r/TrueOffMyChest My Wife Is Pregnant From Another Man
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0:00 Intro
0:08 This is not my kid
4:20 Half siblings get all my moms attention
9:18 Husband acting weird after sisters pregnancy announcement
12:29 Left the country to avoid child support
14:25 We got robbed and my girlfriend handled it terribly
16:06 Potential consequences detailed in the comments
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2nd story had an update:
Op and mom talked, mom apologized to op for everything. Mom wanted to take him after op finished middle school but grandparents convinced mom that op should stay with them. Mom hadn't thought about where newborn is gonna stay, but OP'S room is still gonna be OP'S. Op will be staying with mom whenever he goes to college.
The grandparents are messed up
I thought I remembered that the grandparents were the ones who instigated things.
That puts a totally different Spin on things
Good. That's all that needed to happen. Everyone else needs to chill out. The family just needed to talk.
Thanks for this update...restores my faith in parenthood.
Story 3: You forgot option 3 - The husband is losing it because he thinks he might be the father as he had a fling with her a couple months back. And he's a paternity test away from having his whole life destroyed, losing her and his wife.
Yeah this is definitely what I think is going on. He's literally in full blown panic mode
Everyone's also forgetting option for which is that the husband had a child or pregnant partner who died before meeting OP people's children
@@lahlybird895 That's unlikely to cause such a reaction
@Lahly Bird I disagree, but only because the husband won't open up as to what the issue is. If it was as simple as past trauma, he would've been able to discuss it with his wife. He's clearly going out of his way to try and hide things though, so I think it's infidelity.
This is what I’m thinking too, it gives me the vibe that he’s one confession/paternity test away from his life crumbling
Bryan's not an idiot, it seems. Remember kids, if she cheats WITH you, she will also cheat ON you.
I appreciate that he came forward and decided to turn his life around. He’ll be there for his son.
@@Casey5693 Yeh, sounds like a good lad. It's funny how easy it is to gauge the integrity of a person based on so few actions
Honestly I respect the guy for owning up to what he did. He very easily could have gone along with the wife's plan of pretending the baby was OP's and moving on with his life. It takes a lot of courage to say to someone's face "Hey I messed up really bad and I've done something I'm not proud of that will hurt you to know but not knowing would hurt more".
@@darkwarriorprogram6546 As they say, integrity is what you do when people aren't looking.
If I'm remembering correctly, Story 3 had an update:
Husband was, in fact, envisioning himself with the sister and admitted it after being confronted. He swore he loved OP, though, and wanted to be with her. OP told her sister, who was disgusted and went no contact with the guy. He had another meltdown about that. OP divorced him in the end.
EDIT: It looks like there are at least two people with the same experience. The one I'm remember was a nearly identical story, and a third user had something similar (but with the sister's marriage being the trigger) too. My update isn't for this story, it's for the nearly identical one I was remembering.
Yeah. I found this post and looked for an update because I swore there was one. I agree that there must be 2 others like this. One of them the husband had an online relationship with the wife's sister. The other one did want to be with the sister's wife and they ended up going separate ways. I think she cut off the sister in that one.
@@damitafrost4228 That first one you mentioned isn't even one of the ones I found, hahaha
Did anyone find an update yet to this one?
Now he lost two girls.
@@zSpirallI did, its much worse than anyone was imagining. Much MUCH worse. I'll see if I can find it.
With the Pregnant Sister story, I think OP's husband got her sister pregnant. This would explain the overwhelmed crying/vomiting reaction
Yup. That was my thought too.
You know what it reminded me of? A reaction of a rape victim to a certain degree, hopefuly the sister didnt force herself on him THEN got pregnant.
same here. He is full of guilt. this explains his reaction.
yeah, I think his reaction was consistent with, "oh sh*t, now there's PROOF of my infidelity," and I'm wondering if the sister isn't doing a little blackmail to manipulate him for not leaving his wife for her, when he just meant it to be a fling or one-time thing.
That's what I thought! It would mean that OP's sister intents to keep that secret or argues that it doesn't have to be his?
The reaction did sound more like fear of losing OP and guilt about what he did than losing a crush/affair partner.
It seriously pisses me off, when people blame the cheating on feeling unfullfilled or not enough attention of the partner, etc.... talk it out or break off the relationship... cheating is scummy, no matter what.
There is no reason to cheat.
If a relationship is done, you can start a new one, but not at the same time.
I think that plenty of people think that because they are that deep into the relationship, they have no option but to stay. But as you said there is one option: Talk it out. It's going to be tough, it might end with heartbreak but at least you have talked and now you can explore other options or leave.
@@backtoklondike
Well ... yeah... it's scary... but the heartbreak from cheating and the consequences for the relationship and life in general are way worse if you're caught cheating...
It feels like crap beeing cheated on and I could not do it either, because I'd feel too guilty anyways.... i don't understand how people can arrange that with their conscience.... but obviously many can...
I disagree that there is no reason to cheat. If you are in an area where it is illegal/impossible to leave or you are with an abusive partner you do not feel safe leaving, I think cheating is understandable. But of course the girlfriend doesn't fall under this, she just wasn't strong enough to go, so she hurt someone to protect herself. Pathetic.
Totally agree! Outside of situations of some sort of partner abuse I think cheating is very cowardly and selfish. For those not built for monogamy that's fine, just be honest about it from the start.
I don't really understand, what type of abusive relationship, would allow one to feel safe cheating, but not safe leaving...
Cheated abusers usually become even more dangerous... the priority should be to seek help 😬
That last story reminds me of a story that was on AITA a few weeks back, only it was in reverse: the boyfriend had a superhero complex, did all sorts of unsafe things in unsafe neighborhoods as if he was trying to get mugged, then when they did get mugged, he tried to get mouthy and the girlfriend saved them by throwing the wallet behind the mugger and fleeing. The post was from the gf’s point of view, trying to understand why her bf acted that way. Come to find out, the bf told all their friends that it was the gf’s fault that they almost got killed, and that *she* was the one who taunted the mugger.
I remember that story. What a shitshow
The batman story? That was wild
omg my first thought
Oh yeah that’s story honestly the girlfriend is a piece of crap in the story like trying to get her boyfriend killed just to keep her stuff is she nuts and she could have been killed by that mugger
I wonder if it's connected?
Story 3: I think there may be a 3rd option. OP's husband had an affair with the sister and is worried that the baby may be his. Severe fear/anxiety can explain all of his weird symptoms.
That was my guess.
maybe the husband recently found out he had a life-threatening condition, e.g. cancer. he hasn't yet worked up the nerve to tell OP, but the thought that he might die before him and OP have children of their own is breaking him down
That was what I thought. The description of him having breakdowns remind me of my past.I have diagnosed anxiety attacks which comes with all the symptoms OP's husband is showing: the vomiting, crying, closing people out and completely shutting down.
@@zilesis1 lol what? Do you seriously think this? Are you being serious with this comment? lmfao
@@blessingo7449 what's wrong with my explanation? it's just as likely as anything else. besides breaking down in tears makes more sense for someone who's dying that for someone who's just jealous he's not getting some
That mugging story sounds like the backwards of that one where the girl tossed her wallet in a distracting way so they could escape and her BF was mad at her because she ruined his chance to be Batman.
Yea I couldn't agree more, I remembered hearing story like that. And this story4 is the version he told all his friends and parents about. And even told them that the GF apologized for it as well.
I was thinking the same thing.
I was thinking about that story 😂
Story 5 sounds like the same story of the girl who’s boyfriend thought he was Batman and told all of his friends that SHE started the altercation
I remember that Story. Those two would be happy together
In fact it sounds TOO similar.... I'm thinking both stories might be related
Yeah it's not worth losing your life over a wallet or phone. You can cancel cards or get a new phone. I'd even let them have my car if it was a car robbery. Whatever. I just want to live. Not die. And cars are traceable anyways with what's built into them.
@@yabe-kfptentacultist i can see it being true tho, just like there is weird dudes that think they can pull off a street fighter move to beat a mugger, there are crazy girls that feel a man should fight for her in any occasion, i had a friend like that
I remember that. If that were my girlfriend, I’d dump her on the spot.
Story 3: I guess it would make sense if the husband secretly loved OP's sister and was upset that he couldn't have the life he fantasized with her. If he was already cheating, then I don't know how to explain his response
My suspicion is he is actively cheating with her and is worried the baby may be his.
Crying is loss, not fear or anger
He's gross af if he's fantasizing about her
He's even worse than that if he's actually cheating
I'm thinking the baby is his and the sister told him to bugger off.
I think if he's secretly loved her sister that it's sad and pathetic that he would actually do that like come on now like you already got a girl why you crying
Story 2: OP calls her out for leaving OP out for so long, and then everyone has the audacity to call OP the one in the wrong. Like, the peck is wrong with everyone, like I know that the mom clearly doesn't love OP, but what about everyone else?
The peck? IS CZcams RESTRICTING OUR COMMENTS NOW!
WHAT THE *fumble sticks.*
I think I heard the update for story 2 and it looks like they figured shit out and everything ended up well.
In the update, things got a lot more clearer... Turn out, OP's mom wanted to take him back some time ago, but the grandparents opposed to it telling her that OP had his own life with them, that he had friends were they live, that he goes to school there, etc..., and the mom felt kinda bad for wanting to uproot him, so she never took him back.
She never intended to deprive him of his room or to change the plan (him living with them during uni), she sounds like a good mom all around, but allowed her parents to influence her on OP living situation.
Same for the stepdad, he felt bad for the situation.
It was quite an happy ending.
OP sees himself on the outside looking in. He talks about how his mom cuddled and gave him gifts but did she ever act like a mom or left that to her parents?
@@Musachovzkji Yea, the update does clear some things up but I think they all still suck because at no point did ANY of them ask OP what HE wanted to do. It was pretty selfish of all the adults in his life to not ask his thoughts on the matter because ALL of them were afraid of his answer. The mom had a fear of rejection and the grandparents were afraid OP would not chose them so they all decided what they though best for OP (By not rocking the boat?) without ever talking to him to avoid any negative feelings at the time but now OP has those negative feelings because of their choices... (Middle school age is like 11 to 14, give or take, and most courts will ASK the child when 12 what they want so they can't even argue "he was too young!" BS!) lets hope for the best moving forward and hope OP is not going to have a baby roommate when they realize they don't want a baby/toddler living in their room for the next 4 years... LOL
Oh man, rSlash didn't see the update for story 2. If I remember right, OP's parents and grandparents had decided WITHOUT HIM that it'd be best for him to stay with his grandparents until the end of high school so he wouldn't lose his friends. And the parents figured out the rooms so that OP would still fit there once he goes to uni. But it's still really sucky to just decide FOR him and not ASK what he wants or even just explain WHY he still lives with his grandparents.
That was my gut reaction to this story, it might just be because it's such a common thing here to decide who children stay with based on if that means they move and leave their friends or not so the fact that it was already planned for OP to come live with his mom once he started university made me think OP knew this was the decision that was made and this was just the understandable vent about feeling lesser in this situation for a teen. I get that rSlash version is pretty common on reddit but this one just felt too involved to be another one off those, feels like OP would have gotten shut out more with that kind off parent.
People really don’t understand the importance of open communication.
Surprises are nice, but be careful that they aren’t at the risk of hurt feelings
He really needs to do a better job in finding updates.
@@thejourney1369 this, he doesn't seem to check replies OP may have made. Unsure when he films, so the update may have come after making the video, but honestly it's not the 1st time I've seen him overreact to a situation or misunderstand something.
For story 4 i think rslash had the best decision of not commenting. It's a situation of no matter what you say some people would just dog on you
It sucks. It's a no win situation but women have a right to get an abortion or keep the baby, but men should have a right to have no paternal obligations including child support. People say that's wrong but what's good for the goose...
Men should have the right to choose to be in a child's life or not if the women chooses to keep it
@@iris5678 "but women have a right to get an abortion or keep the baby, but men should have a right to have no paternal obligations including child support."
That is my personal take on it as well.
Either both parents should have the right to decide on not being parents or neither. Giving 100 % control to one party is inheriently unjust.
All very true, but what should be and what reality is are two very different things. Dude is shirking his responsibility and the law, and he full well knows it. (Getting advice from lawyers and such). If he really loved this girl, he wouldn't have abandoned her, and it's unreasonable to think she would've just gone and gotten an abortion like it's nothing. 5 out of 5 buttholes to this guy.
@@mattclose5490 if she really loved him, she would accept him saying he wasn't ready.
She didn't show any care towards his feelings, so why should he show care for her?
My dad once knew an attorney friend who'd keep an entire wad of $100 bills on his person, which amounted to a thousand or two. Dad asked him if he was worried about getting robbed, and his response was something like "Well, if they rob me, then they'd won't have to rob someone else for a while."
Why rob someone else when they can keep robbing the guy who's a walking ATM.
what a chad
Good story in theory but a dumb idea. It isnt like robbers are going to be satisfied with a good score and stop, Most people dont quit working after getting a nice bonus.
Say you’re rich without *saying* you’re rich
Buy a gun to protect yourself, and they will never rob anyone again.
I think that the husband and sister either had a full blown affair or a one night stand and the husband is convinced the kid is his. And now he’s having a crisis of whether or not to come out and ask or stand by the side indefinitely not knowing the truth.
either that, or he recently discovered he's infertile and hasn't had the chance to tell OP yet. he broke down because it suddenly hit him he will never have kids of his own
he could have just found out about a life-threatening condition in general and the thought he might die before he has a chance to start a proper family is bringing him down.
@@zilesis1 finally one other person in this comments section who even convinced that he's the father
My alternative to cheating with that he lost someone like a child or pregnant partner before meeting OP and the pregnancy announcement just brought those memories up to the surface
@@lahlybird895 Nah. The baby is his, or he thinks it is. That’s the only thing that explains his reaction.
OP's husband's behaviour might not have anything to do with the baby news, and could just be a coincidence.
OP mentioned her husband deals with work and personal stress fairly easily, but that's from her point of view. Her husband might be struggling with something, and probably has been for a good while, but OP opened her eyes to it at the moment her sister announced her pregnancy. I assume her husband doesn't talk to her about stuff, so she just assumes everything is fine, because he deals with it in silence. Most men do.
I mean, if OP and her husband have money issues then a baby is the worst thing that could happen at that time. So, when OP's sister announced her pregnancy, OP's husband probably thought "if my wife gets pregnant right now we're screwed."
Or he might've been R-worded by the sister.
for the husband crying story: another option is that OP's husband is sick or was sick at some point and it has/will affect his fertility. and knowing the sister got pregnant suddenly made him realise he would never have chidren of his own, so he broke down
i'm inclined to think it's a recently discovered condition and he was psyching himself up to tell OP, but he just isn't in the headspace to tell her yet
That... Actually a decently plausible option
That was my thought. I like giving people the benefit of the doubt.
Yep that’s exactly what I was thinking . The husband might be incapable of having kids . So this freaked him out
@@kelly-bisson and that's how you'll get screwed over in life lol
Or he might have some kind of trauma surrounding children. For example, if he suffered abuse growing up and associate pregnant women with that experience.
It is also pretty rude of OP to suggest her husband can't get stressed from work. Everyone have a limit.
R/Slash, I've got a suggestion for a word that YT might not ban. What about Peach Crevice? "Am I the Peach Crevice?" "I'll give you a 3 out of 5 peach crevice." lollll
Story 3: In my head the whole time you were reading the story, I thought that the husband slept with OP's sister and the kid was his. The shock and getting sick makes sense with that. He thought they were careful and now she's pregnant. He's worried that the sister will reveal that he is the father and he will lose everything. The crying in the shower also makes sense with this outcome. He could be crying because he wants to be a part of the kid's life as a dad, but he doesn't want to reveal that he slept with the sister and if the sister has a boyfriend then, naturally he would assume that he is the father. So in a way he is losing something. The chance to be a father to his kid and potentially be with the sister who he may have feelings for. It's possible that's not the case, but my gut is saying that he slept with the sister and that kid she's having is his or at least there's a possibility it is. Maybe I've just lost hope in humanity.
If that turns out to be the case the ironic thing about it is that his acting like that is giving himself away.
Nah, you nailed it. Any trust you put in humanity was misplaced.
and here I was thinking that it was tied to trauma/ptsd related to children or his childhood. I guess I'm either too familiar with that kinda thing or too optimistic
I believe in the update the husband was r-worded by the sister. I have to look it up
I have a bad feeling about story 3. Throwing up, crying in the shower, and shutting down feels like trama. Was the husband assaulted by the op's sister?
Edit: I am sad to say that the comments in this thread confirm my suspicions. It's such a horrible thing to experience and thankfully Ops husband is taking the legal route. As for the people on here who saw the signs of assult, it's good to know that more people can recognize this behavior and hopefully will be able to help others who have experienced similar trama.
Right?
Thats where my mind went. Its a really extreme reaction.
That actually makes a lot more sense
I was wondering that too
That thought crossed my mind also because honestly his behaviour is the exact same as someone I used to know who was r***d at a party and ended up pregnant.
With the weird husband story, could be he's found out at some point he's infertile and the sisters pregnancy just hit him like a ton of bricks because he can't have that with his wife.
Story 2: I think there was an update to that story. Apparently, I think OP's mom was given REALLY crappy advice by a professional NOT to separate OP from the grandparents because he's been with them for so long and ... something BS about imprinting. She REALLY wanted to bring OP with her to Vancouver, but didn't want to screw him up mentally-- but SURPRISE!!!
I think everyone had a heart to heart conversation that day and apologized to OP. I think OP's grandparents see OP as their son and don't understand why he feels the way he does and feel that he doesn't appreciate what they've done for him, when he obviously does. It was really crappy for everyone to invalidate OP's feelings like that.
Still doesn't change the fact the mom pretty much went against her gut and left OP behind. I mean, she was young, scared and wanted to do good by OP, but c'mon girl. Yeah, thank the grandparents for being surrogates, but OP's not their kid-- and it was time for her to step up, like yesterday. Anyways that's just what I remember.
*Edit: Okay, I think someone said The mom DEFINITELY wanted to take OP with her after middle school, but her parents guilted/pressured her into letting him stay with them. OP and his mom are reconciling. She always had a room just for him.
Story 5: Drop the GF OP. I keep thinking about that story with the dumb exBF who decided to go into a heroic monologue in the middle of getting robbed at knife point and the OP from that story saved his dumbass by throwing her wallet and dragging him away. He was angry that she "emasculated" him. (He later lied about what happened to his mom and mutual friends because "the truth was too embarrassing".)
Yeah that 2nd story has a different tone
Exactly
Re the second story, I was actually thinking this, primarily based on his grandparent's reaction. To me, it sounded like his mother's parents pushed her to continue with her life and took him in as their child, but unlike many cases where the grandparents step in, they were honest with him, and his mum actually did love her child and did what she could to be in his life. So that meant he never truly understood that he was, by prior arrangement, his grandparent's child.
I think it is also important to remember that contact over the last couple of years was going to be limited due to covid, especially when younger, more at-risk children were involved.
I actually don't think there are any true idiots in this case; I think all elders cared and were doing their best for OP, giving him a stable upbringing, being honest regarding his mother's role in his life, for attempting to still be a part of his life despite the distance, etc. The pandemic and misunderstandings got in the way giving OP a sense of abandonment, and rather than speak out, he bottled it up, and it grew into a more significant thing.
R/ I think is too hard on his mum and Jack not moving him to live with him. Based on timelines, he would be settled in school, and he would have a routine and a strong bond with his grandparents who were raising him. It would be better to keep him in an established home than to put him into a very new situation, in which both parents were working, or a young child would monopolise their attention, whilst instead, the grandparents would be able to provide him more attention and time, and he was settled with them.
I really hate the judgment r/ gave as I'm sure his mother felt guilt abandoning him, but I honestly think she put him first at every point; at the cost of her relationship with him, it is doubtful anyone would recommend moving a child from a longterm stable home and putting them into a loving home, but one in which is a. Unfamiliar and b, with people who they have only a limited relationship with. I think the most telling line in this post is when he comments that she stopped bringing him gifts. To him living with his mum would be rainbows and sparkles every day, spoiling him as she did on visits. Still, in reality, he would have to share her with her husband and their children, and based on this post I don't think he would find that easy, as well as having to be actually parented by her rather than being the fantastic mum who visits, bringing gifts, hugs and never being a parent in the sense of being in the position of day to day rule setting and enforcement. I also think her visiting him less was more to do with travelling pregnant or with young children during a pandemic. At no point do I see any of these relationships as toxic; they are trying to do the best for him and give him a good childhood. However, like every good family, there's miscommunication and times when mistakes are made or things do not work out how we intend or dream.
@@LindzTheLooneyOfLondon he definitely needs to do a better job on looking for updates. He was blasting and judging the mom when he didn’t know what he was talking about.
@@thejourney1369 yeah, r/ tends to do this. It's not the 1st time and he's been called out many times.
He'll misunderstand a situation or read something wrong. He also never seems to check the replies OP makes. Often the OP will clarify something in a reply but not edit the post to reflect it. He needs to get better at that, I get he's doing fresh posts so the edit may not have been added until after the video was filmed too, but sometimes he does old posts from weeks ago and by then OP has already clarified some things.
I really hope there's an update with the husband getting sick from learning OP's sister is pregnant. My first thought was _he's the father,_ only because I know that some guys would experience the morning sickness if their girlfriend or whoever is pregnant by them. It happened to my brother twice. The whole crying in the shower thing is a complete mystery to me though
The morning sickness thing is usually a combination of psychology and philology. It has something to do with excess estrogen within the man. Sympathy sickness is usually because the father has more estrogen than usual [not always]. I think there's a better explanation somewhere, but you have to be around the pregnant partner. Dude had some other issues going on.
A couple other theories comments have brought up is
-He had been sexually assaulted by the sister and she got pregnant because of it (and quite a few reasons for his reaction stem from that, like trauma or fear that she might use the pregnancy to destroy his marriage)
-He found out he has fertility issues, is insecure about them and hasn't told OP because of that, and the sister being pregnant just reminded him that he might never be able to have biological children with his wife (which I imagine must cause a lot of stress in people who have a great desire for biological children)
Though the theories of him having an affair/one-night stand with the sister or fantasizing about a life with the sister are still highly possible
Story 2 has an update. I suggest you look into it. The last story sounds like the boyfriend in another story who was obsessed with bing a hero and the GF threw her stuff behind the robber and ran, the BF spun this exact story to her family and friends to turn them against her
I too thought that it was the same story
BRO, I was thinking the same thing and cringing if it was actually the bf but nvm XD
I was thinking of that as well
Story 1 or 3?
Story 3: The optimist in me says that if OP and her husband don't/can't have kids, maybe he is crying and vomiting because of grief from not having or being able to have kids. The pessimisst in me says maybe the baby is OPs husband.
Says a lot for me that in story 3, the throwing up; being sick and crying in the shower came off as ASSAULT to me
A third possibility for the third story: Perhaps the husband is acting like this because he found out he can’t have kids and hearing the announcement triggered something in him. While Occam’s Razor is useful, I tend to go by another saying - never attribute to malice that which can just as easily be attributed to ignorance. Definitely looking forward to seeing this on bestofredditorupdates tho
This is reasonable but I do think he wouldve told op
@@milkman169yearsago7 unless he litterally just found out and he doesnt know how tell her. Especially if she made it abundantly clear that opyion of not having kids was a deal breaker. If he cant provide her with the children she wants he might lose her.
A slight variation of this came to mind as well, that the husband could potentially be a closeted transgender woman who wants to be able to get pregnant and have a kid and knows biologically its never going to happen and when confronted with someone else living the life she wants as well, broke down. I know its kinda a far out there theory. It could be equally plausible that he has found out that he is infertile and doesn't know how to tell his wife. I agree with Rslash when he said that the crying in the shower sounds like mourning and loss, which to me makes cheating feel a bit less plausible and I can certainly understand if it were either of these how it would be emotionally devastating to the husband when in that situation.
Third story : all of the opitions ive seen mentioned here could be true. But its also possible that op's sister might have assualted her husband and that is why he is reacting that way. Off course i hope that that isnt the case as sa is traumatic and i hope op can find out what is going on
Story 4 sounds like the girlfriend baby trapped him. He claims they use protection and contraceptions but still got pregnant. Odds of getting pregnant are fairly low but still there but those odds go up if someone sabatages them.
regardless, it takes 2 to tango and protection can fail. He needs to own up and support his kid.
It does take two and protection can fail. However how is it fair that a woman has a right to choose to carrier but a man has to support the child regardless of wanting the child or not?
@@camarofan2008 How would it be fair if it was the other way around and he wanted the baby but she did not. He made the choice to sleep with her and sometimes the result of that choice, even with all the precautions taken, can lead to and pregnancy and baby.
@@leeatkin9925 it's about everyone having the right to choose I think. Men should not tell women whether or not they can keep or lose the baby. Women shouldn't be able to tell men they have to pay for their decision. If you agree both parties are equally culpable, then you should agree that both parties should have an equal level of choice
@@tannergordon8302 but until both parties can be pregnant it will never be an equal choice as only one body will be stressed with the pregnancy.
I have a little dark theory about story 3. Though i Rslash’s crush/affair theory is most accurate, but it could also be that OP’s hubby was taken against his will. Maybe he’s scared that the SIL will tell everyone the baby is his and break up his marriage. Crying doesn’t always have to be because of guilt, it could also be because he’s scared.
I deem this theory extremely unlikely but it is something to wonder about.
my thoughts exactly
I got that vibe, too. Not to mention how unlikely it is that people believe that's what happened. Could be wrong, but yeah
Story 1 : the way op serves revenge is ice cold and I like it...
Story 2 : agree with rslash.. op mom is systematically replacing op with her other kids and when he gets upset at being replaced she and everyone around him get upset that op showed some emotion and showed humanity.. op mom is a manipulative dbag..
Story 3 : prediction.. it's his baby..
Story 4 : op not ready for a baby ..op ex wanted a baby To F his life.. he left.. honestly I don't know how to feel about this story..
Story 5 : plot twist the GF is in on it with the mugger ..
To story 2, OP mom is not a dbag. Rslash like always is not reading essential updates. Op mom wanted to take him long time ago to live with her. but op grandparents were argue with her it will be much better to stay with them. But in update everything went clear with op mom and his stepdad and they are in good terms.
Story 4 makes me wonder if the GF was trying to baby-trap the BF. Despite OP saying she used protection, it sounds like she wanted children sooner than OP did and I'm wondering if she decided to take matters into her own hands
@@Bremend sounds interesting..
@@Bremend Protection can fail. Even when using both hormonal birth control and condoms. The usage of condoms have to be 100% perfect to give full protection. Few does that. Hormonal birth control can easily be affected by other medicines and sickness. One example is antibiotics. Additionally, the pills only works properly if you take them at the same time, everyday. And even then they can fail.
The OP is just being selfish. Considering the climate surrounding abortion in the USA right now, he is behaving like a child. Forced to have a baby? Yeah, that's the new reality for a whole lot of women.
@@Bremend I think that’s a dangerous assumption. Birth control fails all the time, even overlapping birth control, especially because they’re young and probably not using it correctly. A hypothetical abortion and a real prospective abortion are two very different things to consider. Not saying she shouldn’t have stuck to her word about their family plan, but it takes two to tango. Plus, all he had to do was refuse parental rights.
Something I learned recently on reddit, if you are getting robbed throw your wallet behind them so you are able to run away. Not sure how well it works but it sounds good in theory.
The crying husband. A mate of mine had something similar, at least on the weirdness turned out that her bloke was unable to conceive and kept it quiet their whole relationship because he was in denial.
With the 2nd story, you're supposed to reassure that person that it's not true and ask why they would feel like that. Not shaming them for admitting that they feel unwanted.
The real robbery would be having to go to the hospital to get seen to after being hurt by a guy on the street. Lose a few hundred to a random guy with a gun or lose several thousands at the hospital.
I've never understood the mentality of a cheater. They won't leave one relationship before beginning another, they blame the person they're cheating on for their creating, they fully expect the new person to trust them implicitly even though they were literally cheating together, and to top it all off, they don't understand why people don't trust them. They're just blithering idiots.
I suspect it is a matter of mixed feelings,poor self reflection, selfishness and financial security.
Last story. That gf reminds me of that other story where the guy thought he was a super hero. It would be an interesting show if they got together.
The story about the guy crying over the sister's pregnancy, I'm betting he was crying because he'd been cheating with her and now that there's going to be physical proof of it he knows his life is about to collapse around him.
Story 3: I have a extremely out of left field guess of what's happened. Maybe the husband had a bad experience with pregnant women in the past and it came back to haunt him. Like maybe his mom (or a female he knew) had a horrible pregnancy or had a miscarriage and he saw the aftermath and it scarred him, and he's worried about seeing it happen again.
THIS IS DEFINITELY NOT LIKELY buuuuuut I wanted to put that idea out there. As I know someone else who actually has had somthing similar happen to them and they're literally afraid of seeing women pregnant
Bro how does r slash produce these super long videos EVERYDAY. Absolute Mad Man.
I wouldn’t call them long…
True. But I’m so happy about it
Mr.Reddit does longer vids
He just records a bunch of these and then has someone else (an editor) put them together. It's pretty common for these reddit videos. Other do it the other way around and use an AI or automated reader to get the audio and then the editor puts it together to upload.
he pays for editors. pretty common practice among youtubers with a decent following and consistent upload schedule
Story 3: Husband feels overwhelmed, that he is going to be a father in secret
Story 4: it's disappointing that the mother gets the final decision but the man is still liable, even though he expressly stated he wasn't comfortable raising a child. Seems like she went behind his back and modified their protection.
The woman can opt out of motherhood and kill the child. Or keep the child and sue the father for child support. The father gets zero say either way.
women SHOULD have the right to keep the baby no matter what but at that point if the man walks away it should all be on her . I also thought some tampering may have occured
I see your point, however let's also look at the fact that instead of going the legal route OP chose to leave the country to avoid responsibility. If OP had gone the legal route then I could see his point more, however running away is not how to handle this.
@Eeveelite TheoryofEeveelution i mean technically not legally obligated to pay now that he ran away
@theoryofeeveelution who determines the "correct" way to handle this? The law? He's operating withing the law, or operating where he isn't constrained by the law. Morality? Is it morale to force someone to be a parent when they aren't ready?
Last story… remember that guy that wanted to be all vigilante when him and his girlfriend were being robbed?
Yeah. In these situations, it sucks, but it’s literally best that you just give em what they want if you’re unarmed.
I'm currently laid up in the hospital about to under go major surgery. I just want to say thank you for keeping my spirits up with your videos
Hope all goes well bruhh...
I hope all goes well and you’re right as rain in no time. 🤗
Good luck!
Story 2: You need to read the updates! This story has a twist. The Grandparents are stopping the mom. She and Jack have been wanting to bring OP home since they finished collage, but the Grandparents have full custody and won't let that happen. Like, there is some emotional blackmail going on or something. The Mom and Jack had to wait until OP was an adult to move against the Grandparents and bring OP home.
It doesn’t make sense. They were graduated and could’ve fought in court for him assuming they have well paying jobs. Also, there’s still the fact that everyone invalidated OP’s feelings. Crappy grandparents
@@KarmaTube5 It's been a long time since I've read this one, but the (grand)parents forced her (OP's mom) to sign over custody since she was a minor. She went to school with the understanding that she could take OP home when she graduated with her degree. Her parents refused, something along the lines of OP already establishing root with them. I believe the mother did go to court to battle them. I also think that it had something to do with her parents having strong ties in the community, so this wasn't helpful. The grandparents want to take away visitation. They were also making her feel guilty for only showing up when she could. Which wouldn't be an issue if they let her take him back. Mom was also told to keep her distance. Mom felt super guilty for this all along. I'd have to go read it again.
@@BishiGirl72 oh wow
Story 3: I think you weren't thinking completely about it. I immediately thought he was cheating and the baby was his. Of course, there is also the possibility the sister forced him into relations. Female r word is something that happens, and his reaction is absolutely something I could see if he was forced and then found out a pregnancy happened from it.
Doesn't even has to be the sister, it could have been from a prior situation that came back to haunt him. Like, a woman drugged him and then announced she was pregnant. Causing him distress.
Are you sure that a woman can r.p. a man?
@Анна depends on the definition used in law, but yes, men can be victims as well. Merely having an election does not mean consent. And drugs or coercion, especially when she is older, or an authority (teacher/boss)
@@user-mo8fq5ce4q if the guy doesn’t give consent then absolutely
@@user-mo8fq5ce4q if it's contact against your will, regardless of who the assaulter and the victim, the answer is yes. Dude on dude? Yes. Dude on chick? Yes. Chick on dude? Yes. Chick on chick? Yes. If you didn't want it and you were forced, coerced, or tricked, the answer is yes.
Strange that rslash didn't give a response to story 4. I guess it was because its a very controversial topic or he had some VERY strong opinions on it
Of course. He's a cuck. He's never for anything affecting a woman negatively even if it means negatively affecting a guy.
He didn't even have to have strong opinions about it. No matter what he said, people would blast him because it is such a controversial topic
For the third story I think OP's husband and sister had a one night stand, possibly while drunk, and OP's husband immediately connected that it's his, and is having a mental break down thinking the sister might blackmail him to keep it secret from OP
Am I the only one that feels like I've heard the first story from Rslash before? Somehow still just as entertaining , thank you for the daily content ♥
I thought that as well.
But I think I just heard it on a different channel before.
RSlash hasn't done that story before so you probably heard it somewhere else.
Story 3- after checking, people are saying there was a deleted update, which the sister actually SA the husband, and he’s sick because he thinks it might be his. People are saying she had to delete it cause there’s a police investigation. No proof, just what the majority of people are saying happened.
I’m surprised nobody is talking about story 4, it takes 2 to tango, but the woman gets the final say on abortion, op is/was being forced into situation which he overall can’t avoid by normal means, and has to leave the country; another classic case of injustice in America, truly sickening and a huge double standard
Rslash, you need to read the updates. The mom had a valid reason to leave op with his grandparents.
To me this is nah, mom thought leaving her child with his grandparents was best cause they said it was best. She wanted him to live with her but she heard from her parents that he would be better then and she saw him happy with his friends and didn't want to end that
Op just doesn't have the whole story
I can see why rslash thinks the mom doesn't want her son but there's so much information he didn't get to
Well that is good to know! I think.
@@himynameisfelipe4042 the good part of the update is the mom promising to make an effort to spend more type with her son.
I'm glad op and his mom will be able to grow closer
Story 4: it's ironic the gf said it was "her choice to make" & her "sole decision" like hello you didn't create the baby yourself there's a father involved so it should be there decision to make not just hers.
Its the reason why i im getting a vasectomy...
Having an other get to make a decision like that isnt something im comfortable with...
That story is the exact reason why i want it
Im not ready
Im nowhere near stable
And if anything were to break and the lady says imma keep it
Im screwed, not lettin that shit happen
Yupp. I'm pro choice but glad it's getting increasingly more difficult to get one. Until a guy has equal say or the option to 100% opt out before or at birth, then take the woman's choice too. My life is affected for 18 years? So is yours
@@anthonyruiz8519 That's just stupid. You don't risk your life and health. Women still die from complications related to pregnancy and childbirth. You can't be pro-choice and want to force women to remain pregnant.
If you want to be extreme, consider the fact that OP ran away because he didn't want to take responsibility for the child. Should the girlfriend have lacked the option of abortion, she would have no reprieve whatsoever. She couldn't have said that she wasn't ready, because politicians had already decided she had to.
@@Ikajo I can be pro choice and and want to force them. Because the world isn't black and white. I don't think abortion itself should be illegal. But both parents should have to decide. If either is against it they take responsibility for the child and the other has zero because they let it be known in time that they didn't want the kid and the other parent did. As it stood women had 100% say. Guy wants the kid? Too bad mom gets to abort it. Dad doesn't want a kid too bad the mom chooses to have it and he's paying child support for 18 years. Women had at least 2 no responsibility options (abortion, adoption) and men still have none.
So yes I believe mother AND father should be able to choose an abortion. As long as the guy has no say I stand for banning abortion.
And just before it comes up cuz this is always the argument dumb ass people always try to use. No if someone was raped or molested then clearly no there is no need for the father's consent or a ban on an abortion
@@anthonyruiz8519 Yeah, no. If you want to force women to give birth, you are not pro-choice. You are just pro forced birth, and that's the opposite of a choice.
There is a huge difference in a man abandoning his child and a woman choosing abortion. The biggest being that in one scenario, there is an actual child that will have to deal with being abandoned. Woman abandoning their born children is just as bad, BTW.
And again, no one should be forced into risking their life. Forced birth is doing exactly that. A man will never have to risk their life to have a baby, a woman is always risking hers.
Oh come on! We all know OP's husband is the baby daddy for the 3rd story.
With the third story, I have to wonder if the husband DIDN'T cheat, but that he recently found out he's infertile and is unsure of how to tell his wife. That would explain why he reacted so badly to a pregnancy announcement, but it would also be really sucky situation for him
The baby being the hubby’s could still be option 3.
“I’m going to have a baby! Yayyy!”
“Oh, God! I.think I’m going to throw up. It could me mine!”
Story 4: I'm 100% on OP's side. I believe in her body, her choice, but she can't expect him to care for a child he didn't want nor can care for.
same, i feel bad that he literally had to 'flee' the country to avoid consequences of a decision he wasnt a part of.
women SHOULD have the right to decide if they want to keep a baby or not
and men SHOULD have the right to abandon the baby and any responsibilites towards it
it takes two people to make a baby so why can one person alone decide how to deal with the fact that there is a pregnancy?
Everyone in this comment section is a bad person
@@devyn3006 how so? or do you not have the mental faculties to give reasons for your outlandishly unreasonable statements?
i mean i assume its about the "he became a father and should take responsibility" issue but for all i know you know about the diamond mining slaves i employ(/s), you gotta be a bit more precise there buddy
@@vhaelen326 sure man I'll be more precise if you abandon your child and the woman you impregnate your human trash your also human trash if you support that
@@vhaelen326 also what do Dimond mining slaves have to do with this bro?
God, I felt the second story. My mom played favorites too with my oldest sister being the favorite I was constantly compared to(Or rather got told how my sister did this or that better than I did), my twin that was the black sheep since she spoke out more but also got into trouble and me, who was forgotten about, since I wanted to avoid conflict.
Parents that play favorites and forget/neglect their kids are some of the lowest lows one can sink to, only slightly better than straight up physically or sexually abusive parents.
"not because she loves you" HAD ME ROLLING
Story 2: love how you immediately label someone as toxic due to one side of a story. It is highly possible that the mother thought OP was having a better life with his grandparents than what she could have provided and when she could she didn't want to disrupt his life by uprooting him but attempted to stay in his life. And before anyone says this situation never happens, I've been there and have actually helped others in similar situations.
yeah rslash assuption was really terrible, he just make up everything and judge with less than half of the information
So, on the 2nd story, there was an update that R slash must have missed, but other commenters here have also mentioned. In that update & OPs responses to the first post, a lot of important info is added:
- It comes out that OPs grandparents are "old fashioned", but struggled to have children, only finally successful when his gma was 46 & gpa was 52! They admitted to OP that they "spoiled" her & "she was their favourite out of all of their kids". So there must have been fosters children or adopted siblings of OPs mom (perhaps all grown by the time she was born even), but both their "old fashioned" & history of taking in foster/adopted kids, it explains why OPs mom didn't have (or wasn't given the option of) an abortion.
In an additional problem, it also suggests that OPs grandparents likely saw OP as THEIR child*, another chance to maybe "do it right this time", & it may have never occurred to them that OP & his mom would want a mother/child relationship to themselves. I'm concerned that OPs grandparents never saw OP as anything other than another "miracle child" of THEIRS. They were also used to being "older parents", so didn't see being 61 & 67 as a barrier to raising a high energy baby/toddler/child.
*I'm also concerned about how OP was conceived, since any time OP has tried to bring up his bio dad, the grandparents get angry & OPs mom gets sad/quiet. For a min, I was concerned about a religion/cult aspect, with such a preference for large/bio families, the tension between grandparents & OPs mom, & attempts to both isolate OP from his mom, while flip-flopping between golden child/scapegoat with OPs mom & OP.
However, they don't seem gullible/unreasonable enough to be in a religious cult since they seem to be appropriately afraid of COVID for their age, put down boundaries with OPs mom, Jack, & family that they must follow COVID safety protocols if they want to come visit (which caused a significant increase in isolation, since they refused to follow the rules), & allowed OPs mom to finish high school & got a college education.
- When OP was 13 & about to start high school, his mom really wanted to move him in with her, but the grandparents argued with her "a lot", eventually convinced her that it was in OPs best interest to stay with them. She took OP to a sports game & saw how much fun OP was having with his friends, which solidified her decision that OP would be better off staying with the grandparents. At no point was OP asked, included in, or even notified about the conversation until after this initial post. I have a feeling this was discussed frequently throughout OP's life & every point of change in OPs mom's situations, but saw OP going into high school was the last straw/chance for her to move him in before college.
-OPs mom mentions how "independent" OP seemed & that OP didn't seem to need as much attention since he always had his grandparents. I wonder how often the grandparents used these two points to drive a wedge between the two, along with any other "mistakes" & "poor decisions" OP's mom may have made throughout her life to underscore that they (again, senior citizens) were better equipped/models than her to take care of OP.
-OP mentions that there was a child psychologist involved around age 5, when OPs mom had finished school" that agreed with the grandparents that "it would cause me damage to rip me away from my grandparents when their home was all I'd known".
-OP was also frequently referring to his half siblings as "their kids" & didn't really notice he did that, so I wonder if the grandparents see OP's half siblings as their grandchildren or just use different language ("your mom's kids" vs "your sisters") because they don't see OP as a grandchild, but rather a child.
-OP mentions that when he has tried to talk to his grandparents about moving in with his mother, " they just went into a rant about all the things they've done for me that I should be grateful for.
Honestly, I think the grandparents are 95% at fault here. OPs mom didn't have a great start & it sounds like she wasnt given any options to have her son BE her son. It sounds like the grandparents got a psychologist involved & likely threatened to sue for full custody/rights when she tried pushing for a closer relationship or to move him in with her, but since OP is now old enough he can legally choose, the grandparents are relying on emotionally manipulation, like needing help as COVID risks, while giving him the impression they are giving him more freedom. I'm curious to see if they allow him more time with her.
- OPs update was essentially his mom & jack apologized for their distance, all the above updates that prevented them (likely legally) having him visit more or move in, OPs mom/Jack promised they will have space for him despite the baby, there is mention of their basement that's being rented out currently, will 100% pay for his college, are looking forward to him moving in for college, & excited for him to finally be living with his siblings. There's no mention about how the grandparents are taking this or if they will be ok with OP going to see them more, especially since its still such a severe COVID risk for him to be coming & going to a home that doesn't take protocols seriously.
For the 2nd story. I’ve heard so many stories about young parents leaving their kids with the grandparents while they go to college. OP even says in the story “obviously, I stayed with my grandparents.” It’s actually not. Any good parent would find a way to bring their child while going to school.
15:05 immediately making me recall another story- where the OP of that story said her boyfriend wanted to be the “hero” against an armed mugger, but end of story basically, the dude lied saying OP kept telling him to do things and be a hero.
Now, I want to see if this is even more similar after writing this message.
I do not believe anything else was familiar. Oh well, coincidences are funny to think about.
Obviously he’s worried that it is his baby as a result of cheating
That last story about the mugging, wasn't there a girl who wrote a similar story where she said her boyfriend gave a different account of things trying to make himself look better. Is this story from that boyfriend? Or is this just an unrelated but similar story of a couple getting mugged?
Unrelated story
The third story makes me think it's his kid possibly.
Rule number 1 of getting mugged is just hand everything over so you don't get shot BUT I'd like to stress a second, equally important rule. DON'T GO ANYWHERE WITH THEM. If they try to order you somewhere, you're probably better off calling the bluff and getting shot/stabbed there than whatever they have planned for you.
Story 3: they had an affair, he assumes the baby is his (no mention of the father, be it a boyfriend or a husband), he knows he's messed up, and doesn't know what to do next.
Story 4: the likelihood of birth control and protection failing at the same time is very low. She baby trapped him or cheated with someone else.
Story 3: I think OP's husband did have that affair, and that baby is his. That's the first thing that came to my mind. He might be sad because he's about to lose his current life once things come out.
Love your vids, RSlash! My only qualm is that you've started repeating a lot of reddit stories, to the point that every other video has at least 1 story I've already head from you, sometimes more. I get bummed when I realize I have to skip through the video to new stories. Other than that, great content!
I was wondering if I was the only one noticing this
Is he repeating stories or is he late af on stories we've all probably heard?
Yeah I noticed a week back and posted a response, I wasn't sure anyone noticed but since I BINGE THIS religiously I've picked it up.
I listen to most of his videos and I haven't heard a story twice.
@@jamessargent6689 for me I’ve noticed it for more than a year, at least many months
Honestly, story 3 sounds like a textbook case of s*xual ab*se. The vomiting, the crying, the refusal to talk about it, the breakdown. I feel like that sister acted predatory towards/ took advantage of OP’s husband, and got pregnant from that, which would explain the husband’s reaction.
Whoooooa Rslash, you cannot just hop to that conclusion about his mom. She clearly does love him but she's an irresponsible parent. Op is very young saying something like that is a bit drastic.
Story 3: im willing to bank on it being that the husband was cheating and his response to the news was out of fear of it coming out later and consequences to follow with it
Story 4: i honestly thought back to the post in R/relationship advice where husband didnt want kids with his wife and got baby trapped into two more after she planned to tamper with his condoms and come off birth control per her friend's advice, maybe im off with this cause shit happens but at the same time if that happened, well...the truth is stranger than fiction?
The update to story two kinda adds so much light to the story. As well as explains the grandparents reaction.
That woman must've glared at the robber thinking "I'd like to speak to your Manager"!
Stroy 3: I think there was either an update or more explained in the comments. OP's husband had been sleeping with the sister and it's his child. She knew and they had planned to keep it a secret but at the announcement, he broke down
Story 1 I heard this one before. That's how you get revenge.
4th story: I really do think there needs to be a way to step away from parental rights. Like, have it cost as much as an abortion and state that it has to be done during the same time frame that abortions are legal (and if the father claims he wasn't informed in time then the mother has to prove that he was). The money paid is then given to the mom. First half of it, and if she decides to have an abortion then the other half is given back to the dad. If she keeps the baby she gets the other half when the baby is born.
I fully stand by women's right to chose. But I think men should have a choice as well. Having a baby at an inopportune moment in your life can really screw you over. And it's going to make you hate your kid.
The girlfriend was obviously expecting her boyfriend to tap into his training with the monks of Wu Tan and experience his superhero origin story.
Y'all know Rslash had some vitriol to spew at the guy in Story 4. Must have taken some restraint to remove it
Why should he? The guy didn't want to have a kid, she forced in on him, so he left. I probably would have done the same thing.
@@KingHayabusa384 Rslash would definitely call the guy an AH, not the other way around. Which is a bs take, that's most likely why he took it down.
His gf was pregnant despite birth control and condoms…
I believe that but I also believe that it's possible RSlash is on OP's side but is scared that the comments might crucify him for that.
This kind of topic seems quite divided.
@@YourPal1 Nah, he never chose the guys side in previous similar stories. After receiving backlash, he just stopped giving opinions on this.
story 1: I'm sorry you have to go through this OP and hope the best for you. But at least you can wash your hand of her.
Story 3 had an update, apparently OP’s sister “used” OP’s husband to get pregnant and if you can’t understand that means she r*ped him and the sickness and sadness is probably trauma. OP completely cut off her sister and family since they took her sisters side and did the whole “men can’t be r*ped” defense and OP’s husband is in therapy. It wasn’t an affair or OP’s husband loving the sister, she r*ped him which is why he was crying
That last story. Both my step brothers died (years apart) from getting shot by someone who was trying to rob them and they refused...
So sorry about that 😢
The two guys in the first story handled the situation like true men should, the only thing I would have done different, I would have invited the other man to the delivery room of most likely his child
IMO, it was exceedingly vindictive and cruel for OP to wait until she had the baby before breaking up with her. He was definitely NOT the better person in that moment.
Only the mother can decide who can be in the delivery room but I do like the petty. If I were OP I would confront her during the final pushes so once the baby is out her gleeful moment has been soured.
@@ThEjOkErIsWiLd00 Well, she explicitly tried to trap a man with a child she knew was likely not his, after cheating on said man for a year, so she ain’t no saint either.
@@RepellentJeff Where did I say she was a saint? I totally agree she deserved punishment and he required retribution, but not to that degree. That's my point.
@@RepellentJeff Also, he decided to lower himself to her level, if not lower. While that action taken in heartache is understandable, it should be no more condoned than what she did.That was my 2nd point.
If anybody is wondering about the story where the husband broke down in the shower situation it actually turns out in an update that he was in love with the sister but was pretending to be in love with the original poster to get closer to the sister-in-law which is the original poster sister and secretly confess this all to the original poster till she eventually broke down and told it to her sister Sally because she was pissed off at the time and even went so far as to ending her relationship with her sister I'm not too sure where I remember hearing the update but I do know that's what all went down and it's really really depressing and really sad so hopefully we do get the updated story for this one on the best of redditor updates because I'm not going to lie it was one of the more upsetting ones I've ever heard of a long time because of the fact of how long the husband just was secretly trying to go after the sister and hoping in some way she could find a way to break up the marriage not they knew she would be happy with the guy she was previously with
I heard that on tiktok. What was he thinking? He's fucked up
Wrong story. There's a similar story that you're referencing
Story 3 had such a sad ending. Tyrns out the husband was 🍇 by the sister.
One exception to the carjacking. I WILL fight to the death to keep you from carjacking me if my kids are in the car.
Story 4 is so suspicious, he used a condom and she claimed she was on bc. I think op may have gotten assaulted (she lied or tampered w the contraception) and i fully understand him leaving as hed already said he wanted nothing to do w it
Most hormonal birth control is only about 91% effective with average usage. People get pregnant on birth control literally all of the time. From the way OP spoke about it, it doesn’t seem like they had actually had a conversation about what they’d do if the gf got pregnant (since he *assumed* she’d want to abort). I get him not wanting to be a father and not being ready for it, but I also totally get her not wanting to abort her pregnancy (especially if it hadn’t been discussed beforehand). Having an abortion is also a major life decision. This is a complicated matter, but it’s not fair to immediately assume that she got pregnant intentionally and maliciously. Overall, I think OP isn’t the ass for leaving, GF isn’t the ass for keeping the baby, and OP is a little too trusting with the idea that fleeing the country to avoid child support won’t come back to bite him in the ass eventually.
P.S the pill (which im assuming the birth control OP was referring to) can be up to 99% effective if used perfectly and continuously, but most people don’t take birth control on their periods (unless the birth control was specifically prescribed to manage period pain or another condition), which is part of the instructions, and human error can make birth control less effective like accidentally taking the pill a little late (1-2 hours), switching birth control, gaining or losing a significant amount of weight, taking certain medications, and more.
P.P.S I also understand that OP and gf were using condoms in addition to the pill, but again, condoms are only about 87% effective with average usage. This is especially true if he used the condoms with incompatible lube, used condoms that didn’t fit properly or used condoms that were out of date.
I feel story 2 on a personal level. While some of the circumstances are different in my relationship to my own, mom is much the same. It just hurts and it never will stop.
7:54 it’s like beating somebody every day of their life, and then give them a gift, which they don’t like, and then continue beating them.
Story 3: option 3 OP's husband has an ongoing relationship with her sister and he thinks the baby might be his, he is stressing about it so hard that he got sick because he can see that secret coming out and destroying the life he has with OP
Story 3. I feel like the husband may have just wanted a kid himself and since OP never mentioned either of them being infertile it is possible that either of them could be. It would also make sense that the husband is infertile cause OP never states that she thinks the husband had an affair.
First Story: Ugh, I can’t stand cheaters. The fact she was going to pretend that OP was the father so she can continue to have her perfect life is wrong. OP's ex (I hope shes an ex) is nothing but selfish. Well she lost that "perfect life" along with her boyfriend
Second Story: OP's mom slowly starting to play favorites and abandon OP. She is starting a new family with Jack and by her stopping the visits its causing OP to feel like they don’t belong to this new family. The fact that everyone is getting mad at OP for calling out their mom for being a horrible mother and person is insane
Third Story: Obviously, OP's husband got sister pregnant or he might be the father. If he and OP's sister wasn’t sleeping together, why is he reacting this way to the news of the pregnancy?
Fourth Story: I don’t even know what to say about this story. Left an entire country to avoid child support
Comments: Bro ur life is not worth all of these material goods. All of these things CAN be replaced. Ur life CAN'T be replaced
What
@@ultimatevenom11I edited the comment
Update to story 2: Rslash like always is not reading essential updates. Op mom wanted to take him long time ago to live with her. but op grandparents were argue with her it will be much better to stay with them. But in update everything went clear with op mom and his stepdad and they are in good terms.
@@xKCAZxLEADER oh lol
Third story im going all out for a crazy explanation.
The sister invites him over for some reason maybe a problem but she spiked his drink so she could do the nasty with her dream guy and she got pregnant from it and he knows she did something to him maybe she gave him some signs so she might have done that and now hes struck with greif and trauma because of her and now he might think she'll lie and say that he has a willing affair with her and his wife leaves him a d she gets him because of the baby
Story 2: My friend had her child young and even if she needs help she’s still going to college, working full time, and being a mother to her son. Not everyone can do that, I understand the grandparents taking him. But especially when the mother in the story finished college, she should have taken him. If she wanted to, she would.
Another possibility for Puking Husband is that he and OP's Sister are STILL having an affair and he suspects the baby is his, and he's freaking out because the whole web of lies is about to collapse on him.
Exactly
So I went diggin around on that third story and it turns out that if it is the same story (there were like three other similar stories) ops husband was SA. From what I can piece together the sister drugged op husband, sa him, filmed the whole thing, and blackmailed him with the video to keep him quiet. Op had to delete the post because they involved the police. I couldn’t find if the baby was his or not but a commenter who read the original post said they remember it not being his.
Honestly I feel like this makes sense considering the husbands reaction.
Wait... Really
Yeah I found the same info
Story 3: according to some Reddit users: Op ended up deleting her post because there’s currently an ongoing active investigation into the sister of the OP; allegedly she raped the husband of OP
In that first story, I’m just glad to hear that the baby has what sounds like a loving father.
Story 2. My husband's mom did something similar. Except she left him with his grandparents but took the older 2. She said it was for college, but she didn't take him back until well after she graduated.
She then told me how worried she was that he wouldn't recognize her. Okay, but like, then show up? He preferred his grandparents for years and she was upset about it.
Story 1 wow that level of revenge is perfect that’s what a cheater deserves a ruined life