r/Trueoffmychest I Caught My MOM with my UNCLE
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- čas přidán 9. 07. 2024
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0:00 Intro
0:10 Crazy party
2:57 My blessing
6:20 Tragic story
13:09 Drinking breast milk
"Sneaky Snitch" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) License: CC By Attribution 3.0 - Komedie
Why was no one on OP's side of the family worried about the mom? She's literally so drunk she can't even put clothes on and had to go to bed. She was literally assaulted and then just kept getting abused physically and verbally
Because they’re victim blaming trash
I'm so sick of people pretending alcohol absolves you of all crimes. She chose to drink, she chose to fuck, and nobody said the uncle was sober either. If a drunk woman talks a man into fucking her suddenly he's a rapist? If two drunk people fuck automatically the guy is a rapist? Nah. I take responsibility for every action I've made while drunk and on drugs. You're not a victim just because you made a stupid decision while intoxicated because you happen to be female. Idc how drunk she was, she was awake and there's no way she didn't know that was her sister's husband.
I don’t think she was too drunk to put her clothes on. As op says his aunt destroyed her clothes. The reason she couldn’t put here clothes on was because they were torn to bits
@@Mokuteke OP said she was too drunk to get dressed BEFORE his aunt destroyed her clothes
I'm still waiting for an explanation of why it's a crime to drink and drive if you're not responsible for your actions when you're drunk
1st story: thank god I wasn’t the only one who thought that she may have been assaulted
Yeah that was weird the brother didn’t get in trouble. He might’ve drugged her or she was just drunk.
And rslash thinking it's not in America, wtf!! Have you never been to a nightclub or part or frat on a busy night. This happens all the time. Omg!!
Yep, my first thought was rape. Because she was can't get my clothes back on drunk and he was perfectly sober.
When I was reading the post on Reddit the first thing that came to mind was that she was assaulted and that everyone in the post were fools for not seeing it.
@@dianagraham5945he said that because of the reaction the family had (which he also said is still possible in the us btw) and not because of the Incident itself
2:34 Thank you Dabne for pointing out OP's mom is the victim here! I was getting so mad omg
OP's mom got r**ped by her bil and everyone blames her but not the bil for doing that to his wife sister who is drunk AF, he is discussing for doing that to a person. And OP's family is discussing to treat OP's mom the bad guy that is no way to treat a victim of SA
yeah, that type of thinking (even without the SA part in this story) drives me nuts. why does everyone ALWAYS blame the other person? in this case, yes, they both knew the uncle was married, but in cases where a its cheating with a stranger or work college, where they don't know the person being cheated on, how do they have any blame? yes if they KNOW they are married/in a relationship and cheating, they are a bad person, but you have no idea what they have been told, could have been told they were single or separated. hell could have even been told that they had an open relationship and be naive enough to believe it without proof.
We can't be completely sure of the distribution of the blame tbh as OP can be biased towards his mother, but we can at least confidently say that the majority of the blame should be on the uncle, as he is the one married, and also he seems to be the one who had the better control over his actions, not to mention he was the one who followed OP's mother to the room. No matter how we look at it, he should have been the one getting his clothes ripped and chased away from the home...
I feel so bad for the guy in the 3rd story. He must be suffering really badly with survivor's guilt. I hope he can recover soon
I totally don't get this. He was a freaking hero. He desperately needs therapy.
@@aum1040of course you don't. You aren't being empathetic. You're being a self centered jerk
@@aum1040 even so, the feeling of "what if..." is carried for a long time. Sometimes even with therapy, it doesn't go away.
@@aum1040I agree, but at the same time I can't blame the niece's parents for reacting negatively nor him for not overcoming his trauma. Even if he does overcome it it's possible it may resurface if he and OP do get a child. He definitely needs therapy either way, no doubt about that.
Yeah my take is he was an utter hero too. He put his own body on the line to save his niece. Some people say they would do that, Jay actually did. It kinda sucks his sister blamed him, she really should have the driver and not her brother, but grief is weird.
Jay really does need some professional help and hopefully his partner can help him accept what happened, even if he never forgets it.
Even IF the mother wasn't drunk and it was consensual, I'd be yelling at the husband. Wtf is wrong with that family?? I feel so bad for her.
Literally, even if she wasn't drunk (and actually, 100% r*ped), isn't the Uncle the one who is cheating?! It said that the mum is single, she did nothing wrong at all
unfortunately it is very common to blame the woman and not the man when the man is cheating (the woman probably doesn't know he's married/a ONS or the woman is to drunk/ nonconsenting.) we need to hold cheating men accountable for their actions more.
@@grimkujithank goodness for you "all of my exes are narcissists and sociopaths" women because all women are heroes to you
@@jackchop1576 never said all woman are hero’s to me but okay buddy
@@jackchop1576 found the cheater!
S3: I know grief does strange thwings, but resenting a 14 year old who did everything he could to protect your daughter in a split second is wildly misplaced.
It's why nobody should ever try to help and everyone needs to be out only for themselves even if it means exploitation and death of all others as long as you benefit.
On some level she probably knows this intellectually but can't control her emotions. Like op said, no therapy around there.
@@agentzapdos4960 so... stay back and pretend it's not happening when someone is in trouble and crying for help? How cruel and heartless can you be?
It is but it also sounds like seeing him reminds them of their loss, rather than his actions to prevent. ALL the blame should be placed on the driver. OP did everything possible, while all she had to do was stay off the damn phone.
@@agentzapdos4960what in the actual hell?
Grieving is one thing, but "blaming" the person who selflessly trying to save your daughter from speeding car is way out of the fucking line. Jay literally faced death or alive situation just to save Rosie and Beth's respond was to BLAME him because he "failed" to save Rosie? Not the idiot driver who almost KILLED both of them?
I guess grievance do really messes up someone's way of thinking but this one was not acceptable.
Jay is the example of "You either die a hero or live long enough to see yourself become a villain" and he's no way in hell deserved this.
This comment is naivety at its finest. Grief is NOT a rational emotion. Expecting a mother who lost a child to be rational here is pure fantasy. There's a reason we don't have a word for parents who lose a child. Does this suck? Yes. Over the line? Despends on the actions taken afterward. Acceptable? No but grief doesn't care about acceptablily or the opinions of others. Is this expected? Absolutely. Why? Because misblame is far more common in a tragedy than gratitude. It's takes a person of rare character to handle something like this with grace. That is the exception, not the rule. You're not going to see the exception pop up a whole lot in this kind of situation. That's life.
Far as the driver goes, we don't know what happened there. We don't know if it was a hit-and-run, if the driver was ever caught or charged, or if they stayed at the scene due to shock. But mark me, Beth blamed the driver as well. This is the kind of situation where two people are blamed and Beth and her husband likely have a lot of self-loathing.
Let's pretend for a second that you're a human being not a robot and see if you can understand why the parents have resentment towards the uncle
@@radhiadeedou8286I can see why they feel that way but it doesn't make it right to treat your like it their fault. He was 17 and tried saving his niece. Along with the trauma of having her died in his arms and being hurt himself he has his older sibling blaming him. Their is a villain in this story if they want to put their anger onto someone. It also not healthy for the girls parents, it sounds like they went low contact to one whole side of the family. Not only losing their daught but a whole support system. It not healthy for the girls parents or OP boyfriend. It sad when tragic events happen it end up splitting people up. While watching this I was thinking about marriages that end up failing due to the loss of a child and how we end up blaming are selves and other that are out of are control. I hope the driver got long sentence behind bars.
@@25Erix nah fuck that excuse
@@radhiadeedou8286 Sure. My aunt lost her mother because some douchebag on 2 wheels ran a red light while my aunt's mother and my grandmother were crossing the road. The guy hit my grandmother FIRST and got pushed into my aunt's mother. My grandmother survived, but my aunt's mother weren't so lucky.
And guess what? My aunt accepted her mother's death without blaming my grandmother for whatever reason while my aunt went into her depressed state for years.
If you wanna know if I'm a human being or not, I actually just lost my aunt due to cancer. No one in the entire family (my family, my aunt's family, my uncle's family) blamed someone else for her death, despite being totally devastated by the news.
Everyone eventually just made peace with it without any kind of family drama about it. That is why I said grievance do make some people have an irrational way of thinking.
Story 1: Now that is a unfair, sexist family if I ever saw one. Why is the mom the only one getting heat here? Why isn't the uncle condemned for being naked and r-ing OP's mom? Plus, the aunt ripped her clothes to humiliate her further? Like jeez lady, let her preserve some dignity at LEAST. Isn't it possible the uncle is taking advantage of the situation since she was drunk? Hmm...
Sounds like to me the aunt is one of those women who is so obsessed of her man that she believes he would never betray her and if he does, it's the other women's fault and she's trying to steal the man.
@@spydersoup8447 i agree! Seriously
@@sailorathena17 Yeah, even I hate it too.
Backward sexist culture like Muslims would explains it.
@@spydersoup8447oh boy you just described my mother (been no contact for years because of various child abuse including neglect, psychological abuse and physical violence to name a few), who found out her friend had r@ped me. She told me she not only didn’t care, but it was probably my fault, that I’d probably led him on, that I just regretted sleeping with him and was making it up, or it never happened and I was attention seeking. This was a guy who was 21, I was barely 16, and she was 36 when this happened, I dunno what their relationship was but he was actively buying my brother, who was 14, loads of alcohol and she was totally fine with it.
She would pick and choose her reasons, like she’d randomly scream at me because she’d had a bad day and that would get me listening to “you deserved it” or “you’re a lying attention seeker” when all I’d done was be cleaning the house because the entire household was my responsibility and she just used me as a punchbag.
Gunna assume they were in some form of relationship because she constantly partied with random men, this guy lived nearby so she’d party with him regularly, so they might have been sleeping together and she saw this as a threat? I dunno, but you described my bio mother exactly! Honestly I hate how common this attitude is from other women especially when it’s their child who’s involved, most normal mothers would want to protect their child who’d been assaulted but far too many blame the wee girl and then harass and shame her, it’s so messed up.
Story 1: I was thinking the same thing, you said it yourself your mom was completely drunk, and instead of going after the man that took advantage of her everyone's slut shamed the victim. OP I would make a case for your mom and report the assault if you can, also if no one's going after your uncle then don't wait and go after him yourself. You're absolutely right he is a father and a husband who cheated when his entire family in the house, he should absolutely be called out.
Even if the mother was not completely wasted, the uncle could had easily rejected her regardless but didn't. He was just lucky that all the blame was on OP's mom without question.
@@lasserasmussen3125the woman couldn't get her clothes on. She had gone in the room to lie down because she was about ready to pass out. There is no way she seduced anyone in that condition.
It was rape.
I was thinking the same thing! How awful!! IT TAKES TWO FOR WHAT HAPPENED.
I'm guessing this isn't the first time the uncle roped a drunk girl. No way this is a first time offender.
Drunk people are still responsible for their actions
“Milk the situation for all it’s worth”
Wow, I now consider this the ultimate dad joke. On multiple levels.
For real I’m surprised there’s not more talk about it.
Dabney is right that OP should not sweat it. His wife needed relief and he gave it. If the baby was taking enough that she did not need relief, then they would not have started and OP's feedings would not be much in quantity. Bottom line- the baby is well-fed and the couple is bonding intimately, so all is good.
@@thomasmacdiarmid8251exactly. OP isn’t taking anything away from the baby, and I doubt it’s a fetish to his wife. (Maybe it is; no kink-shaming) But for anyone who knows the pain and discomfort being full of milk brings I can see her wanting his help every other night. The RELIEF! Especially since at that age it sounds like the baby is starting to sleep through the night which could be why she’s so full. A blessing and a curse lol But as long as OP does that she will continue to produce more milk. She might try investing in a pump. They have some now that are hands-free so she can maybe doze a little while it does its thing 😏
@@stevenandcarminabeedle9089 my wife used a small electric pump that was not too rough but did the job. It wasn't handsfree but it was easy to handle and allowed us to have milk in the fridge for the babies.
op just has to suck it up 😂
Story 1: This could 100% take place in America. It isn't necessarily about sexism either. Once there is a scapegoat, people naturally pile onto the scapegoat. All it really takes is the aunt deciding to place primary blame on the mother, at which point it is an uphill battle to change the focus to the uncle.
Mother should 100% file rape charges against the uncle.
Why? The entire family will close ranks around the uncle, and may even turn the accusation around, resulting in the mom being murdered in prison after being convicted as a rapist. There was a man who raped multiple college girls on camera and the jury decided to drop all charges (after explicitly acknowledging that the crime was indeed committed by the defendant) and set him free because "he's a nice boy with a bright future".
@@agentzapdos4960 You are being ridiculous. No woman has EVER been convicted of rape because she pursued charges against a man who raped her while multiple witnesses observed her being drunk beyond the point of incapacitation.
In fact, I challenge you to find one woman who was convicted of rape after pursuing charges against a man for rape. There are quite a few women who have deserved this, but I doubt you'll find even a single example where it actually happened.
Since she is already being shamed and destroyed by her own family, all the incentives against reporting the rape are gone, and she needs to go for it.
@@aum1040 It's the word of one woman that nobody likes and her terminally-online offspring against the words of dozens of highly-respected community members and even OP's own wife. There's nothing the mom can do except accept that her purpose in life is to be a victim and a punching bag.
@@agentzapdos4960You must be dumb.
That’s what I was thinking. It sounded like RSlash was just trying to excuse it
For the last story - if the baby is not drinking most of the breast milk it can accumulate and cause a lot of pain for lactating person or even turn into something called mastitis. It can also cause the breast milk supply to reduce because the body thinks it’s accumulating because the baby grew out of drinking it. So if both the parents consent and there’s enough milk left for the baby I say they continue what they’re doing 😂
The baby will always have breast milk because the body produces it on demand. The only concern would be if the mother has enough nutrients left to sustain the production. If she is eating healthy and consuming plenty of calcium, then it should be fine.
@@ReptillianStrike "the body produces it on demand." that is NOT how it works. The body needs simulation to do this. Like you know, being pregnant then having a baby feeding. That's why weaning causes it to dry up. That's literally why dairy cows are milked multiple times a day, to keep up the simulation to produce as much milk as possible.
Story 3: honestly I almost cried hearing this too, if something like that happened to my nephews I don't think I ever pick myself back up. But it's not his fault he did try to save her, and it's all that b****** for hitting the poor girl in the first place. I hope she got the punishment she deserved.
I'm confused why OP didn't say anything about the b****
This is why nobody should ever lift a finger to help anybody under any circumstances without exception. If you fuck up, you're blamed for it and you're forever scarred with your failure. Love only yourself, protect only yourself, and care only about yourself. No other person or creature or concept matters except the Self.
@@agentzapdos4960that sounds like a miserable way to live
@@RealCoolstriker64 It's better than how Jay ended up living. Everyone needs to harden their hearts and become evil. It's the only way to get by in this world.
@@agentzapdos4960 You're just a coward.
A woman is so intoxicated that she's lost motor function and had to go lie down... she was clearly incapable of giving consent and was probably literally asleep when it began. But even if she could give consent, then why is it 100% her fault? How does that excuse physical and emotional abuse?
story 1: imagine being so deluded that you found your husband assaulting a woman, get mad at the woman and then destroy her property in an attempt to humiliate her. some people are just undeserving
I agree with you completely, but undeserving of what?
@@kranberry3318 Life.
Some women will blame their very young children if the husband r*pes them. Some people are profoundly broken.
@@Just_a_Goth Yeah that’s fair
That last story has me giggling as I'm currently pumping and, at worst, OP will just make his wife become an over supplier and create more milk for their baby 😂
Or himself lol
@@destinedtogame right! Lol 😆
Plus baby is is already 6 months so starting on other foods and so it's not as if him having some is going to starve the baby. I think some women say it helps with after pregnancy weightloss to keep lactating too.
@@Iflieits not just women saying that. Its actually a medical fact, due to the process of lactation taking nutrients from the birth parents body, even going as far as to take calcium and other nutrients from the birth parents teeth and bones in order to produce it if the birth parent isn't getting enough nutrition on her own to compensate for the extra that is needed. Hence why things like tooth decay and loss, and ostioperosis are way more common in those that have given birth than any other gender or person.
@@alosialee It does take a lot of calories and pads of fat on the hips and bum are specifically for fat storage to be used around the time a woman can't go gather food before and after birth.
But not all women drop weight from breastfeeding, my mom was fat under the influence of those hormones and didn't drop weight until we were weaned. She'd drink a lot of milk and stuff while breastfeeding. I guess her body signals got a bit too hyped.
She was a small slim person when not pregnant or breastfeeding. It would just naturally drop off.
11:27 he was 14.. what tf do you mean she blamed Jay? HE WAS 14!!! I'M ANGRY SOBBING BECAUSE WHERE TF DOES THAT SISTER GET OFF BLAMING A 14YR OLD CHILD FOR NOT BEING ABLE TO STOP A CAR???
Right? That sister is delusional. At least the garbage took herself out of their life. And that boy desperately needs to see a therapist, stat.
Logic and reason have a hard time overcoming emotions that strong.
Exactly. How did she expect Jay to "save" her daughter!? He did the best he could. He risked his body but she said it's not enough
I hope that boy can see a therapist, stat. He needs to understand it’s not his fault.
(Idk why YT deleted my previous comment.)
@@wingracer1614but it's been years and they still haven't reached out? I know everyone handles grief differently but at the same time a 17 year old boy was grieving too!
"Milk the situation for all its worth" udderly destroyed me.
😂😂 🐄
I'm not sure it was his breast joke though 😉
Don't be such a boobie
@@poisonpenfairy2844 nah, it was the tits
I feel for Jay. Survivor's guilt is a harsh thing to deal with. No matter how many time you are told "you did all you could" " there was nothing else you could do" "it's not your fault" etc. and even when you KNOW that's the case, the feeling of "If only..." stays with you for a LONG time.
Story #3: Okay, this is coming from a *very* personal place of mine. When I was in school for Early Childhood Development, I accidentally sent a child into anaphylaxis shock because I was trying finding a treat for the entire class that I focused on *one* of the kid's allergies that I completely forgot his other one. I immediately dropped out of the program, waited 2 years for the police to arrest me and even today; nearly 15 years later, I keep a distance from my nieces and nephew for fear that I do something like that again. In a society were kids safety is kept on pedestal (especially if the parents keep blaming you for doing what you could only do in that moment), getting over something like that is *never* going to happen--even if you do 15+ years of therapy.
It's not your fault. You were only trying to give everyone something they could have. :( You aren't a monster at all, just had a forgetful moment. Sounds like the kid is ok, too, so you deserve to be also
I really want to hug Jay, he's not only a keeper, but also a hero!
Beth sucks for blaming on her brother, who tried so hard to save her daughter and almost died because of it, ffs!!
Bro she was drunk! She was incapable of giving consent! How is she the homewrecker!? What also really bothers me is the whole blaming the person their partner was cheating with rather than the partner who was overall cheating! For all I know the uncle got off scot free in this situation since everyone except OP was ignoring the fact that he committed SA!
I have a "nose" for fragrances. I came home one evening & smelled an old favourite of mine as soon as I sat on the bed to slip my shoes off. Oddly enough, I hadn't bought or used that particular scent for almost 20 years. That was the final straw.
It will never not be weird to me that in some countries people take off shoes in the bedroom instead of somewhere on thr halllway close to the entrance lol. Do yall do the same with muddy shoes or are there different rules for taking off shoes dependi g on thr weather?
@@GalenMarekOfficialimagine all the poop vomit and trash they step on and bring to their bed
@@justmeok2 It's funny when your logic is never applied to a smartphone though. Where people usually scroll on them while pooping & where poop particles are very much going to be found on that display. The very thing a lot of people take with them into their beds.
@@MLWJ1993true, but a good number of people also wipe their phones down, so that doesn't happen
@@GalenMarekOfficial Me too.
I remember during the start of the pandemic when people were all disgruntled being told it's better to leave shoes at the door. I wondered, 'aren't you doing that anyway?'
Granted we, in Canada, get a lot of media from the US. Apparently that is another of the many cultural differences between our two countries. NOT a scientific study, but all of my Canadian friends were also asking 'don't people do that anyway?' and all of my American-now-in-Canada friends explained they were happy they had developed the habit from living here, while my still-in-the-US (largely social media) friends were complaining that having to leave their shoes at the door was yet another inconvenience brought about by the pandemic. 😂🇨🇦 ❤🇺🇸
“Your feelings are valid, but not always accurate.” I finally have an example of this! Blaming the kid for what the driver did.
Last story gave me emotional whiplash after the story before it
My heart breaks for the first OP's ma and Jay. No one, not even the son since it sounds like he stood there, speechless, while the POS uncle, who most likely assaulted her, go away scot free. I really hope *someone* is on her side, especially when she sobered up. There's a chance she won't even remember wtf happened so to wake up to all THAT? I hope OP speaks up and defends her.
Story 1 : Have you're mom file assault charges and R word charges against the uncle and the ant....
Story 2 : op husband:" Well now that you know and have seen it it's no fun to cheat on you "..
Story 3 : jay needs to constable be told its not his fault.. what happened to rosie sucks bigtime jay has severe PTSD from it..
Story 4 : Uhhhhh I dont even know what to say here.. ummm...
OP, I know you said that people are not into therapy where they are, but Jay desperately needs to talk to someone. He is probably suffering from PTSD and survivor's guilt, as well as the fact that his sister blames him. If this is not addressed somehow he will start to suffering physically. Please try and get him help. Even if things don't work out between the two of you, you might be saving his life.
@@anndownsouth5070 He's a man. He can't go to therapy. Not only will others view him as less of a man for it, most men don't really benefit from talk therapy as much as women do. Women can work through problems by talking about them, but men need to actually SOLVE their problems through harsh action.
Story #2 - The reason the husband is trying so hard to repair things now, after being given OP's blessing is simpler that you think.
Most cheaters are insecure. They view sex as a form of validation. His reason for cheating had nothing to do with his wife, or how satisfied he was in his marriage. It had to do with his lack of satisfaction with himself. I think he does actually love his wife. The other woman just gave him a little boost to his confidence, that's all.
Now the woman he loves just doesn't give a shit anymore. A cheap fling with a coworker can't make up for what he's lost. That's why he broke it off with her. She's a secondary priority. Winning his wife back is all that matters now. Too little, too late, obviously, but he's desperate to believe he can win her back because he doesn't know what to do without her. The only person he was ever screwing was himself. It's kind of sad, really... but he deserves what he gets.
If he actually loved his wife, he'd value her trust and dignity. He just loves women for how they make him feel about himself. He does love her in his own way, but it's an intense, self-indulgent and ultimately shallow love, and that's all he's capable of. It's unfortunate for OP, but she can dispose of him like any other pile of trash and move on. And I hate to say it, but people like that tend to be shitty parents as well. She should move on and replace him, for her own sake and for her child's.
This take is very valuable; it's not the victims "fault" or the relationships "fault". Not because you weren't "attractive" or "attentive" enough. It's an insecurity. Not excusing it AT ALL, my god, more people need to get therapy LOL.
Story 3: I'm glad OOP was told what happened. I wish her and her bf nothing but the best in life. They have a long road ahead.
Good that Beth ft off, wtf is wrong with her blaming a 17y old boy who tried to save your daughters life for for her death while in he's in a coma.
14 not 17
@@stuartwalker959714 when Rosie was born, 17 when she died
@@irishhuskie2585 that’s fair maths isn’t my strong point
thats not what they said they didnt blame him they resented him for failing to save her. in this context thats actualy an huge difference because resentment is an feling you cnat help blaming is an choice.
Story 2: I wouldn’t be surprised if the affair was out of the thrill of hiding a secret. That seems to happen a lot.
Whatever it is, he ended it, but I doubt there will be a healthy relationship for a long time
OP seems already over it. I doubt she’ll take him back.
@@kranberry3318 I hope she doesn't and her husband ends up alone while she finds someone who loves her.
Thanks for pointing out the assault in the first story. I was assaulted in a similar fashion and used to feel so tormented that it wasn't actually what I thought it was and was all my fault. Now I've healed a bunch and still feel bad about it at times but I now accept that, while I still feel like I played a part in it happening, it wasn't ok for that person to do what they did when I was in that condition. I'm very selective in who I tell irl due to people's potential reactions but, in writing this comment, I've healed enough that I don't mind whatever online strangers have to say.
Lil trigger warning: the state I was in was so blackout drunk that for years I only remembered the flashes of pain of when it happened. I actually repressed it for like 2 years until a situation brought those memories back and caused me to develop PTSD. Then more memories slowly came back through the years (yay flashbacks) until I finally unlocked them all and managed them with EMDR therapy. It's not a fun therapy to have as you do need to confront the trauma in vivid detail but it's so, so worth it.
God, as an uncle that one with Jay and Rosie hit me hard, like what if me and my niece are in the same situation? This is why I genuinely hate drunk/distracted drivers more than anything, my life was ruined by reckless driving before, I wouldn’t want it to happen to anyone else, especially my niece.
Edit: Regarding the matter of if Jay’ll have kids with OP, your take is probably right, his trauma is way too deep. If I were in his place, my thought process would probably be “Why can I have kids, when I took my sister’s child away?”
Good to know I'm not the only one who was like "hold on there is no way she could've consented" to story one
3rd story: Of course that man would rather drink alone than play with another toddler aged girl. The distance everyone perceived from him while watching OP play with her niece is probably actually him just dissociating so he doesn't break down.
Per story 1; r/slash, you'd be surprised about how many American families think like this. Slut shaming/victim blaming IS American culture
To be fair it's most of the world's culture.
@@FatedGamer unfortunately, yes
Yep. Even the police do it.
Rshlash, you can't say that the first story wasn't in America with no evidence. My guy, stories like that happened in America ALL the time. 😭
Exactly
Honestly? This story could happened anywhere
He jumps to assuming it's a foreign culture every time the situation doesn't seem like his perception of America. Forgetting many places in the US and people are just as bad as other countries.
Idk it's always been a weird comment to me.
11:10 hearing his voice waver like that shows how much the story reached him
3rd story: poor Jay. I sincerely hope that he goes to a place where he CAN get therapy.
Story three. THIS is why you never push on people to have kids, or push them to be around kids.
Oh my god…I thought Jay was having an affair or something…now I wish he actually was having an affair
The last story, enjoy the milk, it’s a rare treat that you can only have after your wife has a kid
This. Especially since they're both about to be way too busy and tired to enjoy stuff like that for quite a few years.
considering the fact that the more the milk is expressed and used the more is produced, so theres plenty to go around, so keep doing it, for the child XD
Looks like _everyone_ is hooked on the Jarvis Juice now!
-(Watch -*-Jarvis Johnson - An Animated Story Channel Is Beefing With Me-*- for details.)-
Honestly it won't hurt the baby's supply because the more she uses the more mom will make. 😂😉
@@Wendy_O._Koopa
No
I'm at work trying not to cry with story 3. Jesus Christ.
Jay's backstory almost made me cry too. Damn...
Tragic story - Jay, OP’s boyfriend was in a coma for 3 days. He had a Brain Injury. An injury that was bad enough to put him in a coma. These type of brain injuries can change personality’s. These injuries can destroy memories and can change how a person thinks and feels. At the LEAST he should be evaluated by a neurologist. And talk therapy as well as medication should be available to him. He had anger issues, hates himself, doesn’t engage with children, his brain trauma seems to be discounted or forgotten. Jay needs help and perhaps OP can help him find that help. At the least see a neuro-specialist. Perhaps he doesn’t have to suffer like this. Wow, the poor guy, everyone blamed him then hushed it up. And he just has to live with it. It’s unacceptable to just ignore him and the terrible trauma he went though.
Thank you for seeing what really happened in the first story.
That 3rd story was absolutely heartbreaking! I can't imagine going through something so terrible, that poor guy. I hope over time he will be able to heal and quit blaming himself. He did all he could, the only one to blame is the distracted driver/murderer!
Story 3 that story is so sad Jay tried so safe his little niece but lost her and his big sister because a woman was too busy on her telephone to look a the road
Thank you rSlash for adding Story 4 at the end. I needed that palate cleanser after Story 3.
Dude Beth and her husband ruined Jay by blaming him. Thats so fcked up
Mom was r worded, tf is wrong with them?
Good morning fellow Rslashians! Have a safe and wonderful week!
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Nation wide exams for us Indians. Agony.
@@TheBluePhoenix008 good luck brother
I hope you get fantastic scores! Hang in there! @@TheBluePhoenix008
Get Jay some help! He can still go talk to a therapist about the accident and work through the trauma that he has.
Story 4😂 wonderful thing about breastfeeding is you normally only produce what your baby eats. So under that logic your wife's body should be able to compensate. For as long as she's intaking enough calories and vitamins to feed baby and daddy you guys should be fine!
Just FYI, boobies make milk depending on what the baby needs. Baby’s saliva while nursing tells Mama how much milk to make. Him drinking milk isnt going to harm the baby unless he is doing it all day everyday. I nursed two babies and nursing Mamas stan a supportive partner that will help take the load off so to speak, especially in those early days!
Story one is so gross, the mom was assaulted and it’s disgusting how she is the one being blamed for the uncle’s disgusting behavior.
Okay this episode is a Rollercoaster of stories this morning
I also got whiplash from the tragic passing of a little girl to drinking breast milk😭
Pipe? Check. Coffee? Check. Rslash? Check. Alright baby, time for the first smoke break of the day
But do u got the good snacks 👀
Why would you smoke weed and drink coffee?
@@destinedtogame Because it's probably pipe tabacco..?
@@destinedtogame Cause I pay my taxes?
Your empathy is wonderful. I don't know what you were like before you had a daughter. Truthfully, I don't know you now, but I _do_ know how transformative having children is, and I appreciate your vulnerability and honesty.
I was in a situation similar to Jay and Rosie. We were on a family vacation to Disney Land. My wife has family there and her ethnic group has a section of one of the local towns. I was board in the mall (not speaking the language and not seeing items of interest. My youngest son (2 years old) was getting antsy as many toddlers get so I took him outside to the entrance area which has a fountain and wide walkways on either side. He tired out and I was holding him in my arms as I heard the squeal of brakes and sliding rubber as a sports car came at us. With my son in my arms I dashed off only to feel the car grazing the sole of my extended foot and shoe.
The car was going too fast in the parking lot and hit a patch of black ice and lost control. That walkway only had a series of sheet metal lights on the roadside edge later to be replaced by large concrete pots. The driver was angry at himself and made sure we were alright. I found out later that it was his girlfriend’s car and he was forbidden to see her by her father. We weren’t involved with the consequences of the situation and drove the 800 miles home shortly afterwards. I was shaken up, but just wanted to get away. The car was totaled as it hit a large stone or concrete statue in the fountain area.
dude, what compelled you to put those last two stories back to back? what???
I loved that last story. It really left a smile on my face.
Story 1: sue the bastard in-law and keep your mum away from him, OP.
Story 2: i sincerely hope OP is considering seriously divorcing the bastard.
Story 3: man, OP's boyfriend needs a hug and some therapy. He truly is a hero and deserves to be happy, too.
Please let that be paternal uncle... The only "Uncle" i truly have is maternal so this title is freaky (Dad does have siblings but Danish have different terms for parents siblings that we use there)
EDIT: Well close enough, least it wasnt her brother...
God, op of the first story needs to dump his wife. That's so disgusting that everyone is blaming his mom for being raped
Fun fact about speed limits: the reason parking lots, and neighborhoods in the USA have a speed limit of 30mph, is because the chances of survival for a pedestrian are pretty good. But they drop *fast* as you go above that number, *especially* for children. If that driver was speeding it’s likely that it wasn’t physically possible for that poor little girl to survive the impact. It doesn’t make it better for Jay, but it does make the mom’s response fucked up.
Because the only thing that could have made a difference was if he had *actual super powers.* And resenting a kid for not having super powers is as accurate as resenting your partner for cheating on you *during your dream.*
Your emotions are always valid, but *not* always accurate.
If she was that drunk, she could not consent. That's a crime.
Story 3: I feel bad for Jay. He really tried to save Rosie, but he failed because of whiplash. If it weren't for the distracted driver, things would be better for both of them. Jay became a broken man and Beth's couple just vanished out of grief.
And I can see why Beth resented him, Jay couldn't save her daughter, but it's still pretty bad
Edit: Okay, it's misguided anger, and the blame should be put on the driver
I can’t. What the hell is wrong with that woman, blaming a child for something he had little power to prevent?!
Bruh, he was FOURTEEN! He was in a damn coma after risking his life for his niece. Loosing a child is hard, but blaming the teenager instead of the dumb broad on her phone while driving is nuts. Beth is a bitch for putting that guilt on Jay!
@@Tustin2121 because anything would be better than accepting the pain. Being angry is so much better than being hurt. It's understandable but not excusable over the long term.
@Tustin2121 I 100% agree. Wtf is wrong with the sister. Jay went into a coma, trying to save the little girl. This is one of those cases of misplaced anger. If the woman driving the car was paying attention, then the little girl would be alive and Jay would never have been a broken, empty shell of his former self.
F**k that stupid driver. I understand the sister being extremely upset over the situation, BUT absolutely f**k her too for placing blame on Jay for that.
@@khrishp anger is completely understandable in that case but Beth directed to the kid who did everything he could to try and save the baby and not against the driver who is obviously at the fault here with vehicular manslaughter.
Story 3: Wow, Beth is horrible for putting that guilt on Jay. He was already traumatized because of the accident, and now he has to live with the fact that he couldnt save his niece. Beth is a bitch for that
A lot of cultures where story 1 is a possibility are also against drinking.
The first story had me appalled right from the start - for the mother, like you pointed out. How can no one realize that this was assault?? And I thought I was getting over it, and then there was Jay's story, and I for real started crying. This episode wins the prize of getting me the most emotional out of every rSlash episode, for what it's worth
First Story: That doesn't sound like America to you? Guess we haven't been in the same states.
I’m so angry at both the distracted driver and the parents who blamed Jay instead of the person who killed their daughter. Grief isn’t an excuse, they were horrible to Jay. He was already guilty about the situation and they made it 10x worse.
thats not what they said they didnt blame him they resented him for failing to save her. in this context thats actualy an huge difference because resentment is an feling you cnat help blaming is an choice.
That’s so awful! His sister was wrong for resenting her brother whether she was grieving or not!
@@sailorathena17 the issue is though that feeling that way cnat be helped they dont choose to fail that way.
@@wowgek7 Same difference, dude.
@@wmdkitty this comment makes no sense lol
Dabney, Jay's story also hit me hard..... thank you for your effort to keep reading those stories for us, your channle has been a big part of my day and i'm becoming a better person by listening to so many stories. I would love if you put together a video of wholesome stories, it would be great!
BTW, the final story was weirdly funny!!!!
That story with jay and Rosie gave me massive heavy rain vibes
Jason. :(
That uncle is like a Disney movie:
Fun for the whole family!
I _was_ watching Tango Tek, but this is not something to miss.
Well, some sick part of me was hoping it was the moms brother💀
Dabney getting choked up over a story is the realest thing ever, I'm not a parent myself (yet?) but I can understand that your viewpoint changes completely once you have a kid
The last story. As a midwife I can say, over production when it happens can cause mastitis of not treated properly. Also the body is amazing and can adjust its milk to how much the baby needs and what antibodies etc too. So the baby will not go hungry for sure. Also the husband will probably have a really good immune system for a while 😂
You’re a sweet man Dabney but you’re kidding yourself if you don’t think the sexism in the first story doesn’t happen in America, cause it does and it highlights why a lot of sexual assaults never get reported by women.
And he also doesn't understand that some women can lie about being g"rape"d. That it happens a lot and it's not even true in those other cases.
Which is another reason why those particular REAL cases never get reported because of those lying bitches that want to lie and manipulate men into giving them money or something.
Can we get a “Sweet Home Alabama” in the chat?
What I love about your channel the most is your sarcastic funny comments. Your laugh comes to the 2nd best.
Story 1- Thank you! You took the words right out of my mind. The mom was black out drunk and gets assaulted by her brother in law but she gets all the heat for it?! Hello, the woman couldn’t even dress herself, she was not able to consent or think about the consequences if she did agree to sleep with the dude, which still would have been assault. The fact that no one at that party even mentioned that pissed me off.
1st story: yeah definitely from a repressed culture, but could still be American. They could literally be like Catholic or like conservatives or something lol
Good morning everyone!!
It takes a lot for your videos to make me cry. But that story with Jay and his little neice made me bawl my eyes out. Omg. I cant imagine the level of trauma and guilt he feels.
R/ I just had my first child with my wife, 4 days ago. Hearing you say “I’m sorry, these stories get to me” about stories involving kids is EXACTLY how I feel. They make my chest and body physically hurt, so I hope you’re doing okay and able to take care of your mental health well!
Yep
I hope all have a great day :)
😂The last story's comment, "Milk it for all it's worth!" was great wordplay!😂 Dude, don't worry about it if she's lactating that heavily. She has enough for both of you. Besides, it's either you or a breast pump. Just be considerate when it's time to wean the baby by weaning yourself off as well. Be helpful and supportive. This is a great way to engender a greater closeness between you and your wife.
Not rSlash with another morning perv reading session. I can't even get through it bro.
I ❤ r/slash
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Im so freaking tired. :(
I like how childish rslash is, it really brings a light to these videos 😂
i blamed myself for a car accident that killed my mother when i was 17. family scattered and fell apart, and i am now 38 and just recently dealing with my situation because of it among other things. never went to seek therapy. so i understand losing a close family member like a daughter being your everything
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Story 3 I hope the lady who caused the accident went to jail😡
its sad OP didn’t mention what happened to her
Story 3: wow, that story almost made me cry. Jay IS objectively a hero.
Jay is such a sad hero. He tried to save his dear niece and wasnt able too.