this is why you STILL ugly without makeup.
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You know how it is. It's drilled into our heads that unless we look like glowy, airbrushed perfection - WITHOUT makeup - as well as with, then there's something wrong with us. We're just ugly without makeup I guess. Oh wait - no, we're just HUMAN. No one is actually flawless in real life. Its a fact of nature. We have skin texture, dark circles, acne, fine lines - and not only is that OK, its beautiful!
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Let's normalize not wearing makeup in public all the time.
Yes, this would be so good! I feel so lucky to have grown up in a family where nobody ever wears makeup, working in a place where none of my colleagues wear (heavy) makeup and in a social group where some people like to wear some makeup when going out but it's just as normal not to wear any. I *never* wear any makeup, don't own any, and have never felt ugly or insecure about how I look because it's just not expected by anybody and everybody is used to seeing people going completely barefaced most of the time. Wish I could wrap that up and gift it to other people sometimes. Some people really love experimenting with makeup and that's great, but I really do feel that once people start wearing makeup regularly it's hard for them to feel confident without it.
I kinda already do.. but I feel ugly meanwhile. Just too lazy to care.
I hardly ever wear make up. This is my face you either like it or dont lol
I always thought this was normal and lived by it and saw everyone else as a freak for wearing make up at all times 😅
We already do post covid
I feel like so much of being considered "pretty without makeup" is about just having "good" skin. This realization really messed with my mind as someone with acne, I had felt, for significant portions of my life, that I'd never be pretty as long as I still had acne.
i feel you
Same here 😢
Yes! Perfectly worded. 😊 Also if you have scars or eye bags that are dark is my issue :/
Oh yes! That and having visible eyebrows/eyelashes. That is really unfair for a lot of people :(
Do u eat a really clean diet?
We need to talk about how male celebrities can go out frumpy and are considered "down to earth" and "not letting fame affect their fashion sense" but if a female celebrity dares to step out in comfy clothes with a bare face they're "unrecognizable". It gets very frustrating to see the double standard. When can we exist without having to be put together all the time. It is exhausting. I will say that male celebrities might be shamed too but I personally have not seen it.
did you never see when channing tatum became a dad and gained like 50lbs and both women and men absolutely fucking ripped him apart and talked about how far his glory days were behind him? until he got “skinny and hot” again that is 😂 the standard is definitely harsher on women but let’s not act like men aren’t affected by it as well
@@morguegal at the end of my comment I specify that male celebrities might be shamed but I hadn't personally seen it. I also didn't mention weight gain. This was specifically regarding how they dress and present themselves. Of course, a man who was once super ripped and then gained a little weight will be reamed in Hollywood. The body is everything to them. Don't assume things about people when you misinterpreted my comment. I could have worded it better but that doesn't negate the fact that women do get the short end of the stick more of the time.
I remember years ago, the tabloids made fin of Lisa Presley for going to a farmer's market in sweats and her hair was undone. In addition, she was pregnant with twins.
She wasn't on a red carpet. She dressed like everyone else at a farmer's market. I thought the whole thing was ridiculous.
Fast forward to her death. She had adhesions from her bariatric surgery which lead to a small bowel obstruction. In addition, her use of ozempic. Beauty standards ended up killing her.
@@seameologyI always wonder - why do they have to look frumpy? There are plenty of nicer looking casual clothes on the market than sweat pants and ugly t-shirts. And pregnant women should wear clothes appropriate for their changing body, instead of trying to fit into skinny clothes they wore as teenagers 🙈🙈😬
guys have it harder.. trust me. We have to not only worry on our looks, but also about status, about making this much $, about being smart, stronger.. etc. Most men can't handle it and give up. This is why men get bald faster and die sooner.
I know I get treated differently by people in my life when I wear makeup vs. my bare face, and that makes me so sad.
Yeah and that also contributes to people not being able to go outside without Makeup at all. People's perception of you change so much and people perceive you as more "put together"
same here! W make up on people seem to be nicer and friendly. But when i go out bare faced, they dont take me seriously… And are rude
Omg me too, but I also wander if they really treat me different because of that or that I'm imagining it because I'm just so scared that they might think I look ugly?
@@Mudi2783 patterns show truth in my mind, and if the same pattern is repeated then it’s not in your head & know you’re not ugly. Pressure to always be put together and perfect makes us think we’re ugly when we’re just normal humans!
Consider that maybe with makeup you feel better/more confident and so people see you as more approachable.
I used to tell myself “you’re allowed to look ugly” until I stopped worrying about whether or not I looked ugly. I don’t think I ever looked ugly, or that ugly is a real thing when it comes to people, but it was helpful to give myself permission to just exist as I naturally am. The fear was that someone else would see me and think I’m ugly. But I gradually realised that’s not my problem and does not impact my life in any way.
I needed to read this today!
wooowww. this was a good read. i have so much anxiety abt people thinking im ugly (even tho no one has ever told me that in recent years…) but im so perfectionist abt my appearance!
I love that girl ❤ That is why I rarely wear makeup. The majority of my photos are naturally me and when people see me they see my natural face all the time. And when I do wear make up it's so light that most people can't even tell I'm wearing it. I just got to the point where I wanted to always be able to recognize myself in my photos and in the mirror. It's been fun seeing how much I've naturally changed over the years. Some pictures I have really bad acne from having a baby some photos I'm glowing from pregnancy and some photos my skin is darker for no reason at all then changes a year later to where it's much lighter. Some there's more fat in my face as I've gained weight and then there is less of it when I lost weight. I absolutely love the changes of life I've seen in myself. Even if at the time I struggled with insecurities I'm glad I never hid it. I'm 34 and I can honestly say I love my looks more than I did at 21.
I never thought of this before! Thank you for sharing
Thank you❤
You know what's interesting. Men do not wear makeup, we are used to seeing them everywhere without it (in advertising, movies, and even more on the streets). They think they're beautiful and so do we. But at the same time, makeup is so imposed on women that they simply do not perceive it without it. We need the same normalization of natural beauty, different types of appearance of women.
I think men too have somekind of makeup when they are in television or movies etc. But I understand what you mean. It is so true.
Lots of men do wear make up just less and differently.
@@joyceanderson8648it is still way more normalized for it to be okay that men do not wear makeup in public and look normal without it
Not saying I think you are wrong but…men in ads and movies do 10000% have makeup & are photoshopped.
Also men in general do have more distinctive facial/body features like thicker skin, thicker hair, more sculptured faces (that are in fashion for a while), darker lashes etc etc so that’s why we see them as “beautiful without makeup”. Women who do fit into these standards are seen as beautiful without makeup as well.
I genuinely believe that female beauty standards are male oriented at their core not only In obvious things like being lean and fit and having strong jawline with defined cheekbones, but also in trying to look more “coloured” (that for many women can only be achieved with makeup). Because otherwise more soft bodies and soft, sublime beauty would be the “ideal”. Which is not.
I think in movies and stuff they do , it is just meant to look like they aren't
Some men out there really feel personally insulted when a woman "dares" to be ugly.
Sometimes I wish makeup didn't exist.. so we could all just live looking as we are. See real faces. I stopped wearing makeup after I had my daughter 6 years ago. Realized idgaf what people think of my appearance. This is me, you don't like it? I don't care 😊
similarly to you, i choose to wear makeup if and when i want to bc it’s fun and i feel like it :) don’t like it? don’t care.
@@morguegal once you get to that point of acceptance/realization its a wonderful feeling of freedom isn't it? I can go to Walmart lookin like a rat and be completely fine. 😆
But makeup cannot hide physical facial features either way
I don't usually wear makeup, in my whole life I just go with my bare face haha and I like it that way. But now reading so many women saying they feel insecure about it it's really revealing to me about how mess up society is about it. But don't get me wrong, I still love makeup so much, but I wear it because I think it's really fun and I love the colors, I think it just another way to celebrate yourself. I wish everyone could see it in that way as well and don't feel insecure about it, I didn't know this happen tbh (maybe it's bc I'm from a different country)
Me too. If it didn’t exist this simply would not be a problem and we would be forced to just go about our lives looking the way we were born.
I’m learning to accept myself cuz nothing we see online is real.
love you steph
Literally nothing😮😊
That's the way to go....perfection is so boring
Unfortunately for white men it’s hard. We are natural and get told by women with layers of makeup how we are unattractive
@@Masonhelmsworth151lmaooo. Im mexican i got brows. I dont really need makeup
@@ham-sley1308 yeah it’s just wyt girls
The problem is that people aren't wearing makeup to enhance their features anymore, they're actually wearing a mask of makeup to completely change their face. Like even your bone structure and the shape of your nose can be changed with makeup. It's gotten to the point where people are putting on a costume everyday like you would on Halloween.
It’s too much work for me, and i’m not interested - but anyone who likes it, go ahead ❤
This is actually a good point. There seems to be much more difference now between makeup and no makeup. Rather than just smoothing skin tone a bit and accenting natural features like brows lashes and a bit of lip color, makeup now is like a character mask.
@@anitas5817 Exactly. Makeup was intended to enhance features. Blush is to give you a rosy glow and make you look healthy and less pale. Eye liner is to bring out the eyes and shape them. People are putting on costumes everyday now. Then when women get into relationships and the guy sees them without makeup, it's a complete shock. She looks totally different. And don't get me started on filters.
that's deadass me , when ppl call me pretty I'm like trust me its alllll makeup an I applaud the ladies who don't wear makeup and don't gaf ab what anyone says to them . I wish I was them I have social anxiety so its 2x worse @@NicolesNaturals
@@NicolesNaturalspeople always used makeup to cover flaws. And if you think acne or dark circles are unattractive or ugly it makes no sense to be against ppl covering it up
I’m a man and you’re doing good work Steph by encouraging women to be their natural selves and not feel ashamed of it. A lot of men want their spouses to not feel insecure and love themselves the way that we love them and you’re helping a lot of women see that. Keep up the good work!😊😊
You are a good man. Thank you for making the world a better place
A lot of men fall in love with makeup. I often wonder if the men I know around me would have fallen in love with their partners had they met them in sweatpants, a messy bun, and no makeup...
Its nice reading your comment, thank you!
@@dammar117 I think it helped with the first attraction. But after a while they got to know eachother and like eachother for their personality, created memories together etc, and that is what is now the biggest part of the affection towards eachother (or so I hope, in a healthy relationship).
But yeah, a pleasant or interesting look might help with the first step.
❤
I think another big problem is that everyone can have a bad photo. The lightening isn’t right or it captures you making a goofy face. That doesn’t mean you’re ugly though. Instagram models and photo studios only choose the best photos. Not one with your eyes half closed. Plus specific lighting can enhance makeup or if it’s too heavy be unflattering. But that doesn’t make the person ugly. Photos are different from seeing a person in real life. There are so many factors that contribute to having that perfect photo. But for anyone who is reading this just remember you are perfect the way you are with or without makeup. Bad photo or good photo.
Maybe I should take a photography/modelling class because I can't seem to get a photo where I'm making a normal face! 🤣
I'm just curious why it's okay to tell random strangers online that they are perfect the way they are but when you tell your significant other that you think you're perfect just the way you are they call you a narcissist.
Are we only allowed to tell other people they are perfect just the way they are?
It seems socially unacceptable to post a flattering or unflattering phot of yourself online and just declare that you think you are perfect just the way you are.
It just seems odd to me. You know?
@@PassionateFlower idk why your significant other would call you a narcissist for saying that. But from how I see it we are all human. We are all on this Earth. We all exist in the present moment. There’s truly no such thing as perfection because everyone’s idea of it is different. But perhaps just by being we can accept how perfectly imperfect we are. And that’s the beauty of being human . Something we can achieve is learning to accept ourselves and be perfect the way we are at this very moment.
Exactly! Kinda sus to use pictures like that for videos like this. Not to mention it’s a known fact that the paps release terrible pictures on purpose!
As someone who barely wears makeup (from lack of skills in that department😂) I'll never forget the day I went somewhere to hand in a resume and the woman I gave it to took me aside and said, "You'd have a higher chance of getting hired if you wore makeup. It makes you look more professional."
I heard the same thing at an interview 😅
I feel like wearing makeup has always been to looking "professional" to the point people think you're a bum without it💀💀
ahh yes... the good ole days.
Unfortunately the ppl who make the hiring decisions will judge you on looks. try the no make up make up look w a hint of blush.
this is literally my fear. I never got into makeup growing up and therefore never wear or worn it. I love my natural face. I have great features and my skin is really good. except I do have a slight blue colouring under my eyes. it’s nothing crazy and I’m not bothered about it but man I’m so scared of being judged in these settings just for having a “tired” look. wearing makeup has become an expectation. society can keep SAYING that women don’t need makeup but that’s nowhere close to being true.
I heard it from a man manager about our other supervisor years ago. He said a woman should wear makeup to look professional. I agree to be honest if a woman does not have a physical job that will melt her face off. To each their own I guess
From the ages of 12 clear up till I was 31 I wore makeup EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. After I got married, my husband asked why I always felt the need to put makeup on bc he loved me without, too. I explained it was bc of my insecurities. He's helped me overcome those. I'm proud to say I'm 41 and I rarely wear makeup now. Maybe 4× a year. It took a whole lot to get here but I'm so proud of myself.
This is inspiring. I'm still in my faze of applying a full face of makeup every day, even fake eyelashes... I REALLY don't like how I look without it, and I'm not sure how to come to terms with this. The few times I've gone out without makeup it's like I'm completely invisible to the people around me (I look vastly different). I just wish I had a more feminine eyes and brow 😢
I rarely wear makeup.as.well
.even when younger I only wore makeup.if I went out n not heavy like my friends
That is loving and wonderful. ❤
Wow, that's so powerful! So happy to hear you and your husband have this type of relationship to help each other grow like this! 😊❤️ I wish you and your family all the best!
@@boinkboinkboink you can try toning it down little by little and ease your way into it? genuinely trying to help! I'm sure you'll just need to get used to it and you look fine without it! Sometimes being body neutral comes easier than body positive
I was once told by a store clerk who asked for my ID that this can’t possibly be me cause I’m so much uglier in real life (I’m wearing makeup in my ID pic). Said casually, with a laugh. Frankly, I don’t think you can make *too* many of these videos, because the problem is just so prevalent
WOW, that is so absurdly rude. I’m sorry they said that. This is a fear of mine
Yikes.. I hope you left them a bad review, writing about how they treated you so the world can see
I would of embarrassed tf out of him🤷🏽♀️
WOW!!!! I’d say it was either a bitter man who knew a woman like you was out of his league, or, a jealous woman. How outrageous to say such a thing!
If I was there , I would have reminded him that he is just a store clerk so behave that way !!
When I was in high school, I decided to stop wearing makeup. It lasted 2 days because on the second day, someone asked me why I was letting myself go. It made me feel terrible because I had started to feel ok about my face and skin, and for someone to say that shattered that tiny bit of confidence I was starting to have. I wore makeup until I was 23 and started to feel comfortable again. It’s all society
You are right. And some people dont have much tact but its not always intentional.
Not wearing make up isnt the right thing to do. Neither wearing it. Its not about that. As a guy I learned not to make that "difference" anymore with my girlfriend. I used to I tell her, you look beautiful either with and without make up. But I established a difference, and so she insisted one looks better. I think the answer is to think of her or in this case you or anyone as the same because its you all along, its your face always and its the same person that you and others and will love.
You should ask them why the men are letting themselves go since they never start wearing make up
If a woman this gorgeous feels "butt ugly," you know there is something wrong with how our society treats women
she’s like a 6
As a 16 year old, these beauty standards nowadays can really destroy your confidence. I thank you for representing the reality on social media and hope that your videos bring back some realness to people's minds...
Going through puberty, you sometimes can't control the way you feel about yourself, and that's something I hate.
Thank you for being real.
As a much-older woman, my advice is to EMBRACE YOUR BEAUTY! You’re not going to become much better than you are at, say, 23 or so. Then it’s mostly downhill. Who cares? Men don’t.
Love yourself, be kind to others, and be open to opposing opinions: you’ll be beautiful enough. 💚💚💚
@@recynd77"23 then it mostly downhill ". Sorry but I disagree.
Imo I say have confidence but not over confidence. Confidence and knowing what you want can be extremely sexy. I also encourage drinking water exercise and try to avoid any hard drugs and drinking. Those toxins can harm your body in many ways. We are all beautiful.
For me it was downhill at 40 lol 😂 my current age. I personally think I got better looking as I got into my late 20's and 30's. ❤ there's hope for us still lol
@@recynd77it doesn't go downhill after 23 lol
I find that as you get older makeup can actually make you look older. Do what you want to do. If you want to wear makeup wear it. If you don't, then don't.
Outdated makeup and a poor application will absolutely make you look older.
The pandemic did wonders for my normalization of my "natural" face. I basically went like 2 years without makeup and now I'm so used to my face. Post-pandemic, I decided to ditch foundation altogether and now putting on more than mascara, blush and concealer makes me feel overly made up. It's all what you get used to.
I'm the same way! I did winged eyeliner every single day since high school, now I'm 24 and will do it maybe just a couple times a week if I feel like it. I'm much more comfortable with just some mascara than I ever used to be.
Same, I only wear concealer, ain't going back feels too good
Me too. Mascara, and concealer on the odd day.
This is such a good point. A lot of what we experience with this issue is how we feel about ourselves. Some of the problem is others’ reactions, but even then we can choose how to feel about it.
I never wear makeup, I only put mascara maybe twice a year. I had a friend put a full face of makeup on me once, and I hated everything about it. I hated the feeling of stuff on my face, I hated how my lips looked, my eyes looked like too much going on there. It really is just letting yourself get used to it. I just focus on skincare and curl my lashes and brush my eyebrows and it seems to be working out just fine for me.
The sad part is none of these woman you highlight are unattractive without makeup. They just wear so much that without it they don't 'look like themselves.'
They don’t look like what they (and we) are used to seeing them look like
They don’t look like the nicer looking version of themselves
they're recognisable though so they do look like themselves
@@fedem14if you think any of these women in this video are unrecognizable w out makeup, ur crazy
I think they look better!! Their bone structure is gorgeous and it naturally makes their eyes pop. Eyes especially pop with slight dark circles IMO. Then on top of that their jawlines are fab. Eyes and jawline are the most important features of a face
Chloe uses filters to change her before and after looks…. It’s especially noticeable in her “Face taping” content…. Not only does her face lift with just a piece of tape, she also magically grows darker eyebrows and her complexion changes 😂
She uses an aging filter in the before, which again pushes the whole ‘old = ugly, young = pretty’ message we get pushed constantly
I feel so out of the loop, who is that Chloe?
😂 Yes. It's pretty obvious. Makeup can't erase wrinkles and sagging skin. The whole ruse is silly.
@@ItsMeHi116 the woman in 6:01
Also add a completely different hair colour 😂😂😂
I grew up with a mother who never wore make up. I went through a phase in my teens where I felt uncomfortable without makeup but my boyfriend at the time would encourage me not to wear make up. I kept wearing a bit of mascara for years but I reached the point where I couldn’t be bothered anymore and for years now I’ve only worn make up for special occasions. My face actually looks weird to me when I’m wearing make up, not without it. I wish more women could feel comfortable without makeup - I think the influences we have around us really make a difference
I thought makeup was foundation… I don’t never used that crap.
I imagine female bare faces as male ones and suddenly they dont seem that bad. Its crazy how we expect makeup on women (myself included) and my internalisation of mysogyny.
No one is ugly without make-up, I think most of girls/ women who put on lots of make-up are not used anymore to see themselves / or to be seen without it. It is a kind of visual shock. I don't use make-up... but I' m not able to go out without using a perfume . Greetings from Paris
* Sorry...to be used to seeing or to being seen. My English does not work Today.
@@Celestials615 I'm 43 and I' ve never put on mascara or eyeshadows , just hate their glue-y / powder-y sensation
Same I always use perfume.Without it I feel something is missing 😅.
@cece-gc6gl You can though.. you just have to get used to it. You don't have to use makeup.
Same here, no makeup. I've stoped wearing it when i realized that wearing makeup made me feeling ugly without it. Now i feel more free, maybe because i'm spending less money and time into makeup ?
All my supports for women who think that they're ugly without makeup. I hope that they will found out soon that they are trully beautiful ❤
I have acne scars and it makes me so embarrassed I always feel like people are looking at them. It's so draining and make me cry at the end of the day
Have you tried a chemical peel or micro needling? They can help with scarring. I've done 2 chemical peels and the first one helped a lot!
@@gabrielaaste6186 I was just going to say this! I've had 3 chem peels & I've seen results & I have my 1st micro needling appt. next week.
Prescription Retin A. I had HORRENDOUS hormonal acne in my late teens. I couldn't leave the house without a huge amount of make-up and my self-confidence was non-existent. Now I'm in your 40s and haven't worn make-up for 20 years. No scars, no wrinkles - just a big ol' hat for sun protection! Things like micro needling are also great, but Retin A literally causes acne scars to progressively peel away over time.
It was a god-send for me, but I still have an aversion to make-up after having to hide my acne behind it. I don't wear make-up to work, and girls in their 20s will ask me about my skin. Retin-A initially itches like hell, makes you look like a burn victim, and causes flakiness etc. That all goes - be patient - and you are left with clear baby skin.
@@raquel7675is it really worth the money? They’re so expensive 😭
I have acne scars, too, but I am way more self-conscious about the sun ☀️ damage spots on my cheeks and forehead, which look terrible, to me. 🙈😟
I go out bare faced and it’s affected my self esteem. For years I actually felt better about my face until I noticed that I get treated more rudely. And even twice, I’ve had men look away in disgust! It sucked. I guess there’s just a ton of gorgeous women where I live and I’ll just be a clunker by comparison, lol. But I’m still going out bare faced though, I appreciate the encouragement. Sorry this message has been so overwhelmingly negative, my life has just been affected by this so much recently. Thanks for touching on this topic, this is therapeutic
No, sadly if it makes you feel better, the majority of women would be treated that way if they went out bare-faced!
Don't worry, it wasn't disgust on his face, it's just how he looks 100% of the time 😱😁🤣🤣 Enjoy wearing makeup when you want to do so. Self-confidence is good to possess, but it's easier said than done when it comes to develop it in oneself.
I NEEDED this video. I feel so ugly and exhausted and tired of constantly trying to basically look "normal". Like i see these girls and they look gorgeous. Their faces are clean acne free. They have ckear skin, no hyperpigmentation, their bodies are normal, their eyes are normal...and I'm just there completely not-normal.
Some ppl just lucky with genetics but trust me most of the things u mention cost a LOT of money. Clear skin without hyperpigmentation? Could be good diet + good skincare product + good genes. Good figure? They prob workout very hard and stay on a strict diet and again…lucky. Most of these are from good genetics + healthy lifestyle. So don’t blame urself for not looking like them. Blame ur parents😂(jk) but srsly tho, it’s not ENTIRELY ur fault for looking the way u look.
@@jj11233x I'm glad I'm not the only one feeling this way 💚.
@@scarlett9750believe me, there are many people that don't put that much of an effort to look good, and still they look perfect, sometimes it seems like it's just normal for young people to look good, but there are people like me who don't even feel "normal looking". (Sorry for my English)
Lighting and camera angle make all the difference in a photograph, with or without makeup.
This is why I'm really grateful for being Dutch and for my mom raising me with old fashioned values. In the Netherlands, our climate isn't the most make-up friendliest so being bare faced is pretty normal in our culture, well it used to be. Being a 97 liner, I can see that Gen Z kids are way more prone to wearing make-up, especially the Instagram kind in the big cities. The countryside is still a bit more sober in regards of following the trend. I thank the universe of my mom being like, "You cannot wear make-up until you're sixteen and a young lady! Make-up has no place on a child's face." I've remained very sober in regards of make-up as I rarely wear it and when I do it's usually just me doing eyeshadow, eye-pencil and/or eyeliner with mascara because the eyes are the nipples of the face, after all (I hope anyone gets that reference)
Love the reference, haha 🤩
Interesting Point! I‘m from northgermany , my mom is from skandinavia, my sibling lives in Denmark for many years. I went to the Netherlands for school Exchange or Holydaytrips quite often and I always Noticed the „non Make-up“ appearance of the durch girls and Ladys. Also in Denmark, but not in that constant extent. Compared to germany, it felt more common to go out without and or Heavy Make-up. In Germany, sometimes it feels expected from Society that you have to put on Make-up as a girl/woman. I alway enjoy my time in Denmark or Netherlands because i can more Look Like i want (Make-up, cloathing) without many side-eyes
Groetjes uit Duitsland 🌞
Eyes are the nipples of the face?! 😂 That was funny!
It’s funny. I see other women without makeup as being so beautiful… I love seeing a woman’s face revealed who wears makeup all the time. They’re so beautiful! I just wish I could look at myself the SAME way. 😢❤
Just start going without makeup more.. you'll get used to it. I go without makeup like 99% of the time.. although I do feel ugly.
@@elin_ sometimes I think of the SpongeBob episode where he says “I am ugly and I’m proud!” 😂 as laughter is the best medicine ❤️ (but I’m sure you are NOT ugly)
@@hopeard3512 meh.. I've kinda lost myself in mental illness these past 10 years. I've had it for longer, but it was after high school graduation that everything went really downhill with feelings of hopelessness and helplessness. And also my weight.
@@elin_ I feel you. And it’s so hard to love ourselves. It’s something I work on daily. But don’t give up ❤️
Many of the "ulgy" women Stephanie shows in this video are actually beautiful without make-up i.m.o.
Chloewaterz uses filters to make herself look older and then tells people it's face tape, or in this case makeup, that makes her look younger. I think she has a affiliate link for the face tape too, preying on people's insecurities
Thank you. And I think it makes her a terrible person.
I read that Chloe uses an “old” filter for her before pictures too, which amplifies the difference even more. You can see it kind of flicker in some of her CZcams videos especially with her face tape.
Love your videos and transparency with how influencers and celebrities do these things - education is so important, because back in the day it was all about photoshop in magazines. Now we are next level with filters that anyone can do.
Thank you Stephanie for all your no make up positivity & self confidence video’s.
I’m a 57y. old widow, ex cancer patiënt, who also lost my husband to cancer… And due to the following depression I no longer find the courage to put on make up, do my hear or even polish my nails…. All things I formerly used to enjoy and take pride in.
I rarely go out because I feel so ugly now. The lack of energy to put on all the paint and glam has made me an extremely isolated and very lonely person.
So if you read this I hope you know how important your message is.
God bless you! I hope and pray you'll get out of your depression.
Hi
Please check your hormones!
I'm sorry for the loss of your husband. I too am a cancer survivor and suffer depression. I was diagnosed in 2021 and the same year, I lost 3 very close family members to cancer. I understand how hard it is to get out of a depression slump but afer experiencing what you went through, dont let it beat you. Life is fleeting. You are a strong, beautiful, courageous woman. Look in the mirror and remind yourself of how amazing you are! Look how far you've come!
You dont need makeup to be beautiful but if you feel you've lost all motivation, try baby steps. Put mascara on today.. maybe do your nails on the weekend. One day at a time. You'll never be the person you were before... you're stronger now. You've faced loss and you kicked cancers ass. You're a warrior queen! Own it.
Sending you love and strength 🩷💜🩷
Hello, I only wanted to say - please, don' t give up and take care of yourself !! Life is really worth living !! I have also lost someone because of cancer few years ago, and I was depressed (I had some therapy, it helped a little - talking and crying) but time really heals all wounds. You don't have to wear makeup now. Try to make yourself feel better - listen to the music you like, maybe find a new hobby (drawing, reading, and journaling can help !!), eat food you like, and do some self- care, like nice bath with candles. I also recommend watching fun you tubers like Charlotte Dobre and Amber Scholl. You will be fine, you will feel better, I promise !! Sending hugs !!
I'm sorry for what you've gone through ❤️ I'm also quite isolated due to depression and fatigue.
I mostly go without makeup because when I try to apply makeup, it looks so weird.. I can never make it look like in the tutorials.. not even close. That feels very discouraging.
Thank you so much for your kind words! I suffer from rosacea. And as a young woman it is extremely hard to go through life like that! This helps everyday!
as a woman who never wears makeup i feel so sad when i see people i know or celebrities talk about how they struggle to be seen/go out without makeup. it’s so terrible to think of the internalised shame that these beautiful women and girls must be feeling about themselves… don’t get me wrong, i have confidence and body image issues like everyone else… but each day i wake up grateful that i walk and talk and laugh and live as myself, without feeling the urge to ‘cover up’. my bare face is unique and natural, and so is everyone else’s! sometimes i think makeup is a bigger curse than benefit and we’d all be better off without it, but that’s a discussion for another time 😂
A few years ago I decided to take the money I would otherwise spend on makeup and spend it on skincare instead. I went from not walking out the door without full makeup on to makeup being like dessert - I use it when I feel like it but it’s few and far between and only bc I like it. I’ve never felt more beautiful and grateful for my unique (and now with signs of aging) features. Your face is lovely as-is, ladies! I admit it takes some getting used to, but in my experience, it’s totally worth it.
Yes yes yes, I didnt touch skincare and makeup till I was 19 and I'm really glad I went my own way w it, I invested in skincare over makeup, and mostly invested in facial wash and sunscreens. My makeup was minimal and only did my brows, lips, and eyes.
Quite sure that going for mainly ja Japanese brands in both makeup and skincare was a big help too, but that's just my skin.
I literally go to work with a tinted moisturizer, mascara, blush and a gloss, and yet every time I skip the tinted moisturizer and blush I get asked if I everything is okay and whether I am sick 🙄
Same. I wear exactly the same. Leave off lipstick or a swipe of blush, and 5 people ask me if I'm alright....
I think it's because they're used to your face with blush. People at my work have never seen me with blush so I think I just look normal to them.
I think they don’t realize you’re wearing makeup. They think it’s your natural glow, and when the glow isn’t there some days you must be ‘sick’.
Yep. That’s exactly why I don’t wear daily makeup anymore.
This is why I don't wear makeup (I also don't enjoy it). I don't want to become where I cannot go out without makeup on cause I am too insecure. My skin is also very sensitive. I want to see my bare face as my most beautiful self.
Love this message. Make up is fun, not a necessity. Let's be proud of what we look like bare faced, enjoy living our lives.
I used to be the same way about my skin and rosacea. The confidence comes with time. The older you get the less worried you become with other people's opinion on your appearance. As a 42 year old woman I have never been more confident and accepting of myself. Just wait. The best is yet to come.
So refreshing to hear this perspective!!
Thank you for being you and helping everyone stay down to earth. Thanks for keeping it real!
I took back 7+ hours a week of my life when I quit makeup and hair styling(and dying). I don’t breakout anymore and my hair is so soft and healthy.
I hate that someone’s worth is intertwined with looks and beauty. We are all worthy!! I appreciate your videos so much, Stephanie!!
As a professional ballerina 🩰 I wear stage makeup. I absolutely hate wearing makeup offstage, so for a long time, I’ve been taking care of my skin so that I don’t wear any makeup. I buy cost efficient Japanese and Korean skincare products AND ALWAYS wear sunscreen 🧴
I wouldn't demonise make up, it has existed for thousands of years and represents more than just trying to become beautiful. What I like in this latest video is the condemnation of fake 'make_up free' photos that influencers post, where it is perfectly clear that they are wearing make up, and also filtered.
I'm so tired of being told I look tired! Maybe I am! I persevere, I do things despite a medical condition that messes up my sleep. Yet, here I am, keeping plans with you, so don't tell me I look tired! Does this bug anyone else, too?
Oh absof*ckinglutely!
@@elin_ 🙂
I had a friend who used to tell me I looked tired a lot. I finally said to them "I'm not tired, I'm just getting old!"(I was 32 at the time). Never heard them say that to me ever again.
I am bare faced all the time but i have heard women say they put make up on to "look less tired". We don't owe anyone that! Sometimes we get tired and I for one, with my regular old face, take long enough to get up and ready without all those extra steps.
I couldnt even go shopping without makeup just curling my lashes & putting mascara gave me the feeling that i had makeup on... social media really harms mental health i hate all of people who put this unrealistic beauty standards!! everyone looks incredible it would be boring if everyone looked perfect right??? Everyone literally everyone is perfect in their own way.. thats why I luv stephanie so much she took me from the black hole and thanks to her i nearly dont have insecurities..
I saw a clip where Kourtney k said that they put unrealistic beauty standards and Kylie said that they had huge influence and doesn't want her daughter end like the teens nowadays... thx for nothing kylie she made everyone insecure and now she is trying to say that no one needs to edit pics or undergo plastic surgery.. they all funny
Girl you are GORGEOUS without/ with minimal makeup ❤❤
I remember in one of your old videos about this topic you said something like “If you like how you look with make-up, you should remember that you have the same face without it, make-up can only do so much”, basically that it doesn’t make sense to feel super confident with make-up and not without it, because it’s the same features and face. That thought helped me 🥰🥰
OMG thank you for sharing these thoughts. It's so refreshing to find this video after bingeing for half an hour on 'before and after' makeup videos and starting to wonder if I should wear makeup more often.
I rarely wear it and I don't feel ugly without it but I do feel like I'm a slacker for not being more glamorous all the time.
Thanks for pointing out the importance of remembering that natural is beautiful too.
I have been IN LOVE with your content lately!!! Such a great message that needs to be pushed way more than it currently is.
And I’d like to add that when you’re so used to wearing makeup every single day for years, YOU get used to the glamorous look, as this is how you usually see yourself. This is SO bad because the glamorous look you’re so used to seeing in the mirror slowly but surely starts to not look as good as you age. So now, when you wipe off the makeup, you REALLY hate what you see! This is why I encourage my 14 year old daughter to not wear makeup everyday and to only wear it on occasions. We have to get used to our natural faces as they are, so when we do decide to put on makeup, we can WOW ourselves!
Yes I agree
I was so sick of being asked whether I'm sick or tired on the days that I wasn't wearing make-up, that I stopped wearing make-up altogether. Now when I do wear make-up I get so many compliments that it makes me uncomfortable. I don't know what to do.
I so appreciate your transparency and it's ridiculous that media gets a thrill out of taking pics of celebrities without makeup amd. Making them feel like crap amd then the same celebrities post ours that are clearly filtered. Life is sometimes not pretty or perfect
I used to be scared of wearing too much makeup because the people I did know who put a lot of makeup on and then took the makeup off kind of shocked me 💀💀💀 it was such a big difference so I thought if I just don’t wear makeup, there won’t be a makeup me to compare to 🤣💀 but now I choose to see the beauty in myself and others with or without makeup
I feel the same way tbh 😅 so now when I do wear makeup, I look like a more done up version of myself (instead of looking 'uglier' if I didn't wear makeup that day)
Young girl at work , didnt wear make up one day , we told her to go home sick. She was still pretty but looked so pale and different . She said its just I have not put my make up on. I feel like you.
I was a paramedical makeup artist and Aesthetician for 30 yrs. I got very sick with Lyme , housebound for several yrs. I stopped putting my makeup on, stopped getting dressed for the day even. I met someone online and started putting makeup on again, it does make you feel better. Its about enhancing beauty not changing your appearance to not be recognized.
I’ve had Lyme for 25 years! I rarely have the energy for makeup anymore…
@@andin916 Medical Medium protocol got me out of the wheelchair, Anthony William check him out, do what you can. Severe Lyme since 2007, Medical Medium has helped more than anything. Starting to do my makeup again helped me feel better, its about selfcare. Loving self.
it does make you feel better because it does make you look better. Even if you put it on in the house on your own it makes you look and feel better.
@@DeirdreMFox yes! I try, but with all the symptoms, it’s basically like putting it on and then it’s a mess 5 mins later because I’m laying down, runny nose, etc. 😂🤦♀️I also don’t know much about makeup so I don’t really know if there’s a way to avoid that. I basically just got back into it and have learned a lot (esp from Stephanie) but I wish someone would do like… a ‘chronic illness makeup’ or something 🤣
@@helenalovelock1030 it does! When I’m able to do it and it actually turns out ok it definitely helps to ‘feel pretty’ 😂
Thank you for this video. I literally don't even leave my room without fake eyelashes on. I'm so ashamed of my face. It's a serious point of pain for me, I can't lie. I have deep set partially hooded eyes and a drooping brow that make me feel rather masculine looking. All the relationships I've been in i've always kept some degree of makeup on at night, and rushed to the bathroom to fix my face in the morning.
It's hard to know that if I didn't put so much work into my appearance that most of the men that have loved me probably wouldn't even of noticed my existence without makeup on...
I relate so much. I struggle with acne and redness. I'd put on makeup even though I didn't want to (and it honestly made me break out more) whenever I went out in public. I'm trying to not care what others think, but it's hard. I'm trying to go out without makeup more often. It's honestly so much better for my skin, personally.
My dermatologist told me to never wear liquid foundation, only powder foundation. It does work abd you can get decent ones for a fair price. Liquid foundation makes me break out like crazy too. Or just wear eye makeup and lipstick. Skin health is more important. ❤
I love your message Stephanie! I struggle with rosacea and because of other conditions, I rarely wear makeup anymore. I stopped wearing it regularly when I was pregnant with my son… who is now 7! Honestly I’ve gotten to the point that I feel like if someone doesn’t like how I look that’s their problem. They don’t HAVE to look at me! 😂😂
This really breaks my heart for younger generations.. such an unrealistic expectation of beauty. We all get old. How are these influencers going to deal when they hit their mid 40’s & 50’s. Botox and fillers in your 20’s and 30’s. Aging is going to hit these girls hard.
such an important topic! Thank you so so much!🙏🏻🙏🏻
Thank you so much Stephanie for your great content. Your channel and message are invaluable for young girls and our generation of women for healing and solidarity. Sending love and support!
i absolutely love Stephanie’s channel since she is doing such an important thing as dispelling all these social media illusions which cause so many insecurities in tons of people. i’m 17 and thanks to creators like Stephanie i finally came to conclusion that i should never compare myself to influencers in ig and just enjoy my looks. i hope more people realise that we shouldn’t spend our lives disliking ourselves as soon as possible:)
You’ve helped me become so much confident!
I love your videos, they are so empowering! I wish the women I know that struggle with their appearence could accept that they dont have to look and be perfect... Its sad to see how much joy they miss out on bcs of these thoughts of not being good enough just because they dont look or behave a certain way that society wants us to.
Omg those headlines… getting so mad about these.. thank you for making this video 💖
I just feel so much better about myself after I see your videos…Thank you so much for your honesty, vulnerability, and having the courage to not only say what everybody is thinking, but saying the less popular opinion
I never even started wearing makeup. And I noticed that I am much more confident compared to my friends. It’s so sad.
one of so many reasons i like you, how you acknowledge even your past mistakes so confidently. so many youtubers, influencers just walk over their past, burying it, never admitting their wrongs if any...but it's really so inspiring, empowering of you!
I agree ❤ is so nice to hear her take self accountability that she's guilty of doing the things she says not to do.
Right
Thank you for this, and every video you do with this message! You’re truly great and your voice is needed! Love you! 💕
Honestly though, I have watched you since those before and afters and seeing your evolution is awesome. I love that you do this introspection, and I am grateful for your perspective!
Can we also acknowledge that even if you don’t look beautiful or pretty, it doesn’t actually matter…
I love your videos, they are really helping me to accept myself❤
Love this, and love you for making this. With all the perfectly made-up faces and personal trainer-assisted bodies and then Photoshop on top of that, it can be so hard to remember that celebrities are not superhumanly beautiful and perfect.
You are so beautiful. Outside and in. How you could ever think of yourself in that bad way - you are an angel and your light helps us feel better. Bless you and your beautiful family. 💕
I have been thinking this for years. Ever since I was a kid I had this epiphany that the vast majority of women are wearing makeup in their day to day lives. And it’s seen as a bold political statement to just exist as yourself. We need to change this, first by accepting ourselves in all our states, then one another. I found that the less insecure I am and the more I love myself, the more I love other women❤️
I used to be this way all the way up into my late 20s. My husband kept telling me over and over he loved the way I looked the most without makeup. Once Covid started I just gave it up and now I absolutely love it! I just focus on skin care now and my daily “foundation” is the Victoria Beckham moisturizer in golden over a clear SPF. Idk but it’s just so freeing and my skin is so happy! My body/face dysmorphia finally is gone too ❤
So many facts dropped here. Thanks for making videos like this. We know it deep down but this is a great reminder. These days I intentionally go out without makeup, hair up etc so people will leave me alone. I’d rather be unapproachable sometimes, but not the “unapproachable makeup” kind. The attention from strangers when I’m dressed and glammed up actually annoys me- like, I’m out here because I have sh*t to do, not because I want compliments.
I love how your eyes look with this less heavy look. So fresh and youthful!
I've always interpreted "stars without makeup" as a reassuring reality check for normal women. Eg "Wow, look at that celeb without makep! I look better than her without my makeup. Now I would love the name of her makeup artist, hair and and clothes stylist!"
I have never thought of it as making regular women be afraid to go out bare-faced. Thanks for sharing your POV! ❤
same, it's for us to stop envying their beauty because they can look like us. people who get tired, who have normal human skin...
right, it’s more like “they’re just like us!”
@@dickottel Yes, exactly!
@@kristinazubic9669 Yes! 🙌😄
These are always so perfectly timed… just when I start slipping into the ‘ew I look horrible’ cycle….. the whole AI thing is really messing with my head, I think 😳people think those images are real 🤦♀️ you’re the best ❤
I hate that you ever felt ugly. You’re so beautiful, inside and out. I really mean it , you’re gorgeous!
Steph, thank you for making this continuation video on an important topic, and giving us the needed reminder that celebrity and social media beauty faces are not real or truly representative.
You are doing all of us an important service with your videos and helping make a dent in the overly, idealized, filtered, photo shopped and increasingly surgically altered zeitgeist that is our reality.
Your work, honesty and insight are all really needed, and I appreciate your message to normalize and accept real bare faces as well as normal bodies at any size and any age.
AGREED 💯. I feel totally guilt-free when going into public nowadays without my makeup face on becuz I owe it to my skin to give it a damn break AND I owe it to other ppl to know I don't actually look perfect 24/7!
You’re the best I love your content and you are always honest
Thanks Steph for the positive affirmations ❤
Holy smokes you’re gorgeous in this video. I hope you feel it too! And hope you do this look more often
I’m allergic to so much, I had to give up makeup a few years ago. Even lipstick. It was challenging to get used to seeing my bare face without cringing, but man, the feeling of freedom has been incredible. Truly a joy! My free time increased; no makeup to put on or take off. A big money saver too. No more managing skin reactions.
I know I could look attractive with makeup, but it’s just not worth the resulting problems. Literally it would make my skin hurt or my eyelids swell. A neighbor who’s only seen me “as is”, recently saw an old social media photo with full makeup. She couldn’t stop exclaiming over how pretty I was, genuinely surprised that it was possible for me. That hurt, but it’s still worth it to me to stay natural. I’m finally comfortable in my own skin. The bonus has been my skin has never looked better. My eyelashes grew longer.
The lesson has been, the contrast of makeup and no-makeup days creates dissatisfaction. Eventually a natural face looks normal, and that is a wonderful feeling. 😊
I too am allergic to most makeup, although I can wear lipstick. I hate the way I look without it but don't miss my other makeup at all. I'm an older lady and think too much makeup can age us more. I love to see a fresh face on a woman.
I was obsessed with wearing makeup as a teenager and in my early 20s, then I went to a meditation camp, didn’t wear any makeup for 10 days so when I came back home I never felt the need to wear makeup on a daily basis anymore. Now I put makeup on only at very special ocasions, like a birthday party or something like that. I feel pretty the way I am 🥰
Thank you so much, this needed to be said 💟
gosh you're a gem, thank you
I actually like my face better without foundation, if I do apply foundation it’s very minimal. I just stopped caring about what people would think. I like it. And it hasn’t stopped me from getting men. The men I’ve encountered actually prefer natural beauty or minimal makeup . Get off social media & go out to the real world. We’re all human with flaws & that’s okay ❤
I feel like the purpose of makeup is to enhance your favorite features/ self expression🥹 It breaks my heart that one of my friends has the pressure to wear makeup to even store😢💔
I need this right now! I got my lash extensions off after 3 years and I think my natural lashes are so cute and I feel so fresh, but then I can’t bring myself to film anything for social media because I’m scared. I need to hear this for sure! ❤️
You’re pretty Steph! I appreciate the efforts you take to make these
Thanks
I rarely wear makeup and especially during summer times when the weather is hot,hot,hot and I tend to sweat too. For me the best "makeup" is a healthy , glowing skin and a beautiful smile on your face ❤❤❤❤ No makeup can't beat this😊
My husband of 30+ years helped my confidence on this issue. He calls me putting on makeup “gilding the lily” and has always said I look equally good with or without. I go without most of the time now, especially since I retired. I’m not afraid or ashamed of aging. I did always wear a bit of makeup for work, but in the same manner as wearing work clothes. I felt it was a bit more polished, whereas no makeup was more casual. But not uglier.
I can’t remember the exact phrasing, but I heard a while back and it stuck with me for a long time:
You do not owe the world beauty in trade for existence. You are not a decoration, and you have no obligation to be attractive to be valuable or exist in a beautiful and fulfilled life.
Thank you Stephanie!!!❤
When I was living in the south of the US, I had SO many people come up to me and say “What’s wrong with your face?!” Or “you’d be so pretty if only you put some makeup on over that bad skin!”
Uh, I was wearing makeup, it was just nearly impossible to neutralize the redness of my rosacea with an amount of makeup I felt ok wearing. The comments from strangers got so bad I dreaded leaving the house….
People can be so cruel or thoughtless😔.They don't have manners at all. Sending love to you from Finland 💕.
@@anne-marie2972 Thank you ❤️