r/AmITheA**hole For Blaming My Divorce On My Son?
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- Äas pĆidĂĄn 11. 07. 2024
- r/AmITheA**hole In today's episode, OP has a son who throws tantrums, and based on the post it really sounds like OP and his wife hate spending time with him. So when OP gets a divorce from his wife, he tells his young son that the divorce is all his fault. The son is completely crushed, but OP is relieved because he stopped acting out so much. OP wants to know... is he the butthole here? Be sure to subscribe to my channel if you want to see more videos like this!
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"My son behaves better now that I've CRUSHED HIS INNOCENT SOUL! Am I the butthole?"
Duh
Poor kid :(
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The hostess wasnât a asshole. Matt was an asshole. He started it all. He couldâve stayed quite and not assume that the hostess was privileged enough not to go through a hard time. Who wishes someone had a hard time growing up. He didnât want to ruin the mood because heâs hardest time was loosing his older sister. Matt was the one who ruined the moment. The hostess friend was a rude too. Blaming him for calling out Matt. I wouldâve kicked him out, not even I would kick BOTH of them out.
I agree. Especially after they say she made Matt look bad right after he made fun of her
I came to the comments to say exactly that. Why does it matter that he was a guest? He was the one of that started it.
Honestly agreed. OP didn't wanna bring the mood down entirely, so they said something else. Matt then had the audacity to say what he did, so OP stood up for themselves.
I agree
I agree. The host was trying their best to make the night fun, I hope they are feeling better
Yeah, problem is not all women can wear cheap bras because they're not designed for their size or shape. So, unfortunately, a lot of woman can only get the expensive bras, unless they want to suffocate from a small size. That last guy obviously didn't understand that.
I was thinking the same thing. I have a D cup and back problems including a crooked spine so I need bras that cost about $80 since they are fitted and have wide straps. That story is just an example of men who don't understand that having boobs is an actual problem sometimes
Yeah, and unless you cough up some extra money, the ones with the most support wonât even look as pretty.
Yeah , same . My bras cost more than my outerwear. There are many women like me. We can't afford to have shoulder pain , breast pain and breathing distress .
Not every set of bosoms are the same
Yeah, ditto. I didn't ask to be HH. I'd rather be a C (or something else easier to find, C would just be ideal), but it's either expensive bras or plastic surgery. I think the bras are less expense and little if any pain.
No, let's be clear, Matt put OP on the spot with that disgusting statement. OP didn't ruin game night, Matt crossed a line.
Yeah, I donât know why rslash gave OP a butthole score. Matt was the one who ruined the vibe, OP was just matching his energy. If Matt didnât try to act like he was better than OP for âliving a harder lifeâ OP wouldâve never brought up his sisters death.
Agreed OP did nothing wrong and doesn't deserve a butthole score, it seems like according to Rslash if he invited me over I could rag on him as much as I want and he shouldn't respond because he invited me? (Obviously I wouldn't) but that's what I got from his statement
I agree Matt is the butthole op is not the butthole at all I really donât under stand why he said op was the butthole smh
Basically two wrongs don't make a right. And just because your clapback is justified, it doesn't mean that you aren't ignoring the consequences of clapping back. He knew it would make things more awkward and uncomfortable for everyone. But he didn't want anyone to believe Matt and think he was privileged. So gets at least 1/2 of an asshole because clapping back was selfish
Continued drama and spoiled everyone's night. He could have told a joke to break the tension and been confident that his friends wouldn't give a shit.
Donât know why OP couldnât have said something like âLook, I donât want to bring the mood down, so Iâll just say this instead of talking about the hardest thing. Thatâs too personal.â
"As his mother I am pretty sure I can do whatever I want though"
YIKES.
Karen alert
She's not even his mother she's his stepmother she's probably one of those creeps that tell kids she's their " new mommy"
Imagine the implications.
"I killed him and dismembered his body for my Satanic ritual since as his mother I am pretty sure I can do whatever I want!"
@Sumitha Jetty I hope you're being sarcastic. This woman came into the life of this kid, and is telling him "YOU WILL OBEY ME!" As a stepkid myself, I can tell you that having another person come into your life and control aspects of it, is infuriating to no end. Respect from kids is earned, not given.
I was mad at her when she said the two kids celebrate their birthday on the same day.
That last story in a more understandable setting, since not everyone understand how important a good bra is:
âMy step daughter has a Rolex, my son smashed it with a hammer. She said the watch costed $1000, my wife has a watch that was only $500 so I doubt that her Rolex was that expensive. My son is willing to pay $300 to replace it and that seems more than enoughâ
Dude it doesnât matter if your wife has less expensive bras, your step daughter decided to spend HER money on more expensive ones and YOUR son destroyed them. Weather they cost $12 or $80 they need to be replaced in full. Teach your son respect and responsibility oml.
Ikr does he and his dad not know how much bras are? lmao
bras are expensive as hell. A good bra with good support that doesnât feel miserable is pricey. Some people really just have no idea how crazy bras are...
Iâm lucky to find affordable bras that are comfortable. (Sports bras!) But still, what the stepson did was disrespectful and his dad didnât help matters. If he didnât want his son to pay the full amount, the least he can do is pay out of his own pocket for the rest.
I rolled my eyes when he said, âThatâs a crazy price for a bra,â because.... no, itâs not. Good bras, like many other quality products, are expensive. And it doesnât matter how you feel about it, if you think itâs too expensive or if your wife has cheaper bras, thatâs still damaged property.
If someone purposefully busted the window of your car for a video, do you expect them to less than half the price of that window?
Also the comment about his wifeâs bras being cheaper *facepalm*. As if all Moms and daughters had the same boobs! Before I gained weight due to hypothyroidism, I was lucky that a Cheap brands model of bras fit me perfectly. Now they donât because my boobs are bigger and I simply cannot find a bra that is helpful. Moral of the story? Whilst some years ago I could wear cheap bras, now I canât. Still the same woman. đ€·đ»ââïž Shall we bring my Momâs boobs into it now? đ€Šđ»ââïž
The brother shouldn't even be touching the stepsister's undergarments let alone destroying them. He should pay to learn responsibility and consequences for his actions.
yeah not to mention, bras r that expensive if their good bras, and at that price im guessing they were big cup sizes which means they were back support bras. freaking man not trying to even understand the importance of boob cages
@@redclover8387 Boob cages. Lol. I'm using that from now on.
@@redclover8387 size is so important when it comes to bra prices. Department/clothing stores only have the most common sizes and you get what you pay for. If it's $15-20, that's what you're getting. Lingerie/bra stores have a much wider variety of sizes and way better quality. They're around $50 a bra. They still don't have all the sizes though which is when you have to go to higher end places where bras cost $75+. My mom has always had to spend $100-200 on a single bra because department stores and lingerie stores like Victoria's secret simply don't have her size. Now they're good bras, they're high quality and usually those stores will adjust the elastics for you and give you some perks, but that's still a lot of money for a single bra.
@@AngelWingsTVdavcs got it from my cousin xD
@@abbyrudy167 mmmhm. its a pain in the lower back
The "my child has problems and i don't know how to be a good, supporting and caring parent, so i told him that he ruined my marriage" story made me so mad...
Same here. Speaking as a kid whose biological father essentially yeeted out of the maternity ward the minute I was born because "I didn't want to be a dad at the time." F*** that guy.
They better feel sorry when their child is starving on the streets and dies by overdosing on meth. But then again they probably wonât and claim that they deserved it.
I feel bad for the kid. No kid deserves to be told by a parent that they're the reason for their parents divorce. Op and his ex sound like terrible parents. It's not the kid's fault he has behavior problems.
If i see that guy i would mime the WHY YOU LITTLE- where he could see it
@@Toaster_Draws And the kid could be doing this out of neglect too, maybe he just wanted his parents' attention.
That bra one... I cringed so bad at the thought of my own bras getting destroyed like that. I'm someone that has to buy the expensive bras because the cheap/moderately priced ones never fit right which puts a lot of strain on my upper back. I think the son should be held accountable for his actions 100%, and I do agree with having him work to pay off the debt
Same, it hurts my wallet a bit when I buy a new one but I gotta be assured that it will last and that something I have to wear for the majority of my day almost everyday is comfortable and accommodates my back issues.
Right!!! It's terrible when you're big chested as well and I understand that the stepfather wouldn't pay attention to something like that either... it just goes to show what some men know about women's bodies đ€Šââïž
Iâm a b-cup and I would have been VERY mad if someone ruined my good bras
In my opinion, the host isn't the a**hole at all. Their guest was rude and op just got angry. Matt looks like the bad person because he is 100%
I agree I'd have chided back with a similar comment if someone I was hosting started getting snippy with me, either that or I'd tell him to get the fuck out.
@@PeterCaptainObvious i agree to i mean i have hearing loss and one time we were playing i think truth or dare and a new guy in the circle read it to me then when i said "can you repeat that?" That happened one more time until he lost it and yelled calling me deaf and everyone was quiet i dont like sharing my hearing loss but i promptly said. I have hearing loss... and we ended our game a minute later
Yes
@@JohannesMMA yeah some people fucking suck, I'm sorry you went through that
@@JohannesMMA Oh man, I can feel your pain. I used to have partial hearing loss as a kid and the most hurtful things about it was something that heppened in the 2nd grade of primary school. I was at the very back of the class (but I should've been placed in the very front due to my condition) and when I misheard my teacher's question, I gave some stupid answer and everyone INCLUDING my teacher started laughing at me. I've never felt so embarrassed in my entire life because I didn't know I did something wrong. Luckily, my mum confronted the teacher after that situation.
About the bra story, OP edited it said his son would pay the $200,- and he would pay $300,- and his son would do extra shores around the house to make up for that money his parents lost. He is still bitching about how its "ridiculous" and "undergarments shouldn't cost that much" but the daughter is getting new bras.
People ripped into him, saying how they were high quality bra's and how they are made with better material and stuff. Some people also made a comparison using car's. Saying "so imagine you had a Lamborghini and someone completely wrecked it up but gave you one third of the price you payed for your amazing luxe sportscar and told you to buy a Ford of a Siat or another fancy but very common car, telling you 'you don't need a good car' and 'you can pay a decent car for this amount'. "
Thank you for the update! All the other stories has pretty clear conclusions to me, but I had to know if the Dad in the last story realized would make it up to the daughter.
While I agree that the daughter deserves to get her money back for the damaged property, i also agree that those bras were grossly overpriced. There is no way in hell those bras should cost $80+ unless they were stitched in solid gold thread and bedazzled in princess cut diamonds as if they were sequins. A decent bra should only be $15-$20. And a "good" bra that is made of better material, tailored to perfectly fit the individual woman's needs, etc etc should only be about $40-$50. That market is highway robbery and she is almost certainly paying for "brand name" at dollar store quality.
Also the car argument is kinda invalid. When some Lambo sell for a solid $1M and a decent Ford could be bought as low as the $20K. Plus it completely ignores the issue of depreciation. Drive off the lot and that $1M Lambo suddenly drops to $200K. $20K Ford becomes $2K. That doesn't happen with bras.
(Edit: Alot of people misunderstood this original post and commented without reading further to see clarification. Summary is:
Pay the girl back.
Prices are ridiculous.
Overthrow the bra industry for their overpriced low quality bullshit.)
Navy89SEALs bruh.
i donât want to fight you on this but you are wrong
@@Navy89SEALs as someone heavy chested, I have NEVER found a bra that fits me under about $70 unless it was on dale - and those are considered cheap for my particular measurements (I basically have to stock up once a year on sale days). They certainly aren't high end (just chain retail) and don't last a full year. I absolutely believe the daughter's price tag is reasonable. I have friends who have to have them custom made because their measurements aren't standard in stores as well. Not everyone can find a $20 or $40 bra that fits, let alone in a decent quality.
@@Navy89SEALs there's a reason a lot of poor people literally can't afford bras - if they were affordable for all sizes that wouldn't be an issue.
"I can't parent my child so we crushed his spirit and potentially ruined his life ... But now he is good so it was good idea right" - simplified that
Huh, sounds like my bio dad. He's a narcissistic a hole too. Holy crap this so called "dad" is a pos too. I hope that kid gets a better life away from his crappy excuses for parents. đĄ
Cue drug abuse in a few years...
Honestly this boyâs mother and father sucks beyond imagination
Like straight up if they couldnât handle him, just put up for adoption or something
@@Kalossupremacy3356 exactly honestly if you too irresponsible to take care of your child than just donât have any children and most importantly NEVER BLAME A CHILD for a divorce itâs not their fault I hope those parents will burn in hell for treating their child like that
âMaâam youâre under arrest for verbal abuseâ
âCome on learn to take a joke!â
âI apologized but told him there was some truth to itâ so...you apologized and then reinforced that it was his fault. Nice
WELL IT WAS HIS FUCKING FAULT WASN'T IT?! He's a brat that needed to be taught the world doesn't revolve around his ass and his actions have consequences.
@@charlottenoli4179 are you serious?
What most of you have probably neglect is that OP knows he's the A-hole;He just needed to know if he truly was! Calling him a negligent parent is pretty biased,considering they tried their best to be alright with him.They should've taught him how to maintain his temper,but how would they have known that if they're tunnel-visioned? Yes,OP is still the A-hole,but we can't be too harsh on him!
To be honest,I think the child would get 1/5 A-holes for emotionally draining their parents' mental health,thus turning them into what you claim to be "Emotionally abusive and negligent parents".All of them need therapy.
@@Dr.rexus_here Yes. I . Am
@@vloggerbonakid6178 We can absolutely be harsh on him--blaming the child for divorce is like the #1 thing NOT to do, it's in every children's book about divorce "just remember it's not your fault!". Kids already blame themselves for everything, and it's clear the kid wasn't taking the news well at all. Even after things calmed down the father reiterated that blame and feels GOOD that the kid is quiet due to incredible guilt.
You're saying children should be shamed for the choices the adults made. If the parents disagreed on whether to vaccinate or not, to indoctrinate the kid into their religion or not, and divorced as a result, it would be asinine to blame the child for their divorce. But because the kid was having trouble regulating his emotions, or because his needs weren't being met, you defend emotional abuse. Yes, all of them need therapy, especially that child who has been rejected by both parents. But perhaps you need it too my dude.
4th story: no OP you arenât the butthole. Mattâs comment was completely unnecessary. The friend who brought him didnât even need to bring him anyway! Did anyone else there know him? If not then what business did they have inviting him?! He was a jerk. You were the host. In fact, you even had the right to kick him out if your house without explanation the second he said that! If anyone ruined game night, it was *him* and the friend for bringing him.
Obviously if the friends knew about his sister passing then obviously they should've told Matt that don't bring it up
I don't even know why Rslash gave him 1/5 buttholes he should have 0/5 when you enter someone home you should be respectful and OP didn't even know Matt but still invite him into his home but is still disrespected like that just make my blood boil
Thank you, exactly my thoughts
Reaper Rogue Agent The other friends didnât know him either. The only one who knew him was one friend and she didnât know either. So no one could really give a warning or anything to him. And thatâs not something you tell strangers about. It wouldnât be their place to tell such personal information about someone. Regardless, Matt was still a jerk and shouldnât have said that. He was dense for sure. That question, of course some people donât want to answer it with the truth. I would have caught on they were probably holding back and I have aspergers. It just seems pretty obvious. You donât pressure people with a question like that.
I told a friend about the hardest thing in my life. It was the first time I talked about it to anyone in my life after 14years from when it happened. It felt good to get it off my chest. After a while I told another friend. These were my 2 best friends I had. Well the second one I told about it decided to tell someone else. It was another friend of mine, but it really pissed me off. It wasnât up to them to tell. Maybe there were only certain people I felt comfortable with them knowing. The person they told I was also close with and I didnât have a problem with them knowing, but it was the fact they went and told someone else something so personal about me. It wasnât their place and it made me wonder if I could trust them with any of my secrets if they go and tell others immediately. It really caught me off guard when this other friend brought it up and I never told them.
So no, I donât think it was anyoneâs responsibility to tell Matt about the hostâs past. That would be a violation of trust. You could tell the host withholds the info from people and probably for the reason it hurts to think about. Itâs up to them who they want to know about it, not the friends. The friends didnât do anything wrong by not telling a stranger personal hurt of the hostâs past. Thatâs crossing a line
The host was 100% not the asshole. He didn't put Matt on the spot they simply informed him that he was incorrect.
Stepparents arenât their parents unless theyâve proven to be good parents. She keeps going on about âIâm his motherâ...
You missed a step, honey.
This all the way
Child: Acts out.
Youth Counseling: Exists.
Awful Parents: "Alcohol and a divorce will resolve the issue."
Agreed youth consoling and therapy are both very good options that don't involve ruining his life.
You can't call them parents if they don't raise you. That's not parenting
And then that guy had the nerve to get offended in the replies because he got called a "garbage father" - complete human failures like that one is why there should be a license and a test before you're allowed to get kids.
"And that's how I cut contact with my kid"
Probably what they said in the future.
If a child has behaviour issues, it's something to analyse and deal with. It could be a condition, or bad parenting, but if the child's behaviour gets worse, you're probably doing something awfully wrong. To then blame the child, who just wants a stable home life, for your choices and failures is horrible. Go to frick.
"I was just joking" isn't an excuse. If you're the only one laughing it's just bullying. It doesn't matter what was meant if someone is hurt. Someone's feelings aren't a joke. It's never been an excuse, and it never will be. Saying "it's just a joke" has never needed to be said when someone wasn't already hurt.
Ye
Thatâs because when someone isnât offended itâs usually because they know itâs a joke so it doesnât need to be said
@@justsomerandombananawithin3705 you look RIPE
EK: I was racist on purpose and posted it online and then it was sent to my football team. I'm ObViOuSlY tHe ViCtIm SiNcE iT wAs JuSt A rAcIsT jOkE.
Yep
I feel so bad for those kids (the stepson and the boy with the divorced parents) I hope their lifeâs get better.
The step son was rude!
@@ruthhadfield9726 Still canceling a birthday like that is one the cruelest things someone could do.
@@Mario87456 ok maybe what she should have done is cancell the party or not have a party...but why should she put up being spoken too like that? We wouldn't tolerate it so why should we except too!! Also its not like he was 5 he was 13
@@ruthhadfield9726 She could have made him do more chores or something.
@@Mario87456 what if she had tried everything? Sounds like this is an ongoing thing.....when you are at the end of your tether you may do something extreme (obviously within reason!) And this comment was the last straw!
"how I need to take a joke"
ah, yes. modern day religious strife and borderline harrassment is definitely a joke
what's worse is she knew her behavior would get her kicked off the team, but she didnt feel even a little bad about it
She tried to rip an article of clothing off another person. That's assault, plain and simple, and the school needs to be under investigation for covering it up. If they are willing to cover something like this up, what other things might they be hiding?
Not borderline harassment. It was straight-up harassment and assault
"I don't know why my stepson treats me badly, we've done EVERYTHING! Including not following through with anything!"
Wait, what? You're surprised empty threats don't get your respect?
I feel like she should have sent him to his room for thirty minutes for being disrespectful, then called him back down and explained even if he's frustrated, he doesn't have the right to speak to her that way. After that, she should ask for a sincere apology, and if he refused then send him to his room until he decides he's ready to apologize. After he apologizes, she should go on to remind him that even though they aren't biologically related, she still sees him as her son and she's always going to love him and look out for him, even if she doesn't tolerate him having a bad attitude. That would be addressing and dealing with his attitude in a way that's appropriate for what he did, it would probably have even given them a better understanding of each other. Canceling his birthday is going WAY too far. You're depriving him of a priceless moment in his life. Birthdays aren't special anymore when you're an adult, hell, they stop being special after you're fourteen or so for most people. That was probably going to be his last meaningful birthday, and she took it away from him over something so petty and un-worth it. Plus, it was probably really inconsiderate to his friends' parents and all the other people who moved their schedules around so that they could attend.
@@vanessadiviak6201 she keeps calling herself his mother likely he's reacting to her over stepping she's only been married to his dad for two years and expected him to immediately accept her as a mother without being to do the work
@@krism8335 ikr she's really overstepping her boundary you can't just expect a child to just accept you after 2 years. She never said what happen to his mother either so he could still be upset since his parent aren't together anymore, and processing those feelings into anger. He most likely just sees her as a woman who married his dad. They need therapy, and I know he will he will resent her for canceling his birthday but still celebrating the 7 y/o birthday the same day.
@Sumitha Jetty Okay? This was just my opinion, and he's a not demon he's a child. He should not be treated like a demon. They should talk it out and get therapy. Another thing don't expect a child to be "oh I'm so sorry" or "I'll stop" or just listen to you in general if you have been giving them empty threats. Doesn't work like that.
@Sumitha Jetty Honestly Children can be bratty he is LITERALLY A CHILD
And they didn't discipline him so its their fault
For the last story I think you ignored a critical part of the story: this kid didn't JUST destroy his stepsister's property. He went THROUGH HER THINGS, took her UNDERGARMENTS and destroyed NECESSITIES. The fact OP isn't even addressing this fact in his post makes me think that he's under the impression that it was innocent enough (boys will be boys) even though it was a clear violation of her privacy.
And I love how OP is shaming his stepdaughter for investing in high quality bras when it's a known fact (at least to women; I wouldn't be surprised to learn that men are under-educated on this) that a higher quality bra reduces back pain later in life.
Like, your wife buys cheap bras. Cool. That doesn't mean everyone has to buy bras at the same price. Before I ditched wire bras for bralettes I was spending 60 CAD a pop on bras at La Senza. Because THAT'S HOW MUCH A QUALITY BRA COSTS.
Also, another thing that men don't realize, the rarer the bra size the more expensive the bra. So, I don't know how well endowed OP's stepdaughter is or what her band size is but those can also factor in to the price of the bras.
But it shouldn't matter how "overpriced" OP thinks the bras are. His son destroyed $450 of property - he owes his stepsister $450. It doesn't matter what OP perceives the value of the bras as or what he thinks his stepdaughter should spend on replacements. His son needs to pay for WHAT he destroyed, not OP's perceived value of it.
And if the son doesn't have enough money then guess who's paying for it OP? YOU ARE. And then you're going to have your son pay you back every penny he earns until he's paid you back in full because otherwise he's not going to learn to respect or value other people's property.
Seriously, though, I don't have any brothers, but I have a cousin who has a brother and my cousin is very busty, and of her brother ever did something like that with one of her expensive bras, she normally paid over 100, my cousin would get his ass beat so quick and made repay it, but they're also both adults so that might change something
This comment! Yes! I have friends who are very well endowed in the chest department and have no choice but to spend a lot on bras. There's a lot of red flags in this story and I couldn't agree more with you.
PREACH!
I think you're reaching in the first paragraph. That's just siblings doing sibling things. He turned them into slingshots. Stop trying to paint it into something creepy.
@@guywholikesgoodmusic I don't think they were saying it was creepy, just that it is a violation of privacy. Which it is.
Step mother is clearly delusional. "I've tried everything" - have you tried talking to him about your relationship in a mature and respectful manner, while accepting that he is his own human being with feelings? Thought not!
A)Heâs 13. Heâs a teen and teens also act like this(I have also occasionally done the thing he has done)
B)OP already asked him that question, why not note it somewhere
C)Birthdays happen once a year, and are a reminder that heâs 13, not 12, I literally canât get used to the fact Iâm already 13 since my last 2 birthdays were cancelled(COVID)
I also love how she was like my step son the whole time until like one of the last sentences was like "As his mother I'm pretty sure I can do what I want though..." I am a child who's parents got a divorce and obviously I can only speak for me but if my step dad like said that I would be so pissed idk. To me the story seems super weird I also feel like they maybe should try and sit down together to talk because she can't expect a child who isn't hers to just see her as a mother figure it can often easily feel like step parents are trying to take the place of your Actual ones which can be irritating but like his behaviour is obviously also not the best
(I'm sorry for my English and I hope this wasn't too all over the place)
@@rockingamingwiththesahit2145 you assume the little ahole already gave the info. Kids need to learn to act respectful. If he is acting like this at 12 almost 13, he needs to learn to act respectful.
She sounds like the âIâve tried nothing and Iâm all out of optionsâ type.
I also guarantee he didnât want to share his birthday but step Karen wants it.
The bra thing only someone who wears bras on a regular basis would understand why bras are so expensive. Yeah there are cheaper ones out there but depending on your shape will depend on how they fit. Not all bras are created equal. So yeah the step daughter has every right to be upset and the sun needs to pay the full price to replace them. He should never had touched them to begin with
What did the sun do đ? He was just minding his own business
The last story. Really dude? You're not going to make him pay for deliberately destroying someone else's things? Do you know how painful bras are if you get cheap ones? How damaging they are? Plus they only last 3 months? Put it this way. If I crash your Escalade into a tree, I'm only going to replace it with a 2002 Malibu because I think its dumb that you bought a car that's so expensive. See how that plays out. It won't.
PREACH!
My shoulder suffered permanent damage because of (among other things) bad bras. This guy should have to wear a jock strap made of haircloth. Thatâs the equivalent.
was about to give the car example xD
"Would you pay that much for a pair of shoes?"
"Well, shoes are different because they support your--"
"Bail."
"--okay." âą-âą
Not that far in the video yet, but I have to say that it can be size dependent. I hate expensive bra's most of the time because they give way more support than I need (thus making the thing less comfortable) and it is hard to find one without push-up etc in small sizes đ .
Furthermore I think you are 100% right!
I mean, 80-95 is pretty expensive.. I know I am a boy, but my sister has a fine back and shoulders and she has never spent any more than 40-50 on her ones
âI was just joking!â
Jokes are supposed to be funny to all parties involved.
Itâs a schrodingerâs douchebag. They change the meaning of their statements depending on how itâs received.
BEHOLD, A Future Karen
jokes donât always have to be funny for all parties but you should realize what will happen if you joke about certain things
Not always.
Ever heard of someone with no humor? Lol
last story: if the son was entitled enough to go through her belongings, mutilate and "customise" her personal property as props for his game, then he's certainly entitled to pay full price for his "fun".
An the father should also give him a little talk about respecting other people's privacy, and other people's property - mind you, sounds like the father could do with such a talk himself, since he seems to see no problem in his son rifling though a girl's lingerie.
edit' typo
exactly!! He's 15 too- he should know better!
imagine rslash reading the divorce story today that would be a massacre
Or mortal ears would never be able to process it
why? did something happen?
@@forecastjanna1906 he's a father, he had a child about a year ago.
Bra boy, SHOULD absolutely be made to pay back his stepsister for the bras he destroyed.. just because OP doesn't accept the value/worth of the bras, doesn't make him right or the bras any less valuable. How much they're "worth" shouldn't even be the issue here. OP isn't paying attention to the real problem, his son overstepped his boundaries and destroyed his step sister's property.. and NOT holding him accountable for his actions is a red flag too.. OP needs to realize this, before his son's actions escalate any further. Thank you rSlash. Peace&Hugs everybody â€Lilyâ€
Yo we have the same last name
Exactly. And finding a good bra, that fits and is comfortable? It can be a REAL pain in the boobs. Some people are weird sizes, or have more sensitive breasts... I myself have a mole in JUST the wrong place, so underwire is horrifically painful.
Sometimes, you just need to pay for quality, and people should respect that.
I think both the dad and son should pay, the dad is clearly dismissing the fact his son invaded his step sister's privacy!
That kid should pay every single penny back
"I married his dad 2 years ago"
"I'm his mother I can do what I want"
No. You arent.
Exactly. The two adults need to sit down and have a conversation about parenting powers and responsibilities. And after they both understand the other's position, they need to invite the son into the conversation and let him be heard.
step monsters like this make me puke
If she's going to be in a house raising a child then yes she does have a say
@Chris George no, she is just stuck with a disrespectful child and stupid, pathetic, sensitive people like you commenting
@@justicemartinez3478 not when it comes to being a parent! what a joke!
1st story: âmy parents told me I should have stayed out of itâ
-way to go proving your parents donât have the intestinal fortitude to do whatâs obviously right when you OP, did. Well done
In the tradition of the Oompa Loompas, a song for racist TikTok girl:
*to the tune of "If You're Happy and You Know It"
If you're a racist and you're fired, it's your fault
*clap clap*
If you're a racist and you're fired, it's your fault
*clap clap*
You were spotted in a mob,
Now you lost your friggin' job,
If you're a racist and you're fired it's your fault
*clap clap*
I love this đ
Best one yet đ
I don't like racist, but your "joke" fell flat on its face.
Omg that dad traumatized his child. Hes not better, hes pretending to be better because he wants them back together. Hes a kid and youve made him feel like he shouldnt be alive
Agreed that kids life is ruined (or at least his childhood) someone needs to find this kid call CPS and send him to therapy so he can work on his mental problems (both the ones he was born with and the ones that have been inflicted by his horrible parents) in a safe productive way so that he can grow and lead a normal life without the thought of his parent's divorce haunting him.
@Goat The Kids not at fault for the divorce. The dad admits to other problems like being unable to compromise and drinking to escape the problem. Sounds like an incompatibility issue to me. The kid didn't cause the divorce his behavorial issues simply exposed the problems with the marriage. If the parents really wanted to stay together they would have gotten counseling and find ways to workout there issues. Blaming the kid is just the father's way of avoiding responsibility.
@Goat He posted it to be judged. He made that conscious decision and no one is required to give them help. However as the two "adults" in this situation they could have tried therapy or anything with the son. Seeing the description of his behavior he could have a mental disorder that's gone undiagnosed. The dad never said why the kid is acting, just that he does. If they took the time to figure out the problem then they'd have a solution. I feel like they're just using the kid as an excuse for their sh*tty actions and in ability to healthily communicate. Plus the kid seeing his parents argue and fight might be where he gets his aggression from. Seeing how they handled this one can only imagine what the home environment is like. They have no excuse for their actions. They're adults, not children. They know better.
not like the story is even real, chill
@Goat given they never bothered to help their child not be a terror they have zero sympathy from me
the last one is just so selfish. Yes, he should reimburse her fully. Bras are expensive ! He shouldâve check the price before messing with her stuff WITHOUT her permission. And also, what kind of 15yo does that ? So immature.
Edit : for context i was 15 legit 2 years ago lmao what i find immature in this story is mostly the fact that he destroyed her stuff (seemingly intentionally ) and then acted surprised when faced with the consequences. Also, for people saying her bras are way too expensive anyway : what if its lingerie? what if she worked really hard to be able to afford them ? What if she needs those expensive bras for medical reasons ? My opinion is that she should be compensated with bras with the same value as the one that she originally bought. Feel free to debate down below tho ! (also im french sorry for the grammar errors lol)
Just imagine if she has big breast, than for her cheap bras who actually support the weight don't exist. Even for good quality, 80$ for a bra is cheap. Cheap bra doesn't hold and they are useless in 6 month.
What kind of video was he making though???
@@helenemuscagorry244 Bro, exactly. You have to look for your size, find good support that isn't going to screw you over in six months, like- Bras aren't just, grab the first one and you're fine. I bet if it was his bio son's shit, he would make her pay for all of it.
wife probably has a smaller bust and well-fitting bras are expensive, maybe he should check what health issues ladies can get from wearing an ill-fitting bra also if the son wanted to use bra's why did he only use his sisters and not the wives or did he ask if they had old ones lay around that they were not using anymore.
@@helenemuscagorry244 I had to buy my on clothes since I'm fourteen and I have large breasts (and a small frame). I never owned more than three bras at once because they are so expensive and also very hard to find. Out of 10 bras I try maybe one will fit even when they are all the same size - and mostly it's in a colour I don't like. I still envy women who can buy cheaper bras because they actually don't need one.
Most men are shocked when I tell them about this and how expensive bras can be. They just assume that large cups costs the same as smaller cups and that we have the same range and variety to choose from. I would love to have more than white, tan and black to choose from!
The reason that OPâs stepson is always mad at you because he missed his REAL mom and always has to see his dads wife, I wouldnât be happy if my dad married a woman after the divorce.
No need to be rude though....so the dad is never allowed to be with someone again? Even if you are unhappy she is planning a birthday for him and spenind her own money and he was disrecptful and rude!
@@ruthhadfield9726 still, op was overreacting it was a face palm not anything else
@@jogn5425 True, just a face palm and the kid loses the moment he becomes a teen...
@@ruthhadfield9726 lmao I think I found the mother from that story guys
@@ReaperPeeper ah yes you have found me out well done you. Sorry to upset you but I am not the mother in the story I just see where the mother is coming from. Imagine you are spending your hard earned money on a party for your stepson who has been rude to you from day one and you then asked him a simple question and he responds in actually a really rude way wouldn't you have had enough. Ok maybe she shoukd have just cancelled the party not his whole birthday but still he needs to know you can't talk to people like shit.
The one where OP told his son "hey, it's your fault your mother and I are splitting" really pissed me off. He reminds me of my late biological father (good riddance).
Oh no
Same here.
Wow, you remember this episode of Sesame Street which talks about divorce and how they state that it's never the child's fault, well, this divorce story and your similar situation begs to differ.
@@spydersoup8447 first off, I don't care about Sesame Street cause it's garbage.
Secondly, it wasn't the kid's fault. The parents decided on their own to divorce. He didn't force their hand. You obviously did not read the quote in OP's story where he not only blamed his own flesh and blood for the divorce, he went as far as blaming his son for even existing.
@@warriorsorb1111 OK, OK. I just find this story unbelievable. It's obvious it's not the kid's fault, it's just that the parents think it is is what makes the story unbelievable.
On the titular story with the divorce:
The kid behaving better and calmer is probably because he's just been shoved into severe depression and possibly on a path towards self-harm and suicidality. I mean, lots of kids already get this idea they're somehow responsible for their parents getting divorced on their own, even when it really isn't true at all, and go through that. How much worse must it be when a parent literally yells at you that you are responsible for their divorce and how they used to be so happy before you were born (and thus that they have been miserable ever since). If that doesn't give you the idea the world and everyone would be better off if you were dead, then I don't know what would. FFS. I hope they at least had the good sense to get him regular appointments with a psychologist for therapy. Zeus all-fucking-mighty, what an asshole.
Right? I was going to say "They better hope he doesn't kill himself later on", but who am kidding? Op doesn't appear to care about his son at all. One red flag to me was when Op said "my wife gave birth to a boy 12 years ago ". Not "we had a son 12 years ago" or something that would have aknowlaged that kid ask his. I feel so bad for the son.
Plus, the reason for his behaviour is probably because of their parenting as well. I mean really, if you give up (to a point of hatred) on a kid after just 12 years, how ready were you really to have even tried raising them?
@@gabrielam.7681 It makes me wonder if the son was unexpected. Because with how the parents treated him and how fast they gave up, makes me think they didn't want to have him. I hope this kid has people in his life that actually care for him.
that kid will not end up getting regular appointments, those "parents" clearly dont give an f.
That family should have gotten therapy years ago
That father isn't just a negligent parent (both of them are tbh), that was flat out emotional abuse.
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If it is the one ur talking about, the father said flat out that his kid was a burden and the reason for the divorce he has shut down. The kids behaviour did not in any way get better. I am worried for what he might do to himself as well as shutting down. Since he cant let it out he might find other more harmful ways.
When you silence the loud kid, shit is gonna build up
Kid : shutting down
Awful parents : behaviour improvement
Me : you fool you crushed his soul and destroyed his heart , you disgust me
6:09 when I heard that I got shivers up my spine. That is so horrible no matter the circumstances. I felt like crying for that kid, thinking about how sad he must feel. Being told that things were better before you were born is the worst feeling ever.
Also, the thing is, there might be a reason her bras are so expensive. Personally, my bra size isn't sold in regular stores. I have no choice but to go to a specialty store to get a bra that fits. I end up paying around $70 for an everyday bra and $80 for a bra that I'm able to run in. As a result, I only have like 3 bras and one of them doesn't fit right. Bras are fucking rare for some people, especially bras that fit. I would be insanely upset if someone took my bras and destroyed them. Not only would I now have to buy new ones, but it would be hard to find bras that actually worked. And it would severly impact my life, as I wouldn't be able to go to work without a bra, and I wouldn't be able to run or jump without a bra, which would be devestating, as dancing is a coping mechanism for anxiety for me. Not to mention how gross I'd feel, and it may trigger disordered eating for me. So, the real issue is that he took something valuable that didn't belong to him, and he had no right, and he should pay it back. That's the real issue. But gtfo with that "why does she have to spend so much on bras? She could get them cheaper" attitude because you have no fucking idea what you're talking about.
It's honestly nuts how much we have to pay for bras and underwear (particularly fitted stuff for the former)....the only thing justifying the price of bras is that once you've got your hands on some good ones they last years.
@@LILFOC1 Nah, that's not the only reason they are expensive. I have a stupidly thick neck for my shoulder width so I can't buy shirts in normal stores if I intend to button the collar. So I have to pay out of the nose to get tailor made shirts that fit. It's the same with anything. If you can't wear the mass produced stuff, you have to buy specially made stuff that is either made to measurements or in specialty sizes and as that stuff does not come with huge production numbers that drive down the price of an individual item, stuff gets expensive real fast.
I disagree on the host being a butt you donât disrespect someone in their own home. You shouldnât expect some to ACTUALLY TELL YOU THE HARDEST THING THEY WENT THROUGH when playing a GAME no one wants to bring down the mood, especially as a host. Thereâs a boundary you shouldnât cross, thatâs just common courtesy. Donât call someone privileged without actually knowing them or what theyâve been through. And the âfriendâ who texted OP is a butt for texting them like that. And for the last story. Bras are expensive as heck for various reasons and good quality, long life span, and size are big players in bra price. I say 5/5 butt holes and 15 yo should know better he gets 3/5 buttholes for violating privacy, destroying property, but at least he offered what he did have so thatâs something
You said all of that
Jesus:I wanna say I'm a huge fan
im glad you think that way. i was fearing i might be the only one.
I concur,a good bra that won't break apart in a 3 month span or lose its support are expensive AF. Used to get mine from Walmart to save money up until last year pre-pandemic where I got two really good supporting bras from Caprique [pricey but worth it,especially as they carry sizes for more endowed women and provide professional fittings so you get the right size.] The last OP definitely was the asshole in that situation as 1. That little shit invaded his step sister's privacy and destroyed her property 2. Letting him get off Scott free will only encourage him to be more obnoxious as he's being enabled 3. Needs to realize sometimes getting pricier articles of clothing such as undergarments last longer in turn gets you more bang for your buck. Not to mention having a good supporting bra is WAY less expensive than having to resort to a breast reduction for those sizeably endowed who suffer back problems.
Edit- it's late,on mobile and typing on it while sneezing is a bitch.
I would say 4/5 and 2/5 for the last one bc the kid didnt know the price. Hell, before this, I thought that bras were like 10-15 bucks.
I don't even know why they'd put such a personal question in a game that's supposed to be fun. That's gonna trigger a lot of trauma and drama.
âi traumatized my child and made them lose trust in the one person they should be able to rely on. could *i* be the asshole???â
"of course I'm not its not like that will haunt him for the rest of his life and look he "looks" fine therefore he is"
Was that the thimbnail?
Hmm not sure dude.
Well, I don't know if it's me, but I don't see that as an a-hole move.
RSlash wtf. How is the hostess TA? They asked a question, he answered.
I won't be to surprised when that boy grows up, from the parents that blame him for their divorce, that he cuts them out of his life when he becomes an adult.
If my daughter were the girl in that first story, I would be incredibly proud of her for sticking up for her friend and fighting racism! Since your parents wouldn't, I will say it: GOOD ON YOU sweetheart! I applaud you.
âIâm a crappy parent and surprise, my son has crappy behavior as a result and I canât handle itâ. What in the world is wrong with that man. He scarred that child for life.
*breathe* R
Sounds like caregiver fatigue, itâs a real thing and tbh some parents react a lot worse. Heâs an ass but heâs also human and has feelings.
85-90 dollars as âhigh endâ... thatâs funny.
The 1st story. She/he is awesome! You stood up to a bully who was definitely in the wrong. :)
Doesn't matter the context: you NEVER blame your kid for a divorce. If your kid has issues, you work with them, not give up on the kid because it's hard.
Agreed. The parent is the first to be held responsible for anything the kid does. That guy is going to die alone.
It was perfect example of parents who were not ready to (or shouldn't) be parents.
Seems like the idea of having a kid didn't meet the reality.
Yea
I saw the title and thought to my self HMMMMMMM nO oP yOu ArE nOt âbruh hell yes you areâ
@@sunhoteclipse4742 mine are getting a divorce and I hownstly don't care, im a fully grown woman who's had to watch her parenrs fight all the time and deal with my jerk dad my whole life I've been hoping for a divorce since I first found out what it was
The third OP sounds like he doesn't want a child.
Not enough data provided to reach that conclusion. One can only determine he doesnât want his child, which is worse.
@@alexanderharris5022
Nah, there seems to be enough.
He was happy with his spouse until the kid existed. He told the kid to his face that it was the kid's fault and refuses to acknowledge that it's actually his and his spouse's fault.
He may have wanted a kid, but he clearly regrets it. The kid didn't turn out to be absolutely perfect in his eyes, so the whole family gets torn apart.
To be fair it can be hard to take care of a child when you are a literal potato. Actually that's an insult to potatoes.
He also sounds like he *is* a child. No way someone with their attitudes is ready for a baby.
Shouldâve just used a condom
legit was almost in tears when the post mentioned the kid had been so much better behaved after that bc that kid was CRUSHED and the amount of guilt and self hatred he must feel. poor kid, i hope he has positive influences in his life
For the first story, NTA. You were literally showing moral fibre/bravery. That's honestly amazing.
the divorce story is so disgusting
imagine being such an incompetent parent that you blame your divorce on your child
Right? I got choked up hearing that story...
I honestly teared up a bit that dad is honestly disgusting
Oh yes, let me tell you how that feels. Now my parents divorced when I was 4. My dad cheated and didn't want to end his relationship with my (now) stepmom. That's what factually happened. Of course you don't tell you kids that, however growing older I started to ask questions and when I was 15, I sat down with my dad and asked why it happened. He basically said that my mum, my sister and me forced him into this relationship because we were so much trouble (me and my sis didn't get along and she and my mum didn't either). I was crushed, completely. My already fragile self-esteem was shattered and my (again already) slightly mental brain went into full blown selfhate. I believed his bs, I felt guilty for his mistakes and I still do sometimes. You know when you're all alone and wondering how much better your life could have been if anything had been any different. Don't ever tell your kids something like that because you will ruin them.
Have you ever seen the movie âWe need to talk about Kevinâ? It deals with some similar things in that post. Having watched that movie, I think I see both sides of it
My concern is that the kid may end up hurting himself because of what his dad said, they should go on therapy as a family to work things out.
No! Host is not the butthole at all. Matt shouldnât have commented at all, everyone has their struggles and no one should invalidate it!
You said it. -_-
I could imagine the stepson writing about his stepmother on reddit in the future
"..we agreed he gets to spend most of the week with me unfortunately." I think the OP just answered their own question. I understand that having a child with behavioral issues is difficult (my stepdaughter has ADHD), but that's no excuse for talking about your child like that. I have a hard time with her sometimes, but I have never, repeat *never* thought, let alone said, that I regretting her being with us more than her biological mom. In fact, even with all the issues, I still love her and want her around.
Additionally, if his behavior problems are that severe, get into some family counseling or take a parenting class specifically for parents of children with behavior problems. You and your wife need to learn how to work together, and, honestly, the best way to do that is to get an unbiased 3rd party involved to help you reach common ground.
As for that second story, I can understand how the anger can build, especially if that stepmom actually loved her child, but canceling a birthday party over a snide tone of voice is overkill, even if it had been done numerous times. It's the parents' responsibility to *consistently* call a child out on that behavior, and she didn't. She just suddenly decided to do so at that point with an extreme response. Yeah, no. She's totally the asshole there. Not to mention, the whole "I can do whatever I want" mentality is bullsh*t, real parent or not. Children are their own individuals, not extensions of you. You're not entitled to treat them however you want.
The last story is majorly DISGUSTING! Doesnât ANYONE bother about the fact, that a 15 year old went into a womanâs room and went through her UNDERWEAR?!? I mean, the thing about the price is obviously bad, too, but OP doesnât seem to parent his son right. Heâs not some âlittle childâ, who doesnât know about the private aspect of underwear yet. Heâs a fricking adolescent!
Yes, that's a pretty serious violation of privacy. It sounds like the boy's parents (step and/or birth parents) have their work cut out for them. It should be something learned way before age 15 that it's not okay to go through someone else's underwear drawer, but for whatever reason, the boy doesn't seem to have learned that yet. I'm guessing the young man either has a developmental disorder or his parents completely neglected to impose boundaries on him. Either way, someone needs to teach him how to be a responsible member of society.
At the very least, a 15 year old should know not to damage someone else's property like that.
He used bras to make slingshots. As a 14 year old it seems stupid, yet normal
kamenab nah thatâs bras and underwear they are hella expensive and for good reason good quality and what 15 year wants to touch their siblings underwear and bra???
The father should have at least payed the girl for her destroyed goods.
Imagine having a kid and blaming them because you donât know how to parent.
Its like a LOT of Parents these days. Severe lack of parenting when the child is little, & they surprised when it gets bratty as it ages!
The whole "cancelling the kid's birthday party" thing is slightly reminiscent of something that's going on with one of my friends right now.
She's graduating high school, and was gonna have a celebration dinner with her family, but they apparently ended up _cancelling the whole celebration_ JUST because my friend didn't want to invite her relative's bf. Apparently that makes her selfish somehow. Tbh if I wasn't such a timid person I'd be absolutely _reaming_ her family out right now. A birthday party is one thing, but a *GRADUATION?!* đ
Some of these stories remind of reasons why some people shouldnât have kids
The one where he told the kid itâs HIS fault his parents got divorced. WOW. That is the worst thing to tell a kid when they are going through that. And he said that he UNFORTUNATELY got to have his son most of the time. There are ways to work with children and try to get control of the anger problems but it sounds like neither of his parents want to deal with him any more. They both sound like they suck.
I mean that more his story went on the more I thought wow your just a terrible person. While I'm about as old school as it gets when it comes to parenting the kids behavior sounds like classic neglect
IKR? No mention of ever seeking professional help for the behavioral issues, just "punish him more or do nothing". Sounds like some major denial going on and the poor kid pays the price.
YamiNoSensei13 Professionals can be very expensive and we donât know their financial situation. I understand not getting professional help for that reason. But they still should have stuck through it for their child. You should never just give up on them and obviously show them how much you donât like them. A household of arguments only make these things worse. Now this poor kid will forever feel guilty for being the reason his family broke apart and also feel like he isnât loved. How cause the father have said his own son made his life worse from the moment they were born? Thatâs hits deep. This trauma will likely never be healed
@@SillyRamen My nephew had behavioral issues (bipolar) and got so bad my sister and bil had to turn him over to State placement for 18 months. I won't go into all the stuff the kid did, but he was in court many times and the placement was court ordered. They helped him get regulated on medication and therapy. He's now getting his masters after he finished law school.
Considering how both parents are apparently handling their child, I wouldn't be at all surprised if his bad behavior is a cry for attention. Like, what were they expecting? Did they think he would parent himself? Did they think he would parent them?!?
Last Story: Well if he couldn't pay for it, he shouldn't have destroyed them.
Hey, I'll destroy something that doesn't belong to me and expect no repercussions!
person: breaks into bank
person get arrested
person: to cops: WeLl thEIR SecURItY sHOulDvE beEN BETTer, AnD i exPecT yOu to UNCufF mE!!!
it just doesnt make sense
I mean it happened with the Boston Tea Party...
Seriously this was my first iest thought.
So wait, in the birthday story the 13 yr old, who was verbally disrespectful, should have been rewarded with a birthday party, while only the 15 yr old in the bra story deserved a lesson in responsibility? Both of them deserved to be taught lessons, especially the 13 yr old. Birthdays are no exception.
Genius Ell Yeah, if they werenât being brats, they wouldnât have had punishments
Reg Aita for telling my kid the divorce is his fault, yes. I had a lot of problems as a child, I was undiagnosed autistic and couldnât communicate how I felt so it always came out in huge meltdowns and self destruction. My parents went through hell but were supportive and loving despite it all and are the only reason Iâm even alive today.
For that stepson birthday one, literally all I could think about when she described him was thats a typical teenage boy
Yep, Iâm 13 and even I do the âI told youâ when someone asks me something I told them before.
When the dad said âI have to spend most of my time with him...unfortunately.â I started tearing up as my dad never loved me and always told me how much of a failure I am. That 1 extra word really hit me.
Someone to call Child Protective Services on that man and his wife
Completely that's emotional abuse
(edited for grammer)
My bras are âŹ70, pay the damn money!
Thank you for coming to my Ted talk
Very rarely do I react out loud to CZcams. But when OP told the kid that their divorce was his fault I sighed and said something along the lines of "Oh, you arse"
The divorce child is probably a wreck right now. Also behavioral difficulties should be dealt with by a therapist.
They blamed the child for basically existing. He told him that they were happier without him.
Every divorce child carries some underlying guilt about how they believe it was their fault, that their parents divorced, but them blaming him for every problem is out of order in so many ways.
By the way. Which sensible person turns to drinking when dealing with a problem, especially one of this magnitude. It seems to me they can't handle the responsibility of raising a child.
The child will have PTSD for the rest of his life. Blaming himself for everything that goes wrong. He will never truly trust anyone anymore, because the people, who you should usually trust the most betrayed him in such a way.
The fact that he is more quiet now also is probably a sign of depression or bottling up his pain, both of which aren't healthy.
The parents can count themselves lucky if he doesn't commit suicide!
Like WHY have a kid if you arenât going to be prepared for what can possibly happen? They are not fit to be parents by ANY MEANS
@@mistystorm2637 they had a kid because this is what society advices for.
I mean to say that alot of people have children for the sake of being preceived as high status and with a head on their shouldres, or serious people by others.
Or maybe is the idea that a child will be the peak of their love, like is portrayed in soaps.
"The parents can count themselves lucky if he doesn't commit suicide."
Knowing the kind of parents they are, they most likely won't see it that way.
Stories like that make me firmly believe that if a parent can't handle anything but their perfect dream child, they shouldn't have kids. Because what's worse than parenting a "difficult child"? Being that "difficult child" who grows up feeling unloved because they exist in a way their parents don't like.
@@mushroommagic1697 Don't forget
1) parental pressure to have grandkids asap
2) expecting kids to heal their marriage
3) accidental pregnancies
"I have to deal with my son unfortunately."
I can't imagine what that kid is going through, he probably doesn't trust his parents anymore and is probably bottling up all of his emotions. That can really damage a 12 year old. What a jerk of a father.
Parents saying things like that to their kids is a pretty good way to get them to be suicidal
Even misbehaved kids trust their parents so much, unconditionally. Even when parents DO have a kids best interests at heart, they can end up destroying them, so imagine how much damage can be done by a parent that actually hates their children.
Seriously! The way this dude talked about his kid. No wonder the behavioral problems. I really hope he has someone good in his life.
yeah a lot of young people are having children unprepared thinking its easy welp that explains a lot of the divorces and bullies nowadays
Wow, that kid is obviously acting good with hopes of them getting back together, how can this be so easily overseen wtf
Or he's traumatized and trying to process what he's been told
I know this is an old video.. but my parents getting divorced honestly was one of the main reasons for my depression. Being blamed for it would've made it so much worse. He's probably crying himself to sleep because he's blaming himself, a poor 12 year old child, for the fact his parents are so incompetent and incapable of raising a child that they blame all their short comings on him. Totally TA
Why does anyone think they deserve respect just because they are a "guest"? That's the stupidest thing I've ever heard.
Guest have gotta respect their host before the host has to even consider respecting his guests
Sacred hospitality goes both ways. If youâre a douche, youâre not a âguestâ, youâre an annoyance.
Respect is earned
I understand the thinking of, âThe host should give me respect, as I am a guestâ but when you believe you should be above the host is when its just plain wrong
You should NEVER blame your kids for divorcing their other parent
@@japanpanda2179 you realize statements like that can make a child suicidal? Your parents are your entire world as a kid! Having them fall apart is bad enough, and he was probably already thinking it was his fault without it being said.
@@japanpanda2179 because yes his behavioural issues were causing discontent but it's THEIR fault for not being able to handle it. When you choose to have a child you are going into it KNOWING that things like this are a possibility. It's on you as a parent to deal with it in a mature way and get yourself and/or your child help if you are struggling and NOT blame it on the child.
Do you even understand what a statement like that can do to a child? It fucks them up. Makes them feel worthless, like rubbish, makes them feel like they wish they were dead or had never been born. *YOU* are a huge asshole of you ever think it's ok to say anything remotely similar to a child.
@@FeliceJaganshi yes. Just yes. The comment you replied to made me so angry I can't even.
@@japanpanda2179 Because by telling him that thought will linger over his head and haunt him and destroy his mental health and self-worth so no it would have been better to lie (or at least lie to him until he can handle that mentally )
@@japanpanda2179 just say mummy and daddy weren't getting along. It's that simple. It may be sad but saying its their fault regardless is horrible. Nothing can ever be the fault of one person aswell.
The host didnât make Matt look bad. Matt made Matt look bad.
If someone disrespects you in YOUR home, you have the RIGHT to.tear them fully down!
I would say no to the OP of party night section. That idiot was a guest in your home and he had no right to be rude to you like that. Even if it wasn't a lie that is something you don't dig into. Thats like asking someone who was in the military if they have killed someone. You shouldn't do it because even if they lie to you thats entirely none of your business.
10:19 absolutely not a butthole someone patronizes you in your own home and you call them out on their bs. No one should have to deal with passive aggressive bs over a simple game. He asked for real and got it. Malicious compliance
That poor kid probably started behaving better because he thought it'd fix everything and get his parents to love eachother again. Shit man, I hope that kid's doing okay.
Along with the "I wish I haven't given birth to you," that's one of the worst things you can say to your child, they could end up thinking it's all their fault, even if it really is not. Plus him getting more quiet and behaved does not necessarily means he changed for the better, he probably hates you now that's why he couldn't bring himself to talk to you.
the one blaming the kid on the divorce enrages me so much.
Same
He could just spanked his butt or slap him then he doesnt behave đ¶
Legends say that those 34 people that gave that lady a Facepalm award got their birthday parties cancelled
They will probably reach Heaven though
If you check the post now it has 228 facepalm awards
Idk if I see OP in the birthday party as an asshole. I think sheâs right to cancel his birthday party as heâs being a terrible kid and needs to learn. Can someone explain to me why itâs awful? I mean this in the most genuine way possible, can someone please explain why itâs awful because I honestly want to get another perspective to understand, because I want to know. (Iâm sorry if this sounds rude in anyway, itâs not meant to I just really want someone to give me some perspective here)
Terra_the _Nightingale But the mother cancelled his birthday party OVER A FUCKING FACEPALM, if it were for any reason more serious then i would consider it, but it was over a FACEPALM
@@terra_the_nightingale135 First, it was just a facepalm, and second of all, birthday happen only ONCE A YEAR
This guy better hope his son doesn't commit suicide in the future. He basically gave his kid every reason to think he should.
Kid was only 13 he probably JUST learned what a facepalm is
I thought the stepson facepalmed his stepmother, but actually just facepalmed and that got his party cancelled? Sounds like the issue is not the kid at all, the fact he's OK with sharing his birthday party with his step-sister at his age shows he isn't as unreasonable as the woman makes out.
As for the two shitty parents, sounds like they were destined for divorce no matter what, the fact they spent months arguing instead of seeking help shows how incompetent they were, sounds like they want their child to behave but don't want to put in the work. Just imagine instead of asking strangers online if he was the arseholes, he posted online asking for help on how to help their child.
I thought he must have put his palm on her face from the title. How else could that lead to canceling his birthday? Step mom was totally the a-hole in that one.
What annoys me is how she titles herself as his mother yet she isnt his mother. a step son is a step son. not your actual child will never be and can never be. if anything she must run that punishment through with his biological dad first not just think she can do whatever she want...sigh smh such an entitled bitch.
The facepalm one ,I don't think she was the a hole. The only thing I don't like is that she allowed a kid to get away with stuff.
@@zahmbohddie4004 she's not the entitled bitch and if she's going to be in the house raising a child then, yes she should have a say in the punishment.
Game night host gets 0/5, man. His guest was being a condescending jerk in his own house. Why not share the truth about the hardest thing he went through? Why should he have to sit and take it?
The face palm award đđđ that had me dying
Oh Jesus! You NEVER blame divorce on your children. Does OP even love his son? And being so crushed that he can't say or do anything isn't him "behaving better"
Dad gets custody over the child.
No one:
Every single normal parent:
Dad: *complains*
The sad truth about custody battles is that the mother decides the outcome in 99% of the cases.
In this case, the mother didn't want full custody, thus the main custody went to the father, that obviously didn'T want it either.
If a mother wants full custody she gets it 99.9% of the time.
If a mother doesn't want full custody, she's never forced into it.
A father doesn't have these options...
The dad is fully in the right to complain.
As he had most likely no say at all in the custody battle.
Dude, the fact that OP blames his divorce on his son, like what?! I have a strong suspicion that the parents are the reason that the child has behavioural problems... And the fact that he became so quiet shows he was completely crushed...
The story where OP cancelled the birthday of her step son for 'facepalming' her is just dumb, I think that OP should accept she may never have a relationship with her son.
I have to wonder if the kid was acting out because he wanted/needed their attention. That behavior isnât acceptable, understandable, just not acceptable.
They should have done family consultations on what can change BEFORE the marriage deteriorated that much.
I have a suspicion that OP from birthday story was pushing too hard to be THE Mother. Kid probably wasn't over his parents splitting up (if his mother died than it's even more understandable) and he needed time to accept OP in his life.
@@Aethian This was exactly my thought. The moment I noticed OP's behavior it was the first thing that hit me.
@@whyamihere1563 Yeah, and now, OP has ruined a chance at a relationship with her step-son, for the silliest reason as well.
@@kryptical7315 true, she was on a power trip.. even wrote "I'm his mother, I can cancel his birthday" or something like that. So yeah, she's definitely trying to replace kid's bio-mom.
Q: "Am I the a hole for blaming my divorce on my son?"
A: "Yes, but please elaborate."
When I heard what the divorced dad said to his kid, my jaw dropped!
First of all, your kid has behavior problems, gets in trouble at school, doesn't listen to parents and parents aren't sure how to handle it... You guys even tried therapy?! Ever try getting a professionnal to help figure out where these behavior problems come from, and why the kid is like this?!
Second, what you said to the kid about why your divorcing, whether true or not, was down right HEARTLESS!
Well the it helped the kid shut the hell up
@@SUPERVEGITO896 Hope the parents thought destroying their own kid from the inside out was worth the silence
To comment/bring some context to the bra situation...what a lot of people donât understand is that comfortable bras that hold up over a long period of time can be EXPENSIVE. Bras are not one size fits all, and a bra that works for one person may not work for another. Further, a lot of women need specialty bras (e.g., need an extended range of sizes whether that be smaller or larger than average, need bras with two different cup sizes because not everyone has breasts that are the same size, are allergic to some material that cheaper bras are made out of, different bras have different uses like t-shirt bras versus a lingerie piece, etc.), and all of these reasons can result in a price tag thatâs well over $100. Just because OPâs wife doesnât buy expensive bras doesnât mean that his step-daughter doesnât have a reason to buy the kind of bras that suit her best.
Also, the bigger issue here is that OPâs son is a borderline pervert and has no understanding of privacy. Going into his adult siblings room and taking very private and personal undergarments is so incredibly creepy to me.
And *even if* she only bought expensive bras just for a fashion statement and could have found cheaper ones that fit, then so what? She still had her personal property destroyed, clothes that she bought with her own money. That would be like crashing someone's expensive luxury car and offering to replace it with an old cheap one. Even if it drives well enough, it's still money lost and property destroyed, and won't be the same.
On the host story, the top comment from reddit put it best.
"uhheyhowareyou : NTA. Matt made Matt look bad."
I hope, no PRAY that the dad who blamed his kid on the divorce ends up in the hospital with a life threatening disease (like corona or something), and one of the doctors pull the life support plug on him and they don't go to jail.
12:58 it is COMPLETELY UNACCEPTABLE for opâs son to rifle through his stepsisterâs undergarments, steal and damage her bras. WTF?! He should pay for what he damages, itâs a huge invasion of privacy and disrespect!
I found it extremely interesting how the OP who was getting a divorce "because of his son" posted how he thought he and his (ex)wife are basically soulmates, but when the first challenge came their way they started drinking and fighting, looking for a way to get away from each other and ultiamtely pushing each other away and then blaming all of their shit on the poor child that had to clearly live miserable 12 years with them.
They stated that it all happened when he was born indicating they never even wanted a child to being with or better said, they weren't even ready for a child to begin with. Children are all different and they change as they grow up, but as a parent it's your duty and job to guide their changes for them to grow into a functional members of society. If you're not able to do that, you failed as a person and as a parent.
I wish only the best to the child and as for the parents, they really f-ed up big time and deserve a good punch in the face for treating their child like that.
Completely agreed!
Yeah! From the explanation, I get the impression that the kid might not even *have* behavior issues, and that his parents see any negative emotions as being an "issue" because it inconveniences them. Horrid parents. Even if he does have behavior issues, being treated as a burden from day one probably plays a huge factor in that. If his father is willing to say THAT to his kid, I bet he's said things of a similar nature before.
I totally agree with you! If you don't want or can't afford kids or have issuses, bringing a child into that mess will make it worse. My parent's relationship was an emotionally abusive shitshow. Bio dad didn't want kids, mum did. Eventually I came along and my parents are still messed up. Bio dad is a narcissist and mum is an alcoholic who sometimes emotionally abuses me. Fun times. I'm never giving those screw ups grandkids.
@@Phoebe5448 i feel so sorry to hear that, i hope you keep them at arm's length
@@dagnytheartist you are so right about that.
And I also feel that they do not speak with the kid, just yell at him, or vent at him, scram at him and blame him all the time.
I also think the kid was neglected all the time, because the parents were busy doing soulmates stuff and later drinking.
And I find it bugging how at 12 he can't really express him emotions just enter in a state of despair and anger whenever something bad happens to him.
AITA for getting my sister in trouble? She's made me look for something that wasnt there, she's acted like she's above me, made me look for a remote she wanted and then, though likely a bluff, threatened to throw a Switch Lite at me.
So AITA
If my birthday was canceled every time I face palm well talking to my parents I'd have no birthdays