Let's review terrible recovery advice (one of them SHOCKED me)
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Disclaimer: I am not a medical professional or psychologist. These videos were created purely to share advice from my own experience as a survivor and eating disorder recovery coach and to encourage eating disorder sufferers to discuss their struggle openly. - Krátké a kreslené filmy
I could spend so long dwelling on unsolicited recovery advice that my eating disorder wants to latch onto but my healthy self knows, there is a feeling in my gut it is completely wrong!
I think the longer I engage in my ED and strengthen the horrible behaviour wiring the more depressed I get, which is baffling that I am continuing to lessen my life experiences and enjoyment just for...what, food?
I often think of death when I'm old and wrinkled and it scares me and almost motivates some part of me for change as time is not on our side, the days seem to go so fast when I'm doing my behaviours and sooooo painfully slow when I stop and almost am counting my days free from ED.
Mia you have helped me so much, but I simply wish I could have a brain transplant of some sort. I don't want to be like this forever
but on my days away from ED I often question could I just happily live as a bulimic for the rest of my life? Obviously I know the answer is absolutely not but HECK.
I have a friend that walked home with me and said ''you know if you keep saying no to coming out with us and hanging with us, we're gonna stop asking you... is that what you want?'', this happened 4 days ago and I cannot stop thinking about it. They know EVERYTHING about my ED, which I feel like at this point of a high low recovery journey has knocked me back a little and I don't know how to react.
This is so long, I was only meant to comment great vid Mia lol, much love.
I have been diagnosed with B.E.D and i was talking about my binge and the psychiatrist said "if you dont get the food your not going to binge on it." I believe most people with and eating disorder already know that! Plus when i tild my gp what food i was struggling with her nursing student put in my file "contiuesbto binge on chips,crackers, pretzels etc. knows its unhealthly." When your constantly feeling like your nor sick enough or struggling every day that kinda stuff doesnt help. Makes me feel like i dont deserve help.
Maybe one day it will change.
I hope you will get the help and support you deserve!! 🌹🌹
I am currently attempting recovery with the all-in method and I think it's going to be the one that helps me the most. I understand why to some others it wouldn't work if they need to tackle some other deeper issues and/or if they have had binging/purging habits. Though for me at least it doesn't feel like a "just eat a burger" method, since it helps me with more complex ways. (Keep in mind my ed is restrictive, and I have never had binging/purging problems)
It helps me stay in touch with my hunger (as messed up as it is right now) and teaches me to not ignore or try to make up for it in any way, making sure I'm never hungry because there are NO rules as to when/how much/what I should eat. i think that teaches me that I should always feed myself and that ignoring hunger ques is never okay, and takes away the anxiety of "I had xyz at x time but I'm still kinda hungry, I better chew gum until x time when I can have y"
And makes eating feel normal again, and not something to be stressed about and overthink.
It also helps get my hunger and fullness ques working properly again, since my body will work itself out with the proper fuel.
It also helps heal my organs and internal systems cause I now have the opportunity to have the energy I need.
And of course, it helps clear (or at least challenge) my fears about specific foods (as well as time and amount I'm eating), since I have found that challenging my fears is the best way to get rid of them.
And It's amazing for quelling cravings I have had for months and months. I can finally go out with restaurants with my family, get an ice cream out with friends, have a late night pizza party, try a new drink at a café, etc. All these create good memories with food which helps with me associating it with "bad" things.
And for me it's the best method since any kind of program or rule would (and has) made me freak out, stress about it all day (if I'm following it correctly, if it's good enough etc), it adds even more stress which makes my ed mind take over, and then I'll be adding more and more rules left and right and before you know it I'm back face first into my ed. (That's how my first relapse happened). All in has no rules, no limits, and NO restrictions. Which for me, is the healthiest approach (unfortunately, even the tiniest of rule could trigger me real bad)
And lastly, it gives me the opportunity to eat healthy food when I want it and not as punishment. Amongst other things, it gives me energy, helps me feel like myself again, removes (some) stress from my life, and it has overall been great (from a recovery perspective ofc. It has also been messy, stressful, has made me doubt myself a thousand times and it has made my ed scream like it has never screaned before. So I think I'm doing a good job :) )
Again, if all-in hasn't been/isn't going to be helpful for some, of course they shouldn't force themselves to try it. I'm just trying to make a point about how it is helpful to me personally, and how it has helped me in deeper ways than just with food stuff, just to rid of any stigma. I wish everyone in recovery the best, no matter how they are recovering right now. ❤❤
I also did the all in/intuitive eating method of recovery from orthorexia. It worked so well for me.. have been fully recovered for 8 years. My recovery was kickstarted by Mia’s channel and kept on track that way also. You can do it!
@@SB-dk1ty Oh HELL YEAH!!! I am so happy for you!! This gave me even more motivation to recover and trust myself that what I'm doing is correct. Thank you, and congrats!!
Mia,you are amazing girl! Always say it like it is ! I have been through been through recovery with our daughter Bella,she is in her 7year of recovery and yet a comment from a Dr that only knows her online to diagnose her ADHD, after mentioning her battle with Anorexia nervosa he then said oh then let’s work out your BMI , to which she told him her weight and height and he said oh your BMI is on the high side 😢, she I told me and said I thought I was normal, (she is a size 10-12)😡🤬 . I can’t believe he said that to her!!! She said she can’t lie and the it triggered her ED a bit!! We Love you!! ❤xx
the "advice" that you need to focus on the eating disorder first before then being able to treat other illnesses is something i've literally been told by an inpatient treatment centre! I've been to that inpatient clinic twice before (but not because of my eating disorder) and there was a plan for me to come back for trauma therapy. During both of my stays at the clinic it became very apparent that my eating disorder and trauma are impacting eachother and that i do need trauma therapy. Yet, I'm not allowed to do trauma therapy at that clinic unless I've resolved my eating disorder first.
I really do want to recover, especially since I really do want to do trauma therapy but I feel incredibly lost due to the fact that I'm being rejected from treatment due to my eating disorder.
Every time I attempt recovery I end up relapsing again because, once I start eating properly again, my body floods me with my trauma. It intensivies my ptsd symptoms a lot... and as soon as my ptsd gets worse, I end up spiraling again because I have no appropriate support around me to deal with these ptsd symptoms.
I'm stuck in this endless cycle of starting recovery but then going back again.
Sadly, all other treatment centers do either have the same take on this topic or they're waiting lists are over 14 months. I don't have 14 months to wait around. It's absolutely frustrating.
It’s so lovely to see you. Amazing as usual
Great video, so important to debunk these myths. Thank you 🙏 😊
My family is mostly overweight and has horrible relationships with food. Im pretty sure i have an eating disorder and my mom has one she never addressed and she believes its impossible to get over. She loves me but projects these ideas on me and it makes it difficult for me to get help and find a way out of this exhausting loop of hating myself, binging, purging and never ever ever making progress. :( its so discouraging and i absolutely hate it. She tells me that dieticians psychiatrists and groups won't help and she believes i have an impossible idea of what i want out of these resources and thinks i shouldn't do them because theu won't give me the answers I want.
😊💖🌹 Thank you always dear Mia.
I was rly scared this would be a ‘there’s only one proper way to recover’ vid and thank god it’s not - but to add to ur ur list, the people who think there is only one way and that everyone else is ‘faking’ or doing a ‘faux’ recovery is rly not great. I get there’s nuance to this, but I think if ur gonna be encouraging to anyone trying to recover, start with some humility.
M = mutable or malleable
Luckily I’m fully recovered now. But when I was in active recovery I had a doctor tell me I needed to go on a diet and gave me a worksheet on the diet. This is after I told them my ed history. AND the nurse told me my weight after I asked not to know.
Instead of "flexible" so it can be MIA, whatabout "modifiable" like it can be changed ?
There was someone I watch who doing the fake it to you make it. That would be mice but unrealistic it. Can only talk for me. Recovery is intentional steps some big steps but more little steps. Even few backwards but through it all gaining to tools for coping. I really think ones with there fake does not work. It kinda makes me said. Cause they done have the mental side and so never learn rhe coping skills. Then the next time you see them. There not only I physical distress also ED distress. Thank you for honesty❤.
I was anorexic around yhe same time Karen Carpenter died. Well treatment was just eat a burger
No real mental help. Now I'm older got the help I need and went to college got my degree in microbiology and organic chemistry. All of out there who done think it can or well happen it can abd does
Will The Recovery Essentials be available again? I want my daughter to do it but she’ll be on a cruise for 2 weeks in August.
Hi Jennifer, I can't confirm when/if it will be held again as we have a few things on the calendar in the coming 12 months. If she'd like to attend, she will still be able to benefit as she can go at her own pace and watch anything she can't attend in person.
my mum adviced me to „just put a spoon full of linseed-oil“ over every meal i ate…