Choosing a different interpretation. A small insight to get unstuck
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- čas přidán 20. 09. 2023
- Have you felt at times that unsure feeling about whether you slept or not? What if this tiny window of hesitation was an opportunity to change our beliefs and fears? Sharing my personal insight on this.
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Yes, good point. I had both onset and maintenance insomnia and what helped me the most for the maintenance one, once I was able to fall asleep when I went to bed, is that I turned off the digital clock reading, where I could not see what time it was when I went to the washroom in the night. That way my brain could not say anything to try to save me from the fear of not falling back to sleep. Because of your videos and listening to your personal experiences recovering from insomnia I am doing very good and now I am at the stage where I am improving the quality of my sleep. Quitting the scrolling (tablet, phone) is no longer a sleep effort for me. I don’t remember when I fall asleep and I don’t go through that sudden wakening when I was crossing the bridge so to speak and then my brain was taking over and not letting me fall asleep. I am no longer experiencing this. I still have nights when I don’t sleep very good, most of the time it is because I have restless legs, emotions or had too much caffeine etc. Overall I am so happy and I appreciate all your videos and newsletters and other members’ experiences in your community. Thank you Alina and to your followers for all the comments. 🇨🇦
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I am suffering with onset insomnia for 7 months now …is there any way I can reach out to you
@@lillianyoukhana8451 I’m sorry you are struggling with onset insomnia. I am afraid we can’t connect about this as I am not a sleep coach. Know that you can recover, that your body knows how to fall asleep, just shut out your brain that is causing all the problems you are having with falling asleep. I have recovered watching all of Alina’s videos, many of them multiple times. I find when Alina speaks about her own experience is most helpful. Three videos that helped me a lot are “under pressure”, “spot and dissolve sleep efforts” and “how to fall asleep in 5 minutes” these titles are in the thumbnail of the video. I also watched the videos with Alina and Coach Daniel of the sleep coach school, these are longer but totally worth it, especially the one about taking the red pill, it shows how brilliant Alina is and her understanding of insomnia. Alina said on her IG that soon she will post a video here on her channel with Coach Daniel, he’s amazing too, the one that started helping people with insomnia with different approaches. Good luck, you can do it, you will sleep.
Great point! I used to think that I wasn’t sleeping AT ALL, but i remember i started wearing my apple watch to track my sleep and it turns out i WAS sleeping even if it was for 2-3 hours. This definitely helped calm my anxiety/panic about me not being “able” to sleep.
Yeap I have this and can testify it's true. Sometimes I doubt whether I slept, or feel like I haven't slept, but my husband (who sleeps much later than me) says "What are you talking about?? You were just snoring!" 😂
😂😂😂😂 it happens yes I realize because there's a small lapse of time I don't remember anything
Thanks Alina :) I'm not sure why, but the idea of my brain reacting to my thoughts by itself makes me sad, like it's disconnected somewhat. Before insomnia I never felt like that, I felt like everything was whole and together. Learning more about this I realized that my brain is often reacting on instinct which isn't something my thoughts can control. It's a new way of thinking about myself which I will just have to get used to. Sorry for the ramble, just wondering if anyone else feels this way 😅
I experience this sadness too. For me it happened after I started meditation/believing in the importance of detaching myself from my thoughts. I'd heard other people say they feel so much peace after meditating, but it just makes me sad. I think it's because I identified myself with my thoughts so much that now I feel like I've somehow lost myself or don't know who I am anymore. Just wanted to share this to tell you that you're not the only one!
That's a good point. Sadness is something I experienced too. Especially at the end of my insomnia recovery. It felt more like grieving mixed with losing the interest in the topic, and it had to be felt too because after that emotion was totally allowed, it started to slowly transforming into more taste for life
I really needed this
This makes so much sense! Thanks for the insight, Alina.
Amazing content as usual , thanks a lot Alina
every sort of sleep counts as a sleep ❤
Thank you 🙏
I suffer from the type where you can't initiate sleep. I also have IC Interstitial cystitis so there is the added agony of when I can't sleep I get terrible pain in my blender. And this in turn makes it hard to sleep as well.
Sorry to hear about this. Physical pain caused by different conditions can disrupt sleep for sure. I hope this physical issue resolves soon
I think it is called Paradoxical Insomnia. I experience it in daytime when i try to sleep.
Hi Alina! Thank you so much for your content! I’ve been sleeping well lately but there is still fear of not sleeping. I know there is a place I want to be which is “I don’t care whether I sleep or not, I’m going to have a good day otherwise”. But my brain is not convinced yet. Would you say this will happen naturally or do I have to force my brain every time to believe it?
You don't have to force the brain to believe. But keeping on being open to experience wakefulness at night gradually allows us to see that we can get through a sleepless night. We might still rather prefer to sleep, but if it doesn't happen, it's not a catastrophe. This realization comes with time so normalizing any fear that may show up in the meantime can be helpful.
Hi Alina! How long would you say it took you to fully recover from the fear of insomnia and wakefulness on your journey?
Hi, it took a bit over a year. I made a video once about my detailed timeline on my channel - you might find more info about it there 👍
Hi alina,
I have a questions on dealing with insomnia and partner relationship. I feel very isolated from my partner because I am dealing with this problem alone, when I am used to sharing most of my issues with my partner and talking it through. I cannot talk to him about it because he doesn't understand it or how hard it is, it is creating a distance between us and I feel alone and frustrated. How do I deal with this problem?
could you please answer this question for me, as it will help me in my recovery. Did you have an memory issues or lost from insomnia, I do but my therapist say it is from anxiety and insomnia, and things will go back to normal when both are fixed or better under control. I do not know fully, and many health experts say the same thing but i am not recovered yet so i don't have proof of it, and when i search online it just keeps saying insomnia increase the change of dementia, which does not help me to fell better. The point is will my memories imporve, will I get "lost" memories back, and will I remember stuff during my time with insomnia or will it be forgotten or a very big confusing fog od time forever :(.
Hi Daniel, I had something like a brain fog from time to time when I could forget some things I wanted to do or couldn't fully concentrate on tasks. This wasn't like I forgot where I live or what my parent's names are, but it was more like occasional de-focus. To me this just meant that because of being with this sleep issue 24/7, thinking about it, worrying about it, made it hard to fully engage with my days which sometime led to things like forgetting to do something occasionally or feeling not fully present or not being able to concentrate on work, etc.
@@FearlessSleep well I don’t forget major things from my past, just hard to recall them, and then my health anxiety acts up and makes it worse. Been getting more sleep and I find it easier to recall things but still some issues. Maybe with more sleep and dealing with anxiety it will get better as I see a bit from me getting more sleep
Not sure if this video is helpful but our brain always judge our sleep in morning and from our eyes. When things are not satisfactory, brain will never come out of fear.
Moreover whatever teaching any sleep coach gives will never come handy for chronic insomnia because once we hit the pillow our brain wants to go blank from efforts.
And if we stratergize then it will keep on saying did it work? And will never sleep.
No sleep coach can ever make us sleep. Only our mind can whenever it wants.
@@jackwil5605 you are right, nothing and no one can make us sleep. Only our body does this job and it knows how - without us knowing. The mind stands in the way of sleep by trying to control this process. Strategizing is a form of control attempt. Being able to spot when the brain strategizes can help us gain clarity and not to fall for its tricks (but again, in and of itself, spotting the brain's control tendencies doesn't create sleep)
@@FearlessSleep you are right.