r/AmITheA**hole For Making A Karen Upset?
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- Äas pĆidĂĄn 25. 07. 2024
- r/AmITheA**hole In today's episode, a Karen criticizes OP for being a bad wife, so OP claps back by mocking the Karen for being single in her 40s. The Karen can dish it out, but she can't take it! She starts whining and complaining that OP is soooo mean to her when she doesn't deserve the criticism. Is OP a butthole, or is Karen being a total hypocrite? Let me know in the comments! Also, be sure to subscribe for more daily Reddit videos!
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Is it just me, or do a lot of these AITA stories seem to be someone being a jerk and then getting super offended when op responds in kind?
Not just you
Sam Packer
They also tend to be "OP does something good, Someone hates it, Many people hate it/OP gets dogpiled, AITA?"
Cinko515 or âam I bad for doing something crappy, and everyone hates me, but I think I did the right thingâ
And then rSlash agreeing with the offended person.
390 like
So youâre ok with a girl defending herself over dinner but not ok with the girl defending herself over a group chat? I saw no difference in the two. They were both insulted and they both defended themselves.
I'll just point out that the dinner one was also a girl defending herself.
Tsingkong911 ah, I missed that. I couldnât quite remember as I was doing other things while listening, thanks for the catch!
Jonathan Jack I understand where you are coming from, but The original person who insulted her should have messaged her privately if she didnât wanna get burned on the group chat. Why insult someone publicly if you arenât prepared for them to retaliate publicly?
Well really that gc was her husbands co workers, so even if she was right, it would have been better to just let it go, or at least be a little more subtle and like other people said, simply say thats not really appropriate. Its ok to be right and not go for the win, it makes you the bigger person. Cause really, its not someone she spends time with and while the comment from Brenda was offensive did she really feel devastated about it? It was such bs! Cause now there is polarization where her husband has to go everyday.
Mari Posa I would like to politely disagree. Obviously there already was polarization in the workplace as it was stated that there were several jokes before this incident. I see it like this; The husband did not put his foot down and lay some boundaries and now his wife is suffering the back end of that decision. Sheâs had enough of it and made it know thatâs she isnât a push over. Life is short so donât take crap from anyone. To use your same argument... Brenda doesnât see the wife often so should she really feel devastated about it?
Lmfao misogyny is NOT culture đ
He wants to be oppressed so bad
Misogyny is definitely some culture. I'm not supporting that, not at all. But it is in many cultures. Yeah. I mean look at Amish culture. Mormon culture.
@@ranjanbiswas3233 also jehovahs witnesses are misogynistic
@@ranjanbiswas3233 of course misogyny is culture. Look at Islamic culture. Look at the countries where Islam is the predominant religion and tell me they believe in equality among the sexes. I know you're not allowed to say that because it islamophobia. And I say to those people how are you racist against a set of ideas.
Deadass
@@LLandS18 while true, just for reference, islamic vountries USED to be more egalitarian. They were actually ahead of western cultures on that way back when. But things changed during the cold war and the us propping up fundamentalist islamic terrorist groups to institute fundamentalist relgion in these countries (to fight communism ostensibly).
Islamic could have been fine and without sexism (at least no worse than european christianity) but unfortunately it generally isnt anymore.
About the uncle who asked for her salary: If someone wants the truth, he deserves the consequences!
pro tip, never talk about money in family you dont like, they are close enough to know you and distant enough to no depend on you.
Pro tip nu2 if you ever find someone who is depraved and smart, either stay close, or really far
would he be more offended if she said "you want to know how much money i make?, you cannot handle that truth."
He couldn't handle the truth!
The gender reveal one reminds me of my the story I keep getting told about when I was born -
My Grandad was disappointed I wasn't a boy because he wanted to get his granson his 1st train set. My dad just turned round and said why can't she have a train set, then went out and bought the biggest electric train set he could get. 38 years later I still have it in the loft.
My dad was awesome as well. I am the oldest of 3 & female. He took me everywhere with him. He didn't give a damn that I don't have a penis. I was a tomboy as a kid & I did everything a son would have, right down to racing everything with an engine & I still have a garage full of tools. I was also raised in a more European fashion so I don't really have any weird sex/body hangups either.
He only ended up getting weirdly overprotective after I grew into an adult who STRONGLY resembles his mother (really, it's kind of disturbing looking like a twin to someone I've never met & who is long dead) who died of Wilson's when he was 13. My childhood was idyllic though.
@@tazhienunurbusinezz1703 wow
@@laylaholt566 I was up until I turned 16. I then discovered some of the side benefits of being a girl. I'm currently rocking a faux-hawk (my curly hair is tightly brushed to my head & allowed to "be free" in a line right down the middle of my head from nape to almost forehead) & I'm doing my makeup (brown smokey eye & red red lips) because I find that it relaxes me.
I plan to grab my leather motojacket & fringed black knee high boots to go over my destroyed skinny jeans & black tank when I leave the house in a few minutes.
Funny thing is that I live in a ridiculously small Midwestern town & I gotta say, I kinda love both the disapproving & envious stares that I get because I just don't give a damn what people think & I like what I like ;)
@@tazhienunurbusinezz1703 damn.
I have some black boots and some ripped jeans i wear on hot days. (With a tank-top)
And rn im wearing my boots, camo jumper, and a black long sleeved shirt.
@@laylaholt566 Try the faux-hawk (Bobby pins & hairspray), it does scream badass & it's ridiculously fun ;)
As a southern girl I can say that, "Southern Culture" is a joke. True southern women don't take BS from their husbands or anyone else like that. Sure we like to pamper our man once in a while, some more often than others, but if he gets too big for his breeches we set him straight. A southern girl was taught how to act like a lady but also not to ever depend on a man. Learn to take care of yourself.
That's what my friends and family taught me. No man should treat a lady like a servant EVER
Nobody should be treaded as a serf and point. Seriously, John's family and friend sound like a pair of toxic asshat who surely wish to return to "bAk iN mUh DAyZ" type of persons
My daddy is a grown ass man but if my mama or my Granny tell him to do something he says Yes Maâam and does it
@@CorundumDevil amen
Alex Dusfraine couldnât have put it any better myself
Iâm from the south as well, you are 100% correct.
The fact that that mom made her kid write those papers is absolutely beautiful, that's how you should teach a kid how to treat people
You can't say "she had it coming" and "you shouldn't have engaged her" in the same breath.
The parent who made her son apologize for saying something racist, that was great parenting. This is how every parent should respond if their child says something racist.
Why do black people put mustard on their tootsi roles
So they dont bite off their finger
My mother told me that when she was a little girl, maybe kindergarten age, a black buy walked by their house on the sidewalk. She doesn't know where they had heard the "n" word, but they hollered it at him. He stopped, walked up and knocked at the door. Kids had already fled inside. Grandma answered, and he told her what the girls had said. Grandma thanked him for the info, and he left. SOMONE got a very stern talking too.Kids weren't racist, just ignorant.
@Earl Woode it's still shitty cause he always got attacked he said because of his race
That's right; turn it into a learning experience.
Right?! If any of my kids said something like that I'd be so mad. I try to instill being kind, respectful and equal in my kids. Funnily enough my daughter asked about a girl in her class because she has a different skin colour. There wasn't any malice in it at all, she just asked an honest question and we talked about how the world would be a boring place if everyone looked exactly the same đ€·ââïž
I'm a girl and grew up with a brother. Dad played catch with both of us. When old enough, I joined Girl Scouts and my brother joined Cub Scouts. Mom was den mother for both our troops and we had our own camping trips. Girl Scouts actually gave me the confidence to do whatever I wanted with my life and not let my gender stop me.
I think only thing I was bummed about was that Girl Scouts never got a Pinewood Derby.
I live in a subdivision and realized after a few years I had not once seen a dad and son playing catch. Finally after a few more years I see someone playing catch....Mom and her son.
DisneyFanatic2364 how does your gender stop you it usually your race
@@colebearsf care to elaborate
Yeah, thatâs great for him if the girl is like that. But I would say most girls arenât like that at all.
@@colebearsf
It's difficult for women to break into male-dominated career fields (mechanics, lawyers, firefighters), just like men have trouble being accepted into typically "women's work" (nurses, teachers, daycare workers).
This is true all the way down to grade school levels, where contact sports are considered as being for boys, while home economics (or whatever they call it now) and crafting are thought of as being for girls.
I'm gonna make an assumption here, based on your word choice, and say you're a POC. If that's true, you should understand very well how being outside the mainstream view of "how things are done" is a hindrance. POCs are too often viewed by racists as "not as capable", simply because they're darker-skinned. It's ridiculous. (I must also point out how it's equally ridiculous that some assume all whites are racist, ironically based only on race. Racism is stupid, perpetuated by narrow-minded fools. So is sexism.)
People should be judged based on merit. The sooner THIS becomes mainstream thinking, the better off we'll be as a whole. Girls can play football, boys can dance ballet, etc etc.
NO WAY, that last woman was NOT a butt hole for sticking up for herself.
Final story: I'll let you know when I need relationship advice from somebody who's 42 and single
Me: oooh... krispy roast
that should have been the reply from the husband after that:P
Agreed here!
I love getting marriage advice from bitter angry bittys.
rSlash in the beginning of vid: "If you can't take it, don't dish it out"
rSlash at the end of the vid: "I'm giving you 1/5 buttholes for defending yourself simply because it was in a group chat
Yes! Iâm not the only one who noticed it. They were both insulted and they both defended themselves so why did the lady at the end get the bad end of the stick? You can defend yourself in person at dinner but not over a group chat?
Thatâs not what he said. Rslash didnât say teh fish it out thing, he READ a comment which said that. Rslash didnât give 1/5 just because itâs in a GC, but BEACUSE SHE WAS INSULTED PREVIOUSLY
Sam Zhai He read the comment because he agreed with it. Literally right before he read it, he said âIm gonna have to agree with...â and read it. As for what youâre on about with the previous insults, I have no idea wtf youâre on about. He said he gave her 1/5 buttholes for engaging in a group chat fight.
To me, it is good that OP defended herself on the gc. She said half were making jokes while the other half was offended. She showed that she is taking no flack from anyone. Brenda started the fight, OP took it to herself to end it.
Cafuné Royalty exactly!
Brenda: *Being mean to OP*
OP: *Being mean to her back*
Also Brenda: *"wHy ArE yOu sO ruUuUuUdE?!!!"*
Even heard of the phrase "What goes around comes around"?
What goes around goes around goes around comes all the way back around đ¶đ¶
Or âThe Pot calling the Kettle blackâ
Op is a war hero.
Bruh of course I have
Jazer knowledge and how OP is being rude uncle but not acknowledging that heâs being rude to OP
Another funny thing about gender reveal dad is that Boy Scouts isn't just for boys anymore. Girls can join as of a couple years ago. There's literally nothing he listed that he won't be able to do either way.
though to be fair, boy scouts doesn't have a great reputation, best to go with the girl scouts, while having a similar name as far as I'm aware, not the same people running it
I live in the south and thatâs not the âcultureâ lol most southern places people call you sugar and sweetheart, the people are really nice đ¶
AITA for calling out racism from your kids and punishing him for it? HELL NO. That's called _ACTUALLY BEING A PARENT_
afxinfinitee Hell. Yes.
Edit: it looks like i said op is the butthole but I meant hell yes by in argeeing
A slightly edgy joke once in a while around friends is ok, but you DEFINITELY donât make one at a person
@@War_is_cool yeah I agree and at least make it a funny joke, that was straight up insulting
Specc _- Racism is harmless and funny, according to you. Good to know.
@@bodaciousdoggo8971 well then the kid isn't the asshole. He said it from somewhere else without knowing the door was already open. Really it was just bad timing for the kid. Which is just an unfortunate factor in life.
In the last story, I have to say 100% NTA. Even if it was with witnesses, Brenda more than deserved it. Honestly, comparatively speaking, I think OP could have said more, but that's just my opinion.
Vord Joncus Exactly. I donât agree with rslashâs take. Brenda initiated the argument then got mad when she was put in her place. I cracked the heck up when op said that. Too good of a comeback.
Totally agree. That was a sick burn 8D
Yep 100% agree with you she's not the ahole
Brenda got what she deserves
100% NTA, 0/5 assholes. Seriously rSlash? Brenda and her sexist rant got off easy.
Yeah whyâs he always playing devilâs advocate
"You will do things MY way" - that's "compromise"???
[] entitled uncle: he asked a question - were you supposed to lie to protect his ickle ego?
The mother who made her son write an apology is honestly absolutely amazing. She could've given him a lecture or told him not to do it again, but she took the time to have him understand why it was wrong and apologize. Kudos to her, wish more parents and guardians did that.
Wtf ?
No OP did nothing wrong brenda went too far she had it coming
What r slash was saying was that you're not supposed to feed the trolls and she fed the troll but the troll kind of deserved it too
First Name Last Name yea but sheâs still NTA because Brenda shouldnât have opened her mouth if she didnât like the taste of her own medicine đ€·đœââïž
@@boiiiii173 it's in a group chat airing out dirty laundry on a work GC is a slight asshole move
@@bland9876 well if someone talks shit about you in a grp u can't just ignore it
Brenda is full of internalized misogyny
I LOVE the mom who made the son write an apology, and research Chinese culture and racism. Sheâs an amazing parent we need more people like her đđ
oh absolutey. this is always what i drummed into my kids, there are always responsibilities and consequences of one's actions and/or words. i MADE them take responibility - even though it was breaking my heart - we all want to believe our children are perfect, but know they are not. my own mother said but ...you give some sort of reward because they are just kids, then was shocked when i said no. sometimes i feel guilty ( i'm a mother, its what i do best) but taking no responibility from an age they know right from wrong is what gives us karen posts.
Both of my parents would have been in synch with this mother, and we lived in a place and time that was virtually all-white. I was a brat as a ten-year-old., but the only time I made fun of anyone for being different (while traveling in a different state I gave the finger to a black man driving behind us for absolutely no reason) I caught hell. I never did anything like that ever again!! Good to see that good parenting still exists in this day and age after all.
The embarrassment in this case was totally warranted, it will make the lesson stick in his mind and change for the better. Sharing with the driver and receiving more stories about it is even better!
I was seriously thinking GO mom until the reading it in front of everyone part. I would have had my child hand it to him and, though be it sheepishly, say they are sorry. Then we would order something and I would finalize it in conversation. The reading out loud would be public humiliation which will only foster resentment. The walk and better yet hang out and eat of shame is far more beneficial as it fosters internal reflection.
@@lilalienangel I can see a case for that, too. It depends on the kid, relationship with parents, the situation at the restaurant, bunch of stuff.
The one about the gender reveal really got to me. I'm a girl, and even though I'm literally only thirteen, I've participated in Boy Scouts (Special program where I'm from in the US), played catch with my dad, and done quite a bit of "boyish" stuff. If this story is modern (which I assume it is) he shouldn't be so pissed, I mean seriously, you can do that stuff with a girl, too. Some revisions would have to be made, and yeah, drama, but if you raise her right drama shouldn't be a HUGE issue. But this is just my opinion and take on this.
Here in Cali girls can join if they want no special program needed. But even if she couldn't be a Boy Scout. Girl Scouts ALSO exist...and we ALSO did a lot of camping trips and hiking and exploring
@@KomaedasOneTrueHope Yes, but I want all the skills XD
The dude who left because he was disappointed isn't an ahole for feeling disappointment. You can hope for one thing, and he just needed time. If he treats the little girl poorly, then he's will be a butthole, but his feelings of disappointment is valid. You're allowed to feel whatever you want. You can't control your immediate reactions, and him leaving to clear his head isn't a problem either. He didn't leave his wife alone, or stranded. if he took his disappointment out on the child later, then that's another story.
Uncle: How much money do you make?
Them: * tells them how much money they make *
Uncle: i HAve nEvER beEn So OfFFEndED
I am a boomer, so I was a little put out by the boomer dig /rslash put in that story. I retired a few years ago and was talking to my 20 year old grand-niece one day. She got a job that was paying her more than I ever made in my life. I was thrilled for her! Way to go, girl!
Condor Boss
That is good news
Boomer or no, uncle should have been happy that a family member was so successful. Instead, his rant dripped of jealousy.
Condor Boss you are a boomer worthy of respect â
Behold,
Wholesome boomer.
'John' is gonna result to insults, alcoholism or something worse, because his dad and friend will influence him to make his wife his slave
Dace 70 yeah she should leave him before things get worse, his whole family and deal seems kinda toxic
I agree
and that is NOT southern culture(im from texas)
maybe "john" and FIL and friend should do their wives "indoor jobs" and say how EASY it is...
That's how my dad got in drugs
My mom did everything,he always hanged with his "friends" and they made him get into drug. There are more worse that I am not saying
I'm a father and I loved tossing the softball around with all 3 of my daughters. We used to go camping and fishing all the time too. I taught my daughters to change the brakes, the oil, and do routine maintenance on their cars. You can teach a girl anything that you can teach a boy. Also, they grow up fast, so make sure to spend as much time as you can with them while they're young.
The first one: âNot gonna lie, they had us in the first halfâ
8:19 I know it says gender, but I'm hearing Ginger reveal party. 'Congratulations, it's a redhead!' would be so much more fun.
DJAvren âit has recessive genes!â
Hehe when I was born the whole hospital staff kept peeking in to see my bright orange hair.
My mom told me that when I was a baby, she and my dad took me to a Chinese restaurant and the staff were fascinated with me. It makes sense, as red hair is probably something they commonly didn't see at the time.
I thought I was going to hear gender but I heard ginger too. Like omg XD. It was funny.
Same though đ€Ł "oh no, a celt again đŁ"
"Gender reveal party"? Wth is that about? When my partner was pregnant with our daughter, I didn't want to know the sex of the baby. I asked her not to tell me and did not look at the screen at the ultrasound scan sessions. My attitude was, as long as the baby is healthy, I'll be happy with whoever the good Lord sends us. And I am. Incidentally, I took her fishing, riding mountain bikes, surfing and all manner of things when she was young, in addition to making sure she got to do plenty of the traditional "girly" things. She loved it and remains very keen on sport and outdoor pursuits now she's an adult. She also does plenty of "girl" stuff and is generally a well rounded human being.
He showed his true colors when, "I can't imagine being outnumbered." That's pathetic
An excuse for cake with friends in my book.
itâs because people demand to know the gender because they need to buy things even if you donât need stuff
@@bostonrailfan2427 no, it's not just that. It's to find out the sex of the baby with loved ones and to celebrate.
â@@bostonrailfan2427 yeah, to buy super gendered stuff for a baby that isn't even born yet..
Mother who made son apologize to Asian delivery driver is an awesome mom. Kids need to understand actions have consequences, whether they are good or bad. Negativity brings negativity vice-versa.
I went to Girl Scout Camp. Where I learned survival skills, sports, slept in tents, etc. I went every year from age 7 to 16. Best summers of my life. I loved being a Girl Scout.
I heard "ginger reveal party" in the third story and was so confused for like a second.
Maybe that would have explained why he ran away screaming...
I can just imagine it
"Ginger or Red Head"
âWe do the outside chores and they do the inside choresâ THEYâRE AT A PICNIC!
Omg great point! They should have been doing all the work! Oohhh that would have been epic if she would have thought of that!
Story 2: Gee, wonder where the Son got his racist side.
My family has 7 cats, and my grandfather makes the âbring them to the Chinese restaurantâ joke all the time. But he only makes it around us.
The guy who left the gender reveal party is a huge red flag
1. He's acting like girls can't be interested in boy stuff and throws a tantrum over it
2. Worse yet if he has a boy he'll project all this onto him and throw ANOTHER tantrum if the kid doesn't want it
....Some people aren't meant to be parents
@Delilah Mechell "No no you don't actually like that stuff, you've just spent too much time with your mom and need a real manly survival trip!"
I defy anyone to tell me this assumption is wrong
@Delilah Mechell I will say, if he had a son and he happened to be gay, that doesn't mean he'll like traditionally feminine things. That's a stereotype. However, yeah, if he had a son and they happen to be trans or gay, he probably wouldn't have been happy. And the same goes with the kid being a girl. If they happen to end up being trans, well, sucks that his child would probably resent him for misogynistic views even if they wanted to participate in traditionally masc things.
Totally agree. This "flabberghasted" soon-to-be-father-of-a-second-girl made me want to punch him hard. In the nuts.
Op was going on about not being able to go on boyscout camping trips with his daughter but girls can join boy scout troops now.
@Haggedus gaming He's not 0.1 percent sad, he's like 99.9 percent mad - and thinks he can't do the "boy stuff" with another girl, which is wrong
For the gender reveal one: my dad was a Cookie Dad. That means he was a Girl Scout leader for my troop. He also taught shop and my sister and I got to help every now and then. That dude is on some b.s.
Plus girls are allowed in Boy Scouts now so he can go camping with her anyway.
Like, did he forget there was a girl scout. I mean, they might do somethings different than boy scouts (never been to girl scouts so I wouldn't 100% know)
Aww love that!â€
Solosis
BRB Crying yeah heâs most likely on weed.
âDidnât fit the crimeâ? That is the best-fitting punishment I have ever heard
Iâve done this before where they are talking about my relationship and I get pissed. I donât want anyoneâs advice knowing itâs gonna make the relationship crumble. Everyone knows what is good for themselves
âGo on Boy Scout camping tripsâ dude, girls are allowed in scouts
Jack Casey also Girl Scouts have camping trips too.
Ginger Snap Thanks, I donât know much about there program, thanks for letting me know
My little cousin plays softball and soccer and she's a girl. She's awesome at it! Also I'm a woman and love to fish with my dad whenever I get the chance to!
I was a girl scout. I went to camp. I played baseball. Also my high school had a better girls team than the boys teams. They also allowed girls on the football team
I begged my parents to be in Boy Scouts but my parents insisted on Girl Scouts and put me in the worst troop
Op: âYouâre 41 and still singleâ
*I mean heâs not wrong, thereâs a reason why sheâs still single*
Oh that's A *OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOHHHHH*
Yep, She's single because she's a Karen. Good riddance lol.
@@dracko158 Maybe she's single by choice. Not everyone wants to get married. She still has no business giving marriage advice to another woman though, especially unwanted advice in a public arena.
10:03 im super bad at determining sarcastic jokes like this, so when you said that, I was appalled! The reddit post you were reading I was just saying "YTA, YTA, YTA!!!!" and hearing that sunk my heart. I skipped over a little and i was relieved you were joking though :D
One page paper? Amateur, my mom wouldâve made me write a 7 page ESSAY!
I am someone who whole heartedly supports the phrase âif you canât take it donât dish it out.â
So the lady being offended because OP said sheâs 41 and single? I donât think OPâs the asshole at all, sheâs just right! And she defended herself and called the lady out on her bullshit. If she gets offended when she started it then đ€·đœââïž
2nd story, mother is trying to raise a man, husband is trying to raise a boy.
I agree. Racism is just childish and pathetic. Like, why hate someone because of their culture, race, and skin? I cared about the personâs character rather than the color of his skin or race.
@@wrestlingfan3117 THANK YOU. Some people seriously think racist jokes are ok.
TormentorChick17 I think a joke can work if everyone laughs from it. But if you decide to make on thatâs racist, then some people wonât mind but others do and that will cause problems.
@@wrestlingfan3117 Yeah, it should at least be kept around people who like that sort of thing, if they just HAVE to joke like that.
TormentorChick17 indeed
5:10 I think the dad is also a secret racist for trying to approve that
The gender reveal one is messed up. Like when he said " I just want a son to play catch with" like really dude you can still do that with a girl. My dad used to love playing catch with me and my sister we're both girls. We even did football and soccer
As someone who grew up in the south, and a woman...I was raised by women AND men to NEVER accept a man behaving like the one in the first story. My grandfather raised me to make sure I knew how to do everything a man would be able to do, check the basics on my car, change a tire (Which I can do faster than most men I know), and made sure I could do most handy work around the house. and my mother made sure I never took crap from men trying to treat me like shit. I don't think I've ever met anyone who honestly believes that "Women are made to do house work and men do the yard work" bullshit.
Yeah I totally agree with everything youâve said here! Iâm also a southerner and none of the things that either OP or the husband said about southern culture were true. Weâre mostly about friends, family, and food! ;)
@@tabbnabber8755 Even when a gay black atheist turns up?
@Mel actually, yeah. I was really the black gay (woman) atheist for a while. No longer an atheist and now my religions would be considered devil worship to most Christians anywhere. Most people mind their own business, even when at church or Christ centered events these days. Maybe some whispers but most won't say anything to you about it.
What OP said about southern culture isn't exactly wrong but it's mostly reserved for a rather loud minority of super small towns (as in towns where it's best called a village, not a town). Personally, I'm curious about where exactly the husband is from.
Most women aren't like you. There is no way that woman in the first story is going to change the oil in her car. Of course, rSlash being a leftie is not going to mention that she will not change it.
@@dtz1000 Oh dear! Perhaps if you ventured out of your little bubble you'd find that the entire world is not exactly like the mumsy types from the local church your social life revolves around.
As a rule: don't ask technical people a question (even more so in a condescending way) that has a easy (numeric) answer because you will get it. Precisely as you asked for :P
Gender reveal guy be like âI threw a fit and stormed out at a party dedicated to me and my wife because Iâm too sexist to be excited for my own child AITA?â
Seriously. And he wants to talk about âdrama.â
my father played futboll with me and we do a lot of "bOy tHiNgs" at the park like flying a kite or playing with a remote control car. so in OP's logic, my father must've been so saaad that he get to play with his daughter and not with his BoY
I have to disagree with that last one. It's the same as if you can't take it dont dish it out.
The southern guy does not accurately represent true Southerns.
True shit
I have spoken to the southern high council the vote was unanimous he and his family and friend have been banned from the southern states including Florida
@@Kenji183 and i have spoken to the east he is banned here too
@Jack the Gestapo lol damn the southerns have spoken on that piss ant
IKR like what the hell kinda southern culture is this ? i grew up in the south an there is nothing like that.
Oh my god, dude! The sarcasm with what little girls can do! I am so here for it!
Bonded with my step dad by throwing the ball around. I played softball for 12 years, and I'd jump in on an adult game any day âș
Story 1: thatâs not a culture, itâs misogyny
WeightLossMotivation I live in the south. Itâs not a part of the culture. He was just using âitâs part of my cultureâ to try and get his way.
@@rowanmaxwell2713 i just came here to say this. you got to it fist
WeightLossMotivation i live in alabama, definitely not the culture
@@rowanmaxwell2713 I served with a ton of southerners, all the ones who were married or ended up getting married weren't like this. All the ones who got divorced or stayed VERY single were like this.
I wonder if there's a correlation to divorce and acting like an utter prick...?
@@wlm4981 no. It's not. Southern women don't tend to take misogynistic bullshit
OP: "I pictured throwing the ball and coaching little league"
Huh.. sounds like my dad, when he coached my little league softball game and taught me how to play. đ€
@@CorundumDevil That doesn't mean that his second daughter won't be interested. He won't know until he tries.
You honestly can't judge by the past kid. My brother wasn't into baseball like I was, and he ended up joining basketball in high school, as did i. My dad, no matter what, was supportive of us. He pushed me through spelling bees and would quiz me as practice.
Youâre Selina Martinez thatâs somewhere near Selena Gomez
More Selina Kyle than her, but yeah
Funny thing is even if it was a boy there is no assurance he will like those things.
As a children's soccer coach, all I can say about the stories of the uncle acting like a full boomer and the bitter single woman insulting a functioning marriage is don't set up a shot on your own goal. Because somebody is gonna score against you and you'll be mad.
I'm a 60 yrold white girl from Texas. My dad did laundry, made weekend breakfast, and did the 3 girls hair for school. I call bs on John.
I don't know what in the hell that first story is talking about "Southern Culture". I grew up here, both sides of my family have been in this spot for 100+ years, and we don't do that shit. Grandpa cooked fairly regular not quite as often as Grandma, and my father didn't cook as much as my Mom did, but that's bc he wasn't as good at it. Hell I cooked pretty regular, and I'm a guy, started on that when I was 13 or so. We all worked on all the chores, Dad a bit less, but he was the only one working full time. Women help with outdoor work, both yard and farm work as well. My whole family, and most people I know are like this. Don't let that shit fly, down here, atleast where I live, Marriage isn't a slave contract, it's a partnership.
Same here with my family, I was like ?? We always help each other thatâs a southern hospitality đ
Not American, but I'm astounded at the amount of men in the UK in their 40's- mid 50's who literally cannot and do not cook/clean/look after themselves or their kids.
I look down on them really, it's not that hard to learn.
Yeah, I was gonna comment that Johnâs beliefs are sexist, not southern.
AMEN! My parents are both from the South and while Mom did take care of us kids, and had dinner on the table...it was because my dad travelled for work. We were taught to be independent.
I hear you. I grew up in Texas and to me, the "Southern Culture" in the story is complete BS. Me, my dad, and brothers cook food and help with dishes.
Dude: "AITA for walking out of a gender reveal party"
Me: "Well, that depends"
*turns out, its about his child and he left because of the gender*
Me: "Absolutely YTA"
I mean, i could understand to leave if you are at someone elses party and feel like not invited... or if you were somehow insulted by others there... but because your child is not the gender you wanted? You're a bad parent, if you cant love a daugther like a son... and even if you cant do what you imagined to do with a son, who cares? show some love and do what your child wants to do with her father... not what you expected to do with them!
I wonder if he knows that the male DNA is the one that defines the sex of the baby, so if anything ot kinda is his fault, lol.
In the beginning I was: NTA because Gender Reveal Parties are sexist and insulting. But then he left a sexist event because he is a sexist.
At first I thought it would be because they got overwhelmed with the party and not anger over gender. Fathers can do âguyâ stuff with their daughters. As a little girl i build all sorts of stuff with my dad.
Hei Blackreaper at least the dad would want to play catch
I mean you cant force baseball and football on to someone that doesn't like it.50.50. She might like football or not.
That uncle shouldnât have asked that question if he didnât want to hear the answer. Not the AH.
"If you're gonna cheat be more careful about it!"
Now someone is gonna blame you for there 'preces' son cheating because of you XD
nO GirLs DoNt gO to BoY scoUTs".
*laughs in existence of girl scouts*
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Girl Scouts are completely different,
You mean Girl Boy Scouts.
Also not to mention the fact that girls are allowed in the bsa organization now
I mean, aren't the boy scouts just "the scouts" now for the specific purpose of allowing girls in
There's Girl Scouts and Scouts BSA. Girls are allowed in boy scouts
Girls are now allowed into boy scouts
For the story about OP telling relatives how much they makes, I have the defer to Star Trek: "Sometimes, the only thing more dangerous than a question is an answer."
And from one of the original 3 MiB movies "Don't ask questions you don't want the answer to"
I am from the south and my husband was disabled . I worked ( mostly evenings) when I got home dinner was waiting the kids were fed, dishes done and the clothes washed. He's been gone almost eleven years and I miss him everyday.
That dad reminds me of those gender reveal videos where the kinds throw tantrums because they don't like the results
Good portions of the time i disagree with ya Rslash, this is one of those times. Brenda was being an asshole and insulting someone. This isn't like being a youtuber and just seeing hate comments. This is someone you have met. I will say that OP pushed her luck, but still not the asshole. Brenda started something, Op finished it. And it is the truth, Brenda wasn't married (from what we've been told) and is talking about being a better wife and how op was going to lose her husband. So to me, OP was in the right to defend herself in verbal comebacks.
Yes! It makes it even worse because earlier in the video he said âif you canât take it donât dish itâ but then changed his ideas. She was insulted and defended herself!
If I had been in OPs shoes, Brenda would be feeling about an inch tall at the end of it and if she brought it up at her work (which is also the OPs spouse's work). Further the OP should encourage their spouse to say something along the line of 'ok guys, enough is enough I don't want to hear your sexist jokes anymore about me changing my last name when we got married.' Then if someone, like Brenda, brings up the joke again have your spouse go talk to HR and tell them 'that you attempted to get the sexist and hostile work environment comments to stop by telling everyone they joking time was over, but x has continued. or Brenda is now attacking my wife in our carpool group chat and playing the victim at work.' A few key phrases in that will get HR to hop on the bandwagon and nip those too stupid to know when to call it quits.
Sean J for real! I understand when a joke is meant to be playful and it was misunderstood...but this wasnât even a joke. It was a personal attack. There was nothing to be misunderstood about it. Brenda is an ass.
He always gotta ruin it at the end!
Yeah. I feel like he was really off base on his takes this time around.
*OP in story 2:* But I can't play catch with her!!!
*Me:* Ah yes, it's so sad that all girls are born without arms. In fact, I'm typing this with my toes.
Oh good I thought I was the only one
Were did he say that
wormfricker 4 why the f are you stalking me loser get a life LMAO or am I giving you the attention your parents never did? Aw tsk
wormfricker 4 also youâre supposedly 25 and used the wrong where ? LMAO fire those teachers fire em
@@veratsia also I wasnt talking to you here I was asking op a question
As someone raised in "Southern Culture" I agree completely it's trash.
âFrom that day on I learned thatâ
Oh!
âIf you have to cheat, be more careful about itâ
Oh
The mother that punished her child for a joke is an amazing mother.
And the father saying that that it was just a joke, doesnât have empathy for people who received the joke. I would do the same thing if I ever had a family member or my brotherâs say something racist to someone whoâs doing their damn job.
Exactly, racist jokes aren't funny unless it's around people who think that sort of thing is funny.
Thinks it's a time in place thing, if your into that kinda humor its okay. But not around people who might be hurt by it. I think the moms a good mom, taught a lesson pretty effectively. Though I think some of it was very over the top.
THANK YOU! Racism towards Asians and Hispanics and Latinos is so undermined, and overlooked
Am amazing mother truly. What a responsible move on her part.
a person: *fights back against insults with insults*
Rslash: YYYYYEEEAAAHHH I can't let you get away with that lol
Yes but he let some else get away with it earlier in the exact same video lol. Itâs the same as when he said âcanât take it donât dish itâ
Itâs called "drag yourself down to his/her level". You can win the argument but none of you are winner.
@@hoduonggiabao538 I rather to not be the winner than me letter her think she have won
You donât get to defend your culture by saying itâs just as valid while also insulting your wifeâs culture.
If my SO walked out of a gender reveal party because he was pissed about the sex of the baby, he would be served with divorce papers for next day.
Bro it's on you that you're having a daughter. The mens DNA literally decides it.
@ludosean no men are the only one with a Y chromosome. So gender is entirely determined by fathers DNA.
Yeah bro next ask him to switch to the fucking correct chromosomes my bad
@@nooneremarkable Actually it's not genetic. All mammalian embryos start out as female, and it requires a certain hormone at a certain stage of development for them to become male. But that happens after fertilization of the eggs has already taken place.
@@SRosenberg203 actually, you inherit half your dna from each parent (one allele per parent for each one). The woman may only donate the x chromosome, the male can send either, and x or y. That is what determines it.
Yes it presents later in development, but that is when its decided
Making a Karen upset should count as immunity against AITA
and thats on periodt
basicly
@@kat-ekyoie7907 frickin bot shutup
@@simlad lauren is worse đ
The one about a mother making her son write an apology letter to the delivery man reminds me of what my mom did when I was a kid. Whenever she finds out that I was hitting another kid, my mom will make me write an apology letter to the kid, and hand it to them the next day.
That lesson on racism was fantastic! The son must have learnt a lot during it and going face to face with the driver must have taught him a lot about how it affects people. I wish MORE kids went through that
In the first two stories, Jeez, what husbands they have...
That uncle angry about the salary sounds like he's jealous that his niece is smarter and makes more money than him.
She was compromising he was not
Story 1: NTA
His culture is justifiable just like anybody elseâs but you canât blame/criticize someone who doesnât agree with your cultures terms, especially when southern culture has a bad reputation.
My thoughts
1: I'm Southern and a Christian and what this guy is saying is NOT true at all, both of my parents not only raised me equally, but they do half and half of the work, i have no clue where this guy and his friends were raised but it must of been nowhere near me.
2: I feel you were justified, sure you could argue that the kid was just trying to be funny (i mean that sounds like the most 13 year old joke i ever heard). But even if it was one, if you didn't teach him that, it probably would just go more and more down a slope. I mean writing a 1 page apology is better than him getting doxed by a celebrity in 2 or 3 years (if you know you know)
3: I'll bet this reader right here $10 that the uncle's daughter/op's cousin is in her early 20's and doesn't make any money lol. Honestly the comment that Rslash read was perfect, he asked the question and you answered
4: look i 100% understand where you are feeling, but my gosh that was the worst way to handle it, i mean if someone told me right now that i was gonna have at least 1 kid .wouldn't care about it's gender. So yeah i understand you to an extent, but the way you reacted took all of those sympathy points away, honestly i kind lf agree with the comparison of the leaving dad.
5: I mean you're right, why take relationship advice from someone who's in their 40's and not married?
I'd like to know how tf it insulted the uncles intelligence on the 3rd one
yea for the first story im from Texas and while im not religious i was raised Christian and that is NOT Southern Culture maybe back in the 80s but not anymore i was raised equally by both my mom dad step mom and step dad and my mom did just as many of the outdoor chores as my father did
Yea, guys thanks for clearing this up so i didn't have to.
jkelley2 yea Iâm from Louisiana and I havenât met anyone this bigoted :/
jkelley2 Iâm from NC, we get raised equally by our parents here, and if someone says what âJohnâ and his friend and dad said...god help them.
The racist story sounds like the kid got the words from hes dad and thats why he thinks its ok
drifty Oh yeah. Dad was mad because his little chip off the old block, was mimicking him. Son being called out, means Dad has to admit that heâs a racist too. And racist âjokesâ are never funny or acceptable.
@@amycaires8499 maybe not to you but I know many people from different entnic backgrounds (including myself) who find jokes like this okay maybe not funny but definitely not enough to make them cry.
I definitely think he got these tendencies from his father. Though it may not be "racist" it's still hurtful and deserves punishment to both the father and the son
"I got a text from my cousin saying I ... had insulted my uncle's intelligence." How can you insult something that doesn't exist?
Lol op in the last tory should've been like, "why don't you go be a servant for your husband..... oh wait!"
The frick is âI went to college and learned how to do thisâ considered insulting to someone?
To whoever made a Karen upset
Thank you
I believe a household functions best when one person makes the money - enough money to be comfortable - and the other focuses on keeping up the house. It doesn't matter who does which job, but splitting it this way appears to be the least stressful. There's no arguments over who is responsible for what task. That being said, since the one who goes to work has a clear cut clockout time, they should be willing to help at home when it comes to bigger tasks that one person alone may struggle to accomplish.
Thatâs how I grew up and it worked really good I 100% agree
That definitely is accurate in my family as well! I know I want to be a stay at home mom and my brother wants to be a stay at home dad someday!
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On the dude who left the gender reveal party:
I understand being sad it isn't the gender you want, but storming out and being angry about it isn't acceptable. That's still your kid. You can't be angry at a kid before it's even concsious.
I mean it could be worse though. My little sister's dad refused to speak to my mom for two days because he found out my sister was gonna be a girl.
in this scenario he said that he needed space correct?
....But men are what make the deciding factor in the gender of the baby. Its all depending on the sperm. Larger slower sperm are female and smaller faster sperm are male. women have no way of having input to what gender their child is.
ArachnĂ© Sakura itâs not a conscious decision
@@arachnesakura9375 I don't think thats correct....
@@clexa-the1002 Sperm carry either an X or Y chromosome, which combines with the egg's X chromosome to determine gender, so yeah pretty much correct.
I like how apparently NO ONE backed Brenda in the GROUP CHAT. makes me wonder if everyone else sat back with popcorn and watched the show....
"if im gonna cheat, i have to be way more careful about" - prolly not the intended lesson
OP: I'll let you know ow when I need to take relationship advice from someone who's 42 and single.
Me: OOOOOOOOOH!
Gosh this is why I left conservative Christianity (still believe, just . . . âleft-lyâ) and why Iâm not proud of my southern roots. Itâs not ânorthern cultureâ; itâs called not being sexist. Itâs also called âyou live here so you pull your weight to keep this house cleanâ and âyou helped make the kid so you help parent the kid.â Also if I were in her situation I would also call him out on why heâs never brought this up before and why it hurts that itâs coming out of nowhere (kind of, because itâs not coincidental that this âdiscussionâ happened right after his friend and dad ragged on him for not remaining in the 1950s). Itâs a dumb thing to be bothered about, yes, but the fact that heâs been letting something thatâs been bothering him build up inside him for a long time instead of being forthcoming about it means thereâs some sort of communication disconnect here.
Coming from a conservative Christian family I don't see this. One of my best friends turned out that way and he was neither. My own brother was the one to do the cooking and kids stuff as his (now ex) wife didn't feel she had to since she gave birth to them. She's liberal and feels having kids was a waste of her time. Surprisingly when her kids became adults they decided not to associate with her anymore /s. It's called being a bad partner/parent and despite political or religious beliefs they exist everywhere.
Edit: We do have one tradition where on Mother's day the dads entertain the kids and make a nice supper for everyone. On Father's day it is the Mother's turn to take care of the kids and make supper. She was opposed to this as it was perpetuating a stereotype so she would refuse to participate on Father's day.
Jason Fair enough, both of you are right though but itâs not so much as the culture but the individuals view on it. Iâm also christian just not conservative, but both the husbands in the subreddit and the wives in your story, all should have to pull their weight, marriage is a two person commitment.
@@Jason-hm1sc Well yeah, but conservative Christianity tends to emphasize traditional gender roles. The more fundamentalist-leaning, the worse it gets.
Okay, so I know the sport thing was bad with that Sexist father, but can we talk about how calling women "neurotic" for having emotions has often been a sign of an abusive bf/spouse/father/brother/etc? And the fact that he has the audacity to use the word to describe a FIVE YEAR OLD just makes it so much worse. Like, of course a five year old doesn't have a handle on her emotions. She's five. Five year old boys are no better.
Thisan clearly doesn't remember what it was like being a kid because ALL children are like this. They will destroy stuff, they are stubborn, ridiculous
Me: Reads title
Also me: No budy, you need to go further..
I had a similar punishment situation when I was a kid. The song "Nookie" by Limp Bizkit had been on the radio a lot and I had heard the line "Like a chump" I kept Calling one of the staff members at my group home a chump. He happened to be a Mexican with one of those names with several family names where his full name was like 7 words. Well, me made me write his full name like 100 times every time I called him that. I learned really quick not to do that. To this day over 25 years later I still remember his full name. Don't underestimate how effective those kinds of punishments can be.