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- čas přidán 11. 02. 2024
- remember when Sydney Sweeney was trending on Twitter for being ugly? for looking like a bloody MUPPET? Elle McPherson said it best when she said being ‘borderline ugly’ is a good thing. it makes you more versatile she said. and i agree. being borderline ugly in this day and age - with our current unrealistic, unachievable beauty standards is precisely what makes you pretty. memorable. unique. interesting to look at! sure being pretty is great. but being a human art work is arguable even better if you ask me.
and trust me. i speak from experience. i KNOW i’d better fit the beauty standard with a smaller, straighter nose. i KNOW i’d be prettier with a more symmetrical face. bigger lips. better cheekbones. higher brows. and i COULD tweak myself to make all these changes. but what i’ve realised in my 35 years on this earth, is that i quite like being borderline ugly. it keeps people guessing. it’s interesting. am i pretty? am i not? who knows? beauty is subjective anyway.
so if you’ve felt the pressure to be pretty or you’ve compared yourself to those uber stunning instagram influencer models - stop right these. you don’t need to change yourself. you don’t need to be a carbon copy of someone else. it is BECAUSE of your individual features that you are interesting to look at. striking. gorgeous. unique. MAGIC. in a world of beauty standards that can’t be met by nature - let’s make being borderline ugly the goal. - Jak na to + styl
There was actually a study on this. The people that were shown most swiped right on on dating apps were not the women that were the most objectively attractive. It was the ones that swung 50/50 on reviews of beautiful or ugly. They were very polarizing. So beauty is not about perfection or being objectively attractive, it’s about unique essence and draw. We are all ✨art✨ 🤌
I love this!!
unfortunately, the most "average" and "non-polarising” features coupled with objectively attractive features are what decides the facial attractiveness of a person and not so much our "essence".
Wow I was today years old when I learned this. Never knew this, that's super interesting.
it’s “unconventionally attractive” i think
I read about this in a statistics book!! Came here to mention this :D
Ive been told i was ugly and ive been told i was the most beautiful woman someone has ever seen. Its all in the eye of the beholder.
Same ! I agree
Exactly. There's someone for everyone.
This hits close to home, almost like a near-universal experience. It makes me wonder how many other women experience this same mindf*ck. "Some think I'm pretty, some think I'm a hag. What am I?" Perfect with all our flaws and worthy of love and respect, that's what.
@@taylenator2023 it's the way people think being pretty means EVERYONE thinks you're hot asf and everyone treats you super well like... No. Sure a lot of people are gonna like how you look but you'll still get people being mean.
To some extent.There’s some people that clearly look like a supermodel and some people who look like they snuck on to earth.
I think photo’s always mess with my confidence. I’m pretty happy with my looks when I look in the mirror but I feel so ugly when someone has taken a picture of me.
I think the way people move the mouth or how they talk can make them very beautiful. That’s more important than looking pretty on a picture
@@ReneeDotje This. It's hard to remember when it comes to myself but it is, in fact, how people laugh or talk or smile, their voice, etc. that makes me feel attracted to them.
sunsets don't look good on camera, they look better irl. you're a sunset. we all are to a certain extent. pictures aren't a true depiction of reality.
@@-_-9 that’s so sweet!🥰
SAME
Or maybe social media has just completely distorted our perception of beauty
Yeah, exactly
That’s it exactly.
Yep. The 'standard peak beauty' nowdays seems to be some sort of AI looking mannequins. Imagine if everyone looked like that.. Its quite freaky. Now that I think about it, I think that standard is coming from those 'otherwordly beauty' types. You know like those model-like or doll-like looks.. yes maybe that is the standard beauty for many, but personally speaking, I don't find that to be the standard beauty. Sometimes it's a little too uncanny valley for me so I am drawn toward beauties that are more natural and warm.
Definitely.
Yes, it definitely has. I try to stay off of it because I start to hyper focus on my appearance which is very unlike me, and I also don’t want to be like that. Just scrolling through IG, it bombards you with beauty gurus, and I look at them thinking, “how tf do they look so incredible on camera”? I don’t understand. I only have a few good angles. For the most part, I photograph terribly. On the other hand, I have people compliment me nearly everyday in public, so I just need to focus on real life and not worry about fantasy, aka social media. People curate and project the best versions of themselves 🤷🏻♀️ also, beauty is not everything. Everyone ages, and those people who’ve only ever had beauty as their “strength” will have nothing then.
"You're not ugly, you're just poor." is another thing that made me wake up a bit more about what "beauty" is today. I feel ugly too but you have a valid point for sure. Seeing "copy, paste" faces is dull and knowing that even the beauty elite have to pay to feel beautiful to fit a standard no one naturally meets is weirdly comforting, ty. :)
This. 👏🏼 whenever someone calls me beautiful I’m like that’s not a compliment, I’ve just spent a ridiculous embarrassing amount of money on my face. It’s not even worth it tbh. We all are gonna get old and ugly and need to find something more valuable to focus on 💜
Honestly the weirdest thing for me watching this video was seeing a bunch of pictures of people who I thought were super pretty and being told that they would be considered ugly by any significant portion of people.
Lol same. Though, it made me feel happier about myself too. Like, I find these women pretty but I think I'm borderline ugly too. I have pretty features but I don't think they ended up in a pretty face. So, by the same logic, there are people who find me pretty too despite me not thinking so.
@@Saphia_ That’s definitely a good takeaway to have
You live under a rock? The world is cruel
@@vell2994it can be but it's not always cruel. Find yourself some good people. They do exist.
right?? Gisele is such an exotic beauty and Elle imo is outright a classic beauty!
Sydney Sweeney is by no means ugly social media is a plague
Fr like... they see a picture where they don´t look "that good" cuz of the lighting or angle and lose their minds
Yeah what? I thought she was trendy because she was pretty, but I‘m also not on Instagram and into whatever is trendy right now, probably getting too old for all this lol
Yeah, she's girl next door conventionally beautiful.
I think it's interesting because I look similar to her, and I was told I looked like a muppet, but it was meant as a compliment haha
I think Sweeney is absolutely beautiful. Never ever though she was ugly. I find big eyes confronting, not ugly.
So I am like.... How do I look like. Never though about this.... Maybe I just feel comfortable not being materialized as beautiful because as a girl that gives me access to being myself without some guy thinking I am flirting when i do not treat man different from my female friends.... It's my comfortzone. Now that I am older, I attract man and it freaks me out. That attention is so unfomrtable. How do people do that and still feel save or not materialized. Side note for some context, my sister was always the beautiful one who got unwanted attention and I was always the boyisch cute one (because i am tiny and am extravert, I get away with alot).
As someone who is genuinely, objectively ugly, it's crazy to see these beautiful women being described as 'borderline ugly', haha!
nobody is objectively ugly, beauty has been subjective since the beginning of time. all that changes is the current standard. its also all EXTREMELY cultural. i'm sure you're beautiful inside and out and i hope somebody along with yourself can see that, truly, and share it with you.
@@bug5460objective/subjective doesn't matter. People treat you based on the way you look.
because they aren't lol
I thought the Same 😭
@@Klasik616 dont say that
I think 'unphotogenic' is a better term than borderline ugly. Im a photographer and ive met absolutely beautiful people irl that just don't photography well. Similarly, top models such as Kate Moss i would say photographs incredibly well, but i personally don't see them as attractive. We need to start reframing how we see and process beauty.
the comment that says "I'm not sure why you're against plastic surgery when you would benefit from it" is insane. Like, imagine thinking that being pretty is the most important thing in the world
No offense, but the world we live in is built on beauty or is needed by beauty. I mean, I'm not necessitating beauty because it's not the most important thing in the world, but to make it far in the industry e.g the beauty industry or acting, u have to be pretty, at least. Beautiful.
right? ... some people
What will these people think of themselves when they eventually age, and lose that 'prettiness'. That's what I always think.
I had an accident that destroyed the harmony of my face, trust me it is important
I’m gonna get lots of plastic surgery
Stephanie, listen, you are EXTREMELY BEAUTIFUL. Don’t call yourself borderline ugly or ugly ever again.
You just made me feel good about my borderline ugly face!! My nose is big and a bit crooked, I have smile lines, small lips, invisible eyebrows, etc… So many years of my life I’ve felt ugly to a point it made me depressed and closing myself inside my room so people cannot see my hideous face… thank God I’m finally over it. I still have bad days so videos like these remind me that those features make me unique and stand out in a world that slowly clones itself. Thank you Stephanie and in my opinion, you are gorgeous 🩵
What it's worth I think you are pretty🥰
"being pretty is great, but being unique is unforgettable." you're SO right with this one. there's a kind of beauty that is REMARKABLE and that can only be achieved by uniqueness, search for ethereal essence and you'll see. being pretty can be forgetfull but being unique can be unforgettable.
If you ugly and unique, people call you annoying.
If you pretty and unique, people call you unicorn.
Lets just be realistic, your appearance helps you land job, getting chance to try many different things.
Lets just admit it.
THIS❤❤❤
trust me, most people are basic. not unique
@@sonofkars and that aint a bad thing either! but not one face is the same naturally so yeah everyone is unique
I think it's also really important to embrace the way that you look because everyone is going to age! So if you are chasing perfection you are ultimately going to fail, because time comes for us all. It's so much better to spend your time learning to love what you do have and also learning to find value in other aspects of yourself, because beauty is fleeting for all of us. I was considered very ugly when I was younger , and then went through a phase where I was considered very beautiful and at the end of it all realized that there were some advantages to nobody thinking I was pretty.
I naturally focused on everything else about myself. Because I had to and I didn't have pretty to fall back on. Suddenly being thought of as pretty became this thing to keep and maintain and worry about. Which is silly? I know. But I had never had it before and I was worried about it going away. Turns out it eventually goes away for everybody and you are left with whoever you has made yourself into in the meantime.
We live in a world that is extremely focused on our outer beauty. And I think we would all be better served. Trying to focus on ourselves in a more holistic way
I was shocked to find that people think Sydney Sweeney's ugly. She has such a unique bubbly-baby face and I think she's absolutely adorable.
I was like wow if she's ugly no wonder why I've always had issues with my face
Fucking trolls. Has to be. Who the fuck looks at her and says "Nope?" Maybe they dont like the Euro look, blondes, etc., but UGLY?!!!
@@Ri57490 But the aforementioned “flaw” may well be attractive to others. Low and behold (!)
IMO Sydney's face is just average..not ugly, not stunning. It's why she rarely doesn't show off her breasts imo. Even when she covers them up, her face is just well..average.
People always told me I was ugly cause I was teenager at 6'1 and 300lbs? Bunch of make-up, flattened my curly hair every day, and depressed as shit. I'm 145lbs now, use no make-up at all, keep my curly hair, i'm married, beat my depression, go to a therapist and I don't give a shit how I look!! 🤣 But now I'm considered beautiful? Pfft hell nah
I was called ugly most of my life and also told I could be a model, sure was confusing.
I went through years of low self-esteem, eating disorders, and countless new products to be prettier, never surgeries, and I am so happy I did not have money to do so.
I am now 26 and a mama and fully recovered, but I still have ugly face days and body days, and I love them, I feel human and alive. I am happy my body functions as it should and I am healthy.
I truly see the world, and all I have ever seen is beauty in everyone and everything, never myself, but now I see that in me, the beauty, I am so thankful.
Literally same! Was made fun of for being “ugly”’growing up by half my classmates, meanwhile the other half told me I need to model. Grew up to be a model in my early 20s Boys didn’t ask me out in highschool - I thought it was because I was ugly. But then after high school a bunch of the guys I went to hs started hitting on, asking me out & telling me they had crushes on me growing up. Beauty is such a strange construct.
You’re a breath of fresh air on social media in your generation. 💕💕💕 stay real
as a borderline ugly person this video is a GODSEND. thank you! i always either look very bad or very good seemingly at random, and i could never really pinpoint exactly what it was, but you hit the nail on the head with this video.
This comment hits home! the RANDOMNESS of my face! Somedays - it looks fine. Others - I have to force myself out of the house. I've been told, in the street, by strangers, that I am ugly. But, then, I've been told the opposite also. Didn't help that my dad and brother used to tell me I was ugly when I was a kid. But now, at 42, I'm trying my best to settle for being 'striking,' or 'funny looking.' I'd rather that than look like everyone else.
I think a majority of humans are borderline ugly because by design we aren't created perfectly balanced. And our uniqueness is what people remember. I wouldn't remember those Kylie clones because they all look alike!
SAME HERE 😂❤
Same here. I can work on angles and look striking sometimes, but on regular days I look meh. Nothing pretty, yes borderline ugly. When I do get up and fix my face up add a winged liner add some blush on my cheeks that's when my whole face changes. The parts lf my face stand out. But I don't do that on a daily bases so when I do look at myself in the mirror. I think girl, you can fool the world some days but you kind of ugly but I still tell myself your still cute tho 😂😂😂. Lol
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Steph you are NOT ugly. You're GORGEOUS and unique! The best of both worlds 🫶
She is above average. All women above average sre gorgeous for the male gaze. Unless you only chase gigachads or something
@@keylanoslokj1806not really
@@keylanoslokj1806 absolutely
@@keylanoslokj1806who cares about the male gaze?
@@raindrops0905 every living straight woman. And men care for the female. It's kinda how the species doesn't go extinct. By caring what the opposite side feels, in order to instigate attraction
I feel like you are one of the rare honest influencers and youtubers out here. I have also experienced (and still face with) inadequate facial beauty- or insecurity and confidence in my uniqueness. You have helped me find way in unique features & find beauty outside of the modern beauty standards, and I've seen so many others feel this way after watching your videos (I've personally shared some of your videos with my friends and they all agree with me on this). This is a big job and I'm glad a beautiful woman like yourself is doing this💕🌸
I love your perspective on this! It definitely helps to think about my individuality and why that matters to me.
I have to say- I do not understand why people give you so much crap about your nose. It is literally nose goals… it’s wild how differently people perceive things.
Thank you so much for your grounded content and helping maintain my sanity ❤️
This is so true!! No famous model/actress looks like an ig model. Having an unique face and unique features is your biggest strenght, makes you stand out, and ultimately makes the difference between random ig models that all look the same and actual stars!
The sameface surgery being so common with IG models makes them boring looking. Too heavy elimination of anything that deviates from "the ideal face). Might as well just use a mass-produced plastic mask with elastic string.
Truth
I used to hate my black hair and big nose but it makes me unique and would erase my heritage
All the women mentioned in the video are white. Being a white woman automatically makes you pretty
Very true, Bradley Cooper or Chris Pratt aren't the best looking dudes you'd ever see on the internet but they do have kind of everyman looks to them. Like they'd be the best looking guys at your office parties or on a construction site.
I was going to add the same applies to men but the comment above mine already mentioned it. It's why actors in the MCU and many mainstream ones seems so boring as they all have the same generic pretty look to them. And it's the reason many supporting or character actors become so successful, as their unique features work so well when casting secondary/villain/everyday man characters. I wouldn't have mentioned Bradley Cooper or Chris Pratt as I personally find they fit the former category: basic good looking white boys. Give me Willem Dafoe or Walton Goggins any day over all the pretty boys in Hollywood, hands down (the exception being Timothy Olyphant 'cause he's awesome 😄).
I don't tend to notice or remember people with cookie cutter beauty standard looks. It's the people with different or unique looks that catch my eye and stay in my mind.
It's exactly why I studied photography in my 20s - I liked peoples' faces, the differences in them etc.
that’s so beautiful!! @@glittergoat91
Sadly I’m neither, bland asf w brown hair, brown eyes, brown skin like give me blue eyes or something fr 😂
That’s me but when people have different hair, like a fun color or style
i wish this video was shown to every little girl on this planet, it makes me emotional how important it is
thank you for this, wish i had someone telling me that when i was younger
I absolutely loove your way of exposing your thoughts and giving us really a mini thesis on such a complicated subject, well done !!
You’ve changed my life Stephanie. Thank you.
love you!
🥰 love seeing interactions like this! Yay ♡♡♡
Same! We love you Steph!! And you are GORGEOUS! Inside and out!!
i still feel like all these women are very very conventionally attractive...
*conventionally
@@Ultamami thanks
i think its because theyre white
That's why they're "borderline" ugly. They are still considered attractive but if they were slightly "uglier" they would be considered ugly, conventionally
yes, they actually are, but the thing is that even if these women are attractive there still people who dont finde them attractive because they dont have that famous insta face full of fillers and ps, or women who were treated as beauty icons in the past, probably wouldnt have the same luck now that everyone changes their faces in order to look a certain way. And maybe you dont notice but I feel like theres a lot LIKE A LOT of pretty girls and women that doesn realize that just because todays beauty standards
My girl, thank you for this video. Im binge watching them all right now, but this video got my feeling euphoric. You have a great talent. Idk what to call it, but you got it!
This video has changed the trajectory of my life. Thsnkyou Stephanie. Thank you for this.
YES YES YES! I’m an artist and this is why I will NOT paint instagram models. I love to paint texture, asymmetry, and unique features, and it’s heartbreaking to see all these people learning to believe their one-of-a-kind features are some sort of crime the rest of the world shouldn’t have to look at. Whoever needed to hear this, you are so beautiful and unique, truly like a piece of art that can never be replicated ❤
Same same same❤😊I've collected like pics of unique people. Some are generally attractive but still so unconventional. And so personable.
As a fellow artist... Couldn't agree more... Unique featured people are art and really fun to paint and sketch
You are so right. None of this Instagram copies will fit world's art masterpieces of Renaissance and Preraffaellite, for example. Their faces lack divinity, magic and art
True! While some people told me i was ugly, it happened to me that other people asked me, whether they could paint me.
also, "instagram models" are not models...
Those comments were BOLD! I’d love to see those faces. You are STUNNING Stephanie! Naturally
True! I once watched a video of a man who dressed up as a very, very beautiful e-girl and pranked people on Omegle. He really looked sooooo beautiful.
The hate he received from some girls hit me by surprise. They were mocking and bullying him - and this is where i saw it from a neutral distance (because it wasn‘t me, and it was directed at a man, they didn’t know, but i knew): these girls were all not pretty! It‘s so absurd that people that weren’t pretty take down others for their appearance.
Envy. One of the deadly sins.
I have no doubt they have self confidence issues of their own. When I was a teen, I posted a picture of myself online, and everyone called me ugly, then I looked at other people's pictures and everyone was calling them beautiful, so I got jealous and called them ugly, I later realized I was only continuing the cycle.
@@TranswealthyTrillionaire should've instead realised that others were beautiful. U ñlike you
AGREED!!!
Right! I feel like they are completely missing the point of these videos. Her titles can be click-baitey but what she actually says is reasonable and sound
😭😭 I've needed this so much!!! Your video inspired me to be more self-confident. Thank you so much🥺💞
Thank you so much for this, it was so eye opening. I honestly feel so much more confident about my face, and just being me.
I stopped comparing myself to everyone else after i got this idea somewhere: my face is a gift from my ancestors.
When i look at the mirror, i'm not just looking at myself. I'm looking at thousands of people who have been long dead as individuals, but still very much alive as fragments in me. And not only in my facial features, but everywhere in my body: from the shape of my nails to the size of my feet, and in complex qualities such as my sense of balance or the sound of my voice. Maybe even in my personality traits, like my shyness in crowds. I am them and they are me.
This thought fascinated me so much i stopped wanting to have plastic surgery at some point, i refuse to look like something i'm not. I might never know who my ancestors were, but the best way to remember and honor them is to love and accept myself as i am.
That's a beautiful way of looking at it ❤
This is wonderful ❤
wait.... that's actually true 😮
thank you so much 🙏❤
This is such a beautiful and empowering message and thought! Thank you for sharing!
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It's important to be reminded that nearly all the people who fit current beauty standards did so with non-genetic help. The aspect that blows my mind is that surgical modifications are apparently not enough. Even women who have had their bodies and/or faces overhauled still wear shapewear, have professional hair and makeup or personal trainers, and yet REMAIN dissatisfied enough with their image to face/body-tune their posts and paparazzi photos. Looking that way in and of itself is a fulltime job. The more Stephanie Lange content I watch the less it looks like a rewarding one. Thanks, and keep up the amazing work!
Even women in this vídeo have plastic surgery like sydney gisele and gaga
This is an incredibly powerful message. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and perspective!
This changed my entire perspective , thank you so much. you saved my life and im gonna try my best to love and work with my natural looks
Dear Stephanie. This video seriously changed the way I view myself, I’m not exaggerating. I’ve considered myself ugly since my puberty started and I’ve cried about it so many times, considered plastic surgeries, treatments etc. I wanted to look pretty, just like how others look. But this video made me realize that I don’t need to look like that, I’m beautiful in my own way and I’m unique the way I am. I should celebrate the way I look, not try to change it to make others potentially see me as a prettier person. I love the way I look, I’m just scared that others will find me ugly. All of your videos have seriously helped me with my self-esteem and I’m so happy that I’ve found your channel. Thank you ❤
I’ve also had this revelation with her vids! For me it was a bit of doing exercise for my health and the breast implant video. I had felt like I needed bigger ones to compensate my small stature. But out of healthy exercise, I actually grew my chest muscles a bit which gave me a more plump/centered look. I realized I never wanted implants, just a plumper look to my natural size. But I couldn’t have learned that without first breaking the tie to that mentality (that bigger is better or that I need a procedure to fit in) with Steph’s vids! ☺️😛🖤
Just take care of your skin, your hair, your teeth, nails, eat healthy and most importantly your mental health. Glowing from good health.✨️ No need for surgeries.
Absolutely.
There you go!!!!
This video might have saved my life. And I say that as a 25-year-old woman who loves myself but struggles to love the way I look. My insecurities hold me back from so much more than my looks do.
how can you love yourself while thinking you are ugly? It´s so sad to hear that you think like that when beauty is only in the eye of the beholder...and I hope so much that you will grow out of your insecurities. You rock just the way you are!
I am the same! Amout to turn 25 in 3 weeks, lost my identity of self visually, have no clue how to portrait myself to me or others, but I really love who I am and wish people could see it more - my insecurity doesn’t really allow it enough. Doesnt allow me to be happy within myself. I have my fingers crossed for us. Really happy to see I am not alone and I am oretty sure we wikl be alright ❤
Dude.... This is the best video on the topic of beauty I've ever seen....... Thank you thank you thank you
I think it‘s one of your best videos ever!! Thank you, they help so much ❤
When I was a preteen/teenager I always thought I was so ugly, but, then around the time I turned 16, the amount of male attention dramatically increased and I just found it weird because I was "ugly." My friends insisted to me that I was pretty, but I never believed them. Now, a few decades later, I have been surprised at seeing pictures of my teen-aged self and realizing that I was quite pretty. So if you're a teen or 20 something and don't believe in your own looks, maybe just be a bit easier on yourself, you are much lovelier than you believe.
Such a nice thing to touch on, i relate, yes be kinder and easier to yourself and others ❤
I could have written this. 🙌🏻 I was a shy, socially akward kid, so I was not popular and I got bullied a lot. But looking back I was NEVER ugly. Just like you, I started getting a lot of attention as a teenager and I was so confused... At school, I was the shy ugly teen, but outside school, the pretty boys wanted to be with me?!?! I still struggle to this day to receive compliments, because I never feel like I deserve it. I think as kids, we associate being popular with being pretty. If you are slightly akward or neurodivergeant, you are picked on. But it has nothing to do with our beauty.
I am autistic and the modern beauty standards have never described people I would actually consider beautiful. Pretty? Yes. But beautiful, gorgeous, stunning? No. For me, beauty has always been about uniqueness and personality of one's body. It's about the different shapes that one's face is constructed of, where the shadows are cast there, how their blood makes certain areas red and others green. It's about freckles, scars and fine lines.
Little details that we notice that others might overlook. 💯
Meh no
Yees literally same 🥺❤️
What about being autistic has something to do with that ?
That may be fine for you! Essence, personality, inner beauty, all that poetic nonsense, but there still are objectively BEAUTIFUL people MERELY on their looks,studied, symmetry, etc. Trying to say its merely subjective and no real beauty exists, is the same as you dorks saying GENDER isnt a biological reality and merely a social construct! Oy!
Oh girl. I love this. I love the hot girl energy of saying you’re too beautiful to be perfect but by also shedding light on the reality some people have that are living with their real features in a world that strives to shape shift into one person. It makes me feel good to hear it phrased as “erasing” oneself. I like you ❤
this actually gave me hope thank you so much
I absolutely love this phrase. I have been describing myself as borderline ugly for years but with so many more words. 😂 at 35, I really appreciate it now. As a teen, I hated it. I am glad we were too poor to even think about plastic surgery
i've always felt borderline ugly. i don't fit really any of the beauty standards. while i try not to let this effect me, it really does. this video honestly made my week. i can't really express how validating and comforting this was to watch. thank you.
Same here! Especially growing up I have an older sister and two younger sisters who people thought looked prettier than me. I was always compared to them and considered the ugly sister. Now I'm trying hard to embrace my imperfections. I always thought I would get a nose job if I could afford it. I have considered, I am unique, and I don't want to be a copy and paste type of woman.
Stephanie, thanks for your candor at the start of this video. I always appreciate hearing other women talk about their insecurities because too often we grapple with them alone.
I know you didn’t tell us about your struggles in order to receive compliments, but I want you to know that you are BEAUTIFUL. Anyone who says otherwise is just trying to be hurtful. I think your face is perfect.
I genuinely thank you for making this video. Been through a rough patch lately and this cheered me up. Glad I found it.
I really liked this video! I never thought about it that way before “being borderline ugly”. You are totally right. Supermodels become famous because they have a uniqueness. This definitely solidified for me that I don’t need to change my face to be considered beautiful.
😪 gisele gaga and sydney all have plastic surgery
Yes! Many people get upset at supermodels but they don’t control the industry, they literally just exist and people get upset that they don’t look like them.
and you are beautiful!
You're very beautiful
I think you're beautiful ❤️
"You dont have to be pretty to be worthy"
This helped me a lot on my own body acceptance journey.
I have a big not so pretty nose. And when i started my self acceptance journey i thought "my nose is pretty in its own way, its gorgeous". And when i admitted my insecurity others would also say its a beautiful nose.
But then i realised that when i said that, i wasnt actually believing it. I think its an ugly nose. So why am i lying to myself?
Thats when i realised that self acceptance is not about making yourself believe you are beautiful, it is about seeing yourself for who you are and loving your body for what it is. Which made me say: my nose is ugly and that is exactly why its beautiful to me.
And that helped me so so so so so much more in realising that lying to myself that im pretty is counter productive, and being honest and accepting yourself is the only way to actually love yourself.
I am Hilde, a beautiful girl with Beautiful eyes, pretty hair, A nice friendly face, an ugly nose, some acne, dark under eyes, a gorgeous smile, a soft voice and a feminine but petite body that barely has boobs and a little bit of extra tummy fat.
I am beautiful, i am not even near the beauty standard. I have some ugly features, but that doesnt make them negative features. I am proud to have them. I am proud to carry this body in all its honest glory.
Love you all. I hope you all will feel the freedom of being able to be ugly unupologeticly, because an ugly feature is still a positive feature. I hope you will love your own truth ❤️❤️
Girl, your comment literally made my day
Wait if someone believes completely in themselves in being beautiful, is that wrong? For someone to think and believe they're beautiful? That they find all their features pretty? If someone like that to themselves is wrong? Me just wanna understand
You remind me so much to Giselle, that natural beauty and uniqueness I love to look at. Love your content, that is what I love more about you! Commitment with your ideals and an assertive way to talk about this. Thank you for breaking the toxic mold
Girl 💅 you dropped this 👑
You know, you certainly sound like you're so beautiful from your inside that it'd be hard to find you ugly. You're probably great👍
It's so interesting and life-changing. This is one of the best videos I have seen because I'm 18 and have been thinking of a nose job for a long time but now I'm having a reality check where I'm questioning myself that strip my body away, what is left of me, my personality and my career. These are the things that I need to work on, my mental health, physical health and my academics. Thank you so much 🥰.
Btw whoever said you are ugly, they need to bleach their brains.
I felt like I was ugly all through high school, and I think it was more that I was so depressed that I didn’t have confidence and joy that radiated to show my beauty. You’re beautiful!
Social media has melted gen z's brains to the point they can’t tell an AI generated face from a real one
That and also they are just absolutely cruel on the internet. We're figuring out the consequences of being raised on a ipad
@@beachwitch89 Not all gen z's where raised by ipads, im gen z and i was born before they existed. But i get where you guys are coming from.
this generation talk again
why does this have to be a gen z vs others thing? If you’re online, you’ve dealt with the beauty standard.
(Also statistically gen z is the best at telling ai from reality, so..)
Source?
How can anyone say you're ugly?! I don't get it. You're SERIOUSLY beautiful!! People are just jealous
I think you're missing the point slightly?
@@aichohvee no I get the point, borderline ugly is original & beautiful. I'm simply saying how anyone can call Stephanie ugly is unhinged, she's clearly gorgeous
@@sjdrumbass4952 Yeah you missed the point.
I agree with you. I just paused the video when she mentions the comments she received and I am like.... tf these people are talking about? she is beautiful. people are just crazy these days.
Don't give false hope. 😅
I have no understanding of these negative comments about your appearance. Dude, you're drop dead gorgeous and I've been thinking that for months while watching your videos. I'm pleased to say that as a portrait artist, I'm quite qualified to speak on the beauty of the human face, and yours...is just lovely my friend :)
I’ve been struggling with my self image which is a struggle that I go through in phases. This video came to me when I needed it most. Thank you!
Idk why I was crying thorough out the video I felt so good after watching this and crying my heart out I always felt ugly , thank u so much for this I feel so relieved now
Same here!!!
especially in these winter months, i usually feel more ugly during this time cuz im so pale, never needed this video more
Aww. Sending you lots of hugs 🥺🫂
I feel you. ❤ This video explains so mich what has been going on in my life.
So many people go through that.
And we are the people, who don’t take out doubts about our looks onto others, unlike those who tell innocent people that they’re ugly.
You are beyond Stunning
Can we talk about hating our own voices? I have a good singing voice but when I talk or hear myself in a voice note I want to curl up in the corner and never speak again.
Record and listen to yrself every day. After a while you will fall in love with ur voice. try it.
You should do a course to get better articulation and voice, I am into that too.
I've always felt that way too! xxD
@@allenairamveraus6820 Wait, are you saying that I can fix my speaking voice? That's music to my ears! Thank you for that suggestion
I have that same reaction when I hear a recording of my speaking voice. It is nuts because I am fine with my singing voice.
Yes!! What a video! In a world where people are starting to change themselves look the same, unique beauty and individuality is so precious.
This clip does a great job in showing us how skewed our view is on what is pretty and not! It helps me accepting my own borderline uglyness. Thank you! And you're cute too!
I prefer unique / " fascinating " beauty because all those " borderline ugly" girls ( in your vlog ) became kind of muses in fashion / cinema industry.Their beauty can be so interestingly versatile .
I commented this individually just now, but I've heard this referred to as "polarizing beauty" which I think is a lot more appropriate.
@@MermaidAiera I do not like a word ( adjective ) " polarizing " to describe a physical beauty . I would rather use it to describe fragrances, styles ... maybe a point of view etc
@@joannasliwa8147but it is an apt description, the alternate terms you mentioned are vague at best
Being a non white woman in a western society is a even bigger challenge. Most of the women she mentioned are white
@@charleswhitefullbusteruchi1972 Just try to say to your friend that his/ her physical appearance is polarizing. Polarizing is a trendy- appropriate adjective but not at all a friendly one.
this video is amazing, it made me cry but it also made me feel beautiful i think more people should watch this especially that of the younger and newer generating being told there 'ugly and need to mew' all this crap about 'looks maxing' this video is amazing
I just want to say that your videos have helped me so much with learning to love and accept my body and face for what it is, I think you are a beautiful person inside and out, and thank you for helping me see the beauty within me
At first I had NO IDEA where you were going with this concept of being "borderline ugly," but the more you spoke, all the light bulbs started going off in my head. This connects so many dots, and I applauded you for being able to perceive such a deep insight
Omg. WTF? People actually comment those words? I think they may be projecting… a lot. You are beautiful, Stephanie. Seriously. I’m glad you continue to put your lovely face on YT and entertain and/or educate us! Thank you, you stunning human! 🥰🤩🥳🌈✨💓
Yes those people are definitely projecting. And notice the people who say the meanest stuff hide behind no profile picture. I get called ugly on IG all the time and the majority of the people who have said that to me have no pictures of themselves on their page.
@@leena75 same
@@FragranceEuphoria Right!? Because they themselves know that they'd be ripped to shreds if they did. Ultimate cowards.
yeah i was shocked when she said she was 35...
It really bothered me reading those comments too. I didn't realise she got that type of backlash. I think people maybe read her videos on a surface level and get defensive because they think she's attacking the celebrities she's mentioning and she's got in her thumbnails. Bet they're never actually watched a video through. Because Steph is always coming from such a grounded and loving place.
You articulated this so well! I've felt this way about beauty since the instagram face became so ubiquitous. Its so refreshing to see someone with unusual features because now when compared against the average celeb face they are stunning and sometimes even have an ethereal effect.
this actually helped me so much, as i've been feeling not as beautiful lately. i have freckles, a deep dimple in my chin, a recessed chin, a softer instead of a sharper jawline, dark circles, lacking plump lips,......just some of my insecurities/past insecurities i've had for a while. however i've always been told i'm gorgeous by everyone, and i'm very lucky to have never been called ugly in my life (from what i can remember anyways), but i've always said to myself, "i don't see how so many people find me attractive, i wish i could see what they see." i think maybe this helped me in starting to change my perspective, n be able to open my mind/eyes and see what others can see. ty
This made me think about how everytime I see old photos of women. (Let’s say early 90s and older) I feel “normal” and generally attractive when I would compare myself to those women. I would think “ok in the 70s I was hot” but then I see myself against social media now…and it goes out the window.
early 90's is old now :,) bless your heart, Im so sadden to see how social media had make everyone think one look is "Ideal" And that "ideal" and coming from a 92' baby. .. is doing more harm then good. no self confident unless you look a way .. And that way concerns me. making younger woman look older then me.
tearing up watching this because I’ve always hated my nose and I’ve been crying about it this weekend since someone told me it was ugly but you’re right it’s boring to be like everyone else and it’s nice to embrace individuality
I had so many years hating on my nose growing up and as I aged I actually grew to love it and how unique I am and when I saw a photo of a great grandparent who looked just like me I felt so glad I did not change to 'fit in'. So glad we are learning to embrace our unique self ❤️
i have a pretty ethnic nose and people of my heritage (I'm Turkish) usually get it done. All my female family members have theirs done especially cause it's so cheap in Turkey. I lived in Ghana and Sierra Leone for a couple years to study and do research and I got so many compliments for my nose. I was told my whole life it was ugly because it is long and pointy but the people there specifically told me they loved my nose cause it's so pointy.
I was bullied relentlessly in middle/high school for my nose and it still haunts me to this day🥲
@@samanthapowerx i can assure you that guys love your nose. I've never known a guy to say anything about a girls nose. outside of high school and low brow net forms---
If its big, thats sexy. If its small, thats sexy. Just telling you how most men think. (im 40)
It's probably other girls trying to bring you down.
I got bullied because of my nose but it made me be even more proud to be different. I have a big nose and proud to be different. I am extremely confident in who I am as a person and I would never bully someone that looks different so I also learned to accept myself. Not to brag but I have never had an issue getting a boyfriend and even dated some really handsome men so don’t let your nose get you down. Having a small nose or whatever is considered a perfect nose doesn’t mean life will automatically be easier or better. To be different and confident we will set a good example for young girls to also accept theirselves and remember if someone is bullying you it’s because they are insecure themselves.
this video was for me such an eye opener, thank you for making me feel good about my features
love this video! You're so right, I'm tired of the generic model face that will go out fo fashion in a couple of years
i work in a corporate setting so i see a lot of people on zoom calls every day. recently i had this moment where i was looking at a big group of people on a call and marveling at how different everyone looked - and how beautiful it was that no two people look exactly alike. it feels sort of magical when you think about it. as someone who has struggled with self esteem about my appearance for as long as i can remember, i wish i could apply that appreciation to my own face, rather than nitpick my traits and feel bad because they are different from other people who i find beautiful.
Girl, I feel you. I see the beauty in everyone. I appreciate how each person has their own unique beauty. However, I can never do the same for myself. It’s something I try to work on but every time I look in the mirror or see a photo of myself all I can see are “flaws”.
THANK YOU for being you and sending this message. I am so worried for younger generations, especially these "sephora girls" whose childhood is ruined by having to focus on beauty standards so young. I adore the positive and realistic message you send out on your CZcams. Keep up the important, amazing work!!
Young sephora generation is already 18! I fee like it really depends on your life outside of social media. When you hang out with the people only caring about looks and money you obviously go down a rabbit hole. But our generation is politically very active, especially regarding environmental issues and this gives us a lot if purpose and puts a lot of things in perspective to what really matters. I am very grateful for experiencing that
Yeah Id say millenials were just as bad about this stuff. Cosmo, Teen vogue, etc. We ALL would try out makeup at Sephora, only difference back then is a lot of our parents banned us from wearing makeup until we were like 15, and we didnt have step by step how to guides on youtube for any look we wanted. Plastic surgery was already normalized, people would photoshop their myspace pictures, magazines edits etc. Its just more widespread now + social media is quite a bit worse @@marionpoppe3708
Viva l' Jolie Laide!
Its crazy how this video put it all into perspective for me. I've always felt like I could only be happy if I changed like everything about my face but ironically i get all my self confidence from high fashion models! Thanks for this
This is absolutely one of my favorite videos, thank you ❤
i never thought a video named "you're borderline ugly" would make me feel this good.
Thank you so much for this video. I'll never forget when I was 15, and asked an older brother of a friend of mine if I was pretty. He thought about it for a minute, and said "You're not pretty, and you're not ugly. You're right in the middle". Instead of getting angry or offended, I was comforted by the fact he was honest, and I knew he was right. When I look in the mirror, I'm very happy with my unique features, because I like how I look with or without makeup.
I can easily fit into the beauty standard with lots of makeup, doing my hair and wearing flattering clothing. I've had coworkers not recognize me when I'm all dressed up. But I like my nose, my wide apart eyes, and full cheeks.
Thank you again, for putting into words what I've known for so long.
Really love the themes of this topic about authenticity and uniqueness! Especially the clips from movies and old footages... wish to see more appreciation of natural beauty rather than evaluations on plastic surgies.. Keep it going!
Love this video so much. You’re so smart and amazing at relaying this info. Thank you! ❤❤❤
This is seriously on point!! I have always preferred what I call an “actor face” something unique, like a work of art made by nature
Yep. Most actors are just below the attractiveness of your standard model and that's what makes them better-looking to me. Actors tend to have some "relatable ugliness" to them, while high fashion models are often "ugly" in this ethereal, kind of alien way. And then you have your run-of-the-mill IG model.
This video is so important. I feel like every young woman, middle aged woman, or any woman who is insecure on their looks needs to watch this. You have changed the way I feel about myself in the first few minutes of this. You’re amazing! Thank you! You’re helping so many women.
Omg I love you Stephanie ♡ thankyou for being the natural girls champion :) skincare, hair care and general self care can go along way ♡
I am so grateful for you making these videos. It's so important to talk about face insecurities too, and not only body insecurities. Thank you so much !
I've heard this called "polarizing beauty" and I feel like it's a perfect description for this phenomenon.
I love this phrase so much more!! ❤
i love this video so much!! i've always been "kinda ugly" on a bad day and sorta cute on a good day. now that i'm in my 30s i've learned to appreciate my uniqueness even if i do still feel insecure some days.
This is so real, appreciate the comment, you're not alone in the boat, and it's a totally normal boat to be in ❤
Girl! I love what you are doing. I love your videos. Are you the only honest person on CZcams? Btw you look amazing, for 35 that’s gold. Also your voice is so soothing I watch your videos every day and do stuff like cleaning ❤❤ You made my day🐰🙂
I’ve never thought on you not feeling or seeing absolutely stunning at the mirror every time, one of the reasons I enjoy so much your channel is not that you touch important topics but a gorgeous person telling others that’s might not be socially acceptable beauties that they are empowers so much! Xoxo
Omg those comments you screenshot…. People are just…. Something else. I’m glad you have enough self awareness and self esteem to not buy into any of it.
(Paraphrasing) “No hate but wouldn’t you like to fix your face?” WHO SAYS THAT. Also, clearly that person (or bot, let’s be real) has never watched Botched. Watch a few episodes and you’ll never contemplate “fixing your face” unless your nose is actually falling off or your eyeball migrated to your cheek unexpectedly.
Nothing but ❤. Keep doing you. Great content as always.
I was so fucking shocked "i mean this with love no hate but get some surgery" like wtf are you saying ??? To a STRANGER
Yes right?! The irony of sending ugly comments to tell someone they should want to make themselves more beautiful! 😂
Unique features are gorgeous, and they give you “world” ethereal something extra &depth it gives authentic. I am so sick of seeing everybody’s face look the same.
oh my god im so glad i came across your video cause i am in love with your point of view on life and beauty and etc you just became an inspiration to me thank you so much for your words (and i think you're beautiful inside and out
Thank you so so much for this, truly!
lot's of hugs and kisses from Brazil ❤❤❤
5:12 i LOVE wideset eyes like this, i literally can't get enough of them! all my sims lowkey look like her with varying skintones lmao
it’s a male trait
Lmao how? If anything it looks pretty feminine. Most guys I see have closer set eyes@@intrusiveminecraft
SAME! It looks so mesmerising and hot while close set eyes make people look kinda stupid or like their parents are related if ykyk
@@alliwhite3941 dude you dont need to add that last part.
@@alliwhite3941 why offend the close set eyes😭
Accepting yourself is really hard. I definitely always felt „borderline ugly“ as you put it 😂 and that’s why I have always been so sensitive about people’s opinions of my looks - I so wanted to hear people say something nice about my appearance and overthrow what I was thinking about myself. I think I’ve come to terms with being what I am and it’s ok. It’s so liberating! Hope it won’t change tomorrow 🫣😂
PS: I’m so shocked you are being called ugly! 🤦🏼♀️ people obviously never saw ugly 😜
Do you know the song from Tove Lo: Moments? That's my jam :D (on this topic)
I agree with you
Yep, they've apparently not once used a mirror
seriously those comments were so unbelievably unhinged
I started doing it, after realizing that my face is a compilation of the faces of thousands of people who existed before me: my ancestors. Maybe my nose comes from a different part of the world than my lips. Maybe my complexion and, for example, the shape of my toes or the sound of my voice all come from different people at different times in history.
Why would i want to look like someone else when my face is a wonderful gift from my ancestors? That is more precious and important to me than any temporary beauty standard.
You’ve opened my eyes! I feel so fitting. And this is not a bad thing
I love this video! A good comparison can be with art in general. You see the same style of are everywhere (ie - our beauty standards) and get bored. You see some art with a little spice? Now that's what i'm talking about!
I modeled for 10 years. It's not about being pretty, it's about having a look. I did pretty well, and I have narrow eyes and a wide mouth (very unproportional facial features). It was so weird to me when my husband told me he thought my face was a 10/10, because I thought it was one of my weaker areas.
can someone become a successful model by looking 'average'?
@@urisuu_ Yes, even borderline ugly. First of all you need the body, you must look like a hanger so the clothes hang on you ( which is why so many models are thin and tall ). High fashion houses also need an interesting face, which means you can have ugly facial features which stand out in some form.
I guess thats what the term extraterrestrial means. I always hear people talking about models and their otherworldly beauty. Like objectively pretty but with an alien feature or two.
You are BEAUTIFUL. Period.
Exactly.
I, too, used to think im the most ugly girl that has ever walked on this earth, but overcame it and now im just me and happy most days. Stephanie is gorgeous tho❤
you are too
@@w140bossbabe6me too. I thought this at 11. I was bullied terribly and hated how I looked
@@nataliamirochnitchenko8152 And so are you. 💛
I’ve been struggling recently with my facial features, thinking that I wasn’t pretty enough to be an actress or just pretty enough to me. I was currently looking to get some fillers in my lips (I’ve always been complexed by it, since I was like 13 bc I founded it too thin to be pretty). And this video makes so much sense to me, because, right now, I got my confidence back and I find myself really pretty and cool, putting my unique features, my personality and my charisma first. And watching this video is just what I needed to realize why and what I was struggling with. I’m not ugly, I just don’t match with a beauty standard that is “obliging” us to look all the same ! And it’s great, I like it that way and I hope that y’all can feel like this or, even better, that they feel this way right now.
Thank you for your video !!!
This actually made me feel so much better, I am borderline ugly!
I haven't taken a photo of the left side of my face or facing straight forward in a long time. I got a 5.5 using the golden ratio thing, my face is no where near symmetrical, my lips are pretty thin, but you made me realize I love my uniqueness. Thanks girl ❤️
i watched this vid 2 days ago and im not exaggerating when i say i've been thinking abt it nonstop ever since. had to come back because this changed the chemistry in my brain and is making me see beauty in different way. thank u so much for this
I feel you, it's so powerful
yet u have taylor swift pfp...
@@Mae-ss7in yes, and??? lol
Great! Actually, the feel for beauty and esthetics is not an inborn or natural trait to most people. It’s learned and taught. We follow trends. During Victorian times in England, there was a period when it was considered very beautiful to have blackened teeth. Imagine that?! Today it’s tattoos. However, studying art and literature opens our mind and senses in the ways that people who only follow trends can never understand. But, then, you apply that knowledge to your life and you realize that - yes - all along you thought your grandmother was beautiful because of certain features that were unique to her and also in the way she related to you. That’s where the beauty is, when you can actually feel it.
Yes, if you see beauty through your inner perception of aesthetics, it is a completely different world than if you look at it through what you’re told by others