How Social Media Harms Your Mental Well-Being + The Boundaries to Set! - Terri Cole

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  • čas přidán 7. 06. 2024
  • How often do you check social media throughout the day?
    Do you feel the need to respond to comments or DMs right away?
    Do you procrastinate by scrolling rather than doing something productive or nourishing?
    Do you feel like you might be addicted to tech and are you inseparable from your devices?
    If you answered yes to any of these, this episode is for you.
    I am sharing the common struggles we all face with social media and tech addiction, what the science says about it, and ways you can begin setting boundaries around tech and social.
    Grab the guide to go deeper with questions and journal prompts: www.terricole.com/how-social-...
    Want to learn more about how to have healthy boundaries? Check out my signature 9-week program, Boundary Boss Bootcamp: terricole.com/boundarybootcamp
    Time Stamps
    0:00 - Introduction
    0:55 - Issues with using social
    5:23 - Pressure and distractions
    7:00 - What the science says
    10:04 - Ways to set tech boundaries
    14:04 - Exercises to help
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    About Terri Cole
    Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free.
    For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.
    She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over 450,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see www.terricole.com/
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Komentáře • 29

  • @terri_cole
    @terri_cole  Před 2 měsíci +1

    I'm curious to know: how is your relationship with social media and tech? Are you or have you ever been addicted? Which of these boundaries might you consider setting? Download the guide for more journal prompts to raise your awareness around your usage: www.terricole.com/how-social-media-harms-mental-well-being-guide

  • @birdie6916
    @birdie6916 Před 2 měsíci +7

    Totally agree with you on feeling depressed by seeing people out at a restaurant on their phones. Same! It makes no sense to me how what's on a screen is more important than the person sitting across from you, enjoying a meal together. I see it in my own family. It boggles my mind. I've had to limit my instagram usage. It used to be about sharing beautiful photography. It has morphed into anything but that. Some of my circle now only communicates via social media texting apps rather than the actual phone text. Can't understand that either. We're all on screens too much, even as I type this... working on a laptop, taking classes on a computer, using apps on the smart phone, even reading books on the iPad, and streaming shows on more screens. It's all so bizarre. We need more sunlight and time in nature. On a side note, your hair looks phenomenal, Terri!

    • @terri_cole
      @terri_cole  Před 2 měsíci +1

      100% Birdie! That's why getting out into nature for walks is so important to me, too ❤️

  • @chriszayak2023
    @chriszayak2023 Před 2 měsíci +3

    I use my phone for rain app, handpan, or meditation to fall asleep. I do not turn my tv on in my bedroom when I go to my room for bed.

  • @marywolfe6598
    @marywolfe6598 Před 2 měsíci +3

    I have people who have visited me in my living room where they are texting others and sometimes talking on their phones. I went to the movies with my 80 yr. Old friend and she was texting in the dark movie theatre and not watching the movie. I felt like I was there alone and we couldn't even talk about what we thought about the movie because she wasn't following it.

    • @terri_cole
      @terri_cole  Před 2 měsíci

      That sounds so aggravating, Mary!

  • @chriszayak2023
    @chriszayak2023 Před 2 měsíci +3

    I have deleted all social media except your app, my Bible app, and church app! I have been listening to meditation and handpan on CZcams. I DO NOT miss FB, TikTok, or Instagram!!!

  • @johnykryll
    @johnykryll Před 2 měsíci +4

    Worst thing about SM is how it's affecting young minds. IMO it's the curse of the 21st century

  • @TheDarkPlace00
    @TheDarkPlace00 Před 2 měsíci +3

    I’ve been consciously reducing my screen time on social media lately, as it’s been having a major impact on my mental health and well-being. Constantly comparing myself to people who are always showing off their seemingly perfect lives creates this false sense of reality, but I know it’s mostly curated images to create the illusion that they’re happy. Yet, it triggers feelings of inferiority and pressure to keep up, making me feel like I’m always missing out. It’s a toxic cycle I’m actively trying to break.

    • @terri_cole
      @terri_cole  Před 2 měsíci +2

      Thank you so much for sharing your experience 💕 I think a lot of us can relate to that. I am cheering you on!

    • @TheDarkPlace00
      @TheDarkPlace00 Před 2 měsíci +2

      @@terri_cole Thank you 🙏

    • @sharonb519
      @sharonb519 Před 2 měsíci +1

      Same! 💯

    • @moen4645
      @moen4645 Před 2 měsíci +1

      Moderation is key~ I think.
      It is kind of sad to miss out over the joy
      of meeting up for coffee with a friend but instead seems as if is "easier" to catch up via social media.

    • @terri_cole
      @terri_cole  Před 2 měsíci

      Such a good point, @moen4645!

  • @marywolfe6598
    @marywolfe6598 Před 2 měsíci +3

    I feel sorry for children who are being bullied on social media. I have seen 3 yr. Olds in grocery carts glued to their tablets......what a shame. God made every person unique and special.....we don't need to be like someone else.

  • @janak.6312
    @janak.6312 Před 2 měsíci +3

    As always, incredibly insightful and I'm definitely on the same page. Truth be told I sometimes feel like a relic in this world as I also treasure face to face contact deeply and it saddens me to see how many people allow the big tech to dilute their lives to the point that many of them don't know who they are anymore. :( Your work is so invaluable, Terri - thank you for all that you do to make the world a better place. ;)

    • @terri_cole
      @terri_cole  Před 2 měsíci

      Agreed! And thank you for being here ❤️❤️

  • @mhlorenzo
    @mhlorenzo Před 2 měsíci +2

    Oh it's so good to have this type of message come from you.

  • @JaclineOmbella
    @JaclineOmbella Před 2 měsíci

    Terricole.... thank you so much...I come from East Africa...aim one of your great funny of your channel... looking forward to heal and grow to the best version of myself.... I have a suggestion for the channel... please bring Dr tena brayant to the show,I think the two of you are allowing us to see life in a different perspectives...... thank you

    • @terri_cole
      @terri_cole  Před 2 měsíci

      Thank you so much for taking the time to comment, Jacline 💕 I appreciate you! I tried searching for Dr. Tena Brayant but nothing came up. Do you know if they have a website or social media?

  • @bellaluna321
    @bellaluna321 Před 2 měsíci

    My issue is I like to use meditation apps to help me fall asleep but some nights it's hard to not reach for it even if it's to just Google something which just leads one down a rabbit hole.

    • @terri_cole
      @terri_cole  Před 2 měsíci +1

      That makes sense. 💕 Perhaps there's a way to listen to the meditations with your phone still a bit out of reach? Or to meditate on your own? I'd love to hear from others on what they do as I'm sure you're not alone!

  • @ARluvr1
    @ARluvr1 Před 2 měsíci

    I feel like social media has destroyed society, and the ability to actually communicate.

    • @terri_cole
      @terri_cole  Před 2 měsíci

      It has definitely changed a lot about the world!

  • @24cammo98
    @24cammo98 Před 2 měsíci

    I turned off my text notifications as I was listening to this. ✅