r/Trueoffmychest "RAISE MY AFFAIR BABY!"
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- čas přidán 9. 07. 2024
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0:00 Intro
0:09 Affair child
2:56 Awful update
3:50 Female colleague
6:17 Fired
6:53 Similar story
7:26 She called me dad
9:36 You're the other woman
11:40 Beautiful story
14:09 Wife is a cheater
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i snorted at that. "god must have given ur mistress too much to handle cuz she died" bruh thats some "Thats why yo momma dead" energy
😂
Ngl Iaughed WAAAAAY too hard at that line.
That one got me dead ngl
Saaaaame I had to pause the freaking video lmao
Laughed so hard I’m going to hell.
“YOU MADE A VOW!!!”
And so did you a-hole. You made a vow not to cheat on her. Adultery breaks one of the 10 commandments whereas honoring your husband and raising someone else’s child is not on the list.
Came here to say just that.
Exactly. Which vow permitted him to sleep with someone else? And which vow condones assaulting your spouse?
@benjie128 Thou shall do what ever you want and use your religion to justify everything even if it doesnt say that.
Why are cheating pastors so common and all act all high and mighty? My grandfather was a pastor who cheated on my grandmother with a woman he was giving MARRIAGE COUNSELING to!!! Then 2 of my uncles (his sons) also cheated who were also pastors!!! They sure give Christian’s a bad name.
Even without any religion, once ONE party breaks an oath/vow, the whole deal is off.
I have no idea where these honorless cowards come off breaking vows and then expecting everyone else to still follow them.
Story 1: As soon as he raised his hand to her and demanded she "serve her husband"... yeah, time to go just from that, yet alone betraying her and having an affair.
I always try and figure out what Bible these people be reading.. He didn't apologize to get for cheating at all!!
Yup! The end.
His true colors brightly flared. Time to move along. And time to email every church member a detailed description of why.
What about the whole, not commiting adultery thing? He's scum and abusive. I hope OP leave. Now.
This has cult vibes
Or as I'd to say: Throw the whole husband away.
The "she called me dad" story made me almost cry out of happiness for them
I was laughing by the end like dude’s got years of dad jokes to make up. And then rslash goes and makes a dad joke 🤣
really needed that wholesomeness
@@mandymagnolia1966 lol
It’s so sweet 😭😭🤧
Me, a Catholic, my friend, a Jew, can site MANY biblical reasons why that Pastor is out of his damn mind.
Report him to be investigated
"we consulted all religions and humanity has come to the conclusion you're an a******"
Religion is for brain dead idiots.
I am a Muslim and yeah he is clinically insane
Abrahamic avengers, huh
@@blaineyeamlak 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
As a Christian, no. This girl deserves so much better. This is not how servants of God acts
Yeah listening to this… 44, pastor, sleeping with the community members and I was thinking “Oh, he’s one of THOSE kinds of pastors” the Jim Jones, John Smith kind
Perhaps this is a message from god to GET THE F OUT OF THIS MARRIAGE.
You can forgive him. From 1,000 miles away.
It's disgraceful Christian's like him that gives the rest of us bad names. A wolf in sheep's clothing.
absolutely CORRECT!
He should be like other pastors and sleep with the children -_-
I'm convinced that "Yahweh" is actually a bunch of different gods, because there's plenty of servants who do act like that.
"You made a vow to me in marriage"
Yes, you too, and you broke it. shows how much you care for them.
Yeah, that was such a bizarre thing to say... while arguing that your wife should accept and raise the newborn you had with your recently deceased mistress. wtaf?
I bet he thought he had a checkmate moment.
Husband: Well you vowed, so... 😏
Wife: So did you.
Husband: 😏...😧
WASTED!
He needs to be reported to the board
The fact that the first OP barely registered being slapped by her husband as irredeemable makes me suspect she's in one of those abusive, misogynistic religious communities. Telling the congregation won't amount to much; she needs to just get out of there, cut ties with everyone, and find herself a religious trauma support group.
THIS!!
And the assistant is in on it. Telling the congregation would just lead to the husband turning the situation into a sermon about turning the other cheek or something. She should just leave and get a lawyer.
Re "makes me suspect she's in one of those abusive, misogynistic religious communities." Yes, this is called Christianity. The Abrahamic god is a huge misogynist.
I heard “he slapped me” and that was automatic divorce territory.
If God or some other higher power does exist; that man does NOT speak for them.
He is saying things cult leaders say. I was like, leave when he said he cheated. Then asked about using her office and saying it's her duty....wtf....I hope she got tf out. And a restraining order....
Wouldn’t automatic divorce territory be at the moment he cheated?
I don't like violence but if I was her brother, I'd probably end up in prison.
He probably speaks for one of the Greek gods lol
@@njmoonfrost6145 I dunno. Zeus was a fornicator but Hera was the goddess of marriage and she could really hold a grudge. You wouldn't have wanted to be on her naughty list if you were a mere man and not her immortal, swan humping husband.
“He was always kind to me and made me feel special”
That sounds like grooming to me
That was exactly my thought
"You need to serve your husband"
"Ok", hands divorce papers, "you've been served"
Also, OP in the first story came back with an update! She stayed in the relationship for two months afterwards and tried to mother the child, but couldn't get over the resentment she felt towards the baby. Actively hating an innocent child and wishing harm on it was what made OP realise that she couldn't do this anymore and she got out of the relationship.
Story #1: Without even listening to the rest of the story...yeah, OP, you DO need to serve your husband. Serve him with divorce papers...and ASAP!
For the final story: OP, you might want to do a DNA test as well, just to be sure...
You had me in the first half, not gonna lie.
@@zacharysieg2305 I meant it as kind of a dramatic pause 😄 But yeah, the husband is disgusting and I do agree with rShlash in that OP should nuke the church when bailing out...
I feel bad for OP living and growing up in that cult
To be fair I really don’t think it’ll be that easy
@@lacko623 I generally believe in being the better person in most situations… but in this case, put the jerkwad on blast.
The idea of being not only a cheater, but also expecting someone to accept and mother the product of that affair is disgusting. That poor child, if she does take in the child, she will resent the child forever. And the father is horrendous.
She needs to get away. That husband is clearly abusive.
Glad that someone isn't entirely alienating/almost demonizing the affair baby who isn't responsible for any of it and just happened to be born from a cheater. I hope he finds a happy ending. Not the cheater though
@Hostile_bigbird this woman and the baby as well as the other twin and their mother... this man just hurts everyone he comes into contact with. Everyone except for the husband is a victim. A baby died, a woman died (she was pretty shitty for what she did but she didn't deserve to DIE), and this wife is being spiritually, physically, and emotionally abused....
He's hiding behind his faith and using it as the basis for his abuse. Not only that but he's a professional guilt tripper to begin with. Op needs to get this guy out of her life and possibly in jail for that slap.
Yep. Her goal for bailing on that sham of a marriage should be getting out before he saddles her with his mistress' newborn. Like, wtaf!?
@@hostile_brat2450 I never understood why people did that. The kid did nothing wrong
Story 2: Remember the post where OP was obsessively in love with her married neighbor? Now, what if we took that story, but put it in the perspective of the wife?
That's this post. Some people really trying to be a homewrecker.
I was questioning why this story sounded familiar
I'm so glad I found someone else mentioning this! This sounds like the wife found her post
Oh is that the one where the wife had a car wreck? I was just talking about that one.
I don't think that's the post the OP was talking about though. In that post, the husband and the homewrecker didn't work in the same workplace.
LOL!! I thought the same exact thing!! You'd have to stretch the story to make it fit, but I did think the same!
OP1: As soon as she said "our community" I thought "cult." The husband's words and actions confirmed that, not to mention her escape plan verbiage. Divorce. Leave. Run. Seek police protection.
First Story: I would’ve laughed straight to his face the moment he said "we". I get OP is having a lot of emotions going on right now but the leading emotion she should have is pure rage. This man was having an affair, got her pregnant, tried to force OP into raising the kid, slapped OP, and kept using god to justify all of this. This man is insane and while I agree the kid don’t deserve anything, this guy deserves everything he gets. Divorce is an option always. Yo this sounds like a damn cult. OP needs to abandon ship and run from all of this. She is NOT obligated to take care of this child and she is NOT obligated to stay in a marriage with a guy about 15 years her senior
Second Story: Well damn, OP is not taking no bs from this woman. Glad she didn’t immediately believe the lies this person told her about her husband. I honestly want to see the post the person OP is talking about made. That was honestly expected
Comment: Why does some people automatically catch feelings and think they're in love with someone JUST because they were nice to them? Isn’t that a basic thing to be nice and polite? Some people are just insane
Third Story: One word to describe this story: wholesome. All OP has to do now is legally adopt Hailey.
Fourth Story: Wait, did OP say SHE was uncomfortable with him sleeping with another woman while she was loyal to him? Did OP already forget that he is MARRIED. The WIFE isn’t the other girl and second, OP is the other girl and the one that contributed to this affair lmao. All I know is that OP probably ruined a marriage. Not saying the guy is blameless because he is cheating on his wife but OP probably shouldn’t done some digging before she got pregnant and attached to this man
Fifth Story: Amy does deserve better friends but she already started with gaining those friends with OP. OP was pissed FOR Amy because of how messed up these "friends" treated her because of what she looked like WHILE taking advantage of her. Good on OP for being a good friend
Sixth Story: OP's wife is a horrible person and I can’t wait to hear the aftermath of this. I can’t wait to hear an update on how she reacts to OP giving her divorce papers and OP confronting her. Cheaters will always be considered trash in my eyes
Here before all the edits
As I said before, most women are dumb, and they pick trash men, this is just another example. FATHERS MUST PICK THE HUSBANDS, NOT DUMB WOMEN, MEN NO MEN, WOMEN DON'T KNOW MEN, THEY NEVER DID AND THEY WILL NEVER WILL.
I fear for OP's safety when she leaves. Too many stories in the news about abusive spouses killing their spouses and in some cases, because of religious reasons. I hope she is safe.
@@Yumi_Jayfacts
There is update to first story, I will copy from reddit: I just wanna thank y'all for the support. I'm still processing this all, and I just need a little time. I don't feel unsafe, just unloved- just not enough. My husband did apologize for slapping me and continues to express regret, but he can't take it back. Just as he cannot take back impregnating another woman which ultimately killed her. I'm just feeling so disillusioned with my whole life right now, I know I should leave. I know that there is a world out there that will not treat me like this, but I am scared of change. I am working on a plan to leave and getting my ducks in a row for when I am ready to go, but I am not sure when I would leave if I choose to.
Many expressed that I should make a report to the police about him slapping me, and they're probably right, but that would likely cause me more problems than it would be worth. If I leave it might make him want to contest the divorce more, and if I stay it would cause more tension. I've been working on my left hook though because I won't let him get away with it again. I'm not violent myself but I'm down for a tussle, because although I'm hurt; I am angry. I'm not sure if there will be an update- because I'm still unsure. I can make all the plans in the world but the change scares me almost as much as bending to his will. I've been praying about it but I see no clear answers or guidance. I don't know.
The bridesmaids story, I feel so bad for the sweet lady that offered her home as a venue. I hope she realizes that she deserves better and replaces those childhood friends with actual friends soon.
Fr fr
She already has a good one she just needs to wake up and see how her other "friends" are awful to her... I really hope this is a "wake up call" for her that she doesn't need "friends" like that and maybe could spend more time with her real one!
Of course it's very bad how the childhood friends treated the bridesmaid, yet I wouldn't enable her to being overweight.
I know she is kindhearted, very sweet, great personality, but under no circumstances I would tell her that "she is beautiful as she is".
I would, at most, tell her "she's beautiful in the inside" and also help her with the overweight. That she can turn her life around.
Everyone deserves a companion in a weight loss journey. And also would be a perfect revenge on the childhood friends that called her ugly.
@@deadlishaoran Wow... We don't know the bridesmaid's medical history or her actual weight so we don't know if her weight is a genetic thing, related to an illness, or is circumstantial. We also don't know if she wants to lose weight and that should be a personal choice. Saying that someone can't be beautiful if they are overweight is a disgusting opinion, fat does not equate to ugly. Your comment comes off as very fatphobic which is not cool.
@@GoldDragonJewelry fatphobic means having repulsion towards the fat people.
I don't see a problem with being fat, but I do have an issue with someone that doesn't wanna improve their life.
If a person doesn't have a physical condition, then what's stopping them from being overweight?
In the same sense a drug addict doesn't wanna leave the drugs, why is an overweight person not doing diet and workout?
Someone with that kind of mentality will inevitably turn into a toxic relationship since there's a psychological problem inside and it's not getting treated.
The body positivity movement started with accepting your body as it is, when having deformities, albinism, being amputee or something. Then the fat people hijacked it to "accepting themselves" being fat, having morbid obesity.
I won't ever enable toxic behavior.
1st story: Op needs to run, divorce and then go scorched earth on the pastor and his assistant. Then get herself into therapy. Like..damn....just...damn.
3:32
RSlash: Blow up the church when you go . . .
Me: I mean, that’s a little much don’t you think
RSlash: . . . by exposing his lies
Me: oh, not literally- got it 😅
I thought the same thing
Yeah, I was like "That's a bit excessive..."
Me: I'll get the dynamite and explosives.
RSlash: "-by exposing his lies"
Me(holding a big box of dynamite and explosives): ... I see, there's some misunderstanding... I'll put these away.
Sameee 😂
Same I was like: WHOA, that's a bit *too* much.
"by exposing..."
"Oh, yeah blow it up *that* way.
“this might be a bit extreme, but i think you should blow up the church as you go” this caught me off guard til i realized what he meant
Hahaha I thought the same thing 😅
So... did he meant or not "do it Joker style"?
😆😆 Oh, that didn't occur to me but I see how it could be misunderstood. Let's hope the YT algorithm doesn't take that the wrong way!
I was looking for someone who mentioned this comment. I was also like, "r/slash, what are you thinking?!" Then I got it after he explained a little more.
Same!! lol!! A momentary “WTF??!?”! I’m glad he detailed what he actually meant.
Bridesmaid story: make her the maid of honour! She's more than earned it
I hope the friend brags about being a bridesmaid on social media for all her friends to see. And when OP gets married she posts a pic online and tags her friend with a caption, “ I’m sorry others didn’t see your worth to be by their side on their important day but you are a true friend and deserve the best’!
YES!! That's actually a super great idea! In my version, that's exactly how it goes down!
"it seems like god gave that woman too much to handle, she died"
Slay queen ... oh wait, too late.
Dude the story about the guy becoming a guardian to being her dad. That story is so damn wholesome at the end. I feel bad for all the parents who passed but OP is a wholesome guy
He had me in tears! It was sweet.
I think this subreddit may be my new favourite. R Slash could read a gripping story then he would say 'oooo there's an update' that's my favourite part of these.
Last story: OP needs to get a paternity test for his son. There's a very high likelihood of his soon to be ex and her "friend" sleeping together before the baby was born.
I had to know if he did, he updated his post and it his child and is talking to his attorney of the whole situation. I'm so hoping he has a happy ending
@@Lithium_Panda I am SOOO glad you were able to find that update because it never crossed my mind that the little boy might not be his, but when I saw people making that comment, my heart SANK!! I'm so happy his son IS his and he's working on a happy ending! And thanks for this update! My mind REALLY needed that!
The guy who took over as dad of his half sister, what a great guy made me tear up a bit
Can we appreciate OP in the second story trusting her husband and defending him against his harasser?
It seems so wholesome
Last story: you should talk to a lawyer about this. She can still get full custody and you pay child support
Definitely consult an attorney rather than just assuming he's on the right track. That would be money well spent.
Yes definitely op need to consult a lawyer and keep collecting evidence and CHEH she is out of their lives
Welcome to the "justice" system
Can't believe the always lost marimo getting into a point...
Yes,get a lawyer,avoid judge,he is scum of ahole...
Anyways,if you're gonna look for the lawyer,you mught never get one because even if you know the lawyer is,you'd be going into other places instead 😂
Paternity/maternity test anyone?
First story: 39 year-old dating a 24 year-old: 1st red flag. Affair: 2nd red flag. Getting rid of her office to make a nursery: 3rd red flag. Hit her: 4th red flag.
No way is this guy going to "take turns" caring for the baby either. She needs to run.
Exposing his predatory ways would be a bonus, but getting out should be her focus.
His congregation would follow him even if he was exposed.
Yeah, her being young, religious and hesitant to make change is EXACTLY why the pastor married her. He assumed she'd be a doormat and he could manipulate her to accept his BS.
@@streamerssaymyname I'm sure some will stay... I'm also sure, he'll lose the support of others. It doesn't really matter. OP should still air it all out on her way out the door.
I’m sure he would expect OP to be a SAHM so he can also financially abuse her as well
He also took advantage of the emotionally vulnerable woman that came to him seeking spiritual help. Another red flag.
Story 02: There’s actually another update and turns out that the coworker is seriously mentally ill and has a history of obsessing over men due to a traumatic incident that OP would not say. She’s usually medicated for it but was off her meds when she started stalking OP’s husband. OP alerted her family and they’ve gotten her committed and back on her meds so hopefully she’ll get back to a normal state. Not quite the drama we all expected but at least the ex-coworker is getting help and leaving OP and her husband alone.
Ok so I appreciate the absolute wholesome stories after the horrible ones. I am legit wiping away happy tears after the third story. I love stories about awesome big brothers makes me want to hug my own awesome big bro.
Plus he's now legally entitled to use dad jokes. :D
When a grown boy cheats on his wife and demands her to take care of his affair child HELL NO!! Throw the whole husband away!
1st story: GIRL RUN. He cheated on you, hit you, RUN. You don’t need to raise his mistress baby wtf I’m screaming. Just finishing that story and I completely agree tel the whole church.
Story 1 had a full update: Yeah sorry rslash, there is no 'exposing' cheating husband and pastor, this is a good ol' boys town, everyone knows and everyone is "not happy" with OP's husband but is demanding she forgive him, even OP's mom and brother. That being said, OP went off the deep end a bit, she had a major disassociation episode where she didn't feel like anything was real, and admits when she looked at her husband's affair baby she would resent it to the point she thought about ... well, doing harm to him. OP's husband picked up on it, though, and took on 100% of the childcare, moreso because he doesn't trust OP anymore (ironic, isn't it?). Finally, OP is better and she left in the middle of the night while husband was at bible study, changed her phone number, and took all her money with her. She left divorce papers underneath cheater's pillow and called it a Tooth Fairy gift for a-holes.
First story: yes he can have the nursery for the baby. In fact he can have the whole house for the baby because she shouldn't live there anymore. He will be lucky as hell if she doesn't wise up and press assault charges.
Story 1: Yeah husband, God blessed you with a child, but SOMEONE ELSE blessed you with the child, NOT OP. Dude, OP'S husband made a vow during marriage that he would not cheat, but breaks the promise and has an affair with a community member? Who really the bad guy here huh? Yeah, serve him, serve him with f*cking divorce papers.
The coworker from the second story reminds me of that post where the lady was in love with her neighbor but then babysat his kids while his wife was in the hospital and was having second thoughts cause she didn't like the kids 💀
1st story: "Forgiveness is a virtue." Yeah, so is faithfulness.
That first story... The minute he hits you, you LEAVE. They only hit once and then that relationship ends. Do not stay with this man, or you will have a lifetime of abuse ahead of you because it will not stop at that one slap.
Once, are a accident
Twice, are a habbit
Trice, you're the fool
@@hellefur7861 Not even once. Never. Once, and you're gone. Don't look back.
R/SLASH, the story of the wife and co-worker, there was an update.. The co-workers neice saw the post and told her that this is a pattern, she does it all the time.. The neice showed the family the post, reached out to OP and got the ex-employee into inpatient mental health..
"He and the baby don't deserve this"
Honey, YOU don't deserve this!! Ugh, using God to guilt your wife into accepting your affair and to throw the burden of the repercussions onto her is disgusting
The first story made me sick. Run girl, run. Please leave him and don't raise that baby. He hit you, he is abusive. It will get worse and he will walk all over you.
Story 1: RUN!! Leave everything behind except a suitcase, and cash. Go to a police station in another area to the one the church is in. Report the abuse, and what's happened. Then file for divorce and a restraining order. I don't think he's going to just let you go on your own. It sounds like he thinks he owns you.
An absolutely excellent plan! This guy smacks of a cult leader.
Imagine if the husband in the first story lied about the mistress dying ,and there was no other twin, and instead mistress abandoned the baby. It could be made up to guilt trip her
Story 1: it's his cross to bear, not OPs. She needs to get out! Oh and take Rslash's advice too.
The 1st story, he said she needed to honor her wedding vows, yet it’s okay for him to dishonor those vows & knock up another lady? & still force his wife to take care of his affair baby?? Omg the hypocrisy!!
First story: GET OUT NOW OR BECOME A VICTIM OF ABUSE EVERY DAY.
Everyone needs a friend like Amy but not many of us deserve her💘
The graduation half-sibling story: I am crying tears of joy for OP. That must feel incredible having her call him "dad" and I'm so happy for them!
1st story: I agree, OP should run asap. But I also feel sorry for the poor baby, it didn't deserve to lose its mum and sibling and it sure as hell didn't deserve such a "father".
Story 1: The fact that he probably was never gonna tell his wife he had gotten another woman pregnant and only did it because of something so sad and unfortunate and now he had to is so sickening
With the story about the friend who is so kind and was asked to be the bridesmaid, she’s a rare breed I recognize. She’s the type of person my Nana was. Everyone younger than her always called her that cause of grandkids like me, haha. Anyways, these people, the kindhearted ones who always place others ahead of themselves… They’re the absolute best kinds of people. So I fully understand OP’s anger at her friend being called too fat for the wedding pictures. OP, please cherish your friend. She’s a rare person and deserves to be cherished for the kindhearted angel she is.
The story with the woman that was fired, sounds like a story I heard about a woman falling in love with her neighbor who was married and posted it on Reddit how she was babysitting his kids,they were awful and the guy ended up seeing it.
1st story: if God forgave op's husband for the affair, God will definitely forgive op for not raising the other woman's child. Get out & expose the adulterer.
We’ve been commanded to forgive, not trust. Don’t stay with someone you don’t trust. Red flags all around.
“You needed to serve your husband” does this man believe that women serve men or something? He said this twice and it the word “serve” gets me there.
The last story reminds me of a pro revenge story you read a year or two ago where the guy knew his wife was cheating with another married person (they got flack for keeping it a secret to the detriment of the other innocent spouse) so instead of separating right away and losing all of his stuff, he spent a few years lowering his incoming until it was below hers and a bunch of other steps so when he took her to court he got EVERYTHING instead of it being the other way around.
Yeah I remember
Yeah that was some juicy revenge!
@@lorilancaster5917 agree
I've been listening to RSlash ritualistically, when I'm drawing, animating and eating. Now when RSlash first gave his opinion on the first story I was almost about to lose my mind when he said "I'm going to be honest OP, you need to grow a spine" and let me tell you, my jaw hung OPEN cause I thought he was going to say some unhinjed shit. I'm glad he didn't but in my defense, I haven't slept much and was kinda zone out lol
He’s always been very women positive but it did make me laugh to finally hear him basically say “get your shit together this man is literally abusing you” like it was harsh but absolutely necessary like , yes king okay 😭🤣
@@luckybat7137 Hey so I have no clue if you noticed but RSlash is in no way responsible for YOUR triggers nor was he talking about YOUR SPECIFIC experiences and neither was my comment. Honestly I understand your situation and have been through similar and even abused in relationships and I have had the religious trauma. Whatever you think I had to go through I probably have. Him saying “grow a spine” was fucking hilarious. Obviously not everyone is in a spot where they can but there’s obviously other options as I most certainly found some. Your comment was completely unnecessary and I’m not saying that to be a dick. I’m saying that cause I was making a comment that I was sleep deprived and not paying attention and was laughing at my ignorance. I was not at all trauma dumping which is what you did and I don’t know bout you and your friends but I most certainly dont think it’s appropriate for you to trauma dump publicly where people can shit on your experiences. And I’m not trying to do that to you here. I’m trying to warn you cause I’ve definitely seen it happen, especially in situations like this. I can be respectful, but THAT was unwarranted. And you most certainly shouldn’t be trauma dumping to strangers on the internet cause most people definitely arent like me.
I’m sorry for what happened to you, truly. But if you don’t like the content dont click on the video or just dislike it. That simple. I hope you don’t take me as an asshole cause I’m most certainly not trying to be one but its the internet so I am unsure what to expect
/nm /nbr (tone indicators incase you use them)
@@xPeachTeax Now that I’m not stuck in my memories in a state of panic. I want to say I’m sorry, to you. In no way was this comment directed at you, it was mostly for r/slash. I am 100% aware that he’s not responsible for “my triggers” as much as I hate that term.
If I’m being honest my mind kinda went blank with rage because he said that. I’m just so tired of people blaming the woman for “not leaving sooner” or “not vetting him enough” as if that matters in an abusive situation.
It’s especially bad that he said that right after the woman got hit too and I just… lost it. As if her upbringing and values that were brainwashed into her didn’t matter at all, and it’s her fault for not leaving immediately or calling the cops immediately.
@@xPeachTeax I’m not exaggerating when I say I was completely fine going in to the video. It was 100% a light switch moment.
@@TheeJadaLove Again I’m sorry for the outburst. I’ve embarrassed myself enough.
Story 1: OP needs to leave ASAP.
And yeah, she's 29, she can start over! But if she stays, that slap will be nothing more than a taste of what she'll be facing if she decides to stay with him.
And get away from those people, they're all hypocrites and stupid fanatics; and as Rslash said, definitely expose the pastor and his assistant to the rest of the church. If there's one thing I've learned is that people like them wont be forgiven.
Story 1: Spouse commands obedience and slaps OP. Spouse needs to be turned into Bob-like wall decor, in the style made famous by Michael Audrey Myers.
That one about the bridesmaid reminds me of my mother. My mother is the sweetest person, I have literally watched her give the clothes off her back (it was a jacket, she wasn't publically indecent) to help someone, yet my mother is permanently disabled due to cancer along with having a disabled daughter (me). Time and time again I have seen people treat my mother as an afterthought whenever anything good happens or when my mother herself needs help, yet come to her first when they need help. It angers me so much and I wish I could do more for my mother because she is so sweet, and I know if anyone invited her to be a bridesmaid she'd automatically assume it's out of kindness rather than because they actually want her there. Heck, my mother has been asked to make clothes/jewellery for a wedding and then wasn't invited THREE TIMES.
I hope Amy has a continued friendship with OP as OP also sounds like a good person. Include people in your life, guys, and not just when it's beneficial.
Perhaps your mother can't rely on her friends, but it certainly sounds like she is very lucky to have a daughter like you! I'm sure that she would agree.
I had to pause the video and laugh for a solid ten minutes. ‘Seems He gave your mistress more than she can handle.’ That sent me
I'm sorry, i had to RAGE over the first story. I CANNOT stand cheaters in general as my own sperm donor is a serial cheater and a hypocrite, so the thought that OP's husband cheated on her with another woman, that woman and one of the twins died and he's basically forcing OP to take care of this affair baby... it just made me rage halfway through. OP NEEDS to get out of that relationship. That's not her child, and if her "husband" wants to take care of the surviving baby, he can do it by himself.
ETA: I'm ALSO a Christian, and this made me rage even more so. What's one of the #1 important "rule" about being a Christian? DON'T BE A GOD DAMN MOTHER FUCKING HYPOCRITE!
as a muslim, that is also our number one sin, I apologize such fucking disgusting people taint your faith, may god bless you for your suffering friend.
@Papa Bear thank you, friend. I have been fortunate enough to have remove that cancerous lout out of my life. It has not tainted my faith enough to stop believing. 🙂
Not like its her responsibility, but the child should probably get out too, if he beats his wife guess who he's gonna start beating next
@Cannibalistic Rapscallion totally agree
Exactly!
The post about the woman harassing the other lady's husband reminds me of the story when that woman had a thing for a neighbour "Kevin" and babysat his kids once
Im so glad for you Dabney that not only did you take everyones advice about taking a break but also to have some wholesome stories in your video's, i hope you continue with it.
“It seems god gave your mistress more than she can handle because she died” 😂 I love that, I’ll take my ticket to Hell idc. Divorce that guy, report his spousal abuse.
When OP in the first story said that the mistress got more than she could handle, since she died, I honestly laughed out loud. That sounds like something I would say haha 😅😅
Story 1: tell your husband that you won't even consider taking care of the kid until he stands in front of the congregation and confess his sins.
Then ditch him
RSLASH YOU CANNOT SAY "BLOW UP THE CHURCH" OUT OF CONTEXT AND THEN PAUSE, I WAS IN SHOCK
In that first story when Dabney said "Blow up the church" I was thinking "damn bro, you ok?". Then I realized "blow up" as in "raise hell" (which is ironic choice of works come to think of it), exposing drama, etc.
We need rSlash whole stories! The she called me dad was needed today
OMG THE BRIDESMAID STORY🥺🥺🥺 I’ve been in your friend’s shoes for years. I can’t tell you how much that meant to her for you to see her heart when others could only see her body. That kind of validation is very overwhelming when you’re not used to it.
Man, my heart breaks for the last OP, I hope he is able to get full custody of his child
"I don't understand why she stays with him." GIRL WHY DO YOU??? WHAT MAKES YOU THINK HE WOULDNT CHEAT ON YOU LIKE HE DID HIS WIFE
Having unknowingly been the "other woman" a couple of times, (I was dumb and young and naive) I can only say that your brain doesn't always work logically. The second one I bailed IMMEDIATELY after finding out.
The first guy.... well, I was fresh out of a childish marriage with the only guy I'd ever been with, was very young and I thought he meant it when he said he loved me too much and that he was leaving her. I know now that I was selfish and dumb. But my brain, heart and soul just wanted so desperately to believe that he loved me. I literally couldn't see the red flags. See, through rose-colored glasses, red flags are just flags.
I understand having little to no sympathy for "other women" in affairs. I didn't either. I also used to see them on TV shows or in books and think, "OMG how stupid do you have to be?!? I'll NEVER be that dumb." And yet...
But yeah, I'm a cautionary tale. Don't be me. Lol
Also, a phrase I like for the ones who do get them to leave their wives and marry them:
'A man who marries his mistress has a new job opening to fill.'
Sorry for the babble, just wanted to share my story of idiocy. Cheaters can be slick. If their lines and tricks never worked, they wouldn't be cheaters. (I have learned in my 25 years since, to cut myself some slack and forgive myself. But never to forget.)
@@NixyRose72 Oh damn, I really wasn’t thinking straight when I made that comment. I’m fortunate enough to have never been the “other person”, I really should’ve been thinking about things from that perspective. Huge wake up call, ty
(I feel like this sounds sarcastic but I promise I don’t mean to)
@@xeno6773 no worries! If you haven't ever experienced it then you couldn't possibly know. I didn't either before it happened!
But I have experience from both sides of that horrible coin. And both sides suck. Self esteem, ego and confidence all take a huge hit no matter which woman (or man/enby) you are, other or original. I feel like if there's any true blame to be had (most of it, anyway) it's the person cheating in the relationship. There are promises both implied and stated and vows made. The cheater breaks those and hurts so many ppl. 💔
I'm just here bringing a different perspective, not chastising or anything! Also, maybe helping someone reading these comments to make that hard choice. The one to end, or not even begin, a hurtful relationship with someone already involved. It so very rarely ends well. Mostly just in hurt and heartbreak. Scars and emotional damage that may never completely heal.
Anyway, thanks for coming to my TED talk 🤣
Hugs! Have a blessed day
Last story: who jumps into having an affair after having a baby!? I really don’t understand their mindset.
Most people are exhausted after having a baby and barely have enough energy to look after themselves. I suspect that the affair started before the birth and that perhaps OP isn't the father.
My friend's ex did that. She straight up walked out on both of them when the baby was only like 7 months old. I've never understood being able to just leave your infant child like that.
@@JimLambier exactly that is what I was thinking. It must have been going on for a long time. When I had my baby, I was in survival mode the first six months, too tired and sleep deprived.
@@KattoTang wow that is crazy
This subreddit is wild. Happy stories, sad stories, ones that rile you up and ones that make you wicked-cackle.
It's one thing to _choose_ to raise a partner's affair child (and major props for those who do), it's another thing when you're essentially being expected/told/commanded/threatened to raise the kid. It bears repeating that if someone uses their religion as a justification for their awful behaviour, they were never a good person to begin with. _[side-eyes the Republican Party]_
After that slap i would have been like "well god has chosen for me to find a new husband"
As someone who also was married into the church, very young, let me tell you I am now in my mid 40s and the best thing I ever did when my husband was abusive and told me to serve him when he was being ungodly was to run like the wind. I have never regretted leaving him ever. Not once he had money and affluence he was also a pastor or supposed to be in our church, I am glad every day that I am not with him. No, my life hasn’t been easy, but he has been more happy and joyful than I ever was living the life I lived with him, feeling the way I felt, trapped, alone, being spewed, lies to day after day not only from him, but from the church as well. I still believe there’s a God, but that’s not the God I believe in. I don’t believe that you should control your wife or treat her like property. You are your own person? You deserve happiness, and to be treated with love and kindness, none of which you have described in that story. This is his cross to bear not yours.
I think I heard that story! Someone narrated it, maybe Mark? But it's this woman who's "in love" with her coworker even tho they have literally zero contact and hes never given any indication he likes her other than being polite. So glad the wife posted! The stalker never listened to any advice trying to set her straight, she needs therapy like last week
I had an unfortunate breakup, and I’m now raising her on my own. Hearing dads reminiscing raising their kids tears me up every time.
Bridesmaid story: that really broke my heart. I'm glad she found a better friend. I can't believe how terrible her "lifelong leeches" have been. ...
Last story: I can't imagine how hard it must be to know that your partner is cheating but you can't say anything. But you're correct in saying he should think about it differently. He has to build tougher skin because of his situation. He has the opportunity to collect absolute proof.
I'd have a hard time not fckn with them. Finding ways to pop up nearby, grabbing her phone for silly reasons so she acts a fool and has a heart attack every time. Lol. He can have a little torture sessions to pass the time during this year and a half.
Some people..... The mistress complaining that the married man he's cheating with is being unfaithful to HER by sleeping with his WIFE is the ultimate delusion. The audacity of that w___e lol
That last story I would also recommend finding a lawyer. They can advise the best way to get custody when your plan is set in motion.
Story 3 it’s so amazing I am so glad op’s officially her dad
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I audibly gagged when the husband in the first story, slapped OP then demanded she serve him. Sooo gross
The story where big brother is now dad made me wanna cry 🥺 that was such a nice wholesome story to add
That one story reminds me of how this woman was being stalked by this guy and he tried convincing the husband that he was her male mistress. Basically always doing things to make it look like they were cheating. Well the husband fell for it and One day when the guy was stalking his wife he secretly followed her as well and all three of them were in a Walmart parking lot when he unalived both the stalker and himself.
Some people believe she actually was cheating but she swears she wasn't. I mostly confused why you would set up a meeting with your mistress at a Walmart of all places.
I lol'd so loudly when she said "god gave her more then she could handle". The cajones. Hope she has the same cajones to tell him to f**k off
The nerve of that man in the first story to tell her she made a vow when he broke one of the commandments, did “thou shalt not commit adultery” just slip his mind that day 9 months back? The audacity.
The only thing that pastor is going to learn from her leaving him is that next time, as he's grooming another way younger woman, to not allow her to have a job (aka self-sufficiency) that enables her to escape
Story 1: *RSlash takes a week off making videos because he has been getting angry*
Also RSlash: "You should blow up the Church"
Me: *surprised Pikachu face*
Technically, RSlash hasn't been on holiday before this video was recorded.
Last story: How many think that his child isn’t his but the male best friends? I think when he tries to divorce her, it will come to light.
I'm also curious as to how distraught the husband is about his mistress passing away.
The weirdest thing about the story is The Mistress being older than the non-mistress
Probably one of those creeps who think younger women are "more fertile" only for them to find out OP can't fulfill the role of broodmare like he wanted, so he took the opportunity with the mistress to have a child "as was his right" given how these types tend to think.
OP needs to run like a cockroach from the light, because this guy is _toxic_ .
Half of these stories are about adultery and the other half are really wholesome
A good balance
As everything should be
I feel bad for the "other woman" story. She's also a victim in the cheating.
But I lost my sympathy when she choose to continue.
I get the feeling that the dude is manipulative and probably abusive. Considering how he talks about the OP. He is convincing her that he is still her best bet.
@@Ikajo still that doesn’t give her any right to feel like someone else’s man is hers . Baby or not she made that choice to continue. So she’s just gonna have to lie in the bed she made for herself 🤦🏽♀️
I don't have the words for how grateful I am that a vacation for him still means uploads, it's the best of both worlds
What a rollercoaster.
That pastor makes me furious. Hiding behind God to excuse his crimes and then invoking the vows HE BROKE to force op to deal with the consequences? Not to mention resorting to violence after. If there is a hell, he belongs there.
That said, dadbro in the third one is an absolute treasure. Same to the bridesmaid.
Story 1: That’s not a church, that’s a cult!