r/Trueoffmychest HELP! My Sister Came Onto Me!
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- čas přidán 25. 07. 2024
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0:00 Intro
0:08 Sister
4:08 Last wish
11:39 Repayment
14:16 Comment
14:36 Open relationship
"Sneaky Snitch" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) License: CC By Attribution 3.0 - Komedie
All signs point to the OP’s sister experiencing some form of SA. She needs help from a professional. This is way past the help of a supportive sibling.
Yeah... I agree completely
That's what I was thinking. The way she is acting is so concerning.
That was what I was thinking. She very suddenly changed and became depressed and addicted to an unhealthy vice. It’s not uncommon for survivors of SA to cope through hyper sexuality, and I believe it’s because it helps them feel a sense of control over their sexual encounters.
I hope his sister can get the help she needs. It sounds like she’s *really* struggling.
I agree she needs professional help
And their mom is more than likely in denial about it, or worse yet might blame sister for what happened. That's the only reason I can think of for her to downplay it so hard.
I have a good feeling the sister in the first story experienced some SA, and it's pointing towards coming from a family member.
My thoughts exactly
I was also thinking about SA.
Op should keep an eye on his sister because in this state she might get around dangerous people and in dangerous situations. Around drug dealers, pimps, creeps, human traffickers to name a few extremes.
And the most concerning thing is the mother who's like: "meh classic girl things, why are you so overreactive son?"
Maybe the girl was SAed and the mom is one of those prudes who wants to hide it under the rug. I heard stories of girls and women who had been SAed and their mothers made their daughters to shut up about it because the people will judge them for being SAed.
Probably the mother - no joke here. She's downplaying it and she is keeping the son deliberately out.
She's either helping or the abuser.
Nonetheless: The sister needs urgent help because apparently those videos are "training" how to please.
That is an ongoing situation.
@@TantejayMothers treating their SA victim daughters like this is actually quite common and not because they are the abuser or covering for the abuser. Rather it's because of internalized misogyny and victim blaming.
@@kaylawoodbury2308it could be both.
that first story gives me major vibes of hyper sexuality after SA, but thats just conjecture on my part
And/or personality disorders like borderline or the like
@@natanoj16 not sure if borderline would make someone suddenly change tbh
Same. The brother seems really sweet and supportive though, without pressing her too much so at least that's something positive. Even though it seems like they're fairly young, judging by them both living at home with the mom.
I feel like the mother knows exactly what happened to OPs sister. And I also bet it was another family member who did it to OPs sister and OPs mother is just trying to deny it,
@@xLostInFirex
Is hypersexuality common after sa? Would make some parts of my life make a lot of sense 😭😭😭
Story 3: Don't be confused. That popular guy's small act of kindness in defending you, and you helping him with his homework speaks volumes. He helped you, you helped him, now he wants to help you again by returning the favor. Not a lot of people do this, so just accept his kindness OP.
Yeah, he realizes that he got a lot more out of the deal they had in school. Add to the fact the indirect threat of having to do it or it would restart. He didn’t give her an option just do it. It did help OP nonetheless. Let him make amends.
It also sounds like he's trying to make amends. He might feel bad about defending her only because she did his homework and wants to make it up to her. She clearly holds no ill will, so accepting the act of kindness helps him find closer.
I think he wants to make up for essentially using her. Which is fine as it's still very much a good deed to reach out and help out all those years later.
Quite wholesome either way.
@@turquoisesnowflake4613 This is exactly it, i can understand him quite well, there are people i would do the same for if i had such money. He likely won't even expect a thank you, he is doing it for her as much as it is for himself. That's why he is so forceful about it, even going behind her back to do what he thinks would be best for her when she doesn't accept his help directly. Even if he isn't exactly a great person, he feels that he could have done better, and he can now better reflect on his actions. Now that he is not hurting for money, he can spread an amount that wouldn't be too consequential to him to help those he thinks he didn't treat as well as he should have, to earn his peace of mind...
It sounds like an act of maturity, reflection, and introspection on himself. I think everyone here has valid points, and trust me when you get older, you REALLY reflect on your choices more.
Last Story: Another classic case of “wanting an open marriage” translating to “i want to cheat without guilt while you stay faithful”
It's not always the case but when it's not the case you know it's not the case and every other time it is. As soon as I heard open marriage after 20 years of happily married you know he just wants a license to cheat.
it could also be an ego thing, like he wants to cheat and feel like he is a good catch at the same time , so he make a mental image that nobody would want to screw his wife and she will stay with him because of it, meanwhile he would also feel like he he is getting loaded in women because of course he is very attractive and desirable ( in his perception) so he got his ego hurt when that didn't happen the way he wanted it
@@unknowngamer37415It may not always be the case, but it's always stupidly easy to tell if it is.
That's exactly how I see it. I don't understand men who can't recognize that they have an attractive woman at their side and then wonder why she gets more dates than they do. It's just stupid.
fact like if your bf/gf want a open relationship 9/10 they are ether already cheat on you and don't want feel guilty about it or they got someone in their mind and when you finally get someone all suddenly they want close the open to close
Story 1: I agree and believe that the sister experienced SA and the mom neither informed the police or took her to the hospital, as they're mandatory reporters. And mom has obviously never tried to get her therapy, either because they're also mandatory reporters and/or she just doesn't care. Depending on their ages OP needs to tell a trusted adult, not necessarily a family member.
if this story took place in the US, the mom most likely can't afford the hospital or therapy.
@@abiean222 Or rather, she doesn't want to pay for either.
I think the SA offender was a family member, which is why the mother isn’t doing anything.
"MILFs are in" was something I never expected that man to say, yet wholeheartedly agree with.
I'm curious what made him think he'd have an easier time getting dates as a middle-aged father of three.
@@thunderflare59 The men in these stories always overestimate themselves because they have a wife and mistress. They usually don’t expect their wives to get dates, that only they would and the wife would just sit there and keep being loyal or be busy with the kids so they don’t have the time and energy to go on dates. They expected the wife would be a doormat, these men hope to have cake and eat it too. I read stories too that the men usually think their wives are not attractive anymore so they assume other men wouldn’t think the wife is attractive too.
It's false though. Guys just want to fuck anything that moves because of low standards.
In the Vtuber Sphere, it's even generally agreed that people over the age of 30 will be in demand soo
@@yi_hou3092Sorry, ladies. I'm taken.
Story 1 this is above reddit's pay grade.
Reddit has been through some crazy story so this is the pay grade
Yeah, someone really needed to tell the kid to call cps or talk to his school counselor. I don't really like the US judicial system, but this is a situation that requires intervention by authorities.
Considering its fiction its exactly in reddits wheelhouse.
Can't believe the brother hit the jackpot like that and instead of having bed breaking baby making sex with his nympho sis he whines to Reddit smh, this generation ain't right I tell ya hwat
@@avesatanae Yeah it was too over the top to be real.
“My mom just told me it’s not my business” yeah maybe it’s YOUR business considering your child is coming to you with concern about your other child. Man unless this mom realizes that the sister needs help I don’t think the sister will get it anytime soon which is sad I feel bad for both siblings.
In my opinion they all need some good old fashioned “family therapy”, if you know what I mean
Probably because the problem the sister had was some kind of SA, and a family member was involved.
Men who thinks a woman can't get a man in her 40's are making me laugh, there's always people who would love to date them.
It's all that misogyny and red pill nonsense, these guys try to justify and validate their obsession with young women. They literally follow this fantasy where every man views a woman past her most "fertile years" as disgusting, withered hags that should count themselves blessed if her husband is still willing to stay married. While men like him are every college girls wet dream. They don't get that most of the world, men and women are looking at them like the fools they are, not the masterminds that have cracked the code like they think.
I think you mean smash
I am one of those men who would. Hell I casually hooked up with a 50 year old woman from a bar time to time when I was 29 so I am not judgmental with age
Yeah i've seen plenty story's when a husband wants a open mariage and when his wife agrees, he immediately goes to the woman he is cheating with. But when wants to "explore" new women he realized that he overestimates himself and underestimated his wife, because his wife now gets attention from men her age and younger (don't talk about teenagers but 25 and above ) and is aks out by men that aren't him. Now he is jealous and wants to close the marriage.
A tale as old as time
The husband was just projecting his own desires and distastes onto every other man.
So...Tanya seems to be behaving like a child that wanted a toy only because someone else was playing with it and once she finally got it and the other person didn't want it anymore she lost interest. It doesn't seem like it was so much about the guy, but the fact that someone else (other than her) had him, I guess...was it about control? Is she some kind of sadist who enjoyed OP's suffering, who then lost interest once OP stopped reacting the way she wanted her to?
Exactly, because if she loved him so much she would not want to destroy his marriage. And of course they were having an affair that entire time. So ridiculous.
Tanya sounds like the classic pick me bish.
Tanya is a blessing in disguise because Op is better without a guy like that.
A few clarifying comments have been left out of this post. Tanya only wanted to hang out with him in person for a few weeks, that's what she meant by 'be with him'. But when he stayed for months, she realized what was going on in his head, hence the argument and her not wanting anything to do with him. She never wanted to ruin anything, but the husband might have, However, OP is showing signs of jealousy if you ask me, and seems to be making assumptions on their relationship based on that. Honestly, ESH except Tanya, who acted reasonably
@@alycat2804I think you would be jealous as well if your partner spent January to May visiting an ex of theirs
"In fashion, in style, in demand!"
THIS LINE IS SOMETHING I WILL NEVER FORGET!
The girl who did the homework, he sees what he got out it as worth more than what he did to repay her in high school, he wasnt bullied and it was probably just comments of hey guys leave her alone, where to her not being bullied was everything back then, and now hes so successful that he feels her repayment no longer was of equal value of what he ended up getting which is incredibly kind that he didn't forget how he got there.
I just turned 40...at 38 young guy called me a MILF and I was shocked. He thought I was like 28 and Ivwas like "nope...38 married mother of two" and he was like "oh...you're a MILF" lol. I was in denial...and some 20 something woman said the same thing. I've come to accept this new title.
We should team up with your looks and my lack of looks we would be unstoppable.
@@anderssorenson9998 lol
milf has no age limit. you got kids, you a milf.
Last story men who only want an open relationship for themselves and not their spouses can shove a freaking cactus down their throat op divorce him and ruin his life and relationship
Only men? What about women?
@@Farhan_049 men are more likely to suggest open marriage
@@Farhan_049no, reread it. Its "men who only"
Not "only men"
He had already controlled the narrative with the kids to make her the bad person. What he didn’t expect was her to go with it and be more successful. Her husband is probably paying for the attention. Whereas she’s being showered with adornment. Men like him delude themselves that another guy won’t take their partner. One of my ex girlfriends made a comment at her family’s party about me. Her Mom’s best friend told her never tell your friends they can have your man. That’s how I lost my first husband. So, it goes both ways.
@@Farhan_049Whataboutism is tiring bro. You didn't even read it correctly
Last story... I can't believe he thought no one would be interested in a 42 year old mom. I bet she's super attractive. The only reason he's not attracted to her anymore is because he's used to her... and probably because for him, the marriage was about looks, not real love. And when she started having his babies and getting older, all of a sudden he wants a hot young thing... not realizing that just because HE'S "used to" his wife, doesn't mean other people wouldn't be interested.
Like, dude, a lot of guys of varying ages are really into middle-aged moms. I'm 40 with kids, and not that I'm some prize or anything, but every time I post some selfies on IG, I get tons of message requests (even though it clearly says on my profile that I'm old enough to be their mom lol). A lot of guys are very attracted to 40+ year old women!
the guy has to be a numbers man. once a women reaches a certain age she is no longer attractive to him, no matter what she looks like. notice how he said he didn't think any man would go after someone in their 40s when they could try for a 20 something. his age doesn't matter, but her age sure does. and he just can't grasp that not everyone thinks that way.
Story 2: Can’t believe no one figured this out. Tanya invited him back because she missed the man she thought he was. Turns out he comes back a cheating loser and she falls out of love with him because him coming back wasn’t as romantic as she thought it’d be, so she sends him back, as no woman wants a man who would do that
Idk. It sounds more like she wanted to ruin his marriage. Talks to him everyday until he cheated and knew his wife wouldn’t want him back
Calling him a cheating loser is a stretch . Especially if by OPs own admission they’re more like siblings than lovers . But you are right , she probably was still in love the man he was and expected hun to be the same but instead he’s became a different person and so she couldn’t stand it. So honestly everyone sucks 🤷🏾♂️ Tanya most of all
@@izraelburgess937 I mean he definitely cheated. He said "her last wish is to f me" and jumped on a plane right away. If he didnt do anything with the cancer ex I'd be shocked.
I think it was just a power trip, her revenge on the wife
@@RisingRevengeance wasn’t her last wish to be with him , not sex
“They became best friends after their breakup due to her infidelity.”
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Tonya was likely never sick. Seb is a moron who reaped what he sowed.
His EX and him became best friends after she committed infidelity. Lemme just throw a few more down here...
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Story #2--- Tanya discovered what Spock told Stoon in Amok Time, "After a time, you may find that having is not so pleasing a thing after all as wanting."
It is possible that OP's husband was also mistaken in what he assumed that Tanya wanted. When she said that she wanted to "be with him" did she mean a one off sexual encounter? Was he wrong to assume that she wanted him to stay?
Personally I think she found that he having him wasn't the fantasy she had imagined.
OP's husband was a fool in any case and she should have divorced him the moment he said that he was leaving.
Totally agree with this theory! They broke up for a reason!
The amount of times I've heard about the "switch flip". A single moment where you suddenly just don't care anymore. I had that a few months ago. It's just a really interesting to me how that happens. I feel like everyone who has that moment ends up doing better after.
Story 1: I can speak from experience, but every person is different. For me, I was incredibly hypersexual after two years of SA. Now, I'm in a far better place and doing everything because I want to, not to cope.
There's a difference between being hyper sexual towards people you dont share DNA with and wanting to be apart of incest.
I never once thought to myself hey my brother is a good option to have sex with. Not even after SA. That's gross 🤷♀️
@@SilverGhxst It absolutely is, and she is in desperate need of help. I'm sorry if what I said came off as excusing her. I don't.
@@SilverGhxst after being raped and sexually assaulted my entire life by my grandparents and cousins, i developed an incest kink- that i still have. i have never come onto family members, but i have had sexual feelings towards them starting as young as around seven or eight. we all cope and experience things differently
*im 18 now and about to move out of my grandparents house, and my siblings are both below a year old and dont live with me (not like id come onto them regardless.)
Second story, I'm not saying that people shouldn't be allowed to make a last wish but Tanya made a gross one and wound up destroying a 'friend's' entire life over it. Hopefully OP can find someone better for her.
Honestly there are some last wishes you can’t ask, but Tanya didn’t care as long as she had her ex. That ex was dumb enough to go with it. He got what he deserved. As for Tanya, kinda confused she suddenly doesn’t want him.
His rejection didn’t stop her all this time so why is it different now, you know?
@@husky8204 I was thinking about it and maybe it became a 'be careful what you wish for' kind of thing? Either that whatever she saw in him was gone.
He didn’t deserve it and he didn’t cheat on op .
@@Sanodi21or she's the kind of person who just wants what she can't have and when she gets it the thrill is gone.
@@90charmedndangerous It's also entirely possible. Plus, they broke up in the first place because she cheated cheated on him so maybe she tried to get him to do the same thing? Either way, OP's free. Also, to the guy that said 'he didn't deserve it', he 100% did. He put Tanya above OP constantly and only went back to OP because Tanya threw him out. If she didn't, he'd still be there.
Story 3: I have the most tiniest of Inkling that the dude had a thing for her, that why he defended her and there strange relationship happened but maybe because of her condition he didn’t want to be with her, then countless years later he see her and remember the crush he had and felt maybe guilty to never going for her, and remember how she did help him so he uses the house thing to thank you and maybe make amends to himself, then when she said no, remember the condition she had, which again could of been a reason he didn’t want to be with her if he did have a thing and so did that for her, tho that my tiny theory
My brain immediately went to SA in the first story. If that IS the case, she’s trying to regain control of her body and sexuality by CHOOSING a person to sleep with vs her being CHOSEN.
Second story: Tanya and Seb are both like a small kid, treating people like toys. Tanya is a classic case of 'grass is greener'. When she had him, she cheated on him. When she no longer had him and he was out of reach, she wanted him back dearly. When he came back for her, she pushed him away again. When OP ditched him, she kept him at arm's length. And there is more than a little bit of evidence Seb is similar, but more greedy when it comes to keeping things he already believes he owns. When he no longer had Tanya, he kept her near as much as he could but he made OP, who he believed to be already his, pursue him as he put all is effort into maintaining his hold on Tanya, who was out of reach. Then when he realized he was losing the OP, although it took a bit longer to settle in, he tried to keep her when she wanted nothing of him, to the point of recruiting family into the campaign. When he had nothing left, he started self-destructing for pity instead of taking any accountability for his own actions.
Story 2: I think Tanya like your ex are obsessed with each other, it's not any kind of love they just have an unhealthy obsession to be in each other's lives. And unfortunately that obsession is why you could never be put first. Maybe for Tanya having cancer was a wake-up call that she didn't want this, or your ex smother the hell out of her and she got sick of it, heck she probably could have just felt bad that his wife was playing second fiddle or he missed you but didn't want to go, I don't know. But it does it matter because the end result is you finally get to live your life and don't have to be his second option anymore, no more fighting or forcing him to act like your husband. Especially since it took an argument for him to come back to you after 4 months that's not something you can just forgive.
Story 1: therapy or you just need to move out, cuz usually I would tell you to tell your mom but since you feel that she doesn't care about either of you the best course of action to go NC with your sister for a little bit so you can get space on how to handle what just happened.
I find it MEGA CONCERNING that the mom is like, "meh girl things whatever".
@@mushroommagic1697 it's giving either I don't give a crap about my kids or there's a predator in the family and we don't we don't talk about it. Maybe even the mom was SAd as a kid and doesn't really see the problem because of it. It's unfortunately common for families that have a pedophile (or pedophiles) in the mix and are so used to it they don't realize it's a problem. Like "oh thats just how your uncle is tehe!"
This screams the sister is SAed. If OP can he needs to move out because he is probably not safe there (some victims of SA can because people that do the SA) and the sister need therapy
You're advising a brother to abandion his sister when this may be he time in her life when she needs him the most?
@@ThEjOkErIsWiLd00 I'm saying OP clearly doesn't know what to do, and is in a stage where he's a little too freaked out to know how to help. I'm not saying forever I'm saying he needs some breathing space to think. Plus since we don't know how old he is or why does sister ended up this way, I don't know how much help he can really provide for his sister. But what we do know is his sister has developed a very inappropriate attraction to him and might not be in a bad State of mind for OP to be around.
Petition for him reading am I the devil
Yesss
yesyesyes
petition for him to start linking to original storys
@@JerickWallacehe used to, I wonder why he stopped
we need this we need this
i love the audio it feels like someone's talking to me over the phone
Yeah, normally it doesn’t sound like this, but tbh I don’t hate it
Story one sounds like hyper sexuality, which isnt uncommon after experiencing sexual abuse. I myself was abused by a family member and it can often cause fantasies about fucked up things like incest or SA. She needs help, like serious help. I hope she is getting it, and that she can recover from whatever happened.
I feel so sorry for you, I hope you will recover.
@mushroommagic1697 I am getting better, thankfully. It's not easy, it's not something I'll ever get over, but I'm managing. Thank you 💕
I have never experienced SA in any form, but I still experience perverted fantasies like the kind you mentioned. My uncontrollable hypersexuality is affecting my ability to socialize with the opposite sex.
I think it came about because of my "adult videos" addiction, but that's not the source of my hypersexuality. Something must've happened in my childhood that I don't remember, because I've had forms of sexual attraction ever since I was single digits in age. I don't think it was SA, though, as I would remember that.
@SvanTowerMan it's not uncommon for traumatic experiences to be repressed completely. Whatever it is I wish you well :( it's hard at times but I believe in you 🩵
@@rivvyp Thanks. I'm not sure what's going on in my head or why I have an abnormally high sex drive, but it makes life very difficult. I feel like a pervert and a creep simply because of the thoughts in my head I can't control.
Last story: again, more written proof that "I want to open up the relationship" is code for "I'm already cheating on you, so I want to do it without consequences... BUT DON'T YOU DARE DO THE SAME TO ME!"
You can't eat your cake and have sex with it too.
It isn’t always, but yeahhhhh
I don't know what she's been through in the first story, I'd estimate SA, but what she's exhibiting is a trauma response that leads to hypersexuality
Story 2: Huh, that makes me wonder, would he have come back had Tanya didn't ask him to at all? Probably not for a long time. I wonder why Tanya did all of that
Whatever it is, I'm glad OP has a better life now
pretty sure tanya geniuenly wanted seb to be happy. so she wanted op to take him back bc she knew she would die
Honestly it's OP's fault. Don't marry a man that's that attached to his ex and keeps pushing you to be besties
@@kmekosnk840 jajajaaj not. Apparently, there's an update where she wasn't really sick and she just wanted hubby back but when she had him back she changed her mind like she did the first time
@@ElleD308 could you send it?
@@ElleD308Where do you see that? I literally looked at their Reddit account and they only have one comment and two posts, everything Rslash went over in this video.
"I saw our relationship as purely transactional, and now he's saying he owes me!?"
Well, yeah. At the time, the value of your help was little to him. However, he's a rare wealthy person who recognizes how he got there, and the value of your help has increased to him. And it should have!
This is still transactional. Just appreciate it, OP.
Second story: how can you be friends with a cheating partner?? And see them as family? Thats the craziest part to me. Her asking to be with him one last time seems almost expected due to them dating and still being connected 😅
Think about it like this , her family is pretty much the only family he had prior to op. So tht plus how long they were together , it’s not unreasonable for him to view her as family.
And how can you marry someone who is best friends with their cheating ex
Story #3: did he really think women get less opportunities than men on tinder? Hahaha!!
This idiot thought that those incels that see "no value" in older women were onto something and he could neg her into getting a free pass to have sex while still having the back up sex toy at home
What an absolute fool lol
Story 1: as a survivor of sexual abuse, I can say that she’s experiencing one of the many side-effects of such trauma - hyper-sexuality. I experienced it myself until I was 18, and it involves finding any man a candidate for sex as a form of self-validation. She needs therapy ASAP and OP needs to tell his mom what happened so they can get her in therapy.
Story 3 is so sweet... he did all of that for her.. he's a nice guy, hope He and the Op live good lives
Story 3;
I think he believes what OP did for him (doing his homework) was more than what he did for OP; like he helped her for a small amount of time while her help to him was invaluable.
I'm not trying to minimize what he did for her either, I just believe this to be his logic is all.
At least that's what it seems like to me.
Dabney saying "MILFS ARE INNNNN" towards the end really had me dying
I’ll never understand the stupidity of a guy asking for an open relationship and expecting their girls/wifes to not have a line of guys willing to mess with them
It's so bizarre! They'll complain about not being "attracted anymore" to their partner or whatever excuse they have then are OFFENDED not everybody else agrees. Like my broski, my man, my friend, you'd be surprised who WOULDN'T line up for a chance w your partner
@@purpleswizzleberry fr
Because if it’s a question of sex
There are going to be no shortage of guys willing and able to bust down some cheeks 😂😂
Though my husband doesn't take me for granted, my daughters make sure to let him know their friends find me attractive to make sure he doesn't. 😂😂😂
Not finished with the second story, but I can already tell that this guy could have actually made the time to contact his wife frequently to check up on her. When I went back to the states to say goodbye to my dying mom, I called my husband every single day. Not just to check up on him, but to hear his voice. So if I, someone who is emotional on the best of days (worse when I am about to get my monthly visit from the Red Dragon), can be half-a-world away and still call my hubby, then this guy could have easily called his wife IF he cared as much about her as he claimed he did.
Does that even matter? Is the frequency of his calls the issue here?
@@radhiadeedou8286Oh, I’d say it’s one easily debunkable thing on a list of shocking wrongs, but it’s genuinely significant. When you think about how a couple with a healthy relationship would do things, it shows up how things really are. When my husband travels for work, he still checks in once or even twice a day. We’ve been married 30 years so the newlywed phase is well over. This is just how you do things in a committed relationship. It does actually represent a lot in this context. More in fact because any husband with an ounce of common sense would recognize that his wife would be fairly uneasy about him being so far away AND with his ex. This guy just hasn’t had a clue ever.
@@radhiadeedou8286Thing is he didn't call. She was the one calling him. If she never called he wouldn't have bothered to do so himself. Can you honestly say he loved her when he ignored her for months and only came back because his ex sent him away?
@@radhiadeedou8286 There is very rarely 1 single issue to anything. It may not be the main issue, but it is an issue worth talking about not just waving off. He didn't care enough to spend 5 minutes calling his wife. That is a problem
Story 1: As someone who was SA'd, the sister is showing all the signs of being SA'd, her response to it feels very similar to mine, seclusion and hyper sexuality. I also think there's a chance the SA was at the hands of a family member and mom is trying sweep it under the rug, hence why it doesn't seem like the sister was taken to the hospital or therapy, but that's more of a gut feeling.
The parents are failing this poor girl horribly, and I really hope she gets the help she needs one day.
sounds like he's in the trunk again lol
Based on the moms indifferent attitude in the first story, she either knows who is SA'ing her daughter and doesnt see it as a big deal or is protecting them, or she is doing it herself.
Or worse, both
I need a soundbyte of RSlash yelling "MILFS ARE IN"
Story 3: that is just SO sweet of him. He seems like a kind and compassionate person and you should definitely talk to him more. You helped him, now he can help you OP.
Rslash found footage sounding recording I love it. I hope he had a great time
“You don’t get to decide whether or not I get to do things for people that make me happy.” Yes I do, I do get to decide if I accept something from you. That’s kind of creepy, and frankly I wouldn’t accept anything being forced on me like that. Being pressured into a gift you don’t want is bullshit.
The life cycle of open relationships:
stage 1: One party wants to cheat, but feels guilty about it, so they ask the other person for an open relationship.
stage 2: The other partner begrugingly agrees but doesn't do anything, while the cheater goes crazy effing other dudes/girls.
stage 3: The other partner finds someone they're interested in, which makes the cheater panic and ask to close the relationship.
stage 4: The other partner realises how trashy the cheater is, so they dump them.
It might go from stage 1 directly to stage 4 if the other partner has a backbone.
I've been in a polyamorous relationship for the past 3 years with no problems. Maybe this is you problem. As long as expectations and boundaries are expressed early and enforced, there's no problem with open relationships. The problem is that people would rather shame others rather than put in the work and communication needed to make sure everyone in the relationship is happy. Don't put your hang-ups on every other relationship. It says more about you than anyone else.
@Mothman1992 Did you start out openly poly or did you spring it on your partner like most of these stories about opening the relationship? If you started monogamous did you have a serious conversation about it or did you say we are opening this relationship or i am cheating on you no matter what? Not to mention often times the partner being asked to open the relationship has that as a hard no. Would it be fair to force them to do it? That is the difference between poly and cheating.
@destinybaird5838 it was discussed before we decided to pursue a romantic relationship. My partner suggested as a possibility, and I took a couple weeks to think about it before deciding I was on board. Honestly, it's one of the healthiest relationships I've been in. Neither of us feel the need to hide anything since our terms were discussed early
@@Mothman1992 I don't want you to think that I am against poly relationships. From the sounds of it you and your partner spoke about it like adults. Alot of the stories rslash has read are about cheating disguised as poly. I just don't want you to think I am attacking you or poly relationships.
@@Mothman1992 Exactly. If it was discussed from the get-go, that's both of you knowing exactly what to look for. Didn't calrify that in my joke.
But if one party brings it up after they signed up for an exclusive relationship, it's usually one party pressuring the other to give them a permission to cheat.
Damn i would accept whatever amount of money he would offer me. Shit im also disabled and would be super thankful for it.
Damn the last story is fucked up of the husband.
Same here, struggling lol 😊
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Story 1: Id go around the mom entirely. Id level set with the sister shes an adult. Brother needs to talk to a therapist who specializes in SA cases to get guidance on how to get his sister in to see them. Not my area of expertise but cutting her off and not talking to her could be extremely dangerous if shes not in the right head space already this could make her feel more isolated, more "broken" and lead to suicide.
The ages weren't stated.
Last story: Your own comment 'MILFs are in' made me laugh for 5 minutes straight. You're legend. Keep 'em coming.
On the first one, I think she may have been SA , watching corn etc.. its all symptoms. OPs sister isn't attracted to him she's traumatised. Hence mum saying "none of your business "
Oh, no. From the beginning of the story, I was suspecting it, but it sounds like OP's sister experienced some sort of SA. One way that an SA victim can react to their trauma is to start to act hypersexual as a way to reclaim power, but this rarely is done in a healthy way. She needs serious therapy and a strong support system right now. I hope she gets the help she needs...
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The girl in the first story has definitely gone through SA... she needs therapy. Look up to see if there's a local YWCA to see if there's any support groups in the area. I hope everything gets better...
Story 1: Those are signs of SA she needs help. I know as a survivor who constantly stayed to myself and wanted nothing to do with anyone.
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For the last story As someone who is in their mid 20s. I actually prefer older women. They tend to be more mature and wise. Honestly for me atleast it's more than just passionate hugging. Experience outranks everything. A woman who is mature and knows what she wants is better than someone who doesn't know what they want. And on a funny side note the most popular adult content, according to the hub is MILFs😂
💯 I'm a married mother of 2 and I get hit in ways more now than I did in my late teens and twenties
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Story 3: I caught this one on Reddit and it gave me warm fuzzies. I really hope that the OP will allow her friend to repay her kindness with those gifts because he just wants to show her how much of an impact she had on his life.
Last story: The "opening up the marriage" stories are the best form of malicious compliance to me. Yet again, another example of someone (usually husband) who wants to open the relationship so he can hook up with someone he already had lined up and then it totally backfires on them when the spouse (wife) has more guys throwing d--- at her than she can handle and he's left sitting at the house while she's living her best life. He thought she was just going to sit at home and not meet anyone. When will these idiots learn? LOL
Rslash has returned to his car trunk to record again
Trunk? Car trunk? The trunk????? Is something wrong with the seats?
Story one:
TALK TO HER!! As someone else suggested, it sounds like sexual assault trauma, where she feels like she isnt of value to someone, if she isnt sexually available to them.
On the upside (no this isnt an incest suggestion, sorry to disappoint those of you who were hoping), she sees you as someone important to her. She asked you something, that is very out of the norm, because she felt safe enough to do so. If you are lucky, it ISNT trauma as mentioned, but rather that she has a crush on you, for being the best solid foundation in her life. Oedipus and the equivalent for sexes switched -complex is fairly normal. Although we learn from being raised and from society that incest is inappropriate. Also that its more a matter of sexual curiosity and that the target becomes someone they trust. Now i dont see any ages on it, or i have missed it, so i cant say if this is likely something due to puberty and hormones or something much more malicious. The isolation can also be from being bullied, but the sudden addiction to porn sounds like trauma from sexual assault (I know from experience). However if she is just around the start of puberty it could be that her porn addiction is the reason she isolates herself, because she might have developed an extreme libido (like nymphomania, which is a disease, not a choice).
All in all, ask her. Talk with her and do NOT shun her away. Even if you feel awkward. which is reasonable, the best course of action is through communication and trying to understand where this sudden desire in her comes from. And makes sure she understands it too, and isnt just riding the wave of hormones.
Having done mental health transport as an EMT and seeing a lot of young girls with similar traits, that first story is 100% a SA or worse event in that girls life.
Story 3: I'm sitting here wondering if the guy had a crush on her, didn't mean to leave his notebook behind, and actually studied what she wrote down, rather then blindly copying it over. And he 100% knows she had it tough so he's trying to return the favor. Heck he might even have a learning disability that made it hard to study in school, so her notes helped. She saw it as transactional, He was just standing up to bullying and accidentally found a tutor.
I love these open marriage karma stories XD
Homie who went to Canada gets the Darwin award
16:10 it’s funny that the fact he is questioning her about her partners speaks volumes about his means he’s struggling to get 1 while she’s getting more than 10
First Story: Classic, almost textbook case that she's been SA'd.....very badly. All the symptoms are there.
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The sister story, there is most definitely some sort of sexual abuse/trauma that has happened to her.
Whatever the sister is going through is no excuse to harass her poor brother. Now he can’t feel safe in his own home. He needs to find somewhere to go. He is not responsible to get his sister into therapy..
Yeah! How dare kids today not know how to handle sexualabuse. She should just bend over and take it like a woman because he’s the only real victim here right? It doesn’t matter that she’s scared and confused and she feels out of control and unprotected, how dare she be so fucking selfish. Get real man
First story was crazy
For the second to last story, really the commenter, actually you ARE allowed to decline someone doing something for you. He's allowed to offer, and you're allowed to say no. You don't owe him letting him do you a "nice thing" if you truly don't want or feel comfortable with it, and he's not allowed to then get angry with you.
you have me hooked, i wanted to play game tonight and find myself watching so many of your videos in a row. realize that you took my one night a month getting drunk playing games with my friends away from me but also earned 1 of maybe 5 subs i even have............keep up the good work man its working.
The audio quality is killing me but I love rslash too much to go a whole month without watching
14:16 - Hold on, now… I’m glad this person recognized that doing nice things for people also makes the giver feel good, but I have so many problems with the friend’s attitude.
It’s nice that it makes you happy to do nice things for other people, and there’s nothing wrong with feeling good about doing those nice things, but I’d like to think that the main motivation is that they benefit the recipient. We all know the kind of “nice” people who are ONLY doing it for the personal good feeling, not because others are in need. The kind whose generosity is conditional and transactional.
Some of those people turn nasty the second you decline. They don’t know your reasons for declining, but you refused to let them have their buzz and they flip out on you for it. So apparently someone was deserving of your help when you had something to gain from it, but now that you aren’t gaining anything, they deserve to be damaged instead? But that’s how they act. They see you as ungrateful for declining their kindness and instead of moving on, they opt to hurt you for it. It’s so petty and self-righteous. The true test of kindness is how it endures when others don’t live up to expectations.
So yes, if a kindness is being offered to me, I DO bloody get to decide whether you get to do something that makes you happy. If your happiness is entirely dependent on forcing me to comply with your wishes, however generous you think you are, then you’re going to have to find other means of fulfillment.
You don’t force people to accept offers they don’t want on the grounds that they have the right to give even when you don’t want to receive. That’s not service, it’s blackmail.
SOMEONE HELP RSLASH HE HAS BEEN ABDUCTED! I love the dedication tho, as he still makes videos form an alien mothership and sends them down, no matter the quality.
He's just in China for a month. Relax.
besides wanting incest, i feel a lot like the sister in story 1- staying in my room 24/7 smoking weed and/or having a life crisis or watching adult videos.
i have experienced SA and adult activities were introduced to me from a very young age and it can change you and your relationships with people. i recommend getting help and looking for support from the people you love and trust. no one is alone and it wasn't your fault. don't let it ruin you
If someone called me and said "hey you helped me in school, I wanna buy you a house and car" I wouldn't blink!
Love the people pressuring their reluctant partner into open relationships that lose it the moment the reluctant partner finds someone.
I already have that situation with a lot of the people in my life is that I don’t hear from them unless I initiate the conversation it’s like it feels like they don’t care enough about me enough to wanna reach out to me first. And I feel extremely shitty for wanting them to live up to the expectation to prove to me that I’m not in this one-sided relationship. But at this point, I’ve been told (possibly gaslit) that just because nobody initiates the conversation is not indicative of not caring about me, but the excuse of never having a moment just shoot a text or call is bullshit.
Years of giving and now I feel guilty for wanting to receive now
Loooooool the last story. How often is it that the guy wants an open marruage, because than it is not cheating, but it should only apply to him ??
One possibility about the first story is that she was actually trying to get OP alone to talk to him about what actually happened 6 months ago as he may be the only person she trusts and thought that trying to enticing him like that would get him to confront her directly as she knows he wouldn't go for it. She may not want to talk about it outside of her safe space and doesn't trust her mom.
At least... That's what I hope...
5:24-Talking on Whatapp is sus as hell to begin with, they're hiding something.
13:33 Wow, this is wonderfyl!
Story: 2 maybe she was trying to help OP get away from him, so she made a plan to wish that he would come back to her and make OP open her eyes like Tanya did when she finally knew what he actually does? perhaps she wasn't the one that cheated? if she was the one that cheated, why did the guy go back to her so quickly an never once called OP? it doesn't make sense at all.
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That last one cracks me up! These people always think it's going to turn out great for them, when time and time again we see this story end the same way. He was really out there thinking he still had it and who would want this tired old hag next to him? Literally FAFO. 🤣🤣🤣
Disabled OP is missing the point that protecting them probably also made their protector a better person, even if he did it for the wrong reasons in the beginning. If you do something continuously, it changes how you think. Protecting them probably started this mindset of wanting to help people, especially those who helped him.
At first I thought the op's sister was being sa'd but then it just hit me that this sounds more like a fantasy than a kid asking for help.
Story 2 is pure revenge.
"My true love ruined my life by not forgiving me like true love should, so I'm going to ruin _his_ life."
Hell, it's quite possible she's not actually terminally ill, just ill enough that all polite conversation will avoid discussion about the "deadline;" she can lure him back, and watch the fires burn.
That popular guy from the third story, someone get that man a beer. Get OP a beer also. They both deserve it.
When people are lonely, they act out. When I was a teenager, my younger sister would find some excuse to come into my room. I knew the real reason was that she was lonely and just wanted company. The mature person grows up and finds a healthy relationship.
I used to live with roommates. I remember that I was too busy to hang out with them and it hurt their feelings. They even wanted me to marry into their family ( I have never wanted to get married). I made it clear, I was not interested but they kept pushing the idea so I made the healthy choice and moved out.
When people have been alone too long, they get desperate. There is also the idea of skin starved, going to long without feeling the touch of someone else. I used to work in fast food, the homeless people would pay with spare change and then touch my fingers. It was weird, but I understood why they did it.
Last story: Lucky OP! I've had Bumble for almost two years and have yet to find a date!
Story 1: Yeah, therapy is definitely needed here. Hell. I need therapy just from listening!
That repayment story is pretty wholesome. Dude might not have been great in school but he remembered his debt and wanted to make it up.