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- Äas pĆidĂĄn 3. 08. 2024
- r/AmITheA**hole In today's story, OP is married to a woman in a wheelchair, and for some reason his sister just absolutely hates his wife. They get into a fight, and OP's sister says something awful about his wife, so OP decides to take the nuclear option and tell mom and dad what their sister's real profession is. If you like this video and want to see more, subscribe to my channel for more daily Reddit posts!
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The person whose parents stole her collage fund should be able to sue if that money was left to them. That money was technically stolen.
It was in bank accounts in the parents names though. Don't onow if there'd be a legal leg to stand on. Fuck that made me so mad too though.
I hope they win and get the money back.
@@FireAndBlood96 there is, if the will says that then thats what they have to do, op can sue them for breaking the will and get the money back since it was never legally theirs.
I would be seeing a lawyer the same day.
It may have been in their name, but the will had conditions. The parents broke the will and commited theft, perhaps even fraud.
The college one... just wow. That's infuriating.
I was shocked those parents would actually think OP would be okay with spending all her money on her sister! Sounds like those parents were playing favorites and we all know how well that works out.
I agree
She should sue her parents for going against the will of the grandma.
@@cloudie1464 Depends on how the will is worded.
I commend op for just abstaining from sex to follow the rules of grandma's will. she should definitely try to see if there's anything she can do about the money that the parents took and she earned since she followed/respected the rules
SUE For the money. It said in her grandmother's estate, "Don't get arrested, do drugs, be a drunk, GET PREGNANT, or someone else pregnant." Bt we just gonna ignore that part of the estate instructions
@Jack the Gestapo - they just as easily argue against it
I think r/ was realy wrong
Jack the Gestapo What? What judge can be that dumb?
@Jack the Gestapo It is not grammatically correct as the words would be separate by comas indicating it still part of the sentence and it is not morally correct as no grandparents would go around leaving official documents saying do drugs and get pregnant.
@Jack the Gestapo are you a lawyer or a judge?
How is it OP's fault that the parents of the three children never taught their children to respect/not damage someone elses property, such as that clock?
Personally I agree, I understand why people are saying they ATA, but I guess I look at like this. Did OP act a bit harsh yes, absolutely. But the parents are also A, because the OP is doing them a favor. Yes it was an emergency but why of all people would you ask OP knowing they don't like kids, nor have any knowledge of how to care for them. The least they could do is offer to pay to fix it show they are sorry. It would go a long way to show they did value OP's time and help
Yes, youâre right, but who leaves young children alone and unsupervised in a room with fragile objects?? Thatâs asking for it. Children are mischievous and curious
â@@miku33558Exactly. OP took the kids in despite his lack of experience and lack of care and then got angry when neglecting them ended poorly
The parents definitely should have found a better way to get the kids taken care of and probably should have warned their kids not to go touching stuff but OP took the kids in and accepted responsibility for them
â@@miku33558no, the sister is the one at fault, the op told her no, she pressured so she would take care of them, even if she knew op didn't want it, now she has to handle the consequences
â@@jplayzowop should have just called child support and moved on
"If you really loved me, you'd do X" is a major red flag that the person is abusive.
The only good action in this situation is to dump them immediately, and the daughter should be made aware of that.
I agree
People in relationships should pay for thier own got damn shit. I'm in one, yeah occasionally if I'm out with my bf he'll lend me a pound or I'll give him a little money. Gifts that you dont ask for, great. As long as you do the same. Relationships fall apart if it's kinda one sided
NoCause soundcloud.com/user-3909721/yvngvdz-water
âItâs cute to be a gold diggerâ
My mother in law is like that, she fights with her husband everyday.
I kinda feel sad for them, they don't realize what's wrong in their relationship.
Parents: Let's use the kid's inheritance. She'll never notice.
Kid: I'm off to college. So glad I can pay for it with my inheritance!
Parent: Ummmmm
Evil Cat Overlord From H311 sadly I think this case true
That story made me so friken mad... I hope OP can sue her parents and go to her dream college at their expense.
@@funkyfreak97 read the top comment :D
Edit: well the second, from Lightning J
That story is clearly fake
My reaction if those were my parents "I hope you like getting sued for basically stealing my inheritance that was for my college because OH BOY, I'M DEFINITELY TAKING YOU TWO TO COURT!"
"There's no way a judge will rule in your favor". It's called destruction of personal property.
Property. The "personal" part doesn't matter.
assumption of risk so no the judge wonât rule in their favor
@@JodyBruchon It does matter.
@@niggatron4072 That makes no sense whatsoever.
@@DrunkSamurai No, it doesn't. "Personal property" is private property. Private property is one of the foundations of any free society. Only stupid socialist wannabe revolutionaries say "personal property" as if it's somehow different from private property.
You were quick to let the sister off the hook. But her reaction was that she damn well knew that she was spending her sisters money.
Nobody:
The mom in the 2nd story:
_Gold digging is cute_
I mean, basically. Though, she was saying just in her first relationship, so I guess she didn't think she was encouraging that
The husband should introduce the boyfriend to the term "simp".
mum: fuckint drain his bank account
It is cute when a boy pays for something for a girl. But it's not cute when you beg for it or ask for it. And say that he should do it. But when your boyfriend decides to buy you something it is kinda cute.
@@zyzy9245 I would say it's cute only if it's reciprocated at a later date. (not like you keep a record, just that both parties like doing things for each other.)
"I didn't mean to come off controlling" Well sorry to tell you bud, but that's exactly what you're coming across as đđ
Plus. It's her hair. She can do whatever she wants with it.
I'm u can't hear how she's saying it
And insecure af
Yep he's a control freak with issues, a lucky escape for her.
@@treyjayray1859 and he even has a problem with her changing styles ...wtf
About the clock story:
Please avoid sending your kids to people who have no experience with kids. It could be pretty bad sometimes.
I disagree on rslash's rating on that story, because in the beginning, the sister made OP take the kids. But that's only my opinion im not exactly qualified on these ratings.
@@gamingwithcorkcoder1871 Tbh I some what agree but I think that rslash tends to lean towards the female's side. but I can say that OP should have refused and it was his fault. just because you are related doesn't mean they take immediate priority.
@@thunderknight4149 Good point. I'm not a pro at ratings.
I agree with @Purple_Chalk because this is what happens when you make someone who has NO experience with kids look after kids. Moreover, the sister low-key gaslighted her sister into agreeing because she started crying.
@@thunderknight4149 Yea but if your sibling started creating a scene for you neighbours how would you be able to handle it?
In the third story, one of the stipulations to receiving the money left by the grandmother was don't get pregnant. The sister technically shouldn't be getting her own share of the money, let alone OP's.
the fact that they used her share broke the will, she could sue and get the money from her parents along with having them removed as executors because they defrauded and stole from the tryst
@@bostonrailfan2427 if the money was in a bank account, I don't think it was in a trust.
They did still violate the terms of the will, though
"Her style changes a lot" boils down to "she wears different clothes on different days"? Shocker! And she doesn't consult you beforehand? How unreasonable! /s
People who put /blank at the end of a sentence make's me cringe, like people aren't that fucktarded to not understand sarcasm.
@@Robby_sbr Some people do actually have difficulty with that, especially in a text medium. Other people have different communication impairments, such as going out of their way to express how two typed characters infuriated them so much they had to write a whole-ass comment about it. It's ok. Those people can still live full, productive lives.
@@Robby_sbr Speak for yourself sometimes I canât tell the difference so donât get mad for people trying to be kind
@@Robby_sbr and your using a slur stop being so ableist
@@luka_lyn8159 you dont know if theyre neurodivergent, do you?
I hope she sues her parents for that money.
Same
Aye
She is
Yeah, busy reading the updates and seems like legal is the way she is going, also, either Rslash didn't read the updates or recorded this before then. but the sister is definitely an asshole when you read further.
Dominique Harriott soundcloud.com/user-3909721/yvngvdz-water
The clock one. I really feel that it was the parents fault for not teaching their kids to never touch things that don't belong to them. Specially if they're in someone else's house.
It was also the parents fault for leaving their children with someone who they know doesn't like kids, doesn't want to take care of kids, and thus is not going to know how to take care of them. So not only were OP's sister and her husband buttholes, they were being bad parents.
You're right. I understand the frustration of the OP and kids do mess up a lot. I initially sided with her but as she kept telling her story it made me realize she took things too far, and her update ultimately made me realize she's the butthole.
I disagree vehemently with rslash's opinion that the person upset about the clock is the asshole. The children's parents should have taught them not to touch things that are not theirs. The parents are the assholes for practically forcing their kids on an unwilling relative and they should pay to replace the clock!
@@GaJoe-cp2ou agree wholeheartedly, and was surprised, considering Rslash's opinions on other similar stories, I was shocked that he said OP agreed to watch them, while this was technically correct, it was an agreement under duress, which OP was harassed into, AND OP clearly stated that they have no experience with kids, and was uncomfortable with watching them.
@@IvanScriptsEverything OP, or the sister?
The story where OP parents used her inheritance for her sister. Only two words:
SUE THEM!!!!!!
Such stories make my blood boil!
Ikrđ
Me too
What's wrong with peopleđ€đ€đ€
hey! that's what i said! and by said I mean screamed at the top of my lungs.
People be like: oh they stole my money đđđ
Just sue them it's about 60-70k dollars if far more than worthit
Sue. The. Parents.
the OP who lost her inheritance should absolutely sue. Her sister clearly broke the rules of the inheritance, and so wasn't entitled to a penny.
definitely
It was the parents tho
@asad asd who said something racist?
@asad asd Who said something racist?
@asad asd Your brain needs an adjustment if you think anything said in this thread was racist.
âI didnât mean to sound manipulativeâ said the abusive boyfriend.
Generally phrases like that at the beginning are a strong indication that the OP is the butthole.
Yeah...it's a pretty bright red flag unless you just really aren't paying attention.
@@Firedrake1313 Even the title was a huge red flag.
You guys are stupid, the guy has a preference
@@its-laila9867 one thing is having a preference, another one is imposing your preference onto another person and that's when you cross the line into asshole territory.
The kids who broke the clock: They should have been taught to respect other peoples' property. I NEVER behaved like that when I was little because my parents would instill in me the importance of respect.
Why is it always okay for someone else's kids to break stuff and never have any consequences? I was a kid too and I never asked people to pull down their heirlooms and antiques so I could look or play with them. I was very conscious of how delicate old stuff could be. Or of how much it meant to the person. My 2 cousins never catch any flak for wrecking my things. Sometimes I don't even get a warning when they're being brought over. It's been just short a week that *a whole year ago* one of them shattered a Buzz Lightyear that I've had since I was like 5 or 6. Took me at least 3 months to pick up the pieces and solder a new battery compartment in. And did they feel bad? For all of 2 minutes. Did I ever get a *real* apology or any kind of repayment? Nope. Not even the $20 it cost to order a similar model off eBay to swap parts with. Not even an offer from their electronically skilled father to solder the connections back. And it's not like they ever get punished for disobeying what I say. If I tell them to leave something alone then it's, at best, a suggestion. What am I expected to do? Cram half the house into the other rooms and build a wall to keep the brats safe and sound in one room with nothing they could possibly damage? They never listen to me and the oldest girl used to use the excuse "You're just a kid, too. So I don't have to listen to you". *BITCH I'M 23 AND I'VE GOT MULTIPLE DEGREES* . She'll never punish them for not listening to me, and yet I'm still expected to keep them alive. How can I do that when they'll just run out into traffic just to spite me? Let's not even factor in that I'm an artist, and not everything I own can even be replaced.
I love those two to death, and I'd love to give them the world. I've custom made things and fixed broken toys. Even gone out of the way to get them stuff special, just how they want. Honestly, nothing in the world means as much to me as when we get the chance to play together. But apparently if they break stuff then I'm the only one it effects. It always comes out of *my* pocket.
Wow, it sounds like you really need to get that off your chest. I'm so sorry, and you're definitely the bigger person for loving those little walking disasters all the same.
I hope you have somebody you can confide to about this.
Oof man i had a similar issue with my nieces and nephews, minor stuff but the biggest was when one broke my gameboy sp, did anyone gave shit? Nope. Did anyone offered to replace it? Nope. I begged my parents to get me another one or at least have it fixed, nah. Took me like a year and a half to get a basic gameboy advance by trading some yugioh cards for one.
Omg, I know exactly what you mean! I've got a cousin who was born when I was fourteen (there's a pretty good age gap between my mom and my aunt because of how young my grandma was when she had my mom.) Anyway, my older cousin (born when I was nine,) would always get in trouble, always the one blamed, etc. But the younger one? Oh, absolutely not! Total golden child. Could do no wrong, and even if he did, "well, he's just a little kid, you need to make allowances for him." Yeah, uh, no. F*ck that! He ripped in half a chess/checkers board I had that I'd gotten as a kid, and he did that as a four year old. Then, icing on the cake, not only did he *know* that he did something wrong, he then hid the box, board, and pieces under the couch in our living room. When I finally found it the next day, I was pissed, and expected him to receive some kind of consequences, but did he? Of course not! Instead, I get told, "Well, if you don't want him touching your stuff, why did you leave it where he could get to it?"
Also, this was *years* ago, he's now in his twenties, has a completely entitled, bratty, "I'm never wrong" attitude, and has abused at least one girlfriend of his. So yeah. Parents need to enforce consequences.
All you can do is deal with it really, its not your fault, but rather the fault of whoever is raising the kids. The only chance they will ever learn anything about not breaking things is if they get punished, but either way I respect that you still love them after all that.
That college one hit a little close to home for me. My grandparents set up individual college funds for all the grandkids so we'd have college paid for. They'd send us money every semester growing up to add to the accounts. I always told my mom to put my birthday money toward college, my brother just kept his cash. Turns out my parents were SPLITTING MY MONEY into both mine and my brothers accounts so he wouldn't be screwed for college. When my grandpa saw that I was only depositing half, he asked me why, I said I wasn't. He talked to my dad, turns out my mom wasn't even telling my dad about it. My dad moved the money back to mine, thank God. We ended up setting up a second private account from my mom because when I was in college she was using *my* account to fund her shopping "because you have a half ride, you don't need all this money" ... Sued and won against her theft, used the extra money for my honeymoon
I like this. Sweet justice and money from the win in court.
Congrats on winning!
Nice!
đŻ
Sickening to have a mother that would do this to her own child. Sorry.
*entitled mom after embezzling thousands from a company through her boyfriend* âtee heeâ
Greyson soundcloud.com/user-3909721/yvngvdz-water
Greyson I thought other wings of fire fans didnât exist
If you search far enough you can find any fandom hidden in large channels
Person: Has enough money to go to college.
Parents:Hippity Hoppity, your money is now OUR property.
Lol
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Courts: Hippity Hoppity Boop, enjoy paying the girl back out the snoot
With the one about the kids breaking the clock, I personally think it's the kids fault. OP's sister left the kids there after OP reluctantly agreed. OP didn't even want to watch the kids in the first place, but was basically forced to. OP had to do some work in the study for a little bit, so they were busy and thought the kids would be fine to be left alone in a room for a little bit. Yeah, they're kids and mess around, but they shouldn't be touching something that expensive when it isn't theirs, and they didn't ask to touch it. OP is childless by choice, so they have a prized possession that wouldn't get broken by them, only for it to get smashed to bits when their sister's kids come over. I would be pissed too if I was OP! The kids parents need to own up to what their kids did, and pay for the clock, or how much it was worth. The parents didn't want to watch their own kids, so what makes them think that someone *who doesn't have kids* wants to watch someones kids? Feel free to disagree with me though, that's just my opinion.
The inheritance story: In germany we have have a word for people like the parents, "Erbschleicher". Could be translated as Legacy-hunter or inheritance-sneak and it's a felony here.
Luke Brainman gut zu wissen
Achja. Die Deutsche Sprache hat schon geile Wörter
Erbschleicher, ein Wort das jeder kennt aber kaum jemand dessen Bedeutung kennt oder es jemals benutzt...
Deutsch hatn paar nĂŒtzliche Wörter
Hiermit erklÀre ich diese Kommentarsektion zum Hoheitsgebiet der Bundesrepublik Deutschland.
Broooo Iâm fuming. How could parents do that to their OWN daughter?? She literally got into her dream college and is going to be in debt bc of their narcissistic actions. I feel like they show who their favorite child is tbhđđ
Ikr, that's such an awful thing to do. That story pissed me off to no end
Some parents are like that, it sucks. Hopefully she can eventually go nc and get back in
They couldve asked or take out a loan for other sis
I have to disagree with the post about the pregnant sister, Op said in an edit that the parents told the sister about the inheritance and ask the sister to keep o p in the dark, they been use the little bit of money that was left to buy ops sister a new car.
So yes, they sister is just as much an asshole as the parent
And very illegal...I think she can sue her parents for sure
The dude mad about his girlfriend dying her hair is seriously the a-hole in that situation, that's extremely controlling and manipulative, he didn't even give her a say just bluntly "I don't like it so you can't do it" tf kinda person is that. The gf definitely didn't overreact to that situation I'd honestly get out of that relationship as well because its extremely narcissistic and kind of abusive emotionally.
Seriously, the whole time he was reading the story, I was thinking âthatâs not your call to makeâ Iâm glad she left after the story was over.
Women who dye their hair are begging for social validation from other men. She's for the streets.
@@shaughnessyneal9426 or women dye their hair because they like the way it looks and want to dye it
@@shaughnessyneal9426 jhc, the people in these comments, you're like, person #2 who ive seen like this
For clock story:
Op's sister should know that OP doesn't like kids. Pretty sure she could just video call her husband while he's at the hospital if she wants her kids to be safe. You shouldn't leave children with someone who doesn't like kids or have experience with them. Sueing was an overstep, OP could've just asked their sister to pay it back over time. The clock was 1000USD. Also, the sister probably should've left some notes for OP since they don't know HOW TO TAKE CARE OF KIDS. And OP was pretty much forced to take them even though they said repeatedly that they can't take care of the kids.
the golden rule goes both ways.
"Treat others the way you want to be treated" also means that "if you're a jerk, other people are allowed to be jerks to you because obviously, you want it that way."
Dont dish out what you cant take
Unless you paraphrase the Golden Rule, like I do: Do unto others, then run.
@@frocat5163 that's less of a paraphrase and more of something totally different ^^
@@Nerobyrne I think you may have missed the joke...
@@frocat5163 did you forget to post it?
On the second one, if the man offers to pay, he is a gentleman. If he is expected to pay, then the daughter was raised wrong
I agree. And I'm the kind of person that when someone offers to buy my meal, I try to get the least expessive food option on the menu while also trying to get my favorites. The most expensive thing I ate was a lobster tail I think. But I payed with my own money.
gentleman needs to be a slur ;-)
If he offers to pay, he's expecting payback. If he's expected to pay and gets nothing back, he's a simp. There, I fixed it for you.
Jay Zenitram No heâs just respecting his girlfriend but if he pays ever meal and doesnât expect pay back then heâs a simp there fixed it
Yep đđ»
"it's not the kids fault, because they're kids."
And this ladies and gentlemen is exactly what is wrong with our world today. Those kids were old enough to take that clock off of the mantle and even being mentally mature enough to fight over it then guess what? They are plenty freaking old enough to know better and to be taught not to disrespect and or even touch other people's things without permission. But of course we have entitled parents who do not care enough to teach their little brats right from wrong and any amount of respect. my opinion is you need to teach and discipline your children from a young age or guess what's going to happen, when they get older like teenage years to young adults years, someone else is going to come along and beat the shit out of your kid in attempts to discipline them themselves because your hellish child still thinks the world revolves around them and wrongs the wrong person one too many times.
Indeed, they were clearly capable of knowing what they did was wrong (judging from how they acted afterwards), so they should've been fostered to also not do things they know are wrong
@@marquize- exactly my point. Completely agree đ
i love rslash, but his opinion is so wrong. the sister and bil are such douches. and yes, the kids probably shouldâve learned not to touch anything. if not, then the parents are terrible at doing their job.
factual
I think you're really undermining the age at when kids become eligible to participate in mischief. And if you dont know when that is, it's the first moment they learn how to move. Now does that make it right? No, but I think Rslash point is being misinterpreted while also he said badly. Obviously the kids are to blame, but leaving a bunch of children to their own devices when the parents gave you them for the sole purpose of watching them, should give you red flags as they're prone to bad behavior and obviously needs supervision and you should prepare to do so. So while I do agree the kids have blood on their hands, OP was asking for it and should be both angry at the parents and their own negligence while also the broken clock. Now I dont blame them wanting a replacement clock or sueing, as that's targeting the real culprits the parents for their lack of behaviorally parenting for their kids but OP still seems very vindictive towards the kids even before the incident.
About that clock story:
1. OP DIDNâT agree to watch the kids.
2. OP didnât have any experience.
3. The kids were old enough to know what they did was wrong.
4. The parents should have paid OP for the damage their Entitled Kids dealt.
5. OP was forced to watch kids with no notice.
6. OP could sue for the damage and get the parents arrested for child endangerment.
OP is not the a-hole. They didnât do anything wrong, but her sister and BIL abandoned their kids and scolded OP after the kids broke OPâs property. Those parents shouldnât be able to watch their kids anymore.
Jesus how entitled can u be, family is supposed to have eachother backs no matter what, even when we don't like it or don't want to. The parents had no other choice than to go to her, it was an emergency. And WHO IN THEIR RIGHT MIND THREATENS TO CALL CHILD SERVICES TO TAKE AWAY THEIR CHILDREN IF SHE LEFT THEM WITH HER. The only reason op's clock was broken is because she wasn't paying attention to them. Imagine if the clock were to seriously hurt one of the kids... smh
@@keganscorner344 the "because family" argument is one of the dumbest arguments known to man.
Its like saying "Help me cover up a crime i committed, were family so youre OBLIGATED to support me no matter what!"
Do you realize how stupid you actually are?
@@DragoNugget I suppose everyone's family situations are different but you don't THREATEN TO CALL CHILD SERVICES on children you know are safe when there are so many other people need it more. It's honestly the most sickening thing I've ever heard. So many people had their familys taken away from them and the fact that you're just throwing them aside as if they're nothing just proves how entitled people like you are.
@@keganscorner344 Nobody said anything about child services.
Besides, the OP wasnt obligated to watch these kids. Ive been taught at a VERY young age that you shouldnt touch others property. Yeah, the OP MIGHT be a prick, but the BIL got into a car accident while drunk driving and besides, the mother didnt HAVE to go to the hospital. The sister is just a shitty parent, its not because im entitled.
Oh sorry, i gtg, my sister says i have to help her bully a gay kid in school cuz fAmilY. Byeee!
Edit: Nvm, they did talk about CPS but besides that, OP was well in their right for everything
@@keganscorner344 ummm.... you would call the police because the children were abandoned, if you show up at someone's door, drop your kids off, and no one agrees to take responsibility for them, family or not, you are abandoning them. and let's talk about "family," "family," is just a fancy word for people who came out of another jerks vagina, or who porked your mother, or your mothers mother, or your father's sister etc... being blood-related does not NECESSARILY mean anything, Hitler had "family," Ghengis khan had "family." "Family" can be assholes, entitled, abusive, complete and total scum, just like anyone else, that word is not a pass to use, abuse, and take advantage of people. If OP did call the cops they would have been 100% justified.
The person who lost there college fund to the preggo sis should sue her parents
yet another example of "not having a proper health care system screws people over".
It's not uncommon for this to screw people over who had nothing to do with the reason the costs exist.
Exactly
Completely agree, especially because of the grandmother's stipulation that they don't get pregnant. If that's really what it says then she may not just be entitled to her share but also the sister's share. I wouldn't persue it personally but the option is there.
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heart bell soundcloud.com/user-3909721/yvngvdz-water
My bf didn't want me to dye my hair either, I asked for his opinion because I wanted to dye it pink, and he said something similar "I don't think it would look good/ it will damage your hair," i just showed him some examples i liked, but Im the most indecisive person so i never went through with it. Next time we were at the grocery store, he took a dye box and said "hey this looks like what you showed me", i said i wasn't sure i wanted to do it. He encouraged me, and said that he had to be honest when i asked his opinion, but that it shouldn't matter, if i wanted it, i should go for it!! I was so happy and said "it's actually THIS color"not only did he pay for it (I never ever ask him to pay for anything of mine, but he insisted), but he helped me! He split my hair,mixed the chemicals, aplied it, and all. It wasn't a dramatic change since my hair is dark, and i didn't bleach it. But i was so happy. Then i got pregnant and couldn't do my hair for a long time. My baby is 2 now, and a few days ago he said "hey you never got to do your hair how you wanted it, if you still want to, next paycheck remind me to transfer you the money so you can get it done by an actual professional." If you ask me THIS is love. He didn't try to get me to do what he wanted. He supported my decision even if it wasn't what he wanted, because a)He understands he doesn't own my body, and b)just seeing me happy was more than enough for him!
Dyed hair indicates cheating. Your man needs to paternity test your child.
@@shaughnessyneal9426 what are you smoking
@@namikat6068 he said smt similar in another comment, lmao
The dude gotta be mad insecure if colored hair has him questioning his girl's loyalty
@@shaughnessyneal9426 omg colors!!!! there cheating!!!
@@shaughnessyneal9426 oh no... I will take your advice to heart and never dye my hair ever never ever because if I do I will be cheating. LOGICAL
Agreed reluctantly, he didn't want the kids in his house. And they broke something that is rare and expensive.
He said no and they insisted
the clock story, op would win in court
Easily
Are you joking if not how would they win
Well it would charge as property damage
he has bad judgement
How? Would the jury rule in OP's favor because the children should be trained to not break clocks?
Rslash needs to read the update the parents that waisted the ops college fund. Op updates saying her sister knew her parents were using ops money and stayed quiet.
In which case that also makes her just as guilty as their parents for screwing her sister out of the original goal.
OMG seriously?! Thatâs even more sickening. I hope OP can sue and WIN!
Absolutely infuriating omg
They also used the rest her money to buy the sister a car
Link to the story?
The college one just pisses me off. The sister goes to 50 different houses and then gets pregnant. Then takes money that's not hers because the parents thought she deserved it more because she made a mistake. Wow I'd be so upset if I were able to go to my dream college and then my parents ruined my life by taking the money back and giving it to the other sister.
Agree, I was wondering if the sister knew where the money was coming from. Yes she knew at the end and should have made a promise to repay or tell the mom she disapproved.
But did she know the who time? Was it her idea?
Pineapple Gaming opâs sister should get a paternity test and sue for child support
Yeah, I would just say well if the parents called me, âNo, I wonât come back, you ruined my chance of going into my dream college, gave sister what was supposed to be mine, AND she broke all the rules. Then iâd end with a âforget me being your childâ
parents: let's take the kid who followed the rules inheritance
kid: time for my dream college now where's my inheritance
parents: yeah about that
The parents that spent OP's inheritance makes me so mad!! That is legit stealing and so disrespectful. Not only to OP but also to your dead grandma that so messed up. Obvious favortism
The OP in the college story needs to report her parents for theft. That whole story is just too infuriating. Why should she be punished for sticking to the rules while believing that she'd be able to follow her dreams?
The last OP is a total asshole. Your girlfriend changes style to whatever she feels like wearing that day? Oh no, she's comfortable and doesn't conform to your whims. How will you survive? Grow up. My closet is a mess of flowery dresses, band t-shirts, jeans, skirts, beach dresses, studded belts, chains, and knitted sweaters. I'll throw on whatever feels comfortable that day, and surprisingly, my husband hasn't given a damn during the 14 years we've been together.
The 1900's have called, they want the OP of the last post to stop taking their ideas of what "his" woman should do
I understand the college one was messed up, but am I the only one that got a condescending vibe from op about her sister and her choice to have sex? It seemed like to me she thought she was better than her for being a virgin. I could be reaching but I heavily got that impression.
Bartholomew Pinecone One of the rules to the inheritance was to not get pregnant. I feel that sheâs totally right for being upset about her sister having (evidentially) unprotected sex with a bunch of guys and be condescending about it. OP is entitled to her inheritance. If she wanted the money, OPâs sister wouldâve been more careful or maintained abstinence like OP. Sheâs not upset she had sex- sheâs upset she had sex and wonât take responsibility for her actions, stealing OPâs future for her own selfish choice.
The real villains at the end of the day though are definitely the parents... How could they pick favorites when their daughter got into her dream college???
It can't be theft though because their grandma put it in their parents bank account.
No, I couldn't disagree more on the clock story. She refused several times to watch the kids and she was bullied into doing it. She shouldn't even have to sue for the price of the clock. If the parents had any sense of decency they would offer to pay for it.
Agreed!
I couldnât agree more
Totally agree with you!
It's good to know someone else agrees with me on the clock story. Also, they said BIL had an accident, not was dying or anything like that. The mother didn't HAVE TO go with. She just as easily could have stayed home with her kids. When you decide to have children, you should accept the fact that things like this might happen where you have to stay home or bring them with, even if it feels important.
Yeah, no joke. Not to mention you can... take your kids with you. As my family has done many times.
Don't absolve OPs sister
She had other options to get money. She refused them because they were 'trashy'
And when there was money left, she let them buy her a car with them
She's not an innocent party
Which one are you talking about.
@@wannabehistorian371 i believe itâs the one with stolen inheritance.
Not to mention her obvious gaslighting ( "you want me to live on the *streets* ?") when OP was justifiably mad. I get that the sister obviously didn't want to be in a bad situation but her words are so obnoxious. Parents are meant to help, not steal their kid's inheritance. She never tried to help save money to pay them back, or even tell them about it and ask to get a loan or anything. Her not telling them was a shitty move.
Well yeah. There are so many programs for mothers and even more for single mothers.
Willing to bet the sister played the parents to get the money and ended up using other resources to flip the bill and just spent the money the parents gave her.
Often times older people are ignorant of resources out there due to never being in a situation where they needed it. I personally believe the sister is a con artist
Story 2: if I were the father in this situation, I personally would have taken the young man to the side and had a conversation about how what she was doing was wrong...
The childfree one didnât really agree, so much as, was pressured into taking care of their misbehaved ill-raised kids so. I donât mind taking care of kids for the most part but you can bet your bottom dollar I woulda been more than pissed if they broke my shit. Op didnât send them to the streets, they just sent them to another family member. It seems more like an everyone sucks here situation.
I wouldâve felt the same if he wasnât going to try to sue it is still his fault leaving children unsupervised as well
Although they still shouldnât have pressured him to babysit but honestly I would rely on my family members to watch the kids if I needed to get somewhere fast for an emergency and I couldnât get a babysitter
/agree
The BIL (I'm assuming the father of the children) should have been apologetic about the clock, but blame should've been shared by the poster since they were supposed to be watching the kids.
Yes, and no. Yes is because just like you said the sis keeps pressuring and guilt-trip OP. No, it is because OP agrees to babysit the kids, but just leave them unsupervised.
Actually even if you don't like kids and they are entitled
Just use your adult power
If they still don't get it
Ground them in your house
No child abuse just punish them
And they will learn their way
Works for me
Ok. The aunt taking care of the kids is NtA because her sister knew the reason why she doesn't like and want to care for kids. Her sister should've respected her decision, but no, she had to press an issue. If they did find a sitter and the kids damaged the sitter's property, the mom and dad would be paying for the damage without question. Just because the sitter is a relative doesn't mean the outcome should be different.
family emergency means nothing?
@@GiordanDiodato omfg RESPONSIBILE PARENTS HAVE PEOPLE TO CALL IN CASE OF THESE THINGS, THEY ALREADY KNEW OP WAS NOT EQUIPT TO DEAL WITH CHILDREN AND OP SAID NO MULTIPLE TIMES AND THEY THREW A FIT TO GET THEM TO SAY YES JUST FOR THEIR POORLY RAISED KIDS TO BREAK THEIR STUFF, THEY NEVER EVEN SHOULDVE ASKED IN THE FIRST PLACE, RESPONSIBLE PARENTS HAVE BACK UP SITTERS AND STUFF, DAYCARE EXISTS, AND IF IT WAS SUCH A HUGGGEEEE EMERGENCY WHY WAS THE DAD ABLE TO PICK THEM UP FROM OPS BUT NOT WATCH THEM IN THE FIRST PLACE?? another note: at the very fucking least they shouldve paid op for not just babysitting but for the broken property THEIR kids broke because they didnt bother to teach their kids manners or respect. If their old enough to talk, their old enough to learn "dont touch" ffs nobody should be forced to watch kids their not equipt to handle.
@@telechubbii6781 Threw a fit and threatened to leave them at the door.
@@GiordanDiodato wtf... just because two people came from same womb doesn't mean they have to do shit for them. In the second story they are also family. So by your logic parents are right to spend all the money in elder sister and say DOes FaMilY EMeRGeNcY MeAN NotHIng.
Giordan Diodato the family emergency was the sister brother in law who had drunk drive ended up in a crash. The sister could have look after the kids while her husband when to the hospital it not like the emergency was the kids husband plus the ages were 10 -7 which you should be able to leave in front of a tv alone and not to touch anything it not like the kids were toddlers
The brother whose clock was broken is definitely NOT the ahole.
Forgive him for not baby-proofing his entire house in the 15 minutes his sibling gave him before leaving the kids there.
For the story about the inheritance, I have to say that the sister is in the wrong too. How hard is it to not make a life changing decision and get pregnant? How hard is it to not break the rules so many times to the point where you donât even know who the baby dad is because thereâs so many candidates? Sister gets 5/5.
Not only that, but OP said that one of the conditions for NOT getting the inheritance is BEING PREGNANT, so their sister and their parents disrespected her too!
On the second one: sure, it's adorable when a guy goes out of his way to spoil you, but when you demand stuff, act entitled and attach monetary value to his feelings towards you, that's when you lose my support.
If he can pay for stuff and insists on doing it, because he loves you and wants to spoil you, out of his own free will, i dont see a huge issue and think is more a case by case thing, but saying stuff like "if you like me, you'll do this'' or "if you loved me you would pay for that" it's just a bratty attitude and should not be encouraged at all, love is not a currency.
It's not just bratty, its gaslighting.
THANK YOU! I use to be friends with a guy from work and weâd hang out often. Our routine was Heâd buy us shakes from sonic, And weâd eat whatever Iâd have cooked for dinner since weâd work pretty late and didnât want to wake our families with cooking. He threw me a little bday party when he learned Iâd never had a party growing up. I genuinely thought he was my best friend. It never occurred to me that he was into me since he KNEW I was gay AND seeing someone. I still shudder thinking about how one time we had had dinner and were watching a movie. I had fallen asleep and woke up to him crawling on top of me and I freaked and pushed him away. He got defensive and said he spoiled me with the party and food so I owed it to him. When I ran out crying and scared (Iâve been raped before) I ran into his sister who had just come home and she said she and the whole family thought we were dating and I was a prude to make him wait. I ended up calling and Uber and avoiding him.
The next time I went to work, I was talking with a coworker and they asked me why I broke up with him. I asked them why did everyone think we were dating? I wasnât exactly hiding my sexuality with my pride lanyard and My lesbian apron with the pride colors. Apprently my whole work place thought we were dating. I soon left that place for reasons beyond that. But it was so hard picking up orders from the kitchen and seeing his face.
Sometimes I wonder if I actually did lead him on.
@@InsaneLaughter01 i'm really sorry for you and i hope you're doing better.
I just meant in case where you are in a relationship with the person and they make a point to spoil you because they feel like it.
No strings attached.
What your coworker did was terrible and not the kind of relationship i was refering to.
Again, i feel so sorry for you and wish you the best.
KawaiiLemon my god, I hope youâre doing well !!
I 100% agree with this. My fiancee does spoil me and offers to pay for stuff but I don't demand it from him. Only time I do is jokingly for a stuffed animal because at the very start of our relationship he promised to get me one with each paycheck
I actually cried for the college one. Poor girl. I can't imagine how hard that is
My mother did this with me too. Spent it on my sister to throw extravagant parties for her and I was lucky if I even got a âhappy birthdayâ. Our mother would tell me we were âbarely afloatâ as She wore $350 shoes.
Iâve since cut ties with my mother and knowing my sister, She will too soon.
Omg is that kurođâ€ïž
I agree with the op Iâd rather my sister be on the street then use my inheritance money especially without asking ( I have actually been homeless before no Iâm not lieing it one of the things my mom yells at me about when she is in pain because of her auto immune disease she has multiple-sclerosis) and the turns for inheritance were NO GETTING PREGNANT DURING SCHOOL! plus the parents should have paid for it like good parents and not have stolen her money, yes Iâm blameing the parents they flipped up
"you can't change what you wear because I'm insecure and want to control what you wear. You can't dye your hair because I don't like it and want to control your body. I'm gonna yell at you for doing something to your own body that would make you happy and then be surprised when our don't want to make me food because that's how it should be." AITA
For the daughter who insists the boyfriend buy everything for her, what would she do if he said "well, I bought you everything so you should passionately hug me!"?
Exactly. Ten bucks says the mom would be all "what a sexist pig, demanding that he's entitled to her body just because he pays for everything!" Yeah, gee, isn't that awful, feeling entitled to something because of sexist, outdated gender roles. đ
honestly tho
it's a good question. the boy should walk away cuz there's no respect in that relationship
Seriously! It gets under my skin when some people think itâs ok to enable their kids like that. And she doesnât even do that with OP. He said nothing abt her doing that to him so why does she let her daughter do it?
I wouldn't fully blame the daughter, it's the mother's fault for enabling her and convincing her of something so horrible.
Poor boy should just leave, he needs to work on his self-worth.
The clock story:
It is 100% the parents fault. OP was PRESSURED into watching those brats. They broke something and should take responsibility for it
Exactly. Rslash was wrong af on his verdict
uh you must not have children that young then. You NEVER leave kids alone, especially if you have valuables that can break around. only common sense people
@@scalehex those kids weren't toddlers, and from what i can tell, at that age you should already have respect for things that you are fully aware aren't yours, the parents did a garbage job of raising them
@@scalehex young or not the parents should take responsibility for the destruction their crotch goblins caused because if they touched what wasn't theirs they weren't raised correctly
@@scalehex That's like saying that if you watch kids you go into your room for a few minutes something breaks and it's expensive keep in mind they KNOW better as they're 6-10 so yes R/Slash is wrong on that side.
She's making her daughter become a gold digger bruh
an abusive gold digger actually.
I can relate to this sister story. My parents used most of my bonds for college on my little brother. I worked and went to school taking my time so not to waste money. My brother never had a job because my parents said he had learning issues and couldn't work. The only reason I got a job is because my mom forced me. So money I think I'm entitled to (my bonds) as well as family heirlooms and such my mom has taken from me. My little brother actually had the nerve to tell me that those bonds were never mine and that money belongs to my mom. He has always been her favorite and I wish he hadn't bothered coming home after he was thrown out of college.
The clock story: EH, It's kind of a butthole move, but OP *DID* refuse to babysit. The sister forced her kids on them, which led to the destruction of a potentially irreplaceable piece of OP's property. If OP had been accepted the babysitting without having their arm twisted, they'd be a butthole...
But the Sister basically forced OP to babysit, then the kids she forced OP to babysit destroyed something expensive.
I'd say they're only about 2/5 buttholes. Especially since they have a legal leg to stand on.
Hey man !
Sis was jelious
While she earned her money sis demanded extra money so that makes more sense why she hates to watch the kids.
Apparently op's sister is an entitled brat.
Yeah r slash should give op more credit some people just donât click with children and some do get too attached to their property itâs not really ops fault sheâs both and got peer pressured by her sister to do something she clearly wasnât ready for and couldnât handle well with ops sister gets a 2 out of 5 butt holes for being low key entitled
Yeah... I'm in the same camp. Maybe I'm just biased because I'm a woman who isn't all that good with kids either.
But op DID leave them unsupervised so the clock is on him, canât leave kids alone ages 6-10 and not expect something could go wrong plus trying to sue people who definitely canât afford it makes him look bad as well
I wouldnt say "irreplaceable". OP could probly find another clock like that one on ebay or amazon. or even at an antique and clock shop here: www.pamono.com/antique-clocks
Pregnant sister: She should sue the parents they broke a will took money that was meant and willed to one and gave it to someone else. Major breach of contract/will. This is unacceptable behavior from someone who was trusted to fulfill a Last Will and Testament.
The story where the sister got pregnant and parents stole money: she should sue the parents for the money back and go to her dream college
tbh the story with the three kids and how she had to babysit her is not their fault. their sister showed up to their house unannounced spring her kids on her even when they said no, but then the kids that they didnât even want in their house break a precious clock YEAH I WOULD BE MAD
Those parents who screwed OP over for her sisterâs abortion are absolutely frickin DISGUSTING. And in the updates that she posted, it doesnât seem like that theyâre sorry either. Screw them, they donât deserve any respect from anyone.
Hope the parents are thrown into hell for this. They sure derserve it.
They sure do.
She didn't even get an abortion. She KEPT the baby. This entire time I was yelling in my head "why didn't the sister just abort or give up for adoption!"
@@littlemau1360 those parents suck and probably reason that it was worth losing a daughter since the other has a grandchild. So Grandma rules over college..... Until they need money and OP is the only one that can give them the Money
to the college one: surely theres a copy of the grandmas will somewhere? the grandma left the money for the sisters college funds, MADE RULES THAT WHERE THE MONEY WOULDNT BE ALLOWED TO GO TO THEM, WHICH THE OLDER SISTER BROKE.... just .... illegal???
Yes. Yes, it is. For the stolen money, at least. You can't actually stipulate that a recipient only receive the money if they don't do X, like abstain from sex or alcohol. But the parents are ABSOLUTELY on the hook for stealing OP's money.
yes, this violates the will and I'm quite sure OP can go to court for this.
The will didn't state to abstain from sex, just not get pregnant or get someone pregnant.
DrgnLdyLizzie2001
And she got pregnant... this correction helps no one
German Gecko I believe the person youâre replying to was saying that towards Wobbles since they were saying you canât make people abstain from stuff in wills
The college fund one really bothers me. My grandmother, who had been giving money to my parents to take care of us our entire lives, passed away. The stipulation in her will was that each child would receive at least 40K to cover the entirety of our schooling, our first car and go to a deposit on our first house when combined with our existing college fund. This is after she turned over everything from the sale of her summer home and her own home to my parents, plus the rent she paid them to live in a single room of our house. She gave them about 2-4 million dollars over the course of her life and it all just disappeared. My dad decided to play the stock markets with our college funds, which are bonded by the government here. Not only did he completely drain the 25K in each of our accounts, but he ended up owing money on them, too. My oldest brother managed to get his first car partially covered by my mom out of her own pocket to make up for it as well as cover the deposit on his first house since he got a full ride scholarship for school. The rest of us weren't so lucky.
I ended up paying for my own schooling using whatever I could scrimp and save. My mom had a joint student account with me and annoyingly, she would give access to my dad, who would then use the funds I put into it for more attempts to play the stock market all without telling me. I would get gaslighted by both of them when I would claim to have a certain balance, but it somehow conveniently disappeared and I must have imagined the bank balance despite statements from the bank saying otherwise. I lost about 40K like this before I wised up.
Finally, just before my mother passed away, she told me how much she regretted letting my father control us through the family finances and she should've kept all accounts separate and used the money from her parents for the things they were intended to cover instead of my dad's attempts to live above his means and gamble with stocks (regular international vacations, going out with his office for dinner and then paying for everyone's meals, random jewelry, paying off credit cards with other credit cards, etc.). She told me that she had written a will leaving everything that she had and had kept from her mother's estate to us kids, cutting my dad off entirely. My sister was named the executor and shortly after that she passed away. Only then we couldn't find the will. My dad first said that he had it and would give it to my sister "when he was ready," which dragged on for weeks and months. Then he claimed there was no will and finally that there was a will, but it left everything to him and no, we couldn't see it because it was none of our business. He said he "executed" the will when he gave all of us some of my mother's old jewelry, but none of her most valuable ones, just cheap plastic that he had bought her and she never even wore. Even the boys were expected to take jewelry for girlfriends and wives and just be happy with that. We eventually gave up because the will is almost definitely destroyed at this point. I never saw it and even though I have written messages from her, those will hardly stand up in a court. It's been heartbreaking.
We then found out that he had made her last months completely miserable. He let another woman and her kid move into the house without even talking to her. The woman was married, but separated from her husband, not that it seemed to matter much to them. I regularly caught them snuggling around the house. They would always spring apart when they noticed me, but clearly, there were guilty consciences at play. My mother slept in my grandmother's old room, while the new woman slept upstairs, ostensibly in her own room, but down the hall from my dad. They would be up at all hours, cuddling on the couch in plan view of anyone walking through the main floor of the house. I don't know if things ever got sexual between them, but he was clearly emotionally cheating on her. I suspect she saw something that made her cut him out of her will rather than go through a messy divorce when her health had never been good. She told me that we had to protect the will because if my father had it, everything she had would end up with him regardless.
tl;dr my father pulled this crap with multiple wills and college funds and left us with nothing, including a lot of our own savings
Unpopular opinion: the childfree sitter story - when someone says no to a request to watch your kids, find another sitter or deal with it yourself. I feel like there is an inherent entitlement of people with kids towards childfree ppl, everyone expected to chip in and help, especially when it's "faaaaaaaaaamilyyyy". Not a butthole. The no supervision thing is bad yes but how the blip was the person even trained for something like it not having or wanting the kids him/herself? And why should a hard working person jeopardize the quiet evening they deserve? No one said how close the family members were, badgering family members into surprise babysitting is not okay, emergency or not. Deffo should apologize and pay back for damaged property. Entitled parents all the way.
Exactly I couldnât believe rslash called op the butthole since it wasnât her fault
It aint unpopular. I think everyone agrees with OP not being the asshole.
The last one was so entitled that you started your karen voice a little kkkkkk
What's the male version of a Karen? I agree, he should use that voice for that guy. Dude made me nauseous!
@@RedT...TheOriginal.NotANumber Probably Greg. đ
Since Iâm a simple man I rate his voice đđ»đđ»âđ»đđ»
@@RedT...TheOriginal.NotANumber Kyle, but they're not the same
@@RedT...TheOriginal.NotANumber Karnon
One with clock i disagree with assessment, some who you don't really like comes to you out of blue, forces you to do something you clearly state that you are not comfortable with and have no experience doing and it results in damage to something you value (he said he is not from USA and if he is from country like mine 1000 dollars is more than monthly paycheck for most). Yes he will most likely not get his money back, but he has every right to be angry.
That's exactly how I felt.
Glad I'm not alone.
they could have at least stayed in the same room as the kids
Faith Mouse I donât know where OP lives but, and where I lived(Iâm not American either), there is some basic trust that a handful of children, with one nearing 10, can be left alone at intervals, especially when watching a movie. Heck, growing up Iâve been with groups of lower age ranges that still didnât dare touch someone elseâs property while they were guests. So, upbringing is a factor here. This person might by an immediate relative, but is a stranger that has had almost zero interaction with you, so even as a kid, you wouldnât be too comfortable.
So yeah, I disagree with rSlash absolving the kids of blame. Kids arenât legally blamable, but psychologically, they are. Responsibility is one of the earliest teachings you receive, and that mistakes have repercussions. This is why discipline and self-discipline are core parts of childhood. OP overreacted, sure, and didnât take enough care, but the kids being innocent is not an excuse to not reprimand them.
That said, OP doesnât like kids in general and clearly has no awareness of them, treating them like some different species. For one thing, you simply donât leave children with such a person, you risk them actually putting the kids in danger. Second, if you hate kids in a non-sarcastic way, you are a butthole regardless.
Well op agreed to it. And its common sense not to leave those children alone not supervised. You dont need to be a genius to know that. Its a family emergency. OP could have done that one time for the sister
Ew at your clock story reaction.
lmao when I first read the title, my brain autofilled prost***** to prostate.
Boyfriend in the last story is abusive and needs to get dumped. He hates that his gf is attractive and freaks out when she does stuff she said she's been wanting to do? He needs to grow up and stay single
I don't know. If my gf would be changing all the time, maybe flirting and dying her head purple after she promised me not to, I wouldn't be happy too. And if she likes to cook and usually makes me breakfast while I set bed, it is fine. How would you like this story: "I told my girlfriend, that I will have my beard. She said that I would look bad, but when she went to sleep, I went to bathroom and shaved it. Now I have no idea why is she pissed."
Ć imon Ć paÄek itâs your face shave whatever you want
@@simonspacek3670 exactly, she has no reason to be pissed. It's your beard, in your face, you decide what to do with it. You're eye candy for yourself before ANYONE else, and if someone tries to claim otherwise, they'd better have fun being single because a relationship where they feel they have control/ownership over your body is not one that is worth in the long term
@@nicocchi Yes if you don't care about your partners input then yes. By all means do it. But remember it won't work out since you say they don't matter by being such way.
@@simonspacek3670 My boyfriend shaves most of his beard off. Do I like it? No. I much prefer his full beard. Do I complain? No. Because it is his face, and he has to decide for himself what he finds comfortable. He is my partner, not my dog. I don't get to decide what he wears or how he styles himself; I picked him as a partner because I love him, the person he is. He is an amazing person, and I adore him. So, beard or not beard, that's the smallest issue. And yes, he does cook for me; but I always, always thank him and show my appreciation for his hard work. Because I appreciate him!
So I disagree with your argument. The guy in the story has no right to get mad at his girlfriend for wanting to change up her looks and get some color in her hair. And he definitely should have a more respectful tone when talking about her cooking and cleaning for him; be a little appreciative and realize that a relationship should involve two people doing equal the work to maintain the relationship and the house. If two people really love each other, there should be mutual respect. He doesn't own her body, and if he absolutely hates her hair more than he loves her; then maybe he should have just ended the relationship in a respectful manner.
you know itâs a YTA when the entitled voice starts slipping out during the story xD
LMAO FACTS DUDE
Facts
Facts
yeop *laughing emoji*
indeed lol
For the clock one , I went and read the story and some of OPâs comments . Everyone sucks here except the kids .
His sister is an entitled brat
Her husband was driving under the influence
And OP hates their family
About the boyfriend paying for everything - as a woman, like HELL is it a rite of passage.
It's just plain rude. I get anxious when my partner spends loads on me, because I don't want them to feel taken advantage of in any way. They're everything I wanted in a partner, everything I was told constantly as a child I'd never find in one person "so you'd better learn to settle".
So the idea of an unequal relationship just... doesn't make sense to me.
Purple hair story: this guy thinks he OWNS his girlfriend's appearence. Gross.
Even worse is he's not even trying to be subtle about it...he just thinks it perfectly ok. Prick.
Yeah. BF is the butthole. He made is views heard, which is fine, but then got sensitive about it when it didnt go his way.
my ex did that with me too, i told him, i wanted my hair a different color, preferably pink. when i actually did it, i had made a split, pink and violet. he went off at me, almost hit me, that it looked like trash, that i looked like trash and that he wasnât sure if he wanted to be in a relationship with me anymore... so thatâs on fucking toxic and controlling bfs.
Even if I didn't like the way her hair looked I'd still be like "you look beautiful babe" because thats what you do with people you care about. An the hair can always change, it's not the end of the world, it's not like you dyed your own hair . Maybe he can see he has controlling issues. My ex gf wanted her nose pierced like a bull and she said what did I think.. I said it's not attractive to me but she did it anyway. I got used to it but I never looked at her with disgust or anger or said anything about it . She said "do you like it?" All I said was "it's different, but I love you and if you like it then that's all that matters" trust me it's easier to go along with things than to cause useless drama. It stops the white hairs from growing
@@Jr-mj3bw It's not unbelievable, some people are like that. So I believe her.
The guy in the last one: "I wasn't trying to be controlling", he says while trying to control her lmao
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@@thepovdweller Sorry, typo.
Starsy McDoodle Giving someone a suggestion to not destroy their hair is not being controlling in the same way that if I tell someone you probably should not go through with this surgery itâs going to fuck up your skin for the rest of your life Iâm just giving them advice sound advice hair takes a lot of time to grow you know
@@charlottewalnut3118 He wasn't so much concerned about how her hair would turn out. He just blatantly prefers not having a girl with dyed hair. He was telling her it wouldn't look good on her in an attempt to control her actions to suit what he wants. It may not the end all be all of controlling someone, but it is still trying to control someone.
@@charlottewalnut3118 lmfao she only got highlights. That's not even the whole hair, that's a lil bit of hair. What a controlling loser.
Don't dare telling your partners what to do with their own bodies. Disgusting.
In the college story I would get a loan for lawyers and college and sue the parents for both.
12:30 she said , "I'm sure they can't afford it,"
Have to disagree with you about the forced baby-sitting. Some people are childless on purpose for various reasons, one of which is they just dislike kids. You would think that someone realizing this about themselves and NOT becoming a bad parent would be celebrated. It's not.Lots of extended families, like this one evidently, look down on childless members and talk a lot of smack about them, and then presume that since they're childless, they've nothing better to do than be free babysitters. I get the feeling that there was a lot of that in OP's family. Then the sister just shows up out of nowhere and insists that she's dumping them off no matter what OP's objections are? What if OP had something very important scheduled And? And their obviously ill behaved kids cause significant monetary damage to OP's property and the parents just wave it off and assume OP will just eat the costs? OP gets zero buttholes, the parents/grandparents/kibitzing relatives get 100 each. And I kinda think you deserve a couple of buttholes for demeaning OP like that.
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Finaly someone said it. It s very hard to take care of children. Especialy when you never saw one in your life.
I agree
One hundred percent. If they really needed to get to the fkn hospital than one of them shall watch their grown up sperm in the car or outside and the other talks, then they switch.
Don't impose your kids to someone that has nothing to do with it all, doesn't know kids and is neither mentally and physically prepared nor has the equipment and rooms needed for them.
0 out of 5 buttholes, definetely.
Rslash I dont think the guy from babysitting story. He is nta as he was forced to babysit than, he told her that she going to have an peaceful night. So big surprise when he doesn't want to babysit 3 kids
But but but.... ThEy ArE FAmILy aNd YOu ShOUlD Do ThINgS FoR THem.
That 4 butthole point is bs. I just hate rslash's opinion on this one. Like 100% disagreement.
I don't hate rslash and I will still support his content, but I am just disappointed by the fact for a person who reads about entitled persons for living didn't realize that, leaving three kids in someone else's place without informing them first instead of getting a babysitter is an absolute Karen move.
Honestly. I wouldn't want to leave my kids with someone who didn't want to take care of them.
The guy was pressured into watching the kids and the kids couldn't behave themselves and like... That's not the OP's fault. The OP didn't even want them over to begin with, they let it happen begrudgingly and are shit on for doing something kind for their family.
Totally agree with you. OP made it extremely clear that he or she did not want to babysit. How hard is it to just sit and watch a movie, and not break stuff. I don't care if they're kids. R/Slash was a bit off on this one.
Silver lining for the college one: now you have a good case for a lawsuit! I guess that's something.
OP isnât upset the kids broke the clock. Sheâs upset the parents wonât pay for it. Which is fair.
Ok, this is coming from a teenage girl in a relationship: pay for your own god damn things. If your SO gifts you things, then *that's* the cute stuff, as long as you do the same. A relationship is not a relationship unless there is equal respect from both sides.
watch it no sense making! feminists REEE'd around the world
I would say on the clock story everyone sucks, he was an idiot for leaving the kids alone unsupervised for hours but they pushed kids he was very vocal about not wanting to watch onto him.
Yep, you have a better reason to be ticked off when kids you didn't even want get pushed on you over your objections and damage your stuff than if you had been a willing sitter.
Iâd agree but Iâd say the brother in law sucks for saying OP was overreacting maybe. Itâs kind of shitty of OP to refuse to watch kids for a bit when there is a family emergency going on all because they wanted to relax that evening. The clock sucks but itâs sort of to be expected when you leave just leave 3 kids aged 6-10 unsupervised for long periods of time.
â@@xHannibal "don't touch my shit" isn't an unreasonable request for any kid that's sentient. sure they still should've been supervised, but they definitely knew better
the guy said he never babysitted, my ex had a kid that i cherished she had gotten a tablet from me the fucking cousin broke it it took a year for his parents to cough up the 50 bucks but i never let the cousin near my daughter when she holds something remotely expensive until he has learned not to break shit, the parents should pay for the shit the kids pulled maybe not all but at least a part
@@xHannibal cant find sitter? unless they live in a very small community you can always literally find a sitter, they were probably too cheap to hire someone
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no dude, we shouldnât be expected to do that shit..
gender equality! :D
""HOW DARE YOU, DYE YOUR OWN HAIR BECAUSE IS YOUR BODY??? I'M YOUR BOYFRIEND, I CAN SAY WHAT YOU CAN, AND CAN'T DO WITH YOUR BODY!""
Translation from cuckspeak into realityspeak: "How dare you sexually advertise to other men? I'm the person you're cheating on, and you have to stop it at once or we've traded our last words."
The parents forced their kids on her and it seems sheâs pretty open with her dislike and lack of experience with kids. Sheâs understandably upset that something important to her got broken because the parents couldnât teach the kids to âlook but not touchâ. Iâll admit though that her suing is a bit over the top
Okay but I feel like the clock might have been something important from their past that they forgot to explain.
Still, everyone knows you should never leave young kids unsupervised.
@@princessmoonwalker but the thing is OP has never had any experience with kids. You can't put someone who doesn't know how to handle or treat kittens with a kitten to care for. Like any one who has been around kids for a reasonable amount of time knows to keep precious things away and such. Maybe OP overestimated how developed/calm they were but those kids were pushed onto her.
@@lilmissiamsodonehere_2399 I agree about the kids being forced on OP, but you don't need to be Supernanny to know you shouldn't leave kids unsupervised. That's commonsense.
@@princessmoonwalker not really actually maybe if you hear stories but I donât think they pay attention to those kinds of stories and again they are open about the fact they dont like kids
1. inheritance theft is extremely illegal, even just witholding the inheritance so you cant spend it, no matter the age, is illegal
2. the one were OP was pressured into baby sitting, that is a case of the mother spoiled the kids, and dont punish them or at the very least, dont tell them that you dont mess with things that are not said to be ok to mess with
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edit: this kind of blew up a bit more than i expected (i expected for not a single soul to reply), and correct me if im wrong, but the mother didnt even punish the kids, so along with the kids being spoiled, they are also never disciplined, and it seems like the kids are growing up in a way that they are becoming major trouble makers, and never expect punishment
1. Of course
2. But A. there was a family emergency and it was short notice, B. OP didn't watch them, and C. KIDS DESTROY STUFF.
@@GiordanDiodato yeah but the sister guilt tripped her/ she didn't want to cause a scene. She shoulda stuck to her guns and just said no but surely the whole damn family knows her stance on kids?
@@GiordanDiodato yes, but he was forced. His neighbours saw it so they could be a holes about it, she threathened to just leave themmon the porch and fine, you should supervise them but you should teach hellspawn not to touch things.
1) agreed.
2) I agree with you. These are clearly kids that are not disciplined. Ppl with children seem to think that everything their child does is precious or not harmful simply because they are kids. It's annoying, I'd be pissed as hell too- but I ALSO wouldn't have babysat to begin with.
@@GiordanDiodato I mean OP had work to do and told the mother a couple of times already that he/she can't. Family emergency or not. The kids are kids yeah, stuff can be broken sure. What they had to do was make the kids apologize, cover for damages and don't act like shit towards OP. OP has every right to sue for damages. The kids and parents are just entitled.
That shit the mother told her daughter in the paying all in the relationship one... That's demon summoning at its finest.
I really hope OP is able to go to college despite her parents' obvious theft. I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks she needs to pursue legal action against her parents.
âShe told me because I found out accidentally once.â
Wonder how that happenedâŠ
Jack Danger âWhat are you doing (step)bro?â
It's just as cute to get a boyfriend to pay for everything as it is for the girlfriend to get slapped around when she speaks out of turn. -_-
This perpetuates the most disgusting of sexist behaviours.
I don't think that comparison works out. "Slapping someone around" is assault and battery. It's literally illegal.
The comparison implied in the video is better.. "If you love me you will give me that thing I want" - Woman pointing at expensive item, man pointing at woman's crotch.
That's the exact same logic. It should be way easier for a woman to understand it's flaws when she's on the receiving end of the demands.
I agree
Both are not okay once so ever. Equality means paying for your stuff as well.
Op in the hair dye story be like âIâm not tryna be controlling, Iâm just making her do what I want, thereâs a difference!â
"found out accidentally" -> Uh huh, I can imagine how exactly he found out.
The other edits r/Slash didnât include for that clock story:
Edit : Allow me to tell you exactly why my relationship with my sister is strained. It's because my sister has always been jealous of my success. For example, last year, I took a vacation to Spain and posted about it on Facebook. My sister is a housewife and her hubby had just lost his job. Apparently they were really struggling financially. Sis called me and berated me for having fun with MY hard earned money and flaunting it when they didn't know if they'd make it to the next month with having to ask family for help. She also expected me to offer her some cash, because "family". When I told her that her and her husband would be better off if they had fewer kids, she actually got angry and yelled at me. This is just one example of my sister's entitlement.
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Some of you said I shouldn't have left the kids alone. Well, before I left, I told them very clearly to keep their hands off of my stuff.
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Edit 2 : My mom just let me know that sister's BIL will be fine. He was driving under influence and has a dislocated shoulder and two broken ribs.
Jeez, that was dumb of him to leave out the important parts.
jackietubepro I agree omg. Thereâs a lot of vital information here
Maybe he recorded the video before those edits were made? Just a thought
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I don't really understand why both his sister and her husband needed to go to the hospital anyway. It's her husband's brother so she could have just stayed home with the kids and let him go on his own, right?
The sister should have raised her kids to not touch others property.
Exactly!!! And when someone says they canât take care of the kids, accept it and donât push it.
that's mentally and physically impossible to teach kids to not do that. I think the only thing OP did wrong was actually LET the kids in. he really only did it to not give neighbors entertainment, and I think if neighbors were paying attention to that, MIND YOUR OWN DAMMMMMMMNNNNN BUSINESS
Before I was ten I knew not to touch anything in someone elseâs house. It isnât that bloody hard.
@@brrplays8562 I disagree my brothers 10 and 4 play with toys but don't break things and my younger brother even tells him not to.
If I were in OP's position I'd be pissed
For the story with the college fund theft, a good compromise would to take a loan on the sister/parents name so that they would have to repay it.
What those parents did with the college funds is one of the most disgusting thing a parent can do. The parents are the biggest a-holes. She should sue her parents.
I think the story withthe kids and the clock the op isn't an ass. He literally said no to them a thousand times snd they still made him do it, they could've driven their children to their grandparents house or one of those playgrounds where you have to pay money and it has supervision, until somebody else could come oick them up. The parents seem entitled to me in this situation and this is coming from a teen girl who makes money from babysitting. Its not an easy job. Not everyone can do it or know how to do it
exactly this is one thing I dont like about rSlash his way of seeing things are sometimes dumb...
I agree. Kids can be total a holes
My exact thoughts. If you pressure someone into babysitting and they repeatedly tell you they've never done it and don't feel comfortable doing it, you're just a manipulative idiot. And I actually think that the op in this story might have a case for the clock.
i have 3 siblings so yeah im way over kids their just stress
Agreed
This subreddit is weird since itâs half filled with people who know theyâre in the right but posted it there for clout anyways, and half filled with genuinely confused and upset people looking for answers, and there is not often a way to distinguish the two.
Then thereâs the occasional Karen that just wants validation
what about those who are obviously the asshole but are so delusional they refuse to believe it?
No offense or anything but I almost read your name as "Stan Lee"!
There are also people who use aita to prove they are in the right to people who think they aren't.
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12:39 you didn't even hear why their relationship is strained all you got to hear is one moment of what happened she didn't even want to watch her kids i think their all in the wrong though like sueing is a little to much.
If op does not sue her family in some way I will sadddd