your 'mommy makeover' is a mess.
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- čas přidán 22. 01. 2024
- if you’re a female, it’s your duty to bear children. but it’s your OBLIGATION to look like you didn’t. enter the rise of the ‘mommy makeover’.
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THIS IS BASICALLY THE MESSAGE THAT SOCIETY IS SENDING TO MOTHERS EVERYWHERE. IF YO’RE A WOMAN, YOU SHOULD ASPRE TO HAVE CHILDREN. ITS BASICALLY YOU'RE DUTY AS A FEMALE. BUT DON’T YOU DARE LOOK LIKE YOU HAD THEM! YOU CAN POST AS MANY BIG BELLIED SHOTS AS YOU LIKE WHILE YOU'RE PREGNANT, GO AHEAD, EAT FOR TWO. PUT YOUR FEET UP! YOU’RE GROWING A BABY REMEMBER. BUT OH BOY HOW THE STORY CHANGES ONCE YOU’VE GIVEN BIRTH. THEN YOUR BIG BELLY IS NO LONGER CUTE. YOU’RE NO LONGER ALLOWED TO EAT FO TWO, HECK SOCIETY DOESN’T EVEN WANT YOU EATING FOR ONE! BE LIKE THESE WOMEN WHO STARTED DIETING RIGHT AFTER POPPING THEIR BABIES OUT. YES ITS YOUR DUTY AS A WOMAN TO HAVE CHILDREN, BUT ITS YOUR OBLIGATION TO SNAP BACK INTO SHAPE AFTERWARDS. BUT WHERE OH WHERE IN THIS MESSAGING ARE WE ENCOURAGING the WOMEN THEMSELVES TO DO ANYTHING FOR THEIR OWN HEALTH AND HAPPINESS? - Jak na to + styl
If your husband wants you to have a mommy makeover it’s time to have a husband makeover. Throw that man out with this week’s garbage!
Exactly my husband keeps telling me I don’t need it. I just need a tummy tuck and tightening, I really do need it tho cus my separation can only be fixed with surgery 😢 I have so much back pain cus of it
@@myafield4039 that is 100 percent why they’re there too! Birth is traumatic but beautiful and you deserve to be healthy. You have a W husband who just wants you to be comfortable
Exactly
I’m glad I’m not the only one that was thinking that. Blech, no thanks! Move TF on! lol
👏👏👏👏💖💖
Mothers who just went through the most horrible pain to give birth get shamed to death for not looking like a runway model, yet "dad bods" get celebrated 💀
That’s a very small group of women that like that kinda man. It’s only “popular” because it became a meme. Is the same thing as men who are into bbw. Its not as big a problem as we make it seem. If your husband loves you he always will, it’s only women torturing themselves in their heads.
@@Abcdeisnerok...?
@Abcdeisner I felt nothing and bounced back quick all my gym tights fit again but I barely had a bump and not everyone is the same
This is why I never got how men were talking about 'finally' dad bods are accepted. Men's physical attractiveness NEVER mattered that much like women, so why are they acting like they were oppressed?
You’re so right gosh 😢
That lady’s husband calling her breasts flappy is so heartbreaking. Those breasts most likely fed his babies and instead of being appreciative of motherhood he buys her a mommy makeover for his own selfish desires. So sad.
porn has ruined so many generations of men.
Yes, he is horrible
Anna’s husband is…anyways he isn’t a good man for helping her get this surgery.
He is entirely made of ick, IMO. Talks about her like she’s a malfunctioning appliance.
The husband's in this... are ick
3 days after having my baby, a woman in the street told me I looked like I was still carrying my baby. Luckily my head was straight and I just laughed in her face at the rudeness, but imagine the damage that could have done if I wasn’t ok?! Society is busted!
What an ignorant comment!!! Do they think women are Elastagirl or something 😂 (elastagirl from the incredibles)
I can relate! Not about postbaby body, but I have my fathers Native American nose, which I happen to love and I was on the bus outside of London when my friend let me know that a person was trying to get my attention, and I turned to the person who rudely told me that I have a big nose but I laughed immediately in their face because I just thought it was so absurd that they would feel the need to tell me that and also I love my nose so it didn’t bother me at all and I went right back to talking to my friend. But yes, if I had deep insecurity about my nose or myself that could’ve sent me in a downward spiral of getting surgery or not wanting to be out in society.
That's so completely normal though. What kind of human, but especially a woman, doesn't understand that you will still look pregnant after birth or even a miscarriage!?
@@MalissiaCreatesI have an "eagle" nose (what I call it 🙃) from some indigenous ancestry and I learned to embrace the character of it. You look beautiful! That person is a freak.
@@5050TM I think first nation and indigenous noses are beautiful and I love the high cheekbones too! Thank you for your kind comment! I always thought my dad resembled a hawk with his nose, and his hands look like talons. I look more like an owl, myself 😁
victoria beckham being weighed on live tv is evil
That show was on when we were young teens and seeing that 8stone on the scale got a whole bunch of us longing for that number so starving ourselves, one girl to death, and the boys constantly asking if we were 8stone or below 😣
Im sure it was staged 😊
And the fact that I’ve never weighed that little in my life since prepubescent childhood ?? WOOF that’s like 112 pounds??!
@@GoOutside321maybe but it’s still awful! TV would never away with that now
Never found that woman appealing.
That one husband calling his wife’s breast’s flabby made me furious.
Also commenting how she doesn’t have cleavage.. or did “as a kid”. 🙄
Yes, he sounded like a creepy jerk.
@@ninahannum1894he gives off real small 🍆 energy
I came here to say this. What a pos creep! Completely lacking self awareness while inflicting criticism upon his wife and no doubt damaging her self perception, regardless of surgical outcome! She’s a human, not moldable meat to show off in his trophy cabinet. Notice how she looks down often after his “compliments”, she feels the impact of the backhandedness, even if she doesn’t choose, or know how to voice it.
@@gutslappa Doesn't make him wrong? Makes him an a-hole
I’m 5 weeks postpartum and my husband is my saving grace. He tells me I am beautiful every single day. Don’t settle for anything less.
Congrats on your baby and I hope you have a great recovery mama
Im being able to feel okay w my new body JUST bcs my husband keeps pointing out how attractive he thinks I am❤
God bless both of you 🤗 💐 ♥️ that's a keeper and am happy for you
When my then spouse asked my obstetrician how soon my body would "bounce bk" , the dr side-eye'd him & said "we cut thur muscles- w/o surgery, this IS her body" ❤ with 1 sentence, that Dr. Lifted a weight off me & i stopped stressing over my body from that day forward😊
LOL-“My then spouse.” Good choice!
Glad he’s you’re ex husband. There are a lot of stupid immature men out there.
Couple years ago I was with my ex- sitting on the grass at the park my shirt rolled up just an inch and he was like “What’s that?” All disgusted. So I looked down to my side it was my stretch mark. You’re with a woman who has given birth one time so why you shocked I have stretch mark on my love handles? This man is in his mid 40s. Acting like a toddler grossed out over TWO stretch marks. Glad I got ride of his a$$ too.
What a great doctor!
He is telling the truth
That Emily Ratajkowski photo with her baby hanging off her arm like a dirty shopping bag still sends me
I have never gotten over that photo. It made me so angry. Babies aren't props ffs.
Right cause I thought that looked weird too … it’s like she didn’t know how to hold the kid.
@@briezeeeshe prolly knows how to hold him just doesn’t care cus she only cares about herself and getting attention
@@valeriekerschner8397does she really? All these celebrities have 5 nannies 24/7 and only use their kids as photo props
That picture triggers tf out of me every time I see it just pisses me off. Just...how can you hold an infant so carelessly like he's a fucking purse?!?!
My EX-husband told me I was not good enough after I had my children and became older. I am so glad I decided to accept myself and kicked him off of the curb and did not have surgery. I ended up losing the toxic 160 pounds.
You did amazing sweetie
Smart decision, dear. The creep didn't deserve you❤
You are a QUEEN
Jerk. You deserve better…..
You are AMAZING
I heard someone say to her kids that her belly is still round because that's where she carried her children and grew them and her body wants to remember that 🥰
I think that's beautiful and definitely the explanation I'll give my daughter too.
That is very sweet and a good reminder of both the blessings and changes we make for the gifts of new life. Very touching ❤
Arms be missing the baby bump!
I love this so much❤
That’s so so beautiful!
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Im pregnant with my second baby and I told my husband I wanted surgery after that. He said I was crazy.. that I should just try to work out and eat healthy. I am glad now that I saw this video because it scares me that my kids will not have a mom if something goes wrong with this surgery I wanted to get. First time seeing you and thank you ❤😭
You have such a great husband and supportive too!
Thank God you have a husband with good sense!! He's completely correct v
If you still want a bit of touch up surgery after baby #2, that’s fine! But it’s extremely sweet that he’s supportive of you naturally being healthy and feeling good. Sounds like a pretty good guy. 👍🏻
Lift weights and look into radio frequency for skin tightening!!
The idea of starving after giving birth is insane. How are pregnant women supposed to recover and breastfeed under those conditions?!
fr!!!!
Can't. Wouldn't be able to take care of baby properly if we're not fed and rested as much as we can
so not gorging yourself in food is starvation ?
He probably also refuses to 'watch' their child so she can go to the gym after her Dr clears her as well
Starved myself and exercised obsessively after delivering my beautiful girl. It was awful. Be kind to yourselves, mamas!
Partners/husbands agreeing and encouraging the mom of their children to undergo such an invasive surgey, knowing the risks for her health and life are walking red flags.
More like superficial thrash
This lady has filler in her lips if it wasn’t obvious enough . How is it ok she can alter her body but not others lol
YES, people should talk about this part more
Ikr it's so creepy
"Yeah ik you just gave birth to our children but your boobs r kinda saggy and don't fit my fantasies, change em" wtf 🥲
Came here to say the same thing
My husband can be a jerk at times. It happens. But he has NEVER complained about my post baby body. Ever. Never called me fat. Never complained about my saggy breasts. Never made a comment about my less than perfect butt, or my mommy-tummy. And watching this video and reading these comments has made me suddenly appreciate him a lot more than i have. Thank you.
Same. Infact my husband actively encourages me against a mommy make over. Cause I miss my old body, pero, he always assures me that I'm more beautiful now after having our 2 beautiful babies. ❤❤❤❤ truly love my husband ❤️
My first kids dad told me he was concerned about the fact I let myself go and wasn’t working on my self anymore my son was 2 months old, I wasn’t wearing makeup, wore sweats, and wore a messy bun, gained weight back after losing 45 pounds during my pregnancy due to severe hg which causes you to vomit profusely, the entire pregnancy. We separated when my son was 4 months old, and he walked away completely by the time my son was 3. My fiancé now after our daughter thinks I’m even more beautiful now and reminds me to be easy on my body and it’s changing.
Imagine dying leaving your kids behind because your body has changed after giving birth to them… just heartbreaking
a lot for the kids to live with too...
I genuinely think it’s a form of mental illness and mums don’t get enough support for it
@@rosanorman8475 yeah that illness is called stupidity. no one forced them to go under the knife. not to mention, where did some of them even get the money in the first place?
"Heartbreaking"... I think "infuriating" is the word
Women have to learn to ignore Hollywood's beauty standards.
Every now and then my 8 y/o daughter notices my stretched stomach, when she does we celebrate it & “thank it” for bringing her here. Society does make me feel super ugly but the way she appreciates it makes up for it tenfold.
Let’s raise our daughters to look at their bodies with compassion and appreciation for all that they do for us. We can do it!🥹❤️
That's lovely and sweet! And smart
omgggg so cute 🥺
Mine is 6 she knows only mamas EARN tiger stripes.
That is so sweet!!!
So cute 😍 🥹
It’s been 6 plus years I’ve been trying to rid of my post pregnancy weight 😂 my mommy makeover was a new wardrobe, hair/makeup..learning to dress for your new body (and role) is all the makeover you need..embrace your changing body and feed it good food, exercise and love.
same!!!
My breasts are so tiny that I was permanently laughed at by boys when I was a teenager, and even my husband once was told that he must be gay, because a woman with A size is actually a boy. For 15 years of marriage and 19 years together he has never ever said that my breasts are "saggy", "small" or thet they were "better when you were prgnant/breastfeeding". I am so sorry for that mom who had her "mommmy makeover" paid by her husband....
If my husband booked me into a surgery clinic … divorced.
Ha, his ass would be in there also!
Can we talk about how overweight women are shamed and ridiculed, but then, when we lose weight, our bodies are called grotesque because we have loose, sagging, crepey skin with stretch marks? Because THAT continues to be such a mind fuck for me as someone who lost over 100 pounds.
Same thing happens to overweight men people say the same stuff to my brother who can't afford to have h to e skin removed and has to save up for it. It's a shame it should be looked at as man that's great because you put in the work to lose weight no matter how it was done
You can never win in this society. So just live your life and don't listen to others.
Good for you for getting (to what I’m assuming) is a healthy weight! Health over aesthetics all the way, even if you never had to lose the weight you still would have had saggy skin at some point.
@@Drkbardockssj it will always be far worse for women. Fat men aren’t even treated as badly as fat women.
I know right
I dated a man who once told me that his ex) who had a child to a previous relationship) “had a body that didn’t respond well to pregnancy”. I’d seen her (because he also wasn’t subtle about hiding explicit images he’d saved of her) and her body was fine, great even. You wouldn’t immediately assume she’d had a child. For multiple reasons I knew that he was not relationship (let alone father) material, but that was a big one
'A body that didn't respond well to pregnancy'? My first thought was, if she'd had an ectopic pregnancy or other complications. Then I remembered the theme of this comments section, which seems to be that some men have very questionable priorities. Every body that brought a baby into this world without any unusual complications for the mother is a body that responded well to pregnancy.
I saw someone saw “Your kids don’t see you as fat. Your kids see you as their mom.” ❤
Wow i hate that anna's husband wtf HE booked the interventions for her and then HE is presenting the results as looking amazing? Sounds like he was preparing a dog for a pageant show (which is also awful). So selfish, so superficial. He cared so much about how she looked ?!?!?!
@@Annie, it’s definitely disturbing. :(
It's really sad when you think about it. He obviously doesn't love her, he loves the way she looks 😢
Honestly, he sounded gay to me. Not joking nor discriminating. But.maybe that's the reason he hates her wife...
That's EXACTLY what I was thinking!!
He’s a total douche
2 weeks after having an emergency c-section my then husband was fighting with me daily to wake up at 5am and work out. 2 weeks post surgery, with a tiny newborn!!! Needless to say he was literally a piece of trash and i took the trash out quickly after that ....
That’s something to be proud of! You and your child deserve better ❤️
Omg not only is he a jerk but he’s as dumb as a rock. You can’t work out 2 weeks after giving birth especially if you had a c section. Also even at 6 weeks postpartum you may not have the energy to work out if your still healing, breastfeeding and/or sleep deprived. I’m so sorry you went through this
That’s scary! So glad you got that garbage out!!
2 weeks!!!! Damn that's brutal.
THE UNIMAGINABLE ANGER THIS MAKES ME FEEL TO READ. ALL MEN HAVE IS THE AUDACITY. FUCK HIM.
My mom's body changed after giving birth twice and I still think she is the most beautiful woman in the world. Every "imperfection" just shows how much she loves me and my brother. The body a woman gets after birth is EARNED. It is a symbol of her love and strength. My heart goes out to every mother feeling like she has become "less" after going through such a difficult but miraculous experience.
I read something the other day that said our looks come from generations of people who saw each other and fell in love :)
My husband's in his last year of training as a plastic surgeon. These practises can be extremely predatory as well encouraging people to have procedures they don't need. He's decided to forgo specialising in aesthetics and focus on skin cancer and burns because he couldn't get over how performing such procedures would sit on his conscience.
Amazing! One of my family members needed plastic surgery as a child after a car accident. Correcting injuries should be the most common cause of plastic surgery, not social pressures
my friend was in a car crash that broke her nose into her face, and the reconstructive plastic surgeon did such an amazing job fixing it. such a noble career path, truly!
This is really touching, give your husband a big thank you and hug from me. It's especially impress he was able to make up his own mind to go against the grain of going the way all the other students around him going. He's going to bring so much positivity to the world
thank you! I will
It is very calming to hear that some people are against this
Our society is sick and superficial. We've gone backwards.
man I wish you were wrong
I agree, but things were never really so great in the first place. Society has always been sick in one way or another. Not too long ago women couldn't own property because they were considered property. Not even 100 years ago we couldn't have bank accounts.
I think society has always been that way. It’s just on display due to social media
Teach your sons to accept bodies then
Agreed...
I'm a mom of 3. I really needed this video. Now I am convinced I do not need any of that mommy makeover bs.
Thank you!
Thank you for making this video. I worry for moms today. I remember growing up in the 80s when this expectation wasn’t a thing and there was actually a stigma against plastic surgery. It was expected and normal for women to look their age…I feel that perspective was much healthier for mothers. Sometimes progress isn’t progress…all of these “enhancements” may really be setting us back.
I was an older teen and early 20 year old in the 80s and I can assure you 100% that the pressure to be stick-skinny with boy hips was fierce. Just a different kind of pressure than now, but pressure nonetheless. Social media has made the pressure toxic a million fold. I guess women will always feel the need to measure up to insane standards. We’re all our own worst enemies sometimes. 😢
Yeah, I remember seeing actresses with obvious face jobs and thinking 'how are they ever going to act again looking like that? They don't look like a real person.' but then real people started doing it too.
"her 4 little kids will now grow up without their mother because our society and our beauty standards told her she wasn't good enough after having her children".... that is truly heartbreaking😞
😢😢😢
Yes, society has beauty standards. But at the end of the day, the woman herself decided she was willing to take the risks in order to look the way SHE wanted to look. The vast majority of women do not have surgery to alter their bodies after pregnancy, most women just don't care enough to go through all that pain and risk. The ones who do are aware of the risks and of course, we all think wont be us. But sadly some are and the kids have to grow up without their mother. But society's beauty standards aren't the ones who signed the waiver. It was the woman's decision.
@ed8329 true...some things are in women's hands .if woman themselves don't promote it ..men don't get unrealistic idea or expectations too.. there's women who did such things for men.. which made men to have toxic expectations from other women too and judging them
I always blame my weight gain on my second child. I usually leave out that he just turned 33......
my mum still blames me and I'm turning 32 this year 😂😂
Same! 🤣
I'm 36 and my mom still blames me lol
my mum often blames me and my siblings, that she gained weight. Most importantly is i am the youngest and i turned 18 last year.
omg 😂
I used to tell my husband i want a mommy makeover, or at least a boob job and he was NEVER supportive. It would upset me that he wouldn't back me on it. Now I understand it. He wants me to see myself like he sees me. And my god am I fortunate to have him. Never again will I say something so terrible to myself.
As a first time pregnant wife, and just a woman who went from definitively slim to gaining some weight over a period of time - this (not the mummy makeover but general concern about my body changing) has certainly occupied my mind. But I don't think I could ever bring myself to do this. My body was made to store fat and fold and stretch, not just for a baby but to carry itself efficiently. It's fearfully and wonderfully made.
My husband has been super supportive. If I say something rude about myself, he sometimes playfully whines 'but that's my wiiiiife. Don't say that about her' - it's very endearing. Mostly he insists for me not to see myself in such a way. It's a work in progress but thank God, I am getting there!
I'm so glad you have a supportive husband! May you and your family be blessed with a peaceful and happy home!
10:20 this man is GARBAGE. How can someone talk like that to anyone, esp. the MOTHER OF HIS CHILDREN?
the way he said ,,well you did have cleavage when u were a kid‘‘ I gagged…
@@feli1507lotta these men accidentally let their true attractions slip. Its more than people know
All I was thinking, was shut up, every single thing coming out of his mouth was wrong
The guy is GAY. Trust me.
@@Beaneabeanyes! I"m sure he's not into women.
If I give birth and my man books me a makeover, he's out, like, he's goin to be makeovered.
Show him pictures of how women look after giving birth and see how he'll react. If it's bad, leave. But one thing is true, the younger you are at giving birth, the better your body "bounces back". Not promoting teenagers to get pregnant but it's best to do it when in your early twenties.
I’m petty, so if he was my husband, I’d probably book him a consultation for some hair implants with that receding hair line 💀 I’ll fight 🔥 with 🔥 all day.
@@tessltaekook8501nah in terms of potential for complications and fertility, ages 25-34 is the best time to do it
Yep 👍
@@tessltaekook8501 what's the point of your comment because it's giving irrelevant
I was straight up lied too by so many women that after having my son I'd gain a figure. They also failed to explain that breastfeeding makes you lose weight...a lot of damn weight. I went from a size 6 to a size 2. No butt no boobs😢 just thinner.
They weren't lying. It all just literally depends on you and your genetics. I hope your health gets better 🙏🏾
It's not a lie but you should never expect some else's pregnancy experience to mimic yours. There are many women who get wider hips, bigger bum, and permanently larger breasts after pregnancy. There are many women who have the exact opposite. There are women who don't gain a single pound and don't even know that they're pregnant until after giving birth, those who feel barely any pain and the baby pops out in 1 hour, etc etc.
Everyone is different because I couldn't drop a pound while breastfeeding. I only lost the weight after I weened.
@Isthisjoebiden same I actually gained weight breast feeding because I struggled to get enough supply so I had to eat alot of stuff and drink alot of water and calcium but after I finished 2 months later I dropped pounds without trying
I’m thin and I have cellulite on my belly and stretch marks sagging skin, my husband thinks I’m sexier than ever, wobbly bits and all!!😊 my baby is my entire world. I would not trade the life and blessings I have now for a so-called perfect body. So many unrealistic expectations . It’s a major sin. I love your page and thank goodness you are speaking the truth! You are a gem and thank you for realizing our bodies may be imperfect as far as the standards of the world now, and this constant obsession with looking a certain way is destroying a lot.
Anna's man 😡omg what a RED FLAG
Why?
totally agree
He’s a creep 🤮
If my partner went on camera and told everyone I had flappy boobs I'd be mortified
Must be awful to put up with his subtle demeaning comments all the time
It took me a couple of years to revert to my pre-baby size (I was 24 when I gave birth). I didn't go to the gym. When my daughter was 3 months old I went shopping with my mum and she said she 'couldn't believe how big I was'. On the same day, a man offered me a gym membership at a discount and another man asked how far along I was. I left the house that morning feeling confident and happy and I returned home in tears, ashamed and I binned the clothes I wore that day. I wasn't big before I had my daughter and I wasn't even overweight after, I was a UK size 12 and was previously a 6-8. My mum was and still is bigger than me! I thought it was normal at the time and that was the saddest part about it. Nobody asked me if I was okay or needed help, they asked about my weight and appearance.
Oh behalf of those people I would like to apologize. When I was 18 a lady I knew was pregnant however I didn’t realize when she finally give birth, so I asked her how much longer she had, but she had given birth a few months ago. Growing up I realize now how long it takes in reality for a body to recover and while I never thought she looked bad, it is easy to say something careless and ruin someone’s day.
I’m sorry. ❤️
I’m sorry. ❤️
I’m sorry. ❤️
I’m sorry. ❤️
PREACH! I had to get pelvic floor reconstruction because I wasn’t functioning properly after having two babies - and that was so difficult to recover from. I can’t imagine getting surgery all over my body and trying to recover from THAT. No wonder people die during or after widespread surgery. That is SO HARD on the body. People just don’t think about that.
I have one child and I honestly don't think my husband care that my belly is bigger. He was there, he saw what it took to bring our daughter into the world! So he can see that of course it's not going to be the same. Love him ❤️
As someone who lost her mom to cancer at a young age, I can’t help but get really upset at the idea of moms with new babies going under the knife and putting their health and possibly their life at risk. Your babies need you! Don’t EVER risk your child growing up without a mom, please! 🙏❤️
My mom also passed away from cancer but if she had got surgery to feel better about herself after having me and my brother I wouldn’t be mad at her for it. It’s sad to me that after women have kids they’re expected to throw their life away and only live for their kids. It’s a mother’s responsibility to care for and nurture and protect her children, but she’s her own person too.
Exactly
@@basharalbutseggs8056 I think risking your life to “look better” is a terrible idea. There are a lot of ways to be your own person and care for yourself that don’t involve going under the knife. I guess agree to disagree on this one. I am very sorry for your loss though ❤️
@@KalyElizabeth when you put yourself in the mothers shoes- tits are sagging and stretch marks, your stomach feels flabby and wrinkly, you have lost all your confidence and you now, like I said, live for your children and are no longer viewed as your own person, I can understand why they’d go under the knife. Yes it’s risky but when you’re feeling THAT low about yourself it’s clear why anyone would want to do those surgeries. There’s nothing you could recommend like your said other ways to feel better that are gonna reduce sagging excess skin.
@@KalyElizabeth and it’s not just about looking better. If everytime you stood in front of the mirror you didn’t recognize the body you saw, the body you once had is now gone, you’d feel devastated. There’s a small percentage of woman who will embrace the stretch marks and sagging skin because they carried life but everyone else is going to feel like their self esteem has plummeted to hell
I’m not a mother- but speaking generally, when your husband looks at you and subliminally says you’re no longer attractive after giving birth, nor gets disgusted at you for looking what a mother has given birth supposed to look, isn’t that a red flag already?
This is just sad for mothers who carried another life for 9 months, but immediately felt that insecurity for feeling that they haven’t achieve anything worthwhile in life 💔
The sunk cost fallacy, plus they just gave birth, I don't blame the women who don't want to be a single parent. These husbands are horrible.
@@hagelslag9312 that’s why im being super careful. Im 41 and single 😂just kidding, Im not actually looking for a relationship I have a chronic illness, but if I had gotten married and had kids I can’t even imagine the devastation of realizing you married an a$$hole right after giving birth to his child… that’s awful.
I miscarried once at 5 1/2 months and my body looked pregnant for almost 6 months after,
I still have issues with my stomach. I refuse to wear crop tops because I have some stretch marks from the many failed pregnancies.
Even though I didn't have nearly as much damage to my body that would have normally occurred if it were full-term I was still pressured into losing weight and fitting back into my "better" body.
The worst part is my husband is still asking me to try to get pregnant again.
Nope.
Hm some people are just scared to let go
It is a HUGE red flag. My ex-husband wasn't the best, but one good thing about him is that he loved and appreciated the work my body did to bring our children into the world 🩶
It's so sad how excited the husband sounds, it reinforces that our beauty is based on how our body looks like. We in the end are a piece of meat. So sad.
It breaks my freaking heart that these women feel like they arent enough as they are. Those poor women who lost their lives to bull like this is just sickening.
I had a breast reduction & lift about 18 months ago, and the recovery wasn’t quick or easy. I can’t imagine combining that surgery with multiple others, and having to recover while caring for young children. The whole concept of a “mommy makeover” is insane!!
@@magicfishergirl, pls don't make that decision because you hate your chest... cause no surgery in the world will make you love it. You have to love yourself first. Pls don't talk bad about your body, it's so much prettier then you think, I guarantee you!!!! From surgery you can litteraly die, is it really worth it???
(english isn't my first language, so I hope my comment is correct, but I'm sorry if it's not😅i just really wanted to tell you that, because i didn't like how you talk about your body)
I had breast reduction surgery about 10 years ago, and it's the best thing I ever did. Recovery took maybe 6 weeks, and you will have drains in for several weeks too. It takes maybe a good year to be completely healed, however, and even more time for the scars to fade.
@@marinaprosperinahow is it so great when you need a years recovery?!?! That’s insane.
For anyone considering a breast reduction, the procedure now is much easier than it used to be. I didn’t have drains, was fully recovered in about a month, and my scars fully faded within 6 months. I only said it wasn’t easy or quick because I couldn’t have bounced out of bed and been caring for kids in a week or two, but it wasn’t a super painful or grueling recovery by any means. I’d highly recommend the procedure to anyone who has such large breasts that you’re in chronic discomfort and your quality of life is impacted. It’s honestly the best thing I’ve ever done for myself!
For sure, I wouldn't be able to tell my kids to not touch me while I'm recovering with my Whole body
I’ve stopped using social media all together (besides CZcams) and stopped watching toxic movies/shows and I’m 100x happier not being in the loop of all the nonsense❤
Me too honestly.
Same girl! Going on 4 months now!! So nice
I'm trying but its really hard
I’ve been doing this for 3 years. Welcome to the other side
@@SummerSun-sg3wftry harder
Thank you Stephanie ❤ For this and every video you put up. You are single handedly raising self esteem worldwide. You're amazing!!
I’m not even a mom and this just nipped soooo many insecurities in the butt society laps on. Thank you for reminding me my body is beautiful and unique just the way it is!!!! ❤
I think social media is not the only thing to blame for all this . Some men are very superficial & they’ll often leave their wives/gfs because they no longer find her attractive after pregnancy and end up looking for a younger woman ( which is a whole other issue) . That will ruin anyone’s self esteem . Then the woman looks into surgery to gain the confidence back and so on . Very sad
And then the guy gets his new young wife pregnant too and it all starts over again... If those men who don't like womens' bodies after giving birth, could learn how to "pull out" or get castration surgery (I don't know what it's called in English) to avoid getting women pregnant, these situations wouldn't occur...
Yup. My thoughts exactly. The women feel they Have to do something or the man will find someone younger, thinner, etc. It's a shame.
SUCH MEN CANNOT LOVE A WOMAN THEY CAN ONLY GET PHYSICALLY ATTRACTED TO A WOMAN. FOR EXAMPLE MISOGYNISTS.
@@CampLJNCNot all women. A high quality woman knows her worth and that her worth is in who she is rather than her body.
@@snehajagajith6409relationships and emotions don't work this way, no matter your "value"
Once upon a time I wanted surgery but my husband was very against it. He was afraid for my health and he didn't care that my body looked different. I'm glad I didn't go through with it. This is so scary. I may never get my pre-baby body back but I'm proud of my body. It went through a lot! Thank you for shedding light on this situation.
You are a lucky queen....to have such a supportive husband😊
I’m so happy you have such a supportive husband. You had a baby love.. you look beautiful. You made a whole ass human. I’m proud of you and your body. Much love to you and your family ❤
A much needed issue needing to be addressed! Thanks so much for shedding light on it.
That guy weighing Victoria is absolutely disgusting.
Anna’s husband .. yuck. “Yea they are floppy. ” Let her speak on it
He definitely gives you the ick!!!
toxic man👀👄❗
i feel really bad for Anna, at the end of the day it was ultimately her decision to go through with the procedures, but the husbands "vlog" stye recording of her post op, talking about how she looks "soo much better" makes me really sad because you can see her face drop.
I agree
She can do better!
4 weeks postpartum of my 2nd son
Thanks for the words of wisdom,
Love ya Stephanie 😘
There needs to be more of you…thank u for your passion and empathetic way of communicating on such a needed platform.
"There is nothing wrong with having children and your body look like having children" YES!!!!
There is something wrong if it makes you unhappy & uncomfortable. The real issue is having too many surgeries in one day.
My dad has always thought my mom is as beautiful and “hot” as when they first met, and she’s had 4 children, and yes her body has changed . but sometimes I question if these couples actually love each other or have ever loved each other.
right?? i think people cant tell the difference between love and infatuation
Yes, it's literally incredible to me that a long-term partner would think like that about someone they supposedly know well and value deeply. My parents have been married for 45 years and my mother gave birth 4 times; my father tells her she's beautiful all the time and he means it. Of course she looks different but that is testament to the four children they created together!
That gives me hope!! I love seeing couples who have stayed really into each other throughout the phases of life. Ever see an elderly couple that's been together for decades and they still speak about each other like they're the hot 20-year-olds they were when they got married? I want that. I rarely am able to feel physical attraction without liking a personality first, so I'm not terribly concerned about losing attraction as my partner's body changes over time. I just hope to end up with someone who will keep the same energy for me, especially if I ever go through pregnancy.
Stephanie! So happy there’s another upload from you AND it’s 20 minutes long! I always wanted longer vids. ❤
I love your make-up Tutorials. I got interested in make-up at a young age.After being advised to find something I have a passion for and apply myself. I watching and learning from you content has helped me get threw so much. Keeping my mind on something positive is golden to me.
Thank you.
I’m so sick of having cellulite, loose skin, stretch marks. Sigh… society today has ruined people’s confidence especially women. It’s horrible…
I'm sure you're beautiful regardless
Keep watching Stepanies videos and you will get your confidence back. She is pretty convincing :-) I also really liked the documentary "Embrace". It helped me lot
something to keep in mind when you see all these celebrities with perfectly flat tummies and talking about how they lost 20 pounds and 20 weeks , etc something to keep in mind is that is there is a lot of Photoshop and face tuning that goes on that we don’t see. Their stretch marks, their scars, they all get blurred out. As Stephanie said, they have their own personal trainers, they have nannies, they have nutritionists, they have dietitians, make up artists, people that can make them look beautiful every single day and us “normal regular people” don’t have access to those things. It’s hard to feel beautiful when you see these people in magazines and on social media but just remember, that most of these images are lies and that you probably look better now the way you are then you would if you had a surgery go wrong and that’s not worth the risk ❤❤❤❤
Thanks ladies! Such sweet comments! It’s nice to know there are supportive women still out there! ❤️
Regular excercise will fix it OVER TIME. When you see pictures of starving people in WWII, do they have loose skin? NO! It naturally shrinks to your skeleton.
I’ll never get over that picture of Emrata holding her baby like that 😵💫
HAHAHA I know right??
Literally, wtf was that? Poor kid. Posing shouldn't take precedence over holding your kid.
Vain narc that one 😅
Your point is very valid, but also if we don’t bounce back right away, it’s not exposed to the world, we arnt bullied by hundreds of thousands of people and on the cover of magazines, the amount of pressure they probably feel to look that way after giving birth probably stresses them out to the max we would never know though because we’re not rich and famous, I just try to be understanding how do to everyone
I'm glad I came across you in my journey to loving myself as I am. You're really sweet and lovely 🥹
I was BUTCHERED having this surgery.
I lost my right breast completely, including my nipple and my other breast was made far too small, my husbands pecks are bigger! And they took too much skin for the tummy tuck, so now (2 years later) I still can't stretch my arms above my head properly and I have huge sunken in scars because the skin has stretched out so thin under my arms. Following those very strange scars, I have huge painful hypertrophic scars under where my breasts were.
I'm so sorry!
Apply for the show botched.
Jesus
These experiences need to be amplified
So sorry you are going through this! Thank you for bringing awareness
People are too trusting of surgery. I'm eating a healthy diet and doing exercise that I enjoy. That's enough.
Preach sis, spread the word!
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This was great! Thank you so much for putting this out there! Your fabulous!!!❤
Here's what I told myself and other people 2 years after I gave birth: I'm a good mom I'm a good wife I'm a good sister and I'm a good friend. I'm a good neighbor and I do what I can for others in the world. So what if I weigh 20 lbs more now!
THIS!!!! ❤ Those things are what will matter in the end-not how perfect you looked!! We are here to
L O ❤️ E, and you’re doing a great job!!
AMEN!
I used to work on websites for plastic surgeons, and I hated posting the specials for Mommy Makeovers, always advertised around valentine's day and mother's day. Thanks for talking about this!
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That is actually so sad and terrible
I lift weights daily at home, I feel great, stronger, and keep toned arms with no surgery/lipo/airsculpt (with no SERIOUS side effects)❤️👤it's not instant but it's worth it over surgery imo. Sad for the women who've lost their lives💔
Ughh thats horrible 😣
Ugh I've written for plastic surgery sites too and I hate myself for it sometimes.
Love you, Stephanie. I appreciate your videos. I was considering some surgeries, and you helped tip me toward not doing it. ❤
Surgery is known to be extremely dangerous and risky but people dont seem to think this is the case for plastic surgery for some reason. Unless it is for life saving-purposes, invasive surgery for cosmetic purposes has dire consequences. Hope your video reaches all those who are seriously considering it
It's the "it won't happen to me" mindset. Doesn't matter if it's as risky as 1 in 100, people will keep believing they won't be that one person and take the chances.
@@hagelslag9312 According to National Safety Council, you have a 1 in 93 chance of dying in a motor vehicle accident and yet people don't think twice about getting behind the wheel. You have a far, far lesser chance of say, dying from getting a breast augmentation performed in the US. But I imagine having back to back headlines about car crashes doesn't grab at people's attention the same way plastic surgery regret/death stories do.
I had surgery to fix the position of organs in my groin area, while there she tightened things up. I was not going to have things fixed or lifted for purely cosmetic purposes.
@@miraloran7039 an interesting point. Yes and many people have to drive as walkable cities are not that common, so even if it’s dangerous it’s necessary to drive to make a living or to get around. Whereas cosmetic surgery is purely extraneous and far less accessible. Both are gambling your life but one is for transportation and the other is vanity
life saving purposes? lol a bit dramatic. people getting surgery to fix any kind of health issue should be able to without being criticized
Thank you. Love you for posting this. As a mom with a 21-year-old daughter, it terrifies me that all of these unrealistic expectations are plastered all over social media.
I really love that you’ve been making videos like this. I really appreciate that you promote that “your body is amazing.”
So glad you uploaded! Missed your videos a lot! Keep uploading!
Pausing just to giggle at Emrata holding her baby like a chihuahua 😂
Bless it lol that poor baby looked like he was hanging on for dear life.. meanwhile she's just like>💃
🤦♀️ lol
Fr I was like um HOLD YOU BABY RIGHT
I had my third baby about 3 months ago and, I just want to say, thank you for this. I’ve been having some not-so happy thoughts about my body since, but I try to remind myself that it doesn’t matter if my body looks different. What matters is that my kids love me and I’m the best mom I can be. Mind you, I’m trying to get myself back to where I was, but it’s okay if it doesn’t happen immediately. These things take time.
Hey, mama! I know how you feel, but remember, it took 9 months to grow your precious baby and it will take at least that long to start looking and feeling better. I have had three children (all in my 30’s) and was able to bounce back after each one with proper nutrition and exercise. I didn’t rush it and it took around a year to a year and a half each time. Of course my boobs will never be the same and I was lucky enough not to get any stretch marks on my stomach but I do have an ugly, crooked c-section scar after my last two births. Stay strong, positive and be so proud of what your body accomplished. I’m sending you lots of love! ❤
It matters how your body looks and how you feels in it. But not worth dieing for
Wow. I especially needed to hear this today. Thank you. 💖
I’ve never had a baby, but I did lose 90LB in 2009. There was a part of me back then who wanted to have plastic surgery to get rid of the loss skin. But I’m so glad I didn’t. Who cares if my body looks perfect. I’m proud I lost all that weight and have kept it off. Any mommy’s out there. Be proud of your mom bod. You made a tiny human, that’s amazing 😊
I lost 100 lbs in 2022... I keep getting asked if I'll have the skin removal surgery. Mind you... I am very lucky and don't really have much loose skin. In fact, I wouldn't even qualify for a full tummy tuck. But people still made me feel crappy. But meeting my guy last year really changed that. He doesn't care about it. To him I'm the most perfect thing he's ever seen. It really helped my confidence
well done!
awesome work! your life isn't work a flat stomach (that most women over 30 won't have anyway.)
Have you noticed the skin tightening with workouts
@@ximar0ckstrxcongrats. I’m still trying to lose 100 lbs. Been on every diet always workout and low carb no wheat
I feel so bad for Anna. I can’t imagine having a husband like that. I haven’t had kids, but my boobs are incredibly large, saggy, and uneven. I had a hormone imbalance from a young age that caused one side to grow two extra sizes and they grew so fast that they’ve never not pointed at the ground. I HATE them. They’re difficult to style in bathing suits and tops. I feel like the ugliest girl in the world without a bra. I’ve wanted a boob job my whole life. Even my own mother recommended it (as a way to deal with my insecurity but that just made it worse). But my husband has begged me not to. I won’t say he “won’t let me” because at the end of the day I’m an adult and I could do it without his permission, but he’s implored me to stay as I am because he loves me and loves them and to him, no amount of “perkiness” is worth the risk of losing me. It honestly is making me tear up and get a lump in my throat just typing it. I’m so lucky to have a man who values me as a person over me as the perfectly modified Instagram model. I don’t even fear the body changes that having kids might bring because I already have saggy boobs and stretch marks and he stills love every part. I can’t imagine how different my life would be if I had a husband like Anna’s. I’d probably be multiple surgeries in if I’d even be here to tell the tale at all. Anna deserves better and I hope she finds it someday cause unconditional love is so much better.
I also struggle with parts of my own body, mainly related to pregnancy/post childbirth (belly fat, saggy boobs), but I'm so grateful that my husband only has wonderful things to say about me and my body. Never once has he uttered a negative word about how I look, and I know he wouldn't think the risk of surgery was worth it either!
You got a definite keeper
I’m really glad you found an amazing person to be by your side; wish you both the best 🤍 I also found an amazing husband who never judges and even gets upset with me when I’m crying over my body, says he loves it and will continue to no matter how many changes it goes through because it’s whats keeping me here. Society has fucked us bad and we sometimes need a third person to remind us thats body standards are bs, hopefully soon we can be that person to our kids, friends, relatives.
That's amazing ❤ what a good man
Your comment made me tear up, I'm so happy for you 🫂
Very thoughtful. ❤
Appreciate this.
You have your own mind!!❤❤❤
Thanks for speaking out !!!
10:28 honestly that bloke looks like the type to ask for the "husband stitch" after the woman that he claims he'd love just gave birth to his offspring.
Icky man for sure
A whole leopard print arm tattoo WITH a trash personality. Can't have both and get away with it 😂 Something's unclean in the buttermilk.
Thank you! I'm so sick and tired of us being told we have to look like celebrities, especially after 30. The constant example is JLo - oh look, she's 52, has children and looks better than most 30 year olds. No kidding, it's easy when she has chefs, nannies and trainers and has the time to work out 6 days a week 5 hours a day because her job is to look good, not to mention the possible plastic surgeries.
I saw a video about a woman saying how she'd never "ruin" her body for a man and that's why she's not having kids.
Like it's really ingrained in society that mothers are like some kind of washed up hazbin, or some kind of used tissue destined for the bin
you forgot makeup and bronzer. without that she looks pretty basic
I’m sure there is photoshoppping thrown in there too for good measure!
@@mysonsmom9754
This is also true.
And good skin care products, makeup, cosmetic non surgical treatments.
I'm so glad i found you! This video says too many truths!! ❤
THANK YOU❤ Love your message and plea ! Great job, society has reached a crazy obsession with normalizing the unreachable.
My pregnancy didn't change my body, in fact I lost more after. With that said, menopause destroyed my body. If any woman thinks that giving birth is the biggest havoc your body will ever go through, you're wrong. Menopause is the most difficult period of my life. You all need to accept your young body while you can.
Idk if this helps at all but I witnessed my mother go through menopause (she’s wrapping up now) and the things she found devastating were truly not that noticeable to other people. I know there are loads of other factors like heat waves, emotional rollercoasters and period irregularities but the outside stuff is usually only a big deal to the person experiencing it. Even my grandma now talks about menopausal changes in the way you’re talking about giving birth “when your my age you’ll miss those problems, it’s worse now blah blah” lol things are probably never as bad as we think they are in the moment.
It’s definitely genetic to some degree. I’ve met several post menopausal women who said they didn’t have a really rough time, but neither did their mothers.
I was told that the biggest hormone change humans go through is post partum. I understand menopause can be very rough on some women but it's not a universal truth. Not to mention the actual amount of physical injury that can happen to a body during birth. I'm pretty sure birth had killed more women than menopause has. I'm sorry you had a tough time with menopause but to say that menopause causes more havoc on women's bodies than giving birth does, is ridiculous. I'm sure it is the case for women who have easy pregnancies and easy births but tough menopause but that is not going to be true for everyone.
What a ridiculous thing to say. Everyone is different. Pregnancy and childbirth definitely wreaks more havoc on women's bodies, generally.
To the naysayers:
Google atrophy caused by lack of oestrogen during menopause and then comment on how menopause can’t “destroy” your body. It can destroy the most intimate parts of your body and you can kiss goodbye being intimate through inter course.
Also look at how your heart health, your bone health can be destroyed by menopause.
It upsets me when women will not educate themselves about what can happen when a woman’s body is deprived of our hormones.
Without social media this wouldn't be a thing. No one I know in real life wants their wife to look like she hasn't had babies. The women do wish they could get rid of some belly weight, but they're not judging each other or killing themselves to get their "pre baby" body back. Yes, assholes exist in real life, but cut them out and this idea is gone. It's just social media standards. Ignore it. Live your life. Be healthy for you and your babies. Leave out the Instagram and magazine toxicity.
@@Kunya, yesss!!! Wonderful post!! I don’t follow any of these social media types, and I don’t even use Instagram! That garbage is NOT allowed in my peaceful life! ❤
This was a thing in magazines in the 90's and 2000's too. My Mum bought magazines every week and they were displayed at the shops. It's a problem that is much older than social media influencers.
@@Anna81Louiseat least back then it was something rich people, celebrities and models did. It’s so “normal” now through exposure that regular people feel it’s expected.
I blame posting pictures on social media
I have the feeling that the phenomenon of men leaving their women after they gave birth because they are "out of shape" is going on for ages
Ahh the lovely Steph I could listen to your accent forever especially when you are the complete voice of reason!! Cheers 🍻 from 🇨🇦 ❤️
Thank you for this video. I’m a momma of 4 and my body just isn’t where i want it to be but it’s ok ❤ my body has done so much work. I’ll get healthy slowly but surely.
I've birthed and breastfed 2 children and undergone a hysterectomy to remove ovarian cancer. I'm left with a 2 joined together pouches. My husband has never once suggested I should get that fixed, he loves me as I am!
I had twins almost three years ago and it destroyed my body, I didn't even recognize myself. I got so depressed about how I looked I basically gave up and just gained a bunch of weight but then this year I chose to make a change and I'm working on getting back to my old body as best I can. All this to say, I needed this video. I played with the thought of getting surgery and I'm glad I'm going at this naturally
You're so beautiful good luck girl ❤❤
I don't have kids but I remember once posting an article that talked about how celebrities like Gwyneth Paltrow (just an example) were able to bounce back to their pre-pregnancy weight *because* they have their own chefs, personal trainers, nannies etc., and then my then-boyfriend left a sarcastic comment basically saying that the article encouraged women to be lazy and "let themselves go". So even if you went through a difficult birth that left you with serious long-term consequences, you still had no "excuse" for not just bouncing back into shape. I'm happy to say I'm with a much better person now.
Thank you for bringing awareness about this ❤❤❤
That husband is a real piece of work
Really creepy. I'd run as fast as I could
After 5 children and losing about 170lbs through lifestyle changes I had surgical skin removal and muscle repair. I had tummy tuck with muscle repair, extended vertical thigh lift, brachioplasty, lower back lift, lipo and fat transfer to breasts and face over two surgeries about a year apart. I went to a well known plastic surgeon in my area and my recovery took a significant amount of time. It was well worth the discomfort and financial cost to me as I had significant back pain from the abdominal stomach gap and from hanging loose skin. I do feel better emotionally as my loose skin was significant and not fixable with exercise and I had no further weight to lose. However my husband always told me I was fine the way I was!