r/AmITheA**hole For Tattooing My Baby?
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- Äas pĆidĂĄn 17. 12. 2020
- r/AmITheA**hole In today's story, OP is the mother of twins. One of the twins has a medical condition that requires weekly medication. If the other twin takes this medication by mistake, it could result in severe health problems for both babies. So, at the recommendation of her doctor, OP decides to tattoo a tiny freckle on one of the boy's ears. OP's in-law freaks out when she found out, leaving OP to wonder if she was the butthole for doing this.
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Wait, so you can pierce a baby's ear or get a day old new born circumcised but you can't give a baby a life saving medical tattoo?
Whoever reckons the human race is rational?? Pfrrrt??
@@desertdaisymarie6951 Are you a kitty-cat? LOL If so, then you're right, us humans are very irrational. The Cat-Revolution will succeed soon! MEOW
@@ukchanak I wholeheartedly welcome our new overlords.
a tattoo thatâs literally no different than a birthmark? that intentionally fades away and isnât noticeable by anyone unless you specifically tell them itâs there? to save his life and prevent the harm to his brother?
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Upon seeing the title: WTF???? WHO DOES THAT???
Upon hearing the story: Oh, okay, NTA
Yeah, title and thumbnail are kinda clickbaity :\
Congrats you have experienced click bait
That was my thoughts exactly!! I was thinking who the hell would do that to their baby and was mad. Then I heard the story and I completely agree with them and NTA! Well played on rSlash's part lol
@@0Onyx13 kinda, IT IS CLICKBAIT
@@0Onyx13 thats... literally.... the point of a title and thumbnail... to bait clicks.
That freckle sized tattoo keeps BOTH kids safe. Those other people need to mind their own business.
That daughter calling her mom out? Top tier. Good for her, sheâs going places
Yep, going straight to the homeless shelter.
The tattoo isnât some design that the kid will carry for the rest of their life, itâs a freckle, those people need to chill
Yea like the doctor said it would fade in a couple years anyway
A doctor recommended freckle that will likely fade away
Even if the freckle doesnât fade, itâs just going to be one of those things people will share stories about or brag about as kids. âHey this happened, check it outâ kind of deal or if theyâre young kids, maybe even a âI got a tattoo before youâ. Thereâs medical procedures out there that are more harmful than a tattooed freckle.
Now, when I saw the thumbnail I knew it wasnt the actual picture but I thought it would be like an actual tattoo, and I saw the video on my home page but didnt watch it but told my friends about it and we all agreed that the mother was the asshole (again, I didnt watch the video only saw the thumbnail) but now that I've watched the video, I've gotta go tell my mates about it
It would be funny but not if they tattooed the wrong kid
In the first story, OP is NTA since it was recommended by a doctor
@@Houleigan I think it a she
@@Houleigan doctors are mostly preety smart guys, so i think its worthy to do alongside their recomendations.
Or girls
@@Houleigan it would be better if he did get it both of them can die from a mistake like that so I would have done it to
@@Houleigan it sounded like they went to a parlor when OP said "when we left the tattoo place"
In Canada, if you're under 19 your parents legally cannot kick you out. So if you're Canadian and have bigoted parents, it's a fucking free for all.
I don't believe in the phrase "Biting the hand that feeds" because feeding you is a responsibility, not a courtesy. And most parents don't have the gall to actually do it.
Whether they can kick you out or not feed you is irrelevant, they can still make your life hell. And thats kind of the point he was making.
You can sling around as much weight as you can carry. As a minor with minimal marketable/survival skills I'd say that weight it minimal.
Long term gain usually require short term discomfort even suffering. What do you gain besides instant gratification from those confrontation?
Be an adult, do well in live and cut contact once she's able would be the best way of doing things.
Also I'm literally an Asian.
Wait, I'm Canadian and I never knew parents couldn't kick their kids out under the age of 19.
Not that it matters to me, my parents will let me live in their house until I die if I wanted.
they still can make your life hell tho and not pay for collage which can ruining your life but yea
I absolutely hate when parents punish kids by saying things like, "No dinner for you then"
For the woman who had the intervention, I'd tell my husband that I'd let it go as soon as MIL payed back every penny of the wine she destroyed. Intervention aside, he can't argue that his mother stole from them without their knowing and then wasted all the money his wife spent on that wine. That's straight up theft, I don't care how "pure" the intention. A good person would pay them back. I'd also tell him that MIL isn't allowed to clean the house ever again. And if he's too stubborn to acquiesce, then I'd buy security cameras to keep an eye on her, and have record of any possible future theft. (Password protected so MIL and husband can't delete anything.)
How could the grandma in the first story be mad even. Sheâs part of the reason they got it in the first place. If grandma canât tell the kids apart then a teacher probably wonât either. It was a doctor recommended.
I think (hope) that it was just a misunderstanding. I mean if you read the title without knowing the story you'd be like wtf too, right? If OP didn't specify what kind of tattoo it was, I don't find it that weird for her mind to immediately jump an actual tattoo. Like maybe she thought they'd tattooed the kid's name on his back or something?
But that is just me trying to have faith in humanity ;/ Seeing her reaction upon being shown the tattoo kind of goes against my point ;d
Doctor recommended, would likely fade from existence, literally everyone (grandma included) mistakes it for a freckle. And yes, grandma literally endangered her grandkids and triggered the doctor to recommend this painless solution. Grandma has NO reason to be upset by this at all.
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Did you not listen to the story? OP DID specify what kind of tattoo it was, the reason for it, and that it was doctor recommended. When she pointed it out and explained it, grandma incorrectly told her it was just a freckle.
OP says other people call it "taking it too far" too even after fully explaining it, which I also don't understand. How can you call this too much after it's explained to you?
@@Richard_Nickerson The only people who would say that have never been around twins, mine absolutely love messing with people. They'll change clothes, respond to the others name, etc. Once people get to experience that they'd never call this going to far.
@@Richard_Nickerson Did you not read the comment? "Seeing her reaction upon being shown the tattoo kind of goes against my point ;d"
Mom: *Being racist*
OP: *Calls her out for being racist*
Mom: *Surprised Pikachu Face*
Seriously
noice on the like number
No
Someone called me a racist
Why?
I was being racist.
Oh
The nerve of some people
Oh!
I think this needs to be changed a bit to Entitled Mom
The person who walked out of her âinterventionâ- I would say something like âgreat, you ruined your Christmas gift, bravoâ as a way to shock her into shutting up or when she smashes the bottles, âyour an asshole for smashing your sonâs Christmas presents, you owe me [insert cost here]â
Yes, I totally agree. Also, if walking out of the intervention makes her guilty, how does she make them look mistaken?
I'm in a teaching credential program right now and we've been told multiple times to never do anything like the family tree assignment. One of my professors even told us it's because some kids won't be comfortable talking about their families or won't have the information. That teacher should have heard the mom say it would be a bad idea and offered an alternative or canceled the assignment altogether. Sounds like someone who didn't pay attention in their prep classes.
Yah, the gal who suffered the "intervention" needs to look close at her husband as well. Sounds like that whole side of the family wants to gaslight her to some degree or another.
Yeah that whole situation seems very suspicious
They sound like the family that thinks that *any* amount of alcohol consumption is immediately addictive (while probably being hypocritically genuinely addicted to caffeinated sodas).
Yeah this story specifically made me really upset. I was raised by an alcoholic, my upbringing was a nightmare. Seeing alcoholism used to try an manipulate someone is really fucked. Especially cause even if they really did think she was one, that kind of "intervention" would have been more damaging than helpful. It should have been done in her home, with her husband and close family/friends. It should have been more heartfelt. It sounds more like the MIL found the bottles and just wanted to start some drama and make OP feel like shit.
Is OP married into the Barone family?
That's not gaslighting, thats just abuse and manipulation.
Gaslighting is recreating someone's entire reality, and large investment of time and effort over a long period of time against a normal or particularly cogent individual.
Not one intervention that isnt anything about their external reality.
Spot on comment though, just clear distinctions of words concerning abuse protects people.
Feeling so entitled that you can walk into another person's room without knocking, and then refusing to admit guilt/apologize. That guy's roommate is dating a Karen.
I dont always agree with Rslash,but when he switched the gender roles about he was bang on. You dont walk into your roommate's room without knocking, ever.
Worse yet, not only did she not apologize, she demanded he apologize to her, and the roommate agreed.
@@joanneking170 Yeah, I mean duh. It's NOT her place! How would you like it if someone barges into your house for using the toilet all of a sudden? Same logic if you ask me.
@@joanneking170
You don't walk into ANYone's private space without permission. Period.
Next time OP should put a bow on âitâ and when she decides to walk in again, he should say âIâm not naked, Iâm all wrapped up!â
Iâd bet that the MILs âgiftâ of deep cleaning her childrenâs homes quarterly is really just an opportunity to snoop and control her childrenâs lives. The intervention without her husband or her family was super inappropriate and controlling too. Her husband needs to put his mummy in her place and they both need to refuse her âgiftâ from now on.
Also, I agree with RSlash on the racist mum one. I lived with an alcoholic dad and he was racist too, but I was waaay too scared to stand up to him. Itâs all about survival sometimes and itâll serve you later in life too. Working for a racist, but you donât have another source of income? Keep your head down and look for a new job. You HAVE TO take care of yourself first!
Fun fact: I know someone who, as a high school student, would completely BREAK DOWN and FREAK OUT if death was mentioned. Even if it's the death of a Shakespeare character. Her family never helped her understand death as a sad part of life. The kicker: she's Catholic like me.
That's wild to me, catholicism is often pretty upfront with momento mori too.
Bruh, the entire religion is about how God got tortured and die.
In the âinterventionâ story - I have a feeling that the âgiftâ of housecleaning was offered, just so MIL could snoop every month.
I didn't think about that before but that does seem likely. Also, she just assumed that OP had a drinking problem and not her husband. That amount of alcohol wasn't even very much and OP was trying to give very reasonable explanations for it but MIL just broke them in front of her.
Once a snooping parent always a snooping parent
@@zrc1514 exactly, it was an unreasonably small amount of alcohol to stage an intervention over. I have a feeling this was just about her trying to let OP know who the boss is. The fact that OPâs partner didnât stand up for her against his mother was very telling. It makes me think that he is used to being under her thumb and knows that just going along with things is the most peaceful route. I unfortunately see this becoming a JustNoMIL in the making.
@@ciomaria6137 especially when you consider that the amount would have been consumed over (as far as MIL knows) a 3 month period. if so thats barely anything.
I mean like, a "stash" of two bottles of wine is not one of an alcoholic. im not an alcoholic, but once in like every few months i drink two bottles in one night. an alcoholic would first of all find a stash of two bottles not sufficient, and second of all, would not hide his alcohol, why should he, he doesnt have a problem according to himself.
Edit: Read this back and realised i made myself look very guilty. To be clear, i barely drink, meaning there are months i don't touch a drop. It's just that when there's a weekend when i do drink, i tend to drink in large quantities.
"HOW DARE YOU BE NAKED IN YOUR OWN ROOM AFTER A SHOWER"
HOW DARE YOUU!!!!!
HOW HEINOUS
SUCH DISRESPECT
HOW DARE YOU TAKE A SHOWER NAKED!!!!!
HOW PERVERTED!
The intervention... she had to get out of there. I also think that she should now tell her husband that her Christmas budget is maxed out, and that his present was destroyed by his mother. I would also consider saying that so long as his mother has access to the place (key), then no alcohol would be permitted in the place. If she has a decent job, she could also start looking for a place to rent... so she can move out when he insists on backing his mother more.
As someone who is related to someone in AA, and helped them through recovery, that last story hurt to hear. That MIL is damn evil for doing that.
The MIL was super out of line stealing and destroying the bottles of wine.
isn't wine expensive?
Milk Isbad depending on the brand yes
@@EnemyOfLactose1758 There are certain bottles of wine that go for 10s of thousands of dollars depending on vintage. Then there are also ones that are 5 bucks at Safeway. Im betting OP would not have bought $5 bottles if they regularly drink it. Im betting she probably paid somewhere between $50-200 because there are a lot of good wines in those price ranges
@@EnemyOfLactose1758 sometimes, and the wine she was giving as a gift probably was
Is it possible she could sue her MIL for destruction of personal property?
2nd story: hell no. shielding childrens like that is bad. and even worse, the teacher should be fired
That teacher -- and the school -- learned a lesson about forcing students to divulge family information.
It could have been worse. What if the family was "in hiding" from a dangerous parent?
I remember learning death is inevitable at age 2 and getting over it in all of 10 mins. It helped me a lot since there's been a lot of death in my life
Teacher deserves 4 out of 5 buttholes. 2 for being insensitive. 2 more for refusing to listen when OP tried to explain the problem.
@@ficialintelligence1869 then you could , atleast in my country, legally go to authorities if the teacher denies that explanation. And you can get a certificate for that
Usually school is warned ahead of time in such cases
@SpaceBoy They should be banned. It's nice to "feel pride in where you come from." That's done _at home._ Parents who push for this type of class assignment might be rich, but they have no class. (I taught in private schools for way too long. Glad I am away from them. One of the most abusive work environments towards teachers. Ever.)
That intervention story made me freaking angry. If my mother ever tried to pull that with my wife, not only would she be apologizing to my spouse. But she'd be replacing the wine and sending out a public email about how she was very wrong and acted prior to finding out the truth. I can't believe that people would let their mothers walk all over their spouses like that!
I love hearing him go from âIâm engagedâ to âIâm marriedâ
Like ahhh I may not know anything about him besides he does reddit videos but I love him and I hope everything is great đ
In the last one, the mother-in-law isnât cleaning OPâs house as a âgiftâ, sheâs purposely rummaging through her house to find something to turn against her, she found it and then destroyed two Christmas presents and made false accusations about her and dragging her name through the mud. More alarming than that when OP told her husband, instead of being concerned for her and angry at his mother-in-law he got upset with her over how it looked. Didnât care about how she felt, cared about how it looked. Major red flags, OP definitely needs to reevaluate her relationship with her husband.
facts
I hope we get an update on this story
@@MimikyuCookie me too. OP deserves better.
Plus how did mil know it wasnt the husbands so called stash?
Yes but you also have to see it from the husbands perspective. I mean imagine if your entire family called you and said they found an alcohol stash from your wife? I mean alcoholics arenât the most stable people and if they are truly addicted they will act as if they have lost something very precious to them so I think the husband is justified in his initial skepticism
The second one is nta. She told the teacher that her and her daughter's family tree is really dark and that it might not be a good mood for the class, yet she went along saying that it has to be biological. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes is all I can say
I agree but OP could of gone to the principal and explained the situation and showed the email from the teacher. That way the principal could of done something. But if the principal wouldnât do anything then OP could go to the board of education and keep following the chain of command. Rule one of protecting yourself in work or with helping on school assignments have the teacher or your boss write out what they want you do to and sign it, if they want you to do something different have them write it out and sign it again so if things blow up you have proof that you did what you where told to do.
Id have given her and the principal one chance and only one to back out of that demand.
If she still wanted to push it, well then she could explain what a Nazi and the Soviet Union are.
She did say biological and accurate right?
@@sparkplug1018 fair
I mean I doubt anyoneâs great great grandma was alive, could have just drawn a stick figure and if teacher got upset just say they were too poor for pictures or some bs
@@socketyellow3 Or better yet, just tell the teacher, "Sorry I was orphaned as a young child and don't know anything about my parents' ancestry and my husband was in the same boat, so, no information there." But, what the hell kind of a school INSISTS/REQUIRED that parents divulge family tree/history information in the first place. None of their fricking business. What are they gonna do if you don't comply? Fail your child in kindergarten because mommy refused to drink the Kool Aid and fall in line?
I love how people will not even blink at a newborn baby with earrings, but crucify a mom for giving her child something that basically constitutes as a freckle henna tattoo on his earlobe to avoid hurting his twin brother. âTattoos = BADâ is so ingrained in our society smh.
That last story about the confrontation sounds like the mother-in-law watches too much TV. But you're right as well, this is a power trip.
First story: what a very smart idea. A tattoo freckle that fades after 2-3 years. Interesting! Better than chafing bracelets or sharpie marks lol
Can I call Clickbait
@@HamBamShangalang no? They did tattoo the kid
@@user-hanging-at-the-hanged-man but look at the thumbnail it shows kids covered it tattoos but they were not so it is clickbait
@@HamBamShangalang yeah but it's not like the clickbait we find on CZcams
@@thecommenter8789 yeah it ain't bad it ain't like FNAF 3AM SATAN. DOG M16 FIGHT GONE WRONG i just wanted to call it out
On the last story about the intervention, she should gift her in-laws from the Intervention with broken wine bottles for Christmas...
that's so perfect. also nice
Gift her husband with divorce papers
"Sence when is 5 bottles of wine over a 3 month period a drinking problem?"
My cousins French, i asked him how much he and his parent will drink when they have dinner together once a week
They go through one bottle that one night between the 3 people involved
(Yes I know this is a stereotype but they actually do this) so one person going through 5 in three months doesn't sound too outrageous, especially if you factor if the husband has any of the wine
My mom and I can drink one bottle in one night lol
Hell yeah, I'd put a medical tattoo on one of my babies under the same conditions!
My niece had identical twin girls, and they ended up getting the same kind of non toxic marker that plastic surgeons use to mark what's being surgically altered. My niece drew a tiny heart on the right earlobe and heel of one twin until they'd gotten a little older and their parents could tell them apart.
Last story, next family dinner if they offer wine, u should just break the bottle and say its "for the better of everyone"
I'd divorce the husband's ass
Rslash seems like heâs tired of humanity
Literally who isn't though lmao
No shit, Sherlock
Thanos was right
2020 is both raggedy and still not over so it's understandable.
If I had to read shit like this I would be too.
The first one shouldn't even exist since it started with "doctor recommendation". As for the intervention I would have made sure to drink at every single family gathering or harshly judge the family when they drank and go way over the top with it
Who the hell treats death as something to be shamed for? Who controls their death??
Dude... that last story... divorce SO HARD right now.
Iâd like to see the in-laws backtrack after finding out all the effort she goes through just to get rid of them
@@mostar1219 They won't backtrack. I have a feeling they would be elated by the divorce...
@@j.j.juggernaut9709 Yeah not only would MIL be elated, she would blame the divorce on her "drinking problem."
I'm so happy that girl mentioned A Silent Voice. I feel like that movie is so underrated. It's basically about a kid who bullies this girl for being hearing impaired and ends up traumatized by what he did to her. Later in life, he ends up befriending her again. It's a really sweet story and I love how it doesn't show the bully as a loser after the bullying and shows him making amends for what he did. It's on Netlfix if anyone's interested
The movie makes me cry every time. Its a favorite.
Have you read the manga? There's stuff cut from the movie there.
Yeah also he was only following what the other kids were doing. Literally everyone was bullying her and being vicious snots but they all blamed him for it and feigned innocence till the end. Forgot the name of the girl with braids but I haaaate her for being so fake and refusing to admit that she was a bully too and then throwing a tantrum when called out
@@fnvfan0145 i can't find it so I havent yet :(
@@savannahs.5874 Absolutely, the movie upsets me because it shows how accurate many are irl over these situations
2nd story
Teacher: You HAVE to do it properly
Teacher: hoW CoUlD yOU
If i was in OPs situation in the last story, the moment my mom smashed the first bottle, I wouldve retaliated by smashing another bottle myself, but on her face.
Third story: that intervention was messed up. Her husband's reaction was even more messed up; he sounds more loyal to his family than to her. My FIL (who isn't even in our lives by his own selfish choices) was an addict to several substances and after seeing my husband drink two beers at dinner once he was convinced my husband was a raging alcoholic, and became determined to make us both "see the light about who he really was." I went full protective tiger mode, and every time he tried "to warm me for my own good" I reminded him that he hadn't known my husband since he was two years old, and had no idea about what kind of amazing man he'd become. When he wouldn't stop we broke contact because it was too exhausting fighting a man who was determined to gaslight us both and had literally no idea what he was talking about. I feel badly for OP, being pressured by her husband to give any credence to that bizarre intervention. NTAH
Let me just say good for you for sticking up for your husband like that, and good for you for getting that jerk FIL out of your lives. You're better off without him.
Kelaiah01 thank you. We were SO much better off. â„ïž
@@BiggerinRealLife You're welcome, and yes, I believe you are.
Honestly, I would trust my whole family before my partner. But if the partner can prove that nothing wrong is happening, then I will stay on their side.
The second storie was literally just a case of malicious complience. karen: I dont care if it can contain death just do It
Op: "does the family tree"
Karen: "surprise pikachu face"
I just don't see what's inappropriate about having family members who have died and not lying about it. ?????
@@sunnyandthechlo I know a lot of parents like to shield their children from death as much as possible, but completely hiding it isnât a real option for many families. Kindergarten is the age that I lost my grandmother-even if I hadnât gone to the funeral there was no hiding that she wasnât around anymore.
You should knock before entering a room
Even I do it when arriving at my mates place, I can walk into his house without knocking but I get to his room and knock just in case even tho he knows Iâm coming over
Its just common Curtisy
@bis225 What was she supposed to do instead though?? Lie and basically say âyep my family is great and nothing bad ever happens?â Dig up fake photos of people? Itâs not the kid and OPs fault that they had tragedy in their lives and itâs not fair to make them feel bad for it.
@bis225 It boils down to: it was a bad idea for a project and OP could've done some things differently too. I just feel like it makes a child who has suffered tragedies in her life feel bad and like she has to hide it or keep it to herself. Asking what she could've done instead is not a strawman, it's just something I wondered and something OP questioned as well so it pertains to the situation. We can just agree to disagree though, it's all good.
Mom, you did the right thing with the added freckle! My friend had triplets. Identical triplets. She had âfrecklesâ added to their arm. One on baby one, two on baby two and three on baby three. Tiny dots, you had to look for to find.
Iâd be pissed if I was the twin who got a random freckle on my ear
by the time you are old enough to actually comprehend it, it will have faded.
It's not random.
Well, at least you would be alive to get pissed off.
If the tattoo fades then I see no problem. Plus its just a freckle.
Yeah, he could literally cover it with an earring.
Even if it doesnât fade you could literally just say itâs a freckle and no one would even notice lol
@@secretspy9338 also no one would even see it unless they were looking for it. And even if they did they probably wouldnât say anything by it because they would think âoh a freckleâ
@@terra_the_nightingale135 yeah the most attention that freckle will get is people saying Jack has a freckle but his twin doesnât so thatâs how you tell them apart
other than that they wouldnât think anything of it
I love A Silent Voice. She was probably talking about the part of the movie where the deaf girl tries to say "I love you" to a guy but he doesn't understand her, that part of the movie always makes me cry.
Ya same :( he thought she said moon,Im going to rewatch it
Yeah probably
And it is so sad :(
Everytime Shouko tries to speak but people cant understand her makes me go đ„ș
The movie is so sweet! What sucks is that it was based off of a true story where *that* character actually died :/
i almost cried at the end of that movie the 2 times that i have watched it because it's the kind of movie that will make you feel something
Hearing a silent voice being mentioned brought me into tears,i love that movie too much
âBiting the hand that feeds youâ is such a bs sentiment. You do not owe your parents your gratitude for doing their job as guardians.
It took me only a year to go through a Bottle of Jack Danielâs: Tennessee Honey.
Please send help, you guys, I have a serious drinking problem.
The first step is to admit you have a problem. I'm proud of you.
after that, look for professional help
I wish you a safe recovery
In the last story it was SOO obvious the Mom was angry about missing children. MILs don't act like that without a personal vendetta
She'd probably get real angry if OP got her tubes tied. :)
As someone from Wisconsin the drinking intervention story is LAUGHABLE. 3 bottles of wine? Nah, that's a Tuesday with company.
Parents can pierce their infants ears, for looks sake but canât tattoo one of their infants to protect for medical reasons? Ya that makes sense.
MIL so in wrong and just assumed the "stash" couldn't have been her son's. Such bull.
The full bottles were hidden from him since they were meant as gifts, so maybe OP and husband have separate closets and the bottles were in hers. Still, MIL is absolutely the a-hole and probably did it on purpose due to the sore spot between her and OP (OP not wanting kids, but MIL wanting grandkids).
@@fieratheproud She's probably also looking for a way to sabatage birth control
Interventions that aren't done by a professional are actually dangerous imo... I hope that one girl doesn't get hurt because of everything that happened because I'd have a mental breakdown if that happened to me
seriously! Like interventions are supposed to be a last resort, and should be done with a professional. First, if you are worried, have a private conversation with the person and see what they might have going on and how they see things. Like, why would you immediately jump to intervention mode and blab sensitive information to everyone?!?!
At the very least an intervention should be held by the people closest to OP not the people closest to the person holding it. That's also a way of collecting info so you have all the facts and not just assume because you found a few empty bottles. The people who spend the most time with OP would know the most about them.
Sounds like some people saw something about an "intervention" on a TV show and thought they could roll their own.
I'd start throwing hands if I got falsely accused like that
An intervention can be a inexcusable rude malicious nosy situation that sets off panic attacks in people who donât deserve it. Never let people look around your house under the excuse of them cleaning it for you. She would have known what you had three months before and was just waiting for enough to skewer you with found evidence.
Im sorry but that family tree one had me laughing so much out of disbelief. All that death omg i was like âhaha nooooooâ
OP's mother in law probably only cleans her kid's houses every 3 months to look around in their stuff cause she couldn't do it after they moved out
Staging an intervention without the wife's family and thinking that a beer can and new wine bottles are an issue, most people have a variety of wine in their homes anyway! Even as a kid my parents had all kinds of wines on a rack for special events! They never even drank though! She needs to put her husband and his nasty mean mother in their places right away! Why do people put up with this kind of stuff? The more f these stories I read/hear the more I LOVE being single!
My parents constantly have alcohol in the house. There's wine in the fridge and the storage, currently a large stash of beer for dad, and the living room has a... pantry? Is that the word? That has random alchol (idk i think there's a wide variety, probably whiskey and such) in it, plus occasionally mom buys cider. But no one in my family, at least as far as I know, has a drinking problem. The wine is used in moderation at meals, the beer is also for meals when it's not quite fancy enough for wine (mom drinks water when dad has beer), and i don't know when was the last time the bottles in the living room pantry were opened, at this point they feel more like decorations. Oh, and myself I can't stand the taste of alcohol, the only kind I've been able to finish a glass of is cider and even then I prefer pretty much anything else.
So yeah, the MIL's staged "intervention" feels like she kust wanted any ampunt of control over OP. Especially since apparently OP not wanting kids is a sore spot between the two, as if helping with a "drinking problem" would make her want kids.
Same, my mom has wine bottles and alcohol but she never drinks. Most of the time she gets empty wine bottles and puts lights in them and sometimes paints them, she does this more than drinks them.
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@@fieratheproud nearly the same. We have a collection of alcoholic drinks in the living room too, where we eat at family gatherings. That's basically the only time they are opened. (As you mentioned, we also have a wide variety ranging from light drinks to 60%+ beverages.)
What's funny to me is that my dad's family loves wine so no mater which sibling you visit, there's always some collection of wine. This usually means a minimum of 10 bottles so I don't really see a problem with only a few.
My mom and her boyfriend literally have a corner bar in the living room right by the stairs and like 40 or so bottles of alcohol in total throughout the house. They hardly ever drink though. Itâs just for special occasions or when friends are over. I donât see why 3 empty bottles of wine, an empty beer can, and two full bottles of wine are an issue
Wtf
Why would he have to apologise for walking in his OWN ROOM when she literally BARGED IN đ€Łđ€Łđ€Łđ€Ł
That last story legitimately made me angry. Mental health and addiction is such an important subject and they just... people who judge others clearly without truly knowing them and then forcing their ideals onto people are some of the worst humans to ever exist.
The second story I can relate to. My teacher made me do a family tree in I believe second grade. My parents are lesbian because Iâm adopted, and I grew up in a VERY homophobic town. Thatâs when the bullying started- after they all found out I had lesbian parents. I had tried to talk to the teacher and ask if I could do something else beforehand but she insisted it wouldnât be a problem, no one would make fun of me. Damn was she wrong! đ
imagine getting mad over a 2mm medical tattoo that fades in 2-3 years
Not to mention that nobody could find it until the parents pointed it out.
-- To save a child's life
The freckle one, like how is that even a question? Oh no I have a small freckle on my ear, what a traumatizing nightmare
That last story...my heart breaks for the girl. It could drive anyone insane to have to explain yourself honestly, only for others to tell you they donât believe you because THEY believe sheâs in denial of her âproblemâ. A-âI donât have a problemâ B-âoh honey I know itâs hard to acknowledge the problem in the beginning but weâll help you get there.â A-âIâm telling the truth.â B-âIâm sure you think so.â She shouldnât have to waste her time explaining her side when she knows the truth. I would have made MIL sit down in her seat and look her dead in her face and tell her that I KNOW for a fact that I donât have a problem and she is no longer welcome at our place without anyone home. AND the least she could have done is talk to me and my husband privately about what she found and what possible concerns she had. Instead she blew it out of proportion and went straight to the rest of her family. Her husband definitely should have been there and he should have understood her reaction and took her side instead telling her to give into something that MIL completely fabricated. NTA!! If her husband isnât doing anything about it, she should sit him and MIL down together and explain calmly the truth and how she felt about the whole thing and they are not gonna try to gaslight her into thinking that she is overreacting or in denial of anything when her husband should know in fact if she is an alcoholic or not and if MIL still thinks she has a problem then OP should tell her that she should take classes about signs and symptoms of alcoholism and when she realizes her mistake, OP should expect an apology for an uncalled for intervention.
I hate that when people drink people just assume thereâs a drinking problem. Itâs dumb and if you corner someone theyâre going to panic.
My sister enjoys drinking a glass of wine after a rough day or sometimes just for fun but my mom calls her an alcoholic. It's ridiculous!
@@seireidoragon thatâs dumb. People just need to understand what addiction is. Also if people think thatâs to much drinking they should see Italy đwe love to drink
My mom called me an alcoholic because twice when she called me I was picking up beer for my dad. (adopted mom, bio dad) and I don't drink.
Not panic, going to make them regret ever even considering that farce.
That family tree story should be in malicious compliance as well
A Silent Voice is a Rollercoaster of emotion I will NEVER get over. Holy Heckin Heck....
I know a year late, when I was in the army we were doing a full medical review and was asked, "do you drink?" 1 beer a day if that, her exact words "you drink too much, you should only drink 1 a month."
So the girlfriend walked into the private room of someone else with the intention of using their bathroom that they do not have any permission to use, without knocking, and then have the audacity to demand an apology?
Also Iâm guessing the bedroom isnât that big so she would probably have to look down to see anything.
There is no way I could phrase this where sheâs in the right, best case she should be apologising, worst case she gets sued for sexual harassment.
Let's add that he just got out of the shower. Imagine if she had come in 5 minutes earlier when he was still in the shower.
Left logic at it's best
@@magusomega What?
@@ghostnebula8805 I think theyâre trying to make this political somehow, but the two subjects are so different I could be wrong.
Those both sound like best case scenarios
Lets be honest, the mother in law isn't "Cleaning peoples houses" to help them, she snooping on other people in a really creepy way, and this really was just a power-play of a bully trying to push her around because she doesn't bow down to her demand for grandchildren.
Personally I'd send her and husband Christmas gifts of cards reading "I'd have sent you a gift this year but unfortunately MIL smashed several the gifts I had this year on purpose, so I had to spend the money replacing those". Yeah, I'm petty sometimes =P
I really want to hear Rslash say 'uh, fine I guess you are my little pogchamp'
Mine and my husband's family trees would be pretty dark too. I'm shocked they requested this from kindergarteners! Even at my husband's job (a job for grown ass people) he has people that say "well, make amends while you can" and that's a response for people that don't understand the abuse. That's exactly what I told him when he came home upset- people that haven't lived our lives in OUR families don't understand, sheltered people think there's a road to redemption when the bridge is actually burned for safety.
File a police report on the MIL for theft and destruction of property
the wine story: yhea thats a reason to dump him. so many red flags
@Tiberiu Farcas your partner is not automatically obligated to take your side and share your opinion.
@Tiberiu Farcas I read fast so I didn't see that my bad
@Tiberiu Farcas I don't have a printer but thats fax
@Tiberiu Farcas I am VERY offended and I will take to Twitter to tell my 15 followers how much of a meanie you are
@Tiberiu Farcas I'll have you know i will need your house AND you car for my son if not I'm calling the police
I absolutely love it when families can teach the TEACHERS!
At that last one I just KNEW they were going to smash the wine bottles. And then it happened and I was like "yep"
That mil in the last story would die if she came to my house. I save up all my empty bottles & glass jars til i have a big load then take them to the bottle bank for recycling. It just makes more sense because of how far away it is. I keep them out of the way in the kitchen cupboard, & usually by the time i have enough saved up to do a trip i have about 5 or 6 wine/spirit bottles along with my glass coffee or jam jars etc.
My husband and I made a wine bottle chandelier for our dining room, so we saved bottles for a while.
@@cheetahiq That actually sounds really cool
I would have said get the hell out of my house before I have the police get you out
And if you smash any more of my property I'll tell them about that too
Seriously, I never understand these MIL stories! My MIL would never come into my house and break my things! My husband would be the one to freak out before I would!
@@lazydaizy321 if i didn't feel like handling it, my hubby would be getting told to get his mother under control lol but usually he deals with his family & i deal with mine.
I could never imagine going into someone else's house & acting like that! Just seems insane to me!
As someone who wants to become a parent, I don't get why some schools assign these family tree projects especially when they insist on biological bonds. OK, it's be cool to find out part of your ancestors came from a cool country with amazing history but what if family members are dead, in hiding, abusive or adopted? It seems to cause more trouble.
Or suicides. Explain that to a kindergarten class.
I am happy this wasn't something done in my kindergarden
Like my mother's father died when she was only 13. Her cousin died at 3 and my aunt was saved only seconds to spare (car accident when kids were playing and truck driver didn't see them)
My other grandfather is dead beat, cheater and had another kid when his 5 other kids were 30+
I am okay talking about all of this now, but if I had to hear all that when I was kid, it would have messed me up..
I would rather hear that grandma is dead instead of hearing that she ran away from grandpa and never wants to see me again.
12:16 GF's room mate would either A) lose her crap, or B) say "you're welcome."
I love how the family tree project was insisted upon by the teacher, even after the mom explained it would go bad. Then it goes bad and the mom is hammered by other parents and even the teacher and principal? She should have punched the teachers teeth out for demanding it and then making a stink about it. It's not the mom's fault at all! It's totally the teachers fault and all complaint calls should have been forwarded to the teacher.
I get that kids 'need to realize the consequences' of disagreeing with their parents, but when you're literally being abused on the daily, you're not going to want to preserve the feelings of someone hurting you. Kids literally don't ask to be born, and it's up to the parents to provide a good life. Kids don't owe their parents anything, no matter how old they are. Kids should not have to deal with any kind of abuse just because of who they are, and they should be allowed to disagree with their parents. Not everyone agrees on the same things, and it's on the parents to realize maybe they have things ingrained in their minds that aren't the best for those around them.
As someone who is a heroin addict (Coming up on 2 years clean) and has suffered through 2 interventions, I feel that its an archaic way of "helping" that causes feelings of being trapped, especially in folks in active addiction. Doing it in a parks is also stupid because then it becomes a public affair. Ultimately shame on them for pulling an intervention on someone without having any facts or informing/inviting her husband.
Oh for the alchohol one I would say, "Oh don't worry they will not see me drink, hell they won't even see me anytime for the next 12 months. That shod i am good and sober for them." Because that was uncalled for as a first step.
So I guess the husband didn't get any gifts now that his mother smashed them and he thought it was totally okay?
She should just say "Ohh there's no present for you since MIL smashed them." at Christmas day or just give him the smashed up bottles and Divorce papers
@@DailyThingsInSCPFoundation Excellent idea. "Well, I DID buy you two bottles of your favorite wine, but your mother smashed them. You'll have to ask her why."
@@jjohnston94 Yeah.
Me reading the title: WTF??? Thatâs NEVER ok Jesus Christ
Me after hearing the story: Oh no thatâs completely justified the parent is doing well
Yeah, rslash seems to enjoy clickbait
@@notaplic8158 I wouldn't necessarily call it click bait, the title is completely accurate and the thumb nail matches the title. Sure it is somewhat misleading but it engages people who wouldn't normally seek out his content and the story the title mentions is not only in the video, but the very first story
@@notaplic8158 I mean, the title of the story is the same as the reddit story. Youâd think the same thing with or without the thumbnail lol
@@notaplic8158 Most CZcamsrs need at least a bit of clickbait to engage new viewers. Also I, personally, would've just skipped over the video if it didn't seem so 'extreme'.
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Gonna need you to bump that teachers rating up to at least three. The mother tried to talk to her and inform her of the situation and she refused to acknowledge it. Then tried to put it all on the parent.
Three wine bottles in three months? I have seen a few people do that many in hours. This definitely screams alternative motives.
My fiance and I took a trip when we got engaged. A 2 night stay at a hotel. We brought 2 bottles of a local fruit wine with us and finished both of them. One each night. It wasnt that hard honestly as there wasnt really a ton of wine in each bottle (we had about 2 full glasses each, each night or 4 "servings").
It would be one thing if she was like slamming bottles down one after the other in an hour or two I could see that being a bit worrisome. But I cant even imagine having an open bottle of wine for more than a week or two. If I drank a glass of wine every other night I can finish a bottle off in a week without even getting tipsy or buzzed.
They blew this way out of proportion and it genuinely feels like she just wanted to humiliate OP in retaliation. Or honestly If you really read into things its possible the MIL was trying to sabotage OPs birth control. Why else was she snooping in the back of OPs closet? "Cleaning the house as a favor" usually entails the living room, dining room, kitchen, bathrooms, and MAYBE the office if you have one. You dont go digging in peoples closets when offering to help clean anything. Im sure she knew OP wouldnt approve which is another reason why she did this in public where OP would be too flustered to realize *wtf were you doing in my closet??*. If she's upset about not having grandkids I wouldnt put it past her to go snooping in OPs closet for her pills or in their bedroom in general for condoms to make an "accident" happen. Wouldnt be the first time. But then she came across the bottles and couldnt pass up an opprotunity to hurt Op in "retaliation" and knowing how she got this information avoided doing anything that would even remotely resemble a healthy intervention.
Screw that MIL. I wouldnt trust her alone in my home EVER again
That intervention one. That MIL can go to therapy
No, that MIL can go to jail for stealing and destruction of property.
Then our taxes are going towards supporting a person that doesn't deserve it.
She should just be forced to pay for the wine and get slapped with a nasty fine. If she doesn't, then she can go to jail.
@@archerhitthetarget yeah fair point so I say instead let her suffer for the rest of time đ
Yeah wtf. The 'stash' they found would've been enough to drink a glass of wine every fourth day. (According to google an average bottle holds around five glasses of wine.)
Your voice is so soothing. Good thing I found it at 2am. You will talk me to sleep wether you want to or not
Adoptee here! Yeah, I had fun on those biological assignments. The best was mapping of the parentsâ features to find out which ones we got from which parent. Between my mothers who are blue eyed and blonde/red headed, you can toooooootally see the family resemblance to my Asian ass. The teacher called me up and was like trying to be delicate about telling me my assignment didnât make sense. I went through every one of the markers and said they were correct. Then when she fell silent, I was like, âyeah, my MOMS have a lot of recessive traits, donât they!â Lightbulb moment for the teacher. âYou have 2 moms!â âYup! They adopted me when I was a baby.â Teacher started giggling and told me I could sit back down. She was so relieved. I wonder how long she was thinking my mom cheated on my âdadâ⊠đ
The last story - the husband is a s&*thead for not backing her up. Those were PRESENTS to him! This was a MIL power trip!
You know, as soon as I heard it was recommended by a doctor I realized they're NTA. I feel baited
The bit about the 5 wines over 3 months, my dad claims that him and his family would have about 10 to 12 bottles of wine over Sunday dinner between them. There are 5 of them.
Hey! I have a fake freckle on my pinky, but that was a stick and poke incident đ
Family tree project? For kindergarten? And geez, talk about a clueless teacher.
Joke of the day:
How do you make a sausage roll?
*push it down a hill.*
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For real though, A Silent Voice was an absolutely beautiful movie. Brought me to tears as well.
"I didn't really ask you what happened at all and shamed you for running away from a supposed intervention, making you feel as though you had to battle me and my family with absolutely no support. But, you should put that all behind you because I'm not mature enough to tell them how premature our conclusions were and make sure that you aren't treated unfairly for our misperceptions."