r/Topposts My Girlfriend Thinks She's a 3-year-old Child
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0:00 Intro
0:12 Alter ego
10:41 Pregnant
13:07 Marriage
"Sneaky Snitch" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) License: CC By Attribution 3.0 - Komedie
I think we can all agree that, even if the brother's GF isn't faking the DID, the fact that she has a TT account pretending to be OP's daughter and literally tried to kidnap her leaves no doubt about how dangerous she is. OP and the wife are 100% correct in cutting her and the brother out of their lives.
While i beleive that the brain has ways to protect itself i cant understand why the gf would have a personality based on her new bf's neice. Has she never interacted with any other child/toddler? Is she jelious of how good Op treats his daughter compared to how she, the gf, was treated by her own parents? I just dont get why Op's daughter.
I was going to comment something similar. With the difference that the fact that she processed the steps needed to kidnap and to post on TikTok when pretending to be a 3 year old, make it so there is a good faith, educated strong case to be made that the girlfriend does not have D.I.D she has something else entirely and its objectively faking it.
People with alters literally with different ages, literally only know and behave with what they know, ALSO most D.I.D dont forget what their alters do, its not the movie shattered. And example its an interview of one person like that on the channel Azeal.
The amazing thing the Brother (and rslash) kind of glossed over: If she doesn’t know what she dose as the 3 year old then how can she film herself as the 3 year old? What 3 year old can set up the shoot?
The GF is nuts and not in a “she has a disorder” but is just nuts
She’s absolutely faking, DID doesn’t work the way she’s pretending it does
@@leonxpc1 I think you mean the movie Split
Last story: she admitted that Kelvin did not even hold hands which means that when she slept in his bed, he probably was not in it. I think OP is delusional in this case and definitely a few fries short of a happy meal. She definitely has issues, but she needs to get her own life.
P.A. Stands for Personal Assistant. She was his personal assistant and did anything and everything he asked of her. Run Errands, make vacation plans, cook, clean house etc. So when she said she slept in his bed, I am fairly sure it was while he was out, and he probably had no idea that she was doing so. She is delusional and believes that she means more to him than that of a personal assistant, who often times do become part of the family but simply as close friends and confidantes. Sad that she got so attached, but it happens which is why most people that have personal assistants keep them at arms length.
I don't know how to respond completely to this story. I will say he was a bit of a butthole for telling her he did not want to date and was not ready for that type of thing when he clearly was seeing somebody, why did he not be honest with her about it??
I don't know how to respond completely to this story. I will say he was a bit of a butthole for telling her he did not want to date and was not ready for that type of thing when he clearly was seeing somebody, why did he not be honest with her about it??
@@troydurocher3777because there’s no evidence that he was dating anyone when she confessed to him either time. He knew his fiancée for a while but they weren’t together
@@troydurocher3777 I mean, there may be a chance she misinterpreted his rejection that way. I don't know, she seems kind of off to me.
As a person with diagnosed PTSD and age regression, The first lady is... wow. I would never do that ever. I CAN control my regressions most of the time. If i notice myself slipping into that headspace in public or a social setting, I take a moment and collect myself so I don't make others uncomfortable. I HAVE regressed before in public without meaning to, but I usually come to quite quickly and take control of the situation. Most people don't notice that side of me at all. I keep it as private as I can. Of course, everyone close to me knows and supports me. It's gotten a LOT better with therapy as well.
THIS ^^^
either the lady needs to get some reality knocked into her or SERIOUSLY step up on their system management. what happened was NOT okay.
It's terrible, these mental disorders actually exist, but people can't take them seriously anymore because of all the people trying to think they're cool and pretending to have them for attention. It sucks.
It's terrible, these mental disorders actually exist, but people can't take them seriously anymore because of all the people trying to think they're cool and pretending to have them for attention. It sucks.
I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this. It's great that you have support around you. THIS is the awareness people need to see, not some attention seeking person on tiktok pretending to be a 3 year old. I truly hope things continue to get better for you. ❤
The chick in the story is faking however it's not regression. It's, supposedly, DID.
As someone who grew up with a mother who had diagnosed MPD/DID (this was back in the 80s, 90s and early 00s so before the term was changed) the more I listen to the story the more I agree with OP. The simple fact that she has enough awareness as a "three year old" to record herself *and* post the videos on TikTok - something that also likely takes at least some level of editing as well - is a huge red flag that she's in control and doing this shit for attention. As many have already commented, it's people like her that makes it harder for legitimate cases to get seen as valid and treatable. I miss my mom but damn am I glad she didn't have to see this era of "social media mental health".
Edit: Also just to note, I feel like if she had this young child alter legitimately it would have been before she met the family, seeing as the daughter is currently three and the uncle had been dating "DID" Girl for about a year at that point. From my experience alters don't generally age, or just appear at random after meeting someone, so either she gave the name *after* meeting the daughter or the whole "alter" just went poof hello I am here now because you met a random three year old related to your boyfriend.
I've met people who have made it extremely hard for me to believe in DID. Its not that I don't think the condition doesn't exists but that media has overpopularised it and now there are people who have nothing wrong who genuinely believe they have DID. I'd like to know more about the condition but I can't help but take everything as half truths.
@@jimmyfountain989 Our understanding of mental health and the conditions therein has changed and grown as more and more research goes into it, but that's not to say everything is completely understood or even accurate still. Unfortunately DID is still difficult to firmly pin down as a yes it exists/no it doesn't because the behaviors can often be attributed to other disorders. You're right that media has given us a very different portrayal of DID. What I experienced in the 90s doesn't track with how people try to pass it off today, and may not even line up entirely with what is in the DSM currently, but I can confidently say that my mother certainly had some sort of disorder that caused an altered state of mind. Be that DID or something else, I don't know and I never will. If nothing else I can say that this woman sounds legitimately ill as well but she's using DID as a shield for any potential consequences and likely basing it off the media portrayals of today.
That's exactly what I was thinking. I'm no expert by any means but the little I do know of DID, alters aren't based on other people and don't just pop up when they meet that person. I'm sorry your mom and you had to go through that. ❤
@@jimmyfountain989honestly people who falsely believe they have DID or pretend have something equally wrong with them and need just as much help. The difference is accountability
Can we take a moment and give props to the nanny in the first story? She did exactly what she was supposed to do and took care of the daughter and made sure she was safe. Some people would have just been like "cool, you know her? Sounds legitimate enough for me. Take her." And not given a second thought.
The bigger props is to the parents who took this situation very seriously and talked about this with the nanny, thus covering all possible scenarios for their children to be safe.
Nobody noticed that bro Said that he can't talk to her because she's either 3 years old OR Doesn't Remember what she did, when she Isn't 3!!! So! How can she, at 3, make an understandable account? She either doesn't remember, therefore can't make an account on something she doesn't remember! OR It's A Scam!!!
Money or Attention, it doesn't matter! I wonder which version bro takes to bed? IMO He's Just As Sick As She Is!!!😢
Story 1 Update 1: wait. Neither personality is aware of the other. But she is capable of anticipating, recording, and uploading videos of the alternate personality? Guaranteed fake.
Edit: somebody replied they are aware of each other, but don’t share memories. That doesn’t answer my overall question of how she can anticipate her alter ego taking over and take advantage of it. Especially assuming her infantile mind doesn’t remember setting up the stream, yet understands she needs to perform to the camera, and not mess with it or turn it off.
Or are you saying a three year old can be a quality streamer (not popular, just having basic skills and tech savvy)?
Either she is faking it, or can control the swap to her infantile mind and chose to do so at OP’s home. Neither answer is favorable to her diagnosis or her relationships.
yea not to mention alters that are baby alters do exist but are uncomon. but i have not found anything about alters that are coppies of actuall people like in this case. also DID i caused by terrible trauma in early years (like a child or early teen) which her parents have said there was no trauma like that. And the tik tok account there is no way she is not faking it.
(also sorry if my english is not the best it is not my first langue)
@@tneanxiety395Yeah...the only defense I can think of for her is that if the trauma did happen, the parents would probably be involved and might lie about it. But...yeah...so many red flags there.
@@tneanxiety395so alters of actual people can happen with someone who has DID; they're called "factives" I believe. But the ALTER is NOT the actual person from the "real world" they just look like said person for lack of a better term. And even then, alters split off due to trauma so they're normally resemble an abuser and not a 3 year old child
@@callanightshade8079 Yea i was thinking about that too, I have never heard of alters that resemble a person that has never done any harm to anyone they usually try to mimic the abuser and thank you for explaining it a bit better for me. For me it just seems like she is one of those people that fake disabilities for likes and aperently a baby/child alter gives her the most fame.
@@davidharshman7645 also true but callanightshade has pointed out that facilities exist and they are basically an acctuall copy of a person, but the thing is it is a copy for example an abuser. (They explained it better than me) so i dont think she is being honest about her diagnosis especailly if she refuses to go to doctor about it and has tik toka ccount that is full of the "copy alter" she puts on.
Last story: if you flip the genders, you end up with an incel. Shes a femcel, and that fact that she's holding on to a gentle rejection from 2 years ago as thinking she has a chance is INSANE. Yeah sure, maybe Kevin should've noticed that she honestly thought he was gonna date her n put a stop to it- maybe those senior mentors should've told the mentor group that Kevin is unavailable bc he's seeing someone else. But the fact is this lady thought for 4 years that he was gonna get with her. Not only is she down bad, but the way she handles it is bad.
Thank you for pointing this out, I was thinking the same thing and was looking for a reply like this. Op needs a therapist and her mentor needs a restraining order
She’s just an incel. No need to gender it.
@@SoftFocusPerspectivestbh I think that OP is possibly leaving out valuable details to make herself look better. She claims to be his chosen wife so can we really trust that Kelvin knows that she sleeps in his bed.
@@SoftFocusPerspectivesI’d say she was sleeping in his bed when he wasn’t there. And she said he wouldn’t let her cook for him.
Story 1: Whether she’s faking or legit, the bottom line is she needs serious psychiatric evaluation, treatment and jail time for attempted kidnapping. Her behavior is so wildly concerning regardless of what you call it.
On another note, it’s insanely creepy, disgusting, and weird that she’s playing her alter of OP’s daughter and posting it online. There’s just no way that’s gaining attention from anyone who isn’t getting off to it.
She doesn't need jail time, she needs serious psychological and psychiatric care.
@@firedingo5 don’t get me wrong; she absolutely needs psychiatric help… but she did still stalk and tried to kidnap a child, and did it in a way that was calculated, conscious, and aware. She’s incredibly lucky op is nice enough to not press charges and is only trying to get her TikTok taken down, but what she did majorly crossed the legal line and was dangerous beyond belief.
@@beeziebubs2756 perhaps kidnap but she didn't stalk from what I heard. She was just massively creepy and inappropriate.
@@firedingo5 Even if Op doesn’t explicitly use the word ‘stalk, she 100% stalked OP’s daughter at the park. There’s no way she just so happened to be at that exact park around the exact time the nanny brings his daughter to play and just so happened to come up with a plan to wait until the end of the nanny’s shift to try and take the daughter.
Even if she did just so happen to be there and came up with that plan on the spot, what she did still falls into the legal definition of stalking.
If you say she needs treatment you can´t say jail in the same sentence. Jails don't help with mental issues other than drug you shitless out of your mind.
First story: Psychologist here. With the few data available the story presented fits way more with an Histrionic Personality Disorder, which is what the parents of the girl said she has been diagnosed with. People with this disorder do virtually anything for attention, affection or "love", and are very prone to big and excessive shows where they present themselves as the victims. Histrionic comes for histeria, so this is basically an intense, dramatic and self victimizing person on steroids. It is common for them to put on a show of having other disorders to get said attention, like a hypochondriac but way way worse.
I had the unfortunate experience of living with one, and she claimed to suffer Bulimia and cutting herself just to ensure we gave her attention and took care of her.
Edit: Since some people have pointed it out: yes I cannot diagnose someone based on the few data we have in the story (which might even be an interpretation of OP and not real data). Diagnosis is a long process only done by a professional with a client he/she is working with. That's way I said "it fits way more into". Do not take my word on this, this is only a working theory I wanted to share to share some knowledge. If I did diagnose someone like this, it would be armchair diagnosis.
Huh, is it a common and often not diagnosed/ not easily discover disorder? And is there any way to help people who suffer from it?
Also what causes it? Can it be the result of extreme neglect and trauma or can anyone get/ have it?
What is the difference between HPD(?) and Narcissism? Is it that one is a medical condition and the other a personality trait?
Interesting, thank you! I knew it wasn't DID, so my next thought was the kink of DD/lg (Daddy Dom/little girl). This is still less creepy than that lol
@@GamerGrovyleooh that’s a good question.
Very good insight!
Story 1 I heard this one before. While d.i.d. is a real thing the sil is just making up her condition for attention.
Is there an update???
Nah she's a creep who needs to be on a watch list. Stop babying her
@@HobieInTheBoxyes
Oh definitely. The baby voice is the cherry on top
Yeah, that ish doesn't pop up like this, there must be something behind. Even more if she refuses diagnosis by saying all diagnoses "are valid" and I'm sorry, self ones are not. At least regarding that condition.
Story 1 Update 3: WTF?! Clearly this woman has more problems than an identity disorder. If she’s trying to kidnap someone, now, I have a lost all respect for her.
I agree. It's still very possible she could have D.I.D. but something else is going on in her mind. She needed that 50150. She needs intense psychiatric treatment for whatever is going on. But the disregard of people who do suffer from D.I.D. makes me super upset. Not that r/ was agreeing with it, but just the very fact that some people in the mental health community would try to claim that it is not a real diagnosis makes me infuriated. D.I.D. is VERY real and it's terrifying for the person who has to experiance that trauma. Who knows what the woman in story one was going through but in general, D.I.D is very real and very terrifying at times. Please, let us all not minimize or reject this disorder.
@@cid_vicious666no there is no possibility that they have DID while alters can be of real people they are basically always of people who were related to the trauma that made the DID develop they are almost never attempting to assume the identity of the person that is being mimicked and even then it's impossible for her to have an alter if someone who was born after the DID developed
@@cid_vicious666
Whether it's _actually_ real or not, we can't deny that it's the kind of disorder that attracts a ton of fakers. It's a pretty easy way to get bucket loads of the kind of attention and sympathy that a lot of people crave, especially those with other, more 'mundane' mental disorders.
My experiences over the past couple of decades brought me into contact with an uncomfortably large amount of such people - some were just manipulative, putting on a performance designed to get them what they wanted, for others it would be something like a kind of roleplaying, developed either unconsciously or deliberately as a sort of coping mechanism, some might have honestly _believed_ they had something like D.I.D, but would act as though they were in a corny, 1950s style comedy about someone with multiple personalities, some poor, frightened souls with only the slightest grip on what the fck was going on, some who thought it was all some sort of game . . . Maybe one in fifty would have something that actually came _close_ to genuine D.I.D.
A really easy clue to look out for would be the way some of them would carefully watch each other (always when they didn't know *_they_* were being watched too) and then go on to copy each others' symptoms. A group might gain a new member who had a six year old 'alter.' The next week that same group of ten would have manifested four more six year old 'alters,' right out of the blue. Certain 'trends' would sweep across the various groups before falling out of style. Sometimes the more demonstrative group members would end up almost _competing_ with each other over alternatively ridiculous and terrifying subjects: Who had the saddest little lost orphan 'alter,' who had the scariest serial killer 'alter,' who had the most prim and proper Victorian royal court lady-in-waiting 'alter,' whose demonic 'alter' had the most unpronounceable name . . . It could get pretty fckn absurd. Through all of this there would be very, very little *_actual_* disassociating going on.
Another big clue would be the way symptoms would mysteriously vanish the moment that person thought they weren't being observed by anyone else, but then instantly reappear as soon as someone else came back into the room.
I'll agree that it *_does_* exist and that it's a terrible and serious problem for those it afflicts - a real life waking nightmare - but I'm also as sure as I can be that it's nowhere near as common as some would have us believe, but is in fact almost vanishingly rare. The kind of diagnosis that should be regarded with a great, heaping amounts of scepticism, *_especially_* when it's being discussed with complete and anonymous strangers on the internet.
@@cid_vicious666 she definitely didnt have DID. not only like destoryer said, alters are of people related to the trauma. But also, child alter specifically, start as a younger version of you.
Dude manipulated his ex into having a baby she didn’t want them cries victim when she does exactly as she said she would and provides more than she legally has to. He sounds like a real piece of work.
Fr. She didn’t want the child, he did so she had it and said she didn’t want anything to do with it and this ass is trying to force her into looking after a child she doesn’t want because he’s tired? What a baby. He is probably less mature than his actual child. If you can’t handle a child; why have one. And the fact he called her a deadbeat. A deadbeat is someone who doesn’t help out at all. Yet she is paying all her child support, smh.
@@blairebaker7211 holy crap what a terrible way to talk about a parent trying to raise their kid and the kid having a mother who couldn't care less about it and will never have a relationship with her. He's a terrible person for wishing his kids mom would be in the picture? Wow. I'd never hear people outside of redpill sites saying that about a single mother who chose not to have an abortion out of love for her child but who wants her child to have a father. So people here are exactly like the red pill people but reverse gender. I see.
@@mariposa9506 your take is actually insane. SHE DIDNT WANT THE KID. Are you crazy?? He did so she gave birth and probably told him prior that she didn’t want anything to do with the kid. so she didn’t have anything to do with it, but did pay her child support. But now that it’s getting difficult FOR HIM suddenly he is crying about her not doing anything, how he wants her to have custody. Even though once again SHE MADE IT CLEAR she didn’t want anything to do with the child. She could have easily had an abortion but she knew he wanted the kid so she let him have the child. But no, you’re calling me a horrible person for pointing out that he is playing victim and acting like she is a deadbeat when quite literally she is not. He didn’t have to have the child. But he did, so he has to look after it. He can’t just palm them off just because he is tired. He needs to take some responsibility. Also this has nothing to do with gender. If it was a woman pulling the same stunt I’d say the same shit.
@@mariposa9506 btw he didn’t wish anything he was trying to force her into having part time custody, something she didn’t want to do.
@@blairebaker7211technically some women do so too? But yes this person is not really nice. Maybe he will change when the child grows older
Just to be clear, in the last story she said that "she slept in his bed", not WITH him. I'm convinced he just let her crash at his place when she was having a bad time once or a few times, but she in her imagination blew this up waaaaaay out of proportion. He's just being a friend when she needs one and she's taking it in a very wrong way.
That's how I interpreted this too. He took the couch and let her take the bed. She didn't really indicate they had been intimate at all.
She kind of acts like an over excited teenager. And as a teenager, I’m a bit embarrassed for her and I feel a bit bad.
I interpreted something similar. I myself had sleept in a friends bed with that friend (both genders) and I doesn´t mean you are having anything with them. I think she never understood the boundaries the guy was giving.
A guy beeing sweet don´t means that he is in love with you, some guys are, in fact, sweet
This is also why so many mentorship programmes have strict rules about mentors/mentees hooking up. People searching for mentorship’s like this are often from vulnerable situations and come to rely on mentors for other unfulfilled emotional needs. It’s the same reason therapists can’t have relationships with their patients - it would be taking advantage of the patient’s vulnerability. While I agree the narrator in story 2 is slightly delusional, the mentor should have set firmer boundaries so as to keep personal and professional private.
@@Clairski3 This is one of the reasons why teachers have so many restrictions regarding interactions with students. The inherent power disparity makes it impossible for their relationship to develop in a healthy way. As a fairly young teacher, even if a student graduated, and we met much later, completely organically, I would never consider pursuing a romantic relationship with them for this exact reason. Perhaps the mentor should have had clearer boundaries, but perhaps he did and she simply didn't respect them very well. He did tell her to go and find someone else, and instead, she planned her entire life around dating a guy who had been saying no for several years.
First Story: As someone who knows a few people with DID an interacts with them regularly, this is NOT normal behaviour. The Girlfriend is likely faking it, and even if she isn't, she has gone full psychotic.
On DID: having Alters that are children, of even ones that copy other people they've met is not entirely out of the question, but it's up to the personalities that are rational and aware to take responsibility, even if they don't remember it. The fact that she refused to hold herself accountable for her behaviour as the "Child Alter" was already rasing a million red flags for me, even before the updates.
She is not taking responsibility for her condition (if it's even real, which with the whole context I doubt) and failing to understand why her actions would cause worry for the family, which basically confirmed form me that she's is psychotic on some level, and DID has nothing to do with that. AND TO TRY TO KIDNAP A CHILD ON TOP OF IT?? She needs help, professional help, regardless of what her condition is, or she'll end up in jail which with all that was said doesn't seem like the worst case scenario.
DISOCIATIVE IDENTITY DISORDER DOES NOT MAKE YOU TRY TO KIDNAP CHILDREN.
THANK YOU!!!! As someone with DID, that story made me so mad!
I have plural friends, some with DID or OSDD (basically DID but without amnesia and it’s internalized so no one else but main fronts). I can conquer what you said about child alters. In fact, most systems I meet are actually protective of their child alters and take steps to avoid them being in unsafe situations.
But yeah, I think at this point, it’s not so much whether or not she’s lying that it’s an issue. It’s the fact that she’s a danger to herself and others. :/ honestly, I hope she gets proper treatment so that everyone can be safe.
Could possibly be psychosis. I’m in the middle of my second bout of psychosis, and her behavior seems to be a deviation. Or she could be bluffing it for attention. It’s all up to speculation tbh
Thank you. I have DID and it's different for every person. Some ' specialists' like to say it's not real but it's actually very frightening to have to live with. You can't remember big parts of same days, end up having others try to call you a different name and you can feel crazy for it, and then the stigma itself is horrific! It's BS like this that gives those of us with the disorder , a terrible name and makes it feel like we'll never get help. People with DID rarely present in a way that causes problems. It's the mind's way of coping with traumatic stress.
I have NEVER had an alter do anything horrible like that. I take FULL responsibility of everything that happens during a switch. There are a lot of free support groups. Littles do NOT get to do things like this because the caretakers and gatekeeper will stop them. That's why they exist.
That woman is nuts. She needs help.
Thank you! As someone who also has DID, this story really made my blood boil. This isn’t normal behavior even with this sort of disorder.
Story 2: He wanted to be a dad, she didn’t want to be a mom. Dude got his wish and got upset when her wish didn’t change.
Story 2: It totally sounds like he was trying to trap her. He most likely pictured that they would fall in love will she was pregnant or once she saw the child. It did not work and is now mad about it.
While this woman almost definitely doesn't have DID, I think it's important to talk about something brought up a lot on this video. People with DID don't think they are someone, they literally become a whole other person. One of my friends has DID and is diagnosed and while it got some getting used to, it was actually a pretty normal experience getting to know them. With the right therapy, many alters may retreat back into the mind or fuse with others. I think one clear example of this would be my friend's alter Evan. I don't get along with him, but he serves the role of protector in their system and so if something stressful is happening he may come to the front. So While I wouldn't have a conversation with him if I had the option, we have an understanding that I'm friends with the others. Even her younger alter, who I think is 10 or so, can hold a conversation and is actually pretty funny. That is a healthy system who is getting help and acting rationally. This girl is not.
Absolutley. I have a friend who also has DID. We haven't seen each other in about 8 years (they didn't have DID (or at least didn'tdisplay it) when I knew them), so I've only had brief conversations with them but I know enough about everything to know that the girlfriend in the story most definitely does not have DID.
It is important to note that DID is a real thing that real people suffer from, even if the girlfriend isn't one of these examples.
"Cinema Therapy" on CZcams made a really interesting video on DID discussing Gollum/Smeagol (Lord of the Rings) that I reccomend if you are interested.
DID does not exist. JFC, stop spreading this fake "disorder".
Thank you so much for commenting this, my best friend has D.I.D and it makes me so sad seeing D.I.D being stigmatized. And while I will say that it's impossible to know for sure if this girl has D.I.D or not since you can't go inside of her head and see if she does have other personalities or not, I do agree that **if** she does it's inexcusable that she's not getting help since she clearly doesn't have a healthy system and is doing awful inexcusable things. My best friend has a kinda toxic system as well- or rather since his system is VERY big he of course has a lot of alters who aren't exactly very good, however he's at least in therapy and getting help, the woman in the first story has no excuse for not getting therapy if she is an active danger to other people around her- ESPECIALLY if her family has the money! My best friend's family isn't rich- If anything, they're a little poor, and yet still they are able to put my best friend into therapy. The girlfriend in the first story has no excuse.
I don't have D.I.D but I do have bipolar disorder and while they're of course VERY different, I admittedly didn't get help for a long time not only since my family struggles financially but because I was afraid of being judged or something- BUT when my episodes started to get worse and when I was starting to have homicidal and self-destructive thoughts during my depressive episodes and was even becoming more erratic and violent with my loved ones and hallucinating a lot, I grew a pair of balls and stopped denying that I needed help because I fucking care about my family! In a sense I can understand maybe being afraid of being judged or even being admitted to a psych ward- I was too, but when you're a danger to the people around you... Come on man, the girlfriend in the first story is not only an awful person but her not getting help is just unbelievably reckless and stupid and she was actively CHOOSING to risk harming the people around her despite having what was needed to get help because- I frankly don't know! Cuz she just doesn't care? She doesn't think she needs help? I truly don't know.
Her actions are just TOTALLY inexcusable ESPECIALLY when she had the financial means to get help. If my family could pay 300 dollars when we were in debt so that I can seek professional help, then she sure as hell can too. I feel bad for her boyfriend, he truly believed her and wanted to be supportive of her but he's giving his heart to someone who doesn't deserve it- However he's not free of blame either, he should have recognized that she needed help; My best friend with D.I.D didn't want to seek help at first out of fear of being admitted to a psych ward, and what did me and his friends do? Badger him to do it anyway cuz he was becoming a danger to himself and others! The boyfriend has no excuse here either.
Ps: Sorry for the long ass comment, I sorta needed to get this off my chest since the first story just REALLY got me riled up, thank you if you read through all of this.
this ^^^^
There are no people with DID
Last story: I think you're right, rslash, that we have an unreliable narrator here. Even if Kelvin WERE into her, that level of obsession would make for a really unhealthy relationship dynamic. I don't think Kelvin should have let her get so close, but i'm guessing he just didn't want to hurt her and maybe didn't realise how intensely she felt? Either way it's a sad situation because it definitely sounds like OP has some delusions and needs more help.
Kelvin told her not to wait for him and that should have been enough. He refused to engage in couple things, like PDA or allowing her to help with chores (cooking and laundry). I would suggest that if OP was over so much she was offering to help with chores, that she went over and would stay late to the point where Kelvin, being a decent guy, wouldn't let her go home late at night for her safety because he viewed her as a sister.
Kelvin's only 'real' sins seem to be that he was super private about his personal life with the general group (his prerogative, I know) and not doing a good enough job shutting down what sounds like the mentees shipping him and OP (we expect wedding bells after the dinner).
OP is delulu.
Hi rSlash! Just going to inform you respectfully that while the person in story 1 probably doesn't have DID, alter is not short for "alter ego" it's short for "alternate personality." Love the videos man, keep up the good work!
That second story. She didn’t like the kid. She respected OP’s desire to have a child. Now shocked Pikachu face that she doesn’t want to be involved in the child’s life.
first story: this is exactly why DID (dissociative identity disorder) is so heavily stigmatized. i have it, am seeking therapy and managing it healthy. a big part of healthy DID is COMMUNICATION! talk to your alters, tell them what is and isnt okay behavior when and where. share memories verbally so the other alters know what is occuring in your (and their) life. a child alter is possible, i don't have one currently but they are somewhat common. what is not common is THIS BEHAVIOR. and blaming it on a disorder? sickening!! you can healthily manage DID, its not an excuse for any of this behavior, especially not the last part. absolutely disgusting.
also i agree with you where posting about it automatically isnt suspicious behavior. but a tiktok about an alter of a 3 year old girl you know personally? thats sickening. my stomach dropped. people like them are exactly why others assume anyone with DID is faking it
Thanks for sharing.
Typically to your knowledge or from your experience, can alters develop at any stage in life ?
I agree that she is most likely faking it but could someone develop an alter out of nowhere in their 30s lets say
I have never known anyone to have alters that haven’t been parental figures or abusers in all my research so it’s seems so mind boggling that someone could have an alter of their boyfriends niece just seems like there’s no psychological attachment there. I know a child alter is very common but I’ve never heard of it developed this way
@@meganshaw5221 thank you for asking! yes, new alters can develop at anytime. it's common when a trauma from childhood resurfaces or when a new trauma from teenage years or adulthood occurs. some alters can split without any reason too, since the brain is constantly processing the complex and repeated trauma that occured.
DID forms due to repeated trauma during the personality's developmental ages ( around six to nine years old ) but it continues for life, so it processes any trauma before, during and after the disorder forms.
@@meganshaw5221 a friend of mine had an alter of a close friend in childhood that helped them during their traumas, so its anyone that the brain thinks is either very positive or very negative. i could See someone having an alter of a niece, but the rest of the story is just flabbergasting
@@mydearestheliosthank you so much for the information 💓💓💓much love
Story 3 sounds like she had some heavy delusions about this mentorship, and Kelvin didn't want to hurt her. He kept his distance, hence the "he's shy" part.
More so than most think about, it’s literally stated in the post that he rejected her TWICE, and even said that she needs to find someone else. That doesn’t sound like stringing her along, that sounds like her refusing to accept ‘No’ as an answer.
@@marckempe2143 ExACTLY. I feel bad for him and the fiance.
@@marckempe2143 "Sorry I'm not interested in you", "I don't see you that way" or "I'm already seeing someone" is a much firmer rejection than. "Sorry I'm just not ready to date right now". Not to mention you know all the other oddly close stuff they did together. I wouldn't necessarily say he was stringing her along, but he certainly didn't do anything to stop her advances. It's also pretty telling when all of their mutual associates were encouraging them to get together.
It's clear she had a thing for him beyond infatuation, and he should have been clearer for both their sakes.
@@cuddlicalf4854 I’m quite certain that his rejections were a clear ‘No’ to her advances. PERIOD. He even said that she should find someone for herself, the unspoken part being someone who isn’t him.
@cuddlicalf4854 no means no. Even if he did say it in a nicer way, he was NOT interested and she kept pushing it. On top of that she was acting highly inappropriate as well. What if the roles were reversed and OP was a guy? Everyone would have been in a screaming fit because she tried letting him down politely and he still tried making advances towards her.
First story: At first I was willing to give her the huge benefit of the doubt, but when I heard she went to find the nanny to take the kid I immediately hoped someone shot some sense into her. And I mean literally shoot, she is beyond psychotic.
yea same
I agree what kind of 3 year old drives to a park to steal another three-year-old, if you ask me, this kind of feels like the term “when desire overtakes reason, the human mind can unleash deadly obsession” I get the feeling that the girlfriend is very obsessed with OP’s daughter and is fully aware of what she was doing and thinking, which leads me to wonder, what was she planning to do with OP‘s daughter if the nanny had given her to her?
@@theyo-kaiguy i feel like this is a fake story to push op's personal agenda.. like the whole rant in the middle is way too thought out. ive known many systems in my lifetime and have researched a ton. this just doesnt seem real.
For the first story it does sound like and confirmed by the parents to be Histrionic Personality Disorder, meaning she doesn’t have multiple personalities just one. But those diagnosed are somewhat like narcissists on steroids, doing anything and everything to gain attention and affection and that is stays on them. If she was willing to go so far to kidnap or ambush a three year old, she definitely needs some serious help.
DID is a real disorder, unfortunately. My best friend has it, was diagnosed by a professional with it, and one of her alters is a little girl. That alter helps her get out stressful situations by essentially making it so she doesn't understand what's going on if there's something traumatic going on. However, OP's brother's GF needs to stay away from kids. That's what my friend does. She doesn't want kids, doesn't like them, so she actively avoids them and sticks to her spouse.
yep, can confirm, my brothers ex girlfriend also has it and it looks VERRY different from whats described in the reddit post especially because these episodes come out of no where and in the story its said that the girl "doesnt remember what happened" afterwards... so 1. how does she manage to record and upload the videos of it? 2. how did she manage to make the tiktok ccount in the first place?
See that's what did ACTUALLY is. Its a defense mechanism but people use it for attention all the time. It doesn't help ppl with actual did when ppl pretend to have it
Key thing, DID has defined and distinct triggers. They also do not toggle back and forth at will and they do not adopt personas from current life, but instead draw from their lives at the time of the first onset of trauma.
@@X-Being yes!!! Exactly!!! It's typically an involuntary response! That's why it's so hard to live with but ppl who are insensitive don't care about those facts and continue to fake this disorder
@@X-BeingTypically its only from aspects of early onset trauma, but you can split from any point in time in your life for any reason. though typically it's linked to stress.
Story 2: HE wanted the kid. Not her.
Now HE gets to take care of the kid. Careful what you wish for
Basically
I can see not wanting to be in favor of abortion but he isn't entitled to personal support. Rough situation. Choose your partners wisely.
He also needs to realize that a deadbeat parent is someone who isn’t involved in the kids life and also doesn’t pay child support. He’s getting 125% of court ordered support. He should consider himself very lucky!
to be fair, he couldn't predict how stressful and exhausting kids can be. sure, he wanted the kid, but showing a moment of weakness and vulnerability isn't the worst thing. I thought that's how women want men to be.
but if a guy is having a rough time and shows it, it's his own fault? no empathy and compassion whatsoever, that's what I'm reading in a lot of responses.
sad, really...
@@christineatchley7303The bio mom isn't a deadbeat regardless because she signed away her parental rights after she gave birth. Legally she's not required to even give child support because of that.
Story 1: As someone with DID, it is very much understood that even if someone else in the system does something to upset someone, you have to take responsibility for it. Even if you don’t remember it happening. The same way someone would apologize for what they did while they were black out drunk. Also! While you cannot control when a switch occurs and sometimes who comes out there absolutely 100% should have been a plan of action about what should happen if a little switched in at a party. Though this is assuming that she wasn’t faking it- I don’t want to say she was because you never know what’s going on in someone else’s brain. But, assuming she does have the disorder, this seems like a case of really bad system communication or management which at the end of the day she should have taken accountability and apologized for.
The singular thing that puts her whole DID excuse to rest is the fact that she made a Tiktok account pretending to be a 3 year old. 3 year olds can't do that, and if she's acting like one, that means she's actively tapping in and out of that character willingly. She's just crazy, period.
The body and brain are still an adult. I doubt the gf has DID, but some DID littles can do adult things like drive, work, file taxes. It’s just the age of the alter.
Last story: Just because you wanted to de with him doesn't mean you can tell his fiance to go away, it's insane you even thought it was okay. He doesn't love you like that, sorry but move on.
And he’s made it clear. However, while I understand him not saying he has someone, he should’ve distanced himself from her
Yeah, the only mistake Kelvin made was not telling her that he was seeing someone else AND that he wasn't interested in her romantically. That said, most people would have taken the damn hint when he never showed any interest in a DECADE...
But what about the "slept in his bed" part? what it means changes a lot of the story, right?
Stalker. This girl is a stalker. She is sleeping on is his bed without him being there and she interprets it as more.
@@nanardeurlambda He said he sees her as a sister, she probably stayed over a few nights or something, there are plenty of friends who have slept on my bed.
I have seen story 2 posted around before and I've seen people claim he basically admitted in the comments that he really was trying to get her to have a relationship with him. He was trying to baby trap her and now he's mad that it didn't work and this poor kid now exists with 2 parents who don't want him.
Jhc, wtf is wrong with that guy. Either way, he fucked around and found out. Quite literally
Yeah he says that he expected her to bond with the baby once it was born but she didn’t
Yeah I feel sorry for the kids. Hopefully he has some grandparents or aunts/uncles who adore him.
@@dovahkiin6488I absolutely love that saying they f*cked around and they found out. I've had the wonderful opportunity to use that to my friends ex who tried to pass off his affair baby as our recently deceased friends baby. Who according to the lie slept with this girl one night and got her pregnant. Super complicated. Long story short it didn't work. Surprise surprise. He came to my front door crying to me because they had a pretty ironclad prenup that had a clause for cheating. My friends, the one with all the money. And he doesn't get to have his big fancy life that he was used to for the last 3 years. Cuz poor little b**** boy can't afford it. And I get to say that wonderful phrase to him and shut the door in his face and it was just. So. I just had to say that your comment just reminded me that it was just lovely.
Ex GF where relationship was slowly fading out, said to me when we were out biking that she wanted to give me a child. I responded, you don't try to repair a relationship with a baby. She didn't bring it up again.
That first story... Yikes. I dated a girl who was confirmed with Multiple Personality Syndrome (or D.I.D.).
One of her few personalities was a 4 year-old girl. It freaked me out the first time, and I didn't have a warning before it happened. Talking to a friend who was in med school, he explained to me why she might have it, and that it was caused by trauma.
Later on, when she was back to her "normal" self, I confronted her with it since she didn't remember anything. She cried and told me a tragic story of abuse from... *ahem*, her father and his friends. What they would do to her, and how they treated her. It started when she was 4, thus, the personality.
At first, I didn't believe her and didn't know how to proceed. Until she showed me a literal fishing tackle box FULL of medications for her several mental disorders and physical complications. She also told me about how her father pushed her into the fire when she was younger, and it took a lot of courage from her, she sent me a photo of her belly which was COVERED in fire scarring (I personally thought it was beautiful and couldn't stop admiring her strength after that). Everything she said and showed me led me to believe her completely, even if it absolutely terrified me.
Things happened and she was unable to continue dating me not too long after that. I'm still on the fence if DID or MPS is an actual thing, but only time will tell when technology advances and can tell us the truth.
The first story, it's hard to know if they have DID, but the fact that it's "unconfirmed" and they think that "self-diagnosis is perfectly fine" tells me all I need to know. She doesn't have it, she's doing it for attention. Self-diagnosing CAN be helpful in making someone feel better about themselves and how to take better care when they can't afford medical help (like myself), but we don't go around flaunting it like we actually have the disorders. Using it as a crutch and refusing to get help when its available is a huge red flag that says "this person is faking and doesn't want to be called out".
It's even worse that she's doing it regarding a family member's child, and it poses extremely dangerous behavior. If she did have DID, and cared for the little girl, she would take it in her interests to go get professional help so she doesn't hurt someone. But she doesn't, because it's not real, since she likes the attention. And her boyfriend is enabling her behavior, which only makes things worse.
BOTH of them need serious help in thinking her behavior is acceptable.
EDIT: Oh, I didn't even hear the rest of the story. The TikTok thing? 100% for views and attention, she does NOT have DID, and needs serious help for her stupidity. The attempted kidnapping has nothing to do with her DID (a 3 year-old's personality would just have her crying on the street being lost and alone), and that suggests she was about to do something extremely dangerous with the child.
Your ex is a liar, too.
@@wmdkitty I guess you must know her then, huh?
I feel weird about the last story. Like, he said that he wasn't ready for a relationship, but has apparently been dating the other girl since they were teenagers. Why didn't he just tell op he was taken? And the way pretty much everyone else was shocked by him showing up with a fiancee... I feel like he was kinda stringing op along there, wether intentionally or not. This whole situation could've been avoided if he just mentioned having a girlfriend at literally any time. And op is clearly not mentally stable, so him pulling this on her is kinda cruel. I'm getting so many weird vibes...
Kelvin was likely trying to let OP down easily because he cares for her but is keeping his private life as private as he can. The relationship appears to have been need-to-know within the organisation as no one but the higher-ups knew until the fancy dinner. This was probably to keep everything above board with her being a financial contributor. Given that the fiancée mentioned _also_ having plans with Kelvin regarding the foundation, it wouldn't shock me that this is in part their baby, whether he got involved first and brought her on for backing and it grew, or her money helped start it from a childhood dream of theirs.
A good phrase I heard once is "being a parent might be magical to you but it isn't literal magic". The guy in the second story really thought that if he just managed to get his ex to have a baby then magically she'd decide she actually wanted to be a parent all along. His situation sucks but it's entirely his fault.
It's not like he coerced her into getting pregnant. It was an oops for both of them
@mariposa9506 nah disagree on that. Whilst yes it does take two to tango, she didn't want the pregnancy. He talked her into it by what sounds like expressly promising to solely look after the kid once they were born. If he'd listened to her he wouldn't be in the situation he is now.
@@mariposa9506ane I highly doubt that. I think he sabotage their birth control so she would get pregnant. It does happen a lot.
It's ridiculous of him to think he can force someone to love his child.
It's disturbing too that he actually wants to force her to look after the child when she clearly doesn't want to. I'd never want anyone looking after my son if they really didn't want to. I'd be worried for my child's wellbeing and whether he'd be treated kindly, but he doesn't seem to have considered that at all.
@@mariposa9506when she got pregnant, yeah it was an oops for both of them (unless there was already a babytrappy situation there), but she still had the choice to terminate, and he coerced her into not doing that.
From what I understand from conversations with a close friend with DID, it isn’t someone “thinking they’re another person” or a “mental break.” It’s more like there’s multiple identities sharing control and tagging out. Trauma at a young age prevents someone from developing an integrated identity, so multiple alters pop up. To help make sense of the world post-trauma. Some hold memories of trauma and keep it away from others, while some regularly front (fronting is sorta like being in the driver’s seat).
That being said, yeah there’s no way the sil isn’t faking it for attention. God forbid someone takes a mental disorder caused by severe abuse seriously instead of pretending to have it for TikTok clout.
Story 1: I know this much. I got married, at 17, to an amazing, brilliant young woman (age 19) who, to my knowledge was manic-depressive with schizo-affective disorder. I have major depressive disorder and, at the time, had HPPD, which can cause schizo-affective symptoms. We were actually wonderful support for each other, during our worse days.
I didn’t learn until after we were married, however, that my wife also had D.I.D. She had two alters apert from her ‘baseline’ personality. One was a six-year old girl (she once suddenly appeared just after my wife and I had ‘passionately hugged’. I’ve never leapt out of bed so fast in my life-and that includes the time a woman’s HUSBAND came home whilst we were… y’know. (I didn’t know… I’ve been on the husband’s end of that and would never deliberately do that to another bloke.)
Back to my ex. The other alter was domineering, cruel, reckless, dangerous, narcissistic and, to be frank, a bit of a slag. She’d do something unexpected, like whip me in the eye with my wallet chain, then go out into the night to do god knows what depraved shit.
Obviously an untenable situation. I was young and stupid, so I tried to ‘help’ her ‘control it’, but this just made the alters angrier at me for being ‘repressive’ and trying to be ‘controlling’. Do you count as a controlling husband if you’re trying to help your enthusiastically-consenting wife control herself? Heck if I know- I stay out of these situations now. I’m almost 25 years older now, and I’ve dated many more women since. I take a fully Stoic approach to women now; They’ll do whatever they want anyway, so I just choose how I respond. Unfortunately, more often than not it takes a woman about 1-2 months to do something that makes it clear we’re incompatible. But, then, I’ve been lucky:for the last 7 years I’ve been with an OUTSTANDING woman who-while she has some habits I wish she’d break-has never done anything to make me think we’re incompatible. 🤞
Lastly: the six-year old girl persona didn’t have a name. In fact, her whole identity was ‘frightened six-year-old girl’. When she was like this, I would just try my best to make her warm milk or cocoa, put an arm around her and reassure her I wouldn’t abandon her, and that she was safe with me, etc. I’d help her lie down and just pray she went to sleep. Then I’d go back to the kitchen for 1 or 2 8-oz. tumblers of straight Scotch. Yeah…Something’s wrong with OP’s brother if he’s not made REALLY, REALLY uncomfortable by this. I’ll tell you: once the 6-yr-old appeared, like, as we were lying in bed smoking cigarettes, post-intimacy…Our sex life was NONEXISTENT. Which was a shame, because she was smoking hot, and our sex life was EXPLOSIVE…but I just couldn’t shake the horrific idea that she’d change RIGHT IN THE MIDDLE, and my genitals might shrink up inside me, permanently.
Mentor story: PA can mean personal assistant or physician’s assistant. If Kelvin is employed by the mentorship group and there is a physician somewhere in the organization, then he’s probably a physician’s assistant.
The girlfriend in the first story is exactly why people with DID are so stigmatized against
Fr, like there's a lot of people in the comments right now that literally think it's not a real thing- even OP didn't know if it was real simply because it's faked so much :
She has a TikTok where she is the altar period I feel like that can't possibly be DID.
I just think she is age regressing and doesn't have DID cause age regression would be more common than that form of DID for lack of a better word.
your quote-on-quote "disease" doesn't exist.
its not a disease, and it exists. maybe go on google and look it up. @@eopujvrswg
Story 1: While D.I.D. is a real thing the fact that she's posting it on Tik Tok shows awareness as a 3 year old wouldn't start filming themselves or act for the camera, on top of that she tried to abduct the child which shows intent. These actions make me believe that she does not have D.I.D. but she does have a mental disorder that makes her a potential danger.
Story 2: OP wanted the child and the woman didn't, the fact that he wants to force her to take care of the child that she gave him at his own request despite her not wanting to shows entitlement.
Story 3: OP is delusional, she was rejected twice and the second time even told 'go fined someone else' but seems the think that if the other girl wasn't around she'd get the guy. The sleeping in the bed thing, with how the rest of the post sounds I don't think he knows about it and it makes me a little worried for the fiancée.
A psychologist said she could have Histrionic Personality Disorder which is where a person will do anything for attention or “love” I think. Not a psychologist myself
There’s someone with DID who posts content but they do NOT post child alters
That woman in story 2 shouldn't even owe child support. OP wanted the kid, she didn't. She already agreed to go through pregnancy at his request, anything resulting from that is 100% his responsibility.
She's already going way above and beyond what should be expected of her.
I had a friend with DID, this isn't a fake illness and shouldn't be made fun of. This person I knew always had the same multiple personalities, new ones didn't just pop-up when they started adoring another person, or in the case of the first story, child. They were also properly diagnosed and HEAVILY medicated, and even then always had to be observed by a caretaker because, yes, they can become quite dangerous under some circumstances.
Yeah OP saying they doing think DID is real is fucked up. I have a friend with DID and alters.
Please stop perpetuating the idea that people with DID can be dangerous. That was the case for your friend--not everyone. Those of us with this disorder face enough stigma already, as the result of childhood abuse, often sexual. We don't need more people treating us as though we're the problem.
@@breannabartholomew3024 I meant no offence by it. I did say it was "under the right circumstances", however vague and general that phrase may be. I should have also added I meant dangerous to either themselves or others.
I remember reading about a case of someone with DID that had a real other personality who was a young girl. If a grown person starts acting that way in public without anyone watching over them, it could end quite badly for them.
In the case of my friend, first of all, there was a personality that was indeed violent, though there were some specific triggers that would cause them to come out, and I'm assuming such a case isn't that common for people with DID in general. However, another thing that my friend told me, which is to my understanding much more common, is that before their diagnosis, it was quite possible to suddenly wake up not knowing where they are or how they got there, in one case it was even in a different country. I imagine rather a lot of people can become dangerous in those circumstances.
Take care of your self.
@@Mooskym Thank you for clarifying. Yes, there are certainly elements of DID that could put the person with it in danger. Losing time is very common. As far as "littles" coming out, usually there is always an adult alter who is at least co-conscious (aware of what is happening), if not co-fronting (sharing the active role at present). This is all more complicated than a single post or reply could convey. I'm aware that I'm very fortunate to be as functional as I am. I have an amazing therapist and three decades worth of therapy under my belt. I'm sure that helps some. I appreciate your thoughtful response. Please take care of yourself as well.
As a person with DID I can tell you that I want to keep it quiet. I don't keep it a secret, but at the same time I don't draw attention to it unless I feel it's worth mentioning. Even then, the most my alter ego does is sit quietly and eat spicy food while also teasing my husband. I don't let her become public if I can help it, though even if she does get out, she just keeps to herself and only talks to people SHE trusts versus people I trust. The only common person both me and my alter ego share trust in is my husband, hence the teasing.
I'm getting the feeling this girl is doing it for attention, because at this point it's insulting to those of us who do suffer from it. I get she may have some form of mental illness, but come on! If her boyfriend really does love her or care for her in any regard other than just a warm body, he'll do what he can to protect and prevent his girlfriend from exposing herself as an attention-seeker/creep and stop the harm that will undoubtedly come to OP's daughter. This is out of line and they need to draw the line in the sand and stand firm on their convictions.
"Yo, What the fuck?!" - Me too Rslash, me too.
Does not sound like DiD to be honest, She would not be a able to assume someone else's specific identity, that's not what an alter is. an Alter is created through trauma to work through specific events related to the trauma that caused the alter, It completely forms on its own and creates its own identity. You can't just go like : Ok, I am now your daugther.
there are things called introjects which are when a system creates a new alter of a character or a real person, but idk how to feel about this story bc it doesn’t seem real
@@WishGender Introjects are extremely rare in actual DID cases. She does not display DID behaviorism, switching to an alter (which the OP of the post also refers to questioning Social media DID) is not something that happens on the spot, or that you can control, but in the story it happens several times. It is triggered by relations to the trauma.
I agree that the story is either made up, or the sister in law has some severe issues that need to be addressed asap. I do agree that it does sound like behaviorism for histrionic personality disorder though. I am not a doctor or psychiatrist, so definitely do not quote me on that. But I grew up mental health care institutions, and still get help and have met people with actual DID and been around a host of personality disorders.
@@jkman9828 that's 100% fair. I just see that there is a lot of misinformation about DID in the comments and it makes me sad, especially since I have a few friends with DID that I met through intensive outpatient DBT.
@@WishGender Yeah, DID is very often not believed. Sadly this is partly due to an influx of people using it for attention, but a huge part of it also is due to old guard psychiatrists that straight up deny it exists for whatever reason.
I am not one of the non-believers though, just this specific case especially, Introjection would be a possibility but I very much doubt it because it happened almost instantly.
Introjects are created very often to either become the abuser of their trauma Or to become someone soothing to them. This is something that takes a very long time though, and the DID sufferer needs to connect to that person or identity on almost a familial level (concering someone soothing).
Spoiler for a TV show but might interest- A show that really shows well how Introjects work is called : The Crowded room. Alternate personalities that live seperate lives.
If she doesn't remember her time as a 3 year old, the existence of her CZcams channel must have blown her mind.
Bet she’s in denial despite her creating and recording the videos. She may blame it on another identity, Steven Spielberg
She can't hold a conversation with her boyfriend while she is the 3 year old but she can make tiktok videos?
But how can a 3 Year old make a Tik Tok Account
@@duderobialters can have the mental understanding of the body/brain while still being a kid. So its not that big of a stretch
That alter must be a toddler prodigy.
Story 3: OP has an inappropriate attachment disorder to Kelvin who is partly responsible for not attending to this issue before it became a full-blown fantasy/delusion in her mind. He should have weaned her away a long time ago and not allowed her the extent of access to him. His discouragement always contains a ray of hope so it allows herself to fuel this fantasy and to confuse gratitude with love. His failure to deal properly with this situation may have very serious consequences that could result in physically harming his fiancé and/or himself. BTW: when she says that she lays on his bed she is doing so when he is not there. For some reason he has allowed her access to his apt/house possibly under the guise of a housekeeper/cook/maid. All I can say is that IMO he is piss poor at his job and lacks the right qualifications to be doing this line of work [psychology]. It should be noted that a PA course of study is about 18 months, considerably less than a nurse practitioner or a clinical psychologist.
The last story, I think OP has created an unhealthy attachment, due to him helping her as a mentor. Maybe that was the first time someone showed her positive attention (in an authoratative role). I assume he never thought of her the same way, because he originated as her mentor. My guess is her "wife" status is a workplace joke, rather than everyone agreeing they should be together.
Second story- YOU chose to be a father. YOU made that decision. You can't complain later....
And she's not a "deadbeat mom". She DID NOT WANT A BABY. She signed away her rights. She has NO obligation to you or the kid....
She does have financial obligations, which she meets and exceeds. OP got what he asked for and the mother is fulfilling her obligations. I'll give him some slack for being so stressed out that he's reaching a breaking point, but he's gotta accept the consequences of his actions.
What does growing up without a father do? Statistics show it typically destroys a child’s life in someway, social, economic, etc, without a mother typically has a smaller chance but same outcome. And if the dad has to work extremely hard as he said, that’s leaves the child vulnerable to many influences in life.
So you’re telling me, you’re alright with the child just getting financial support as a payment for very possibly ruining its life? Says a lot about your character bekka hettrick.
Though…just kill the thing man, if you want to ruin its life from the start, why give it life anyway? This is why abortion exists, sorry dad dude, but please stick it out, adoption can do much worse than you.
I love this energy I love this energy key, the same energy for single mothers who had men who said they did not want to be involved, but they chose to keep the child
@@mrwaterz40my thoughts exactly, if this were the other way around people would call op an absentee father and a deadbeat. How did he baby trap her because he wanted her to keep the child they made TOGETHER. He did not force her to have sex with him
Keep that same energy for single women
The first story had be laughing! I dated a girl who claimed to have DID, hell she even had a google doc with 20+ alters from small kids to older folks. The thing is she never switched into any of them unless we were talking about DID, honestly it was always at her own convenience to get as much attention as possible. She also was self diagnosed.
DID is a real thing but that woman, like my ex, are using it as an excuse to be awful people.
It demeans those who have the illness too which really sucks. People with DID suffered repeated abuse of different kinds and the disorder is already so stigmatized (my dad thinks Split is a real representation of what DID is…. And they’re capable of that :/) so it’s hard for them to get the help they need and to be taken seriously.
@@LeerinKasane oof, that's like watching Clifford the big red dog and assuming all dogs are giant and red. (There are no giant red dogs, not the size of a house anyway).
At most, your ex would qualify of some kind of Other Specified Dissociative Disorder (OSDD), but OSDD is (partially) DID without amnesia, so switches should happen (at least on some level) involuntarily, even if you can try to initiate a switch
First story: I don't have DID myself, but I do know a bit about it, and this definitely does not seem like she's telling the truth.
First of all, people with DID *can* have alters that are children (called 'littles'), and many people with DID can't get diagnosed or choose not to get formally diagnosed due to how expensive it is and how it can strip away your legal rights, but all alters someone has are like fragments of one whole - they're individual shards that make up one person, so typically they're very connected to the "host" personality-wise. It *can* be different sometimes, but usually its in less noticable ways. I've never seen someone diagnosed with DID claim that they had an alter of an already-existing person.
With the rise of people faking disorders online for attention, it does sadden me a bit how OP and his wife reacted (other than the whole pretending to be their daughter part) because people with DID *do* have child alters and they can't really control what they do while in that state. I know it's shocking and unfamiliar, but I guess I wished people would be more open-minded.
I don't sympathize with SIL for faking a disorder, but as someone who is neurodivergent and can't get a formal diagnoses for many reasons, it hurts that people fake disorders and alter the publics' perception of them, and clearly OP has been subject to this, as he was skeptical right from the get-go.
Edit: okay, didn't finish the whole thing before posting the comment, but with the tiktok thing she's 100% faking it. Thousands of people on tiktok like to fake mental disorders like that for clout. Very few people who actually have DID would make a big deal about it on social media.
As a nursing student who has studied personality disorders, Histrionic Personality definitely checks out. They’ll go to extreme lengths to basically be the center of attention
One of my best friends is diagnosed with DID. DID is VERY real. It comes from continuous abuse between the ages of 1 to 9 years old. The brain split the core personality as way to protect the person from the trauma. People with DID have trouble with memory, depression, isolation and a lot of judgment. But the Op's SIL does not have DID. Especially if she doesn't have trauma. Let me clarify, the trauma we are talking about is deep, painful trauma for a lot of time. Children who have been sexual abused, spanked or tortured for a long time can have DID.
To be fair, there is not a threshold of abuse needed. While more common with deeper trauma, it's possible with what could be considered lesser trauma. That being said, it doesn't sound like she has it. And even if she does, she's a danger to the kid. Someone with DID doesn't just become a danger out of nowhere. The fact they tried to take the child is cause enough to not let them see them.
I agree. That single father sucks. She didn't want the baby but he did, so she went through the effort of giving birth for him and even pays child support! I was honestly surprised she did pay support and didn't just disown the kid since she clearly, and rightfully, didn't want anything to do with the kid. The girl here is being amazing here. The guy should have thought what he was signing up for when he told her not to get an abortion.
I wouldn’t go as far as to say she’s being amazing . I think it’s more so the state she lives in forced her to pay child support despite her not wanting any claim to the kid . But yeah he tried to baby trap her and it failed. I wouldn’t even be surprised if he somehow sabotaged her birth control or condoms , or even pressured her into having sex without protection, because someone this vehement about not raising a kid likely takes precautions .
@@izraelburgess937 how did he try to baby trap her, please explain.
@@izraelburgess937 Maybe, but she still is paying more than the court ordered child support. So I still think that is good of her
@@drakonx1959 I actually saw another person react to this where they deep-dived into the comments on that post, and the guy admitted that he hoped she would form an attachment with the baby after it was born so that she would stay with him for the kid. But that didn't happen because she doesn't want kids. And now he's mad his plan didn't work.
@@6Jas6devi6 well i wish i wouldve gotten this before lol, with that context, i have deduced that he is a asshole
She may not have multiple personality disorder, but there is definitely something wrong with her.
I've only listened to the first post and none of the updates so far, but I have to say: As someone with DID, SIL desperately needs help. She needs to be kept away from that family at all costs and she needs help in processing whatever it is she's going through. Her partner is right in saying that this is a difficult topic to bring up as dissociative amnesia (not remembering what happens when you're a different alter) is a real thing and her partner is right in saying this needs to be handled a certain way because of her trauma so not to hurt her, but if she is unable to stop switching to the child introject around the real actual child then her mind has formed a severely unhealthy attachment to the child and she needs to be kept away. All this being said, thank you RSlash for agreeing that you don't know about DID and it is a disorder that SIL could have- Honestly I was frightened when I realized this was a story about DID that you would say something drastically hurtful about everyone with the disorder because of this one woman, but I'm glad to see you recognize it as something people do struggle with while also making it clear that SIL's behavior is frightening
In regards to the pregnancy story: everything worked out perfectly in that both people got to decide whether or not to be parents, including the father, which he should be grateful for because fathers have no legal rights when it comes to abortion. She didn't have to have his kid, but now he's being a butthole because he's regretting his choice.
Totally agree with you
Yeah, father's don't have legal rights when it comes to abortion, because forced pregnancy is considered torture under international law...
Yes, she didn't want the child, he wanted it, so she withdrew from raising him. She does more than I'd ever expect from her if I were in this situation, so OP wants his cake and eat it too.
The only thing I can say about that story is there are women who are in the same situation as that father saying the same things but they get support from social media
Where?
The last story: Op is obsessed with someone who only sees her as a little sister.
Op has built up their relationship in her head and the guy she’s obsessed with knows this and has done nothing to string her along.
If anything he was hoping that the crush she has on him would go away on its own.
Hopefully op will get the help she needs because she latched onto him for the wrong reason.
I think that, assuming he was dating his fiance at the time, that he probably should've said that he already had someone.
That being said, he really doesn't owe her any kind of explanation anyways. I think his only real mistake was trying to protect the feelings of someone who happened to be obsessive. Which isn't so much a mistake as being unfortunate.
@@DoctorOaks I don't know, I'd say not nipping it in the bud was a pretty big mistake of his. There's no way he didn't know she had continuing feelings for him, and while yeah he tried to be gentle about it he was clearly avoiding the problem. If he really cared about her as a friend or as a sibling figure he should have had the decency to sit down with her, explain things in no uncertain terms, and maybe even encourage her to try finding someone who returned her feelings. Like he had a decade to do this at some point, and while yeah there's arguments to be made that it's not his responsibility it would have been better in the long run. By not stopping it clearly he was feeding her obsession. Hell if he was that conflict avoidant he could have just slowly cut her out.
@@cuddlicalf4854 Ok, but most reasonable people will take "I'm not looking to date right now, so look for someone else" as what it is, a no.
I can think of reasons why someone who helped an unstable young woman who he viewed as a sister would feel torn giving her a reality check.
I do agree with you, but many people find it easier to just try and brush it under the rug thinking it'll go away (sometimes it does). He also clearly didn't realize just how badly she'd take the news.
So he's probably just a dense motherfucker who thought everything was ok.
@@DoctorOaks He lied to her and gave her a false hope. I get that he isn't necessarily obligated to give her an explanation, but saying "I'm not ready right now" is very different than "I am not interested in dating you." What he said suggested that she just needed to wait, but in reality he was never interested.
Yes, she's obviously obsessed and probably sees him as a "savior" who helped turn her life around. She is the one in the wrong here, no doubt about it. But he also shouldn't have lied to her about his feelings. He didn't protect her, he just prolonged it and made her pain a lot worse once his lie was actually exposed. I really don't understand why people do this.
If he considered her a friend and looked at her as a little sister (meaning he actually cares about her in that capacity) then yes, he should have told her how he really felt. If we consider someone to be a close friend that we care about, then I'd argue that yes, we should give explanations. That's just basic healthy relationships 101. People obsessed with "I don't owe you anything" responses are generally pretty anti-social and don't understand the basics of building good relationships.
@@Seegtease There's also the fact that she may have any been shot down judging from how she viewed other actions of his. The more I listen to it, the more it seems like she's just not grasping the reality of their relationship.
Since we've only heard what she thinks happened, it wouldn't be shocking if what's in the post is how she interpreted what he told her rather than what he actually said.
I do disagree with how he went about telling her assuming it went down like in the post though. I'm just saying that it's not uncommon for people to react the same way, and even if it's a mistake that doesn't mean he's guilty of instigating her continued behavior. People like this usually don't stop easily even if you're extremely direct with them.
Even if the person hadn’t successfully kidnapped the child, the fact that the TikTok account uses a child’s real name is terrifying enough. She’s putting a real child in the spotlight for predators to see
As someone with an official diagnoses of DID who’s actively in therapy for it I can confirm 100% that first story is not about DID. She is genuinely having some sort of psychotic break from reality. There are 2 major types of DID, 1) person (system) is unaware they are a system with alters, when alters switch they have no memories or fuzzy memories of what the other alter was doing leaving them with partial amnesia which can be very disorienting and scary. 2) system is aware they’re a system and doesn’t loose as many memories or any, has a bit more control over when fronting happens for certain alters. For example if you have a child alter you can prevent them from coming out while you’re driving.
Neither of these fit what that woman was experiencing. She just “couldn’t help herself” and is obsessed with a 3 year old girl. Also most people with DID don’t like to bring it up because of people like this, they distort an actual illness to get attention or whatever it is they want and make it so so much harder for actual people with DID to get the support they need from friends, family, and therapists.
first story: when op said "everyone with DID is a fad" really kills me, this is why people don't take DID seriously when in fact it can be. My Ex friend has DID and it was extremely hard for them to be diagnosed, and when she was she went into heavy therapy and kept a journal to write what memories that their "alters" have done for the time period they were fronting. though, i really feel like OP brothers gf is faking it
And from what I read, suicide is quite high amongst those who have it because they feel they have no control over what happens. It’s also why they’re not allowed to drive as it’s a risk
@@lucialovecraft 😭😭 huh? but we can drive LOL you just need to be communicating well with your other alters. Me and the guys are really communicative, a lot of us can communicate with each other. to clarify im professionally diagnosed, if i wasnt i probably wouldnt have responded.
but like, yeah we can drive, my therapist has been trying to get me to, ngl im nervous to but like
as long as a few of us learn/know how to drive we should be fine lol
I've only seen a couple of content creators with DID (who are on social media to spread awareness), but those couple I've seen are EXTREMELY protective of their child alters (known as "littles"). They rarely, if ever, post videos involving their littles, and only do so with express permission from the littles - which is difficult, because littles have the mind of a child. They see it as the same as protecting a physical child from the internet.
While some people let their littles on social media, we personally do not do it publicly, and the idea of doing that scares the absolute fuck out of me as a caregiver. I don't really fakeclaim people, but like. She probably shouldn't be doing that shit.
We have specific spaces online we let them on just like any other kid. We find little friendly spaces, have people to supervise, and only let them converse with friends who are also systems. Letting your littles post on tiktok of all places... A no go from me.
@@EMBERLYVOID absolutely agree
Fakes. All of them.
makes sense. what kind of awful person would want to exploit the 'littles' in thier system, never mind monetising them for profit
I can confirm. Truth be told she and I aren't so different since our situation is... A bit different from how I've always read anecdotal talks about it happening (ours came from recovering from amnesia) but I would NEVER put her in a position where someone could hurt her. I'm the protective big sister in this little dynamic and you better believe nobody's allowed to interact with her except for the friend equivalent of trusted family. I just know a teeny tiny few people I've met by happenstance who have the condition, I've never really sought out others (partly from fear that what makes me weird might be weird for their weird. ...does that make sense...?)
But I just cannot *believe* that there are people who pretend this sort of stuff just for *attention.* It, like, I dunno, it triggers something primal in me and makes me irrationally angry to even imagine the level of disrespect required to even THINK to do that. Seeing someone confirm that those who legitimately have this going on *aren't* so unhinged as to be monsters who use their littles for attention and profit puts my mind mildly at ease but oh my *goodness* I got upset listening to that story.
Like... I mean, if that were a kink of hers I mean sure whatever that'd be different- inappropriate, but... pretending to... be... someone *else's kid...* like-- I'm bluescreening trying to figure out the logic. holy hell I- that's a *special* kind of unhinged. That lady needs serious therapy.
1st story: There is something called age regression, though this obviously isn't it. I suffer from this from time to time and it sucks.
There is a lot of information online, if anyone is curious - there are several diagnoses/disorders that can cause this.
Thank you for reading.
"Go ahead Avalyn, tell the nanny you know me!"
Oh, honey, make no mistake. The nanny knows you, too. She knows all about you and your creepy, insensitive and gravely dangerous behavior. As someone who was friends with someone who constantly faked DID, this story sent shivers down my spine...
The way I interpret the last story is that OP just crashes in her mentor's house every now and then, probably because she had a bad time or she made an excuse, she gives the vibes of an obsessive person who fantasied every aspect of her life with someone who doesn't owe her an explanation of their lives, it's a mentor nothing more. She went far and beyond because "she planned a life with hiiiiimmmm" and he is not into her at all. Awkward. Really awkward.
She had issues in her life and to me is clear she has attachment problems, she gets attached to the people that helped her to the point of falling for someone who is not interested in her. I do believe he laughed and gave her excuses to not hurt her feelings because it seems she is insistingly clinging to him at every turn. Making everything awkward and hard to not confrontational people to try and not hurt her feelings whilst keeping their distance.
If I have to guess based on what it was posted, she gives major red flags everywhere of a stalky person, or at the bare minimum an overly clingy person with the one she is "in love" with. Whatever the case, she has no business in meddling with another person's life like she did.
Edit: ALSO the guy said he sees her as a sister, clear as day he was never into her romantically and just gave her a space to crash or to hang out, OP doesn't mention that he is present when she is there. The holes are all over the place with her wording, but this type of people like OP I'm fairly familiar with, I don't think I missed anything there but one is human and can make mistakes. I probably didn't though.
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Either that or she has spare keys and sneaks in when he's not at home.. either case he's been trying to reject her nicely, perhaps too nicely even, although that might depend on if she's entirely mentally well or not.
Kelvin probably had coworkers making a,"work wife", kind of joke about them because how close OP and Kelvin seemed to be. Then OP didn't realize that the people that use that term just like making trouble. Its basically the adult equivalent of kids saying a couple wants to make out because they talked once on the playground.
Story 1: I'm not a professional, but my favourite non fiction book was specifically about someone with DID, so for awhile I was really invested in learning about the condition.
Firstly, no two people with it are going to be the same, some people remember what happened with their different personalities, some don't. Some people are 'locked behind a window' and watch while another alter is in control, some people just black out and have no memory (Often leading to much confusion and delayed diagnosis).
The main thing is, it involves incredible and significant trauma, as the different altars stem from the main personality seeking an escape. Another alter will take the blow of the trauma, or many altars may take the blow. It's a case of 'Main altar couldn't handle it all on their own, so other altars came out to share the burden.'
That said, creating a new altar of a specific person you met LONG after the traumatic event seems incredibly fake. People with DID tend to want help so they can handle themselves in a safe manner.
Book was 'All of Me' by Kim Noble, she had help writing the book with her therapist. It's a sad story with a happy ending, and she now lives with her daughter.
Story 2: Seems like a you problem my guy. She's going above and beyond regarding her responsibilities, maybe use some of that child support money to hire a nanny.
Story 3: I feel Kelvin should have really spelt it out for her, REALLY spelt it out. Just straight up "I'm flattered, but don't see you that way, please find someone else.
There's a lot that isn't understood about DID/OSDD and information on it is ever expanding and evolving, so it's best to try and avoid making absolute statements... especially ones that try to pin fakeness on how Alters may come to be. It really isn't uncommon to get Alters later in life, for them to change, fuse, split etc. There's a lot of research being done into Systems that didn't experience significant trauma in early life as well.
A few other things, not every System has a 'main Alter'. Some people/Systems feel comfortable with the idea of a Core Alter, others prefer to denote certain people are the Host. There's a lot of content online now, especially on Tiktok, from Systems who just kinda share their experiences and its really interesting.
I have a friend who has DID and multiple alters due to trauma. One of her alters is a child (idk how old or whatnot, just that it's a child) and so far the only alter I ever encountered and it was at the most PANIC INDUCING time since while we were talking and it was obvious the child alter was the one I was talking to (using simple words, speaking in a young childish voice, etc) and then she got scared because suddenly there was gunshots in the background so she said, "I hear guns. I hide." And then went silent for like 15 minutes while I was freaking out trying to figure out how to call the police to check on her. When she came back, after clarifying she and her loved ones were safe, I tried to figure out if the police were called or even the non-emergency number but was told she "cant." Because, "only adults can call. I not adult." Which made me freaked out more but thankfully the situation did get resolved. But yeah, DID is a trip trying to handle.
Psych major here! I want to preface that DID is a real thing and almost 100% of the time, people aren’t dangers to others, mostly just themselves. Alters don’t come out of no where, generally ‘splits’ happen during severe trauma and they generally take on specific roles, so for story 1, it would be incredibly unlikely unless there was something that happened recently. And unless they had a persecutor (a personality that’s generally someone that holds the trauma away from the most prevalent personality that is generally angry and tries to hurt the body) I don’t think they’d have any reason to go after the little girl. I think more likely is that they might have antisocial personality disorder and they are using DID as a cover for some ulterior goal that they have. I can’t say any of that for sure because it’s out of my scope and we’re just going on this based on a story, but it’s what I’d suspect given the circumstances
Story 3: They're not living together -- she says she goes to HIS home. I think she's as nuts as the first chick. She has been imagining this life together while he has been trying to shut her down and she has not been hearing him.
First story: with my degree in psychology, if this woman did actually have D.I.D, when the personality of a 3yr is claimed to be one of many personalities, the person who would legitimately have this disorder takes on the entire personality of said person. If she is claiming that she truly is the 3yr old, you would have the mental capacity of that age. Now being a mother myself I can say with full confidence that when my daughter was 3, she would have never been able to make a TikTok account or even know how to upload any video.
I don’t specialize in that field of psychology but I do know enough that I can say that if the diagnosis were actually true, the 3yr old personality of OP’s niece should have fully taken over. It would never be her just acting like the child while still being able to process everything else as an adult (ie using technology, driving etc).
My professional opinion, this woman does not have D.I.D. She does have a mental issue but it’s not that.
As someone who studied psychology in college and was planning on being a psychologist, DID is a disorder that usually starts as a young child gets horribly abused by an adult and builds personalities that take over during the abuse. People who have it cannot remember the actions of what happens when the other personalities come to play. One of the best treatments is learning you have it and seeing your alters via video or whatever. It’s a trauma response. HOWEVER I have never seen someone with DID pretend to actually be someone they know.
Not only that but psychologists cannot agree if DID is actually a real thing or if people are faking it.
Is "faking it" a bit misleading? It kind of implies that it's on purpose. Regardless on whether or not it exists, I don't think that they're all pretending
First Story: Usually what people do when they have disorders like this is to get professional help. Is this girlfriend recent? If so, this is just straight up creepy and abnormal. Her "alter" is specifically OP's daughter...yeah she needs help. OP's wife's reaction is 100% justifiable. The fact that she didn’t get a professional diagnosis and refuses to get therapy raises a lot of red flags; also a red flag is the fact this behavior started after OP's wife refused to let the girlfriend babysit the kids
Update 1: The fact OP's brother thinks that OP and his wife owes that woman an apology is baffling. Also, she posts this on TikTok!? Yeah, at that point I don’t believe she has DID. I don’t know a lot about the disorder but I highly doubt people with it would want to post it on the internet for clout
Update 2: Good on the nanny for what she did. I 100% believe this woman was going to kidnap this three year old. The fact she literally RAN after the nanny and tried to tell the child to tell the nanny she knew her is a big red flag
Second Story: Honestly OP brought this all on himself. She didn’t want the kid but OP did so he has the kid. She pays the child support so she isn’t a deadbeat. OP has to face the consequences of his choices. Good luck OP if he tries to get split custody but I doubt OP will get far
Third Story, YTA/ESH?: I’m torn between YTA and ESH because OP shouldn’t be telling someone what to do and not marry someone. However, I find it really weird that Kelvin sleeps in the same bed as OP and does other things besides having OP cook or do the laundry for him which is weird. Basically, I can’t tell if Kelvin intentionally led her on or OP thought the feelings were mutual and has it stuck in her head that she and Kevin would be together. This story is also weird when Kelvin rejected her twice
She'll get help in jail🤷♂️
are we sure this is real and not a cover up for her diaper/baby fetish? She behaves like a 3 y old but is fully capable of understanding and speech. Riiiiight....no. People with a bit of sanity, if they have childhood trauma, get therapy; This one did none of those things so I have my doubts about it being legit.
@@Diamondr11Bluemost likely 🤷🏾♂️
I follow a singer with dissociative disorders. And she does post about it. Just not in that way. She just talks about her experience and how she feels and the help she's getting. And just overall spreading positive vibes. Not looking for clout.
It's discussing that someone fakes a sireus metal disorder there are people that suffer from d.i.d and aren't taken sireus because of people like brother's girlfriend
She needs to get a proper diagnosis for DID, that is not a thing to play around with. Having alters like that is kinda concerning
DID is not a thing to begin with.
She's 100% faking it.
@@kheldaur2107Yes it is, people who have DID don't want it, I would know, I literally suffer because of this stupid disorder and if I COULD stop having it, I would immediately, I'm trying to get a trauma therapist because I need to deal with it somehow. And yes, I'm diagnosed
Maby cases of DID are fake it till you make it situations. They start by faking it, then keep it up for so long, and will go to such extemities to "keep up the act" that unless they come clean about faking it, which hardly ever happen, you can no longer tell wether the're still faking or managed to convince themselves it's real. This is 100% of the self-diagnosed cases.
Yea, is it normal for a person with DID to develop a new alter when they're currently not in a traumatic situation, based on a real person they know? I'd be surprised.
I have multiple friends with diagnosed DID and, as far as I can tell, that first story is not DID. They don't have alters of family/friends. Their alters have names and personalities but a lot of them are random people with specific roles that help them function.
I have DID clinically diagnosed. I have been in clinical therapy for over 5 years on a weekly basis. I’m just now FINALLY getting integrated. That means I’m healing and may soon no longer need therapy for that DID. The only people who can properly diagnose anyone’s mental status are medical professionals. A non-medical person has not right to judge another person’s mental health or lack thereof. It like assuming someone in a wheel chair is “faking” because they appear to have legs. I have child alters. They consider my husband a father figure because he takes care of them when they are out. It’s not a kink. It’s a way to heal from trauma. Even if it is imaginary it actually does work and can bring on healing when handled with love and care. I refuse to leave the house when I’m altered and return home as fast as I can when I do shift. I never go out alone. My husband knows when I’m altered and makes sure I’m safe and not doing inappropriate things. If she’s behaving in a dangerously or inappropriately there are safe and respectful ways to deal with that that don’t involve calling her a psycho and further traumatizing her.
Story 2 : you got what you asked for. She knew she didn't want the baby.
But the baby exists.
@@mariposa9506And he gets to take care of it like he wanted, so whats the problem
@@mariposa9506Doesn’t mean she has to be in the babies life.
She’s ensuring the baby she helped make will be financially stable and that’s all she really has to do.
Would the kid be better of with a mom, sure. But she doesn’t have to fill that role if she doesn’t want to.
@@mariposa9506 You can't force someone to love a kid. And you certainly shouldn't be trying to force them into spending time with a kid that they want nothing to do with.
@@mariposa9506yes because he convinced her to make the baby exist. She wanted to choose abortion. He convinced her not to, and the plan/expectation was that he could be a parent and she would not. She pays child support. That’s enough. OP got what he wanted.
My theory on the first story which is even more scary than what RSLASH is thinking, is that the brother and his girlfriend are obsessed with OP's daughter and the attempt at the park with the nanny was an attempt to kidnap OP's daughter because you know she's obsessed, which may also explain why she has an altar of her niece, I agree with the OP of that story, his brother's girlfriend is 100% crazy.
I also know that “dissociative identity disorder” (DiD) was formally known as “multiple personality disorder“ (MPD), but this kind of begs the question wouldn’t you want to get help for DID if you have it? Which leads me to two scenarios.
1: she’s faking it to get attention.
2: (which is what I’m leading towards) she’s using DID as a smoke screen to cover up her obsession with her niece.
I've known and met several people with DID and there's actually interviews and other fantastic videos on CZcams and articles online about it. It's an extremely serious and sometimes even perilous disorder.
And not a _single_ one I have ever met, known or read about that didn't feel like it was a miserable experience when they recognized what it was. There's no self-diagnosis with DID, it's clinically diagnosed on purpose because it's a step further than other disorders. She probably has something, could even be a mental breakdown but without a diagnosis and a proper one since she has the resources...no, when it comes to DID it ABSOLUTELY needs a proper clinical diagnosis. It's not gatekeeping...it's literally for the health and safety of those who DO have the disorder.
I had my mom (social worker who works to diagnose mental disorders and work with treating them) listen to the story when KCC put it out. She knew right off the bat it wasn't DID, it was likely another kind of mental disorder. I forgot the name, but it's where you hear about a disorder, and absolutely believe you have it, copying the symptoms, exceptionally common among wealthier kids as a subconcious means to get attention from usually distant parents. Issue is, they're so set in the victim mentality, they don't want to work on "getting fixed".
First story: wouldn’t that be extremely dangerous if she’s driving? Shouldn’t that get treatment immediately if she’s not making it up?
Dated someone with DiD and yes it's dangerous
Of course she´s making it up.
@@destinedtogameI wouldn't say it's that dangerous, but it definitely can be. Dissociation can be a dangerous thing sometimes, especially in public. Switching is less dangerous though, the body still knows what to do, though they shouldn't do it especially if they're a young alter
@@Aryasvitkona I was speaking about my ex. She had a 3 and 7 year old. It was a scary situation when the 3 year old took over.
Yes, its pretty dangerous. I was officially diagnosed in March after being put through intensive care because I had a break down and don't remember 2 weeks of my life. That whole time, I was apparently a cold hearted person who didn't care about people's feelings, I lead people on, I flirted with people I shouldn't have, and I didn't even get to grieve the loss of my family pet because I, the real me, wasn't aware at all.
It all stemmed from extreme stress. After going through therapy and still am, we realized I've had these moments since I was a teen and that's why I have such a spotty memory. I always thought I just had a bad memory.
I will say that now that I've been diagnosed, it's not easy. The people who know, including my parents, will sometimes say things like 'you probably dissociated and that's why you don't remember agreeing to this" which is also very dangerous if it came to a stranger.
I hope that all makes sense and sheds some light on how bad this can be. As for the GF, I 100% believe she's faking it for attention and needs help.
You know a story is fucked up when Dabney can't stop swearing
Yeah and I have never heard Rslash swear before.
Same here, this is the first time I have had the experience and I love to listen to rslash every day
I had read this story on Reddit, and when I saw RSlash was reading it, I HAD to listen just to hear Dabney say, "What the fuck did I just read?"
I've seen DID influencers. Some of them have child alters. Whenever they show up on camera, their name is omitted, treating them like an actual child on the internet, and those moments are mostly cut out. And you're right, most of the time it's the adult or at least teenage alters planning and making the videos.
And even if she wasn't faking, people with DID take responsibility for their alters' actions, because whatever they did only happened because they are not managing their system. At least that's my understanding from the DID CZcamsrs I've seen. I won't claim to be an expert but I'm pretty sure if this was a serious issue, this girl would be doing her best to seek help, especially if memory loss is included.
I feel like Rslash's catchphrase should be "WHAT AM I REEEDING!!!"
The super creepy thing about the 'Avelyn' alter is that brother has been dating his GF for a year. It's uncommon to meet a partner's family right away, so how long has she really known OP and his family? She seems to have met his daughter once or twice and jumped right into her 'I become this child _I just met_ because of my childhood trauma' story.
Story 2: Yeah that's on you. I completely understand being burnt out.
But teying to push her to having your son is shitty to your son. Forcing someone who doesn't want to take care of that child, is gonna be harmful to your son.
I suggest asking family, or hiring a baby sitter so you can get time to yourself for a few hours. Maybe ask sime friends to babysit (of course paid.)
Story 3 op is delusional
There is three different types. And this is why self-diagnosis is not valid. IF and I really do mean IF she’s not lying which I absolutely believe it's not the most common one which is just “dissociative disorder. What she’d have (if any) is one of the other two. Seeing she seems to have psychotic episodes I really wouldn't be qualified to say even if I had the necessary information to take a guess.
But here is some information about it.
Dissociative disorders involve problems with memory, identity, emotion, perception, behavior and sense of self. Dissociative symptoms can potentially disrupt every area of mental functioning.
Examples of dissociative symptoms include the experience of detachment or feeling as if one is outside one’s body, and loss of memory or amnesia. Dissociative disorders are frequently associated with previous experience of trauma.
There are three types of dissociative disorders:
* Dissociative identity disorder
* Dissociative amnesia
* Depersonalization/derealization disorder
During a traumatic experience such as an accident, disaster or crime victimization, dissociation can help a person tolerate what might otherwise be too difficult to bear. In situations like these, a person may dissociate the memory of the place, circumstances or feelings about the overwhelming event, mentally escaping from the fear, pain and horror. This may make it difficult to later remember the details of the experience, as reported by many disaster and accident survivors.
Dissociative identity disorder is associated with overwhelming experiences, traumatic events and/or abuse that occurred in childhood. Dissociative identity disorder was previously referred to as multiple personality disorder.
Symptoms of dissociative identity disorder (criteria for diagnosis) include:
* The existence of two or more distinct identities (or “personality states”). The distinct identities are accompanied by changes in behavior, memory and thinking. The signs and symptoms may be observed by others or reported by the individual.
* Ongoing gaps in memory about everyday events, personal information and/or past traumatic events.
* The symptoms cause significant distress or problems in social, occupational or other areas of functioning.
In addition, the disturbance must not be a normal part of a broadly accepted cultural or religious practice, for example in some cultures they believe in possession. And yhst would not fall under this disorder.
Don’t know whats going on with that girlfriend but her obsession and attempted kidnapping are super concerning and I’m glad OP and their partner were concerned with their kid first and foremost. Any family that tries to just smooth this over (bro included) can get right out.
Yeah. First story, I don’t believe the girlfriend has DID. Not only did her posting TikTok’s completely contradict the “no memory” statement, but if she did TikTok’s as the child alter she was most likely “triggering” it on camera, like a switch. People with actual DID can’t do that. The “personality switch” is a coping mechanism triggered by a trauma response. The lady DEFINITELY has some mental issues, but it ain’t DID. Hope everything goes well for everyone.
Actually this is false in some ways. So when switching it doesn't have to be a only switching if something traumatic happens. At least thats what I interpreted what you said. DID can only happen with intense trauma at early developmental stages. So in that way it's a trauma response in a certain way. Also not towards you comment but every comment I see but if she isnt faking then she can't choose who her alters are. So everyone saying that it's gross to have a child alter of someone they know then it's not controllable. That's why you can see alters as celebrities or even people in your house hold or friends. Just clearing some things up if anyone reads this😭
@@taylorwindsor7434 i probably didn’t word it right but when I said it’s due to a trauma response, I don’t mean they have to ACTIVELY going through trauma to go through a switch. A taruma response can be triggered by a bunch of things, like for me, hearing a man yell causes me to shut down completely, and that’s considered a trauma response.
@@QuEeNyB222nyahhhhh okay thanks you cleaning that up!!
Story 3: Yeah, this is weird to me. Is OP okay? Like, the dude rejected her twice, yet she still planned everything around a guy that rejected her, and then got mad when he and his actual fiancé decide to marry?
I think OP needs a reality check. She sounds like a creepy stalker
And the other members as well for enabling OPs delusions.
Exactly what I was thinking. Like, “I planned my whole life around him!” Okaaaay…? He clearly didn’t do the same. TWICE. Get on with your life lady.
Yeah she seems to be confusing this guy's mentorship for love or something. I was really worried at the beginning of the post that this whole mentorship thing was going to turn out to be some sort of sex cult or something but it sounds like it's the other way around, it's a legit mentorship that she has construed as a sex cult, LOL
I was a bit alarmed when OP writes that Kiara supposedly said she and Kelvin have been planning their lives together since she (Kiara) was 13, but I don't think I can trust anything that OP writes to be true. If it is true tho, and Kelvin has been stringing OP along while grooming another girl from very young age, then that's really bad. But no matter what, OP needs to make a complete break away from Kelvin and the support group.
She need a reality check and psychiatric evaluation at minimum but sounds like it'll be long term treatment because she either missed the message of being rejected TWICE by being terrifyingly oblivious... or she purposely ignored it, gaslit herself and the rest of the group into believing it meant something else. Honestly, if it turns out to be the second case... she is a danger to everyone around her.
first story; i have known and currently know people diagnosed with DID and have younger alters, and the way she is acting definitely isn't normal and feels incredibly forced just from hearing this story. if she's not faking it, then she's definitely intentionally playing it up to be way more of a deal than it probably actually is in her mind.
as someone who experiences involuntary age regression due to past trauma, i may not usually know how i act during that time so it's reasonable for her to not remember, but when i've come out of it i've never been told by my boyfriend (who usually supervises me during this) that i have done something that actually insane.
OP's parents are completely justified in not wanting the girlfriend around their kid nor at family functions, and OP's brother really needs to ground this girl back into reality or break up with her, because that definitely won't end well for either of them.
🙄Ok I need to say this. I have been twice diagnosed with CPTSD & DID. I promise you this is absolutely NOT how DID works. It literally impossible for this to be true & I highly doubt this is psychosis. She is choosing to behave this way IMO. Clearly she has been sucked into faking disorders like the teenagers on TikTok, which is extremely offensive & dangerous. I'm so fed up with this BS trend. What I go through everyday is not fun or a joke! Its a constant struggle. Tell her to delete her TikTok account. apologize to everyone involved & get help!
I have DID as well and while I disagree about DID TikTok being inherently bad, I was thinking largely the same thing :/
I have a couple friends with DID and that girl is literally the reason those friends are scared to tell people about it. I really hope she gets help and figures out what’s going on, but I’m the mean time OP and the family did the right thing by keeping distance.
I lost friends due to having it so ya. I hate this lady. System accountability is needed and she scares me. :(
yup, exactly. as someone with OSDD, i just don't talk about it because i don't want people to think i'm some lunatic. in reality, i just am a bundle of goofballs haha
Your friends are faking it for attention.
@@wmdkitty Say that to me and my multiple friend's Dissociative Identity Disorder diagnosis'
@@wmdkitty You wanna argue that with me and all of my alters individually, buddy?
Story 2 the guy is basically an abuser, coerced birth is a form of domestic violence and he even commented on "how he tought she would bond with the baby over pregnancy and change her mind" like, WTF how disgustingly delusional can you be?
these are the comments he made on his own post that rSlash didn't share in the video for nome clarity:
"She is a deadbeat. She doesn't have anything to do with him and has left me to do everything as a single parents. I want to know if I have any legal options to make her help parent the child she helped create."
"I want the courts to give her visitation or custody so that I can have a break and she can actually parent her child. I'm not on public assistance because with my job and her support I don't qualify."
"I never thought that she could turn her back on her own child. I honestly thought she would bond during the pregnancy and would eventually change her mind. Even if she turned down my offer to be in a relationship I never thought she would actually abandon him without a thought and without seeing him or even trying to know his name or sex. She was so drugged up during the birth that I don't even think she knows if he was born before or after midnight. I didn't expect it to go like this to be honest." -- this one is the most disgusting one, he literally confesses everything.
What a load of crap
I'm not a psychologist, so take that into account with my comments, but for a non-psychologist I know a lot about DID, and I also know a lot about the internet fad of thinking you have DID when you absolutely do not. To clarify: the online fad of people who think they have DID are probably some combination of people who are flat out lying about it, and some people who probably actually do think that they have it because they got incorrect information about what it is and looks like. I've never heard of a single case where someone with actual DID had an alter who was another real person. Alters generally form around the time that the person was experiencing their childhood trauma - in this case before the niece would have been born, most likely - and they're they're own, unique personality, different from each other and the people around the person with DID. But alters may be of various ages, so someone having an alter that is 3 years old is something you'd see. But having an alter that is a specific 3 year old child outside of the person with DID is not. That sounds very, very much like the sort of idea that gets passed around the online fad of fake DID. So yeah, I 100% think the girlfriend doesn't have DID - definitely worried that she has something else, though...
1st story : Let's say the girl do have the disorder. Well, first rule of systems (people with multiple alters) : No matter what alter is out, you are responsible for the whole system decisions. She shouldn't have done that, and the adult alter need to assume what her 3yo alter did wrong. Also, she needs to find a way to teach her 3yo alter how to behave, like with any other kid.
Story 1: Lots of people fake DID because they think it’s a “quirky trend”, unfortunately. However, it is a real disorder that is diagnosed, although rare.
It sounds like this woman is faking it.
Yeah, as soon as the mention of TikTok dedicated to the 3 year old alter came up, I lost any ability to even remotely believe it was real.
We had a big controversy recently because a big channel here did a segment about DID... and decided it was a good idea to interview a girl who claimed she have DID, but after it went on air LOTS of people, including licensed psychiatrists and psychologists, pointed out she was faking it;
And of course she have a Tik Tok profile centered about her 'DID'... I swear Tik Tok should start cracking down on douchebags like that who fake serious mental disorders for likes, while making it even worst for people who actually have them. And DID is just the latest one, we had a time were faking Tourette's was a thing, and another with autism (that as someone who's diagnosed with autism myself massively pissed me off).
also from everything I've heard DID is REALLY scary until you get treatment.
I've heard stories of people blacking out, of feeling like they're "possessed", and other pretty scary stuff.
For someone to go through all this and not want any help is beyond me.
Of course I don't have it, but I knew someone who did. Not a lot is known about it, but sadly, much more is known about the lengths people will go to for social media upvotes -.-
The fact that she isnt diagnosed, and claims "Self diagnosis" counts (wtf?), makes me want to agree with you.
I do not have DID, let me get that out of the way. My current doctor refers to my mental state as "identity disturbance not consistent with borderline personality disorder." Put simply while I don't present distinct "alters" my personality varies drastically in a not quite bipolar way. It does lead me talking out loud to myself as if I'm several people having a discussion among several people. It doesn't inhibit my daily life much except that I'm often unable to remember and therefore explain why I've made certain decisions or taken certain actions. Antipsychotics haven't helped and have led to worse problems and antidepressants tend to make me ill. Point being, it sucks. It's not fun and whimsical, it's not some superpower. It's just super annoying.
the OP on the first story saying “i don’t believe in DID, it’s a fad” is why people with DID are never taken seriously
Tbf, most people posting it online are fakers.
@Natalie-xh6ph this kind of proves the point that it makes things that much harder for people who DO
I can see why OP said that since many people are faking it on TikTok, causing the disorder to not be taken as seriously.
This girlfriend's shenanigans make it harder for people to take DID seriously. There are a lot of people who do this stuff for attention, unfortunately. Social media makes it so alluring for these people. I feel bad for the people who have DID, as it's not a funny or quirky thing at all.
OP said he doesn't understand it but that he doesn't believe SHE has it. There's a difference. He's also saying that he doesn't believe the people on TikTok have it because of how all of that is.
OP definitely does not seem one of the people who would make things difficult for actual sufferers.
Psych student here. To answer RSlash’s question. She could not have drove to the park while in her 3 year old self as people with DID’s different personalities can have skills. She could have know that the daughter would be at the park if she heard it while in her 3 year old personality or the 3 year old personality is the type that is aware it’s not the sole personality in that body and can basically observe what’s happening when the other personalities could be in control. While DID is definitely very real it’s, like most mental illnesses, portrayed in media pretty inaccurately so people tend to not believe it exists. It’s also diagnosable, but it takes a very long time in therapy to reach the point where the therapist can trigger switches in personality that proves without a doubt the person has DID. As the parents said histrionic personality disorder is much more likely as it’s an intense need to be the center or attention that’s so strong the person doesn’t care about the consequences of getting it. However, it’s a lot easier to simply pass these diagnoses as a person faking it for attention or another personality attribute, then to actually figure out how to help people, which is why OP probably reacted the way he did.
from what I know about DID, there’s at least one other identity in the persons head, and they try to work together to function in the same body. They don’t try to assume the identity of a whole other person. They don’t try to beg for attention or be creepy with their alters. And it can be very disorienting when different identities take over, because memories aren’t always shared throughout the system. I’ve talked to a few systems and they’re generally just working and talking together and giving each other reminders throughout the day. They’re pretty cool! Just have a lot of things to work out
Story 2
Welcome to the reality that so many single women face when they are pressured by the law or family into not getting an abortion and the sperm donor didn’t want a kid either. You got what you asked for.
You read my thoughts.
My suspicion when this happens is the guy expects some motherly instincts magic to kick in after the birth, and go all shocked Pikachu when it doesn't
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The thing that gets to me about story 2 is when the roles are reversed, the guy is called a deadbeat dad
@@WarsWorththis is true. I came here to say this. It’s not always the law, or pressure for women to have a kid.
Second story:
That is the epitome of "want the cake and eat it too" the mom was 1000% clear that she had no intention of being a mom. It was not a case of bait and switch. OP chose to MAKE her have a baby she didn't want and is now mad that he's a single parent. Which is absolutely because he did not think about what being a parent actually means. I.e. it means sacrifice in every sense of the word, like he now knows. The whole thing is sad, but at the same time really intentional.
Third story:
Op needs to go see a therapist and figure out how to build herself for herself. She attached herself to a "savior" type person. And he used her in some ways. Especially the staying in the same bed but saying he's not interested. That's SUPER weird.
Question on the have your cake and eat it too phrase. What does that even mean? Like logically, if you buy cake it’s because you obviously want to eat it. I agree with you on your verdicts but what does the phrase mean when it makes no sense.
@crazypyp5871 it means you want to have a cake and also eat it. So you want to have a complete cake to admire and have on display.... but you also want to eat it. So you want to do both. But after it's eaten, the cake is gone so it conflicts with wanting to have the cake on display. It means you can't have everything you want because it can conflict with each other.
Someone who has experience taking care of people with DID here. Alters are formed from childhood trauma. In most cases, new alters aren't formed after adolescence, since they're formed because of how the brain develops when a child is young. So already, it's extremely unlikely that a fully grown adult would form an altar of someone who hasn't been alive for longer than 3 years.
Additionally, while child alters are very possible and actually fairly common, most people with DID recognize the vulnerability of these alters and will try their best to keep them away from public or potentially dangerous situations. Not a single responsible person with DID would be making tiktoks as their child alter.
Medical evaluation of DID requires a specialist which can often be hard to come by so I can understand if the reasoning for not getting a diagnosis is because they weren't able to see a specialist. However, in that woman's situation it sounds like she has plenty of resources to find a specialist and get an official diagnosis. DID isn't curable per se but it is treatable and can be managed. Each case is a little bit different, but for the most part you should be able to understand what an alter's triggers are and know how to avoid those triggers in a public space.
Long story short, while DID is real, it seems very likely that this woman is faking it or at best has some sort of different condition.
Story 2 he though he can trap her with a baby and now he is surprising 🤣