r/AmITheA**hole For Making My Young Daughter Live On The Streets?
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- Äas pĆidĂĄn 29. 12. 2020
- r/AmITheA**hole In today's episode, OP discovers her young daughter being incredibly rude to a homeless man. OP decides to show her daughter some tough love by forcing her to live outside in their yard in a tent for a night. This proves to be a very eye-opening experience, and the daughter does a 180 in how she treats homeless people. However, OP's family members believe that OP crossed the line. So, is OP the butthole here?
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Not being allowed to celebrate your wedding because a guest was negligent towards their child is absolutely ridiculous
Have a good day! :D
I agree mate
My thoughts exactly. Yes its a tragedy but why wasn't the parents watching their kids
Thank you! It's not like it's OP's fault. The worst I can say about them is that they probably should've seen the shitstorm coming and known to avoid posting it where they could see it, which is more a lack of foresight than actually being an asshole. Frankly, if you weren't allowed to celebrate a special occasion just because that day represents tragedy for someone else, then there would be no celebrations period because every day is someone's greatest tragedy.
@@Hamster-qm6py u too
"It's your fault for leaving food around her."
I'm sorry, I didn't realize pregnant women had the right to act like untrained dogs and steal food they shouldn't have.
Yea, I can leave my plate of food on my chair, leave the house to do something for up to 30 minutes or so & my Chihuahua won't touch it unless I tell her it's hers. How the hell is this pregnant person less respectful than my tiny dog?
Exactly.
Have a good day! :D
I agree. That story made my blood boil.
Iâm 31 weeks pregnant and never have I just ate other peoples food without asking first
Op in the wedding one is NTA, she just wants to celebrate her anniversary, there's nothing wrong with that. The parents of the dead kid are actually in the wrong, their kid is dead because they weren't supervising them despite being at a wedding next to a lake and their kid not knowing how to swim, they're lashing out at people who weren't at fault.
I agree. They are 5/5 for negligence
I didn't even think about that, like how did the kid get away? they weren't paying attention. SMH
"I didn't watch my kid and allowed him to end up drowning. It must be the married couple's fault and totally not my own! Right guys!? Right!?"
ya they shouldve watched the kid. terrible he died, but they are responsible
And by their logic everyone born on 9/11 are born on 9/12
The dead kid wouldn't have died if the parents were as mindful as they could be. That wedding photo reminded them of that negligence and that anger needs to be pointed somewhere. This is the root of the problem.
They're definitely projecting smh. It's a terrible event but they shouldn't take that out on OP
Bingo
So, it does not say childâs age ! To blame the parents is sad !! Donât you think they blame themselves?
This is so sad ! Have they really thought it out ? We had a lovely wedding a year ago pity little boy died, parents should have been watching him ! Anyway itâs our 1st wedding anniversary,
@@margaretdevries8090 the fact that they're even demanding the couple get married again says no. No they don't blame themselves. They blame the couple. They also blame the couple for their lives not stopping because of the death. As someone who has lost multiple family members, thats asinine and entitled af behaviour.
@@margaretdevries8090 if they had been paying attention to the kid like a parent should then the kid wouldn't die so it is their fault
No man, just because somebody is grieving, it does not give that person the right to dictate when others can be happy. Their child died because of their negligence, not because of the wedding. They have no right to demand anything from OP.
iF thErE"s nO wEdDiNG iN tHe fIrSt plAcE oUr kId wOUlDn"t dIE.
The parents arenât putting blame on the couple, theyâre upset that the couple is celebrating the event where their child was killed without even acknowledging the baby. If the child died the same day, but not at the wedding, it would be a different story. Something about seeing glamorized pictures of the same lake where your baby died just minutes later would be heartbreaking to anyone.
@@LaluMakesFilms Why would someone put a post saying: "One year being married, oh btw RIP to kid who died" That sounds even more insensitive acknowledging the baby/kid. The couple should not have walk on eggshells but they should have blocked that family or shot a DM to the mother beforehand. The in-laws demands are just plain stupid...
@@LaluMakesFilms in a edit or update op states that she only posted pictures of the wedding party. She didn't post any involving the lake at all
she even said they arenât close with that family my cousin died and his death date is also on my sisters anniversary but you donât see my aunt screaming at my sister about it
One of my friends lost her 18 month old daughter do to birth defects, on my birthday.
Every year, she makes a really heart felt post on the anniversary of her little girl death. The little girl was loved every day of her short life, and years after.
She has never told me I canât celebrate my birthday, because it shares the date of her daughterâs death. Nor, have I ever told her to stop posting about her daughter on that date.
That date has meaning for both of us, in different ways. And that will never change.
i thought the mom was gonna make her daughter literally live on the streets. Making her sleep in the garden was a great idea. in a controlled environment and under supervision (the mom sleeping in the nearest bedroom window). Thats exactly how parenting should be done. Letting your kids deal with the consequences of their action whilst also making sure they're still safe and protected. The mom is inspiring honestly. she did great. better yet she also gave her daughter options. Either sleep in the garden or have her phone taken. both very fair punishments
I think this is actually better. The point is it's not a punishment, like giving money, it's a method of instilling empathy. The daughter is changed for the better, and will hopefully put herself in other's shoes before she judges them in the future.
Well I'm not saying what she did was right the daughter yelling at the homeless person but in America the person who is homeless is normally mentally ill or a drug addict and those are the reasons they are where they are and it's well deserved for the drug addicts that is why you never give a homeless person money give them food don't give them money because you don't know that person you don't know if they are going to spend it on drugs maybe these are one of the homeless people who just had bad fortune or does someone who is a drug addict and still probably is just give them food not money don't be a dick because once again you don't know if this person is there because of drugs or because they're mentally ill or because they just had bad fortune food no money be polite not friendly not until you get to know them
@@tbnrwolff3354 that is an extremely gross over generalization and does nothing to actually fix the problem or invite discussion.
story one sounds entirely like aunty was trying to get the daughter given to her and then it backfired, now she can't live with the consequences
That actually makes sense
Exactly what I was thinking too
Extra suspicious that they ask the daughter be allowed to visit WITHOUT the dad. Definitely looking to start trying to coach the kid to say specific things and behave in specific ways. Looks like OP needs to go no contact with that entire side of the family; if he lets the grandparents see the daughter you can bet they'll try to sneak visits with the aunt.
The fact that his family tried to put him in the same room with the heartless monster who tried to use his wifeâs death to take his daughter away from him is appalling.
I honestly won't be surprised if that family would coach the daughter to say that the father was 'touching' her or doing inappropriate things for the sake of that shitty sister.
Honestly, sheâs celebrating her wedding.
That family needs to deal with their own issues.
I would say dont post in the future but Jesus Christ i agree. Also why would what mean they aren't technically married? The accident happened after the vows not during it
I agree that maybe posting on Facebook without talking to or otherwise warning the kid's family, who are Facebook friends, was a bit not good, but otherwise... well, my birthday is the anniversary of the death of one of my country's heroes, a man whose wife and children are still alive and who doubtless still feel the loss. there are people who were married or who had a kid on anniversaries of massacres and disasters. it just so happens that this time two parties with opposing attitudes about the day know each other. she's allowed to be happy about her wedding anniversary. goodness knows 2020 left us all precious few things to be happy about.
My dad died on my mom's birthday, we still celebrate her birthday. We just call it my dad's "angel birthday". People die everyday, dont stop living YOUR life about it. Only thing you can do is celebrate their life.
You should have said that differently but yes
Maybe
For the wedding story, the real solution was to just to disable comments, if people don't want to see your posts, they can unfollow you. The newlyweds did nothing wrong, they weren't the ones who neglected the child to the point that it died.
If I got a nasty remark from my in-laws telling me I am "living in sin", I would double down on wedding and anniversary photos every day for a month.
âThe only one whoâs NTA are the parents of the dead kidâ- but their negligence is the reason the child died in the first place
Agreed!
Agreed!
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@@-castus- Red
Story 1 it actually sounds like the sister may have been trying to take the kid.
Calling cps unprompted, naming the daughter a new name, decorating the kids room without permission? Yeah she's trying to take the kid from the father
Have a good day!
@@Hamster-qm6py u too hamster.. U too
@@crusaderofthebean5384 ;D
@@Hamster-qm6py ?$
@@statem8gaming448 hi
good job to the mom who stood up for the homeless guy. She knew exactly when her daughter really understood the lesson.
To the OP who had a child die at her wedding... Keep the post up! The parents are just looking for attention and trying to blame you because their horrible parenting cost them their child. They deserve to be reminded of their failure each and every day.
Wtf
@@Oogadyman đ
â@@Oogadymanthey were neglectful. It's their fault. Their child drowned what don't you understand about that? It's not on OP to not celebrate their wedding. It's not her fault that her guests couldn't watch their own kids
If that sister felt bad I donât give a shit. A cps report is permanent so no contacts permanent as well.
Have a good day!
I feel bad for the cp officer having to waste his godam timeđ€Ł
@@paperbaganimation4257 sad thing is, not only did that waste their time but took them away from dealing with a legitimate call for help.
Good point. He can tell his family that he speaks to their daughter again when the CPS report is deleted. Let them figure it out... :)
What I dont get is that if any report is false, they keep it on your record. Accused of sexual assault? Turns out its false? Boom, on there forever even though its false. That's gonna hurt you in life.
For once, I disagree with R slash. The family whose child died, yes are right to grieve, but who the fuck grieves publically like that and tries to destroy others happiness? Every day is a happy day for some and a sad day for others. The whole world is not subject to avoiding your own personal triggers, that is your responsibility.
and remember :) it was their fault
I agree
Was LITERALLY coming to say this. As a mother, it is MY JOB to watch my children. Particularly if I'm at a wedding near a LAKE with children that can't swim. In that situation I wouldn't be able to forgive MYSELF. No way as a wife, I'd expect someone else to mourn my child on the date of a death (that's also their anniversary) caused by my inability to keep an eye on my children. Absolutely asinine and shame on R Slash for suggesting that the bride was somehow wrong for celebrating her FIRST anniversary. Also hubby needs to grow a backbone and tell his family to get a grip.
Welcome to rea lmk world
Agreed!
Story 2.
It's not like she kicked her daughter out for a week with nothing. She set up a tent OUTSIDE HER OWN HOUSE. The girl had shelter, a mat to sleep on, and her freaking phone.
The daughter needed to learn her lesson after being a huge butthole. That lesson is to never "kick down". Never belittle those who are less fortunate or less able.
As far as that wedding one goes, the other family needs to pull their heads out of their ass and acknowledge that the world doesn't revolve around them. People, including kids, die every second of every day. You mourn, you move on with your life, and you sure as hell don't let your grief take other people down with you. Shit if we weren't allowed to celebrate anything on account of someone's kid dying, EVERY DAY would be off limits. Like, thousands of times over.
It actually kinda pisses me off how everyone in reddit is against OP about losing that kid during her wedding. She has the right to remember her wedding, despite the tragic events. She made no reference to the lake, or the kid.
Also uh not to sound completely heartless but the parents are kinda responsible for their child's death
That whole subreddit is full of selfish mean girls who like ganging up on posters.
@@DD-d6d3 As someone who just created a Reddit account a couple of months ago, I agree wholeheartedly! They love to attack people with their keyboards behind a computer screen.
@@DD-d6d3 Why did you have to say girls? Isnât Reddit for everyone?
@@DD-d6d3 in my experience the hole subreddit goes braindead when there is a story that has children in it. For the most part at least.
"I didn't watch my child properly during your wedding and he fucking died due to my negligence as a parent by letting him run off by himself to a lake, but like now you can't celebrate your wedding even a whole year later because of me. You can never celebrate your anniversary publicly again because it will hurt my feelings and remind me of the day that I let my children do whatever they wanted to do so that I could have a good time and it backfired,"
I gotta disagree with you Rslash. They should NOT take the post down, and they also shouldn't have to remove those people from her facebook. If those people are really offended, then they need to remove themselves from the situation. Not try and get the poster to bend to their will. I get it. They lost their child and I'm sure it was terrible. But OP LOST HER WEDDING because they could not keep an eye on their fucking children. So like get the hell over it and let somebody be happy about their wedding anniversary, and if they want to publicly make a post saying "Hey, I'm happy today" don't fucking put them down because your not.
Edit: This is by far one of my most active comments ever! Thanks for keeping the discussion going guys! Love it!
I agree.its not the ops fault. Its the dead childs parents fault. They didnt do their job of keeping the child safe. I mean accidents happend and its not mostly their fault but god damn i got triggerd. It so stupid of the parents to be mad. And rslah used the argument why didnt you block them but why didnt the parents block op but choose to argue. The parents seem like twiter girls.
Yeah i agree, it is not Op problem that they lost their child it was not disrespectfull from Op to post about her wedding.
Sure she could have asked beforehand but that is reading sundays results with the monday newspaper, she did not know it was gonna be a problem.
Exactly!
I totally agree I said this the whole time while listening. This was her day to celebrate love between her and her husband. Those parents were so busy âcelebratingâ with them to keep an eye on their own child that it unfortunately died. So itâs their fault and Op shouldnât feel bad about the happiest day of her life. While yes a sad situation happened itâs not Opâs fault at all.
Get this comment higher!
Rslash, I usually agree with you, but that wedding/dead kid story response wasn't it.
Honestly the wedding one is NTA it wasn't malicious, it would probably be even worse if OP mentioned the child, their negligent sadly caused the death of a child and I don't see what's wrong celebrating your anniversary
The Wedding story: For crying out loud, let the woman celebrate her wedding anniversary. This wouldn't have happened if the parents had been watching their child.
Or if they had left the child with a sitter.
@@paden1865able Yes!
You mean like the child that was attacked by an alligator while at Disney a few years back, with the parents very close by and watching them? The loss of a child is a tragedy, but don't be so ready to blame the parents or call them neglectful. I agree that the married couple should have been allowed to celebrate their anniversary, and that anything to the contrary is misplaced. Blame is worthless. The parents who lost the child were reminded of the tragedy and will mourn and grieve for years.
@@jdpace4371 The child snuck off from their parents, I didn't mean to imply they were neglectful, but would it really have hurt them to pay a little more attention to their spawn, or hire a sitter for the day?
@@karthimaranman5433 That's my point exactly!
I hate it when people always expect the victim to "be the bigger person." It's like they just want you to take their abuse and enjoy it.
exactly
Its part of society, the victim is shamed while the one responsible is considered the victim.
Those same people say its illegal to defend you're self
This is the line I got from 2nd to 9th grade as I was teased and bullied daily at school.
You read my mind. Too many times in family conflicts I was told to be the "bigger person" even when the conflict involved my older sister. Now I hate to speak ill of the dead, as she passed on, but she made it clear after our mom died that she just wanted me to go away. She melted down when my mom died and my family said we should have the funeral as soon as possible because "Sister is so upset....waiting only makes it harder for her". the soonest date was MY BIRTHDAY. Family did not want to hear about wating a few days because "Sister" was so upset. You know, fuck MY feeling, its all about "Sister".
HUH? It was MY MOTHER TOO! I was younger and not as hard ass as I am now, so I agreed but I let all of my relatives know that I will never have a "happy" birthday again because it will ALWAYS be the day I buried my mother. Considering "Sister"s birthday is a little over a week past mine they would not hear of a compromise between those dates, so thanks.
And they wonder why I don't visit home after I left.
In that last story with the house, the girl needs to stand up for herself since its her house! I know that's very difficult with family but I'd set a clear timeframe for moving out then have the locks changed and their stuff left outside if they still haven't moved. I feel that's more than generous since you don't have to put up with someone in your home for a single second if you don't want them there.
I agree. At the first sign of douchebaggery I'd have kicked them all out.
Also, note how the SIL rubbed her stomach after eating OPâs and saying âblame the baby.â She wasnât being inconsiderate, she was blatantly mocking her. Theyâre basically bullying OP into caving in and doing whatever they want, and since SIL was pregnant, she was just using that as an excuse to do whatever she wanted.
Eh... the only problem with that is they could take you to court over an illegal eviction (I think it involves tenant rights, which means if they were there for like 30 days, they are considered a tenant to a degree). Basically, the process goes that you give them notice for them to leave by X date and if they don't leave, then you have to begin eviction proceedings with the court.
Plus; the brother, mother and SIL are not treating OP like family. The mother literally uses a key to let the SIL in OPâs room for the food. Like what on earth?! Who does that!? Do your own shopping if the SIL needs to eat more than usual.
Imagine losing your kids at a wedding and taking it out on the people celebrating their wedding.
The story about the wedding, she is not in the wrong whatsoever. I have multiple dead siblings who all died near big holidays, and one near my birthday. I would NEVER tell people to stop celebrating good things in their life just because the dates coincide with my own or someone elses tragedy. Entitled people suck
If we had to skirt around days that people died, then we would never get anything done.
So rude
The guy behind this channel lost my subscription for calling this bride the a-hole. She absolutely is not! She deserves to be happy about her wedding and anniversary and share posts about those events.
I lost a very dear friend on 5th November (a significant day in the UK and celebrated across the UK with fireworks) and do I tell people not to celebrate? No! It's a shitty day for me, but I don't get to dictate what other people do. OP shouldn't have to celebrate their WEDDING ANNIVERSARY on a different day. I'm not a parent and so don't know the pain of losing a child (and hope I never find out) but the world doesn't stop because of a family's tragedy. It's not selfish for OP to want to celebrate their special day. Also what is up with the husband's family?? You don't get to demand a second wedding!
@@whatevermightwork lol go tell that to Reddit. They destroyed the bride and she deleted her post. And lost your subscription? Later, Karen.
I disagree with you about the child dying at the wedding one. It is a tragedy, but where were the parents when their child got into the water? I donât wanna make assumptions, but seeing they were at a wedding, Iâm gonna guess drinking. Could be wrong about that. But regardless they obviously were not supervising their child.
People have birthdays on 9/11, does that mean we should move everyoneâs birthdays to a different day? Are they now allowed to celebrate? She shouldnât have to remove the post. She shouldnât have to have another wedding unless they want to, and she shouldnât have to celebrate on a different day. She wasnât being disrespectful, just celebrating their marriage. OP is definitely not the asshole!
I think comments/posts should only be deleted if you have something to hide.
If you really thought about it beforehand, would you have posted it?
But, I agree that maybe OP should have hidden the post from that side of the family and deleted their comments, once things started falling apart...if they were able to.
@@CrazyQuilman157 or maybe just gone wrong.
"I thought everyone would agree to my racist post. Why everyone says I'm racist."
Yeah something like that
I disagree. Iâm a former lifeguard and let me tell you, it can be as simple as 30 seconds being distracted for a child to jump in a lake and drown. Yes the parent shouldâve paid more attention, but we canât 100% blame them for a circumstance that eventually got out of their control. I still maintain the notion that everyone sucks because OP is vain and lacks empathy towards the situation. The family sucks for demanding a second wedding. The reason itâs different from people born on 9/11 is because nobodyâs birth outright lead to The tragedy. In fact, some of the kids born the day of 9/11 kept their parents and relatives out of the building for that one day.
I agree that they aren't the asshole but I would say if they do keep the parents on social media then at least put somewhat equal energy into a post in memory of the kid to show some respect
@@LaluMakesFilms but putting that blame towards the bride and groom are totally uncalled for.
OP is the nta for wanting to celebrate their marriage.
Story2 OP did a great thing. She taught her daughter a very valuable lesson on life that many of us may not get. She'll be prosperous and a great person as well. Way to go OP đ
I felt rage on that last one, holy-
I don't know about y'all, but I'd loose it too if my food kept getting stolen. Especially since the mom gave the pregnant girl a SPARE KEY to a PRIVATE room. That's so not cool.
That would be grounds to douse the food in hot sauce.
Personally, Iâd start getting sushi.
@@animeotaku307 I guess you could start dosing your food with spices but, what if you yourself don't like spices? Wouldn't that be a waste of food? Guess you'd have to hope that they won't go after your food anymore
@@snowykitten6860 True, Iâm not good with spicy food. But Iâve been able to eat and enjoy stuff that most people find unappetizing.
Plus, sushi. Pregnant people canât eat sushi, so thatâd be safe.
@@animeotaku307 ahh yee, I see your point now lol. Either way, sometimes you gotta think out of the box a little, just to shake off annoyances such as people eating your food when you don't want them to.
Honestly, Iâd be petty enough to only get food that she doesnât like or food sheâs allergic too.
Story about dead child: OP is nta. It isnt their fault that the parents of the child dont know how to keep an eye on their child
Have a good day! :D
Exactly. She should get to be happy about her wedding without getting shit cause the other parents didn't watch their kid. It sucks that it happens and no one deserves that but u don't get to impose rules on others cause u lost a child
I'm not a psychologist but it does sound like classic projection (the child's mother is blaming herself for her negligence and trying to shift the blame onto OP because it was OP's wedding). Too bad a large part of the family is siding with her insanity. IMO they are toxic and all need to be "ghosted".
YES this. It's OP's wedding, and the other parents lost track of presumably a small child. Who can't swim. Right next to a lake. I mean come on.
@@technicallydifficulties7094 and people wonder why some people want childfree weddings
I hate when people pressure the victim to be the good guy in the situation.
Have a good day! :D
It's because the antagonists are almost never reasonable, for any number of reasons, so it's easier for those around the antagonist/victim to pressure them to 'forgive and forget' and 'be the bigger person' than it would be to get it through the skull of the antagonist how and why they were wrong, and get them to feel remorse.
I like your Godzilla Avatar
âI know weâve probably traumatized you, but cmooooooooon! Be the bigger persooooooooooooon!!!!!â Haha ew. No.
Pressuring a victim to "be the bigger person" is toxic positivity in a nutshell.
I live beside a lake. A few years ago, a little girl, around two years old, snuck out of her house in her bathing suit while her mom was at work and her dad had fallen asleep on the sofa. She went down to the water and was going to go take a swim. The little girl is extremely lucky since one of the neighbors saw what was happening and intervened. The police ended up being called because the father wouldn't wake up. Apparently, he was passed out drunk. If the neighbors hadn't noticed, things could have gone very badly, and the consequences would have been entirely on the father. It's a parent's job to keep an eye on their child when around hazards, or mitigate the risks of those hazards. My own parents installed an alarm system to keep us from getting out without supervision as children, since I now live in my childhood home. My brother was saved by this when he tried to do the same thing as the little girl, but at 5 in the morning when everyone was still asleep, setting off the alarm and he was found in front of the open door on the lake side of the house crouching down with his hands tightly covering his ears.
The thing about having OP's uncle buy the house - he said he would evict the mother and the brother, but he didn't say he would evict OP. And I doubt OP wouldn't have thought through the whole living situation otherwise.
For the wedding one, they should be allowed to celebrate. I get it's tough that their guests lost a child, but isn't it their responsibility to watch their children? Everyone is calling her heartless for posting but not calling the parents irresponsible for not watching their child.
Completly agree, who even lets a toddler unsupervised during a wedding?
I get where you're coming from. They should be able to celebrate their anniversary, but it was not okay to shove it into the grieving parent's faces. Out of respect, they should have celebrated offline or only tag a few family members or friends, but to expose the parents to that was just plainly rude and disrespectful. After all, they lost their child on that day. Of course, the parents should have watched over the kid better, since that is their responsibility, but they are humans and make mistakes. This was a mistake that they will regrett for the rest of their lives. So imagine hating yourself for not watching over your child like you should have and then seeing your friends celebrating that day without even mentioning your dead child like it doesn't even matter at all. No nice words, no condolences, nothing. Imagine how much that must have hurt.
I also agree, it her wedding day, it should be the happy moment of her life and yet she can't have that. It a special day for her and he husband
@@diamondhamster9155 They didn't shove it in the parents face. They made a post celebrating their anniversary on social media. A completely optional platform, the others could have blocked/removed if it offended them. I have some friends who post crazy stuff on FB all the time and I turned off seeing their feed. But left them as friends if I want to message them over something else. It isn't their responsibility to stop posting stuff I don't want to see. I have a friend who changed their anniversary because it was on 9/11 (not the year of the attack but same day) and they would get hate and death threats for celebrating on that day. It is sad people can't let others live their life when it is none of their business. I am not taking anything away from the tragedy of losing a child. But you can't expect the world to stop on that day for you.
@@diamondhamster9155 I agree that that would have been rude IF they were friends, but by OP's own admission, they hardly know each other. I think it makes more sense to just make the post invisible to them specifically, but I can understand not wanting to intertwine your life joy with someone else's tragedy. It's akin to all the folks with birthdays on 9/11.
That story with the mom teaching her daughter by making her sleep outside. Even if it was "too much" (it wasn't) the girl had a choice. She chose that. She didn't wanna give up her phone so her choice was the tent. The mom stayed close by in the nearest room and was well and prepared to stop the lesson/punishment should things get bad or too cold ect. It was a good lesson and done so in a tough but needed way
The fact she was given a choice makes this not a asshole move, yeah for the kid it wasn't a good choice, but it was physical comfort vs entertainment, they made the choice and it's not like she was thrown on the street without any protection. (What i initially thought)
@@speedy01247 Either way it wouldnât have been an asshole move.
Have a good day! :D
@@Frostfern94 exactly. It's tough love. The reason that people get so offended these days and riot for things that aren't even happening is a direct result from a child-centric household
I'm not sure if I could have made her stay outside overnight like that. I would have let her think that she would have to spend the night outside, then came out after about an hour and said something like, "It's hard to sleep in the cold isn't it?" She probably would have said, "Yeah" Then I would probably let her in warning that if she did any like she did again, she would actually have to stay outside all night. Then again, I'm kind of soft hearted so maybe that's wrong.
That first story, in the sister's case, is something you can never come back from. That's a line you cross that can't be repaired. This falls in the ultimate betrayal category
Absolutely!
We need to show everybody involved in the wedding story this comment section.
Homeless Man: **sleeps outside almost everyday in the cold**
Jessica: **tries it for one night and cries**
Homeless Man: _"Pathetic."_
The crying may be empathetic, like how she realized what he had to deal with every day (though obviously he may have it worse then a tent full of warm blankets)
@@speedy01247 Yeah, let's give her the benefit of the doubt and assume she had a change of heart. It does show that the punishment was beneficial to her moral development and not excessive by any means.
@@TruthNerds I think it's more than the benefit of the doubt. From the way OP described the kid that told her, she actually seemed thankful and excited to help with the homeless, otherwise she probably wouldn't have explained what exactly happened.
@@EnbyAxolotlOfficial Good point. Itâs the family thatâs at fault not anyone else. đ
Pls don't gatekeep being homeless i know it was a joke but its hard
People who make false CPS reports should be treated like those who call the cops for no reason...arrested
When has THAT ever happened ?? Women's prisons would be overcrowded with false police report offenders.
They would have to make a special Karen prison
@@RandysRides yes dipstick, it's a crime to waste police time, that's time they could've spent preventing murder or theft
Nah forgot about the arrested.
Send them right to Satan. He love companion.
@@RandysRides um people who are arrest dont automatically go to prison, theyd go to jail, and would only be incarcerated for a short time, but thats long enough to never make a false report again...which clearly does happen as its in this video, I also know of a family that posts videos about their journey with having a non-verbal autistic daughter whos had false reports on them from internet trolls and they should be in jail for a short time...also if everyone arrested for petty drug charges on a now legal drug should be released and then you free up the place...
Also it is illegal to call the cops on a false report and people have been arrested... its now illegal in some places to call just cuz you see a black guy in the neighborhood, the Karen law is real in some states...and now they need something for this...no one should be allowed to make a false CPS report, waste resources and time while a real emergancy needs their attention
The story about the mother letting your brother move in to YOUR home then laughing at you, screams "Evict them" in my mind. You cannot be forced by anyone, regardless of relation to them, to have anyone move in without permission.
That Wedding Story really had me feeling some kinda way. I'm of the opinion that the only a-holes here are the in-laws.
1. OP/SO-
They somehow managed to survive both the horrible tragedy of their wedding, and the hell scape that 2020 has been. There are a ton of people saying they could never get any sort of happiness out of the event after such a tragedy. But these two have to try. It's a credit to the both of them and their relationship that they've managed to come out of this and are still able to draw some happiness from being together. They're allowed to post about their anniversary, and I genuinely believe it may not have occured to OP that the post could have caused an issue. It's not likely that the child dying is going to be on their mind every single day, for one because such things would drive anyone crazy, but also because it seems like they aren't close to the parents so they wouldn't have the constant reminders, other than the occasional nightmare. Besides though, it isn't the responsibility of OP/SO to filter out their lives to protect anyone. Yes, they probably should have deleted the post faster after realizing the damage it caused, but censorship isn't the answer. How long before they're allowed to be happy? It isn't the responsibility or duty of OP/SO to be miserable or grieve forever. It is also not the responsibility of OP/SO to change their lives for the benefit of anyone but themselves.
2. The Parents-
Somehow, this couple has also seemingly survived everything that's happened to them. Unfortunately, they do have to think about their loss every single day. When they got home to empty rooms, toys that would never be played with again, it was another reminder. Every milestone that passed unchecked, a birthday, school starting, anything, would have been another reminder. I understand them reacting negatively to the post, it's still a fresh wound for them. But I think inciting an angry mob was going too far. It is the responsibility of the parents to censor what they see. It would have been super easy to unfollow OP/SO
3. The In-Laws-
For one thing, they seem absolutely crazy. From becoming an angry mob to attack OP/SO to the list of demands laid out in their email, they seem to have been just waiting for the time to attack OP/SO
Personally, my heart goes out for both of these couples. OP/SO should be allowed to be happy and to celebrate their marriage, both in private and in the public. They're celebrating their union, not necessarily the day of the tragedy. It's a shame so many people are so ready to demonize a couple for wanting to be happy. The Parents are also going through a tremendously horrifying time, and I hope they're able to get/continue to get the support that they need.
You phrased exactly what I was thinking!
Let me rephrase the title of that second story
AITA for disciplining my daughter after she acted like a douche towards a homeless person?
Have a good day! :D
@@Hamster-qm6py u 2
AITA for disciplining my daughter in a tough but controlled and safe way after she acted like a douche towards a homeless person?
obviously not, especially since she took precautions.
@@durps8815 that's the kicker tbh. She didn't just turn the daughter out and tell her to figure out out. She set things up safely, made sure to be able to intervene if anything went wrong, and did the absolute minimum to properly communicate an incredibly important lesson
exactly. She even gave her plenty of blankets and a thermal sleeping bag meant for the cold and slept in a room close to the outside in case anything happened.
One night of sleep in a safe tent in ur own garden wont kill anyone and im willing to bet that the sister who said she was too harsh doesn't discipline their own child much
I feel bad for the wedding one. She should be mad at those parents because their lack of control ruined her big day.
THIS
this
Her day? Itâs THEIR day not her day
@@something1530 no, idiot, he is talking about the wife and the groom day. Itâs not juste the womanâs day, there a two people in a relationship -_-â
Rip that kid
For the last story, Op should have got a new door with a lot of locks to keep the female dog out, also Op should have retaliated against them on social media
I can absolutely feel for the parents having to see a reminder of the event where they lost their child. But, what, OP isnât supposed to celebrate their marriage ever?
Lol "tolerate" "living in sin"....."screw you" is my first thought to those in-laws.
Have a good day!
@@Hamster-qm6py who me? or is that what you'd say to the in-laws? :'D
@@darko-man8549 yea you! have a great day! :D
@@Hamster-qm6py n'awwww thanks
You too :)
@@darko-man8549 thanks ;D
That girl being a jerk to the homeless story hit me in the face. I was on the streets last year... damn shame the kid acted like that beforehand, but it was a well earned lesson.
I hope you will have a great live from now on
Have a good day!
@@Hamster-qm6py you are wishing everyone here a Good day..
You too have a nice one ! And a good start into 2021 :3
im happy you got a house i hope you get everything u want in life!
Wow, I didn't expect anyone to respond ^^; thank you guys so much! I'm very lucky to be in a better place now. I hope none of you come to know that struggle. Have a good one! â€ïž
I absolutely adore this mother who made her daughter face reality! I know it was a hard thing to do. I'm proud of you, Mama! â„ïžâ„ïžâ„ïž
For the story about the homeless man and the daughter, the mom was fully prepared. The fact that the sleeping bag was one used in Norway for the winter (depending on where you go it could be as cold as -50, not usually but it can happen), the mom knew she would be safe. She knew her kid would be warm. The mom didnât put the kid in danger, and gave her a lesson she wouldnât forget. She also gave her daughter a choice of choosing between her phone or sleeping outside for one night, and the daughter was old enough to understand that choice.
Of course the parents of the dead child hate OP. Imagine constantly reminded as parents they are the reason their child is dead. If they were better parents the child would be alive and well. OP should be with in her right to celebrate her anniversary. If the parents are hurt so be it. They need to be better people.
It is bizarre to me it could even happen at all. There would have been so many people there. It must have been such a tragedy. I can only imagine the devastation everyone must have felt after they realized what happened.
Finally someone who can think like itâs not her fault the kid died itâs the parents her anniversary which she can celebrate like this is harambe 2.0
The only part I thought was maybe insensitive was posting the photos- because you are literally posting images of where the kid died
But also like they probably paid a lot of money for those photos and they should be allowed to use them
Also I love how people were like âwell you could have blocked the family from seeing the postâ
WELL THE FAMILY OF THE DEAD CHILD COULD HAVE ALSO BLOCKED THE POST
Honestly any wedding that takes place beside a body of water like that should require at least one watchful eye at all time when children are around. Drowning is a silent death in the event of dozens of adults laughing and talking and not paying attention to the bored kids at all. It was 100% the parentâs responsibility to acknowledge that their kid could take interest in the water and be prepared to watch them constantly.
@@thetableoflegend9814 I think itâs fair to do that because they paid to go there as long as itâs the only photos they took on their wedding day thatâs ok
Story about the anniversary: I might be cruel, but maybe that child would still be alive IF the parents were watching them, instead of whetever they were doing? I mean the kid probably didn't charge at the lake and jumped instantly, and even if so, when your very much little kid runs off somewere you go after them?
I agree.
It's like being mad that someone's celebrating their birthday on 9/11 like its not the persons fault it fell on the same day
Totally agree!!!! It's not like she drowned him, it is unfair because she was not planning on that
@@vilotdarkmanner6801 hey, my birthday is 9/11!
Exactly watch your freaking kid's especially at a outdoor events
How can that first family expect OP to be the good guy? He has a rapsheet with CPS
The wedding / child death story illustrates perfectly how toxic social media actually is. No one is in the wrong but everyone thinks they have a right to give their opinions online while never daring to deliver their message face to face. SM should be avoided like the plague it is
Dude in the wedding anniversary one, why is OP being blamed for the parents inability to keep track of their child?
I've been to weddings as a child and a caretaker. Is the parents fault because ultimately the child was their responsibility. Yes they have to work through grief and guilt but that's the truth.
Also why is no one talking about how the parents could have ignored the post, snooze or unfriended OP insteadof starting a whole drama on FB in the comments? OP is not responsible for other people's feelings or actions.
These people are so entitled and OP is the only sane one. This family is controlling and using religion to mask their malicious intent.
Absolutely.
Imagine if the death of the child in the wedding story happened on a birthday instead, something big like your 20th or 30th birthday, would they request the guy to move into the mother's womb again JUST to move HIS birthday? Shit happens and sometimes during special occasions.
My birthday is on december 25th (Christmas day) and if I should be killed by a car tomorrow I definitely wouldn't want my family to be miserable at Christmas every year just because it used to be my birthday as well. Like you said. Shit happens.
My brother died on Christmas Eve (the main day of Christmas celebrations here in Germany ) 8 years ago and since then I haven't celebrated Christmas, because it still hurts. BUT I let others have their holiday. Even on the Christmas it happened I waited until it was over to tell friends about it. I didn't want to ruin their moods.
What happened at the OPs wedding was tragic and I feel for the parents (I also believe that they were negligent, but losing a child is still tough). But it's not OPs fault and they should have their anniversary and be able to celebrate it however they want. If the parents can't handle it THEY should be the ones removing themselves from the situation.
It's what I've been doing. It can be nice to pull back from the world for that day, remember the deceased person and do a little self-care while you are at it. Things will get better as the years pass and I'm sure I'll also be able to enjoy Christmas some day.
My son committed suicide while at his other parents home on December 10th but I still had to celebrate Christmas for the sake of my other children and trying to keep everything as normal as possible... Aside from the viewing we had just days prior it was the hardest thing I've ever done... I understand that families pain and I understand OPs need to keep things going... Maybe she should have just blocked the parents from seeing the post because she should have known it would cause them pain and it's pretty simple to do
That last story, it's not like the sister in law is a dog that you have to "not keep food around" because she "can't help it". Buy your own damn food lol.
My mom always told me that when you are disciplining a child, the punishment needs to be reasonable and fit the crime. The kid won't truly learn a lesson otherwise.
When I started preschool, I refused to get dressed, so my mom sent me to school in my pajamas, and had me get dressed and undressed over and over. After an annoying fifteen minutes of taking clothes on and off, I never complained again.
What OP did to discipline her daughter clearly worked, and it most definitely fit the crime. Thank you for being a considerate person and molding a decent human being out of your daughter.
I disagree with the verdict on the wedding story; I'd say OP has every right to be happy about their anniversary AND to share said happiness with whoever they want. Yes, the parents endured a massive tragedy that I, as someone with no kids, can hardly understand, but they're also adults; as adults, they're nuanced enough beings to understand that their pain on that date is not universal, and they can't expect the same solemnity from people they HARDLY know.
I try my hardest to be an empathetic and sympathetic person in all things, and I wholly agree that the most tactful thing to do woulda been to make the post visible to everyone but the parents, but it's hardly the sin the reddit comment makes it out to be.
Edit: just wanted to say I love these videos and love having civil, morally beneficial, healthy discussions with people ^_^ hope everyone is doing well!
Have a good day! :D
My thought is if someone had their kid die on Christmas Day, or some other recognized holiday. Yes, it sucks that your kid died on that day, but they have no right to tell others that they can't celebrate that day because it also happened to be their kid's death day.
I mean op didn't ask for the parents of the deceased child to celebrate their anniversary. It's just a post on social media, a free platform. Besides, imagine if it's the opposite, if op was the one commenting on a post about the deceased child, op would be the ultimate asshol3 and an entitled person.
@@AmEv7fam not the same at all. A wedding is not a universal holiday. This was a specific event. Imagine your kid dying at a party, and a year later you see a post going 'hey, remember that awesome party?!' and everybody else agreeing and talking about how awesome the party was, not even mentioning how your child died during the event? Or recognizing how your year has probably been agony ever since?
@@Kanekonagase whats your point? Your child dying is your tragedy, not anyone elses. Why should they say anything about your child? It's tragic, but it's your tragedy.
The parents whose child died at the wedding are completely responsible for that. It explains a lot when they pass the blame to OP. They didn't accept responsibility to keep an eye on their child so it would naturally follow that they wouldn't accept responsibility for the kid's death. They should not be allowed to have any children if they are so irresponsible and blame everyone else for THEIR failures. Shaking my head at your response r/Slash.
I was wondering when I was going to find this comment.
They ruined the wedding and lost their child because they weren't watching him well enough.
@@wellhi2430 Yup, why even bring your little kid to an event if you can't be bothered to look after them? If you just want to enjoy the event, get a nanny or just ask for the grandparents to look after for a day. Go enjoy the event, you don't need your 3yo there...
Well said. I disagree with him, I think the parents are the ONLY AH in this story. They neglected their kid, now their kid is gone and now theyâre trying to take away someone elseâs happiness.
Only the parents are the AH. Brides and grooms are too busy at weddings to watch children.
I wouldn't put up an anniversary post on a child's death, either. But I don't use Facebook.
I got married far inland but if it was by a lake I think I'd have had a child free wedding. I don't like cold free weddings, so I guess I'm just likely to never have a party with kids near a body of water or swimming pool.
I agree that they are the AH in the situation, but it wasn't their fault that their kid died. You can look it up if you want, a child can drown soo quickly and there is no one to blame in those kind if situations
My wedding venue also had a body of water next to it, and although I didnât have children at my wedding (because I personally hated having to go to weddings as a kid myself), I would have FULLY expected that parents would have watched their children had I allowed kids to the wedding. Itâs absolutely awful that such a young life was snuffed out, but parents should be held solely responsible for the well-being of their kids; it basically comes with the territory when you become a parent to keep your kids alive.
0.5-1/5 buttholes to OP for not blocking the grieving family from seeing the post, but I wonât give them any more than that because they just made a dumb social-media move. Plus their seemingly desperate need for likes kind of grossed me out.
3/5 buttholes to the negligent parents for not only not keeping better watch of their child and possibly preventing the tragedy in the first place, but for dragging OP so publicly and assuming that other people are in charge of managing their grief.
5/5 buttholes to the in-laws for ânot recognizingâ OPâs marriage because of the tragedy that took place, demanding they have a second wedding (albeit that theyâre paying for it) and throwing a fit for something that wasnât even OPâs fault in the first place.
Everyone sucks here, but those in-laws are awful.
I've been pregnant 4 times, and never once stole someone else's food, even when we were poor enough that I had to scavenge in trashcans and forests for food. I hate when people use pregnancy as an excuse for bad behavior. Yes I was hungry, tired, and my feet and back never stopped hurting, and cravings can be very strong, but that doesn't make theft okay.
And for all I know the SIL was dieting before the pregnancy (for whatever reason, I suspect the brother) and when she got pregnant she saw it as an excuse to pig out.
The wedding story: If the parents had watched their young child like it is still their responsibility to do even at a wedding the child would still be alive and OP wouldn't have had her wedding cut short/marred by the death of a child. She should be allowed to celebrate her anniversary any way she wants - she isn't responsible for the child's death so why should she be punished for it.
exactly
I hate how nobody is talking about the Drawing tablet story. As an artist, I felt so bad that they weren't able to afford a drawing tablet after the black friday deal disappeared due to her mom's selfish actions.
Same! My mom still oversees all of my transactions when I use my card, but she still let's me choose to make large purchases for myself.
If there's a suspected fraud on my card the bank calls me, but if something goes wrong she steps in and helps me get everything settled. That's how parents are supposed to be when it comes to their kids/students who are just starting out with handling money
Honestly, I don't know how the daughter didn't see the example she gave as a red flag before this event occurred.
@@Bremend It isn't always easy to see things like this when you live them.
itâs horrible, and the mother is a scumbag for screwing her over just to get something herself
that story still makes me mad
"THEMS FIGHTING WORDS" I love that and appreciate you lol
So many rslash stories can be summed up by people doing stupid things, then being shocked that things have consequences.
taught that daughter to show empathy to the homeless? hit that out of the goddamn park, well done.
Agreed
Even the parents on the dead kid suck. They started a freaking war over a post that they themselves could have blocked.
This mess goes both ways but #1 is that it's her wedding anniversary. Be happy. People die on birthdays, holidays, and wedding days all the time. It shouldn't be her job to sugar coat her happiness to make someone else happy. If the mother was so upset about her kids death, why is she on facebook looking to pick a fight? The mom needs therapy. BAD
Honestly. Good and bad things happen at the same time. One of my favorite of my parents friends died on my sister's birthday. This would be like his wife starting a war over my sister posting happy things on her birthday. "How dare you celebrate on the day I grieve" should never be a thing.
When I'm depressed and people are laughing and smiling, do I tell them to shut up and realize my pain? No. I remove myself from the situation because not everyone needs to be miserable because I am. Those parents need to grow up. They want empathy but they refuse to give it.
Exactly!
Yes finally agreed your point makes more sense than Rslash's in this point here!
ESH literarily everyone (in this story)
who in their right mind leaves a fucking child near a big body of water
"Be the bigger person" SCREW BEING THE BIGGER PERSON.
I just realized that RSlash and Redditor read the same content. Sometimes, one of them reads the story before the other does! It's so interesting to see both comments and listening to them!!!
Dude, the anniversary post is insane... OP is DEFINITELY not the asshole. That family needs to grow the hell up...
Tbh the single mom was pretty okay. She learned her lesson and actually gained empathy for marginalized people. She comforted her and made sure she was safe during her punishment. She didnât force her to sleep outside again when it was clear she learned her lesson. Tbh the mom did everything right, some people really need to be in otherâs shoes to have empathy.
Exactly. To the person who said, "Paying for the room and apologizing was sufficient to teach her a lesson," I say, "If she learned her lesson just from that, why was she rolling her eyes? Why didn't she show ACTUAL empathy for the homeless until she experienced a cold night for herself? Answer? Because it was NOT sufficient to teach her a lesson, and she NEEDED to walk a mile in the other person's shoes."
So there.
Honestly that whole situation sounded like a dhar Mann video. If you do t know who that is look him up here on CZcams.
@@grizzly_manbanimation8436 "Girl Mocks Homeless Man and Instantly Regrets It"
@@RespectableRick good one, but itâs more like âgirl mocks homeless man, learns an important lesson.â
Also her punishment was basically camping for a night.. Like thats not exactly chucking her out onto the street, people choose to go camping all the time
To the wedding story, I do understand the pain the parents are going through, but to me, I feel like if they were to worry about the accident, and push aside their own happiness of their wedding for the rest of their lives, it would be equal to everyone ignoring their birthdays and all holidays because people have most definitely died during them. I agree that OP shouldâve blocked the parents from the post, and tried being more sensitive, but I feel like if we went based upon tragedies that happen on certain dates, it would ruin everything. For me, my great grandma died on my fifth birthday, when I was there with her, watching her die, so I would just ignore my birthday and not celebrate it, or so so on a different day for my family.
I definitely feel that. I was literally born the same year 9/11 happened, and the infamous Slenderman Stabbing happened in the same month as my birthday. Of course I feel DEEPLY for the people involved in both events, but I'm still gonna celebrate my birthday.
I love when rSlash says âthemâs fightinâ wordsâ đđ
I do have sympathy for the parents of the drowned child as they're paying a terrible price for such a relatively minor mistake as losing track of a child during a wedding. But it's their mistake, not OP's. Bad enough that the married couple will forever have their special day marred by tragedy but now they're supposed to give up their special day entirely over a facebook post? It's not like OP went to the parents' house to gloat or anything; it was simply a public post celebrating a public event that is completely normal to celebrate in public.
Frankly, as bad as I feel for the parents, if they can't see past their own feelings long enough to understand why OP would have a different perspective on their own wedding anniversary then they're not friends and their Facebook status should be changed to reflect that. Problem solved.
I agree. I could be wrong but im pretty sure that at least 1 person has died every day of the year at some point in history. So does that mean that little kimmy cant celebrate her 7th birthday because 20 years ago someone grandpa died?
I feel worse for the poor child, drowning is a horrible way to go.
@@Wellnseddich Oh yeah, the child is definitely innocent and undeserving of that fate. But that's an awful situation for everyone else too: the parents, the newlyweds, the guests, the emergency personnel who attended the scene, etc. Nobody should have to see a life end so early.
@@Wellnseddich I heard that when you drowned there is still a small amount of life left and you are forced to live through that for several minutes.
@@thrdeye7304 Oh, yes, I just feel for the child the most. When I was a little girl, my parents heard of a little boy also wondering off and drowning in a pond, so they made sure I (and my brother) stayed in eyesight. Had us take swimming lessons early on as well.
bruh U knew there was a lake U knew u had a kid U knew he could swim yet you let him wonder around bruh that ur fault watch over ur kids next time and dont blame the people that didnt do anything wrong....
Have a good day! :D
My thoughts exactly! You walk into that wedding and see there is a lake. You know your kid can't swim. You keep an extra eye on your kid. That is called parenting.
Yes, but how does that change anything?
@@ronrolfsen3977 what are you trying to say?
@@ronrolfsen3977 yeah, the parents neglected *THEIR* kid who they *KNEW* couldnt swim and let him run around by a *LAKE*
I don't get why the parents weren't watching the child if I was that bride I would honestly say
"look it's not my fault you weren't looking after your child that you brought to my wedding and it's not my fault that your child died because you weren't watching them"
Reading title: WHAT THAT PERSON IS A PHSYCO!
Reading story: That makes so much sense, NTA.
I think you got click-baited.
Those so called "parents" attacking Op for celebrating her wedding need to get told by op "While I sympathize with the pain of your lost I wasn't the one responsible for *your* child. Its painful in unimaginable ways but have some accountability for your actions or lack there of as parents." How come the people that needed to be responsible for their child can't take the accountability of that child? Don't want to take care of, provide for, can't support or love kids don't have kids end of discussion.
Those are the exact words (not really, I phrased it differently) that came into my mind when I head that story. OP is NTA there.
In the last story, OP added that the house was worth 2.5 million due to its location in the heart of London (which is 3.4 million USD). So, I think OP will be fine if she decides to sell to her uncle. It would stay in her father's side of the family. The taxes on the property are also very high, so buying a one/two-bedroom apartment in a slightly different location might be the better financial move (and one that would keep her mother, brother, and SIL from hounding her).
Based on the actions of the mother and brother, I'm starting to think that the father had a good reason for leaving the majority of the inheritance to the daughter.
Honestly the part about that story that confused me is why the legal home owner, aka OP, couldnt evict those 3 herself? I mean, I understand she has to deal with the reprocutions then, but she will get them either way regardless... Beyond that, after they are told they are no longer wanted, OP could call the police to remove them if they decided to not leave since they clearly were a danger to OP's safety and security. Honestly the lot of them were squatting on her property and doing everything to make HER leave so they could get the house, so they get what is coming to them.
@@trinalgalaxy5943 she can, but I donât think she has the backbone to do it
Proposing at someone elseâs wedding is like announcing pregnancy at someone elseâs funeral
Youâd think by the fact itâs just a listening video for the most part I could do something else but no you pull me in and I forget about everything else lol
So where were the parents of that child when he took a dip in the lake? I'm guessing they were drinking and having so much fun that they failed to keep an eye on their own child! It seems like that they're lashing out at the couple because they need someone else to blame instead of acting like adults and coming to terms that it was an accident in the past that no amount of guilting others will fix. It would've been just as easy for the OP to set their post to private as it would've been for the child's mother to ignore said post. So yeah if everyone is the asshole then so are the kid's parents.
the parents werent watching the kid. its terrible he died, but they are responsible
Wedding anniversary: Op is Not the butthole. She was posting about her wedding, not the family's loss. By your logic, they should just do the 2nd wedding if they aren't allowed to be happy for themselves on that day. It's not their fault such a tragic event occurred, it sounds to me like the in laws are lashing out.
But didn't the inlaws offer to pay for the second wedding? Or am i miss remembering something
@Parker Bryant not saying they NEED to, just I personally wouldn't want my wedding connected to such an event
@@aboi6638 you're not misremembering anything. But the money isn't the point. I'm not fully sure what the point is but I know it's not the money.
The parents killed their child by letting them run off. The parents killed their own child because of their negligence
@HBegaming YT they also let their child die. They didnât keep them near them the one thing a couple with kids should do at a wedding. So everything is on the parents not op
The fact that the sister called CPS in revenge and told horrid lies for not being allowed to redecorate a home that wasnât hers without permission, and because she wasnât allowed to *re-name a child that wasnât hers,* makes it even more logical to cut contact. It sounds like she was trying to steal his daughter.
What pregnant woman runs around like that? 'FOOD...MUST...EAT' wtf...is she even alright?
For the last story: let the uncle buy the house, let him evict them, and then sell the house back to OP for the same price in secret
Have a good day! :D
Technically that girl can evict them herself.
Sell the house it is still in the family with the uncle. Take the money buy a nice little house for herself.
@@Hamster-qm6py N O
The house is in the middle of London and worth 2.5 million. According to the OP in an edit.
Im literally 40 weeks pregnant today and my eyes about rolled out of my head listening to that story about the pregnant girl eating everything in the house. I know every pregnancy is different for everyone, but theres a thing called "Self Control". Also even tho theres a big myth about "eating for two", it doesnt actually mean "Eat double." The recommended intake of extra calories is something like 450 extra calories on top of your daily intake. Thats the equivalent of an extra greek salad a day. No i didnt follow this plan exactly either, yeah somedays im stressing and just need to sit and eat a pint of icecream. But I would never eat my husbands lunch for work tomorrow, or all of his birthday cake! Thats just rude, and i feel like the sister would have done that whether she was pregnant or not, but now she just thinks she has a good excuse! Here's to hoping she's got a nice, plump, 10lbs (healthy) baby to deliver haha
They were just gaslighting her, I mean was she supposed to take her diner with her to the toilet?
Congrats!
@@hiimryan2388 thank you!! â€
Yes, exactly what i was thinking! It even made me upset because she could even have complications if she really eats this bad. Through out my pregnancy my mom always told me " 'eating for two' means you have to think about yours and your baby's health, you're not taking care of just one body anymore" so yeah eating your own meals, plus someone else's food constantly, sounds really bad for her
I hope you have a healthy baby! I'm sure you'll be a great mother!
I disagree with the wedding thing. It's like that Twitter post of a woman saying people shouldn't publicly celebrate fathers day because "some people don't have fathers anymore" đ
Days can have multiple things associated with them. Are they going to google every birthday, event, important occasion, etc to happen on that day and start a campaign to have them shut down so they can have the day all to themselves??
And if anything, a dead child is something that's usually mourned wayyyy more privately than a WEDDING đđ
Why didn't the wedding parents think to keep track of their own kids when they had the chance? The family members wanting a "new" wedding should be informed that they don't get a "do-over" to an existing marriage. If these people think the parents of the deceased child aren't going to remember that day, they're absolutely crazy.
I feel awful for the parents to lost a kid, but I donât agree with them having a second wedding, picking a different day, or even removing their post. I would suggest they make a post acknowledging the loss, and then a separate post later that day stating their love for each other on their wedding day. I never let my 4 y/o out of my sight. Iâm guessing his mom (and dad) are misplacing the anger they feel for themselves and each other for not watching their child. Itâs tragic but these things happen all the time... which is why I NEVER let my son out of my sight, no matter where we are.
My question was "where were the parents when the kids went missing? The bar?"
It sounds like they're trying to pin it on OP.
Or why even take a young kid to a wedding by a lake in the first place? I would've hired a babysitter at any cost just because it would have been my luck that very incident would've happened.
Or another option would've been a freaking child leash... they make them for a reason.
No, completely inappropriate. I dont think you understand what loosing a child does to a family. And parents. Grow up and choose a different day.
I personally would want a different wedding. I would be too distraught! I mean, rain is one thing, drunk uncle fight is another; but a nephew...? (maybe not direct for groom, but obvs family) no way!
The child wasn't from her family; bride seems high on the narcciss scale.
I agree they dont have the right and sounds like its misplaced anger. Why wasnt the child being watched that he was left alone enough to wonder off and actually drown?
1st story,
OMG, that sister is nuts. OPâs extended family said heâs not being a âcivil adultâ, like what? Was the sister a âcivil adultâ when she filed a false report to cps.
OPâs family need to understand how terrible a false report to cps and OP is a single dad and Iâm not one but still it would be damn hard for anyone in OPâs position. A false report to cps can result in all kinds of horrible things for OP. Just OP, stay away from your sister for you daughterâs and your sake.
True story, My aunt called CPS on my mom over me. It ended with them taking me away from her and being put up for adoption. It was justifiable, but even my grandma, who is the biggest EP when it comes to my aunt and absolutely hates my mother, sided with my mom in this case. Today, I have nothing to do with that woman, but I still talk to my birth mom and Grandma. (Long story short she was 17 when she had me, and had no husband to help raise me)
I was taken care of by my dad for half a year when I was 7, as my mom was in another country since she was pregnant and had to be in the care of her doctor sister. But tbh, he took care of me most of my childhood while mom helped me with academic stuff. During those 6 months, he helped me with homework, bathed me and basically had to do twice the work and be a single father for that time. He was the one who taught me to be independent and help me learn things. That aunt is crazy. If anybody did that to my dad, I'm taking that hatred and resentment towards them to my grave.
He totally made his daughter start learning how to do things for herself that she can handle at her age. What a .... Freaking good parent. It would be one thing if the sister had a valid concern. But she was clearly being pretty. Op has no obligation to talk to this trash again
OP should consider cutting contact with the rest of the family if they keep trying to blame him. The sister is clearly at fault and the family needs to know how severely sheâs fucked up with the false report. Also wtf is call OPâs daughter by a different name? Did the sister think now that the wife was gone she could have the daughter she always wanted?
Have a good day!
The kid and the computer he didn't get had an update. He took his mom off his card, and someone on Reddit found him an even cheaper deal for the same computer. He got it. Happy ending!
Yay! Thanks for the update!
Thank you! I was hurting for that poor kid.
With the pregnant eater-Simple counter attack-get Quaker Steak hot sauce (common were i live) smother the bread of a sandwich with said hot sauce.
step 2 hide the milk.
step 3 - wait for screaming.
step 4- feel good about your self.
I'd celebrate my wedding no matter what tragedy happened on it. Those parents can stop being my friends if their irresponsibility is going to make them hate me.
Me: causally listening while working.
Rslash: thems fighting words
Me: *stops*
yo i thought i was the only one doing that i listen to him when i draw
Have a good day!
I dont get it?
what
@@nakkertton Iâm pretty sure bugs bunny is the one I heard it from first
Iâm sorry but the âclosed for the holidaysâ sign is too funny
i lost it at âthemâs fightin wordsâ