r/Bestof My Mother-in-Law is Secretly My Stalker
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- čas přidán 9. 07. 2024
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0:00 Intro
0:11 My MIL was my stalker
3:41 My SILs best friend is trying to get with my husband
13:38 I am not in my parents will at all
17:26 Commenter predicts the future
"Sneaky Snitch" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) License: CC By Attribution 3.0 - Komedie
Imagine calling her husband a “simp”. OP’s MIL is extremely TOXIC, imagine stalking your daughter in law for no actual reason. It’s disgusting behaviour and I’m so happy OP’s husband is standing beside her, cares about her safety and happiness.
I imagine this is a abbreviation of what she said. No-one of that age would use that word.
*Just making an observation based on that particular word.
Yes
*was
Tower of Xerically Infuriating Calamity
I call my bf a simp as a joke but I am the mega simp 😭🤣
That second story is GROSS. Imagine encouraging your friend to try and cheat with your brother, like pushing your friend to sleep with your brother. In front of his wife. In their own home.
The whole thing is gross, it’s actually disgusting behaviour. I’m also laughing how the sister had a tantrum, it makes me think his half-sister wishes she could sleep with him, she’s weirdly controlling and trying to destroy his happy marriage… is she pushing her friend as an “alternative” as a de facto in her place? Either way, whole thing is gross, and I’d go low/no contact with his sister, she’s actually insane.
All her comments about how their unborn baby is “ruining things” and “should’ve had an abortion” just shows her true colours.
well considering the sister is the product of an affair herself It wouldn't be surprising if she was brought up by her "parents" saying that cheating was ok or if she came to that mindset on her own it clearly shows that the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.
I do get some major "SIL has a brother complex and it is slightly sexual" vibe though. So I think you hit that nail spot on.
Believe me, you're not the only one who had that impression about lil' sis...she acted way too jelaous for it to just be about Chloe wanting some of OPs husband...
@@lacko623 What we as a society need to keep striving for is that both men and women regardless of what gender or sexuality they identify with etc. need to be held accountable for any form of infidelity. abuse, stalking, assault, and HARASSMENT. false accusations etc. no exceptions. when holding people accountable for their actions we need to make sure the accusations are directed at the right person, the accusing and the accused party are being truthful and not lying, and get all the facts before passing judgment if caught lying the lying party needs to be held accountable and punished.
Dude I had the same vibe...it seems like she has incestuous feelings for her brother. Glad to know I'm not crazy
Yo, second story:
The OP is seiously a patient, collected and calm person, thinking about the situation as rationally as possible, while being aware her pregger hormones may be irking her, thus not acting recklessly, accusing him of cheating right away; and her husband is an absolute KING.
Yes, they deserve each other because both of them seem to be decent human beings :)
100% agreed. SIL is probably jealous of them having their lives together when she... how do I put this lightly... is a piece of TRASH. And don't even get me started on "Chloe." YUCK. Seriously, they need to just go complete NC with the SIL and cut her off! And they are going to be such a happy little family when the baby comes! That kid is going to be so loved, so treasured, and so happy! One of the best stories I've seen on Reddit so far.
@@giggle_snort im pretty sure she is mentally ill and has some clear issues with separation. Although what she did was terrible we shouldn’t trash talk her
Story 1: I feel so bad for OP. She lived in fear for so long. I also feel so bad for the husband. He did try to confront his mother and they went to therapy together. He must be feeling so guilty for not protecting OP better.
Story 2: god, I remember this story. SIL and Chloe suck so much. Infuriating.
Story 3: it's so incredibly shitty to leave kids out of the will. I'm glad the OP and the nephew have each other. The nephew seems like he'll do well.
Yeah, story 1 is wild...hopefully, MIL is burning in the afterlife.
Story 2: As messed up as it sounds, why do I have the feeling that Chloe wasn't the only one having the hots for OPs husband...?
Story 3: Yeah, it's not even about just the finances. But leaving everything to one child and nothing to the other? That's favouritism on a whole new scale...
@@lacko623 I, unfortunately, had that same thought regarding the second story. :/
@@lacko623 wym by that comment about the 2nd story?
@@ACuteBlastosis What I meant was...judging by the clinginess and tantrum that little sis did, which reeked of jealousy, it wasn't just Chloe who was really interested in OPs husband...
@@lacko623sister was living vicariously through Chloe. I hope brother has gone NC because no apology even sincere is acceptable to be back in their lives. Imagine what she would have done to the baby?
RSLASH seems so exciting about the good lawyer husband. I think he has been reading these stories so much he forgets there is more good guys out there. He isn't alone.
Yeah it's refreshing to read stories about good partners.
@@rSlash I agree but sadly we don't usually talk about the good ones because it is just expected and isn't as entertaining but I do appreciate hearing them.
To quote UBW Abridged, "The human condition reacts more viscerally to negative environmental changes."
@@TheOfficialTarynTots That is so true that it's only the baddies that stand out. I just read a comment from someone that almost casually mentioned that women don't get along with each other!!! Yes we do, it's only the awful ones though that made the good stories and the ones we hear about.
@@It-is-me...Melsie I feel like I know what comment that is, and, yeah! Most women easily get along with each other. Just like many couples get along and are loving and supportive. But when we're on Reddit (or just hearing stories from there), we're kinda in it for the drama, and the dramatic stories usually have people fighting and not being loving and supportive. Thus, we're in an environment where the usual IS unusual.
First 2 stories: always so wholesome when someone is afraid to talk about something with their spouse, and it turns out they were thinking the exact same thing. Don't you love it when couples work through their issues together?
I love it a lot. It's pretty rare to see in these types of forums, but every so often OP gets support from the person they need to get it from and it really just hits the spot.
Story 1: I can imagine the only hymn being played at that MIL's funeral: "Ding-Dong, The Witch Is Dead!"
Story 2: OP's husband is not only a keeper, he deserves a freakin' MEDAL for defending his wife and unborn child the way he did!
"Witch" is one letter off from the choice of word I'd use to describe that evil MIL.
I think the husband in story 2 behaved like all husbands should. That should be normal. No medal needed.
@@ungarischfsikurs743 Considering how many stories rSlash have covered where quite the opposite happened, a medal is most definitely needed.
@@nils920 I understand your point of view but normal people don't behave like the crazy ones in the other stories. Therefore, I don't agree ;)
Story 3 OP is an absolute gem for not only staying in contact with the nephew but helping him through school.
The first story ended surprisingly wholesome. I'm glad that OP's husband is able to accept that his mother was being awful to his wife, and is supporting her instead of closing himself off and blaming OP for everything. I hope everything works out for them, and that they can move on from this and be happy.
I’m also glad he had taken her side while his mother was still alive, real supportive spouse.
My uncle lived through the second story, his SIL had a half sister who she would bring around his house and flirt with him. He noticed after a few days and shut it down real quick by making out with his wife right in front of them and saying "my beautiful wife who I love and will never cheat on...did I mention I hate blondes?" HS was a blonde.
it's a rude response to rude behavior. I like it.
What happened after words? Please, this sounds too good
@@kervinsantos5808 Afterwards SIL and HS left with their tails in between their legs, and not too soon after covid hit so my uncle implemented a strict no visitors allowed rule since his wife was diabetic. Haven't had an issue from them since.
@@clawsoncentral4291 best ending ever and I hope your uncle and his wife have a good life. I can see the SIL and HS avoid him at any gatherings
@@kervinsantos5808 Like the plague lol
Looks like the sister got her morals straight from her cheating mother.
It makes sense since her father had straight up abandoned her because she's not his kid and her mother is a cheater, so, most likely, she ended up living with her mother the whole time and I'm not suprised that her mother is where she got her behavior from.
@@spydersoup8447 the “father” did nothing wrong. He didn’t abandon her. Her biological father should have been there for her
@@organicmagic8822 How could he when she's not biologically his and her mother was a cheater?
@@spydersoup8447 huh
Story 2: So Chloe started making advances, the husband got uncomfortable, and when he wants it to stop, the SIL is convinced that he's being abused by OP? What the peck?
How did SIL get from that to that?
Clearly she wants to go in his pants and thinks the typical "oh I'm just touching him not SA him he's just being sensitive".
Also ironic the sil said "men cheat when there wives are pregnant" yet her herself is trying to cheat with him, what a scumy sil
Honestly, I wouldn't be surprised if SIL had extreme abandonment issues. Like, at a pathological level. I think she really needs therapy. It's not an excuse for what she did, but it's a good explanation imo.
projection
It's simple, the sister wants to fuck her brother but she's fearful of the taboo. So she pushes for her brother to sleep with her friend who is most likely very similar to the sister. She wants vicarious validation from her brother which she gets from him fucking a someone like her. She's also most likely aroused by knowing any intimate details shared by friend about her brother. It's incest by proxy.
She is just trying to manipulate him.
So I have heard story 3 before and I think it is missing an update in the middle... I could have sworn there was an update where OP did confront the parents and found out that he was born after a miscarry where the parents had decided NOT to have more kids and he was just a "mistake". They also secretly resented his existence because they had to work more to support the family and "missed" out on watching their golden child grow up... That was when he cut them out but I hadn't heard this new update! Good to see OP thriving after all this time!!!
If so, that would explain what happened in between
Thank you! I was wondering if there was missing something because it felt so weird. The one time he was helping the parents and in the next post the were no contact. It makes much more sense with the missing update you provided.
That’s how I remember it too.
Story 2: Basically even Chloe is just a tool for the SIL. She's selfish and just trying to get OP's husband together so she herself can be closer to him because he's with her friend.
Freud would love her
Holy shit... that first story... I just have no words, to be perfectly honest. At the very least, I can't imagine the kind of emotions and stress OP and their husband went through that whole experience. Makes me wish I could hug them both somehow from my computer desk.
First Story: Wow, its crazy that u discover who ur stalker was by their death. Not going to lie, OP's MIL was insane to be that invested into her son's relationship. The amount of manipulation this woman placed in this man makes her so very evil
Second Story: OP is not being delusional. This is all 100% red flags on Chloe and SIL's part. SIL IS trying to encourage Chloe to get with OP's husband and Chloe IS flirting with OP's husband. Glad that OP's husband was so observant and he immediately defended his wife against his sister. She criticize OP when she and her friend always come to the house to swim. Well, at least OP's husband seen his sister's true colors. OP needs to keep this man no matter what
Third Story: Well OP just discovered that their parents played favorites. I can’t stand parents who play favorites and knowing this, OP won’t need to feel obligated to help them with anything. Literally that comment; they will eventually seek OP for care sooooo
Husband in the second story is a real MVP, OP is lucky to find a man like that.
For the sister how awful that she thought it was ok to encourage an affair knowing OP was pregnant.
SIL is a product of cheating and trying to recreate the same scenario for her brother. She needs therapy.
I've heard the second story before and I always find the bit were the wife laughed hysterically when the husband asked if she's noticed the friends behavior quite funny, I can imagine having a similar reaction. like "you bet I've noticed! god damn!"
*First OP:* Deleted has been going _through_ it!
Seriously, I hope OP and her husband can recover from LL that’s happened.
*Second OP:* I hope I marry a guy like OP’s husband (minus the BH SIL and Chloe). Actually, OP’s husband in the first story sounds great also. Anywho, I’m glad things worked out for OP.
As others have pointed out, I think Chloe's not the _only_ person attracted to OP's husband. I have a twisted thought: what if OP's SIL was forcing Chloe on OP's husband so that she (SIL) can live vicariously through her? I hope I'm wrong.
*Third OP:* OP’s parents didn’t even leave him any heirlooms?! How messed up. I’m glad OP went NC with his parents and sister, and I’m happy for him and his new family.
In the third story, they also forgot to leave him a "spite dollar" so he can take it to court if he wishes. Of course, it would cost much more in legal fees than you could ever get out of it, OP's definitely better off just leaving them alone.
I feel like 90% of the problems people post about on Reddit can just be solved by "speak to them directly, not to strangers on Reddit".
OP1: You know, it's actually a heartwarming story that the husband was able to accept that his mother did that and apologize to his wife. When he said "I bet you're glad" I wonder if it came from a place where he knew his mom was the stalker.
I'll bet that it did. Considering that his mother didn't exactly get along with OP anyway (aside from the stalking), if he did suspect his mother of being his wife's stalker, that turned regular mourning into complex grief. Complex grief is a beast to deal with, so I would actually expect an outburst like that.
Husband in the second story is an example of a great partner. He tried to resolve a relationship issue on its own, but brought it up when he found it necessary to address. Then, he defended his spouse against baseless accusations, even against his own sister whom he previously adored. 10/10 partner material OP 👍
A good man indeed
Last Story: I think it’s pretty amazing that Op made an update over a decade after posting, i wonder if we’ll get another update in another 10 years?
If so, i hope it starts with “my parents begged me to help them out because my sister ran off on them”
Op you sound like a great person and im glad you flourished despite having an awful family.
Good luck to you and your new family
Remembers password after 11 years
I didn’t realize Reddit has been going on that long. Damn
I just wish we had an actual update about the actual conversation with their parents. Like did op ask his parents about the will, did they lie gaslight and deflect, did they admit it, did he just not speak to them again, without asking?
@VanguardAngel I think its been around since ?2009z20092012????m
@VanguardAngel I think its been around since ?2009z20092012????m
2nd story:
OP's SIL: "You're a simp!"
OP: "Yeah, I'm a simp. For your brother. And he's one for me too."
Story 2: It’s so nice to see a spouse on Reddit who is actually supportive and protective of OP
On there or anywhere else lol
Story 2: The power move would have been, rather than telling her directly, to just continue to act oblivious but find some reason to sneak things into conversation about how cheaters are terrible people, people who try to get married people to cheat are shitty, and so on. Let her get the hint by casually talking about how much you hate cheaters, while continuing to outwardly behave like Chloe is just being friendly.
You have some growing up to do. What they did is the only healthy reaction
@@radhiadeedou8286 I don't dispute that. I was speaking hypothetically. You misunderstood and assume I was genuinely suggesting this when it was clear by context that it was not serious.
The first story. Op’s husband should try to get access to all mil’s electronics in order to attempt to prove that she was the stalker.
Last Story: Great video once again! Tho Rslash did miss quite a lot of info about the last story unfortunately. The parents explained to him after he confronted them that "they just don't see him as their son" because he was an "accident baby" and that "made it easier to love his sister more". Also other bs reasons like they view him ad a disappointment cause 1. he'a in Accountancy and not law, 2. didn't like his fiancé and 3. he wasn't closer to his sister who basically stole $2k from him and made him go into debt in his last year of univeristy.
And from what i know he decided that if they don't see him as their son he won't see them as his parents, and as far as he knows they've only tried to reach out once when his first kid was born, and thats it.
Edit: also apparently they're upset cause he lives 40 minutes away? I genuinely don't know if they're upset on if thats too close or too far away considering they were ALSO disappointed with him for going away for university for 3 years dispite them not seeing him as part of the family. if they don't see him as part of the family wouldn't they be happy for him to be away from them and not their responsibilityanymore?? Just confusing behaviour and most likely upset cause their obedient helper was no longer around
(Forgive typos its 4am lmao
Thanks for the extra info
The story/update posted was lacking in details and the ending was very unsatisfying. Jumping from discovering the will to ten years later and having no contact with the parents without any explanation. All right, I guess OP is happy now?
@@misterdfg no worries! As far as i know he's very happy. His wife's parents from what i know fully embrace him and he loves them a lot. So he's still got some parental love there. He also loves his wife dispite his parents disaproval and loves his kids too, and as mentioned in the video he hasn't spoken to his parents or sister in 11 years so sounds like a happy life to me!
@@misterdfg also yeah thats why i went to look more into the story cause it just felt like there was something really missing/incomplete about it
I appreciate the full update. I had guessed that it might have been an old will made before OP was even born. My parents never updated their wills from the time that I was a young child. When my father died, I was in my thirties with three kids. We found it funny that according to the will, I was supposed to go live with my older sister.
I've heard the second story a few times and I agree. It always strikes me how mature and responsible the husband in the story is.
1st Story: So... I have a sinking feeling the OP's relationship is going to hit some nasty bumps and may not survive the aftermath of this for two reasons.
One is the fact that she never mentioned HOW the MIL kept getting the OP's contact information. I'm presuming the OP stopped giving information to the MIL when she was suspected and the only way... the husband even though he ADMITTED that he suspected. She might still be in the relief stage not to think about it, but when they tell the family, they going to have questions...
Two is the fact that the husband openly admitted to highly suspecting it but was not willing to go LC in some form. I know there was abuse on his end from his mother, but this is really bad. They need to have some SERIOUS conversations about this. His guilt is not misplaced at all, this will eat legitimately at him for a long time. Once the OP's relief stage is over, there is a possibility that resentment will occur for all the terror she endured. Therapy will help, but the facts of this are pretty bad.
FINALLY, someone else saying what i was thinking 😭
I think her MIL might've installed some tracking or hacking devices or software that allows her to find and cyberstalk OP undetected while also being untraceable by any type of cyber security or tech expert.
@@spydersoup8447 Uh, I very much doubt she was that tech savvy (or at least anywhere close to that degree). I don't think the OP ever mentioned physical visits to install them which would be insane to consider in the first place. So maybe email attachments is possible if the OP was that tech illiterate to open them.
I firmly believe it was the husband leaking the information, he was thoroughly abused by the mother to keep in touch after the things she mentioned. He likely just hadn't admitted it yet.
@@jboy804 That's a likely possibly too. That would explain his realization and why he felt guilty after connecting the dots himself.
The own MIL being a stalker - that betrayal's gotta hurt. Being tormented by someone that should be close to you... I'm not saying I'm glad the MIL died, but I'm glad OP is finally able to enjoy peace and comfort again. I just wish it didn't have to be this way...
If I were going to try to give SIL the benefit of the doubt, which I'm not really inclined to do, I'd say maybe she's overly attached to her brother because their dad abandoned her and OP's husband kind of assumed a fatherly role for her, but it's still weird. She definitely needs to go to therapy to deal with her attachment issues if that's the case. This assumes that she thought the dad was her father though and was hurt by him leaving. If that isn't the case she's just a psycho.
This sounds like it's exactly what's wrong. She needs therapy.
Yes! She is so desperate and hurt that she thinks her brother loving anyone else means he doesn’t love her anymore! I feel a s bad for her as I do for the couple!
That's exactly what I was thinking. He's a defacto father figure and she's just immature enough to get jealous when he gets married, because his attention is then divided. And when his wife (OP) gets pregnant, she becomes infuriated because it puts even more distance between her and him. She definitely needs therapy to work on her attachment issues.
He didn't abandon her cause he's not her dad
@@radhiadeedou8286 try telling that to a traumatized mentally ill person (what I'm saying is she needs therapy in order to stop being a horrible person)
Man that second story husband is awesome that’s the man people should try to be
Talk about a monster mil. I'm glad the ops husband was so supportive and understanding despite not knowing who her stalker was and being very angry when knowing the truth
i want to hire RSLASH to do my eulogy
It be funny if he was on that site that you can give money to the actors to say whatever you writing.
Complete with puppy bloopers! 😁 lol
@@ashh4929 I would definitely want the puppy bloopers 😂
Be careful what you wish for, I hear he likes to be the one to put you in the ground O_o
I'll pay him in exposure
The story with Chloé reminds me of my step MIL...
His dad & her met & got married just after us.
She was 10 years older than my husband (the age of his older brother) and she seemed to really take a liking to my husband...
She was always really bubbly, touchy & flirty around him.
At first I thought that was just her personality, but it quickly became clear that she wasn't like that with anyone else.
She'd step between us & demand his undivided attention.
He's a people pleaser, so he'd never say anything or show how uncomfortable she made him...
Except when she hopped on a motorcycle behind him & wiggled her chest all over his back & reached in his FRONT POCKET to 'search for the keys'.... that was the day he got freaked out.
We were to spend the next day with them for Thanksgiving & while in the shower he begged me to stay by his side & not let her do her usual tricks. I laughed like OP because I was also pregnant & thinking I was making stuff up in my head....
I was so relieved that I wasn't imagining stuff!
After that she would call him nearly every weekend to come meet with her so they could talk about how his dad treated her... ugh.
He would go & tell her that he warned her before they got married, but whatever.
He finally flipped out on her & went VVLC with them that VALENTINE'S DAY when she called him up wanting him to meet her at the park to discuss his dad...
He told her we were headed our to celebrate our first Valentine's Day as a married couple & he couldn't.
She cried & begged & he pretty much told her off.
They haven't spoke much since.
Her & his dad split up years ago.
Luckily she hasn't tried to mess with my husband again.....
The family situation in the last story is EXACTLY what I’m living right now. My grandparents pushed away my aunt to the point she went no contact over 20 years ago, and my mom and uncle pushed the full time care of my grandmother onto me. I’m struggling to find a way out of this mess I’m in. My mom and uncle wanted the attention of my grandparents until they needed any kind of care.
"You stalking my wife?"
"what are you, a simp?"
top tier comeback
I heard the third story from Lost Genre. The update that he posted was more recent than the one on here. I can't remember the parents' reason, something like how they didn't see their son as their son or something like that, but it was a pathetic reason. OP didn't need anything from them and they deserve whatever suffering is inflicted upon them by their terrible favorite daughter. Despite that, it was more or less a happy ending. OP got what he needed and he felt like he could burn the bridge with them.
2nd Story I'm giving that husband 10 gold stars for the way he stood up to his sister!
I like how the 2 stories which explained problems with the husbands ended well, it usually never happens!
Story 1: I wish there was an update on OP & husband telling the family that the MIL was the stalker.
Story 2: I honestly wonder what the MIL & FIL thinks of their daughter acting like this with their son, OP, & their not even born grandchild.
Story 3: it doesn't matter if OP's sister is a screw up or that OP is in a better financial situation, the glossing over of the neglect they endured over the favoritism is concerning, especially because this response shows they do care about it and are making excuses for how/why their actions don't matter.
as an aunt, I can never imagine saying anything so horrible about my niece
that baby hasn't even been born yet imagine being jealous of a fetus
Yeah, right?? I would rather shoot myself in the foot than tell a pregnant sibling such a horrible thing about their baby.
Story 1: i have no words…hope OP and her husband can work together and get through the loss and the reveal
Story 2: W Husband. I hope to marry a guy like this. Also I love how they communicated with each other.
Story 3: Oooh boy. Time to play my “favorite” game. *Guess Who’s The Favorite?*
first story: husband is a real man, a true stand up guy. in a moment of grief and guilt, he said something mean to his wife. however, later he reflected on it, figured out how he got there, and apologized to his wife. what wonderful emotional intelligence! i love it. wish our society valued that kinda thing more. its difficult to reflect on feelings, behavior, thoughts, etc and i hope it becomes a skill important to more people!
The last story is the EXACT same situation I'm in, I'm just trying to gather money to go to college. My sister is just going down all the wrong paths, is a total screw up by the textbook definition, but she's everyone's favorite. And sadly she had to force another life to suffer along with her. The last story gave me hope that my nephew just might turn out alright. He's only 1 now, but it's never too early to hope. I already hoped for a good future, but this built on that hope. Thank you, random reddit user.
The will story: talk about choosing the kid who literally wants to wait for you to die to get your stuff over the kid who literally helped with many things and didn’t treat you like a ATM or even ask for money to do the thing you wanted them to do. Congratulations parents, both kids don’t love you. You drove one away and the other loves you just so she can get the money and objects when you pass
I hope OP in the third story knows he can contest the will. If absolutely nothing was willed to him, I wouldn’t have brought it up at all, not brought their attention to it and just waited. After dealing with a few shitty family members, I’ve learned you need to include them in the will, even if it’s just £1, to show they weren’t forgotten and it makes it very difficult to contest. If OP’s still left with absolutely nothing, he should contest the will.
Glad to know this MIL Stalker is no more.
Maybe that car accident she died in was a case of karmic justice for OP.
In any case, the MIL’s headstone should read “Here lies MIL: bitter, hateful and the creepy stalker that cause fear and such. Will NOT be missed!”
As the black sheep in my family that last story made my stomach churn.
I have been no contact with my toxic parents and their flying monkeys (including all but two of my many siblings) for almost 15 years, and low contact for at least 5 years before that. I am certain that I have been disinherited from both parents' wills.
My parents, however, bet on the wrong horse. I have gone on to grad school, earned my degrees, built my career, am a contributing member of my community, and have managed to build a circle of loving family and friends (we don't share DNA but we are still family). In the meantime, my parents got stuck with my sociopath but yet still golden-child older sibling who has been using them for their money with one failed get-rich-quick-scheme after another, and who is counting the days until they die so he can pillage what is left of the estate (my mother told me once golden-child is the executor of their wills - I am certain GC will take full, and dishonest, advantage of that). I will bet that even my other siblings who are still part of the will get nothing after GC is done with it.
So ultimately, I am left out of receiving a share of an estate that will be crumbs by the time GC is done with it, both while my parents are living and after they have died. But, I am also in a place of happiness and love that I never had in my toxic family of origin. And, my toxic parents are stuck with GC and will be lucky if GC doesn't make them homeless before they die, and with a child they prize but who ultimately lacks the brain wiring to love them in any way.
I am content to let that be my justice. Karma is a beautiful warrior goddess.
Story One: Sounds like all is the better if the "stalker" and MIL were the same person! Not to make light of the MIL's death, but that type of behavior is synonymous with what serial killers do-stalk their victims for days, weeks, months before murdering them. It's so consistent too. Pretty sure that the MIL would've eventually hired a hitman or made an attempt on OP's life herself. That's how serious it was.
Story Two: No means no! No means no! No means no! The dude's wife is pregnant and they're married, but the sister's friend kept trying to get him to chear with her. That's low...
More so, the sister needs to butt out! They're half-siblings, not husband and wife! He's got his life and she's got hers! This type of possessive behavior is EXACTLY what causes siblings to become estrange. It's toxic!
Story Three: Updated after ten years? I'm glad to hear there was an update and that OP's life is on the right track, but I have to question-why bother? Past drama is usually best left in the past. "Gravedigging" online seldom drudges up good results! X'D
The story with OP not being in the parents' will reminds me of the episode of American Dad when Stan found out Francine isn't in her adoptive parents' will; they left everything to their biological daughter Gwen. Why? Because Francine is doing alright, while Gwen needs all the help she can get. "Did you know she failed math?!" "But...she's Asian." "That's what I said!"
Last Story: There was a lot of info left out. OP'S parents blamed him for never having money, for losing out on "the best days of their lives." He was an oops baby, and they blamed him for every problem and missing out on their daughter growing up. It was also somehow his fault she is a failer. When he left for college, 40 minutes away, they felt like he abandoned the family and discarded them for selfish things.
Honestly I’m kinda worried about marrying into a crazy family 😂😮
Third story: I know this situation. They are playing favorites in a really disgusting way. I say cut them when the time of need of them comes
With the update: Well, at least one of the eggs wasn't rotten there.
Second Stroy=You think most people have the sense not to argue with a lawyer.
Story 2: It's bad enough that OP's SIL is trying to facilitate a hookup with her best friend and her brother. But it seems like the SIL could also be attracted to her own brother, like she's trying to live vicariously through her friend, or something. In any case, she clearly has a big grudge against the OP, trying to hurt her, her marriage, and even slander her unborn kid any way she can. Imagine how badly she could postentially treat the child when it's born. If I was the husband, wouldn't wait to cut contact with this weirdo sister
That girl seriously thought she could little miss steal your man with that high school level flirting. 😂
Story 1 - I feel for both OP and her husband, OP for dealing with the stalking and her husband for having to realize what kind of person his mom was.
Story 1 : death does everyone a favor.. monster In law was a term I heard somewhere never thought I would see it in a story... Don't worry op monster in law is burning in hades..
Story 2 : start thinking about taking a no contact order on your sin in law op.. she's a psychopath..
Story 3 : 17:36 said it perfectly.. those "parents " on their last right bed " why doesn't our no good son visit us anymore "?? Complete waste of air..
Story 3 actually has an update in between were the op says that he did confront his parents about the will and they basically told him he was an accident, his sister wasn't, and they didn't really love him or ever "connect" with him as a child. He then goes no contact with the family, hence him talking about talking to his nephew. He says he was hurt but in the long run the no contact was for the best.
She's not sitting around all day. She making a literal child. That is something.
After so many reddit stories where OPs are married to absolute jerks, the first two stories felt like a bit of a fresh air off husbands that have OPs back and loves them.. Like yes, the first stories husband could've maybe connected the dots more. But I can understand not getting into your head that your mother would go this far and at least he acknowledged it and is taking steps to improve himself and helping to get his wife to cope with the trauma.
With the second story, I think because OP is so protective with his sister that she believed her brother would listen and do to anything she said to him and that's why the situation turned so ugly. If the husband wants the sister to stop doing this, he needs to stop being so defensive about her. But the husband is acknowledging that at least so there is still hope. As you said rslash, he really sounds like a keeper.
The absurd accusations, the obvious hypocrisy, the "men cheat when their wives are pregnant," the temper tantrum... the half-sister wants to bang her own brother, knows it's wrong, and is pushing her friend into it. That way, she still feels involved and can get the details.
Bizarre and disgusting.
oh thank goodness the second story didn't turn into a "My husband has now left me and i'm now living with my parents again." kind of story i would have screamed to the moon and back if it did
There isn't an apology in the world that would make me forgive her. Drop her.
Second Op we love that he's learning to be a better husband, the fact his sister was actively trying to hook up her friend with her married brother is just nuts. Like a payday bar nuts. The fact that he realized it and didn't know how to approach his wife about it was kinda sad, that they can't be open to each other, but then again his overworking brain probably put that into the overthinking jar. And Op is probably had a much more peaceful pregnancy with her sil not in her pool 24/7
*2nd Story:* OP & her husband are financially well off enough to afford an _indoor pool_ but have to deal with Jerry Springer level relationship BS from the SIL & Chloe? I guess the saying "More money, more problems" has some real truth to it.
Story 1 is so awful. So so awful. My paternal grandmother was an absolute see ya (maybe on Tuesday) and tortured me by trash talking my mother when I was little, but she didn't stalk her to the point of making her fearful of leaving the house. People are awful.
I have had two very nice boyfriends (one's my husband now) who seriously would not know if a woman was flirting with them. Or even notice pretty women around us. At first I thought they were good actors, but no...they are sincere. For example, at a restaurant, we had a gorgeous waitress. Like- Hollywood Star gorgeous. After she leaves, I said, "Wow, is she pretty!" and my Bill goes, "....who?..." He's a keeper.
OP's husband sounds like he would have openly accused his mom of stalking if he could get any solid proof, but was afraid after she guilt tripped him that he was wrong or that he wouldn't be able to do anything to stop her. Sounds like a good person with a horrifying mother.
Honestly, the second story, I bet the sister was more afraid of the baby taking her place as her brother’s “favorite”, super toxic like yikes
The last story sounds like the sister will have a few months of living the life of her dreams before she runs out of money and eventually has to file bankruptcy
And if I’m not mistaken in the UK he could contest that will if he doesn’t inherit anything. Lots of countries do not allow you to disinherit children.
Omg the those first two stories, both OPs have found great supportive husbands. I think these videos or just reddit in general have made me kind of cynical because I've been calling 2nd OP's husband a unicorn forgetting that there are actually happily married men out there... of course RSlash is one of them
Calling somebody *pregnant* lazy for being home all the time when youre at the exact same house using her pool free 😐
I'm so glad that each story ended more or less happily: the first two stories had a husband who was willing to stand by his wife against the toxic family member, and third story ended with OP living a beautiful life away from his toxic family.
Story 1: this going to sound really morbid of me, but I can't help but feel happy and relieved that the MiL died. Hear me out: clearly the woman was insane, and dangerously so, she was a danger to OP, and clearly wasn't about to change for the better. Her dying is what is going to insure OP's safety.
Story 2: I hope the husband cuts his sister out of his life. You can't come back from making a comment like THAT: "you should have dragged your wife to the abortion clinic." Combined with the fact that she's trying to get her own brother to cheat on his wife... yeah. That's not just toxic, that's insanity. Just like the MiL in the first story, the SiL sounds downright crazy and dangerous. I hope OP's husband sticks to his guns about protecting his wife and baby; THEY'RE what are supposed to come first now, not the sister.
Story 3: when the story started out, the way how OP described the different financial situations of himself and his sister, I figured, "While the parents are indeed being harsh for not including him in the will, maybe they just figure he doesn't need any of their money?" But when it was revealed that the daughter has STOLEN from them and made SO MANY screw ups in life... yeah. It's one thing to want to help your kid out of a bad situation, but to effectively "punish" one kid for succeeding and being self-sufficient while "rewarding" the other kid for ruining their life... I'm just glad things worked out for OP in the end, and that he at least has a good relationship with his nephew. As for the sister, at least she's improved somewhat. I say let her have her wait for her parents' will. She still needs it way more than OP does.
My paternal grandmother told me of a story when her mother died. This happened before my dad was even born.
My grandma was one of four kids and her family was a little on the rich side (no idea how much, but rich for the 1940s).
Anyway when she was making out her will the consensus was to make my aunt Rae the executor of the will because at the time she was the only one in the family who wasn't married. (I guess the logic being she would inherit the bulk of the estate and divy the rest out to my grandmother, aunt & uncle.)
Every one of you has seen Aunt Rae's face; pull out a $100 bill and you'll see her portrait.
A few years passed, aunt Rae did get married, and the time came my great grandmother died. On that very same day her and her husband went to all of the banks where the money was kept, and ran off with it. Disappeared for like 20-something years.
She didn't return to the family till after she was divorced and the money squandered.
This all happened before I was even born so she was always in my life. Why my grandmother took her back in was anybody's guess. I know she was still stewing about it for years.
Just wanted to share. I was reminded of it listening just now.
I REALLY wish on the update for the 3rd story we could hear more context around the OP being NC with parents and sister. I feel like there was a conversation sparked by the will that included a whole lot more.
I really hope OP 1's husband is gonna be okay after all that. That's so upsetting. I'm glad OP is getting better, and I hope her husband can forgive himself for the things that weren't his fault
The husbands in this episode are absolute chads. When given a difficult situation involving a family member, they were there to stick up for their spouse. They'd take accountability at appropriate times and address their issues/ act to resolve them mostly on their own accord. This is an example of what a partner in any couple should be like. Mad repect.
This was great to listen to instead of the loud tornado sirens going off! keep it up rslash!
OMG!! Keep safe. . I felt my first Earthquake this year..so freaky
1st story: Im glad op didnt flat out tell him right away. It couldve gone badly. He couldve saw it as "op disrespecting the dead". saw she was being a jerk. I think wouldve been best for op to had never told him or at least till he connected the dots (which he did)
I don't know how wills work in the UK (they mentioned pounds, so I assume it's UK), but in my country, parents can't completely leave their children out of their will without stating in it the justification for doing so, and even then, only a few circumstances allow the disowning, such as committing a serious crime against the parents.
In Canada your parents would have left their will open to dispute as you cannot intentionally disenfranchise a child in your will!
How do you baby trap someone you are already married to? What the hell?
I just can't with people anymore.... 😔
2nd story: His sister isn't sorry and was NEVER sorry. If she was so worried about him being taken away by another women then why did she want to set her friend up with him? And even if the sister wanted someone she knew to date op husband instead of a stranger it doesn't change that she didn't body shame op in the heat of the moment but she said and insinuated that she never liked her and never thought good of her or her future niece/nephew!
That last story hurt my soul because of how relatable it is 😭😭
I'm glad Rslash didn't comment on the first post. I thought he was about to say the dude was a horrible husband for saying what he said and what not. But I'm glad he chose not to say anything. What he said was terrible, but I know sometimes it is easy to snap at someone, even if they haven't done anything wrong
The third story, Rslash missed an update OP posted, before the 10-year update, where he confronted his parents about why he was excluded from the will.
Here's the TLDR copied from the post
"Tl;dr. I am excluded as my parents are unhappy with my life choices despite never telling me so before. Also I was unwanted and so they have never really connected with me or viewed me as part of the family. Because they were so focussed on my sister I became self succient and grew up faster and that made them feel more distant. My sister means more to them than I and they do not want to change their minds or try to work things through.
I have no parents now. (However on a positive note my future in laws are awesome and I have been calling her mother mum for a while now so I do kind of get some parents)"
Frankly, as an oldest sister, if I'm better off than my siblings then I wouldn't care if I'm left off the will because clearly my sibling needs to be taken care of, or I'd want to be an executor if their known to be irresponsible so they don't make decisions that end them back where they started. If I have a home and can afford to care for myself and my sibling can't then why would I be pressed over an inheritance?
I love the first 2 stories showing actual good partners with healthy relationships and actual communication.
I often listen to these on Spotify during my commute or before I fall asleep, I went back to good old YT to check the cuts... Has anyone else noticed the podcasts cutting rSlash's commentary off mid-sentence or clearly a few sentences early and going on to the next story?
So...story 3. So the sister can't undo the horrible things she did, but she supposedly cleaned up her act and is now working a job. She also raised a very bright boy. What else is she supposed to do now? OP states she has no drive to get a better job but can she? She's a convict with no prospects. If her son turned out so well I'm wondering if we're missing something or if she's truly so terrible.
Husband in story 2 is GOLDEN. For all that he did.
I’m so glad you’re doing more updates. That was always my favorite part if showed up when you did r/relationshipadvice or other advice sub.
I was so worried the second story was going to about OP's husband cheating on her, but I was holding out hope it was just some weird scheme from the SIL to try to hook him up with someone hotter. I am so glad that was the case. What a great husband, and what a disgusting sister.
Random fun fact: in regards to the second story about the husband not noticing the flirting at first
People tested it and showed that humans have no idea what flirting actually looks like. And when people had to guess if people were flirting or just being nice they usually got it wrong.
Just something that popped into my head after hearing that
The husband in the 2nd story is an absolute chad, dude gets told something is wrong with him and realizes it and decides to change
I love stories with supportive spouses. They make my soul happy 😭