r/AmITheA**hole My Boyfriend Knocked Up My Sister!
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- Äas pĆidĂĄn 25. 07. 2024
- r/AmITheA**hole In today's episode, OP spent most of her childhood caring for her younger sister, who had cancer as a child. Her sister grew up to be spoiled, and decided to have an affair with OP's boyfriend for months without OP knowing. She even got pregnant by OP's boyfriend! When OP found, she was absolutely devastated. Now OP's family is pressuring OP to just accept the new relationship and move on. Is OP the butthole in this situation?
0:00 Intro
0:07 Cheaters all around
10:06 Baby husband can't pack a bag
đ r/AmITheA**hole For Firing My Spoiled Son After He Stole From My Company? âą r/AmITheA**hole For Fi...
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#reddit #AmITheButthole #funny
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That first story feels like something out of Jerry Springer lol
True
Bruh true
Nah, it's a Mexican soap opera
JERRY! JERRY! JERRY!
Seriously! I hope OP has a good support system because her "family" ain't it. :/
The first story has an update: sis and op went to the park to talk about things and basically sis wanted op to be the childâs godmother. Op left her alone at the park before owning her ass and then wrote an e-mail to her father and step-mother saying she will go no contact with them because basically they disconsidered her. Her step-mother kinda apologized, but her father didnât replied. Sheâs now no contact with all of them. Her ex tried to contact her too, but she blocked him. Good on op!
Youâre a real one for the post update!
GAW! The freaking audacity of OPâs sister!
Well i'm glad that her stepmother have at least the decency to give a small apology.
Good for OP! She's better off without those trash human beings. I hope she sticks to NC and doesn't allow them to slink their way back in.
Good. People like OP's family have a special place in hell for all of them. Especially cheaters like Ben.
It doesnât take social skills to know not to sleep with another personâs SO, especially a family memberâs SO. Thatâs called being a decent person.
Irk? It's such a simple concept. If you're not happy and want to see other people then break up. It's that easy...
Yes!
But.. but.. she had cancer⊠that means that she should never have to face the consequences of her actions and should be allowed to do whatever she wants/s
fr and shes like what 22-23? like how do you not know this
As someone without much experience being social. Can confirm. it doesn't take social skills to know not to sleep with another person's SO
For anyone interested in the first story- OP posted an update. She met up with her sister in a park, sister asked her to be the godmother (free babysitter and piggy bank) op said no and cut off all of her closest family and informed her further family that she is distancing herself from everyone. Good for her!
no, see, piggy bank isn't accurate.
With a piggy bank, you only get the money back that you put in ;-)
"because... my daughter has made me soft."
You're not soft, rSlash. Your ability to experience empathy and sympathy has leveled up, and I'm proud of you for being aware of it to some extent. And that's perfectly valid, its how it should be.
KIds don't make a good parent soft or weak. Quite the contrary, actually. They make them stronger. There's nothing quite like sacrificing your future and desires for your kin.
@@KiX-K4T13 Agree. I think its very strong to be in touch with one's own feelings and to have empathy. Totally not weak or soft.
I feel like a very important detail everyone's overlooking in the first story is that the sister had cancer, not "have" cancer, "had".
Good point
It doesn't change a thing actually. So it's not important
@@keydino3967 I know, I meant the way the parents are trying to use it as an justification
@Chaterine đœ you should begone ya perv
@Chaterine đœ OH MY GOD
GO OUTSIDE
The sister stealing her sisters boyfriend and saying it should be ok because she had cancer years prior? I call BS on that. Her sister, ex and parents are horrible people and sheâs NTA! Iâm waiting for an update that her sister and parents are going to expect her to be a free babysitter when the baby is born and be forced to help plan and pay for her sisters baby shower.
The sister in this story must be the one who disliked this video
I think they are just trying to justify it in any way they can so it is 'acceptable' to keep her in the family and have access to the grandchild in question. Which is GROSS behaviour and honestly, OP is way better without this in her life.
She sounds entitled and like a bitch, and OPs parents clearly favor the sister. I will never understand how parents can completely disregard the child who is the victim and side with the child who committed the act
I really don't like the idea of "stealing a partner".
He CHOSE to do this. She didn't steal anything, that implies that he had no choice in the matter. A wallet doesn't choose to be stolen. She helped him cheat, which is a scummy thing to do, but she didn't steal anything.
If he was loyal, this wouldn't have happened.
I am waiting for the "boyfriend cheated on the sister and fled the state to avoid child support and then they tried to guilt OP into not being supportive of the now betrayed sister" update.
"Burn in hell out of 5" has to be the most savage score rSlash has ever given.
Even if she had caved and done it, how on earth would she have known what paperwork he needed?! Heâd still have been late
Maybe she had wife/mom skills to always know where everything in the house is even if it's not her who put it there and retains that information for when the person who did put it there forgets/loses it
Not that it would justify her packing anything
Parents in 1st Story: *Are trashy parents*
rSlash: *Dad Mode Intensifies*
We get good content and that is why these videos are entertaining
They all deserve to get tossed right onto the trash pile. Disgusting.
Love dad mode rSlash. đ
@@lisadgingersnaps9843 Can't say I do, the stories tend to turn into "so about my daughter" which gets tiering when it's when it's every 3rd video
Hello there
What bothered me a lot about the first story was the use of the word "tantrum". If op didn't mean it sarcastically, then that's genuinely concerning. Op had to sacrifice so much for their sis, but when they want to keep ONE part of their life, it's considered a tantrum. The parents are both a pos and they're joining the special section of hell where parents who practice favoritism go.
Well theyâll probably be financially supporting golden child and raising her baby for the rest of their lives, especially once the ex goes deadbeat dad after the inevitable cheating-induced breakup. Barring some sort of miraculous change of heart by one of the people involved, entitled, irresponsible people are nothing if not predictable.
The word "favouritism" doesn't fully describe the extent to which these parents screwed their own daughter over at one of the most devastating points of her life
Iâm glad Iâm not the only one who saw that
Probably because OP included her in all of her social life , it become an unwritten law that what is for OP for her too. So when OP got something for solo , she just couldnt stand and wanted it. I am around 90% sure they wouldnt last though , because little angle lost interest soon after OP let her have him.
That âfamilyâ literally cares more for a burger than their own daughter⊠đ€ź
5/5 deserved đ
Her sister ruined her life plain and simple if you ask me the sister shouldnât have a kid or anything to do with Op
@fireiron369 I wholeheartedly and begrudgingly agree with you on that.
Iâm so sorry for the girl in the first story. This is the most emotional Iâve ever got for one of these. She did nothing but be hurt by the people SHE LOVED, the people she RAISED BY, the people SHE TRUSTED. She sacrificed her childhood for her family, so many years. And now THEYâRE GETTING MAD, because SHE was upset that not only her sister, the person she sacrificed and sacrificed herself for, had the AUDACITY to sleep with HER BOYFRIEND. Who would not be upset??? These people are psychotic repeatedly inflict their daughter with so much pain, to burden her with the financial stresses a child should not have, to take the side the her sister when SHE IS THE ONE WHO SLEPT WITH HER SISTERâS PARTNER, and not only do that but to DISOWN her for it??? What was her sin, was her sin being cheated on?? Iâm sorry, this just makes me really angry for her.
The first story has an update:
UPDATE: AITA for not accepting my sister's relationship with my ex despite her having cancer as a teenager? UPDATE: I was asked for an update and thus, here I am. Two things to clarify before I update: 1. I didn't have a shitty childhood. The favoritism started when my sister was diagnosed. I moved out soon after and have been pretty independent since then. Not saying that how my parents treated me during those years were a-ok, but I wasn't Cinderella. 2. I did not drink myself into oblivion. I had two white wine spritzers. But I appreciate the concern from folks! Anyhow, the update: I got in touch with my sister and asked her to meet up again at a park (no bill involved). I asked her if she was pregnant and she told me the truth. She said she wanted us to still be in each other's lives and that she wanted me to be in her baby's. A redditor (and I forget who, I'm sorry) mentioned that she may ask me to be the godmother and that person was correct. But as many of you pointed out - if I didn't cut her off, I'd just become her bank and daycare employee. So I told her I could no longer be in her life. And I left her crying on a park bench and felt like the shittiest person in the world. I emailed my parents and told them how betrayed I felt and that l'd be cutting off contact with them. To my stepmom's credit, she apologized. She explained that she never thought my sister would live to have kids and that she let her emotion over that get the better of her. Understandable. My dad said nothing, which is honestly what sucked the worst about all of this. Ben tried messaging me from a burner account for the first time since the break-up but I blocked him without reading it. I didn't go nuclear and post the story to Facebook as some suggested but I sent an email to the extended family members who I care about. I explained the situation and how I'd be distancing myself from my family. Some have made it an us-versus-them situation and as much as I appreciate the support, feeling like I'm in some valiant battle just makes me more tired. So I haven't been talking to much of anyone in my family. I feel lonely and crappy, but I think I made the right decision.
Thank you for posting this. You are wonderful for tracking this down. đ
I think itâs a very sensible decision and is the perfect way to act after this kind of situation
Thank goodness she cut them off !
Thank you for the update. I'll gladly be OPs new sister. She's more than welcome to join my family.
đ€ I'm very glad that you updated here. Please excuse me for giving a bit of unasked for advice that I'm gonna pass on to you that's changed my perspective on family, friends, and my own life: "YOU alone are the controller and creator of who YOU allow in your personal circle." I say this from the perspective of one who has been there with family issues. I'm so very glad that you didn't have a shitty childhood. So many people unfortunately did and do, me included. I had to learn early on, first when I met the man that would be my husband and again when we learned that we were going to have a baby, that for my own mental and moral health I had to stand up, stand firm and be the controller of WHO I allowed inside MY personal circle. My husband and I had to deal with family situational, subtle (sometimes unconsciously done) manipulation, pressure, and guilt trips. Immediate family members had called other family members to pressure and manipulate us to bend us to their wants, WITHOUT once considering our point of view or necessarily what, we as individual adults in a relationship, needed. We on our own were able to handle the subtle and sometimes not-so-subtle stressful drama's and manipulations that were put on us. Naturally, that changed when we discovered that I was pregnant, the pressure put on us to do what the family wanted was amped up 100%. Then the manipulations and mind games became a sly thing, that became mentally and physically too exhausting for me, a pregnant woman, to handle. The hurt I was sorting through wasn't helped by the constant drain by the negativity that was like a dark miasma that I had to wade through. My husband saw what was happening and said enough is ENOUGH!
We put everyone on NO Contact for a good long while, where we seriously spent that time assessing the people, family and friends in our lives, asking ourselves questions like, "is this person one that we want in our lives?" "does this person make me feel good, give me a happy burst of energy just by being around them or does this person make me feel physically and mentally exhausted after I've had interactions with them?" "does every interaction with this person end up in excessive drama?" Asking ourselves these questions led to realizations about the people in our lives... one of them being that there were a few emotional and spiritual vampires that were around us. An emotional and spiritual vampire is a person that somehow is always surrounded by excessive drama, almost like thy have a cloud of negativity surrounding them. These are the people that when you have interactions with them you go away feeling absolutely positively mentally and physically exhausted, spiritually down and drained.
After our assessment of everyone, we then decided to slowly cut those negative family and friends out of our lives. We knew that we couldn't bring a baby into constant negativity. The end result... our lives became much more uncomplicated, our level of stress went way down, our home (which is our sanctuary) became a place of calm.
Which ironically was very essential for my family when I was diagnosed, at 31, with Stage 3 Pancreatic Cancer and Non-Hodgkin Lymphoma. Now I'll tell you something I came across quite a bit, from other cancer patients. First, which I'm sure you'll remember, you have to realize exactly how much attention is given to a sick person out of medical necessity... so the question should be "what exactly happens to a person who gets well and then ALL of that attention is taken away?"
There is a type of addiction that DOES come from having ALL of that attention on a person. I've seen cancer patients, in a way, go straight into becoming creators of drama to get that attention that was taken away when they got well.
As you well know having Cancer or having a family member with Cancer traumatizes the whole family.. NOT just the person with Cancer. There is a mental expectation of young ones who've been diagnosed with Cancer at an impressionable age and beaten it to have a certain level of attention given to them, in how they are, from that point on, dealt with. It's that way because their is ALWAYS the fear by the person who had Cancer and their family members that the Cancer can come back and they could become sick again. Because of that constant fear, family members, family friends then in turn treat that person who had Cancer differently, deal softer and are more lenient with them than with other family members like sisters or brothers.
As concerning you're sister the questions IF I was you that I'd ask my self are these: "Exactly, how did the cheating between your sister and your ex start?" "What explanation was given by your sister to your parents for her behavior?" "Exactly when did your sister become codependent and start using her having Cancer as an excuse for the things that she does?" "When did your parents and other family members start to become enablers to your sister's behavior by NOT calling her out on what she does?" IF you've already gone NO Contact, "How much different has your life been with out having to deal with ALL that Drama, Pressure, and Manipulation?"
These are things that I would ask myself. Again these are some of the things that I went through, some of the types of questions that I asked myself. Just remember that you are: The Controller of who YOU ALLOW inside your personal circle, who YOU ALLOW inside your sanctuary.
Just a little advise. I wish you well.
As always, listen, appreciate, and enjoy!! God Bless!!!
First Story: The sister is an absolute piece of work. I'm also a cancer survivor (Still going through treatment) and cancer is not an excuse to be an asshole. She knew what she was doing. Also the parents are awful for enabling her too
Stay strong! Youâll get through this and be back stronger than before đž
good for you, I wish you all the best!
I'm just wondering if Ben cheated on OP's sister yet.
Period. Being I'll in anyway isn't an excuse to be a shitty person. Especially because op helped pay her sister's medical bills and basically gave up her entire social life to be there for her sister
I agree 100 %. Also, kick cancerâs butt for me!
âMy Momm- I mean my wife didnât pack my bagsâ Lol I died when Rslash said that
OP that got cheated on has a heart of gold and no one in their story deserves them
Husband. âYou made me look unreliable!â
Me, âbut you are unreliable?â
The first story: OP's family is toxic AF. If they 'threatened' to go no contact I'd say "That is the best present you could ever have given me. I understand now why it's the last.'
lmao yes, If I was op I would totally want to get disowned by such crap parents. It's like trash taking out itself.
@Chaterine đœ Get out of here bot
Agreed. Going no contact is 1000% is the way to go.
I woulda cashed in on those medical bills
@Chaterine đœ Transformers robots in disguise.
âThis guy cheated on a girl heâd been with for years? What a keeper!â
Who would be insane enough to think this?
Honestly, the OP of the first story should do what my friend did in a similar situation where it was her best-friend-since-childhood that slept with her boyfriend. She basically told her: "If he's willing to cheat on me, with you, after being together for 5 years, he's willing to cheat on you, with someone else."
honestly, second story is grounds for a divorce. He seems like a toxic man child that's about to become abusive
Yea he was so rude to her.
Heâs already emotionally abusive
@@AmbyJeans Ur so right
He's also looking at future unemployment since most bosses don't accept the "my wife didn't pack my bags while I was out with friends" excuse. Best to get out now while she still can. Soon it will be her working while he's at home still not doing anything around the house.
@đż!đđ Riding Ç€ÆŃâ Layla im glad she stood up for herself and cut off those toxic ass people. i even feel bad for the child bcos they're going to born into such a messy ass household. thanks for the update!
The way the final story came across to me, is that he didnât even want to go, because as soon as he missed his flight he seemed to have made plans with his friends, and just blamed his wife because he needed some sort of scapegoat to tell his work or something, he seems like an a**
He clearly wanted to stay home and play Fortnite in his spiderman undies while drinking choco milky from his favorite lil sippy cup
@@DoctorDerpman couldnât have put it better myself!
That's what I was thinking, either he's the most irresponsible person ever, or else there was a reason he didn't want to go and put all the blame on his wife for making him miss his flight. Like rSlash pointed out, you should really show up to the airport at least an hour before your flight, so he should have gotten home from hanging out with his buddies in enough time to pack a bag and then leave for the airport. And then after missing the flight he should have booked another one, if it's that important. I'd rather pay for my own ticket then have to explain to my boss why I didn't go.
The second story: How did she get this far into their relationship? Has she been neglected by him and taking care of everything for him and hasnât realized until recently how shitty he is?
Your icon looks a little like the protagonist of my new fanfic. She also has a pink pixie cut and blue eyes.
Because the story is fake, that how.
After reading the updates, I lowkey hope she never forgives them. The entitlement and audacity. That's not family. Those are parasites. Stay and run away, OP
I just feel sorry for that future kid in the first story. They are going to be this dirty secret that divided the family and everyone tiptoes around at family gatherings. They are going to ask why one half loves them and the other ignores them at best.
âOh, itâs grown up stuff. Itâs not about youâ
But kids know, they can tell. And if Reddit is still kicking in about 18 years; this kid is going to be making an r/AITA post about confronting their parents about their dirty secret after connecting with their long lost aunt.
And the second story just reminds me of Kevin from Home Alone. He doesnât know how to pack a suitcase, but he had the excuse of being 8 years old.
You said it the best out of anyone here!! Holy shitâŠ
When that kid grows up theyâre gonna *hate* their mom.
No, that kid won't be some "dirty little secret" and he won't divide the family.
The family has already rallied around his existence and prefers him over OP. They'll spoil him like a golden child just like they spoiled his mom, and the only "family divide" is with OP, who they've already vilified and made the black sheep, outcast.
As far as they're concerned, they're totally justified in excluding OP, and her loss won't negatively effect them at all.
Honestly, a proper family divide would be preferable, at least then, there would be some justice for OP, and *someone* to support them, instead of having her entire family turn their back on her.
Yeah I feel sorry for the future kid. And I feel sorry for op. I hope they get a better boyfriend that actually treats them well and isn't a cheater. Also how is cancer a good excuse for why the sister did that. Last time I checked, it doesn't turn you into a a-hole
@@RevokFarthis Just to clarify for anyone who is confused, Farthis is NOT justifying the entitled family (who will probably taint the child with their inferior and corrupted morals most likely, which is tragic as hell), they are stating that in the warped delusional minds of the family, they FEEL justified by excluding OP, and that because they decided to wrongfully outcast her, she has next to nobody to support her.
The only thing we can hope for is that, once the child grows up, they possibly grow a conscience and seek the truth from OP, opening their mind beyond the brainwashing and seeing reason.
Parents: We know your ex cheated on you with your sister and got her pregnant, but if you donât show unconditional support, then weâll disown you.
OP: Donât threaten me with a good time.
Just wait for it, in a year they'll come running wanting her to babysit because her poooor sister needs a break - meanwhile Ben knocked up ten other girls - and when OP refuses, the song of the Karens starts: But we're familyyyyyyyyyyyyyy (Karens have many songs)
@@bladerunner3314 I love the song about the manager đ
@@MusketeerGweneth Yeah, but it makes it real hard to decide which is the song of their people.
I'd say the universal chorus has to be in there, the "Excusssssssse me!"
The Real Irony:
In an Update, OP said she decided to take the firsts step and e-mailed them saying she will cut ties with them for their betrayal.
How bad was that blow? The stepmother actually tried to apologize, and the father, as a henpecked coward, said nothing.
The second story: honestly the husband seems like he really doesn't give a s*** about his wife at all. He sounds immature and irresponsible. Throwin up some major red flags.
Yea but she is the one staying and having kids with him ...begs to question why ?
@@DarkForse Why? Because OP and 'her" "husband" are not real, that's why. I refuse to believe that any of this is real, for reasons rslash touched upon, like the airport thing; and the husbands' friends thing.
Christ, I momentarily forgot why I stopped listening to AITA stories, almost none of them are real or even slightly realistic.
rslash, your daughter hasnt made you soft or weak. it's made you way more aware of how painful and terrible abusive parents are to their kids. which not only makes you a better father by making you realize what not to do, but shows how good a father you are in the first place. the fact that you're being upset by other people's bad parents is a very good sign.
Second story: Irresponsible man-child husband treats his wife, the _mother of his children,_ like a slave and blames her when she doesn't pick up his slack while he prioritizes Fortnite and his friends over _his family and his job..._
OP, darlin, with all due respect; *_HOW THE HELL DID YOU LET HIM PUT A RING ON YOUR FINGER?!?_*
Or let him knock ya up for not 1 but multiple âkidsâ.?!? It sounds like he doesnât help at all with raising them if heâs playing his video games and hanging with the dudes. Heâs a father and has a family. Sorry. Youâre no longer a bachelor.
Apparently, because money.
@@feastguy101 Who knows because this could also just be the dynamic they agreed on. Why assume she only married him for the money?
@@humancreativity8237 because not ditching this asshole a long time ago leaves money as the only consideration?
Well it's very likely that OPS husband wasn't like this while they were dating and he slowly changed his behavior overtime AFTER he had married OP and knocked her up. Lots of man child men don't act like man children until they know they've trapped a woman into being their maid, mother, baby sitter, and sex doll.
2nd story: Yeah you need to pack his bag, then tell him to get the hell out and not come back till he grows up, and if he wants to put "his boys" before his wife go live with them
Had me at first like what..? XD yeah. The dude is a total jerk. Get rid of him.
And go where ?
Did you read that he is the breadwinner and she has no income ?
And sheâll pays the bills, how? She doesnât work.
Exactly! Go ask "your boy's" to wash your dirty laundry and shit!
That's kinda what I was thinking. Yea I'd pack his bag so I get a couple weeks break that d-bag! And plan the rest of my life without him. But maybe that was the straw that's breaks the wife's back.
I really hope ur daughter listens to your videos when sheâs older bc itâs very obvious how much you love her and I think that when sheâs an adult and stressed, listening to how much her dad loves her will help her so much.
2nd story: Someone could literally mistake the husband's behavior for that of a 12 year olds. Stays up playing fortnite, wants to go "hang out with the bros" before a trip, asks the female in the house (OP) to pack his bag while he's gone, and then throws a literal tantrum about missing the flight HE was supposed to catch.
Rslash almost completely skipped over the parents parentifying OP and still gave them a 5/5, damn they suck
That is the first time I've heard him give out the full five
@@remytate6498 oh man, you should find the first time he did. That one will make your blood boil, it wasnât to long ago, within the last year
@@killerdiek800 could you post a link if you know the video
@@evanelzinga282 That isn't entirely accurate. He used to give 5/5 to people that were basically Disney Villains. But over time he shifted the meaning to only include the most absolutely awful actions and attitudes known to man. The first instance where he used the change was when a MIL blamed OP for her baby's death (who died of a CONGENITAL condition)...at the baby's funeral.
@@metademetra jeez that women is horrible
It doesnât matter if your sister had cancer, or whatever her BS excuses are, and she is very clearly enabled by your parents, who are threatening you with emotional manipulation. She intentionally hid the affair from you, she cheated with your boyfriend and now has the backing of your family. Nobody in that family is considering what this is doing to you, and it doesnât sound like your family has considered your feelings for a long time tbh OP. In my personal opinion, you should cut contact, that is not a healthy family dynamic and youâve done nothing wrong, but theyâre psychologically abusing you so you believe this is your fault, where you deserve to be punished for not doing what they say, where you deserve to be second best at all times, where youâre the scapegoat and your sister is the golden child and you should be happy about that, and if youâre not happy with that situation then youâre apparently the problem.
Take it from someone who was heavily abused as a child, who has cPTSD & PTSD, and permanent nerve damage from said childhood, where my brothers psychological and physical abuse was enabled by my mother, who would psychologically abuse me herself on top of the hardcore neglect, along with forcing me to be her full time carer, my brothers full time carer, and somehow bringing myself up as a child and trying to juggle all this from a young age, I didnât really have a childhood as I was a child bringing up another child, and an adult who didnât want the responsibility of the parenting (but wanted Scottish government child benefits). I was always harassed and bullied when my brother did something, as if it was somehow my fault for how he behaved, that I should âget over itâ whenever he stole money from me, that it was âmy problemâ and ânobody caresâ when he physically attacked me, that I was being âdramaticâ when I asked for an ambulance to be called or taken to hospital, where apparently ânobody would careâ (the hospital was actually angry I didnât call an ambulance, I was forced to walk with a serious concussion to the hospital, a 45 minute walk took me 2.5 hours), etc etc.
Thereâs loads more but weâd be here all day, but the manipulation I faced from my mother and the constant gaslighting made me feel like I deserved everything they did, that I must have done something to deserve what happened to me, that I wasnât important enough, that nobody cared what happened to me, it took me a long time to fight against that. The way youâre being treated makes me think of how my own mother treated me, and the best thing I ever did for myself was cutting all contact.
I wonât lie, cutting all contact hurts and it hurt a LOT, but it was the healthiest thing Iâve ever done for myself, and my real family, my childhood best friend who I love and treat as a sister, will always be there for me and has blessed me with 2 nieces and a nephew. You donât owe your toxic family loyalty, love or respect, you only owe those to yourself. My sister fully understands my PTSD and nerve damage, she doesnât judge me for being mostly bedridden disabled, she doesnât weaponise my disabilities, she understands I canât celebrate my own birthday or stuff like Christmas because theyâre serious trigger dates, and she understands that even with medication, professional help, regular appointments, itâs still something I live with and struggle with. My sister loves me unconditionally, and made me God Mother to her children, so Iâm their Aunt AND God Mother, and itâs one of the bigger honours in my life.
You donât owe your toxic blood family anything, you can make your own family with the people you love. Always remember that blood doesnât mean anything if they treat you like this, you donât owe them loyalty, love, respect, you donât owe them anything, especially if they canât even treat you like a person. Iâve found the bond I have with my self made family is stronger than any blood related bond Iâve ever had, I would put my life on the line to save my nieces and nephew, to save my sister, Iâll be there when she needs me, Iâll travel on 15 different buses to get to her house if she needs anything, heck Iâve been there when there was a family emergency, my BIL had a seizure and I was caring for my 2nd niece who was 6 months old, and 1st niece who at the time was 4. My sister loves and trusts me that she knew theyâd be safe, and they were, because she knows I love her as my sister dearly. Creating my own family is one of the best things Iâve ever done, and Iâd always recommend others make their own families too.
I am glad you have people who genuinely care about you. I hope you find more and find happiness.
Let life treat you better.
Agreed!
pls tell me your bio family's life sucks now.
I hope OP reads this. But even better that you shared this, Iâm sure just writing it brought back a lot of emotions. Glad youâre doing well
I feel like with the second story, that he grew up with his mom doing everything for him. And then when he got married he just expected OP to do the same and when he asked her to pack his bag, he just assumed that she would even though she said no.
rslash getting emotional over family stories because he has a kid now is actually super adorable, ngl. i kinda wonder if he'll ever change a rating on any old stories he did before!
"My daughter has made me soft."
No, Dabney. She's given you a new perspective. She will be a weakness, for sure - but that tiny lil girl will also give you strength you never thought possible.
She hasn't made you weak at all.
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Can't soft be a perspective though?
Agreed she will be daddy's lil girl:) and of course will be very protective of her
There's a difference between weak and soft. I'm soft. I gush at puppies and babies on the street, I'm emotional and empathic. I am NOT weak. Emotions don't make you weak and softâ weak
Soft isn't the opposite of strength. Just saying.
Exactly. My daughter made the beast go quiet; but that beast is still very much alive and patiently biding it's time. Gods help the person that makes him wake up.
Imagine telling your boss "It's not my fault I missed the flight! My wifey didn't pack my bag!" If I was the boss, that person will need to update their CV, not because they missed a flight, but because they are clearly incapable of taking responsibility for their own actions!
Exactly, someone who can't take responsibility for their actions is a liability to the company.
Yeah, I would be like, huh I thought your age was not 3.
The second story somewhat reminds me of my husband and I. We were moving out of our old apt. My husband had been getting into role playing on Arc and streaming alot starting about 3 months before. The night before the movers are coming, he wanted to RP/stream. I told him I needed to help me pack because this was the last night for getting things together for the movers to take with them. He got mad, saying he had already planned to stream. We got into a little tiff about it and he went outside to smoke. He was talking to our neighbor about it and the guy just said "Priorities, man". My husband came back in and helped me pack the rest of the night. I understand why he wanted to stream. He had made a plan and wanted to follow through with it. I get the same way but in the end, he did what he was supposed to do because he's not a giant man baby like the guy in the second story. She needs to leave him pronto. The whole story smacks of manipulation and possibly abuse.
Second story: op needs to get a an exit strategy cos chances are her husband will become more entitled and probably abusive. She might be stuck in a toxic marriage she can't get out of because of been financially dependent on him.
OP made him look unprofessional & unreliable?
He going to tell his bosses that he didn't pack his bag because he was playing fortnite and hanging with the boys?
His priorities make him look like a 12 year old.
Wrong. He is going to tell his boss that his wife didn't pack his bag for him even though he was so busy after work that he couldn't manage, and that she was being difficult and disruptive to him all night and all day until he realized he was too late and missed his flight. He is going to spin it in such a way that, to his boss, it literally would be the wife's fault. I've BS'ed my way out of work a few times doing things like that, even put on the a display so convincing that I nearly put myself to tears, and can confidently say that if this guy has any experience being a BS'er, that's what will happen.
For the first story involving the sister sleeping with OPâs boyfriend and her parents showing favoritism, thereâs an update R/slash didnât cover: OP met up with her pregnant sister to confirm all the details she knows and to talk to her about how she feels. OP told her sister she was going no contact with her because her sister brought up making her the godmother and she doesnât want to be a slave and bank for her sister (she knows thatâs what will happen if sheâs the godmother). She also told her parents how she felt and told them she was going no contact with them too. Her stepmother did apologize for how she acted (didnât change the no contact decision) but her father didnât say anything which is sad
Thank you for that update
They definitely deserve a lethal dose of the sister's disease.
Shit that's sad. Hopefully OP finds a support system that's better than her toxic family
I'd say that: OP does well in going no-contact, and wait for the inevitable update of OP's sister finding out Ben cheated on her aswell because I can see a guy like that doing it.
@@H-to-O agree, if I was a relative of theirs I would cut them out. I'd probably refuse to attend any events they were at, even family weddings.
The first story makes me want to hug OP and RSlash just because it really does hurt to be betrayed by a person you love. I've never encountered this but I still feel horrible for OP and poor DadSlash
RSlash before reading first story: *Chill*
RSlash after reading first story: "Ever heard of the game "Asura's Wrath? I'm gonna channel some of that energy right now..."
Second story: She should have packed his bag with a couple of worn-out towels, old holey socks, and a few of the kids' toys, and sent him on his way.
Or packed his bag with all his clothes, kicked him out the door and changed the locks!
or better yet, OP packing her husband's bag with his OLD super smelly clothes.
at least OP packed his bag..
then when the husband complains about the smelly clothes.. " well, i chose your best business trip attires "
For the first story, the cousin in the update sounds like a future Madlad.
A madlad in the making
@@TheColombianSpartan one could say a madlad to be!
You could say, future lad of mad.
Ohhhh to be a fly on the wall when the man-child walks into his bosses office and says: âI missed my flight, but itâs not my fault cos my wife didnât pack my bag!â
"You're making me look unreliable!"
Oh honey, that's not just a look - you *are* unreliable.
2nd story, he never wanted to go on the trip and used his wife as an excuse. Guarantee he blamed his wife but lied about the details to his business and friends.
For story 1:
As a person who has had Leukemia (Blood cancer) at 14, I am absolutely appalled that they would say the experience prevented her from learning social skills. By 14, you already have the social skills, and personally, cancer has actually made me a better person in regards to social skills and compassion. It is absolutely disgusting that they would use her cancer as an excuse for her disgusting behavior.
For the second story: I have always packed my partners bag for his work excursions. However, I do it out of love and want to help not because heâs asking me to. If he ever asked me to I donât think Iâd do it.
*rSlash:* _spends most of the video tearing BHs a new, um, BH_
*Me:* "I'll allow it."
I know rSlash can read, but man, that dude can _read_
Yeah ill allow it
Yes yes yes! Please rant! I love listening to him calling a spade, a 5 out of 5 a holed spade!
"Everyone liked that"
Not međ€·ââïž sorry just come here for stories and go on with my day. I mean we're all thinking the same thing so why listen to what I'm already thinking? I dunno, I'm sure people will give me shit but I can't change how I feel about it. Seems like less stories lately and dragging them out further.
@@Stiffybeaver Nah, I understand.
Usually, I prefer that he covers more stories instead of ranting for minutes at a time. However, I also appreciate it when he gets passionate about a story.
Hopefully, tomorrow's video will be something more lighthearted like r/StoriesaboutKevin, lol.
Rslash, use the stories of horrible parents and families as lessons on what NOT to do when raising a child. You'll become super dad.
He already is. đ
I love that you also have a heightened response to stories involving parents neglecting their children, since having my own daughter 9 months ago so many films and shows and even songs just hit so different now that I'm a parent, and some of these stories boil my blood soooo kuch more than they used to!
The last guy is lucky the OP didn't pack his bag full of bricks đ
That second story, I don't think the husband is an idiot. it sounded like he was intentionally sabotaging the trip to blame his wife,
if I was OP I would hire a PI, if he was this clueless really, I would also advice considering separation, idiocy is contagious
2nd story: The guy obviously wanted to miss his flight but have someone else to blame for it.
Yeah, that guy needs to grow the fuck up. Frankly, he had time to check in with his friends AND pack his bags but he decided he couldn't be bothered. And as rslash notes, why the hell didn't he just do it the night before? I'm guessing his wife is gonna get tired of having a child for a husband.
My father travels for work at times, and if he gets a heads up he will be traveling my father will pack it as soon as possible. He even packed his bag once a month in advanced to make sure he wouldn't miss his flight!
@@fishlady7930 I hate travelling. I do as little of it as possible. That said, if I need to fly, my bag is packed at least 36 hours in advance. Because if I leave it till sooner, the stress of the upcoming flight (I hate heights) will make me forget something (usually vital) and then I'll be super fucked when I get where I'm going.
Op said husband was mad that he was gonna be home for 2 weeks thatâs a long business trip . A 2 week long business trip Iâm keeping my bag parked that almost a second wardrobe..
@@fdm2155 i can pack my shit to completely move out of the house in 20 minutes, as anything i don't use on the regular is in a container. how can this dude not pack 2 or 3 changes of clothes in far less time?
Mr âPack my Bag for Meâ was so disorganized that he couldnât throw together a bag quickly. He also misplaced his paperwork, so more time was lost looking for it.
Thank you for the frequent uploads, it gets me through the dishes every time
Imagine thinking you can steal someones SO because you had cancer....
fun fact, you can't actually steal someone's SO.
That implies they have the same amount of agency as a wallet.
I get having cancer sucks, but that doesnât give you a free pass to be a shitty person
Second story - 'The boys' is code for he's having an affair. The wife needs to pack his bag one last time.
@And They Were Roommates I don't think Jeanie meant it actually semantically means "my affair partner" but she assumes he is cheating and that's why he's both so inattentive and so adamant to see them. Which would make this story make more sense... But he could also just be the biggest manchild.
@BREAKING NEWS: Local Newt Found It seems like cheating to me in this context, and I'm a gen z who throws around "it's da boys" like crazy.
An interesting thought... I haven't considered that. Perhaps she should hire a PI and look into that.
I think he wanted to miss his flight and is using his wife as a scapegoat. If it was that important, he should have packed his bag the night before. Or at minimum, packed it before he went to see "his boys". He went out for hours. 10-15 minutes or even 30 minutes should not make much of difference. WTF, seeing your friends for 2 hours instead of 2.5 hours is so important that he risks missing his important business flight? I don't buy it.
the husband is a freaking manboy... pack my bag? playing fortnite? going to miss the boys? what a child.
If i was the wife, i'd divorce the looser...
First story; I wouldn't blame Op if she decided to go no contact w/ her treacherous family. Op doesn't owe any of them favors, after the initial betrayal that had transpired.
As a person with cancer as a teen (Iâve been in remission for three months :) ) the first story makes me sick to my stomach. This only gets rid of the sympathy for cancer patients. Itâs abusing kindness Iâm so disgusted whenever I hear thisâŠ
The parents think they're going no contact with the daughter but in reality the daughter is going no contact with them lmao.
@the truth it's so much a gain for OP. Fuck those people. I say OP should secretly spread how the sister got pregnant. I'm sure the parents care more about their image then their own kid by the way they act.
I love that the toxic hateful parents think that's a threat. LOL
@the truth I mean there's no turning it around the way they treated her. We all want to see them suffer.
@@AmusementLabs yup. Iâm sure they parents would go no contact with ops sister in an instant once the whole town finds out the kid was conceived from adultery.
@@taxevader7777 idk what you mean, they already know their granddaughter was, in fact they doubled down. I don't think these people are in any way dignified or religious in that manner. They probably try and say OP was cheating with her sister's baby daddy in order to turn it around.
That husband IS irresponsible and unprofessional. I've done my fair share of traveling over the years and got packing down to a work of art. I always knew exactly what I needed on any given trip because it was my job to know. Asking someone who isn't doing that type of job to guess what is needed and what isn't is extremely unprofessional and irresponsible. As much as I love my video games, I could never let my enjoyment of them interfere with the source of income for the family. Blaming the wife for details pertaining to your job is just laughable. Were I that guys' boss, I would consider letting him go just solely on his unreliability to do the job.
Heâs not just unprofessional and irresponsible heâs a big baby but he acts like that bc she lets him act like that. I would have just let him go out with the boys and then changed the locks while he was gone and kicked him out. âGo live with the boysâ đ€Łđ€Łâșïž
Second story: tell him to spend a week sleeping at his friends' house, so he can't claim you deliberately made him miss his flight to have him home.
Donât bother. Thatâs not what happened. We know it. She knows it. HE knows it, too. Itâs guilt tripping.
yalll whoeverâs the narrator is my new fav person. i havenât been following long but i have binged WAY too many videos over the last few days. so far i havenât heard a single opinion that i disagree with. you are a very good human :)
*First Story:* The way OP had to ask if she's the a**hole speaks volumes of how neglected and ignored she was in favor of her stepsister.
*Second Story:* Is OP's husband an executive or a member of Congress? You know, the most entitled people on the planet?
Maybe. I couldnât tell my job, sorry Iâm not goingâŠâŠ. Or working for weeks apparently.
First story: It's so sad how the OP basically did so much for her sister, selflessly, but how quick her sister and parents (and extended family) could turn on her. Super horrible people.
Second story: Husband was totally gaslighting his wife. First, ignoring what she said (which her telling him to pack his own stuff was not at all handled maliciously, just that she had her hands full and he's a "grown up" and when you are an adult, married with children and have an important job, you HAVE responsibilities you don't pawn off to other members of your family). He disrespected his wife by devaluing her wishes, then tries to turn it around on her as if SHE was the reason he was in the pickle he was in (which was of his own creation). The wife lets us know right in the beginning, he's irresponsible. And how he just expects her to drop everything and wait on his wishes, hand and foot, it makes me think he's one of those men that believe the second he comes home from work, his little house frau should come running to greet him with his slippers and a cold beer, take his coat and escort him to his chair, the tv's already set to "the game". This isn't the days of Ward Cleaver, the 1950s are long gone.
When Rslash uses the F word, even while using a beeping sound, you know he's pissed off or he means business
Rslash i love your content so much watched every vid on the channel already, keep it up
The second story: Weaponized incompetence, itâs disgusting.
unfortunately a very common thing in today's world
crappy parent stories activate full on DadSlash and I'm here for it XD (because man those were TRASHY family members in the first story)
Hello verified person!
I just went on my first flight by myself a few weeks ago, and I got to the airport FIVE HOURS early. My entire family made fun of me but at least I was preparedđ
12:18 he was angry that she made him look unreliable and unprofessional, but he is, he is unreliable and unprofressional
I heard someone else read the "pack my bag" story and they had a followup. Seems the man and wife had just had a baby, thus, the woman was extremely busy and most likely exhausted. Regardless, my husband never packed my bag for me, nor did I ever pack his bag when taking trips. I knew what I wanted/needed and he knew what he wanted/needed. It's an adult's responsibility to take care of their own stuff and that includes packing one's own bags.
If I hadn't know this was about a couple, going by the guy's behavior I'd think it's a mother complaining about her child's carelessness/irresponsibility.
Now that you mention, it, I remember hearing the longer story too.
I think I'd have packed his bag with anything he didn't need - unwashed underwear, the shirt that needed buttons sewn on, sex toys, a couple of kiddie books, tampons, and a big teddy bear.
my wife have packed my bag once or twice went it was a "rush" trip but that is diffence study
At first they are both avoiding a simple task. I mean he saw her doing laundry and figured she could just place his clothes in the suitcase instead of the closet or drawers. At that point they are both maybe 0.5/5 buttholes just cause, as R/slash said, its a really basic thing to pack some clothes up. But his attitude the whole fucking time is what makes him special. Especially after he missed the flight and just threw a tantrum. Definitely earned his score. I just have one little quibble. Being a stay at home spouse is not a job. Not taking away from any of the stress and hard work involved in raising children its just very different types of stress because children don't have the power to fire you or lower your pay due to mistakes made. Basically its all semantics but we are all in agreement that guy in the story was just a childish shitlord. Seriously I can hear my parents " You can hang out with your friends AFTER you take care of your responsibilities" lecture playing in my head as I listen to that story.
@@TheWeaponshold Um, what??? The woman isn't a butt-hole for not packing her man-baby husband's bag. She's already busy with household chores. He can pack his own bag.
Itâs always sad to hear when parents neglect one of their children because they show favoritism towards the other. Cancer or not, you donât do that to your own child. Itâs so disgusting
And by favoritism, I mean what the parents in the first story did. Iâm not saying having favorites is bad, just donât make it clear that you like one child more than the other
You don't pick favorites between your children. That's not cool at all.
@@darkangel8826 it happens sometimes without control. as long as you treat everyone the same its not an issue.
@@darkangel8826 correction: active and golden child favoritism is bad, but not passive and subconscious favoritism.
@@liamzakhaev true... But it's still unfair
@@darkangel8826 as long as subconscious and passive favoritist parents course correct when made aware, then it's as fair as can be
I love it when rslash gets pissed cause it shows how much he cares :]
Lmao these two stories just show how much of a dad RSlash is.
1st story: hope sheâs finds support from some other parts of the family. If not then I hope she finds a decent support group somewhere else.
I hope she moves and changes her phone number and leaves this dumpster fire family completely.
The guy who refused to pack his own bag looks like a disorganized, bad employee because he IS a disorganized, bad employee.
I wonder if, once his work trips end, he asks his colleagues to pack his bag for him đ
What?!?! That first story is crazy. The whole family is toxic. Cut them off and concentrate on the people that really care about you. Because these people don't!
Aside from the update on the other comments, about OP going NC with the family, there was another update, this time a positive one:
After a second failed relationship (the guy also cheated on her and dumped her, poor girl), OP decided to move far away and start anew. Turns out this was the best decision of her life: she made new friends and wasn't alone anymore, finally got into therapy and met a man who loves and respects her. She's still no contact with her family, which is for the best.
2nd Story: Heâs literally a man child he canât even take the time to pack his own bag for a literal business trip just so he could hang out with his friends
Literally sounds like a grumpy teenager
Even grumpy teenagers know Mommy and Daddy aren't going to pack their bags for them. I certainly knew it by age...eight, I guess?
As a Grumpy Teenager i feel disgusted that I'm associated with that man child even in such a minor way
Packing the bag wasn't the issue. He wasn't spending time with his family. If he'd been attentive to his wife and kids, she gladly would have packed it. But he was acting like a selfish teenager. It sounds like he's not happy with adult responsibilities and suffers from Peter pan syndrome.
"why didn't you pack the night before instead of playing fortnite" sounds like something you say to a teenager not an adult. Guy seriously needs to grow up holy shit. Great video by the way
Yeah, and what's up with refusing to buy a new ticket and just go on the trip is it's so important to him? No, he'd rather pout and whine and blame his wife for his own immature decision making.
Yeah, he's a total manbaby. But it makes me wonder if there's some reason he didn't want to go on the trip and was just blaming it on his wife as an excuse.
bro his like hour long rant about the dude in the airport lol
hey rSlash i love your videos you make the best pod casts as well.
"You are just jealous that Ben chose me over you!"
"....did he? You are four months pregnant but I am the one who broke up with him after I caught you in the act. Are you SURE he would have left me if I had said: Alright, but never do it again?"
Good point
Many of these stories make me wonder if there's a cultural element we're not privy to. Having cancer is not an excuse to be a cancer.
It's sad but as a disabled I very frequently see people using things like this as an excuse to get away with murder all the time. I frank can't fathom ever doing that myself...
I donât know of any culture where a cancer patient can be a d*ck.
@@kaylawoodbury2308 as a child I survived a medical condition with a lower survival rate than any category of cancer you can get. The worst being Pancreatic cancer with a 9% survival rate. I spent a combined total of over a year of my childhood admitted in hospital. Not including outpatient visits. Which was nearly one a week until I was 16. I could literally never fathom doing this shit.
There are still some cultures where (grand)children are very important, and not having any is seen as a shame. Sister may or may not have been a "golden child" at first, but deffo became one once she was the first child to get pregnant.
Couldn't have said it better myself đ
Living for the rslash reactions
I cant wait for Babyslash bloopers. Cause you know when babyslash is old enough to walk and talk she will wanna play with her daddy. Babyslash bloopers and puppy bloopers would be the cutest thing ever.
I love the fervor that rSlash has when talking about terrible parents
I find it hilarious that the parents justify OPâs sister actions, due to lack social interactions because of having cancer and the other mental gymnastics the parents spit out only to justify horrible behavior. But she got cancer as a teen, and they are old enough to know what right or wrong is, even though teens think they know everything.
@Wolf-dog Cat-dog She doesn't need any, mommy and daddy will fix everything and it'll always be someone else's fault.
rslash : i'm at the airport at least two hours, even if it sounds like overkill...
me : huh, i thought that's normal!
It has not made you soft, it brought out the empathy you always had.
The first story: seriously if I were OP. I'd look at mom and say "So if dad goes out and cheat. That means you should forgive him because my sister had cancer?"
The second story situation is stupid, the wife is definitely in the right and the husband needs to be an adult and needs to learn how to behave like one. His âimportant flightâ should have take precedent over video games and hanging out with his buddies. Im a fan of video games myself but even i know whatâs more important.
If Iâm going on a trip later that day I always pack my bag before I start playing games. Hell even if Iâm just planning to meet someone to hang out Iâll get ready before I start playing games while I wait. Iâve been doing this since I was like 12. I think the most logical thing here is that he intentionally missed his flight and tried to blame it on his wife.
What's dumb is even if he's a slow shitty packer it still wouldn't have taken very long. Like an hour Max, you can take an hour to pack ur shit? How would she know what paper work he needed? He acts like not going is a horrible punishment. I'd say marriage counselling or end the relationship. I wouldn't say it's hopeless to work out, he just needs to appreciate his wife alot more and help her sometimes, be a father ffs
Honestly.. When he gets flustered about the family stories and his daughter... Hand on heart (literally!) I get emotional from hearing it in his voice.. Its just soooooooo sweet!!!!!! đ€©
Good papa rslash!!!
God I love an RSlash rantđ„°