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When things are multifacited and ambigous... emotionally people escape to things that are cognitively easer. So, what do you do? Reduce the variables and remove ambiguity through problem solving first. thanks for posting.

The "DO" part comes down to clairity obtained after the thinking through the multifacited elements that are ambigous! Thanks for posting.

ugh!

As i always say... go with what works! Thanks for tuning in.

You and me both!

Booya! Did you notice the exercise was a challenge? Note you had to use your working memory to organize the words towards a goal. That is the challenge of ADHD. Problem solving in your head... which is why the key is to externalize it. Thanks for posting.

@@AttentionTalkVideo 🤔ummm... It was weird trying to both remember the words AND alphabetize them in a time crunch. The words became pictures in my head, so with each new word I just moved the pictures around...but then trying to hold the current pictures, form new ones, AND sing the the alphabet to myself🤣 (the h-i-k did me in lol) - that's why "kangaroo" got left behind.

@@hindenburg2006 Again, thinking inside your head towards a goal is the real challenge of ADHD!

I may not given i'm just a coach. Dr. Olivarida is well studied. Thanks for posting and sharing your thoughts.

ADHD is an execuative functioning impairment. An impairment. Most don't want it to be an impairment but it is. More specifically it is a problem solving impariment when you are trying to do it in your head... thus one needs accomodations for the impairment. Problem solving when something is mulitfacited and ambigous (i.e. planning, seeing the future, making decisions) is where the impaiment hits hard. The trick is to recognize it and focus on how to make thinking easier! Thanks for posting.

i can't tell you how much your post made my day. Especially the I don't need the feel good platitues of many other channels. I don't want people to feel bad about themselves, my hope is for them to meet themselves where they are, as is, and to address and admit what is hard. Why? to give ADHD the respect it is due. IT IS HARD. Once you admit something is hard and give it the respect it needs you can problem solve forward. Know it is 5 o'clock on 9 minutes... i'll have a glass of wine to celebrate this post. Thanks again.

thank you for your kind words. Given you like our videos, follow Dr. Barkley and stated my channel helps people understand themselves... i wanted to make you aware of a new ADHD intervention called Cognitive Ergonomics from the Inside out (TM) i've developed. It is an engineering approached to addressing ADHD. It uses Dr Barkley's model and AttentionScope (R) which i've developed to bring tangibility to Dr. Barkleys model to take a six sigma problem solving approach. in this day and age peope have a righ to be skeptical about anything new. To that end i have a recorded informational video that explains the fundementals of the program for people to judge if it is ligitimate based on its merit. Here is a link. w w w dot digcoaching dot com/cefio-info-videl I share this will you simply because... my content resonates from this program. Thanks for posting

Don, always gratful for your post. Lived experience can be powerful for others. Thanks.

I had a lot of success changing my mindset from focusing on how things make me feel better rather than avoiding negative repercussions

Thanks for posting. The first purpose of the video was to help people recognize routines. They are not always based on a topic/label/thing. They can be based off effort of function. Why is that important? It is hard to problem solve if you are paying attention to the wrong thing. Second, ADHD is more of a thinking impairment than most realize or want to admit. When something requires lots of cognitive effort the ADHD brain is uncomfortable. Reflexive it wants to escape to something more comfortable. Trying harder doesn’t work cause it doesn’t solve the underlying problem. The key is to make thinking (actually problem solving) cognitively easier. How do you do that? That is as simple as it is complex to understand. At a high level you look at what you are doing and brain storm how to make this easy and problem solve to that (I know not the simple answer you were looking for). In the end, tips and trick are guessing at what works (which is why most are drowning in a sea of tips, tricks, and strategies). If you admit something is cognitively difficult and brainstorm with other around how to make it easier based on you and the situational variability… you might find it does take work but long term more effective. Again, thanks for posting.

There is NOTHING more POWERFUL than a CHANGE in MINDSET... Booya!

@@AttentionTalkVideo thank you very much for both the the clarification and response as well as uploading these educational, bite-sized videos. They have really helped improve my understanding of ADHD and my own mental process

@@kirstenprice2750 thank you. comments like this motivate us!

I've coached several people and realized many things represent memories (not just a thing)... thus clutter is actually a memory... to remove the clutter is like removing memories. Emotionally that can be difficult. Thanks for posting your experience.

Times like these i like to use math as an analogy... sometimes the math just doesn't work. To your point... sometimes a person just can't part with somethings (useully ralated to an emotion... i need it... will need it... it is worth something... or it is a memory) and it doesn't fit a finite space. In the end it is what it is. thanks for posting!

Thank you for your interest. These days everyone is claiming to have something new or the secret. You have a right to be skeptical. I did and information webinar to explain what my concept is all about for people to judge it on its own merit. Here is a link: W w w dot digcoaching.com/cefio-info-video If you are interested here is a link to the class page W w w dot digcoaching.com/cognitive-ergonomics/ Again thank for your interest

Agreed 100%... ministry or religion in general is all about context! Thrilled this resonated with you. Thanks for posting.

Thanks for posting. I love it when people share their lived experiences.

I'm ok with it if you are ok with it. It does seem like you might want to find a more exciting job. thanks for posting.

@@AttentionTalkVideo Good timing, I was fired today - due to lack of attitude

@@buzzcutbiene2211 Sorry to hear... that said, my hope is you turn it into an opportunity!

@@AttentionTalkVideo Thank you

Not clear on your statement? Are you implying that stimulats are addictive? Did an interview with Dr. Rostain of UPenn years ago. Stimulats are abused (athletes or students seek them to enhance performance). They are not addictive in the sense you have to go to rehab. Again they are often abused like alchol etc. That isn't related to ADHD it is just abuse. thanks for posting.

@AttentionTalkVideo I'm talking about the addiction of your medication and the side effects of those drugs. Let's not cover what medication is drugs.

@@iknownothingsiouxfallssd441 Sorry i'm lost... "your medication"... what are you referring to?

ADHD isn't really a D.I.Y. project for most. Books and video are great of education. That said, i read a few books on how to play the guitar. When i pick up the guitar i couldn't play it. I hacked around for a period of time and then got lessons... it really accelearted things. Hope that is food for thought for you. thanks for taking the time to post.

Your experience is like many others and why i made the video. The key is... given you know boredom is painful what are you doing to manage your interest?

on paper that makes senese...

I'm not a expert but i understand when you go sober there is a mood issue of a while. It is like your brain is used to an abnormally higher level of content. When you go to normal it feels like your are down compare to where you were. Over time things normalize. Again, don't mistake me for an expert on this... but if my perspective help you great. thanks for tuning in.

can't tell you how much that means to me. Thank. One of the big issues these days is people are attracted to emotion and what they want to work (even thought it doesn't)... thus, people market to what feels good to people... not what works or the reaslity of life. That said, it is very hard to get content that people view that is more practical. That is the reason i'm grateful for your comment.

Wow! You made my day. Thank you.

God I love it when people "get" it! Thanks for posting... so motivating.

there are a lot of variables... Just my perspective (not necessarly fact)... ADHD tends to get diagnosed earlier... later in life bi-polar shows up... symptoms can be similiar... that the ADHD and mask the bi-polar or it doesn't get diagnosed till later. Let me resate.. this is just my perspective not necessarly fact. thanks for posting.

LOL! You asked them to think... to put more effort in their communications cause they were not clear and it annoyed them. Happens often. Thinking is more effortful than most believe it to be. I can feel your frustration from the interaction. Thanks for posting.

Exceptionally well stated!

Glad it was helpful!

thank you... i'm excited about it. We have had great results. That said, the program isn't for everyone. Those who struggle acknowledging fact over feeling struggle with the program. Thanks for tuning in.

For the most part i have not had a problem with weight... i do remember gaining like 15 lbs in april my freshman year in college (i was a swimmer and on break). it took a long time to loose the weight. Never wanted to have to do that again... one of the things i do is not put myself in a social situation where there is a lot of food. I struggle not to eat when i'm BORED with lots of food around. Often, managing ADHD is managing what enviorments you put yourself in. My hope is my experience will spark your thinking in some way. Thanks for posting.

the research seems to suggest people (not just ADHD) who use a lot of weed are at a higher risk. As a cavot, research and science are important... that said, science does prove itself wrong from time to time. Thanks for posting.

Booya! Agreed.

you're welcome

Love it when people feel validated. thanks for watching.

interesting way of putting it! Thanks for tuning in.

Booya!

thanks for your request. My mother has said many times, success solves a lot of problems. As a coach my focus is to help people understand what works and to encourage them to do what works. The get over the emotional trama has two parts. One is the act of regulating your emotions to regulate attention (that relates back to what i wrote). The other is to accept where you are and be good with that. That isn't really what I do or know a lot about. Often a thearpist is the direction to go. Again, thanks for the request... sorry i don't have a magic wand.

I was in that stage about 4 years ago. First thing is getting into a support group. For me it was 12 steps based. Just for support and a pattern to be held accountable for. Al-Anon is for people with craziness AND. an alcoholic in your family. That's all you need to join. Codependency Anonymous is for anyone who is attached unhealthily to others, which can hold you in this freeze state. Support first, a circle of support, or just deep friends. 2. make a note to self of what you admit is the underlying issue then pay for professional help or find someone who can probono. This also helps in that support category. Then understand you aren't a bad person, have had legit issues you had nothing to do with or if you did have something to do with it, just realize you're understanding more now and did the best with what you could with what you knew. That's all now

I can relate from being on a socially unpopular side of certain world wide life events of the last few years. I lost my will to live during it and, with the adhd, its been really hard to find any energy for the life I had before or the future ahead. It feels pretty empty. I suppose the only benefit is now I can see a more bare bones view of my dysfunction, no longer clouded in dreams. That sounds like a bad thing but in the past I was mostly a dreamer of success, less a doer, so it wasnt very satisfying either. But here I am, still mired in the adhd but its probably the only thing I have any hope of controlling or at least channeling into its least destructive path.

​@@lagomorphia9 I'm not a mental health expert... i'm just a trained life coach specializing in ADHD. If i take my coaching hat off at times people need to kind of hit bottom to get a kind of a wake up call... reality check. May things can happen, they let go of limiting beliefs, unrealistic expectations, or misconceptions... this actually free's them from what has held them back. My hope is you'll deal with... it is what it is... and problem solve from there. Fingers are crossed for you. thank for posting.

@@lagomorphia9 That is exactly how it feels. Becoming an adult all it took was one decision for me that caused everything to spiral and in that it really became clear to me just how much I struggle and idk if I will ever have the mental strength or capacity to be the person I thought I’d be. It is hard to overcome that feeling. Or feel hope again or dream again. I was a big dreamer as a young woman but enough life has really beat me down and I am extremely sensitive too… I hope for all of us that we overcome the struggles we have with adhd and find fulfillment in our life like everyone else. I know that struggle too well now.

excellent!

The ADHD challenge is problem solving when something is multi facited and ambigous. Scheduling thats in some form that would be a routine looks good on paper but it doesn't solve for the underlying problem. From my experience that is why many people struggle. The routine doesn't do the thinking... in other words you have to address the root cause not just the symptoms. thanks for posting.

Thank you and thanks for tuning in.

wish i had a magic wand! unfortunatlly i don't... thanks for posting.