r/AmITheA--Hole for Mocking my Daughter for Being an Escort?
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- čas přidán 9. 07. 2024
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0:00 Intro
0:05 Bad dad abandons daughter
6:25 Boyfriend ruins girls night
9:00 Bad dad joke
12:42 Holding a seat for no one
14:53 His hand is his only lover
15:17 Not getting on that flight
"Sneaky Snitch" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) License: CC By Attribution 3.0 - Komedie
There’s an update to the first story. The wife left the father and apologised profusely to the OP for putting the father and him in the same room because she didn’t know. From what I remember the father was NOT happy and blamed OP AGAIN! Overall the dad deserves 11/5 buttholes.
That father is the worst. To blame your child for the death of their mother, then blame them again for a woman's choice to leave. That father deserves to rot in isolation
they have to take the 'father' to the insane asylum
I heard the story on another Reddit video and let exactly what happened
good.
So in the fathers already f*cked up way of thinking he will NEVER stop blaming OP for all the bad in his life! SMH
I actually cried during the first story because my dad blames my younger brother for killing our mom. I wish he had just loved him. Now my mom is dead and none of us have a relationship with my dad. This kind of thing destroys families. As a mom years later, I don’t understand how someone can blame a newborn.
You poor thing.
“But this was his chance finding someone since losing my mom.” That poor excuse for a human did have someone, his child.
@@blizzardgaming7070 that's exactly it.. he don't deserve anyone or any sort of happiness..he deserves to be miserable forever..
well he is the one who made her pregnant in the first place so if he wants to blame someone then that is himself
That’s disgusting when people are going to understand that is not the fault of the newborn Jesus Christ the can just go to hell for putting the blame on the child
The family sexually harassing the dil over her past is straight up Trash. Her request to "explain the joke" was PERFECT. She should never apologize for being mocked and CONTINUE this line of questions anytime the harassers make another "joke." They will learn FAR faster being made to explain their harassment than to just suffer in silence.
@in desperate need of a scotch So you support shaming a family member and joking that you may have had sex with her? You're a peach.
@in desperate need of a scotch what do you mean by that?
@in desperate need of a scotch
It's* her? How?
@@Richard_Nickerson fr. The real joke is that the father and brother think it's funny to pretend they can't even be faithful to their partners just to try to make fun of op. They think because op was an escort that she would sleep with them, but then... what's their excuse?
@@squirrel670
I understood the idiot's bad joke from the beginning, but you're clearly missing the point here.
Third story: He literally said that basically he would cheat on his wife with his future daughter in law, which I dunno about you, insults three people at once. The fact no one else saw a problem with that astounds me
@in desperate need of a scotch That just shows they got very messed up priorities
Wait. What he said can be applied to his own wife as well. I mean is he sure that his own son got the birthmark from him and not his brothers? 🤣
That joke was utterly stupid.
When rSlash is very close to crying, you know that the story is fucked up.
Didn't expect to see you here, Travis!
Holy shit how do you find someone you know on CZcams!? Lol dope
Mhm!
It's wild how you find completely unrelated CZcamsrs in the comment section sometimes!
Facts
First story didn’t only broke my heart, but it pissed me off. Under what circumstances do you think it’s okay to blame the death of your first wife on a baby?
The OP would be a buttcheek if he DID NOT tell his fathers fiance the truth.
Also, it's the *father* who killed op's mom by making her improperly pregnant. The OP as fetus had no voice in that matter at all - he could be simply deleted and thrown in the dumpster before leaving the vegena
I mean the "If she hadn't gotten pregnant she wouldn't have died/ if the baby had come easier she wouldn't have died" is an understandable connection for a grieving spouse to make, but.. like if you loved your wife that much, you'd think you'd at leaqst try to be there for your child - you know, the little baby who is 50% her, and kinda the last part you have?
I thought that rslash was being a little cruel by believing that he just didn't want to be a single dad then I realized that when ever the wife wanted to meet if the father was so tramitized then wouldn't he not want his wife to meet OP?
There isn't u can't just blame a baby for that if Ur going to blame the baby then u blame urself for getting the woman pregnant
I don't believe in an afterlife, but can you imagine how devastated the wife would be if she looked down and saw her husband treating their child like that? It's sickening.
I understand the dad was probably suffering from extreme grief and stress. Possibly also PTSD if the birth was traumatic. But that's not a valid excuse for treating your child like that. Dad should've roped in his sister to help with the newborn, whilst getting himself in to some serious therapy to sort his shit out.
I once heard a story from a father's day askreddit, and OP was very close to losing their mom during childbirth. The OP's dad cradled them and didn't let anyone near them. He was preparing for it to be just the two of them. OP's mom did survive, but that's along the lines of what a good dad would have done.
I heard a similar story on a CZcams video.
The dad sang "Far Over the Misty Mountains Cold" to his newborn daughter to comfort her while the doctors were desperately trying to save his wife from complications. She made it thankfully and that song has become a common comforting technique for him and his daughter ❤
Grief hits everyone differently, but blaming a baby for the death of the mother and giving that child grief for their entire lives is just plain wrong.
So terrible. He could’ve gotten therapy for that but instead he blamed his own baby. He should have treasured his baby as a remnant of his love for his wife but nope, he chose to be the worst person ever
@@Panda-cute this just infuriates me so much. If your beloved wife dying isn't a reason to go through therapy then what is? People treat therapy like a doctor, as if should only go there if you are mentally ill, instead there's thousands of reasons therapy could help you.
Even if you did resent your baby while in the depths of your grief, you still love the hell out of that baby and make sure they never, ever feel that resentment while you work on it. By the time they are aware enough to pick up on something like that, you should have been working through it and come to terms with everything enough that you don't put blame on them. And if you really, really can't do that, then you need to go completely no contact with the child. But staying partially in the kids life, just enough to abuse them like this, is disgusting
@@Sasha-up9er yeah, there is something even deeper in the father’s psychological landscape.
@@Neysiriss exactly
Story 1: Technically isn’t it more reasonable to say that him getting his wife pregnant “killed her”? since you know, she wouldn’t have been born or capable of “killing” the wife otherwise …?
yeah. if we go by the dad's fu-ck-ed up logic!
By his own logic... yes!
That's why I think he blames OP. Because if he blamed himself that would be unbearable. So he redirects it to their own child. Which is fucking disgusting because he's making the decision to traumatize a child so that he can be less traumatized.
Exactly my thoughts as I was listening
my exact thoughts as well!
You know the story is absolutely f*cked up if rSlash almost cried.
Accusing the newborn of murdering the wife/mother? Like, who the f*ck hurt you?!
I know right!
That is some Tywin Lannister level of dysfunctional and abusive. Hell, OP probably has it better, as they had no contact with their father and could not face constant abuse and accusations. Then again, is it better for a child to be neglected than abused?
@@bert8731 both have the same outcome. Both negatively effect the child so one isn't a better option then the other. What would've been better is dealing with the grief and then being a father.
At least he had his aunt who tried to shield him from his father... Sad she had to do that but at least she tried.
Exactly
The "father" in this first story did a massive disservice to his wife's memory by neglecting the only child she had, the one she gave her life for. Then, as if her wasn't already an absolute leaking trash bag, they tried to "reconcile" by not apologizing and insisting on lying to their wife about the damage. Throw the whole person away.
“An absolute leaking trash bag” I’ll need to save that one in the brain box
Someone mentioned an update: The new wife left the father and apologised profusely to the OP for putting the father and him in the same room because she didn’t know. The dad STILL blames OP: "If you weren't born, your mom would still be alive." 😡
@@TheMadagascarqueen All I can to that is: "And she's been watching you ever since. When you die, it won't be you reuniting with her in heaven, but the man you used to be."
Lmao no, even a non pregnant person deserves to sit down when there's an empty seat. I would of done the same thing.
"That's inappropriate and disrespectful!" Well, yes. But respect is given to people deserve it.
I was super gassy when I was pregnant. NGL, I would've considered letting one rip.
Stepping on his walmart loafers and leaving a shoeprint will pay his debts
@@pugmcmuffins9282 I would laugh so hard if I witnessed that 😂
I've wrote it in my own comment, but that story bothers me. Why would nobody intervene ? Why would the be staring at her instead of the guy ? Plus the husband saying she was TA makes me think she was acting entitled but didn't mention it
@@prairiete those pedestrians probably all voted for lauren boebert-“can’t give taxes to brown aliens or nigerians(minus the ‘rian’)”
Story 5: Imagine being so classist that you go out of your way to make someone feel like s**t for having blue-collar parents while giving everyone else the 5 star treatment
I’d be willing to bet that if all the blue-collar workers in her every day life were to somehow just vanish the ex-boyfriend’s mother would start having panic attacks because there is no longer anyone to do the tasks that she depends on to continue to live her lavish lifestyle.
It was so obvious what was going on and the fact that the boyfriend saw this and did nothing shows what their future together would have been.
The attendant was 100% right... no respect now, even less later.
If it was me "I can't afford it. I don't have the money, I was told first class, all expenses paid, and I don't have any money left already.". And go to the ticket counter to see if I could return the ticket.
What blue colar means?
@@pauliussipavicius4658 In America, blue collar jobs are the tradesman and craftsman jobs: plumbing, carpenter, mechanics and repairman. Any middle to lower class job where the unofficial uniform is a blue shirt. Office and upper management are considered "white collar".
The bus story astonoshed me. in my city, youre literally supposed to offer your seat to pregnant people if youre sitting at the front in one of the accessable seats.
IKR we have ads on public transport saying you should give up your seat to pregnant people and old or disabled people. And you would be told off if you did that (let your hands take up a seat)
Pregnant or not that guy was a jerk. Who takes up two seats just because?
His girlfriend was on the other seat 😂
Still, sitting on someone’s hand like that IS assault-aggravated at worst. She did commit a crime, even if it was justifiable
@@JackdawFeathers I agree. That guy was being a massive asshole, he didn't need both of those seats and could've just moved his hand. And I do understand that pregnancy takes a lot out of someones body and the woman in that story was probably in a lot of pain. However sitting on his hand meant that she forced him to touch her inappropriately, which is assault. No matter how innocent the reason was, it doesn't change that fact.
I heard some updates on the first one. The birth mom was actually very high risk for health problems if she were to get pregnant, the dad knew this, was told so by doctors, and still wanted to go through with a pregnancy. So he knew it was incredibly dangerous for his wife, she thought it was worth it to have a baby, and unfortunately it killed her. The dad has himself (and dead mom) to blame and can't handle it so he put all the guilt on a baby!
Asking someone to explain their offensive joke is really the best tactic ever, lol, good on OP for not letting him get away with that shit
People use jokes like opinions. It is a way to hurt someone or say something offensive but then fall back on “it’s only a joke/only my opinion” making someone explain what is so funny makes them outright say they are an asshole.
It’s my favourite tactic. They get SO uncomfortable.
Oh I'll explain my offensive jokes to you with an honest to God smile on my face
The attendant of the last story definitely gets some credit. Had she not told OP to not go, she would have suffered much more than she did.
I loved the story. They wanted to make her a housemaid
its crazy how the boyfriend is trying to say she wasted their family's time and money, when they gave her the FREE coach seat.
The attendant sounds like a sweet person. It would've been easy to brush off the crying OP, check her in and keep rushing through her job, but she took the human option and gave OP a much-needed reprieve from that nightmarish family. What bullies, publically humiliating her and laughing at her standing there in line. And for what? Circumstances of her birth? The fact that her parents were hard workers instead of being born into money and being useless all their lives? Those no-longer-in-laws should feel ashamed of themselves. And that bf? The second that happened to my partner I would have traded seats with her, not clung to my mommy's skirts. Bullet dodged that day.
The way the mom was acting, I wouldn't be surprised if she had only booked OP a one way ticket and was planning on leaving OP stranded.
She was definitely a good Samaritan
Mad respect to that check-in lady who saw a horrible situation and got OP out of it. Sometimes a kind word/gesture is all it takes to shake someone out of a fog.
For real shes the MVP!!! She listened then helped her, despite op even pointing out the line was long. She could’ve easily yelled at OP for taking too long, but instead was kind and was the type of person OP needed
Last story: "waste everyones time and money" the mom said she had a free coach ticket, and they were making you pay a baggage fee. the only time you wasted was your own, get away from that awful family
Last story-she didn't waste anyone's time or money except her own. They all had express check-in, and as the Karen said, it was a free coach ticket.
Exactly!! When I read it on Reddit, I commended OP for having the confidence and self- respect to walk away from the vacation and the boyfriend. They didn't lose any money and OP is better off!
Except the mother was lying... she for sure bought the coach out of spite...
If I was the boyfriend I'd fly coach with my girlfriend.
But then, someone raised by that woman probably has no respect for anyone
Exactly what I was thinking! And who's to say Karen had even booked OP into the accommodation on the other side? If she'd leave her an unexpected baggage fee, I bet she was REALLY looking forward to seeing OP's face at the hotel.
@@Nerobyrne Although there are good people raised by Karens, yea, someone who is raised by a Karen and actually thinks her karen ways are normal, only has respect for themselves and their family
1st story: Well, sounds like a fun round of “who swung last”. That man abandoned not just his kid, but his wife when op was born, and basically got the “he’s hurt” treatment, and everyone just ignored the 18+ years of mental torture he inflicted. The instant OP tried to help that woman realize the monster he is, suddenly he’s the villain for ruining one of his relationships. Honestly, if I was in his position and felt like it’d be worth it I’d warn every date: “hey, just as an fyi, try not to die at child birth or your kid’ll end up like me”.
No one ignored anything wtf???
@@mattybrunolucaszeneresalas9072 he was forced to be brought to family reunions where the dad ignored his existence and nobody said anything, which is clear enough in the way he talks about his family. let alone the fact that they're siding with the dad at all and there's no mention of anybody in particular who did anything to help EXCEPT the aunt. context clues are enough.
@@mattybrunolucaszeneresalas9072 Bruh
@@Someone-or8tp oh well yeah I already know that. Also OP had a wife? I didn’t see that? What is RSlash talking about
@@mattybrunolucaszeneresalas9072 I think we might be talking about different stories in the video?
I hate how op in the first story was blamed for 'destroying their marriage', like..... if your partner dies giving birth to a child you both wanted and your first response is too abandone said child? You don't deserve happiness.
For the third story:
I’m honestly wondering how the BIL got the information of her being an escort in the first place.
I think she even stated that her fiancé didn’t even know(?) until they came clean to the family about it.
That means he was either doing a background check on her, knew someone who had hired her for her services,
Or might have been actually searching for escorts and found an old page of hers.
Still, that family is horrible and the ‘jokes’ aren’t even jokes, they are just their opinions of her and just sexually harass her by using her past job as their entertainment.
In the first story: OP updated that the wife did divorce his dad, and him and his dad went their separate ways after the dad apologized for what he did, and they said there’s no way their relationship can be reconciled
Read the update myself and was pretty disgusting to have the dad double down and say his only regret was not cutting OP out of his life from the word go. Though guess it might have been less damaging to OP then having to grow up constantly being told by your dad that you are the reason why your mum died.
@@Altoryu that dad is the most repulsive person. He could’ve gotten therapy but just chose to blame an innocent baby. I just hope OP can heal
@@Panda-cute Or he was traumatized and the Aunt who was happily taking the guys money should have probably helped him to realise he needed therapy...
@@kilerscn yeah
What's worse for the last story op is that she's a nurse, and during this pandemic they have worked to keep the majority of us alive. So not only is her bfs mother snubbing her for a job, she's also snubbing the massive amount of hard work and personal pain op must have gone through the last 2 years.
And on top of that, the fact op has time even to take a holiday is a miracle and the bfs mother planned to make her miserable during that precious time?
4 out of 5 butt holes for the mother for me
I don get why the mom was pissed off, op did what she wanted she left her son lol maybe she wanted op to come but to babysit or something not as a equal so
@@velvety2006 I'm sure it's a pride thing, how dare YOU leave my son. And not the other way round
@@velvety2006 I feel OP publicly humiliated that Karen and her son by breaking up with him right in front of everyone at the airport. Definitely was a 4/5 for me too, R/Slash was a little too lenient for me on this one.
“Where rslash almost cries” we immediately know it’s going to be a wife/child story that hits close to home for dabney
Story 1: I am that girl in my family that got blamed because I was assaulted at church; my whole family plays it off as I "misunderstood" the situation and it "wasnt as bad". I have been told my whole life to get over things and to just keep hush hush so that I don't make people look bad, it truly messes with you, and I still struggle with being invalidated. I'm sorry you went through that, OP, I wish you the best.
Third story: that’s just bullying, plain and simple. Also, the BIL is a huge hypocrite to get mad at OP for “exposing” the FIL (even though she didn’t, she just asked him to explain some dumb “joke”) yet it’s perfectly fine for him to expose OP? I’m glad the fiancé has OP’s back, and if I were him I’d ban the family from seeing the baby until THEY apologized.
I'd take it the extra mile and go on a courthouse wedding or better yet uninvite all of them. Those who can't accept her past and move on don't support their union so no point in having them as guests 🤷🏽♀️
Yeah op is not proud of her past but she did it to pay her scholarship and mocking her like that is straight up douche bag
@@daniella9787 exactly
I said the SAME thing! Except I don't care how much they apologize, they will not be seeing my child. Or if they do see my child it will be with supervised visits only because I don't know what they will be telling my child about me behind my back and poisoning our relationship isn't something I'm willing to risk.
@@CloudedTear816 exactly ...
Story 1: read the update and I’m still disgusted that op’s ‘sperm donor’ still blamed op forgetting that it takes two to make a baby. Op’s dad ruined his own relationship with both his son and his now ex wife. The ex realized that if he’s willing to abandon one child will abandon another.
Agree
Hi, op in that story is actually a male so "son"
But yea I completely agree with you
@@just_a_person_15 hey, he actually listened to the reply! that's rare!
Third story: Asking "Why is that funny?" should be what everyone does when "jokes" like that are told. If you're in a situation where the person who the "joke" is being told to doesn't ask it themselves (because they're bad at confrontation, too embarrassed, stunned, etc.), step up and do it. Sh-t like that is straight up bullying and should not be tolerated, end of story.
Last story: Bless that attendant. She did the right thing in encouraging OP to leave, and OP did the right thing by leaving. This was just the start of the trip, after all. There is absolutely no doubt in my mind that the rest of the trip would have been an absolute nightmare for her.
The story about how the *father* blamed his son for his wife's death was so heartbreaking.. Any man can be a father but it takes a special man to be a Dad/Daddy. I'm so happy his Aunt raised him
“I ruined my relationship with my dad”
There was no relationship to begin with, it died the moment he gave up OP to their aunt.
Also the second story, GIRLS night out. Meaning GIRLS go out and have fun. Don’t victimize your self when they talk about girl stuff.
Third story. A joke is only a joke if everyone laughs. An escort is nothing to be ashamed of. People shouldn’t shame people for jobs.
Fourth story: douchy business man gets what he deserves
The first story was very frustrating how he hurt op in ways that were horrid then gets all buddy-buddy since he needs him to cover his ass for saying he a good dad.If the dad wouldn't lie about how he felt about OP then OP doesn't have to Lie about how he felt about his dad
Second story guy just wanted to spend time with his GF and she tried to make him as uncomfortable as possible for no reason, I don't get why he's in the wrong for wanting to spend time with her
@@tidepodpadthai2633 the guy literally said if he wasn't there, she would have to cancel. Let's say girls night is once a week, the bf can't spare one evening?
@@tidepodpadthai2633 i think you slept through the part where op specified that the bf told her that he'll have to come or the girls night would be cancelled.
Oh i almost forgot, she said that the bf kept deviating from what the girls actually wanted to talk about, and just kept talking about his work and achievements. That bf is an arrogant jerk (from what i can tell)
I’m bout to fall asleep listening to rSlash, then rSlash says he almost cries, mans really knows how to wake someone up.
Now you know, never watch rslash before sleep :D Lesson learned :D
rSlash is my wake-up video. EST, he posts at 9am. At 9:30 I feel like I woke up 30 minutes late!
@@DarkbutNotsinister I live in Australia and rSlash posted that at 9:30 pm for me
I also sleep to rslash! his voice calms me down
How OP handled the girls' night situation is my level of petty and I love it lmao
I laughed so hard at that comment on the bus seat story. "You stole a seat from his only lover!"
The father from the first story deserves to be alone and unloved for the rest of his life. No woman should never even look at him again.
Agree
Well he spent years playing a stupid game and now he finally won a stupid prize. This is why therapy is so important.
Don't worry, there's an update, wife left him, and he blames OP.
@@songohan3321 yup
@@BenKonosky Typical! How typical of these God forsaken BEASTS to STILL FIGHT FOR THEIR LIVES in a pathetic attempt to avoid admitting ANY fault!
BECAUSE WHY OWN UP TO OUR ACTIONS RIGHT!? ITS NOT LIKE EVEN THE TINIEST SCENARIOS BLOW UP INTO BIG FIGHTS WHEN WE DONT OR ANYTHING!! GAH!!!
I just wish people stood down and accepted that they were imperfect for once, that people admitted they were WRONG about things for once, what ever happened to that? What happened to accountability? EVERY SINGLE PERSON I see pull this crap has some practically biological aversion to admitting fault, and it's so old that ancient barely covers it.
For the first story: NTA. HE is the one that abandoned his kid and HIS the one that lied to his new wife. If anything, OP probably did his new wife a solid by telling her the truth. Also WHO BLAMES AN INFANT FOR THE MOTHER'S DEATH.
A complete monster that's who.
@@thephantasm94 absolutely. All kids deserve parents but not all parents deserve kids
As a teacher I fully agree with you, he's either really, clinically insane, or just didn't want to bother with the responsibility and gave his child away. I see similar things all the time - the worst part is when children just casually tell you about it, as in "dad says I can't see him anymore because I bother his new girlfriend". Prison is the only thing holding me back. No morals, just prison.
I’m gonna be honest the first dad didn’t say anything to his wife because he knew it was wrong
Story 1: That poor op. I can't believe a dad would blame them for being the reason their mom died. God that's sick.
Its the Tyrion Lannister story, and yes, its very sick.
@@Nekulturny Very true. No child should ever be blamed for their mothers death. Its wrong and disgusting to put all that blame on a tiny baby.
@@awesomesauce2000 what if they shot their mother
I can absolutely believe it.
World is not a bed of roses, it's filled with lots of evil.
Honestly, with the bus seats it's pretty common to move for pregnant people, the disabled, and the elderly. Could you imagine the looks that guy would get if he said, "you being (old/disabled) is not my problem". Then just sat there as someone in need struggles to stand on a moving bus.
I agree that her being pregnant isn't his problem. Obviously people should still move, but being pregnant is a choice. Being old and disabled isn't.
@@pattondurio still it's socially unacceptable to just refuse a pregnant person a seat because you just don't wanna sit next to another person. What he did would honestly be an asshole move even if it wasn't a pregnant, disabled, or elderly person. If a bus is crowded going "No I'm saving the seat for my hand" is incredibly douchey.
It’s also 100% expected that if there’s an empty seat, ANYONE can sit in it, pregnant or not. It’s not even that she asked him to give up the seat he was sitting in. An unoccupied seat is always fair game. Hands don’t count.
@@pattondurio It may not be his problem that she's pregnant, but I'm willing to bet the guy paid for only a single fare. You pay one dare, you have one ass, you get one seat. If you want a second seat for your hand, you pay another fare. Him wanting a hand rest is not Ops problem.
@@pattondurio Even if she wasn't pregnant, it was rude that he was keeping two seats instead of one. What? Is he so morbidly obese that he requires two? There's nothing in the story implying that. He was just being rude.
1st story:
"Bad dad abandons daughter", OP: 27M
Also OP: "Hi stepmom, so nice to finally meet you. Congrats on the marriage. I brought some red flags for you. You're most welcome."
Last story:
Boyfriend: "You wasted everyone's time and money!"
By the sound of it I bet they have more than enough if they travel 1st class and look down on regular people like they're peasants. My guess is that OP's role on that trip would've been just that. Like the 1st class passengers on the Titanic had their servants with them.
First story, had a friend go through something similar. Lost his wife at child birth, he had a difficult time raising his daughter since he felt he saw his wife every time he saw her, he never once though thought about abandoning his daughter. He raised her the best he could. He was an emotional mess the 1st few years of his daughters life, but as time went by, his attitude improved and was able to cope. I just can't imagine a parent completely dumping their child and then later asking that she reconcile with him? WTF does that guy think he is. What a scumbag.
If I were OP from the first story, I would tell the dad that “he’s not my dad anymore“, disown him, and go no contact and inform anyone who is on the side of the dad that they will also be cut off if they continue to defend him. The only reason the dad had a kid with his wife, was so she could slave away raising OP while dad did whatever, like drinking with his buddies, partying, been gone for hours in other ways, and then when the wife didn’t survive childbirth, the dad dumped OP on the aunt and disappeared. The dad definitely does not deserve to have anymore children. Even if the wife did survive childbirth, he clearly doesn’t want to be a dad.
I can say from experience that he probably had the same goals as my dad, who wanted a wife and a fast car and kids and an expensive TV and dogs and blah blah, not because he wanted to spend time with any of them (except the car and TV), but because they were nice things to have, and would be great status symbols. Never helped with my homework but always boasted to friends about my top marks in school.
He actually thought I'd come and work for his company and take it over when he retired, after never having shown any interest in my future plans or even talked about the business to me in my life. He's never forgiven me for failing to live up to the private fantasies he had in his head, lmfao.
@@suitov I’m sorry for your experience, I hope you’re alright. My dad and I fight a lot but reading things like this make me glad that he’s there for me
Aunt should have never even let OP know his father or ever be put in a position to have the trauma he suffered as well. I would have had the family, anyone willing to bring up the sperm donor, on no contact. I would have NEVER brought OP to family functions that dad was at because… for fucking obvious reasons. I think the family failed OP nearly has badly as his POS father did. He could have been saved some extreme amount of the trauma had he never known his father and later had the situation explained. He never deserved to be hurt like this and everyone let it happen
That first story, as soon as you read that OP's sperm donor invited him to meet his new wife I was praying OP would reveal everything. I cheered when he did. That sorry excuse for life has no right to the title of father. He is your sperm donor and nothing more. I can't believe your family is trying to blame you! It's just sick and twisted! And to rSlash I've never heard you so emotional, however I don't blame you. If that story didn't incite some emotion then you might be a robot. OP if you read this I wish you the absolute best in life.
EDIT: Holy crap I just read the update and I am crying! It doesn't change the fact the "sperm donor" is a grade A 5/5 a**hole and then some, however at the very least OP now has a chance to close this chapter and begin anew.
I’m willing to bet the father in the first story is deflecting blame he feels about the ops mom because it was his idea to have a baby and he talked her into it. So instead of getting counseling he just blames his child to make himself feel better
Story 2: OP’s boyfriend is a douche canoe, plain and simple. Not only is he forcing his way into her night out that, mind you, is specifically for _her and her gal pals_ by saying stuff like “I have to come or you’ll have to cancel,” he’s also clearly trying to impress the other girls and maybe do something with them, because he keeps interrupting the conversations and steering them towards him and all his accomplishments. She’d be dodging more than just a bullet if she broke up with him.
You do realize "girls night" means cheat on your husband right?
@@Fiery_Latina_Goatchan_GF_681 No, no it fucking doesn't.
@@Fiery_Latina_Goatchan_GF_681Maybe that's what YOU do when you tell your spouse that's what you are doing.
He feels like the kind of man that forces his wife to ask for permission to leave the house
@@Fiery_Latina_Goatchan_GF_681No, they don’t
First story : NTA. OP's gene donor is awful. If his gene donor didn't want to say anything, that's on him. Should've just lied and said he didn't have a kid, instead he made up some lies to feed to his new wife. He reaped what he sowed.
Yeah what a hypocrite
I like that word. Gene donor
Gene donor is right. He doesn't deserve the title of father. A father is someone who loves and cares for his kids no matter what happens. This man isn't. He cared about his new wife rather than OP.
I’ve seen Komodo dragons be better parents than this sack of mayonnaise, and they eat their own young.
@@hamishstewart5324 oooooohhhhh boom well said
The lady deserved to know what kind of man she was marrying. If he was willing to treat his first child like he did, how would treat her and possible future children?
This is the first time i almost cried, hearing your voice break. You literally hear the love and passion for your wife and daughter.
First story : Its not ops fault the dad passionately hugged the mom and got her pregnant.
Story 1: 2 points. 1)if ANYONE living is responsible for her death, it is OP's dad. He's the one who made the choice with his wife to get pregnant. His choice led to her death. Blaming OP when he had no control over any of it just nonsense. He shouldn't be blaming anyone, but if he does, it should be himself.
2) OP's mom would HATE him for how he has treated her son. He abandoned her son for nonsense.
“My dad is devastated” as he should! The dad didn’t care when op grew up just as devastated when his own father blamed him for the death of his mother. The dad is devastated that his fiancé isn’t sure about marrying a neglectful and cruel monster
In the first story. If the dad had at least told the second wife that his first wife died in childbirth and he was not emotionally mature enough to deal with that so his sister raised his son, that might have been the start of a relationship. Insinuating that the estrangement was from normal teen angst was beyond reprehensible
Last story: "Wasting her time and money"
I thought it was a free coach ticket she had laying around?
First story? The 'father' lost his right to happiness and family. Plain and simple. He doesn't deserve to be happy, no woman or child deserve to have him darken their life, and he has no right to have more children after what he did to OP.
Edit: There was an update; they divorced and the now EX apologized to OP over putting them in that position
Wow... one of my friends once said that "some people's brains simply misfire and the sparks hit others".
I think he was right.
Keep it up, RSlash! You're great! I love your channel.
For the flight story: How did OP waste anyone's time and money? Wasn't the coach ticket free?
i was crying, as a mom I had a hard pregnancy and if anything had happened to me during child birth I would want my husband to love our child unconditionally
Story 1 : hellllllllllll no NTA .... I hope op "dad" gets all the negative karma coming to it ..op grandma is a dumpsterfire " this could be his chance to find happiness" what about op chance of being happy?? what about the wife finding what kind of monster she married?? Op honestly you didn't go far enough!! The grandparents also get 6 out of 5 for being enablers they pretty muchs said" I understand your anger for him screwing your life and mind but I was hoping you would've let it go for his happiness that he deserved "
Story 2 : NTA.. malicious compliance.. " wanna join us here's what we talk about " " oh you don't like it tough crap chuckles "..
Story 3 : NTA.. nahhh op good on you calling out a loser troll ..if the fiance Bastard in law wants to give you crap make a joke about his private parts let's see how he reacts..
Story 4 : NTA.. "wanna play dirty I can be dirtier " .. " wanna be a douche your gonna get called out".. " taken by my hand" wtf kinda BS is that..
Story 5 : NTA.. honestly op how could you deal with that kinda BS .. next time momma boy ( your boyfriend) calls you cuss him out then block him and his family on everything .. f those snotty pieces of crap..
Same
someone mentioned an update on first story: The wife left the father and apologised profusely to the OP for putting the father and him in the same room because she didn’t know, and he STILL blames OP: "if you weren't born, your mom would still be alive."😡
I don't get people who abandon their children. Even if I cheated on my wife and got my fling pregnant, I would take full responsibility for that child, even if it ruined my marriage. 5/5 for sure.
you're not black af
@@spicydiarrhea5662 what?
@@spicydiarrhea5662 lol
@@PapaBearIsHere The guy's a troll. All his comments are weird.
@@akl2k7 it’s ok. This account gave a report.
i bet after the first story, Rslash took a break to hug his wife and daughter. he is a great dad
rSlash nailed it on the first story. "He didn't want to be a single dad" That's exactly it. And I'm really glad he included the family as well. They're all on the father's side. They're all so concerned that OP "ruined" a chance at a relationship with his father, but did of them ever bother, even once, to ask if OP even wanted a relationship with the man that destroyed his mental health? And he knew what he did. He knew how bad the truth was, which was why he lied to his wife about it. He was owed NO favors by OP, and his wife deserved the truth!
I'm gonna call it now 2nd story: dude was hoping that if he stayed with the girls he'd get lucky and possibly have a 3way or more. If it's not in the post that still exactly his line of thinking.
Rlly? I just got narcissistic me, me, me vibes. Especially when op mentioned he steers the conversation to him, his life or his career.
We don't know. Maybe that was just his attempt to connect and make friends with her friends
I'm pretty sure the boyfriend in the 2nd story joins op's girls night to feel like he's in a harem. He probably kept bringing up his achievements to try to impress them lol 😂😂
Hey RSlash I hope you’re okay, that first story sounds like it affected you a lot on a very personal level. I appreciate your dedication to reading these stories for us, but please take some time for yourself as well. I wish you, your wife, and your daughter a very happy and healthy life.
Mocking is a negative Word but so is Escort; ti think this commentsection here largely does not know that.
@@slevinchannel7589 did you mean to comment somewhere else? Mine isn’t relevant to yours. Also escort isn’t a negative word it’s a job description
Shame on that dad for not getting himself and his son into therapy!
My grandmother had a similar story. Her mom & twin brother did during labour. Their dad abandoned my grandmother in the hospital. When she was in her 40's & her dad died she read in the papers that "lonkalta bla bla died..." He had lived in the same town with my grandmother his whole life & she never knew.
The first story actually had some updates. OP actually met with his father and had a talk with him. The piece of shit father essentially told him "I can't not blame you for your mother's death because if you weren't born she would still be alive". But on the better side, the new wife is divorcing him and thanked OP for being honest.
Op should've told him that the mom wouldn't be pregnant without his sperm so the dad's to blame to if that's his reasoning
@@daniella9787 Mike drop moment. I tip my hat to you.😊
@@daniella9787 My thoughts exactly.
@@daniella9787 and everyone stood and clapped for her…..
Well said!!!!
Honestly, the titular story is a prime candidate for malicious compliance.
Next family gathering, get everyone's attention and let them know you want to make a public apology. Tell them someone explained FIL's joke to you, and you now realize he was insinuating that he was cheating on his wife with his daughter IL, and that his sons were doing the same. Say you wish to reassure everyone that this isn't true, that even when putting yourself through college you never slept with anyone your father's age, much less an actual family member. Tell them that you and husband love their family, but incest and infedilty are not things you approve of, and you apologize deeply, but you can't expose your child to such bad influences.
I was an avid bus rider for YEARS and years, and absolutely no one gets to keep a spare seat for their fuckin hand. He’s lucky she said anything at all, most people don’t look at all, and try to keep a seat from a pregnant lady? I’ve seen drivers pull over and throw people off the bus for things like that involving riders who are entitled to certain seating. Pregnant, elderly, injured, whatever, and usually passengers will straight up yell at someone and shame them for being dicks.
First story: Using the father's logic, the father is more responsible for the death of his wife than his child is. After all, she wouldn't have died giving birth if he hadn't gotten her pregnant. What an absolute douche that father is.
Exactly, he would rather blame an innocent baby than accept his own role in the tragedy. A repulsive man for sure
That isn't how victim mentality works.
@@Panda-cute The kid wasn't innocent. He killed his mother!
@@harkaway9006 what? You must be a troll, or just stupid. The BABY didn’t kill his mom. She chose to carry a child and knew the risks. Unfortunately sometimes women die in childbirth, it isn’t the baby’s fault as they didn’t choose to be made
@@harkaway9006 Are you the dad?
I will never, ever get used to hearing Rslash swears. Bleeps or no, it will always be a shock.
Especially that violently.
Go back and listen to his very first videos, before he had to censor himself...
The first story really hit me.
My mother had a risk of dying from my birth. She had to have a C-section for me to have born, or we could have died. She could have died, I could have died, both of us could have died. It was such a horrible situation. Luckily, she's ok and I'm ok.
That story is so fucking horrible. I couldn't imagine having my own father hate me for killing my mother. That father is the one who deserves to burn in hell.
I really just can't understand how you can blame a child, a literal infant, for killing your wife. And then ruining your second marriage?? Honestly I think OP saved his second wife. She dodged a huge nuke in my opinion.
That Airline Attendant is a real one, we need to clone her and place her in ever form of buisness.
Story 2: The moment the boyfriend says you can't hang out with your friends unless he's there, dump him
Damn rSlash. We've heard you get angry at aholes before, but this was your most intense, I think.
A marriage built on lies is not a marriage. The wife had the right to know. And OP had the right to tell the truth about the abuse. He is choking up. 5:50 This is why I love you and your channel. You are honest. Even if we disagree on these, you are honest and I understand why you feel the way you do.
Fourth story: When I heard the seat was busy I doubted, but when he said it was busy by his hand I thought screw that hand. That man was a total dougebag.
Story 1: "If a man can be destroyed by the truth, let it destroy him." How many times must I say this?! Why should his victim lie on his behalf? Now that he's getting laid it's the kids job to make him look good? He even spun a story about how OP was the bad guy? Wreck him. I swear OPs dad is no different than that selfish sociopath who forced his wife to get pregnant because he wanted a biological child, especially a son....and when she died from the complications she was so terrified of, he blamed the kid.
Story 2: Seems the boyfriend was living some fantasy where all the girls would make out and such and now that he's there too they'd wanna fight over him. The controlling crap lost me. "I have to join or you have to cancel."
Story 3: How DARE OP have the AUDACITY to not laugh along with a bunch of gross perverts? She has to deal with women acting terrible to her because THEIR husbands are perving on her?!
Story 4: Hmmmm I wonder why the closests he has to any action is his own hand. Could it be his terrible personality?
Story 5: "How dare you humiliate my mommy when she was getting off on humiliating you?!" Stay mad, wittle rabbit. Yes that's a reference to how the entire court mocked the son of Elizabeth Duncan when he tried to get her out of punishment despite her murdering his wife and unborn child.
Second story : He sounds like a controlling narcissists who need to have every conversations be about him.
Plus, he is probably super insecure and thinks they will talk about him when he isn't there. (He wouldn't want OP's friends pointing out his red flags! lol)
My guess is
1. Controlling
2. He's probably insecure about they think
3. He dosen't want them hanging around other guys
4. He isn't mature enough to understand things
Smart of them to start talking about things guys in general are uncomfortable about, like periods.
The first story didn't surprise me nor choke me bc I went through similar things.
Sometimes I don't like you, but others, you are very nice.
The way you spoke of your wife and child is what made me tear up.
I can hear the heartbreak and how much it hurts in your voice about the father abandoning his son. I 100% agree with you and I don't have kids had a few step kids and I almost started crying at work.
For the last one: sorry that happened to op, I honestly find it funny that it's completely fine for the mother of the boyfriend/husband to hurt the s/o but when it's vice versa, it's automatically disrespectful to the entire family. It annoys me to no end.💢💢💢
I was thinking _would the fiance be okay with his mother shoving his GF into a dog carrier for trips to prenatal care?_. She seems like the type to do that.
Story 1: OP is most definitely NTA. It pisses me off so badly when a person blames a child for the death of the mother. I'm glad OP's aunt took him in and raised him. I'd hate to imagine what his life would have been like if he had lived with his father. This story kind of hit's close to home for me.
My Grandma's birth mother either died in childbirth, or not long after. Her birth parents' neighbors took her in because her birth father was in so much grief he couldn't take care of her, and back then (1919), men still were looked at as not being able to raise a child on their own. The neighbors eventually adopted her when she was two. They had given him an ultimatum of take her and raise her, or let them adopt her. From my understanding, he never hesitated giving her to them because he blamed her for her birth monther's death, and he also drank very heavily after his wife died, so was not in any shape to raise a child. My grandma didn't know the drunk neighbor guy was her birth father until she was 13. The one and only time he ever talked to her, he came to her school, took her out of class, and just blurted out to her "I'm your father." I cannot imagine how devestating and hurtful that had to have been.
My grandma never talked much about being adopted, and it wasn't until a couple years before she died that she shared her adoption papers with me, and he birth family surname. But as a child, I found out about my Grandma being adopted through my mom. My mom was a teenager when she found out her mom was adopted because my grandma's birth family contacted her after her birth father died. Not because they wanted to get to know her, but because they thought she should pay for half the cost of her birth father's funeral because "he's your father and you should be responsible for half of the funeral." Thankfully my grandpa told them what he thought of the request and what they could do with it.
That second story with the boyfriend wanting to ‘hang’ with op and her friends. Before she even said what she was going to do to make him either leave or finally not want to hang with them anymore, I was like “talk about periods”. Which we do anyway. Glad she went that routine lol.
That "father" claiming that OP ended his mother. NO: the father is the one who got her pregnant, so HE is the one responsible NOT OP!
The OP who once worked in the adult entertainment industry, MIL WILL secretly test that baby's DNA. OP and the boyfriend need to put these people in time out. Also; that kid is going to hear MANY vulgar things about how "trashy" OP is. I would limit their contact with the baby.
Can we just appreciate the fiancée in the story at 9:00 he not only kept telling his parents (her in laws) to stop harassing her but even got outraged on her behalf. With so many fiancée's taking their parents side, it's refreshing to hear someone standing by their wife when their parents are clearly in the wrong.
The only thing is though... He kept taking her back? That I don't get. He knows what they are going to do to her... Why ever put her in that situation? I'd tell them all to eat a full box of rocks, family or not. You pick the ones you love. Not blood.
@@Lady_Crispr Marriages are about at least TRYing to get along with your fiancée's family. And who said he TOOK her to see them, It's possible they were both trying to be polite. But it's obvious he's angry about their behavior.
The third story is a great example of how to shut down a backhanded compliment or mean joke. Just ask the person to explain why it's funny. If they get flustered, it's definitely not a lighthearted jab.
@in desperate need of a scotch It doesn't give anyone the right to be rude to them regardless of her past.
@in desperate need of a scotch incorrect, some people don't feel the need to look down on sex workers. Just because people may not agree with or view that type of work in a positive manner, it doesn't mean it is correct to just be rude for no reason.
@in desperate need of a scotch I don't agree with being rude just because of someone's past actions. Being shameful of past decisions is one thing and a learning process but it doesn't need to constantly be brought up and thrown in her face. What does that exactly do for someone who decides not to do it any more, how does that make that past decision any better?
Also what about the people who seek out to higher for those services? Is that not an issue either?
It's so sad that a heavily pregnant women has to point out she doesn't use her pregnancy to "get what she wants!" That broke my heart as standing for long periods when heavily pregnant is dangerous which is why they are entitled to priority seating. She shouldn't feel guilty asking someone for a seat....it should be law!!!!
In the final story where op's ex boyfriend said that she wasted their money for not going on the flight, the mom didn't even pay for the ticket. She got it for FREE. Now, the hotel room or reservations for any activities or whatever had to be paid in advanced, ok, fine. But the plane ticket? No! That's just wrong. A flimsy excuse to pin on her for backing out because op didn't want to be miserable.
You never blame a child for being born. A child is a blessing, never a detriment. You love a child.
The first story:
Man that’s disgusting what the ‘father’ did, op is 10000% not the butthole how dare everyone act like what hurt him so much is not a big deal..
I can’t imagine the hurt he went through, I think I understand a little bit tho, my dad killed himself just before I was born, as a result my mum started to favour me because she viewed me as “his last gift” it tore my relationship with my siblings apart, I hated that she treated me better than them I fought for them countless times but it still ended up with me being bullied my entire childhood, my older sister even admitted she didn’t see or treat me as a human being, and my younger sibling told me that before I was born, dad was alive and it was my fault he’s dead. We’re ok now and although some part of me will never forget I can forgive, they were grieving and lost some of the attention of their mum, that’s why I can’t imagine how painful it is for op, best wishes to him…
Also rslash choking up was so sad 😭
Story 5: NTA; OP dodged a bullet honest, and if the BF was more concerned about his mom's feelings meant he never really cared about OP the same as she likely cared for him.
2nd story, I had two friends who ended up starting dating - it was never implicitly stated or 100% confirmed, but from then she became meek, wouldn’t show up to events alone, eventually stopped showing up altogether; the one I found strangest is he always appeared at their girls’ nights in, until she just stopped.
I don’t really see them anymore, I hope she’s ok
That first story…OP obviously gets 0/5, but that “dad” (if you can even call him that) gets 6/5 from me. Like…damn.
10000000000000/5 he is a terrible dad
The grandparents also get 6 out of 5 for being enablers " I understand your anger for him screwing your life and mind but I was hoping you would've let it go for his happiness that he deserved "
First story NTA. His wife thinks he was a father to his child. He built their relationship on lies. If he told the truth, thered be nothing to expose.
"Explain the joke," is my favorite way of dealing with abusive/belittling jokes.
Well by that dumb logic, we could say that the dad murdered his first wife by putting a child in her 💀
Pretty much