Close With My Best Friends Husband
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Ill say it like this, if me and my husband were going through it, and now were divorcing, and I find out MY friend from childhood is hanging out with my husband trying to be there for him because she feels hes a good husband and needs her support.... we would probably not be that close anymore...
This happened to me it wasn’t my best friend, but it was a friend of mine that I had had for like three years prior to marriage and she was even trying to be on his side when I left him. Needless to say I blocked her for a while, and it wasn’t friends with her for a while.
Let him design pillow cases for merch. Give him pillow cases that he can write on.
I would legit buy one!!! But this is awarding bad behavior 😅. But Uncle baby doesn't do bad things in my eyes. 😂😂😂😂
Lily is looking STRAIGHT into the camera 😂 that took me out in the first few seconds lol
Jim from The Office vibes😂
LOL!!! Yvette STAYS lighting a fire and not wanting to stay around for the smoke!!!
Ma'am!!!
You have to be OK with some discomfort 😂! Especially when you walked yourself RIGHT into the conversation! It stings but its just a little smoke at the end of the day. ❤
You guys should paint Uriah's room with white board paint or chalk paint so he can draw all over the walls in his room and it's erasable.
In my opinion it sounded like the friend may have had feelings for the husband or built up this ideal of him that was just unrealistic. Maybe it’s just me but the way she was describing him, he was on this pedestal and she barely said anything positive about her friend. Almost as if she blamed her. I wish you guys read the second email in full.
But now that she found out the husband cheated it’s ‘oop, never mind…delusion dissolved.
Now as it relates to the cheating part and loyalty, I agree with no longer keeping the friendship with the husband (or anyone for that matter). If you can cheat on someone you stood before God and family to commit your life to and end up betraying that person, my goodness what in the world could you do to me? Ain’t no way we can still be friends! No love lost and if you reconcile with your partner maybe there can be a friendship later but until then, nawl homie we good and God bless!
I was thinking this the whole time
I agree 100%. I think no good couldve come out her being friends with the husband. how many affairs or hookups started with "he needed a shoulder to cry on" "they were going through things". Plus the husband had his family to lean on, he didnt really need the friend in my opinion.
Great episode. Great conversation. I lean towards the empathy for my close friends. I can be cordial, but BOUNDARIES are okay instead of cancel culture. People can demote themselves from “friends” to “acquaintances” based on their actions.
listen i literally said prior to the update that she needs to mind her business-out loud, at work. 😂homegirl is too involved!!!
lol this episode made me think “maybe they should just prerecord the intro 😅” Regardless, great episode guys!
There is a tone to these emails. I'm friendly with all my friends men but we are NOT friends. And if it ends with them, its no beef but SHE is my friend. There is no dilemma as to who friend I am no matter how familiar we may be. Even if I don't pick a side, SHE is my friend. Even if I empathize with the guy, SHE is my friend. So the tone is confusing. I agree with Glen i think there is a bit of idolization or admiration expressed in the email, and the tone can be mistaken for something else. I don't unfriend my friends for mistakes that they've made in their love relationships because to a degree its not my business. I'll tell you if you dead ass(I'm from NYC😂) wrong. So her writing in again to say "nvm" makes me again confused. Too invested in more ways than one
21:59 The comic relief of showing Lily’s face!😂😂
Uzzie would probably like a chalk wall or those paper rolls (I've found them cheapest at Ikea) . They have blanks (literally everywhere now) he can customize like shoes, hats, shirts, etc
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Glen is truly defining male friendships. My guy friends often said there’s a difference between said friend in a relationship vs. said friend as a friend vs. said friend at work etc.
Just be cordial to dude and move on. You don’t need that type of drama. It’s a conflict of interest
I understand why the friend gushed about the husband before she knew he cheated. Marriage is meant to withstand sickness and health. To her, the wife was not fighting to save her marriage though this sickness of depression. I’m sure her heart empathized greatly for him. After she got the details, she must’ve felt betrayed and able to empathize more with the wife.
The husband needs therapy and treatment. I don’t think it has to be the end of their marriage. Lots of healing, accountability and forgiveness needs to take place.
If the friend does not have the tools or resources to navigate depression, then she should just stay in her lane and focus on the wife.
How much u wanna bet the best friend wouldn't have outed him as a cheater if she wouldn't have been trying to sing his praises and give that man sympathy.
idky y’all whispering about someone Yvette don’t mess with no more is so funny to me but it is lmaoooo and then Lily clocking all the tea the whole time 😂😂😂😂 the cherry on top!
Okay. It would be hard if I was friends with my girl first since diapers and this guy came along and I became close with him and then knowing what he did regardless of how he got there its just you hurt my friend. When I see the guy I’ll only be able to see the cheater/liar/ etc. so it would be hard for me to comfort said guy in his moment of weakness because I ultimately am more loyal to my friend who was hurt because of our history together. I never knew the guy truly because he never truly shown himself. I never owed him a friendship like the one my girl and I had.
I think the friend (author of the email) was a bit out of line. It sounds like she built up a great image of the husband, but didn’t say much about how she perceives her actual friend. I think she had this idea the husband was this amazing guy and her friend was in the wrong, but I think as a woman, she should not pursue a friendship with the husband. If she feels her friend was in the wrong for not supporting her husband, then be a friend and be honest. But befriending the husband is a recipe for betraying her friend. And the friend is dealing with being divorced from her husband and is probably in pain and needs her friend
In regards to the friends marriage, it could maybe be salvageable if they are willing to change things. Hope it works out. EDIT: just got to the part where the husband cheated and I think she certainly cannot be friends with the husband, but she shouldnt have been friends with him anyway because he hurt her friend when he decided to divorce her because he "lost himself" in the marriage. To me, thats something you work on, you dont divorce for that. Anyways, with the followup, it seems she definitively built up the husband based on what she say from the outside and I think thats not a great thing to do with your best friends husband. You have to remember no man is perfect.
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The friend is trippin’ she’s definitely out of line. Sounded like she was into the bf husband. Why even write this letter on advice of what to do. Don’t do anything but support your friend. 🙃
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3 - hopeful, emotional and spiritual support can be offered to affirm the friends to fight for the marriage to pivot and grow. Which might be what the real hindrance is.
2 - yay Glenn day one until the day of now that’s a good friend! However, it is possible to maintain friendship with both parties, so that all is not lost, especially when the emotional / spiritual support may be needed.
Heyyy what happened to the outro music? lol.. Great Podcast ❤
14:37 I had this exact same thought. It’s crazy how I thought you were going to say something similar to this, but you literally said my exact thought like why do you wanna be friends with your best friends husband I just don’t get it.. especially if she don’t even wanna be friends with him lol why do you hahaha
Listening and this is an interesting ep already. All that the guy done cannot be destroyed by 1 wrong thing he done to someone. we would need to hear from his side as to why he even cheated.
Yvette is so innocent, uncomfortable is part of life. The lady needs to stop speaking to both of them
I enjoyed that movie. Yes it was corny but very fun to watch
He also could’ve went through the mental stuff felt unsupported by her and then cheated … or she could’ve been abusive to him created the mental situation he tried to fix it and then cheated again we don’t know . Which is why she should just evaluate the friendship see where it’s serving her or if it’s it pray to God about it and then move on about it… as a divorcee I can’t stand stuff like this and picking sides and “day 1s” your day 1’s be on some bs too sometimes
It's not that he doesn't care...read a bit about child development so your expectations can be more reasonable
When my man starts chewing me up, I start touching him too 🤣 “what’s that in your beard?”
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Okay. Hear me out. The friend just now found he cheated on her friend. Her knee jerk reaction may be to throw the whole man away. I think grace should be given. She should get a chance to process. I'm sure when his wife found out she needed time to process. Maybe later she'll decide he still has her friendship to a whatever extent, but she should be given the chance to process, but for now, let her feel her feelings and "throw the whole man away" lol.
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Yeah even with the update telling someone to fight for their marriage is a slap in the face bc you don’t know what goes on , and it’s very bweird it’s like you’re living vicariously through them … even if he cheated we don’t know why or if that’s true she should probably uninvest herself form this marriage tbh and focus on being a friend but just bc he did something that would personally offend her if it happened to her doesn’t give her grounds to be upset about it any therapist would tell you cutting someone off is only done when they are intentionally hurting you or deeply debilitating you , cutting off flawed people shows that you treat people as options and have (kind of what she said) an ideal level of perception for people that’s unattainable bc of her friend was the cheater would she stop being friends with her? No she wouldn’t
That movie was corny! But I also watched it 😅💀
Unfortunately when you discover a major lie like cheating, the person’s character is fully in question. Cheating is a form of lying. You now question what else is the person lying about. I love y’all giving the benefit of the doubt but there’s certain mindsets that goes with the cheating… including potentially hiding behind something else when all along they were just lying. 🤷🏽♀️
That movie wasn’t that bad 😂😂😂
But it was corny though 😂😂😂
I think that friend was hanging on to her childhood friend’s ex-husband for nefarious reasons.
Being mad at other people for reasons that don’t hurt you is childish, 😂 and highschool behavior tbh … yeah even with glens explanation sounds childish tbh - sorry Yvette but I always hated that mindset
I don't condone cheating. So no I wouldn't be his friend. Two she shouldn't have an expectation of ANYONE that is perfect but JESUS! at the end of the day although he's all those things . HE TREASURE his wife but cheats? So is he really genuine? ...... I think lol the friend just wants to keep him as a friend. Just say that. But don't dress it up in a bow. Just say despite what happens I want to be his friend. Which is still a little off to me....
Y’all the intro these last couple episodes has been poop. Sound like y’all don’t want to be here. But we want you to be here 👀🥹
Man, i bore witness to a similar story.
Perfect family on paper, the cracks were obvious if you paid attention, difficult to avoid falling into without faith, and impossible to crawl out of without God's grace. You just keep digging yourself deeper and deeper, when all you have to do is stand up.
I hated watching it happen to him, and seeing him actively choosing the path of destruction, while talking as if there was a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.
He thought he was being a man, and getting what he earned, while he was actually torching his real gifts.
All I hear is pain in his voice while he tells me the lies he's been telling himself for years, even though there's but a single person on this earth that believes them. Hate to see it.
1 - Oh wow this is so great!.
I had to pause on the update to come back and finish it later. but this is so good to get the before, as we thought it was (wth 😂) and then to know what it may be 🫣.
This is what I’m down for y’all are so lovely.🎉❤