r/AmITheA**hole For Yelling at the Guy Who Saved My Girlfriend's Life?
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- Äas pĆidĂĄn 25. 07. 2024
- r/AmITheA**hole In today's episode, OP's girlfriend passed out while she was in the shower. Her roommate's boyfriend broke down the door so that the roommate could render aid. When OP finds out about this, he becomes ENRAGED at the idea that another guy might have seen his girlfriend naked. It doesn't matter that he was literally trying to save her life. OP is pissed off that he would dare to look at her naked skin. Is OP the butthole for yelling at the guy who saved his girlfriend?
0:00 Intro
0:07 Saving my girlfriend
7:02 You need therapy
7:37 "Fake" job vs "real" job
9:44 Fancy cake or else
13:42 Acting for mom
14:49 The real story
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âJeff and the roommate prohibited me from seeing her, saying I didnât deserve her.â
I mean, theyâre not wrong.
I won't be surprised if OP has that *Surprised Pikachu Face.*
it doesnt matter anyhow, hes gonna be single soon anyway.
I agree with Jeff and her roommate. He doesnt deserve her.
I agree with everybody in this comments section
@@gothstars3956 true
that first story feels like the same logic that someone has to accuse a lifeguard of sexual assault for performing CPR
I think there was an entitled parents video about that.
Or the people who complain about broken ribs, clearly not realizing that if they need CPR then they were already dead.
Yea but here its op being like i own her. Shes mine.
Thus reminds me of the remind story where a girl got sexually assaulted before she met her partner and told him about it and his reply was "so you're not a virgin?"
@@miciso666 100% damn that poor women deserves better.
"Hey, we made you this cake together for your birthday!"
"Oh, I was hoping for a slightly nicer cake."
Like what the hell is wrong with homemade cake? I actually prefer it when my mom makes cake for by birthday, because it's more delicious and she works hard on it. I mean I like store-bought cake too, and why shouldn't I? Cake is cake. This woman just completely ignored her boyfriend and his daughter's efforts. Like why does a birthday celebration have to be so expensive?
I love homemade cakes! I know that pre-made has a certain charm to it but like i would much rather eat a homemade a cake w no topping than an already made cake with alot of fondant, icing or any other topping.
Even if the cake wasn't good she could at least acknowledge the effort and be thankful for what they did, is like when you get a christmas present that you don't like, you were lucky on getting anything at all, people need to count their blessing, besides this people have low income, so buying a cake especially a expensive one is out of the question.
I appreciate when others take the time to make something from scratch for me. It shows they tried and put time and effort into making this thing. So even if it's not the best and won't win any awards, it shows a lot of dedication and care was put into making this
I love making homemade cakes for people and receiving homemade cakes because it's special and personal so the gf is basically saying "what you both worked on isn't good enough for me I want this expensive cake because I prefer other people's work to yours"
bc she is a terrible person. the homemade cake is far more thoughtful and from what she said, it tasted fine.
and if it was a terrible cake, that would be better LMAO
Last story made me tear up. OP's wife is such a wonderful person and I can only wish a really happy life for all of you three.
jeff is such a good guy, dude didnt hesitate to break down the door to help that lady. op in the first story is such an L
Ifkr
I would've bought him a drink or treated him to dinner for saving her. Heck, maybe I'll even get a goddamn PS5 for him. That is how much I am thankful of him!
What would he have done if a firefighter or paramedic saw her naked if they hadnât been there to help her
@@dracko158 then offer to move in with him the form a long lasting relationship and become room mates
@@dracko158 exactly!! I would be absolutely grateful he was there to save my significant other.
The first story blows me away. Iâm a Muslim woman. Iâm very modest, I basically cover everything excluding my face in the presence of men Iâm not related to. However, if a man came in my rescue in a situation like that where Iâd be in a compromising position for anybody but especially for a Muslim woman, Iâd be so thankful. My husband would be so thankful. There are situations where modesty absolutely can go out the window and life or death is one of them. Shame on that man for putting his ego above the health and safety of his girlfriend.
exactly! he's there to save you for a reason, he's not there to look. that man is insecure and dumped that on his poor girlfriend
I love that you shared this perspective from a culture that is super strict about modesty compared to the culture where I live (no offense intended). It's obvious that this person is just clueless about what is appropriate or not.
Yeah so I'm not religious in any way but am super uncomfortable with people seeing me naked BUT I have a medical condition where it's not improbable that I could fall unconscious in the shower/bath and hurt myself, so on the doctor's orders I have to leave the bathroom door unlocked when I shower and let my roommates know they should check on me if they hear anything weird. It's just what needs to be done for my life.
That OP was a full on douche bag
I was raised Christian but a very modest subset of it - sleeves below the elbow, skirts/pants well-below the knee, high collared shirts, and most of the people in my religion and my family would understand this as a medical emergency as well.
Can we just all applaud Jeff. I'm sure if the roommate wasn't there, he would've gone in to help with no hesitation, but he had his girlfriend help him be a gentleman so he could wait outside until she was covered. As for OP... he's got to go.
I love when Rslash gives us stories about his wife. They sound like such a cute happy couple, it's refreshing to hear about them after the tales of horrible people from reddit.
OPs girlfriend couldâve easily died, she fell unconscious in the shower⊠and heâs out here screeching at the idea of someone seeing her body whilst saving her life?! I hope she ditched him, he sounds unbearable
OP in this case has some significant emotional/social issues.
I don't believe for a second that he FaceTime is gf until she falls asleep for her benefit.
If I had been the one outside the door I would have forced it and have gone in..nothing to do with a naked woman but rather I'm physically strong enough to get someone out of a shower for aid and assistance.
Then later would have had to take OP out...since I'm sure he would have attacked me lol.
@@duanesamuelson2256 completely understandable tho, if I was in that situation I would gladly accept a dudes help, literally carrying me unconscious out the shower? Iâd be a dead weight, Iâd appreciate being helped out in such a huge way. If I had a partner screeching the way OP was, Iâd take him out myself LOL. I can totally see OP being the type of guy to (try to) attack other men for helping because he has some weird notion that he âownsâ his girlfriend, so Iâm really hoping she ditched him
I think the problem is he needs to keep his emotions in check. Outside of that situation he sounds like a nice dude. So I half agree. Yeah, he's overreacting and should be grateful his girlfriend is alive, but I could get all those emotions going through OP's head, which is reasonable, the problem is that the emotions got the better of him, he needs to get that under control.
@@The_AuraMaster He's a major douchbag... his girlfriend passed away and could have died and his focus is on the fact that a dude saw her naked? Does he get angry against a doctor who sees her naked? Because it's basically the same thing! OP looks like one of those idiots that would rather have his girlfriend die than having a man performing CPR on her...
@@accis86 You mean "passed out" since "passed away" would meant that she's dead.
Lydia should be grateful for two things: 1 having a roommate and her boyfriend who cared so much and helped her out and 2. Finding out what a an absolute controlling possessive uncaring dipshit OP is before things get more serious and she is tied up with him (like kids and stuff). Who in their right mind hears about a loved one being unwell and instead of coaxing them to the hospital, they throw a jealous fit over the remote possibility that some dude could have seen her naked in the process of saving her life?!?! Wait until he finds out about surgeons and *gasp* OBGYNs who are men.
Yes, the surgeons were the first example that I thought of
Yeah, that whole story was a red flag - dump him before he does serious harm. At the very least he's not mature enough yet for an actual relationship, at worst he's a control freak and ultimately an abuser.
Also first responders
dont you wear a gown and only the part thats operated on is exposed?
@@allanwidner9276 that's a huge assumption and exaggeration lmao
yall are acting like he's satan incarnate for not wanting people looking at his gf
For a nanny to work with special needs children is a very hard job. I admire her for her education in special needs. Her brother and sister doesn't realize how their sister is in a very special place in her job. I feel her parents should be really proud of her.
The final story is so wholesome that itâs hard to believe if itâs real or not. Itâs like Hallmark movie worthy. I hope itâs real. OP really turned his life around, is a stand up guy for not trashing his in-laws when he first introduced their son to them, and his wife is an absolute saint.
Update on the shower story: Lydia told OP that it would be best that they don't see each other for a while.
Lydia needs her own Jeff tbh.
@@randolphrosenberg2994 would her own jeff be a hero?
Good for Lydia tbh, I'm happy for her
W
Justified. Pompous twit
Honestly the most worrying thing about the first OP is that he doesn't even realize just how wrong and insane his story makes him sound. I agree with the comment of seeking out a therapist to work through his issues because this kind of mindset is not just highly questionable but actually dangerous for himself and everyone around him.
Yes, several red flags and a lack of self awareness.
He probably also thought that that cuckold comment would make him seem like a real Strong Manâą
Exactly
I mean i would've been a little upset but the fact that he was helping would've made the anger eh
Very insecure
That they even considered that she might feel embarrassed if he saw her naked is top notch empathy.
Lydia, after she gets medical attention, needs to leave OP.
To be angry at Jeff for saving your girlfriends life shows priority. In OPs mind, her body belongs to him, and her survival is secondary. That's a massive red flag.
I have to agree with RSlash, it sounds like his FaceTime is just protecting "his property".
"I'm not mad at Lydia anymore, just Jeff," yeah Lidya you should have wrapped yourself in a towel while you were currently unconscious. Wtf OP
The fact that he was even mad at Lydia means he's a total a-hole. I mean, she was unconscious, she had no choice in the matter. The OP in that story is an abusive, controlling jerk, IMO.
@@dx1450 For real, he sounds totally manipulative and just a total jerk
No, actually she should have gotten dressed first
People lacking this much self awareness is actually just incredible.
Youâre talking about OP from the first story, right?
If so I say amen to that.
It just seems like more than half of these stories are fake af
@@hawkyre for sure. First story sounds way too fake.
@@delinquents00 meh, people can be stupid than we think they are, I have my quota of idiotic people just this year and it's only the 3rd.
Some people are just too proud to even think that they may be wrong
As someone who has worked in childcare for over 6 years I can definitely confirm that alot of people and parents don't see childcare as an actual job.. this leads to us being mistreated, taken advantage of and definitely looked down on. Occasionally you do get those nice parents who treat you like a human and that your job is actually meaningful so that gives you a nice feeling but they are few and far between, it's really sad. Big hug for everyone out there working in childcare right now. Keep up the great work!
The wife in the last story should have -5 out of five a-holes because she was an absolute saint of a woman. She showed kindness and compassion to someone who needed it. As for the grandparents they should be made to experience the hardships of being homeless, and given a taste of their own medicine and see how they like it. People like that who have zero compassion for others less fortunate than themselves royally piss me off and hope that their bad karma comes back to whack them upside their head.
That birthday cake one was so sad. She knows heâs broke but clearly doesnât care, as everything she wants is âadmittedlyâ not cheap. What an ass
Yep. He explicitly told her it would be too expensive and she refused to chip in. Obviously he was going to have to do something else.
Did she think he should go into debt for a birthday cake?
Sheâs a gold digger. He had made 6 figures and lived in a nice house. She wants him to go into debt to maintain their lifestyle all for a stupid birthday.
@@mindyschocolate - That's the vibe I was getting. The cake simply represented her dissatisfaction with his reduced income.
Hopefully they break up and she ends up with the first OP. They're both about as shallow as each other.
Not to mention he has a daughter to support on his now reduced income
The guy only has worth to her when he did 6 figures, now that he doesn't she doesn't love him anymore, she looks like a gold digger to me.
OP in the first story literally self reporting on how toxic he is. Sincerely hope Lydia got out of that relationship and has space to focus on herself and her health now.
Me too I hope she get away from this "man". She seem to have good friends to help her stay strong when he starts the love booming. Because if this is what he's posting on the internet I can't imagine the stuff he does that he wouldn't post on the internet. Honestly the comment that are r/slash about him printing this off and taking it to a therapist was spot-on because that's what he needs is some professional help to get over this thinking he has ownership of loved ones bodies.
@@LLandS18 as of 21 days ago she told him they need some space
@@beraid2808 good hope she leaves him and he get help.
I genuinely love it when rslash says stories about his childhood or about his relationship with his wife. The ones about his wife are always so cute!
OP in Story 1 Sounds like the kind of person who, if he doesn't get help, would kill their Girlfriend so no one else can look at her one day. That's some crazy level of possessiveness, and that type of mindset gets people to act really dangerous. I'd imagine a future where this guy has at least a restraining order put against him, and I hope to heck your girlfriend breaks it off with you because you definitely shouldn't have a girlfriend if all you can think about is how the friend's boyfriend /maybe/ saw her body while SAVING HER, instead of her well being and the possible terrible thing that's sickening her enough to pass out since she's in the hospital. Holy Hell.
1st story: OP has some serious issues. Like holy hell. Even if Jeff wasn't saving her life and he accidentally walked in on her. That response would be nuts.
3rd story: "Not as nice as a restaurant". THEN GO OUT YOURSELF.
I remember when I couldn't go to red lobster for my birthday so my family came together to make me a seafood dinner. I loved it.
@@Twinklethefox9022 Thatâs really sweet đ
Absolutely this for the third story. This year I wanted to go to a sushi restaurant after I got my presents so I got my husband in the car and paid for the meal myself. It didnât make it any less special. Just having his company was perfect for me.
That guy in the first story is *THAT* guy who, in 10 or 20 years, ends up killing his girlfriend/wife for having male friends or relatives she stays in contact with.
That or leaving the house to get groceries without his permission.
Run for the fucking hills, woman!
That guy would probably storm into his girlfriend's gynecologist's office screaming at him for looking at her hoo hah. Dude is psycho, and she needs to dump him. I mean, FFS he didn't even give a "good reason" why he was so upset that another guy may have seen his girlfriend naked. If it were me, I wouldn't care if the guy saw everything she was born with if he saved her life.
@@dx1450 His behavior reminds me of less extreme things one of my exes would say. Basically every single time we'd play a game or watch something and I'd comment a fictional - mind it, FICTIONAL! - guy is good looking, he'd respond with "I bet you'd fuck him?".
Those specimens should have 'A WALKING RED FLAG!' in bold caps perma tattooed across their faces.
@@Sapphiresenthiss I'd probably ask that, too, but more in a curious way to find out what my girl likes. Certainly not in a jealous way. Like for instance my wife likes watching The Resident because she thinks Conrad is hot. But I don't get jealous because I know it makes her hot for me.
@@dx1450 And your reasoning makes sense. Except there are certain things he knew about that made it more than clear I'd not do the things he repeatedly asked about. His reasons were nothing but insecurity, messed up jealousy and pathetic attempts to make me feel guilty for something that was never a thing to begin with.
Perhaps deep within he knew he was a toxic masculinist and an incel, but then again probably not.
Others in the comment section on that post talked about how men have indirectly killed the women in their life by refusing them medical treatment because "the staff are men". Reeks of insecurity, a fragile ego, and misogyny
That first story infuriates me on a personal level as hospital staff who's seen a muslim man tell his wife in active labor that she won't be getting any care and they're leaving because our only doctor was male. Misogyny is deadly.
1st story: Op sounds insane and I agree with the comment saying he should get therapy. Op is worried about the wrong thing here. He should be worried about his girlfriend passing out not another guy seeing her naked. Jeff saved her life and Op yells at him because he thinks Jeff saw her naked? Even if he did, Jeff didn't have any intent of sexual assaulting her.
Story 4: Wow, the wife is a godsend. The grandparents? Nope. The fact that they disapproved of a former homeless man marrying their daughter to the point that they didnât want anything to do with the two for over *15 years* really shows how trashy they are.
just cus you got trash around, it doesn't mean your trash
I wouldn't mind marrying a former homeless man. Just as long as he's a good man.
The kindest people I've met all come from rough backgrounds or abusive upbringings. Sometimes being around the worst of humanity teaches us to be the best we can be.
I've been homeless in my younger years but now I own my house with no mortgage and i got a 5 digit savings account.
Yeah. I mean, I can understand their initial hesitation in regards to OP, because you never know why they're homeless, and there are some cases where the homeless person is an alcoholic/drug addict and just spend any money they get on drugs/booze, and then there are the 'career homeless', who make themselves look homeless and sit on the street begging for change, and then bring that money to their actual nice home, and literally make being homeless their job, raking in a lot of sympathy money. But once things progressed and it became obvious that OP wasn't either of those types of people, they should have become more accepting, but they didn't. And then, years later, when OP's son asks him what happened between them, yeah OP should have told the truth, because their son, who is 16, deserves to know the truth. And he's old enough to make his own decisions about his grandparents, and whether or not he wants to see them.
Third story: OP, what is wrong with you?! A homemade cake has someone's money, effort and feelings in it. You don't even dare to disrespect it with just a look. OP doesn't deserve her boyfriend.
Exactly!
This! And most of the time, store-bought cakes arenât that good
I don't think she's that big a butthole for saying that she wanted a nice store bought cake, maybe just a bit entitled. That's in regards to her saying that to her boyfriend though. She's a god damn hellspawn for not rushing to make things right with the daughter.
@@goazer2 No no. She's saying that he should've bankrupted himself to buy a cake or go out for dinner.
It's not a "I wanted a better cake" it's a "I know you can't afford anything better, but buy it anyway and damage your financial situation"
Not wanting to accuse but op sounds a bit like a golddigger
The camera crew rant made me die of laughter because I was imagining Rslash's dog standing by the door like "What? He's playing dead" đ
As someone with her own set of jealousy problems, Iâm looking at OP from the first story and wondering, âDude, WTF is wrong with you?!?â Among other things rSlash did a good job of articulating.
Yes, boyfriendâs being ridiculous about it. As far as they know, the dude was very respectful by trying not to see and by helping save her life. Why is he mad??? Does he know that doctors would likely see her naked? Would he wanna fight doctors? How does he feel about OBGYNs? Why does he not believe that Jeff is telling the truth? Is he THAT possessive? Jealousy can be understandable but this dude needs to sort out his priorities. I understand getting mad for someone peeping on your gf, but thatâs weirdly possessive and shit. He didnât take advantage of her or anything, he broke down the door while her friend got her and covered her up and saved her life. Girlfriend, roommate and Jeff are totally in the right.
This is what actual toxic masculinity looks like despite the internet making it a meme. It's real and it's horrifying. This man is dangerous and if she stays with him it will escalate because he's so self entitled.
Why is he mad? He is mad because he owns his girlfriend, and how dare anyone dare look at *his* property! Even his girlfriend isn't allowed to show her body (which is actually his, remember) to anyone else. This is the kind of idiot who will be upset if she has a male GYN.
For the cake story, YTA. He went out of his way to make a cake for OP. Honestly, all that matters is the care and effort that was put into the cake, and OP is clearly not appreciative of that.
You're absolutely right. Not to mention she's an adult grow up it's just a birthday. She sound like one of those people that only think love language is giving expensive gifts.
Yeah those are pretty much my thoughts on the cake story as well. My mom once baked me a birthday cake that was designed to look like a giant hamburger. The thing looked amazing. It was three layers. The top and bottom layers were white cake while the middle layer was chocolate. The top and bottom layers were covered in butterscotch icing, while the middle layer was covered in chocolate icing. Then in between the top and middle layers there was also red icing (for ketchup), yellow icing (for mustard), and diced green jujubes (for relish), and then the top of the cake was sprinkled with sesame seeds. The thing looked amazing. Unfortunately, the cake itself was bone dry. I donât know if she forgot a step while making it, if she left it out too long and it went stale, or what but I needed to drink multiple glasses of milk just to wash down a single slice.
I would have loved if someone baked me a cake
I swear, I saw the title, and thought that the 13-year-old that was going to be upset about the cake.
That whole thing is ridiculous. Just get over yourself. I pretty much always do lobsters with my family for my birthday. In the past, when there's a situation where I still want lobsters but my family is strapped financially and I'm not, I buy lobsters for everyone for my birthday. The celebration and being together is by far more important than how much money loved ones spend on some frivolous thing I want.
The first story is so sad. I've had my mom pass out in the shower due to a medical issue. If I wasn't there (in the home and heard her fall) she may not be. The last thing I was worried about was lack of clothing.
OP needs help. His gf could have hit her head, drowned or had any other medical issue.
That last story is just great. Not the grandparents, of course, but the rest. OP's wife helped out a homeless guy who just didn't want to be in the rain, and helped him get his life together. After that they became good friends, then boyfriend and girlfriend, then husband and wife, with his wife choosing him over her parents. Then they have a son, and he chooses to defend his parents. It's just amazing.
The first OP is a classic example of a man being possessive and insecure about his partner. I can't stand people like that.
These people frequently kill their partners.
@@markedwards3647 Yeah I'm not surprised.
Yeah he literally is talking like he owns her body
It's probably a good thing the roommate and roommate's bf barred OP from seeing her at the hospital. I can fully imagine some poor male doctor or nurse getting decked for like... checking her vitals or putting EKG tabs on her chest.
Or, heck, helping her on and off a bedpan.
The emphasis RSlash gave on OP not owning the gfâs body is literally so important. Fucking great job, Iâm proud of recommending this channel as much as I have. Seriously, thank you.
I remember seeing the last story elsewhere, and some of the OP's additions in the comments made the grandparents even worse. Our man wasn't homeless when they met due to some stupid early life decision making, where you could kinda understand the at the time future in laws being wary at first, much as they'd still be terrible for ignoring the part where he'd clearly turned his life around. Dude was homeless due to escaping an abusive home as a teen, when the friend's couch he'd been crashing on became unavailable due to the friend's family circumstances, IIRC. Man got him self an SSS tier wife and it sounds like they've raised a fine child in the end though, so I really hope seeing how much he /wasn't/ the asshole from the outside beat back the attempted grandparental guilt enough he's back at enjoying life once more.
The first story just wow. The guy basically admitted that his girlfriend was not considering a girlfriend but only as a plaything that is better off dead than not "played" with by another person. Also I know that Jeff was not playing with her but this seems to be how OP perceives things which is sickening AF.
Exactly. He acted like she was not only an object, but his possession.
If Jeff was a bad person and took advantage of her, heâs probably blame Lydia because she shouldnât have let other people play with her when sheâs passed out đ€ą
In his eyes she is an object for him to use, and he would rather have her die than be seen naked.
Last story: they had 16 years to get to know their grandkid, you invited them to see him when he was a baby. All you did was answer a question truthfully, he would have found out at some point anyway.
I get being upset if a SO doesn't tell you they had a health scare. But that OP is upset for all the wrong reasons.
First story reminds me of a case I heard,
Woman sued a man for assault for putting his lips on hers,
After he pulled her out of water, realised she wasn't breathing and gave her CPR.
Said because she didn't give consent, for her life to be saved, he assaulted her.
Should've let her drown them. You make it hard to save you. Good luck getting saved.
First story: dude not the time. This was an emergency situation where your girlfriendâs health was on the line. In these situations sometimes you gotta do things that would normally be seen as rude like possibly seeing someone exposed. They even tried to cover her with a towel so she wasnât completely exposed. The fact that youâre more concerned about the guy seeing your girlfriendâs parts than her current health state says a lot.
Second story: âchildcare isnât a real jobâ yeah tell that to the teachers teaching your precious kids.
Third story: you grown entitled brat. Your boyfriend and his daughter put in as much effort as they could to make your day special and you decide that because itâs not exactly what you wanted you hate it. Well in life you donât always get exactly what you want. Heâs struggling financially here too. âIâm not paying for my own birthday cake.â Sounds like you can afford to but you just donât want to because perish the thought that little miss princess has to make real world sacrifices.
I would give you like but you have 69 likes at the time of this comment so I just leave a comment because I am immature and also "NICE".
But I agree on the first story.
Third story. Imagine not being grateful that you have a family that will show their love by trying to make you something from the heart.
@@JerziTBoss
Hackie Puffs' like counter is above 300. You can give OP a like now.
@@13BGunBunny Thanks for the reminder... He got my like
@@JerziTBoss
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Imagine if Jeff and the girlfriend were there alone. You KNOW OP would expect Jeff to not do shit because of OP's psychotic insecurities. He took a life threatening situation and turned into a sick sexual situation.
Not all nudity is sexual.
That last sentence is the most important part of this whole situation and I really wish more people would realize this.
"Any job in childcare isn't a real job"
Wow. Just wow. I'm also a nanny. I'm not making as much as OP there, but it's a real job and very high in demand during this pandemic. I spent a year with kids doing remote learning, and am now watching toddlers for two separate families because though some daycares are open, the littlest ones are at high risk since they're not vaccinated and of course can't social distance. One of the babies contracted COVID last year (despite the parents and I all testing negative) and he was lucky to pull through. And even outside of the pandemic, childcare is a respectable job, because you're responsible for the lives of someone else's kids. When the parents are at work, you're the person to make sure the kids are cared for and safe. If the kids get sick, or get into an accident, then you're the one to provide first-aid.
In fact, I'm envious of OP that she gets her own guesthouse and car with the job. Not all nanny positions get perks like that.
Your responses are getting more and more personalized and deep and I am so here for the new energy in them
First story: usually, people who come to AITA ask if they're the asshole for not liking a cake
2 stories later: AITA for not liking a cake?
Oh the irony, that was a good one
I giggled at that too lol
This seems planned lol
foreshadowing, am i right?
The last story actually made me smile, despite everything. The relationship between OP and his wife, and how they met, sound amazing.
Sucks that OP's wife's parents are classist people, like imagine finding a person who's had the same homeless life struggle as OP and offering to help that person, but your family refuses to let you help them simply because they're homeless, like you're trying to help the person get back up on their feet, but your family is preventing you from helping them because they see homeless people as these low class disgusting people.
As someone who's been through childbirth, there's a point where you just don't gaf. Anyone can see my naked body for medical reasons, especially in a medical emergency. If my husband's best friend had to rip my shirt off to jump start my heart or something, fine. But both me and my husband are extremely secure in our relationship so...
That scenario about the gf accidentally blocking the drain and drowning from the rising water level really hit close to home for me. That's how my nephew died from an epileptic seizure. That boyfriend (OP) is a proper oaf.
Last story: Kid was 16 and had the right to his grandparents. He also the right to know the TRUTH. His choice not to want to spend time with the Grandparents
The kid wouldn't have known anything if the GRANDPARENTS hadn't brought it up.
As a woman, i would much rather save my naked butt in the shower than be like "oh she's naked I can't help her"
Yeah. That's the same argument that those who say that "You don't have the right to kiss them to practice CPR !" Ok, so what, let them drown with the water in their lungs ?
Isn't there this famous story of this empress who was drowning, and the guards knew she was drowning but also knew that they would be penalized for touching the empress at any time, so they just... let her drown instead of saving her life? Your comment reminds me so much of that lol
@@zexionfan15 yes I've heard that story. I can't remember if it was proven true
Story 1: My old best friend passed out in a bathroom years ago and landed in a way that prevented him from breathing, if he had landed differently he would most likely have lived, passing out can be deadly in so many ways.
I can imagine r/slash and his wife chuckle at how bad the cake was while really enjoying the gesture of his wife
I bet the OP would yell at an EMT if they were doing chest compression on Lydia after she suffered a sudden cardiac arrest.
âWHAT ARE DOING TOUCHING MY GFâS CHEST?!â
He is more concerned about his fragile ego than his girlfriendâs health, safety, or happiness.
His ego is as fragile as glass.
@@ramya.Catlady.30 please don't insult it like that, glass is ten times less fragile than OP
@@sethmichel6138 too true. I was trying to think of something better than glass but I couldnât think of anything else.
I don't know if this was pointed out in the first story, but there's a reason why the girlfriend did not tell her boyfriend about what happened. She knew he would overreact. I feel like I'm reaching but the relationship seems toxic.
More like abusive..
That's not a reach. Good on you for noticing the red flags. That intuition could save someone's life someday, so don't you dare lose it!
I was thinking the exact same thing. Nobody said a word to him about it until he asked later. I think she knew that he would erupt in a fit of jealousy. Probably explains why he watches her fall asleep, too.
That part seem like she thought he'd be worried about her which actually seems caring even if the rest of the thread clearly shows that there's some toxicity happening here
Almost cried hearing about that homeless to happy end story. Still glad to hear about how there are absolutely amazing people out there
OP in the first story is insane, no wonder his gf didn't feel the need to tell him she fainted, she must have had other red flags in the past that cause her to feel unsafe with him.
Story 1: What the peck is wrong with you, OP? Lydia could have DIED if Jeff didnât help her! Just be thankful that Jeff and his GF saved her life!
Iâve never heard anybody use the word peck in a sentence
@@Heisenberg000. The good news is the GF told OP that they need to be away from each other for a while. That was 21 days ago.
@@songohan3321 what does that have to do with the word peck?
@@Heisenberg000. I have only heard it in "a hat in time"
First ever op get 5/5 a hole I've seen on rslash
The day I see it, Jeff shouldn't have hesitated. Naked or not, if someone needs medical attention, their modesty is the last thing you should worry about. Would it be embarrassing to find out later? Of course it would - but i'd rather deal with the embarrassment of somebody seeing my hairy, acne-covered body than dying.
Speak for yourself man! I really appreciate the friend coming through with the emergency towel. To be fair, I'm sure if she saw the situation was realllly bad, like broken skull or bloody mess bad, she probably would have forgot about the towel
@@superoriginalname2851 I respect your opinion, but i'm telling you this is how medical professionals would see the situation. To them, every second wasted trying to protect a person's modesty is a second that could be used to save their life. Ask any medical professional, they'll tell you it doesn't matter if the person has poop smeared on their butt. Because if that person isn't breathing or doesn't have a heartbeat, every second counts. There are certain priorities, and generally, saving the person's life is considered more important than their dignity. You can disagree, and i totally understand! But sometimes that's just how it is.
@@ToastyNoneofyourbusiness Yeah I know, but this story isn't even about trained professionals it's just some guy. "I respect your opinion but," well then clearly you don't lmao otherwise you wouldn't be going off on a tangent like that. Do you just like being right?
@@superoriginalname2851 the other person is right wth are you on about?
Not really hesitating if the roommate was going in. Maybe the roommate knew first aid, or more advanced medical techniques, that Jeff didn't. Like, obviously, if it's more than a one person job, the roommate would have called Jeff in. It wasn't, so, hey, by not going in, everyone was spared entirely unnecessary embarrassment. Plus, most places don't have laws necessitating bystanders render aid in emergencies, because while seconds count in many situations, doing the wrong thing in the wrong way at the wrong time just as often makes things worse.
Is it bad that I have now watched so many of his amazing videos that I now say the words âI make new reddit videos every single dayâin my head before he says it at the end. Love ur content man!
As a woman that frequently passes out, sometimes in the shower. Iâve relinquished the fact that if I were to pass out in the shower I wouldnât be able to control who saw me.
Even as a teenager I passed out a few times in the shower and would call my mom who would cover me with a towel and my brother would come in to carry me out.
Iâd be so pissed if a partner acted like this as this is a very possible reality for me, luckily my current boyfriend is super nice.
I don't know, nor have I ever known a single 16 year old that wouldn't cuss someone else out in a situation like that. OP and his wife did an amazing job raising a respectful, caring and mature child
Hell, I'm 26 and if I found that out I'd be calling up my grandparents (if they were still alive) and would be TEARING into them.
"Well, you could've died in the shower, but I absolutely cannot BELIEVE another human saw your naked body. Absolutely unacceptable." The first guy is absolutely insane.
Edit: Absolutely UNACCEPTABLE that you were in the general vicinity of my naked girlfriend.
Come on say it with me
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Bro you don't own her she is her own person who needed help. Jeff did the right thing 100000% #welovejeff
Like DUDE! How does he feel if a doctor needs to see her naked? Does he flip out?
What if his girlfriend ever needs to be resuscitated. Mouth to mouth, omg someone else kissed my girlfriend! Her heart needs a jump start, omg someone saw her boobs! She needs to go to ob/gyn for a check up, omg someone saw and touched my girlfriend! That's it, I'm not going to be a cuck! I hope the girlfriend sees this red flag the size of this universe and dodges that bullet for good. Oh, and he's r/letsnevermeet material for every woman out there.
Accidents happen, EMERGENCIES happen.
If its one of either (maybe more) then you have a lot of extra "Permissions", and thats assuming seeing someone naked is as bad as this guy points out, and i dont understand why it would be...
Doctors literally have to remove some if not all clothing of patients to get to the source of their injury if I'm not mistaken. How dare they see the naked body of somebody even though they're saving their life!!
7:00 Controversial thing to say here, I have empathy for OP in this first story, because I used to be just like him, something similar to this even happened once and it led to a lot of tension between me and the partner I had at the time. The fact is this reaction is based out of 1: Not knowing yourself very well which is something to delve deeply into all on its own and 2: In not knowing yourself, not realizing just WHY you're having this reaction. Deep, deep insecurities that go unrecognized can tear you apart, and the natural reaction to those insecurities manifesting themselves in a situation like this one is to go into a blind rage or to "See Red." Anger is a reactionary emotion, it is a response to something, and insecurities can run deep and be very painful to confront and arguably even more painful to deal with. Listening to this story caused me to relieve some moments from my younger life, including the ignorance as to what the problem really is.
I really hope OP sees this, because unlike what rSlash said about you with the whole Facetime till bed thing, I think that is the sweetest thing, you taking time out of every night to be there for your girlfriend. You are not worthless OP, you are not stupid, or any of these other names, you just don't know yourself yet. Please don't let this turn you to hating yourself and please learn to explore yourself. Every part of your psyche needs attention, your fears and concerns need to be addressed before they get worse. You are a human being, and if I can go from someone who had reactions very, VERY similar to yours, to someone who can look at your situation with pained empathy because I see myself in you, though I am not there now, please believe you can grow from where you are now too.
I will add that when OP had his reaction and started yelling and the other couple came in, including Jeff, everything they said would have only heightened my reaction, increased my insecurities and thus, increased my rage. In his shoes, in a younger version of me, I would have acted very, VERY similarly, and getting away honestly seems like the only option sometimes, because it feels like everyone has betrayed you, including your partner, when they haven't.
OP, if given the chance, apologize vehemently to your girlfriend. I'm tempted to be vindictive towards Jeff and his partner for their role in this because I all to readily see things from your perspective due to my past self, but the fact is they did nothing wrong. I would apologize to them as well, but I would also softly, but firmly tell them it is absofraginglutely none of their business if I see my girlfriend or not, it is solely hers and politely tell them to stay the frag out of my way, while still apologizing to them for my earlier treatment, but not my current.
If you get a chance to speak to your girlfriend again, explain to her you blame her for nothing of what happened FIRST! Then explain that you believe your reaction was based out of you not knowing yourself as well as you might have thought, and explain you have some soul searching to do, as you figure out why you had the reaction you had, and how to combat it, and that, if she's interested (and if you think you can do this last part with her,) ask her to share in that experience with you, so you can learn and grow as a couple. It may go well, it may not. Best of luck OP, and remember, you're a person, regardless of how people treat you while you're at your lowest point.
I mean to say, make sure to apologize to her for the whole thing Second! Do that before explaining the rest, and do so vehemently!
you are as bad as the op
16:10 a very similar thing happened to my parents, when I was born, instead of loving us all equally they basically ignored my parents and took me in as if I didnât even have parents, obviously, we cut contact with them.
Op from the cake story definitely started dating him due to his 6-figure salary. Her total lack of empathy and understanding of their situation makes that very clear.
shes a terrible person for wanting him to spend a zillion dollars for her bday and not appreciating his homemade dinner and cake, which are far more thoughtful and worth a hell of a lot more
@@jiogcyihsugyiocjfdoivhphvw6821 Yeah, the bit then she says that it's not as good as in a restaurant, that's all you need to figure out that OP is one of those people who prefers eating at stores and restaurants over home made meals and desserts.
If I was in that situation I would be thanking Jeff so much because without him my girlfriend couldâve died, so Iâd be very grateful
Yeah his girlfriend is really lucky to have him
Ive passed out in the shower before and it sucks. I wouldve given anything to not have to deal with that whole thing by myself. Crawling out of the tub with zero strength and laying on the ground panting, ugh..
Props to the girl who is a nanny, she rocks and she definitely has a good heart.
First OP's priorities are completely screwed. The girlfriend needs to run, NOW
On a more positive note, for that formerly homeless OP I want to say congrats on getting yourself out of that situation. It really sounds like you had the best outcome imaginable. So good job.
12:50 he was like "which was- like- i-it's sweet!" omg so cute him and his wife must be the most adorable couple everrrđ„ș
Omg, OP's wife is a literal angel, and I have no idea how someone so pure and caring could ever come from people that are so terrible
Last story: There is a reason they call it the "ugly" truth.
Yeah, OP now has to deal with the fallout of being honest, but I value telling truth over trying to protect people who haven't even apologized for their awful behaviour. OP showed to be the bigger person when they let their son choose, but after hearing the full story, the son made an informed decision and decided they did not want a bond after all. That to me, is the end of it.
The parents can think of it what they want, they will never see how this is their own doing. Just go no contact again.
I mean, I can understand from the parent's perspective that they would be suspicious at first. If I had a kid and they came home telling me "Oh, btw, I'm dating this guy that I met as a random homeless person two years ago, I wouldn't exactly be happy about it. Then again, I'd be proud of my kid for looking past money and all that to see a person with value... and when I got to know their partner, I would probably change my mind about them. Not ignore my own grandkid for 16 years.
@@Roozyj I agree! And they were so incredibly condescending about coming back like: "Oh I still don't care about you, I am only interested in your child"
Story 1 I'm glad they're keeping him away from the gf. He's crazy she literally could've died and all he cares about is if Jeff saw her naked or not. Even now that she's in the hospital.
her roommate's boyfriend sounds like a real gentleman I hope OP's girlfriend leaves him he's really insane
@@juliaboskamp9666 you are right but the word "gentlemen" has been oubsolutley murdered in my eyes.
@@12yroldedgelord41 what do we call him then?
@@juliaboskamp9666 A mensch.
@@andrewvelonis5940 oke he is a mensch
Bro what if it wasn't Lydia in the bathroom, I'm sure Jeff, or anyone with the power to break down the door would have broken down the door.
OHMYWORD that last story! That couple is PRECIOUS and must be defended at all costs.
You knowâŠwith that last story, Iâm really glad OPâs son asked him about why they donât talk, cause you know if he asked the POS in lawâs they would have lied and played the victim. NTA OP and youâve raised a great kid.
the first OP is in such a delusion to think that:
1: it's his decision who can or can't see her gf's body
2: that a medical emergency is less important that the sacro saint sanctity of his gf's nips
3: that any professional wont ever look at her
4: that lesbians and bi that might be attracted to his gf aren't a thing, so therefore only men should be prevented to see his gf's body
jeez, this guys is a walking red flag, what would have happened if they had to call 911? they wont let only women come to help her
Oh yeah I never thought about that what if Jeff was gay?? What if he was only interested in guys?? Would OP still have a problem??
5. Very likely could just be a troll. At least I hope it is.
@@HackiePuffs
I actually think that Jeff was dating her roommate? Or maybe I misread the story :")
@@HackiePuffs Jeff was her roommate's boyfriend.
@@HackiePuffs jeff is dating the roomate so he's at least somewhat into girls. but yeah if it had been a gay friend of hers he would probably still lash out and throw a tantrum. My ex didnt have an issue with me reviewing my female friends nudes/lingerie pics before they send them to their bf or gf despite me telling him many times i was bi.. because he didnt believe being bi was a thing ^^' meanwhile he'd go mad if i wore any light cleavage saying i wanted to flash other guys and from what i'm seeing this dude seems to have about the same logic...
My 33rd birthday is coming up and a birthday cake is literally the least important thing to me lol. What kind of grown woman âpicks outâ a birthday cake. Alex needs to drop her.
I imagine that guy going to the pharmacy, getting a whole as crate of EpiPens and the pharmacist being like "oh your mum send you a care package? You gotta bring me the cookies that you don't eat" đđđ
The last story is honestly so wholesome, it's great to see how a homeless man is now a happy, married man with an amazing wife and child. NTA, and I wish OP a happy future with his wife and child.
I wonder when the movie is coming out.
My eyes: have merc-waaaaa
It just sucks that his wife's parents are a bunch of classists who, I like to imagine, see all homeless people as those stinky low class drug taking pervs.
Last story: I just wanted to say I'm super proud of OP and his family. OP raised his son well
I love the fact that your friend loves those peanut butter cookies so much that he is willing to sacrifice his health to eat them lmfao
That last story made me tear up, because of how freaking sweet it is.
That third story grinds my gears. Op seems like the type of grade a douche bag to only like a guy because of how much money he makes. Iâm guessing that it hurts when op sits down on her behind because the stick up there must go up farther.
What did she do...? I'm confused. Literally all she did was tell her parents that they need to stop ragging on her for having a childcare job, because she makes more money than both of the siblings they compare her too.
Edot: I *think* you might mean Story 3, not Story 2, lol.
@@DopeioThePhoneBoi I think they probably ment the 3 story
@@liessibrand2383 thank you I looked at the time stamps and thought that the second story was the third lol
Op in the first story is talking about his girlfriend like he owns her or something, what the hell
First OP isnt a prick, he's the whole cactus. His girlfriends picker is messed up to have chosen him as a BF
As for the first story, in the UK duing CPR/defibrillator training they always talk about the consideration of how some people might not want you to take their clothes off in order to be defibrillated, but in that situation life comes before dignity.
The story of the former homeless OP and his kind wife is so heart-warming. It's a story of absolute true love against the odds.
Jeff and Lydia: "You are not allowed to see her. You don't deserve her!"
OP: **Surprised Pikachu Face**
6:26 my husband wouldn't give a crap WHAT someone saw! They saved my life! That's a protector. Mad applause đđđđ
I was always the loser in my family. To tall, awkward and just an embarrassment to them. I grew up and was an alcoholic. I got myself together when I was 28 and then my life improved. I met my husband at a 12 step meeting and I married him 2 days later. We were together for 25years until he passed away suddenly. My family never knew what an amazing daughter we had. By her choice she didn't want to know the people who had thrown away their own children. Great stories. đ
The first OP is definitely deserving of a 5 out of 5. He's 25 but has the immaturity of a 3 year old. And for the second story, my mom has a masters in special education. Special ed pays a lot more than what a general education teacher makes due to its high demands and extended education. Special education educators not only have to take general ed courses with 2 minor but an additional major in special education. I have a few general ed teachers in my family who don't consider my mom as a "real" teacher like them even though, unlike them, she has a masters and can run circles around them. Paras, respite works and especially ed teacher are rockstars!
First story: donât insult a 3 year oldâs maturity like that
Imagine being an EMT and have to worry about jealous boyfriends Wtf
The story behind my wife and I meeting is somewhat similar to the last story. My wife and I have been married for the past five months, and dated for almost two years before that. I was on probation, barely able to get by every day, until one day we started talking in a group chat. Her family didn't approve of me because of my past as a drug addict and all around piece of garbage, until I was able to prove that I've changed and that I'm better than I used to be. Now, I'm one of my wife's assistant managers at work and can't be more thankful to her and her family for helping me stay on a better path towards a brighter future. Sorry that I'm leaving out details, just had to get this off my chest though
When it comes to the first story, if I had a boyfriend and he ended up in that kind of situation, I wouldn't even care if they gave him a handjob while they were helping. Him being alive and safe is the one and only important thing to be concerned about.