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the "advice" that you need to focus on the eating disorder first before then being able to treat other illnesses is something i've literally been told by an inpatient treatment centre! I've been to that inpatient clinic twice before (but not because of my eating disorder) and there was a plan for me to come back for trauma therapy. During both of my stays at the clinic it became very apparent that my eating disorder and trauma are impacting eachother and that i do need trauma therapy. Yet, I'm not allowed to do trauma therapy at that clinic unless I've resolved my eating disorder first. I really do want to recover, especially since I really do want to do trauma therapy but I feel incredibly lost due to the fact that I'm being rejected from treatment due to my eating disorder. Every time I attempt recovery I end up relapsing again because, once I start eating properly again, my body floods me with my trauma. It intensivies my ptsd symptoms a lot... and as soon as my ptsd gets worse, I end up spiraling again because I have no appropriate support around me to deal with these ptsd symptoms. I'm stuck in this endless cycle of starting recovery but then going back again. Sadly, all other treatment centers do either have the same take on this topic or they're waiting lists are over 14 months. I don't have 14 months to wait around. It's absolutely frustrating.

Hi Mia, something that came up in my mind today is to listen to the thirst signal. I see people teaching thirst equates dehydration which I don't think is true for everyone. Some people experience thirst sooner than others. I am trying to get more connected with knowing when to stop drinking water or other drinks so that I can function my best.

Love your videos. I miss a video that you privatized/took down though which was the I ate too much freak out, because that was one that I went back to a lot to help with my own re-framining, But if you don't want it to make it available again, I get it. 🥺

Thank you Mia for talking about this topic. When I watched it it got clear to me, that my ed also made me just respond to extrem loud hunger cues. The others just weren‘t worth listening to. I just wondered when i watched the video, the „hunger“ /appetite/ urge to eat rapidly, that arises in stressful situations that may cause binges, to numb feelings would you call that emotional hunger or what would be the word for that?

Surely if her vids were de-monetised, then her mother (who allegedly supports her ED for monetary gain) would NOT continue to help perpetuate her daughter's ED and would take direct action to help her.... or at best stop cheerleading her demise? YT could at least do that to show social responsibility and good ethics.

My family is mostly overweight and has horrible relationships with food. Im pretty sure i have an eating disorder and my mom has one she never addressed and she believes its impossible to get over. She loves me but projects these ideas on me and it makes it difficult for me to get help and find a way out of this exhausting loop of hating myself, binging, purging and never ever ever making progress. :( its so discouraging and i absolutely hate it. She tells me that dieticians psychiatrists and groups won't help and she believes i have an impossible idea of what i want out of these resources and thinks i shouldn't do them because theu won't give me the answers I want.

Awww, you are making so much sense. I get to listen to my brain. It's telling me what I need. Very helpful. ❤

I would LOVE your input on ED'd folks utilizing GLP-1s to aid their illness (or to be pointed in the right direction, if you have already done so). 💞

I recently found your channel and have been going over your vids and podcasts. I have struggled with an ED for over 30+ years and have just recently started seriously preparing for recovery. Your channel has been a big inspiration for this decision. So thank you so much for sharing your story and knowledge.

This is really important, thank you for dedicating a video for it. Learning that thinking about food is a hunger cue revolutionised my recovery years ago. Around that time, I also learned about interoception and realised that it often takes a while for me to notice my physical needs. I'm living in my head full of thoughts. :D It is therefore much easier to spot a thought of food and then act accordingly. It has helped tremendously. I used to worry if I'd forget to eat, but now I have a reliable cue to follow and I trust myself. It has also been a fun quest to fulfill those more specific food cravings, if I don't have those at home to grab right away. :D

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Battling hunger is always going to lead to the body winning, that's just a simple mechanism that the body does to ensure survival. When i was during the height of my restriction, i didn't acknowledge hunger until i was wanting protein. It lead to me contemplating for hours about having a beef jerky instead of a cookie, which then resulted into me eating almost the whole package of cookies anyways and compensating later on. Don't battle hunger with such extreme, i learned that the hard way

Thank you for this great information. Very interesting

Thank you so much for this video Mia. I have been in recovery for about a year now and have struggled with these terms a lot and the mental fixation of trying to categorise every queue. Your videos are always such a breath of much needed fresh air in the recovery space.

I do not know what has happened to make you feel "unacceptable" but you repeat that word often in the video. So that word has power. Said sincerely. I like that you uploaded this video on your marathon fight with ED recovery.

interesting take on it!

Another great episode. You two are amazing. Thank you for all you do

Ughhhh yea I’m glad I saw this today.. my body is changing. Very little but it’s def nice to know that my relationship w my body may change n be different at different times of my life. ❤❤❤😊

Luckily I’m fully recovered now. But when I was in active recovery I had a doctor tell me I needed to go on a diet and gave me a worksheet on the diet. This is after I told them my ed history. AND the nurse told me my weight after I asked not to know.

She is lovely (as are you). I enjoyed this conversation so much. Thank you both for sharing!

my mum adviced me to „just put a spoon full of linseed-oil“ over every meal i ate…

This exact picture is what helped me snap out of my patterns. Didn't want to end up this way.

I am currently attempting recovery with the all-in method and I think it's going to be the one that helps me the most. I understand why to some others it wouldn't work if they need to tackle some other deeper issues and/or if they have had binging/purging habits. Though for me at least it doesn't feel like a "just eat a burger" method, since it helps me with more complex ways. (Keep in mind my ed is restrictive, and I have never had binging/purging problems) It helps me stay in touch with my hunger (as messed up as it is right now) and teaches me to not ignore or try to make up for it in any way, making sure I'm never hungry because there are NO rules as to when/how much/what I should eat. i think that teaches me that I should always feed myself and that ignoring hunger ques is never okay, and takes away the anxiety of "I had xyz at x time but I'm still kinda hungry, I better chew gum until x time when I can have y" And makes eating feel normal again, and not something to be stressed about and overthink. It also helps get my hunger and fullness ques working properly again, since my body will work itself out with the proper fuel. It also helps heal my organs and internal systems cause I now have the opportunity to have the energy I need. And of course, it helps clear (or at least challenge) my fears about specific foods (as well as time and amount I'm eating), since I have found that challenging my fears is the best way to get rid of them. And It's amazing for quelling cravings I have had for months and months. I can finally go out with restaurants with my family, get an ice cream out with friends, have a late night pizza party, try a new drink at a café, etc. All these create good memories with food which helps with me associating it with "bad" things. And for me it's the best method since any kind of program or rule would (and has) made me freak out, stress about it all day (if I'm following it correctly, if it's good enough etc), it adds even more stress which makes my ed mind take over, and then I'll be adding more and more rules left and right and before you know it I'm back face first into my ed. (That's how my first relapse happened). All in has no rules, no limits, and NO restrictions. Which for me, is the healthiest approach (unfortunately, even the tiniest of rule could trigger me real bad) And lastly, it gives me the opportunity to eat healthy food when I want it and not as punishment. Amongst other things, it gives me energy, helps me feel like myself again, removes (some) stress from my life, and it has overall been great (from a recovery perspective ofc. It has also been messy, stressful, has made me doubt myself a thousand times and it has made my ed scream like it has never screaned before. So I think I'm doing a good job :) ) Again, if all-in hasn't been/isn't going to be helpful for some, of course they shouldn't force themselves to try it. I'm just trying to make a point about how it is helpful to me personally, and how it has helped me in deeper ways than just with food stuff, just to rid of any stigma. I wish everyone in recovery the best, no matter how they are recovering right now. ❤❤

I love Carolyn. I’ve read all her books that’s been published in my country. I think she’s fantastic

Is recovery really possible or is it a case of managing the ED? For me, it never really goes away; its always there no matter how well I manage it. Will I ever feel hungry again? I hope so.

Instead of "flexible" so it can be MIA, whatabout "modifiable" like it can be changed ?

I love all of your episodes but this one was especially impactful for me. Thank you!

I was rly scared this would be a ‘there’s only one proper way to recover’ vid and thank god it’s not - but to add to ur ur list, the people who think there is only one way and that everyone else is ‘faking’ or doing a ‘faux’ recovery is rly not great. I get there’s nuance to this, but I think if ur gonna be encouraging to anyone trying to recover, start with some humility.

...I think I'm going all in tomorrow. Wish me luck

Great video, so important to debunk these myths. Thank you 🙏 😊

I could spend so long dwelling on unsolicited recovery advice that my eating disorder wants to latch onto but my healthy self knows, there is a feeling in my gut it is completely wrong! I think the longer I engage in my ED and strengthen the horrible behaviour wiring the more depressed I get, which is baffling that I am continuing to lessen my life experiences and enjoyment just for...what, food? I often think of death when I'm old and wrinkled and it scares me and almost motivates some part of me for change as time is not on our side, the days seem to go so fast when I'm doing my behaviours and sooooo painfully slow when I stop and almost am counting my days free from ED. Mia you have helped me so much, but I simply wish I could have a brain transplant of some sort. I don't want to be like this forever but on my days away from ED I often question could I just happily live as a bulimic for the rest of my life? Obviously I know the answer is absolutely not but HECK. I have a friend that walked home with me and said ''you know if you keep saying no to coming out with us and hanging with us, we're gonna stop asking you... is that what you want?'', this happened 4 days ago and I cannot stop thinking about it. They know EVERYTHING about my ED, which I feel like at this point of a high low recovery journey has knocked me back a little and I don't know how to react. This is so long, I was only meant to comment great vid Mia lol, much love. <3

Will The Recovery Essentials be available again? I want my daughter to do it but she’ll be on a cruise for 2 weeks in August.

M = mutable or malleable

Mia,you are amazing girl! Always say it like it is ! I have been through been through recovery with our daughter Bella,she is in her 7year of recovery and yet a comment from a Dr that only knows her online to diagnose her ADHD, after mentioning her battle with Anorexia nervosa he then said oh then let’s work out your BMI , to which she told him her weight and height and he said oh your BMI is on the high side 😢, she I told me and said I thought I was normal, (she is a size 10-12)😡🤬 . I can’t believe he said that to her!!! She said she can’t lie and the it triggered her ED a bit!! We Love you!! ❤xx

There was someone I watch who doing the fake it to you make it. That would be mice but unrealistic it. Can only talk for me. Recovery is intentional steps some big steps but more little steps. Even few backwards but through it all gaining to tools for coping. I really think ones with there fake does not work. It kinda makes me said. Cause they done have the mental side and so never learn rhe coping skills. Then the next time you see them. There not only I physical distress also ED distress. Thank you for honesty❤. I was anorexic around yhe same time Karen Carpenter died. Well treatment was just eat a burger No real mental help. Now I'm older got the help I need and went to college got my degree in microbiology and organic chemistry. All of out there who done think it can or well happen it can abd does

😊💖🌹 Thank you always dear Mia.

I have been diagnosed with B.E.D and i was talking about my binge and the psychiatrist said "if you dont get the food your not going to binge on it." I believe most people with and eating disorder already know that! Plus when i tild my gp what food i was struggling with her nursing student put in my file "contiuesbto binge on chips,crackers, pretzels etc. knows its unhealthly." When your constantly feeling like your nor sick enough or struggling every day that kinda stuff doesnt help. Makes me feel like i dont deserve help. Maybe one day it will change.

It’s so lovely to see you. Amazing as usual

Surely it should be Poor Charles. It’s a wonder they had children. Imagine kissing someone whose breathe continually smelt of vomit. Yuk. Perfume is what females wear to become more attractive. No wonder he turned to Camilla.

Oh please

Great video Mia! I've also just started a channel on all things ED following my own experience.

one of my weirdest promise was that it’ll make me better than other people… this kinda of fake superiority, i learnt in recovery that i shouldn’t even care if others are “better” than me. ❤

Hello, as a french woman I'd really appreciate a reminder of the context, because unfortunately, your situation hasn't been reported over here :'( lots of love from France

It took me a long time to get that body changes in every season of life. One set point could be where your body comfortable. Number don't matter. If your feel good and you can do what you like. Then you good and forever beautiful. ❤

I LOVE YOU ❤ Sending love to Australia 🥰

The drug users need to be locked in jail.

Mia, your dad? Dope, baby. :) Well done there:) 💜

Mia, Thankyou, just Thankyou ✨🙌

Thank you, Mia. Let's keep raising our voices and demanding change in our society

Proud of you!