Transform Your Love Life With THIS One Thing - Adam Lane Smith
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- Do you feel like you're doing everything right in dating but you just can't find lasting love? Your struggles likely stem from unhealthy attachment issues. Learn how to fix your attachment style and finally attract the lasting, fulfilling relationships you desire.
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Picturing Adam as -Dorothy- Toto pulling back the curtain on the attachment issues of Oz. 👠 🐕
Technically I think it was Toto who pulled the curtain back! Plus I’m kind of scruffy 😂
@@AttachmentAdam ohhhh you’re right!
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Toto is a pretty cool nickname 😂
Thanks for pulling the curtain back ❤
That thumbnail wins all the things. 🏆
This video deserves a Pulitzer.
Thank you so much, I appreciate your feedback! What was most helpful about this video in your opinion?
Your description of secure relationships is exactly how they happen!! 💯💯💯
I’m taking a shot getting real vulnerable, because I need help.
I’ve been off and on homeless since 16, 8 years military, extreme highs and lows in life, 2 divorces - learned a lot by this point.
In a really teetering situation I’m worried I’m hurting my partner’s development & I really love her and don’t know what to do.
Asking for 20 minutes of guidance please, I’m moving back into my car and really broke.
Glad to see the answer to that Anxious Attachment vid you did a few weeks ago drop. People like me asked you to do that vid like that, but for avoidant types. This is that vid. Thank you.
My pleasure, keep up the recommendations and I’m glad to try and continue to accommodate
To be honest I just can’t believe that people will ever help me in any of these ways. In my experience people will never help you they will always betray you. Been betrayed by friends, family, and romantic partners.
try Jesus, He will never betray you, stay confident in God, Men and Woman are important together but God is Everything and number 1
A job is so much easier with the right tools.
Your videos have already helped tremendously because you give direction and clear examples.poking forward to working with you. Traditional therapy just validates, doesn’t help you grow.
Adam, this is an awesome video. Thank you. It’s a real eye opener.
The breakdown list you did of the avoidance style of attachment is really helpful. I seem to be an anxious attachment (INFJ) woman who keeps attracting avoidant men. However, now I can now be on the look out for the traits of avoidant men and steer clear while I work on fixing my own anxious attachment style. I’ve been in therapy for 45 years and I’ve not been taught about attachment style healing. Your care for whole community healing is unprecedented in the therapeutic world. Thanks again.
It is rare, way to rare but not unprecedentet
Thank you! I’ve had many clients who traditional therapy never worked. Please send me a DM on any of my social media channels and I will get you some resources to help.
@@johannakunze3300 accuracy is always appreciated. Gotta stay humble.
wow thankyou for teaching, thank God I found this video, I’m so co-dependent on my boyfriend which has been turning him off, it’s sad to say i’m 57 and learning this now, im changing over night, need to be the Sigma Woman
Lol the eyes! 😂
Great Truth Adam. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you, glad this one resonated with you
Hello Adam, I'm disabled and can't get a job. Is my chance of getting a girlfriend slim to none? i feel like I could have healthy attachment style within me. However, I feel like no will love me back because i don't make enough money....
@@Rain-ec4jj It was a "red-pill" dude/video but his way of putting it resonated with me strongly a few years ago and it gave me motivation when I needed it. Basically, there's three tiers of "dudes" and it's based off of three stats (Tier 1 dudes/Alpha Males score 8-10 in total). You have "Looks" (obvious how that works), "Resources" (obvious how that works as well but it isn't purely money as it's actually your capacity to "get things done" as it were and a dude who can get X done with 50 bucks is the same who can do the same but needs 100), and "Temperament" (i.e. your level of culture, intelligence, and the like. Chicks dig dudes who can compose a fitting poem/song, be funny, describe/articulate their feelings in ways they can understand, etc. Legitimate "Starving Artists" are Tier 1 dudes for this reason).
You don't make enough money? Dude, I'm friggin' broke yet I'm confident I can land a "Tier 1" girl (i.e. a securely or nearly securely attached 7+ on the HB scale) because I got Looks and Temperament pretty high. Could be higher (not a full 10 yet), but high enough and on the path to maximum value.
If all she cares about is your bank account and whether or not you got a Ferrari she's not the kind of girl you want in your life.
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Glad to hear it!
Sitting back in my chair for this one. Greetings from Denmark sir🇩🇰
Hi Friend hope it’s not too cold there. Grab some popcorn, you’re going to love it.
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Hi there!
The same is true about looks. If you think you are not attractive, people will think you are not attractive. Czech actress Sandra Pgodova didn't feel attractive, having a tumor on her forehead as a child. When growing up she didn't feel attractive and tried to hide the scar with hair, when dating or meeting people.
30 years later she read books about personal transformation and when she started to love her body and be thankful to her body how the body is taking care of her and started loving herself even her flaws, her energy changed she smiled more, doing seminars or gabfest with some colleagues, with humor, wrote two comedy books with her father during covid to make people laugh.
As she started to like herself and be thankful to her body, people started to give her compliments on how good she looks and wanted to be in her presence, because she is positive, she stopped being attached to things, to money, to material stuff, to looks, or stories etc. She said if you think you are ugly, people will think the same.... if you think people like to steal money,, someone will steal your money because you are attached to it.
You should practice love empathy humility and gratitude so you will have great changes.
Yes, some might call it manifesting, but it can certainly go in the opposite direction too. Don’t you think?
@@AttachmentAdam What do you mean opposite direction, that the person is so happy that doesnt seek partner?
Some think that people dont want relationships for selfish reasons or being a narcissist.
But I guess it may be also for selfless reasons, to not bother anybody with some spiritual lifestyle antics.
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Actually she experienced a heart break I think she ment the man broke up with her and that at that time she thought its the worst thing,
but later after personal transformation she realized it was the best thing that happened to her, because it opened other doors and experiences. Sandra also wanted to heal their relationship with their mother. because her mother felt unloved by her parents so her mom compensated her unhappy childhood, by controlling her daughter and organizing her daughters life, and the professional life of bing an actress etc. Her mom's father didnt allow her to be actress so she was expecting Sandra to be actress and living her dream through her daughter and didnt allow her to choose her own passion and happiness.But Sandra's relationship with father was happy. Her father is a very positive man who likes humor, the opposite of his wife. For some reason, he probably managed to live with his wife even though she is different and too rational. Manifestation can not be easy if you re too rational.
@@AttachmentAdam It seems pretty face not always mean happy marriage.... if the values are not about some kindness and humility.
But if you have kindness and humility, people even start to look at your physical appearance as very attractive.
Sandra said that she saw a girl who was actually pretty good-looking, until she opened her mouth.
so much negativity came out of her mouth that then people started to say well she is actually not so pretty. Beauty comes from inside, from the heart.
She said humility and kindness are most important with this work.
So maybe it can not go to the opposite direction with a humble heart, that the person becomes confident but not too confident ora arrogant.
Actually at the beginning of transformation, she thought she will lose all her friends and colleagues, and she lost some friends,
because they saw the same face, but her behavior was different, she was calmer, and less reactive, less drama.
Because she found out who she really is, not who her mom wanted to be like.
So she lost some friendships because they stopped understanding her. She asked herself so now with this knowledge I become alone?
She says you will never sta years, its just a short-term process. Later some people told her I like you more after you changed you're more calm and relaxed it's a good feeling to be in your presence. only her mom was crazy and didn't understand her, because her mom was a psychiatrist and psychiatrists dont understand 5D world, because in the 3D world they were t
aught the old values and prescribing drugs and psychiatrists think they know the best etc.
Some people started to call her Sranda Pohodová, which in Czech means "Happy fun" or "Comfortable fun" :D
Her seminars are in czech but full of humor.
Its funny that she ended up being actress as her mom couldn't be, but she ended up helping people find happiness as her mom
said well now she thinks she is a great healer, without having a University diploma.
Sandra says: Don't be mad at your parents for doing things wrong, because their story is teaching you how to not do things, choosing different ways.
It seems like this story is teaching humans, if you want your kids to grow up faster and become grown up, you should let them live their own dreams and choose their own professions., not make them live their dreams.
It seems to be actress and a psychiatrist, have something in common Both are pretending something instead of manifesting. She said Now I only care about one role Sandra Pogodova. Now I will pla myself and slowly stopping working as actress.
It seems like happiness of the world depends on the happiness in families.
As she pointed out she hears women have difficult relationships with moms, and men have difficult relationships with fathers, because the parents want to live their dreams through their kids, to become a doctor or actor, musicians or whatever, or be someone they are not but happy parents fulfilled their dream therefore they allow their kids to find their own happiness, as she did with her father, but she realized her mom was raised in difficult family too, so therefore her mom lives in the past not trying to change etc
But if you stop reacting to nonsense the relationships improve.
Omfg my stomach just turned thinking about vacations with my ex wife. I do have such a problem with expressing my needs because I don't understand how to justify that they are personal needs. Still got a ways to go haha
Sounds like you need some practice sharing needs with people who are loving and receptive! Do you have friends or family like that?
Friends or family to express my needs to? Maybe I don't. I keep thinking about how to express with a potential mate, but IDK what I would ask of any family or friends.
Have you read 'the W.E.I.R.D.est people in the world' by john heinrich about Western Educated Industralized Rich Democratic societies that came from culture were forbidden by the catholic church in mid ages europe to have cousin marriages to "break up the clans of europe" but resulted in "freudian" incest phobia and chronic loneliness.
That's an interesting idea, what do you think of that?
I have a question I don't think anyone else has answered: teasing and banter in relationships.
Teasing a girl you're flirting with is game101. But what about having a sort of buddy-jargon with your partner?
On the one hand, it can be fun and feels relaxed. On the other, it seems like it risks bringing out a more masculine side of the girl, and frankly, they kinda suck at knowing when to stop.
Haha it can be a delicate balance for sure, but maybe when you find a girl who can do it perfectly it’ll be a big reason you fall in love. That is a personality trait after all.
@@AttachmentAdam good point, thank you for the reply.
I will add it to my internal list of 'things to look for/keep in mind'
Hey Adam, have you seen the new NAPOLEON movie and what are your thoughts on the character’s attachment and needy issues with his wife Josephine?
I’ve known about Napoleon‘s relationship with Josephine for a long time now, historically it looks very troubling. He definitely chased her approval, so I wonder what she did in real life that made him so approval seeking toward her specifically.
Nine for nine. Who knew....
Adam shouldn't the title thumbnail contain the word 'up'? Because its a rather odd sentence otherwise.
Good feedback, thank you
How do I heal my anxiety attached with a splash of avoidance?? As a woman I need your help
Happy to help! I invite you to send me an email to support@adamlanesmith.com