r/AmITheA**hole For Mocking My Trans "Daughter?"
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- čas přidán 11. 07. 2024
- r/AmITheA**hole In today's video, OP has a trans child who is trying to establish a new identity for herself. OP's ex-wife, however, refuses to accept her child's transition and keeps referring to her as "he/him." Things eventually boil over when OP's ex-wife tricks her daughter and cuts her long hair really short to be closer to a boy's haircut.
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No, rSlash: Banning the sister from seeing the daughter is actually smart here. That woman is probably going to try to abduct that little girl at some point. Gotta nip that in the bud.
Reminds me of the story where the MIL took OP's newborn to get baptized. RSlash agreed not letting her see the kid anymore was reasonable so like......??????????
Edit: I may be misremembering, i dont exactly remember his opinion on that one
@@MyceliumNebula
Oh man, I remember that one. I commented on how awful he was about that on that one too.
@@Richard_Nickerson I think maybe he can't empathize with like, having actual children. Maybe he would understand if like someone stole his youtube channel and deleted some of the videos?
@@MyceliumNebula
You do you haha
@@Richard_Nickerson THIS IS NOT A THREAT
Omg Rslash, your take on the psycho-aunt-soon-to-be kidnapper is dead wrong. The infant is completely helpless and cannot report any problems with auntie or call mom when auntie takes her away. Auntie needs help but it's not baby's job to prop up a dangerous fantasy and it's not mom's job to make auntie feel better. Mom's job is to protect baby.
I was thinking the same thing. If she needed help that badly she could go to therapy or adopt a child.
I agree with you
I think people are misunderstanding what he was saying. Sounded like he was saying she should try to get her sister help with supervised visits maybe later on, not out right turn her back on her and keep the kid from her forever.
@@anjafrohlich1170 yes, you have to already be in a great position to adopt a child.
That's why there are so many unadopted children.
@@Rhaenarys id say its still ops choice what happens to her child, and if the sister gets treatment i still dont really think its a good idea to put them both together as she might fall back into this pattern, kinda like if you just been on alcohol rehab you cant just start drinking again, even small doses
No! No! No! The sister was pretending that her niece was her daughter. The photo in the mother/daughter frame is deeply concerning because it indicates a deep fantasy life focused on her niece. I was stunned when you said the writer was in the wrong. This was a kidnapping waiting to happen
Right?
"My ex wife was telling everyone that I brainwashed my daughter into hating her"
Funny. That's exactly what my abusive dad used to tell people about my mum. Not the fact that he verbally abused the shit out of us
Lol that’s what my dad did to my mom, and them my mom did it to my mom. Family is complicated
I had the same experience here and with physical stuff too. Abusive parents seem to really love the word, "brainwashed" !! Blehg! Sorry you had to go thru that, like I said I've had the same exact thing so i totally get it. It's like the abusers simply cannot/will not comprehend the destruction they are inflicting!
That’s what my dad used to say when we refused to talk to him for crossing a boundary and went no contact for two weeks before using the law instead of letting us heal from other emotional wounds he made that year.
Sounds like you deserved it. ^^
The sister who's older sister had the weird fixation that her niece was actually her daughter, did the right thing!!! Yes, her sister needs help, but until then she could very well get worse and even kidnap her daughter!!! It happens and the mom cannot take that chance. The mom should get together with family and friends and get the sister help. If she refuses, then that's on her. Depending on what the sister does or doesn't do to get help, you may have to cut ties with her and at the very least, NEVER leave your daughter alone with her aunt...EVER. She most definitely did not overreact!!! I would have done the same thing!
Yeah, I don't think putting a child at risk is worth making OP's sister feel better.
I agree 100%!
As a parent, I completely agree, if someone did that with my son, no matter who it was they would be removed from my and his life. That is unsafe and absolutely not ok
Same here! If R/slash wants to endanger his own kids that's his business, but I would *never* allow someone like OP's sister around my kids, unless they had extensive mental health treatment.
I agree, I like r slash but a big nope with that.
Bad take, Rslash, that entitled sister is a fucking kidnapper risk. OP on that post needs to seriously make sure her daughter hasn't been groomed by the sister to buy that lie too.
I think op's baby was still a baby not sure but yes I agree with you completely and I disagree with rslash
Preach!
Exactly!
Couldn't agree more. Had something similar happen to me, but I luckily took steps to stop that shit right away.
@rapheALtoid you can kidnap and force them to think of you as something you're not. That's the age they're learning faces and words so you CAN coerse them into thinking you're someone you're not. Which is dangerous
I would rant about how wrong you are, but everyone else has already done so.
As much as I would love to go a rant for 3 paragraphs, there is 3000 comments, mine will never the seen or acknowledged.
@@tomdean1876 yup I hate seeing crap over and over, everyone is talking about that story but almost nobody talks about the other stories. It's a bit annoying. Yeah they're right but there's only so many times when you can say the same things over and over.
i could go on for days about how nearly the entire comment section is just a bunch of filthy degenerates who would actually opt to chose saving the kid over helping their sister, instead of, ya know, trying both.
@@theroguearceus2869 while i do agree they should help both i feel like the ban should stay in place until shes actually better
i feel u man
10:30 okay, Rslash, you gotta understand something. This woman is not just being an overly affectionate aunt. She is literally claiming this woman's daughter as her own, not just on Facebook but even in her own home with that framed picture. This is very unstable behavior and, for the safety of her family, I believe that OP made the right choice. This is literally the behavior that people exhibit before kidnapping a child. OPs sister needs psychiatric help, but allowing her to be around the baby is only going to further her delusion that the child is actually hers, to the point where the sister may actually believe one day that the child is hers
Dude.. are you seriously telling OP that she overreacted by removing her daughter from her sister? No way! The kind of behaviour the sister was displaying is extremely alarming and OP did exactly what she should have done!
I agree
Right? I don’t see what else she should have done. Just let her sister keep claiming her daughter? It’s not her daughter, it’s op’s!
If the sister broke up with her boyfriend this long ago, then she wouldn’t be giving a cry for help. She’s claiming to be someone she’s not, she’s claiming to be a mother of a child that isn’t hers. I fully agree with this comment, op did exactly the right thing.
Exactly what I was thinking. Tell me if I'm overreacting when saying this, but when someone goes as far as to claim a child that's not theirs and live in a delusion, sounds like a future abduction waiting to happen. And OP is the asshole for putting a stop to that in the early stages?? I don't even have kids and I see the danger
Exactly!
I agree with rSlash. Well, kind of. The kid needed to be removed from op’s sister, but as a sibling op needs to make sure that their sister gets the help she needs
Any time someone tries to claim your kid as their own, cut ties and get a restraining order because you don't know if they'll go total creep show and try to steal them.
Agreed. That was the first thing I thought. That sister is one step away from kidnapping the girl.
@@3xavior17 Correct and what I think should be done is a good while of therapy at LEAST 6 months. Then give her a good year and a half to get her shaz together because by that time the daughter WILL recognize that OP is her mother. The daughter may be 2 and a half or something around there so then what you do is you monitor her visits with her and for a good while. What will be even more helpful is if you let her stay for 2-3 visits then you monitor the next one, such as video recording or being there. I would put a audio recorder on the child and make SURE this auntie isn't still insane.
@@scotthill6632 i definitely agree with this but i feel like the restraining order will ruin her life. like if she ever trys to get a job after the restraining order the person hiring will probably find out if they ever do a background check.
@@mrnubbones8626 but what about the kid being kidnapped
@@scotthill6632 thats why the ban should be kept in place, if she follows the ban then the restraining order is unnecessary, other wise yeah i guess the restraining order is gonna have to be set, but at least there was more of a reason. The sister obviously needs help and should be the #2 concern right next to keeping the daughter safe. If she follows the ban then she is less of a threat meaning that drastic actions aren’t needed.
Rslash, the sister did have red flags, red flags of her trying to kidnap kaiya. she was 5/5 for that.
Cutting off someone's hair without their consent is assault.
OP needs to get Sarah some extensions or a wig if he can afford it. And they should both cut that b- out of their lives forever. It’s long overdue. She’s toxic AF.
I was so mad about the haircut I didn’t wait to hear about the pixie cut. I can’t pull one off, but that’s great she can. OP is a great dad, and the “mom” gets a 10/5 butthole score. Boo hoo that you’re lonely, you manipulative narcissist. Or is she a sociopath? ¿Porque no los dos?
@@labachaterairlandesaI'm a cis guy and I have long hair.
If anyone decided to cut it off, I'd be tempted to cut off their air supply.
I'd probably settle for a lawsuit though
The fact that the sister was obsessed with her niece is bad enough. Having a photo of her and the niece marked “mother and daughter” is a clear sign of crazy. Very bad take, Rslash.
Not to mention the risk of her daughter being abducted.
@@harvestkitty Facts. The shit the sister did was borderline phsycotic
@@HerrNossie oh please. She was insulted for pretending the kid is hers and the framed photo was a major red flag. The child is young so it's possible to kidnap the child to another state. It was dangerous to allow her near the child further
@@HerrNossie really dude are you joking. She is gonna take the kid and move to a different country man this isn't okay. Honestly I would have a hard time ever letting her see the kid again. I also would have taken the mother and daughter frame and smashed it and left.
@@HerrNossie Listen I get where your coming from but the sister completely DESTROYED any chance of having a fruitful relationship with the niece. There will always be distrust in this relationship and I put this completely up to the discretion of the mother because this simply creeps me out.
Rslash, what the hell? OP did the RIGHT thing by banning her sister. "Extreme" is absolutely NOT the word to use when it comes to that situation. Come on, are you serious?
I would go as far as to say this was an under reaction! OP should get a restraining order and report her as a potential kidnapper.
He's have that kind of high horse.
Calm down I agree with you but people do make mistakes and today R/slash made a mistake I would just let it go
@@StaryEyed I agree to a point, but if you're going to award score's for buttholiness, then the use of common sense (as situations such as this has been in media constantly for as long as I can remember) is definitely required, and common sense says the sister did not overreact because HER sister is sick and needs help.
@@s4dg I'd say you're overreacting. Owning a frame with "mother and daughter" inscriptions isn't a crime. Calling another kid yours in Facebook group isn't a crime. The visits were consentual and agreed upon.
While her behavior is seriously concerning restraint would be way to far. Since there was no crime committed there's no reason for a restraining order to put in place . Op itself did the exact right thing to cut her sister off from her daughter. What the sister needs is professional help and someone should offer that to her before ostracising her completely that wouldn't further her mental health either.
Wait a sec r/slash... so a family member can just pretend to be the mother of your child and you would be ok with that. Because that's what it sounds like. "Yeah you tried to pretend my kid was yours so here's a slap on the wrist." 3 days later "oh no family member kidnapped my kid why didn't I see this coming"
What's going on with that title, man? The OP didn't mock his daughter at all, and it's a bit strange how you've put 'daughter' in quotes. The OP is defending his daughter. This title seems like a lazy grab for views.
he was talking about the mom, not OP but I don't think daughter should have been in quotes either
The title is clickbait. It's written as if the transphobic mother went on r/AITA. 'Daughter' in quotes makes sense from that perspective, since the mother still treats her daughter as male.
Interestingly, at the start of the video, rSlash summarizes the story from the daughter's point of view, making things even more confusing when the actual story starts and it's from the father's perspective.
@@SovietReunionYT can agree on that
Also the thumbnail saying son..
clickbaiting…he does that A LOT to get attention
I’ve personally seen a mother lose her child to a family member in this way. And police disregard it when they walk into the kidnappers home and see pictures everywhere of the child, and in some cases the potential kidnapper could be preparing a nursery room with a new name and birth certificate. You can very much lose a child that way no matter how close you are to someone it’s a risk. Mothers get called crazy for freaking out when they see the red flags THAT WE GET WARNED ABOUT. There are places trying to get that kind of “Digital kidnapping” to be considered illegal, at the very least as “Intent to Kidnap” so yeah Rslash I have to seriously disagree. As a parent myself who’s had someone claim to be family to get close to my child. This is a very serious situation. Get the family to help the aunt and get her mental care. But never leave that child unattended in her presence. And don’t allow child to be in the same place as the aunt of the parents are away.( relative or babysitter situation) you did the right thing Momma. Props to the dad for sticking by her!
It's amazing how even in this day and age it can be difficult to prove whose kid is whose. You hear all the time about police challenging parents and they scramble to prove they are not kidnappers. And of course the only kind of evidence they can provide short of a dna test is the kind of evidence the sister was creating.
People have been stealing babies and pretending they are theirs for as long as people and babies have existed. It's not a new thing and it's not crazy to worry it might happen.
I see these stories and they are extremely hard to listen to. I can't hold back my anger for these people and as possibly a future father I would be EXTREMELY mad. Their are multiple paternity tests that can done and in some cases these worst nightmares come true and they don't get their children back. I assume that the DNA tests are about 99.99% accurate and I would be extremely pissed on the fiances and mothers behalf. I think OP needs to get the sister into therapy and give her a LOT of time away from the kid. The problem is when that the sister gets therapy for even a few months and she sees that baby everything can go away and she may see it as her child. It is so scary for the mother and father to have to even worry about that. Give her at LEAST a year away from the child and then what they do is let her see the kid on scheduled and monitored visits.
did that mom get her kid back??
Is DNA testing before anything happens helpful to prevent this? Like getting the mom and/or dad child tests to prove maternity/paternity? Asking just in case I come across a family like this
@@sarahweekes4829 it took a while but eventually yes. After some years of back and forth with court
So the Aunt pretending to be the child’s mom and calling her a different name is only “kinda” a red flag?? What?
Nope R/ she has a first responsibility to her daughter, banning her sister was correct what if the sister attempted to kidnap "her daughter"? OPs daughter is a minor and thus needs protection and help first. Following that then the sister should be given or helped to find proper psychiatric help
About the sister who tried pretending her niece was her daughter, I’ve seen this. I was actually in this type of situation when I was a kid. My grandmother tried doing this to me, probably because I looked like my mom when she was a baby. And when my mom saw those red flags, she stopped letting my grandmother from coming over. There was also other reasons, but I absolutely despise her because of that and more. My point is that, no matter how close they are to you, when you see those signs or get that gut feeling that something is wrong, trust it. So I personally believe that op in that situation did the right thing.
Wow, I don’t think I’ve ever disagreed with you before. But you are soooo wrong about the daughter story. People who can’t have kids get desperate, that’s why babies get stolen from hospitals, that’s why when I had my daughter three months ago they had a locked ankle bracelet on her and all of the other babies in the hospital, and she had to be checked in and checked out, signed in and signed out by every nurse who took her/ us anywhere. People who can’t have babies get desperate.
It’s one thing to want to spend time with her niece because she can’t have a baby of her own- but to start calling her her baby, To post about her niece calling her her daughter in Facebook groups, and calling her by a different name and putting a framed photo saying mother and daughter- I don’t think you understand how messed up, possibly dangerous, and so hurtful this is to a mother. I guess I have more understanding being a mother myself, and if you have a kid one day I am sure you will look back on this post and be like- oh shit, I get it now. But I think even people who aren’t parents can still look at this and see she’s right reacting how she did.
You said she has a responsibility to make sure her sister gets help??? She has no responsibility to make sure her grown 34 year old older sister gets help ! The only responsibility she has is to her daughter and to keep her safe and she’s absolutely doing the right thing, and maybe she can allow her to see her- supervised, only if she starts to improve her behavior and if she gets help.
I mean I completely agree with you and I'm not a mom. I'm a 16-year-old girl. I have two cats and two dogs and I still think she has every right and in fact, even a responsibility to keep her baby away from her physco sister. Her sister needs help but it is not OP's responsibility to help her sister. It is her responsibility to keep her baby safe.
I'm 15, trust me, you don't need to be a parent to have common sense.
What's the timestamp for this story? Did he take it out or something???
@@caflorero 8:27
Yeah, I'm 17 and I get it! And I never thought I'd disagree with Rslash either, mostly since he actually says things right. But not this time, o guess he just doesn't understand? Idk
A sister with "a really hard time" could also try to kidnap her niece and pass her off as a daughter. Don't blame OP. Auntie would need to get serious help before she ever sees Kaia again.
I'm so glad to see everyone is in agreement over this story. I love my sister, but if I felt she posed a danger to my child. I'd put my child first. The OP is a hundred percent right.
I am so glad for DNA tests it would be simple, get a dna test and what do you know SHE IS THE MOTHER. Then auntie is charged with kidnapping. Also get the parents in on this and get some counseling jesus
@@scotthill6632 If auntie didn't run away.
@@lisakaz35 Yeah
Cutting someone's hair like that counts as assault btw, and people have been charged in court for it before too
It’s completely degrading for girls who get their femininity vibes from their hair to cut their hair, that mom deserves a shaved head, oh boo hooo it will grow back
Not if it's a slimy Cuntboy.
If I was OP and my family member/babysitter was claiming my child as their own I would definitely cut all ties immediately!! That is a kidnapping risk waiting to happen and hopefully the separation will help the sister realize the bond she was making with her niece is not okay. I’m all for her getting help but in no way should she ever be alone with the child ever again! She could groom her later in life to say her parents are abusive so she could try to get custody and all kinds of crazy! Please keep protecting your child
I'm sorry rslash but what the fuck, she literally pretended it was her child and was probably going to do it forever
Thank you! She is like a virtual kidnapper. I would have done the same thing also lock down social media stuff. This stuff can be scary.
I'm not sorry, rslash what the actual fuck?!
This is a serious warning sign of kidnapping and needs to be addressed immediately
I agree.rslash is an ass
i watched a doctor phil episodeand it was exactly like this so i think this person is lying or they are the same person and yeah so 5 out of 5 buttholes for the crazy aunt
cutting off the hair of the trans daughter is physical assault.
emotional abuse is still violence even if she said that "its fine bcus at least shes not in physical danger". but that changed when the mom cut the hair short
HE not she!
@@MichaelM28 uhhh, it's she, Mtf transgender is she, respect people's pronouns plz
@@BattlerOfEarth there’s a bunch of people in the comments just trying to troll to get attention, just ignore them
@@thetableoflegend9814 sure thing, I shall ✨Ignore the ignorant people who want to hate on others life choices that don't effect them whatsoever✨ thanks for the advice
@@MichaelM28
I’d prefer you not misgender someone, I happen to be MTF myself, tread *lightly*
Sarah's dad is a fucking KING. Sarah I am so glad you have a wonderful parent. Its a great foundation for a healthy life.
The vegan menu at that wedding sounds fun, if I were going, I’d see it as an opportunity to try new foods; only thing I worry about is make sure people have enough of a starch to balance the alcohol intake
i wouldnt ever it that disgusting garbage
@@Fiery_Latina_Goatchan_GF_681 it’s kinda funny that all your recent comments are on RSlash videos insulting them. Why bother watching them still if you say you’ll “pass” 😂 insecure, much? I’ve seen elementary school kids with better trolling. Step up your game, dude. It’s sad.
I have a nut allergy, so a lot of vegan food is off limits for me. I still wouldn’t expect an entire reception dinner to be catered to my wants/needs. I’d eat something ahead of time and have whatever was nut free. You should be allowed to have whatever you want at your wedding, and everyone else can deal.
OP’s sister is like one year away from killing her and her fiancé, taking the baby and being the focus of a true crime podcast with a snappy, twangy theme song.
Okay now you're over reacting
@@shamrock141 No, no she's not. I PERSONALLY know a family where the brother killed his sister and her husband, and it was over family matters. No it wasn't a kid, but it was over something stupid, like family property. Just happened this year.
This kinda stuff does happen, and it's not all that uncommon. Kids go missing all the time and it's not unreasonable to think that OP's sister might go to great lengths to get "her" daughter. Calling her niece her daughter on facebook is her lying to others, but more importantly her lying to herself. The very fact that she feels a sense of entitlement just to be around her niece shows that she is desperate to, herself, become a mother. Desperate people do desperate acts.
@@shamrock141 IDK, that could happen, and it's certainly something I'd be worried about.
@@UsagiArwen the thing is, it is uncommon, very uncommon and I would rather OP open up a line of dialogue and try to talk with her sister, try to find out why she did what she did, instead of just cutting her off completely as a first step. There could be a way to resolve this
@@kingpyrrhusofepirus6686 granted that worry is perfectly just and reasonable but shouldn't there atleast be an attempt to mend bridges, especially given our lack of knowledge in this situation. It doesn't sound like OP and her sister had bad blood before this story and it was established that OP's sister went through a messy breakup and is single and alone, perhaps something is going on with OP's sister that we're unaware of
Ex: Im gonna make my daughter hate me
Sarah: Im leaving!
Ex: *suprised pikachu face*
Actually, it's more like
Ex: I'm going to make my *son* hate me
Sarah: I'm leaving to my dad's where he loves and accepts his *daughter*
Ex: *Shocked pikachu face*
@@AstroDomo4 Nice
Her name is probably Karen. X'D
"Wait... You can't do that, I'm family!"
y e a h
I’ve been trying to grow my hair for years and it’s still no where near the length I want it so when I heard that the mom cut Sarah’s hair I felt her pain
As someone who's dealt with transphobia growing up, the mom in the one story is a monster and she deserves to "feel so low."
Detransition.
@@harkaway9006 Nope, I refuse 😊
@@jellysquid8077 Then the government is gonna make you. I detransitioned and frankly, it was the best choice I ever made.
@@jellysquid8077 I'm genuinely warning you, someone's going to cave your skull in if you don't.
@@harkaway9006 Oh, good for you, kiddo! 😊
Honestly, I disagree with you in the third story. She was being incredibly creepy and the behaviour was dangerous. An auntie has no legal need to see her and I think op made the exact right call. The aunt can unattached from the child and maybe the bond can be rebuilt but for time being op did exactly the right thing imo. The sister is dangerous to the child.
She needs therapy, not the niece.
third lol but I agree
That's not the first story
The first story is with the unsympathetic son
@@LucyAdroit yeah I know now it was just a mistake
Yeah r/slash judgement is very clouded when it comes to "family" like I love his videos but as someone who grew up in foster care because family WASNT the perfect amazing give all. It's just offensive to hear someone bend head over heels for toxic people just because their related
Not gonna lie, seeing all the comments like "Rslash, bro, you're wrong" is interesting-?
On that note, OP isn't the a-hole at all; she's protecting her infant baby from her crazy aunt- OP has no obligation to get her sister the help she needs because right now her baby is her priority. Her ADULT sister has to know that 1. Trying to show your niece off as your own kid has consequences, and 2. Stop it, get some help-
I agree, it is really interesting
I do think some people are overreacting with their words- like it’s possible rslash as a man who has never had a child and possibly never ever seen anything like this might not know that it’s a classic kidnapping situation?
@@thetableoflegend9814 that's what I'm thinking too- from the way the comments sound, it's like he's getting 'cancelled', it's pretty baffling-
@@Alycornz I don’t think anyone’s gonna unsubscribe because of it, but I agree, the reactions in the comments are on par to like if he said a slur or something
Yeah he's just a human. And sure we make mistakes.
One part of the Rslash that I think also wrong other than this case is where "anyone hit their bully back are same like the bully."
@@ReigoVassal I think he’s changed his perspective on this because I know I’ve seen other episodes where OP gets revenge on bullies and he’s been supportive.
But yeah the original instance of that is not great
For the post about the sister pretending to be a mother, i disagree. The sister is being incredibly disturbing. She even has a framed picture of the kid- she isn't just trying to get online attention through motherhood. She's genuinely caught up in some delusion, and she constantly harasses the real mother now that she can't see the child. Sure, it might be a cry for help, but the mother is in no way required to let her around her child. She crossed several lines, and shouldn't be allowed anywhere near the kid until she gets help.
The story at 4:03 was horrible. Nobody should ever have to go through something like that. I’m glad she was able to get away from her mother though.
*his mother
@@klaudrequester8078her mother*
Blaming other people for your “potential” suicide because you didn’t get what you wanted is manipulative and gross.
Also, anyone who tried to claim my daughter was theirs, family or not, would be immediately banned from seeing her ever again. The sister is a kidnapping risk, she could potentially groom the baby to eventually leave with her and they could completely disappear.
Nope. Mom didn’t overreact, at all.
I agree. It is a a kidnapping hazard and banning the sister from seeing the baby was a good call.
Definitely agree. That's definitely psychopathic or sociopathic behavior and allowing that to continue would be the endangerment of a child, especially with all the red flags. No way in hell would I take the chance of that happening to my kid.
I agree with you. Op did the right thing. I think the sister needs to talk to a therapist/get personal help.
Yep. My brother in law finally beat the everliving hell out of his cousin because she kept trying this. She tried the "YOU NEVER HIT A WOMAN" bullshit but she basically broke and entered into his house and he walked in on her trying to take his baby out the window, and he finally lost it. It was ruled self defense, she's not to approach the family again, fortunately my current country isn't as retarded about these kind of things as the USA is.
Pretty sure the 'you don't wanna be to blame for me committing suicide do you?' is the oldest tactic to make an abuse victim not leave
Obviously rSlash doesn't have kids. Telling that OP that she is going overboard trying to protect her child from an obvious psycho is beyond careless. Check yourself man.
I agree with keeping her Daughter away from her sister for now but I also agree that she should try and get help for her sister as she is having a complete mental breakdown.
Edit. Had a few people telling me the sister should just help herself. To clarify I was not saying she HAS TO or HAS A RESPONSIBILITY to help her sister in anyway. I am only giving my opinion based on how much she seems to care about her sister. It doesn't make me right it's just my opinion.
Came here to say this. I'd cut off people for a lot less than what that nut job did. Just the act of posting the baby's picture without permission would piss my wife off.
I'm not in a relationship and I even know that his statement was retarded.
It is called an identity theft. The mother is not only justified in banning her sister from seeing the child, she can even call for a restraining order. That woman needs to get a reality check, and fast. And also, if she wants children so badly, why not adopt one?
Exactly. I don't have kids and even I know the next step of that crazy sister is stealing the kid and disappearing.
The father's post to his ex wife really reminds me of Todd's "It's you" speech to Bojack.
On the first story, a punishment for being rude, and literally kicking your child out of your house for two weeks are two very, very different things.
Kicking a minor out of their parents house is about as drastic of an option as exists.
This is what doesn't sit right with me. Like, the parents are entirely responsible for the care and well being for their child. Sure they could push that onto someone else, but that just seems like bad parenting, especially when the child is so rude and undisciplined
My point is that your spouse is supposed to be the closest person to you in the world, but the parents are legally and personally responsible for the wellbeing and behavior of the child.
Plus, it is clear that the child is judgemental and stubborn. Thus, pushing him away at his age will only tell him that they don't care about him. Therefore, he will hate them too.
@@commander8625 I agree and also op was nice and comforting to his wife, he only refused to kick his child out for 2 weeks which is a huge thing to do
Summer camps last longer than 2 weeks, lol. She wasnt even kicking him out, lol, she was asking for him to visit FAMILY for a few weeks. Though, I would be putting that little shit in therapy or military school, for MUCH LONGER than a few measly weeks.
No, just no, rSlash. If I had a sister and she was telling people on facebook she was MY kid's mother, she'd be out too. This is psychotic behavior that in no way should be tolerated. AT ALL. Hell, I'd even consider LEGAL action to get that shit shut down NOW. And I would make sure everyone on her facebook KNEW that kid was NOT hers. There are NO boundaries when it comes to protecting your child.
Wife: my parents died :(
OP: oh no. Anyway...
true
Captain! Divorce: dead ahead!
She should take him to a friend's town in eastern europe
I was the same lol
okay so? people die daily is not something to make a big fuss about they had max 5 years left id say my great aunt died and within the first 2 days it was over for me there dead just let it go
I think there was something left out in the first story. Noone just stops having a good relationship with their parents overnight. I love my grandmother but I just don't have a big emotional connection to her or most of my family, including my parents. He didn't act very nice but if the parents failed to get a relationship going with their son, I don't know how much of a **** he actually is. There are clearly details missing.
And of course the mom did the right thing with the aunt. My father wanted me to think my stepmom was my mom too, so I told people for A YEAR that I had two moms. It's sick and wrong (not talking about homosexual couples) to do what the aunt did and just because she's sad is not an excuse to not bear the consequences of one's actions.
And if they were to pass away, would you deliberately dismiss their feelings, treat them like a burden in their grief and tell them to “just get over it already?”
Assuming you wouldn’t, that is the difference that needs to be addressed. There’s only so much context you can use to excuse being insensitive and obnoxious towards the death of one’s parents. A lack of a relationship is NOT a reason to behave the way this 15 year old boy did. Simply no.
As a trans man? The satisfaction I feel at OP's call out post for their ex was just... Sublime. Thank you OP for being so supportive of your daughter.
*son
@@joshelliott4451 Well, not really 'son' at this point.
@@joshelliott4451 ok snowflake. why you so pressed over trans ppl existing? so over sensitive
@@spydersoup8447 It's son. The daughter, and everyone like her is delusional. You are what you're born as.
So much estrogen in this video
Couldn't be more wrong about the psychotic sister. Sounds like she is one episode away from trying to kidnap that poor child.
First time I ever heard rslash say to ignore a red flag
I wouldn't be at all surprised if Sarah's mom is only depressed because Sarah is no longer around for her to torment.
Rslash, banning a person from seeing someone they're virtually kidnapping is WAY less harsh than calling the cops when it's literally illegal to do that. 😡😡😡
Cuting someones hair is regarded as assult in sweeden.
I'm pretty sure it is in the USA also
Barbers be like
SCARED
@@matthewk2780 Forcibly or against the other person's will, dude.
The "mother"'s behavior qualifies as assault (actually it would be assault and battery here in MI), a barber wouldn't unless they pulled the same bullshit stunt.
@@BigusGeekus woosh
@@BigusGeekus I need to get this completely straight so I know in the future. When I went in for a half inch trim on my 10 inch long hair and the barber pulled it into a ponytail and then cut it off at the nape of the neck, I could have filed for assault? (I had my eyes closed because I have issues being touched, and I thought he was like, massaging my scalp which is why I had no idea what he was planning until SNIP)
Bruh imagine calling someone else’s baby yours and thinking your the mother
It reminds me of a creepypasta I read. There's this strange woman that's obsessed with a stranger's baby.i won't spoil it in case you haven't read it
@@Twinklethefox9022 do you have a link for it or is it on you tube
Theres an episode of doctor phil with the exact same situation
I can't because I'm sane. She needs serious help.
@@Twinklethefox9022 it’s called a mother’s obsession! it’s actually one of my faves lol
I'm crying listening to Sarah's story
Oh my god
I'm so sorry that she had to go through that and I wish I could hug her
You mean "he"
He's a man.
@@crocsarethepurestformofwea3122 what benefit do you get from this comment?
@@crocsarethepurestformofwea3122 - May I ask your gender so that I can misgender you for no good reason other than pettiness?
@@crocsarethepurestformofwea3122 don't be a transphobic douche
@@samvoss6697 Not transphobic. Just don't care for the glorification of mental illness. Learn what that word means before you throw it around, sweetheart.
for the first story, i feel like we're not getting enough of the story. that kind of reaction from the son seems like something happened between the son and the grandparents... i could be wrong but something is OFF there.
My thoughts exactly.
Ya why is he so insensitive? I’m 16 and never acted like this when my grandmother passed away
@@nationalinstituteofcheese3012 My thoughts is that the grandparents were abusive or controlling or something. It would make sense
rslash, no. I disagree with that sister calling the niece her own daughter comment.
Did you know that babysitters and siblings without children are more likely to abduct young children? furthermore did you know that the highest age demographic for abduction is infancy - 3 years old? on top of that women without children are the most likely abductors.
NO reaction is too harsh when it comes to protecting your children and listening to red flags with the people who you trust to care for them. You absolutely cannot judge the mum on this one and there was no overreaction.
Honestly at least your being nice and correcting him but some people are being flat out rude to r/slash. He doesn't have a kid so he cant possibly feel how the parents feel.
@@the_taxi_guy2086 rslash has a lot of dumb takes and is a bit too confident. He needs to be told hes wrong and not coddled
Sarah's dad is an absolute king. We need more people like him in the world.
I agree. One of the worst things that a parent can do to their transgender child is not respecting their identity. That mother sounds like a total pile of horseshit and people like her should not be parents at all.
Absolutely.
Yeah, i wish my family was like that
@@TRRAAAAAAAAA111 I feel you ;-;
Agreed
HELL NO BRO, they took the correct course of action when it comes to dealing with a creepy, obsessed aunt
No way , what OP did was assess the situation and realized it was too dangerous for her daughter. Even claiming someone's kid as your own is incredibly creepy, and I can only imagine the excuses the sister is posting on that group as to why she can no longer post pictures of 'her' child (I sure hope OP blocked her from FB and all social media as well to prevent any photo stealing and stalking)
Her sister can get help and maybe see her niece AFTER
ugh the 'responsibility to your sister' line really irked me, because it has reminded me of how my family forgives my physically abusive brother every. time. because "well, he's our son!" yeah, he's your son who gave you a concussion. what a great son(!)
Don’t agree regarding the sister story. To me, that seems like a major red flag and the child shouldn’t be anywhere close to the sister until she gets the help that she needs
Regarding the sister pretending to be the daughters mum story: I absolutely disagree with you rSlash. The sister in that story felt like she was one step away from running away with the daughter and claiming that it's actually her daughter. At which point it would be too late and the mother and father might never see their child again. Mother did the right thing in confronting the sister and making sure that 1. the sister knew what she was doing was wrong, and 2. protecting her daughter by removing the sisters access to the daughter. ONLY once the sister has been to therapy and sorted out her issues should the sister even be considered to be allowed anywhere near the daughter again
Yeah coming to this real late, and maybe it's already been said, but the kid being unconcerned with his grandparents' death kind of jumps out to me as potential abuse. Like... If he started pulling away from the parents and the grandparents both at 13, there's probably more of a reason than just "teenage boy".
That’s such a bad take. Why would you say it’s overreacting for banning her sister from seeing her daughter? Something suspicious was going on there.
I disagree with your judgement, the women who pretended it‘s her daughter is nuts and a kidnapping risk!
The first story, OK so you can't force a person to feel grief and loss when they don't - so if the son doesn't feel much personally about the loss of the grandparents, then that's something he has the right to feel. That said, anyone with any shred of humanity should be able to understand and sympathise with another person's grief - and that goes 100 times more for your own mother.
By acting the way he is, your son is showing sociopathic tendencies...
Eh, I'd say its more psychopathic, as most sociopaths can feel empathy for people they're really close with, such as their mother. Psychopaths are completely incapable of empathy.
Make that kid play the walking dead telltale, see if He likes if his close ones dies in front of him
@@wilsonweiseng6485
Bruh, if he doesn’t AT THE VERY FUCKING LEAST feel bad at the end of that game, then he probably isn’t even human lmao
Better solution...send the boy to stay with the grandparents. 🥴
That’s not really true at all. The fact is that he wasn’t close to them at all so he can’t really understand what it is to feel loss. He can’t sympathize or understand because it hasn’t happened and it’s stupid to think or expect him to. It’s not sociopathic
anyone who reacts with "if i can't get my way i will talk trash about you" should be cut off. there is only a thin line between "i will be pissy and talk shit" to "i will lie about you and have no issue ruining your life"
The meat uncle is probably one of those man children, that refuses to eat his vegetables and has his wife call them, because it's a womans job to cater to him.
I'm not sure about that because well it was never stated the uncle actually brought it up so it might have just been the aunt trying to do it without the uncle knowing
The mother with the Trans child , Deserves everything thing she got.. So glad the dad is at least trying to make it better for his daughter.
Ikr
@Devil's Studio's thanks 😊
I had once met the youtube user with the longest username ever
*son
@Jordan Salley :)
The wedding story, dude I've gone to weddings where the only thing I could eat was bread. I sat through it, smiled and kept my mouth shut because #1: it wasn't my wedding. #2: it's one day and only a few hours. #3: it's for someone I cared for and it's their day and they have the right to have what they want. Good grief.
That's honestly all I kept thinking: it's OPs wedding! If the food doesn't suit them, they're free to have a meal at home before or after. WTF? This is so unbelievably rude, family or not.
I agree that its not worth making an issue out of whatsoever. However if im being honest, ive got vegan friends, and whenever they come over for a party or bbq i go out of my way to provide them a meal according to their preferences, wich i dont mind at all, but if they throw a party i would appreciate it if they could return the favor. Not something i would complain over though, food is food.
@@TheEvanovitch I see your point. Personally, I'd say that depends on whether someone is vegan for ethical or dietary reasons for me. Asking the former to buy and provide meat is just not the same, as an omnivore buying some extra vegetables. I do agree that workload and all that should be shared equally, of course.
With that said, this is why we handle that a little differently in my circle of friends. There's omnivores, vegans and people with severe allergies - and keeping it all in mind can be a challenge. So our rule of thumb is: the host provides what they will and lets the others know. Then, if someone has special requirements, they can bring their own extras. For example, my omnivore friends bring their own meat for BBQs in my garden and I bring my own vegan dishes (or general salads, dips and such for everyone to enjoy) to theirs. Works out great for us at least. :)
@@xNeariax like i said i would never make an issue out of it, but i accept anyone whos vegan and wants to attend my bbq, sure ill accept your diets or views and provide something for you to eat as well, i have my preferences (i love meat) but youre welcome too. I would appreciate those vegan friends doing the same for me, and i would think thats fair, its not like theyre gonna eat everything from the entire buffet themselves anyway at their wedding, why not throw in something others really would appreciate.
@@TheEvanovitch Again, depending on setting I would probably agree. Honestly, not at my own wedding though - especially since to an ethical vegan it is not the same thing you compare it to.
It's a dead animal. And to me, personally, that is gross. Like, really gross. I would still never tell someone to not eat/bring that in a casual setting, like a BBQ between friends because that's just my own view on it and as long as I don't have to touch it or anything, hey, what you eat is your deal. I'm legit fine with that.
But yes, I would reserve the right not to be grossed out by having parts of dead cow at my own (!) wedding in the same way as I wouldn't want a dead dog or roadkill there, because to an ethical vegan that's the same thing. And I hardly think that's asking too much of anyone. You wouldn't ask your other friends to let you bring roadkill to their wedding, would you?
And I mean, it's one evening anyway and it should be about the couple. How many events like that have you attended that weren't exactly your taste? Not the point of the evening. As you say yourself, just smile through it and eat what you want any other day.
I have been diagnosed with severe depression so I know how bad it is and I have to say That transphobic ex 100% deserves it
Ok, I normally don't comment on things, but I feel like I have to here... I'm an RN with a lot of time spent working in psychiatric settings, and the son is starting to display some pretty alarming behaviors in the first story...there isn't a lot of information available, but it sounds like the whole family would greatly benefit from some therapy, together and individually.
That's what I'm saying - yet others are trying to give him a free pass because he's a teenager!
Yeah, its pretty frightening behavior. The problem is with sociopaths if he is one, you can't grow a conscience, and therapy can't give you one..
@@Digitalfairy Very true! Teens can be moody, (I have two of them) but this kid is showing signs of being a sociopath.
@@Nekulturny Yes, unfortunately some things can't be fixed...Sociopaths and Psychopaths are very similar, neither have empathy or the ability to form the emotional bonds that keep relationships functioning in a healthy way. Sociopaths tend to avoid society and keep mostly to themselves, which is what it sounds like he's beginning to do, judging by the anti-social behaviors. Getting a good therapist early can help him to live a better life though and hopefully keep him from destructive tendencies.
I agree that something is seriously wrong with that kid I’d also look at drug use
unfair to send him away?
you're sending him to his aunt to not out to the street wtf
and his close friend was there too, no way that that'd be a punishment
When I saw the post, I thought they were punishing him by sending him to boarding school. But sending him to stay with his cousin, who he likes, for a couple of weeks? What would be wrong with that? The dad in that story's attitude is exactly why that kid is acting the way he is. "Our son comes first" would be why he feels so entitled to boss his mother around and treat her like shit. Hopefully the mother will realize she is in an abusive relationship and leave that toxic mess behind.
@@rifter0x0000 it’s normal for parents to put their child first. I’m sure pretty much every parent would. It’s not abusive of toxic. Yes it can lead to entitlement but that’s when you go beyond putting your child first. It’s a result of spoiling your child and over spending and giving them anything they want. Putting your child’s needs first is different to spoiling them.
@@Tocco28 But the person wasn't putting the child's needs first. They were putting his selfish *desires* first, which in this case was actually the opposite. The child needed to learn boundaries, empathy, and discipline. Instead he was being put in a position of dictating his desires over the needs of his family and his mother. That's what is toxic. It was bad for the family as a whole, and actually bad for the child.
What comes first, and what the child needs to learn comes first, is the family. And the needs of the family members (including those of the child) come before the selfish desires of any member including the child. "My child comes first" may sound good, but in this case it was just a childish platitude to excuse the abuse of the mother. It is indeed a toxic attitude. NO ONE's selfish desires should ever come first before someone's needs. No one's will to abuse others should ever come first, as happened here.
The child is actually missing out here because they will become a hated monster after this. No one is going to like him, and if he expects anyone else to put up with his abuse and selfishness he is in for a rude awakening. In any case, the husband *is* abusing the wife by placing the son in a position of authority over his mother and not only allowing and enabling his abuse but joining in it. He damned well knows there's nothing wrong with having the kid visit his aunt, but he is choosing to agree with the son in denying his wife any sympathy or time to grieve. He is a failure as a parent and as a husband, and is trying to create an abusive misogynist narcissist. The mother needs to get the hell out of there asap, because she is clearly not loved if her "family" is even capable of it.
and legit that kid sounds so detached that it doesn't seem like something that would bother him, if anything it'd be a punishment to the poor people having to care for him over there.
10:22 no no no she just wants the comments that say
congrats! i hope every thing goes well!
10:21
Banning the sister was the best thing to do. This very same situation happened to my sister and our step-grandmother. We are well into our 20s now and still feel the awful repercussions of my step-grandmothers obsession and favoritism. We. Hate. It! We wish our parents would have stopped it when they still had a chance.
Usually I always agree with RSlash's two cents but this time, omg so off base? That story about the aunt claiming to be the 'mother' come on, how can you not see the crazy red flags. I'm not even a mom, but freaked the f out. 100% correct decision to not let the aunt see the niece at least till she gets mental help. This can go so south.
As a trans female, this is like a more intense version of what my father did. It wasn't nearly as drastic, but he outed me to his entire catholic family. I feel for Sarah.
Well, congrats! I hope you had a good transition :)
I am so sorry for what your father did I support you
I'm ftm and I relate. My mother forces me to wear a dress or skirt whenever I go out in public with her. This is why I don't enjoy staying with her
@@imaunicorninhufflepuff112 thank you I really appreciate it
@@pointybuttcheek8310 man that sucks. I feel for ya, hope that changes soon!
Not sure if anyone said anything, but the OP in the first story posted an update:
Edit: I apologized to my wife and called my sister. My son is going there for the 2 weeks, leaving tomorrow.
Id appreciate if you all stop calling him such horrible names based on this one post. I recognize that this behavior clearly isnt as normal as I thought it was. I was really similar as a kid and just ended up getting over myself as an adult.
Im looking into some child physiologists for my son and some couples therapy for my wife and I. She hasnt forgiven me yet but no, she isnt divorcing me.
Thank you for your comments
Is this the Sarah story, if so, why are you calling her his “son”.
I can kinda sympathize with the kid. He didn't feel close to his grandparents, if by lack of time with them or perhaps they didn't treat him that well (had a grandma like that). He vocalized that, saying he didn't feel close to them but the mom kept preasuring him into her grieving prossess. I can see why they would get mad and passive agessive and then eventually outright hostile about it.
Good for the dad of the trans daughter. My dad was also the one who fought my mum to save my life when she wouldn't accept me. It's fine now almost a decade later, but if it weren't for my dad I eventually would have NOT failed my suicide attempts
With the story about the sister and the daughter, I have to disagree. She’s acting insane and does need help, but she’s also using a child to fuel what seems to be a growing delusion and it’s better to snip it in the butt before it grows even further. She’s basically forcing a second identity into a young child which can be incredibly dangerous. It should not be tolerated.
Unrelated point, but the expression is "nip it in the bud," a reference to a gardening practice, not "snip it in the butt."
Im actually trans myself (ftm) and i find that story incredible disgusting and iam glad that Sarah is in good care
Yeah, that mother is an absolutely awful and irredeemable person.
@@MichaelM28 ?? You and Justin Little need to get married, you're perfect for each other, again please stop posting hate, it's not good for anyone
NO! the sister is insane, OP did the right thing keeping her sister from her daughter
The wedding post: My spouse says "vegetables taste like sad".
That sister is crazy
She would have tried to kidnapp op's child eventually.
Female to male trans guy here. Family acceptance can literally save or end a life. Trans suicide rates are way higher if the people around them don’t accept them or use their new name and pronouns. It’s BASIC respect and it can save a life
But not everyone has to support you. It’s not required. People don’t support that.
@@gagereno656 people don't support a lot of things
@@gagereno656 there's a difference between not accepting and being actively harmful. Many people who claim that they don't accept trans people are actively harmful: using the wrong pronouns or name, for example. Gtfoh with that transphobia
"Family acceptance can literally save or end a life."
@@Fillyann11 correction: using the CORRECT pronouns or name
cutting a big chunk of hair from someone against their will is a continuous damage to someoney body and therefore counts as bodily harm over here and can be sued for!
I would totally check if that was a possibility for them too and would 100% sue the shit out of my mother. All of the psychological damage due to her emotionally abusing the child too.
OMG the father of the trans child you are a hero and an amazing dad shes very lucky woman to have you as a dad and keep up the pride
Agreed!💖
First story : I get it, the son wasn't close to the grand parents. They may as well be strangers to him. But his way of acting is horrible and shows he has some serious issues that needs fixing. Sending the son away wouldn't help with anything.
Second story : Whoever is siding against OP on that one, is incapable to see things objectively and only side with the woman because, "she's the mother" or some crap like that. They are hypocrites. Though he might have been better off adding a few of the things the mother did to their daughter, instead of just saying "YOU did this to yourself".
Third story : Your sister seriously has some mental issues... Honestly, I would've probably done the same as OP, but got her to see a therapist or something.
Fourth story : It's seriously just free food... Who cares if it's vegan or not. No one absolutely need meat. There's no culture that says you have to eat meat at every meal. Your uncle likely never tried vegan food and simply refuses it... Either that, or the Aunt is the one being a b*tch, acting like a Karen and putting the blame on the uncle.
Fifth story : Quite frankly... Nope, not the butthole here. Your siblings were just entitled brats who couldn't care for their own mother. You may have lied about selling the house, but it doesn't matter since they were refusing to pay rent. You could've had them evicted if you wanted to, which you can bet they likely wouldn't have even been searching for a new place to live at, or had anything packed up. You telling them you had sold the house basically gave them the kick in the ass they needed to hopefully get their lives together.
Sister: doing things that could lead to kidnapping the child
Op: parent protecting their child
RSlash: well it’s pretty obvious who here is the bad guy.
i totally agree i don’t know what he smoked before he read that post
Weed
Crack
DrOgS
Story One's Wife's solution to needing time away from her demon child was to send him on vacation! How could anyone have a problem other than being too *loose* on him!
Respectfully r/, I must adamantly disagree with your take on the lady pretending her sisters child is hers. She does need help but if it was me and my child in that situation, not only would I cut her completely off I would get a restraining order, cameras, locks, more cameras and of worst came to worst I would keep a gun with me. This child is in terrible danger, it could be kidnapped, murdered, and there was even a doctor Phil show about this situation and it got crazy. I love your content and I usually think you're a fair critic but you have a daughter now, and if it were you I garruntee you would not be nice about it at all.
What I learned today is never allow RSLASH around any kids I have. In NO way was OP in the wrong for protecting her daughter for a legitimately crazy sister. I'm not letting my baby be taken by a crazy who is going through a hard time.
Oh no, Rslash said something wrong. Look, everyone makes mistake, and so far, Rslash doesn’t make an opinion that people disagree with commonly. Chill tf out, one incorrect comment out of thousands of correct ones doesn’t make one a psychopath
@@tito7855 man Rslash has compared calling your partner ‘mayo momma’ as a funny pet name to calling someone the n-word. Rslash has had wrong opinions before, this isn’t just some one time thing.
@Isabella Dubois not wrong lmao
@@morgan5562 I dont consider those to be deal breakers. I dont think he’s saying “well if people can say mayo momma I should be able to say N word”. To me being uncomfortable with prejoratives, even those against a powerful group, could be about the politeness than anything. To me that’s a MINOR issue. Missing the point but not “ugh he’s horrible”. People can have disagreeable opinions but it not really..factor into everyday life.
@Maya Bond who said he's getting canceled? Lol
RSlash needs to have some kids and rethink that judgement on the aunt-one-step-from-kidnapping-an-infant story.
4:43 when its something you've been doing for 14 years it's not "going out of your way"
2:00 as old grandad freeman from boondocks says “ever try beatin him?”
About the second story:
I feel so sorry for Sarah. Living in an environment where the best she could say was she's in "no physical danger" is awful. And for her mother to use mental health as a way to bash her daughter and ex boils my blood. OP is a godsend to Sarah and I'm so glad she has someone accepting, loving and caring there for her and I hope that her female birth giver can find it in herself to admit she was wrong.
To anyone in the same situation as that story, stay strong. You're not wrong for who you are. Keep being gorgeous individuals and amazingly brave. You're seen, you're valid and you're loved
Have a good day everyone xx
What's even more troubling is that she complained about not having anyone home comforting her. But like your kid isn't your therapist or some well to throw all your negative emotions into. Maybe she really has some mental issues and is projecting them (and could learn from her mistakes if she got some help) but that is not on her daughter's shoulders. Sarah should definitely not have to take care of her mother's mental health if she can't do it herself.
@@kas8441 You're completely right! I didn't notice that at first but it makes me even more grateful for OP
@@kiiribat9968 im so sorry you went through that, i hope youre ok now
“Female birth-giver” is amazing
Also yes everything in your post is great, glad to see the transphobic asshole haven’t invaded the replies yet like they have on most of the other comments
i like rslash’s content but he been having some shit takes lately. like the third take, wtf? OP made the right move protecting that child
for real tho, it's to the point where i debate to just avoid this specific subreddit related videos which is a shame bc i like them but his takes often let me annoyed 😅
@@Defi_Jones haha yeah. Love his commentary on other stories, but my opinions about AITA seems to clash a lot lately with rSlash's.
I remember when he called the mom who's new husband got restationed to a different state an AH because she wanted to move there with him but she had kids. In the post she literally said she told her ex she would pay for all travel and keep visitation the same. Like you are allowed to find love after getting divorced even if you have kids and she was obviously willing to make anything work to have her kids visit because she was going to pay for everything. In what way would she ever be the AH.
@@tylerw5447 yep i totally get it. i still dont forget about him comparing a dude calling his gf "mayo momma" (something she did consent) to the n word
@@Defi_Jones that was annoyed me off, I really dislike how rSlash says how his wife is asian, it sounds like those racist people who say they not racist because their friend is poc
"Lost any chance for a baby"?! Wtf?! Lol, she's 34. I'm with the rest of the commenters, this is troubling and there's no reason to put a child at risk for the sake of the sisters feeling. She needs help and contact is enabling her problems
The last one reminds me of my step-dad.
He's 41 and still lives with his mother. To be fair my mum did kick him out but it was almost a year ago (around February or march). I've never got along with him. Especially after he said to my mum "I've been in their life for ten years and they still don't see me as a father!" when talking about me. I just proceeded to remind him that when i was 13 he brought me to our hotel balcony and mad me watch as he almost un-lifed himself. I could have mentioned the fact that he constantly discriminates gay people right in front of me knowing that I'm gay myself, or maybe the constant fat shaming i get from him. So many to choose from.
OP totally didn't over react. A situation like that can go from 0 to 100 real quick and cause irepairable damage to the kid.
Which one?
Dude the story about the sister is nuts, lady handled it perfectly imo. That kinda crap leads to child abduction or worse
me during all of the first story: "would it be wrong to punch a child?"
When I lost my grandparents, I showed no emotion, I shut it out. I then felt shit for a few weeks after and didn’t sleep . I’m not saying the kid was in any right to say the things he did, but I understand where grief can change people’s emotions differently.
Didnt thr dude say that hr didnt want anything from or anything to do with their grandparents, the son said he wasnt close to them enough o care right?