r/AmITheA**hole For Trying To Take My Daughter's Money?
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- Äas pĆidĂĄn 3. 08. 2024
- r/AmITheA**hole When a mother gives birth to a child, is that mother entitled to all of that child's money? The mother who made the post for today's video certainly seems to think so! She argues that her successful daughter should give her money so that she can spend it on her other children, and then is confused when her daughter calls her out for acting like a butthole. What do you think? If you like this video and want to see more, subscribe to my channel for more daily Reddit content!
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Sounds like dad in first story needs to go for full custody.
IKR
I totally agree, this is not a good mind set for the kids or the father. they need to disconnect from the toxic of the mother
Definitely!
He'll most likely lose in any law system. The American Justice System is more biased towards women/mothers, as an example of this a 22-year-old female had multiple sexual contacts with a 14-year-old male, the judge said "there was general affection between the pair." but if you flip the rolls he would've been hung. Also, women are considered better in court as they were the ones to birth the child, henceforth why false rape allegations can destroy a man's life. So if he does get a judge who does give him custody he'll be good but those judges are outnumbered 99/1.
@@ohioemeregncyresponsevehic3381 who says he's from America?
First story, yES. Normalise fathers teaching their children about periods, whether they are single parents or not!!!
@Drake Walters heeeeeelllll yeah
Please say your talking avout the mom
Edit. I meant the mom being an a hole. I misread this comment
@@tcao9492 ???
Trieu Cao what?
@@Smabbles12 13 seconds ago btw
"I even watched the Twilight movies with them, so don't say i don't love them"
Every dad that puts himself to that torment just to make his daughters happy has indeed proven that he loves their daughters lol
For me, this would be the fine line which I would never cross for anyone.
Twilight depicts abusive relationships though, so idk about that.
Facts
âAITA for shoutingâ LOL. He wasnât even yelling at the girls. All my mom does is yell
@Chris George it's on the border line. And depends a lot on the things that are shouted. Anyway shouting is not nice and something one should apologize for afterwards.
@Chris George ok, you're right. I was thinking more like shouting insults and shouting in arguments, but yeah, good point.
@Chris George that doesn't sound too good :/
@Chris George and btw kids copy their way of apologizing from their parents. If the parents never really apologize and instead just explain why they did what they did (even when they made a mistake) the kids will pick up this habit and take it to their future relationships and workplaces.
@@Juubith95 IMO, shouting is acceptable when you have to quickly tell someone in the house something and that person is on another floor, so you just yell it from the stairs.
As someone whoâs dad helped her with her first period, that dad is not the asshole or a pervert. Thereâs nothing perverted about telling your daughter thereâs nothing wrong with them and helping them through this
Yeah that was a really shitty thing for that mom to say
My dad was the one that bought me my first feminine products because my mom was working. He told me I wasn't dying but he also was uncomfortable about it and even said, "Don't worry, it's natural. But... uhhh.... your mom will have the talk with you. " đ
Though my aunts talked to me about it, my dad is willing to ask me if I still have my boxes or I need more in the store and check them out for me. At first I thought it was kinda off but now its normal to me. He's willing to help me with those times of the month. The dad in the first story is a good father. He looked everything he could to help them feel better and tell them that its normal. And that nothing is wrong with them. The wife though made my blood boil. I never truly understood people like her. Especially how she acted towards her children.
My dad was the same, my mum was sick in hospital so couldn't help me through my first period, and he was amazing, i felt uncomfortable but he found away to make me laugh and help me through it, spent ÂŁ20 at the shop on feminine products, chocolate and ice cream lol, he was also the one who took me bra shopping for the first time, was absolutely mortified when he was picking up bras and asking if the colour matched his eyes but i was happy he was there
@@toxicprincess9717 your dad is so sweet. My dad is sometimes an awkward person and he doesn't talk much. When my period started and his response was "shit happens" it hurt me then but I talked to him about it years later and he said it was supposed to be "life happens, it's not the end of the world" he just isn't good at making things sound comforting even though he meant it that way.đ
He made an entire night out explaining, accepting, and dealing with the frustration called periods. There's no question in my mind that OP loves those three girls with everything he got.
I think there was a comedian who threw his daughter a party at her request. She wanted it Friday the 13th themed (the movie) because thatâs when she started. So he gave her something Jason related too
@@Wander85942 bert the machine is the comedian your talking about
Honestly top father there. Sicko mother tho. Nothing is sexual until people make it so.
I completely feel for op on that one but the other ways around and my dad is the deadbeat and he does nothing for me the last actual genuine present was an Xbox one in 2015 ever since then he's just bought me random things since he isn't involved with any of my life
He didnt explain periods, he explained the very hell and consequences of their bodies betraying them in gross, monthly life long hormonal triggered nightmares, give that man a Metal!
This awful, awful, awful woman is trying to adopt a slave, only giving them housing! Why! God, she's horrible!
What are they going to do tell their parents?
Which one?
Oof, those jokes
We only have the (by her own admission) disgruntled sister's side of that story.
Listening to the story, it sounds possible that she wanted her sister to go to the cost of putting her up, but not give anything in return, then got spiteful and spun a story.
@@joshduthie3401 while possible its best to lean on the side of caution here (also while I understand they also need care I'd be suspicious of anyone who *only* wanted to take in kids at the edge of the system timeout it just would be a red flag to look closer in any case). That said while its reasonable to want people to help out if your providing them a place to stay I've seen alot of cases where help out quickly morphs to do everything for me then to why aren't you kissing my ass for this chance. Its real easy to take someone for granted when you feel entitled to their efforts (valid or not) and its steep nasty slope from there.
the story about the woman wanting to foster a child literally wants to be the evil step mother to a cinderella
I couldnât said it better myself :)
Yeah. When I heard the story( and warning: my weeb side is coming out) I thought" What in the dear Asahi am I hearing, thats horrid." I am not even kidding, if I was old enough to adopt, I would be like, "Oh hell no, I will take care of all my children-" Little kid mindset im sorry-
Omg just what I was thinking. Could've been a real life Cinderella story. Happy it didn't turn out that way
Knowing the type, that woman would probably request a girl because girls are âmore suitedâ towards childcare or something.
If the lady thinks that a teen that's been in the system a while would be well adjusted enough to watch her kids, she's in for a big surprise.
The first story the dad is a legend. Instead of not doing anything he helped his daughters during puberty. This man has to be praised. I would call him a successful father
By HIM teaching his girls about periods, he inadvertently taught them that it's nothing to be ashamed of. Some women teach their girls that periods are a shameful secret, & do much more harm than good. I'm sure his girls were more upset by the egg donor's behavior towards their dad than anything he said.
Not only the period but he watched all the twilight movies
Yea, he also made them feel comfortable and taught them that having periods is normal and nothing to be ashamed off. I had my mom to âteachâ me about periods but she spoke about it as if it was a private or taboo subject, ... So every time I got my period after the first time,I would always hide it from my mom and esp my father. Really glad the OP taught his girls well
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I agree I give a zero out 5 butt hole to the father 0 out five butt hole to the 3 daughters and 5 out 5 butt hole to the ex straight up a human tash
In the first story the fact that the mother smiled as her children were crying đ€ź
Kay ya...thatâs sick
And it's clear that she said what she said because she saw them behind him, and knew he would react that way. That woman should never get to see those children again, it clearly wouldn't bother her much.
That's what set off the 12 year old too. At least if the timing was depicted correctly in the story.
thats mean of her
IKR? How heartbreaking đ
First guy got a -5/5 from me for being an absolute W father and amazing person, most dads only do the bare minimum but this guy organized an entire learning experience for them all
What a fucking legend
As someone who grew up group homes and foster care, I can say that woman who wants to adopt a human just to have as a slave is a monster.
The first story pisses me off. The guy is a freaking good father. And why is it perverted when the father teaches the girls about their bodys. At least he does it. I bet the mother would make the girls feel bad about their period.
And luckily he's got primary custody of his girls. In most situations (regardless if the mother is unfit or not) SHE gets custody of the kids. I've seen it happen SO MANY times
Calla Nightshade My dad has a friend thatâs divorced and his wife got the entire house!
Dude, if I was living with my dad during the time I started my period, my mother would have reacted in a similar way.
There is a reason why I cut my mother out for the time being.
@Beatlejuice 3 times totally agree with what you're saying
I am a father of a girl myself & have been married to her mom for 26yrs. When my daughter got her "visitor" the first time I talked to her about it & even took her to the store myself. It was not because my wife didn't want to, but I was home with my kids more & it just so happen to be when I was there & her mom was at work. I see nothing wrong with a father helping his daughters through a rough & confusing time like that.
"I even watched all the twilight movies with them, so don't say I don't love them."
*Father of the year 2020!*
I saw the first one thinking it was classical vampire movie maybe with the Buffy the vampire slayer theme in it and man was I disappointed and that guy saw all of them just to have a family moment together, he get 10 for effort:)
"careful, he s a hero"
watched them with my best friend who is like a sister to me she likes them and I never was interested in them myself and dang watching was difficult with cringe dialogue but it was for her birthday not all on the actual day but week leading up
My mom was so ashamed she liked Twilight she told us that the dog liked it.
This dog would watch anything on tv. She is so cute too cause she gets a mouthful of food, runs into the living room and spits it out and eats her food one piece at a time while watching TV. We called it her Tv Dinners. She still does it and shes 10.
@@TheVillageIdiot829 awww
Sheesh that dad is amazing. First of all when his children were upset for something that wasn't his fault he helped them. Second He made it up to them 20x fold and gave them everything.
Dad: *shows support of his daughters, and tells them periods are perfectly natural*
Birth mother: "And I took that personally"
Jesus that foster story is brutal. That entitled parent is literally just trying to enslave a teenager, a teenager with no family, and basically thinks of them as disposable labour. That is disturbing on every level
My thoughts exactly. She needs to be in prison.
That reminds me of some stories my mother told me about former classmates. After the war (WW2) it was quite common for families in rural regions and smaller villages to "adopt" children who had lost their parents during the war so they could help them with the day to day labour in the fields and take care of the families children. My mother had a few girls and boys in her class who had been adopted for those very reasons.
Agreed. I can only hope that because of OPs telling of the truth that the sister ends up Red Flagged in every possible channel that involves adopting or fostering a child.
Something about it reminds me of Oliver Twist
chastity marks thats fricking awful
My husbandâs first wife passed away when his daughter was 8 years old. He was single for the next ten years. His daughter turned out wonderfully. One thing that impressed me most was that heâd guided her through those tough teenage years. That first story-I want to slap that mother. What a childish woman! Her ex did an amazing job teaching his daughters some life basics. Nothing âpervertedâ about it!
what is truly perverted is that the mother was far more interested in her own sexual pleasure than in her own children.
@@SevCaswell for real tho
King Oreo I agree
Especially the fact that she insulted his manhood, and infront of his kids! Unbelievable. Making fun of a guy's masculinity is so mean. If you have a small penis, that's fine, and women should stop making fun of men for having small penises. That's like a guy laughing at women having small boobs, a flat butt and being ugly. Both are equally terrible.
Itâs perverted that she thought that he would have sexual interest in his children. Sheâs the one with the sick mind.
On the tuition one, you could tell OP downplayed how bad it really was for her daughter. Even then I was sort of going NAH because no hrm in asking and she "made it clear she could say no." Then she said the "but she's rich" comment and immediately my brain flipped to: by "making it clear" she means "I said it but we all know I said it in a way that gave no options"
Thatâs a lot of assumption without evidence. She could easily have just been stating sheâs wealthy because she wanted the reader to context on the fact her daughter wasnât going to be put in a bad financial position by the option. She admitted to her past faults and asking for a loan you plan on paying back with the intent of helping family isnât that bad. Maybe a little insensitive but not worth more than 1 MAYBE 2 buttholes.
@@tnonname828 I think I disagree. She says that the daughter could say no but when the daughter, by telling her she's learned nothing from her adolescence, effectively says no the mother complains about it.
â@@tnonname828 I agree if she was asking for the money for her daughters and not herself then I understand. She made it clear she was just exploring all options. The mother was actually more concerned about the other childrens tuition and not for herself. I'm not excusing what she did in the past. To me she comes off as a struggling single mother with 3 children. That's hard.
This is the first time I did not agree with R Slash...family pitches in and helps where it's needed
Big reach, you're calling OP a liar. Straight up, without any evidence of them lying
That father earns mad kudos for helping his daughters feel comfortable with their bodies. Not all heroes wear caps.
How is the dad a perv for talking to his daughters about a normal thing that almost all women go through.
Some people are weird and think that a man shouldn't deal with a woman's issue. It's absolute BS of course, but some people still think that way.
The problem with it is that all boys are going to have to know how to deal with women on their period, whether it's a wife, friend, sibling, coworker, whatever. It will come up! Yes, it's unpleasant but here's the thing... Women don't like it either!!
It doesn't make any sense to me to not be supportive.
because if a man helps a woman on her period he is a freak
@@ihatefurriesxxx how???????????
@@ihatefurriesxxx How? Why?
Doctors are PAID for it? So all male doctors are freaks?
Health teachers teach something about periods. So all male teachers are freaks?
Husbands and Boyfriends deal with their female partners on periods... So all straight men in relationships are freaks?
@@Blackdragon99omfg yes
In the first story the ex is entitled butt, she sounds like a terrible mother. And op sound wonderful đ
OP sound such like an amazing father !
Biankaandthebutterflies Totally, who yells at a FATHER for teaching there daughter about themselves!
And they have probably already heard those words before
Honestly, the kids will probably cut contact with her in the future.
Minetane yeah!
the mum from the first story is a horrible parent who shouldn't have custody at all
Chris George the kids arenât the other dads. He really doesnât have to help them with anything
@Chris George i don't think there were 2 fathers
@Chris George i looked up halfsiblings and i think the other father doesn't need to be involved
Why are yâall talking about the second story when this is a comment on the first one with the asshole mom on the video chat?
@@LadyYamiofLight so that's why i was so confused
I can't believe the entitled sister wanting a teenaged foster child as a free live in babysitter! She clearly hasn't thought that one through.
Sadly, she probably thought it through quite a bit before trying, she just is insane and thinks it is okay.
The rest of the family supporting that mindset too
The foster kid story is terrible. Imagine having to go through the trauma of whatever it was that got you put into the system, possibly shunted around for years to different families, only to end up a slave in all but name because some entitled witch can't be bothered to spend the time parenting her own children. Good on OP for blowing the whistle. No child deserves that.
It's horrifically common for this sort of thing to happen, too... People like that don't deserve to breathe.
@@Starfloofle I know, that's the worst part about all of this.
Has Rslash told that story in a different video before?
@@shaereub4450 no, but another Reddit reader featured it in one of their videos. I forget which one. Maybe Ask Guru?
this makes my blood boil more than the first story.
The wife in the first story makes my blood boil. It's okay if she wanted to leave OP, but she shouldn't have discarded her kids as well. She's the lowest type of parent. Disgusting!
you have a good point
@@an1mala413 you just have to raise your voice a little more and add some emotion to it
Sadly enough, there are âhumanâ âparentsâ that can go even lower than that. The best thing you can do tbh is keep an open mind, and if you have even the tiniest hunch, speak up
The âyou couldnât satisfy meâ was the craziest, like yeah, obviously the marriage is sex and just that
This people
@@elskaalfhollr4743 right because her husband couldn't satisfy her sexually, that TOTALLY justifies her neglecting her daughters. đđ Ugh!
I grew up in a similar situation as the older daughter in the second story. And I love my mom, but as I've gotten older I've come to believe that if you're a grown adult and you make choices that lead to you having children, YOU need to be the one to deal with the difficulties of it. Not your oldest child. The mom in the story made the choice to have and keep her two younger children. Maybe she should have thought about her finances, and the fact that they'd possibly want to go to college some day. None of that should be her oldest daughter's responsibility. The daughter in question made something of herself DESPITE having to be a second parent. She had every right to enjoy the results and her freedom.
The foster kid one hit home. As someone who's in the system, I'm happy she was denied to having a teen in her care.
The story with the walled off garden:
More than just being disrespectful, those kids using OP's pool and the family leaving fire pits and trash on his property are creating hazards. If any of them got hurt, OP might have been on the hook for occupier's liability claims for dangers they didn't make and couldn't police. Good on them for taking decisive action to put a stop to it.
Exactly... the entitled parents would sue in an instant.
Not necessarily. OP lives in Europe and there is different laws about this. I live in Europe and I can tell you that its always on me(well insurance. its mandatory to have it here) to pay for my health. Its also much more cheaper than in US. Only reason somebody would even consider to put it to the court(you would lose more money than gain and its slow as hell - i am talking about years) is in case of permanent injury and they could won that only if OP directly cause it. Still OP made good choice
@@Ibrahim-zd3vv thats the thing with entitled people. you are assuming they would behave like rational, self aware human beings.... they... do not.
@@Ibrahim-zd3vv Yes necessarily, at least in the UK where I'm a lawyer. Things like the pool would be enticements to the children, if they got hurt OP would be liable in the eyes of the law -- the family might not sue, but that doesn't change the legal reality of where the blame would rest (on OP).
@@TheGoatOfMendes
They climbed a fence. Thats trespassing
âOh, no! I canât be a helicopter parent for my grown ass child in his job interview! Oh boo hoo!â
@Chris George it's not even that; most of these kids would be perfectly qualified to actually do the jobs if their parents didn't essentially sabotage them at every turn.
I had a student get scheduled for his campus job last week and even though it's over zoom, his dad brought him into the office (I wasn't even there lmao) and then when I called them, the dad proceeded to pick his hours. WHY.
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In the hundreds of jobs i have applied to and the dozens upon dozens of interviews i have had, I have only ever received 1 or 2 rejection notices. Usually i just don't hear back and that is the end of it.
@Chris George Maybe its due to the number of interviewees or the size of their HR, but even an automated emailing system would be nice. I work in the medical field so maybe these hospitals skimp on that department. Not really sure.
First story: The parent who walk out of a relationship because "their partner couldn't satisfy them", while not even being a proper mother role in the partial custody, has no room to argue about important family matters that they only feel like getting involved in once something is deemed "inappropriate". I think this ex is trying to instigate a response in OP that she will use to frame him for something that he's not even guilty of, so that she can get full custody of the kids. That's disgusting and selfish behavior, and I would suggest that OP brace himself for the worst case scenario. 0/5 buttholes.
Second story: Yes, OP didn't learn anything from her mistake the first time. In fact, OP kind of owes her daughter for possibly missing out on a lot during such an important part of her life. The way OP asks her to contribute to both sisters' college tuition is not only suggesting that OP thinks that her daughter has a moral obligation to due to her current economic stance, but in the daughter's eyes it's like taking away the one thing she feels like her mom should let her have unconditionally. It's only fair that she gets to live a life in luxury as compensation for basically playing the third wheel in the family during her teenage life, and OP should feel ashamed for even suggesting otherwise. 2/5 buttholes.
Third story: There is nothing to be ashamed of when it comes to protecting private land from unwanted trespassing. If they can't be told, they have to be shown, much to the displeasure of others who actually respects the boundaries that are set by the owners. It's a pretty simple rhetoric: Either everyone obeys the rules, or nobody can enjoy it. 0/5 buttholes.
Fourth story: Slavery has been frowned upon for hundreds of years. What different would free child labor be? Nobody would ever feel grateful for only being compensated for all the tasks that are being forced on them by merely having the minimum living standards that any middle-class people has these days, only to be thrown aside once they're no longer deemed "useful". What we have here is someone who quite literally wanna abuse slavery under the pretense of charity. 0/5 buttholes.
Fifth story: From the day I got out of high school and into adulthood, I barely ever got pampered by my parents while searching for jobs. I went to every interview alone, reached out to businesses for any potential jobs I could get only by borrowing my parents' cars, and they weren't even that broadly involved when i wrote my job applications. I know what it's like to almost feel unwanted on the job market, but I realize now that it was most likely due to how laid-back and lazy I was back then. I was only setting myself back, but the mom in this story is the one being a hindrance for her son, and she deserves the scorn for trying to take the initiative in her son's place. That is no way for him to learn how to grow as an adult, and I feel like he'll come to hate her for it later in life once he realize he was better off without her "help". 0/5 buttholes.
The first guy is absolutely amazing. Heâs the parent I always wished I had, the complete opposite of my mother, and it canât be easy going to work dealing with kindergarteners all day then coming home and being so supportive and kind to his daughters. And the fact that he immediately tried to fix things when the girls started crying AND put in extra effort to make them feel good shows he cares way more than their mother ever did.
And as for the second one Iâm stuck in the same situation he daughter was a teenager, Iâm stuck playing second mom for my three younger siblings who donât listen to my mom and sure as hell donât listen to me due to my mother constantly undermining everything I say when Iâm home. I know exactly how the daughter felt then and I hope I never have to feel what she must have felt when the mom asked for the money (I plan on going into psychology) she must have been so hurt, thinking things were getting better only to be reminded that, just like before, she was nothing more than her siblingâs second parent
What is it about swimming pools? So many entitled parents stories about people's fenced off pools being treated as "The neighborhood pools" even when they clearly aren't.
Probably because all public pools are fenced off. (since drunk people or toddlers could fall in and drown). That said, they generally aren't in "behind" areas, they're almost always a centrally located key feature to the neighborhood.
Ikr
I applaud the father in the first story: You Sir, are a true gem, your daughters are so lucky to have you. I'd really wish that there were more parents (fathers AND mothers) just like you.Thank you for being such a great parent!
That, and then learning all the options, I've saw a lot of hesitancy with the cups when I was younger. That being said, my dad, upon hearing I wanted a cup for myself was just confused on how they worked, he couldn't picture it at first.
That thumbnail tho..... That woman gets me every time.... âThey canât hear me cause theyâre listening to Kids Bop!â lmaoooo
That first story breaks my heart. It's amazing that their father cares enough to step up and teach them about periods. It's obvious that their mom is obviously not going to put in the work to care for the girls. He's NTA. I would yell too. She kept escalating the situation instead of acting like an adult. I hope the kids are okay.
The foster kid one makes me extremely mad. Like even more than the other ones
AITA for stealing bamboo? The other guy stole mine so i stole more from him
Everyone sucks here, youâre endangered cuz you guys canât get it together to passionately hug and now youâre stealing food from each other. 2.5/5 buttholes for you, 4/5 buttholes for the other guy.
@@soandso3676 I agree
No 0/5
How much bamboo? 12? That would definitely make you the asshole. That shit has a high value!
No I like panda
Stories like the first one, where the father cares about his daughters so much and he supports them and teaches them about periods always makes me burst into tears. It melts my heart and i am so happy for all the girls who got to have that. My dad would yell at me if he found a single (unused) pad, no matter where i hid it and then he would call me disgusting and throw them away. I had to use toilet paper for years and even now as a grown up his words still haunt me every time i get my period. Big respect to all parents who supports their children with periods
When she said " she's rich, she has the money" I didn't interpret that as butthole behavior. I saw that as her justification for just why she could have thought to ask here in the first place. If she didn't have money, she wouldn't have asked. If mom did think of her as a second parent, then she wouldn't wanted to ask no matter the income I would presume.
let me put it simply imagine your whole life your mom pretty much throws your siblings onto you for all of your preteen to teenage years and then imagine after having a strained relationship and feeling like your just a second parent that not long after you guys are sort of fixing your relationship and then after your feelings of being a second parent are maybe going away your mom asks you to do something a parent would to pay for collage and that lady most likely said it in a way that meant you had no option when she said "she's rich she has the money" it just sounds like op said it in a way that made it so there was no option thats probably why her daughter is upset
The foster kid story drove me crazy my close friend was a foster kid and he bounced from home to home and hated his life because he was treated like he wasnât a part of the family. The sister is crazy to think that a teen will be happy being treated like a slave
Foster kids have put up with a lot. they are resilient and hard headed. We would smell that fire burning the second we set foot in the house
Hell you treat a foster kid like and they may take it out on your kids or just straight up not do shit or run away.
I'm not a foster kid but this woman treated me like this I would just turn around on my heel and go back to the foster home
The saying "it doesn't hurt to ask" is a lie. Sometimes, it absolutely does.
@@an1mala413 sometimes it does hurt to ask. It really does
Reddit Prime huh nani dafuq mans got like 2 vids combined total of 200 veiws and 100k subs
Reddit Prime oh shit good luck man thats a hard dive to make
@@an1mala413 This isn't asking, this is begging.
It's written with good grammar and in a very mannerly format, thus way more people will be inclined to follow it, myself maybe included...
Edit: But you spammed it everywhere...
Thus it's just annoying, disgusting, begging Spam~
It depends person to person but yes
People in these stories be like: Am I bad for stopping child slavery
That father in the first story made my heart warm. He sounds so good. Like having a nice night explaining the truth. He just seems like such a good dad. I think he gets -1 butthole. Sure it might be sad for his daughters to see them argue, but it isn't like he started screaming at her knowingly and he only said the truth. The mom seems like she is a real piece of work.
My dad was the one who taught me about periods, he was a nurse so he understood. My mom was in a literal other country. He was the best man I think has ever existed and he died this past month... that first story really reminded me of him and that makes me feel both amused for remembering and really sad that he's gone
Honestly, the first story has me worried that the mom will cut child support and try to take the kids from OP. She sounds like the kind of EP to do that
For the second story: I was going NTA at first, but as soon as she said "Shes rich and has the money" I turned my opinion around
I got turned off as well but still but mom and daughter overrated like bruh just say no and move on u dicc head
As someone who was used as a second parent, you're often conditioned into agreeing to things even if it's presented as a "choice" so OP in that story saying 'she was allowed to say no', the daughter may not have known if that was actually true. I had a similar situation involving money where I was given the option to say no but pressured into saying yes anyway. Even if it was only meant to be a loan, OP definitely hasn't learned from her mistakes
My dad (who DIDNT have full custody) taught me about my period. He asked my mother about the puberty talk when i was about 8 and started developing breast. Honest to god my mothers answer was "she doesnt need that talk she isnt growing up" at 29 i no longer talk to my mother and my dad and i are best friends. He was more of a "mother" to me than my own mother. Kudos to the dad. He is doing an amazing job
@@an1mala413 i definitely like the human narration as opposed to the robotic voice. I connect with the humaness and emotion the robotic voice lacks. Its much more personal and i feel it helps your audience connect better with you. You are doing a great job!
That last one, yeah. No. The OP is not the A-hole. All parents need to learn that their kids won't always be kids who need their protection. That mother sounds like she didn't learn that, and that kid will suffer for it.
I agree. The mother shouldnât been in there just to helicopter over there. The only reason the mother should be in there is: if he was to have a medical condition that would require someone to be there with him/her (to deal with sudden seizures, fits, allergies and etc) providing we were aware of this before. But ofc, they would have to remain seated, quiet and not a distraction unless she is needed to break those conditions for the reason she is in there. Answering certain interview questions for a different person is stupid. It means the interview cannot be achieved and a waste of time for both parties that may not be able to be fixed (like another job position in the same place)
Chris George Jesus Christ. Thatâs horrible
@Chris George As someone who walks half an hour (or rides/pushes a bike) up a hill every day of work I have, I take offense that you have the audacity to demand someone to walk. I demand compensation of 46.8 thousand dollars for that specific reason and not because I need to make a car payment.
@Chris George How dare you. I request 100k for your rejection of my request! It hurt my doggy's feelings!
@Chris George Well MY Lawyers tell me to tell you that we'll be seeing you in court where I'm sure a judge who hates this kind of behavior from both of us will agree with ME.
I haven't even gotten through the first story but this guy is freaking father of the year! A father who's man enough to know that he had daughters and is willing to teach and learn with them about their basic bodily functions, is a goddamn prize.
The first story is heartbreaking. Those poor kids deserve a mom who would treat them and their dad better.
Iâm no mathematical genius but Iâm pretty sure 20 people canât be first
Probably not đ
Same
Not another one of these comments
Your brain is immeasurable and your brain made my day.
If you think about time as nonlinear, we are all first.
Wait, so when has teaching kindergarten makes you a loser? Have they forgotten about Kindergarten Cop played by Arnold? The same Arnold that at 70 years old was jumped double kicked by some random dude and barely felt it while the kicker fell and broke his leg?
@@an1mala413 oh hey look self promo boooooooo
They also have forgotten about those kids are our future. They learn then use those things to make our future.
First story, that man deserves an award. The support and love he showed his daughters, it's so wholesome.
that foster story sounded like it was one family fortune away from being The Series of Unfortunate Events and I am so glad that OP managed to put a stop to it
This subreddit is weird because I never know when the next genuine a$$hole shows up. Like, you half expect everyone to be an a$$hole in disguise but it's still kinda weird when a genuine one with no sense of shame pops up.
âI know! Iâll make my sibling whoâs against me using foster kids as slave labor my character witness! What could possibly go wrong?â
@Jack the Gestapo I assumed you could, but now I'm questioning it...
wait...
what the FUCK is up with your username?!
The first story made my heart absolutely melt, he seems like such a good father and he clearly loves his children very much, as long as he explains that his anger isnât because of his daughters, and he didnât mean for them to see him that upset, and makes sure they understand that there are times when itâs appropriate to get angry (his anger was justified because his ex was negatively impacting his kids and he was defending them) but that he knows it was probably scary to see, heâs NTA.
That first dad is such a good dad !! They're so lucky to have him !! Respectđ
First story, youâre being a great dad! Disappointed in the mother. I canât imagine not being there for my child. You are a human being with normal emotions and you didnât know your kids were in the room. You did the right thing by teaching them about their bodies. Being a girl learning about periods for the first couple years is very hard and sadly often is embarrassing. So you handled it great!
That first dad seems like such a sweet guy, poor thing.
He should get sole custody tbh
No only a woman should get custody of her kids
@@Karen-kl7yc lmao
NTA in the second story. He couldnât do anything, he asked. He said it was okay to say no. Asking is not awful, 0 out of buttholes.
Jamie Schechner That part wasnât the bad part, after it though, when she mentioned about her daughter being rich, was really a show of how much she Was TA
I have to agree. If someone respectfully asks something of you and you then get offended, that's their problem, not the asker's.
@@StayGoldYTS I think mentioning that the daughter was rich was more to show that she wasn't asking for an unreasonable amount according to her means, not that it was wrong for her not to pay.
What I wouldâve done with the fence: install the fence, but with a door that has a lock. When someone else asks for permission, boom! They get it. The bad neighbor demands access, boom! They donât get it. Or the only way in the fence is through the house. The other neighbors kids could knock on the door and ask to use the land.
I was in a similar position as the daughter in the second story. Throughout my teenage years I had to babysit my little sister a whole lot, including during the long summer holidays. Yes, the mother asked for the money and said she wouldnât be upset if her daughter said no, but itâs not that simple. Hereâs the thing: when your parent relies on you so much and you have obliged in the past, any refusal of their request is seen as a major offense. So chances are that if the daughter said no, the mother would indeed get upset and take it out on her in subtle ways and may even try to guilt trip her. Saying no to a parent who has been dependent on you is rarely without consequence. Also, Iâm curious to know how the daughter afforded university if the mother didnât have much money.
Thanks for the perspective on this one. In my mind, just asking seemed harmless if they were willing to take no for an answer.
I have normal parents who put all their effort into parenting me and they pay all their attention to me and even I feel awful if they ask if I'm willing to help with something and I say no.
So just asking definitely does create a sense of obligation.
yea sure saying no to a parent is hard i know the feeling but essencially if you say yes you would be helping your sibling and not your parent and im not american so idk how student dept works but it seems horrible to let your siblings go into that dept when you can help. but my relationship with my sister is amazing and it might not be the same for you.
the daughter probably had good grades or something
In the first story, OP is more of a mother than his ex will ever be.
No only a woman knows how to be a mum
@cleveland clowns suck How dare you I'm SUEING
@@Karen-kl7yc you again...
@@justsomerandombananawithin3705 do i know you
@@Karen-kl7yc mabye...
I agree on the last one: getting ghosted, especially after actually doing an interview, is the most frustrating thing about job hunting. Just tell me I didn't get it, don't leave me hanging.
And both the mom and the son SHOULD know that it was a problem to have her butting in.
That OP was 100% correct to inform the social worker about the sister's foster care plan. that sister is cruel, or just so incredibly dense to think a traumatized foster child can be further used and abused like that.
The one about foster kids is so much worse when you realize how messed up most teens in the system are. First of all they are flight risks because they have been through so much and don't trust anyone. Second a lot of them have aversion to authority because of what they've been through. I've also heard that if you have existing kids or animals in the house you won't qualify because plenty of those teens have issues and you don't want potential of lashing out. If she somehow qualified even without him saying anything she would have been in for a rude awakening once she saw the problems foster teens have because they are tired of being used.
Existing kids and pets don't disqualify you. It can actually be seen positively as you've demonstrated your ability to care for children (and animals). Every kid in the system is unique and their caseworker will let you know if it's not a good situation with them. Some kids want to be part of a family that includes siblings. Some kids need the focused attention of the parent, so better not to be placed in a home with other children. Some kids desperately want a home with animals while others are terrified of them and would not be placed in a home where they felt unsafe. It's a case by case basis.
I know it's not all cases I'm saying in general if you're looking for a teen foster kid they are typically traumatized from the system and that leads to a lot harder to find a teen especially if you have kids
My main point was if she got a teen it would definitely not work out like she thought because of the mental problems teens tend to have.
The story with the pool sounds like it could be from a eastern European country and the one with fostering teenagers sounds like child slavery with extra steps
As someone who works in a foster family, hard and merciless labour for food and roof over one's head is NOT what foster children need. They need love, care and security because they once were deprived of it all. It really hurts me to see how many other local foster families we know use even small children as free labour... :C
You are not the butthole!
You stepped up when your little girls needed you to explain one of life's scarier issues. You ROCK!
I wish someone had been confident and comfortable enough to explain it to me. My very prudish mom tried, but only succeeded in scaring me.
Things were different in the late 60s.
The first one and the daughter starting her cycle. ALL Dad's should be involved!!! They can give insight we as woman can't, especially from stupid boys. That is one great dad! It also gives the daughter's strength to not be embarrassed.
The Family members that Sided OP's Sister: *Child slavery should be legal!!!*
Other people: They are the people who want child slavery!!!
Ikr, disgusting
The Dad from the first story is a legend! He's done so much to understand the topic and show the girls it's nothing to be ashamed of.
I remember having discussions with our male sex education teacher, because he thought he knew everything better then the girls who deal every month with it! Especially as it is a very individual topic and a little bit different for every woman
The way the mom didn't even think a foster child would need attention as well I-
Story 1: NTA!! She new, and you had no idea. She flipped a switch. Itâs fine! You sound like an amazing dad!
First story literally made me cry, OP is such a good father, it broke my heart to hear he thought he was the Asshole !
around a year ago i ran out of redit stories to listen to and i found your channel. I listened to one episode and was like... ill just listen to an episode as a filler while im waiting for someone else to post a redit video, I wasent to sure if i was gonna listen to more. but here i am one year later eagerly waiting each day for the next episode to come out. Thanks so much for making all of your listeners days 100 times better! Im always so happy to hear your voice each day and am so happy i stumbled across your channel. Keep up the good work :)
the woman in the foster kid one is evil i have family who were in foster care and i was adopted myself the thought of treating them as cheap labor and not as a member of your family is disgusting how dare she try to do such a thing it is people like that that cause the high rates of criminality and suicide in foster kids later in life. it takes a village to raise a child but it just takes one evil person to break them.
That first one is messed up...
leaving your children because he couldn't satisfy you? And then getting mad because he was the parent and not her... He should fight for their full time and never have them go over again.
That foster children story sent chills down my spine...
The foster kid story is just so needlessly cruel and disgusting; Iâm happy OP told the truth and put a stop to it. I canât imagine looking at abandoned children and thinking, âThatâs free labor.â
The OP in that first story is a top tear dad â€literally amazing!! So happy people like him exist.
In my opinion, op from the foster kid one gets -3.7 but holes, she/he literally saved a kid from child labour
Eh, I wouldn't say child labour...
I would say Slavery
C0ltipl4yer yeah
@@null8291 yea
@@null8291 DONâT DO THAT S*** MY HEART WAS POUNDING
what? no the addoption lady didn't save a child in need of a good home from child labor??!? you're crazy if you think that :O
the adoption lady saved a kid in need of a good home from an evil lady's child slavery ring. happy to offer you the correction traveler.
Rslash, on the story about the fostering a child, you may have missed something.
You were absolutely right about OP not being the butthole.
But I think what you may have missed was that OP is asking if they are because they have most likely spent a significant part of their life being gaslighted by not only their sister, but the family who agreed with their sister on kids being free labor.
@@an1mala413 absolutely. You have a very soothing voice. I think a lot of people are going to love listening to you. In fact, I think your voice is so good, that I believe you could recite a dictionary and people would tune in to listen. Hope you have a great weekend.
Wow for the last story itâs always amazing how delusional some people are. As if anyone whoâs mother was answering for them in an interview has the slightest chance at getting the job.
That poor dude in the last story I wouldâve been so EMBARRASSED. Honestly good on OP for telling the mom that. Helicopter parents are some of the worst.
In the second story, OP needs to also rid herself of the mindset that after high school, you HAVE to go to college. Sure, for some professions, college is a must but it is also not for everyone. Plenty of people have gone on to be very wealthy and never went to college. If she really wants to consider all the options, she should consider that one as well.
i think its the kids that want to go to college in the first place and if i was in her place and my kids wanted to go to college the last thing id want to do is say no and possibly stop them from accomplishing their dream careers but she never specified so idk
The parent that asked her kid to pay for the other kids college is a deadbeat and a BUMB!!! Don't have all these kids if you can't afford them đ just saying
Lela Hill so only the rich should have kids? That doesnât sound too fair. You should be able to go to college without rich assistance to begin with.
@Chris George
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@@jamieschechner7954
- if your ass can't afford to keep having kids, STOP!!! her kids can take out a loan for college like everyone in world does!!!!!! Life is not fair but you can always get a chance if you wk. at it
For the parent asking her daughter for to help take care of her siblings tuition is wrong. My mom hardly makes the poverty line. I'm telling you there is FAFSA for kids to use to help pay for college. It's an application for students trying to go to college even though their parents don't make enough to not only take care of themselves and their family.
That was another alternative, the mother was looking to every possibilites the daughter like or not was one of the alternative, isn't good way to see things, but it is what it is.
Also the mom said the oldest was a financial advisor. Couldn't she, like, ask her daughter to help make a financial plan for the mom to use for the younger daughters' education that wouldn't break the bank as much? Things like community college/tech schools instead of universities are often cheaper, for example, along with FAFSA and potential scholarships.
There were other ways of asking for help that didn't have to involve asking the oldest daughter to foot the bill.
FAFSA can literally destroy lives because you have to pay it back.
The correct answer is if you can't afford college and/or don't have a solid life and career plan (Like 99% of high school kids) then don't force yourself to do it.
Stop feeding the college loan farming machine exploiting children for profit. If the next generation stands up and says no to insane tuition, no to superfluous degree requirements on jobs, and no to giving tens of thousands in loans to children under 18 then we can finally be free of this bs scam.
First hand experience taught me university charges 12 THOUSAND a semester, that's TWICE a year, to every student living on campus. The university is literally scamming millions out of the futures of children. 40 students, literally less than 1 full lecture class, earns them almost a million a year. There's no way that university has a multi-hundred million a year upkeep.
@@DarthZ01 FASFA is the aid application with the federal government. There are many grants that are not paid by you from the government. Many lower income families can use it to have at least tuition completely paid for if not more.
Agreed. I mean Iâm kinda fifty fifty on whether it was a butthole thing to ask or just a little naively insensitive, feels like it would depend on relationship context we just donât have. But it definitely wasnât TACTFUL.
As a former foster kid, I have had a foster mum like that grunt. Unfortunately for her, we reported her, all five of us. She is no longer a foster parent. The bad news is there are a lot of people who do this.
đ My manager had a mom sit in with her teenagers interview. She also answered questions for junior. And at the end of the interview the mom asked "Did he get the job?" And my manager said, "No, ma'am. But since you answered all the questions, would you like to work for us instead?" He was being sarcastic AF. đđđ
Best. Day. Ever!
As someone that was raised by a single father... the first one infuriates me. I grew up in an identical situation. Mothers like this donât deserve the right to be a parent. Absolutely not his fault for reacting. Thereâs only so much people can take.
"we didn't hire you because we don't like your face"- i almost chocked on a chip when i heard that
So thatâs why I canât get a job
OP number one, grade A parenting, thanks for being an awesome father to your girls!! You are not the asshole, and your young ladies are very lucky to have you as a dad.
The Mothers are somehow always crazy and the dads are always tired, crazy, or the best.
Ngl, the first story was productive. Op got to learn with his daughter, and teach his other two daughters
I would pay for the first parent to be my parent.
I wish i had a dad
I wish I knew who my dad is
@@frostkilling so do i
My mother, who raised me, did a pretty good job. She made a few mistakes, but looking back, nothing worth fussing over. My sperm donor, however - I only want to see him through the sights on a shotgun. So be careful what you wish for!
As someone who wants to foster/adopt children someday, that woman's reasoning is disgusting. These are real children she's talking about. How dare she act like they're something she can exploit. I'm smacking her in my mind.
The guy in the first story sounds like a great father, Iâm glad the children are with him instead of the mother.
i know who you are but you don't know who i am alice