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r/AmITheA--hole For Exposing My Sister as a RACIST at Her Wedding?
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- čas přidán 25. 07. 2024
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0:00 Intro
0:06 I'm the reason my friends daughter went to the hospital
3:12 I stopped paying for my daughters wedding
5:03 Exposing my sisters obvious racism
7:08 My husband made my daughters wait outside of the restaurant
10:17 Breastfeeding in public
12:52 Calling a guy emotional to get him to calm down
"Sneaky Snitch" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) License: CC By Attribution 3.0
A list of allergies and emergency contacts is the first thing you give a babysitter. Mom dropped the ball big time and is sending her attack dog friends to shift the blame and cover up her screw up.
The friends dont even have anything to do with that !!! They should not be getting involved ! Major red flags there, that she is lying to their friends about what happened
@@Lotuswalker it makes me wonder what Alice wanted to get out of this. Because, seriously, what the fuck? Does she simply want people at her beck and call, like OP babysitting on 0 notice, and when they seemingly disobey her, sic her friends on this poor friend? What the fuck?
@@kentario1610 the reason is simple, in her mind the more someone is a piece of shit for trying to hurt her daughter the less she is responsible for putting her daughter in danger.
Right like ive been to daycare they dont take kids unless the parents give them the list, then they have it laminated and hanging on the fridge in the kitchen, the cooks are forced to see it every time they open the fridge
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My one babysitters kids had allergies so she asked but if a person doesnt have kids with allergies or kids at all or even babysits kids wouldnt think to ask theyd assume the mom would tell
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Mom totally dropped the ball
Sounds like a win overall. The kid got ice cream, turned out fine in the end, and successfully identified some toxic fuckheads to cut contact with.
As someone who's had life threatening allergies since birth. That first story left me furious. The mom is 10000% to blame here. You NEED to be upfront about these sort of things. It is YOUR child so it is YOUR responsibility to tell people who care for YOUR child of key health things like allergies that might easily appear when someone's watching them!
agreed. you can’t just expect someone to know everything about your kid including allergies and then blame them when an accident happens
Trust me I have a milk allergy and yes it can kill you and hurts like a mf so the fact the mother didn't tell her about the allergy means the pain the kid suffered is on her shoulders not op's
Agreed
Mom doesn't even give an "oh by the way, Milly is allergic to dairy". So how was OP supposed to know? When Milly showed allergy symptoms OP did the right thing and got her medical attention. OP is NTA but Mom is totally TAH for making it OP's fault that Mom didn't tell something important to OP.
@@Ambidexter143 And come to think of it, all for free babysitting services at a moments notice. Anywhere else, this would have cost the mother a lot of money, especially on such short notice.
R*cist bride story had an UPDATE, turns out the sister isn’t even the first person in the family to edit her out of photos. The boyfriend and bride’s uncle edited her out and the whole family including the boyfriend knew.
Hopefully she left him 😢.
@@Aurielle80s90s Just the uncle did it, but the BF hid it (as he didn't want to hurt her feelings). OP gave an ultimatum, BF made an update with an apology, and choosing her. It was actually really sweet
@@karlaotte6787 nah she shoulda left his racist ass
@@iam878 everyone makes mistakes (even racist ones). Him choosing her was his oportunity at redemption ah he took it.
Yikes 😬
Any time racism is brought up, Dabney decides that being demonetized is worth it to say fuck racists. 1000/10.
Ah yes, what a bold statement to make. Boy he is sure going out on a limb making a controversial statement like that. I can't wait to hear what he has to say about the cuteness of puppies or his scientific insights as to whether water is wet.
Non controversial and obvious statements serve no purpose other than allow a bit of moral preening from idiot who risks nothing and wants credit for moral behavior. You need to be a bit more cynical. This is the same type of crap as those corporations that throw rainbows all over everything during pride month. If you risk nothing by saying it, you get no credit for taking a stand. You are simply meeting that societies expectations. It is meaningless moral posturing and people who do it are not to be trusted.
@@Snipergoat1 You'd be surprised at how controversial things that should be obvious are, nowadays. Apparently racism is just a 'difference of opinion' to a lot of people.
@@DopeioThePhoneBoi i actually think that overtime we got less racist instead of more racist
@@Snipergoat1 I think the demonetization has less to do with the racists and more to do with swearing.
Trust me if my best mate marries someone of colour and his dad makes a scene your damn right im up their drunk asf cursing at him for being a dead beat father a racist deserves to be called out. Trust me ill defend anyone to the death if they're being racist to someone I love or someone my best friends or family love
"If you don't wanna be embarrassed for being a racist, try not being racist."
Words of wisdom right there.
Yes
Everybody is racist
Sadly this isn't perfect advice, i have been called out for cultural appropriation for speaking spanish, despite me being latin and living in south america, and the sad part is that some ppl will just listen to the accusation and form their opinion without context so half of the discord server thinks im racist...
@@illidanST7F cultural appropriation isnt racism.
Don't wanna be called racist? Don't be racist than!
Alice deserved a higher score. To me, forgetting to mention this crucial information counts as child neglect.
More like chikd endangerment but six in one.
She deserves a 5/ 5
She forced her friend to baby sit her child
She refused to answer any of her op’s calls
She didn’t tell her op her child allergy
She manipulated her friends to make Op seem like the ahole
Plus the fringe benefits afterwards of making OP feel like a horrible person and actively turning all her friends against her. And with the way she acts, who wants to bet her 'emergency' was mimosas and mall trip and a last minute sitter cancelation?
She needs to be reported to the CPS instead of siccing her attack dog friends onto OP because Alice’a ignorance and neglect!
i feel that
Dabney: Makes sure to always say "butthole" instead of "asshole" to avoid getting demonitized.
Also Dabney: "Fuck racists, OP. Fuck 'em."
Go off, King!
I always know it's something he believes in STRONGLY when he doesn't even bother to use another word or censor himself. That said "Fuck racists"
Though I think he's safe since it's more than a minute in and CZcams slightly adjusted their rules for demonitization - it's like a limited number and after a minute in. I also wonder if they operate on the rules a few others do, where Fuck in the context of sex is inappropriate/adult/blahblahblah, but fuck like "fuck off" is acceptable as general swearing? Idk.
Butthole just is the expected thing to say now so if he switched back to "Asshole" it'd probably be too jarring.
???
@@Crow_Smith I can’t say the F word without CZcams automatically deleting my messages even here
@@kranberry3318 The algorithm only cares about like... I think the first minute of a video?
"Fuck racists." Exactly right Dabne, they deserve no second consideration until they change their awful behaviour.
Fuck em! Racists suck
The problem is, the US has always been deeply racist, depending on the parameters even more so than 1930s Germany. But sadly the government is ignoring it and even tries to whitewash history.
All I can say is
Take a note, DeSantis and all you other racist Repubs, while Germany tgo this day has racists, us learning aboout our past in school didn't make us hate our country, the majority of us has no quarter for racism.
If a woman gets super angry and starts screaming, she's emotional.
If a man gets super angry and starts screaming, guess what? He's emotional too!
AND he's likely to be in denial about it. That's how we often raise boys: there are emotions, which are weak and it's an insult to be called emotional; and there's anger, which is strong and dominant and nothing to be ashamed of.
@@RatPfink66 That's exactly why men are so prone to anger issues, especially as an expression of depression. As a man who used to have SEVERE anger issues (I've still got a short fuse but nothing like it used to be), yeah it's literally more socially acceptable as a man to be literally abusive than to be vulnerable or cry. It's no wonder the male suicide rate is so much higher than the female rate, society doesn't treat men as real humans with real feelings. Men who need help mentally are utterly shunned and branded as evil or losers
Then how is it ok to demean men but doing the same to a woman is absolutely shitty. I mean dont get me wrong it 10000% is but then why drop that sentiment immediately because the person is male
@@vaughnhaney7020 It's a terrible reinforcing cycle of toxic masculinity/transmisogyny. The degradation of femininity is so overpowering that anything that is feminine is automatically lesser, and therefore men who cross into the woman side are perversions of nature.
Wedding breastfeeding story: I just had my little girl, and we'll be attending my brothers wedding when she's just over a month and a half. Without me asking him and his fiancé called me up and personally let me know that they had arranged a private room for me should I need it during the ceremony/reception.
That is the understanding and graceful response from a soon-to-be-married couple.
Ikr, what else is she supposed to do? Let the baby starve?
That is sweet!
The brother just think breastfeeding is naughty in general. Considering he gets upset when she breastfeed in her own home. Bet he thinks it is somehow sexual.
That was a great idea. I don't think that breast-feeding in public is wrong, but in certain events...weddings, receptions, concerts, plays, etc...it could be avoided by planning properly in advance.
@@susancampbell4062 Not really. Switching between bottles and boob can cause many issues. And expressing milk just means more will be produced. Causing a build-up. If the baby accepts the bottle at all.
I’d call CPS on the first mom, she’s careless and didn’t even answer her phone while her daughter could have been going through anything. And she clearly won’t accept responsibility or learn from her mistakes.
Yes! Call CPS. The mom is stupid and needs to get her act together. Stop projecting the blame else where and accept responsibility before her child is hurt again or worse.
"if you don't want to be embarrassed for being a racist, then try not being a racist" is now and will likely be forever my favorite quote
First story- are we sure Alice didn't set OP up on purpose with the unexpected babysitting job, the lack of info about the allergy, and the following smear campaign after Milly was hospitalized? Cause the fact she didn't pick up her phone for hours is kind of making me feel something was up.
If that’s the case, then Alice would be an even worse mother than we thought. Jeopardizing your daughter’s health to make someone look bad? That’s evil.
Nah, I think Alice fucked up by not telling OP about the dairy allergy and knows it. She's using the smear campaign to take everyone's attention off the fact she failed to tell the person she handed her daughter over to that daughter had a dairy allergy and not to give her any dairy. She figures if she makes a big enough fuss about it no one will realize that she's the one who fucked up, not OP. She's trying to cover her ass and deflect everyone's attention off her behavior onto OP.
Yeah, I don’t know if this is possible because I don’t know if her friend is married or not, but did she dump her daughter on OP in order to cheat or something?
I think the mom knew she fucked up by not answering the phone and for not telling OP about the allergy, so she twisted the story so that she wasn't a bad parent.
@@MsBELLE7 she probably said op didn’t call and knew about the allergies.
Last OP - He IS emotional. And I'm loving treating angry men like angry women. Annoying being thought of as emotional and irrational when you're frustrated, isn't it?
I was thinking the same thing lmao. I get so tired of being called irrational or emotional when I get upset but macho guys getting upset is cool and not a big deal? It's so fun to turn their words back onto them!
Same lol, being called hormonal and emotional. I can just IMAGINE the look on his face when he’s being called out and can’t do anything abt it cause he really is acting like a child
There's nothing wrong with being emotional, but that's no excuse to harm others with said emotions. And calling angry men emotional might make them realise that's exactly what they are doing. They're not manly and assertive, they're emotionally lazy and selfish. That goes for anyone who mistreats people with anger.
I'm also loving it - GENIUS! Why does it seem that women getting upset - however justified, like about being mistreated are "hormonal" or "emotional", but men are "assertive" and "dominant"?
He deserved that and i love that coworkers are picking up on it - probably not even consciously. Great!
@@Scarlett.Granger Thankfully, it is not a frequent occurrence with most men... but I feel that with how oversensitve gen Z is that it will start being more and more frequent! lol 🙄
as someone with a life threatening allergy and extensive babysitting experience, this is 100% on the mom. she should’ve explicitly said “hey my kid has this allergy”. kids don’t even always think about it. the mom had a duty to explain the situation and she failed to do so. never ever watch over a child without discussing health issues and emergency plans with the parent or guardian.
The one with the 19 year old daughters.. how could you let someone treat your kids like that and stay with them!? Insane!
Most likely because OP was trying to get him to change and become a better person, but clearly, he'd never going to change. This is sometimes how relationships work, couples help each other improve and become better. OP was trying to do the same thing with her husband, but she can't because he refuses to change.
So that step dad is pissed at how the girls are dressed, even saying it's "reckless" which implies the false narrative that girls dressed a certain way are more likely to be SA'ed... And then tells them to wait by the car in the parking lot, by themselves... I think there is a lot more off about this guy then just being a "conservative Christian"
Ikr, it reads like he's viewing them sexually and is super pissed at them for 'inciting such sinful lust in him'
The world is full of people who had conservative upbringings and aren't abusively controlling.
It's not a false narrative that the way you dress increases the likelihood you'll be SA'd. It just isn't your fault if it happens.
@@NEPAAlchey dude, I was sexually assaulted in raggedy old long johns and a stained t-shirt. I'm pretty sure if someone wants to assault another person, they're gonna do it regardless of how they're dressed.
@@NEPAAlchey 100% a false narrative, doesn't matter what you're wearing, ur age or gender. Predators will assault others no matter what.
There's never a bad time to expose a racist for being a racist.
And that one was an especially good one, she's not gonna forget her lesson now :D
Don't want me in the pictures with you? No problem, not gonna happen ever again!
@@iminition9992 especially since everything posted on the internet, stays on the internet
Yes there is. A wedding is one of them.
R*cist bride story had an UPDATE, turns out the sister isn’t even the first person in the family to edit her out of photos. The boyfriend and bride’s uncle edited her out and the whole family including the boyfriend knew.
The first story that mom was deflecting big time. She dumps her kid on OP with no notice, takes off for hours and doesn't answer the phone, probably assuming it was OP asking when she is coming back. But uh oh it was an actual emergency and this is a bad look for Mom. So she makes the issue about OP being negligent instead of herself. She pulled the old switcheroo!
it's crazy that anger has been branded as not-an-emotion
Exactly! Exploding in anger IS being emotional!
On the flip side, "emotional" is not a moral failing
Men being angry is not a problem, but women being angry is "emotional" And suppressed as something belittled, it's weird
Being a conservative son turned micro managing parent is not "wanting what's best for them"
I'm conservative and I also think dressing like that is trashy but if my future son/daughter would want to dress like that I'd let them because they're humans and have every right to dress how they want. The husband in the fourth story is a joke.
I’m conservative, as well as my family and my mom is my hype woman.
@@ryantheredzombie6124 I agree.
@@ryantheredzombie6124 While I'm glad you wouldn't force your own opinions onto your children, I personally disagree with classifying a type of clothing as trashy. I mean, unless its literally trashy (Unwearable, dirty, etc).
I mean you definitely don't have to like it. But you shouldnt feel the need to go out of your way to insult it. There are plenty of things I don't particularly like or prefer, but I won't insult it either. Considering its pretty rude to insult stuff that other people find enjoyable.
He is not a parent though. OP made it quite clear that her daughters never had any parental relationship with her husband.
The breastfeeder's brother baffles me; if he thought there was even a chance she might have breastfed at the wedding, why wouldn't he just suggest a private area/nice bathroom/quiet room where she could go privately do it for a few minutes and just come back?
The OP for that story is completely immature. Plus he's marrying a girl 11 years younger than him so...
@@abicat4229 what the? 11 years? That's almost my little sister's age. (She's 8 years younger than me)
@@abicat4229 no I get it breast feeding weirds me out but I completely get it and I have no problem with it dispite it but it should not be done in locations with lots of people because not everyone is comfortable with it especially not in places where people eat and weddings
@@abicat4229 I was going to say the same. This woman has only been able to drink legally (if they are in the US that is) for 2 years, and he's in his mid-30s
@@primordialsoupgod2850 go cry about it then. Breasts are made of fat. If baby is hungry, then baby is hungry and you gotta feed them asap
Breastfeeding story:
If OP didn’t want to see his sister breastfeed the easiest solution would have been to make sure any breastfeeding parents had a separate, comfortable room for the baby
Mom gets some quiet, baby gets quiet, OP doesn’t have see boobs since he’s scared of them or whatever. Win win win 🤷🏼
I am ok for the separated room. I think public breastfeeding is not appropriate.
@@hellarekaibi well that’s a you problem. A baby eating is not dirty or disgusting.
Learn to look away 🤷🏼
I agree with both of you because I see it as improper etiquette, but I’m not gonna say to stop after all it’s none of my business
@@hellarekaibi Why? They're just feeding their kids
@@memedemon6273 It's uncomfortable for some people. Just like when someone changes a kid on a table instead of taking them to a bathroom. It's just... odd.
Story where OP’s husband try’s to control her daughters’ wardrobe : I would have loved to watch OP deck her husband into next week… she should defend her daughters by DIVORCING THIS CREEP!
I had to go back to check the daughters' age. I was like, he did say 19, right and not 9? They're adults, for gosh sake!
If I was ever married to someone who left my 19yo daughters alone in a parking lot because he was “embarrassed” to be seen with them, that would mean he’s embarrassed to be a part of my family and he doesn’t deserve to be in it. You are not going to endanger my kids just because you don’t like how they dress. That guy should get the full 5/5 score because he’s sexist, controlling, and endangering two young adult girls just to save his ego.
I’m just glad that the girls had each other, imagine if it was just one by themself. That’s prime and ample opportunity for some sicko to try and take advantage or actually take her!
As a twin myself, my sister and I were always taught to be each other’s back up; going to the changing room, going to the bathroom, going anywhere. We were to be each other’s eyes because creeps are everywhere. I still apply this mentality with some of my girl friends, I’m always watchful whenever we’re by ourselves. I’m glad these girls have each other to watch each other’s back. Girls tend to stay in groups cause it’s safe, we’re taught that at a young age.
OP needs to realize that her kids’ lives were in potential danger. Regardless that they’re 19, you don’t just leave your kids alone to stand in the parking lot just cause you have a disagreement. Get rid of the guy, stand up for your kids
Thank you! If he thought they were dressing in an inappropriate way, surely the WORST thing you could do would be to leave them outside, stranded, in a car park at evening time (so possibly in the dark)...? And crying so they look even more vulnerable? Suuuuuper messed up.
@@LeonieJMerry Sadly, lotta guys don’t realize or remember WHY the running gag of girls going places in groups is because of safety. I especially realized this when I was taking a parenting class at my college and all of the guys were confused as to how me and the other female student knew so much about fighting off an attacker and why we were taught that stuff as kids. They were mortified because they fully realized how mothers have to prepare their daughters for the harsh realities of the world. It’s like an unspoken rule of parenting (if you’re a good parent that is, or one that isn’t naive to danger)
This is why more and more girls are carrying around pocket knives and glass breakers and pepper spray 🤷🏽♀️
@@cecesmith4723 "smart" guys have something like this too. Being 6'3 and pretty big ever since i was 14 i got used to using body language and doing things to make myself appear less threatening. Walking with a friend or by myself somewhere kinda dark downtown? Im usually humming somewhat loudly and just playing on my phone while i walk so that im giving off noise and illuminating myself so i dont appear like im sneaking up on someone.
@@zacharyjackson1829 Thank you for being considerate! But please also be aware of your own safety. If you're on your phone you will appear distracted, so you're a potential target for being mugged. Unlikely but you never know. Be safe
@@LeonieJMerry He'll be fine, if he's attacked by someone who wants to rob and/or kill him, his male privilege will protect him.
3rd story had an update:
The family was racist. OP's bf knew about this since this happened before, and wanted to hide the truth because he didn't wanted to hurt her feelings. OP did gave him an ultimatum. OP's bf did posted his side of his story explaining his reasons. He said that wants to stay with OP.
OMG really?! Yet he couldn't tell off his family to stop it.
Considering OP was photoshopped out of wedding pictures before and he bf still thought she was making too big a deal of things, I doubt it's going to last despite his claims. He's a spineless man baby. If he wouldn't stand up for his future wife after even the first 2 times, there's no way he'll be strong enough to do it in the future.
@@Takisan111 no it didn’t happen before wtf
No it didn’t have an update as we can clearly see. It’s the hummus all over again
@@mattybrunolucaszeneresalas9072 There was an update to this story. The boyfriends uncle photoshopped OP out of his wedding pictures the same way the sister tried to. The only difference is that sis got caught.
The first story; OP needs to learn how to stand up for herself. The moment one of "our friends" started giving me shit I would have responded with a raised voice "Oh hell no!" If the person didn't actually listen to me and continued to give me shit I would drop them quicker than a hot pan.
"If you don't like being called a racist, then don't be a racist." Well put. Enough said.
That woman completely overreacted the babysitter didn't know the kid had an allergy to dairy and they did the right thing so no reason to be angry with her the baby is fine no harm no foul. The parent should have made it crystal clear that the child had an allergy and that parent did not so what was the sitter supposed to do
Stories like this are why if I ever babysit someone's kids I'll make sure that they put all their instructions in writing and/or voice recording. That way if something happens because of the parents neglect to tell me something and they try to sue me over it. I'm going to counter sue them for their negalance.
The fact that she didn't answer her phone for hours is extremely disturbing to me. How do you not check your phone for hours when you have a young child?
First story: OP can't be held responsible for information she didn't have and wasn't given. She had NO way of knowing that, and the kid's mom definitely should have told her.
I have this theory that the mom didn't tell on purpose to bill the shit out of the babysitter in hospital fees
@@LordeCafe1409 I agree, surprised more people didn’t say this! She totally just wants to stick the medical bills on OP
As some one with milk allergies. My mom 100% of the time told me whoever was watching me about them and brought my “special” milk. Though my allergy wasn’t life threatening (as far as I know) it’s still important.
Op isn't even gaslighting him, he IS emotional and throwing fits. The comments' suggestions are top tier and I lowkey want to hear how things went with the new ideas.
I agree
She did what """men"""" do when woman are "" Emotional ""
1st story: OP is in the clear. 1) She had the kid dropped on her doorstep (literally). 2) Parent DID NOT tell her about her allergy. 3) OP did exactly what she needed to do in the situation. NTA
3rd story: r/slash pretty much covered my response in his rebuttal. So I say OP is NTA. I have spoken.
In the first story, how dumb do you have to be to drop your child with an allergy without warning at a friend's place, not tell said friend, and get mad at said friend when the child gets an allergic reaction . Stupidity shouldn't have kids
The 3rd story is the wedding photography story. Is that the one you meant?
1 story the mother probably said she did say the allergies, and that op never called.
"I have spoken"
This is the way
@@seanwhitman8353 This is the way.
As a man who helped raise my ex wife's teenage daughters....all you can do is love them. No instruction is needed. Unless they ask of course. Just love them, support them and encourage them. That's it. And bravo for the treatment of the idiotic angry co worker.
To have authority as a stepparent, you have to earn respect. That might come easily when the child is a toddler, but the best you can do with a teenager is to show them you are a wise older person that cares about their well-being and therefore your advice should be considered.
"All you can do is love them", such a heartfelt comment. No instruction is needed. Yeah and you don't have a 'how to' manual to fall back on. Well done you.
Don't go with people that already has children. Nothing but trouble.
@@thomasmacdiarmid8251 Respect is always something that has to be earned, that applies to biological parents as well
That last story cracks me up! I don't know about anyone else, but as a woman if I get mad about something, no matter how legitimate my frustration is, it always gets brushed off as "needing to calm down" by the men around me. It pisses me off because the men are allowed to shout and throw hissy fits, but the moment I'm upset suddenly it's too much? No thanks. Referring to angry men the way you would a toddler who's throwing a tantrum is A+ thinking in my book!
Regarding the last story: I can be the first to admit that when it comes to a work related environment, that I can have a temper. Work related stress can be extremely detrimental on the mind, but if someone began calling me “emotional” in the workplace because I was having similar outbursts to Jay, I wouldn’t get more angry; I would become embarrassed. And to be entirely honest, that’s how I personally rationalize keeping my cool in the workplace. Do you really wanna embarrass yourself in front of your coworkers, or potential clients, or God for bid your boss? It really does put into perspective how ridiculous getting angry at work is when your anger comes out as, to put it bluntly, a temper tantrum.
Breastfeeding story:
- I only have a problem with it at the wedding, because it’s bad etiquette!
- *goes on to complain how she does it in any other public space or while visiting*
I guess it’s not about etiquette huh, maybe you have issues with women’s basic bodily function
LOL! I thought the - were your comments. They make sense now.
Yeah, my sister has breastfed in public before. No one has had a problem with any of it.
I've breastfeed in public, are women suppose to hide away lol. I use to try and cover with a blanket but my baby would pull it down everytime 😅
@@zarahsolomon5790yeah, if you feel uncomfortable doing it as a mother then you can cover up, but come on, mothers NEED to feed the baby, it's BASIC💅
Ahhh, the story with the racist wedding pictures, I recall this.. The update, she left her boyfriend because this wasn't the first, second or even third time his sister was that way and he just never told her and he never took up for her...
The sister breastfeeding at her brothers wedding for CREAMED in the comments, BY MEN TOO! 🤣🤣
Wait I thought they decided to stay together?
Wronf
@@wannabehistorian371 I saw the story and update on Mark Narrations a week ago. They split up..
@@antoniocasias5545 what is wronf?
@@Swnsasy I'm guessing he wanted to say "wrong." No idea what he's talking about though.
The breastfeeding sister? She's actually smart to breast feed at the wedding! Lots of people in the same space means her baby is potentially being exposed to pathogens from all those guests and workers. The composition of breast milk changes over the course of the day in response to the mother's environment so that her body can produce the necessary antibodies to protect her child while its immune system develops. Pumping milk several hours or even the day before may not do as good a job. If the dude doesn't like seeing boobs being used for what boobs are meant for, he has bigger issues to deal with.
That's awesome! I never thought of that or even considered that fact existed. Gives me reason to avoid feeding even pumped milk when I can.
Huh, I didn't expect to learn that here. I'm gonna double check a more reputable source than just a CZcams comment lol, but that's still cool!
Could she at least go to the toilet or hall if she wanna breastfeed.
My sister pumped milk when she had my nephew but it maked me umcomfortable but it was at home so all i could do was not look at it
I get your point but a wedding is also a risk to get a baby sick. It would not be the first who would die because of a cold
But to be honest... I would not be comfortable eating my dinner near a lady that breastfeed her baby.
I would prefer if there was a space for feeding mothers where they could sit back and relax with their babies.
(I'm really sensitive to smells and babies usually poop during eating or right after, or barf so I would like to not be subject to that during eating)
The thing about the breastfeeding sister--OP didn't say whether she was covered up or exposing herself. Particularly if she was covered what is his deal!?
4th story: OP, I'm not even halfway through and I can tell your new husband is abusing your kids. Why are you married to this guy? Why would you allow anyone to talk to people you love that way?
her ADULT kids, by the way. Unless they are hobbits, 19 YO qualifies as an adult, so WTF is Kevin thinking when he whines about wanting them to act and dress as he dictates?
It concerned me that he was able to reduce 19 year olds to tears that easily. Yes ok, everyone has a different level of tolerance, so some people may cry more easily than others. But the fact they were both in floods of tears.... he's been this mean to them before, possibly even worse, and possibly without their mum there. Major red flags for me. This isn't a three year old not understanding and having a tantrum, this is two young adults bawling their eyes out in a public car park. What the crap is that guy doing to them behind the scenes?
@@MrJerichoPumpkin Power hungry narcissists want to control everyone regardless of age
Story 4: The daughters should go MC and dress up like women in the 1800s, then take a selfie together and post it to social media with hashtag MC and caption "Stepdad want us to dress conservatively like a christian would, so we did." That would embaress him for a long time.
This isn't a Christian thing.
MC?
@@wannabehistorian371 malicious compliance
@@mariposa9506
It most certainly is. Want some sources?
Paul and Morgan
The Transformed Wife
Pastor Greg Locke
Pastor Tommy McMurtry
Pastor Steven Anderson
Girl Defined
Mrs. Midwest
Abby Shapiro (I know, she's Jewish, whatever, same thing. All Abrahamic religions are just as fucked up)
Ben Shapiro (see above)
Back to the Christians.
Candace Owens
Biblical Gender Roles
Kaitlin Bennet (the college poop girl who likes guns and hating BLM)
Meredith Foster
Jackie Hill Perry (I mostly feel sad for her, but se is influencing people, so she has already taken lives)
The Peaceful Wife
Need I say more? It absolutely is Christian
You really think that would embarrass him? Let me clue you in to something about people over 40. We rarely bother to get embarrassed about anything. It's a waste of time. What is more likely is that he and his wife will dress up like they were in the painting "American Gothic" and send them a message that says "That's the spirit girls!"
1st story: who leaves a child with someone without telling that person about a very common allergy. Like dairy is in alot of things. Especially in things we consider "kids food". That mom put her child in danger 100%.
With the first story, I can relate 'cause I have a nut allergy and my allergy was discovered after I was fed peanut butter by my babysitter when I was a child. My mom never blamed the sitter since she also didn't know. When my aunt wanted to shop with me, she'd bring allergy meds just in case because everyone in my family knows after the inccident, but I used to be allergic to calamansi and was discoved after I was given a drink of calamansi juice. Again, my mom never blamed my aunt. So when I heard the story, the mother shouldn't have blamed the friend because the whole situation was accidental and the mother should've warned about her daughter's allergies in the first place. Thankfully she was brought to the hospital.
Also, if you're wondering why the child didn't say anything about her allergies, it's probably because she doesn't know much about her allergies or she was too shy to say anything. I actually didn't understand what allergies are until I was 8. I kept eating nuts not knowing why I kept getting rashes.
Alice should get at least 4. I mean, her daughter could of DIED.
could have?
5 the daughter would have. So attempted child murder. That is a 5/5
@@ked49 ok its not attempted child murder, more like extreme stupidity and neglect. Thats like 4/5, she’s a bad mom but I doubt it was deliberate
wtf is could of?????????
@@jiogcyihsugyiocjfdoivhphvw6821 That's when people don't know how to write "could have".
I find it amazing that people think someone should be able to read minds. You can't know a person's allergies unless they actually tell you.
Or how you're supposed to know about a no public breastfeeding rule without saying something.
I worked in a daycare for a while and the first thing we asked was if they had any allergies, how could mom not tell op that she had a dairy allergy! Op had no idea but did right by getting her to the hospital as soon as she could, definitely NTA
When I Was 19, I would have ignored him, went into the restaurant and sat apart from him. Do they not realize they're adults? The don't have to stay outside of a restaurant if they don't want to.
That last story is brilliant in a few ways. Usually when a woman gets angry in the same way, she’s seen as irrational and emotional rather than strong and assertive. OP completely flipped the script by making his “alpha male” behavior seem more effeminate. She emasculated him in the best way possible just by changing the wording she used for his tantrums. I’m dead.
No one sees screaming as strong and assertive other than the screamers themselves. If you start screaming all the time people just get used to it.
I had a boss who would yell at people all the time, whenever he did it to me I just zoned out and smiled until he was down to a normal level again. I have no idea what he was yelling at me about most of the time.
I loved that story. Laugh so hard 😂. I’m definitely using this tactic when I come across a man with anger issues.
“Emasculate” “gaslight an entire office into bullying someone with an issue they’re doing their best to manage” it’s all the same thing really.
/s
@@D-Dollie congratulations! You’re well on your way to become a narcissistic manipulator! By using this tactic you too can undo years of progress and absolutely decimate people’s mental health for the atrocious sin of “being annoying to no one else but you personally” just like OP!
@@RealCoolstriker64 If he was trying his best to manage it, he wouldn't people complaining about him to HR because the screaming would be just under control.
Like if he's truly screaming at work THAT MUCH, I'm shocked he isn't getting constant write-ups. I know that none of my jobs, even the one I have where my own mother is my boss, would have ever tolerated that.
Story 1 + 5: Never expect other people to magically know everything you want them to know. You *MUST* notify them ahead of time, or else any trouble that happens is on you and you alone.
"i find it tacky in a formal event" ok then why were you complaining about it in non formal events? why did you bring her up breastfeeding in HER house, her parent's house and in the park if you're only bothered by it in a formal event? i call bs. He's probably one of the dudes that see a random lady FEED THEIR CHILD and thinks hmm she should cover up thats gross or whatever
He’s a dude that only sees breasts as sexual. He’s too immature to understand she’s feeding her child.
Nigga he didn't complain outside of the ceremony, only during the event. Not like he said it every single time smh
@@cactusgamingyt9960but then why call about the other times?? That's some bs i understand if people feel uncomfortable during some events (wedding, formal...) Idk
Story 1: Don’t argue. Trying to defend yourself always looks worse. That’s when you get a lawyer. The mother was negligent in informing you her child’s allergies. The simplest is a cease and desist. Clearly, the damage is done. You don’t have any friends. However, you can start sending a strong message that you won’t be messed with. However, lawyers are expensive, may not even take your case. If anything some lawyers can give you a free consultation and see where to go from there.
Personally, there’s no salvaging. Make a group text, give all the details of that night. Then point out how the mother failed to mention any allergies, REFUSED to pick up phone calls made during said emergencies. Then state that thanks to this event, you will never watch any of their kids and it’s time to sever all friendships since it’s clear they are willing to put their kids in danger and you’re not down to associate with them again. If you’re curious, make it seem like you can’t see any of their messages or receive their calls. Watch the chaos. Make sure you do a slow build up, so you seem even more emotional about this. You seem like you are, use it. If they are going to weaponize incompetence, weaponize what you got. Once you have seen enough, block all of them. No need to stick around for the mess.
There shall be pandemonium.
Story 4: We live in an age where that amount of strictness (even when the kids are adults) is frowned upon by the public. Let them wear what they want and have any hairstyle they want. It ain't gonna kill ya to let them.
You are talking about a member of the crowd that celebrated dead women by taking away abortion rights.
I’m just trying to imagine wtf an inappropriate hair style looks like.
@@wonpilspiano Ask North Korea, they know.
@@bladerunner3314 whoa? Kim Jong Un is their step dad? Now I understand.
@@wonpilspiano I don't know about that, but NK has federal approved hair styles for men and women - and Kim's is none of them.
First story: NTA. If I were OP, I'd just shrug off the smear campaign because-hey!-no more babysitting for free! It sucks, but it's a really good opportunity to see just who exactly your friends are. If someone who supposedly knows me thinks I would endanger a child on purpose, I wouldn't want to know them.
Fourth story: To me, "trashy" is all in how you act; no single haircut or outfit can do that. It's pretty telling that Kevin felt the twins were dressed "recklessly," but instead of keeping them close by, he had them wait outside.
Fifth story: The age gap between OP and his wife and his weird disgust with breastfeeding just sends up all sorts of red flags for me, NGL. I'm glad that his wife at least seems mature enough to tell him he's being weird, but still... YIKES.
There was a comment somewhere in the post that said it "isn't normal to breastfeed in public," but to me that's exactly the problem. It SHOULD be normal. Women breastfeeding their babies aren't "whipping out their tits" for everyone to get a look-they're just feeding their babies, which is what breasts are for. Here's hoping that the opinion of the entire wedding party is really becoming the norm, because we've really needed to get over this stigma ages ago.
“She’s always breastfeeding!!” Yeah it’s almost like newborn babies need to eat every 2 hours or something…
Story 4: Divorce him. Any one who treats their kids like that needs to be removed from their life. He's an embarrassment to fathers everywhere. Story 5: Was she making anyone else uncomfortable? The fact that he never said anything before that point is what gets me. He needs to open his mouth if he has a problem. Definite AH.
Noooo you should have posted the racist wedding update! It turns out the whole family are racists as well. I personally can't see the relationship between OP and her BF lasting.
He abandoned them and stayed with OP supposedly (he posted an update, where he basically actually was trying to defend her, but they refused to stop. Original OP gave an ultimatum, and he dropped his family and apparently they were still together)
@@bradleybarnett1469 yeah I saw that. But I don't hold out much for him either way.
@@bradleybarnett1469 It took people on the internet calling him names for him to finally realize he was a spineless tool. He didn't even really take OPs words too much into consideration even though it HAPPENED TWICE! He says he'll change but it seems public shame means more to him than doing the right thing simply because it's the right thing. He and his sister are not so different.
*First OP:* OP didn’t know Milly had an allergic reaction to dairy; how was that her fault? OP’s friend should’ve told OP that information before handing Milly to her without warning. OP is NTA.
*Second OP:* OP’s daughter has the right to choose who can come to _her and her spouse’s_ wedding, and OP has the right to choose how to spend _ his_ money. If he decides not to spend it on his daughter’s wedding, then so be it. OP is NTA. His daughter’s mom and boyfriend can pay for the wedding.
*Third OP:* OP’s boyfriend’s sister ruined her _own_ honeymoon by being a r4ci5t. OP is NTA. The fact that OP’s boyfriend called OP’s action a low blow is concerning… I disagree with rSlash’s score for OP’s boyfriend’s sister; r4ci5ts should get the full 5/5 BHs.
*Fourth OP:* OP is NTA for telling off her husband for making her daughters wait outside the restaurant. OP _is_ TA for staying with her husband after he insulted OP’s daughters’ looks numerous times. I hope OP divorces her husband after this.
*Fifth OP:* I would’ve understood OP’s frustration if he hadn’t mentioned being annoyed by his sister breastfeeding her baby _in her own home_ . Assuming OP’s sister doesn’t have her milker exposed to everyone, who cares? OP is TA.
*Sixth OP:* It’s not like OP is lying. Her coworker _is_ being emotional. OP is NTA.
I don’t know who cares, but this is the same OP who got kicked out of her “friend’s” family’s vacation and paid for her own room in a previous AITA vid.
yeah, its not like being allergic to something like bee stings. bee stings don't happen that often and most people would think to keep an eye on a kid if they did get stung. if your kid has allergies in pretty much any food product, but more importantly COMMON food products like dairy or nuts, you should definitely lead with that, like "can you take care of X for a couple of hours? BTW she's allergic to dairy."
Yeah equating being not nice to someone unfairly because of immutable genetic attributes to straight up child abuse, yikes.
I honestly find it hypocritical that OP's daughter would invite her Birth Mother's boyfriend to the wedding, but not OP's wife.
racists dont need 5/5, he reserves that score for 5/5 butthole ppl
@@sidneylyght Why though? OP does mention that she took her mother's side in the divorce and is somewhat estranged from him. Also that she dislikes his wife. The daughter likely has a better relationship with mom's boyfriend and thus invites someone she likes, while not inviting someone she hates. Nothing hypocritical about that.
People need to be made aware of all of a child's allergies when caring for them, no matter how minor, because even someone with a history of minor allergy symptoms can experience anaphylaxis! And then it'd be the parents fault for not informing the carer. Also not picking up the phone once is fine, but ignoring multiple calls, especially when your child has a known condition like that, is a clear sign that mum isn't a good mum. Unless she was in hospital herself unconscious there's p much no excuse
I think the second story would benefit from hearing both sides of the story, because it'd help knowing WHY OP's daughter doesn't like his girlfriend so much. I mostly say this from firsthand experience that something very similar happened to my sister during her wedding - our dad wasn't paying for it, but he refused to go because his girlfriend wasn't invited. She wasn't invited because she was a freaking miserable person to be around. She was a total Karen before I even knew what a Karen was, because she would always hijack any time we tried to spend with our dad, talk over us, and make everything be about her and her opinions. Going out to eat with her was even worse, because even my favorite restaurants would get ruined by her when she'd do nothing but complain about everything loudly, insult the servers while they were within earshot, and then demand that they take her food back and do her order again over the most stupid reasons. Overall, his girlfriend would sap any joy out of a room she walked into, so yeah, she wasn't invited to the wedding. And our dad chose his girlfriend over his daughters, giving us even more reason to hate her.
Not sure if this is similar to OP's case, but I find that it's not possible to rate who's TA here without knowing more. I highly doubt that the daughter didn't invite the girlfriend because she's being a hypocrite, there has to be a reason that OP either isn't sharing or isn't aware of. He has a right to pull his funding of his daughter's wedding, but he's also gonna have to face the consequences that might result in his daughter going low or no contact with him for favoring his girlfriend over his kids.
Yes!!! Thank you for saying it! I was thinking the same thing!!!
THIS! 👏
Idk, apparently the other two kids like the new wife? And the fact the daughter sided with her mom when the divorce happened, makes me think it is exactly as he explained
@@nine9nine9 he never said why, though. He danced around SO MANY details. He didn't give his daughter's explanation as to why she didn't want the wife there and he didn't say why his daughter took their mom's side. I also think that the other two kids were unnecessary to add and only were there to make him look better. This is about the new wife and his daughter. The other two are not a factor in the conflict at hand. It just rubs me so wrong that he was like "she hates my wife but has no problem with my ex's bf =(" but didn't elaborate why. He never once in his story answered why any of these dynamics were the way they were.
@@clawd_not_cloud that's true, but I doubt we'll ever know so I'm happy to think it's the simple explanation. And regardless, it's up to him to fund it or not, so I guess either way it doesn't matter in the end.
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So true.
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My son is allergic to alcohol , when he went to a sitter I would Always remind them and he came with a list of foods and drinks that have trace amounts of alcohol in them to avoid.. your child, your responsibility!!
The breastfeeding story, there’s also the fact that she said pumping hurts for her and op basically said too bad, suck it up. Sure she could’ve gone somewhere more private but he was demanding she do something painful for her instead.
@@sarafinasummers7863 Up to that point, no one in her circle of friends ever complained.
And OP didn't even ask or better offer a private place for it.
How the hell should she have known that OP doesn't want her there?
I absolutely LOVE the last story! XD Especially the kill-them-with-kindness part of "do you need to go outside to calm down a bit? It's totally okay, we understand" in this context.
Story 4: They are 19. They. Are. NINETEEN. If they were younger I'd somewhat understand the husband's frustration. But the girls are nineteen, not fourteen.
If they were 14 then that would make Kevin’s behavior worse
@@justasentientmclarenp1879 it would definitely make the action worse, yes. But I was just talking about the frustration he has about them not listening to him. Either way his actions were NOT okay no matter the age and OP should definitely leave and protect her children.
Frustration with what? We don't even know how they were dressed. For all I know they wore shorts & a T-shirt 🤷🏻♂️
Here's the thing: There are no visual aids for what the girls are wearing. That combined with hom calling their hair "trashy" paints a picture of there not actually being ANYTHING wrong with how they're dressed, and that Kevin is a micromanaging prick.
@Purple Citrine piggytails? Or braids? Something that exposes the neck? 🤔
Wow Alice just thrusted her kid in OP without any pointers about anything that could be harmful for her. Like allergies. This is on Alice not OP
My closest friend and I have known each other since we were teenagers. Our sons are best friends and frequently had play dates together. When his parents discovered that he had severe nut allergies, they notified us and would remind us every time we looked after him. This happened for years until they knew he was old enough to advocate for himself.
@@JimLambier which is the responsible/appropriate thing to do as a parent that actually wants to protect their children... that idiot seriously sounds like she was trying to get rid of her kid through someone else's mistake! CPS should've been called
When I was breastfeeding it was actually harder to get out milk via pumping, what would take like 15 minutes with my baby on the boob took way longer with a pump and usually produced less milk. It was always easier to just feed him on the boob, so I understand why Op's sister does it. He should have given her a heads up and possibly a place to nurse. because depending on how long the wedding was she was inevitably going to have to put the baby on or pump to avoid "clogging up".
The angry coworker story. Another way to deal with him would be to carry around a small squirt bottle around and every time he has an outburst, squirt him and say "Down boy!!"
I do love when these 'I want to be racist, but I don't want consequences for it' people get a brutal dose of reality
*guy throws hissy fits and constantly has outbursts.
*guy gets confused that people think he's emotional and immature
Fifth story: OP is uncomfortable with his sister breastfeeding, but he's letting it out in a wrong way.
For the fifth story.. Would it have been such a hassle for OP to prepare an area out of view of other guests for his sister, were she could feed her child privately?
I don't understand why that should be necessary, but maybe she'd appreciate the gesture at the same time as OP wouldn't have to get embarrassed over his own issues.. Yes, this is definitely a problem HE has!
Story 1:
So Alice 1. Dropped off her kid on short notice without even asking if it was fine. 2. Didn't even bother to tell Op she was allergic to dairy. And 3. _Didn't pick up Op's calls for HOURS_
And _she's_ mad at _Op?_ She has NO leg to stand on here.
And quite literally in a second cause I'm about to bust her kneecaps for the nerve alone.
(For legal reasons I'm joking but _god_ the urge is strong with this one)
The last story: I’ve noticed people around me seem to forget anger and being mad and irritable ARE emotions.
Being “emotional” isn’t just tears and crying and sadness.
If you get overly excited about something in an angry capacity, you’re still being emotional.
That last story - that's 100% how people treat angry women. "Oh, she's yelling? She must be on her period. She's crying? She must have hysteria." Seeing the tables being turned and having this done to a guy is just awesome in a very special way.
last story, if it were me, my anger issues could never LMAO. I do think it's reasonable to get people to understand that "yeah, you have an issue", but man, if people were to treat me like a toddler, that would just make me angrier lol.
Good grief story one dump that friend, you did something nice watching her kid. Her mother dumped her on you and didn’t let you know her allergy. That woman would be dead to me. Stop groveling, unfriend the mutual who are berating you. And never ever watch her kid again.
Story 2 don’t pay for her wedding, let her pay for her own nonsense. Who cares if ex wife is mad? Let her be bitter, let daughter get married on her own dime. Your wife is your wife support her, stand by her.
Foget Alice. She never told OP Millie was allergic to dairy. I eat food I'm mildly allergic to all the time. I do this because I'm literally allergic to all fruits and most veggies and most seasonings. I just take a lot of Benadryl. Big deal.
First story: NTA, as a person with a food allergy it’s my responsibility to tell people what I’m allergic too, and when I was younger, it was my parents responsibility to tell people what I could and couldn’t have, that mother was an idiot for never telling Op.
The second one I can’t exactly agree on. I have a very bad relationship with my dad’s second wife, however, my relationship with my mom’s boyfriend is great. The only reason I would invite my stepmother to my wedding would be because I’d feel horrible- even though I don’t like her and she doesn’t like me. If I had more of a backbone I wouldn’t even contemplate inviting her. That’s why, in my opinion, I believe neither are the a**holes. The dad had every right to not pay and she had every right to invite whomever she wanted
I completely agree and I’m so glad someone else said it!!!!
Loved today's episode!! All of them were interesting but the last one was just awesome. Throughout history men have often called women emotional but men are too, human beings are in general. The thing is anger has rarely been viewed as an emotion. Usually anger is tolerated and considered manly, in control, a leadership style, etc. That last story was a GENIUS solution and so dead on.🤣
And we're usually called emotional when we're mad enough to spit nails. A man would be called angry, but a woman at the same level of anger would be emotional.
Omg, right!?! It was so so satisfying to hear her turn the tables on him, and I'm sitting here just aching for her to keep sharing her Jay stories!!! I both want him to amend his ways due to her sneaky subversion, and don't for the sake of a story!
THANK YOU! I was looking through the comments to see if anyone else said anything about this before I did. No matter how much a man rages, he's never considered emotional. I'm glad they also brought up him not being rational, because angry people aren't and this is something else men get a pass on.
You misspelled “evil” but ok
@@RealCoolstriker64 LOL 😂 sorry about that
It’s really scary how many parents do not tell people who are watching their children about their allergies. I have worked with several kids who have food intolerances to deathly allergies in most cases it is the child who tells me about their allergies. One time though while watching a one and 1/2 year old the kid had a wheat and gluten intolerance that neither parent mentioned. It wasn’t until pick up when the dad noticed that we gave the kids gold fish that he remembered to tell us. Thankfully the kid was ok but these situations always scare me since I had a friend who I watched having an extreme allergic reactions a couple times. She would often tell people about her allergy but people would either forget or assume she was exaggerating or making it up.
The second story, ETA, however, I side with the daughter for the most part, as someone whose parents invited people I didn't even know, but who my GRANDFATHER wanted there to a huge life event of mine, simply because they paid for it (I was 13, btw. I had no way of paying for it myself). It's HER wedding day; if she doesn't want someone there that she doesn't like, that's HER say, no matter the reason. We also don't know the reason why the dad and mom split up, or why daughter took mom's side, or why she has a relationship with her stepdad and considers him family, but not her stepmom. I DO think dad was in the right to refuse to pay if he was unhappy that his wife wasn't invited.
If you ask someone to babysit, no matter how last minute, you EXPRESSLY TELL THEM about the kid's allergies and other serious health concerns. It is no one else's job but the parents' to make sure that information is clearly expressed to the person in charge of watching their child
12:39 -- Sir, you've always stood up for women and kids, but now that you've become a dad, your sensitivity to their vulnerability has increased immensely. It was always refreshing to hear, and it's downright inspirational now. A lot of people (mostly male) would see that as being soft, weak, and "effeminate." We know it means you're flexible, resilient, and strong. Thank you for saying what needs to be said.
Last story: OP nailed it. As someone with a bad temper (and stupidly high levels of background stress) you are exactly right; it is an emotional response. It often feels like the most productive kind of emotional outburst because the aggression can get you through a task, but it isn’t healthy and it fucks with everyone around you.
But yeah, it functionally isn’t all that different than tearing up or having a panic attack. It’s a hyper emotional response. Someone who can’t take that fact because they think emotions are weakness and they are strong is full of shit and needs this context.
Way to go.
No it depends on race and experience this in situation if anything you make a situation 10 times worse. This doesn’t work on any aggressive people with anything it would lead to a violent fight.
@@shawnpaul1052 “depends on race”?
@@shawnpaul1052 What do you mean by "it depends on race"? Emotions aren't different in black, asian, or white people. It's all about how you manage your emotions
@@robertaylor9218 , I also speaking with experience.
@@IHNIFAN , Dude, I from a culture, If you pull that crap, you get your teeth knocked out. Because I done that before and I got my ass kicked. Especially, if the person is your elder. Race makes a huge difference , There somethings that acceptable in white household/community that is not that acceptable in a black household/community. You get what saying. It is as simple as that.
The last story, if someone tried to manipulate and gaslight me like that they'd be in the hospital and I'd be in jail.
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9:55 - This story hit VERY close to home. Trigger warning as the story I am about to get into is about child m.
My mom’s first husband was exactly like this man. I am not saying he will do the same thing but this is how he reacted to things I did. My stepfather had m’ed me when I was 11. He blamed me for having inappropriate behavior. He too tried to control me. He didn’t like what I wore even though I dressed pretty conservatively and treated me like I was his wife (had many others note this behavior and no no one stepped in). If I wore a shirt that was form fitting (regular shirt not something that showed off my stomach or dipped to show cleavage), he said I looked like a w****.
The situation was that he didn’t see me as a kid (he was 11 years older than me) nor did he see me as being his stepdaughter. He saw me as any other girl/young woman. Someone he could hit on. (And hit on me he did).
As inappropriately as he treated me, no one not a single adult stepped in despite the HUNDREDS of red flags. (I wasn’t allowed to go out without him, I couldn’t talk or look at any males, etc.) So hopefully the mother will take note of this… at the very least questioning behavior. Mind you, his responses to them are VERY questionable and his reaction to how they dressed is really odd. I am trying to remain diplomatic in my reasoning but it seems very suspicious of him to be reacting like this to NINETEEN-YEAR-OLDS.
what does it mean when someone gets m'ed?
@@Luna-ej4mi social media doesn't like when you use certain words, people who talked about covid even got flagged so they had to make up other words to use instead. Anyway, you know when people say "unalive" instead of suicide. It's like that. M-ed is short for molested.
I am so sorry this happened to you. Shame on the adults for not stepping in. I hope that he is out of your life and you have happiness
@@Luna-ej4mi child mol^sted
@@Luna-ej4mi Molested.
Hearing a dropped f-bomb made my spit my coffee. Ok. I now know his stance lol
Last Story: Dabney hit it on the head. Anger is an emotion. People call women emotional, but a man who is unable to control his anger or temper is also being emotional. 🙃
"We had to cancel the trip to the mall because he refused to drive us".
Neither the mom or the two 19 year olds has a driving licence? No public transport? Are they always relying on this guy driving them everywhere?
Goddamn Kevins giving me a bad name 😐🤣
Story 4: dude deserves a higher AH score for being bothered that a child is being fed. If you're that uncomfortable, just don't look🤷♂️
And he was annoyed with every single situation. Even when visiting her, in her own home. Like, dude. It is your nibling getting food.
Wouldn't surprise me if he completely sexualise breasts so a baby feeding comes off as sexual to him. Disgusting.
seriously, breastfeeding is how we are SUPPOSED to feed babies! Bottles used to only be used in situations where the mother couldn't breastfeed (illness or even death if they couldn't get a wetnurse). Hell women used to breastfeed IN CHURCH. Not even covered up like some women do, just POP! tiddy for baby. NO ONE CARED.
@@Ikajo It's honestly not about anything sexual usually. Blood, urine, stool, spit, puke..things that leave the human body, even if it is a natural process, are seen as gross by most people. So yeah. While I'd not be bothered in most circumstances (mainly except for when I'm eating) I do understand where the reaction comes from.
@@CidVeldoril Those things are not nearly the same thing? Do you feel disgusted when you see someone drink cow milk? That's not any different.
@@Ikajo I would feel disgusted it I saw someone drink cow milk straight from the udder, yes. It is the "fluid or solid leaving the body" part that is gross, not the thing itself.
Hey rSlash, you’re so close to 2 million subs! I love your videos and definitely think that all your success is 100% well-earned!
Last story: That is ABSOLUTELY BRILLIANT. I have a coworker who is also very "emotionally involved" when something isn't done the way he wants among other things and I can't wait to try this tbh. He acts all tough and threatening but he's just a huge, 32 year old, immature cry baby and this approach seems lovely.
But back to the story: I do think Corporate Management are a-holes for not letting go of that guy sooner. If he was much, much worse 10 years ago, that must have been really unacceptable behaviour and letting it go on for 10 years is too long, as I know first-hand how devastating its impact on job satisfaction can be. I get that anger management problems are often unwanted by those that have them, and I'm fully in favor of people seeking help for their problems and employers maybe even supporting that process, but if someone is unable to realize they have a problem, even after having been reprimanded for their behaviour, then there comes a point where an employer just has to say "not my problem".
Make sure you also spike his food with hot sauce, slash his tires and call him at 2am on a burner phone to ask him what he's wearing or whatever creeps him out.
Gotta really push him into having that breakdown so you can sit back with the popcorn and your phone out and laugh before putting it up on youtube. In fact, see if you can bully him enough that you push him to suicide, record that and then send the video for rSlash to show so you can be celebrated for being morally bankrupt.
I worked with someone like jay... this guy was in his 60s and everyday there was something that was not right for him. I called him MR HAPPY because of how delightful he was every day
The wedding guy literally could’ve asked his sister to go into a different room while she breastfed if it was a problem for him.
In the breastfeeding story: not only is there a chance she doesn't have a pump, but if she's never bottle fed the baby they might refuse the bottle and now you've got a screaming baby. Like others have said, if he feels that strongly about it, he should've had a quiet room prepped for her to use. I still don't get his problem though. I know there are people who have a problem with public breastfeeding, but his whole family is fine with it so it probably wasn't how he was raised...
My baby has gone 6 hours without eating when I went to work. I have to use my lunch time plus extra time to feed Baby every day I work. Hubby is highly annoyed on these days but does his best.
Wedding payment story: this is one of the missing info stories.
According to the story the daughter was 12 when her parents divorced, 17 when OP met his new wife and 19 when OP got remarried.
OP also said that they had an agreement that he would pay for her wedding.
OP got married pretty quickly after meeting his current partner, and that was when his daughter was at the age of starting college. Add to that the fact that OP uses the word agreement, makes me think that paying for the wedding was compensation, not just a gift. For example if he used her college fund to pay for his wedding.
Aside from that, if his wife and daughter don't get along, why was he expecting that she would be invited?
I agree 100%!! There is not enough info about the relationship between the wife and daughter to be able to make a good judgement and it sort of sounds like the father doesn’t 100% know what’s going on between the wife and daughter either
The last story - I get angry almost exclusively when people don’t take me seriously, so depending on what the reason is that people get angry, it could work or not work