Ask An Ex- How Val Quit Smoking 2 Packs a Day after 40 Years, Handled Cravings & Unsupportive People
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- čas přidán 26. 07. 2020
- Welcome to episode #6 of Ask an Ex.
In this video, the incredible Val from the UK shares her story of how she quit smoking 2 packs a day after 40 years with the CBQ Method.
Val quit on the 30th of April 2019 and she is nothing short of inspiring, hilarious, insightful and, a true role model.
Every smoker and ex-smoker has something to learn from her story and mindset.
Tune in to watch:
• How her life changed after quitting smoking
• How to handle unsupportive people
• Quit smoking tips that work
• How a personal tragedy kept her smoking for decades
• Her mornings as a smoker VS as non-smoker
• The 84-day habit rule
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Thank you for watching! What did you take away from Val's journey that can help you succeed? Comment below 👇 💪
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Hope
Love you Val, enjoy the new baby I have 3 grandkiddos and I really want them to say one day that granma was just as kickass and no longer needs these stinky cigs. Great interview thank you
Never give up!
Each day is a new day….
I'm 52 and have been smoking since I was 13..I've tried through the years..but keep goin back..I've tried every method..this woman sounds like me..she is explaining how I view cigarettes today..I'm gonna try this cbq method..Lord Jesus help me through this!!! As I'm writing this my anxiety is high because I'm scared to lose my cigarette buddy..wow
How did it go ??
Let me start by saying ibwas a snoker from 12 until 36, i'm 37 now...NOW, Ok view it this way: You have ONLY TWO CHOICES- smoke and risk dying MUCH sooner than necessary (and ANY smoker WILL suffer from SOMETHING due to the 🚬 smoking, it's not a matter of it, it's WHEN) imagine a sudden crushing heart attack or having to sit mist the day on an oxygen device because you CAN'T BREATHE. And MANY other things, like having to break the news to your family that you have some aggressive cancer..... there's many nasty things that could happen. And without much warning ⚠️ YOU might love them cigarettes. But they certainly won't live you back. You're literally PAYING to die slowly... OR you can turn that around, feel SO much more energy, being able to FLY uphill or upstairs while being able to be able to breathe, NOT having that fear in the back of your head or even existential dread/anxiety about health concerns due to smoking and not smelling like pure SH*T and having people avoid you like the plague or find your presence completely and annoyingly GROSS to tolerate. Doing all the things you ABSOLUTELY LOVE and having many more years to be able to do them! Not having to step out all the time, or being a nuisance to other non smokers while in their car by having to make a stop to have a cig then coming in and smelling like SH*T! You can just do anything and be anywhere without having to step aside or "disappear" for 10-20 minutes because you're in a non-smoking area... TRUST ME- IT'S SO WORTH IT!! I have a friend in hospice that got cancer of the colon, just to have it spread RAPIDLY over the course of the year and I still remember a text with him telling me how scared he was and how much he wanted to live because he had an amazing life and wanted to live it.... and HE DIDNT EVEN SMOKE...AND had NO family history of cancer! HOW is that fair!? Now think to yourself "I still have a chance to get what this poor guy didn't and didn't even do anything to ask for it"! It's NOT THAT HARD.. I also battled drug addiction for 13 years and I can PROMISE YOU that there are FAR worse things to come off of! Stay strong. YOU CAN DO IT ❤
Kudos… I am 15 day off smoking… relapsed once BUT now hopefully on track…. Boy its difficult
@@ThatTaRaGiRL very striking post. I am 68 been smoking since 19 . I now have gerd that affects my esophagus I have just been checked. I’m clear right now ….so if I don’t do this, I will have esophageal cancer if I continue down this path.
Thank you its been over 80 hours over three days since my last cig i look forward to the journey of being free of cigs
The early morning smoke with tea is the most difficult one! Honestly! And how she was a worse place than me and she could do it! Makes me feel like I can do it too
Val congrats. I’m 61 and have smoked for 39.4 years @45-50 per day. Smoke free for 26 days today. You’re my new inspiration. Thank you. By the way, you look great. Lol, I still can’t go on a coach holiday, I suffer severe motion sickness, have done since childhood.
I quit smoking back in May 2020. I was ready, made a plan and have had great success. During cravings I had a list of what the rewards are. They are great. I feel better, smell better & have more quality of life. I have more confidence as well!💯 You can quit it is so worth it!
Congratulations Heather! You're right, it's so worth it!
That's incredible. I'm trying now
9 days cold turkey after 3 year of smoking - my ex breaking up with me was my reason for starting. Now she's back in my life, not together but I won't allow her or anyone to control me. Take back your control - we are more powerful than we ever thought imagined.
Smoked for over 25 years, quit 2 1/2 years ago and feeling great 😊
Thanks for sharing this story. I'm at the beginning of my quitting with the CBQ system. I'm excited about it, but at the same time I'm scared to death of it for some reason. I started smoking 52 years ago when I went to collage and have tried about every method of quitting over the years. I got up to about 4 months of quitting 1 time, then fell for that "oh well, 1 won't hurt anything" trick. This time I am determined to make this program work for me. But I'm finding myself sabotaging my commitment. I stopped writing down when I was smoking before I finished the 1st day. I've been "too busy" to watch the next video twice. So now I'm going to go back to day 1 and start over. With God all things are possible.
Best of luck! Keep us posted.
He who the Son sets free is free indeed!
The longer the message the more determined you are you kept clued in without smoking for a few seconds while I was reading thanks 🎉
What an inspiring lady. Val's story describes me to a tee. I've been smoking for 39 years and the mornings are the most difficult time for me. I've been monitoring my smoking for the last two weeks and I smoke the majority of cigarettes in the first two hours after getting up.
I know that panic feeling when I can't find a lighter and yeah, I've lit cigarettes off of the grill and the toaster as well. I'm so grateful for your channel. Thanks 😊
Oh the toaster….been there done that and forgot. Shows how crazy cigarettes make us.
I never did the mint thing. I smoked and never tried to hide it. She’s right, one puff and in a few days we are back to a full blown habit! I could not scale back the smoking, it was impossible. I just chose the quit date and smoked as normal until that day and the last cigarette on that day was the last cigarette.
Val is GREAT! I'm turning 50 this week and realized that the ONLY thing I've brought along with me from my past is cigarettes. I've quit before and started again when my Dad passed in 2016. I'm breaking free of this trauma and addiction so I can be more kind to myself. That was my big takeaway from Val. We're doing something kind for ourselves! That's huge!
I remember when I was young, I quit for 11 days. My sister minimized it JUST like the person who minimized Val’s accomplishments. And I went straight back.
I'm on ig/CZcams if you were interested in some support. Definitely could use some myself.. at the 15 hr mark. Never feel bad, just keep trying no matter what. One day at a time
I recently found my daughter is pregnant, & I'm going to be a grandma. Best reason to stop, along with my health, wanting to be around for them & myself. ❤️
Not bored to tears, but moved to tears for sure Val! Day 2 for me today of the program and its just hit me how crazy the addiction behavior we commit ourselves to is...
Somehow I never noticed it before.
Thanks for being brave and sharing.
See you on the other side!!
I haven't smoked cigarettes for 5 years but I started vaping instead. I hadn't been free from nicotine for 35 years. I had convinced myself vaping was safer than smoking and I mixed my own eliquid at 3mg. Decided last week I was finished and gave up. Going cold turkey and it's been tough but I'm determined to finally be free of nicotine. Every day it gets easier. Hardest part of quitting is making that first step.
Great decision! I'm trying now.. I'm curious how is it going now, and never feel bad if it didn't work at the moment. I'm on ig/youtube if you ever want support! Definitely feel like I could use some right now. 15 hr mark
@@scenttrails2703 I'm now almost 5 months free of nicotine and I don't miss it at all. Not saying it's been easy but every day gets a little bit easier. I never even think about it now. Stick at it and you can do it. You've done the hardest part by quitting. Keep it up. 👍
@Jack T still quit. Never think about it now. Over 2 years nicotine free. Hard for the first 6 or 7 months but if I can do it anyone can. I was a 40 a day cigarette smoker and when I vaped I used 25ml of 3mg juice per day. I was heavily addicted. So much healthier and much richer too. 😂
@Jack T never. The smell of others doing it is actually unpleasant and makes me feel a bit sick to be honest. Best thing I ever did. If your quitting take it one day at a time and if you slip up and have one then don’t beat yourself up about it. Just go again. You will get there eventually. It takes 90 days to break a habit and trust me if you get to 90 days you’ve beaten it. 👍
This was so encouraging. I’m so proud of you Val! You look like you’ve never smoked a cigarette in your life. I am starting the program over. I really struggled with waiting one hour in the morning, but Val did it and that gives me renewed confidence that I can too!
I'm on ig/youtube if you wanna try to do this together 🙂 honestly I feel like I could use a hint of support and have only hit 15 hrs
@@scenttrails2703I will do it with you.
This gives me encouragement. A smoker of 50 years. New to this program I loved listening to her. She is an inspiration.
This is the best EX yet. She is great and so honest.
When she Said make your brain think that iam not smoke just for today not for ever i think this is very useful for me.. Thank you Nasia and thanks to your gust
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Smoked off and on 20 yrs. About 5 to 8 ciggarettes a day of probably average of 2 packs a week. I never could cope with more as it bugged my chest. Many attemps. Quit for several days at a time. I hope this is my last attempt. . Day 5 going strong
the thing i take from Val's expirience is to take it a day at a time for sure. sometimes even an hour at a time or a few hours and not to think about the rest of my life without it. just to get the next lets say 2 or 4 hours without.
thanks again for sharing! u r both really great!!
your commitment to stop gave me hope Val thx and God bless you.
The thing I took from it is when you have a craving that makes you feel anxious or aggitated or panicked, what you can do is simply "Slow down", and evetually the craving will pass - you dont have to listen to the thought which says "I NEED a cigarette"
Vals story was very helpful to make me aware that smoking dictated my life as well. I am on day 2 of the CBQ and look forward to the next day. Thank you Val!!
Thank you so much Val for sharing. I relate to all you say. 40 days cigarette free.
This video has helped me more than I can say. One day, or even one minute at a time. God bless you and thank you for your testimony.
Amazing.. I'm trying right now. Been about 14 hrs. Sometimes I think the hardest part is not having any support. But I am impressed with her ability to quit through the adversity, and with the lack of support from others.
Me to I started earlier today let's do it
@@patriciahutchings4895 that's awesome! You got this. Reach out if you want someone to talk to
Well done Val. I remember too well that obsessive compulsive cigarette & coffee ritual before getting out of bed. My bedroom walls were grisly brown & my room smelled gross.
Val, your a champion!
What a wonderful lady. I’m glad she was able to quit smoking. May God bless her and give her many years of life with her grandchild
Congratulations Val!! You rocked this !! From one Ex to another #nevergiveup
Love that!
Val made a great suggestion: take one day at a time. This approach reduces the pressure and will not overwhelm one.
It was amazing how Val could uncover the deeper emotional reason for her smoking.
Her positive take on her journey to become a non-smoker is inspiring. Listening to her made me feel that I will succeed this time.
Thank you Val!!
Thank you Nasia for introducing ex-smokers like Val who went through the same struggle of quitting as many of us including myself. Thanks also to Val for giving wonderful advice and tips.
Thank you so much Val! The one thing that helped me quit was Lso saying "let's do it tomorrow" and thank god that tomorrow never comes.
Congratulations Val and thank you so much for sharing your story!!
That was very encouraging. I'm on day 2 after taking time off to deal with panic attacks just at the thought of giving up one morning cigarette. I will take your advice to just breathe!
I planned today to be done, & then when I got up, made tea, instead of coffee, & I still grabbed 2 of my husband's. Feel horrible now. Starting my stop again right now. This video is very helpful. Thank you.
I'm way past 25 years quit but each day from day 1 is an achievement, and if a person who says, oh? Just 21 days? My answer would be "21 days more than you" - especially if that person smokes
Great hearing this woman and has given me hope. Best part for me is when she said take each day at a time because i always thought about no smoking forever which was too long instead of small daily steps. I need to give up and i am going to. I often think about the times when i didnt have enough money for cigs and started to pick them off the street. Not going to be doing that again.
Yes, that was a fantastic tip from Val. Go for it, you can succeed!
Thanks you for sharing your sad story. I remember Ann diamond baby. I started smoking at 30 after an abusive marriage . I couldn't trust anyone for a long time. I stopped smoking to fall pregnant at 41. I lost my baby. Now I know I smoke as SH as I blame myself. Your bravery in talking about your baby has inspired me and given me hope 💕
I love the PLAN, 2 coffees with 2 smokes, I am overwhelmingly grateful for Valerie, Nasia and the entire team who has 'lifted' me and given me tools, and inspiration that I can actually pull this off. I will jog again, I need to lose weight first. I knew carrying in firewood last winter was my A-HA moment. Thank you so much Val for sharing the 8 steps story. Wow. XX
I relate to this lady, Val, so so much. Everything revolves around it. I can relate to the problems on vacations, the “problem”
waking up. And thank u so much for reminding me of the “one day at a time” approach. I really really appreciate all of this.
In the maternity ward back in the 70's, my mother actually smoked with an ashtray resting on me.
Love this, so helpful you are doing amazing job for society, God bless you 🙏
I’m so happy for you blessings to your healthier life 🎉💕
Love this so much, great to to see a Brit, so honest, open and relatable.
Yes she is amazing!
I’m on Day 2 of the program and was doubting myself at first for spending this kind of money but what you said Val about if you’re willing to put this amount of money into this then you’re already 80% committed, resonated with me. I think you’re right and that why I was willing to take the chance. Thank you for sharing your story!
Val is such an awesome encouragement. Thank her for me. I'm about to begin my journey and I am so looking forward to putting your program to work. Thank you.
Wow, Val you are amazing. You hit the nail on the head with the Trauma awareness for all of us in the Trauma boat.
Thank you for sharing. You are very inspirational. I am on day 9 and feeling a little anxious but also excited that I may one day be able to make a video like this!
I can so relate to this lady thank you for sharing it’s been 3 weeks without now
This was great to watch! Thanks!
This is great inspiration, thank you for sharing! :)
Well done, Val. No more cigarettes for you! :)
Very very helpful video. 100% can relate to everything said.
Today makes one week of not smoking. Thank you for sharing your story, you are an inspiration! One day at a time! I've accomplished 7 mini goals. Hopefully, many many more to come!
Val - thank you for sharing - your story resonated with me as I am a heavy smoker in the morning - 15 smokes before 8 am. Watching your video delayed my smoke for the first hour this morning. If you can do it so can I.
She's absolutely lovely!!
Yes, she's really amazing!
What a great story, thank you so much for sharing your journey. It really is encouraging as I begin my new journey.
Thank you so much for sharing your story Val this has been the most relatable situation I've ever heard in my life. This is it if you are doing then I have faith I can too.🤗🙏
She was amazing! So many things that she said were exactly the same experiences that i have had. Epically when she mentioned about going on a trip on a coach! I have avoided so much in my like because of that. Love hearing other’s experiences. That video really helped a lot
Another very insightfull and helpfull video from you Nasia. Thank you Val for all you shared. Wishing you all the best. Keep up the good work Nasia! Φιλιά πολλά κορίτσι και καλές επιτυχίες.
Great video so inspirational. Thanks. I took from it I’m not going to smoke today.. this really helps I think with making me feel like I’m keeping it in the moment and not overwhelmed with committing to the future.
thanks for everything you mentioned its like you were talking about me and my struggles this video reall encouraged me to try again
Thank you for sharing. I can totally relate. I am still trying to get out the trap. Excellent testimonial.
thanks alot ladies!
Thanks for sharing. Very inspiring and insightfull. Thanks and congratulations.❤
Thanks so much Val for sharing - I am at the beginning of this journey - attending my first seminar tonight. You were inspirational and I valued your honesty and understand that the decision to quit is the best decision I can make in 2022.
I’m in the process of quitting for good & this has helped me realise it’s so true what this lady says thank you both ❤❤
Great interview!!! So honest and real!!!
Thank you, haven't smoked for a week now. On patches, but get cravings still. This was much appreciated.
You are an inspiration Val. Thank you! 😊
Thanks Val for your story. It's encouraging to know about others struggles and success!
Thank you Val. Break down the freedom process makes it more manageable. I know I can do this tomorrow is day one. 84 days for the freedom process to be broken. I’m committed. They say when you write it somehow it holds you more accountable. I have a two year old granddaughter that I want to know me as a non smoker. I can do this and I will. Thanks again Val. ❤
Very wise and tough lady, inspirational story thanks for sharing 👏🏻
This video helped me so much since I am at the beginning of the journey and I am very apprehensive. You are right now remarkable person and
Thank you, I loved this, so encouraging.
Hi Jana, thanks for your comment. We're glad you loved the video! :)
Thank you Val♡ You are an inspiration 💖 and am so very grateful for your sharing 🙏 ❤️
What a great video! Thanks Val
Wow Val. I loved this. Thank you. Well done!
Thanks so much Val for sharing your experience strength & Hope❣️
great to see this vid. can relate to so many things, like not being able to go here go there as you cant smoke etc..... rules your life.. im day 3.. wish me luck
Love this thanks y’all .....”dipping in the toaster “ wow never tried that one lol but going to now ! Very motivating you two ,day 2 for me 👍
lol yes the toaster, the oven grill.. those heaters with the red hot bars🙈
Val, you are brilliant. I love how peaceful you are now. Everything you said resonated with me and if you could stop a 2 pack a day habit, then surely I can do this too. I love your analogy to needing to take it a day at a time to rewire your brain--it's a process and always remember that it just takes one cigarette to take you back down the chute (like in Snakes and Ladders). Thanks so much for being so refreshingly honest and warm and down to earth. You have inspired me enormously. Tomorrow is my "wait one hour before smoking" and I know I can do it thanks to you. I send a big hug from Vancouver Canada!
Like Val's mantra, "I will not smoke, today", we will not worry about tomorrow, just today.
Thank you Val what an inspiration you are.
Honest , open , genuine.
Taking a few hours or a day at a time really hit a note with my partner who wants to quit . It's the fear of thinking too far ahead but achieving manageable
Milestones is the way to go. Well done in achieving your Goal and continuing to be determined and strong minded.
2023 will be our year to be smoke free .
I feel positive about this so does my partner who related very much to your Journey and experiences . Thank you x
You are the best . We love you from Morroco
Thank you Val for sharing your story I am quitting now!!
Val you are so right and best of all you are so non judgemental. I can relate to all you have said...Bless you👍
Thanks for sharing Vals video. I had to smile and say yep on her explanation of people's response when one shares "I have been smoke free for______days and they say, "Is that all". Talk about a WOW moment! It is nice to be able to look back and smile about it now. Encouraged again
Val is fantast real, honest, and charming! Very motivating, thank you!
I'm glad I started watching, 84 days, I didn't have this information before.
I'm on week 3 and really starting to feel better....
ide say the first 2 weeks are the worst....plus my gut felt so off....I felt bloated....like my stomach didn't know what to do without nicotine. I now feel better now....and being able to smell and taste is wonderful.
I kept thinking I'm missing out if I don't smoke, I'm missing out.....but this time, I realized I'm missing out on life... if I do.....
My twin brother Robb and I are struggling as well with writing the cigs down and keeping to the commitment, however I'm having pain in my calves walking up steps and numbness in my feet. All of the indications are there and one hour at a time I'm being quite conscious of this rough addiction. Thanks Val for the encouragement and Thanks Nasia for posting these support videos. God Bless!!!
Thankyou cal for your journey and tips on how to become a non smoker for good well done❤
Enjoying this
I love you for this video. For the first time in my life I have watched the full video. I can relate and I am so happy to see people quitting and through the same journey as me. It's a major change. I can so relate to Val and I am like, I am happy to have learn that we can fight this urge and it won't kill. I am just happy watching you guys.
Congratulations Val. You give hope! I will keep trying.
Bravo Vel !!!
Val I am so proud of you..hi my name is Amber and I'm a single mom I lost my daughter's dad to lung cancer 9 yrs ago she just turned 11 yrs old I am a smoker myself and have been diagnosed with a 9mm pulmonary note on might right lung.i have been smoking for 22 yrs..I can't leave her alone in this world she needs me.. everything you said is true..all things I did had to revolve around my smoking..I cry bout it sometime.. watching ur video helps me in my progress..thanks for sharing
Hope you’re doing ok
Yeah I'm ok just I struggle with the cravings but I have slowed down from a pack to 4 a day hopefully it will be non a day
Amber, how are you doing now? Im so sorry about your husband ...