r/Bestof My Coworker Stole My EXTRA EXTRA SPICY Lunch
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0:00 Intro
0:13 My husband ignores my calls that I am giving birth
6:44 HR thinks my dog is too small to be a service dog
13:03 HR tries to claim I intentionally harmed someone when they stole my food
"Sneaky Snitch" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) License: CC By Attribution 3.0 - Komedie
2:26 "He only gave my husband 10 minutes of the same fear he had felt at my side for 10+ hrs." Wow. I couldn't have put it any better myself. It's a perfect combination of snarky and hitting the nail on the head.
No it’s not, she declined a his right as a parent to know if the child is actually his. They both have some big ego issues
@@hectorfland5004 you dont bring out paternity test out of the blue and then ignore your wife's calls when she's close to labor
@@hectorfland5004 - buuuuuullllshit. And he declined his own fucking right to be a father after that stunt he pulled. He’s obviously just looking for an excuse to get out of the marriage. I guess he got his wish in the update.
And I love it how the brother could defend himself by saying "Oh yeah, she didn't make it into the hospital, she delivered inside of my van."
@@hectorfland5004 Doubting his own paternity doesn't make him any less guilty for negligent near-homicide. It doesn't matter whether or not he's the biological father, because either way, he doesn't deserve to be a guardian nor even a husband, considering the blood that almost soaked his hands. He deserves no credit for the fact that his hands luckily happened to come out clean.
I will never understand the mental gymnastics it takes to think it is okay for you to steal another person's lunch while at the same time not knowing how it was prepared. The consequences are totally on the thief.
Yeah, what if op put something that thief has allergic.
I mean, I'm iffy eating food cooked by people I know and that I know are clean people. at least with restaurants there are food standards and health inspectors (they are ruthless around here)
If you get injured while committing a crime against someone you can't sue that person. That's not how the law works. I live in Canada. My little dog and I were viciously attacked by a much bigger dog. She had to get five surgeries an artificial buttholes so she could go to the bathroom like a regular dog and I had 178 stitches all over my throat and upper body. The guy whose dog attacked me tried to sue me for the replacement of his dog because his dog had been put down and harassment because I called five times to ask him to pay the vet bill. So I had to counter sue him for the cost of Lilly's vet treatment my pain and suffering the cost to fix my car door cuz the dog attacked us while I was getting out of the car. When we went to court the judge told him that's not how the law Works in Canada. You can't break the law and then sue people for the damages you concur while breaking the law. So just like that dick head couldn't sue me the lunch Thief can't sue Op because his lunch was spicy
I completely agree. I have multiple allergies, I would never, NEVER, eat someone else’s lunch… it’s the same logic as « I’m entering your home to steal something, and your dog (who was in its house) attacked me, so now you have to pay my hospital bill »
I can agree on this. Not that i ever will steal someones food but i dont even accept food from close people because of my allergies. Im severely allergic to peanuts to the point i could die in seconds from ingestion. Im extremely picky where and what i eat due to this.
I think the most heartbreaking part of the first story is that OP didn't necessarily even WANT kids. She went through this traumatic experience and her husband only cared because he thought she died. I also agree that the paternity test feels like projection because, again, she wanted MAYBE one child, if any, so why would she cheat and have unprotected sex? I also doubt that he would stay with her even if he went with her, because OP said he wanted a big family, and she got a hysterectomy. I feel terrible for OP and i hope her divorce goes well.
The fact that she stormed off over a reasonable request only serves to make her seem guilty. Her doing that may have convinced him that the kid isn't his. And seeing as she threw a fit over the first request for paternity, I doubt he's going to ask her again. Had she simply agreed to the paternity test, this whole scenario might have played out differently.
Keep in mind that we only have OP's side of things, so it is quite possible that we are hearing a heavily biased or fabricated account.
@@SkunkApe407 it's also the fact that he even had the thought of her cheating, regular healthy relationships don't think that their partner is going to cheat.
There was a detail that puzzled me greatly from the first story: she only knows 2 phone numbers, her husband's and her brother's? Probably not, so why is she so psychologically dependent on him that she can't go to the hospital without him, or at least without his permission, and instead sits and waits for hours at home while she gets further and further into trouble medically? Can't call a neighbor? Can't call 911? No wonder she is having trouble leaving such an obvious cheater/abuser, she has been manipulated into a state of learned helplessness. Glad she is getting therapy (one of the lines Dabney didn't read) but I wonder if its effective therapy because it didn't get her out of this relationship fast enough.
@@MyFiddlePlayer while you make an interesting point, we have zero proof that her husband is in any way abusive. Keep in mind that very few people will tell a story that makes them look bad in any light. It is just as likely that she is exaggerating or omitting details to paint herself in a more favorable manner. Remember, her response to a request for paternity was to run off. That isn't exactly the kind of thing an innocent person does. If the kid actually is his, why not just take the test and alleviate his concerns?
@@SkunkApe407 he accused her of cheating out of the blue. OP says she’s a homebody with practically no male connections other than her husband and brother. If you ask your partner for a paternity test out of the blue, it means that they don’t trust you which is a HUGE problem. And let’s say there is more to the picture than we know. OP’s husband ignoring her call for 10 HOURS when she could go into labor any day is wrong, no matter what problems your relationship is facing. He was called a total of 22 times, and ignored them all. He should at least picked up one of the calls to see what she wanted whether he was angry or not
It still blows my mind with how normal stealing food and blaming the person you stole from when you suffer a backlash. This is almost as bad as the story where the boss's daughter stole Op's lunch when she had a nut allergy and the boss tried to accuse Op of almost killing his daughter. _Why on earth would you steal food when you don't know the ingredients put into it_
The audacity and entitlement of these scumbags! What are you paid for if you won't buy your ass food!!
They honestly piss me off.
I remember that story, actually, and it gets even worse. The food the boss's daughter ate was Pad Thai with a very strong smelling peanut butter sauce. There's no way she did not know what she was eating.
@@kevinmencer3782 and it's almost always covered with chunks of peanuts...should've sent her to a better school.
@@smellsbad2742 mustve had bad sinus infection and puffy eyes that day... she mustve been both nose blind and fully blind or her brain just flopped out of the back of her head on the way to the cafeteria and didnt find it till weeks later. lol
btw could get the link, title or date for when this video was and if not from rslash then what channel? :D
@@kevinmencer3782😊😊😊
Imagine ignoring your wife's phone calls for 10 hours while knowing she could be going into labor at any time. The brother should have decked him.
Decking the Jerk Husband would still be a slap on the wrist. To use a Lincoln Lawyer quote: "Hospital, not the morgue."
@@danielbrant6740 They were in a hospital so he might have been arrested, probably why he didn't deck the husband
After, after they get out and go to the middle of nowhere
She walked out on him. She should have thought about how close she was to birth before storming off over his request for a paternity test. If anything, her storming off lile that probably comfirmed in his mind that she cheated.
@@SkunkApe407 I’m sorry, but if your pregnant wife calls you 16 times, you should get the hint that it’s something important. I mean, I get anxious if I have 3 missed calls. I’d be super scared to see 16 MISSED CALLS on my phone. Plus the paternity test, according to OP (who is an indoor person, who doesn’t have any male friends), was completely out of the blue: IMO the dad was getting cold feet on becoming a father.
I’m sorry, but I just don’t agree with you.
"We can't prove he did anything"
"then why am I here?"
"Because you tried to poison him."
"How?"
"By boobytrapping your lunch"
"But he didn't eat it."
The mental gymnastics done by that HR twat would destroy the greatest gymnastic in the universe ..
Ya'll can't have it both ways! Either he stole the lunch or he didn't. So he's lying either way.
@@_Fizel_ Lol, I like your profile pic. :)
HR lady: Foolish mortal, such witchcraft as logic and facts won't bamboozle me!
(Edit: spelling)
@@chrislangtiw6395 you forgot the L but it made it even better because she was clearly wasted ^^
Last story: I freaking KNEW it. Before the update, I suspected that the HR woman and the thief had to be in some kind of intimate relationship for her to push the blame on OP like that. that was literally a cut and dry situation.
Going through that first story, with how many times he didn't answer his phone, I was thinking the exact same thing. I wasn't even thinking about his request for a paternity test, but when you brought it up, it clicked even more. And I do agree with the sister-in-law that, while the brother's prank might have been too far, the husband deserved it, as SHE ALMOST DIED because he didn't answer his phone.
And when you brought up the paternity test, it reminded me of a Pro Revenge story you did some time ago where a guy left to study abroad, and his girlfriend (the OP of the story) found out she was pregnant. The guy started to accuse her of cheating, and demanded a paternity test, and then again after the baby was born, only to prove the kid was his. Then, when OP took a care package to his dorm (which had his new passport), she found him with another woman.
So, yeah. If someone is really pushy for a paternity test, it may just be self projection.
A handful of times at the start followed by him trying to call back a bunch? Might be acceptable only if he works hard to get back in contact.
22 missed calls and mad no one answered his ONE call? Unacceptable
Her ex husband here. It turned out she was pregnant with her brother, but thanks for believing only one side of the story and automatically making me the bad guy. My lawyer will contact you, consider yourself sued.
@@spicydiarrhea5662 lol stupidest troll ever
@@spicydiarrhea5662 😂
@@spicydiarrhea5662 Yeah sure, "her husband here"
The ADA is actually surprisingly violated quite frequently in businesses across the US. My friend is a vet tech who has PTSD and now she has some neurological condition, the job manager who is a complete buffoon, took her off full time to like 15 hours per week because he needed to see proof of her condition and couldn’t allow someone who was an R word to continue to work there.. there are so many abuses of the ADA that she has endured that she’s spoken to a lawyer as well, and they said “yeah this is an easy win if you want to take it to court”. The manager has since put her back on at least 24 hours of work a week, since her lawyer sent a letter to them reminding them that they have to follow the ADA and not discriminate against people with disabilities, and on top of all of that; she’s a veteran too, which is even more in her favor.
It seems like the ADA is only ever taken seriously when at least one veteran is involved...
Yeah, I think one issue is that the ADA is only upheld if the victim of the ablistic abuse proves to the people discriminating against them that they have enough money to afford a lawyer.
A lot of disabled people are poor and they know that. So they assume the people they abuse cannot *afford* to stop them.
Flagrantly so, in some cases. My aunt has type 1 diabetes, and has to check her blood sugar frequently and occasionally self-administer subcutaneous insulin injections. One job interview she was on, the guy straight up ended the interview when he found out, saying "I don't care the reason, we don't want anyone bringing needles into the workplace." She tried to invoke the ADA but he just laughed and said "We have a legal team and you're unemployed looking for a job. Good luck with that." She found a lawyer willing to take the case pro-bono, but the guy just straight up lied under oath and said the hiring decision was based on her hostile attitude, and he was completely unaware that she was diabetic. The case got thrown out.
Oh the beauty of HR stupidity! I have a seizure condition now, permanent, from a lovely IED party some fella’s overseas we’re having. I had to retire, Lt. Col., because of those silly prankster’s (read with sarcasm and a bit of rage). I have a Law Degree, passed the bar and everything, all while holding my position with the military. I recovered from all injuries and started interviewing with different companies that fit my knowledge and experience (52f). All were ready to hire me straight away until I brought up the seizure issue. Well controlled with medication but you never know when one may just want to break free and party with your body. I was turned down by all once they were told. I’m a liability to their company. My old team and I all got together and started our fun. We started our own company, competitors with the places that turned us all down. We are swamped with work! One of those companies told a client, that was leaving them for us, about some of our “issues”! Uh-oh! We are done with the litigation on that bad boy and sitting pretty. We hire civilians for office work but we’re mainly all veterans or former LE in the field. The ADA is the most abused law by employers. Oh and we don’t need to work, we just didn’t feel like sitting at home knitting knickers. We WANT to work and only hire others with the same mentality.
Reminds me of when Chris Packham (wildlife tv presenter in the UK) said that he had been diagnosed with Aspergers, and Tory politician Nicholas Soames called him a "self confessed nutjob" on twitter. The ignorance from people in power is astounding.
Oh, so it's okay for him to ignore OP for 10 hours, but when OP'S brother gave him a taste of his own medicine, even for just 10 minutes, MIL thinks it's not okay? No, that's absolute BS. That "husband" is a trashy ass husband, divorce his butt immediately, who knows what he'll do next!
I think the MIL might have told her son to get a paternity test too.
He didn't care about her until he thought she died
@@mostar1219 that alone is more than enough reason to get divorced from such a douche, nothing 0 contact with her family, divorce and 0 contact with the 'husband's' family (aside from the SIL since she's the ONLY one who actually speaks with reason)
@@mostar1219 didn't want that possible negligent homicide charge
About 30% of the paternity test it turns out the supposed father isn’t the father.
OMG. The second story triggered me in a way. My cousin has a number of health problems and PTSD, and her service dog is a dauschund, which, yes, she has been told a few times in the past that her dog was 'too small to be a real service dog'. One time, at a store, she had parked in the Handicapped space, with her placard showing, and as she got out some lady said, in a kind of snarky tone, "Funny, you don't look disabled," and as my cousin was getting her cane and dog out, she looked at the lady and said, "Funny, you don't look stupid."
Best Comeback Ever!
I don’t understand a man who ignores his wife during labor. I had to convince my wife to stop “nesting,” so, I could get her to the hospital. For our daughter 16 years ago, I literally had to go over 100 miles an hour and carry her in. My daughter was out within an hour. For both my children, I stayed with her for the birth at her request. I even cut the umbilical chord. So, ignoring your wife who is about to give birth is unconscionable. I would even (back then) use my own annual and sick leave to take 1-2 weeks off, only to get ear spank from management how the job was a priority. (Federal Investigations).
Umbilical Chord sounds like a cool as hell soft rock band, but I'm like 97.99% certain you meant cord.
I'm an expert consultant on disability rights, special education, and other related matters. This company fucked up ROYALLY when they tried to dispute the legitimacy of a service dog. You are allowed to ask two and ONLY two questions of a dog owner. 1) "Is this a service animal?" and if yes, 2) "Please describe at least one task the dog is trained to perform." THAT'S IT! You do not have the authority to say "this service dog is fake"! Good on OP for lawyering up!
Wrong. You are always allowed to ask the owner who is that good boy/girl
@@xoana4197 Yes, though that isn't relevant to questioning whether the dog is a service animal.
@@alaras but it is still a good question though lol even if the answer is clear
this, all the way. I was literally asked for her paperwork the other day, and the look I gave the employee could have killed. I pulled out a card with the laws on it and suggested the entire office memorize it for the future.
Working is a little bit difficult as they can ask for papers from your doctor for liability reasons, but your right about the two questions
My wife had a large service dog, that was told could not be one as she was a Pitbull. So stupidity attacks all sizes.
enough people do not believe in disabilities or think your faking using it to get out of things so stupidity does not stop at the helpful dogs
@@velvety2006 I don't really think that excuse can apply when the person with the disability is actively trying their damnedest to stay in their field of work. Some people are just assholes, and get off and controlling and manipulating the people around or beneath them with their own bullshit.
Tell her to give that good girl a belly scratch for me! My new girl's a husky-apbt mix. I never expected the work ethic I ended up getting with this dog... once that harness is on, there is NOTHING that dog won't do for me. My last girl was super judgy of strangers but my new one is super friendly, really dramatic difference between the first service dog I worked with and the one I have now. I'm glad I didn't take her breed test results to heart in the decision and evaluation process.
@@velvety2006 A lot of people think that way because so many people fake their disabilities with non-service animals.
Pitbulls aren't allowed to be a service dog because of their aggression
I can think of a few reasons he’d want the paternity test:
1. Like you said, projection.
2. He was genuinely convinced she was being unfaithful. Keep in mind that with these reddit stories the backstory and details are 100% under OP’s control and there’s no way to know for sure how honest people are about these stories, so it’s not that far-fetched.
3. He was planning to leave her and was looking for an easy out.
Tho I will be keeping that baby mix-up thing in mind and will be forever paranoid about it, so thanks for that.
I honestly don't understand why a paternity test isnt the norm. This would fix so much issues like mixing baby up, court problem about who the father is or not and so on.
Aslong as 1. it doesnt cost a lot and 2. it's nothing dangerous or invasive which i highly doubt. Yes husband was a asshole but wife also could've just said yeah sure. To my understading it's a saliva swab or blood from both parants and same for the baby.
@@davidchaput5484 well the reason for that is because a bunch of women’s groups are vehemently against it, claiming that it puts women at risk for domestic violence and the like. And while I do understand some guys are awful, at the same time some girls be hoes, so I think it should be mandatory myself.
@@davidchaput5484 a quick cheek swab is sufficient in most cases. considering everything else that happens in the first day or so of a newborn's id hardly label that procedure invasive
@@davidchaput5484 There's a difference between a hospital asking for it and a partner asking for it. You cannot, realistically, ask your SO for a paternity test without an underlying implication of mistrust.
Now why Hospitals aren't asking for em, I've no damn clue
4 he found out he's infertile
First post. That “prank” was cruel but that brother is the true MVP.
It also sounds like her husband has been cheating.
I think it's pretty cool that some dogs are trained to actually detect when someone's going to have a seizure. The circumstances are still bad but the skill is quite useful
Yeah, actually.
My cousin dog is trained for seizures but a couple summers ago it would not leave me alone. It came and signaled that I was having a seizure. Come to find out with the cancer treatments my blood sugar was dangerously low and she could tell.
Since I didn't have a seizure, my cousin tested my blood and boom 61 so low. They went and got a bottle of juice from a different family member and fixed it right up.
I now know the feeling of the low blood sugar and keep glucose tabs or even candy or snacks in my vehicles and bags.
They had forgotten that little cousin also has juvenile diabetes and that our little fluffers was trained for high and low blood sugar levels.
Dogs are amazing
@@Emeraldwitch30 wow that is so cool dogs are very intelligent
@@miisskaii if they weren't so expensive I'd think about getting one.
While I'm now cancer free its left a few side effects lol. The low blood sugar thing and my thyroid have left me kinda tired and I don't always sit down and rest like I should. My pitbull jack Russell mix would come sit on me when I was over doing but she crossed the rainbow bridge in June. I miss that stinky poo machine lol.
Some cats too. A college tour guide of mine had epilepsy and her cat was a service animal trained to detect her seizures and warn her.
I love stories of companies bending over backwards to please the wronged employee because they're scared to death of a lawsuit they'd definitely lose. Bonus points if it's because Inhuman Resources is being Inhuman Resources.
The director of my entire department once scolded ME for not forcing my co-worker to stand for hours on end when she had a broken foot. I wasn't even her supervisor, we literally had the exact same job. I told my co-worker to do what she needed to be safe and comfortable and I'd totally go to bat for her if the director tried to press the issue. It's mind boggling how high up people can get on the corporate ladder without knowing a single thing about modifications for disabilities.
I knew a lady with severe hearing impairment and her service dog was small as well. Just don’t get what people are thinking. Now, I do know where some of this comes from. I knew a lady who had a small dog and got the false papers and vest to make her dog appear to be a service dog. People like my acquaintance with the false papered dog is ruining it for people with real service dogs which still doesn’t justify assuming a service dog is fake.
Story 1: There have a lot of stories about husbands that can only think about themselves but this guy was on a level not seen before. Story 2: I wonder if that HR worker really works there because "their paper that say they work there could have just been printed off the internet."
Unfortunately, I have seen worse first hand T.T
Plot twist, when her interviewer stepped out of the room for something, she stole the current HR's paperwork. She took it home, and scanned/recreated it only with her name. The next day she puts her file 'back' and brings the 'fake HR person' to someone's attention, they look her up, match her name to her driver's license, and BOOM! She's the new VIP of HR. (Not quite 'printed off the internet' but close enough.)
How is the husband TA? The wife declined the request of a pateernity test and overreacted which would obviously result in the husband being insecure and would explain him not answering calls... Not answering the phone when they called that much was bad, however, I doubt the guy knew that she was giving birth and then the brothers prank was super cruel.
@@yesindeed9040 Yes correct, the wife did respond unfavorably to the unexpected accusation that she committed sexual intercourse with another man shortly before she was due to give birth to their first child together.
@@mariposa9506 Both of them were in the wrong.
Everybody regardless of disability status should memorize the Americans With Disabilities Act. HR is not there to help employees. They are there to make the company works well and they will absolutely push the line whenever they think they can get away with it.
A lot of people don't even know it exists. It's the sort of thing that should really be part of standard education.
Inhuman Resources being Inhuman Resources...
I find it incredible in this day an age that there are still ignorant souls walking around that are completely unaware of the roles of service animals, and that in most civilized countries it is law that they are allowed to go into any premises, or transportation, etc with their human.
Just recently in NZ some dumb employee at Thrifty Car Rental in Auckland refused to rent this blind man and his wife a car because the man had a service dog. Terrible for them.
@@It-is-me...Melsie sadly I still have people throw a fit when they see my dog IN A GUIDE HARNESS in a store. Simply cuz she isn't wearing a red Amazon vest. For reference my dog does sighted guide for my neuropathy. So the harness is an aid not just to avoid access issues.
I guess I should also add her harness is custom so it's biothane and black green and white.
Story 2: ADA also means Attourney District Assistant (and it's possibly this meaning as OP mentioned talking to a LAWYER previously). HR claiming that they understand ADAs better than ACTUAL BOSSES is a nice soup receipt of Someone's gonna get fired.
I love the brother in the first story though. He protected his sister and the husband had the audacity to try and make her cut contact with him. Never let that brother go. He has your back. Far more than your husband ever did
Story 2: I myself haven't seen small service dogs, but that doesn't mean they don't exist. A small dog is just as capable as a large dog.
Kinda funny that the possibility of an ADA lawsuit was what it took for the company to stop pestering OP about the dog.
I once saw a corgi as an emotional support animal at a workplace so they deffo exist and also ironic the hr girl who tried to get rid of the dog said she knew the ada better then the ceo while at the same time breaking the very said thing
I have a small service dog. I pass out at random due to some health issues I have, my terrier mutt mix has been trained to tell me when I'm about to pass out so I can sit. Then if I do pass out he is trained to go find my mom or my husband (whoever im out with at the time I never go out without someone my dog knows well enough to task with) and bark like crazy, then lead them back to me. Once he leads them back he stands by me and guards my face until help arrives. Once help gets there he will go with the other person with me, but until he sees uniform he won't leave my side. He's an amazing boy and only weighs 10 pounds.
I work with a lot of people who have service animals and I have five clients that have papillons as service dogs. Do people not leave their house? How do you not understand that small dogs can be wonderful service animals. I really don't understand how some people make it in this world as functioning adults when they don't understand basic life facts.
Edit the reason so many people have papillons as service animals is the province I live in there's a lady who breeds papillons and trains to be service animals for diabetics. The wonderfully smart and beautifully friendly little dogs
Too many people still think that "size matters".
Is it weird that I thought OP was going to have a seizure and all the higher ups ignored the warnings until a lawsuit was threatened
So.. she almost died, he wouldn’t answer the phone, he didn’t care at all and then on top of it all, he decided to ask “is it mine”, oh, and he’s upset at her brother for HAVING HER BACK. Her MIL is saying “cut off contact with your brother”, wow. Hope she has a smooth divorce, she deserves to be safe.
Edit: most of the replies are from some shady dude attempting to defend this horrendous behaviour. So weird…
No… he asked for a paternity test and SHE DECLINED. If she didn’t declined such an easy request none of the would’ve happened.
@@hectorfland5004 but still, he (the husband) pressured her and she felt uncomfortable
@@-sleepydude_-.- because the husband 100% of the time doesn’t know if the child is actually his. That doesn’t sound good enough for you to push?
@@hectorfland5004 So she wouldn't give in to an obvious infidelity accusation, meaning it was okay for him to ignore her desperate phone calls like a petulant child and nearly kill her? Do you think before you type, or do you just slam that keyboard like a coked up chimpanzee and hope whatever you typed made sense?
@@lotem3009 so if the child is not his and he signs the birth certificate even if they find out the baby is not his baby he still have to pay child support for 18 years, right?
#1 From the start, when the husband asked for a test, I was thinking "divorce". Trust is key and that was a deal breaker.
#3 One thing I can say for my old shit-show job is that they fired everyone that stole your lunch. First time I seen happen was over a can of Mt Dew. The thief lost his job for something he could've bought for .65 out of the machine.
I had the same thoughts as you about what the husband was doing during those 10 hours in the first story. No sane person would ignore that many (or really any) calls in a row from their partner when they knew how close they were to giving birth at that time
I don't even care about potential cheating: the marriage was dead the moment the husband failed to be there for his daughter's birth. There's no coming back from that, unless the guy himself was in another hospital for some life and death emergency or something like that.
Exactly, especially not answering for 10 hours.
Husband in story 1 is definitely 100% absolutely cheating on op.
Employers in story 2 don't appreciate being on the receiving end of an ada lawsuit.
Gotta love the self report in the last one.
First story: I absolutely agree with you. He is projecting like crazy. I've had a couple guys do this. He was cheating while she was in labor.
Oh man, the "lier lier, pants on fire" thing made me think about my buddy growing up. His gf had given him a massage that turned into sexy time. What neither of them thought about was the fact her hands were covered in Icy hot. Apparently they both spent a couple hours in the shower trying to get it off and out of them LMAO!
As someone with seizures (a rare kind where I'm conscious) the dog thing is not a suprise to me. The only reason I don't have a service dog is because service dogs pre trained can be upwards of 30,000 dollars. Training courses can take months or years to complete and cost thousands per month. They aren't pets. They are expensive medical equipment and need to be treated with respect and dignity. Because that "little dog" has probably put more time, heart, work, energy, and love, into her job as a service dog than ANY hr worker could hope to accomplish
Hi there, just so you know owner training is an option for you if you think an SD is the way to go and there are a ton of resources out there for you ❤️
Aren't service dogs covered by insurance? If it's essential to your health to own a service dog, then they would have to be covered by your health insurance. Unless yours doesn't cover for one.
temporal lobe seizures? I used to have them for a while after a blow to my head, so I understand the struggle with them.
Hey when the brother told the husband "she didn't make it" he was telling the truth. She didn't make it to rhe hospital to give birth. I'm glad she's dumping that a-hole an his family are trash for suggesting she go no-contact with her brother THE ONE WHO PROBABLY SAVED HER LIFE.
She could also have flat-lined at any point during the surgery or while she was hemorrhaging.
Lmao. Homegirl flips out over paternity, runs off, and then admits to sneaking into the house when he isn't home, but HE'S in the wrong? If you're that gullible, I want to sell you stuff. Wanna start with some oceanfront property in Montana?
@@SkunkApe407 man I hope you got some help with your obvious mistrust and dislike of women
@@LostStarzOfTheSky I dislike everyone, not just women. People are trash. Covid failed to do its job. Hopefully the next plague is stronger.
@@LostStarzOfTheSky basically, I'm just waiting on the next asteroid to come and send humanity the way of the dinosaurs. Not a single one of you is worth saving. Let the universe correct its mistake, and start over.
I just learned I had a “chemical pregnancy” today. Basically, i miscarried when I was less than 5 weeks along, and he’s on his way home now. If my partner failed to show up when I was in *_full blown labor_* and at risk of dying, he would never see me again.
I'm sorry for your loss. I hope that you are feeling well or that you will be soon!
For the spicy food/stolen food story:
HR going "We can't prove he stole anything"...like, you can't prove OP poisoned, or even intended to harm the food thief. Yet here you are.
The incompetent head of HR sounds like someone straight out of a Monty Python sketch. The first that comes to mind is Mr Lambert from the Buying a Bed sketch. His job is to sell mattresses, but he's psychologically compelled to sabotage his own job by putting a bag over his head every time somebody says the word "mattress."
The first story - the husband is 100% cheating on her, and projecting his behaviour on to her
EXACTLY. It's so obvious, every red flag besides getting caught red handed.
W brother L husband
Wouldn't be surprised if he was with his mistress during the 10 hours he was unreachable
Because he asked for a paternity test and didn’t pick up a phone.
Because as we all know human mouths can not say the words “I would like a paternity test” unless you’ve cheated, and phones calls can only be missed if you’re mid thrust.
There’s zero other reason for either of those events.
It’s not like phones die, chargers break, older buildings can block signal, car chargers can break, meetings can require you to turn off your phone, people can sleep harder than their phone can wake them up, phones can be left behind/lost, phones can be turned off, the husband could have blocked her in anger and forgot,
No.
You can *only* miss a phone call if you’re cheating.
There is absolutely *no other possible reason* to miss a phone call other than cheating.
/s
@@RealCoolstriker64 be more triggered 💀
“We can’t prove he stole it.”
“So you CAN prove I gave consent to him eating my clearly labeled lunch?”
“N- no…”
“So then how is it my fault he ate my lunch?
“… well-“
“Can I get this in writing? I’m going to talk to my attorney about workplace harassment now.”
1st story: The husband wants the BROTHER to apologize? Has HE apologized to his wife? What kind of husband knows his wife is late in pregnancy and doesn’t answer any calls. Even though the brother said that and it was kind of mean-spirited, the husband needed that.
First story:
Oh wow. She didn't want a child and he wanted a large family. He wanted a paternity test? Like wtf. He is sooo disrespectful. Oh wow. And not picking up the phone? And he gets upset about the cruel prank when he was a douchebag? He deserved it.
Aside of that paternity tests should be done. It's rare babies gets switched, but it happenes.
Paternity tests should be done routinely by hospitals for THEIR protection. It'd have the added bonus of making sure all parties are clear on the matter.
if he is cheating I would not be surprised if the reason for his cheating is her having a girl, he sounds like the type that wants like 5 sons and one girl to help mom around the house
She said she wanted 1 OR none.
He is entitled to a paternity test ( he did the right thing by asking and not doing it behind her back )
I do believe he handle it poorly.
This happened because she just couldn’t give him a peace of mind by doing a stupid test.
It’s more on her than him
He should’ve picked up the phone knowing his wife was almost in labor but they way she reacted I think any man would be hurt
I mean, I need to point to the story from within the past few months where a baby switch DID happen. I even think rSlash covered it in a video. Edit: YEP. It was the the /Bestof video from 2 weeks ago as of today.
@@hectorfland5004 keep giving excuses
3rd story: this is basically like a Burglar breaking into a house and the Burglar accidentally cuts himself while trying to break in and he’s going to sue the owner because of it.
Didn't that exact story get told in a Jim Carrey movie?
The one where he's a lawyer and his son makes a birthday wish where he can't lie for a whole day or something?
A guy in Florida tried to sue a homeowner cuz their dog bit him while he was breaking into their house. 🤦♀️
Good grief. But I cant remember what happened its been since the 80s when I lived down there
I think I heard of one thief who sued a homeowner over getting a severe cut from the glass he broke to enter the home. Homeowners weren't even present when he tried to burgle the place.
He actually won a judgment against them, if I remember correctly.
In my country you basically not allowed to defend yourself if someone breaks into your home, you have to give your stuff and call the police. my coworkers literally had advised me to bash the burglar's head in and just drop him on the sidewalk and call I found a wounded man in front of my door.
@@callanightshade8079 lol yep, Liar Liar. The secretary tells Jim Carey about how her friend was sued for 5k when he fell thru the victim's roof and landed on a knife, and he tells her he would've gotten him 10
At my job, we aren’t even allowed to question if a dog is or isn’t a service dog because they don’t want to run the risk of a lawsuit.
By law you can ask 1. "Is this a service animal?" And 2. "What tasks does it perform?" If anyone gets snippy at you, you can always tell them that you also want to look out for them and accommodate for their needs (like a space to safely wait out their seizure or whatever)
Villain logic:
“I did something morally and objectively reprehensible to you, personally, but since *I* ended up getting punished for or harmed because of it, I’m going to attempt to get ‘Revenge’ on you.”
Example:
“I stole your food, but since it made me very uncomfortable for an extended period of time, I’m going to go out of my way to try and ruin your life by getting you fired and sued.”
The husband is definitely cheating. I wouldn’t even let his mom talk to me without a detailed explanation of why he didn’t answer and a groveling apology to everyone who WAS there for me.
Oh and he’s hoping the baby isn’t his so he can leave her.
Yep
he is projecting
Could also have been Mommy in law dearest telling her boy to get one. He jumped way too fast onto her bandwagon when she tried to get her to go No Contact with her brother.
Cheating is a possibility, but for 10 hrs? I guess it depends on when she went into labor. If it was during the night, I can see it as possible outcome
@@derekwhite1870 Cheating isn't always a nightly pump and dump situation. More often than not affairs are long lasting and also romantic in nature. It's also common that when spouses have big arguments, the cheater will leaving, saying "I'm going to my parents/brothers/friends" but go to their affairs place instead, complete with not answering their spouses calls. The actions he has done heavily line up with common cheater behavior.
Ditch the husband keep the brother because clearly your brother cares for you more then your husband and the fact your family is on his side no it doesn't work that way, they support that dead beat they don't get your support or to see your daughter
Exactly. You wanna support someone clearly against me, then I no longer know you.
She walked out on him
You do realized it's not about cheating when they ask right?
You do know there's a thing called baby swap?
I swear people can't do anything without being seen as an ahole
But op should've stayed in the house instead of leaving and expect her husband to pick up
@@HeoBaby24 He asked for the paternity test before the baby was born. I didn't know they can swap the baby in the womb. It's crazy how much we've progressed in the medical field huh?! 🙄
@@HeoBaby24 She walked out on him because he was stressing her out when she really didn't need to be stressed. And none of what you have said here, or in any other of your replies, justifies what he did while she was in labor or after.He ignored her for ten hours while she could've been on her literal death bed and then tried to make the situation about him. He could've gone to the hospital with her and brought a test with him and done himself while he was there if that was actually what he wanted or if he was concerned with his baby getting swapped. He's negligent at best.
@@unrulyrocks7216 They're in so many replies spouting the same bs that I'm almost convinced that they're the husband in the story😒
OK - so the first husband is demanding an apology from the brother, but no where in the story nor the update does OP mention that the husband has apologized for HIS behaviour - no answering the phone (22 times?!?) when his wife is due to give birth? He owes HUGE apologies for that and all of the resulting fallout from it. OP doesn't even mention that anyone is demanding one from the husband.
Oh, and yeah, OP's husband's behaviour screams of him cheating on her.
in the second story I kinda have a related on-going story, my current boss wrote me up for calling out 14 hours before my shift because I was dealing with symptoms of my disability. Since there is no HR for where I work I ended up just going straight to the government about it by reporting it to my local EEOC (equal employment opportunity commission) and they're now doing an investigation into my case.
First Story: Divorce the husband A S A P. Holy high hell this man is sooooooo horrible that I have no words. This sorry excuse for a human being: accuses OP for cheating (asking for a paternity test, implying OP cheated), refused to answer any calls while OP went into labor, wasn’t there when OP nearly bled to death, shows up almost half the day later, gets upset for OP not answering his call, have the audacity to try to tell OP to cut contact with her brother for a prank he honestly deserved to be the butt of, and STILL have the audacity to ask for the paternity?! Holy shit this man pisses me off on sooooo many levels
Second Story: Since when was a dog’s size considered in whether they are a service dog or not? Clearly this HR doesn’t know the ADA that well themselves soooo
Third Story: Imagine trying to accuse someone of trying to poision another person instead of holding the thief accountable for stealing lunch. Well I see why the HR lady tried to so hard to get OP fired and protect the thief
Bingo. I felt disgusted
Exactly if I was the brother I'd be very tempted to punch the hopefully ex husband in the face for the scumbag moves he made
In my opinion all children should be DNA tested cause beside cheating baby's get swapped up more then people think shit it almost happened to me when I was born.
He just wanted to know if it was his kid
@@12yroldedgelord41 Which is fair, but you don't ignore a pregnant woman's phone call when she's close to labor. Wanting a paternity test is fine, ignoring the many phone calls isn't
Story 1: It's definitely reasonable that he may be cheating and projecting it on his wife. But he may as well just be a jerk with a thing for "legacy and bloodline". It's sad that OP married him when she didn't really want a big family and he would no doubt push for more kids. It's great that she's divorcing this PoS.
I'm also for maternity and paternity tests made right of the bat. Swaps happen but sometimes kids just don't look like their parents because traits from some older ancestor only now showed up.
I was gonna say, pretty sure the ADA protects service animals. Hell, if my job tried to bar me from bringing my emergency inhaler to work, I could sue the pants off them too. My asthma attacks when left untreated very much can and have landed me in urgent care or the ER. One time when I was a teen my dad's insurance decided they didn't want to pay for my daily inhaler subscription anymore and forced him to change to a different daily inhaler subscription. After a week I ended up needing to get rushed to the ER by my dad in the middle of the night for a severe asthma attack. By the time we got there I was turning purple and my blood oxygen was so low that the nurses were shocked I was still conscious, though I was far from fully lucid. My dad barely remembers any of it and fell asleep in a hospital chair because he was hopped up on Lunesta. My severity of asthma very much does qualify as a disability.
Yep! The ADA protects service animals as necessary and lifesaving medical equipment, much like your inhaler or a wheelchair.
Yep, yep, yep. (In the US) Legally, there's no difference between accommodating a service dog, a wheelchair, a rescue inhaler, hearing aids, an insulin syringe, and a pair of glasses.
Lol this just makes me think of how much I love my job that literally approved me to bring my rabbit to work cause she helped soothe my anxiety during a bad divorce. They gave her a badge and made her a work mascot too .
RIP Princess 🐇👑
Fly high, princess❤
Ya there are 2 rules 1. Don’t mess with the IT guy 2. Don’t even think about violating ADA. the govt will bend you over without lube it will be worse than messing with the IRS
3. don't mess with tree's
@@flowrdawg8485 TREE LAW
More like the government will bend you over with a sanderpaper condom and ghost pepper lube.
@@flowrdawg8485 I did forget this thank you
4. dont tell the other to sue you, especially if most of your communication is digital.
Story 3: Being romantically involved (confirmed or not) pretty much explains why the HR woman was defending that thief. Why else would she defend an obvious thief.
Also, WHY STEAL FOOD?! You don't know what's in it!
There's a special place in hell for food thieves and those that defend them.
I'm guessing that the thief has no allergies and isn't very picky on what they eat. They just picked the wrong person's lunch.
The very first story: There are clearly issues that the husband needs to work out ON HIS OWN. I haven't listened to the whole story yet. So I'm really hoping that OP has permanently split from the SoB.
Edit: Glad OP figured out the best course of action. I agree with "the voice" 😂 Hubby is probably projecting.
For the spicy food story when they said, “We cannot prove he stole anything.” Why not just reply, “Well, if you can’t prove that he stole my lunch then how can you prove that it was my lunch he ate!” They can’t accuse OP of intentional harm if his lunch ‘wasn’t stolen’.
s2: if the company is demanding you "get a bigger dog to prove its a service dog" then its on them to pay for it and if they dont want to pay for it tell them they can either fuck off and accept it or youre suing for medical discrimination
“We understand the Americans with disabilities act”
Mhmm, mhmm, how did that go? Oh, you didn’t understand? WEIRD!
I'm the HR assistant. I'm also disabled and have looked at getting a service animal (i only mention it because it ties into why i care so much about service animals lol, unfortunately I really dont like large dogs and for my needs it would have to be a big boi/girl) and the absolute DISBELIEF i had that HR in the 2nd story so blatantly disregarded the ADA. Listen, you shouldn't disobey any laws involving employees. Its a reeaaally good way to pay a shit ton of money in fees. But one you really DONT want to fight is the ADA. Thats common sense! One, thats just a dick move. Two, the fees are absurd and you WILL lose. The ADA is very serious. Three, the court of public opinion would have a field day if found out an employer violated the ADA purely because a dog wasn't "big enough". Service dogs have a shit ton of protections (which a lot of people abuse who dont actually have a service dog which messes with the perception of service animals) and you have to be VERY careful with the way things are worded and asked specifically about the animal. I'd be surprised if most of the HR in that story wasn't fired.
I've been married twice. Both men eventually accused me of cheating. tbh the thought never crossed my mind. I was married because I only wanted to be with one man, the one I chose to marry. I found out later that in both cases, they were the cheats.
Oh my gosh I feel angry and want to cry for the first story, this is legit scared me. Hoping for the best to OP and her daughter, please leave that man. He is a horrible human being
Idk about that ,he was insecure so he asked for paternity test, she shut him down which could be red flag for cheating. Why be at the birth for a child that isnt yours and the community wife? Why not just agree for to quell his fears. Imo they are both douches. If i saw my wife suffering and all she needed was some reassure, i would do it in a heartbeat. I Dont know why its such a challenge for her.
@@riotplanet6182 - Because it’s a slap in the face to a faithful wife. His insecurities could wait till after the birth. No doubt his demand and subsequent dissing added to her birth issues. Late pregnancy and the process of childbirth are very traumatic on a woman’s mind and body. Eff his feelings. He could have waited till everything was done, even if he “chickened out” (ie, came up with an excuse) and decided not to be by her side. He’s a POS.
@@vegasrenie fair comment. most of time insecurities don’t make sense, but what makes him POS imo is demanding an apology after everything like TF everyone suffered not just you.
@@vegasrenie Not really I would like to know if my child was mine not really a butthole thing to do not wanting to take care of another dude child she walked out she put herself in that situation she left his side plus he has a life so he could be a work or have a dead phone or other things but no everbody is like " oh poor women all men are bad" geez no hes not automatically cheating because he has concerns
@@SweATZ87 - A concern that late in pregnancy could wait. Plus the missing ten hours and numerous calls. The man is an inconsiderate jackass. This has nothing to do with “all men are bad.” THIS man is bad. And to be gone/unavailable that many hours is absolutely inexcusable. He was looking for a way out. I’m guessing you’ve never been pregnant/given birth. If you had, especially with a cherished partner, you’d realize just how much a slap in the face such a request would be.
There’s no issue with a paternity test but the husband is an A for how he handled it. It should be the standard in hospitals without even asking but until then there’s still the stigma asking your wife at the 11th hour isn’t the time and neither is it when she recovering from a traumatic birth. He’s the A hole for putting his wants over her needs
I don't think it'll ever be standard with how a lot of people are.
I don’t think he’s an A for how he handle it, I mean he did the right thing by asking and not doing it behind her back I do agree that he handled it very poorly
@@hectorfland5004 My dude, he literally abandoned his wife knowing she was about to give birth, a very risky and painful process where both parent and child can DIE if not properly handled, all because she wouldn’t comply to an already stupid request made even more nonsensical by him not giving her a valid reason. He handled the whole thing like a pathetic, entitled, cruel idiot.
Remember, if not for the brother, both her and her child would have died painfully.
@@manuelsantos4784 never said he reacted the right way, I’m just saying this could have been avoided by saying “yes, I’ll take the paternity test but once you know it’s yours I expect an apology” he just went into his feelings. But put it the other way around, he calls back her brother answered and says “ she didn’t make it” he starts speeding and dies in a car accident, was he right? Two wrongs don’t make a right.
@@hectorfland5004 stop projecting.. it’s giving incel
Service dog story: CEO said, "Couldn't you just get a bigger dog?" That's insane...all dogs are wonderful in their way, but not all dogs are cut out to be service dogs. Correct me if I'm wrong, but I was under the impression that many of the dogs who begin the training to become service dogs don't make it to actually becoming a service dog. "Just get another dog?" Why not say, "Just keep panning; you surely will strike gold AGAIN."
I had a friend in high school who had a hearing ear dog - a Jack Russell terrier. Seizure alert dogs always fascinated me with their ability to sense an oncoming seizure in their person. Those are two functions where, thankfully, the pool of available dogs is not limited to large breeds. The OP in this story might want to consider new employment; I'd feel uneasy working for such ignorant people.
You are correct, the failure rate for service dog candidates can be quite high. That's NOT an insult to those that wash out, they're still some of the smartest and most loyal dogs out there, they often just tend to have trouble being motivated or focused in most cases. Having a service dog washout as a pet is not a bad thing at all.
You're also correct on the costs (striking gold), they depend a lot on what the pup is ultimately trained to do. Seeing eye dogs, for example, require some of the most expensive training and tend to start around $40K last I looked, but who knows what prices are like these days. In our case, and with all folks we've talked to, insurance was less than useless for covering a service dog and most charitable organizations won't help individual people, they'd rather help groups and other organizations so they can have their photo ops and make a show of helping "many people" so they focus their money that way. Headlines like "local charity helps disabled vets" and "local social club gives child their life back" get better clout than "local charity helps local epileptic or diabetic". To be fair, in our case a service dog was not "necessary", but he's made a HUGE difference in our lives. Before we got him I was literally afraid to sleep because I didn't want to miss it if my wife had a potentially life-threatening episode and I could help her through it. Now, her service dog will wake her if he can and then wake me if she's unresponsive. It took several years to raise the deposit for him, but it was worth it.
Ignoring your wife's phone calls when she's in the state she's in is absolutely inexcusable. He should be happy he got away so easily.
For the first story, I absolutely agree that OP's soon to be ex husband might have been cheating on her, because there's no other reason why I can think of why one would ignore sixteen phone calls from their third trimester pregnant spouse. Even if he's not, he's a total, 5/5 asshole for ignoring so many calls and asking for a paternity test. Furthermore, this man is so self-centered that he had the audacity to ask why his one other phone call back to his wife's phone wasn't answered. This man is looking for a way out of his relationship, and now he's found one in the worst kind of way. The custody hearing is going to get ugly.
Third story - I'm reminded of a story rSlash read when a poster dealt with a lunch thief by making ghost pepper chili for lunch and put in the fridge. Sure enough, the thief ate it, got sick. Just like in the story in this video, OP did not offer their lunch to the other person, which means that they were not enticed into eating it. What makes this case unusual is the fact that the HR department tried to railroad OP, which would have no legal standing given the circumstances. Regardless, it's refreshing to see a boss actually do the right thing.
It's totally fine to want a paternity test, and I feel it should be mandatory at birth, but him ignoring the many frantic calls from both the wife and the brother is such a huge red flag. Then he gets upset when his SINGLE phone call gets ignored? That's just not it. Something's up there.
Exactly. Huge red banner.
Even if he had suspicions that she cheated on him, its weird he started going scorched earth with her before he even had evidence to prove it. He completely destroyed his own marriage and likely his relationship with his daughter out of pure paranoia.
@@skorpiongod He really did.
@@skorpiongod "Paranoia" is ironically the _charitable_ interpretation. It's far more likely that he was ignoring her calls because he was "passionately hugging" his mistress at the time. I say this because not only is it usually what gets revealed when one partner starts accusing the other of cheating, but because the same thing happened with my dad. He had at least one mistress that we found eventually, but he always accused my mom of sleeping with his brother because I have blue eyes. Now, both of my parents are hybrids, and if you know anything about genetics, it is 100% possible for two hybrid brown eyed individuals to bear blue eyed children. And when I say "100% possible," I mean it literally can happen; the odds of it happening are 1:4 or 25% of your children. He literally has three brown eyed children plus me, or one-out-of-four is blue... 100% statistically average.
@@Wendy_O._Koopa sure but im trying to avoid speculating. I have no reason to believe he's cheating and just projecting or if one of his friends caught her hanging out with an ex. All i have to go on is him being angry and paranoid.
Paternity test story: I have heard this before but not the update. Not in the least surprised by OP's decision to divorce her husband under the circumstances. I hope the judge awards her full custody and plenty of child support. That wouldn't normally be covered by a prenup. Has OP learned anything more about WHY he wanted a paternity test?
Service dog story: To the best of my knowledge, there is no size/breed requirements for service dogs, though I will say that having one so small is unusual. Unfortunately, despite all the training a service dog must have, there is no official licensing that must be recognized in the US which makes situations like this too common.
Spicy food story: OP, I'm sorry you had to go thru that, but at least it worked out well for you. I simply don't understand food thieves, they don't KNOW what they're about to eat and it could contain an allergen they're unaware of. The hot & spicy aspect is also something to think about. I, too, do not like very spicy foods, but I have family members that love them. And some of the spices you simply can't smell, only taste.
Also on the first story, I am SO happy that OP divorced her husband. From the sounds of it
He said he wanted a big family, suggesting he wants maybe four or more kids.
His mother and HIM tried telling her that she needed to cut off her brother. Who was a huge person of support and stuff for her. I feel like all of this was part of some big plot to try getting OP isolated from her family.
We had a story a while back where, after the birth of OPs first child. The husband had them all move out into a farm in the middle of no where. And than they basically made it near impossible for her to leave and just, trapped her there. Saying she was only to be a house wife and not get an actual job. Becoming completely dependent on her husband.
I say OP in that first story dodged a HUGE bullet... This could've gone the exact same way..
Boy, i like listening to this while eating my breakfast, better than the radio.
OMG, Edmonton radio has been positively steeped in shit lately T.T Couldn't agree with you more.
Anything is better than the radio
As much as I love dogs, I try to avoid petting service dogs. Most of them are probably friendly dogs who enjoy getting petted and pose no danger to me, but the distraction could be dangerous to the owner whose life might depend on the service dog.
It's a hard rule that random people are not allowed to pet a person's service dog . There are plenty of stories in the Entitled Parents subreddit where serious altercations started because said EPs & their bratty spermspawns were told to not touch the dog and their endings range from arrests to having the dog straight-up stolen from the person who needs it.
Exactly. They are on duty, you leave them alone.
@@danielbrant6740 That's what I thought. I was surprised to hear about OP allowing coworkers to pet the service dog.
It depends on the person. Like me if I'm sitting and have no need for mobility and my mental state is good I'll let people pet Azurill. If that's not the case then I won't. But standard rule if you ask that's fine just don't feel entitled to a yes. We have good days sometimes and will feel up to letting our dogs get attention but most don't at all anymore due to entitled people.
@@amberwoods4743 i'm glad you said this. I have had people accuse my service dog of being fake due to the fact that some days I allow pets and others I don't. They don't understand that some days are worse than others and on those days I really need her focused.
RE: The ADA and similar laws in other countries like the UK - everyone thinks that this MAGICALLY gets rid of ableism but it doesn't. Plenty of places thoroughly flout it and most people (especially in the US which is so anti-unions) simply can't afford to go the tribunal route. So they get away with it all the time and have no fear of the consequences.
Add to that that ableism is rampant at a systemic level in society as a whole. Even people who say "Oh I would never discriminate/bully/exclude someone who was disabled" often do so - laugh at the weird person in the office? Avoid dealing with someone because you assume that they're grumpy or annoyed with you, or whatever, because their tone doesn't match your expectations? Gossip about the one person who doesn't socialise with their colleagues about how they think they're too good to talk to everyone else? Congrats. There's a good chance that you've just been ableist to an autistic person. And no - nobody has to disclose their disabilities to you, nor do you have any right to make them justify their need to be treated like a human being or given accommodations.
As a wheelchair user, the number of times I've faced ableism is ridiculous. People moving me without asking. People talking to me like I'm a child. People assuming that because my body doesn't work properly, neither does my brain. People ignoring me and talking to my carer instead, even when I have asked a question or held out my credit card to pay for something. I've even had someone say that "people like me" should be kept at home and not brought out in public. I, and almost every other disabled person, face discrimination on a regular basis.
I was denied statutory sick pay because the finance/HR people in my last job "misunderstood" the legislation around it and then said it was "too difficult" to go back and fix it. I was told that I didn't have to listen to my doctor's advice and asked when was I coming back to work, on the SECOND day after abdominal surgery. I was forced to work from my bed, doped up on morphine on a regular basis or be sacked (which is not legal in the UK). I was consistently given a lower salary for doing the same amount and quality of work as my teammates, even though I made up all the hours and then some from when I needed time off for medical reasons. I was supposed to be in a salaried position, but they would dock my pay for every single half hour or ten minutes I had to deal with medical or disability-related issues and, of course, never got overtime. And this happens ALL the time.
In the UK, wheelchair spaces (and disabled parking bays) are legally protected. And yet, when a disabled person took a bus company to court because the driver refused to make a parent move her (folding) stroller from the disabled space, even though there was plenty of space to put it next to her, and so the wheelchair user had to wait for another bus an hour later, the judge agreed that they had committed disability discrimination, but then REFUSED to order the company to make its drivers abide by the damn law.
A train company publicly announced that if their trains were already running more than a minute or two late, they would NOT stop long enough for disabled people to board or leave the train at stations if they needed help or the ramp - even though we have to book the assistance IN ADVANCE and they legally have to assist us. Nothing happened to them.
Buses, taxies and uber drivers repeatedly refuse to stop, pick up or otherwise take disabled people with zero consequences. It's bad enough that some disabled people have literally had to hide behind things as the bus approaches and get an able-bodied person to stop the bus before they hurry out to get on. And if they do take people, taxies and uber drivers will charge 3, 4, 5 times as much for the trip.
Even when you look at those t-shirts and memes that people post where they try to hit as many intersectional (and completely valid) social issues as possible - the ones that say "Love is love", "Black lives matter", "No human is illegal", "Trans women are women", "Science is real", "Women's rights are human rights," and so on - not ONCE have I seen one of those mention disability. Even people in other minorities exclude the disabled community repeatedly - many pride events are not accessible. I've seen supposedly intersectional social activists make horribly ableist statements and stand by them.
Until ableism is stopped (not just the overt shit but the systemic stuff, like assuming a significant number of people on disability are lazy, malingerers, liars etc, or attacking people parking in disabled places with the actual permits/badge to do so, all because they don't look "disabled enough" for you, or god forbid they're a wheelchair user who isn't completely paralysed) then businesses flouting the ADA and similar will keep on happening. Even if you think you're doing it to help "REAL disabled people" you're not. Because fraud is rare - less than 1% in the case of PIP (disability in the UK), and so in the vast majority of cases, you're just attacking a disabled person and calling them a liar.
Laws are only as important as their enforcement. NOT equating it with ableism at all, but it's the same thing with speed limits and stop signs.
As for t-shirts, I actually made my wife a custom shirt on RedBubble that has a picture of a dog with a horn on its head in front of a person in a wheelchair and the caption, "It's a service dog, not a magical unicorn!".
@@Brigand231 yep, exactly. It's frustrating as hell to know that there is now case law that public transport officials don't have to enforce the law if they decide it's not worth it. Which, I guess, says it all really.
20+ calls around his unborn child and wife, and he blows up on HER for not answering. Yeah, the dudes cheating
Only dogs that aid in mobility need to be large. Plus, Shetland ponies have been known to be trained as guide animals for the blind. I think they should be trained in other types of mobility aid, especially those that need an assist in standing. Dogs have to be trained not to sit when pressure is put on their backs, equines don't have that problem.
I think I also saw the case of a pig being trained as a guide animal? I could be wrong, as I saw it a long time ago, but I'd believe it; pigs are super smart.
@@briandaaranda9735 yeah, but I don't know if their vision is that great.
One benefit to the guide pony, about double the lifespan of a dog.
Ah yes, I hear a lot of opportunities open up when people deny disabled workers their rights.
The ADA don't play and they will come and lay the smackdown on an entire company if rules are violated.
rSlash, I was thinking exactly the same thing about the absentee husband during his wife's delivery.....he was with someone else who was goading him to get the paternity test "because you just never know". I'm so glad OP has a wonderful brother and SIL or she might not have survived the ordeal. Hope Karma gets the hubby.
I went to high school at a military boarding school. The upperclassmen would steal care packages from younger kids and laugh in their faces about it ("Tell your mom her cookies suck. HurrHurrHurr."). My roommate and I got tired of this. Went to his girlfriends house in town, made 2 batches of ex-lax brownies and mailed them to ourselves at school (I stole the idea from The Lords of Discipline). That night we took all the lightbulbs out of the bathroom, covered the toilet bowls in saran-wrap, and put shoe polish on the toilet seats.
Never had another care package stolen.
The first story reminds me of the wife who called his husband 2 times telling him she was in labor as a prank. And the third time, when she actually went into labor, he didn't answer thinking it was another prank. I don't know why the heck people feel the need to fool around with something as delicate as childbirth, is mindblowing to me.
You can't really compare those 2 scenarios. It's not like she had been pranking him (in this story) so he has no 'excuse'
@@lindidiutlwileng3673 I know, i wasn't comparing. It just what came into my mind when i heard that the husband ignore his wife's calls while in labor.
@@lindidiutlwileng3673 can you read? There isn’t any comparison being made.
The ADA story made me so happy to listen to. I love when the law beats incompetence.
Whenever I read/listen to stories like the first one, it's mind-boggling to me. A spouse is supposed to be there for you NO MATTER WHAT. Disagreements and arguments happen, but at the end of the day you should be concerned about their well-being even if you're mad at them. I can't understand anyone who rationalizes him ignoring her phone calls. And then being entirely unapologetic/apathetic to her traumatic experience, thinking only about how it affected HIM. Yeah...it's a no from me. I hope she divorced him.
I hope OP in the first story is even considering limiting the contact her ex has with the child. Not only did he abandon his heavily pregnant wife, he also abandoned their child. He didn't even manage to own up to his behaviour. In fact, he's blaming OPs amazing brother and SIL. I don't think I could ever trust someone like him around my child. I'm glad OP and her child are okay, and that they have the brother and SIL in their lives. Wish them all the best.
Im sorry but
She walked out on him
He was at work and maybe he didn't have his phone on him or they don't allow phones
We don't know his work situation
It's not his fault for not stopping his wife from walking out the house
@@HeoBaby24 Like yeah hes kinda in the wrong for how he acted by ignoring her after she declined which declining was suspicious everybody is ragging on the man because I dont know why since we hear a one way story about a woman would is most likely biased
@@SweATZ87 reddit I'd biased against men in general dude
I read another story where this guy girlfriend calm she paid for a trip only to find out BY HER EX BOYFRIEND that he was the one who paid for it he got upset and when to spend the vacation alone
But everyone said he was wrong because he said earlier in the post he doesn't want to owe people anything
When that wasn't the chase his girlfriend lied to him about who paid and not only that but that it was her ex who said he doesn't even like
And in this story it's kinda the same thing
But yah he's sorta in the wrong but you have to understand that some work place you can't or not supposed to have phones on you
So he could've left it in the car or something
But yah she wrong for walking out without telling him where she was going or when she'll be back
I can understand him not answering her after everyone
Every man wants piece at mind to know they're the father it's not just cheating the baby could also be stolen or swap and the parents won't realize it
At least he asked instead of going behind his back
@@HeoBaby24 All those reddit mods and incels simping for women because they got none
@@SweATZ87 um incels don't simp for women, they're enthusiastic practitioners of misogyny.
The paternity test is highly recommended. Heard a story about a family had a child for 8 years and husband saw some odd things in the vhild and got a test. It proved he wasn't but than it was also proven the mother wasn't the parent either. I need to find that story to see if their was ever an update on it
Oh yeah! I think they got their baby switched with another family's and are suing.
yeah, that was here, about 2 weeks ago.
It blows my mind that it could even happen, Here in Australia, the baby does not leave the parents side unless it is in one of those incubator/quarantine things due to being vary premature or having major issues, even then, unless the kid needs 24/7 intense monitoring, that capsule thing will usually be at the mothers bedside.
when my 2 kids were born, they did not leave the room without one of us carrying them. the only time a swap could happen was nearly a YEAR later when they started daycare.
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@@myopinion69420
A term you're looking for is
"neonatal intensive care unit (NICU)".
And the "incubator"-box tends to be more professionally referenced nowadays as "isolette" or "humidicrib".
As for the "baby display rooms" where all these baby-swapping happen, those are seemingly just called as "admitting nurseries" somewhat confusingly enough.
Though these rooms really have been pretty much "'Murica"-exclusive thing to begin with
( aside of course for the hospitals heavily influenced by USA-Marine-Bases and so on like say in Japan,
at least if media like "A Couple of Cuckoos / Cuckoo's Fiancee" is to be believed ).
EDIT:
Oh yes indeed, re-read the
"Why Hospitals Started Displaying Newborn Babies Through Windows -
How peering at babies through glass became a feel-good staple of American maternity wards"-article again and these rooms indeed were primarily a "'Murica'-thing to begin with and indeed for sake of "feel-good"-morale-booster especially for "baby-booming" and such.
Otherwise generally speaking, especially in hospitals build since 1960's, there tends to be enough room for both parents and their baby-child to reside within
( at least that is the case with my local-city-hospital in Salo-Finland that was opened in year-1961;
I personally had to reside in a blue-light-isolette for awhile since had a high level of bilirubin alongside slight oxygen-deprivation due the prolonged labour due me having larger head than me mom's pelvis or something-like-that-I-cannot-recall-the-terms ).
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I agree a test after the baby is born is ok if you want to make sure it wasn't switched, him asking beforehand "to make sure it's his" is a HUGE red flag. He's projecting his cheating on her so he us an escape
Didn't RSlash read that before or wasn't the kid 5 in the one he read
The husband in the first OP was definitely cheating on OP, and the ex-coworker and HR person in the third OP were hooking up.
1st story: So glad OP has her brother in her life.
"Didnt tell me why he wouldnt answer". That line made me have the exact same reaction you did
I am 100% in favor of paternity tests regardless of if you suspect someone of cheating.
Though with every woman I have talked about it in the past, they say that it's absolutely grounds for breaking up.
And honestly, if it came to that I would still demand a test.
Especially when you look at the statistics...... out of 4 million births a year, about 28,000 get switched. Granted most of then are caught before the baby leaves the hospital
ADA isn't that well-enforced. If it were, there'd be wheelchair ramps, self-operated lifts, Braille, and audible signs everywhere
Yeah, I kinda have to laugh when people claim they "know the ADA", it's a HUGE "document" that covers many areas. It's easy enough for folks to know parts of it and even specialize in parts of it, but the ADA as a whole is too broad for any one person to completely know.
I fought for 2 years to have my service dog at work with me. Literally wrote the company's service dog policy for them because not a single person in the entirety of the company had any clue what to do with them. I got interrogated, harassed and even cornered by the senior manager and never allowed my service dog. Why? Because PTSD service dogs for non veterans were apparently not real, plus she was a german shepherd. (Which my senior manager didnt like) My senior managers daughter had a diabetic alert poodle so he was convinced he knew everything. They said she was emotional support despite me sending them the ADA's website and highlighted exactly where it said all the tasks she was trained for were literally tasks that ada defined as falls under being a service dog. And the numerous times I ended up having panic attacks at work, severely disassociating in the middle of doing things, and accidentally hurting myself repeatedly because she wasn't there to alert to this stuff and interrupt it still didn't convince them. Crazy thing is while this was going on I was literally given intermittent FMLA, which (for the kind I had) you literally had to be disabled to have. And HR had to approve that! So they were like "ah yes you are very disabled and need to be able to not be at work. But also your lying and not really disabled so you can't have the thing that would Literally make you able to be at work"
You would think a huge international freight company would have actually been on top of following the ADA. Should have taken their arrow out of the logo and thrown it back at them.
#2 - OP works for absolute idiots. Anyone with a brain and a television has heard of alert dogs! Too bad she didn't get to sue, but at least they now allow Josie to accompany her to work to keep her safe and alerted when needed. I just want pupper tax! I wanna see Josie!
Story 3 I hate food thieves. Just bring your own lunch or just ask.
Story 1: Your suspicions that father is projecting because he's cheating match mine. In any case, she's making the right move by divorcing him. Infidelity pales in comparison to failing to be there when his wife was giving birth.
Watch him not be remorseful until she turns out to be his
Agreed. Ignore my calls and miss something that important, better hope you have been cheating, cuz you are now homeless.
You are spot-on. I had caught my husband cheating after my first child was born. Unfortunately, when I went to my doctor to discuss contraceptives after that birth, I discovered that I was already pregnant with #2.
Fast forward to labor starting on my youngest - hubby was MIA, so my mom drove me to the hospital. Hubby was a deputy, and used his job having crazy hours to hide his affairs. That is how I confirmed his second affair - he completely missed the birth.
I knew the marriage was over, I simply needed time to save enough up to be able to afford to leave his sorry carcass.
By the time that happened, over a year later, he was on mistress #3. Once the divorce was final, he ghosted us. That was many decades ago. He is currently married to wife #4. I think the only reason this marriage is successful is that age has slowed him down. Or he met a woman who has him firmly under her thumb…?
Anyway, if hubby isn’t a plane ride away when the contractions begin, and still manages to miss the birth, he is likely cheating on you.
8:14 I volunteer at the zoo and we have had people try and pass of their pets as “Service animals”.
And let me tell you, we don’t question them or ask for any proof they are service dogs, we only intervene when it’s clear they are either not actually trained service dogs but are just untrained pets or if they are service dogs that relapsed on their training.
If my supervisor is to be believed, you can get into some real hot water legally if you deny someone who needs a service animal access or deprive them of their service animal and something happens.
the husband ingorning her is also something abusive partners do, its cold shouldering as punishment. literally he wanted to punish her for not doing what HE wanted, "you dont obey i find ways to distress you".
I have 2 ideas for what resulted in the boss calling: one is to keep op from suing and the other is because op is one of if not, the best worker he's got on the job and can't afford to lose him. Especially because the HR lady and. A food theif decided to mix bussiness and pleasure.
3 they already suspected something and the behavior towards op confirmed the suspicion and gave them enough of a case to kick them out.
@@velvety2006 yes this too! The new opportunities was likely a thank you for exposing the truth.
We made up some nice sandwiches of: lettuce, tomato, onion, pickle, mayo, and mustard with a nice helping of “Strongheart” shredded beef dog food. All wrapped up nicely and put in the employee fridge to catch the lunch thief we had. He never stole lunches after that!
Whenever I hear a food thief story I think of my old flatmate Colin, he didn't go the spicy route, Colin was known for having a weak stomach. What he did was so much worse, he built a home made incubator and collected "samples" on the way home the next day he took samples from door handles the escalators on the tube etc. It should suffice to say that the food thief learned a hard messy lesson, don't steal from Colin or you might end up in hospital with cholera.
All children should be genetically tested. NTA on what the brother did and not apologizing and starting the divorce.
I've heard too many stories about babies being swapped in the hospital. My husband is my first and only partner and I'm STILL getting a paternity test.
@@katiebrown3811 they also can do a screening that can show up to 48 genetic disorders that can be seen from birth and if found then usually they can be managed to the point that the child should have a much easier life and usually a longer lifespan as well.
I agree especially with those who are chimera or switch from birth. Plus there's benefits of getting a DNA test. The issue with these stories is the how they request the test. Why not state it in the beginning of the relationship. Or do it without her knowing. Why the theatrics? While you can do one during pregnancy, I think doing it after birth is better for my concerns above.
The reason why the poster hated the dna test was because of the husband's reasoning... "just to make sure"... It made it sound like he is implying something... the poster works at home so cheating is honestly very unlikely... If he said its for medical reasons (family history of a condition) or to prevent the child from being swapped in the hospital then its fine... But the guy was starting something when he stated his reasoning for getting a dna test... One important part of relationships is trust, and what the guy did implies he dont trust his wife... The brother have nothing to apologize about, the husband needs to be held accountable for not fucking picking up important phone calls...
@@charminglady2011 Doing it with out peoples knowledge seem illegal because how you gonna get the DNA
I would like to reiterate this yet again:
1. Service dogs can be any breed or mix.
--My first was a Chow Chow x Keeshond. My second was a Husky x APBT (still in training, doing well).
--I've personally met Greater Swiss Mountain Dogs, Yorkies, Poodles, Labradors, King Charles Spaniels, a Catahoula Leopard Dog, and German Shepherds who were working.
2. Service dogs can be any size.
--Six pound Yorkie? Yes! One hundred pound Dane mix? Yes!
3. Service dogs do NOT need anything specific marking them as a service dog in the US.
--We are required to have control of our dog. How we maintain that control is not regulated. Some handlers use voice. I used a collar and leash on my first, and on my second I use a basic guide harness because she prefers to have more direction.
--Capes, Harnesses, and Service Dog Vests are TOTALLY optional. We often mark them but we are NOT required to.
4. Not all disabilities are visible.
--You cannot tell a person has seizures while looking at them. The same goes for Deafness, PTSD, Autism, Bipolar Disorder, Anxiety Disorders, Heart Conditions, and Breathing Conditions, among other things.
--Invisible disabilities are often supported by specially trained dogs.
5. Messing with a service dog team or harassing them is a crime, depending on location. The consequences vary by offense.
--The crime is weighted higher for guide dogs in many US states.
--The definition of guide dog can vary by state. In South Carolina, deaf dogs are considered guide dogs.
6. Service dogs are permitted anywhere the general public can go. In the workplace, they are only limited by where it is safe.
--Contamination risks are a concern in some locations including food manufacturing or pharmaceuticals and this is a permitted exception for obvious reasons.
You CANNOT tell every disabled person is disabled on sight. I look normal, but I rely on my service dog to navigate because I am profoundly deaf on one side (she does more tasks than deaf alert, but that is her primary).
I'm profoundly deaf on one side too. i'm curious how does your service dog help you out?
Yay another chow mix handler. You make 3 that I know of including myself. The other handler I know works a pure bred chow chow. How hard was training for you?
@@maris7457 they can alert you to people approaching in the side as well as alert you to someone calling your name so if you can't hear it you know where to turn to face that person. They can alert to any sound of importance that you may miss. Like my girl takes me to the person who calls me name as I have conductive hearing loss. So loud crowd's and only one voice I miss it but she doesn't and makes sure I respond to things I may not heat myself.
@@amberwoods4743 that's awesome!
@@maris7457 she alerts me to alarms, my name, and specific words and sounds! Such as knocking, "package"/"delivery", and my phone if it vibrates.
Be it a partner, a family member or a friend: when ‘your person’ doesn’t have your back, fails you when you need them, it’s absolutely devastating.
So let me put myself in a situation that maybe I wanted petty revenge on a co worker and that I was gonna eat their lunch. The anxiety I'd have from that person possibly walking in while I'm eating their lunch is too much. What if someone else notices and calls me out?? These thoughts alone make me so confused about how this is so common. 😕