r/Bestof My Boyfriend Literally Thinks He's Batman
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0:00 Intro
0:13 My boyfriend always wants to be the hero
6:57 My relationship is a lie
14:07 I'm not in our family picture and I won't lie about it
"Sneaky Snitch" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) License: CC By Attribution 3.0 - Komedie
Story 1: Brave enough to face a mugger with a knife, yet too cowardly to admit the truth to friends and family. What the hell!?
Plus OP could show the police report to verify her story.
People often dream of what they wished they could be. I imagine their delusions were enough to make them "brave" in that context, but otherwise they're cowardly, and that's why they dream about being a brave hero.
This weird contradiction is sadly true for some guys who buy too much into the hero stuff. Because Batman gets beaten up all the time, and that's macho, but he doesn't get _humiliated._ That's _weak._ Society doesn't do a good job of teaching boys to roll with psychological punches and laugh them off - only physical punches.
I think you’re confusing physical and moral courage.
Glad she realized what a loser he is.
As someone who did martial arts for most of high school, I have to say this: any teacher worth their salt will teach you that the first thing you need to know about fighting is that if you have the option not to fight, you take. Even the greatest martial artist in the world is not immune to getting stabbed.
And to be mindful of your surroundings. It seems like her boyfriend had the hope of an encounter during the late night walk in an area OP called a bad neighborhood
I learned that from Joseph Joestar
Plus fighting with martial arts is different than street fighting, street fighting is unpredictable and dirty.
Yep when I did Ju-Jitsu my sensei always said the first weapon you should think about using in a street situation was your Adidas (for fleeing rather than kicking)
or shot
On the 2nd story, I feel like the guy can feel proud of himself because he single-handedly changed his crush's mind and carried that relationship with his personality.
Yeah, it's easy form a relationship with someone who likes you. It's a real accomplishment to win over a skeptic.
Idk man, I don't think I would ever stay with someone who went on a pity date with me
@@redrubyrose618 You should think beyond that. I've dated men before that I only really talked to in the first place was just to be polite - nothing more - and then it turns out the more you get to know some people the more attractive they can become if they're nice people.
Even my husband... when I first met him, although he is conventionally good looking, he just did not look like my type and I had zero interest. He was clearly into me though. Then I began to take notice because I quickly found out that he was a really funny guy, and obviously I began to take more notice and it turns out a really nice, kind and intelligent guy too. By the time I married him I wondered how I got so lucky.
@@redrubyrose618 yeah same it’s just so degrading
@@redrubyrose618 Well, many people have different thresholds on what they believe they can look past and what they can't. At least they worked things out.
First of all, Batman wouldn’t even monologue he would just beat you senseless After scaring you half to death
He would sneak attack! He only monologues while fighting the Joker
Unless it's 1960's Batman 😊 he has a good chance of monologuing
That man would be hiding on a gargoyle and wait for you to walk under him than string you up
@Lara I love that. The villian would probably just give up after it because he would feel bad. That batman had major logic
This. I think it's telling that really the only Batman "speech" that is still widely remembered in pop culture is like ten words long, mainly thanks to Kevin Conroy (RIP). The thing about any remotely modern Batman is that he has nothing to prove, especially to a random mugger--he's just gonna cold-cock you, string you up somewhere the cops can find you and then leave, rotfl.
Story 1: I love the fact that the mugger was distracted enough that OP could empty her wallet and throw it. 😂
It's like a comedy!
Tbf, in that unintended way, he kind of did save the day. lol Dumbass to the rescue!
Yeah, OP's the real brains in that outfit. Also smart enough to find out about the lies, too.
Would've been funnier if the mugger asked OP while being genuinely confused:
- The hell is he on about?
- No idea
@@user-bu2sf1gb5t The mugger's going to find that emptied-out wallet and be convinced this was some fiendish pre-planned tactic the couple had used to deliberately distract him and "cheat him of his prize".
Story 2: It started as a pity date, but then she truly fell for OP. Honestly, I'm glad it ended well for both. Best of luck to them
My thoughts exactly. The first date was a pity date. But she _wanted_ to go on the second and third and fourth and...
I can understand how op feels in story 2. When someone asks a person on a date, that person wants to think it was THEM who got that person to date them. Not some pity or anything. Knowing it was a pity date likely made him feel as if his achievement ment nothing. That feeling is devastating.
Oh wow your gf didn’t want to date you before getting to know you. Wow that’s an absolute win.
Props to op and his girlfriend for making something unthinkable a reality. I had a crush on my wife for three years before our first date. Wishing the happy couple the best!
@@Playingwithproxies Thing is though the GF had no intentions of getting to know OP. She was only doing it because she pitied him. She didn't want to date him at all, where she knew him or not.
As someone who lives pay check to paycheck that last story hits HARD! I had been BEGGING for anniversary photos for years since we got married, but we could never afford them.
Last year we had made plans to take anniversary photos with the photographer that took our wedding photos. Then my husbands cars engine took a turn for the worst, and needs a brand new transmission. He is really good friends with a dealer since he was 16 and bought his first vehicle from them, and has been looking at getting a new car for the first time since he started driving with his learners permit at 15. We cancelled our appointment to fix the car, traded it in and at 31 he finally bought his brand new car. I was so excited for him because this was such a huge purchase for the both of us and a sign that even with loosing my job and starting a new career we are finally bouncing back! It sucked that I didn’t get my photos but my husband getting to work safely was more important.
2 weeks after the car was purchased he told me to go pick out a dress from a store that I had been wanting for a while, on his dime. Then he sent me to go get my nails done on a Friday afternoon after I got off work. I though it was him apologizing that I couldn’t get my anniversary photos, so here’s some consolation stuff to make you feel better. The next day he woke me up at like 5 a.m. and told me to pack the dress and my makeup bag. Obviously I questioned him and he said it was a surprise.
He drove me out to the same place where we exchanged vows (in a state park just outside of town) and surprised me with a few months late anniversary shoot. The dealership had a special that if you bought a car in January that you received a free photo shoot local photographer of your choice.
Even though we had bought it in December, he made sure the car deal didn’t go through until January 1st. This was a very well known deal from this auto group but I never knew about it. He got his car and I still got my photo shoot.
That’s a healthy relationship dynamic, you sacrifice for the betterment of the both of you.
What a great story! I wholeheartedly agree with your statement!
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That's a very odd promo for a car dealership 😂 but I'm very happy for you and your husband!
@@thomicrisler9855 Well, whatever gets the car dealership more sales! Plus, since it says "local photographer", meaning the car dealership was likely supporting smaller, lesser known photographers in the process. Which is also pretty nice.
The loser in the first story missed an awesome retelling to spread. "We were like Batman and Wonder Woman. I distracted the mugger whilst she emptied her purse, so we could throw an empty at the mugger. It was all planned, *really*... Best Super. Team. Ever."
There has got to be something more going on in the third story. Why does the wife want good photos that badly? I think a therapist needs to get involved. It's just so bizarre. It's not just that she wanted them, she rebooked after the first attempt failed even though it would mean she can't see her own family for thanksgiving. From the sound of it, this is uncharacteristic of her (or at least was), so what changed?
its a status thing. being able to afford professionally done photos is something only wealthy people can do. by her getting those photos means that she can bluff to others that her family is better finically off then they really are. the money problem is new i think, and she doesn't want people to know because there is social stigma against the poor: its better to be broke and on the verge of homelessness and no one know it then for you to be known as poor. it's an old and insane form of thinking but some people are still acting like that
I was wondering about that too, he said that she got sick a year ago and lost her job. So it must have been a serious/drawn-out sickness. Maybe her appearance changed and she feels a need to document being alive/back to normal? I don't know, but that is a seriously weird hill to die on.
@@abiean222Yeah, pictures may not seem like they’re worth it to some but to others they do because, well, it’s whatever the individual sees as a luxury. Never underestimate how many moms see it as the ultimate prize, lol. I don’t get it myself because pictures like that are staged and static and don’t reflect reality… and we all have nice quality photography, if not professional quality, at our fingertips. One of the nicest photos I have of my youngest daughter, for example, was snapped by me on my phone while she was lucky enough to get to pet two Pomeranians… her favorite breed… while she was wearing a costume at a convention. She looked up with a smile of pure bliss and I caught it. I have a shot of my oldest walking with her bestie under a little pink umbrella, my son playing dress-up at a children’s museum, flat on the floor grinning at the bottom of a bouncer slide… my kids caught making hilarious faces in all sorts of places. No $300 photo shoot will get you that.
Status/peer pressure. My sister is the same. She is a single mum (receiving child support), but is unwilling to work. Even though she struggles for money as a result, she compares herself to the many working couples in her friendship group.
She will buy my nephew the same brands of clothes as her friends, take him on the same day trips as her friends, etc. But then run out of money halfway through the month. It's exhausting hearing her complain about it all the time. Genuinely, from about the 15th of the month onwards, I avoid her, because she just whines about how she's run out of money.
That's what I was thinking... she's off her nut for trying to get her photo shoot no matter what, even using up an emergency fund.
That guy in first story would make a real good decoy in a horror movie.
Its a cold hearted thought yes, but when the person is that stupid and willingly getting into trouble and still refuses to listen to reason, they deserve everything the killer does to them.
I've spent some time thinking about scenarios like this. I'm not sure 'deserve' is the right word, considering death was a very real possibility, and _very_ few things deserve that. But at a bare minimum my sympathy would be restricted. It's the whole don't blame the victim topic. Did the victim deserve it? Absolutely not. Should the criminal be held accountable? Absolutely yes. Should society allocate resources to preventing crime, over say no one ever goes outside at night? Absolutely yes. Should I expect to intentionally stick my hand in a meat grinder and come out intact? To expect society to pay for my choices? We'll do the latter because we can't stop from caring, because no one _deserves_ it, but we're going to call you a moron while doing it.
Guy was legit trying to get him & his girlfriend Thomas & Martha Wayned minus not having a son to orphan & become the real hero.
I have to admit - you do have a point there
*First OP:* Someone should look into OP because I'm _pretty_ sure it's illegal to date children. In all seriousness, OP dodged a nuke! The Mommobile joke was a nice touch, lol! OP is NTBF. Also, rSlash should cover Am I the Buttface.
*Second OP:* As cynical as I am, I hope this story is true because it's so dang adorable. I legit have a smile on my face after reading along to it. I wish OP and his girlfriend the best.
*Third OP:* I don't know how OP's marriage would recover from this, but I wish everyone the best of luck.
Clear the 1st guy knew deep down that hes not such a big man otherwise he wouldn't have lied about the interaction
So weird that he couldn't appreciate how smart is GF was in getting them both out of that safely. OP is better off without such an immature person.
@@fdm2155 first she knew that it was a bad idea to go for a walk, second she knew to throw the wallet and flee, third she used the opportunity while bf monologues to get important items from wallet before throwing it, and last she filed a police report. In every sense OP is better off without him
I don't get the throw it angle. Won't that just piss them off and get you stabbed normally? I say just let the guy get stabbed or best case he talked the guy down, she admits he confused and caught the thief off guard.
@@NEPAAlchey It's an ultimatum. He wanted the wallet so badly and didn't even know that she took everything important out
@@NEPAAlchey The rationale is that the mugger is much more interested in your wallet than he is in you. So if the object of the mugging (money) is thrown behind him, he's likely to focus on that long enough for you to run away. And once you're running away, the mugger is likely going to go after the wallet with the hope of getting something valuable.
For the last one he needs to copy off that email and file it with any form of document that shows how she abuses money. This could lead to serious issues in the future. It's best to leave, take that email copy and point out that she has no real sense of financial responsibility nor stability for your child. Courts look down on that kind of stuff. Also look at it this way. When your child is old enough to work some banks need an adult to still be on the account in order for it to be opened. If your wife is on that account how do you know she won't abuse that money as well? Think of it as protecting your child now in order to protect their future.
precisely!
Not enough information... This story had to many questions for me. I think they both suck and not a single one of them where in the right here.
I just imagined the boyfriend going “in the name of the moon, i shall punish you!”
Also, yes, i did imagine him completely dressed as sailor moon too.
And now I imagined him with "In the name of the hundred acres woods! I capture you!"
To be fair, I grew up on Pooh's Heffalump Movie
"By the power of Grayskull... I have the power!" 😆🤣😂
the mugger realizing this guy possibly might be insane enough to try to fight him:
Going,"Pretty Cure-*various phrases since they have different transformation words*"🤣
@@jasminechildress6938 just pick your favorite XD
First story boyfriend I wonder if he said his internal monologue out loud too.
Mugger: "Give me your wallets"
Bf: "I'll first make him see error of his ways and then I use my super power punch to knock him out in one hit... Stay right there evil doer!"
Mugger: ???
Not good enough. I will go Super Saiyan!
My mom's photo albums are filled with pictures from disposable cameras and crappy phone cameras. The lighting sucks, some are blurred, have glare or flash, some even straight up half blocked. She does not care. These are memories, once in a lifetime moments she caught on camera for us to see and instantly remember. I take photos on my phone and haven't had a professional photo since my yearbook, because memories just happen and aren't staged.
First story: That guy needs to have a major wakeup call. Seriously, he needs help in the mental department.
Second story: I-Is this real? I can't believe that things like this can actually happen.
Third story: As someone who went through the toxic situation r/Slash talked about, I can honestly say that if my folks had divorced when I was younger, I wouldn't have nearly as much anxiety as I do right now. OP, if you truly care for your daughter, then I highly recommend looking for a good divorce lawyer.
First story: op's boyfriend probably suffers from hero síndrome, this kind of disorder starts with the person taking great pleasure on saving people, but ends up with them lying to look like a hero and something even intentionally putting others at risk to latter rescue them ( and i believe op's boyfriend did this by intentionally going on a night walk in a bad neighborhood)
A disorder that is most common among first responders, particularly volunteer firefighters (because people with the disorder are drawn to these jobs, and that position requires the least amount of evaluation and tedious process to join). They do things like set fires so they can swoop in and save the day as the first on scene, starting with things like fields vehicles and outbuildings but sometimes even progressing to occupied structures for the greater level of recognition.
6:06 “You sly dog! You had me monologuing!”
Story 3: The Wife needs therapy, though I'd recommend Couple's Therapy. Being THAT obsessed over pictures? I feel there's something more that needs a professional to help uncover.
Likes, the fuel of the perfect "life".
sure, but if they can't afford the photo shooting, how in hell they will afford therapy?
And therapy will solve?
The fact that this pair don't actually hear what the other is saying. These two are talking but no one is listening. Also since they had such tough years it could be she wants to commemorate that, or she want to capture the happiness of what once was. They need a therapist to show them the different choices they can make where everyone comes out a winner where the family is the one that wins not the husband or the wife but child too
Dude... what if she was dying from the afore mentioned illness and she didn't tell OP. What if this was her way of giving her family something special before that happened. I personally don't think we have enough information to truly say anything on the matter. All we really know is OP's family has been through some rough times and out of seemingly no where the wife wants pro pics done. His actions most definitely not becoming of a husband both drastically worsen the situation. Now they basically lay at the crossroad to divorce. Of which OP says he doesn't want but has put no effort into preventing it. Rather pressed the launch button sending the rocket to its impending Doom.🎉 It is one thing to disagree with her actions its another thing to boycott her and get her banned from an artist. They both suck and I agree with the original comment, need some serious therapy for being absolutely horrible to one another.
First Story, NTA: Never NEVER try to be a hero. When someone is robbing u and they have a weapon, do NOT risk ur life to be a hero. Good on OP for stopping her boyfriend from possibly getting himself killed. What is up with these people?! So they are mad at OP because his pride and ego got hurt? These people are insane, it was either the wallet or his life. I’m soooooo glad he seen the light and realized his mindset was really stupid...woooow, he lied to all these people ALL FOR HIS PRIDE AND EGO!? Good for OP for getting rid of this man-child. Here I thought he seen the light but it was way worst than I thought
Second Story: Opinion: I can’t stand people who be with people out of pity, as a dare, or out of malice. That being said, onto the story. I get how OP feels and I don’t doubt that it stung but OP shouldn’t mess up something that worked after the fact. OP could see this in a lot of ways. Like if her bff didn’t convince her to go on that date, they never would’ve clicked with each other, and they never would’ve ended up together. However, I still understand how OP feels about this though. See I like the ending of this story. All that was needed was a talk, sharing of each other's feelings, and now everything is ok. This story is extremely wholesome. Lmaooo I agree, this does feel like something from a Disney movie 😂
Third Story: Wow, OP is married to someone who is VERY selfish. Knowing they aren’t fully financially stable, she spends $300 on pics? What about getting the kids something for Christmas? What about bills or other necessities? OP's wife needs to get her priorites straighten out. Like I said, she is VERY irresponsible. OP and herself aren’t financially stable and she blew all of her emergency funds on still trying to get photos? Sheesh OP, good luck
The accurate representation of how this happens is in the movie Kick-Ass. You get stabbed, hit by a car, and if you're lucky, wake up in a hospital.
@@ohnosmoarlulcatzlmao
And what are you trying to save with your life? There is nothing in your wallet that you couldn't block and get back like ID, bank card and so on. And even stuff like your phone can be blocked and you could get a new one. Your life isn't worth less then 600 dollars.
That guy is going to get himself killed one day
Hoping to put a better spin on it and think the word "pity" may have been misapplied when it was more a case of giving a guy she was not really interested in a chance. Pity to me would mean a date with someone who no one else would go with. Like I said I'm trying to spin it as I do find the pity aspect reprehensible.
Then back to the first story, the ex boyfriend is just delusional.....as well as a liar.
I ABSOLUTELY HOWLED with laughter at the “TO THE MOMMY-MOBILE” joke.
It was bad.
"Don't bring a moron to a knife fight." My mother always said, "don't let your hummingbird ass overload your alligator mouth."
"Don't have more balls than brains"
I love you're mom's saying.
I like the hummingbird version way better than your mouth not writing cheques your ass can't cash
Rslash going off about story 2 being too sweet 🤣👌
Pretty sure there are fanfics that follow the same progression as OP's story
Fr like that could be a plot in several Gacha stories or Hollywood romcoms
Seriously though, stuff like that only happens in movies. It was so sweet
Well I like to think that so much shitty stuff happens irl, it’s nice to see some sappy stories once in awhile!
and then they were roommates
Honestly it felt like I was watching a Hallmark romance movie. 🤣
But honestly, I couldn't ask for a better outcome for OP. Good on him.
Story 2: It's good that it went well, and i understand that a pity date could bother, but at the same time... come on, what did he expected for her reaction to be? It didn't seemed that they were some sort of friends, only acquaintances, and she knewing about the crush but saying nothing, of course she was gonna be awkward, it's good that she ended up falling for him after the first dates, op should be focusing more on that
How's about, "I appreciate you asking but I'm not interested. I'm sorry." If she had no intentions of dating him then why bother even entertaining the idea? The band-aid has to be ripped off eventually. So why not at the start?
@@rickywilliams1586 yes, she had no obligation to smooth the rejection, she could have said no from the beginning and not losing any time going on "obligation" dates
Cause teenagers are stupid and they realize they are stupid when they become adults… and sadly some never do.
It would also be understandable if op chose to kick her to the curb right there. He just found out that his wife is not the person he thought she was.
Instead she's a Terrible, fake, judgemental person and thought she was doing him a favor by giving him "pity dates"?
Why, so she can get his hopes up and then break his heart? That's worse than not giving him a chance to begin with.
Completely justified if he decided to trash her.
@@arthurramirez5665 It's not like she didn't liked him the entire relationship, it was only before the first date, before they really knew about eachother, so calling her like fake is a stretch. Also, even if it was only a date and ended up right there, at least they tried instead of fantasying on "what if". And, it's not like one can't move on a broken heart from a failed crush
What's ironic is that the boyfriend will literally risk his and Op's life to monologue about justice and honor to the mugger but will lie to his friends and family to save face.
Story 1: Nobody wins a knife fight. Boyfriend also DID save his girlfriend, she had time to get all the important stuff out of her wallet thanks to his distraction. It takes a lot of guts to stand up against someone with a weapon. It takes a cool head to think of taking your important stuff out of your wallet and throwing it so you can get away. They make a good crime fighting duo imo!
Edit: Holy shit BF is psychotic! She dodged a fucking bullet there!!! What a lunatic 😆 🤣 😂
You win a knife fight if you bring a gun. ;-)
The boyfriend probably hired the mugger so he could show how much of a hero he is, but then lied about it when it didn’t go as planned. With how insane he is.
@@Playingwithproxies Haha that's a plot twist I hadn't considered.
TBH when i was listening to the 1st story i was thinking all his friends wanted him to get cut by a knife so he would stop with his Hero act
dude could have just said nothing! she didn't go around telling all her friends that her bf is an idiot, he went and told everyone it was all her fault! if he didn't say anything he'd still be with her and none of his friends and family would know that he's a massive fool and asshole!
We only got professional photos once growing up. The rest were family pics at all the national parks we visited all over the southwest usa. So much better than overpriced staged photos imo
Oh my God "to the mommy mobile" with the 1960'2 Batman nearly killed me dude.
I wish people would stop treating pity as something inherently condescending. Someone who goes on a "pity date" with you already holds you in high enough regard to want to protect your feelings. It's still misguided to go on a date with absolutely no intention of continuing the relationship (unless that's explicitly what both parties are going for), but it's something people do when they care, not when they don't.
My guess is that the person receiving pity feels insecure about it. Could be a nagging feeling that since the relationship started off unequal in terms of feelings for each other, that they may feel that this could still be the case. Not saying it is healthy, but I understand why it could lead to insecure feelings
@@rubenweber6742 oh definitely. The "pity date" is a bad idea even if it does sometimes turn into this kind of story.
But we've developed this trope of refusing pity or even being offended by it, and I think it's because of a perception that someone being careful of your feelings is deliberately exercising POWER over your feelings, implying that they think you're weak. And that's a sad way to interpret someone trying not to hurt you.
I think this OP was already kind of insecure, and the phrasing of this revelation just made it worse because of the negative associations of "pity." I think it might not have been quite as bad for him if we didn't needlessly associate "pity" with "contempt."
@@quiestinliteris Probably because most of the time pity is done by people who are condescending. Who do look down on others and only doing something to inflate their own ego. Wanna change the view of pity? Then either stop using it, or change how pity is often used by people.
Heck you yourself aren't immune to this negative view of pity as you yourself painted pity dating as something negative. Either pity is good or it's not.
People want them to decide based on how they feel about us, not to shelter our feelings. It's not your place to decide, that's why it's a problem. It's not the pity that is the problem, it's the fact that you respect them so little, you'd rather shelter them than be honest with them because it makes YOU feel better when you reject them.
It is inherently condescending, though. It is a subtype of sympathy evoked by another's distress and weakness. Though, unlike actual sympathy, which is about sharing another's feelings or having compassion for another whether it's evoked or not (or, getting on equal footing emotionally), it is simply a reactionary emotion only make the person feel bad about the individual that's being pitied (whatever their negative situation would be). It MAY lead to actual action that can eventually mend the distress, but it's not always the case. In the end, it's still puts the pittier on a temporary emotional pedestal as they, unknowingly or not, look down on the one that said person deems to be pittied
Further, utilizing pity to shelter another's feelings is quite a bit more damaging in the long run than telling someone the truth of the matter. Consider the last story in this video. If they (wife and wife's BFF) would have pitied OP and tried to shelter his feelings or cover it up, it would have left an uncertainty that could have scarred the relationship. However, because they actually sympathized with OP, were open and honest, and actually compassionate and understanding of his feelings, it was able to heal.
If you really care about them, sympathize and be honest. Pity the fool, don't pity the unfortunate.
Story 1: I was so expecting something else. I was thinking that the BF put up a friend to pretend to mug them, so he can be the hero and OP ruined it, so he got all pissy afterwards.
OMG, I thought the same thing 😂
For all we know this is also part of it.
That's what I was expecting too! I'm kind of disappointed.
Story 3: Man, if she was willing to steal $300 from OP for pictures, she could take more for other stuff.
And yeah, I do think that two parents that don't love each other is better separate than together, since there a lot of fights could happen, and the kid will be severely affected
Unless his wife realizes her fault and refuses therapy, OP should just leave. It’s horrible but so is being in a marriage for the sake a the children. They will know and blame themselves
Yeah. And they're not even just "settling", they actively play games against one another, and the mother at least USES the little girl as a prop. Don't stay for the kids. Please.
Yes, the wife might need to talk to a professional. She clearly has her priorities mixed up. I get that you want to 'treat' yourself after dealing with a tough year. BUT... spending half your emergency savings on PICTURES? And OP didn't say no to pictures, he said, I think we shouldn't do this NOW and for valid reasons. Why would anyone who's struggling make this a priority at the most expensive time of the year?
@@fdm2155 yeah at first OP recommended that they wait until after the new year.
They both need therapy, because they are both at fault. Neither is really hearing the other. She felt burnt out and needed this to keep going he saw it as betrayal. He felt betrayed and she refused to accept that's how he felt and that amends needs to be made. Then it their fighting and game playing continued trying to outwin the other with family holidays etc. If they want to try to make it work they need to be open to the fact that they both are fault and need to learn how to hear others instead of listening to see when it's their turn to talk. They should at least go for the benefit of their daughter who is being tossed around and she doesn't need any of that.
Oh my lord story 2 is so adorable. I'm so glad they talked about it. Sometimes people forget that communication is important in any kind of relationship. Honestly that post sounds like a fanfiction i'd read. I hope those two have a long and happy relationship
It would also be understandable if op chose to kick her to the curb right there. He just found out that his wife is not the person he thought she was.
Instead she's a Terrible, fake, judgemental person and thought she was doing him a favor by giving him "pity dates"?
Why, so she can get his hopes up and then break his heart? That's worse than not giving him a chance to begin with.
Completely justified if he decided to trash her.
Stry 1 : It would have been less embarrassing for him to admit that he fucked up, than to make up a story to make him look like the sane one and then caught in his lies.
He could even have, you know, asked to not talk about this if the situation was this much "embarrassing" for him.
Ops bfs mom: "how dare you not let his ego get him killed against a knife wielding mugger"
Lady really wants to support her son's dumb decisions even if it's the death of him, that's crazy.
Well remember the boyfriend did omit the mugging among other facts
@@lorilancaster5917 I actually paused the video at the point of the mother being mad at OP for emasculating the boyfriend. My bad lmaooo
@@UnkillableJay it’s all good and the omission was revealed in the update
Story 1: Street smarts works? Damn, I guess we owe an apology to bittenbinder
Last story: I think marriage counseling might save this...there's something going on with the wife psychologically that would cause her to die on this hill.
"As far as I'm concerned, I dodged a bullet"
Likely literally what if next time the guy had a gun
Story 1 nta I heard that one. The ex's wannabe batman ass nearly got them both killed. Then lied to make himself look good. Good riddance I say.
they be livin in london
Whatever cash and wallet you have is not worth dying or being seriously injured for. Knives are NOT non lethal, and you can't just smack them out of someone's hand like the movies, this is why the use of force continuum dictates that as soon as someone draws a knife, you draw your firearm. Hell even if OP's boyfriend also had a knife it probably would've just turned into a shank fight, where both of them just stab repeatedly and adrenaline keeps them going until they're both disabled for life or dead.
One of these days, that guy is going to get himself stabbed or shot
and what's even more horrifying is that it seems as if the friends and mother are feeding into the idiot's delusion. what's gonna happen if the hero act he's trying to put on and the people closest to him are feeding into said delusion eventually gets him shanked or stabbed. not only does the ex need a reality check but his friends and family need to stop feeding into his delusion and confront him on the behaviors before the unthinkable does happen
@@thegameplayer125 later in the story OP finds out that the bf told a fake story about how OP had started harassing a stranger and tried to make him fight them.
Yeah, OP is younger... *by one year.* OP said she was only 1 year ahead in school. That's really a big deal?
Reddit has this odd obsession with age differences in relationships, even perfectly normal ones. I have genuinely seen some people call a couple who are 19yo and 21yo “concerning.”
I’m waiting for the day where someone says that an age difference of more than a month is a “red flag.” 😂
Yeah, it can be. But don't forget, everyone is different. So there are also many cases where one year younger is not seen negatively
Yes, while that seems important in high school... surely it doesn't matter when you're both in your twenties.
She may be older than that if she had to stay behind for some grades or OP got to skip some grades. But yes, it seems like something that could be a dealbreaker in highschool but not a big deal later in life.
@@RepellentJeff relationship reddits have a lot of overlap with Twitter antis. That's why divorce is the top suggest for minor arguments. If your relationship isn't biracial, homosexual, properly age-gapped, properly financially gapped then one of the parties involved is no better than a rapist to a lot of them.
Story 3: That is not a healthy relationship, like at all. seriously
Makes me think the wife is having some sort of issues. Like she's fixated on "these pictures will make me feel happier" and is completely oblivious to the very reasonable "we can't afford it" arguments.
No it's just "I deserve nice things".
And considering she's been physically sick, and they've been financially struggling, her coping mechanism might be something like "if I can put on a show of being happy, maybe I'll actually be happy"
Idk, I kind of want to disagree a bit with RSlash, I don't necessarily think divorce is a good solution here, definitely therapy first. Also if they're struggling that much already, splitting up is so much more expensive...
@@mr_dnd maybe Divorce is not the right answer but either way its not a healthy relationship and they need actual counseling
@@Erebus04 yeah for sure not healthy, therapy first
Yep
When my girl asks me why i did or didnt do something, i constantly respond, BECAUSE IM BATMAN! Its actually gotten me out of some fights lol.
BECAUSE IM A CAT! Also works pretty well.
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Lol, i guess. I was referencing to the How it should have ended series. But if that works for you, high five!
Last story: Honestly sounds like the wife might be traumatised- ppl think that word has to be associated with something big. But losing your job is traumatic. Getting very sick is traumatic. OPs wife DOES deserve nice photos, she also deserves a proper conversation with her husband about why she feels strongly enough about it to essentially steal from their joint account. She probably needs some counselling too.
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Story 1: When in a situation like that, you need to think logical. Sometimes you have to get out of the situation without trying to escalate it.
Here where I live, few kids were mugged by 4 other people, they killed one of the kids, because law sucks here, his murderes for a few years were walking free. After 4 years one of his murderes commited suicide, rest got 4 and 5 years in jail only.
I can understand the first guy wanting to be able to help people and protect his GF, but there’s a big difference between being heroic and being stupid
2nd story: Honestly, I wouldn't blame OP for any choice he would had taken. Dating someone because due pity and cheap laugh is just.. Bad.
I really hope their relationship works out. If they are happy, so be it.
3rd story: Never stick your D in selfish, crazy. OP staying with her, for the sake of the daughter, won't end well.
Kids DO notice when parents have a crappy relationship with each other.
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First story: the thing is about being a hero...if you actually hurt someone and you have no hard evidence it was defence, you can be really screwed legally
The other thing, people with a hero complex tend to be fine, they tend to get other people hurt/killed.
@@mitchverr9330 which unfortunately creates an origin story instead of a reality check
The second story was soooooo adorable. OP and his girlfriend are fluff-fanfiction level of adorable!! Their marriage is definitely going to be a happy one :3
I knew where that 2nd story was going as soon as the girl said yes. People always say the worst someone can do is say no. I disagree. The worst someone can do is say yes when they ACTUALLY want to say no.
1st story: Every man should know that you must be capable of defending yourself, however, the first rule of a fight is that you must try to avoid it. It's not worth it. A street fight is much different than a fight between two friends attempting to assure dominance. It doesn't matter how stupid you look, it doesn't matter if you win the fight. Try to avoid the fight. If your wallet/phone has something that can ruin you, fight. If you're cornered, fight. If you can run without an issue, run. It's not hard. Just fight when you need to. It's not worth the court date, injuries, or items. Even if all goes well and nobody sees anything, you didn't get injured, but he stabbed your phone. Guess who has to pay for that phone? What? Are you going to sue him and admit in a court of law that you participated in a streetfight?
"I'm Batman"
Such a way with words
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Because i'm Batman!
@@Mithandune May I be Robin? Wearing awkward hot pants? I am sure they will chase evil doers away.
I’m vengeance
Story 1: Op's boyfriend is literally Goose Wayne from that one Dr.Phil episode.
When you're sitting and drawing Batman and then *THIS* pops up in your notifications...
What a timing, rSlash! 😂
BWAHAHA I read Shitting!
@@lifewuzonceezr LMAO, I couldn't breathe for a moment here, it made me snort so hard!
Ahhhh, yes, nothing like sitting on the toilet and shitting while holding a tablet and drawing the Dark Knight~ 🤭
The second story sounds sort of like my relationship. A guy I had a crush on came into the store I was working at, and we talked for a couple of minutes. When he left, I told my coworker that I had a crush on him, but I didn't think he liked me back. I remember telling her I didn't see us being together. We've been married for 15 years now lol.
I think it's safe to say he likes you back
Story 2: My husband knew he wanted marry me about 8 months in (we were 16), I wasn’t able to say I love you for two years 😅 we’ve been together for 9 years now, sometimes people are just on different pages of the same book!
Story 3: I understand wanting to treat yourself, but you have to do it within your means. My mom had a do something similar when we were little, though she always tried to be mindful of the budget before doing anything ‘extravagant’. Those pictures are somewhere collecting dust in storage two decades later. Sure they were cute and were even displayed on and off for a few years, but they’re just pictures and with phones, you can easily get cute, high quality pictures on demand. I hope the wife ends up regretting those photos when she realizes all the important things that are going to pop up and she won’t have the money for.
safe to say that the ex in the 1st story will either be getting shanked or shot at the rate he's going especially since it seems as though his mother and friends are feeding the delusion that he can be the knight in shining armor he thinks he is. op dodged a bullet that i guarantee will eventually end very very tragically
I laughed so hard on the first story I have never seen main character syndrome like that in my life 🤣🤣
BF's mom: "You demasculated my precious boy!"
OP: "If you want to attend your son's funeral in the near future so badly, the next time he wants to be a 'hero' I won't stop him."
*reads title* like that guy on dr phil who convinced himself he was Batman?
He did that just to get out of marrying the woman. I know what story you talking about though😂I was like: no way
I am so glad that guy with the huge crush didn't get too neurotic and focus on his partner's hesitation about going out with him at the start. Would have been an absolute self-own if he couldn't get over it.
Story 3: OP needed to divorce their wife yesterday. As a child of divorced parents, I knew for years before it was official that my parents were miserable together and it stressed me out to the point I refused to be interested in dating or marriage. 15 years later, I still would rather die alone and unloved than be in a shitty relationship for more than a day after I need to leave. Kids need parents as their best selves, which is not guaranteed in a marriage. OP has plenty of years to have a bond with their daughter; split custody won’t destroy a bond forged in steel.
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The best way to make sure that nobody mugs you?
*Be the scariest thing in the neighborhood*
Story 3. I hope things work out with op and his wife. Maybe now that she doesn't have that extra safety net, she won't be so wasteful with money.
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1st story: the hero should act more like uncle Iroh and want to be also for the good the thief
My father is/was a martial artist his whole life off and on for some periods. He is also a hot head with anger issues. He always used to tell us growing up that he got into more fights and trouble when he wasn't training/learning than when he was. Learning to fight is only part of it as I understand, most of it is to do with the discipline and control you learn. So BF in story 1 was really truly in a dodgy situation and clearly doesn't have the training. OP, in a twisted sense of the concept, was the better martial artist lmao.
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Story 3: Memories will always matter more than the photos. I don't remember most of the things that happened around the photos of me that are still in my house with the exception of one. But, that was because of something that happened with my friend and I that day. The rest are just emotionally insignificant to me.
First story: Now, I would not mind having a man who's willing to stand up for me and protect me, but never like this, this is what I would call a stupid and reckless move. The second update, I thought "Oh, he finally realised the errors and is finally working to fix the relationship", but the bit about how it turned out he was lying to everyone outside just to keep his reputation up, I did not expect that twist of events. To think you thought everything finally worked out, only it turns out he was lying behind your back the entire time.
Second story: We've all seen that common trope of a best friend trying be a Cupid and set up the main character on a date with a very specific person and at the end, the main character actually does end up with that person, but to think that it can actually go wrong in real life. The update, it was very nice that things finally worked out and I can totally see OP's GF's hesitant on going out with him in the first place as it was all completely understandable. I do agree with the the whole Disney style love story part because normally, I get creeped out at guys who wants to live this fantasy romance dream like the otaku guys, but I'm so glad OP never went that far and has actual logical sense that if she rejects him, it's not the end of the world. I wish the two the best.
Third story: Classic story about a spouse who wants to get a certain thing, OP says no because it's too expensive, the spouse went ahead of it anyways while taking the money behind OP's back, OP confronts the spouse about it, spouse tries to justify it, guilt trips OP into going along with it just to make sure the spouse doesn't look bad. Basically, the spouse thinks having this nice expensive thing is much more important than making sure the family is safe. What's even worse is even in the update, OP's wife still hasn't changed her ways and still wants high quality family photos. I mean, who cares about a bunch of HD photos? Who is even going to remember them years from now? I'm pretty sure an amazing trip is much more memorable than going to a photo op and taking a photo with your parents, which doesn't really sound all that exciting. Normally, I'd say that OP should file a divorce and work on getting full custody of his daughter, but since both parents love their daughter and the only reason why they're staying in the marriage is just so that they can be with their daughter 100% of the time, and so, it's very easy to assume that if one parent were to completely take the child away, the other will be devastated and upset, and I also understand them not wanting to deal with shared split 50/50 custody while living in two separate places either. So, I can't really fault either of them for this. So, I really do hope that a miracle comes and they can work on fixing all this.
No one walks away from a knife attack without getting cut. NO ONE!
That Mommymobile joke had me laughing for like 10 minutes
Story 1: I would have dumped him the second we were safe, he put himself and OP endangered so he could play Batman, then he f****** lied about what happened because he didn't want to look like the jackass he was. OP you're not as fast but you definitely dodge a bullet like Superman.
The RomCom story was actually painful for me. my last relationship was also perfect. he said I was the best GF he ever had and we had a lot in common. But then I realize apparently he was looking for something different. Apparently according to him, a perfect relationship meant no arguing. We barely even argued, the last time we argued I was asking if I could bring my oculus to his birthday party and he said no because there would be no room. I kept trying let him know it would be fine but he kept on insisting no. so I gave in and stopped but he kept bringing it up so I said "ok I get it" and that when he decided that there was no future for us and broke up with me ON HIS BIRTHDAY. Before the oculus argument and also pushed me into therapy, I went to 5 sessions and all of a sudden claimed therapy wasn't working because we had that oculus argument. I told him we needed to talk about this behavior he was having but he didn't talk to me for 2 months because "he wasn't ready to talk". then he goes to universal with his friend and his friend's GF and I find out they all double dose on edibles and they were all so high out of their mind that his friends GF past out and he almost assaulted her (according to the friend who was apparently still sober). and our friend group disowned him after that. and what did he do? came running back to me crying that he lost his friends and that he took me for granted. I told him I don't know if we could be together anymore but we'll just be friends for now because I was the only one he had left, and that in fact HE was the one that needed a therapist. He was agreeing with me and promised to find one.
Now? He's not talking to me and I found out that he still doesn't have a therapist and just bought a PS5 GoW Ragnarok edition. I guess that's the name of his new therapist.... Sigh....
I don't know when I'll stop hurting over this but I've come to terms that we won't be together anymore. I feel like I wasted all my time with him just for it to be thrown away. He claims "I'll always remember the good times we had" but it just feels like that all the things we did together was an absolute waste because I had no reason to think anything was wrong, nor did he say anything was wrong. He just out of no where broke things off. So yes, I do feel like it was all a waste because I was out of the loop of what he actually wanted. So screw him. I don't know who the next person I'll meet will be but I'm not that hopeful. I'll meet them eventually. Just not when I'm still hurting.
As someone who has fought off an armed mugger I would NOT recommend it it was legitimately the dumbest thing I’ve ever done and I genuinely could’ve died
Also that John Mulaney tip is really useful it’s the only reason I decided to fight the guy I threw my wallet over his shoulder and when he looked back I hit him as hard as I could in the jaw
If he hadn’t dropped his knife over that I probably would’ve been stabbed youre life is not worth some money and a wallet just give it to them and run
Story 1 Theory: he set it up to look like a hero and she messed up his plans because he took too long with his unnecessary monolog
Or he just expected her to just stand there completely still.
@@kalifogg6610 or swoon and cry for help
@@kalifogg6610 that's pretty much what I said
Gotta love the complete 180 the last 2 stories had. Story 2 was a real life disney true love story where everything worked out in the end with no problems. Then story 3 had the two completely at odds with eachother and on the verge of seperation
Story 2: It’s always been hard for me to date guys who have “crushes” on me. A lot of guys think sexual fantasy and “a crush” are the same thing, and I HATE feeling like a mountain for a guy to summit. “I’m dating and about to marry MY CRUSH,” even that statement freaks me out.
Batman?!? Nope.... more like Darkwing Duck.
"I am the terror that flaps in the night..."
Edit:
Actually I take that back i have way too much respect for Darkwing. Lol
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You're not so far off on this one though.
Darkwing has been a superhero for fame and fortune instead of just...you know...doing the right thing. Although he did became a bit selfless as the series went on. Just a tiny bit.
That guy can't be Batman, because my dad is Batman!
(Literally, he has a full Batman costume and all things Batman)
The first story I was SO sure that it was gonna he revealed that he set up the mugging. Like he found some guy to pretend the mug them so he could “save the day” and he was mad because she ruined his plan.
Story 2: This is a genuine "Needle-In-The-Haystack" relationship! This is THE Disney happy ending everyone thinks they WILL be in eventually, though that's not necessarily true! As a stranger, I couldn't be happier for the happy couple. Advice: Fear is inevitable for the inexperienced, at that point there are two choices, Fight or Flight. Will you control/use your fear, or will you let fear control you? Give it a try, and do your best. Get advice from your parents and learn from their successes and their failures. Don't say "I wish I did" 5 years from now, say "I'm glad I did."
In the first story op you didn’t dodged a hell of my minefield
This is why I love r/BestOf - it's not all faith-in-humanity-destroying stories, sometimes you get a teeth-rottingly adorable story like that second one 🍬
I 100% agree the mental pic for the "mommy mobile" story is what totally makes hearing it so amazingly epic. Im so glad it wasnt just me that got a good laugh at envisioning that scenario !!!!
Hold up a minute. In the first story, is OP sure her BF hasn't been watching a bunch of Fate/Stay Night? Cause the kind of move her BF tried with that mugger is something you'd expect Shirou to do.
Boyfriend: I'm the goddamn buttfa-Batman!
5:49 I literally peed a little while laughing out loud. Hahahahahaha I didn't expected that
Literally teared up at the second story when the girlfriend said 'i think now i have a bigger crush on you than you had on me'. that is so sweet i'm gonna die
Almost spit out my tea when "to the mama-mobile" with the sound effect. LMAO!
The second story reeks of "he fell first, she fell harder". Gross, but I'm happy for them coz it's so dang adorable
@@mariamisah3093girl bye
In the first story, at least she got to take the good stuff out of her wallet while he distracted the mugger
For the first story, since the gf mentioned John Mulaney, the only thing that would have made that moment even more hilarious is if she shouted “STREET SMARTS!” as she yeeted the wallet
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Last story: I can see both viewpoints here. Mom wants to make memories in a tangible way, and that desire isn’t wrong. She’s going about it in a harmful way. If it had been a spur of the moment impulse buy and she had taken OP’s concerns about finances into account, apologized, and let the refund from the first photographer be the end of it, I would say no buttholes here. The fact that she doubled down and insisted on spending money set aside for emergencies to get professional photographs makes her a butthole. Heart was in the right place, method was wrong.
I used to often ride my motorcycle (Kawasaki KLR650 Dual Sport) to/from work, even in wintertime. It can get chilly here in North Florid. I was wearing a sweater under my black armor jacket, black helmet wiith dark visor, biker boots, black armor gloves.
ATGATT - "All The Gear All The Time" as my riding buddies said. Entered the elevator, and an older lady asks why I'm wearing all this? I look at her deadpan, and growl "I'm Batman." 😆
Another time, another person asked..... "I'm Revello, the Fifth Ninja Turtle!" 😄
Gotta get my fun where I can.
Story 1: NTA. Sure the bf probably would’ve gotten away with talking to a robber the fact he was taken a back, but he’s the ahole putting you in possible danger
The wife could have asked for a photography fund for Christmas. I’m sure her parents would have pitched in along with other family members and OP. She could have made it work with some patience and the bravery to ask for some assistance without having to go behind OP back like that.
Story 1: Firstly, the Mommy-mobile joke nearly killed me with laughter. Secondly, yeah, even before the pair of updates, I was already thinking that OP needed to leave this guy. He was ready to, what, fist fight a guy with a knife? Man, you bring a gun to a knife fight, not your bare fists. Joke aside, what he did was sheer idiocy and if he’s gonna do that to a guy with a knife in a smal scale mugging, I’d be terrified how he’d react if an even more dangerous situation came up. With the updates, I was really suspicious about why he came back and agreed with all OP had said, so when that mediating friend revealed what had happened, I had this “ah HA!” momsnt. Im so glad OP left him and kicked him to the curb!
Story 2: No need to write much. This was TOO ADORABLE! That’s legitimately fanfiction material and I’m wishing I could have that myself! THE ENVYYYY!!!!
Story 3: Oh geez. That was, dang. I don’t have any major input on this situation. Just that, yeah, OP isn’t entirely wrong about the fact that kids will remember fun over something done for internet likes. I din’t have a great memory, but I remember a lot of fun times I had as a kid. All I remember from professional photoshoots we did when I was young was stuffy clothes, being itchy under the light, and bored out of my mind waiting for picture selection to he done until I coumd FINALLY leave and do something else (I don’t think I was old enough to have a phone).
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Story 1: I mean...the guy managed to buy her enough time to save her important stuff...
I appreciate his heart...but he does need to chill...LOL
EDIT: WOW...that update...what a dingleberry
Story 1 - for me the biggest red flag was how he went nuts after the attempted mugging, and immediately went scorched earth on her, immediately turned his family against her and all their friends.
The rest, I could probably ignore/get over as a partner, adrenaline and idiocy do some pretty extreme things to people's brains.
But because he was embarrassed that his gf saved them both from a mugging, he decides to alienate her, spread lies, and go home to be with his mommy...
The story about how the guy who is dating his high school crush reminds me so much of my story. My boyfriend had a huge crush on me in middle school, and it took a while till I realized that I liked him. It’s been almost a decade since we met and we’ve been together for a good while now.