ugly moms - the great motherhood glow down
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- čas přidán 15. 05. 2024
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'if i have kids with my wife and she let's herself go - i'm out'. societies attitude towards women, (and in particular) mothers - is pretty grim. we're expected to produce children, but look like we haven't. raise them as though we have no other job, but work as though we don't have children. that's a lot of pressure, so it's no WONDER that pregnancy, postpartum and motherhood in general is not usually a woman's most glamorous era. it turns out, that some things are simply more important than what a woman looks like aesthetically to other people, and that the woman's happiness, health and time is more valuable than her physical looks. what a novel concept ay? - Jak na to + styl
Man let themselves go as well, even without being pregnant
But the patriarchal mindset doesn't like to treat men as merely bodies, hence it won't be harsh on their looks!
Nope
They get saluted for the dad bod
Yet the woman who created the babe and made him a dad can't gain weight
A man once commented that I had put on weight while pregnant. My response was that at least when I have my BABY the bulge in front will go but his will be there forever. That shut him up.
This is why I've decided to leave them alone. Can't even expect decent treatment from most.
Lmaooo right
Being a woman is exhausting. I hate society.
Girl truthhhhh it makes aging so dooming 😢
Being a human is exhausting, but being a woman is horribly exhausting. Ugh.. 🫠😔
lol me too
Social media.
😂😂😂 what about being a man? Is that easy?
But, when you workout and attempt to put yourself first for a minute, people lose their minds too. It's almost like woman can't win
Yes you spend time or money on yourself and people lose their absolute shit. Because then you’re selfish and not a good mom. I’m gonna just do what I want and not worry about what other people have to say 😂🤣 Because I’m over hearing people deciding I’m not attractive enough because I had a baby or that I’m selfish for trying to look beautiful again. It’s dumb.
So better not win without damaligen your body and throwing an innocent child into this systfm
we can't, that's the problem, it doesn't matter what we do, we can't win
What do you mean you take 1.5 hours after your day to work out???? You should be using my that time to focus on your children!!!! Somebody call CPS!!!!!!!!!!
What is extra enraging about it is the lack of help with diastasis recti, pelvic floor issues and breast feeding. All of which are health issues that if worked on naturally help women be healthier and return to normal.
This whole “still be hot as fuck” after a child trend is ABSOLUTELY ABSURD
you're reading too much into it, normal men wont say be hot as fuck, more just dont add 100 pounds and keep it for the rest of days.
EDIT: seems to be women shaming women more than men shaming women based off this video
Why? Some of us care about what we look like.. even after a child.
I am tho.
@@WiltedKuwaitSaladIt’s not that you care it’s how much you do… And the things you’ll do to feel attractive. And being unrealistic, rejecting nature.
It's just ALWAYS SEXUALIZING women, even after motherhood 🙂💔
That dude in the beginning... I think ALL men who feel that way should absolutely say that, but not to their wives, rather to their dates. First thing you should let a woman know so she knows who she's dealing with. Please 🙏🏻 oh please, men, please say that to your potential partners on one of the first dates if that's how you feel. You will do the entire world a great service.
Exactly😂 i wouldnt even finish my meal and run for my life
Agreed 💯‼️
I met one! After he said that(a month into seeing him) i politely told him we had an irreparable difference in ethics and he would NOT be speaking to me again.
Seriously. These assholes don’t have the balls.
@_chapternumberone_8782 I'd order a bunch of expensive food and use the restroom, and exit through the kitchen backdoor. I'd tell the female bartender hes a huge red flag and she would get it
"Fat" while pregnant with twins. That's not a thing!
The fact that people consider fat is an insult is the most ridiculous thing anyway.
Fat people deserve fashion. Fat people can be healthy. I am a superfat, and would argue my lifestyle is healthier than the average thin American’s.
@@restingwitchfacetarot605no offense but it probably isnt.. u cant get "superfat" without binge eating daily, and this is coming from someone with ednos (i binge often and go through starvation cycles)
@@restingwitchfacetarot605 be for real... you're not healthy.
@@restingwitchfacetarot605 actually you are at the high risk of insult and heart deases
@@restingwitchfacetarot605 Why are you su*cidal?
Calling a pregnant woman "fat" is cruel. Like excuse me using that logic your mum was once "fat" carrying you and imagine hearing that about your mom like that. Motherhood is beautiful and its a new chapter in a woman's life. Shaming new moms or pregnant moms should be illegal.
Are you saying this to Steph? Or the shit people doing these things?😂
I agree. Almost every woman gains weight during or after pregnancy (I gained after), and it's cruel to mock her. That sorry excuse of husband at the beginning of this video is disgusting!
Nah wouldn't dare to call people like that ...
They deserve to hear much worse 😂😂@@alyssaacchione
Calling anyone "fat" is cruel. Other people's weight should be of concern to no one. Other people's appearance should be of concern to no one. The fact that people feel entitled to dictate others what they "should" look like only confirms how sick today's society is
As a “superfat”person… fat isn’t a bad word. It’s people who think it’s the epitome of insults that are the problem.
Fat people deserve fashion. Fat people deserve to fit in public spaces.
It’s systemic phobia, and it’s gross.
To the men who say they’d leave ohhhhhhh would I love to see MEN be the ones that go through pregnancy, have to deliver the babies & then ‘bounce back’ WHILST caring for a newborn. If only for a year just to see how that goes for them!!
You mean transgender men? Like, ✅?
Disgusting. I mean yes People are allowed to have preferences, but this audacity towards the mother of your children
It's time to put males in their place. Women are the ones choosing attractive males to reproduce with. Males are passive
RIGHT. reminds me of that video where men try out what it's like to feel period pain and they couldn't handle it at all
@@angusmcnay5449🤦🏽♀️🙄
The guy at 00:00-00:18..what a jerk. Ladies, run from such men and never allow anyone to treat you like that.
Yeah, he doesn't deserve any kind of woman in his life. He's pretty much saying "hey, I'm a trash human who feels entitled to someone else looking how I perceived attractive, and how dare you not cater directly to my preference
Exactly. And it's not just about weight. This is the prototype for the kind of guy that will divorce or cheat if his wife gets cancer, illness, has a debilitating accident, or just plain ages. He will always be looking to trade or upgrade, and everything will be conditional.
FR he just admitted to leaving his wife and kids if he wasn’t attracted to ber anymore
Toxic guy!
S. x is only for woman's pleasure and women are visual beings. We women choose s. xually appealing males to have kids with.
"you mean she was just walking around town in her body? well she can hardly leave it at home can she" LMAOO i love you girl
So wild! She had two kids back to back, she looks amazing!
I cackled at that. So well said and hilarious!
This behavior is why I divorced my first husband. We had a wonderful relationship for 15 years, then we finally had kids when I was 38 and 40. They were both under 4 when he started being irritable and especially insulting about my body and weight. Stayed together for the kids for 5 more years until I watched my daughters watching him and his nasty behavior. He refused to go to marriage counseling. Divorced after 20 years of marriage, because of his constant nastiness in front of our girls.
Im so sorry to hear that omg! Did you find love again?❤
Kudos to you for saving yourself and your girls from that pathetic excuse of a human being!
Thank you for protecting your girls
Oh my God i cannot imagine the pain you've been in, i hope you are MUCH better without him, may you raise beautiful strong daughters just like you are
I wasn't with mine for that long, but it was over for me the day he looked at our 4 year old daughter and apologized for me being retarded because he didn't agree with a turn i had made driving.
Men who can't deal with a woman's postpartum body aren't capable of loving someone else. It's a shame that we usually find that out too late.
The guy at the start deserves a psychiatrist, not a woman, there's no need to comment deeply on his words, his brain is not ok.
Well said
He sounds like one of those manosphere idiots 🤢
Alot of men think this way, he's just the poster child example.
worst case for him would be a pregnant "fat" psychiatrist. the dude is crap
A lot of men need psychiatrists
Society to women:
-have kids or you're worthless
-but make sure you're still hot and making your appearance a priority when you do have kids
-but don't put in TOO much effort or else you're vain, neglecting your child and being a bad mother
-don't forget to also take care of the house and everything else while you're also taking care of your child and your appearance
-basically, just be hot no matter what you go through in life because for some reason it's your duty as a woman to be eye candy to us complete strangers
brought to you by womens magazines
Both of these comments are true sadly.
@@BubbleMix-96 ok that was funny and sad
If men want their wives and mothers of their children to look hot they need to be paying all the bills and letting these ladies have access to their accounts so they can exercise self care. Being hot is not only a full time job but it’s also expensive. Women are their hottest when they are single and childless. As soon as a boyfriend comes into the picture, he is eating into the time of a woman. And if time is money, then he needs to be financially compensating her for any time he or his children take from her.
Still it scares me is that, do women has 78 organs LIKE A HUMAN TO MEN??? OR WE'RE JUST a bunch of walking birth canal to serve MEN forever??💔
Preach it!! 🗣️🗣️
This 100%. Also not only are single, childfree women the "hottest" (cringy word), they are also statistically speaking the happiest. Ladies be VERY careful with the men you let into your life. Assume they are worthless until they go above and beyond to prove their worth.
@@sadafraisa5632 you have to flip the script with men and make sure they can serve you in as many ways as possible too
100%%!!!!!!!!!!❤❤❤❤❤
Mother of 6 here and my husband has never, ever made any negative comments about my body. Not one. He has always supported me (by happily looking after our children), so I can go to my gym and work out. He has never pressured me to lose the baby weight. I discover that when you have a truly loving and supportive partner, you have the confidence to get out there and exercise. Postpartum mothers who have husbands or partners (like the Dbag in the first clip), do not stand a chance. Imagine feeling depressed and having that tosser tell you that he isn't turned on by your body anymore. I would be tempted to say, "Thank God!".
I don't have to imagine. My ex was a jerk. Your hubby sounds like a dream and I'm so happy for you. 😊
He is a great man. I am very thankful. xx@@teri2466
Same with my husband. We have 2 children now. About 8 months postpartum after my first, I remember lamenting the way my boobs weren't perky anymore and how my butt was bigger blah blah blah. And my husband just said matter-of-factly, "I mean, you're a grown woman and a mother. This is what a woman looks like." (If anything, he's into my postpartum curves even if I'm not.)
Also, amen on supportive partners motivating you to exercise! I work out knowing that my husband loves my body and just wants me to be healthy rather than look a certain way. ❤ I want the same for him. It takes the pressure off and makes fitness fun.
Edit: Also, congrats on 6 kids! ❤❤❤ I would love a big family like yours but my husband currently wants to stop at 3 😂
Wow I'm so glad and ASTONISHED by your husband's nature in this cruel world 🥺✨😍
Girl love him really hard...✨🫂
So so true. Mine is like this too. They are out there ladies.
These men are the kind of people that would leave their spouse if they became disabled or had a terminal illness. It’s truly heartbreaking that some people will never understand nor experience unconditional love. To them their "love" is conditional and when you don't meet their conditions then you're thrown out like garbage. But I believe in karma. One they'll be the ones not meeting the conditions. They'll be too old or too poor or too ugly, its just a matter of time, because in the long run you can't have what you don’t give.
Dropped this 👑, becareful sweetheart 🥺
That's when the 'midlife crisis' pops in. It used to be a certain age when they realized 'this is it' because that's all they're gonna get, but nowadays due to women having choices it's starting earlier and they cannot handle it.
You're dang right. This kind of hits me hard. I'd really like to experience unconditional love. God knows I provide it for others.
Cause thats not love at all , thats just a long term lust based on looks only. Once you fall in love it's very hard to fall out. This man talking in the beginning was never in love yet so he can't comprehend.
Absolutely true. Life is a wheel. Ageing and problems will happen, and given their toxic value system, they will be surrounded by people just as toxic as they are. Probably younger and stronger... and they will reap what the sowed.
'There's a lot more important sh!t in life than what we look like, physically, to other people" PERIOD
Completely agree.
We shouldn't gaf when people try to ✨ sexualize ✨ us. Even after being a mother. The more we react to these, ruin ourselves with surgery, depression, taking for granted, stressing etc . The more they're gonna think we don't actually see it as a problem but a ✨ GIRLY PROBLEM, OUR PROBLEM ✨ 🙂😏
Wish the world lived by this analogy. How you treat others is so much more important.
IKR, Imagine the life changing moment that is being pregnant, having the child, having a whole new life to take care of....
who cares about looks in that moment? my goodness! Leave those women alone
My grandfather used to say the two most beautiful sights in the world were a ship at full sail and a pregnant woman. He was an OB/GYN.
That is... powerful. God bless your precious grandpa! Real tears I tell ya!
@@alyzak.8997 thank you, and blessings on you too. He was a good man.
Soooooo Beautiful ❤❤❤❤❤
Im pregnant myself. What its really about and these men dont have the smarts or the vocabulary to verbalize, is that, they think a woman lives to serve THEM. So if youre a mom, and you have other priorities other than your partner, your looks, then you have abandoned your relationship. They are like five year olds who are upset that mommy has a new distraction, a new priority
Any woman who has a kid with those men at the start will have two kids to look after, if you know what I mean 😂
This the one right hereeee
Funny thing is, none of these men seem to be the type to say they dont want kids?
Boom. Bingo. This is the answer. A little louder for those in the back.
Well observed!
difference in pics is one is a fashion shoot w/hair stylist/MUA/clothes stylist/filters etc & the other is a candid shot w/their babies in REAL LIFE snapped by paparazzi. these women all look like regular women in real life even pre-baby
Exactly
I was about to say that
EXACTLY my thoughts
And those іncels on forums are shocked how that 9/10 Chad-level Stacy dropped half of her аttractiveness rating😂😂 Welcome to the REAL life, unfiltered
M’en are becoming more and more detached from reality. Men used to be so happy to be dads and so thankful to their wives . Pregnancy used to strengthen their bond emotionally but look at them now 🤦🏻♀️
93% of young men watch p****graphy consistently. Are we really shocked that they're becoming more detached from reality?
They've always been like this
They were slightly more appreciative about children more due to the free labor but now that children are more of an expense than an asset...😮
I told my bf if he wants kids I need a psychologist, a dietitian, a dermatologist, a personal trainer and a plastic surgeon 😅
Omg. 😅 😊
Just getting a nanny would be cheaper. 😅 Then you have time for all that other stuff.
🎉🎉🎉
Way to to break it down and dissect it for him. Let him know what it takes to bring those kids! 😂
This is my next response next time someone asks “where is baby #3”
What'd he say after that?
Remember when looking like a mom was normal for moms?
IKR, "you look like a mom". WELL, SHE IS A MOM! SO WHAT
Just nipping in after the first 30ish seconds to say, I will do my upmost to raise my son to not think that is ok to treat people that way.
👏😘
That's wassup!
As a 19-year-old girl with severe body dysmorphia, the fear that my body will change is so great that I don't think I will have children because of this alone... Society has permanently damaged me and taught me that I am only of value if my body looks good. Of course this is a distorted way of thinking, but it's so deeply ingrained in my mind that I can sadly hardly take the focus off my appearance anymore. The insecurities just ruin my (social) life. I feel depressed because of it. Men like the man in the beginning of the video just confirm all the negative thoughts in my head. I know it sounds extreme, but BDD genuinely ruined my life.
"He that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting.”
- Galatians 6:8 🙏🏾✝📖
I'am sorry but girl relax, find your self and enjoy your self first, worry about that in 10 years. Your twenties are hard enough on there own.
Enjoy your beauty and health.
The right man will love you for the person you are
Well let’s do a thought experiment. Okay you’re ugly and fat. Now what? The problem is we care too much either way. At the end of the day life is about more than how you look. We all get old and fat unless we die young. So again who cares? Accept that you’re ugly and fat and then move on. Even when people say “no you’re beautiful” they are missing the point. It literally doesn’t matter because everyone deserves love fat ugly skinny or pretty and everything in between. And if you live life thinking about how you look all the time you won’t actually live your life.
Delete social media baby doll. Have babies. I have 4. I swear they are worth it.
My neighbor gained weight together with his pregnant wife. Every kg she put on, he had to put on too.
Even waking up at the same time as her, no matter if it was for peeing or puking or eating.
He quit after 4 months and struggled to lose the weight the entire first year cause... BABY.
I remember as a little kid my mom wanted to lose weight and I cried and told her she wouldn't be my "soft pillow" anymore. Squishy mom's unite!
Thats so real though, my warmest and fondest times with my mum, even as an adult, have been hugging her or laying my head on her chest, tummy, or lap and feeling her softness. It's always made me feel safe and protected, and it's made me love and appreciate my own squishy bits in turn. it breaks my heart to know she (and other mums like her) struggles with her body image so much, when I've only ever seen her as beautiful as she is, as my ma.
🥹❤️❤️ love this. I can relate
I also broke down and cried when my mom was trying to loose weight when I was a kid because I thought she would look like a different personand I was attached to how she looked.
"How stupid do you want to be?"
Guy: "YES!!!"
If any man tells me to lose weight, ill just tell him to put on more muscle. That triggers them more.
And guarantee those same men that body shame a woman would call her a shallow b* if the tables were turned 🤦🏻♀
And to grow more hair and get a few inches taller
@@StarryWaters-gq1oj hahahahaha
🤣🤣
it saddens me DEEP to my core, when men reveal this hidden side you never knew they had. then they reveal oh actually, i mainly just see you as a body/someone who cooks for me/ gives me babies/ has s3zzxxz with me. you are not a real human to them. AND they deny you this essential part of you, where you literally just gave LIFE - you YOUR little baby, and yet the ONE thing you focus on is her physical form. where it should be the LEAST important thing to you both. this reveals the man is not only shallow he is DEEPLY selfish. your wife just gave you a baby, and wen through so much, and now she is taken care of this little baby, and you then bully her form, that is still recovering from birth. got it.......
That's truly the most tragic part. The revealing. Like imagine being in love, waiting, getting married, going as far as having children and then you find this out? It's a nightmare and the most soul-crushing thing. It's so hard to trust, husbands making you believe you know the them when in fact you don't know just how dark their dark side is.
@@hiddenexit1027 yes 😞 agree 💕
Sex*
I love how men will shit on a woman who chooses to not have kids. But if a woman decides to have kids, men will make fun of her for "letting herself go". It's like damned if they do, damned if they don't.
I feel like women are expected to as soon as they give birth to dedicate her life to their children and it's 'selfish' if they take care of themselves, but if they don't naturally loose all the weight and work on themselves (aka their appearence) within the first couple months, they're 'letting themselves go'.
Um maybe women are expected to dedicated their lives to a newborn because it is absolutely helpless and would die without parental care. Like your priority should not be your appearance and most courts of law would agree that’s criminal neglect
@@earth2emma Also whyd u say "um", when texting or conversing on the internet there's literally no need for it. its only purpose is for verbal conversations
@@earth2emmar/whoosh there goes the point of the comment, way over your head
You're exactly right. It's all just code for men not wanting to be an actual parent. Yet they're responsible for it 😂 I'm convinced these mens brains stopped developing at 5
@@earth2emma"um" or maybe the wife should get some time to take care of herself because shes a human being & will crumble emotionally without taking time for herself? the husband can take half the shifts cmon
After 2 kids I haven't slept through the night in over 4 years... I've literally glowed down due to being clinically exhausted and tired 😢
You‘re doing your best! Raising children is tough and almost all women know that and support you. dont worry about what others think, people with common sense know that being a mom is hard!
lol you’re a mom. You asked for that
Please take up yoga nidra. Pregnant moms and moms of young kids use these guided meditations regularly on my channel to fully rest in a fraction of the time. Yoga Nidra helps restore natural sleep as a form of non-sleep deep rest (NSDR), and it is known to reverse stress-based insomnia.
@@bre7931You must've Tried to be ' CRUEL SORRY COOL'??
I feel you 🤗
The media's crazy if these moms have lost their looks. All of you mommy's are beautiful! They're superheros, they carried babies in their bodies!
look having my child and the emotional things that happened while pregnant took my a while to get over. my baby is 3 i’m just now feeling normal enough to care more about myself..
I can not imagine how miserable of a life that someone leads that they would feel the need to comment that a woman has glowed down after becoming a mom
People beat others down because they're beat down themselves. That's the first thing I think about when people are stupidly cruel. Hurt people hurt people. Never allow ANYONE to pull you from your peace. You're all beautiful🕯
That was no man saying" I would dump my partner if they let themselves go" thats is a spoilt bratt, that in no way loves his partner. A real man understands what his love has given him and he loves her more profoundly and deeply for giving him that gift.
This is called the "no true Englishman/Scotsman/Irishman" fallacy.
Like shit, I guess they were women or non-binary, catmom said they're not true men.
Absolutely. This is how my husband is and I'm so grateful he is. He's never made me feel less than after giving birth. With his encouragement and support I've always been able to lose the baby weight, etc.
@@limiwacan you say how did you find such man? What green flag does he have?
@@fatemad4012a man who is generous and hard working is a good start.
I'm 24 and I haven't experienced pregnancy yet due to the absence of a partner. I feel pretty comfortable with my 8-shaped body, but even though my family says that I have a gorgeous figure, they always add the phrase "But you could benefit from losing some weight in your lower half". I believe that living comfortably and being able to eat what you want and have the opportunity to eat what you can is the real happiness. However, I am also feeling down because of the feelings of terrible discomfort from all the words that my family says to me. In addition, many people show me my old photos, in which I was 14 years old where I was skinny as a stick, and after that everyone always tell me how much I have gained weight in recent years. It especially hurts because I lost more than ten kilograms when I was serving in the army for two years (in my country this is mandatory) and it literally took me years to get out of the state of anorexia and serious eating problems. Watching these videos explaining unrealistic beauty standards, whether for moms or for ordinary women my age, helps me a lot not to break down in tears. Thank you very much for what you are doing.
I'm so sorry you're being treated this way by your family. Stay strong and live your life. Talk to someone who can give you tools to help. 😊
I can't believe family is saying this to you. I have two daughters and a daughter in law and I would never say these things to them. When they complain I tell them to be happy they are healthy. There are worse things to have than a bit of weight on you. Ignore them and live your best life as you want. Constantly starving yourself can have long term devastating affects on your body.
I’m 26, and have a 8-shaped body too. My hips started widening at 23, and weight distributed to my bum, tummy, and chest. My body matured. My thin (despite a bad diet/no exercise) body from ages 20-22 changed for the better. The change reflected a more stable income, better quality food, less partying, my body preparing for a possible pregnancy. It’s okay to look like an adult woman with curves, you aren’t a child anymore. Why would we want to look like we are starving if we have the money to eat good food?? Enjoy life, take care of your health, and you’ll be fine. Cheers!
Wtf, having more weight in the lower half is literally female definition. We are women, not boy teens in puberty. This fixation on pre-pubеrty skinny "twink" type is made by gау higher-ups with pеdo tеndencies.
I can't believe your own family is comparing a 14y.o body to a 24y.o am sorry but that is completely brainless!! I am 37, in pretty decent shape but i am no model lol. I have love handles, cellulite, heavier, saggier boobs! I still look good but no longer like my 17y.o self and that's normal. We are meant to age and it's beautiful 💖 aging is a privilege (otherwise you'd be dead)
Mommy glow down comes from the lack of support from society, family and most importantly the lack of support from the child’s father. Be it financially, emotionally, mentally, physically, etc they (the father) lack the drive women/mothers have.
I have two kids and I’d have them over and over again but I would rather a sperm bank than a claimed “father/husband”. Utterly useless- emotionally, physically, mentally and even biologically. Yep, minus the sperm bit- hint why I would choose a sperm bank in my next life. By choosing a sperm bank I am acknowledging I’m doing this alone vs choosing a partner thinking I will do this as a team.
The bar is so low.
The donor route is my plan B!
HEMORRHOIDS!😫 I WOULD TAKE ALL THE OTHER PREGNANCY SIDE EFFECTS IF I COULD JUST TO AVOID THOSE!
Had surgery to remove them after my 1st and got them again with my second! 😫😫😫 But I have 2 healthy beautiful kids... so I guess it was worth it 😂
Oh those are brutal 😭
I currently have both nausea and constipation at the same time in my first trimester and that is really not fun either 😭
I’ve never given birth to a child… but I give birth to a (you know what) every other day.😫😭 Constipation, tearing, bleeding & haemorrhoids are the absolute worst, I feel ur pain mums!!!🫶🏼
I’m most concerned about clitoral tearing. 😬😬
I’m pregnant rn and I needed this rn
Related to this, i once saw a post by a male fitness trainer (actually i think it was a husband and wife duo) telling male gym junkies that if they do not experience a "glow down" (not their terminology) after their partner gives birth, they are doing something wrong because they are clearly at the gym too much when they should be home looking after mum and bub! They understood that post partum life means you have less time for yourself, even as men, so how much more should the woman be "excused" (for lack of a better word) for her glow -down when she GREW the baby, GAVE BIRTH TO IT, potentially FEEDS IT WITH HER BODY, wakes up multiple times a night, etc! People are unbelievable.
It really shocks me how people can be so rude on the internet. The things they say to people in the comments are things they would never say to anyone in person.
If a guy ever told me he’d leave me if I’m not attractive enough, I’d make myself ugly on purpose to make him leave faster. Boy, BYE
I hate how women are expected to “bounce back” and look pre baby like four seconds after we give birth. Even my own mother gives my sister 💩 for not losing her baby weight a few months after giving birth. That’s part of why I don’t want kids. I don’t wanna deal with that 💩 when I’m trying to produce milk and take care of a baby.
Sorry but that's a stupid reason to not have kids. People like tour mom will always find something to bully you about
@@radhiadeedou8286 it’s not my only reason for not having kids 🩷
3 kids and my glow 🌟 goes up and down 😮💨 👇🏾 I'm tired most days . Hoodies and sweatpants are my friend
Basic logic for people who still haven't learned it:
Criticism, bitterness, pressure, expectations, WORTH AND WORTHINESS dependent on looks or performance - don't work.
True love, care, kindness, selflessness, healthy communication - work.
Your platform needs to be screamed from the mountain tops. ❤
This is so sad. This is why I hate people that claim themselves to be “fans” of any celebrity. Most of them are just people that are hyper fixated on their idea of their idol instead of seeing them as human.
'Lol - 'walking around in her body' - The pressure on women to look look a certain way at ALL times is crazy!
Stephanie no one should be shaming you. You’re beautiful and I love how real you are!
Pure insanity. You look amazing. All these women are beautiful.
Omg I loved this video so much. Thank you, Stephanie, for tirelessly putting out content that makes women (myself included) feel better about themselves instead of worse! I too had a glow-down of sorts. However, not from pregnancy but from serious mental health struggles and a very stressful couple of years. Your notion of "embrace the glow-down, it's proof of the fact that you have more important things to do" resonated a lot with me! I'm healing and allowing myself to be comfortable for once. That's a good thing:)
The "man" at the beggining I'm absolute posiive that he would ever be the present dad to give the time what is necessary to work out, go to the nutritionist, the salon, get the 8 hours none stop to sleep well, and all the rest. I really hope he and all the men whom think like him will never ever had a child not even a wife or girlfriend.
No WONDER Halle Bailey kept things private.
The same men expecting a perfect body after a woman gives birth are the ones that would want a natural birth, for her to breastfeed, want her to devote all her time and energy to the gym, and would profess his love of 'natural bodies' if she dared tried to get surgical help. They want it all
and they wouldn't lift a finger at home to give her time to do any of that either
I haven't had a baby, but I got really sick and nearly died in 2022. My illness required multiple surgeries and I went from being a very skinny daily runner to gaining 15kg and being unable to exercise for over a year. My friends had babies during that same time frame and I feel like we're all in the same boat, missing our former bodies and feeling like we've 'let ourselves go.' At least they have a baby to show for it...
I'm so sorry you had to go through all that.. I've collected a lot of extra weight the past 5 years because of my comfort eating.. it sucks...
Pregnant women literally grew a person/s for 9 months, and popped them out. HELLO. A TINY HUMAN!!!!!
Currently pregnant and my goodness it’s a very humbling experience lol that whole pregnancy glow is such a myth.
Congratulations ❤ Also - yes!!! The glow is a cruel lie and I had such hopes for 2nd trimester.
Turns out the glow is just sweat 😂😂😂
Congrats on your pregnancy. I'm currently pregnant with my second. Being a parent is challenging but so fun, especially once the baby starts sleeping through the night ❤ You got this!
Girl I hear you. Im 3 months in and no glow is sight lol
Thank you for the well wishes everyone ❤️ wishing everyone a healthy pregnancy and delivery ❤️
I had 20 extra kilos on me after giving birth, which took nearly 2 years to come off (with effort) for the first year the weight barely moved no matter how hard I tried. And unfortunately , I had one of these lame excuse for a man husbands who was literally giving me grief about the weight 2 weeks after an emergency cesarean. Somehow, like magic, as soon as I left him, the weight miraculously melted off with little to no effort! Sometimes our glow down is due to being weighed down by a useless man...
Thank you for making this video! I've struggled alot with my looks after having two kids.
You look as beautiful as ever, Stephanie!
Stephanie, your videos should be watched by more and more people. You can change the way our society thinks. 💫
I gained over 70lbs during my pregnancy. I’m 7 months postpartum and I still can’t lose the weight. I’ve tried everything.
Give it time, you just had a baby. Seven months isn't too long. I was in the same boat and it took YEARS to get back my old body. Your body is still adjusting and everyone is different. Have you tried a plant based diet (fruit, veggies, legumes, fermented foods, etc.)? Healthy low fat foods work wonders. Try following a Japanese diet... try bento meals. Thank me later.
Epic mic drop Stephanie. I have no notes. This was perfect.
Watching this 4 days pp, thank you for this!
I just started watching you couple weeks ago and you don’t look a day past 25 ☺️ love your videos 💛
You are doing an incredibly important job here, thank you 👏👏👏
Thank you, like always, for making these types of videos!
I prefer the you now. I watched your old tutorials and I love your more relaxed vibe ❤
My husband was kind enough to gain the weight with me 😂😘 love him!!!! And he still thinks I’m hot
Love this video!!! Motherhood is definitely an upgrade!
you go Girl! not a mom but what you speak of is so important! You've got my full support - don't listen to them haters
Love you and your message ❤
❤ YOU Steph!! You are a beautiful woman inside and out!!!
I THINK YOUR CONTENT IS GREAT AND SO ARE YOU! You are beautiful. Thanks for sharing!
Great words, as usual. Thank you for speaking up! I love it!!
Who is setting these standards & why should we care!?
I believe that w/out social media, people wouldn't worry about what they look like so much.
Exactly. It looks like tabloids and randos online. I dont know anyone who thinks or says this stuff irl, so maybe it depends on who you surround yourself with?
Women’s bodies being judged after pregnancy is nothing new. Social media has just amplified it
Aww. We haven't kept up a false perfect ideal of attractiveness so random strangers we don't have time to give a crap about dont wanna objectiy us anymore? I want to stay in shape as much as any other woman (and man), but if my shape isn't what someone else thinks it should be, even though they don't have my life challenges...Sucks to be them, I guess. 🤷♀️ Imma just live my life and enjoy motherhood. Ladies - we deserve better!
Thanks for bringing light to this.
Thanks for this video, steph. As a recent mother, this is a great video. ❤❤
Stephanie is the hero that all ladies need during these trying times 🙏🙌😌
I am so sick of the standards that women HAVE TO adhere to at all times. It's so exhausting
Random thing to say but you look stunning in this video! You look great in every video but something about your hair falling perfectly on your shoulders is just working so well 🔥
Thank you for this. This is so refreshing. As a mother of an almsot 2 year old and 3 year old, I’m in the trenches, dawg. I’ve never felt like I had such little time for myself than I have had since I had my second child. Motherhood is hard. Rewarding as hell, but hard
Another thing that I find maddening is that the "glow down" photos always get compared to the most styled, posed, made up, professional photos of someone pre-pregnancy. Of course they look different! One picture is literally of them at their most glam, and one picture is of them running errands on a day off. I find the comparisons abhorrent, but at least be consistent in your abhorrence by comparing apples to apples and oranges to oranges.
I do t think any of these women look bad at all. They cannot see the beauty in the life that women brought into the world .. the extra weight will fade with time.. eventually babies sleep through the night but a woman NEVER forgets who does and doesn’t have her back in the most vulnerable life changing transition in her life.
Everytime I see you post it makes me smile ❤
"Don't forgive me because I've done nothing to be forgiven for." Bless. Absolutely beautiful statement. Even without kids! Your looks are nor as important as all the other things in life!
I was truly shocked reading those replies to you!! You are absolutely gorgeous with or without makeup! I have been subscribed to your channel for a long time and never once did I think you were lacking in self-care. You speak about things that are so relatable to women of EVERY size, which is why I love your videos! Some people are just ugly on the inside and feel the need to share that within their comments. Much love to you!!
This is actually heartbreaking 💔
Good comment..
Excellent. I’ve always enjoyed your content. Love the extra sass on this one. Right on!
Im 10 weeks pregnant and i really appreciated this video! Even though I am early in my pregnancy, fear of gaining too much weight, or weight at all, terrifies me and has distracted me from the joys of becoming a new mother.
Thank you for your insight!! ☺️
I love your videos so freaking much
Cool comment
that guy in the beginning is a monster.... tear up a family when your wife is suffering...
You gooooooooo Stephanie!!!! ❤
Dude you’re so beautiful without makeup too you’re just gorgeous
Statistically speaking: pregnant women experience increased violence from their abusive partner. A lot of men can't stand when women don't focus on them anymore.
It's more in Western..as they r shallow people...
When i was in my first relationship, i didn't know that i was allergic to a lot of foods yet and i also have lipodemia. Still i was working out and constantly on a diet because i had no idea why i wasn't as shaped as i expected myself to be considering the effort. My boyfriend would always tell me, that if i only lost weight i might be attractive 😅 and he was someone claiming that he wanted kids someday. I was always afraid of carrying a child after that relationship.