um, WTF is happening to our men...?!
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- čas přidán 3. 09. 2023
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We all know how damaging the female beauty standards are for us women these days, and cant actually be met by nature. But until now - men haven't been held to the same standard. Now? These unrealistic beauty standards has trickled down to our men, and even naturally handsome men are feeling the pressure to surgically alter their looks to fit the male ideal.
Botox, facelifts, filler and buccal fat removal - fake tan, brow grooming and anti ageing skincare. Cosmetic procedures and routines are becoming big business for men, but it begs the question; is it necessary? Or is it all leading towards the male beauty standard becoming as problematic for men, as the beauty standards are for women? Let's hope not! - Jak na to + styl
I'm worried about beauty standards homogenizing people's faces. Honestly it'd be pretty boring if everyone ends up with same jaw, no buccal fat, no hooded eyes and same nose.
right, not too mention the beauty standard changes every day, tiktok doesn’t help at all, the internet makes new insecurities every single day that people haven’t even cared about nor thought of until someone mentioned it TO make people feel bad about themselves, like your side profile..? who the hell is gonna be staring at your side profile and thinking “how ugly” like it’s really stupid 😭
That would only happen if everybody is as easily influenced as ppl who get plastic surgery.
It's already like that
Exactly!!!
I honestly feel like people are legit all starting to look the same and looking like damn aliens. Pointy chin. Heart shape face. Big eyes. Etc etc. 😂
The question here is: whats happening to our WORLD? Its a world of insecurities and too much, way too much social media.
People seem to be getting meaner and more violent too. You would think a global pandemic and millions of people dying would have made people more empathetic, but the opposite seems to be true.
We're truly in the end times
I feel people are so far removed from reality and what it means to be human. They don't know how to function so most ppl are just societal sheep/drones.
Ability to add filters happened to the world.
The problem is people are a**holes nowadays and shaming others is the normal. People are so quick to tear others down instead of being positive.
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE make more of these! My husband (33) is always comparing himself to others. And I would love to show him more videos like this so he can know how handsome he naturally is. It’s so sad to see the person you love struggle to love themselves 💔
Aw bless him!!! I will do more ❤️
I've seen a video about men getting legs surgery to be 3 inches taller. And how it could be extremely dangerous. But the men would talk about how women would only date "tall men" so they felt the need for change.
Was in a relationship with a really wonderful man, same issue. Caught me off guard as I thought it was mainly a "womans" issue.
But really tricky minefield to navigate 💔
@@Elhastezy888 That might be one harmful effect of sexism specifically on men. It could be that being insecure about one's looks is considered a "women's issue", so when men feel that way, they would feel the need to hide it and just try to get on, or compensate in narcissistic ways (e.g. by putting down women, like the men who are now running around calling Margot Robbie "mid"). These are also the ways the media portrays it, plus they make fun of men who are not classically beautiful, and/or aspire to be more beautiful.
@@stephanielange
Yes please, we need to protect men from this nonsense too 🙏
You should have also added K-pop men. They go into plastic surgery at a very young age and end up looking similar. (No, I'm not being racist, I'm Asian myself) they do look very similar because of all sorts of plastic surgery. Normal Asian men without any plastic surgery don't look anything like these idols. Plastic surgery is getting extremely common in Asia.
Same thing happens with women. Consider Lindsay Lohan She looked older after plastic surgery. The symmetry plastic surgeons try for is mathematical but it makes you all look alike
I am very sorry to hear that Justice for natural asian, many asian is gorgeus to their own skin natural is what makes you different to others and you should embrace it and proud of for what you have its amazing to see everyone with different skin, features, bodies. It should be accepted and normalized because it is so beautiful, suck beauty standard
I feel like kpop stars still look attractive despite surgery and a homogenized look, while americans look so off when they get surgeries done. I think koreans exercise restraint in surgeries in the way that they work with their features maybe. But a lot of american celebs look so weird because they get several surgeries and work against their features.
I'm tired of celebrity worship and knowing it will never go away. We need to showcase talented people in touch with reality because sh*ts getting weird quick. Simon's face looks melted and the comment his kid made is sad.
Well said!!! I really like Oliver Anthony right now keeping it real and not taking record deals bc he knows it’s all, for lack of a better word; very weird. Lol
There are so many amazing artists out there that get sabotaged constantly. That's why we need to support independent artists because the ones the industry are putting forth are most likely props specifically chosen to push what the industry wants us to consume. I found an artist online that I really love. She makes such beautiful artwork but her paintings sell out because she only makes a few at a time. But I watch her hoping to snag one eventually! She's not mainstream at all. She speaks Israeli, she's Christian and I think she lives in italy 💓 I would give her name but I can't spell it off hand!
This is a paradox, because if we start to lift those down to earth relatable people, they will turn into a celebrity which in turn with time could make them unrelatable and out of touch with reality. Fame brings money and connections, which will stray a person more and more out of the reality that majority of people live in.
Agreed!
I’m not typically a Bible thumper, but when society is driven away from God (of any religion… but something Divine), the people start worshipping people which is terrible for everyone when it becomes the majority.
Society is literally turning into a scifi novel. Who knew scott westerfield would be right. The series the pretties is literally becoming reality. Everyone wants a pretty surgery.
Omg it totally is. I remember reading that series in middle school and thinking I wouldn't be surprised if society ended up going in that direction. I mean, it was already happening back then with the surgeries just on a smaller scale than it is today. Now, it's a lot more accessible to people other than celebrities. So whatever trend they come up with, we can all follow along. Only to regret it later because we are actually more beautiful without it. I hope more people realize this before it gets worse and every new generation of kids feels ugly and wants to change themselves.
YES!!! the prettier they get the more brainwashed they become. scott westerfeld predicted the future lol
It's crazy how many people define themselves by their shells. Appearance is so fickle and fleeting. Makes you think if such shallow people got into an accident where they were disfigured, if they would suddenly believe they weren't worthy of living or of love just because their outer appearance changed. Do they not realize they have a whole complex inner universe that stays constant and, therefore, everyone regardless of their outer shell has that too? Each life and body is a literal miracle yet people can be so shallow. I don't understand.
@krisr1293 I was just thinking this exact same thing a few months ago! So disappointing 😞
I was just about to comment about that series!! It’s actually happening and it’s crazy
There’s also this thing happening in the fitness community with men that’s def body dysmorphic. Like there’s nothing wrong with wanting a chiseled physique and to be healthy and lift or work out, but I’ve seen guys who are by all account big complaining that they’re small and should start juicing. There’s def a lot of beauty standard trauma amongst men and women
Yes, also dietary wise a lot of them are very meat heavy. And I just worry there's going to be a wave of them in the future getting a lot of stomach cancer, ect :/
True! The fitness community can be so extremely toxic ...
@@nena2250and their main slogan is always "be the best version of yourself", meaning it's basically all about the looks, you can be a total sh!t of a person but if you look great you are "the best version of yourself", nothing else matters. That message is so toxic and that's why have epidemic of super shallow selfish entitled people. Whenever I hear/read that "slogan" i literally roll my eyes.
@@nabojsa I totally understand your point of view! I struggled with an eating disorder and the toxicity of the community made it worse! I have learned now that the slogan could also mean, have the best mindset/mental health etc etc
It's called bigorexia and it's def a real thing. I've been in the fitness/wellness industry for 25 years. It has its upside, but wow is the toxic side pervasive.
Crazy thing about Liam Payne and Zac Efron is that they HAD strong jaws. It really points to the pressure that absolutely skews our own view of our bodies.
I haven’t noticed any of the men I know feeling enough pressure to go in for extensive skin care/beauty routines, and definitely not fillers and surgery. But with the rise of such things in the celebrity world, I worry that a trickle down effect is imminent.
Didn't Zac Efron claim that he got that surgery because he hurt himself working out or doing something athletic?
I almost think Zac may be on HGH or steroids. He looks hulk-ish!! 😱
seems like everybody wants to look perfect like the angles in the days of Noah...
As man in my 40s, what I find most astounding is that many younger men and women now describe themselves as “old” once they hit 30! I can only speak for myself, but found that I looked much better in my 30s than I ever did in my 20s. Obviously I did the basic stuff like had a skincare routine and exercised but nothing to the point of extreme. This need to have your face look like an IG filter in real life is crazy.
I also think people don’t take into account the insane body standards that today’s young men hold themselves to. Unless you happen to be genetically blessed, trying to get your body to look like your favorite Marvel actor is near impossible without tons of time and money. The fact that most of these actors only maintain their super shredded bodies until movie filming ends should tell you something.
This. I even heard lots of really young people (20-25) saying they wish they were still teens because they're getting old... like wtf, I'm 37 and don't feel old yet lol. This obsession with being forever youthful is ridiculous.
And I also think I look better now in my 30's than in my 20's, like you said - you start to care a bit more about yourself, what you eat, exercise, take better care of your skin, find your style and what suits you instead of just following whatever current trend is...
"Unless you happen to be genetically blessed, trying to get your body to look like your favorite Marvel actor is near impossible without tons of time and money."
Not even that. Lots of these actors (if not all) that get shredded in such a short period of time don't even do it naturally. So, basically, unless you're willing to put your health at risk and take steroids, you won't even achieve that, ever.
Also idk wtf women expected. They've told men for years that being masculine is toxic and now that theyre feminine they don't like it... they've backed men into this corner, they got what they wanted and now they're bitching about it... ugh
True!
Because there are people (mostly men) forcing the idea onto woman that as soon as we hit 25 we’re old, not youthful and not wanted anymore. We’re literally told that an 18 yr old is better to be with and to look at. This idea of being old at that age was taught to us. It didn’t just magically appear in our heads. Every magazine, most news tabloids, all the social media standards, societies beauty standards, the beauty products being marketed to us, most males, all tell us we ARE old by that age.
as a teen, I've witnessed so many boys who try to gain weight but can't, no matter how much they eat. at school, they get shamed for being too skinny, but at home their parents tell them to eat less so they "don't get used to" that lifestyle. the contradictions become so confusing, that it not only leads to an eating disorder, but so much more.
I wish those parents would instead send them to a dietician then a chef to learn how to eat healthy as a teenager and later in life as they are older.
Eating disorders are easier to fly under the radar for (cis)men.
Hair loss? Male Pattern Baldness 🤷🏾♀️
Loss of Period? Lol, cis-dudes don't get periods
Lack of sleep or skin issues such as acne or discoloration? Most men don't even do skin care
Lack of sex drive? Plenty of younger dudes have erectile dysfunction from drinking, smoking, medications, a bunch of other things.
It's really under reported
I mean its a fact that your metabolism slows a little as you age. Thats not a big deal.
Yessss. My older brother was severely bullied as a kid and young teen for how skinny he was. When he got to high school, he started going to the gym. Ever since then, he has consistently gone for about 4-5 years, six times a week, never missed one day. Even on the day before his big final exam, he insisted on going. Now, of course, he's got muscles and whatnot and get's complimented all the time. I can see a glimpse of pain in his eyes whenever someone makes jokes about how skinny he was before and how he looks so much better now and is a "real man" and not a "twing" anymore. Whenever anyone brings up his past appearance, he makes sure to eat a huge plate of about 5-6 scrambled eggs plus 3 slices of bread smothered with peanut butter for dinner, and I can see him struggling and wanting to puke. He always watches "how to bulk" videos while eating, I guess to motivate him. Growing up with both brothers and a sister, I can truly see how beauty standards affect everyone, girls and boys, myself included.
Those same boys will fill out nicely in adulthood and actually stay in good shape to old age. They'll be thankful for that metabolism later in life
I feel so sad for Liam,I still remember all the hurtful and body-shaming comments he received through his career,and how this even made him develop an eating disorder overtime.
I hope he gets to know one day how beautiful he is inside and out. 💜🥺😔
Hes an extremely odd individual tbf
@@Ukraineaissance2014he’s been open about being mentally ill, it’s not something he should be ashamed of or criticized for.
Liam was the cutest imo, especially in his younger years. Then, he started looking rather masculine ever since puberty. I loved him then, I love him now. It's his body. What he does with it is his choice, but I hope it didn't come from the place of insecurities and hope he is feeling good about himself.
This is why I love guys like Tom Welling (who you actually included in the jawline montage, incidentally). He was always considered one of the most beautiful men in the world, but he’s not tried to keep his image in line with society standards as he’s aged. He let his grey hair grow out, put on a little bit of weight, and you know what? He looks 100% hotter than these plastic surgery disasters.
He definitely does look a lot better than those with surgeries and procedures. Aging naturally is always more beautiful.
My husband has always had softer features. A smaller chin and softer jaw. He also has a mop of wavy hair that has gone salt and pepper over the years, uneven teeth and a bit of a dad bod. He has never once talked about his own looks or the appearance of others, including myself. I think he's the most beautiful man I've ever seen, in many ways, but I honestly think it's the confidence he exudes in his lack of obsession over his own appearance and the appearances of others that makes him so beautiful and attractive. He has the ability to look past that and have good friendships with people of all different appearances.
@@coolbreeze5683 This is the sweetest thing I ever read! The way you love your husband is beautiful. My fiancé is a lot like your husband…not very concerned with his looks and has never come out and said anything negative about my looks or anyone else’s. He’s the most handsome guy to me. Natural good looks, although he did have to undergo some facial reconstructive surgery which included a rhinoplasty and jaw reconstruction. His procedures were not for vanity reasons, he actually had gotten into a really bad accident. The surgeon did an excellent job, because he looks like himself afterward. Thank God. It’s so sad to see the Hollywood men falling victim to these vicious beauty standards too.
I love a silver fox with a dad bod.
He looks so hot now. But then I prefer the look of older men . When I saw him on Lucifer ❤
OMG, I am seriously insecure about myself. My family always told me I'm the ugly child growing up and your videos actually make me normalize my body and feel comfortable the way i look. Thank you so much for making this content and making the video about men as well.
I am sorry that they told you that. I am glad you are finding peace.
What your parents dont understand is the way you look is a mixture of them bc of genes. They are basically the ugly ones if they tell you that , not you😂
Keep going you are definitely beautiful inside and out🌺
Wow that’s horrible! My parents never told me I was ugly but would definitely say things like why can’t you be more or look like her 🤦🏻♀️ but would never teach me how to do my hair or have any style. I couldn’t imagine telling my son or daughter they’re ugly! That’s just down right mean.
I am sorry to hear that. It's truly painful to hear that, especially from your own parents :(( I am glad you are feeling better about it now. Keep going and stay strong, don't let other people's negative comments get to you.
Family can be overly harsh. I bet you are far more attractive than they try to make you feel.
Zack Efron looks like he is mid 50’s in the after pictures. The procedures aged him sooo much
Right? I though I was the only who thought so... Sometimes surgery can make you look worse!
And grow hormone
I wonder if he had a facelift and it will be like the Madonna thing where he will start looking more like himself soon as a facelift takes about two years to settle
Zac really pushed the limits and went beyond. He had such a gorgeous and unique look before he went through all of that.
He looks like David Hasselhoff now
His jaw was shattered
@@frances1227 This was like 8 years ago and after his surgery to reconstruct his jaw, there wasn't any difference in appearance. Zac had a drug and alcohol addiction and took steroids to gain muscles fast. He uses the jaw accident as an excuse for his plastic surgery. Zac is really a insecure person (even his friends said so). He cares too much what other people might think and i assume it all started back then in like 2006-2008, when people thought he was gay and looked too feminine. I think these comments got stuck in his head. Zac is trying to fix something, Hollywood could never too, fixing his soul. In fact Hollywood is the reason, why he even got to this point in the first place.
The original Zac would grow with a baby face in his 20's like Chris Evans had. That man blossomed in his 30's.😂 Original Zac could actually replace Chris Evans as Steve Rogers.
@@soleil7259It's a shame he messed with his looks so badly. He's unrecognizable and appears to be on steroids/HGH.
this buckle fat removal really is the worst weve come so far in the "beauty" (??????) industry - all lookin like freakin aliens after that bs
They look like they're starving or like they're smoking non stop..
I really don't like it either I especially think it'll look bad in 5-10 years :(
the malnourished and sleep deprived look. i actually have naturally shallow cheeks lol so thats what i feel like it looks like
This is such a myth, most buccal fat removal results are very subtle. Those celebs had other stuff done to make it look more exaggerated
I’m getting to the point where I’m starting to wonder if that IS the point? Like, they want set themselves apart from being like or looking like us peasant poor people.
This was never the kind of equality we were looking for. Beauty standards are so awful for everyone's self-esteem, and it's very sad that we now have to worry about our brothers being affected as much as our sisters. 😢
exactly!!
"this was never the kind of equality we were looking for" i can't explain why, but that one hits different
Steroids are dangerous
they’ve always been affected by it. it just wasn’t taken as seriously as beauty standards that women face since people tend to have the “man up and get over it” mentality when it comes to issues that affect men.
2023 the year rich people want to stay young and your average person wants to stay fed. Worlds going to shi!
Shame on Bidens Economy
@@minipandora22 not everything is about america,chill
@@georgiana1147 it LITERALLY is 😂😂
@@minipandora22 says a privilleged american
@@georgiana1147 keep wearing those colored contacts and blonde hair!!!! YOU FUCKING WISH ! 😂😂😂😂
My son is 20 yrs old. A few months ago he admitted to me that he hates how he looks. I was completely shocked. He's a nice looking young man, but bc of high HollyWeird standards and TikTok filters, he feels ugly and gross. It truly did break my heart.
He will have to work 10 times harder to get 1/10 of what the women of your generation were
@@devilsadvocacyHoeflation? But this is a video about social media's beauty standards.
@@t-bonetyrone The two are inextricably intertwined
@@devilsadvocacy From some perspectives, I can agree with that. The bar goes up, and so does the expectation of the heaux.
My 58 yr old husband doesn’t need “enhancements.” He has a typical Scots-Irish receding chin, which he covers with a goatee (my dad wore a beard), but he wouldn’t change his face to meet “beauty” standards. He was hot as a young man and he has aged as gracefully as a blue-collar man will. After 32 years of marriage I think he still looks good. I wish people would go back to growing old gracefully. Those lines and bags show you lived a little and should have some wisdom.
Kidney infections are actually always serious. They can easily lead to sepsis and have low threshold for hospitalization. It is bladder infection that is less concerning. However, it’s rare for males to develop bladder or kidney infections.
But when they do it is very concerning
Can be the first sign of diabetes
Thats what i was wondering im a nurse, i was like STD 😳
I believe he also used to suffer with kidney issues as a child. Making it more scary that he formed an infection
He's also recovering alcoholic/addict so that wouldn't have been too good on his kidneys either
The pressure over our bodies is overwhelming to the point that sometimes makes you make bad decisions. I'm from Argentina and, a few days ago, a very well known actress, named Silvina Luna, passed away at the age of 43 after battling for a few years with health problems (kidney failure specially) caused by a beauty procedure done by a greedy, unprofessional doctor. She just wanted to feel prettier, eventhough she was considered one of the hottest woman in my country.
That’s heartbreaking! I hope the doctor who took advantage of that already very beautiful woman gets put in jail and gets his license revoked.
@@winxclubstellamusa We're all hopping the same, but he is on trial, free and still working. Also, she is not the only victim. There are several others.
I just looked it up and it's so sad! It sounds like she suffered for a long time. You're right; beauty standards can feel really overwhelming and unfortunately can take a fatal toll.
Hmm, kidney problem, Liam Payne is gaving issues with his kidney!! Maybe he has smthng entirely diff, but still..It makes you think..
And she promoted those beauty standards, lying of how she has get her booty.
I think culture has done this. When we have "dating" apps where you swipe left or right based totally on a picture, physical appearance becomes increasingly more important. Our expectations for each other's looks has also gone up. We see filtered pictures all the time and that image is becoming ingrained in our minds as normal. I think people labeling Margot Robbie as a "Mid" is evidence of this.
I hope in a few years everyone says enough is enough and we have a renaissance where personality, intelligence, and talents will make people the most attractive. Things feel very shallow right now, but I'm hopeful for change.
I hate that we are becoming so far removed from our natural looks. I feel so strongly about it that I stopped wearing makeup more than once or twice a year because I hated that I had become so used to the makeup that I thought my natural face was ugly. It really saddens me to see men going down this same path.
We are at the age of extreme narcissism. It’s destroying people faces
Zac used to look like a Ken doll.
Are you talking about Zac Efron he did get into a pretty bad accident
@@badongasalonga and clearly I can see your a doctor 👨⚕️
@@priscillacastillo5619 Zac Efron's accident happened in 2013 and his face looked normal for years after that. He used it as an excuse after people were shocked by his new face and it worked because I always see people saying it was an accident when they have no clue about the timeline. If you google zac efron jaw 2013 you can see news stories about it from back then. I remembered seeing him talk about it on one of the late shows about how he slipped on a puddle and hit his jaw on a fountain 10 years ago.
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Yeah and is still better than majority of actresses without makeup
The story of Simon’s son is so sad! That would be awful to not recognize your parent or think something happened to them😢
It’s so weird how much we promote diversity yet we only allow one beauty standard at a time.
Never heard it put so well.
It’s because a depressing amount of people will jump on the bandwagon of “accept everyone and embrace diversity” but only care as much as it helps their image or helps them fit into a group. It’s why so many people that preach kindness like Ellen get called out for being awful behind the scenes. They don’t care about being kind, they like the reputation of being kind.
It’s why I don’t trust people that try to constantly remind you of how good of a person they are.
Liam & Zac’s transformation actually break my heart
I have a brother who is a conventionally attractive dude who is tall, works out, and makes pretty good money so he has a lot going for him but I have watched him agonize about whether one of his biceps was the same size as the other. He was also fat shamed a lot as a kid so I worry about what that did to his view of himself. Luckily he knows better than to pursue plastic surgery, but im not sure if he knows better than to be obsessive with his fitness/eating habits
My heart honestly was shattered when I saw Efron reveal his new face. He’s always talked about how he hates training so hard for roles and how it is dangerous for men to eat and drink so little just for the optimum muscle definition. He has been open about the pressure male celebrities also have- even if it’s not severe as women- and people shrugged him off because “he’s hot” which is EXTRA salt on the wound. Zac Efron was one of the most wanted men and if he felt he wasn’t masculinely handsome enough for people to take him seriously is just horrifying.
After that, male cosmetic surgery has been more rampant. Even though it existed before it was more subtle cause men wanted to keep it even more hidden since cosmetic surgery was “a woman’s thing”
I'm a guy and I had severe body dysmorphia that got so bad three years ago I literally hallucinated that I looked uglier than I really did. I needed to get on medication for it, which had the side affect of making me gain weight. Now I look pretty much like I thought I did when I was dysmorphic. I've had to learn to not care as much how I look, but for the majority of my life I felt ugly and hated myself. Everyone can suffer from dysmorphia. Pretending otherwise is a massive oversight.
Thanks for sharing. It's crazy how much our self-image or perception of ourselves influence how we see ourselves. It's also interesting that the idea you had of yourself became a self-fulfilling prophecy, and actually happened. I have noticed that people with a really good self-image and confidence in their looks automatically influences other people to accept it as fact, even if they're not that objectively handsome.
Liam kept getting a horrendous amount of hate regarding his looks and other stuff, I’m not surprised he felt the need to change his looks. Also, Liam has only one working kidney, so yes, an infection in someone with one kidney is quite serious.
The thing is business companies try to grow their customer base. In this case, imposing beauty standards using celebs to unlock male customer base. I remember watching about a marketing campaign for cigarettes that used actresses to promote smoking as sexy, liberating and etc. I think the same is applicable to why they advertise more men wearing dresses or applying makeup. Just being able to sell products/services to everyone. Thanks for reading my rant!
I don't think men wearing make up or dresses has that much to do with marketing... Our society is changing and we are just more open to it. But I agree on the part where you say that companies promote plastic surgery through celebs!
My husband actually enjoyed this video. It’s so informative and eye opening! Do more like this!!! Also…Stephanie your hair is absolutely gorgeous. I LOVE that color. It looks so good on you!!!!
Thank you so much ❤️❤️
I’m so glad you made this video! My little brother is 19 and he definitely has insecurities about his looks. He lives in LA now, I hope he doesn’t get sucked into this sort of thing. Those men looked great before, and look unlike themselves now. I really just believe that aging gracefully is the way to go. And your inner beauty will outshine your outer beauty in the end.
My heart breaks for Liam. He is such a lovely man.
Yeah I think gayness is what over took him and Harry both.
Liam isn't gay. Harry on the other hand...@@mkat4271
*I was JUST wishing you’d do a video about **_men!!_* Both sexes face these ridiculous standards. You are the best, Stephanie!! ❤❤
I think Stephanie focuses on women cause she is aware that we have it waaaaaaay worse
@@magda386 Totally admit women have it worse, but sadly it is becoming more and more common among men of every age.
@@magda386 Let's not play oppression Olympics. It doesn't matter who has it worse. What matters is that we're all suffering from the same problem.
@@thelemurofmadagascar9183 Correct
@@thelemurofmadagascar9183 it's not oppression olympics or whatever... I'm just giving the logical reason why Stephanie always makes videos about women
Hey, I’m a guy but really enjoy your videos, clicked this one very fast. 30 years old. You wouldn’t believe unsaid beauty standards that are pushed on to us constantly, it’s almost like it slips under the radar because people think it only happens to women. I’ve always struggled with body image since I was 16 and thought as I got older it would go away but it is still a very real issue
As a male performer/dancer thank you for this and please make more. I eat to the point of nausea to avoid losing any muscle mass and lift daily. You can’t be too thick but you can’t also be too skinny. You need to look like an upside down triangle but then also have thick legs and a high butt. However, not too thick or it’s seen as overly feminine. Don’t even get me started on the face, facial and body hair, etc. the list goes on
I'm really sad to see the same thing in kpop, boys obviously get a lost of surgery and start looking alike to fit the beauty standard, and on top of that they do extreme diets to slim their faces... A lot of them are underweight for their height. People don't pay a lot of attention to this because with female idols it's a lot worse, but it still is happening.
Omg, yes, I was scrolling a lot to find a comment about Kpop, so I don't have to write it myself :D Even BTS probably had 20+ plastic surgeries in total (not counting fillers, botox, laser treatments, skin bleaching etc.) and so many fans assume that they are somehow so different from the rest of the Kpop industry that they naturally look like that.
@@nehalilisays well I can't speculate what they've had done but plastic surgery is so good there the changes are usually subtle and over the years. But I hate when they talk about dieting it's so normalised and extreme at times.
@@nehalilisays that's a common kpop thing tho :/ name any other idol and their fans will try to convince you it's "puberty, lost fat"
Isn’t it common that sometimes they get those surgeries while they’re trainees? Like they might not even become stars but they’ve already altered their looks. I feel like I read that somewhere.
@@TheSlipperyNUwUdle yup, it's a common thing to get their eyelids done as early as 14. but they mess with other facial features too
I think it's great that men now feel the pressure. If EVERYONE feels the pressure to start looking a certain way, people will just say "nope" and realize how messed up it is. If it's just women with the pressure, it gets brushed off.
I agree 💯% with this, and videos like this will help bring it to light.
Real asf💯
Men have always felt that though. I have a ton of brothers and always had guy friends and I watched them go through it since purbery. I always did my best to try to help them understand they don't have to give into what society says or even their family. I guess I was just one of those women that saw people as people and wanted to help men just as much as I do women. If you actually take time to talk to men you will find they are dealing with the same things just different. Men typically keep a lot to themselves you have to actually talk to them. A lot of men also don't realize or want to admit what they feel pressured about. Remember the su*cide rate is higher among them for a reason.
Yeah I agree but men and women have a different kind of pressure, for women it's pressure to always look your best but for men it's to always be strong and to provide for and protect others...
Now switch the words men and women around and see how sexist you sound. Men don't need to suffer to understand how stupid these body standards are.
As a 25 year old man who grew up in the new age of social media as we see it now, it really has been such a whirlwind seeing these beauty standards thrown onto us. And while I don’t necessarily conform or want to conform to them anymore, I am considering getting hairline transplants to fix my receding hairline as my hair is a big source of confidence for me. But I otherwise don’t care to change much else.
I like my face, and I’m currently in the process of undergoing a major weight loss. I care the most about having clear, smooth skin, and being healthy as a whole. It’s taken years of therapy for me to reach this point, but I did. And while I don’t think wanting to look your best is a bad thing, I’m seeing more and more men feel similar pressures to women in regards to unattainable beauty standards. It’s really sad and I empathize with guys who have massive self esteem issues and body dysmorphia like I used to.
I enjoy looking good, but I don’t obsess over looking a certain way anymore in spite of the pressures being put on me to fit a specific and ever changing beauty standard. I was never super conventionally attractive, and I no longer care to be because I don’t place my value in my attractiveness to others anymore. And I hope anyone who takes the time to read this will reach this point too.
As a guy who was basically bald by 20, I think it's not worth it. Nobody ever found me less attractive or was I ever insecure about that. Buy yourself clippers (even the cheapest ones from supermarkets work just fine) take a buzzcut and don't even bother with it. Otherwise you'll waste tons of money and still need to take drugs for the rest of your life if you don't want that transplated hair to fall off again. So do you really want to take those unnecesary stuff (often with side-effects) and spend tons of money just for the looks?
I mean you do you, I have nothing against it, but personally I never thought about it as I really don't think it's worth that much money and effort.
I'm so thankful you're talking about this. I've been waiting for it. I've been waiting for someone to come out with this.
rn the jaw implant + bucal fat removal combo is all the rage, and it's not only in men; it's interesting to me how today's society put SO MUCH pressure for people to stay as youthful as possible yet the surgical cosmetic trends seem to have the opposite effect of aging prematurely
They all got yassified
I am so glad you are discussing this topic .I literally was discussing this with my husband today. What was considered pretty 15 -20 years ago is considered somewhat average today, A-lot of this I feel is due to social media and societal pressure. Men are also feeling the need to resort to procedures to meet an ever increasing societal norm of beauty
It is great you are covering men! Societal standards and peer pressure exist for both genders, we both feel it, so we can have empathy for everyone! :)
I’m way older than your target audience but I really appreciate your channel. I was hard enough growing up before editing apps and social media - the unrealistic expectations are insane. Thank you for your grounded realistic take on it!
After these videos i started to appreciate my natural appearance a lot more! So thanks a lot for your work ❤
My sons are dealing with this right now. My oldest made a great comment. “Plus sized female supermodels exist in the world but only thin men with zero body fat can model”.
There's a photo out there of some model shoot where it's a morbidly obese woman model and you see in the background is a guy who's freaking jacked and they're both on the same runway
Hi Steph!! LOVE all your vid. You should make a video about those celebs that refuse to cave in to these unrealistic beauty standards despite all the pressure they must feel from others and media
why are hooded eyes such a "flaw" ?? I don't understand. hooded eyes are SO beautiful to me on both men and women
Thank you Stephanie, thank you for this. Very much needed topic to discuss💯 You are so based I love it!
So glad you mad a video about beauty standards for men!! The beauty standards in general are so toxic!!
Thank you!! Finally a video about the beauty standards that men have to face!!! Please make more of these!!! And it goes way beyond that since in Hollywood men must have a six pack and the less hair on their chest the better and so on. Many men are training excessively to have the "perfect body" which is not healthy nor does it look good.
Sending love and good vibes
It's evident that beauty standards not only affect women, but also men, just that for women it's more spoken of unlike for men...
The world is at a point where natural beauty is seen as "ugly" or "unfit"...
I wish the small number of people who understand what the world is doing will help other people who are struggling with such issues so that we could at least save the tiny ratio that's left 😢
I hear so many people say "everybody is beautiful!"
People just have to start to believe the positive messages.
There are many more beauty extremes in media these days. You see complete, full faces of make up, to the point of looking airbrushed but then you also see more women going without make up in public, in shows and in movies. It used to be shocking if you saw a commercial or show where the actresses weren't wearing make up, especially if they were A list celebrities. Thank goodness that's atleast more common now.
Men are probably subject to beauty standards because women (at least within western/global north of the world) have more autonomy and economic power then our foremothers so don’t have to settle for men who do not care for their looks.
This is not to say that men should go for drastic invasive procedures to look attractive, but they are increasingly becoming subject to the same ridicule women faced. previously our worth and survival ( depending on our cultural, country or economic roots as women globally still face this issue) depended mainly on our looks and the men who choose to marry us.
That's the reason it's important to stay away from that shallow type of thinking.. we're so much more than our faces and bodies and age
well said!!
Ty!! Ive been just as conscious with my son as with my daughters about loving their bodies as they are.
It's the nail polish and pearls (literally) on every other male YT-uber for me...
No but they all look so hot, I love love nail polish on guys, i makes their hands look so sexy. Like a rockstar.
@@elisabetlagato1520 your unhealthy fantasy of dating a gay bff who's straight.
@@vklnew9824 No it’s my unhealthy fantasy of dating an 80’s hair metal guitarist.
This is fascinating Stephanie and gives this momma some insight. My 19 yr old son said to me recently that he hated his jawline. I was shocked when he compared it to his older brother saying its not as "strong". Had to remind him that his heart shaped face(that is just like mine)is perfectly handsome and never forget that. I really didn't think men were being targeted, but sadly I was so wrong.
happy to see this isn't a video about men dressing differently than conventional standards and how that's bad (aka harry wearing dresses, etc) and the genuine problem with beauty standards for men
Yeah when I saw the thumbnail I thought I was about to unsubscribe from one of my favorite channels.
I’m not gonna lie I’m not a fan of Harry’s dresses they don’t flatter him. I know he likes them and that’s the point but I really want to dress him lol
Clicked on this video partly because I was afraid this was going to be a commentary on what men should and shouldn't wear (as per the thumbnail). I should have known better, as Stephanie is always trying to counter beauty standards for women!
@@caramelkisses8857 yes i agree, because dresses are for women
@@catlover5656Yes.
I ABSOLUTELY ADORE YOU STEPH!! you always drop bangers!
Ad she fits into the beauty standarts she criticizes so heavily....
I have been waiting for you to do this video I am a 23 yo man and I have felt the pressure of male beauty standards that I have started to tweek myself to fit in those beauty standards.
I just LOOVVVVVVVE what u stand for. U speaking facts and letting women (&men) truths about what people, even celebrities, REALLY LOOK LIKE! Thank you, Stephanie U R AWESOME and making POSITIVE PROGRESS 🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤
I would love to see more videos about men beauty standards!!
I do think Men have always had societal pressures, they just differ from ours. Or maybe they are quite similar! Whether it be masculinity, being a provider, height, their performance in the bedroom, etc. The amoubt of pressure and expectations we put on ourselves as human beings is alarming, and really sad. I hope people can have the strength to remain true to themselves, and be unapologetically themselves. Great video x
Most men say thet women are inferiore and blame women for men crimes...
And still women care so much about them...😢
@@5-es4mn where are your sources for these claims? Yes we absolutely care for men! And we should do.
@@5-es4mnU must be a kid who told U most men have said they're superior have U spoken to most men nearly four billion people on earth have U oh n men have literally died to protect U women when they went to war so no men care about U women far more than U care about us Ur not a victim no matter how much U wanna be men have made this society all comfortable for U women Ur able to live n experience luxury cause of men men built nearly everything for u
You are so right Stephanie it's gotten out of control! These people don't even look human anymore! And oddly the men look so much more feminine after surgery! It's sad and I agree it's damaging...
I wish they did look more feminine. But alas, as a man who wishes to look more "femboyable", I don't see such femininity either.
Surgery and botox won't give me the femboy aesthetics I am after. I will just have to stick to makeup.
This is really wild. Thank you so much for the video.
This is what happens when we as a society don't prepare our minds to age and be okay with not being young and perfect. You will age, wrinkles are okay, grey is okay, your face is yours, embrace it flaws and all and you will worry about much more important things in life.
Your Ross comment and the matching photos had me in stitches! The pace of it and your nonchalance were perfect, comedic brilliance, bravo! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 I enjoy all your videos, this was comedy gold, I even cried 😂 I just have to let you know! 😽💖✨
Totally agree!
The lip fillers get me like 🤦
Great look for you Stephanie, this hair color really compliments you ! ❤ Great topic.
i never understood the pressure men are under until a boy in my class held a presentation a few years back about fitness. i was into fitness back then like pilates and toning your body but this was differrent. he talked about natty and steroids, things i back then never really thought about. his voice got shaky when he talked about it. it must have been hard openly expressing this perceived pressure. the fact that a 18 yo can spot steroid use in pictures the same way i spotted photoshop was very new to me. and knowing what things like photoshop did to my self esteem, i knew it had done something to him too. i would like to see you have a man on here and talk about his experiences, about the pressure they feel that we women often dont get confronted with. it would be very interesting because at least to me that was a completely new world.
I think you have done a great thing in highlighting how the beauty standards effect men too. I do think that women suffer more from the pressure, but there is no doubt that it is still having a detreminetal effect on men, and shining a light on that doesn't take away from the issues that women experience - they are not mutually exclusive issues!
I love all your videos but this one was extra interesting and almost refreshing! So definitely keep them coming!
I love the new lighting. Big fan here. Keep up the awesome work, beautiful!
Now at 33 Y.O.A. I booked my first ever cosmetic procedure which is tomorrow. I’m getting a DermaPen Microneedling session with a Toskani Facial to help with my teenage acne scars and now the fine line that are beginning to settle.
This is just super sad…i almost wanted to have surgery myself years back (if I can afford it I would have gotten a nose job)…but now, I just don’t want to look like everybody else…even if I earned the right amount…i’m just gonna save it for something else…
Yes! I saw that recent picture of Liam Payne and was wondering what the heck happened to him. It’s not surprising that men are feeling the need to do surgery/alterations to their face considering the ridiculous beauty standards that society has for anyone (men and women) in this current day and age
Can we just comment on how LOVELY your hair looks though 😍 this was a great video, Ty x
As a directioner in my teens, it was really hard to see Liam going in this direction, he was one of the most popular band members. Since a child, he has only one working kidney, though. Hence the hospitalization
I just adore this woman & her content 🥰
I am extremely uncomfortable with being manipulated to feel that time is slipping away ( a lot faster than it actually is) and I’m old- I’m thankful the life expectancy has increased over the last few hundred years. I’d love to hear your thoughts, or maybe a video one day about the pressures - that yes, still exist- with doing Art as a career/passion and ageing. Also, did you ever fall prey to the disgusting “movement”going around for ‘treat em mean keep ‘em keen”- I feel like this all ties together Xx love your work and energy ❤❤
Love the strong jaw look!!
I think it's men in Hollywood feel the pressure. I've never know any male in rural Illinois to talk about their non-existent jawline or forehead wrinkles... Or feel pressure enough to do anything about it. I wish they would! It's exhausting being a woman who makes decent income but not nearly enough to pay all of my living expenses as well as injecting my entire face 😒😭
Wtf
Natural will always be more beautiful to me! I love looking at interesting faces and their unique ethnic characteristics. These celebrities are ruining their faces to become generically “ good looking. “ Then they end up needing constant maintenance and end like Death Becomes Her characters. GREAT videos BTW you have a lovely positive energy are extremely knowledgeable!
The light 🦵 behind you is 🔥
Love the highlights!!!!
it's really sad because for every celebrity getting a procedure there are many many new actors, body doubles, stuntspersons, backup dancers, models, internet figures and regular people feeling the same pressure to look a certain way. and honestly men might find it harder to resist this pressure because they have not been oppressed in the same way as women. a lot of men don't know what to look out for, as a sign of insidious coercion in the beauty world.
Awesome video! Yes please feature more male beauty standards! A comparison of traditional male beauty to modern would be awesome 😊
Thank you Stephanie I just ordered the Kenzi with your discount. I gave then your name
Celebrities should not be put on a pedestal yes they may be talented but most aren’t good people. I’m just so sick of superficial qualities being manifested as good qualities and needed to the point these people are changing the bone structure of their faces??!? I mean why I just don’t understand why we do this to ourselves just be happy with who you are - they are lucky enough to get to Hollywood but that’s not good enough. How are these people role models? I love your videos Stephanie you speak the truth brutally honestly but with compassion ❤
honestly beauty standards aren’t “just starting” to impact men as well as women. Men have been suffering from unrealistic beauty standards just as long as women have and the consequences are equally as severe for all genders. I think it’s really important that people with a large audience, even if that audience is primary made up of women, address male beauty standards as well because the impact of those standards effects ALL of us living together in that society
Simon Cowell's face is really dipping into uncanny valley territory... kinda spooked me to see him nowadays
I enjoyed this video! You were much more blunt here than you usually are with videos on women.
Girl what makeup do you wear?! You always look amazing!
My uncle is a therapist and in 2020 he asked me what is this TikTok? Cause this is what his young male clients get the eating disorders / body image issues from.
So glad you made this video! Male or female, we as a species, have damaging beauty standards in general. There is a major difference in the male/female experience and people love to talk about it but you might be surprised how many similarities or things we can all understand just existing in this world as a sentient being. Id personally like to hear more of those experiences even if it also includes the male/female perspective.
Men should be allowed to be feminine. It's natural and policing gender is a losing political stance.
I just have to say, Stephanie, I’ve watched you for a loooong time. I think you were one of the first channels I subscribed to on CZcams. ☺️ I loved watching your makeup videos and how honest you were, but I love the videos you have been putting out now because they are needed!! Keep up the great work!! ❤