r/AmITheA**hole For Not Giving My Toy to an Entitled Kid?
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- Äas pĆidĂĄn 25. 07. 2024
- r/AmITheA**hole In today's episode, OP gets a visit from his brother and his family. Unfortunately, OP's nephew is a spoiled little brat who throws temper tantrums if he doesn't get what he wants. The nephew wants to steal a toy that belongs to OP's 2-year-old son, but OP refuses. This sparks a temper tantrum, and OP's brother tries to scold OP for ruining the trip by not preventing the temper tantrum. OP doesn't understand why he has to give up his own son's toys just to make his nephew happy. Is OP the butthole in this situation?
0:00 Intro
0:06 Give away a toy
2:57 Backseat vs front seat
3:09 They know what you're saying
5:00 Creepy lady
7:15 If gender roles were reversed
7:46 One way trip to body dysmorphia
10:57 Terrible mother
15:58 Early Christmas lights
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Story 3: And this is why we also need changing tables in the men's room.
Also, WTF? You do NOT allow a complete stranger to change your baby!
It could have been so much worse, that random woman could have kidnapped the infant daughter. The OP of that story isn't an asshole, literally everyone who said he overreacted are the assholes and would have just as likely griefed on him for "being an irresponsible father for allowing a complete stranger near his child"
When I was a baby I didn't trust many people (Still don't lol) so once my mom brought me to an event and one of the women my mom was talking to randomly decided to pick me up, without asking my mom. So, despite being a very quiet child, I threw the biggest tantrum of my life, I didn't trust that woman and she didnt ask my mom so I was very distressed. The woman proceeded to yell at my mom and insult me that I was "savage" for crying. My mom's friend immediately took me and I calmed down and my mom yelled at the lady that it was because she didnt ask that I was crying. I will never understand how some women think they are entitled to other people's children without permission
And the people in the coffee shop are sexist AF.
A lady touches your child? You're overreacting! She's just trying to help! A guy touches your child? What a creep!
I'm sure every in that coffee shop would freak out no matter what person touches their child without permission. F*cking hate double standard BS.
Its completely different here in Australia, the changing tables are either in a parenting room or its in the disabled toilet. some private business may be different, but all shopping centres/public toilets that I have been to are set up like this.
She lost me at "cookie." At that point, you yell for the barista and ask for assistance in removing the large cookie that's bothering you.
Uhm⊠Miranda is NOT responsible for someone elseâs kids, she does NOT have to give any money to Alice, it isnât out of spite, Alice is literally responsible for her own kids. Miranda isnât being cold, uncaring, mean, horrible etc etc, but telling her she deserved being divorced 100% makes you the butthole. Your sister Alice is responsible for providing for her kids, if folk want to help her then thatâs up to them, but you cannot force other people to care for her, a grown woman, and attempt to bully them into paying for her lifestyle. Miranda doesnât need a toxic brother like you in her life whoâs gunna throw her infertility in her face, or harass her constantly to spend money on the favourite child, Miranda clearly wants left alone to live her life in peace without being constantly guilt tripped by her family that she somehow needs to pay for the favourite child. What is wrong with you, OP?!?
I think a quote I often say applies here: "How is you letting yourself get creampied MY problem????"
ty I was about to go off in the comments on that dysfunctional family. How could they try to guilt trip her into providing for her sister's kids while she herself is unable to have any? If I were Miranda I would just cut contact and live my life in peace.
Probably because he's 17 and been nurtured and gaslit from his surrounding family.
Not to mention buying expensive items like boots and winter jackets is a VERY generous gift for four children. OP clearly has no idea what she's talking about. Their parents likely talk shit about Miranda making it seem normal for one sibling to subsidize another. For most of us, that is NOT a thing. Frankly how much help is the family expecting from Miranda? Does she have to pay their mortgage? Buy them a bigger vehicle? Save for their kids education? đ
I love my siblings and probably would help them but in no way should that be required. She didn't sign up to support a bunch of children, alice did.
Screamed for hours until he literally passed out from exhaustion? Damn, that's impressive! This child *may* need some discipline in his life.
And then the kid's parents had the gall to claim that the 3 hour tantrum was the OP's fault... no, dude, you're the parent, YOU are the one at fault for letting it go on.
I'm not saying I'm a perfect parent, but my kids never did things like that because I wouldn't have tolerated it.
@@dx1450 My parents wouldn't have let that tantrum go on for longer than a minute. These parents are pathetic morons who can't be bothered to actually parent their child. They need to have CPS called on them.
It is! I would occasionally have overstimulation fits (undiagnosed autism) and my body would decide âyou know what- we donât need airâ
And Iâd stop breathing. I literally couldnât breathe, my body needed to reset (usually by drinking water. Although a few times my mom needed to give me mouth to mouth)
But just from a tantrum- dang kid thatâs a set o lungs!
@@Ax-xo4ux is that a symptom? i may have autism. i mean, the signs are there. i have trouble with social cues, id much rather play by myself. and i have been playing minecraft for the past 10 hrs. i should probably get tested.
@@randominternetguy3537 Well, it's called "Autism Spectrum Disorder" for a reason.
There's even some discussion if it should be separated into different concepts.
The point is, it can manifest vastly differently. But I think overstimulation is a common thing, but again, it varies by person.
Yeah, Miranda is well within her right not to provide for a family of six that isn't her own. I thought the Christmas gifts she had in mind were nice. New boots and jackets for the kids and clothes for her sister. I mean if they're struggling they definitely need clothes, right? That OP really IS too young to understand.
Right?? And coats and boots can be pretty expensive, especially for 5 people!!
@@Chloe_Raine First Story:
Well, tell everybody involved the OBJECTIVE FACTS that are COMMONLY KNOWN:
You even used the word 'enabling', so i assume you know.
And a few billion more people on this planet also know this stuff.
So yeah, you should really dive-into this and clear things up.
Tell people what is common-sense and explain them objective facts about Parenting that
are so famous that even Non-Parents know.
Go!
@@nenmaster5218 I'm so lost... what you said isn't remotely related to my comment. I literally just said that coats and boots are expensive. Tf????
@@Chloe_Raine Can one not talk in General anymore?
@@nenmaster5218 My confusion is that you literally didn't say anything about their comment. They never even used the term enabling. So you literally make no sense right now, yo.
Imagine calling someone selfish in the same breath as asking that person for shit you can't afford as gifts.
Big brain time.
The word you were looking for is "infertility". And I'm 100% with Miranda. You CAN help out your siblings, you don't HAVE TO.
100% agree. Miranda's doing well for herself and she can decide how to spend her money, it's not her fault that Alice decided to have kids
Exactly!! Their sisterâs kids are not Mirandaâs responsibility. Not in the slightest.
Using the term disability isn't actually very wrong, in this situation. Saying that the OP mocked his sisters disability does help shed some light on how toxic the OP is being.
But mocking someones infertility is in my opinion worse than mocking someones disability. If you have a disability, you're probably not going around for years and years hoping that you will wake up one day without the disability. Constantly having your hopes dashed again and again. Infertility can bring people to despair.
Layering that insult on top of mocking a failed marriage, which is another subject that is incredibly touchy, is just crazy toxic. The OP would be lucky if Miranda ever talks to him again. And let's be real, she really shouldn't. rSlash is very nice in only giving him 3/5. I would say it's a 4/5, at least.
He is only 17 though, so maybe there is some hope he grows up some day.
Help them to the extend you want to. Just because i help someone doesnt have to mean to subsidize their lifestyle. It should be well known in many countries how condoms, the pill and stuff like that works and where to get it.
@@espenha When you start fighting dirty (like OP did, in my opinion), you'd better be ready for a less-than-pleasant reaction.
Ugh. I hate it when parents give into their children's demands just to stop a tantrum. By that logic, the child could be allowed to play with a chainsaw, if only to get them to stop crying. Children have to learn that things aren't always going to go their way. That there are rules, for safety and for courtesy. Even if the tantrum lasts an hour, the best thing to do is let them cry it out (don't even say "calm down," just let them be) and then explain why things couldn't go their way. Eventually, the tantrums will lessen in length. And it's best to practice this when the child is young so it doesn't continue to be a problem with they're older (I've seen that happen).
I won't be surprised if the toy truck is changed with a real gun and the brother will still call OP the butthole for not letting him have it so the nephew doesn't have a tantrum.
Also I like how their brother said "it's not your place to raise my child" but it was, it literally was their place, to raise their nephew, in THEIR home
Hi, DisneyFanatic. I agree with you.
My little cousin behaves just like this. My aunt and grandma never, ever, dared to say no to him and constantly told him how smart he was and how much better he was than anyone else in his class and family.
Giving into tantrums only reinforces their poor behavior and they grow into overgrown toddlers. This is how you raise narcissistic adults and entitled people who have no sense of decency or how to respect others
that second last story reeks of those entitled parents stories where they demand money from single people because "they don't have kids so they can afford it!" and make it everyone else's problem that they couldn't keep their legs closed and can't afford the consequences
I grew up poor, didn't want kids until I was settled with a reasonable job which actually punished me for my sense. In the UK they keep giving "single" parents on benefits/low income social housing as they are seen as vulnerable and many also get things like more money, free furniture, payments, food parcels, not getting at good parents but many do so as they know they have that safety net to support them but then play the victim/vulnerable card when not getting their own way or saying why they have a "bad" income, basically when I was in a small room barely enough to fit a bed, freezing cold as can't afford heating and living off bread and basics I was given no support but others were complaining how they had say a 3 bedroom home with nice furniture and good income as they wanted even more! Sure kids are expensive but they then complain how they don't have cash due to kids so deserve more but their "penniless" would to me be "living comfortably" even factoring in the kids.
Your children are not my responsibility.
That baby story really angered me. When we as a society gonna get over these gross double standards, a creep's a creep no matter what the gender is. There is no difference.
Iâm just wondering, would any of them let a complete stranger touch their baby like that, no matter what gender.
@@d.phantomfan1216 I know right.
Back in the day the community raised children. There is no trust or community anymore. She was probably just trying to be helpful, maybe she was senile. Based on how everyone else around him reacted it seems like he is omitting context. If the mom was there instead of the dad I guarantee there would've been no issue. The old lady should respect boundaries of course but I think a lot of people would welcome the help in that situation.
@@NEPAAlchey In modern society, swap the genders. If a lone mother was changing a diaper and a random guy came up giving unwarranted 'advice' and looking over your child would this still be ok? The only reason the public reacted as they did is because when a woman cries near a man the automatic assumption is that the man did something horrible. Nobody was likely even watching before the outburst but tears draw attention.
@@Greekphire Couldn't have said it better myself and Op said the woman was in her 40's to 50's (I believe to remember) yeah that's pretty old but I wouldn't consider that senile old. But even if she was that old it's still no excuse to be a creep.
âThe tantrum could have been avoided if you just him the toyâ
No. The entire reason the tantrum happened is because it works. Itâs horrible parenting to give kids everything they want just as itâs bad parenting to give them nothing they want.
This. The child had learned domestic terrorism. Do what I want OR ELSE.
Iâve had to TA at a preschool with a pair of brothers like this. They were completely uncontrollable in the classroom. Horrible bullies, made everyone elseâs lives miserable.
Yup and it's going to come back to bite him in the ass
I see this all the time where I work. Kids getting candy and toys just so they'll stop crying and throwing a fit
I like how the fact that the toy isn't just some old toy that happened to be there. It's OP's own son's toy. Even if said son may not have missed it.
And OP didn't even had to explain or justify about parentign and such. This toy belong to them, they paid for it. His nephew has zero right to it, period.
Regarding the sister story: OP saying that Miranda doesn't help out is also false. Miranda is getting gifts that will be appreciated (I assume) by Alice and her family. Miranda could be doing a lot less if she wanted to, and be within her right since she is Ofc entitled to spend her hard earned money as she chooses to
âWell she works long hours, but she doesnât have kids, so I donât know what she does on weekendsâ
Oh Heaven forbid a childless person has a life of their own! Life does not revolve around children! Alice chose to have five children and to be a stay at home mum. If theyâre struggling financially so much, then she can get a job to support her family. It is NOT Mirandaâs responsibility to give her sister money. I hate this BS idea that it takes a village to raise a child. No! The parents raise the child! Rant overâŠ
100% ture. Raise your own damn children. No one's job to support your lifestyle as an adult but your own. Having a gaggle children you can't afford is a lifestyle.
"It takes a village" doesn't mean "manipulate your family and friends into being that village"!
Alice and OP are completely overstepping here! Honestly, how rude
Edit: mixed up some names, my bad
Not to mention, it's incredibly unhealthy for a parent to revolve their whole life around their kids. As a kid with a mom who did that, it was incredibly tiring having to indirectly police her as her moods were hinged on my every step. She'd throw adult-sized temper tantrums and pull the "because I said so" card to force cooperation, and really hated it when I started exercising a desire for independence. She still tries to treat me like I'm a 5-year-old and gets upset when I'm not a naive toddler whose best friends with my parent even though I'm now 22
âWhy doesnât she see that by not having kids the money she earns is ALL RIGHTFULLY OURS!!!!â
It's not Miranda's responsibility to make sure Alice is taken care of. Whatever she does on her own is her business, and I'm sure is appreciated by Alice.
I mean, I'm not rich at all, but I don't expect anyone else but my wife to help take care of our kids. If someone gives us something, anything for the kids, then we're appreciative, but it'll be a cold day in hell before we expect or demand family to give us money.
Really makes you wonder what ideas the parents have planted in OPâs head.
âShe doesnât have kids so she can afford itâ
âIdk what she does on the weekend but she doesnât offer helpâ
OP i know itâs a crazy concept, but those kids are NOT her responsibility, theyâre honestly not yours either, theyâre your other sisters.
YTA BIG time.
Thatâs because heâs 17 yo, knows nothing about earning his own keep and is probably idolising communism (and in reality is just repeating this after his parents)
Heâs free childcare, and has had his life revolve towards his sisterâs children that he genuinely didnât understand why someone wouldnât.
Not that this excuses him - heâs still the asshole
Thatâs what I donât get, this is someone elseâs children, and as far as we know the mom hasnât been asking the other sister for money.
Pretty much my take. Hopefully OP would read the reddit replies and realize that not all the views that the parents project on him are true.
â@@d.phantomfan1216 the mom probably didn't say anything to the older sister about helping the younger one but I am pretty sure there was a lot of hurtful criticism said out loud about her in the household (in OP's earshot, too)
When are people going to learn that fathers are perfectly capable of taking care of their kids especially a baby. Also there should be changing tables in men's restrooms.
My dad missed those changing tables in the mens room when being the primary care giver to my to sisters in 1985-89. And they still havenât changed it.
It amazes me that places STILL don't put tables in the men's room. 2022 anyone?
@@shersmk90 in my country there are usually folding baby changing tables in most of the disabled toilets.
@@Rick_Sanchez_G420 they shouldnât be in the disabled stalls either. They should be in the room just like they are in the womenâs bathroom. Also the reason theyâre not in menâs bathroom is a sexist belief that men shouldnât have to take care of their kids that it should be the womenâs job even if itâs not the mother (I.e. sister/aunt/family friend)
@@connercampbell1295 in fact it goes even beyond that, that if a child is being changed in a MENS restroom, that the child can be sexually assaulted by all the perverted men, because ALL men are phedophiles, right???
"How can you backseat parent if there are no front seat parents?" VERY well put, Rat_Kin.
The word you're looking for is "infertility".
I will _never_ live in a HOA community. I'm fine living where I am and I can put up whatever lights I want, where I want, and when I want.
I'm firmly convinced that all HOA's exist only to allow certain people to go on a power trip over their neighbors.
Story 3: I also found it creepy to refer to it as a "cookie" that is specifically a sexual reference, and is only said in terms of desiring it. If she didn't want to seem creepy she had a dozen other word options to choose from that aren't specifically sexualized. And yeah just like rSlash said if gender roles were reversed he would be in cuffs, by definition that makes her creepy.
Anyone else get the feeling Miranda was the black sheep of the family who always got mistreated and/or neglected, became successful out of spite, and reduced contact with the family she considers toxic? Because that happens surprisingly often in these stories and it's interesting to see it not being OP for once.
True...I had the same thoughts
That would make sense. Honestly, I wanted to give Miranda 1/5 for being a judgy bitch, but that's based on lack of context. If she is in fact a black sheep, then it's completely different.
I don't know. I think Miranda's trying to fill her childless void with money, and doesn't like being called out by people who at least care about children.
@@VicGeorge2K6 those aren't her children so they aren't her responsibility
@@VicGeorge2K6 "Fill her childless life with money?" Dude, wtf? Miranda is simply moving on with her life, working and spending her money on herself, as she should. OP didn't call out shit, he's just an entitled brat expecting that, since she makes good money, she has to give it away and finance his closer sister's family, which is total bs. Just because she can doesn't mean she has to, they are not her responsibility.
And the parents too, all of them are playing favorites and pretty much invalidating her life because of a situation she couldn't control... so no, fuck that. Hope she keeps her distance from them because it's unlikely that'll change.
The sister doesnât have to spend her money on the sister that keeps having kids. If she wants to help then it up to her. Itâs her money, she works for it herself. đ€·đœââïžđ€Šđœââïžđđ
Like, if you look at it from Miranda's perspective for even a second, you'd realize that she sees Alice as a bit of a leech, right? Maybe not intentionally, but she's not obligated to pay for Alice and her lifestyle regardless. Honestly, it's story #1 all over again. The parents are coddling this child, the sister says "no, this is my stuff," and people can't respect that? Wack.
Exactly! Plus OP is still a child (in most countries at least) and he doesn't fully understand what Miranda does and doesn't do with her life.
Maybe she donates her earnings to different charities or spends time doing stuff with her friends or volunteer work while she's not on the clock.
OP needs to STFU and mind his own business. He doesn't get to dictate what his sister does with her time and money
Well in a couple years when OP has a real job and having non disposal income because, you know... freaking adulating, he's going to be getting frustrated as hell supporting this walking baby factory and will end up saying the EXACT same thing Miranda did. She's grown and keeps poping out kids when she can't afford it. Then will be getting pissed when people try to dictate the ways you use YOUR earned money.
Their brother will find out for himself eventually when he wants some serious things of his own: apartment or house, relationship, marriage, kids... Will he be happy to share a considerable amount of his money with one sister instead of building his own life? I hope he remembers his idealistic thinking. It's so easy to be idealistic on other people's dime.
Miranda should help pay to get her sisters tubed tied. Holy crap 5 kids by 29. Thats crazy.
Story 5: YTA; just because someone is doing good doesn't mean they are required to help out family, and that goes for the family who do also support Alice. OP seriously has some messed up ideas of what family means if they put it all in the context of money.
He's TA for what he said, making fun of his sister both for being infertile and for her husband divorcing her because of it. That's a pretty low blow, which she probably already felt bad about.
Story 5/Bad Mom - YTA
Everyone sees Miranda as a piggy bank.
And OP was lucky to have not been slapped in the face for his smart mouth.
"Well you're the big sister"
She's also a freaking mother, so she's not gonna let this bench abuse her child!
They're 35 and 37, there's no bigger sister they're both adults
ALso, Op would be a bad mom if she didn't stand up for her daughter, so are we not going to talk about the fact that the husband is such a bad dad?
@@likes.of_oldcrows That's where OP takes the direct approach and make it personal
Husband: Well you're the big sister and she was just trying to help
OP: Oh so you agree then that our daughter's body has to be photoshopped to be worthy of being in a picture?
@@MiraTheWarlockI still don't get the husbands pov here, how in any place would you think thats ok
Bullies want you to "be the bigger person and let this go" so they don't have to face the consequences of their poor behavior
My nephew was coddled the same way by my sister. Whenever I'd babysit he's attempt to scream like that if I made him do practically anything. The first time I got directly in his face and screamed louder & longer than he could, causing him to have a very confused look on his crying face. I told him that I would not put up with that, crying doesn't work on me so just go do what I told him to do (usually putting away his toys). 2-3 tantrums later and he finally got the picture. When my BiL asked why nephew respected me so much, I told the truth "Nephew learned I can scream a LOT louder than he can."
What's the BIL reaction? Good or bad?
BOOYAH!!!
The same people who never tell their kid "no" are the same ones that cannot figure out how and why their kid's in the back of a police cruiser or in juvenile detention.
@@johngennaria7081 He wasn't happy about it, but I honestly couldn't give to shits about what he thought. After a while, he finally calmed down with that crap and my sister realized what a monster she almost had on her hands.
@@moosecat Yep, which is why I nipped it in the bud as quick as I could. Nephew is now in the Navy and doing quite well for himself.
@@Azurko had to be said or done. If they raised them in entitlement then it's worse for them as the years go by. At least they changed things up a bit and started to fix that. You'd be surprised many don't try that at all. Especially if you look at most stories on r/entitled parent.
I feel very negative things for family members who push other family members to take responsibility of another family memberâs poor choices⊠into their own damn house nonethelessâŠ
I think Alice deserves a rating too. If she's struggling financially and STILL having kids that she can't afford to take care of, then she's an irresponsible parent. Hell, I'd go so far as to call that abuse.
Agreed, not having a sense of stability and security is detrimental to a kid's psychological state
Story 3: NTA. What that lady did was super creepy. Like who tf walks up to a random stranger and tells them how to clean their child's genitals and then try to dress said child???
Also, this is why baby changing stations NEED to be in every bathroom
THIS! IMO this is not only creepy but also at least borderline or in fact pedo behavior. If the roles were reversed than everyone person in that store would've ripped that guy a new one.
Also using the term âlittle cookieâ for genitalia?! Ew thatâs just disgusting.
If that lady walks up to me and calls my baby's genitalia "little cookies", I'll be pepper spraying her and running the hell away.
Yea that cookie comment was extreme.
Like I heard that before in a post where a kid told a teacher that their uncle was licking their cookie and the teacher goes "well can you get another one" or "Okay? tell them to not lick your cookie"
Later it gets reported that uncle is SA and the teacher was ask if they knew anything. Teacher had no idea that cookie was word for the kid's privates.
"If one thing being rSlash has taught me, it's to never EVER cut down someones tree"
God I love this callback. That made laugh out loud
I miss tree law videos
Treelaw is absolutely brilliant
Also donât mess with IT
Wow. I wonder why Miranda doesn't talk much with her parents.
She clearly has a lot of trauma linked to her infertility. She wanted to start a family, and not only that, her husband LEFT her because she couldn't have kids. And OP decided THAT was an appropriate scab to pick at. I hope Miranda gets the help she needs after everything that happened to her and OP better hope to hell and high water that he grows up
OP should have listened when Miranda told him to drop the subject. Him being 17 explains why he has such a sheltered view and was so easily suckered in by what the rest of his family says about Miranda, but it doesn't excuse it. Hopefully he apologizes after Reddit tears him a new one, and they can salvage what's left of their relationship.
OPs brother reminds me of the Flanders parents:
âWeâve tried nothing and weâre all out of ideas!â
They literally arenât trying to discipline their kid, at all, and theyâre now suffering the consequences of their actions
I remember homer saying that đđđ€Łđ€Łđ€Ł
i mean even without "disciplining" their kid. just let him throw a tantrum a few times and he will eventually learn. at 4 the only thing there is to do is tell the kid: you can't always what you want, i know it's sad and all but this is how it is and then let them process their emotions.that's all they have to do litteraly.. just tell their kids no
3 hours of a screaming tantrum, only ended by self-imposed exhaustion - the kid might have a form of autism, mental issue, or the parents are just spoiling him to the nth degree.
"Thats it mister! No bible stories for you tonight!"
Parents who say yes to everything because they're scared of tantrums make me furious, what's their plan? What do they think is gonna happen when the kid grows up? Everyone but them can see a tyrant being created before their eyes, and they're just too lazy to care
I hate how people expect the OPâs to âGrow upâ & âApologiseâ for something that they think is too âHarshâ. Like in the sister story, OPâs husband expects her to be the âBig Sisterâ & yet heâs alright with the younger one acting like a butthole.
That aside- the sister insulted her child first. I'm sorry but if you insult my child the least you're getting is an insult. At most- I'm getting a murder charge
@@nashidragneel4980 yeah thats what theyre saying the person shouldnt have insulted the child (you might have gotten the people mixed up i think)
@@ChocolateM1lk I'm referring to the story with the Photoshop. The sister insulted OP and OPs child. With my temperament, i'd be jailed
@@nashidragneel4980 I agree with you, the photo-shopping was a major insult to the girl.
@@nashidragneel4980 yeah that's what i meant-
As someone who suffered fertility issues (Iâm thankful to modern medicine that I have the two I have plus a bonus daughter) have they thought that MAYBE it hurts Miranda that she canât have babies and being around her nieces and nephews all the time is hard? Also, Miranda works hard for her money-why should she then have to help her sister, whoâs 29 years old and put herself into the position sheâs in? Itâs mind numbing that the family is putting this all on her. 100% NOT on Miranda.
Parents claim "it's easier" to give their child everything they want. Okay, it's easier temporarily. In the long-term, it sets the child up for complete and total failure on a social level; and I have seen kids raised this way go so far as criminal-level behavior in their teen and adult years. Teaching them that they can't have or do anything they want is far easier when you can pick them up and carry them home than when they are a teenager or adult sitting in a jail cell.
This is why you teach kids when theyâre young. Both because their minds are still developing and theyâre easier to handle when they inevitably throw a tantrum. Itâs harder to physically control a 15 yr old throwing a tantrum like a toddler
Exactly! My mind went straight to that kid resorting to stealing what he wants.
I watched this scenario play out for the last ~20 years to someone else's kid too. "Easy" gave way to 3 felony arrests, substance abuse, bank foreclosure, lifelong ban from owning cat/dog, child out of marriage that he has never paid child support for, and never holding a job for more than 18 months. Easy DOES NOT equal right which is the actual thing to do. We warned them and they ignored us. FAFO.
OP: "I called Miranda a terrible mother and demanded more from her, AITA?"
rSlash: *"Yes."*
OP: **Surprised Pikachu Face**
i wonder if op will call his gf's selfish if he finds one that does not want to support and babysit all the time.
Same
The baby change story. If it was a man that had come up and started to try to dress the baby people's reaction would have been different. So why would it have been OK for the random woman to do it? Definitely NTA!
I completely agree! I see babies/toddlers a LOT in my line of work, but I would NEVER pick up a child and dressed it. I would have been sued for "sexual harassment" and "being a pervert." X'D
Right? Even if he was doing a terrible job and seemed confused... you wouldn't just jump in with unsolicited advice and you certainly wouldn't touch someone else's kid! WTH?
Im glad his partner had his back though. He had every right to just straight up yell "F--- off you aren't being asked for help and the comments on my child's genitals is inappropriate. Leave me alone, I know what im doing".
Its so dumb that people sided with the person who was being an actual creep, and had no reason to be near them in the first place.
@JayLeeBeanz Didn't the wife agree with the OP's actions? If I did remember that correctly, she's a keeper
@@fdm2155 If he was doing a terrible job, the furthest you go is "do you need any help? I can go get some napkins - or buy some wipes if you need them.
Dabney will never let his child get entitled like that lol... He's read enough stories
"Never ever cut down someone's tree."
Ah, yes, I remember those ones. So good~
For the "Terrible Mother" story, OP is 1000% the asshole. How could that family try to guilt trip her into providing for her sister's children when she herself can't have any? She deserves to live her life in peace not be responsible for her siblings' lives.
I don't see how her infertility is relevant here. She isn't responsible for financing her sister's family regardless if she was child free by choice or raising 10 of her own, it's just not relevant
@@limiv5272 It's relevant because it makes the family's demands that much more painful. She's not responsible either way, but the family's constant reminders of her infertility makes them bigger assholes since it goes from being unreasonable to outright cruelty.
@@KattoTang Yes, them bringing it up is cruel
I think that family has a big problem and I can't blame Miranda for distancing herself. Instead of the parents being responsible and telling their daughter to MAYBE NOT HAVE 5 KIDS if you have financial problems, they expect and demand the whole family to pay for it.
OP: *"My parents nag at Miranda to give some money to Alice monthly, and I agree with that."*
*"All she does is spend the money on herself."*
Bruh, it's Miranda's money, she can use it however she likes. She has no obligation to help at all, you calling her a bad mother is totally uncalled for and makes you look like a butthole Karen, OP.
Just because the parents act like a butthole by being entitled doesn't mean you should follow too. I'm sure you are old enough to realize what your parents is doing is bad and is controlling behavior.
The second story is simply the perfect example of someone digging their own grave. Loved it!
In TV and movies, it's known as the 'bilingual backfire.'
not to mention it's just rude to switch to another language in front of someone and just expecting them to not to understand lol
@@velvety2006 I agree!
That nephew is a creature of his parents' making. That kid needs to learn that not every answer is "yes." I can well imagine what kind of little monster will walk into my class as a 9th grader. Just encountered this yesterday with two little princesses who decided it would be OK to stop working on a poster project (for which I allowed class time) and get into my supplies, write their names in glitter glue all over pieces of printer paper, then pout when I asked them if they had any inkling they should ask permission to get into supplies that I bought that weren't set out for their use. This is just one more incident with these two.
I think Alice should receive an ahole score because she is choosing to have more children at the expense of providing for her existing children.
Agreed - Alice, and the children's father(s) deserve buttholes scores for choosing to have children that they cannot afford. Also, for choosing to have Alice not work to at least try and make up the difference, and especially since it sounds like Alice's family would be happy to watch the kids if she were working.
Op, itâs not Mirandaâs responsibility to help raise your other sisterâs kids. Their Aliceâs kids, not Mirandaâs. Miranda is right, Alice kept having kids she canât afford.
I wonder if op will change his tune if he gets a gf that's not interested in being an atm and nanny all the time.
Absolutely 100% correct. If you keep popping out children that you can't afford it's not anybody's responsibility to fund your lifestyle. Having kids continuously that you can afford is a lifestyle choice. People need to stop rewarding adults who decide to go out and have a bunch of children that they cannot afford and hold them on some sort of pedestal like their worthy of godliness. They're not they're selfish entitled and they expect everybody to give and give and give to them. Last time I checked you made those children you and your partner no one else that makes you responsible for them.
Honestly I agree up Op is the 100% the butthole
However what I can kind of see where Op is coming from, only from the Christmas presents however.
Miranda really was doing the bare minimum of for Christmas presents for her sister whilst getting everyone else lavish things if I was going to give out a new score over Rslash then it would be
OP 3/5
Miranda 0.5/5
Miranda shouldn't be treating her sister differently compared to the rest of the family by giving her the bare minimum for Christmas, but what Op said was absolutely wrong and he definitely owes his sister an apology
@@ThatOneTrainGuy how is spending 1000 of dollars of someone else family doing the bare minimum? Because buying clothes especially snowsuits is going to cost a lot of money. From the sounds of it her and her sister are not close. Do you spend thousands of dollars on someone you're not close to just because their family or you are spending that on others?
Christmas is not my favourite holiday but even I have to concur that Christmas is not about spending copious amounts of money on other people like some people have turned it into. It's not a transactional holiday. People should be grateful for getting anything and no one owes you anything.
@@LLandS18 the price was never said I believe, but ya fair point
Story 4: Never post a picture of someone else without their permission, because that was trashy as hell.
OP in the last story should blast "Your a Mean One, Mr. Grinch" every time the HOA comes to complain about the Christmas lights
Your kid will throw an hours-long tantrum because of this? Huh, sounds like a parental defect to me.
Second story: I would add another point to that butthole score for the cousins, as it is extremely rude to talk in a language that you expect someone in the conversation not to understand.
And I'll give -.5 to OP for making the cousins stop speaking in Urdu (aka the warning they wouldn't listen to)
Isnt that sexual harassment? They were literally thirsting over her fianceé and being absolutely inapropriate
@@sa4ru328 And joke or not, it's still an unacceptable thing to do even while the fiance of their cousin *is right in front of them* and that same cousin wasn't going to take it well if they kept on doing it.
Story 3: a stranger grabbed OP's baby without his consent.. had this lady been a man everyone in the store would have freaked out. you do not touch someone's kid without their approval especially to dress them..
unless the kid's in danger and you have to touch them, don't touch someone else's kid period. I don't understand why people find that concept hard to get
I've seen enough r/ stories where the Karen was trying to take the baby/child who's male parent she was intruding on. I agree don't touch a kid who is not your kid without permission unless there is a clear danger, and being racist against the parent present doesn't constitute a qualifying danger.
how it would have ended if the OP didnt intervene:
Lady: ok Imma change ur baby in the ladies room! :)
OP: wait wha-
lady: *dashes to ladies room only to swerve and run out the door with the baby*
"Terrible Mother" story, OP's probably being used as free childcare at the expense of their teenage years, and internalized it as being logical/moral. Still the butthole especially for what he said to the poor woman, but still.
5. It's usually the Miranda's writing the AITA posts, not one of the mooch's guilt trip team.
6. I'd have saved time and just told the lady to "f*^% off". But then, I have a very low tolerance for repeating myself.
Story 3: Why is everyone in the store backing up the woman? OP didnât give her permission.
Because she was so intrusive she looked like an aunt or something.
Agreed! It would have been a different story if OP gave permission to the older woman to help him dress the baby and change the baby. Not to mention, the woman was being a b!tch for criticizing a man as he changed a diaper. If a random lady came up to me as I changed my child's diaper to tell me how to do it "properly," I most certainly would *not* let that lady near *my* baby.
Not to mention, WHO IN THEIR RIGHT F*CKING MINDS GOES UP TO A RANDOM STRANGER AND "CRITICIZE" HOW THEY CHANGE THEIR CHILD'S DIAPER?!
Because she is a women and OP is a man. Everyone thinks that dads dont know shit and cant do shit.
No cause let's talk about this. Who in the sweet fuck goes up to a baby and starts talking about its genitals? Had the roles been reserved, the other person would have been handcuffed.
Because it is socially acceptable to treat men as stupid or inferior. It's socially acceptable to assume men can't do things women can, yet the opposite is a mortal sin. It's called a double standard and it's been this way for a long time. It's perfectly acceptable to demand that a woman watch your kids, but don't you dare insist on a male mechanic. Hire only men, you're a sexist; hire only women, you're an "activist". See a pattern?
First story - OP's brother needs to learn that no means no. In the real world, people will tell their kid "no" all the time. Time to start getting used to it. Entitled.
First story, I use to work in a daycare. And the amount of kids who had never heard the word "no" before was unbelievable! They would throw fits over the dummest of things, and whenever we would talk to the parents about it, they just shrugged it off! So, no, it's not OP's fault that his nephew threw an hour long tantrum. The parents need to teach their son, that you don't always get what you want in life! Life's not always fair!
â I would never have made your partner uncomfortable if I knew he understood meâdo these people hear themselves??
Miranda is the only reasonable one. These people are enabling the other sister to keep on popping babies because they are going to take care of them, clearly. She gotta take care of her responsibilities HERSELF and not just wait or beg for hand outs of her family. Miranda gets to spend the money SHE made on HERSELF as she should.
âPeople shouldnât be able to come up to a 3-month-old baby and picking it up and touching the baby without the parentsâ permissionâ Especially not during a panorama!
I bought my first house this year and when my realtor asked me what I wanted in my house my first sentence was, âI know what I DONT want. Iâve heard way too many reddit stories to have anything to do with an HOA.â My house is the only one on my block that isnt a part of our local HOA. No regrets.
Wow, Miranda doesn't owe Alice anything. It is always nice to help out a family member in a reasonable way, but it isn't reasonable to pay a ton of money for children that aren't your's. If OP thinks someone should help Alice more, why don't they get a job and contribute?
You shouldnât touch anyoneâs child without permission unless the child is endangered.
As a parent of a very willful now five year old, OP did 100% the right thing. Kids need to learn early that screaming for something doesn't get you the item. In fact, what op's brother is doing will alienate his kid later in life. Little kids pick up fast who's the spoiled ones are, which kids take things from others and who will scream the most to get their way. My kid use to be a screamer and yes, it was my fault because I suffered from postpartum that was heavily triggered from her crying. Because she got into that habit, we've had to work hard in changing that behavior and she's experienced that when she does it in daycare, all the other kids will just walk away from her and not play with her. It's better now because we've worked on not getting upset over not getting her way as well as using her words to express herself instead of screaming, but it's been a hard process.
At least you realized what went wrong and is trying to fix it while they're young. Keep at it
Creepy lady! Oh my god. No. Do not let strangers touch your kid!!!! She is a wicked creep.
1:40 .......wait a minute
Give your sons toy to my son .
NO YOU ARE BACKSEAT PAERENTING!
That last story is like being a joke some comedian, name forgotten, said, "Were you ever on a playground and some other kid came up and said 'You're dead, the floor is lava' and you had to explain to them that you weren't playing?"
Don't help other parents spoil their spoiled kid. They can do what the repercussions of their son acting like a tyrant when he doesn't get what he wants.
This is how entitled people are created
The Alice and Miranda story sounds like the entitled side of the family POV in an
r/entitledparents story
Three things rSlash has learned:
1. Donât cut down someone elseâs tree.
2. Donât live in a HOA.
3. Donât mess with IT.
The âonly trying to helpâ mindset of older people is what gave me life long sexual traumaâŠ
1st story: I never get the logic of parents that blames other people for their shitty parenting skill and their own kid's entitlement...
3rd story: The rules that the older kids should act "more mature" shouldn't apply as soon as all the kids go into adulthood. They have their responsibility and can be legally held accountable for their actions. I think it's crystal clear which of the sister should be "more mature".
Ok here's my question. WHY don't supper markets have changing tables in the men's room? I am sure that creepy lady story isn't an outlier.
she sounds like the type of person that feels it's their right to touch your stomach when you are pregnant.
Most of the time they were there but had been broken or theyâre disgusting because people are idiotsâŠ
Because for some reason people don't think father's take care of their children and therefor do not need changing tables.
Seriously, it is one of the most bizarre things people see to think is real.
The whole Miranda/Alice thing just made me more and more uncomfortable the more OP spoke about it. It's no-ones responsibility to give Alice money, literally no-ones. Miranda doesn't owe anyone shit.
Lmao The second one. The guy was 100% having fun knowing that them was talking about him and not knowing he understand everything them was saying about him
Creepy Lady story.
From time to time I hear opinions like "women can't be pedophiles" - it's so triggering.
Yeah, also double standards. With stories like these it's sad beacuae we have to think "How would we react if it was a man?"
@@HomkHomk THIS THIS THIS! Had a man done that to a woman and her baby he'd probably be arrested and escorted away.
@@nashidragneel4980 Yeah! Why is it so different to people when it's a woman?
@@HomkHomk it's different because of "a woman can't be a pedophile" mentality. It gets bad as to the point where people around you won't believe you that you're a victim of female pedo or will try to justify the pedo.
@@whyamihere1563 yeah true, it's really sad. People need to do better :(
My mum is a foster parent. Currently we have a 4 year old who, from what we can tell, had been coddled and put on a pedestal and now has these hellish tantrums that last hours whenever heâs met with ANY form of pushback. Raise your damn children right, people!
No, that's not having been coddled. That's trauma. He's trying to survive. Encourage your mom to look at Empowered to Connect.
@@jcfreak2007 no, its been coddled, dont make a spoiled brat out to be the victim. My god
@@jcfreak2007 No it's from being coddled. And we're trying to undo the damage that's already been done. Thanks for assuming you know more about my mum and situation than I do.
@@aaroncousins4750 I'm sorry,but I believe that if a child ends up in foster care there must have been something wrong in that family.No healthy family unit will end up having their child put in foster care.It doesnt matter if the reason is financial problems or actual abusive bahaviour.Having to separete from your parents at such a young age,even if it's permanently or temporary is still very traumatic.And either way,we can't judge a young child.Even if they were spoiled,it's the parents' fault,not his.I'm sure he will be just fine if he's taken on the right path,you can't judge kids as young as this.
@@mlchaellss8761 In this situation it's more to do with the parents' mental health than anything. We're doing everything to help the kids and totally understand that his behaviour is just the result of being spoiled coupled with the situation. If it makes anyone feel better, he's been doing much better lately. It's taken plenty of time but we're getting there. I just don't like it when people make big assumptions about my family and what we're doing just from one comment.
the 'One way trip to body dysmorphia' made me stop in my tracks it hit so so close to home for me. im so glad op saw the problem in her kid and is actively trying to make her better. if your reading this you are beautiful and you are loved have an amazing day
1st Story: NTA!
OP's brother said that the kid's 3 hour long tantrum was OP's fault for not giving the spoiled kid his son's toy... Well, I would say that it's ACTUALLY the brother's fault for not raising his son to hear the word "No" more often.
I know from first hand experience. When my wife was the primary caretaker for our boys for 5 years, every time they'd go to the store, our boys would leave with a goodie, be it a toy or snack or cool shirt, if they wanted it, they'd get it.
I warned my loving wife that they're becoming spoiled brats. She didn't believe me, so I put it to the test. When we went to the store and assumed that they'd be going home with something they wanted, I told them "No." Any guesses as to what happened? MASSIVE tantrums. Both of them.
So, when I later took over as primary caretaker for the boys, it was difficult for the first few months, however, they've learned to be content with what they have, and when they do want something at the store, they respect the fact that we can't do that every time anymore, so that they can be more grateful for the times that we can.
First story, I see where that 4 year old gets his entitled behavior from. OP's brother who is the father is just as bad if not worse, the kid is 4, you're an adult, whats your excuse?
I can relate to the first story because in kindergarten I brought a lego starfighter and a lego Indiana Jones. This kid wanted to play with it and I allowed him to. But next thing you know this kid walks to his cubbie and is about to put it in his backpack, but luckily the teacher caught him.
now it's a truck next it their son's console or computer
@@velvety2006 those dang entitled brats.
Oh yes, from listening to you Iâve learned stay the hell away from an HAO (or donât join one if they try to form one) and If someone cuts my tree down itâs mad bank!
"...is to never cut down someone else's tree..." I miss the tree law video's. Those were really great.
Old ladies are so ENTITLED when it comes to babies, they just assume that everyone needs and wants their advice
I would have grabbed her wrist, smashed it on the table and then roared in my best Drill Instructor voice: "You touch my kid again I break your neck, you effing pedophile." So that everyone hears. She will have a lot of explaining to do from then on.
Yeah, believe it or not, women can be pedos too, not just men. And as soon as word gets around she will have big problems in her social circle. Sometimes you do not have to resort to physical violence to beat somebody down. Just a well spread accusation is enough. Ladies, keep in mind we're catching up on this and next time you try character assassination remember it can will be used against you.
Some are wise, and some are just plain buttholes.
Not "old" if shes in her 40's, just old in comparison to someone under 30, I mean she won't be like someone over 70 or 75
First story: Entitled behaviour, in a child, must be nipped in the bud as soon as possible. What happens when that kid wants a toy from one of his classmates at school, is told no and then attacks that classmate and steals the toy? If the classmate is seriously injured then OP's brother and SIL would be found responsible and that kid would be expelled from school. OP is in no way the a-hole, the Brother and SIL are for enabling the entitlement and doing nothing to stop it.
I doubt the parents are going to correct the behavior for it to already be this bad even for a toddler it's only going to get worse from here until they get sick of it themselves. It sucks to imagine that being a possibility.
i think the biggest risk here is gonna be that the kids is gonna learn he can have what he wants if he starts throwing a tantrum and the parents will turn into those "my precious baby angel would never steal anything because he can just ask to have it" type of parents. kids having trantrums is normal, OP is right to not want to take part in this
The fact that they have no control over there child is not OPâs problem. And while the parents get the only saw when it comes to their children, if someone doesnât want to give them stuff they donât have to.
First one
When the brother said "it wasn't OP's responsibility to set an example for his son" Op should have responded with "No, it's YOURS" and muted the convo.
Pro Tipp for tantrums: kids don't do it on purpose, they can't process disappoinment yet. Here is how to teach them:
If they want something and can't get it, "you really want that toy, right. It looks so fun. And you want to play with it. I said you can't have it and now you are angry and frustrated. Yeah, I know that feeling..."
And so on. Stay with the child, tell them, you understand but they can't have it.
If they are in screaming mode, there is little you can do but to stay with them. You have to understand, that their brai no in is basically overheating and triggering this.
My son's are 5 and 3. Both stopped tantrums around 3, very rarely had one and if so, never for more than 10 minutes.
Re: Creepy Lady: OPâs wife would have done the same, but hereâs the key: it would almost certainly never have happened. As a single dad, I can tell you, this is the correlation of âmansplainingâ. Itâs astonishing how many women (even ones without kids) decide to take it upon themselves to tell a single dad how to parent his kids, change, feed, discipline, play with, watch, etc.
Womansplaining is absolutely a thing.
Its even worse that no one seemed to care that a literal stranger tried to touch this dudes kid WITHOUT permission. But no. He's wrong for being uncomfortable with it? Nah. I definitely feel like women do this and its horrendous. Especially with how we feel when dudes exhibit the same behavior.
Especially momsplaining.
We all know damn well if a guy tried to do that people would instantly gang up on him, society has a shit double standard
Sexism, gotta love it. /s
I never understand why people think men are incapable of taking care of kids. But sadly, even movies and tv shows often show the fathers as bumbling idiots who have no clue. Which is sad. Men are capable of raising kids, just like women are capable of earning a living in "manly" jobs. It isn't something only one gender is capable of.
I feel like the 17 year old only learned morals from his parents heâs still a child so I would have switched the buthole score if no one taught him better how else is he going to learn. If he feels comfortable acting like that imagine how his parents act. Letâs hope this event opens his eyes to his entitlement and he can improve.
Not just his parents, can partially thank the schools and teachers for it. He is a good little commie in the making. The moment you don't 'share' your hard earnings, they come up with the 'how can someone be so selfish?' lines...
as a father of a 2-year-old, yeah, certain toys could cause a problem, no matter how many toys a kid has, especially if it's a toy that can be played with like a truck or train.
for the first story about the kid throwing a tantrum, all i could think was 'cry to me about it when it's my problem lol'
The story about the baby blow out.. wow. Like 20% of me suspects that woman was attempting to kidnap his baby.
Agreed. Especially using a sexually charged word like cookie when there are over a dozen other non-sexual words that can be used.
@@SoManyRandomRamblings cookie isn't really sexually charged, I've heard kids call it that all the time. But yea that lady is a little creepy
@@niagambino1714 we don't call it like that in my country and for an outsider it sounds really creepy to call a baby's genital with the name of a food.
Also reminds me of a song in Spanish that has a verse saying "eating your cookie with all devotion" so no way for me lol
@@niagambino1714in america saying that is usually sexually charged because itâs typically in the context of âeat my cookie đâ
Honestly I agree with Miranda. It's not her job to give her money to her sister just because she wants or need things
On the story titled Terrible Mother, I'm on Miranda's side. It really isn't her job to do all sorts of things for her sister. Here's a concept that I thought of if it had been me:
Let's say...after Alice had two kids, Miranda helped out a lot, financially and crap, then Alice keeps having kids. After baby 3 or 4, Miranda was probably tired of paying for someone who chose to keep popping out kids without having a real stable form of income. This is still on Alice. And I know this from a form of experience with watching my cousins as an 18 year old. I watch how my grandparents practically raise them and their parents mooch off them so so much.
Regarding the first story, try going to their home and demanding you want their TV. They can just buy another one later. They would think you were crazy because it is crazy to think that way.
I feel like Alice needed to learn about contraception in high school
She was too busy getting knocked up
@@radhiadeedou8286 đ
rSlash: "First lesson I learned was never to cut down someones tree."
Treelaw: *INTENSIFIES*
IT guy: *sad noises *
This first one angers me, not only is OP setting an example that it's not ok to get whatever they want for the nephew but also for THEIR OWN SON like if their son sees that his cousin gets whatever he wants when he whines, the son will start doing it too, so setting this example for their son at that age is very important, and his cousin getting a lesson is for the best. Hopefully that tantrum that never got resolved will humble the child a bit, but it's sadly doubtful as I'm sure the parent's probably did something else to enable his BS.
If a young child cries for hours for a toy, itâs the parentâs fault that theyâre like this. Why is it better to prevent a tantrum instead of teaching children there are better ways to handle anger? Why is this so common? Teaching kids that people will give them whatever they want as long as they cry and fuss?
You know how mansplaining is a bad thing?
Well, assuming that a man can't care for his child and womansplaining are bad too.
Creepy lady was definitely more creepy than helpful.
Edit: Yeah, reverse the genders and things end VERY differently.
Agreed. Especially referring to it as cookie that's a highly sexualized term, there are over a dozen other non-sexually charged words she could have chosen. That lady was beyond creepy.
@@SoManyRandomRamblings
As the parent of a toddler, we just went with the anatomically correct words. Teaching them replacement words like that makes it hard to understand when they're trying to communicate pain or abuse, etc.
I never understand why people think men are incapable of taking care of kids. But sadly, even movies and tv shows often show the fathers as bumbling idiots who have no clue. Which is sad. Men are capable of raising kids, just like women are capable of earning a living in "manly" jobs. It isn't something only one gender is capable of.
Condescension knows no gender.
@@tsubakiofmelancholy6297
I was bumbling a bit for the first 3-5 months. But I think I ended up changing more diapers than my son's mom did by the end, and now my son's 3.5 and I'm far from bumbling now.
"AITA for telling my sister, who's twice my age, what to do with her own money? BTW I made fun of her marriage and a physical aspect of herself, over which she has no control."
Uh... yeah, guy. Did you really have to ask?
"Oh, you're teaching your son that he'll get whatever he wants by throwing a tantrum, and I shouldn't interfere with your parenting?"
"Huh. Well, I'm teaching MY child that no means no and that having healthy boundaries is a wonderful thing, and I think you shouldn't interfere with MY parenting" (especially in MY own house...).
First story: NTA. Screw that entitled nephew!! You're nipping it in the bud while then and there! They were at YOUR house and demanded YOUR son's toy! That's nobody else's fault but your brother and your SIL!
I can absolutely understand the fact that someone doesnât want to give away their money to a family member, just because that family member has kids. Itâs not even rude to say âDonât have kids if you canât afford them!â Itâs just a fact! And it wasnât a mistake either, having one child and not aborting it because youâre scared, or maybe you just donât want to is one thing, but to then have 4 MORE?! Thatâs just insane
I agree her sister shouldn't pay no one should pay for someone else's kids regardless if they were planned or not but the comment about the abortion made me cross you do realise people don't have abortions for reasons such as religion or basically because they feel its wrong to have a baby ripped apart and dragged out of the womb or in later months have them give birth and then have a pair of scissors shoved into its brain or they are just left to die as their lungs don't work without ventilation as they are sticky and dont inflate so they can't breath. Plus who uses abortion as birth control are you saying if you get pregnant you would just keep killing them until you want kids or is that what you expect other people to do but of course by then it could be too late and the damage is done and you can't have kids due to damage caused by the abortion.đ Plus you have no idea of people's situations they may not have planned any of the pregnancies they may have been on contraception but like it does with me it failed because they are highly fertile and it doesn't matter what they do they can get pregnant very easy and then they don't want to kill a innocent child. Let me give you a example I can't carry children I was told 22 years ago I'd never carry a child as I misscarry every time something to do with me not producing enough hormone to keep a child there which has a crazy side effect I never have a positive pregnacy test result either that's done via a scan even when I was in labour I didn't get a positive test result which they needed to do a c section which was strange but it was the rules back then so again they scanned me to prove it instead since the 8 tests they did didn't work even though it was obvious i was pregnant lol . I've been on every contraception you can think of implants, injections pills etc yet due to been highly fertile I get pregnant very easy regardless of what contraception I'm on and as a result I've had 12 yes 12 pregnancies !! Only 2 didn't end in total heartbreak but was close since they were very very premature actually one was classed as been misscarried but survived it, actually they were also at the gestation where people can and do abort which is frightening as they can feel pain and they can survive at that gestation yet people are killing them . So instead of judging people without having all the facts thinking that they are just getting pregnant on purpose and not taking steps to avoid it yes some people do get pregnant on purpose but some could be on contraception but its just didn't work, all my pregnancies were not planned as I was on contraception every single one I'd do anything to avoid going through that again but I'm too young for sterilisation I've begged for it but keep getting told no so we go through trial and error with contraception in hopes it may work but usually it just ends with yet another misscarried child.
@@annied1827 Oh god... You're one of those anti abortion nutjobs? Let me guess, you're american?
@@carolusrex3973 rofl nope totally wrong I belive it's the woman's choice it's a personal choice and some people dont belive in it due to as I said religion or they feel it's wrong. Personally I won't abort unless it is medically required but hey I was told I'd never carry a child and have lost 10 babies but I would never judge anyone who decided to abort it's their choice and a choice they have to live with it's got nothing to do with me although I don't think it should be used as a form of contraception or the decision taken lightly what they do is their choice and their choice alone and I've never been to America so wrong again đ
@@annied1827 Fair point, but with all the different contraceptives that are available now, getting pregnant accidentaly isnât really an excuse anymore
@@carolusrex3973 unless they are like me and they don't work plus all contraception has a failures its only like 90% success rate on most
I love how he always uploads at the exact same time every day, the videos give me something to look forward to
Week ago he uploaded at midnight
Well CZcams does allow creators to schedule video releases, so he might upload a week's worth all at the same time and schedule them out. But, it is nice to have them on a schedule to look forward too.
Miranda probably invited you because she thought you were cool, and thought you didnât want any part in the family drama, plus she wanted to get you a gift. Instead what do you do, throw her divorce, infertility (which btw is very emotionally damaging especially if you did want kids.) and told her sheâd be a bad mother. Btw the main reason why she probably didnât want to talk to her sister much or help her out much is for 2 reasons, 1: because she probably grew up with her parents favoring her, and constantly asking her when she was going to give them grandkids etc. and 2: because she wanted kids but can never have them unless she adopts so she probably doesnât want that to trigger that. Plus she knows her sister can probably handle herself and is getting help from others because she was probably the favorite when they were growing up. This is just my assumption but I think there is more to this story than you know about and Miranda was definitely not in the wrong in kicking you out and blocking you⊠I personally think you deserve 3.5 to 4.5 butt holesâŠ
Miranda is completely innocent in this, it is NOT her responsibility to fund someone else other than herself.