Are Men With Out Community Dangerous?
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The community argument is SO real! I just had a conversation with a family member and I asked this very question of "who does your husband have in his circle who can help him expand his ideas about marriage...with whom he can be vulnerable, transparent, and honest?"...she replied as I had thought..."no one I can think of". So this man has no one in his life who can challenge him on how he shows up for himself and his family. He's only relying on his own wisdom or lack thereof! She's considering divorce after 20+ years...mostly because of this issue. The man can't change if he lives in an echo chamber of his own disfunction. Lord have mercy!
And where are the books for the Power of Praying Husband??? Can we as a community stop leaving the weight of EVERYTHING in the home spiritually and naturally on the wife and mom? And stop excusing it! The pride and stubbornness of men is 100% leading to the crumbling of our society. This woman putting up with this for a decade is insane.
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P.s sorry, i felt like i was ranting but there is a huge weight imbalance in homes that is soo troubling to me and continues to grow ok the shoulders of women to carry *
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Completely agree 👍🏾
This!!!!!
There’s definitely an imbalance, and that’s aside from just those in single-parent homes. It’s extended across the board, even for working, stay-at-home, or retired fathers. Their presence needs to be felt more in the home setting. It's implied by many to be a woman's position because women are the nurturing parental figures; therefore, a lot of childrearing falls on the mother as the fathers grow content with their comfortable role of protecting and providing. I applaud dads on a regular basis who take the opportunity to spend real quality time with their kids, instilling a sense of belonging, safety, and open communication, verbal and/or nonverbal. Building this trust with both parents is a vital component of a healthy family unit. Thanks for sharing.
🙏🏾Blessings
BIG BIG L💞VE - 🌺InspirationByB, a branch and affiliate of ⚜️HairByB
There is a book called the power of a praying husband by the same woman who wrote power of a praying wife. And also books geared towards men… like Kingdom Man and Manhood Restored! They exist. But churches are majority men tbh
I missed ya'll for real!!! Okay, let me go watch this now. LOL
As a dating woman, the number of men I encounter who have no solid friends, guides, or mentors in their lives is astounding and makes me a bit nervous.
This episode was amazing. Glen was saying alot of truth. The problem is that men aren't ready to be vulnerable with each other to have the community.
Facts. They’re always trying to one-up each other. #Egos Women have their shortcomings, but men do too. This is a big one among the community of fellas. Vulnerability isn’t for the weak of heart.
I think also we dont talk about leaving someone bc they aren’t right for us…meaning that they emotionally…mentally..abuse us..we always say physical abuse or verbal abuse but putting someone in a place where they are constantly emotionally unsafe..mentally unsafe and they constantly put you in a fight or flight state where you nervous system is always high is also abuse…bc that over time can kill and deteriorate your body and brain…
He is not creating an environment for her that is safe bc she doesn’t feel heard..seen..supported..providing and more…
Absolutely loved this episode! The questions of “Who did you marry” and “Can we fault a man for not growing” have so many layers that we make the mistake of glossing over. To our detriment at that!
17:43 Unfortunately, it’s more common than not for married women to attend church without their husbands. It blows my mind. Of course, there are exceptions…
I only learned about some of the marriages in my church AFTER I got married. 😅And it’s my home church… I literally grew up here and I’m like, you’re married?
Wow😔😔
…whether he is a Christian or not..he definitely needs community & wise counsel…this is him needing to be a man of good character, integrity, & accountability..doing right by his wife and the children.. having vulnerable, kind hearted and wise people around him
I wholeheartedly agree👏🏾🙏🏾🙌🏾🥰
@@brendarodrigues3046 thank you so much☺️
I'm 57 yrs old. I wanna go to the Mother's Day retreat. I've never had one. I'm a grandmother of 4, now. I don't want to cramp or crush you younger people, but let me know.
You should go!!! I think they would receive you with open arms! 😊
I agree you should go! The wisdom of being a mother and now a grandmother holds so much weight and you have women in which you can share your journey with
I think that’s absolutely sweet, and in this instance, age comes with wisdom. I’m sure it would be a pleasure to have you. I'm excited that the content reaches such varying groups or ranges of women. That's surely a big win in a department for providing real substance.👏🏾🥰
She's safe because her parents are providing a safe place for her not her husband. He's reaping the benefit of their labor and provision for their daughter and grandchildren.
Glen why did you put Yvette on blast like that with that how married are you??😭 I have second hand embarrassment
She allowed it to be posted so it's all good. Girl knows when she wants some! It's what's marriage is about, being naked and unashamed like Adam and Eve. Fire in the morning be a great way to start the day. 😂 ❤ 🎉
I be missing yall every time there’sa gap like a little bratty child.
Glenn putting Yvette on blast like that at the end was craazzyy LOLLLLL
Ayo we back, missed yall fr
I knew baby girl was the GOAT when she helped in the birth of Uzi. Her calmness and the way she wanted to attend to you. 😊
Thanks
I was getting worried about y’all! IG helped soothe the worry lol Glad to listen to another episode ❤
"can we fault a man for but growing?" I think is a great question, that we're always asking, especially in situations like these, but rarely explicitly.
Encapsulated another way, like focusing on, "you knew who he was when you married him," previously would have received an answer of no, it's not his fault he didn't change.
However, I think God would say he is at fault for not growing. He's given us all some gift or TALENT that we should be capitalizing on, or using to serve people. This man's gift could be being an amazing homemaker with a great personality, that allows his wife to focus, and receive multiple promotions at her job. Maybe he becomes a content creator, or runs the community homeschool. Maybe his gift doesn't actively bring money into the home, yet somehow causes it to thrive, we don't know. That's his fault for not growing into whatever man he was born to be.
Now, she is still at fault, because of that initial statement, "you knew who he was when you married him." She either knew this was who he was, and hoped for no reason that he would change, or she didn't know him, and married a man she didn't know. She didn't see him searching, learning, growing himself, which would have brought forth some type of fruit, even if it wasn't the best job, or the most money yet.
Was he actively seeking ways to do the same for her, planting seeds within her, finding better ways to communicate, to serve, to show appreciation, was his life aspirational to her at all?
She may not have even understood what marriage was and what she would need to be, and what she would need from him before she decided to marry him. Again, her fault.
All of this is solved by putting God first asking Him where to be, and who to be there with. Their triangle analogy was great, and having in depth discussions or understanding of that concept is foundational to what a solid marriage could be.
I love this straightforward male perspective. Thank you for your generous contribution. I can agree, and in some areas, I can raise the degree. Both husband and wife should grow likewise. #Evolve His spiritual state, or lack thereof, may be a result of his current condition and situation. Which is why she desires him to increase his walk of faith. She understands the importance of being equally yoked, seeking first the kingdom of God, loving his wife as himself, and that they are truly each other’s saving grace. I think she simply wants the best for their family; nothing less.
✝️Supporting Scripture(s):
2 Corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
Matthew 6:33 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
Ephesians 5:25-33 (Emphasis 25, 28 & 33)
25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
1 Corinthians 7:16 How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?
🙏🏾Blessings
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Welcome Black y'all
🎶 welcome welcome welcome black 🎶💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿
I missed you two, glad you’re back.❤❤❤🪇🎶🦋💃
Safety is cautionary
Security is regulating
It is a good thing to:
Cautiously regulate exceptions and outcomes of interpersonal relationships.
I’m definitely going next year to the Mother’s Day event …I have the Generations w/ CeCe this year and I love the idea of taking that weekend for ME MYSELF & I 😊
I think the bible is pretty clear about this:
1 Corinthians 7
13And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. 15But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. 16How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?
🎯 Yes!!!! 👏🏾🙏🏾🙌🏾💯 Amen!!!! All of that..
He has tapped out whether he is depressed or just lazy. He may need therapy or to go.
Glad to see you back ❤️
Thanks
y'all so damn cool man I can't WAIT for marriage 😆🔥💕
Ya'll stay Lit period
Glen breakin that thing all the way down and Yvette hit the nail on the head 32:05 security/protection is missing (to me the relationship sounds like it's void of Covenant agreement) when in active agreement the security would accompany that right? Ion know I ain't married lol
I was just thinking of y’all yesterday like I haven’t seen a video in a while. Glad y’all are back!
@20:10 Very Good Talk!
Thanks dear.
UGHHH missed yall so much!
wee tooo
I was wondering where y’all went. I missed y’all. Glad you’re back❤❤❤❤
I've missed you guys!!! Glad to see you back!
Thanks
If this is true it makes a sad statement about the moral fiber and true devotion to the preservation and strengthening of America and Democracy fiber of the United States. 😢😢😢!
Yvette Saying Priscilla Shirer’s Book Is Good But She Hasn’t Read It Yet Was Hilarious To Me 🤣🤣🤣
so you're willing to lose your marriage because your husband won't go to church? why don't they compromise?
edit: of course after watching this twice, i have a deeper understanding. she'll need to have another conversation with him to see where things went left and openly hear his side
Well its not all Church its that he clearly has no drive, no family goals & can't lead their family.
@@ItsBrittany.her biggest gripe is that they're not equally yoked and she don't think he puts god first because he don't go to church. as a man i will agree that he has fallen back massively and stopped putting his family first before his job. of course we're only hearing certain parts of the story. im not sure he feels valued as a husband, so he changed the way he moved. it's important for her to sit him down and see exactly how he feels and why he changed
We missed you guys! ♥Loved this episode! I haven't really thought about the possibility of religious changes once into a marriage...great conversation and something I am going to ponder!
I saw the short of your HMAY and I have been waiting to see the episode! haha
20:50 It takes effort and for men to be in community, they have to explore spaces beyond their job and their house and be committed to developing quality relationships. If he wants, the resources are available, but he gotta want to do it.
maybe yall don't say lit in cali, but people still say lit on the east coast
Noooo you didn’t just put her out in the street like that…! 😂❤
That, he did.😊😂💗
lol.
The church is a place where you gain like minded community? Why reinvent the wheel with gatherings? I'm not opposed to gatherings i just think it seems redundant or at the very least counterintuitive. Definitely love you all just seeking understanding.
I’m missed y’all…I just was wondering when you guys plan on coming back❤
wee toooo
Can u make a video on how to get community besides church of course
Sure
Me: telling my husband about the email.
My husband: he's probably depressed
Me: 😮 🤯
That's likely true because of their situation and without community to recognize and call it out they're not seeing it. It's hard to recognize depression while you're in it or super close to those who are.
Really Glen 💀💀💀 you just... Smh I have no words. Yo kids is gon watch this one day😂😭😭
Facts😂
I think that this is a case of a woman that chose a husband and father of her children based on her needs as a single woman vs her needs a married mother. I doubt he is much different from the day that they met. She should do what ever is in the best interest of the kids because its not about her anymore.
@27:15-28:15🎉😂❤ 👏🏽
The How Married Are You at the end was a repeat! Did the convo kinda cut off randomly or is that just my take?
I have never heard it before, it was great! 😂
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😂😂 Ms Yvette is always a little behind the times
Wait when is the next How married are you live and are currently single young people who desire health life long marriages allowed to attend 😁😁😁🤔🤔🤔
😂 sooo, how married are you??? 😂😂😂
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Glenn is tew merch!
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How are there 25 views but 36 likes? I don't get that math.
If I had to guess, views have to do with watching from beginning to the end. And you can like a video without making it to the end of the video. So the 36-25=11 people who hit play and liked the video before watching to the very end.
To the average man, this community you speak of is not as available as you guys make it seem.
Also yes we can fault him bc unlike a plant..he can ask for help..he can google..he can watch your youtube..he can take accountability for what he hasnt received or learned as a grown man and get help but its clear he doesnt want it..ok now im done lol