What I Wish My Virgin Bride Would've Known
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- čas přidán 17. 06. 2020
- In this episode of #HowMarriedAreYou, we discuss how we think virgins can better be prepared for sex before marriage and we attempt to encourage a woman who can count the amount of times she's had sex in her first year of marriage. This conversation gets pretty heavy, y'all! Can't wait to hear from you in the comments below!
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I’m kinda diggin the darker lightning tone
How Married Are You? MEEE!......my comment pinned!?!?........WWWOOOWWWZZEERRSS!!
It makes their complexion look even better
Same I love it.
It's easier on my eyes. My phone is already always in night mode. I can't do the super bright screen...
I agree!!
Wow! I have NEVER heard a man apologize to his wife for not being a virgin for her. That’s amazing and mind blowing, because I think that most men think that they should be very experienced going in...almost expected. But to hear Beleaf say that he stole that from her? A beautiful thing to say!
I thought the same thing! He really is a good man. But is it just me or does the wife seem a bit sad?:(
It really was beautiful for him to say or apologize. I never thought of it that way.
I was a virgin when I got married and my husband expressed his regret and apologized for not being one. It's truly a blessing
My husband does that at least annually. Apologize for that. ❤
I'm a single, Christian,virgin who was addicted to porn for over 10yrs when I say this was so dope. I love y'all 💜
sheera' style seriously. & 24 years old
I relate with this comment so much. We need to have more conversation around virgins that have had issues with pornagraphy because it taints our sexual perspective so much
I relate whole heartedly to this comment
I struggled with pornography for 11 years and with masturbation for 5 years...it ain’t easy but with God all things are possible!
@@amadeatrinity305 no hate or anything but I be scared to touch anything down(ofc I shower down there)there so seeing ppl have overcoming masturbating I be like hallelujah 🙌
The fact that he felt the need to apologize to his wife for not waiting for her. 😢 So sweet
We don't mind hearing the chocolate babies in the background 😅
That apology was heartfelt! Wow, the openness that you two have is inspiring!
I love y’all’s transparency! I did want to speak to your response on masturbation as a single Christian woman who hasn’t always lived for Jesus.
Lust is not the only reason masturbation is displeasing to God but masturbation encourages selfishness (which we know is nothing like Christ and as believers we are striving to be more and more like Christ in all that we do) . Because the beautiful thing about (healthy) sex within marriage is that two ppl come together and chose to “out serve” one another. Masturbation perverts Gods design for sex in that it is all about what YOU can GET. Not only that, if we are to believe that marriage is a physical image of Christ and His bride (with sex being an extension of that) masturbation warps that ideal because there is either no “Christ” or no “Bride” in the masturbatory act. Not to mention how masturbation opposes the development of self control.... but yea, I just wanted to share because not having a biblical perspective on why particular sins grieve the heart of God will have us faithful in action and not true conviction and will eventually lead to “falling”
Grace and Peace y’all ❤️
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LOVE THIS COMMENT
I'm having such a problem with this. Looking back, my ex who is my child's father did what basically felt like manipulation the whole relationship especially sexually. The first encounter we had he forced oral sex on me. Yes forced my clothes off and held my legs down and I had to kick him off of me. I never told anyone and about a month later I forgave him... About two years later we had a child.😒 I broke up with him for other reasons and during postpartum I reflected on our relationship and realized we were unhealthy and I needed God and I needed to repent. I have. My mind just can't get into true service because I feel like it's all taking advantage of me. (As if I have anything without Christ) I just always go back to that relationship of being manipulated and taking advantage of. I was told "if you love me you'll have sex with me" and "You're basically my wife because we've had sex so we don't need a condom" just pure lies. And refusing to leave my house unless we had sex. Now I don't even know how people get married and out serve when peoples mindset can make the talk and act like my ex did.
It make 1 Corinthians 13 had to read because I was all those things, I thought, to him.
Wow this blessed me 😩🔥
Danielle Greer
Wow, you’ve been though a lot... I don’t know you but I believe you have deep strength inside and if you keep pushing forward to understand, heal, & learn one day you’ll look back and see. May you encounter people who show you kindness and are gentle with you on your journey.
" I would just hold you " Glenn!!!! 😭😭😭 Yoooo!!! That was powerful! Yvette, is it possible for you guys to do a series, if you can, sharing your wisdom and possibly bringing in mentors and experts to discuss this extensively. I think that would be such a great resource for people looking for honest, healthy, Christian sexual information.
Glenn!!! 😭😭😭 Hearing you apologize to Yvette was sooooo powerful and so meaningful for me to witness that solid guys really exist. Solid guys who " get it ".
Come on INTROOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!
What Yvette was talking about not knowing much about sex and getting into marriage in that way with the perception of sex being for the man, that’s very common in MANY cultures, more conservative cultures. So don’t feel like you were the only one Yvette ❤️ I think us women are still trying to feel free and knowledgeable about our own sexuality and also have ownership of it too.
Couples should talk about these things before the wedding ... Expectations could have been set and work could have been done prior to that wedding night!
This is why we have bridal showers for friends who are about to get married. In these showers, the married friends, aunties and mothers all share advice based on sex and marriage. It honestly helps to prepare the brides.
How precious when Glen apologised . Fam, I really enjoy this platform. It's been really good as I have found y'all. I really appreciate this platform . Appreciate you both ♥️
I know right!!!!... The apology 😩😩🥺🥺🥺
Men like Glen!!! 😩😩😩.. Gosh... Apologising for not remaining a virgin till marriage... God bless you
Omg!! I’m so glad Glenn voiced how I feel about staying a virgin until marriage in today’s time versus waaaaay back. There is a gap because we get married much later. I think it’s important for us to learn our bodies before marriage; especially since we may not get married until our 30s
I see the terror in some women 30+ who are still virgins. Some are deeply disconnected from their bodies and healthy, personal sensuality. Where is the age appropriate guidance for them? The directives applied to teens no longer apply to adult women and must be enhanced..
@@crownjewel832 100% Agree completely! Elementary sex ed is not the same as highschool...and thirty plus!
@@bestofmylovewhoahwhoah3239 as someone who is approaching in the 30+ squad: preach!!! 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
That dude NEEDS to kick the porn habit. As a dude who was addicted for close to 20 years, it completely kills your drive for normal wholesome sex. AND, it wrecks your confidence. He has to get free. But, he has to find a way to stop feeling guilty about it too. The crazy thing is, the guilt keeps you in the cycle. It's a tough thing, but he can quit.
When i got married I was not a virgin, but im hoping my children will be. Definitely going to have an open dialog with my daughters about their bodies and what capabilities it has and what to expect. My hubby will talk to our sons and if they want talk to me, im more than willing. I dont want them going into marriage blind and without knowledge about sex.
Your husband let you wait until the morning after?!!?? That’s a blessing 😂! My husband was like “I waited 3 years. The wait is over now.”😂😂😂
My daughter does the very same thing with every meal I make her. I found out she has been sneaking bread to survive. I have a pack of buns missing the tops...
🤣 this made me laugh. kids are hilarious
😆😆😆😅😂😂😂🤣🤣 this is hilarious
I’m sorry the way this was read in my head I’m so 😩🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭🙏🏾🙏🏾
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I don't know if y'all realize how helpful your transparency is. Thank you.
Yes I appreciate their transparency and also how they handled the questions .
I completely agree. I wish the church spoke about sex in a more positive light. They only ever speak about it in the context of sin so many people in the church see it as this dirty awful thing, even after marriage. That can have negative repercussions on a person when they finally do get married. I think it's important for sex to be talked about more positively and for there to more education involved so people aren't completely clueless about it as well their bodies. Also, the lack of discussion about it causes many people to be curious and turn to other sources such as porn for answers
Been seeing you guys recommended but never watched. Dude that intro song was on point.
@@HowMarriedAreYouPodcast Im digging you guys.
Ooo looking forward to listening in! I'm a young, single christian woman and I'm finally getting to the point where I fully embrace that sex is good, that sexual desires are normal and God-given and God has given us marriage as the boundary to fully enjoy ourselves in. Sex is meant to be enjoyed. That's finally what I'm starting to fully receive. I really feel for the woman that wrote in. This is why I'd rather marry a non-virgin man who is now fully committed to God and pure in Christ, than a virgin guy who's sexually addicted and giving into impurity. I've been the impure virgin and so I know the struggle and thank God for helping me overcome the selfish, self-centred view I had of sex.
The Bible does say the older women in the church should teach the younger women in Titus 2:3-4. Interesting convo. Thank you for sharing 😊. Your wedding night though !!😂😅
I thought of this same scripture
I'm divorced now, but when I married, both my ex-husband and I were virgins and I truly understand why God intended it to be that way. It's beautiful! Just like you said, Yvette...it's such a safe space, that's also fun and allows God to teach the couple how to build a sanctuary together. Porn ruined everything in that marriage for me, and left me feeling robbed of my virginity. I would love to marry a virgin (again) and have somewhat of a second chance (in my eyes).
It's been years, but back then I remember reading a book titled "Every Heart Restored: A Wife's Guide to Healing in the Wake of a Husband's Sexual Sin" that was very helpful for me during that time. It might also be helpful to the second person who wrote in, regardless of what happens in her marriage.
@@HassanThelander probably both
Such a great conversation. As someone in my 30’s and also a virgin I wonder what I may be missing as far knowing what to expect when it comes to sex within marriage.
Invest in a couple of books; preferably by Christian authors who will affirm that marital sex is God's devine design! The marriage bed is undefiled! Hebrews 13.4. Just please pray yo husband won't be like Glen and say "You need to call someone!" I.cant.stop.laughing.at.that!!!😂😂😂
The book “The Joy of Being a Woman : and what a man can do” by Ingrid Trobisch is such an amazing book when it comes to approaching this topic in a Godly way.
It’s best to wait til marriage. I was a Virgin til 30 and got married three weeks after my 31st bday -ended up getting pregnant before marriage too -it went fast
I love being a mom and don’t regret my daughter but really wished I waited til marriage for sex
Not a christian author but 'Kosher Sex' by Schuley Boteach is good, had exercises for women to prep for first intercourse that's not masturbating.
I know society tells us to wait, but Jesus is upholding your purity for the right person. People don't understand that when you sleep around that you become married to that person and bonded with them because sex was supposed to be in the covenant and safety of Christ. As someone who didn't wait for marriage I promise that waiting is better, not having ties to people is better and it doesn't pervert your experience of sex. When you and your person wait on Christ I promise the sex is so much better, you just gotta wait on the Lord to bring you that special covenant. A lot of the times were bonded to people in sex that have so much internal warring going on that when we make our "beds" with them we in terms get those same demons, emotions/dysfunction on us. I believe in Christ and I promise it's much better to have your sexuality and sex drive governed by Christ then by what the world "tells" you. If you can wait, and your not burning in your flesh first give your burning desires to Christ but if you fall short He has blood and redemption to cover and pay the price of your and my sins! God bless you!!
Yvette I love how you pointed out that Glen couldn’t help you gain the knowledge you needed as far as being ready.I feel like sometimes, virgin females or males wait and hope to learn from an experienced spouse what to do. That is putting too much expectation on that spouse. I feel in this season of waiting that God is leading me to learn about my body, learn about sex, learn about love languages and how I define love, all in a Godly way!! Thank you so much for this. I was blessed
How do you do that?
Please share.
Yooo! Glen's "I'm sorry" almost took me out! 😢 God bless you!
Yvette can sing! Who knew?? Nice intro!
That “Chocolate Babies Storytime” intro tho...🔥
I don’t think the emphasized virginity for boys as they do for girls . And I agree , when I was married @ 19 and even having sex before marriage , I felt sex was more for the guy than the girl because no one really talked about that . I grew up Pentecostal and it was not spoken about
Yvette hair is 🔥
Two virgins getting married is the norm in my circles as we don’t believe in pre marital sex and most of us adhere to this Biblical standard because of our relationship with God. Sometimes people do make a mistake & mess up, but you get up & move on & trust God to keep you. BTW Yvette can sang! Wow!🇨🇦
I was listening like a podcast but I had to look at my phone when the Mrs started singing! I love her voice!!!!
Loved this topic. Would like to sit down with my fiance and watch it again. Should be fine...Also, YVETTE YOUR HAIR IS BOMB!
You two are so real and wise. And adorable.
I love this conversation, this lighting, and Yvette's juicy twist out!
Intro song 🔥🔥🔥🔥 Yvette you betta sing!!
Yvettes hair is so pretty 😊♥️
I experienced the exact situation with being the higher desire/libido when I was married and all the feelings of not being fulfilled in that area... but long story short you are not alone in that struggle and him being honest with you and being willing to go to a therapist is really awesome.
Love both the shirts. My husband needs that dad shirt! Love your transparency. ❤❤❤
Let me quickly subscribe because this content right here is the one💯💯
Wow I completely understand the 2nd question and how that woman feels. I feel that way too and felt bad thinking the same thing, but I understand. Great topic you guys as always 🥰
This conversation was really helpful to me! Thank you all 🖤 Also, I loveee that t-shirt Yvette!
Wow Yvette has a Beautiful Voice. ❤️
I love you two. May you have spiritual family and emotional success 😍 keep the episodes coming. I love it
I think its completely A-mazing how open you 2 are with each other and how you truely feel about things no matter how uncomfortable it may be. I think being that honest really allows you to shine light on those dark areas and leaves less room for mess ups and maybe even less of the desire to mess up. Like you truely know all of each other hearts and thats really encouraging.
The intro song is 🔥. You guys are so adorable. Thanks for sharing your life and love. Blessings
I think virgin brides should be encouraged to see a sex counsellor/therapist just before you get married, I think a month or 2 weeks would be perfect. I plan to book a session with one just before I get married and hopefully, every other year in my marriage because I believe sex in marriage is supposed to be thoroughly enjoyed. The counsellors I have found teach how to first appreciate your feminine part, know what is where and relax enough to enjoy sex.
That intro song thooo, new subscriber 🙌🏿
I love that spiritual warfare is addressed here!! I love it!!
I’ve always loved the Chocolate Baby Storytime intro! It always gets me singing 🎶. My girl Anaya is being petty petty...I can’t use Glen’s words and say childish because she is in fact a child at the end of the day! 😂 Still, lil mama had to make it known who is in charge. This topic was very eye-opening for me and really made me think and do some research as well as soul-searching for where I believe I stand. Great job guys! Your vulnerability and candidness is golden. Keep building. ❤️
You guys are amazing people ❤️.
God bless
I love this! You are definitely doin somethin different
Great podcast ❤️🙏
Omg hi everyone. How is everyone doing considering the state of the world. I enjoy watching your videos and Belief in Fatherhood. They are well done.
Edit: Thanks for the pinned comment.
Loved this conversation
I really love the dance at the end . So so good to watch. So dope .
I really appreciate this channel. I'm a reformed "church kid" (whatever that means), who is really interested in rekindling my spirituality, and it just so happens that I've often wondered how to personally answer many of the questions that you all tackled in this vid. My fiance and I both wonder how to make our marriage spiritually sacred given that we are both not virgins. It's alot to think about. Anyway, It's just really nice to see the comfort that you and your wife have talking about these sorts of things. I wish we as a society had it around more often. I really love this channel and hope that you both keep it going. It's ministering to a lot of us in its own way.
Yvette is so beautiful and poised. I love listening to her speaking and singing voice! You two are brilliant. Keep it up
"That's just how married we are was so priceless"
QUALITY CONVERSATION
Hair on fleek!😍 Glen's advise / voicing his opinion is heart felt and with Yvette about an open dialog. Might sound weird but I'm happy to hear that there are people who are willing to wait till marriage. Right before Glen was explaining the scripture I was thinking similar as he explained. If the lady in the second story was not married would that be different in terms of staying or not?
I always like when you guys sing the intro! ❤️ I love it!
Subscribed! How am I just discovering this channel! It's so refreshing finding people who have had similar experiences to me. Sadly, and im not sure if it's a cultural problem but Yvette I can absolutely relate with you. When I got married, not 1 of the older females in my life mother and sisters included ever sat me down and told me what to expect on my honeymoon, I was on my own bwoy and scared. I recieved the same childhood advice about sex/boys.. absolutely useless which only made me fearful and as though I was a constant target for men. By the grace of God, I'm a Mum now and if God spares my life my children will never have my experience, they will be fully equipped with all they need and that's the role of a Godly family.
I enjoyed this quite a bit. And it brought back something that i always say. When we look at our lives we spend so much time preparing for our careers and plans for our lives. And when it comes to being in relationships, the getting married and then having kids. How people prepare for that part. Ima give .5% of prepare. Even though marrying someone is the second greatest decision you will ever make. Because the person you choose to spend the rest of your life with can either grow you or destroy you. I think there needs to be a lot more work needs to go into before the marriage. Same efforts we put into seeking out careers should be put into seeking a partner
I think it’s great that he apologized it did seem very sincere. My only thing is that you didn’t do it to hurt her internationally. I don’t feel like anything was taken from her because if she was more educated in that area it wouldn’t be awkward or weird. Unfamiliar yes. But This is your husband we are talking about I would be nervous and giddy not uncomfortable or grossed out. No matter if he’s a non virgin he can be understanding and slow with you because he knew you were a virgin prior to marriage. I just see it on both ends on one end if you person is a virgin ok at least we know we’re doing it right and it’s special experience we’ve created. On the other hand if it’s two virgins they could study and there would be sooo many questions. Like dang we haven’t been doing it right for 10+years or because your uneducated on the topic you may get pregnant sooner than you’d like. I just don’t like when people act like because you didn’t wait till marriage your less valued or damaged. A sin is a sin and He will love you the same. Just my opinion. This was such an interesting thanks for sharing. (Only 14 min in)
Watching this again after a couple of years. Passport to purity is a good series. My hubby and I were both virgins when we got married. My husband read books beforehand. My mom shared some things with me and one of my friends who was married did as well. We had premarital counseling with our pastors and they told us some things as well. A lot of it was discovering what we liked and didn’t like. And for me it was giving myself permission to go outside of how I though sex within marriage looked/should be. Interesting conversation.
This is so true in terms of elders teaching women. I remember a Christian married couple being ashamed to tell the family they were pregnant because then they would know they had been having sex. Incredibly sad. In many African cultures women of age get schooled well by specific elders.
very insightful podcast! 💓 Where did you get your t-shirt Yvette?
I would highly recommend "come as you are" by Emily Nigoski. It's fantastic, educational and very eye opening! All women should read this book! Also we don't mind hearing the babies!! Blessings!
Yea! MrsKevonstage talks about it in The Love Hour podcasts too. I should really get it.
@@Ramonelly20 yes I read it in her book club! It's seriously that good!!
Yesssss!!!!!!
I love you both as my older brothers and sisters in Christ! Shout out to my bestest for telling me about y’all! I too am a virgin and I’m in the wait, I love how raw and vulnerable you both are and this is a much needed conversation in the body of Christ. If you’d be willing to even to a zoom mentorship or just any mentorship, please sign me up because I’d like to talk about the reality of marriage, when my time comes. Stay blessed and God bless you and your whole family foreva and eva in Jesus’ name amen!
This was an insightful episode! Yvette, may you please share the title of the book your friend gave you?
Bro ...lol its tent times funnier watching on youtube compared to just listening on Spotify but i can imagine you guys facial reactions but coming here to watch it...knowing i was right is hilarious 😂ugh i love you guys ❤️
This is so good.
Great episode!
I'm not sure if this is helpful or not, but sometimes when children feel out of control in other areas of their lives, they try to control what they can: their bodily functions. She already has diet restrictions, allergies, etc. And with so much upheaval & stress in the environment, locally & globally, she's responding to what she may not know or understand by acting out. I'm so glad you're back, & I may be doing the same thing & calling it fasting...
Clarification, I'm eating, & an adult, not a three-year-old who's also possibly too young for some of the meditation & other healing outlets available to T & older U.
I'm trying not to over-comment before the end but a lot of controversy in the church related to masturbation is also related to story in Genesis where one of Jacob/Israel's grandsons was supposed to marry his dead brother's wife & chose not to ejaculate in her, thus preventing his brother's name from being continued per tribal custom. Folks also like to skip the part where the same young woman was promised in succession to his next brother who hadn't come of age yet. Long story short, it ends up with her masquerading as a sex worker in order to trick the father into completing his customary duty after he chose not to follow through with her marriage. It's called onanism after Onan who was struck dead by God for disobedience. There is no exact mandate regarding women that I've ever heard of, & the above example is moreso about ignoring the family's expectation & continuing the line as God demanded than about masturbation in & of itself. Others may feel differently. I'm not going to get into my personal opinion here. Context matters.
I'm not going to go super far into it because there were multiple pain points for me during this episode. I am waiting for marriage, & I've already advised that I grew up in an abusive home. My partner is aware & some of what you spoke about here is absolutely hitting home re: patience on both our parts for each other's struggles. Thank you both for illuminating that. I'm committed & it's not easy because that's not how I was raised unfortunately. That said, I did struggle at a few points because Glen mentioned pornography as contaminating. I can appreciate that viewpoint, however, as someone who was exposed repeatedly as a child by multiple people, I kept getting distracted by the idea that I am (still) contaminated. I know that's not his intention, but the wording was really difficult to get past at certain points. I've had a LOT of therapy, some Christian, some not, & the Christian therapy I have now has been very, very emancipating. It kind of goes back to what Glen said during the first response, that sensitivity is helpful in ways we don't anticipate when you're with someone who's healing. This is helping me forgive a lot (still maintaining accountability with us both) & if my he & I had it to do over again, I'm sure we would both be much (truly) kinder to one another. Hugs can be a mini love language, especially when sensory stuff has been misused in the past. #hughim #hugher
Mannn I love this episode!!
I went back to the beginning so it felt like you guys kind of just talked about this but that was over a year ago. And it’s with a different angle. Very real though I think I’m at episode 26 now. So I go back and forth. Anyways. Love you guys.
Love listening to these episodes while I'm in the gym.
I've never watched your videos but I gave y'all a like just because of your theme song!
Awesome intro!
Great conversation...
Beleaf you look like you're GREAT with your hands... in the kitchen!!! You're a carpenter when it comes to food... 👨🏾🍳
I believe it's possible for people to understand their bodies biologically without masturbating. I believe this is necessary for women especially because there are so many things that go one with our bodies due to how God designed us. How we are built anatomically is so complex. There are many things that can be explained to young people while also promoting abstinence. I'm able to clearly and shamelessly explain any changes going on with my body as an adult because my parents sexually educated me as early as maybe 10 years old. As a Christian, they also promoted saving myself for marriage. People have made sex such a taboo subject that many people struggle to explain it out of fear that they're basically giving younger people a "pass" to do it. I think Sex Ed is no different from Driver's Ed. We need to know how things operate and what precautions to take for safety purposes. My church even had courses for our youth group with parental consent. Parents, please talk with your children before some person comes along that simply wants to take advantage of their naivety.
Love this frank conversation and Yvette I love your hair!
I feel cheated! I needed to see the mantle at the end... I'll be looking for it in Belief in Fatherhood, for sure! Night ya'll
Okay mommy sings too?? You guys sound great together! I’ve watched many of beleaf in fatherhood first time seeing the podcast!
Wow you guys are amazingly thoughtful and so transparent. I love your interaction and the fact that you both dive deep to give honest responses, it's so.. healthy and refreshing to witness. Beautiful actually. I'm glad I stumbled across this channel and I really can relate to you, Yvette, in a lot of ways. I have a religious family background as well and growing up I was clueless about a lot of different topics, sex being a big one. No one taught me about it they just said don't do it or you'll get pregnant or catch a disease and die. I didn't know males had penises AND testicles at the same time... I didn't even know my own anatomy because I was afraid it was a sin to check down there too much. I'm talking this is my thinking at age 20!!! It took google and a couple sites I'm not too proud of to gain any sort of information because I needed to see and understand what everyone was hype about without someone thinking I was trying to DO it. I wasnt! I was just clueless. Everything I know I've learned from the internet and I'm still learning trying to maintain a balance of what I need to know and experience and what I don't since I am still a virgin and staying that way. It's definitely important to have these open conversations without assuming someone's gonna go out and try it. I try to talk to kids now.. but I feel like I can only do that if they ask and I still can't be candid like I want.. at risk of upsetting families.. which I wish could change.
I feel that if we had more of such advise in the church alot of us wouldn't struggle with sexuality as much as we do today. The problem is that the church plays a total blind eye to sexuality especially to singles. Personally the furthest the church has gone in sex education for me is NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE!
Yvette has a beautiful singing voice!
Y’all sound so good♥️
It’s crazy how you record this so early in the morning! I would not be this alert lol Can you talk about your Nanny experience?
Yvette, I’m with you; if someone would have told me the truth about sex instead of using it to make me fearful of ever having it, I would have known how to conduct myself. My mother never had that talk with me, my father told me having sex is not necessary to have a relationship, and my grandmother told me to keep my dress down ( in my mind I would tell her I had on pants 😆). I did, however, explain it to my sons because I wanted them to make sound decisions concerning their bodies and who they decided to share them with...ideally as a virgin. Glen, today was the second time I saw you in a video that was on my local news (New York tri-state area) but they don’t share the story link on their website 🤷🏾♀️
Hey Yvette, what was the name of that book, if you don't mind sharing?
Yayyy! chocolate baby story time!
I love your intro. And your content is great
Hmm.You guys are God sent.Keep keeping on.
The 2nd question was real. Those are the very doors the enemy is just waiting to walk through to kill, steal and destroy people. The husband needs deliverance and thr marriage needs seriously healing. That is a form of broken trust. Praying for them.
sooo good. so necessary. I think an underlying issue is shame, its been placed on sex within The Church. I think parents of millennials and older still may deal with the shadow of shame when it comes to marital relations. Thus, they don't have the convo or barely talk about it. My prayer is that God would allow his children to enjoy the gift of sex, in marriage without shame, and have the courage to talk about with prior without shame.