r/AmITheA**hole for Installing a Secret Tracking App on My GF's Phone?
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0:00 Intro
0:06 I need to tell my brothers fiancé she is being tracked
2:50 Family members kid ruined my kids birthday
6:50 I am moving out without informing my roommate
9:34 Cheating mom gets poetic justice
13:31 Husband grossed out by a natural process for women
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Story 1: If OP’s bf is getting this defensive about the tracker, he 100% put one on OP’s own phone!
that's the same thing i thought when op first said her boyfriend was defensive about it.
Only if he had access to it. Keep in mind that this was a new phone that was bought for her, so the guy had access to it.
If OP's phone has a password that the bf doesn't know, then he can't install anything.
But I wouldn't put it past the bf to at least want to do that, if he had not already if given the chance.
i have a gutfeeling, that you are right :(
Hey! We have the same first name~!
She really should tell their local sheriff bc like what else will they do
“Kids will be kids” is one of the most disgusting way of justifying bad behavior. It’s often said by the same people who blame victims for being assaulted
SO WHAT MY CHILD WENT ON A MURDER RAMPAGE LEAVING 3 MILLION DEAD AND ANOTHER 5 MILLION INJURED kids will be kids
it's basically "Boys will be boys"
except, according to MRAs, "sexist"
the only person that should get away with it is Judge Snyder on the Simpsons.
_"oh well, I don't care to take responsibility for my kid like I know I would have to, oh he grew up to be a murderously dangerous psychopath because I didn't care enough to raise him up as an actually functioning contributing member of society? Welp, psychopaths will be psychopaths!"_
Except if it was OP kid that ruined her son's cake. Then she'd be pissed and demanding compensation. She's an entitled single mom who doesn't want to take responsibility for her child.
RSlash, as a woman, I can verify that we 10000% do NOT get sexual pleasure from tampons. Those things are a nightmare.
I'm glad someone invented menstrual discs. Tampons are pure torture especially if they are too dry when you try to pull them out.
I mean, as a guy I can't say much, but I've also had girlfriends, female friends and have had to buy tampons for said gf and friends. The question I have is---are they really that bad? All of the girls I mentioned above preferred them over pads because they were less messy/gross/less smelly and were easier to hide/carry around. And that unless you put it in wrong...you can't feel them at all. Even got a nifty little string to pluck it out and everything.
And just so you know, I'm being sincere---like I've heard nothing good about pads and everything good about tampons. Is it just...individual?
@@kingblanketfort in my opinion pads are great to me because i’d bleed heavy down there and for some reason tampons don’t work for me there. Pads are so easy to take out and put in so there no blood stains down there when you take it off when it comes to tampons there are few drops of blood stains down there and you need to find The vaginal part to put the tampon in I usually don’t have time for that because I’m in a hurry so with pads you just stick it in ,I hope I explain my opinion so yeah it up to individual
@King Blanketfort yes! It it completely about the comfort level of the person using the product. If someone sees more pros than cons to pads or is more comfortable with the idea of pads than tampons, that’s their personal preference. Everyone’s preferences are diverse and there’s no guaranteeing what product someone may want to use.
@@titlepending3820 okay I have a legit question. 1 Are menstrual discs the same as menstrual cups? If so then, 2 how messy are they? Cause I'm just imagining a huge mess as you have to hook and fold the cup to get it in and out of the body.
"the bodily function you have no control over makes me uncomfortable, stop it." that guy was definitely trying to control her beyond the tampons
You're right
I just don't get why he's complaining about it, it's not like he's the one sticking it up inside himself the wrong way (yes it's been many years since those days and I'm starting to feel old now lol)
There was an update. He lost his mother to toxic shock syndrome.
I'm pretty sure the guy has his trust in some weird conspiracy or incel logic here. i'ts the only explanation i can think of. some religious guru or "quantum coach" type of moron theory that tampons are the mark of the beast and have microchips in them or somehow misalign their chackra's waveleght or bs like that.
He may have a legitimate reason that it bothers him, and it could be very valid to him. The problem that I have is that if that's the case, then he should have talked to her about it and explained why. She may have understood. My ex hurt her back and demanded that I change hers for her. It completely grossed me out and there was no way I could do it. I had to call her girlfriend to do it. She was pissed, but sorry, I just couldn't do it. PS. I also couldn't change poopy diapers either. I vomited every time I tried.
1st, tampons can be expensive. Throwing them out is wasteful.
2nd, how tiny is the husband to feel like he's competing against a tampon?
3rd, a tampon isn't a vibrator or dildo.
That's what I was thinking! It's sad but true as some guys think that tampons are like a sex thing??? Or that women wear tampons all the time.
OP needed to leave her husband yesterday. The misogyny is so potent with that guy
I wonder if he knew someone who got toxic shock syndrome from leaving a tampon in too long. That still doesn't give him the right to throw away her stuff.
Lol,true
Lmao yeah, I really have no clue what right he thinks he has over her own body, especially when they aren't even in the act!
Poor little fella, he’s so intimidated. Bet he drives a big ole lifted truck too.
For me, food is sacred, and even more, birthday cake. If the cousin is not paying for her damn kid, I am telling her she is not invited to any other party ever.
Exactly. If it were me, I'd tell her If she didn't pay for the cake, her and her kid were no longer invited to any parties or social gatherings that I host until she did pay.
I’d seriously drop kick anyone for ruining a cake! The most sacred of foods, next to steak!
its her fault the cake was ruined because she wasnt watching her kid so she should absolutely be the one to pay for it
Agreed. No way that kid comes to another party for my kid
@DarkCoreX I see a drop kick coming your way.
Last story:
Husband: We should take each other's discomfort into consideration.
OP: I'm uncomfortable using pads.
Husband: We should only take MY discomfort into consideration.
Exactly
Hes so insecure that the tampons are in his "spot" maybe. Or that they are bigger than him lol. Her body her choice. I'd free bleed all over his car/couch/his side of the bed. What a control freak
Story 4 has an update: op and mom talked it over. mom cried because among other things she thought op wanted her dead (that is what happens to Anna in the book), op explained that no he just related to the son in the movie and wanted to convey that level of betrayal to his mother. when mom heard step-dad call op an a-hole, she got mad. Op is staying with a friend til his dad comes home, and will never have to spend time in that house again.
Story 2: As someone who cleans houses for a living. You absolutely cannot let single mothers get away with stuff like that. The moment you let her use "I'm a single mom" as an excuse to be a bad mom, she'll never stop. Regardless of scenario, you can't let people like that start making excuses, ever.
Exactly
She needs to be a parent. She’s raising a terror. And that little boy won’t learn right from wrong-and will not be invited to other parties.
The only acceptable "im a single mom" excuse that exists is "hey why are you so tired all the time?"
"Oh, im a single mom, having to work and take care if kid(s) is exhausting."
Being stressed comes with the territory of being a parent, single or not.
Agreed. She's also setting her kid up for failure by letting him behave like this. I'm betting she's also taught him that all he has do do to get his way is throw a fit. I hate seeing parents do that.
I'm not sayin i disagree with the advice, but i don't understand the connection between being a professional cleaner and having special insight into single mothers or parenting. Is it that the customers are home while you're cleaning, and you witness a broad array of behaviour?
Tell her that your brother is spying on her, because she needs to leave him. “Mind your own business”, no, because that is incredibly disrespectful, a breach of privacy, and a massive red flag. Plus your own boyfriend helped?!? I’d ditch the boyfriend, and massively encourage your brothers girl to dump him. This is just gross honestly.
Yep, the local authorities should also b tipped off imo
I also agree that OP should probably get her own phone checked out as well
"Mind your own business" is incredibly hypocritical here too
@@Richard_Nickerson it’s always said by idiots who are literally in everybody else’s business, always
Why doesn't her brother mind his own business?
"You need to respect that tampons make me uncomfortable!" *proceeds to disrespect OP's discomfort with pads by throwing out her tampns*
Impeccable logic
My only question with the dude is, why couldn't you grab some toilet paper to throw over the tampon If it bother you. Problem solved you won't see it if it's covered by toilet paper
@@RalphelValentine I mean, that's not really his job? While his demand is...stupid ultimately---I would assume that it would be a common courtesy to wrap up a bloody tampon before just throwing it in the trash. It may be a bodily function but so is peeing, and you don't just---not flush; that's rude and gross. So---why leave a blood soaked tampon visible?
This isn't about "ew girls gross, stop it," this is honestly just common courtesy.
All of my past gf's and female friends would be MORTIFIED if they weren't able to properly dispose of one. And no, they aren't ashamed, they just know that---again---natural or not--no one wants to walk into the bathroom and see a bloody anything just sitting visible like a neon sign in the bathroom.
Plus old blood smell, especially menstrual blood is SUPER PUNGENT. At least wrapping it up can minimize the smell.
@@kingblanketfort I can understand that, even in public restrooms they have a small sealed trash so ladies can dispose their tampons in there
He’s being completely unreasonable, however, it is polite etiquette to wrap up your tampon before throwing it out. But, it is so disrespectful to throw away tampons as they cost a lot for women and it just wastes perfectly good resources and it’s none of his business how OP handles does her personal hygiene. It’s controlling of him to want to stop her from using tampons and also of him to say she was ‘verbally abusing him’ was such a controlling and shitty move. He’s guilt tripping her into doing what he wants. That guy doesn’t deserve OP or anyone for that matter.
He wasn’t upset about used tampons, he was upset about clean tampons, in the box. The tampons I use are flushable, one of the main advantages of tampons, frankly.
Story #1: Setting up a tracking device is the start of a very serious domestic violence issue. OP you'll most likely save her life! For the love of God, tell her. She should ditch the phone and disappear.
Bf: “stop being nosey and intrusive.”
*just finished installing a tracking app in someone’s phone*
Story 1: Wait wait wait, _wait_, OP's boyfriend called HER nosy and intrusive when he's the one that installed not just a tracking app, but a _hidden_ tracking app on her brother's fiancee's phone? I say ditch the man, tell the fiancee, and run for the hills-
She need to tell the local sheriff tbh
Ikr pretty intrusive
Makes me wonder what the reasoning behind doing this is for these two?
@@thorthethunderer2045 if I have to guess : said boyfriend put the same app on OP's phone.
@@thorthethunderer2045 I'd guess both guys are cheating so they assume the girls are too
“Let them solve their own issues” how can the fiancée solve this issues if she doesn’t KNOW she’s being tracked….
I worked in family violence for over 3 years. Secret tracking apps are a major issue I dealt with on a daily basis. It's not just a violation of privacy. It's about opening and controlling the person.
Exactly
4th Stroy had an update:
Both Mom and OP talked, Step-dad got in trouble with Mom, OP cried cause he really wanted a relationship with his mother but can't due to him still not over the cheating, they both worked it out.
Yeah I think that should have been included. Also; she didn’t abandon OP. She tried to maintain a relationship but OP decided that he didn’t want to continue it. How is that abandonment?
@@spicydiarrhea5662 excuse me what-
@@wouldntyouliketoknowwesath7789 don't feed the trolls.
@@spicydiarrhea5662 wtf lmao 🤣
Thanks for the update info
Cousin: "Kids will be kiiids!"
*"And spoiled brats will be spoiled brats."*
_"oh well, I don't care to take responsibility for my kid like I know I would have to, oh he grew up to be a murderously dangerous psychopath because I didn't care enough to raise him up as an actually functioning contributing member of society? Welp, psychopaths will be psychopaths!"_
It was "kids will be kids".
I am so sick of the "single mother" excuse for bad behavior. So was I. I could take my son and his 3 cousins anywhere and they would behave because we (the parents) had taught them there is a time and place for everything. If you want no responsibility for raising a child, DON'T HAVE ONE. You should do an update on the "Anna Karenina" story. It ended better than that.
The tampon one, he's an abuser, this is his next escalation. Then it will be she has to stop all the other "unacceptable" things he "puts up with". Then she has to stop seeing family and friends that he doesn't like. Do not have kids with this man
That's not a man, that's a human abomination
Last story: The husband complained that the wife wasn't considering his comfort in using tampon. He's not considering her comfort! Obviously tampons are what's most comfortable to her. But the husband is ignoring her physical comfort for his mental comfort(?) when it's her body!
Not to mention that pads just generally feel messy once they get saturated, at least in my opinion. It's like wearing a diaper, which always seems to end up feeling sticky and gross. And the feeling of blood suddenly coming out is also nasty, tampons just instantly soak it up so you don't have to feel that. No judgement on people who prefer pads/can't wear tampons, but they feel way more hygienic than pads, and if my boyfriend pulled that on me then I'd 100% just bleed on his sheets. No way in hell am I ruining perfectly good clothes because a necessary hygiene product got thrown out by an ignorant man-child.
My husband will buy tampons for me if it’s needed. And I know many guys who do the same for their partners. So this isn’t a male thing, it’s a him thing. Is he threatened by a tampon?
For the cheating mom story, there are some updates that explain the mom's crying. The mother in the book that the child gifted her, ended herself at the end of the story. The mom thought the daughter hated her so much that she wanted her to end herself.
F*ck. Good point. I forgot about that. And OP, by his own admission ("I've seen the movie") KNEW that.
I was already astonished by RSlash's reaction...but now I'm actively disgusted by it! The kid told his mom to kill herself. 16 years. That is more than old enough to know what you're doing. No matter what Mom did and why in the past, she was actively trying-all the time- to maintain the relation with the kid. Who wishes her to kill herself. Kid: 17 billion out of 5 buttholes. RSlash, for-for the first time - being an utterly misguided and misplaced one-sided moralist: 1.5 buttholes.
This *really* leaves a very nasty taste in my mouth.
I'm glad that outside of the meta-reality of youtube, kid and mom actually *talked*, and are working things out.
And it definitely makes the OP of that story, absolutely, a butthole.
@@BaalsMistress Unintendedly, really, since OP did mention that he never read the book and he also mentioned how he saw the film based on the book, which you have to keep in mind, filmmakers tend to make a lot of changes from the source material.
I feel in this story every one suck
The mother cheated.
The son should have not given the book to the mother
He basically said that he want his mother to die. If I was in his shoe I would have said "you broke our family for this man and I dont want to have a mother-son relationship with you. You cant ignore what you did."
@@spydersoup8447 I saw the film too. She still dies. It's a pretty major theme.
I've been a single parent and dealing with an unruly child is so hard, but even when mine were going through their unruly phases I never once left them to their own devices, especially in public, because I knew how difficult they could be. That mother isn't holding her child accountable, they'll never learn or change.
"You're nosy and intrusive" Says the person who wants to track everything their partner does
Story 5: he said that they should take each other's discomfort into consideration but what about OP's discomfort she's the one dealing with blood and horrible cramps each month. This sounds kinda manipulative. She was absolutely right to say it's her body not his. If I had a boyfriend like this I would straight up end the relationship.
This is absolutely 100% her decision. It has nothing to do with him whatsoever. It's not like they are trying to decided to keep a baby or something. His discomfort has nothing to do with it.
She doesn’t need to take him into consideration bc he’s being an idiot. He most likely thinks she’s getting sexual pleasure from them which is just idiotic
I was just going to write the same thing. Does he not get how uncomfortable it is to use pads? Her discomfort is a lot worse than his, but he won’t take that into consideration. Red flags all over his behaviour
Ikr, when i read that i was like 'how does he not see how hipocritical that is?'
Last story: That guy's just asking to see an angry woman on her period with no tampons. Bloodstains are pretty hard to get rid of and I don't see any reason for OP to ruin a perfectly nice outfit when she can ruin his bedsheets instead.
I'd wear the husbands underwear
Hey, don't ruin the bedsheets, take some of his favorite shirts and use them as maxi pads
There's a lot of BS things men believe about periods and tampons. Like that tampons are sexual like dildos and other things. OP should make him read r/badwomensanatomy so he can read about how silly his beliefs are.
@@peggin169 Oooh petty! I like! Nevermind, that's a good reason to ruin a perfectly nice outfit.
@@peggin169 or take his underwear and use them
This is why you really should include the comments and updates. That cheating story has a lot more context.
I'm in full agreement over the tampon story. Can't use tampons? Time to free bleed! See how threatening a tampon is when all the upholstery and bed linen is ruined.
Tampon box story: use his socks as makeshift pads. might give him some perspective.
Right? And it sounds ridiculous but I've actually had dudes in the wild actually say that chicks only use tampons to get off. Then they get grossed out and pissed when you have to freaking explain how it all works and that using pads are like wearing bloody diapers. The stupid hurts SO bad.
He doesn't want them touching the special space that's just for his peepee.
@@ashh4929 Spot on!!! I found pads to be so revolting and was the happiest teenager ever when I finally learned about tampons. I would have never gone back to pads unless God himself came to me and said to do so. Seriously. Skipped into the OR for a hysterectomy yrs ago so no more issues. I was having to wear kids pull ups at night…talk about disgusting 🤢
Socks? Ties is possible…
@@TruthNerds Love that one!!
rSlash. I STRONGLY suggest that you look into Story 4 because the story has a happy ending more or less.
Long story short but OP and his mom talked it out, she admitted she's done a lot of bad things and explained it's fine if he hates her but that she still loves him.
They'd talked about therapy at the time of the update and OP didn't have to spend the rest of the stay with Mom. She also seemed royally pissed at her Husband when she heard that he'd yelled and called OP names.
Yeah. I feel that Mom in story 4 does not deserve all the bullcrap that rSlash voiced.
Welp, we all have our sensitive spots. Rslash has a thing for cheating, so I kinda understand him, too
@@Mutavr yep, I don't now kf it's due to being childfree or my retail experience but the stories I always hate involve mommy Karen's
The post kind of sounds like the kid eased of with the visits himself coz he hated the new family. I understand the hate but it's kinda hard to get teenagers to do anything the really don't want to. I also wonder what kind of deal was in place regarding child custody because at that age courts will take into account a kids wishes. I think rslash is orders of magnitude more moral than I am but this is one time I disagree.
@@samsara9253 their is legitimate so many angles to think about. How shotty his biological dad actually is and how much he blocked out or have rose tinted glasses over. Courts could of had a sexist judge and immediately ruled into the fathers. The dad could of lied or enhanced the truth to brainwash the child. Etc like what he did wasn't right. He was alone didn't want to be alone so he had nothing better to do and decided to just hurt. Never once even gave consideration maybe his dad wasn't a good person or simply love simply left in the marriage. Never asked for answers.
@@samsara9253 As someone who's been though something similar, I can explain a couple things. You are correct in the part where child custody becomes lax when kids become teenagers (14-16 depending on where) so the teenager can choose the custody, at that age. So it seems like, in this case, OP was in the father's custody or just ended up in the custody of the father because his mother left the family with the new husband. However, because OP's dad and grandparents were absent, he kinda had no choice to stay with his mom, since he's still a minor, until his dad or grandparents come back. Also, it's already really difficult for a child to handle parental divorce, so imagine when it's not only because of cheating but also his mother left them with the other man for who knows how long;;; I've been through that and it was really difficult to keep my resentment on the downlow, I still have some resentment towards my dad and the woman he left with. It takes a lot of therapy, individually and family-wide, because it greatly scars a child, even if both parents and the family of the cheating parent are nice. It's really difficult. But it seems like OP is getting better, so I'm glad for that, at least.
The 4th story is actually triggering to me because my mom attempted this to me. She left me when I was 8 tried to act like nothing happened a few years later. I've gone no contact with her after realizing that I was damaging myself expecting to have a mother.
I'm glad you brought up for OP to check her own phone in the first story, Dabney. That's the FIRST thing I thought of, that she's probably getting tracked too and the brother found out, and wanted it for his fiancee too
Story 2: It is definitely a lost cause, I'd just never invite them to anything ever again. I'm not a parent but I couldn't imagine having a child do that and just think that it's an okay thing to do.
Story 3: I'm autistic and it is definitely NOT about the 3 strawberries. It's so hard to explain, but for ND people there are just certain things that make sense, that NEED to make sense. If certain things aren't done or they're not done in the correct way for me, it feels like my skin is crawling off of my body until it's corrected. If someone moves something of mine for example, it will literally cause me to feel so much anger and irritation that I cry. You could have just moved it to clean or something and not tell me, and I'll notice that it's moved and get upset. Does it make sense to NT people? Probably not at all, they'd tell me (have been told in the past) that it's literally in the same area it was, why am I so upset? Because you wouldn't understand how much it disrupts my ever-lasting yet simultaneously fleeting grip on this reality.
The tampon story, i bet the husband is probably feeling small next to the tampons. Lmao, for real though, i grew up with three sisters and was raised by a single mom and am now married. I believe a woman should be able to use what ever hygen product she prefers
Seriously I really want an update to that story
That was one thought I came to too.
I mixed it up between pads and tampons because on the heavy days tampons were better at keeping overflow off my undies.
I'm really scratching my head on that story. The best explanation I could come up with is that the boyfriend wants to control all aspects of her life...
@@Bremend What's next, her entire body? Her face? Her virginity? The boyfriend sounds so ignorant. Like, has that guy been raised without a MOTHER or something?
Yeah that husband really is weird. Unless he clearly articulates what exactly the problem is he has with a product that millions of women use daily he's out of his mind.
Could be he found a family members when growing up. But yeah... it's kind of weird.
I have a sinking feeling that he thinks there is something sexual about the use of tampons.
@@rosierose8549 I absolutely agree. It’s like, if she wants to get off without him that’s her business but that’s not what tampons are for lmao
At this point I'd be wondering if he likes licking her pads or something. His behavior is just so strange and defies explanation.
@@rosierose8549 he probably equates tampons to vibrators since they are inserted and wants to be the only thing doing that to his wife. Because like u said hes prolly thinking women get off when using them like they do during sex or using toys.
Last story: the guy is probably possessive and controlling to some extent outside this, but this is definitely about him not wanting “foreign objects” in her private parts which now that they are married “belong” to him
The story about moving out without telling the roomate: Well they thought it was ok to eat your food and not tell you, so moving out without saying anything seems just fine honestly.
Exactly, stole from you and lied to you...sure it was something small now, but later on it could be more valuable, and that roommate has already proven they will lie to your face.
Story 5: That is some weird stuff right there. Not even justifying why he would go around *destroying OP's things other than "because he hated them",* which isn't a good reason at all.
Exactly. What should OP even take into consideration, when her husband does not tell her about WHY he hates tampons. Unless he tells her, it's just an opinion weaker than the fact, that he wants some sort of control over her body and destroys her property (throwing away the tampons).
If one does not want to talk about why one has a specific opinion about something then there really is no fact that can be taken into consideration. Period. (pun not intended)
i get being hemaphobic (fear of blood and stuff) but yeah that's a bit overboard.
there are only 2 things I can think of here, either he has some sort of 'I'm the only thing to go in you' mentality, which is a real red flag or he had some sort of traumatic experience as a kid where he shoved one up his arse and it got stuck or someone else shoved one up there, in which case he should have just explained the situation and they 2 of them could deal with it.
Chances are, this might be a sex issue, which kind of falls under what R/slash mentioned. If they aren't shy about period sex, then he's probably upset that he isn't getting as much 'access' than he used to and is being weird about it.
I bet he's one of those men who think that tampons "break the hymen, ruins a woman's chastity and makes her into a sex maniac slut" and doesn't like the fact that it's inserted inside because she "belongs" to him and anything in her that isn't **him** is an affront to his "claim" on her. Even if it's for sanitary reasons.
If I was a pettier and nastier woman with a man like this, I'd just free bleed in the house until he "lets" me use the tampons or leaves.
Okay, first story: OP’s boyfriend told her not to be nosy and stay out of it and that he’s not involved, but then why the hell does he get to be involved by putting a tracking app in the fiancé’s phone? That’s a huge red flag and I wouldn’t trust either the boyfriend or the brother.
Did he thou? It's really not clear if he installed or not, just that the brother asked him. The way he said he was staying out of it says to me he didn't
@@RobGMun the story says that the boyfriend admitted to installing in on the brothers girlfriends phone
The first story I feel like there's more to it maybe she's cheating and he wants to confirm idk
If I was op I would leave that guy for that, he clearly thinks boyfriends can invade their girlfriends privacy without any concern or consent
Hypocrisy; The eighth cardinal sin nobody talks about.
Birthday cake story: She is never going to pay or apologize. Simply either go no contact (it doesn't sound like you need them in your lives) or just don't bother to invite them to special events like birthdays. And if they show up anyways, turn them away at the door.
Anna Karenina story: OP did say that the mom walked out on her family but it was stated that she also tried to stay close with the kid. I still agree with your AH score but at the very least she didn't abandon OP, she just irreperably pushed her away. I might have gone with Lady Chatterly's Lover myself though.
The husband and The Last Story totally violated his wife's boundaries. Like he needs to figure out why tampons bother him so much or at least tell her directly. And he also just sounds like a child. He sounds incredibly childish to be angry at his wife for using a product that most women use!
Probably can't get over how he can't use the hole when ever he wants. >_>
Most people world wide eat pork. To some, even it's existence in shop is offensive fundamentally. It is bizzare but may well be issue
@@jakubrogacz6829 That is ridiculous and not a fair comparison. You do not have to eat pork to survive. Food, yes, but not JUST pork - therefore you have a choice. Whereas women do NOT have a CHOICE when it comes to periods. We can't just decide "hey, this month I think I'll skip my period".
@@LeonieJMerry But like with food you have a choice of what to satisfy that need with. If not tampons then you have pads. Obviously there’s more to it than than, but jeez, they didn’t sound like the were agreeing with OPs husband. They were just suggesting what might be going through his head. Either way, her body, her choice, and he needs to either communicate what his issue is and work through it, or just get over it.
@@jakubrogacz6829 yeah, for religious reasons. You can't seriously compare that.
Story 1: I'd also wager that there's a tracker on her too
Last story: how absolutely insecure of this petty man child, it's non of your damn business what she uses for her period, and tampons are expensive AF
She should've physically abused him to at that point 🤦🏾♀️
I think my immediate questions for the husband in the last story would be "Okay, wait. What do you think a tampon does. Can you walk me through what you think the process of using a tampon is like?"
Follow-up question would be, "Were you subjected to some kind of bizarre sexual abuse?"
Like there is clearly just some really weird conception about tampons in this guy's head, and whatever that is you have to pin it down in order to have a productive conversation about it. He sounds like an absolute asshole and not remotely mature enough to be husband material either way, but if nothing else I'm curious as hell now as to what's actually going through his head.
Same. Pending his answer, I might compromise. My hubby and I were virgins when we married eachother with similar religious beliefs. He thought I could control my period and it took some time for him to understand leaks happen even when I take extra measures to prevent them.
Took awhile for him to understand enough to accept my cycle and even predict it before I learned to track my own cycle. True ignorance is something that can be worked with. I suspect this is true ignorance and misconceptions at play. I'd retaliate by borrowing his clothes for the duration of the tossed tampon cycle if he's not willing to learn though.if If he doesn't let me use them, I'd rockout on his side of the bed naked with a towel to contain the mess until my period was over. If he wants comfort, he's replacing my tampons.
Story 5, apparently there are actual men who think tampons really are something women use to pleasure themselves and legit have no idea how the female body works. I remember this one story about a woman who was told by her boss that she couldn't go to the bathroom to put a tampon in because is was inappropriate and to just hold it. She had to actually explain to him how periods worked, and he was so mortified, that he let her go.
So, a lot of people seem to think things like "if you use tampons you're no longer a virgin" so IF he's not just being an abusive prick it is very plausable he believes this and somehow translated it as sexual
And maybe there's some kinda chance that he might also think that those "fill OP up" better than "he does" if you catch my drift.
I don't think that might be the case. Because he said that she can use them when she's outside. Again he's in the wrong but I feel like there might be some weirdness going on here. Maybe he has some kind of trauma relating to tampons?
@@Zulk_RS My guess is he thinks tampons literally cock block him.
@@Zulk_RS maybe. If that's the case he should probably look into therapy. I guess it's also possible that friends or family think the way I theorized and he doesn't want them to know? Probably needs therapy either way
For the tracker story, my fiance had a tracker on my phone but for 1) it was with express permission. For 2) he was worried about me being an Uber driver and wanted to know where I was if I was out longer than expected/I hadn't sent a message in awhile. It's gross if it's added without letting someone know.
have to imagine how the last story would play out if the husband had posted it "My wife cheated on me with a tampon"
Story 2: trying to cut someone out of your life even family is really difficult for some people, especially the parents, I loathed my cousin when I was 12, he pushed me off my feed and my head was bleeding, my parents still let them in our lives, buy I'm still indifferent with them
I am so sorry you have to deal with that
Tracking apps do serve a valuable function, but using them in this manner is a huge violation.
What if the couple broke up? Would he then admit to installing the app and help her remove it, or would he be able to track her every move still? That's fucking creepy.
The problem isn't the tracker, it's the lack of consent. A person should be able to choose if, when and to whom their location is revealed.
The next problem is context. Knowing where someone is doesn't mean you know what they're doing in that location. You don't know why they're there, who they're with, etc. This isn't quite the "gotcha" information people assume it is in cases like suspected cheating. Most extra-marital affairs happen in the workplace, and she would just appear to be at work.
You might claim it's for her safety. That is a valid use for trackers. But in that scenario, she should know about it and be instructed in how to use it. And it wouldn't be the only app installed for that purpose. A voluntary tracker (something like Life360 for example) is usually loaded alongside ICE, and a push-to-talk app like Zello, and emergency contact list, crash-detections, etc. None of them are hidden, they are made exceedingly accessible and prominent on the phone.
Due to the lack of information GPS location actually gives you, what else has he installed to bridge the contextual data gap? Has he ratted the phone? Enabled a call-recorder? Given himself access to SMS, Emails, Photos and Videos? Where does this actually end?
How trusted is this tracking app? What data does that company collect, and who do they sell it to? How secure is it from third parties? Most of these apps are very insecure, super-easy to compromise (they're designed to not be detected, which is a hacker wet-dream). Lots of people would love to know when you're away from your home. It makes it easy to steal your packages or even break-in, and these apps have been used for that explicit purpose.
What other liability is there? In many lines of work, having such an app on your phone would be grounds for immediate termination or even criminal charges. Imagine a solider with such an app giving away his unit's position. Or what if they have some contractual obligation to maintain confidentiality. Maybe she cleans some famous person's house... now you have their address, which she would not be at liberty to disclose. Hell, maybe she just delivers pizzas, but that telemetry data over time reveals the geographic location trends and sales volumes of her employer's customers, which is valuable data to a competitor. There are so many possible abuses, many employers would immediately terminate any employee who had location tracking enabled.
Apps like this are great if you have young children, a disabled family member, or perhaps an older relative with dementia who's prone to wandering off. But you don't need to clandestinely track your spouse.
we didn’t need a whole fucking paragraph
@@wyatt.crashout I see nothing wrong with it. Sure, they could have put a TL;DR. If you didn't want to read a large comment you didn't have to.
@@wyatt.crashout just skip it then.
yeah if they are getting a tracking app then they need to talk about it. This seems like a HUGE lack of trust also they are being hypocrites saying not to get into other people's business while secretly putting a tracker on the girlfriend's phone.
That last story had me going “Whaaaaat?!” The OP should divorce this guy immediately because this is the start of a long train wreck of a marriage. Get out and save yourself some grief! “Ryan” is a manipulative, controlling, narcissistic asshat. Take a look at the sentence “He says I do a lot things he hates, but he puts up with it.” OP doesn’t see anything wrong with that sentence? That right there alone told me how this story was going to go. I was left scratching my head too at first because his demands made no sense, but more I thought about it, the more it sounds like he’s trying to control her. I’m willing to bet their whole relationship has been like this and now that they’re married, he’s really clamping down. This is exactly what happened to a friend of mine. When she her ex were just dating he was very cool and seemed like a nice guy. Over time though his true colors slowly began to emerge. In hindsight my friend says she saw the red flags right then but decided to ignore them and then they got married and her life became a living hell. He was emotionally abusive, controlling, manipulative, and cheated on her constantly. It go so bad she later told me she considered ending herself just to not have to deal with him anymore. Luckily though she pulled herself out of that and she and her kids got away. She’s much happier now and she’s like a completely different person. So yeah OP needs to get out.
Totally agree with you on that first story. The first thing I thought was anybody who would help put a tracking device on someone else’s phone would probably do the same to you.
Story 2: NTA; but I agree with rSlash, getting the money back is likely a lost cause, but instead of cutting them out entirely, just don't invite them birthdays and other similar family functions they could ruin. If they ask why, tell them plainly it's because they don't watch their kid and let them do whatever they want and no one wants a bad example around their kids. That'' piss her off, but it might also make her think.
Story 2: Trying to hijack a birthday because "Kids will be kids"? And then the mother of the kid proceeds to insult OP? Oh peck no!
Just have OPs kid destroy his cousin cake and then tell the mom "kids will be kids."
_"oh well, I don't care to take responsibility for my kid like I know I would have to, oh he grew up to be a murderously dangerous psychopath because I didn't care enough to raise him up as an actually functioning contributing member of society? Welp, psychopaths will be psychopaths!"_
@@Yumi_Jay ah, patient malicious compliance, _the best kind_ 😈
It's possible that the brat kid's mom put him up to at least blowing out the candles imo
The first story sounds creepy AND scary! Putting a GPS tracking on GF’s phone WITHOUT her consent, that’s a breach of privacy, disrespect and pretty much wrong!
Also, if the Brother did that to his own girlfriend, then the Boyfriend MIGHT’VE done the same to OP as well! Both OP AND GF should just dump these two “Controlling Creepy Jerks” and cut all contact with them!
Hell, OP should tell her PARENTS about what Dumb and Dumber had done, because I HIGHLY DOUBT that they’ll let Brother and Boyfriend get away with this kind of actions!
Tracking app story: NTA!!! Yes, tell his gf, she deserves to know just how she is going to be treated and respected in the future. Also, since YOUR bf installed the app you might want to have someone check over YOUR PHONE! Your brother may have gotten the idea from your bf. And the privacy and respect issues would then apply to you as well.🚩🚩🚩
A few thoughts on that last story:
a) I sincerely hope this is just a case of “this dude grew up in an incredibly sexually misinformed/strict family that considered tampons to be sinful” or something similar, cuz that’s the only way I can think of that he got it into his head that tampons are the enemy. Or maybe he visited some weird forums online.
b) That “you do a lot of things I hate but I put up with them” comment is concerning. In every couple, each person will have habits/preferences that _annoy_ or _frustrate_ the other, and that’s normal. There will be things that each person has to “put up” with. But if _hate_ is coming into the equation, that’s different. That’s something that really needs to be worked on.
c) This guy is very petulant and rude and has messed-up ideas about menstrual hygiene, but I don’t quite get “overly controlling” vibes (you could argue that throwing out the tampons is a way in which he’s overly controlling, but to me it seems to stem more from major insecurity). However, what worries me is the easy transition from “you do a lot of things I hate but I put up with them” to “nobody else will put up with you; you’re lucky I do,” which is emotionally abusive.
speaking as somebody on the spectrum themselves, our ocd quirks are quite essential for us to really cope. i myself have several due to being on the spectrum and if someone/something interfered in some way, it would drive me insane. hearing the story of op #3 hit right in the feels making me just imagine how much it would hurt me if someone messed up things that i am very ocd about and it definitely makes me feel uneasy. my sympathies for op #3 as somebody who has those types of issues themselves
Same here I was soo angry hearing how much his roommate violated him
@@fvckumean3380 maybe wrong word choice but ik ocd is a really bad condition and shouldn't be a thing that people go "oh im so ocd like that"
I can relate with the 3rd story I’m on the spectrum myself sure I don’t go that far with my stuff but I don’t like people touching my stuff a large amount of the time also it’s disrespecting bonders that any relationship has to fallow so I can understand the OPs reason for leaving
Yes definitely
THIS!!
I'm on the spectrum too and I have a few specific things I do/fidget with and if I lose them I can't even handle it.
I'm very specific with my phone, too. I don't like other people using it unless I'm right there, making sure they're not going through it.
He still should have told his roommate about moving out immediately. He may have paid up front, but finding a roommate isn't a 5 minute errand. I'd say everyone sucks here, but the strawberry dude a bit less than the bite stealing roommate
Best Solution to get back at the spoiled cousin is wait for his birthday party and then plant his face smack in the middle of his cake. And then tell him that's how the little cousin felt.
The problem with so many of these stories is that's it's only one side of the events. And usually written with anger/emotions.
Some sound really exaggerated.
Exactly. People go to that subreddit precisely to be told they did nothing wrong. We never get to know what actually happened. It's telling that in 99% of these stories rSlash doesn't consider OP the butthole.
Or they skim over important context to make things look a certain way.
Last Story: What the- WHY is that man so terrified of tampons? I don't understand at all. He needs therapy.
He seems really obsessed with trying to ensure that nothing but his penis enters OP's vagina.
maybe she needs to lay one just outside the bathroom to keep him away, ya know like some people do with cats and cucumbers
@@velvety2006 😂😂😂 I am actually laughing out loud, great idea!!!
Ikr, he said she should be considerate about his discomfort, but clearly isnt considerate about her discomfort with pads.
I've read that tampons are also useful in stopping the bleeding from bullet wound until the patient reaches surgery. If the husband keeps up at this rate he may wish they were around for that reason.
Aaaahh I love this comment 🤣🤣🤣
Oooo, savage! I love it.
We used a variety in ER for uncontrollable nosebleeds. Yes, just as you imagine. As they swell, it puts pressure on the nasal septum bleeder. Not pleasant, though
@@mred8002 I read somewhere that it doesn't help much because of internal bleeding and whatnot. Would you still recommend plugging the hole if someone gets shot though?
@@grootsyt They were used for pressure on the bleeding nasal septum, not just for absorbency; that was incidental. Before then, we would stuff yards of roller gauze up the nose with a long forceps…think of a curved tweezers. This was left for often a day, and then was removed. The removal was not pleasant for anyone involved, and often bleeding would resume, rinse and repeat. Another treatment was to touch the bleeding spot (using a nasal speculum to visualize) with a concentrated silver nitrate ‘match’ to burn the site. For penetration wounds, they would also put pressure on the surrounding tissue, and would be used with a direct pressure on the wound. Still only temporary measure until the site can be opened to tie or cauterize the bleeders. And be washed and derided. But, blood can filter through large areas of tissue, hence ‘bruising’ from hematoma formation.
Installing a problem such as a tracking app on a phone without the owners knowledge is a felony in every state. I personally am Australian, but I tracked down the original post and multiple people were citing the law.
I'd just lose it if somebody tossed out any of my sanitary products. Do you have any idea how expensive they are. That guy needs to grow up.
"My Boyfriend argued with me about being nosy and intrusive and told me to stay out of it!
He says as he LITERALLY ENABLED SOMEONE ELSE TO BE INTRUSIVE AND NOSY! The Hypocrisy in this statement!
If I discovered my husband threw away my tampons on the first day of my period, his favorite shirt would become my new period rag
I don’t know why but having someone read Reddit stories is more enjoyable the actually reading them
I have a theory of the controlling guy with the tampons. She said she only use tampons until recently, I think that means that she has a certain condition that makes it difficult to put tampons in. I think her boyfriend is worried that if she starts using tampons instead of pads that she'll feel different if they have sex. Which would make him an idiot as well as a controlling pig.
That last story about the husband who doesn't want his wife to use tampons really pi$$ed me off and it brought up a memory. This is all about control. I briefly dated a guy in the 90s who felt the same about tampons. Caught him throwing them away, I shut him down quick with "when you get your period, you can choose what you use to deal with it. As for me, it's MY choice!" He argued that tampons were dangerous/invasive and can cause medical problems but like you're guessing, I think he too thought it was a sexual competition, which is so bizarre. We didn't last because he also hated that I wore makeup and liked getting my nails/toes done.
They do and cause medical issue sometimes, it's just rare.
@@jakubrogacz6829 so do cheating ass husbands and boyfriends. They give STDs but ok
Imagine being jealous of a tampon lmaoooo
Opposite of sigma Chad
Third story: From the way he described his tick, having a roommate does not sound like a good idea. On the other hand roommates who steal food suck
Believe it or not, there are guys that think just like you stated. Intimidated by tampons. Ya and they are whacko! Greatfully there are not many of them, but I've heard stories over the years.
Enjoyed the stories today and thank you for sharing!
Last story: OP's husband is acting like he was legit traumatized by the fact there were tampons in his prescience. Like, what happened, did his older sisters used to torment him as a kid by shoving their tampons up his nose or something? There is NO rational reason for a man to act that insistent over his wife's use of feminine hygiene products. It's HER choice how to deal with these matters, the guy has NO say in it, PERIOD!
Thank you! You took the words right out of my mouth, this is a wonderful take on the subject ❤️
exclaimation point.
Hehe Period love the angry.pun. :p
Boyfriend calls OP “nosy and intrusive”, yet helps her brother spy on his girlfriend via a hidden tracking app on a phone the brother got for her…🤦🏼♀️
As for the cake story, small claims court, then cut them out of your lives.
As an AMAB Agender person I'd like to ask what the hell is up with these weird people who think that Tampons are something sexual. These people are insane.
"I had nothing to do with it!", he lied as naturally as he breathed.
So I kinda feel r/Slash glossed over a HUGE issue in story 5 and focused too hard on hating the tampons part but not the gaslighting or controlling behaviour. The husband had the audacity to throw away things that weren’t his to throw away and even snoop around to make sure OP wasn’t hiding anything from him and then had the audacity to call OP an emotional abuser for getting fed up with his bs? That’s not a 2.5 that’s got to be a strong 4 out of 5
1- Anyone who’s ok with help someone install a secret tracker on someone phone is untrustworthy and scummy. If you can’t trust you SO leave em.
If i was a kid and did that i would have seen every corner of the house by my mother, and then again by my father if he came home.
Story 4: My dad cheated on my mom before separating from us. I was 16 at the time. Me staying with Mom full time and just meeting with Dad occasionally really made a difference in how our relationships developed. OP wrote that his mom invited him over many times to stay at her new home and family and that he didn't want to do that. The mother didn't abandon her son, the son cut contact with his mom. She did abandon just her husband and not her child. It's really a horrible situation when you don't want to hurt your kid by forcing him into situations where he is miserable, but that also means that you lose your relationship. The only win is to go to family therapy. I would give Mom 3/5, stepdad 1.5/5 and OP 1.5/5 or in other words: everyone sucks here.
When she cheatead she hurted his ex husband and son. She ruined the family, then, she tried still going into contact with her son because SHE wanted to but she's not taking into consideration that his son hates his actual partner, they don't get along, so yeah, the mom is still at fault. I would never ever ever go out with someone my kids don't like. the come with me, we are a package (but I don't have kids, so I just need to think on me). She left his son, she made a new family, his son wanted love and to be listen to.
not dabney basically saying “bleed on everything he loves” 💀💀💀
Nothing like Rslash in the morning while I'm sitting in my office at work doing nothing. (I'm just an intake specialist. I call and email people and collect documents. But when I'm not talking to people I have nothing to do. I can't wait to find a new job.) Thank you for giving me something to watch so I'm not bored outta my mind.
Nothing better waking up with rSlash in your cup!
@@eksboks148 Rslash AND Folgers. Specifically Folgers Decaf. Caffeinated coffee makes me jittery.
15:12 that guy has no right to tell a woman, who is on the rag, about discomfort
Woah, besides the messy family situation, i think its definitely a life goal to make such a sneaky literature comment as the guy with the Anna Karenina Book.
Story 5: The husband is mad because the tampon is bigger than him
I can't agree with the rating of story 3. That roommate deserves at least 4 out of 5 buttholes. Messing with someone's self-soothing coping mechanisms, especially someone who is on the spectrum, after being told the importance of it, over and over again is absolutely disgusting. If you make the place where you and your roommate live a toxic environment that's extremely uncomfortable, it shouldn't come as a shock when they get out of there as fast as possible.
4 out of 5 is extreme, especially with how rarely rSlash hands that out, nevermind anything above that.
@@firesong7825 Messing with someone's mental health can be quite extreme. Depending on how bad it is, it could even lead to things like suicide.
I disagree with Rslash’s rating of OP. I think the OP deserves 2/5 AH for not even notifying his roommate that he’s left. If he had said I’m moving when he left I think it would be 0/5 but to leave and let them figure it out is a serious AH move.
@@mhammer3186 Not at all. This is OP's mental health we're talking about here. They had a mental breakdown and had to get out of there. OP wasn't on the lease, so they are not obligated to inform the roommate that they are leaving. You cannot blame someone for getting out of a mentally toxic environment.
@@AzureKyle I don’t blame them for leaving, like I said in my comment, if they had said I’m moving when they left is one thing but to not tell someone that your moving and let them take weeks to find out is a major AH move. All that time the roommate could’ve been looking for a new roommate but OP didn’t give them that chance by not being straightforward. You don’t get to be a shitty person then blame it on your mental health, like I said in the original comment, if he said he was leaving when he left then 0/5. It’s the fact you leave and don’t tell someone till the figure it out weeks later that is the AH move.
the second story, I'm shocked she suggested her sister pay for the bill, I would've told her she will pay for the cake for it
Story 2: Like I say, don't get mad, get even. If the cousin isn't willing to pay for the cake or even apologize in the least, well then, I guess that kid isn't going to get to eat his cake on his 7th birthday.
*First OP:* The title alone warrants an NTA from OP. She did the right thing, and she may need to break up with her bf. Ooh, rSlash made a good point; OP's (ex?) bf might have installed a tracking device on OP's phone!
*Second OP:* OP should've handled her cousin like the cousin's kid handled the cake :P In all seriousness, OP did the right thing. NTA.
*Third OP:* Cosigning rSlash here. OP is NTA.
*Fourth OP:* I just feel bad for OP. He's NTA but his mom and stepdad certainly are
*Fifth OP:* I wonder if OP's husband doesn't like OP using tampons because they're bigger than he is, and is just jealous. Either way, OP is NTA. LOL at the Malicious Compliance suggestion!
Good list
Agree
I dunno if I feel that bad for the 4th OP.
His mom tried to have a relationship with him, but he just pushed her away
that malicious compliance would be a pain to wash though
_"oh well, I don't care to take responsibility for my kid like I know I would have to, oh he grew up to be a murderously dangerous psychopath because I didn't care enough to raise him up as an actually functioning contributing member of society? Welp, psychopaths will be psychopaths!"_
As someone on the spectrum, story 3 pisses me off so much. "I'll become homeless because you couldn't spare 3 measly strawberries!?" No, you're gonna be homeless because you didn't respect your roommate and their mental health issues. It's not about the fucking strawberries, it's about OP's mental health. He stressed to the roommate not to eat his food because of his mental health, and the roommate chose to ignore it. So yeah, OP had a mental breakdown and left to better themselves. You need to respect someone's mental health issues and take them seriously.
Yes exactly this it is literally an attack on OP's psychological health. Especially terrible for denying it, that can really mess with people's mental health, being gaslit too. By lying he Laos shows that he can't be trusted, what if something of value were to go missing.....roommate already lies, could be them, can't live with someone willing to lie to your face.
I agree on that in my apartment too I absolutely hate when my roommates move my things and I am autistic
Bro, he had a meltdown over 3 STRAWBERRIES. 😂😂
@@bornadetorres No, he had a meltdown over his personal space being invaded when he clearly set boundaries that his roommate ignored. Like I said in my original post, it's not about the fucking strawberries.
@@bornadetorres autistic person hates when other people touch their things
Story 2: This is deeper than people realize. And I only say that because of the line where the EP starts belittling the mom and telling her everything that makes her not perfect. That's toxic, that's a red flag and for their kid to lash out and be so spoiled. You gotta realize that he's getting that from someone not from just being a kid.
I have a mom like that sadly, so take into account how the kid is acting and how she is acting and wonder. Is she saying those hurtful things to the kid as well? She's a single mom and the kid is probably a spitting image of the father and I know what excuse that gives to moms like that... Someone needs to check in on this kid and the mom
I agree with all of this except the last one: the BF should get 4/5. He's upset that she's not taking HIS discomfort into consideration, but he's perfectly fine not taking HER comfort into consideration. And trust me, swimming on blood is a LOT less comfortable than simply being weirded out.
SHE'S nosey and intrusive???? Who ARE these people??? TELL HER!!!! And tell bro and bf to gtfo.
I think she also needs to alert the authorities
@@eksboks148 Right!?
My first reaction/thought to it was WHY he felt the need to track her. Did he have suspicions of her cheating or something similar already and just wanted proof? If so the relationship was basically over anyways and such an app was not really needed anyways … or was he just stalkerish with no justification?
@@allfather9645 Yeah dunno but if you can't trust someone you should call off the engagement.
The cheating story; the book is far more brutal than you think. If I remember based on the comments, I think it's about the person who cheated but she was punished nonstop and her life was so heavily ruined that she ended herself. Cheating is bad and I think the bad never go OP therapy so instead of ever having to discuss this openly, it fueled OP's resentment. The update I believe, the mom helped OP get therapy and mom got mad at step dad for what he said to OP or how he treated him and Mon and OP are trying to mend things.
1st OP sounds like such a loving mother, she reminds me of my own and it nearly brings me to tears :')
Last story: RUN!! RUN AND DON'T LOOK BACK!!! "I didn't say anything to keep the peace" "He 'puts up with you'" Gaslighting you into thinking YOU are the abuser. Honey run run run run run far away. He is abusive and will wear you down (sounds like he's already doing that) to the point where you won't know up from down. He'll cut you off from your friends and family, then he'll start hitting you. And you'll think it's your fault. RUN DO NOT WALK away from that man!!
#1: Op, first off, DEFINETELY tell your brother's fiancee. Second, have YOUR phone checked IMMEDIATELY. And lastly DUMP YOUR BF and RUN for the hills. What he did is ILLEGAL.
Story 1:
BF: stop being nosy and intrusive and let me install a tracking app so your brother can be nosy and intrusive.
Lol, nta. Break up with this clueless jerk
My SO does a lot of things I hate too. Like load the dishwasher and the Tupperware cupboard 😂
7:50 I’m also in the autism spectrum with an eating disorder and that is a MASSIVE NO whenever someone even comes close or in the same room as me as I’m eating I can’t eat anymore which gets extremely annoying when I get something then I’m interrupted and have to get something else over and over and it’s a huge pain so what they did is just bad manners in general but for an autistic person with an eating disorder and to do it on purpose is a massive red flag like multiple time cheater level
So with that in mind I’d easily bump them up from 2 to 3 or 3.5bhs