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So, this was my email that was addressed during this podcast. My husband and I listened to this episode at separate times, but we are currently talking about what we both took from it. I introduced my husband to you guys through your platform years ago. He instantly admired your union, so he had a lot of respect listening to your take on our situation. Man…we so desperately needed this podcast, so I thank you guys from the bottom of my entire heart for choosing my email. We are in therapy separately, but we see the same therapist. We also have couples sessions every blue moon, but this was also very helpful getting an opinion from another couple who have somewhat gone through the same thing. It is also very refreshing to know that we are not alone. However, I wish we were alone because I don’t wish what we went through on anybody 😢. Much love to you guys ❤
I am praying for you guys and I’m hopeful that this episode was the conversation/action starter to help us all in this area. 💜
@@amateurlifehome7 thank you! I really appreciate that. 😊
Glad you guys are both getting help, trust our Father he will keep you
I'm glad you all are in therapy and that you all are working on understanding each other. Peace and blessings to you both!
Thank you so much for trusting us enough to write in. We do not take it lightly, and we are so grateful you both were able to take something away from this conversation. We're all navigating all the things, and we're so proud of you for the work you're putting in for a healthy marriage and healthy communication. Keep on keeping on! 🥰🤗
Glen twisting Yvette’s hair warms my heart. I appreciate black love 🖤
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I’m sorry the podcasting while he retwists your hair melts my heart 😍😍😍😍
“This is a 10k conversation” is a whole bar! Understanding that your partner has your best interest at heart and he/she figuring out a way to communicate that is sooo vital!
Glen retwisting Yvette’s locs is a whole love language. So beautiful to see this ❤
I LOVE this for so many reasons! First of all, I feel like Glen is taking such pleasure in twisting Yvette’s hair while having this conversation. I love that this is clearly a heavy thing for yall, but it’s just a convo rather than a contentious debate. **Maybe the contentious debates have already happened. LOL** I also love that y’all are talking as if thousands of people aren’t watching. It’s less presentational and just honest. Yes, there are cameras and mics and names aren’t being mentioned, but it still feels like yall are just at the house, doing hair and talking about something important in your marriage. I love this so much! I hope yall know how much this is blessing those of us who are watching.
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This is therapeutic! Seeing black love as an act of service makes my heart smile❤❤❤
Man Glen be speaking on these subjects... like my husband says, all knowledge ain't taught at one school... give that brother an honorary doctrine❤
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“This is gonna upset all y’all mama’s boys…” and “This ain’t love is blind, it’s covenant.” lol yeah! 😂 this discussion was so insightful especially when you talked about allegiance and loyalty - that part answered the question at the top of the pod “why did it take so long?” Yvette it’s very helpful to hear you say “there was a point where I began to realize Glen wasn’t going anywhere.
2 things : How do you not fall asleep while he is doing your hair ? 😴 You are Not old! You’re older , not old..I mean..Wrinkles where?
I am. OLD
50:41 Nedra Glover Tawwab authored “Set Boundaries, Find Peace” and “Drama Free”.
Great resources!
I'm Glen, and my husband is Yvette. His family, primarily his mother are toxic and he's choosing them over me and our children. I'm starting to check out, pray for me...pray for us.
Thank you Glenn, for showing some self-respect in the face of a challenging situation. Honestly saying you would opted out if you knew you’d come 2nd in the marriage shows you honor yourself as an image bearer.❤
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As a fellow BIPOC person, I think that our families of origin tend to be tightknit and what some (western therapists) would claim even enmeshed. I find that usually the eldest child or daughter (or more “dependable” child would be closer/loyal to their family of origin. On the other hand though, I completely agree with the leave-and-cleave philosophy when you get married. And it is definitely hurtful if your partner doesn’t defend you when your in-laws disrespect or say hurtful things to you
I have a sister, 11 years older than me. But when she has epiphanies about our family she still allows me to go through it and learn the lesson. So when my husband points things out I double check with my sister 😂
YIKES! Glen wouldnt remarry our good sis had he known Yvettes priority to her family BUT sis was wrong for what she was doing.
Im glad you guys are on the other side of that!! Its so much we dont fully realize about marriage until we're in the thick of it. We've known our families our whole lives & its very hard to break away but you got too
This conversation hit home for me in a different way because I was an 8 year old child who came into my aunt and uncle home after my mom passed, and I became a ward of the state. I grew up with verbal abuse, manipulation, and controlling people who were supposed to love me, and I was able to build walls up around me as a way to protect me mentally, emotionally, and physically. But then I became pregnant and brought my daughter up in this same environment, and I could never speak up for her. I could see it was affecting her worse than it affected me, so the only way I could protect her was to move out of the home. I am still learning how to stand up and protect my child and myself against my family.
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I think this has to be my favorite episode thus far. Watching Glen do Yvette's hair was awesome. Many prayers to you both and your beautiful marriage ❤
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You all have such good perspectives and help to normalize challenges in marriages because it is truly normal to have challenges. In the same breathe Glenn doing his wife's hair during the podcast may seem like a small thing but to me it shows the growth and how as a husband he prioritized her. Love this😍
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When those toxic and dysfunctional behaviors have always been part of the family dynamic, it's hard to recognize it as unhealthy. It takes someone healthy to put a spotlight on it. IMO
It is sad that when you don’t go along with the family of origins norms, traditions or behaviors YOU are the problem. It is time out for “thats just they way they are” we have to take accountability and make the effort to do and be better. Myself included. Thank you guys! Have an awesome rest of your week.
So cool that you're doing her hair
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This is a deep episode. I want to cry. My whole life has been people pleasing. Never disrespecting adults that should have been there to support my growth as a young woman. Maturity appears at different levels for different people. I can't change the past hurts but for now on As the old saying goes... don't start none won't be none....
Glen is right " hold you hostage" is a syndrome a rude awakening for people who just hating on you... ❤ya'll
Between Yvette's soothing tone and watching Glen do Yvette's hair, I didn't stand a chance staying awake after I hit the couch. Rewatched, well mostly listened instead, and enjoyed the conversation. Definitely makes for a good premarital topic too. Thanks much 👍🏽.
This episode was THERAPEUTIC in soo many ways. I love how we are witnessing intimacy in a form that is both relational and cultural. ❤
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Missing you guys. Hope everyone is okay 🤍🤍
Beautiful episode! Absolutely love and appreciate the transparency especially whilst being in the thick of a challenge! I’m praying with y’all 🙏🏿🤍
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Rap sessions help so much, group therapy! I commend you two again for your commitment to God and each other, "keep running"😘😘
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Am I the only one that would appreciate them releasing the Chocolate Baby Story Time instrumental for us to just listen to? 👀😁
Checking in from the DMV.
I think it takes so long because they’re your family, your father. In my experience, we search for love from our loved ones especially your first loved ones that sometimes you do anything to appease and make them happy. You have that hope that things will change and you will finally receive the love you always wanted throughout your childhood. It takes a while to realize that. Or a big shift in perspective.
Excellent conversation. I struggle with my partners mother being negative and disrespectful. I’m starting to see the downfalls that come along living with someone, while not being married. I’m living and operating like a married woman without marriage. Praying hard that marriage finds me, or I feel more supported by my boyfriend.
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I like Yvette’s hair pulled up , but im really a fan of updos I feel like it brings out beauty
hey Thanks xoxo
I loved the conversation paired with Glenn doing Yvette’s hair on camera ♥️
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I really like this channel even though I have no interest in ever being married. Keep it up guys!
Thanks, keep supporting
50:40 Yes, Nedra Web. She’s really good at breaking it down!
I, unfortunately, also have a narcissistic father that used and took advantage of me and I will say it is extremely hard to finally come to grips with who your father is. Naturally, you have an openness to your father, especially when he gives you a sense of purpose. However, narcissistic parents don’t have pure motives for their children. He sounds like the golden child tbh. Unfortunately, the husband will need to understand how they really are using you for their own gain to cover up their own insecurities and they will replace you in a hot second if they can’t control you. Personally, leaving that made me feel like a shell of a person and it took me a while to prepare for those empty feelings but God has stepped in. For me, I was always waiting for my father’s approval, affection and acceptance and the behavior the husband is exhibiting reminds me of that. It took me 16 years to finally come to grips with who my father is and how destructive he really is which is VERY hard to comprehend with their yo-young behavior. The husband is going to have to do a lot of therapy and praying to properly move on from this so it doesn’t persist in his family.
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The comment that this is a way that impacts the whole "leave and cleave". Really hit home for me. My nucleus family is me and my spouse first.
Even seeing our family as a backup system especially for supportive families. But the family should not be a crutch to my nucleus family.
Great conversation guys❤❤❤❤
I am loving this Shared intimacy of doing your wife's hair.
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This type of behaviour is normal in a lot of families.
(1) Husband needs to find another job...ASAP
(2) From now on...too busy to talk on the phone..."gotta go
have a lot to do".
(3) Make your holidays meals personal, just with your own family.
(Make your own new memories with your children in your home.)
(4) Agree with husband giving wife an apology for allowing
his family to disrespect his wife.
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Yvette I understand how you don’t feel like it right now, bc it will shift your family dynamic and their expectations of you so you may feel like you may lose that . And if it’s not directly impacting you on the day to day I get that, however with the writer she was in those daily situations , so I think he would’ve had to address it sooner bc it was impacting her quality of life on a day to day basis
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I wonder if that could be a part of people pleasing.
Most definitely
When are new eps coming out?? Pleaseeee
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Hello
Please share the name of the book Glen referenced by Nona Jones
Killing Comparison
Your intro is sounding very sultry guys, love how you switch it up
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A $10,000 solution? That part really lost me . That’s how much therapy was ?
I hate that it seems like in the black community, there is always issue with the man’s side of the family and the wife… I literally don’t understand
Very common in West African culture as well!
Can’t wait for y’all to get to my email 😌
Ughhhh I sent this to my husband cuz boy oh boy
Hope it resonates with him. I know how difficult it can be. Blessings to you 🙏🏾.
@@valenkennedy3879 thank you, I hope so too🙏🏿
Great video! I cover similar topics on my channel.