been working on and healing myself for over a year. Thank you for your video

I love you from africa, you're helping me by those valuable informations ❤

I definitely thought you were 10years younger than you are.

Your channel has been so beneficial to me, I appreicate how you relate your own life experiences to contextualise the issues. I too got into the work of healing from my childhood stuff because I realized I was struggling in this area of love, family and relationships and I just couldn't figure it out. Opening myself up to explore this things is usually scary at first because the hearttbreak can be so daunting.. My father wounds are around fearing my dad when I was growing up and developing perfectionism and a need for control as a way to counter the fear of rejection and abandonment. Also there's alot of anxiety there because of constantly having to be vigilant and being over giving and never letting myself to receive

Last year I moved father in with me because he was ill. It became so incredibly clear at that point that I indeed have a father wound and why I ended up in so many dysfunctional relationships. I feel he is still wounding me though, and I am ready to embark on my journey of releasing this. Looking forward to hearing how we can move past the father wound. I’m so done with this pattern.

Hi Terri- thank you for your work in this field and beautiful ability to enlighten and teach others. I have a question about something you said near the end of the video (at around 20 min). Your children will always get you but everyone else you get to use your discretion with and decide who has the privilege to be in your life. What if the boundary bully/possible narcissist is your child? How much bullying can one tolerate before walking away?

No. My mother wanted her peace and quiet. She was by a workaholic, married to a narcissist. She was depressed, parentified me, users me as a free housekeeper and was suicidal at times. I became the perfect little girl, doing it all, never causing any trouble, taking care of my brother, keeping my crazy father at bay, so Mom wouldn’t die. I spent a lot of time , after my divorce, healing my childhood trauma. Because of it I’m raising my kids very different. They are loved, heard, seen. I teach them boundaries, self love, nutrition for healthy brain and gut, communication etc. I’m not perfect but I’m trying my best. My kids are so much better equipped for life than I was. Terri, your course “Real Love Revolution” has transformed my life. Having a solid foundation is so important. Lately I realized how much I still struggle with making myself a priority. I’m a people pleaser by nature. That chapter is coming to an end. I am starting to have the courage to be disliked. Being authentic and my true self is more important. Aging is beautiful. There is so much wisdom, knowledge and inner peace that comes with it. I love it.

No ,I don’t have any father wound, my dad Ram Yatan Singh was always loving,caring towards me ,he guarded, cared me from kid stage to college then he married me of, I have only mother wound 😢who didn’t cared at all,

In my personal experience, even some well-meaning doctors who want to help are just accustomed to the uneven power dynamic between doctor and patient which exists on an institutional level. Some are used to the unquestioned power and become emboldened to do things like, interrupt me mid-sentence when I am explaining the reason why I am there or other relevant data. Years ago, I used to feel rushed, nervous, and afraid that I'll forget something or feel dismissed, but now I am grateful that I approach appts. very differently now. I will research ahead of time, have my own bullet points that I wish to address at the appt., and if possible, take notes while I am there and repeat back what I hear to make sure I understand what is said. I will also make sure to ask the question at some point, 'So what is the plan of care, moving forward?' This is an extremely respectful, educated, and empowering question for me. And it reminds me as well as the doctor that, this is not a patriarchal or matriarchal dynamic, but that s/he and I are, as Terri mentioned, partners in my care. And make no mistake, though I respect that they are experts in their respective fields, I am an expert in ME, and I know my body and when something may need attention. And if/when I am interrupted, whereas before I would feel flushed, intimidated, and frustrated afterwards yet remain silent...now, I will respectful say, 'I would really appreciate the opportunity to finish what I'd like to say, thank you.' More than a few doctors have instantly stopped talking, and a few even had a stunned look on their faces. I do believe that, as Terri mentioned, doctors have a certain degree of power that allows them to feel the freedom to take certain liberties, and there is nothing wrong with respectfully educating them regarding how we'd like to be treated. I've had to even remind the doctor, when they have doubled back to tell me one more thing, to actually CLOSE THE DOOR in order to respect my privacy. Again, I don't believe any harmful intent was there, perhaps their schedule was tight. Still, this is my LIFE, and this is me taking responsibility in the ways that I can to take care of me. I've found that doctors who wish to have proactive patients and who are worth their salt actually appreciate us taking responsibility. I hope this extended testimonial helps someone :)

Hi my name is Bryson I am 13 and have looked up some things that i regret. And don't know how to forgive myself and this really helped. Thank you for creating this video.

What do you do when your in mid conversation with a family member where they have invalidated you in the conversation then the phone disconnects on their end so you call them back leave a message on their voicemail to say hey the phone got disconnected never to hear from them again? This happened to me and it caused a huge emotional flashback trigger/CPTSD. I have not addressed it I don’t know if I should I was shocked and it’s several days out now, I’m still processing it. This person also said they loved me but to the degree of pain I felt from this I know that this is not love to disregard and invalidate someone you love like that. This person was from my family of origin and I have noticed that most everyone from this family is like this which explains to me the root cause of my trauma. It was so very hurtful😪

My mom was very physically, emotionally and mentally abusive. I know she also did not receive a good childhood because her mom was an heroine addict and overdosed when my mom was 13. But the pain and trauma that all of that has caused me has been very painful, difficult and devastating. I have been mourning the love, support and care that I didn’t receive for many years now. I’m still on my healing journey and it definitely is an invisible scar/wound. That others try to understand, but can’t fully comprehend because they did not experience the trauma theirselves. Thank you so much for this content. ❤️

I need to be honest. I often find things like this confusing or like maybe I am going mad because it seems to me that these behaviours and attitudes are presented as a bit unusual and stand out. I agree that I don’t think they are healthy or reasonable but I do think they are the norm and more common than not and that’s is the bit that unsettles me. I’m in my third act and through out my life a proprietary attitude toward ones off spring through out their lives is a strong societal norm particularly through past a generations but also still continue with a significant enough percentage of present generations and stronger to some lesser or larger amount in various cultures. I absolutely would like a progressive change around this eventually, though at the moment we appear to be going through a very “regressive “ phase and unrest. My long winded point is that I agree that I find these things very difficult and don’t believe them to be healthy but I end up feeling like I am going crazy or living in a different world to everyone else when it’s talk about as though it rare individuals that are like this. More than 90% of people I have ever encountered or talk struggle with or just normalise and accept it and worse still perhaps repeat some of it themselves.

I am wondering if having a father who was not able to deal with my narcissistic mother or protect us from her rages and unreasonable behaviour is also a father eound of sorts? I can see how he was codependant and kind of gave up fighting against her but its a conflicting feeling that he was the nice parent but also weak in a lot of ways.

My sister just shared this video with me. I am looking forward to reading your book. I have done a lot of work in response to my father wounds. I had a real father that abandoned me after my mother left him and a stepfather that abused me in all the ways possible. Throw in a mother wound on top of that and you have profound wounds that go deep. Yes the symptoms you discussed resonate. I feel though that I have so much untapped potential that I did not achieve unlike you who was driven to succeed to prove yourself. I am 60 now and have done a lot of work but if there is anything energetically I need to heal I am always open to that. You definitely see the impact of the wound and how it played out in my relationships with men. I have learned just like you said that we can grow from these experiences and find the gift that they give us. Thank you for the discussion.💛