r/AmITheA**hole for Letting My Friends Call My Wife "Ugly?"
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- Äas pĆidĂĄn 25. 07. 2024
- r/AmITheA**hole In today's episode, OP's wife is a professional makeup artist who takes great pride in her makeup. His friends, however, hate his wife's makeup and make fun of her behind her back. During a group hangout event, OP's friends mock his wife by saying that she looks like a cancer ward patient, causing his wife to cry and leave the event. OP tries to defend his friends by saying that it was just a joke. What do you think?
0:00 Intro
0:06 Married with separate finances
3:35 Too impatient for my wife to do her job
7:56 Coworker uses the wrong nickname
11:49 Guy doesn't stand up for his wife
15:24 This guy doesn't have his priorities straight
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You can HEAR the moment RSlash began to hate the OP in the second story lmaooo
The snotty entitled voice kinda gave it away, didn't it?
So much! Lol
Got to that bit
i was on ops side until i noticed his voice change. then i realized. classic. hes right to :D
@@wiaf8937 I was like wtf through the whole thing, I honestly loved R/slash getting pissed while reading
I love how rSlash progressively makes OP in the second story sound more and more childish as he read it. Like dude couldn't wait ten minutes for his wife to do what she needs to for her job.
Yesssss
Right? I wonder just how horrible he is generally.
I know, right? I reacted better to having to wait to eat when I was five.
I think the wife deserves like .0001/5 for not preparing a kids meal for him to eat right away
@@deceptiveoni710 same lol
In my opinion, calling someone "Bessie" against their will is calling them a (fat) cow and dehumanizing.
It said it wasnât the actual name but it was probably along the same vein.
Just gonna say this, but in the U.S. depending on what state you live in, intentionally calling someone by the wrong name is outright illegal. This is considered a form if harrasment.
Yea same and now Iâm thinking of witch Greek thing it is coming form
@@jacobcorturillo6537 it wasn't the actual name so it's basically impossible to know which character it's from
@@starfieldgames5976 My theory is Cassiopeia. It'd make sense for OP to then pick Pia as a nickname and "Bessie" would then instead be "Cassie". It fits, but naturally I don't know if it's the actual name
The story about the guy eating his wifeâs food went completely different from how I was expecting. I thought itâd be like, âoh every time we go out to eat my wife spends 10 minutes at the restaurant taking photos and showing it off on instagram etc etc and by the time sheâs done the foods gone cold.â But nope he was 100% the asshole in that scenario
She runs a business. This is how she makes money. What a loser
As soon as that guy at his birthday party described his friends as âbrutally honestâ, I knew which way the story was going. Iâve learned (from these videos, actually) that âbrutally honestâ basically means âasshole who has no tact and no regard for anyoneâs feelings but their ownâ.
HIGHKEY same lol. Maidenless behavior đ
People who call themselves "brutally honest" tend to be more concerned with the "brutal" part than the "honest" part.
Same here. "Oh my friends are brutally honest!" So important to mention that up front, but not so important to mention that your gf arranged this celebration until much later in the story? She should leave that whole circle of jerks alone to brutally honor each other and find someone who actually cares for her.
I agree, 'Brutally Honest' would be say 'I think you used too much makeup, (and, if you really wanna joke, but might still be jerkish) I can't see you under it' You've told her your honest opinion, and added in that you think she's prettier with less makeup! But no, the 'friend' went with a giant insult, then tries to cover it and make himself the victim by saying 'It's just a joke/prank bro!'
@@Kontaro431
She's a makeup artist.
If you don't like "heavy" makeup you don't date a makeup artist.
You can say that you don't think two colors she wears go well together or that a different shape would have looked better, but if the problem is that you like light makeup you're the one that messed up.
They didn't just say she's ugly (which is bad enough as it is, even more so because he didn't defend her), they insulted her job.
The literal job that is paying for that birthday meal.
Not only did the makeup story guy not defend his wife but "admitted that she overreacted" as if she's not allowed to have her own feelings. What an ass.
I mean...in my language we have a saying which would roughly translate to "By me I judge you" meaning that I think you will take something in one way bcs I would take it that way.
For example if I was in that story and they made fun of me for, well absolutely anything I wouldn't give a crap and without deeper thought would assume nobody would bcs why would they. And I assume op is the same in that regard and he doesn't see it as he let them insult his wife bcs he doesn't see joke insult as insult. I am the same way in that regard and I am trying to tone it down a bit bcs some people let themself get insulted by jokes for whatever reason but I would lie if I said that it doesn't annoy me.
@@zlyboby5317 I like to make these kinds of jokes as well. I've made it a rule though if I make a joke at someone else's expense and they give any sign of taking it negatively, I will immediately apologize. I want everyone to have a good time. I don't want to laugh AT anyone. I want to laugh with them.
@@Jcod_ On one hand yes, on the other hand I usually just stop talkig to that person unless I have to. Like my cousins gf that doesn't get those jokes so I stopped but now I feel like walking on eggshells around her which is extremely annoying
@@zlyboby5317 I've found that usually with my friends it is fine. Every once and a while though there having a bad day or it hits a sensitive topic for them. Someone who can't handle it at all would make me feel like I was walking on eggshells around them as well.
Tensions are high.
As a makeup artist who loves heavy makeup looks myself, OP is 100% the asshole. It's literally her job to do makeup, and even if it wasn't he should support his wife.
OP has less testosterone than the try guys.
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For the nickname story: can we get a round of applause for OPâs boss, Dave? The moment he started seeing the whole nickname fiasco escalate, she immediately tried to put Megan in her place. He warned her, she ignored it, and he punished her properly.
I love getting to see when bosses/managers actually stand up for and defend their employees. Thatâs how a workplace should be; not this weird, vitriolic battleground of trying to get one up over your coworkers.
Story 1: I don't understand how anything has changed just bc he's now broke... you're paying 100% of the bills and then making sure hes taken care of if/after you die. Now he expects you to leave his grown kids inheritance too?? No.
Yoyo story 4. Remember how Rslash read a story about.his wife and his Dr husband and his friends? And how she arranged for the party at. Restaurant? She also walked out on him. I think....this could be the other side the husband side of the story and yes he's an asshole hahah
100% agree, they signed a prenuptial and they kept finances 100% seperated and now its only an issue bc he wagered all his savings on his failing business and lost.
What has changed is that he no longer has money and he wants to have a lot of it. He lives off of her, and has the audacity to threaten her with ending their marriage if she doesn't change her will to benefit his kids. Good riddance, I say.
I agree it doesnât make sense
Right. Itd be one thing if she helped raise em or the assets were co owned but thats not the case. Hes such a dick.
I feel like the term "brutally honest" is code for "I want to get away with being cruel"
It is. Many people use this as an excuse when in fact they are just giant buttholes. I absolutely despise this.
Pretty much. Itâs a term people use to justify their friendsâ abusive tendencies to new people.
That's usually what it means.
People who tout "brutally honest" as a character trait are more interested in brutality, not honesty.
I feel like I would've burst into tears at that comment, I wonder if the friend would've apologised or not if the wife had got upset
The gender reveal appointment is so much more, its were they check brain, heart, spine, kidneys and loads more and it can be a devasting appointment if they find something is wrong. I remember being terrified going to my twins 20 week scan. There is so so much more than just finding out the gender. What an a hole.
Thatâs where the first gender reveal party came from-a woman whoâd suffered multiple miscarriages celebrating the fact that this child had survived and developed enough that those organs were distinguishable.
I was looking for this comment. It's disingenuous to call it the "gender reveal scan" when really that scan is the "hey buddy, do you have all your organs and are they all inside your body?" checking scan. My fiancé and I aren't planning to tell anyone about kids' genders until they're born, and you bet I'll be calling it the "organ checking scan" every time. Prioritize the important! I don't care if there's a girl bum, a boy bum, or a bum of indeterminate gender -- healthy baby I can take home with me is the goal every time.
Exactly. I was pregnant with twin girls and they had the misfortune of having teo malformations on the placenta. At 19 weeks we operated on the placenta but saddly the smallest girl passed away. I carried her momified little angel body untill the birth of my amazing fighter daugther by c section at 32 weeks. She is a perfectly healthy 10 months baby now. These ultrasounds are lifesaving, helping doctors perpare the route of babies. Left to nature I would have lost both babies
But can it be canceled or does it need to be on a specific date like the post said?
Lol I remember mine, I took one look at the scan image and was like, welp it's a boy
On the last story:
The âgenderâ scan is an anatomy scan. Ppl often over look the fact that this is one of the most important scans because this will reveal if there are any major health issues with your baby.
While most people just think of it as âoh yay I get to find out if itâs a boy or a girl!â Itâs much deeper than that. She couldâve been by herself finding out that their baby is incompatible with life or will have life long issues.
And no rescheduling is not easy. I found out I was pregnant recently and my dr wanted to see me in 3 weeks to get a date since I am a extremely high risk pregnancy, but they are so booked up I have to wait 2 months. Thatâs 2 months just wondering if my baby will even make it. And he wants her to reschedule a super important scan that could push them back weeks or months to get important info? Definitely a 4.5 AH score in my book.
It's not even the kid's gender you find out. It's what's between their legs.
@@kanebernier7692 you find out their objective gender you pansy. Yes maybe they will change it later in life but you find out their gender at the scan.
Maybe even 5/5
incompatible with life
There's nothing wrong with friends viciously insulting each other, pretty common. However everyone involved has to be good with it. You do not roast someone unless they're a part of that dynamic, and even then there's boundaries that you must respect.
For sure. I'm the kind of person who'll roast my friends and have them roast me back as we all act super, overdramatically upset. However, not everyone is ok with things like that and it took me a while to understand that. I hurt more than a few people I considered friends before really learning my lesson, even if it wasn't intentional. Once someone makes it clear something made them uncomfortable it's time to acknowledge that you were in the wrong, apologize, and make an effort not to do it again.
100% this!
I'm all for roasting, I think it's a form of endearment that is seriously underappreciated. That wasn't roasting, it was straight up humiliation. I hope for her sake that she left him by now.
Im just confuse. Didn't she know how they act? I admit the guy could of done something else. And if she knew that's how they act why invite them as she planned it?
@@nataliaalmeida-nacillustra5954 This is true. I also don't think certain things are appropriate to roast someone over (but that's just my opinion). One such thing is a person's looks. I get it's supposed to be fun and playful, but if you're roasting someone over their appearance that can be really damaging. Also, these people aren't HER friends. They're her SO's friends. Sure, they could also be her friends, but from her response of them being forced on her because the SO is friends with them I would place a bet on her not considering them friends (let alone close enough for something like roasting).
The whole nickname part was so disrespectful. OP was not in the wrong. What Megan did was just harassment.
Just address people by the name/names they say to use.
I was kinda expecting Megan not to get punished because she was related to the boss. I was pleasantly surprised.
If Lisa thinks it's no big deal to be called by another name, OP should start calling Lisa by some other random name and see how she likes it.
@@awmustang lol
I would have called her Meggie.
Op should have started calling her Bertha or something in return and see how she felt
Me, trans, listening to him rant about the importance of calling someone by the name they want to be called:
đ I feel so seen.
There's a later video where rSlash learns the term 'deadnaming,' has to look up what it means, and understands it completely.
Yeah, same here. I used to introduce myself with legal name, then preferred name. Nobody called me preferred name. So I dropped it to actually be respected. Annoying.
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@@Alakaizer do you know what video that is? I havenât seen it yet
His key qualifier is, intentionally calling the wrong name. I am very much against this as well, but am equally against people getting upset when it's an honest mistake. I was brought up to be very respectful, and often visit cultural settings where sir/ma'am are obligatory. So many people get upset when, as a reflex someone says sir or ma'am because, at a glance, or that's the clear birth gender, that's what they look like to them, or because that's what they sound like on the phone (this has even happened to me over the phone, actually, it happens a few times a year). This is basically punishing someone for trying to be respectful. When someone calls me ma'am on the phone, I simply say, it's sir, which given this happens after I give my name, really shouldn't be necessary, but it at least doesn't disincentivize respect.
6:45 you didn't have to do us 13 year olds like this we don't cry to our mommies like this grown man
Last story: the 20 week appointment isnât just where you learn the gender. Itâs an entire anatomy scan where they make sure the fetus is growing and developing properly and all of its organs are forming properly. Itâs where a ton of things are done and where some people find out their child is going to be born with major birth defects. Itâs super important and really hard to reschedule.
I found out at 16 weeks then had an anatomy scan at 20. Some countries do it differently but yeah he's still the asshole even it was solely for the gender reveal.
My partner found out he had the chance to go to a really important work conference the day of our gender scan and I changed it cuz I he wanted to be there so much... but that was for his career not a birthday party
If he thought that the party was more important then what other appointments/ events in this child's life will he ignore/ postpone for his friends?
Literally a family member of mine found out her child was going to be born with their intestines OUTSIDE of the body during the 20 week check up. So much planning and preparation went into the immediate surgery the child would have to endure shortly after its birth. The 20 week check up is not what should have been rescheduled. Dude is already starting out putting his child last.
When i was pregnant this appointment were like little dates to get a glimpse at my budding baby
The highest of happiness for me even though I had gestational diabetes and everything
I had to reschedule it about 5 times because its and hour long process and they kept scheduling it in a 30 minute slot.
For the "Bessie" story, what they could have done is replied with:
"Yes moron, what do you want?"
"why are you calling me moron?"
"that's your name, isn't it?"
"no, don't call me moron"
"don't call me Bessie then"
@Leroy Boone bullies tend to get really angry when you use their own logic on them
Wrong nickname? LOL. I'm the same way. I don't answer to either of the common nicknames for my name either. It's not my name, so I don't answer to it. I do answer to the Spanish variant of my name though (it is similar enough) as I grew up in Texas...
Ikr? I'd be like "I'm not a cow. If you like the name so much, you answer to it."
âIf you wouldnât have fought megan so hard over bessieâ
The point is she shouldnât have had to fight
Tbh by the 2nd story the husband was acting I assumed the wife was just a influencer, but the fact that she was a photographer who
specializes in food photography đđ
I thought this too! Totally would get it if she was just taking photos to show off on Instagram and letting the food go cold, but if it's a career? Totally different scenario!
Story 2: OP seriously canât wait 10 freaking minutes?! If heâs really THAT upset why doesnât he cook for himself? Like fr.
Because heâs a lazy and immature jerk
Right?! You can tell the opinion on the aita by the tone of the reading lmfao
Maybe it's not 10 minutes ? I saw people take 30 minutes to take photos of food, i just went to eat somewhere else.
@@GustavoOliverXD The post specifies 10 so that's all the information we have
By the way OP made it out to be, he had to wait like 30+ minutes which I would be upset about too but only 10!? Babies are more mature than OP!
Story 2: At first I thought OP was going to think that the pictures had already been taken and start serving himself, then his wife was going to come down and get upset. If that were the case, I'd say no buttholes, but geez OP. He was explictly told that the pictures hadn't been taken yet and decided to NOT JUST take food from 1 bowl, but INTENTIONALLY ruined every single dish.
And he just had to finally cave into not waiting when it's a full feast and not just a single dish she'd likely have more servings of to replace? What a disrespectful excuse of a man.
Yeah, very intentionally cruel. Just keep some snacks around, jerk. And it sounds like the jerk never even told the wife he was having trouble waiting for food
tbh, I thought the story was going into the direction of "So hey, I cooked food this time and didn't feel like I have to wait" but no, she cooked everything and he is complaining that he has to wait for a couple of minutes, what a child.
You know how that part did not make sense? that is how you know it is BS, so many people use reddit to practise theyr fiction writing and to see if people believe it, sometimes I think English professors or teachers are setting writing a reddit post as an assignment.
@@Right-Is-Right
Their*
And people do and say things that don't make sense in real life ALL the time
I was pregnant during 2021, so I had to go to EVERY appointment alone, including the sonogram where we find out the gender. My husband was really upset he wasn't allowed to be there with me. I asked them to write it down and put it in an envelope so I could find out with my husband and we could still share that moment.
OP missed out on a crucial moment in their pregnancy journey, I feel bad for his wife. Imagine how unsupported she feels
My husband and I have been through 4 pregnancies (3 living), and he would get upset when he had to work during any of my appointments even after 4 pregnancies... so this guy is just narcissistic and selfish.
I love this reasoning: Itâs selfish of you to go to a scheduled doctors appointment without me while itâs not selfish that I go to a birthday party even though I said Iâd be at the appointment.
âI have no choice,â is usually a complete lie too. You almost always have a choice, you just donât like one of the choices.
Heâs basically saying his friends come before his family
I love how âbrutally honestâ is code for âbeing an aholeâ. So cute!
The solution to that is boomerang that shit on them. See how they like it.
The moment he said "brutally honest" I almost threw up in my mouth.
"Brutal honesty" applies to children who don't have a filter yet. Not grown adults who should know better
Nope. I am brutally honest but am not an asshole unless I want to be. They are two different things
@@ToastyNoneofyourbusiness as a former teacher, I 100% agree with you. Children can be BRUTAL lol
So in the final story, OP claims his wife 'decieved' him by doing exactly what she said she was gonna do... That's NOT what the word means. LOL
"That word... you keep using it. I do not think it means what you think it means."
OP clearly doesn't understand other words too. He said he's not "'prioritizing" the party over his baby, but that they should do the baby thing another day. LOL, that's the very definition of prioritizing something.
"Bessie" is a very common name for cows, especially in books and cartoons. I think that's the reason Meagan wanted to use it so badly: So she can bully and insult OP, without anyone being able to prove it.
It was a placeholder name, not the actual nickname. It's likely the nickname was equally insulting.
*Regarding the last story:*
So OP says his wife is selfish for going to their *preplanned doctors appointment* without him yet he doesnât find himself selfish for putting his friends party over his literal soon to be child? The 20wk scan is VERY important, itâs not just about gender but itâs also about if the baby is forming correctly, itâs a full anatomy scan! Also he said she âwent behind his backâ, but she didnât, he literally says in the post that she said she was going no matter what, she told him beforehand so how did she go behind his back? OP seems like a manchild.
broooo the make-up story-what the fuck does that âjokeâ even mean? she looks like she came from a cancer ward? is her foundation too pale, is that what he meant? can he come up with a better joke that doesnât insult people who have a debilitating disease or someone just having fun with their look??? damn.
His friend managed not only to be rude to his wife but extremely offensive. That's some determination to be an A-hole right there.
Thats why its a joke.
Who are you to be the humour police in regard to whats offensive?
Guess you're one of the "tOo sOoN" kind of people after a tragedy.
Cause me saying a joke about cancer pacients in my circle of friends will magically cure them.
@@somedude6733
If you wanted to make an actual joke insult, here, I'll show you. I'll even explain the jokes after, since you apparently don't understand what jokes are.
"I dunno, she could lool great, is she still there under all that makeup?" (Feigning ignorance)
"She looks like a treat. Specifically a cake." (Makeup is caked on. Its a play on words, wit, basic intelligence.)
Now, once more..."you look like you belong on a cancer ward with all that makeup". The joke being...that she looks like she has cancer because cancer patients wear a lot of makeup on the ward?
No, that doesn't scan. Hell, if you want to make that tasteless joke, at least link it to someone being bald. THAT would be an offensive joke, one with a basic train of logic to it.
Being meaninglessly offensive is not why it is a joke. It is why it is either a bad joke, or not a joke. I can only assume that the idea that "haha aids" is a joke and punchline in one is because you and your friends are 13 and haven't quite captured how language works yet.
What it is, is a tasteless insult. Insults can be jokingly said between friends, this is normal, good fun. But they're still insults, not jokes, by definition. There's a reason you say them amongst friends...because you know its OK. That they'll take it.
That doesn't give you a blanket assumption that it will be OK everywhere. If you make that assumption, you have the responsibility of dealing with the consequences. And if someone takes offence and knocks your teeth out, you don't get to be offended.
I think they mean bc clowns often go to the cancer ward to cheer up the kids. Stupid joke through and through.
In the last story, OP even mentions how his wife specifically said that the appointment has to happen in a certain window of time and then OP just ignored that fact for his own narrative. OP is, ideally, an adult who can tell his friend that heâs sorry he has to miss the party, it shouldnât have been difficult
And couldn't they just go to the party later? These appointments don't even take the whole day, I'm sure he could've still enjoyed his oh-so-important party. This sounds like just the tip of a huge, toxic iceberg.
If the friend thinks their birthday is more important than a gender reveal appointment then OP really needs to reconsider their friend choices.
_especially_ as he remembered the birthday only last minute .. then how "important" could that birthday have been? that guy is such a joke
@@nataliaalmeida-nacillustra5954 Yeah, that kind happen to me althought wasn,t a gender reveal but it still was an important appoitment, I didn,t remember the appoiment so I was going to hang around with now a former friend, I stiil hang around with him (we were friends back there) but first I went to the appoiment.
Really an adult who forgets, then remembers, a friends birthday party, couldnât have been that important if he forgot in the first place, plus his friend will likely have another birthday next year! OMG what happens if another of his friends has a birthday party the same day as his wife is giving birth, honestly this man needs to get his priorities straight before this baby is born!!!
''She's trying to make me seem irresponsible and neglectful''
-the guy who neglected his wife's appointment for his besties bday party
In my high school cooking class, whenever someone wanted to take a few pictures of the food everyone in the group would wait for us. And most of our ages ranged from 16-17.
It's pretty sad that a grown adult can't even wait ten minutes for his wife to take a picture of the food she cooked, yet a group of 4-5 teenagers who haven't even eaten lunch yet can.
that guy isn't a grown adult,he is a giant baby...
The third story: what the fuck OP's co-worker is on about? Megan was the one being unprofessional, trying to force a nickname on OP she didn't liked, and she was the one who got herself into trouble, first by shouting in a office, and them when Dave told her to stop otherwise there would be consequences, she kept doing it;
And it's not even like OP ratted her out after Dave's ultimatum: he just happened to walk in the break room the moment she decided to call OP the nickname anyway. Also the whole "if you left Megan call you 'Bessie' (or whatever offensive nickname she was really calling OP) she'd let it go, but you made it a challenge" is BS;
If OP left her use that nickname, she would KEEP using it. Her insisting on it wasn't because she felt challenged, it's because she couldn't accept her being challenged and not allowed to do what she wants, because she's the niece of one of the owners;
She was being disruptive, disrespectful and annoying. Also one thing I noticed: Lisa was the only one of OP's co-workers that told OP to let Megan call her that. All others just told Megan to stop that. I feel Lisa was trying to get in Megan's good graces thinking she could get some brown-nosing with Megan's uncle being one of the owners.
I suspect Lisa has an (unfortunately common) mindset that âletting things goâ and ânot causing a fussâ are the appropriate behavioural norms in a situation like this. A lot of women are socialised from birth to be peacekeepers (often by sacrificing their own preferences for those of others) and subconsciously expect the same behaviour of other women. Itâs very possible that Lisa does feel that OP, at a basic level, was behaving improperly by stubbornly refusing to bend in order to ease the social situation.
Honestly, I know she wouldn't have pushed the issue so much if she wasn't related to one of the owners. She thought she could waltz in, push others around, and not get into trouble. With people like that this is just a show of their power and if she won the name game she would have just moved on to someone else to show her dominance in the company. She though she wouldn't get into trouble because of nepotism but OP shot that down fast! No one should be disrespected with their own name...
@@DeadDancers Yeah⊠extreme metaphor, but my first thought was, âYou should have just let him rape you instead of making it a challenge, then he would have gotten sick of itâŠâ
That's what I was thinking. The bit when Dave went to fire Megan after hearing her keep calling OP 'Bessie', it's not like OP finally had enough and went to tell Dave about it like a kid telling on their sibling to their mommy, he just heard it when he was walking into the room. Also, I agree with the whole challenge thing. Even if OP had left her completely, she would still keep on going with it. This is the case with stories about people's ex-lovers still being clinging about the person and still being unhealthily obsessed with them. Or most commonly, men sexually harassing a woman and the woman rejecting him, saying she's not interested. Or this same situation, but with the gender roles being reversed.
@@BeeWhistler Yep, bullies donât get bored they get bold.
Story 2: You know rSlash already knew that OP was TA when he gave OP a snotty entitled voice.
I had the sound off reading and was expecting the opposite. I thought that heâd be like op you need to get your wife some help for her social media addiction. And say no oneâs the asshole or something.
If this is the marriages one point of friction tho just make a second plate that doesnât have to be in a photo shoot.
If she was even a halfway decent photographer it wouldnât take a long time as sheâd just take about 50 shots in 5 minutes and check them after tho.
10 minutes? Dude couldnt wait 10 minutes for a meal?
I come from of a family that takes pictures of our food before we eat so I don't see the problem with taking a few minutes to take a picture
Plus, RSlash wanted to give the guy 5/5 AHs, but let him off because he saves those for his own reasons.
RSlash may be forced to cut this guy some slack, but I sure as hell wonât. What an immature, overgrown brat.
@@masterstylez6960 for 2 meals a day, for how many years? you'd get annoyed eventually eating room temp food everyday too. how many years do you think you would last before you get annoyed?
The nickname story gets me. I have a relatively uncommon name but it happens to be very similar to multiple other, more common names. So since I was very little I would be called by these more common variations or a weird mispronunciation of my name when it's honestly very simple. As a kid I would get EXTREMELY angry being called the wrong name. As I got older I chilled out about it, but now I'm back to being angry when people I've been working with for months STILL get my name wrong. After correcting them repeatedly.
My name may be uncommon but it's not hard to pronounce, it's only six letters long, and it's pretty straight forward as a name goes. People can't even spell it right 80% of the time! It's gotten to the point if someone can say it or spell it right first try it makes me unreasonably happy! That's how bad it is.
I've even considered legally changing my name but that's just too much of a pain. So yeah, in conclusion our names are tied very closely to our sense of self, so people getting them wrong, especially on purpose, just shows how little you respect someone. I'd say it's even worse than forgetting someone's name entirely, but that's me.
RSlash proving what a sweet husband and dad he is to the world got me feeling all warm n fuzzy
What the hell is wrong with these 'husbands?!' Destroying a food photoshoot, not defending your wife from the abusive and hurtful 'jokes' of your friends, choosing a birthday you almost forgot about over being with your wife during a life-changing event?! I'm either the single most out-of-touch husband on the planet or something because I just can't imagine hurting my wife's work, allowing anyone to insult my wife, and certainly NOT being there for her during all her doctors' appointments no matter what those appointments are for. If she wants me there, then there is no question, I'm there. Jerks!!! All of them... Jerks!!!
On a different aspect... I cook BBQ and all things related. Over the years I pride myself on coming up with alternatives for my vegetarian/vegan recipes so everyone enjoys the gettogether. I would be furious if someone preempted my serving up of the food. There is a reason NO one is allowed near my BBQ pit or kitchen when I'm cooking a mass meal. If I wanted to take photos of my plates before serving it, I damn well should be able to do that before anyone messes up the plates. Selfish jerk! Oh, and someone insults my wife. All hell would break loose! Spineless jerkwad.
Do your male friends also treat their wives well and fell disconnected from other husbands? Because yeah your comment is on point.
who said anything about abusive and hurtful jokes?
I assume you don't mess with your friends then?!
It's not clear from the post if the wife is close with the circle of friends but we only have OP's POV and because she was the one who invited them we can lean towards they all go along.
I honestly don't get how this is abuse.
You must be one of the people that assume that humour is always flowers and rainbows because it makes us laugh, when in reality most of the great humour comes from darker and more personal places, like the wife's obsession with makeup. That's what makes a good joke.
I understand if they were complete strangers, but the post itself suggests otherwise.
@@anna8328 - My married friends, single friends, the kids, and their spouses pretty much feel the same as me. Probably because if they didn't, we wouldn't have ever become friends and the kids know better than to be jerks to their spouses or they'd have to endure "A Lecture" from me and they dread those with a passion.
@@somedude6733 - Oh, trust me... I know the difference between jokes intended to engender laughter and those intended for pain. Here's an example of a funny joke to me. I'm a longtime wheelchair-bound guy that am the nemesis of all arches. I make jokes about my chair and situation all the time. However, when I was shopping for a vehicle, I told the sales guy what I was needing to load and unload my chair and the price range.
He thought it was funny to pull up in a Ford Festiva and suggested that I load my chair in the back and I could just crawl from the drivers' door to the back of the car to get my chair. While I make jokes, this guy made a mean-spirited joke and that was the intent.
In reference to the story specifically. Yes, I do joke around a lot with a lot of people, but I am very careful with their relationship partners as I do not share the same level of relationship with them as I do with my friends. Not realizing there is a difference is massively immature. Now, personally, I do not like makeup in general but would never comment on someone else's tastes unless I knew them very well, which is not the case in this story.
@@somedude6733
1) She's a MAKEUP ARTIST, it's her literal job.
2) From the post it was clear she invited them because it was his birthday but that they didn't get along.
3) A joke is only a joke if the target also laugh, otherwise it's bullying/verbal abuse.
Story 2: that guy is either somehow married at 6 years old or it's a troll post.
There's no way a grown man would excuse ruining his wife's job because he "couldn't wait to eat". Dude you're not gonna starve you're a grown ass man wtf
My ten year old cousin will go make himself a meal if his mom can't give him lunch right away. And he keeps his little sister away from mom's work if it's left out.
Story 2 guy is less capable that a ten year old.
The sad thing is, there are LOTS of guys like that. This is what bad parenting and a sexist environment will amount to. Men-children.
Apparently you never met a narcissist. Lucky you.
That's why I don't like putting family and work together, always ends bad.
OP will someday be shocked his wife wants a divorce
The whining in the second story was HILARIOUS
The one about the nickname: nope. You told her you didnât like it but she ignored it. He warned her and he ignored it. Sheâd probably do the same if you called her a nickname she didnât like.
The Nickname Story - Play a stupid game, win a stupid prize and thatâs exactly what OPâs coworker got! My full name is two syllables, but 99% of the time my family/friends call me by a nickname which is one syllable (think Stephanie to Steph), but no one especially not a work colleague has ever done this to me, if they ever did I hope I respond with as much grace as OP did! NTA in any way, shape or form OP! (And if that coworker is so deadset on you just answering to something that annoys you so much start calling her Prudence then insist itâs way cuter and âshe just needs to get used to itâ) đđđ
Thanks for the new vid rSlash, been a while and I got some catchinâ up to do đđ±đ
I would keep calling her âMaggyâ and see if she likes it
@@nationalinstituteofcheese3012 Maggy-Maggitty-Mag, the Magot.
@@nataliaalmeida-nacillustra5954 LMAO
If OP's coworker isn't going to call her by her preferred nickname, then OP doesn't have to dignify it with any sort of response. That's what got her on the hot seat, NOT OP's non-response.
@@nataliaalmeida-nacillustra5954 Perfect nickname.
Iâve never seen my partner so heated over one of these. Heâs a cook and the cooks pictures one sent him on a 10 min rant on why the guy deserved 10/5 AHs đđ
10/5? That sounds like he needs Imodium AD, STAT! đđđđđđđđđđ
You can't just asign someone that you've just met a nickname, especially one that's often used for cows. Megan dug her own grave by refusing to respect bounderis, acting a childish, acting like a snotty teenager, and then blaming others when her continued actions got her tanked.
I'm usually a laid back and chill type of guy but if someone insult my wife like that friend or no friend I would have just beat the crap out of them without hesitation ,
That last story pissed me off and also broke my heart. My partner has gone to every dr appointment with me this whole pregnancy and I couldnât imagine him telling me to reschedule our ultrasound because of a birthday party. That poor woman must be wondering who the hell she married
Honestly, the last story made me wonder if its too late for that wife to get an abortion. This is a big red flag of the times to come. I'm just saying to the OP, do you really want to give birth to this man's child? Think about it. Its 18 years of his personal whims being prioritized over the kid.
Not to mention, how long is one of those appointments? An hour or so? How long does a party last? Usually longer than that, and unless theyâre happening at exactly the same time, you could probably come in for the tail end of the party. And even if you couldnât, just face time the friend! If heâs an adult and good friend, heâll understand that you canât make it! Hell, use the call to tell the friend what the gender is! Good lord.
Doctor's appointments especially related to pregnancy are like THE PREMIER get out of jail free card for social events. Everyone understands immediately when they hear the words "doctor" and "pregnancy"
Maybe the only events that would be tied are if you were a pallbearer or going to a close friend or loved one's funeral or you were the best man at a wedding.
Welcome to being a parent where sometimes you're going to have to miss parties. That your children are always going to have to become first before you and before your socializing.
I feel this so hard, my partner has come to all my appointments, even the simple check in one where they mostly just ask how im doing and if i have any concerns. It would break my heart if he suddenly told me to reschedule just because of a friends birthday. I cant even imagine how deep thats got to cut, i feel so bad for this woman
5th story: OP lied right from the get go. He said the gender reveal "was very important" to him, yet he decided that his friend's birthday was even ,ore important. OP is the B*tthole.
I had a boss that gave me a ribbing missing work to be at the birth of my son. Oh well. Family before work/job. Wife needed my support more than work needed me. The pay proved that.
@Dreamz Every appointment in pregnancy is incredibly important and have to be taken through every trimester. They need to check to see if its brain, organs, heart are properly developing and so that they can see birth defects or any complications during the pregnancy. Also, if they were to reschedule they would have to wait for MONTHS before an opening would be available because there are hundreds of other people getting those same appointments and checkups done; so if they had rescheduled, they would have had to HOPE that nothing was wrong and that there were no complications with the fetus. OP chose to go to a party instead, Wife did nothing wrong
Last one: he could have shown up at the party late. Even the wife said it's a hard one reschedule. Completely the AH. Even tried to make his wife seem selfish.
Story 2 - Lisa sounds like a major pushover. OP is definitely NTA, unwanted nicknames are incredibly frustrating.
Story 3 - There's a difference between roasting in a friendly way and flat out being rude and disrespectful. I think most people would be embarrassed if multiple people were laughing at them for their appearance.
The funniest thing about the last story is that the guy says "I said I had no choice" , he chose to go to the party but he could've chosen to skip the party and go to the appointment, two distinct posible things he could had done đ€Ł
"had no choice"??? Nope
Appointments like that are notoriously hard to get, he could have gone to the party afterwards, and let his friends know the gender into the bargain.
I once had a coworker decide it would be funny to start calling me by a completely different name that had one syllable in common with my real name. I told her that it's not my name, bet despite all of my other coworkers also correcting her, she insisted on calling me the wrong name. It got to the point that I would ignore her when she used the wrong name. Then she would say my correct name in a mocking tone. But once we were done interacting, she would say "Thanks, !" One day, we were in a meeting with a high-up manager and about 20 other coworkers. She called me the wrong name in front of the manager. The manager looked right at her and asked "You've been working with him for over a year, and you don't know his name?" in a tone that implied "why is this idiot working for me?" There were a few titters of laughter, and she turned beet red. She always called me by my correct name after that.
that's perfect justice and karma
Play stupid game win stupid prize.
Literally lol
See, I was going to disagree with your last assessment, but then I read some of the comments on this video. My first thought was, "As a woman, that appointment can be rescheduled, a whole birthday party can't. OP is NTA." But I didn't realize that the gender-reveal appointment had so many extra things attached to it. Things that can't, or at least shouldn't, wait. So now I have to agree that OP is 100% the AH. (Obviously I have no children yet haha.)
The second story is insane. He made it sound like she was making him wait 40 minutes for this but it's... It's 10 minutes? It's really not that long
The last one is even more stupid than it sounds. A pregnant woman needs to do certain kinds of ultrassounds in each trimester, to look for diferent birth defects and possible complications during child labor
If they delay it a few weeks (what would realistically happen if it was rescheduled), they would miss that window, because then the baby gets too big for the doctor to get a good look at certain things, and REALLY important shit could go unseen for some birthday party.
It's not just that he really should be there for his wife, delaying an ultrasound a few weeks just isn't a reasonable option
He never said to delay it a few weeks though, it could well have been a few days. I do agree that OP is 100% wrong if there was no possibility of rescheduling it, but I dont think the option should have been dismissed so quickly. People inevitably miss appointments for various reasons, so I think they could have at least tried to see if it was possible. If the story is accurate it kinda just seems like the wife cut communication without actually addressing a possible solution.
@@seb3209 appointments like this are really hard to re-schedule, it's not like they could just go on the next day. Doctors have appointments like this booked in advance because it's not something quick and easy to get done. Ops wife and the baby's health is far more important than a birthday party, so his wife was absolutely in the right to shut it down immediately and go to her appointment as scheduled
@@KuroAlis It probably depends on how important the party was to OP but you cannot say it was impossible or very hard because you objectively do not know. My problem is she didn't even consider it. Sure, if nothing came of it then OP would be the asshole for the way he reacted. Even if it was too much of a hassle, and his wife knew that it was going to be impossible, then she should have made that clear to OP instead of just not talking to him about it.
@@seb3209 as other commenters have mentioned (also mentioned in the story) these test have to be done at specific times, putting it off could mean not being able to get certain tests done well or at all. Appointments like this can take multiple hours and doctors often book up entire weeks in advance, so unless somebody else re-scheduled as well, it's entirely possible she would have to wait more than a week. More importantly as the mother she has every right to just go through with her appointments as she sees fit and feels comfortable with. She's the one growing a human, if he doesn't want to come for some birthday party, that's a him problem. Pregnancy is stressful in general, trying to dance around ops 'fun time' that he remembered last second would be frankly stupid.
@@seb3209 rescheduling IS delaying.
10:16 - She got HERSELF in trouble. She was repeatedly yelling the same unwanted nickname. That's what a school bully does.
And speaking of acting like a child, the second story. Holy shit. Yes, it WAS sabotage. He outright admitted to taking a piece of EVERY dish that was prepared, specifically after she left to get her camera, specifically to 'get back' at her asking him to wait for a whole TEN MINUTES.
That guy is lucky enough to even have his wife cook for him.
I had a friend in high school who wanted to give me her own personal nickname. And you know what she did? She asked my permission! She ran any idea she came up with by me first before choosing it so that she would know I was ok with what she chose. Because she knew how to show basic respect to someone. We're still friends to this day (though the nickname she chose never really stuck).
story 4: sometimes mutual insults are baked into a group's social dynamic and are not meant with malice, with that said that particular one was incredibly tasteless
Yeah we don't know if his wife joins in on the jokes about the others but has then got annoyed when they start to joke back.
@@reevarwow245 From the way she responded afterwards, saying that she felt his friends had been forced upon her because they were together, I doubt that this is the first time she's expressed being upset about their antics. Plus, if she's not ok with it that should be the end of the discussion. Jokes are meant to be funny, but if the person you're making jokes about isn't laughing along then you're just being mean.
Yeah, even if that was the group dynamic, Austin should have apologized when he saw his comment genuinely hurt her instead of acting like she just couldnât take a joke.
This wasnât even an isolated incident too. He started off the post by saying his friends and family usually make these types of jokes. He literally lets his friends and family insult and humiliate her, and when she tries to defend herself this time he disregards her infront of everyone, at a party that SHE organized. Thatâs another level of entitlement
Story 3: Trying to force a nickname onto someone that they don't want is one of the trashiest things to do to someone. Don't be surprised when they don't respond to the nickname you want to give them.
I love how even head honcho Dave told Megan to cut that shit out and not call her Bessie
It wasn't just trashy, the way it went down it was an obvious power play. The coworker basically said: "What you want is not as important as what I want."
Megan: I'm related to the owner, so I get what I want, no matter what.
Owner: I need you to stop calling her that.
Megan: No.
Owner:
Megan:
I wonder if the owner had to yell at her parents as well.
She was shouting it loudly across the room in a *sing song voice?!* Where does she think she is, fucking middle school?! Thatâs middle school bully tactics! The owner should have fired her for not being mature enough to handle herself in a professional environment!
@@BenKonosky Considering that she was acting like a child, he totally should have called her parents.
People tend to embellish the truth so if this is OP's (Second story) way of making him the victim in this situation than the reality must be WAY worse.
Good for OP in the nickname story. I hate being called "V" and was called that after I switched schools in HS (apparently Veronica is too long) and insisted on Veronica in college. Two of my housemates in college would call me V and it wasn't worth the fight after a couple corrections but I had gotten used to not responding to V and they would get so annoyed if I didn't realize they were calling me. Oops. I also have people constantly call me Victoria but that's because they forget my name so I just respond to it after a couple of corrections because it's just easier. It would be different if it was deliberate. Glad Megan got written up.
If the person targeted by the "joke" doesn't find it funny, or even worse finds it offensive/hurtful, it could even be considered as a form of bullying. If you feel bad after a joke at your expense then call the person who made it out on it. If someone is truly your friend they will understand and be more mindful.
Exactly. It's not a joke unless everyone laughs. It's not a prank unless the victim is smiling too. If the only person laughing is you, you're a jerk. If the victim is the only one not laughing, you're bullying.
Pretty good rule of thumb
I've heard this called "shchrodinger's douchebag" online. Where the jerk in question makes an offensive remark, then based on the audience's reaction will decide if it was a joke or not
A form of bullying?? It's textbook bullying.
Seriously. If I made a joke and it upset someone, I would apologize and feel embarrassed.
@@gokuxsephiroth4505 a joke is only if "everyone" laughs? No it's not. If I have a different taste of humor than Person Nr. 3 and he don't laugh but everyone else I'm a jerk? If the person who's in the core of the joke not laugh or find it amusing than I'm the jerk.
You don't get to pick what people are called, even if you think there is a version of their name that you like better. You call them the name they tell you they prefer. Sure, it's fine if a nickname comes up naturally. But if they tell you they don't like it, you don't use it. Simple.
I always make it clear to people that one of my nicknames is only reserved for family/very close friends and that calling me by it is not appropriate. I feel for OP.
Also, what is that coworker's logic? "She would have stopped if you hadn't challenged her!" No, she wouldn't? She would have taken it as an okay to keep doing it regardless!
I had a teacher who used to call me trouble (I was a shitty kid) while was in middle school and she still did even after all the drama, so every time she called me trouble, (she was ms. Nikki) I always responded with Nicole, didn't even get in trouble
Exactly. I sometimes like to use nicknames for coworkers and friends, but I ask them if it's ok first. Like I have a coworker named Daniel so I asked him if he prefers Daniel, Dan, or Danny, and he told me Danny, so I call him Danny. Meanwhile, this girl would probably start calling him Dan.
It's one thing if you happen to come up with a nickname that they hadn't thought of before and they end up liking it. You're more than free to pitch a suggestion and see if they like it, but if they tell you "no, I don't like that, please call me 'nickname'", then back off and respect their wishes.
I love how slash always insults the useless husbands/fathers.
There are times when you need to help your partner realize that they are the one in the wrong but the second to last story with the makeup is not one of them.
3rd Story: OP is 100% NAH here...She was clear with Megan that she did not want to be called "Bessie" and even told her what she wanted to be addressed as. It begins and ends there! You can't just change a person's name/nickname just because you don't like it. I've had to deal with this kind of thing too, my name is Remy...but at a job I had a guy would call me "Rem" which I hate...after telling him 3 times to not call me that, and use my actual name, I stopped responding...2 days later he got the message! Too bad Megan was too much of an AH to realize that she was in the wrong here.
Lisa gets 1/5 AH for trying to put this on OP that Megan got in trouble
Megan gets 2.5/5 for the constant harassment with a name OP hates!
Really? I mean, it's just two six years old arguing about nothing. The "nicknamed" woman literally put the responsibility to "name" her into her hands and expect her enemy to do something about it instead of actually sending enmity back at her. Why not just simply name her something back? She just had to name her back Robert or Rex, or something, and not give that madwoman a reason to continue her bullying.
"NAH" means "no asshole here" on Reddit, meaning neither party is at fault in the situation. You might be meaning "NTA"
I have a friend I've known since my early teens, so around 20 years There was a spell when they would call me by a nickname. I don't like nicknames attached to, my name isn't very long to begin with and most nicknames tend to be rather... unflattering. Eventually I managed to make my friend stop using the nickname. But we were friends already and basically kids. Not grown ass adults who were just introduced.
Not to mention how immature she was being. Like a little kid yelling âmommyâ over and over again to get attention.
@@FlorestanTrement Any trans person will tell you that you can't do that. I'm nb and use my given name, but I have friends who deal with dead naming, and it hurts. Even as revenge, false identifying isn't okay. It's just a knee-jerk reaction.
Last story:
OP: "Finding out the gender of my firstborn with my wife is very important to me."
Also OP: "BuT I wAnT bIrThDaY cAke!!!1"
Dude, birthdays happen every year, it's not a big deal. Really agree with rSlash here; was it really that important if he forgot about it?
Also what adults birthday party is the same length and time of day as a doctors appointment? They could have easily gone after surely? Likeappoinment at 5 meet friend at 7?
It's insane to me how someone like OP in the 2nd story can type out their whole explanation without realizing how utterly wrong they are. He didn't even apologize!!
The second story reminds me of the first season of Top Chef. Tom Colicchio was frustrated and annoyed by how long the camera crew took to get glamour shots of all the dishes, leading to them deciding in future seasons that contestants had to prepare an extra dish for the photographers, so that the judges could eat the food fresh.
The last story, there's an even more depressing image of this story. Before the child is even born, OP prioritizes a birthday over a life-impacting moment with his family. Who knows what he'll prioritize after the child is born? She'll more than likely be neglected by him, given that he is such a stubborn AH.
Right? It wouldnât be much trouble to tell the friend why he canât make it. And if the friend guilts him or something over it, the friend is an AH.
"Can't their graduation/wedding be rescheduled? I have a party to go to! I know it's tomorrow, but still!"
When the person said the food photographer took forever I was expecting they were waiting like half an hour to eat, not ten freaking minutes
The level of selfish immaturity in many of these stories is just plain sad.
rSlash out here going for the throat on all the bad partners today. Glad that you're such a great point of reference for these sorts of situations, your relationship and the way you view relationships sounds really healthy and wholesome
Story 2: Man gets 4/5 "just because this this didn't involve child abuse, but you're basically pure evil OP!"
Let's do some thought exercises, alternate Story 2 A, where OP cooks himself a meal, which is effectively a slap in his wife's face by wordlessly informing her that she's bad at her job and forcing her to throw away what she won't eat, using HER kitchen despite it being HER work place where SHE makes HER money. And alternate Story 2 B, where OP gets takeout, wasting money and food after SHE spent hours preparing HER meals that will go to waste because he decided that HER food wasn't good enough.
Story 2a: Man gets 4/5 "just because this this didn't involve child abuse, but you're basically pure evil OP!"
Story 2b: Man gets 4/5 "just because this this didn't involve child abuse, but you're basically pure evil OP!"
The only way for OP in this story to not earn a 4/5 for rSlash, would've been if he'd killed himself on a livestream to him.
Story 3: Isnât the nickname Bessie a common nickname for cows? Idk, I feel like if OP let the co-worker call her that, she would be calling OP a cow.
Hey that was my Grandma's name! Of course she was born in 1912. Not her fault that her name eventually became a name for cows. LOL
My name is Bessy, it's a common Latina name apparently
Seriously, I thought the same thing! I've only ever heard "Bessie" in reference to cows! I'm so glad you actually brought that up!
âBessieâ isnât the actual nickname-OP changed it to maintain anonymity. However, one can presume that it reflects OPâs feelings about the actual nickname.
10:33 Wtf is the coworker on? OP was not making any deal out of the nickname lol. Megan was the one who resulted to SCREAMING ACROSS A ROOM and ANNOYING OP INTO SUBMITTING to the nickname. Like wtf? Literally who cares. Itâs OPâs name, they choose what they go by
Last story: It's just so obvious that OP just didn't wanna go to that appointment with his wife. an Ultrasound exam for pregnant women, including the baby-gender-reveal, takes 10, maybe 15 minutes, top. That's it. Including discussing some stuff afterwards with the doctor, that'd be like a total of maybe 30 minutes spent on that appointment. If he really wanted to go, he could've just called his friend and told'em "Hey, I'll be late by X amount of time because we've got a medical appoointment, but we'll be present afterward."
The nickname story: if OP was transgender and that coworker was using her deadname instead of their preferred one, that would be a lawsuit.
The Gender Reveal Story - so OP decided to attend a birthday party (that he FORGOT) instead of going with his wife to an ultrasound appointment. Wow. WOW.
I do think it has more to it than he made it up to be. Tip of a very toxic iceberg.
If he can wait hours for her to cook he can wait 10 minutes for her to do her job thatâs bringing them income. He should just treat it like part of the cooking process and stay away.
It's not her job though - the way OP describes it, it sounds like just a hobby. Rslash assumed it was a business, but there's no indication of that in the actual post.
@@GoldenSunAlex even then 10 minutes is part of the process of something sheâs doing for herself that he gets to reap the benefits off.
I agree with rslash that itâs probably a troll or the wronged party writing from the other perspective to prove a point because things like the way he described eating from every dish instead on just one sound to self aware for someone who thinks theyâre in the right
@@GoldenSunAlex He could have omitted the part of it being her job to try a pathetic attempt to make himself look better because he knows he was in the wrong and wants his audience to validate him
@@morgandouglas6014 That's speculation though. All we know is she has a website where she posts pictures of the meals she cooks. That's it. Even if we ignore the fact that it's a) pretty common for people to do that and b) those don't make good businesses, rslash just assumed it was a business.
Assuming he omitted something like that it making a supposition ontop of a supposition, and when you do that, you only end up with crazy.
@@GoldenSunAlex doesn't matter. If someone says wait you wait. He didn't cook it so he doesn't get to ruin it. All she asked for was just a few minutes to take some pictures and he couldn't even respect her and her efforts enough to do that. Also if her blog or insta is doing really good she could be making money from it.
"but mommy, I'm hungry!" Lmao
Dude, I listen to a lot of Reddit narrators but you're the king! I love your voices lol
Youâre such a great guy!!đ„°Itâs so refreshing to hear a real gentleman talk about his wife like you do! Thanks for that!đ Some of us ladies are luckier than others!â€ïž
Story 4: The "insulting" friend relationship is between OP and OP's friends, they can shit on OP all they want, as soon as they start ATTACKING OP's wife they are in the wrong, and OP too for defending them.
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Facts
She was fishing for compliments and got what she deserved.
@@aarongoodrich6903 She asked her husband how her makeup looked. That's not something strange at all, especially when makeup is literally her JOB. It's not like she was asking his friends what they thought.
@@aarongoodrich6903 How is asking your own husband to check and make sure you didn't overlook a makeup or wardrobe malfunction, deserving of getting herself and cancer patients insulted????
"I fought her, so it became challange" - this is description of how CHILD would behave. Why ppl in workplace are defending other coworkers by treating her like a child?
4th story, "Guy doesn't stand up for his wife" I feel like we have heard this story before, but from the wife's side, and it was about the husband being a doctor and his doctor co-workers insisted she leave because they wanted to talk doctor stuff without her there even though she set up the dinner. Lots of details are different, but the framework is identical. Husband and Wife have a conflict, Wife sets up dinner for birthday. Husband invites friends that the Wife doesn't like. Wife has to uber home from the party she paid for/set up because her Husband took his friend's side.
Well that's really fucked up... Divorce is the answer.
I love how r/ is very family centerd and you can tell he's litterally disgusted with people dissrespecting their spouces and he gets really passionate when he starts talking about the joys of having children and getting married
As a trans guy, the name thing is very relatable to me. That coworker is a b*tch. Your name is *part of your identity.* Someone not respecting that is a major AH.
She's also horribly childish.
Yeah thats where my mind went, its that same kind of disrespect on a basic and human level that someone doesn't even have the decency to allow another person to self-identify.
@@Nekulturny my sister is trans and I would be SO pissed if someone did this to her. Why do people think it's necessary to tell others who they should or should not be? My dad sometimes still uses her dead name and I make a point to very annoyingly and slowly correct him everytime, especially when he does it in front of other people.
@@nataliaalmeida-nacillustra5954 I love this!! After 2 years of being out and my grand mother still not respecting my name, I also decided to use humiliation. Her narcissism did not like that and she stopped really quickly. Some people's dedication to assholery is astonishing to me, especially when being decent is SO EASY.
@@soulgazer11 right? Being nice is just so much easier. My sister got kind of lucky with my family though. Both my grandmas told her they'd love her anyway and one of them said "she was always beautiful, but she's going to look gorgeous now. Like a model". I was so relieved they didn't freak out or something because of their age... But yeah, my dad is also a narcissist lol so I guess that's why it works so well!
Why do we have to bend the knee to assholes so much anyway?? Story 3 infuriates me because weâre all taught from childhood that being polite and respectful is a fundamental lesson of life. Yet why do we, the civilized human beings of the world, have to constantly bend the knee to these stunted amoral rude and narcissistic loons? Itâs not fair, and Iâm tired of this ârules for thee and not for meâ crap.
OP is DEFINITELY innocent without any question, that co worker and the girl that called her Bessie are just idiots. The former is a coward wanting to âkeep the peaceâ and the latter is a mean spirited and smug bully who canât accept she was wrong.
I think the 2nd owner's daughter has that mentality of "my father is the owner of this company so I can't get in any trouble and can get away with anything"
@@nightrayneraven1323 Its certainly possible, honestly..
False idea that bullies do it to get a rise out of you, so ignoring them means they'll stop bullying you. They don't. They'll just hit harder and harder because there are no consequences for their bad behavior.
It's also easier for bystanders to tell victims to put up with it than it is for them to discipline the perpetrator. They like it because they don't have to do anything, and bullies like it because they don't face consequences
What is with all these horrible husbands in the video today? Like, do you not care about the people you married? Do you not care about the family you chose? Itâs really sad anyone has to put up with a husband like any of the husbands mentioned in these stories.
Iâve been through a very similar situation when it comes to nicknames. I donât like having a nickname aside from an inside family joke name, but I just have one girl in a class that just wonât stop trying to call me Cassidy. I just say âWho? I donât think anyone by that name is hereâ when she tries. She hasnât relented, even though Iâve made it very clear that I want people to call me by my actual name. Iâll just keep doing my thing until she finally gives up, cause I will not let anyone take away the one thing that is mine and mine alone
*Story 1:* Oh so finances are seperate until hubby's precious babies loses their stuff? That's not how it works, he wanted his kids to have the business, and his kids only. But now that his business is gone, OP has to share? NTA
*Story 2:* Dude, patience is a virtue. No one stopped you from getting up and having a snack if you're 'soooo starving'. Who the hell loses appetite from having to wait a bit?! Also wut? "I ruined your pictures take that!" Wow he sucks, YTA. To add insult to injury, this wasn't her delaying the typical dinner for photos, it was a PROJECT specifically made for pictures, that just happened to be eaten afterwards, honestly his wife should just cook the meals, take her pictures, take some for herself and drive the rest to the nearest shelter
*Story 3:* Hmmm I must've missed the part where OP specifically said 'Please asign any nickname you think I should have to me', oh wait they didn't? Yeah, NTA. Like...I can see my friends asigning a nickname to me and calling me that, sure fine whatever. This lady ain't OPs friend, relative or anything, she's just a coworker. Also, wow. The audacity. "You're so awful because my harassment of you got so loud I interupted someone's work and got in trouble! Waaaaaah"
*Story 4:* "So my friends and family sometimes makes fun of my wife", yeah Imma have to stop you right there. YTA. I swear I hear 'just brutally honest' ONE MORE TIME-
*Story 5:* Sometimes you need to pick what's more important, working overtime one day so you MIGHT get a promotion, or taking your daughter to a concert she's waited an entire year to go to. Or in this case, friends birthday party or the gender reveal of his kid....One of those two only happen once. He doesn't get to pick his buddy and then throw a fit when the rest of the world isn't put on hold for him. This is not Harry Potter and there are no time turners, he made a choice, he doesn't get to whine about it having consequences. YTA. He was selfish and neglectful, she didn't make him look like anything he was not
just brutally honest (jk)
@@anticstudios *we're currently experiencing some technical difficulties*
@@MiraTheWarlock TECHNICAL DIFFICULTYS INTENSIFIES
@@JC_923 Some cancelations cost money though... and she didn't go behind his back he knew about the date of that appointment.
@UCtBzlAaFuGvuYx8677iRXPg Yeah it won't last bc of the hubby. He literally chose a party, that he forgot about, over going to the appointment. Prenatal appointments are so scheduled and strict that she most likely couldn't just cancel the day of and reschedule it anytime soon afterward. Now without a big fee attached.
Besides, he knew about the appointment for awhile beforehand, so it's not like she went behind his back. And after he insisted he had to go to this party rather than **learn the gender of his own child** she went with her mom. I don't see the reason why she's the bitch of the situation.
Story 2: If i had a wife that made amazing meals like that, That i didn't even have to cook, And the only price to pay was to wait for her to be done taking pictures of it? I'd wait for as long as i needed to, Because i don't act like an impatient 10 year old.
(Also not to mention that what she does LITERALLY pays the bills)
I had a coworker with red hair (I do too), but she also had a weird name I never heard of before. I talked to her and by the end of the conversation we became friends and agreed I could call her Ginger. Because of her hair and her spicy personality lol. We loved it and would had a great time. Then we got a new coworker who decided SHE deserved to call my friend Ginger too. But Ginger just didn't like the tone the coworker said it in so asked her never to say it again. The new coworker was insulted by this and for the last year my friend worked the coworker tried so hard to get a new nickname to stick and get others to say it too. But Ginger by this point had a nickname everyone else liked and non of the new ones stuck around. And Ginger never responded to them cause the coworker never told her about the new name. It's been a couple years since my friend left for better work and that other coworker is still trying out nicknames for people. But none stick and she still won't tell the people that she wants to call them something else. and yet I have had a few teenagers start working with us and get nicknames all the time. Why? cause they're kids who think it's funny. It's really all in the tone and being friendly with the people. If your mean then no one is going to want a nickname from you. And ASKING! If a nickname is said no to then you never use it. And usually letting the person choose their own nickname is a far better option.
Just saying" well I don't like that nickname so you need to be called this instead" is just plan rude and uncalled for. Respect the people around you and the names they prefer!
I love the fact that Rslash talks about how people need to respect names
No one says my name right and I'm sick of it I've just stopped listening to people if they dont say it right and no one ever does so I've given up and have just become a really quiet person
Story 3: I wish more people carried that energy in regards to a Trans person's Deadname. Call a person by what they want to be addressed by.
not the second story :3
you can change it ... i will not say anything ;-)
I helped my son change his name as a gift for his 16th birthday. My brother would still insist on calling him my daughter or saying to my daughter, where is your sister? I asked him nicely not to do that. He said I have to use the name because you changed it legally, but I will not refer to 'her' as a 'him' until she has a D in her pants. Some people are just small-minded and hateful. We don't spend time with my brother any longer. I won't have people in my life who don't respect my kids.
I helped my son change his name as a gift for his 16th birthday. My brother would still insist on calling him my daughter or saying to my daughter, where is your sister? I asked him nicely not to do that. He said I have to use the name because you changed it legally, but I will not refer to 'her' as a 'him' until she has a D in her pants. Some people are just small-minded and hateful. We don't spend time with my brother any longer. I won't have people in my life who don't respect my kids.
@@KM89Shadow I fixed it thanks đ
3: I had to pause and yell GOOD! When the boss actually punished the snotty coworker. Oh my gosh that was satisfying.
I love it when Rslash's "entitled" voice comes out when he gets annoyed with a certain poster like with the second story
On the last story, I think there's an element that's being overlooked because it's commonplace. The fact that OP was really "hoping for a boy" is a huge red flag of how he's going to treat his daughter later on. If he wanted a boy so bad, why not adopt? There's a bit of guessing involved here when it comes to how big of a deal it is to him, but I just hate people that have a preference with children and play favorites like that, and he made it sound like having a daughter was a bad outcome for him, which is really fucked up imo. 4/5 BH for THAT, the party and the appointment is irrelevant to me in comparison. Hope he realizes quickly for everyone's sake that his daughter should be just as important to him as a son would be.
Story 2 was so frustrating!
OP: "She thinks I did it on purpose to sabotage her photos, but that's nonsense!"
Also OP, just moments before: "I made sure to take heaping scoops from every dish, ruining the way they looked"
Sure, OP, total nonsense.
Yeah I feel sorry for the wife in the second story. She wanted to be a business woman and wife with a husband not a mama to a big spoiled whiny manbaby.
Yeah, those are both conflicting statements.
@@crystalgemgirl731 Of course let me correct that.
@@crystalgemgirl731 got it fixed.
@@jessicadriver1636 Ok.
Story 2 : bruh if it was just liek for clout iw ould understand but HER JOB!? cmon dude she takes HOURS to make the food but you cant even wait 10 MINS
Can we give a shoutout to my man Dave for delivering justice like that? Props to the Big Boss, Giant General, Massive Master, Sizeable Supervisor And the Huge Honcho himself.
*D A V E .*
The story about the husband not waiting for the pictures: If heâs that hungry, he could find a quick thing to eat (not part of what was cooked) while he waits. An ice cream bar, granola bar, cup of fruit. Something that wonât ruin the meal. Also, maybe thereâs a way to help his wife get the pictures done. That might even make it take less time.