r/Trueoffmychest "I Cheated on My Pregnant Wife"
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- čas přidán 9. 07. 2024
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0:00 Intro
0:09 Humiliating a cheater
6:03 Fake proposal
8:40 Break up
10:41 Found his reddit account
"Sneaky Snitch" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) License: CC By Attribution 3.0 - Komedie
Did everyone else notice how OP in the first story seems to be loaded? Buying a new car, and going on multiple expensive outings all to try and please his wife and keep her from leaving. That's why she stayed. She wanted OP's money, but someone more exciting for romance.
Yeah.... yeah.
Of course. It was either that or as a mask for her friends and family, because she knows they wouldn't approve her dumping the "Good guy" and hooking up with the random (kinda) handsome douche from the office.
Oh yeah! BIG TIME! She probably wanted to leave him after the first phone conversation for her subordinate but realized the new guy, being below her, wasn't going to be able to match OP in stability so decided to string OP along for her financial needs even when she emotionally/physically moved on with the AP. Hope the hit to her own professional career was worth it!
Yeah, as soon as he mentioned the "high cost living area" I was like "a-ha!" lol. Even when both have paid equally for the stuff, she probably couldn't afford to keep living by the same standards.
but if women said men deserve to be cheated on you’d call us freaks
Story 1: The counseling is so she can build a case against him in the divorce. Notice she told rhe counselor that she was afraid he was violent. She’s just trying to take as much from him as possible by labeling hom an abuser
Honestly that makes the most amount of sense
They had been together for 6 years, then married for only 6 months and she is already considering cheating?
It makes perfect sense - she was after his money, but had to wait until they get married to get half.
Organisms like her are the reason why I don't want to get married.
And so that she can avoid paying alimony. She was in a fellowship. That means healthcare. She didn't want to have to pay for him.
He shouldn't be targeting the other guy. He needs to talk to the wife. Why blame the other guy lol
@@Diamondr11Blue That would be true if the guy didn't know she was married, but everyone in her office knew.
Man that proposal story has me SOBBING! That is one of the most cruel pranks I've ever had the displeasure of hearing.......
This is exactly why i don't do pranks and i can't stand pranksters. Someone will always take them too far.
@@curtisalex456I'm fine with pranks that are the complete opposite. Like getting all the husbands/partners to wear the same shirt/outfit for a group date. Or putting a gift in someones car/home or surprising someone when you both live very far.
@audreym3908 these are pretty wholesome pranks. I can only imagine the husband's surprised faces until they realised what happened
@@aschmidtbrille they were all laughing and had a great time once they came in one by one from what I've seen lol
I know right! I was "What the..."
The guy is clearly not only an idiot but a nasty idiot. She needs to get far away and never look back.
I’m with you there, dragging the 4 year old girl into it and bad mouthing her as part of his internet points kink is worse than swapping nudes with internet strangers
My guess is that he attempts to futher his "victim" state of "good man" with a horrible psycho wife and daughter who disrespects him.
Aka "Im basicly Single. I just need to meet the right woman.
Essencially as a fishing tactic to attract desperate single women. Of course it depends how old ops ex is but thats what it looks like to me.
I agree and I personally think it is 100% worse to lie about your family for "fake internet points" than sending explicit photos. It is like he is letting strangers into your lives but telling everyone a twisted version of the reality you live in... We see it all the time when someone from their real lives connects the posts to the people so what happens if that happens here and that person believes the posts painting her in this awful light? (Hopefully, it is so out there it can't be connected to them and their lives...) Would he have come clean then if his wife didn't find out now? He liked the "high" he got when people "sympathized" with him so he kept making bigger accusations to keep riding that high...
This guy did BOTH. Run lady Run!
It boggles the mind that he ever thought it was a good idea to rag on a four yr old! FOUR!!! Like sir, any behavioral problems she has is literally a direct result of your parenting. Maybe he lied about her age? But if he didn’t it just further shows how fundamentally broken he is.
I got to be honest, I don’t think it’s that big of a deal. It’s much worse with the Sexting. Would you be mad at your partner for writing a short story?
First Story: I can’t stand cheaters, especially the ones that one to refuse acountablility and play victim when the consequences of their actions hit them. OP's wife cheats on OP, manipulates OP into thinking he was the issue, wants to play victim in the counseling session, and claim to he distraught over the humilation she is (rightfully) suffering because of HER actions. OP deserves better than this woman
Second Story: Yeah, I don’t blame OP's reaction to that "prank". He did everything that is typical to a lead up to a marriage proposal only for him to reveal it was a messed up prank and outright told OP he isn’t ready to marry her yet. Andrew should’ve known better to not do something like this
Third Story: OP's (now ex) boyfriend is a scumbag. He invited OP to dinner at her favorite restaurant under the impression he was going to propose, instead he admits to having an affair with his coworker and expected OP to forgive him? This man is a scumbag
Fourth Story: Cheating isn’t only physical. What OP's husband is doing on Reddit (of call places Reddit) he IS cheating. He is talking to other women intimately and is basically getting nudes from these women. His excuse has to be the dumbest excuse I’ve ever heard. Lmao, he likes the attention he gets for lying about his family? That makes it a lot worse for him because he is basically cheating on his wife for attention
Yeah the first story hit a bit too close to home for me. I'm currently going through a divorce and my soon to be ex wife is convinced that our divorce has NOTHING to do with her affair. It has not been a good six months as she has continued her affair while we are separated and forced to live in the same house because she also refuses to either buy me out of our home or sell it. It really sucks to go through hell when you know in your heart that you didn't do anything wrong.
wow... you are so insecure🤣 all women deserves to have at least 2 partners:
first (obligatory) for financial stability, caring to all her needs, listening to her rants, taking all her BS, to be her emotional rock, a good weak easily dominated guy
second (or even more of them) for fun and taking needs of all her S. desires and to give her excitement, relieve boredom, to have someone they actually respect, a bad guy
this is how human nature works, stop watching disney fairy tales😆
@@ricku9487 I’m so sorry that sucks so much. Out of curiosity, what does she think the divorce is about, if not her affair? I hope a judge smacks her back to reality and sticks it to her like she deserves.
Completely agree on all but number 3, I feel like maybe we're missing a bit of context. Did the cheating douchebag actually set it up for her to think he would propose? To me it just sounded like he wanted a place to talk with OP calmly and privately and OP and the MIL just jumped the shark and started their own fantasy. It doesn't change the cheating, but it's different, from a cheater that tries to trap the GF into forgiving him with a fake proposal setup to a cheater trying to make things right by confessing his fault, accepting the blame, and giving the first step to make things right
Cheaters shouldnt make the 'first step' in public. That is manipulative, and pressures the other person not to make a 'scene' aka having an emotional reaction in public. You sound like a cheater sympathizer dude, ick
I'm still trying to figure out what the hell the boyfriend in story 2 was even thinking. Like faking a proposal for a prank? How the fuck did he even think that was going to go???
Especially in public!
At first I thought he was pranking her because he wanted to propose, but was afraid she'd say no, so this was a way to gauge her response. But him laughing so hard, shaming her, and then rejecting her is mind-boggling behavior.
Furthermore, I can't even begin to imagine the reaction from the other patrons at that place. I get the feeling most people would be way more embarrassed of the random guy they just watched fake propose to his girlfriend and laugh at her like a sociopath in the middle of a nice restaurant.
That reminds me of an older story where op proposed to his fiance who was prone to jokongly say no at first to stuff only to say yes afterwards.
But instead of understqnding that this in a public restaurant wasnt the right time while being proposed to didnt cross her mind.
Its like some people just dont register how they effect others.
@@TwighlightLugia yeah I bet the second hand embarrassment was STRONG that night
Story 1: Yeah, I've always wondered why cheaters just don't leave before cheating. Do they take pleasure in hurting the person they're cheating on, or is it the thrill of secretly having a relationship with someone else?
I'm convinced it's always the former. Like you really love someone you'll let them go. Not keep them around so you can crush their soul.
i think they enjoy the thrill honestly
@@CoreTakada7 out of 10 its the thrill just going behind someone's back without them realizing. Like one I remember who did cheat for the thrill and after being caught (and consequences that happened to her) the other guy found her boring as she was not the same and left.
@@tailsofchaos oh yikes, imagine cheating and then your side piece leaves you because your boring 💀
Cheaters gonna cheat and they'll get their karma on a silver platter
@@CoreTakada Yea that's the real irony. Cheaters will always cheat on each other. As for the boring part,I only seen several times from reading. However it seems the case apparently as it happens a lot more
Last story:
It’s quite simple, he’s lying about his family dynamics because he’s justifying his emotional cheating. If he says everyone is bad, then he “deserves,” to be happy with other people. Don’t get me wrong, it’s phucked up, but that’s the best thing I could come up with.
Alternatively my guess is he is using it as a pity platform to get attention and sympathy from women on reddit
@@deadmann320
Absolutely, that was my other thought, that it was all about pity.
There is a scenario were he just likes to emotionaly play with reddit users. If he was seeking advice or absolution....f# him
Yep. And if anyone was dissing their four year old to me I'd think they're an effed up person. That's very unappealing, so I'm not sure how that one works.
Exactly this. He is role playing on reddit about having a shitty marriage so that he feels justified in accepting the attention of women on Reddit that show him sympathy. It's nuts, lol. Dude needs help.
Story 3: This guy really thought OP would forgive him for that. No, of course not. If someone cheated on me, I'd never forgive them ever.
Especially telling me, in all places, my favorite restaurant is the shittiest thing they could've done.
I'm trying to think wth did he think by reserving at that restaurant and all I came up with was that HE THOUGHT IT WOULD LESSEN THE FAULT..
Back in the day when I was much younger I had a boyfriend I'd been seeing for a while, a very good looking guy who knew it. One day he pulled me into a room to have a "quiet talk" and confessed that he'd been doing the wild thing with what was my best friend. Anyway, he was telling me because it had been a dilemma for him but he was choosing me. Lucky me!
Of course I told him to eff off, and I was actually much more upset about my friends betrayal.
@@It-is-me...Melsie I'm so sorry that happened to you. I'm glad you told him off, and your ex friend too.
@@audreym3908 Thank you. I remember I was gobsmacked at the time at not only what had been going on but that HE actually thought I'd feel flattered that he was choosing me over her... that HE had the choice. What a knob he was.
As someone who had a partner who was serial cheater, a lot of times it's honestly just because they can. A lot of them don't even have a particular reason why unfortunately. They also will gaslight the hell out of you to justify their habit.
Sometimes I think they just do it for the thrill
@@paiget6200 It's "the Thrill," it's the "Just because I can cheat so I will cheat," it's the "Well, you have enough money and I don't. So, I'll stay for that but I'm romantically involved with this other person," its' the "I have feelings for you but you don't satisfy me enough in the bedroom, so that's what they're for," it's the "I want an open relationship but only I'm allowed to go out and openly sleep with other not you." It
It's bizarre but that's literally what I heard/read so many people say for why they cheat but don't leave.
@@LilDevyl17 oh I'm definitely not condoning it. Cheating is a deal breaker for me, no matter what their excuses are
I once had a boyfriend take me to my favorite ice cream shop, and buy me ice cream..
He then preceeded to park his car a half mile from my house, dump me, kick me out of his car to make me walk home and "hoped the ice cream made me feel better"
Petition to bring back stories about Kevin, treelaw or wholesome stories
Those subreddits are relatively less active for good stories and need time before enough juicy stories are there
All three!
We need a tree law special episode. It's been far too long since we gad some high priced revenge
r/Letsnotmeet is also a great one
People are here because they need their morale superiority b0ner. That's why they don't work. Plus, sorry not sorry, but they're boring, except perhaps for treelaw which is an alt pro revenge.
As for the Kevin stories, you'll have a hard time topping the c0k overdrive Kevin story.
Story 1: OP is nothing more than a live in "hired servant" and an 🏧. He's also Plan B if her affair falls apart.
Last story: I agree with rslash her husband lied everyone thinking that op is a bad, clingy, and manipulated wife. And he even lie to them that his 4 year old daughter is a spoiled brat who doesn't listen to him but his wife.
Story 2 aka Prank Proposal
This reminds me of the story of the GirlFriend who would say 'no' all the time to the OP of the story over every little thing. OP had repeatedly asked GF not to knee jerk say no to every single thing, even things as little as 'would you like a glass of water?'
The two of them had been on board about marriage, OP got the families together for a big proposal and everyone knew what was going to happen: as soon as OP had finished popping the question, the GF said 'no!' and left everybody and party hanging.
If I recall correctly the OP accepted the no and started distancing himself from GF which of course caused drama on all sides, but i thought it was for the best.
I remember that story.
iirc, she was crying to him that she was just joking and really did want to marry him, right? Tough sht lady, you dun effd up with the no.
Shit why she acting like a batch at the end of the day it's just a prank literally why does bro assault the man and start crying
@@V0wtezwhatever he considers a "prank" doesnt matter a prank should be something small and fun for both parties afterword. He spent the day bringing her closer to him and making her feel special just to give her something she was excited for just to turn it all into a shitty ordeal for her. Whenever she thinks of what would be the best day of her life she will always remember how it ended and ruin the whole thing. Dude was an asshole for putting that much time and energy into something just to rip it all away. Its like having your partner buy you a ps5 or new pc let you enjoy it for the day then ask you how happy you are with it then smash it to pieces a second later and laugh saying "it was a prank".
@KillerOstrich So are you going to even acknowledge the fact that she slapped him or no?
@@KillerOstrich cro at least they got to enjoy most of the day.
Story 1: as someone who has also been cheated on, you can't help but go nuclear. You built a foundation of trust, and she stomped all over it. I did something also nuclear when this happened to me, and it gave me so much peace. I hope OP gets that peace and doesn't get insecure over the whole thing
I’m glad that affairs continue to be heavily hated by the majority. The hesitation from her coworkers to tell the husband is relatable. I would be unsure about getting involved or not.
I get the feeling the hesitation may have been because she was in a position of authority since she had at least one subordinate. The fear of reprisals is real. Good on them for telling her husband who got her fired.
@@akl2k7not only that but sometimes the partner gets angry in a shoot the messenger kinda way.
@@squirrel670 Right, like the story where the parents hated Disney World because a maid brought the dad's cheating to his wife's attention. People are insane.
@@akl2k7 really rather harass their own daughter than face reality
Goodness, I still can't get the mindset of cheaters. How on Earth does someone do such terrible things to someone they should hold such a bond with and not realize how bad their choices are *before* they make them?!
I can't. I just can't.
Edit: Gotta agree with rSlash here - why is it that people cheat instead of just breaking up? Even in separation, you CAN be amicable about things and part on fair terms. Cheating your way into a divorce is the objectively worse way to go.
I just don't understand people like that lol Like, I know that I come from a very different perspective (aroace, me no do relationship) so I'd say I take a more pragmatic look at things, but come on now. Cheaters suck. :l
It's a toxic mentality, I've seen plenty of feminists literally endorse promiscuity to ''fight the patriarchy'' and then men who treat women like shit because they think that's what's women want from them then there's the whole mentality of ''she/he is probably cheating anyway'' that their paranoid mind always has. I think a lot of young people have just lost trust in the other gender and automatically assume the other is cheating :(.
Honestly I think it's literally just cowardice.
To them, it's easier to systematically allow the death of a relationship, than take responsibility for their own feelings and actions.
They know what they are doing is wrong, but don't care enough (or are too selfish) to do the right thing.
As to why they do it in the first place, there are billions of reasons. Someone I know cheated just "because they could". They believed their other half wasn't engaged or interested enough in them, so instead of doing the right thing, just banged some other guy for a few months until the partner figured it out.
Ultimately, in all experiences of seeing people cheat around me, it's always boiled down to cowardice (too weak to just end the relationship or work on their relationship issues), or they are lazy (they don't understand that the honeymoon period doesn't last forever and relationships require work), or they are just selfish and don't really care about the repercussions of their actions. In a very small amount of times I've seen it happen, one girl was just so dumb she just acted impulsively without ever thinking "there might be repercussions for this"
oh, trust me they know exactly how bad their actions are, but once the deed is committed , reality sting and they have to face that they are horrible persons that value more their momentary satisfaction that the feelings of their partners.
they can ignore the reality as long nobody is putting it in front of their faces
Greed. They want what they do not have, but do not want to lose what they have. That is why cheaters often cheat again after obtaining their cheating partner as a true partner. The grass is always greener somewhere else.
I am also ace (unsure if aro, but haven't had or wanted a relationship in over a decade) but I know the sting of losing things I'm used to having. (for example, needing to put down a beloved pet when they become ill, needing to cut people out of my life who are toxic, needing to throw away and replace items in my home) I just know that it's better to lose things than hold onto them if it causes issues or harm. Most people do. Cheaters? Far too selfish. They don't want to let go. Be it for money, comfort or other things.
I also know the allure of some of the unknown. Things I want to indulge in but can't bring myself to have because it would be unwise to do so. (expensive items, unhealthy food etc) Cheaters? They give in to that pull. They lack the self-control or think themselves crafty enough to maintain subterfuge. Some might even find the secrecy adds to their excitement of sampling forbidden fruit.
I have been married for over 30 years. I have never "jumped the fence" - and not due to lack of opportunities. Once was really hard. A close mutual friend of ours "Jane" was going through some hard times. We were helping her out, we helped her move twice, the three of us spent a lot of time together, etc. Her toaster had died, so she had no way to make her meager breakfasts. We had an old toaster, so I dropped it by her apartment after work. She of course gave me a big hug. Aaaaaand it must have been Day 14 for her, or the planets were aligned, or something- because all of a sudden we just "clicked" both physically and emotionally. BUT- we're both honorable people, and neither of us would betray my wife like that. We were both standing there crying. That's the last time she and I were ever alone together. And yes, I told my Lady Wife what happened. She totally understood. She's not blind- it was obvious Jane was exactly my type in lots more ways than just physically. But she trusted both of us, and we didn't betray that trust.
*First OP:* Memo to self: don't get on OP's bad side. o.O I _almost_ feel bad for the ex-wife, but, you know, FAFO.
*Second OP:* Did Andrew not run this prank through with anyone else? Because, I'm sure the people around him would've told him how cruel the "prank" would be. He's a doof.
*Third OP:* I'm noticing a theme in this vid: horrible partners. I hope OP has a good support system that will help her recover from the betrayal.
To answer rSlash's question, both are equally bad.
second story: if Andrew thinks that hurting someone feelings is funny as f, then he should look for a psychologist
@@dinlupus3196And if the op thinks assaulting someone because she it upset then she needs to go to a psychologist.
Story 1 : She deserves all the pain and humiliation op could inflict and honestly I hope any and all credibility she has at all ...That witch mentality is " I want my cake and eat it to " ..
Story 2 : pranks are only "Pranks" when both sides are laughing..what Andrew did to op wasnt prank it was pure public humiliation .. op you already did half what you could do.. next step is block him on everything..
Story 3 : What the absolute F was that story ?? Op cheating ex :" Babe i took you to your favorite restaurant to order you your favorite dish Cheating with a side of syphilis " ..
Story 4 : my theory is the idioit wanted to get caught .. why else if hes emotionally cheating would he give op his phone so willingly??
Update : Dude is a straight up immature lying cheating turd..
Yes, OP was no doubt cover half her living costs as well. I'm sure she planned to string him along until she got a high paying job... then she'd suddenly decide it just wasn't working out.
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Okay in theory I agree with you. But we cannot label all cases of cheating being as ducked up as this one is. Just going to lay a scenario out there for you, would you hate somebody who was cheating because they are in a domestic abuse situation and hoping they get caught so that they will have an out from that relationship? And don't say it doesn't happen, I know from personal experience that it does. Female aggressor domestic violence is like the big taboo, it exists but absolutely nobody wants to talk about it.
Last story: I would be way more upset if my parter was badmouthing our family (especially kid) than erotic chatting with internet strangers.
Slander just hits different.
Shout out to the co-worker who texted OP. He's the real MVP in story 1.
Story 2 has 2 updates from the next day and 10 days after the 1st update:
Thank you guys so much for all of the love in the replies on my last post, I honestly didn't expect it to get as much attention as it did but I'm very very grateful for that and it has helped me a lot.
I asked mods of this subreddit if I could do an early update and they allowed me to so here's the update
After I made that reddit post I fell asleep crying, then woke up and decided to call my now ex-boyfriend, I told him that it was over and that I didn't want to be together with someone who after 5 years still isn't ready for marriage and make a big joke about it. He cried and then turned angry and demanded me to stay and told me I was "a fucking asshole for leaving him like this after everything he has done for me". He cussed me out so much that I stopped listening at one point so I don't really remember everything he said.
In the end we came to a sorta agreement that we are going to sell the house and that he will be sleeping in the guest room for now, so today I've just been scrolling the internet for apartments so I can have a fresh start. He is still not happy about the break up tho. He is trying so bad to get back with me saying stuff the whole day like "can't we be together again?" and "this was just a small mistake I made". But the one that did it for me was "don't be so fucking petty and drop it, you know we are happy together and you know you still want me", when he said that I absolutely lost it and called him every single name I could come up with, then slammed my door.
I think he also told his family about this whole situation cause today I got a call from his mom telling me how "selfish" I was and how I "couldn't handle a simple joke" and it ended with her calling me a slut and hanging up the call, after that I've gotten several message from his other family members such as his siblings, his dad and even his aunt.
I've tried to just block them all but every now and then comes a new message.
I feel like more will happen but the next update will probably not be in less than a week or so as I'm gonna try to sell stuff I don't need, find a new apartment and fix everything with the house and stuff before we put it up for sale. I just wanna get out of here as quickly as possible.
UPDATE 2:
Hello everyone, it's been a while since my last post and once again I wanna thank you all so much for all the support and love, as for now, this will probably be my last update.
After my last post, we had constant fights for days during the evenings and one day I decided that I had enough, my closest friend let me move in with her for now until I find somewhere else to live and I still don't know what we're exactly doing with our house, but I have gotten lawyers involved and it's gonna take quite a while.
The biggest incident since I last posted is probably that I met my ex's mom in a mall and she full out screamed at me in public, I have never felt so humiliated. Everyone probably thought I had done something horrible as she yelled things like "how could you do this to my son!?" and "you're a terrible human being!". I just walked away but I still felt so embarrassed.
Also, ever since I moved, constant messages has appeared from my ex, from his friends and from his family members, and they are NASTY messages. Such as "no one would give a flying fuck if you died, you are a waste of space" or "you are such a self centered slut, leaving your boyfriend over a small joke". I try to ignore them but sometimes I do break down over them. This situation has also helped me learnt who my real friends are as some of my friends turned their back against me.
This whole thing still feels SO surreal to me and it's gonna take a long time for me to process it, however, if there is anything else that I need to update you on I will. Thank you all again so so much for the support it honestly has been helping me a lot.
Wow! Thank you for the updates. No I am even more mad. I can't believe just because the woman has some standards she ends up getting screamed at and called names. She hasn't done anything wrong.
It seems the nasty rotten apple doesn't fall too far from the ugly tree.
Thanks. Now I feel 100% justified in my instant desire to administer severe corporal punishment to that sorry POS. Sure enough, he outed himself as abusive, and his family as toxic AF.
@@It-is-me...Melsie"She hasn't done anything wrong," I mean other than assaulting him by slapping him in the face I guess, right?
First story: Did OP do the right thing? Not necessarily. Do I understand him? Yes. Would I do the same? Yes. Is he *in the wrong?* Absolutely not. Sometimes two wrongs *does* make a right.
As a married mother with an 11 month old son, I would have to say I would much rather hear that my husband actually cheated on me, had intimacy with me afterwards, and then tell me/I find out once we are done than hear my husband making up lies about our family on reddit because be likes the attention.
I can only imagine how OP is feeling, I hope she is all right and delivers the baby safely...
That last story, I've been there. My ex (we were together for 11 years) was a serial cheater. It came out after the fact that he was lying to everyone about our relationship, if he even told anyone he was in one. I was the crazy ex, I hurt him, I made his life hell, etc etc. It was quite the opposite though. I was too anxious and introverted to do anything and I let a lot of his terrible behaviour slide. He was actually the one being awful, hurting me, stealing, lying, etc. The last girl he cheated with he went scorched earth and told her so many bad things about me. Made her block me in advanced. I thankfully found out and kicked his ass to the curb but not before he first tried to strangle me and then begged and pleaded to come back into my life. He ended up running away and moving across country just to escape his BS. He never stopped being a scumbag from what I've heard.
*Story 2:* There are 2 updates that just...make my blood boil.
*Update 1:*
Thank you guys so much for all of the love in the replies on my last post, I honestly didn't expect it to get as much attention as it did but I'm very very grateful for that and it has helped me a lot.
I asked mods of this subreddit if I could do an early update and they allowed me to so here's the update
After I made that reddit post I fell asleep crying, then woke up and decided to call my now ex-boyfriend, I told him that it was over and that I didn't want to be together with someone who after 5 years still isn't ready for marriage and make a big joke about it. He cried and then turned angry and demanded me to stay and told me I was "a fucking asshole for leaving him like this after everything he has done for me". He cussed me out so much that I stopped listening at one point so I don't really remember everything he said.
In the end we came to a sorta agreement that we are going to sell the house and that he will be sleeping in the guest room for now, so today I've just been scrolling the internet for apartments so I can have a fresh start. He is still not happy about the break up tho. He is trying so bad to get back with me saying stuff the whole day like "can't we be together again?" and "this was just a small mistake I made". But the one that did it for me was "don't be so fucking petty and drop it, you know we are happy together and you know you still want me", when he said that I absolutely lost it and called him every single name I could come up with, then slammed my door.
I think he also told his family about this whole situation cause today I got a call from his mom telling me how "selfish" I was and how I "couldn't handle a simple joke" and it ended with her calling me a slut and hanging up the call, after that I've gotten several message from his other family members such as his siblings, his dad and even his aunt.
I've tried to just block them all but every now and then comes a new message.
I feel like more will happen but the next update will probably not be in less than a week or so as I'm gonna try to sell stuff I don't need, find a new apartment and fix everything with the house and stuff before we put it up for sale. I just wanna get out of here as quickly as possible.
*Update 2:*
Hello everyone, it's been a while since my last post and once again I wanna thank you all so much for all the support and love, as for now, this will probably be my last update.
After my last post, we had constant fights for days during the evenings and one day I decided that I had enough, my closest friend let me move in with her for now until I find somewhere else to live and I still don't know what we're exactly doing with our house, but I have gotten lawyers involved and it's gonna take quite a while.
The biggest incident since I last posted is probably that I met my ex's mom in a mall and she full out screamed at me in public, I have never felt so humiliated. Everyone probably thought I had done something horrible as she yelled things like "how could you do this to my son!?" and "you're a terrible human being!". I just walked away but I still felt so embarrassed.
Also, ever since I moved, constant messages has appeared from my ex, from his friends and from his family members, and they are NASTY messages. Such as "no one would give a flying fuck if you died, you are a waste of space" or "you are such a self centered slut, leaving your boyfriend over a small joke". I try to ignore them but sometimes I do break down over them. This situation has also helped me learnt who my real friends are as some of my friends turned their back against me.
This whole thing still feels SO surreal to me and it's gonna take a long time for me to process it, however, if there is anything else that I need to update you on I will. Thank you all again so so much for the support it honestly has been helping me a lot.
@@DN0103 Thanks for the updates. I'd say she dodged a bullet but it looks like she's facing an execution squad. If it wasn't more fuel to the fire, I would suggest that she could agree to get back together and then send him a text "you've been pranked" with all the "what, can't you take a small joke?" right back at them. Based on their reaction the break-up really stings him a lot and I'm glad.
100% sure that the asshole didnt tell his family what the really prank was and is just picturin himself as a poor victim boohoo 😢
I love the insane stories, but it’d be nice to hear more funny/wholesome ones. They’re entertaining and probably a nice break for Dabney
Final story: I wish OP all the best, but IDK if I could come back from that. Like virtual cheating is one thing, but he's lying on her AND their YOUNG daughter acting like they're pieces of shit ruining his life. Just slandering them. He could make up any story for sympathy and attention he wanted and that's the route he took apparently fully aware it wasn't true. Really cruel tbh
Story 2: I feel so sorry for OP. Who the hell thinks it's funny to use a proposal for a prank?! OP, you will find the right person. But this guy is a sc*mbag!
An absolutely scmbag. I wouldn't even want to be friends with such an awful person let alone date him.
Oh there's about 10 updates about how much more worse and abusive the guy was and how entitled his parents were as well 🙄
First Story: Many serial cheaters want the thrill of the affair, but the security and stableness of their prior relationship. They want the hedonistic lifestyle of the affair partner, with their prior relationship basically being a backup and/or security blanket.
I used to catch my husband doing that. Using his "stupid fat" wife me, and "shitty" home life to get girls to send him nudes. He also had sexting with them, and he didn't hide it well at all. It hurt me really bad and made me feel horrible because I was a good wife and took care of him and the house really well. Finally, I found a conversation where he was thanking a girl for letting him bang her and it turned out to be true. I was devastated. We've been separated for over 2 years now. Our daughter and I live in one city and he and his girlfriend live in another.
If someone is “nowhere near ready to marry you” after FIVE YEARS together, you can be pretty sure they never intend to marry you.
Fourth story: I’d say spreading misinformation about Op and her daughter. Him liking Nsfw content is one thing and he can stop any time but him trying to paint himself as the victim while his wife and daughter are looked as the bad guys is something worse. There’s unhinged people in social media that’ll go to great lengths to harass people who are “bad” like sending them death threats, and harassing messages.
Not only is he trading photos and lying about his family, he is probably committing adultery physically as well.
First story was kinda satisfying that cheater deserve all the pain
You think that a person who cheated deserves to be fired from two jobs and have revenge porn sent to their loved ones? What about her friends and family who had to receive cruel and humiliating messages and photos about someone they love?
I have been cheated on before and while it completely broke me for a while I cannot imagine being so relentlessly cruel, creepy and sinking as low as to illegally send revenge porn. That's unhinged and you should evaluate what makes you have so little compassion for other people.
As someone who had people tell horrible lies about me to get me in trouble, the thought of my husband doing that makes my stomach hurt. I could handle him looking at porn or whatever, we could work through that probably. But telling lies like that is permanently damaging to people’s image. There will always be someone out there who believes it, even if he comes clean to them all.
People just divorced if you're not happy don't cheated
i know, a quick no conest divorce, take maybe 1 hour to do and be done with them and go f- the office guy all you want. sadly most want their Cake and eat it too which only make things a lot worst.
@@darkcarnage9188agreed
use this thread to torture a grammar cop
my guess to why cheaters don't break up with their partners is because they want both, not that they like one over the other, more like the feeling that you can have all of them.
disgusting
R/cakeeaters?
The story about op who had her heart broken in a restaurant by her lazy and no for good boyfriend is that she needs to find a new boyfriend that cares about her and who wants to marry her and not make a fool of her in public
Story 1: I have two ideas, but R/ might be right too. One is money, for some people you can never have too much of that and that's usually why people go through stuff like this. My second idea is power, she got to have an affair and make her husband feel like he was doing something wrong, some people love the idea of being able to control people like that and that's what it sounded like to me. But at the end of the day it doesn't matter, he kept the important takeaway is that she will never stop playing the victim. She did everything she could to make herself look like the innocent bystander and OP the monster no matter how public affair was, she even tried to make him look abusive for being angry at her. She's not worth it, let her believe she's the victim all she once at the end of the day no one cares about how she feels.
It’s money 100%. The big example of this is in the sideline info the story gives. OP mentioning buying a new car, multiple vacations in the same year and all that shows that while he may not be LOADED, he does have quite a bit of finances and things. Then you gotta look at the second key evidence. She’s having them go to marriage counseling, but notice after the first round of that she got “happy” again shortly after. And then when she got called tf out mentioned it again and made sure to overtake the counseling session and throw buzzwords in there like she’s “afraid of him” ect. Why is that relevant? Because in divorce court any marriage counseling sessions are held as prime evidence to the nature of the marriages status and situation. She literally covertly built a case against him so she could win a divorce settlement that she obviously, given all that, knew was going to come.
Lets be honest I wasnt the only one waiting for this just refreshing
Every morning tbh
Come on, you know you weren't, drop the NPC comments.
@@hiroshi7025 lmao
I mean i was but yeah it does feel npc like
2nd story had an update. They met up and it didn't go well. They're officially over.
That "you've been pranked" note in ring box prank was an original
Reading that first story and not knowing why she stayed is like diving into a lake and not understanding why you got wet.
Money, obviously.
for story one also when you cheat you open yourself up to revenge, and sometimes that revenge can include fatalities
as a famous chef once said "dont be stupid"
Petition to bring back bloopers! Puppy bloopers were awesome lol, but having bloopers of Dabney just fumbling sounds amazing
First Story: I think the fact op had been married to the ex-wife for only 5 months says a lot about why she was making the effort to go to counseling. In Australia you have 12 months to annul a marriage before you then have to file for divorce and op seems really well off compared to the ex-wife, in an annulment the two parties have no right to the others stuff ever (not even assets that were acquired during the marriage). if this is the case wherever they are, I'd say she had plans to take half of everything she could if not all and she just needed to wait out the deadline for an annulment.
Last story is giving me serious vibe that the guy is feeling guilty so he wished his family was a bad one
14:39 compulsive lying is a symptom of child neglect
RSlash, to answer your question about why cheaters unhappy in their relationship just don’t break up is because their partner that their cheating on makes their life easier by doing chores, running errands and/or making the money, as evident with the op from the first story.
If they break up, they’ll have to do all of that themselves
At least that’s my assumption
For the last story I think both happening at the same time is worse 😂
1st story I think I can safely assume that she wanted to feel justified and that she wasn't the problem, if she kept it up long enough they could have kept it going for years living easily
8:00 Negative, this is 100% on her. She led HIM on, leading HIM to think it was all fun and games. And she's surprised when she gets...more fun and games? She didn't realize she was dating a child? Nah he's in the clear. He's immature, but not in the wrong. This is 100% on her. She should've known better.
Yeah plus she assaulted him because she felt bad about the (admittedly bad) prank. If you ask me she showed her true colors then and there.
Last story. No I 100% agree with your take here. I’ve always said that meaningless cheating is worse than if the cheating meant something. Because I can understand the logic of falling out of love with me and in love with someone else. It’s awful and a truly horrible thing to do to someone but I get it. Meaningless cheating is just selfish and disrespectful on a whole other level. Putting their own desire over my feelings, our relationship, our history, etc. Meaningless cheating is the worst thing you can do imho
I think his logic for the last post is the justification. If he’s convincing himself his home life is shit it justifies him talking to other women. Rlly backwards ik but that’s what I’m getting at
The reason why people make outlandish choices is usually because they’re literally a narcissist or have narcissistic behaviors. Like the wife in the first story. She’s literally worried about her image. If she divorced him in her mind it would have to be when she could come off as the victim to get sympathy points.
If these past 3 have showed the world anything it’s that crazy people can get away with anything if they play the victim.
reason for cheating instead of divorce: money, security, social image, there are probably many more
Yoooo literally all these posts make me crave an update lol
Rslash, just wanna thanks for being here every morning for my morning routine✨💅🏼
I’ve been in a situation where my partner lied for attention and it is awful. Don’t know what’s “worse,“ but I know that sucks and hurts a lot.
Last story: the reason he likes LARPing the bad family, but I think he's doing that because he wants an excuse for why it's okay he's trading sexy photos.
I had a similar experience to the first story. After I graduated college I met a guy at a wedding and we hit it off really well. I told him about my gf and I wanting to move to LA, I had just graduated with a degrees in film and chinese. He was a medical researcher in LA and looking to get a bigger place and offered to help me move out there to get a start on my career. I was hesitant because it was a big move but after speaking with my gf and to him a little more my gf decided we were moving. She knew I was dragging my feet on the decision so she told her mom to get the van ready for a cross country trip and move her to LA. It was the kick I needed and to this day I am still thankful to her for doing it. I moved to LA 1.5 months later so I could wrap up a project at work and help them replace me.
Things were great for the first 7 months, then we started to argue a lot. She felt that she was isolated because she wasn't working or in school. I encouraged her to transfer her credits to another university and start up in the fall, as well as joining a sports league or do meet up. She had every reason not to. During this time I was undiagnosed autistic and adhd, so I was not able to handle my emotions very well and I never knew why. Imagine the sunken place from Get Out, I would be inside of my head watching me have a meltdown and isolating myself, all the while I'm screaming at myself silently to just speak to her. I didn't make a lot of money so seeing a doctor, let alone a psychiatrist wasn't really an option. This just added to the tension.
She began hiding her phone and laptop anytime I came into the room and we started drifting apart. Our once thriving sex life was pretty much non existent and I started to feel like I couldn't do anything right when it came to us. I started making a real effort to repair things because I was so in love with her, I was starting to look at rings (stupid, I know.) We both went back home to visit friends and family during the winter holiday and she kept acting funny anytime we would talk on the phone. We were together for New Years and something seemed off but I let it go. I left before her because I had work and when she got back to LA all happiness left her eyes when I welcomed her back home. I knew at that moment what had happened. I spent the next few weeks in denial, then one day I just asked her did you cheat on me and was it with such and such person. She went pale and a part of me died inside.
We had to live with each other for another month after that. She would go onto tell me that she did it to hurt me in the worst possible way because I was making strides in my career and she wasn't as accomplished. That I forced her to move across the country and lose touch with all of her friends, when she literally forced me to move. A few months after being no contact she asked if she could take me out for my birthday. I agreed and we ended up hooking up that night. I stupidly got back together with her for a couple months and let her stay with me while she was waiting to move into her new place. I had tickets to see Zedd and I invited her. She had moved out by the time the concert happened and the morning after the show she said we shouldn't see each other anymore. It was the most cold and heartless moment of realization in my life. She wasn't remorseful, she just used me because she knew how I still felt about her. After that point I have vowed that I will never give a cheater a second chance. Once you cheat on me we are done, we never happened, I will not fight for you, I will purge every memory of you (good or bad) from my memory. I'm in therapy now and realizing how much that relationship messed me up. All of my friends didn't like her, they told me they didn't but I was blinded by love. 3.5 years to learn a hard but valuable lesson about self respect.
About your cheating question RSlash, I'm pretty sure story 1 cheaters goal is the fact he did all the cooking and cleaning and was very easy to manipulate into doing the pick me dance so he was spoiling her in an attempt to keep her. None of the dates they mentioned were exactly cheap.
The manipulation she used was an attempt to keep him beat down on purpose, a typical gaslighting attempt to make the victim think it was their fault. The end result was fueled by her hubris. She thought that she could pull this off indefinitely and keep her in house maid and ATM fueling her lifestyle. As long as he was on that string, he's a supply that can be milked for all it's worth.
Someone like her will just move on to another victim, so it's incredibly good he went public with this. The more people onto her bullshit the less possible victims. Especially with her family monitoring the situations.
Story 1: I would go scorched earth on everyone involved.
A partner making up lies is worse. In my head, there are black and white moments. He cheats, he's messaging other women, he's sending/recieving pictures is a clear violation of a relationship and i can validly break up. But if all he is doing is posting lies anonymously on some forum, then it goes grey. If you're going to give me cause to break up, dont make me question my thought process.
12:25 "and it's honestly more disrespectful to me..."
Dabney: "and it's honestly more *respectful* to me..."
I think the lies are worse then the cheating, imagine making up bad things about your own flesh and blood innocent four year old daughter for validation from strangers
Lying about the family: emotional vampire territory.
I used to work on a website where people shared retail/workplace stories. We had one vampire who posted dramatic, emotional, gut-wrenching stories about how she was treated at work, and the abuse she suffered at home. She builds up this whole lie, just for the attention and sympathy. Laps it up for over a year. Then we get an email from another account, supposedly from her "mom" claiming that she died due to an abuse incident. It caused a lot of reaction on the readers of the website and everyone was sad and traumatized, because they had invested in her life.
Then a month later, we get another story from a new email account, with an identical writing style, starting a whole new story of drama and abuse for a whole "new" person.
Turns out this emotional vampire craved the attention, sympathy, and support of complete strangers, because that's what she wanted. She got all her stories on the site removed, and she was blocked. Her writing style was so distinctive that we caught her multiple times trying to create an alt with a new story, but they would just keep getting deleted.
Oh, gosh- had that happen on a website I used to be a member of. This one person joined the website, seemed fine at first, then caused all kinds of stupid drama and got perma-banned. Pretty soon another new member joins. Writing style (or rather, lack thereof) looks suspiciously familiar. We're all like "Tell me this isn't that same dude." The admin checked, and yep- same freakin' IP address! Instantly dropped the ban-hammer and blocked that IP address.
Story 2: Said it before and ill say it again, You never fake a proposal, never "Prank" about it or anything
Sexy photos is not emotional cheating, it's just cheating.
I don't necessarily agree, but it depends on the relationship. If you aren't OK with your spouse/SO looking at nudes/P, and they do it anyway, that's a problem. But for the lying and sneaking, not the pics/videos. You can have an emotional affair without a single nude or sext. Or you can have nudes/sexting with zero emotional connection. The first is ten times worse.
To answer your last post question, he likely fantasized about OP and his daughter behaving badly as sort of justification for cheating. Best reason I can come up with anyway
On that last story, I 100% agree with your take on the lying vs the e-cheating
The woman in story 1 needs to learn a few new words, starting with "accountability".
1st story: At first I thought this guy was a weakling..but then he went nuclear. Good job! Also Dabney the reason for her doing this is for validation and attention. She's a narcissist.
Story 4: This goes to show that you cannot trust any story that is told on reddit
Story 2: Okay, what do you want OP? You can make it work but you get that it will be the entire point of your relationship. Regardless of how yall got together, thats how it will be treated. Honestly OP move on, you deserve better.
Final story: my husband has done this 7 times and I stayed. It's exhausting never knowing what's next. He's been clean for a year but I still find myself checking. We're working through it but it's a hard thing to work through
You're an amazing person if you can forgive that BS. Not sure if it's possible to retrofit your husband with a sense of personal and family honor at this point, when he didn't come from the factory with one.
@@ostlandr actually he was raised better. His mother and sister gave him heck when they found out. Even taking me for a break just us girls for dinner so I could vent
1st story. she is a fellow and probably dating an intern. She wants his money. as soon as she got that sweet dr. pay she'd have left for sure
I am an older man and have experienced all sorts of ups and downs in relationships. I can tell you that if your partner doesn't respect you, GET OUT NOW! GET OUT YESTERDAY.
The first story the logic is if she makes him file for divorce she is much more likely to get alimony then if she filed. So she's wanting him to pay for her lifestyle
This one really puzzles me when I read about emotional cheating stories: "nothing physical happened yet"
So... do we wait? 😂
Story 2: "this is just a prank" yeah op your ex's attempt at a relationship was cruel prank
Last story - this is just a munchhousins by proxy. He loves the attention of being the distraught spouse and a ton of people making him feel like he's special and not a bad dad is what he's after. It's basically a high he gets off sympathy
First Story
Ops ex probably just wanted to use him as a safety net incase things didn’t work with the other guy.
first story: I love how quick OP wife try play the victim even went far try said OP it abuse her this women was going ruin OP life by threat him and then she double down and make it into a full blow relationship that her own coworker told OP and Op just send all her everything to her HR and her next job to and she was disowner by her own family
2nd story: what he expect best case scenario, you said no, or you were completely reliefed
I'm not saying I know which one is worse, I'm just saying Dabney's argument for the lying/roleplaying being worse is a compelling one.
Last story: What makes this worse is the lies about the daughter. If he had said something about how much he loved his daughter and she was a daddy's girl but her B* mother was constantly interrupting, that story would have gotten him even more online sympathy. The whole "my 4-year-old daughter disrespects me" BS is nuts. It's counter-productive to his stated goal, undercuts any desire he has to reconcile, and is really going to bite him in the ass in a decade when the daughter finds out about it... and she will eventually find out about it.
4th Story: It's one thing to be cheated on and lied to, it's another thing to be cheated on, lied to, and lied *about* . I hate being misunderstood, and lying about me is premier disrespect!
cheaters need one main thing, that is emotional security. this security comes from knowing that one partner, married or affair, can be turned to at any time. when they lose one of these supports, their world seems to crumble, and they need to portray themselves as a victim. by removing the victim card, you have essentially neutralised any turmoil that they can pass over to you.
Funny that for me this doesnt show around the video section. Hello rSlash, afternoon from Mozambique!
I listen to these stories and wonder why people are so concerned that I'm single. Lol this 👆, this is why 😂
The last story, The guy is vicariously living through an existence that he no longer can do. He misses "freedom" and there's nothing wrong with that. Everybody has those type of feelings sometimes.
Unless he's explicitly stating who they are and bad-mouthing them, it's really a non-issue.
Other than trading nudes or whatever.
But even then it's anonymous.
If she's uncomfortable with it and would like him to stop then yeah they need to talk about that but he's not the worst person in the world or any crap like that.
Story 1. That's the thing, RSlash, cheaters aren't people who know what they want and choose between two incompatible options. They NEED both, and are so self-centered that they can delude themselves into thinking THEY are the center of a love triangle and people will just bend to their will if they can say and do all the right things and everything will work out somehow. When she's cheating, SHE isn't the problem. It's her husband who needs to change and love her EVEN more so she can feel good with him AND this other guy she's also fallen in love with. No one can tell her who to love or who to pick. That's just not fair.
I get the feeling that the guy in the last story won't have to lie about things on reddit soon.
Why do people think, oh I’ll just completely screw over this person and I’m sure they won’t retaliate
A prank is putting a post-it on the bottom of a mouse, or telling your coworkers that the photocopier is voice activated now. Pranking should not involve marriage, pregnancy, or hurting people.
OP asks 'for what?' because wifey has a personality disorder and needs to be liked by everyone. She'll string everyone along on whatever line she thinks will work.
The "prank" proposal OP needs to make sure that he didn't have a buddy recording it for Tiktok. So many toxic so-called prankers do it for clout and internet points, I would not put it by someone like that to be that cruel.