r/AmITheA**hole For Disowning My Young Daughter?
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- Äas pĆidĂĄn 22. 02. 2021
- r/AmITheA**hole In today's episode, OP is a father of a young, teenage girl who gets pregnant. OP is incredibly disappointed in her, and he tells her that he has lost all respect for her and that he refuses to ever speak to her again. He basically tells her to her face that he's disowning her. Then, he turns to the Internet to ask people if he's the butthole in this situation. Yeah, sure, because abandoning your own daughter in her time of need is real grade-a dad behavior, buddy.
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How entitled do you have to be to disown your pregnant daughter in her hour of need and then post on the Internet like, "Wow kids are such idiots, am I right? So anyway I'm sure you all agree that I'm NOT the butthole in this situation."
Hello rSlashâ€ïž
Hi rSlash.
I HAVE STILL NOT GOT MY COMPENSATION MY LAWYER IS FILING NOW. It is truly despicable that you upload late .
Very.
i haven't even finished the video but i already know ima get pissed
âI didnât come to talk about the pastâ is the signal of toxic behavior.
Guaranteed they'll all talk about OP refusing to let them use the yacht until the end of time. They'll be whining about that yacht on their deathbeds.
Exactly, plus those kinds of people usually never let go when YOU offend them even the slightest.
"I didn't come to talk about the past"
I didn't want to listen to someone who is the embodiment of "hate them till you need them" (in a serious tone ofc)
@@xLostInFirex *ACCURATE*
Best to cut all contact
So they acted like Thomas didnât exist during his final years alive, and now after heâs dead, suddenly they want to âhonor his memoryâ and use his yacht? Yeah, too little too late.
lmao, thats what i thought as well
They're like grave robber. But not really rob the grave.
They shouldâve been there but no
in my mind, using someone else's stuff who has died isn't "honoring their memory", it's "being an heir".
And the way they behaved, they'd get stricken out of any will.
They just like: oh hey Thomas is dead now let's wait a couple months then we ask to use his yacht after we didn't do shiz to support him.
61 year old dad: Considering the daughter burst into tears at the idea of the theorical sibling losing their father I think there is a lot more to the situation.
I personally think the daughter is allowed to feel very uncomfortable about the situation, the op did the right thing by protecting his pregnant wife but I can't help but understand her discomfort and frustration with her father's decisions
A daughter who is almost the same age as the wife:.... awkward as hell. And with an age gap that big between siblings, I would never expect the siblings close. All the daughter's arguments are at least pseudo valid (at least the baby will have it's mother live til they are grown, the dad though... good luck surviving til the kid is out of high school!) I think the father wasn't wrong protecting his wife, but expecting his daughter to be excited for them wasn't ever really going to happen. Both sides had a valid argument, and in the end I mostly feel bad for that baby who will probably never really remember their dad as anything other than a senior too old to do much with them.
You can be uncomfortable but donât disrespect him and his wife like that and expect him to want to still interact. You can have opinions but itâs better to keep them to yourself.
And I donât literally mean you (just in case it comes off that way)
I think the wrongest thing the dad did was marry someone that was about his daughterâs age. Thatâs it. No one would bat an eye if they both were 60, but that obviously wouldnât have been possible for the woman. I have a friend whoâs 22 now and has an 83 year old dad with a 50 year old mother, divorced, but heâs still close to them both. Like⊠Iâm sorry but this isnât unethical. I believe that parents with bare minimum wage that have a child is more unethical than just having a child at 60.
@@piratekit3941 Yeah I agree, I also didn't understand Rslash argument about being terminally ill and having a child? Like yeah you have the right but it doesn't really defend the ethics at all? I just don't get it.
I just love that they used, âWeâre still family so help us out.â Thomas was family too, so where were they when he needed their help and support while he was dying?
Thinking he didn't exist.
I'd have looked up yacht rentals for them. That's all the help they deserve.
OP is the opposite of an a-hole. He's a Saint.
@@thunderflare59 amen
Oml I love your pfp ( yes I am aware this is off topic, I just canât help myself when I see someone supporting TOH T^T)
Itâs funny how you can immediately tell his opinion by the way he voices the characters. Like in the second story, RSlash gives the brother a stupid surfer dude voice and you just know RSlash already hates him.
Though, those voices automaticly charges your opinion about the character in some way, so you will no longer objective judgement even before the happenings.
I do belive that we are not here to practise our moral judgements, so objectivity is good tradeoff for more enjoyable story.
Yeah also he says every time he reads it is his real reaction but he puts on the voices
ROFLOL you're so right.. I never thought of that until you.. Hehe
@@unicornsprinkles8964 I heard him say that a bit over a year ago but that's changed because he's said many times things like, I normally don't put stories like this on here but...
I think the reason he had to change to reading first is because when you go back and listen to his old ones, they CONSTANTLY got demonotized for certain words he would say because he just read them right out. Now he doesn't and also blurrs out certain words..
Yeah I picked up on that a couple vidoes ago
the story with the 60 year old:
as far as I understand, OPs daughter said that one reason that she was shocked was, because he wasnât even a really good father to them. so how is he going to imagine it now?
I understand sheâs angry then.
That and she brought up a lot of fair points, nta.
One point that Rslash missed- a woman who decides to artificially enseminate and raise the child as a single mother is fine, but there's a difference between being having no father and having a father for only a small amount of time. A child losing their parent after knowing them for so long could cause some real problems...
@@tastybacon255-baconboy5 thats also a really good point, i didnt think about that. It also raises the chance she might have to spend her youth carring for him rather than it be the other way around.
@@tastybacon255-baconboy5 what of people that die by accidents or obesity caused heart attacks at a young age?
Where the "could cause some real problems" for people that don't take care of their health?
I think it was more of a, "we were too active for you when you were 30, what are you going to do now that you're 60" thing.
At Girl Scout camp, I was taught the cardinal rule of pranking: you have to be able to undo what you did.
If you make a mess, YOU clean it up after. If you scare someone, make sure itâs not a phobia or something serious. Keep it safe, keep it fun for everyone, nobody gets hurt.
On top of that, you have to have lines you don't cross, or you just come across as a dick. Smashing someone in wedding cake= Dick. Jumping out from behind a couch for a quick jump scare when someone least expects it= not a dick. Saying someone has died= Fuck you get out.
This past Sunday, I pranked my wife. My friend gave me a tiny plastic spider, so I put it on the couch next to her. My wife is an arachnophobe, and jumped to the next seat as soon as she saw it, before flipping me off. I am still waiting for my receipt, which I will accept without complaints, because that's the way we prank each other.
Also, if the prankster is the only one laughing, it's not a prank. It's just mean.
@@straydog3799 if she is actually arachnophobic, not just put off by spiders, she should have left you. Diagnosed phobias are not the same as just getting startled by spiders. Don't use a medical term if it's not accurate.
@@MilwaukeeWoman phobias dont have to be diagnosed. ur wrong here
"Keeping his memory alive by talking about him"??????? As they actively try to avoid talking about him ??????
Right??!! Lmao. These stories got me on the edge.
The only one really keeping him alive is the one who actually took care of him. In my opinion a person only TRULY dies when they are FORGOTTEN. The ones who avoided him made it clear he was dead to THEM.
@@stargazertomura2708 Agree 100%. I have lost my beloved granddad almost 7 years ago and it feels like it happened yesterday sometimes. I remember saying the craziest things about him when he passed. For example I thought that he was alive and used an excuse of being hospitalized and dying for my mom (his daughter) to come and visit him. We were running low on money and after what my mom had seen hanging in his apartment, it made sense. He had pictures all over the room of me, my brother and my mother plus some little things he loved to do. Like making dried up plants by leaving them in books and so and so. I think it's clear that he missed us all so much and probably wanted to go back to his family despite us not being able to afford it. Still to this day I thank my mom for not seeing my granddad after he passed away in an accident quite young (around 69 maybe). At first I was angry only my mom went back to Ukraine and dad said it would be too expensive for both of us to go. But this left me with nothing to grasp onto. I haven't seen anything so it's almost like I don't know anything. I believe he's still alive somewhere simply because I never saw him/his grave since he passed. My mom had bought a piece of land where her mom was buried and later my granddad too. And yes. No justice ever happened. No compensation no nothing. Ukrainian police is very corrupt. And I guess not even my granddad's social status was even enough to corrupt them into the truth. He was part of the soviet secret services as an army man. We still own his uniform.
My dad on the other hand almost blamed her on this. He said prior to him leaving that it would have been a bad choice and he should just stay in Italy (here there's not as much corruption and things operate better). And she insisted he should go back to his country.
This almost makes me hate my origins. I hate to say it but according to multiple testimonies Ukraine is not a place you want to be found in a bad state. Nothing works, not even public transportation in the capital city. In hospitals people are left to die and corruption started to rise after they left soviet union and became a poor country.
So yes. He's not truly dead for me. I miss him as my friend/playmate but I'm now 20. I don't play with toys and if I need to entertain myself I know how to. Or I can just ask my mom to play cards with me. Or I just go on a walk or venture in my many hobbies. It's not the same. I think my mom will always be a step behind him since I grew up with her dad. She told me on multiple occasions how she thinks he loved me more than her. And since he came here to Italy to look after me and my dumbass brother, I grew up with him as my caretaker while mom and dad worked a normal nine to five job both. And I guess that made my mom happy that someone was there at home that loved me as much as them and was happy he loved her daughter so much. She wasn't acting like a stupid Karen wanting his love to herself. Also they had a rocky relationship. They would argue a lot on things he did. Like gritting drunk etc.
I didn't want to be too long nor emotional but sometimes when things hit it feels like a river about to flood everything. Words just come out of my mouth and I can't control them. I also feel safer on line cause I don't have to address people face to face.
Also to conclude with the story, I still feel guilty for the things I could have done better with him. Like giving him my ID photo he asked for, to stick on his notebook. Or kiss him on the cheek without complaining every time my mom asked for a kiss in his presence. Or to simply love him more. At first when he left it felt like a relief. Mom used him as a private guard for me: always picking me up from school and going everywhere with me. I felt like I could finally do whatever I wanted. But I quickly started crying I wanted him back and I missed him. When he came back for the holidays I cried until he said he wouldn't physically be able to go until I stopped crying cause it was hurting him. I now feel selfish I stayed home playing Mario Kart the day my family brought him to his plane to his then forever home in Ukraine. Then I see my mom's friend (about 46) cry because of this friend's granddad passing. I wish I was that lucky. I only have now a very sick granddad an all then rest are dead. My grandmom died of natural causes and my other one due to neglected diabetes (I think so, my mom refuses to talk about it. Even if she had a cold relationship with her parents she still loved them and refuses to talk.)
I swear I got so mad
But itâs hard to stay mad when in the middle of it I get a add
Kevin and his friends are 22. He's an adult, his aunt shouldn't treat him like a child
I guess that's why he still childish
The "prank" was in retaliation for not letting him attend the dinner with his buddies, his buddies. Why should there even be a question about the buddies attending a small intimate dinner of adults?
I swear that's exactly what I thought: he's 22, not 12! He should've damn well known better. He apparently didn't, fine, doesn't mean he doesn't have to live with the consequences of his actions as we all do.
All I can say for the 60 year old father is that being friends with and witnessing kids who were sad that their 70+ parents couldnât come to their activities, plays, concerts, etc. because of them being older sucked so much for them. I remember a peer in high school being so upset during graduation because her 80+ parents died before they could see her graduate and then have to go to college alone.
Exactly. Exactly this! What life is this child going to have when OP gets sick due to declining health and can't provide for his wife and child because he's got to pay for hospital fees and possibly even home care fees. OP wasn't even active in the lives of his two eldest children. He didn't play with them or anything. As somebody who had a stepfather who sounds an awful lot like OP, I carry a lot of hatred and resentment towards him because it didn't even seem like he wanted children at all. He was the same way towards his own children, too.
The "prank" reminds me of this court case where a guy's alleged buddies hired a couple of big scary guys to throw him in a trunk and terrorize him. The guy was so scared he had a minor heart attack. Needless to say he survived to sue.
I once babysat a kid that ended up having a mild medical emergency (a glass broke and the child got glass imbeded in her foot) I tried calling the parents. They didn't pick up after numerous attempts of reaching them. I called my mom who is a medical professional and she walked me through what to do.
When the parents got back they asked why I kept calling and I ruined their night with the constant calling. I told them there was an emergency and I was trying to reach them. They felt bad and apologized after that.
So, even if you do leave a child with an actual babysitter, make sure you can still be reached in the event something bad does happen.
Holy shit... How can you *not* leave an emergency number (that goes unused in like 90% of cases) with the babysitter... đ€Šââïž
@@MLWJ1993 right?! I asked for one and they said they didn't have one to give me and that they would have a phone on them. But what is the point of setting it up that way if you aren't going to use it? Just glad the kid wasn't hurt bad enough to warrant a 911 call.
At least they felt bad about it in the end. If they were entitled parents like we see here they would have blamed you for everything and try and hold your pay for medical expenses or something! My mother had a friend abandon her little baby with us! Pre-cellphone era she was going to a job interview and we didn't see her for 4 days! She left 1 days worth of food and dippers and disappeared! My mom tried everyone to find her but even the friends own mother and sister wouldn't take the child from us! After dippers ran up (we were pay check to paycheck) Mom had to use towels and this is when she called police and CPS. They took the child and when she did turn up it was to scream at my mom... Why the friend left for so long was that she was on a drug bender that is why we couldn't get a hold of her and her mom and sister were pissed at my mom for it but they didn't want to help before this!
We have a password for emergencies and also ring or text when we're on our way home along with roughly how long it'll take to get home just in case we have an accident etc
@@peanutbutter7357 that's a good idea
As someone who _actually had_ parents with a 30 year age gap, I understand both sides of the story. Frankly, I find no one the asshole in that situation.
I mean, I get why the daughter got emotional but she didn't give them a second to tell their side sooo...butthole
I agree with you!!
@@hamzasultan96 Except according to OP, whose telling things from their own biased perceptive, they literally sprung it on the daughter in the worst way possible and her initial reaction was just her saying she was shocked. And even as things devolved her concern was over the issues her unborn sibling was going to face. OP could have said they would be hiring help or something. The daughter was raising very valid questions and rather than trying to have a discussion OP let it get pushed into a fight. Understandable for the pregnant woman and the woman that was dealing with her father dating someone basically her age and now has an unexpected half sibling . Not as understandable from the person that had all the information and none of the disadvantages, aka OP.
@@hamzasultan96 except when she came back, to discuss this
@@thesnowtigress3325 Did you read? I know why she got emotional, but she didn't give them a second and started to predict years into the future... You heard RSlash's arguments so I won't have to repeat them, if those extreme cases are accepted then there's no way her reaction was justified here, aside from the bad timing, which is peanuts compared to the daughter's reaction.
I love how rSlash starts off about a story where the OP is an asshole, starts off with his normal voice and then slowly morphs into the voice of a male or female Karen.
whats a male karen?
apparently, ken
@@jiogcyihsugyiocjfdoivhphvw6821 Haha, I made that comment a year ago. There are different versions like "Darren", "Ken", "Kyle". I prefer Ken though.
The last story brings to mind my mom, who got pregnant at age 17 as well (not with me).
Even her verbally abusive mom reacted astronomically better than OP did. I don't know how mean she was about it or how she berated my mom, but I do know the most audacious thing she did was get mad because "you can't have the baby on January XX! That's MY birthday!" Which is utterly ridiculous, but I'd take it over getting disowned in a heartbeat.
As for my mom's dad and grandma, they had what I think is an APPROPRIATE reaction to your teenager getting pregnant. I don't know that many details, or how they reacted when they first found out, but apparently their attitude through my mom's pregnancy was "That's not good, but it's already happened so the important thing is to figure out what to do next. Getting angry and punishing you won't solve anything, because growing a baby gives you plenty of consequences to deal with already."
And they were right. Morning sickness and general fragility really suck. Labor is awful. Having the boy you loved ditch you and finding out he's a two-timer is the worst. Taking care of a baby before you are ready really sucks. Pushing out a child and then giving it up for adoption *(what my mom did)* is painful. But, OP, your reaction DOES NOT HAVE TO ADD TO HER PAIN. You are abandoning her when she needs you most, and you've said things I don't think you can ever take back.
I feel HORRIBLE for thomas, everyone just ignored him till death, and want to take HIS yacht for "her sisters wedding" they shouldnt have anything not even a penny of his, the family was horrible
Except the one who took care of him.
1 like =1 prayer for thomas
Ru I 98777u8 I u
For real.
Mfs started cutting onions in the break room when I had that story goin.
His parent was so sweet though, I feel terrible that their son was taken from them. I hope Thomas is resting easy
Total stranger leaves their kid and can't be contacted? Always call the police. You have no idea what's going on.
Yea my older cusin was being touched on by the babysitter when she was younger shes 23 now and still diesnt like people hugging or touching her
yeah, she might have gotten into an accident or something!
I will never understand people leaving their kids with a stranger đ
Mom found out that CPS is nothing to play with. That's a lesson worth paying for.
maybe next Op should call that friend to stay with the kid if the mom pulls that again
with the one about the 60-something year old man with a child, they definitely should have thought about what the child would feel being brought in to a family like that
my father and mother are 10 years apart, and rather old. With how that has affected me, I cant image a 30 year age gap. My father was already less involved in raising me due to his age, I feel terrible for the child to be.
You just have to scroll through comments to see that's not everyone's experience of very old fathers and some of them were very involved - it isn't always age that makes the old father distant.
I feel you; although my parents didn't have a big age gap, my dad died when I was young and my mum had awful arthritis, so was physically a lot older, and with no cousins/uncles/aunts around, I was always raised with the 'sit down, be quiet, have some crayons, our knees aren't what they used to be' philosophy. THAT messed me up enough, being kept from any physical activity which I really enjoyed, even though everyone who helped raise me were still very loving. I don't want to say 'older people shouldn't have kids', but if you're going to care about those kids, you have to consider all of the drawbacks. Kids deserve love and fun, being chased around and able to actually feel some sort of freedom, instead of being trapped in their parents' physical confines. It depends on the parents a lot, obviously, and plenty of people can make it work, but with my upbringing it really makes me itch.
yea also some jerkwad kids will probably judge/bully them for having older parents and its just perhaps not gonna end the best. also why dont they just babysit or work at a daycare or something if they need that feeling of having a kid or whatever
I've gone to school with kids who's parents had them in their 50s, and I've honestly never seen a child go so unloved as them. That's just 50 years old and the kid being 12, now imagine the kid is BORN at 50. Even worse, and then think about how they're going to be 60 nearing 70, they won't be physically able enough to take care of or be emotionally available for their kid. Abusive, stupid and gross. I hope they put the child up for adoption or had an abortion.
I get how you feel I was raise by parents that were in their 50s and it was a bit hard, but honestly I don't really think it affected my life too much. There are more important things then being a physically active parent.
Pregnancy story: what really weirds me out is how his daughter is 29 and his wife is 31... It gives me shivers. Ik they're adults and all but imagine having a step parent the same age as you
When my dad was having his post-divorce mid-life crisis, he dated a lady that was about 10 years older than me... Which meant she was exactly the same age as his sister. The moment we pointed that out to him, he completely dropped the relationship. I get that age doesn't matter between consenting adults... But it's weird when it's the person who might become your step parent đ
If you reversed the genders would you still be saying that?
@@d.mcfadden7343 yea. It's a step parent the same age as you, that's weird AF
@@d.mcfadden7343 yes. Not every thing has to be about gender and by you pointing that out, you're just making more unnecessary arguements
@@dpking9653 it's a lot better me pointing out hypocrisy from some people at random times than people consistently making unnecessary arguments
Not only did this mom leave her child with someone who isnât a baby sitter, without telling them she was going
She didnât even pick up or respond when that person watching her child tried to contact her!
What if her child got sick or hurt? Would she just have not picked up the phone?
Agreed. The OP was late for their next appointment. They had a duty to the child's safety, not to stay.
And she called the non emergency number, after she had tried to reach the mother, so yeah I think she did right.
The mom got what she deserved.
@@Mscrimsondragon And the child? If you donât give that extra damn, donât work with kids. Those in the Profession have been saying that for how many decades now? Just bc the parent fcked up, no kid should be subjected to that shit.
You can tell this wasn't her first time doing it but rather her first time being caught
"You need to be suppprtive even if he's being stupid" Translation "I don't want to take care of him since he's an adult, so now you have to. Byyyyeeeeeee"
Oh come on man, maybe she had financial problems herself and couldn't take care of Kevin
How parents went from "sex is bad" to "I want grandkids" in just couple years
And they wonder why they donât have grandkids
â@nationalinstituteofcheese3012 it's like "make up your minds!"
With the hospital prank one, I can't believe he would make OP think that their mom is in the hospital, let alone the fact that he knew they had high BP and it would cause them stress, and didn't even apologize or anything. Not only did it cause them to panic, but it also could have been a health risk for OP! OP was 100% in the right to kick him out, if he was gonna act like that and not acknowledge it could of ended up badly.
That wasnât a prank. That was being malicious and evil.
The "prank" could have killed op, it his BP raised too high, he could have died
@Kat Brown, i did a prank like that back in the early 90s. I was around 11 years old. I decided to call random people in the phone book and told them that their kids have been in an accident (or died...).
A mum called me back and proceeded to tear me up. She made me understand the gravity of what i had done.
I have never done a prank since then.
@@curtisalex456 this encapsulates the situation perfectly. You learned how horrible it was at 11, and you weren't targeting someone for not inviting you to a party. This is a 22 year old man, and he's butt hurt he wasn't invited to a party that, frankly, he wasn't entitled to. He wasn't trying to prank like you were, he was purposely attacking op. Grown people like the one in the story sicken me.
@@curtisalex456 Yes, an 11 year old might not understand the gravity but his brother is an adult.
Thats what people say about my pranks where I put a mine at someones doorstep.
Kevin: *isn't allowed to be in OP's party*
Also Kevin: and i took that personally
People actually named Kevin : and I took that personally
So I decided to make my step brother think his mom is dying in the hospital as a prank! HAHAHAHA Iâm SOOO funny!
Also, Kevin wanted his roommates at the party, too, which was a small affair. Regardless of OP's high BP, joking about an already hospitalized relative's (especially a parent) health is heartless.
@@MidnightRose. *my step brother with health issues that can get worse when he's stressed
I'm sure that's how he thought about it too! But Keven was allowed at the party, just not his friends. Which is understandable. I hate dicks like that.
Last story: did Op really expect people to be on his side? You're disowning your 17 year old daughter, who's probably still in high school, because she's pregnant? I feel bad for the daughter.
I do too. I know from experience what it is like to have a Dad who is incapable of actually loving anyone except himself.
I never comment but the story with the 60 year old resonated with me.
I was adopted at the age of 3 months as soon as I left the nursery. My parents were 50 at the time, and many people told them they were too old to adopt because they can't run around and so on so forth. My parents did all they could to assure I had a great childhood and even played video games with me(even though they didn't know what they were doing) And these are all great memories that I love. Now I am 31 and moved to the states 4 years ago and am helping them any way I can so they can fix the house we have in Puerto Rico so they can move here with me. They are 80 and 81 atm. And I say age was never a bad thing here. They told me how people were gonna think they were my grandparents because of their age and that I should not get upset and correct them calmly. Sorry this went on for long and I went around in circles. I am horrible at writing down my thoughts.
Hope everyone has a GREAT day!
I use Pinky Pie rules for pranks: It's only good if everyone involved can have a good laugh about it afterward.
And Pinkie also wants you to see what it's like when they don't đ Rainbow cookie anyone?
If the victim isn't laughing, it isn't funny.
That's a WONDERFUL way of looking at it! ^_^
Exactly! Thank you for saying that, not many people get it for some reason
FACTS
Iâll bet that the step brother is the kind of person to cough on everything in a store and then when he gets kicked out says, âiTâs jUsT A pRaNk bRoâ
Or like that one video I saw once of someone spraying a water bottle on people and pretending to sneeze. Luckily, he got punched
Sneezing pranks during a pandemic should be charged with assault, minimum!
Oh god
I think Zenoâs mad
In the brother's prank history:
ironically, if OP has high pressure it means that OP could have a stroke from what the brother did
In the daughter's history I sort of agree with rSlash
his wife was PREGNANT, showing support is the minimum you can do for them, if you want to speak what you think about it say it without the wife hearing, talk with OP in private be respectful, this way y'all can understand each other and fix this issue without severally offending anyone
Never understood how a parent can make their teen child's pregnancy about them like she's already at her lowest point and you're just putting in the boot
"you should feel able to tell me everything"
*tells father she's pregnant*
"NO NOT LIKE THAT"
Tbh I would be pissed if I found out my underaged child was pregnant with no life plans
@@SUPERVEGITO896 It's understandable to be upset, but there were many different ways he could have settled this problem and he went to the extremes.
@@Potatocrime24-7 that is true but lets be real when people are extremely upset or disappointed their brain goes out all sense are gone
@@SUPERVEGITO896 yeah but considering he acted this way even after days of knowing it doesn't excuse him. not to mention he posted on reddit asking if he was an asshole for it. so I don't think it was an "in the heat of the moment" scenario. I think he genuinely feels like what he did was correct. taking time to adjust is one thing but saying what he said to his daughter, thats something entirely different.
@@Potatocrime24-7 I donât think he was angry about the pregnancy itself. He point blank said he was angry because he had argued for his daughter to let her go to her boyfriends because he trusted her. Maybe even trusted her to be safe, and she said she would tell him if anything happened.
Can you imagine even saying "It's a prank bro. Your Mum's not dead. You should have invited me to that dinner"?
Even typing that felt wrong.
not to mention it ruined his engagement dinner
Dwight did it many times with Nate and that wasn't a problem...
I feel like they need to lineup everyone who was at the engagement party, and give each and every one of them the opportunity to kick the brother directly in the dick.
simple math
fist+face= GET THE HELL OUT OF MY HOUSE
I would feel so gross if my 60 something year old father was with a woman my age and got her pregnant. Probably wouldâve actually picked a different time to say something in private.
With the teen pregnancy story, commonly narcissists think of people as the versions of them they had the most control over
The (potential) death of a person is NEVER a joke!
What if i was alive before 1945 and i heard hitler is going to die by breaking neck bcoz he slipped on a banana peel
I strongly believe neither is pregnancy
Yeah because thatâs the exact same thing as a innocent person dying
@@shrishikesh2292 Personally that is such a different situation as to be effectively a non sequoitter. Also it would in fact be unethical in the circumstances you describe
Idk, I'm really comfortable joking about my own death
honestly, if my dad married someone who was close to my age I would be weirded out too ngl
Ok...now how you react?
@@lamarasawyer850 if my feelings werent taken into consideration, then I certainly wouldnt be holding theirs as something worth valuing, or sparing at the least.
@@Rhaenarys Ok. Understandable.
@@lamarasawyer850 probably just distance myself from my dad and his wife as much as possible. I wouldn't even want to celebrate with them. maybe that makes me an asshole but I don't overly care
Theyâre consenting adults though. Whatever.
The story with the older OP hit hard. The point R/slash makes about terminal people is personal. I have a terminal illness that will take me out of the game but my wife wanted to have a child with me. Iâm 42 and sheâs 39. We both decided that we would move forward because she is totally prepared and able to support a child and I have a big family who will support her (emotionally. She is a doctor and is not reliant on anyone for financial assistance). I hope I have more time than not with my child but I also feel better knowing my wife wonât be alone when I am no longer around. This child isnât born yet but is already loved more than I could imagine. Itâs no oneâs business what people decide to do with their lives when they are responsible in making decisions. Hope the OP and his wife are happy.
As a person whoâs 49 year old dad is dating a 25 year old, I canât help but feel uncomfortable with the whole situation. If I found out my dad got a girl young enough that I could go to college with her in a year pregnant⊠I donât know what Iâd do. Iâd probably have a similar reaction to OP, except Iâd leave dinner and not talk to him for a while. I completely understand OPâs feelings. Iâm on her side, even if my situation is a little less aged.
So by Kevinâs logic, if I told my friends his mom died, me saying âitâs just a prankâ makes everything okay? How was he not kicked out sooner?
Thatâs the problem. People excuse this type of bs and passes on to the next generation. I donât care if itâs my enemy, I wonât do anything to ruin their wedding
Seriously, it's very fitting that his name is Kevin, because this definitely qualifies as a "story about Kevin".
someone pulled a stunt like that on a friend of mine. Long story short the prankster is dead and my friend is in prison on death row now.
His defence? "Hey, it was just a prank, not my fault it went horribly wrong".
@@bigdog3628 This is one of those cases where one kind of wants to know what the long story was. It's not really the same thing if I understand that right, because it sounds like the "prank" itself didn't get anyone killed by going wrong, but it drove your friend into a rage and he murdered the "prankster", is that the deal?
Except Kevin's mother really is dead already
Kevin: It was a prank! I didn't know you react like that!"
Me: How else would a person react to hearing that their mom was very sick and possibly had a stroke?!?
just kick him out and when he's already moved all his shit laugh and say it's a prank
yeah BS he knew he'd react like that because he expected him to leave.
And his reason is very VERY pathetic as well because he and his Friends weren't invited, he's very childish!
@@SaltyRocksPew And then once he's moved back in, say that THAT was a prank and kick him out again. See how many rounds you can go before he gets the point.
Personally would have responded with "oh thank you for telling me! I was with her in her last moments. I'm sorry but I can't afford to care for you now since her medical bills are pilling up! I'm sorry, but you have to either pay more rent or leave" then when they're all packed say "gotcha! Pay backs a bitch!" And whenever anyone complained just say "it was just a prank!"
I like how you explained the 61 year old dad having the kid compared to people who are sick and having kids. You put it in perspective for me !
Yes but depending on the sickness and the Youth of the person they could be possibilities of overcoming and still having inability to live a long life to raise a child if this takes place in the US the average age expectancy is around like 75
Honestly, if you got a terminal sickness and given only a few years of projected life, i don't think you should be having kids. It's just unfair to the kid, and quite honestly irresponsible.
â@@Nunnuka I don't agree with you at all. If you know that you will die in the very near future, it's sounds so selfish to me. Same with wanting a 'legacy' in form of children. There are many Storys out there where parents die and the kids completely crumble apart (even when there are already adults). I also disagree with every argument r/ gave us. People who are ill, single women just wanting a baby, etc shouldn't have children.
On the second story - The idea that you're obligated to support family when they're acting stupid *just* because their family sounds fine on paper, but what about supporting yourself? In this case, just giving Kevin a slap on the back could easily give the message that his behavior was acceptable, and I know from experience that supporting family despite their harmful behavior can give that family member the room to grow into a more toxic influence.
I think kicking him out was the right move. At the very least he'll realize that what he did was cruel and inappropriate.
*Thomas gets a yacht*
Relatives: "But why tho? Whatshisname is like half dead anyway. Let's continue with 0 contact."
*Thomas dies*
Relatives: "The time has come. Execute order 'Let us use his stuff since whoshisface won't need it now'."
@@thiccsketchyyoshi4029 dosent make sense in this context
@@thiccsketchyyoshi4029 naw
The problem I have with the age gap one is that the daughter tried to be diplomatic about it and just said she was too shocked for words. But then they pressed her for her opinion about it, got mad when she gave it to them, and kicked her out for it. That's why I'd give them a slightly higher butthole score. Like, don't ask if you don't want to know.
Still, you could just congratulate them & have that conversation in private after the dinner... Would've been the sensible approach to me.
@@MLWJ1993 i feel like it would be an extremely awkward dinner and no matter what its quite a heavy thing to drop on someone they could have gave her time to process the thing
Exactly. They dont want to hear her feelings unless its praise and congratulations. Her feelings have been put in the backseat, and probably have been there for a long time. Father of the year, right?
@@MLWJ1993 so basically...just accept your feelings will never matter to your father? In that case, I'd have to cut him off.
@@MLWJ1993 I'm mean just the reason she wants a child is bad, if I was told that I'd be kinda happy but the moment I find out it for her legacy i would have voiced how bad of mentality that is. Also you don't have to be happy for anyone simple as she said her mind straight up and they're pissed cuz she didn't immediately celebrate
The story with the big age gap... I think the daughter had an incredibly valid and important point about his age and bringing a child into a world where there's a good chance they won't get the experiences of an active family dynamic during their formative years with his age... and likely won't have him around once they become an adult themselves. However with that said, it shouldn't preclude the value of bringing life into the world. My father passed when I was a young teen, but I wouldn't want him to have chosen not to have children if he knew he only had so few years left. And I don't think he would have made that choice either.
It was also a terrible time on her part to give such a reaction. That's a private discussion to have at a later time AND it's not like she can change anything at this point.
The last story, YTA, dad reacted like he was salty that his daughter unintentionally proved him wrong. Hopefully that anger resides later on
Yeah I donât get why everyoneâs ignoring that part. He is mad at her for ignoring his advice, not telling him she practiced unsafe sex, and betraying his trust. Yes the reactionâs too much but heâs not just mad sheâs pregnant.
â@@hydrokineticpowerhouse I think most people gloss over the part how painful it is for parents when something like that happens. I mean, what could have the Dad done? If he were a helicopter parent, the daughter would still grow messed up. Loosen the reins a little, and sh*t hits the fan too. I currently do not have this problem yet--- and I hope I neer do. They're just glossing over the fact that he was utterly betrayed and hurt too.
rSlash, the reason why people react to old people having children is because how DEVASTATING it is to lose a parent when you're young. Just talk to anyone that lost their parents at a young age, and it's guaranteed they are in, have been in, or desperately needs therapy.
YES. iâm 15 and i have to worry about my dad getting sick and dying because heâs old. heâs almost the same age as my momâs parents. iâm sorry, but a 15 year old should not have to worry about her father randomly dying. i know i wonât have long with my dad.
@@emmasmith9471 im 15, my parents are 84 and 88. Do I worry about them getting sick and dying? Yes. Does that affect my life in the slightest? Not really. Statistically having parent who dies during childhood isn't rare at all, no matter the age of the parents. All it means is that they have a higher chance of dying EARLIER, not a higher chance of dying.
And I think it's a huge bragging right having parents as old as mine. They have incredible experiences and great stories to tell from their lifetime, and they give a valuable perspective on life as I know it, given my parents graduated high school in the early 50s. My dad is 88, but looks 70, acts 70, and is really active for an 88 year old, doing somewhat heavy garden work
@@crackhex2649 Ok question. How was your childhood? Did you get to run around with your parents or did you have to sit around if you wanted to spend time with them? If somehow you were lucky enough to be able to run around with them as a 7-year-old, how would someone who couldn't do it 30 years ago suddenly be able to do it now? Did you care about bragging about their experiences when you were a kid? And comparing the chance of dying really isn't fair when you're knowingly making the risk higher. If that were the case then driving while intoxicated would be fine, because the chance of dying in a car crash is similar whether you're sober or not it's just the chance of crashing earlier that increases.
@@crackhex2649 thats insane your mom had you when she wad almost 70?! hows that even possible wow thats nuts
I mean, did the first guy really overreact, though? He was alone with an 8 year old kid, and couldn't get ahold of his parents for fifteen minutes when he's already established he wouldn't tutor the kid alone. I mean, how long are you supposed to wait before calling the cops? Who else should you call?
My immediate reaction was just call the police. Mothers fault in that circumstance . She shouldn't have left!
Agreed call the cops
Honestly yeah, who else do you call other than the cops? For all OP knew the mother could be suffering from a heart attack, or have skipped town, or doing drugs; yeah she was just running an errand but she really couldâve been doing anything and OP couldnât, and in my opinion shouldnât wait too long with 0 contact to call the cops.
Ghost busters!
I would call the cops the moment i couldn't get in contact
Iâm grateful that my mom had me and let alone raise me on her own with the help of my grandma but my mom had me at 40. When I was 10, kids from the summer school I was going to saw my mom and started to make remarks on how old she was. Til this day I remember the most heart wrenching thing they said about my mom â whoâs mom is that ?! Sheâs so old, sheâs probably gonna die before her kid even grows up!â They all began to laugh as I was holding back tears. Iâm 22 now and sheâs 62 Iâm scared sheâs gonna die before Iâm able to have kids of my own.
The last story:
Any parent would be angry when they heard this, but a good parent would accept the truth and then support their child and their possible new grandchild despite them being angry.
When you put someone's health at risk or lie about someone having an emergency, that is no longer "just" a prank.
Also, people have literally attempted murder by telling people family members were in the hospital. Usually they cut the breaks, but stressing someone out with health issues is dangerous too
This is literally like that episode of Breaking Bad where Walt falsely calls Hank pretending to be the hospital saying Marie had been in an accident
He should have said â BI*CH THATS MY MOTHERâ in Kevinâs story
Exactly, anyone who pulls one like that on me with my mom is no brother of mine...I felt really awful for OP
if i were op, Kevin would have been lucky to not have been hospitalized tbh
@@tristenbailey8442 Stepbrother or not, i'd have to pummel him and his friends
@@Black_Knight_-BK- just make sure u have the fight and dodge ability to take them all down depending on how many friends step bro did the prank with
@@tristenbailey8442 So you want me to dodge like Piccolo from DBZ?
Here's the thing that gets me with the step brother one - his OWN mother is deceased - how out of touch with reality do you have to be to pull something like that? If it were me, I would have 100% cut all ties, severed the relationship and shut him out - if he were really 'struggling' because his own mother is dead, he wouldn't have pulled something like this. Negative 5 buttholes for the OP, and the rare 5 Buttholes for the step brother, upgraded from 4 knowing about his own mother being dead.
Story 1
Make a new contract saying if the parental guardian leaves me alone with the child, child care is $50 a minute
Whenever they wanted to rent and use the yacht, I would've just said "Alright, rent it. It's the same price of renting as the same type of yacht that I bought. Go ahead and rent it". Guarantee you that they'll call you an asshole, but you're just renting it to them. Never said it had to be discounted.
BRUH... YOU ARE INSAN- HOW DO YOU THINK OF THESE THINGS?!?
Better get it all in writing, otherwise the assholes might trash it.
I don't think he would rent it to THEM.. may be , rent it to others . I do not believe the father would sully the memorable place with the footsteps of this cruel , entitled family.
just say "each time y'all visited Thomas while he was sick is 1% more in discounts"
@@subratanandy2142 True, but if they have the gall to ask for a discount then either they pay the same price or they can frick off (preferably the last one)
okay, coming frome someone, who's dad consistently has dated women around my age, for the past 10 years (all legal, I'm over 30), I am, honestly, on the daughter's side, in the story about the 61m becoming a dad. I get that the young wife is excited, as is her right, but she cannot demand that the daughter share that excitement. Nobody can demand, that you feel a certain way, just because they do, that's just not how it works. I would be super shocked, if my dad came and said he had gotten his girlfriend pregnant, and, knowing how my own upbringing was, I'd also be concerned.
his wife is very toxic, she just wants a kid to feel fulfilled in life but isn't wondering how will that kid's life be with a dad that will probably die before he reaches 18, and that's just a little bit of the iceberg
If my dad, who also had a habit of dating women way younger than him and barely older than me, said he was expecting a kid at 61, I would t be all that thrilled either. Its not selfish to be thinking of how that kid is going to grow up knowing that their dad will more than likely be dead before reaching some of the most important moments in the kids life. Wife wanted a kid, thats all fine until there is no father around to help raise it.
@@kysfggt wouldnât call the wife toxic. Thatâs a very natural reaction towards anyone whoâs upset at something you consider the greatest joy of your life.
@@Lunaskylette that's like saying crying is a natural reaction when the police areest you after murdering an entire school.
There's definitely a back story that the dad probably did not know or chose to ignore that made the announcement very uncomfortable for the daughter.
"You want to borrow the yacht? It's not up to me, you'll have to ask Thomas."
The dude who disowned his daughter reminds me too much of my parents.
That first story, yeah... that woman IS a bad mother. End of story. This will be a good wake up call. hopefully
How was she a bad mother.
@@lordvika2526 Because she's trying to pass off her responsibilities as a mother. OP is not a baby sitter and if something happens that makes her legally responsible. That is not the sign of a good mother to just run off without even telling her. Not only could that have endangered the child but the fact that the mother just assumed that OP would watch the child for however long it took that mother to return means that she was always planning to do this. She's a bad mother, and consequences apply to that bad decision.
@@lordvika2526 how old are you?
@@lachruck1085 What does that matter?
@@zylokun She wasnt passing off anything.
SO what if she ran out for a bit while the person who was paid to watch to be in charge of their child for whatever reason was doing their job. It's not lie the parents have to be their all the time while a person is being paid to do a job. If the person cant handle being alone with a child they shouldn't be working with children in the first place.
Yes i can say she should have said something as to avoid any problems, but to call the police is way over board.
The OP didnt even think to call the mother or father, just called the police and then left like a little bitch
For the old dad having a kid, I feel like there's more to the story than he's telling. I get the idea he never treated his older kids that well and the kids are upset because this is a "do over baby". Even if it wasn't, I'd be pretty weirded out if one of my parents had a kid with a person my age (30).
Plus it is pretty awkward.
Yes. He gets an asshole point just for being 30 when his new wife was born lol.
@@AshleyNicole-ct7gh Lmao, his wife could've been friends with his daughter, that OP is a fucking creep
Theyâre consenting adults in a seeming loving relationship yâall are lonely
@@xXSPADEGG
Wife was in kindergarten this dude was in school
When my 17 year old told me she was pregnant, I was terrified that her dad would lose it & freak out....
I was absolutely numb & didn't know what to feel.
We told him & he was absolutely overjoyed. He was so excited to become a grandpa.
Now we have the most beautiful 7 month old granddaughter.
I couldn't imagine not being around during the pregnancy, birth & now, watching her grow.
That dad is missing out.
first story: i find it very weird that a mom would leave her 8 year old child alone with a tutor on the first tuition session?
As someone who recently lost their mom, I would've kicked Kevin out too. And probably would've hit him. Kevin should've known better than to cross that line since it seems he lost his own mom. After some time and a lot of apologizing, I might've reconsidered and let him back in, but that crap is a huge no no for me.
Was just gonna say this. I lost my mom at 11 and the idea of prancing someone with that is Awful on levels most people canât understand. Sorry for your loss
Unfortunately thus is why his name is Kevin.
Hey not all Kevin's are stupidđ
I feel so sorry for you. I'd have kicked that asshole out too. I almost lost my dad when he had a stroke (the only remaining parent I have), and one of my asshole stepbrothers calling me to tell me my dad is dying would make me want to sue them for emotional damages. That's one of the rare moments I'd ever go FULL BALLISTIC KAREN.
That excuse of "it was only a prank" is like the one I really hate of "it was only a joke/banter" used to excuse bullying or being truly insulting
Or sexual harassment...
If I had a teenage daughter get pregnant, I would do everything I could to create a safe environment for my daughter and unborn grandchild.
The old op with a young pregnant wife. Listen to what the daughter said. It sounds like the daughter is trying to insinuate that she didn't feel like her dad was a great dad already and out would be worse when he was doing it at double threw age he was when he did it with her.
OP: "I thought you would be responsible and tell me if anything happened"
His daughter:*goes to him telling him she's pregnant*
OP: *YOU'RE A DISAPPOINTMENT, NEVER TALK TO ME AGAIN*
I Bet He is also the Sort of father, who would refuse to Let her have an abortion.
I mean. I was a Teen Mom myself. My daughter gets ten this year and I Love her. But Just the fact that my father Hit ne, when He found Out, being angry, Broke Something Inside of me.
@@lilysnape6520 I am so sorry.
@Rico Happyrock Well I know he was shocked. Yes. But thst is never an excuse to Hit someone in the face. Especially when the child never Had a sitdown with the parents about this (also the Guy actually betrayed me saying the condom was Alright. And I was a very naive Teenage Girl)
@Rico Happyrock how the Frick did I betrayed him?
@@lilysnape6520 not gonna lie why it wasnât right he hit you but I see why he would be disappointed
I had a similar incident with me 17yo daughter ,who got pregnant from a 1night stand with a stranger, BUT i said this
"I'm excited for you to be a mother, I'm VERY excited to be a grandfather And I'm angry that you were so irresponsible with a stranger. Come back on saturday (it was thursday) and I'll be over the anger part and we can start on talking about all the good that's coming"
I also walked her to the door, hugged her and kissed her head before she left.
Yeah, i was angry and dissapointed BUT she's my daughter andTHAT'S my grandchild. I made my displeasure clear but i also made it clear i still loved and supported her
Thatâs actually awesome, giving yourself time to breathe and work through your emotions so you donât say anything you regret, while also reminding your kid you love her and are excited for her, sounds like a great idea, especially when I read this while listening to the post.
I mean, I guess that reaction is fine if your daughter *wanted* to keep that child, but a seventeen year old shouldn't HAVE to keep a surprise pregnancy.
Excuse me but can you adopt me? đ
Excuse me sir, could I trouble you for parenting lessons?
My mom got pregnant with her first child at 16, but was turning 17 soon, and my grandpa didn't talk to her for quite awhile according to my mom.
That first story is abhorrent! I grew up with a nanny, Edie, who I love very much. (Yes, I grew up in an extremely wealthy family.) Edie was a second mother to me and to think of someone hurting her like that makes me feel physically sick. If I ever did something that despicable, my mother and father would have not only made me apologize and beg for forgiveness, the punishment would have been severe, long, and public in the sense all my family and friends would know what I did. I was raised with high expectations of values, morals, integrity and ethics.
Not only should that daughter be punished, but if possible the mother too.
My parents would never accuse someone without proper investigation and reason. Even then, it would be broached with diplomacy.
I would like to add that a nanny is much more than just a babysitter. A nanny becomes a very valued and very loved member of the family. After my brother and I were grown, Edie stayed on as an âoverseer of the homeâ, ensuring day to day tasks were done. My parents didnât want her to lose her job and health insurance so they made up a position for her. They built her a house on a beautiful piece of land for her and her daughter, where she still lives (and yes she owns it), as well as a pension that includes full health care. (Medical, dental and vision). Edie retired 20 years ago and is still at every family celebration, holiday, and visits my parents regularly. I still fly home every June 13th for her birthday and we talk weekly. I love that woman as much as my own mother. The bond that a nanny has with the children and family is so strong.
What I am trying to say is that nannies are such a special part of the family and deserve to be treated as such. Scratch that. Nannies ARE family. I am so fortunate to have this amazing woman in my life.
Edie- I love you to bits and bobs.â€
In regards to the prank story, there was a friend I had who was obsessed with some youtube channel. I donât remember what channel it was, but it was this guy who kept pranking his brother in horrific ways. The video I remember most clearly was when the guy and some of his friends âkidnappedâ his brother and tazed him a few times before telling him it was fake. That just never sat fight with me. As soon as that friend started practicing their pranks, I was out.
for the older father and daughter, im going to say there are no assholes, it seems like there are some childhood issues that have never been resolved
Everyone sucks honestly
That kid is going to have issues; the older the father is, that can affect the genes of the baby :/
Honestly, my parents are older. Mom was 39 and dad was 48 when I was born. I love them dearly but they could barely play with me. I always say that I'll never have kids that late cuz it's hard. Not only that but all my life I've been scared that one little thing will take them away. Getting sick and stuff like that. It sucks having older parents...(sorry for the rant, it just hit a little close)
@@iamonewithdarkness my parents are older, I just don't like how they're boomers
@@johnroach13 thankfully mine aren't, they're pretty chill
The father in that last story is absolutely despicable. His teenage daughter got pregnant. Sure, teenage pregnancies are mostly frowned upon, but things like that happen every day.
If I were the father, I would tell her âwhile I am disappointed that you werenât careful, I want you to know that your mother and I will always support you.â
Instead, the father said âyouâre pregnant?! F*ck off, and donât talk to me again!â
she decided to sleep with her boyfriend ,and now has to face the consciences it's her fault not the dad's
At what point did I say that it was the dadâs fault?
Her dad has the right to be angry. It may be an overreaction, but in anger you stay stuff which you don't mean a 100%. So I think he will get over it
I completely agree, sheâs already stressed, donât make it worse!
@@BobRoss-nj9et Fuck that. She made the mistake of getting accidently preggo even after being taught everything about safe sex. Yes, shit happens and it's not 100% full proof, but announcing you're going to have a kid at 17 - 18 is incredibly fucked up from a parent's perspective because you aren't even at a stable career yet.
I feel like reminding people that the old adage âBlood is thicker than water.â is actually wrong. Itâs âThe blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.â
In the first story, the mom left without even letting the tutor know or asked if itâs okay. She didnât ask because she KNEW it wasnât okay. This is on her
Most of these stories are just âKaren escalates everything, op gets mad at Karen. Karenâs friends make op feel badâ
not the last one though
@@ultimatefire1009 Yea! Rare to get a real asshole on hear! lol
I have never hear some one sum up AITA so perfectly
One of the golden rules,âBe there for your child, even at their worst.â
OP: No
@@bluelad370 what?
@@bluelad370 op, why are you replying to my comment? Donât you have a relationship to attempt to fix?
@@loser.lunatic4089 what did he say?
@@crystaljones2953 basically he was siding with op
@@loser.lunatic4089 jeez. My guy has issues if heâs siding with Op
"Keeping his memory alive." They dont HAVE memories of him to keep alive. Because they never visited him to make any. 9:37
Last story: "I thought you'd come to me if anything happened" BUT SHE DID! She TOLD OP she was pregnant! That WAS her coming to him after something happened! And he just completely rejected her for it! What the hell else does he want from her? Something happened, she told him, and he completely exploded and refused to support her when she needed him most and just completely broke her down out of NOWHERE when she was innocently asking if they were going to watch a football game together. I'm honestly amazed he can think he WASN'T the jerk here
"Saying "Its just a prank bro" doesn't make it ok"
People in their teens or 20's: That sign won't stop me because I can't read!
Lol, my little sister do be lookin like she can't read đ
"It's just a prank Han!"
That's what that reminded me of.
@@icringeatmyself2222 uh, y do u have that face when u said đł
If these people can understand they would be very upset
@@prosperthepro3022, that face can also be used when making a snarky comment.
"It's just a prank, bro." Should've clocked him in the jaw and said "it's just a prank, bro."
I don't give a shit about my mom, but if someone did something like that with my brother or grandma, I would probably end up in jail for felony assault
"Remember how I was letting you stay here super cheap? Yeah, that was just a prank, bro. Pay me double or gtfo"
For the prank story, something to add to that scale is that at some point on that scale someone can legitimately die. If I was kidnapped as a prank the person better fess up loudly before opening the trunk otherwise Iâm coming out swinging. It would be even worse if I had my gun on me.
As a son of parents who are around 50~ old each, i feel literally 0 difference between my 50 year old parents and my friends' 25 year old parents
I was born when my father was 48. He passed 4 yrs ago a month shy of 95. He was an amazing father
Ikr, my dad was 46 when my mom had me. Heâs been an amazing father and I wouldnât want anyone else to be my dad
True, but 40s and 60s are p different
@@onettaviator5396 That is true but still irrelevant to the conversation, an old and young parent is better than only one of them, theres nothing wrong with what they did, weird as it might be
@@DaydreamingSwede I didn't say that there was? I was just saying that's not really comparable cuz 40 isn't really old, its middle-aged.
48 is not the same
âItâs just a prankâ isnât viable when youâre toying with emotions on that level. How else do you EXPECT someone to react? Just an âOh youâ when they find out you lied about your mom having a potentially deadly complication?
For the birthday thing I can KINDA get the daughterâs concerns, but in the end thatâs the kinda stuff you keep to yourself. As much as she would worry about the kid, theyâll still have a mom who loves them and happy memories with their dad, even at a young age. Sucks to have your birthday canceled, but it probably sucks more to have your kids belittle you when you arenât being an entitled POS.
That final guy, oh boy. Makes you wonder why his daughter would be hesitant to tell him? Maybe the fact that he was the one giving her the vote of confidence that she would make the right choice, telling her steps to take, and overall showing that he trusts her made it a lot harder to explain that somewhere along the way something slipped up and she got pregnant. And his reaction shows that she was RIGHT TO BE AFRAID OF THAT. The man throws a toddler-like tantrum and decides heâs never going to talk to her again instead of being an adult, taking some time to process his anger, and still loving his daughter despite any mistake she made. Sure, youâre gonna be upset and junk for a while, but a good dad would be able to step back, get his emotions in order, and go back to loving his daughter instead of blocking her out of his life.
Not to mention he could have killed op with this âprankâ. If not through her blood pressure then through a car crash as she madly drives to see what she thinks is her dying mother.
6:22 I love that "Take That!" moment to the guy who made the "Killing Best Friend" prank video.
That last story honestly shook me. OP was a near perfect representation of my parents. My parents had betrayed my trust many times recently, taking my phone and scrolling down my text. They made me stop talking to a friend and my gf. We still sometimes talk but our relationship has never been the same. I am usually hella clingy when I meet someone and she was my first gf. I didnât want to end like this, I wanted to end naturally. When this happened my father looked at me with disappointment and shook his head while my mom was screaming in the background, I still can't forget that. I donât trust them with anything and always try to hide everything from them since I know that they are going to shout at me. Maybe I'm overreacting, I honestly don't know anymore (btw I am still in high school).
I have a thought for the OP in the pregnant 17 year old story. So, he's disappointed because she didn't come to him when something happened? Hello! SOMETHING HAPPENED! She got pregnant! She came to you and told you, YOU FLEW OFF THE HANDLE!
Come on. Why why do you have to destroy a perfectly good generationally discriminatory massagnistic reaction with logic??
@@orionspero560 Just what I do, I guess.
Sure the father didnt act or take the news well i agree
and the daughter needs her parents support
however the daughter is 17 not 3 years old
everybody is taught sex education at school and by the parents over the years
i was taught that in primary school
unless the daughter wagged school and skipped classes for years ?
it takes both male and female to produce a baby being human
so isnt the boyfriend completely responsibile as well
or do people tend to forget that
@@waynehewett4017 thing we donÂŽt know is if they actually did use birth control and it just failed, as it can. Someone in another section said they knew someone who used pills+condom and still managed to get pregnant twice over the course of four years,while already switching pills after the first child because of it. Some medications and happenings also ruin the effect which maybe people arent getting educated about. Condoms can break as well even when used right, while thereÂŽs still a pill people can get afterwards, if that happens.
Well just what IÂŽm trying to say, we donÂŽt know all the context so itÂŽs hard to judge and might be wrong to blame the couple on beeing irresponsible.
@@waynehewett4017 Wonderful. What is the percentage failure of every birth control?
Here is one. 3% of Pregnancies a year occur despite the woman being on the pill AND the man wearing a condom. Yes, you can use both and still wind up pregnant. That may not sound like much, but 3% of 7billion is 210,000,000
In words. Two hundred ten million.
This number is actually LOWER than the amount as I have cut off the 800,000,000 or so to have a rounded 7Billion.
Most birth controls sit between 80 - 96% Effective. Meaning 4% chance of Pregnancy.
American schooling allows for Abstinence only as Sex Education, meaning that over 12% of the population is NOT taught birth control.
Many people don't realize that the "Pull out" method is not safe. Precum can inseminate.
Many people don't realize Anal is not safe. Drip down can inseminate.
Most Teenagers are NOT educated in communication and consent. Meaning they do not know how to say or accept no in a healthy manner.
A Trend among men is something called Stealthing. This is the goal of removing the condom during sex and getting away with having unprotected sex by concealing it from the girl.
âHa i just pranked saying your mother almost died and ruined your night I dont deserve to get kicked out.â
And it wasnât even a regular night, it was their ENGAGEMENT DINNER! The absolute audacity.
A prank is only a prank if it doesnât envolve medical issues
My parents were in their 40's when i was born, my mom is now in her sixties and my dad passed away due to medical malpractice, but I don't regret having an old parent, my mom offers such amazing sage advice to me and has been there for me my entire life.
With the âprankâ story, you do NOT joke about the health of a family member. Iâm giving OP -5/5 and Kevin 10/5
Why 5/5 for op?
@@HeoBaby24 I thought that at first too but it has a negative sign
@@themaneatscheese4527 oh wait d put -5/5 I didn't see that part lol
@@wabba1960 what?
so op is the landlord and kevin is his/hers step bro right?
Why do posters in this story always have friends who give terrible takes. These Entitled Parent sympathists are a secret issue.
Peer pressure is a hell of an opinion changer
I think if everybody agreed with OP, they would feel justified and they would never post on Reddit in the first place.
It's when someone else makes them doubt their actions that they decide to post
@@rSlash Yea, it is quite selection biased, as most of those posters are quite obviously not the Ahole, and the only reason they post it is that someone else makes them doubt their actions
About the 60-something guy who's having a baby:
1) Just because 2 people are both adults doesn't mean that their ages aren't a problem, especially when you have a kid that's honestly the same age as your new wife. The daughter is a saint for being polite about that part in general.
2) Besides that, the daughter has a right to have a lot of negative feelings about this pregnancy. They're valid, the situation feels gross, and the dinner was supposed to be about father and daughter.
3) After the pregnancy was brought up, even though the daughter's gut feelings were valid and the time they were brought up was probably inappropriate, it may have been more polite for her to address those concerns with her dad privately and maybe later, if she was able to hide her distaste for the duration of dinner for the sake of the excited mother to be. Additionally, I'm not sure how she thought SHE was going to be able to enjoy the rest of dinner let alone that she would get angry that the people she did just challenge, rightfully or not, asked her to leave.
All in all, I think they both were equally justified and unjustified. You can't expect your daughter who is the same age as your wife to not have a LOT of feelings about you getting remarried at all, let alone your wife's age, and then having a baby when it sounds like you weren't even always there for her. However, it is your and your wife's lives and you have a right to fill those lives how you like and someone trashing your excitement over a huge life occurrence is definitely enough reason to remove them from yours for an evening. 2/5 assholes for both parties. Maybe not the wife.
When my son was around 5 or 6, he didn't get what a prank was. He would punch me in the arm and yell "Pranked you!" That guy's stepbrother never grew out of that.
Thomas: *is paralyzed and never gets visited by his family*
His "family": uhm excuse me but can we use your yacht? Its fAmIlY!
*Thomas has never heard such BS*
I dont know whether I'm allowed to laugh at this
@@amberhermann6437 same lol
*Thomas got enough of this BS when he spent 24 hours on AITA*
If I laugh at this will I get swatted
no no no. thomas didnt hear any of that BS...
When the you don't have a father in the first place, you won't be traumatized like a person who lost their father at 15.
The mother should have been charged for the price of tutoring the next child since he was late, which probably made all this appointments late. It's not a CPS situation.