r/Trueoffmychest I Slept with My Girlfriend's Mom
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0:00 Intro
0:09 Cheater
1:51 Top comment
2:24 Regret getting married
3:55 Creepy neighbor
7:09 Fun morning
9:05 Bad spouse
11:57 Another cheater
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Story 1: Bruh, it's HER fault for cheating! All OP did was hook up, and she has the gall to say it's OP's fault? Super A-hole move, girl.
She is not a girl she is a women a married women she is responsible for her own actions
Cheaters always blame others when their actions have consequences
OP should drop the bombshell and sit back with popcorn
@Shykorus Totora, a divorce is highly possible if that happens
@@joshuaenodien3853 Sucks to be her I guess
Stacey's mom has got it goin on.
Lmao
Dude............. Well done.
Legendary
Can i come over after school?
She’s all OP wanted and now they shouldn’t wait too long [to tell people]
Reddit really needs to learn the difference between being in a polyamory relationship and just straight up having a shitty cheating partner
Not just Reddit, but people in general.
She wasn't technically cheating. More poly vs open relationship
From the wife's point of view polyamory just sounds better and more dignified and excuses her own crappy and gas lighting behavior. People love to lie to themselves so they don't have to own up to being an a-hole.
Real, romantic love takes all of your emotional effort to maintain with just one person. If you think you romantically love more than one person, you don’t. You’re just not mature enough for commitment.
@@samaritan_sys respectfully, it truly depends on the person. Some people have the emotional capacity to love multiple people and others only want one person. Neither is right or wrong as long as everyone communicates and is honest.
Story 1: you didn't do anything, she was a married woman that had an affair, you didn't even know she was married for 20 years. She trying to guilt-trip you into keeping her secret so she doesn't lose everything. I can't think of the best way to tell your girlfriend you hooked up with her mom but if she finds out from someone else she may have a very different version of the timeline.
I would probably start with telling her that I had something I needed to say about something that happened *before* I met her
I'm kinda interested in how that story pans out. If it were me, I'd just break it up with the girlfriend because no Matter what I'd do, staying with her means I'm in an awkward situation.
If you stay and tell everyone the truth, you will look like the adshole and/or you would have torn the entire family apart.
If you stay and tell no one the truth, you will have to awkwardly keep that secret for years and years until it all comes crashing down in one drunk night 10 years later when you have kids and everything.
So regardless of the choice you make with her, staying as her BF is the bad choice everytime. Find the nicest way of breaking up, and get away from that awkward situation. I'd rather be single than deal with that shit show
she just didn’t tell OP. He NEEDS to tell his gf before she spins some insane story, she’s already guilt tripping and emotionally manipulating him into keeping her secret. There is no good ending to this, I’m afraid, it’s going to be messy, but his gf deserves the truth, the real truth and not whatever BS lies her mother comes up with. I’m so sorry for that dude, but this will get messy.
honestly if OP doesn't tell his current gf about this, i'd call him a major butthole too. she deserves to know, it's a *very* obvious turn-off.
I also would talk to the girlfriend first. Then she can give you some more guidance about telling the dad or not, for all op knows maybe they have an open relationship or something. But definitely tell the girlfriend first
Story 1: Rslash you forgot option 3, which is sleep with the dad to complete the set.
Go for platinum , do the grandparent too
@@dickysatria7268 Might need a shovel for that tho
Complete the infinity gauntlet.
Lmao 😜 that’s savage but true
@Dragons4Dummies, et al, you, and everyone that gave your comment up votes, are reasons why wildfires are going on around the world right now.
How would it be OPs fault for breaking up the marriage? He didn't know she was a married woman! SHE'S the one who cheated on her husband! Just sounds like a classic case of "it's everyone elses fault" to me.
OP didn't know she was married when he hooked up with her, and they stopped before OP met his gf. This isn't OP's fault, it's 100% the mom's.
She wants to drag him down on her level so that she can blackmail him into shutting up
Well if that is the case, why would OP even want to be part of a family where his mother in law is a known cheater and manipulater? I'd say run from that shit show and never look back. No need to break up that family, because it will all come out eventually even without you there
@@MatsuyoRific if OP doesn't tell his gf about this he *is* a butthole though.
@@codyjohnson6427 I completely disagree. Sometimes it does not all come out on it's own, and even if it does it could take years or even decades where more things could happen. Plus, her husband could contract STDs. Ripping off the bandaid sooner rather than later is the wise thing to do.
It's actually a good thing that the guy who befriended a stripper told his story. People still have a hard time remembering that strippers are just people! I believe the OP was a breath of fresh air for the girl as well!
i think you mean a breast of fresh air ;)
@@aliendxde *snort* Yeah! 😂
@@ceciliacole5098 ...that manipulate other people, lie to other people, cause them to be stupid and flirt with you, then cause them to cheat on their spouses with you, then destroy families, and then act all innocent when the f
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Story 6: She called it Polyamory, but it sounds like what she wanted was Polygamy. The difference being that in a Polyamorous relationship, everyone is supposed to be equal and in a relationship with each other, Polygamy is just one person with multiple partners, which is how it sounds like she behaved.
Not everyone is with everyone else in the relationship web in poly relationships. But they are still equal, and whole thing is consented by everyone still yeah
@@WolfgangDoW Thanks for the clarification 🙂
I wouldn't say polygamy. I think the op was more monogamous or wanted to have more of a swinging scenario. The bigger issue is she thought opening their marriage would make her happy. This is always a bad way to open.
no she wanted polyamory, polygamy is just polyamory but specifically with marriage
@@ewe3221 no it isn't. Both are forms of non monogamy but there are differences. Polygamy is multiple marriage partners, usually only to one spouse. Polyamory doesn't require marriage or even everyone relating together. In polyamory one partner could have partners that don't interact but still know about each other. All relationships are treated with equal importance.
With the bad spouse story: it sounds like she actually wanted an open relationship, not a polyamorous relationship. She wanted to use as an excuse to see other people.
THANK YOU. Someone else sees it
Yes! Polyamory is all about communication and consent with everyone involved. She wanted an open relationship. Period.
@@PyroWolfofEarth THIS! THIS is what poly is. What this woman wanted was a one-sided open relationship, which is NOT the same. Poly is a fully functional love triangle/shape where everyone loves everyone else and is involved with them.
Poly is where you have more than 2 partners, and are exclusive to each other. This was loveless manipulation and selfishness.
Agreed. I am in a polycule, and we all love each other. We all get along amazingly well, and we all consented way ahead of time to whom is physically intimate with whom. As such, things are healthy and stable. Plus, it means we can all hope to own a house someday.
That story with the stripper is so heartwarming. That's probably the first time a customer had treated her like a human being.
Exactly! That conversation probably gave her a lot of energy.
Story 3: yeah, if OP told the husband everything wrote in the post, she shouldn't be surprised he went into the interaction intending to intimidate the alleged pedophile.
The assault wasn't smart though. Hard to protect your kids from behind bars
@@shykorustotora as much as I want to defend his actions, I agree. That dude is obviously creepy and deserves a broken nose, but like you said, you can't parent your kid from behind bars.
@@shykorustotora Just pay some thugs to rough him up a bit - that should do the trick and youre in the clear
@@derguenter6257 Yeah.... no that's not how it works
Dude got off easy. That's about the best he should have expected
The last story hit me hard. I have endometriosis, and it's not just pain it's a serious medical issue. The extreme pain starts a few days before my period, and lasts 4 days. It's literally cells on the outside of the uterus (not where they are supposed to be) ripping off everytime I bleed. It can cause permanent chronic pain, infertility and even ovarien cancer. This condition has made me anemic, occasionally bed ridden and swollen to the point of not being able to pee. I hope me sharing this will make more people understand how serious this condition is.
That one hit me hard as well. My wife had endometriosis so bad that she used to say that when she wasn’t on her period, it felt like she was, and then when her period would come she was in so much pain she literally couldn’t even get out of bed. It took us a while to figure out. But eventually we discovered that for us to have a child, she needed to have the endometriosis removed via surgery. After our 3rd was born she eventually had a hysterectomy at 31 yrs old. She’s still on birth control just to keep her from going into menopause too early. Needless to say physical intimacy has always been an issue for us. She hated sex for the first 10 yrs of our marriage and just didn’t tell me, because it hurt so bad. Now post hysterectomy and a lot of physical therapy later, she does enjoy it. I know the physical toll this woman went through, I understand the man’s frustration but if he was THAT unhappy he should have divorced the OP before having a baby. Cheating is a jerk move, glad she’s leaving him.
You should try and get a hysterectomy, unless you 100% wanna have biological kids.
@@maximillian1109 It's a pretty simple surgery to have the endometriosis removed.
@@brianbooth5162 cheating is bad in all scenarios tho if we just take the story at a face value, op had a relationship with this guy for more than HALF her life. This guy knew what he was getting into and has supported her much much more than anyone else she can think of, but the moment she had a child with him. She basically stopped giving a fuck about him and let him do whatever without consulting him about his sexual desires, he watches porn then soo its all good as OP said it.
Relationships go both ways soo if she wanted a husband, then consulting and communication is essential and hence why they both took each other down as soon as their goal of having a baby was done.
@@fairladykd6734 No, it's not. The surgery is simple, but getting it removed is not. My wife and I looked into it. The cells can't be found via scans (at least, not yet), they've found endometriosis cells as far as the lung and brain and even with surgery, there's no guarantee the surgeon will get it all. There videos on the surgery. They basically go exploring your abdomen, moving things aside to look for small dots that might look like endometriosis cells and burn it off with a laser. Even if they get it all, there's no guarantee it won't grow back. Even a hysterctomy isn't guaranteed to stop endometriosis. Especially in the US, just getting to having the surgery as an option is a long trek. You need to find a doctor that will 1) Believe the pain is real and out of the ordinary, 2) Will do something about it and not just say "It's part of god's plan" (*I* was told this by a doctor. Me, the husband of the person who has endometriosis) 3) The things to try not be (or have already tried) opioids, muscle relaxers, birth control, etc. And all that can take 3~7 years minimum before surgery (removal or hysterectomy) is even an option.
Story 5: OP gave his spouse everything he could for YEARS and had a happy life, but she still basically cheated under the guise of "polyamory" anyway. Why? Was she spoiled, or did she just not love OP anymore?
Honestly from how it sounded she was probably a narcissist, as he said he had to put up with a lot of her mental issues, eventually he probably just couldn't "keep her entertained" anymore, so she looked elsewhere.
It really annoys me how OP in that story blames polyamory. Plenty of poly people live happy lives, just because his wife left him doesn't mean all of polyamory is a joke
Sounds like it is her mental illness
@@TransIsBest Yeah, but to be fair to him he was probably in a bad mental state, lets hope he's doing better now.
She was looking for an exit plan. I’ve known other girls that use polyamory as a cover for finding their replacement SO to avoid being alone or unsupported.
Story 3:This is what happens when you treat strippers as people instead of just hot lady parts. You come to the understanding that their jobs are not a reflection of them as a person like any other job in the world.
@@pauliussipavicius4658 it's quite literally not though. People work to make money
@@pauliussipavicius4658 I can already see how different you think your love life is and how it dismal it actually is
@@pauliussipavicius4658 how so? there are plenty of other jobs that are equally, if not more, as exploitative of one's body for labor. capitalism, baby. unless you're just being puritanical about the whole thing, which i assume you are.
@@pauliussipavicius4658 Found the incel
@@iasomnium919 Found the simp.
Creepy neighbor: that first interaction was normal-ish a few decades ago. But the rest, im with the mom here. Something is NOT right.
Parents/caregivers/and children: PLEASE stay safe and alert! This world is NUTS. Pay attention to the sex-offender registry, and listen to ur gut. I'm a polite person, and im even saying it's better to come off as rude than to go through trauma
Rslash going "wow it's almost as if Strippers are people" gave me such a hearty laugh because I thought that all throughout that story. I am glad that even though OP's world views may not officially have been there, his actions went ahead though. I always appreciate when someone acts with more kindness than they may yet possess, only to promptly grow into that kindness as a result. This is also why how we act can be vital to who we allow ourselves to become.
Story 3: keep your children far away, that neighbour is a NONCE. I’d actually look online to see if he’s on the sex offenders registry, and speak to other neighbours to warn them about his behaviour. It sounds like he will act at some point, and I’d be terrified.
The way I almost snapped my neck to whip back and look if the story actually said "breast of fresh air"😂
For the Polyamory is a joke story: that’s not polyamory, that’s an open marriage. A polyamorous relationship is one where all parties are in mutual relationships with eachother, not where one member sleeps around and the other feels anxious about it. Polyamorous relationships are seriously misunderstood…
Cheating is neither poly nor open relationship.
And poly doesn't require every connection be filled, only that all parties be legitimately consenting to one or more involved parties having more than just one connection.
So, a polycule of A B C and D where A links to B B to C C to D and D to A is still poly even though A to C and B to D are absent from the subset of connections.
What I mean to say is, what his wife was asking for was an open marriage, which she incorrectly labeled as a polygamous one. What she did was cheating, plain and simple. Both open marriages and polygamous relationships require the full consent of all parties involved for the duration of the relationship.
Not everyone is with everyone else in the relationship web in poly relationships. But they are still equal, and whole thing is consented by everyone still yeah
I would polyamory is a joke. Not exactly for the story but even in normal polyamorous couples don't go well, especially if they have children who know about this. It isn't exactly "healthy", it can work but it's rare
@@youtubeuniversity3638 Yeah, they are because they're screwing someone other than the person they are supposed to be committed to. A committed relationship is two consenting adults, not three or more.
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In his defense, he had no idea that the mom was married.
I agree, but kinda think he should tell the dad
@@stealinpanthers Same.
Yeah. The mom is the only AH in the story, but OP would be the AH if he didn't tell the husband and his gf about this
Or was his gfs mom
@@jayster5077 What?
The polyamory one pisses me off, that wasn't polyamory. That was an open relationship. Hope someone told the guy that.
This, I'm so tired of misconceptions being spread
We get enough flak as it is without these misconceptions being thrown about. Polyamory works if everybody involved wants it to and truly understands what it is. This story demonstrates that no party actually knew what they wanted or what they were doing.
Polyamory is still a joke though. So he got that part right.
Damn right. Poly is about trust, open and informed consent. It's not some license to sleep around and destroy a marriage.
I'm poly and have a defined and stable polycule. I have two boyfriends, each seeing eachother, and each one has an additional partner. The second's additional partner has a partner of their own.
We're all well informed of who eachother are and hang out together. It really just feels like a giant family.
I don't expect every poly relationship to be a mirror image of my own, but I sure has hell don't want to see the manipulative jerks using it to hurt their monogamous partners.
Yeah, on top of that I don't think I've seen RSlash put up a single poly story that ended good.
Story 1: You have to tell your girlfriend about this. Trust is important with any relationship, and her mom already broke it when she was with you. It was not your fault what happened, but you need to be open. If she values your relationship with her, it won't do a lot of harm to it. Good luck and hopefully it works out with her.
Thank goodness Rslash uploads at 9 for me every morning so I can listen while I get ready for work
For me it's 2pm everyday so I always get to listen to him when getting ready to go out :)) love love love the upload schedule
Same goes for me, except it’s 6am!
It's 9 for me as well
Haha, for me it's 9pm
He uploads in time for me to get ready for work as well 😂
Story 1: mom's doing a classic manipulation. She broke the trust of her family when she cheated. The messenger has nothing to do with it. OP has to be honest with his gf, no matter how hard it is.
Story 5: THAT WASN'T POLYAMORY, IT WAS CHEATING! A truly poly (or open marriage or ethically non-monogomous) relationship always starts with setting up rules for how things will go, boundaries and even compromises on what each person is comfortable with the other doing. Without that, it's just being given permission to cheat. And OP has every right to feel angry for being deceived, but he has no reason to hate polyamory when he's never experienced it.
Look he has every right to hate it since he was deceived by someone who claimed that was poly. The fact you discount his pain and say he shouldn't be mad is so unempathetic you really should be better and not blame the victim god
@@neurosisslav405but on the other hand he shouldn’t blame something it isn’t, it’s like if you got hit in the face by someone and you started blaming octopuses, because you hurt doesn’t mean you can misplace the anger and/or pain you get from it
@@neurosisslav405 he has every right to feel bad about it, as he is the victim here. But that doesn’t mean that it is good for him to throw a whole community and lifestyle under the bus under false pretenses.
He got hurt by someone claiming it was polyamory, and he has a right to feel hurt about that. But he doesn’t have a right to insult polyamory, when polyamory wasn’t even the thing that hurt him in the first place.
@@neurosisslav405 saying he should blame polyamory isn't the same as saying he shouldn't be upset for being betrayed, and all I pointed out was that there is a difference.
@@neurosisslav405 love how you say "The fact you discount his pain and say he shouldn't be mad" and you can clearly read just above that Alton had just said "And OP has every right to feel angry for being deceived"
Did you read the comment, or did you just want to reply?
Story 3: The first possibility is more likely, especially since he was acting like this towards OP but not the husband.
OP should watch herself, because who knows what this guy is planning.
Op should watch her children, especially her son, that guy seems like a pedophile. It's either that or the guy has a daughter who likes op's son, he may not like her and the neighbour have some weird ways to get them to be close. That may explain the heartbreaker comment.
Most likely a pedophile
@@user-zn6vi7yn3r I've grew up hearing people say, "they're going to be a heartbreaker when they're older". It's still a weird thing to hear now when someone is talking about, or to a child.
I don't know if it's OP's context, but the guy does sound creepy. He's definitely saying all the wrong things, and he's probably giving off some weird vibes, which is why OP is uncomfortable.
@@Dondizle the thing is that the neighbour said he is a heartbreaker, if my memory is right. The thing you say, most people say it when kids are very young, not 12, so that doesn't stick. Yes, he was incredibly weird and I give him the benefit of the doubt with the second theory but if he doesn't have a daughter, my theory goes out of the window and he most likely is a pedophile or has pedophilic tendencies. No, fucking way he is just socially awkward with what questions he asked and how focused he was on the oldest. It isn't impossible but it is highly unlikely
@@user-zn6vi7yn3r I mean, I could only hope he's asking those questions for his daughter. It makes sense, and it's not like it would be an easy conversation to have, especially about a young boy. You never know in this day and age, though.
I remember the first story from one of those text story channels. It ended with Dude telling the daughter the truth, and the relationship ending.
Thank you! I couldn’t find OP’s post on Reddit and I needed to know how the story ended. I’m glad he told the truth and exposed the cheater.
The last story is my nightmare. I have PCOS and have been suspected of having Endometriosis. This is main reason why I don’t date, especially afraid of catching feelings then being let down like this… This sucks
Story 1: You didn't break apart her marriage, her inability to keep her pants up did, don't think for a second you were her first or last candy, she's a borderline groomer and her family deserves to know that.
Story 4: I get why he's surprised though, having worked in a sex shop and under a strip club; most people don't see strippers as humans the same way non retail workers don't see retail workers as human. And this is regardless the gender of stripper, based on numerous surveys.
Someone should check the computer of the creepy guy in story 3. He's probably going to get arrested for a long time once they do.
Dude that dad did the right thing. He let a creep know not to mess with his family, if the guy WASN'T a creep he would have probably called the cops. But he didn't, he knew exactly why the dad shoved him to the ground.
polyamory: a relationship with three or more people (all love each other)
open relationship: a relationship where the sexual aspect isn’t restricted to just the participants in the relationship.
cheating: when one partner peruses a sexual or romantic with someone other than their partner when they partner hasn’t allowed it
First story... he needs to get the mom to fess up herself. She has to be the one to let them know. No gaslighting, no manipulation. Let her do it on her own terms or you'll do it yourself. Last story: hire a reputable divorce attorney and fight for that alimony.
I get what you're saying, but he risks having the mom do exactly what you warned against. Gaslighting and manipulation. She could completely turn it against him and make him out to be the villain, when it's been her all along.
"A breast of fresh are, and I think I really needed that. Oh sorry, BREATH of fresh air, read it wrong."
Dabney, I am so glad you are such a dork, made me belly laugh. 😂
Story 5: from what I’ve learned about dating and mental health is sometimes the significant other will project and try to be the perfect person for you so you will like them, they will mask up and eventually get tired of it and move on, the side of you that wants to help and spread love gets annoying to someone like that overtime when the spark goes away and they just deteriorate. It sucks (not always the case but just from what I’ve seen)
Story 2: I'm sorry you're going through this, unfortunately a lot of the time most people don't show their true colors until after the wedding. A man like that doesn't deserve your tears, he wanted to get permission from you to cheat and then even wait until he got the permission, this is so when you leave him he can argue that you agree to this even though you didn't. Screw him at least you're getting out of there early instead of years later, things will get better you'll see.
The thing that bothers me most is that people always have cheating scandals with children in the middle. If you can't keep your pants on, don't waste anyone's time with a wedding and putting kids in the middle of your mess. The blame is always on the cheater!
Creepy neighbor story: she need to talk with their other neighbors and tell them about that dude, seriously she is guilty if something happens and they didn't know about who that guy really is. Every time something like this happens i always think, why didn't people share this information. Why?, is it your precious secret which you share with that person and you want to protect that secret, or what?. If you don't share this information, that is exactly how it is, you are sharing and protecting a secret with/about a monster.
Honestly, I’ve been trying to wrap my head around polyamory. Luckily, I have a poly friend who explained it to me, and that polyamory is only good when everybody involved is in full agreement, and that consent was not given under duress. As is often the case with the stories.
I was once told that my ex and i were cheating on each other bc polyamory isn't a thing
Only monogamy exists ☠️
Fixed a spelling issue I'm tired
@@Unnecessary_Potato lmao even if that was true, you knew of each other's other partners so where tf was the problem for the asshat that told you that?
@@Unnecessary_Potato yeah, part of me still sees it as nothing more than consensual cheating but I’m trying to keep an open mind
@@Unnecessary_Potatoconsensual cheating but yee
@@madambutterfly1997 to me it's the opposite. I don’t see how something like "consensual cheating" can exist. By definition, if something is consensual, then it isn’t cheating, is it not?
That wasn’t polyamory’s fault, that was op’s trashy wife’s fault who just wanted her cake and to eat it too
It's not even polyamory in the first place. It's an open relationship. They're different
@@lillylovegood2300 the fourth story he’s talking about I think
@@manchild8365i think they meant that the girl misused the term polyamory, but im not in their head lol
Honestly the dad in the third story is a legend. I don't care about any of that "violence is never the answer" stuff, what he did was the only appropriate response to someone creeping on your son.
But he really shouldn't have done it out in public, where there might be witnesses. It just gives the predator a chance to claim victim status and will make it that much harder to make anything stick when he does try something.
Instead, just make a simple statement, like: "I know what you are and if I ever see you within arm's reach of my children, you won't wake up the next morning."
Third story, while OP's husband escalating things wasn't good I fully believe she should follow her gut. Plus, she should also talk with her kids about this all. What to do if they aren't around, how to behave around the guy, etc. It's better safe than sorry, especially in a situation like this.
I agree she should follow her gut however that doesn't give the husband the right to assault someone even if they are getting creepy vibes of him
@@SilverGhxst If anything, she should keep her husband away from him too. The way the guy talked about her husband and the way things escalated has me worried he may actually try to get rid of OP's husband if he does something again.
@Sanodi21 that's my worry too! The neighbor really easily could go to the police and say he was assaulted by ops husband which if her gut feeling is true would not be good at all! Plus it just wouldn't be good for ops husband to have an arrest on his record. I absolutely think he's a creepy ass dude and they need to keep there children away from him. Such odd remarks makes my stomach churn
Story 1: I actually find it really disturbing that a (married) woman in her 40s would go after a 19 year old. Yes he’s legally an adult but it’s still disgusting. Worse is that some people probably wouldn’t think it was bad unless the genders were switched.
The fact she’d tried to gaslight him in keeping her affair secret from her husband is vile.
Well usually r/slash makes a comment about it being disgusting if the genders were switched but he seems to be ok with it here so 🤷♂️
It's a double standard, but I'm personally in the camp of "Consenting Adults, no one else else's business." That being said, no support for cheating, consensual or not.
@@ShadowTaipanI am in the same camp with you in that sense. However the double standards is shocking
If she had been his teacher is in a similar position I would agree with yo OP but they met at the gym. No grooming involved.
Yeah. 19 is consensual, but it will certainly raise a few eye brows when a freaking 40yo sleeps with a 19yo.
It's also disappointing that no one bats an eye at this because the 19yo is male and 40yo female. It's just degenerate behavior all around no matter what, even without the cheating
The polyamory story: that wife is a sociopath, plain and simple
not even polyamory. the wife wanted an open relationship
As a woman with andeomyosis, a condition very similar to endometriosis in where the lining just doesn't stop growing and you bleed for months, I feel for the last story.
I was lucky enough to have one child when I was fairly young with my ex-husband.
Endometriosis and other uterine disorders can destroy a woman's self-esteem, and fertility drugs are sometimes the only way a woman can get pregnant. This man is disgusting for what he did.
These disorders are painful. They can cause lifetime scarring on the inside of a uterus, and are usually the cause of most ovarian and uterine cancers. I ended up having a hysterectomy because of my condition.
This man is a dick and OP is better off without him. She'll do better with husband number two
Story 4: R/ I was thinking the same thing. Polyamorous would be if she loved her husband and another guy, but it sounds like she wanted an open relationship so she could cheat on OP but knew he would never go for it so she just went with being polyamorous because she has a supporting husband. I understand why you're mad at polyamorous relationships because your ex did you dirty, but I just want you to know that that was 100% her.
Story 2: wow...he's swiping dating apps next to you in bed...after you told him you were uncomfortable with non-monogamy...RUN. That's not just pathetic, it's a sign of deep narcissism or possible sociopathy.
story #5 is exactly what happened with me and my significant other, but we were together for 3 years. a LOT happened in those three years, so our lives were basically intertwined. 3 years and 10months in the talk about a polyamorous relationship began. 1 month later i came home and they were drunk, saying how unhappy they were (all of a sudden!), how they might unintentionally end up cheating on me because we aren't having enough sex (masturbation didn't do it for them, or so they told) and how i'm being unreasonable to keep them in such a relationship. so... i didn't. it absolutely broke my heart into a million pieces. in fact, i'm still aching from it. but it was clear as day that they would probably end up cheating on me, no matter that they saw how much it would have hurt me.
I am very sorry that this has happened to you. There isn't enough information to tell if this situation was polyamory, cheating, or open relationship, but it sounds like open relationship/cheating. From just this story alone, it, most likely, is really good that you got out of the relationship. I hope you can recover from it properly. be safe out there.
@@faynastalwart yeah i realise i wasn't being too clear, kind of just word vomiting, wanting to get this off my chest haha. what happened was that they tried to open up the relationship but i refused, knowing it, too, like breaking up, would break me. you're probably right, i think i fell deeply in love with the wrong kind of person... thank you for your very sweet words ♥
Story 5: It sucks, because it's NOT polyamory. As soon as any one partner removes their enthusiastic consent, it is no longer polyamory.
I’m sorry to undermine this episode, but I can’t stop laughing at 8:47
Lol
Yeah that made me laugh out loud too lmfao
RSlash you're bang on with the first story. OP cannot live their life in a Mrs Robinson situation 😂
story 3 even if you are socially awkward you don't say something like you're entertaining the kids while the parents aren't around and one of the parents isn't going to like it
Dude thought that swinging is poly. Dude said yes to something he didn't understand.
I have to say I resonate with the last story. My partner hasn't been physical with me for 7 months. It's crippling and pretty stupid of the wife to assume the husband was okay with it. I haven't gone elsewhere and I'd choose to divorce over cheating if it doesn't get resolved as I would like children and husband says he wants them too but I'm assuming via divine intervention with how we're going.
Sounds like going to a doctor and a psychologist would be worthwhile. There may be something going on (medically or psychologically) where that could help. Or, I hate to say it, is he having an affair?
I have been looking for this comment, but it seems like not many are commenting on it.
Yes, I totally agree with you, it was really stupid of the wife to assume that going several months without intimacy would be okay for the husband, even if he said so. Naturally, this does not mean that the husband is innocent, he is a scumbag for cheating, but it's like 70-30 or 60-40 percent on him imo.
You can not expect no intimacy and the relationship surviving, much less a marriage of years in that case.
@balazsj864 I don't think it's fair to blame her when she checked with him and he lied to her. She didnt ASSUME anything. He lied to her and it's not on her to figure that out.
@@SaraSG1 I agree with you. People should stop victim blaming, which is what's happening here. OP's husband should have been honest with her so they can decide what the best approach would be for their relationship. We all have our boundaries on what we can and can't handle in a relationship. Getting divorced is sometimes the best option, unfortunately but it's better than cheating.
@@balazsj864 It's 100% on him. Intimacy isn't just sex. And when they did have sex he couldn't even bother to do foreplay. Plus, he was cheating on her when she was still going through fertility treatment!!! It's not stupid to expect your partner to be a decent person and not a horny animal that can't get survive without sex. It's even less stupid to expect your partner to be honest. Stop blaming the victim. She went through a lot of crap to give him a kid that he also wanted.
I hope that everyone is having a good Sunday!
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You as well!!!
Love the strip club story 😂 friendship blossoms in the oddest of places! Always have an eye and an ear out for people you can relate to, it makes life more tolerable
HAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHA BROOOO HE ACTUALLY SAID BREAST OF FRESH AIR XDDDD
Story 2: I agree with rSlash, it sounds like he was never faithful, and it's worth looking into why he agreed to a marriage in the first place.
Really makes you wonder how long they dated before getting married. I’d bet it was less then a year.
Oh god, that first story is awful. But the husband has every right to know.....couldn't agree with you more rslash
I disagree . What they don't know won't hurt them . He would be breaking up a 20 year marriage for no good reason .
@@augustuswayne9676 wdym for no reason??? It's for all the right reasons, that's just horrible
@@augustuswayne9676 a marriage built around lies, isn't a good marriage at all. If she's doing this to her husband, what other shady stuff could she also be doing? The dude has every right to know.
@@augustuswayne9676 this is the most stupid comment I’ve ever read. Ten bucks you’re a cheater judging by your comment
I mean, maybe he could wait until after Thanksgiving, so as not to spoil the holiday... but there are hundreds, if not thousands of good reasons not to keep that a secret. Though, he needs to do it "one at a time" as in confess to his girlfriend first, let her process it; and then break it to the father.
I never start my day without listening to rSlash.
Same!!😅
Story 4: It’s nice to see a wholesome story about a gentleman’s club customer. When I worked as an entertainer I had a few nice customers, but I also had a few awful customers. Men (especially when they drink alcohol) tend to get possessive and feel like you owe them something outside of the service when they pay you. I had plenty of guys try to convince me to come back to their hotel (we were located near an airport) and wanted to legitimately marry me. My favorite customer was a young man in the Air Force who had never been to a gentleman’s club before. He was sweet, respected the rules, and we had a causal conversation while I gave him a private dance.
People need to learn that being asked to open the relationship is a crap test. Once you open it, like opening Pandora's box, you can never close it no matter how badly you wish you could.
Why do people think polyamory is easy. Your in a relationship with multiple people. It takes like 5x the communication with several people. It's a balancing act of a good understanding of what you want l, how to tell your partners, and your partners wants. Wild man.
She wanted a open relationship with op waiting and keeping things in case she fails
Story 3: check the SO registry. You’d be very surprised how many you’ll find near you, and he needs to be reported to the police.
The polyamory one, that ain't polyamory that's a bad wife
That's not polyamory. That's just excused cheating. Polyamory is a couple who open both their loves to a third.
Thank god this episode had a wholesome stripper story.
Or else it would just have been depressing
This is the earliest I've ever been to an r/slash episode love it ❤
As a person in a healthy poly relationship, that's just cheating. I cannot STAND people who do this. I have my wife (11yrs) and husband and partner(4yrs). It takes SO much communication and commitment. But it's worth it. Especially now because we have a full d&d group, lol. And the three of us get to go to my partner's upcoming wedding!
Bad spouse story: what this couple were in was an open relationship, not a polyamourus one. Polygamy peans that everyone likes everyone involved. So if a couple decided to become poly, they BOTH have to approve the new people who come in and they will ALL be together. Open relationships are "you get your partners, I'll find my own too"
OP hates open relationships, not polygamy. And tbh I kinda agree but that's just my preference. I have friends who are in open relationships and they are doing fine for well over a year now
actualy thats one form of polyamory. i have two partners who are dating each other and me but both have partners im not dating. still polyamory bc we are aware and consenting
story 1 OP has to tell he was single at the time and the mother was a married woman he is not wrong but OP girlfriend's mother is
i feel bad for people who are in an serious poly-relationships. Due to so many people abusing that construct, it has a bad reputation
Women that get paid for their "services" are often very good at making it feel different and, in some cases, exceptional.
The first story is such a catch 22 situation. Even though I agree with Rslash on dropping the boom to let the husband know. But the option to break up and cut off is probably the safest option. You don’t what they would do to you just because you supposedly broke up the family (I had had to cut ties with love interests because of there family’s being so toxic) so that’s just my opinion
I think he should tell the partner and dad, but the situation is messy as is and would undoubtedly get worse if he tried to stay., regardless, I find it very unlikely that she would want to be with someone who fricked her mom.
No I do agree it’s just with how messy it is and regardless of reaction of the situation it’s just best to just break up and cut off I know it sounds extreme mean but the other option could just make things worse
@@nicholassanabria6493 sorry, I'm not sure if it's coming across that way but i agree with you! even if he loves his girlfriend, there's three people that he'd be affecting with the truth. even if his girlfriend and him can somehow manage to work through it, there's still the feelings of the parents he'd inevitably have to deal with, and with how her mom handled it so far, i don't think she'd let him get away with it so easily. so yeah, definitely easier to cut ties and run.
It will come out eventually. Whether it's a drunken confession from either party, a fight between the parents where the cheating is revealed, anything. But when it happens, OP _will_ be the one thrown under the bus. His GF will be angry that he hadn't told her, that he slept with her mum, she may question whether he's dating her for her, or as an excuse to see her mum, she may question whether he's _still_ sleeping with her mum behind her back. He needs to tell her before time stacks against him to make the situation look worse for him.
You forgot that the husband may want to kill OP dude to the situation
polyamory is really hard to make work if your relationship didn't start out that way or if it started soon after the start of the relationship - this is coming from a polyamorous man. i joined my relationship with my husbands and boyfriend soon after it started. it started out as one of my husbands and his boyfriend, and then me and my husband joined the relationship. we're all together and i love them a lot. you can't just spring it on someone, it doesn't work that way
Story 2: Look into an annulment. If you’ve only been married a month you might be able to void the marriage instead of going through divorce. Unless you want his money that is.
With the creepy neighbor story, with the way he talks about her kids and how he wants to be around them alone, talking about her sons looks creepily and watching them... I wouldn't be surprised if this guy's either an active or closeted pedophile.
That husband clearly heard something wrong in that short conversation, people dont tend to escalate to violence for no reason especially in such a short conversation, he was protecting his children.
I feel so bad for the husband who was manipulated into being cheated on. Polyamory is where you open a relationship, add a 3rd or 4th person, and then immediately close it. Those additional partner(s) aren't temporary, less important, or less loved than the original partners.
I mean, that’s not nevessarily what Polyamory is, 'cause like a V-shape relationship (where A dates B and C but B and C don’t date eachother) is still Polyamory, but yeah you’re pretty much right.
Important question: if I asked you, "what is Rslash's catchphrase?" What would you say?
"OP is not the Butthole" or anything in his Karen voice
SeE yA, WoUlD’nT wAnNa Be Ya!&@?$
"Welcome to r/_____ where"
"... and I post videos every single day."
Insert nervous laugh in certain videos
Story 1: Okay i would give ANYTHING for a saga about this post…
Op i would ask the mom “and exactly HOW would i be the one ruining your marriage? YOU are the cheater here…”
Good luck man, you’re gunna need it
You called it on Story 6. As a polyamorous person myself, who has lived in a functional, healthy polyamorous situation for almost 7 years, I have seen a lot of things on the periphery in the polyamorous community. A somewhat common thing I see is extremely damaged, unhealthy people with terrible communication skills using the guise of "polyamory" as a stepping stone to get out of relationships they don't want to be in. It's extremely unethical and immature.
No sexual motives? He just left a strip club.
It's unfortunate I can't see the video until 6:03 or 6:04 most days. I go to your account at 5:59 and refresh at 6. Then after about 30 seconds I refresh again. Nothing. Then a couple minutes later I get the alert.
Worth it though, as you are part of my routine. Time for me to go to bed to another amazing r/ video. Thank you, Dabney. I appreciate you very much and I hope that you and your family are doing well. ❤️
yeah, youtube staggers scheduled videos to reduce strain a little.
@@959_MC Makes sense why I rarely get to see the videos at 6 on the dot. Thank you for this bit of info.
Story 1: what a lose lose situation. The longer the affair is keep a secret the worst the outcome.
Hey Rslash if you somehow see this I just want to congratulate you for nearly hitting 2 mil! I would say I’ve been here since day 1 but I’ve been here for a while
Story 1: OPs girlfriend might leave him, but she deserves to know. She will find out sooner or later and by point, she wouldn't believe that he didn't know. Because in her POV, if OP didn't know, why didn't he tell her? And by OP telling her, she will finally know what type of mother she has too.
A breast of fresh air lol. You could have redone that part, but you left it in. Love that. 😂
I feel like the poly story make people shit on polyamory like i have a more or less functional (close to kitchen table) relationship with 3 people
We aren't going to leave eachother for another person
Yet folk look down on me for being poly
"Brest of fresh air" thank you for keeping that in R/ i needed the laugh :)
"Breast of fresh air." I see what you did there rslash
I don’t think I could ever put myself out there again if I found myself hooking up with a married woman.
please do more let's not meet content :)
Okay, “breast of fresh air” got me wheezing. 😂
“Breast of fresh air” 😂😂 cracked me up!
Polyamory isn't a joke. That wasn't polyamory, she just wanted to cheat and the OP has no right to drag on something entirely because of one bad experience. Yes it sucked, yes she wss cruel, but that was never polyamory
As somebody who’s monogamous if I agree to opening the relationship it’s only because I fully intend to find your replacement. if I’m not enough for you, if everything we have together isn’t enough for you, then you are worth less than nothing to me.
And that's great for you but you should just leave a relationship if you feel that way, not drag it out under the lying veil of nonmonogamy that's really just you, like what happened in the story, finding a way to leave faster and not actually good functional nonmonogamy
@@OingoDeLaBoingo I fully intend to leave them, but this is my vindictive side wanting to make them suffer for their selfishness
If the mom was single and I wasn't freaking out then I would have said "oh hi miss last name you were right you are to old for me. Your daughter is a way better age for me to go out with"
Since she is cheating the boyfriend should say at Thanksgiving "hey Mrs last name I'm thankful for the fact that your daughter doesn't cheat on me like you do"
Story 5: Every time I read/hear a story about "Polyamory" I'm going to comment this because that's not Polyamory. That's just sleeping around with your partner's permission. Hate seeing stories where people fall for that little turn of phrase when their partner very obviously just wants to passionately hug other people and not actually be in a poly relationship. Polyamory means you *love* multiple people, not just lust after them. So no sneaking off to hotel rooms to do the naughty with someone you just met. Definitely more of introducing them to, and lets be real here, your very open and willing partner who was super cool with opening the relationship like omg, talk about supportive. While poly relationships aren't always a "lets do this all together", if that's what he was expecting that should of been how it was handled *IF* this really were a poly relationship and not just a ruse to trick your partner into being alright with you sleeping around. Otherwise there was a big discussion that they missed(or intentionally avoided) laying out base rules and expectations, which again happens before the relationship starts not after you've already gotten married.