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  • @heroedeleyenda79
    @heroedeleyenda79 Pƙed rokem +5

    Super valuable video as I just re-introduced a "new-old" thing and caused myself to have a fragmented sleep type of night after having a stretch of great sleep. Love the insight of letting go of the need of always having an answer. Thank you Alina

    • @FearlessSleep
      @FearlessSleep  Pƙed rokem +1

      Oh I totally understand the "new-old" thing transition - these are turbulence-prone moments, which, in the end, are necessary for becoming completely free!

  • @user-vy4uv1yj2i
    @user-vy4uv1yj2i Pƙed rokem +3

    This is a great channel! I have chronic insomnia and your talks are very therapeutic. Thanks!

  • @user-zq4dj9ph3k
    @user-zq4dj9ph3k Pƙed rokem +1

    Please do a detailed video on how one can stop fearing the horror stories of others and their lifelong insomnia journey? How can one believe in ones own abilities of overcoming insomnia? How can one be sure that their case isn’t any different and sleep will come eventually.
    I think people understand the concepts but the intrusive thoughts stop the recovery. How can we build the courage to move past the negativity?

  • @Stuffed_chicken
    @Stuffed_chicken Pƙed rokem

    Thank you! I think so much of what you said, especially the last part, applies not only to sleep but also to life in general ❀❀❀❀❀

  • @synaruscz5352
    @synaruscz5352 Pƙed rokem +2

    Even after overcoming insomnia by itself I open ur videos sometimes. Ur calm voice gives me peace.

    • @FearlessSleep
      @FearlessSleep  Pƙed rokem

      Thank you! 😊

    • @digitos000
      @digitos000 Pƙed rokem

      Hi, how long did it take u.

    • @synaruscz5352
      @synaruscz5352 Pƙed rokem

      @@digitos000 Pretty long. I was maybe with some lack fo sleep from like novemeber or soemthign like that. Had month where i didnt slept at all 0 hours. Full sleep came back maybe in 4th month of next year. I bet it was some sort of chemical inbalance or stress of body you dont have control over and you dont reliaze coz you feel absolutly fine. Basically brain was in hyperactivation mode - I had days in bed when i knew am not sleeping yet i felt body regenerating, as if it was sleeping, feeling refreshed after the proces was done etc.
      What helped me is just not going to sleep when u dotn feel like it. I didnt wanted to do staying awake longer much then like 30hours since it always started to hurt my right side of head (temporal bone) unpleseant feeling plus you feeling less able to think fast.
      I even believe theres somehting like beyign sleep/brain resting while you conscious at the same time. The closest i wouild describe it to someone is that 1s when they close eyes, they would say they were conscious thruout whole proccess but they also feel the small relax feeling for 1s where they closed the eyes.

    • @digitos000
      @digitos000 Pƙed rokem

      @@synaruscz5352 damm, 0 sleep in a month... That's tough.
      I been able to sleep daily at least a few since discover this channel, and Daniel's channel too.
      So... Al that time you been following this kind of channels, or you discovered this later.

    • @synaruscz5352
      @synaruscz5352 Pƙed rokem

      ​@@digitos000 This was last thing i watched. before that i was searchign and watching mainly things about sleep hygiene and testing all posibilities one by one. This channel was about: you cant control it. Which was in my believe aswell based on experience so i went with it. Acceptance of everything whats happening to me, not going to sleep wily nily, + i was geting up doing things.
      (I wouldnt even bother fixing this nonsleeping thing if there wasnt that anoying rightside of head pain whenever i didnt went to bed. Coz you feel like god. I didnt have any chemical telling for me when is night when is day. My brain just worked like 2.5 times more and the 24h cycle just wasnt enough for him to stay awake, thats what i think.
      I found out many interesting things what was happening to my body coz i was analyzing it a lot. But in order to go back to sleeep and accept theres no control i went to not do that anymore (unles if it hapend by itself or as echo of my previous behaviours, then i acepted it) The feeling and mindset you get is as if you were believer in god - explaining things that happening to you are beyond your control beyond what we can so far discover about our bodies and how to fix them ourselves.
      if this happend to me again I again wouldnt care and accept whatevers happening with me. Its almost paradoxical. You discover u cant beat it thru trying to beat it and then you get phase of not trying coz you already belive you cant beat it and then it eventualy gets beaten by itself. Mabye it wont but who cares, its not like you can do things about it (unles youre still in first phase thinking you can.
      Not making the leap of faith and still trying to figure it out is what keeps people insomniacs or prolongs it imo but who knows maybe am wrong and there is a way to beat and phase 1 can get you somehow to beat it or someday in future it will but thats not how "i" beaten it.).
      )

  • @shreyas1995
    @shreyas1995 Pƙed rokem

    Watching this after almost 6 months of leaving bedtyme after learning and picking up all the advice from you coach! Can't thank you and Daniel enough for those!
    I can relate to the entire part of getting a bit kocky. I 100% thought I am out of the woods and funny enough then I had a little speed bump that very same night. I think the more you go through those without throwing it away the more confident you become. Since then smooth sailing! 😄

    • @alinvarghese
      @alinvarghese Pƙed rokem

      How was you

    • @FearlessSleep
      @FearlessSleep  Pƙed rokem +2

      Hi Shreyas! Oh I totally understand you! The brain is sneaky that way - when it sees the result it always wanted to see, it creates a belief that it's got control over sleep somehow and the feeling of over-confidence might arise. But thanks to the fact that we are able to spot such thinking patterns and see them for what they are can help us not to fall for the brain's tricks :)

  • @katthys12212
    @katthys12212 Pƙed rokem

    Great video😊😊

  • @Christelle-mo3bf
    @Christelle-mo3bf Pƙed rokem +1

    Thank you Alina for your efforts.
    After a year and a half of education and recovering from insomnia, sleep got easier and easier. On the other hand, I am experiencing nowadays a lot of hyperarousal (because of the good nights' sleep). Hyperarousal such as fast breathing, palpitations, ..
    The hyperarousal occurs in the morning especially and can last all the day (after the good night).
    I feel frustrated by it a lot especially that my past experience with insomnia is already a heavy one. I don't want to experience anymore bad feelings and sensations.
    Have you any thoughts/advice concerning hyperarousal/fight or flight felt in such a chronic way? Is it possible that these are the consequence of the insomnia trauma and why do they occur only after the good nights?
    Thank you a lot

    • @FearlessSleep
      @FearlessSleep  Pƙed rokem

      Hi Christelle! Sorry for delayed reply. I made a video on why we feel anxious after sleeping better which may give you some insight: czcams.com/video/UunbapmzUsQ/video.html
      Feeling such anxiety isn't uncommon!
      In general, emotions and feelings feel sticky when we label them as unwanted or bad. So the brain starts to fight with them and often we feel the fear of anxiety, fear of fear, or fear of fatigue etc.
      I find that when we revisit our perception of these experiences a lot of things can get easier. It doesn't mean that we should ignore them - not at all! You may use different tools to alleviate or address them, some people find it helpful to journal, others address it with a therapist, etc. The most important, in my opinion is to show the brain that we don't have to be afraid of our thoughts and emotions, so it can feel safe in their presence.
      So we provide care and comfort on these tough days as we feel is right and at the same time see how we can accept and allow those feelings to be.
      Hope this added some value!

  • @MrBolyo1
    @MrBolyo1 Pƙed rokem

    Hi Alina, we spoke on the sleep app a while ago, I'm Anthony. I was wondering something. As you know I've suffered from hypnic jerks for a while. I just had a good long period of 2 months where I wasn't bothered at all. But of course, they came back. At first I didn't mind, but the nI saw triggering content and here we are.
    Now I'm back to square one. But one thing has been really annoying me and it's napping. In fact, I find it extremely hard to take a nap because I feel like my jerks are worse. Could this be because hyperarousal is more intense because it's the day and the brain didn't have time to process the fact that you're trying to sleep ?
    Thanks !

    • @FearlessSleep
      @FearlessSleep  Pƙed rokem

      Hi Anthony! Thanks for sharing your experience. First, I want to say that I am so glad that you had 2 months of unbothered sleep - this is such a powerful evidence that when we stop fixating on sleep it gets organic.
      I also understand that after such a long period of doing better, experiencing more hyperarousal is very discouraging. It's normal to feel upset about this. What might feel like being back on square one, is typically a temporary activation of our fight or flight response. A person might see a some emotional or triggering content and the brain, due to the freshness of the insomnia memory, might latch onto it, fixating on sleep again.
      So we might find ourselves experiencing unpleasant feelings from the past- like hypnic jerks.
      During increased fear, it is totally understandable that it can be hard to nap during the day. I once made a post about inability to nap during insomnia, you might find some helpful information there: instagram.com/p/Cq8hGmtLkQu/?img_index=1
      Hope this adds clarity!

  • @AlexanderDassen-io4jw
    @AlexanderDassen-io4jw Pƙed rokem

    Hi Alina,
    Som much thank for your help with your videos. 7 months further watching your videos and put everything into practise i can have a sleepless night with 0 fear. So grateful for that! The emotional bond is fading away.
    However I have 1 question: i still experience ‘bad’ nights, but the reason that the fear is faded away is that my focus shifted from the intention (also subtle intentions) to wanting sleep to the focus I want to be kind to myself. Since the focus is at this new intention it seems that every tought en feeling about Imsonia passes simply trough my mind without resistance..
    When you go to bed and put your focus on the intention that you be kind to yourself and shifted the focus completely from te intention of effort is this also a Strategy to fall a sleep? It seems in my experience that without this shift of attention the insomnia loops had no end..
    Greetings and much love Alexander

    • @FearlessSleep
      @FearlessSleep  Pƙed rokem +1

      Hi Alexander! So happy to hear about your progress! You know, I don't think that approaching things with kindness is a sleep effort. Self-kindness allows us to experience the night as it unfolds without resistance or force and to me that is a beautiful direction. In my experience, the acceptance and kindness with time and more experience becomes so natural that we don't have to remind ourselves to use it..we just be it all the time. :)

    • @AlexanderDassen-io4jw
      @AlexanderDassen-io4jw Pƙed 11 měsĂ­ci

      Thank you for your respond. Your insight that behind every act ( and after a year trying everything that is possible to get rid of the ‘insomnia’) lies the secretly intention that keeps you in this loop of keep trying even if you starten ‘ non trying’. Then theres nothing left then change completely the intention to be moment to moment kind to yourself. And so as you say then things unfold naturally. So change of the intention is the fundamental shift of focus.
      The obsession of doing something fades away slowly en it feels as if a huge stone is falling down of your shoulders.
      So much thank for sharing your insights Alina!

  • @user-zq4dj9ph3k
    @user-zq4dj9ph3k Pƙed rokem

    Hi Coach,
    So I’ve been suffering with insomnia from the past 13 months. I’ve continued my life and made sure that I didn’t let insomnia take over my day to day activities. I was very fearful of sleep still. I read your book a couple of years back and understood regarding sleep efforts. However, somewhere in the back of my mind, a fleeting thought of not being able to sleep crossed my mind and it made me fearful. Since a week now, I’ve been having sleepless nights which I didn’t encounter before. I’m thinking of getting in touch via the bedtyme app but the pressure of expecting too much out of CBT-i is stopping me. The constant thought of what if doesn’t work, is making my insomnia worse. How can I get past this fear and move into a more positive direction?

    • @FearlessSleep
      @FearlessSleep  Pƙed rokem

      Hi! I'm not sure I am the person you are referring to :) It was probably some other's author's book you've read a couple of years ago - as I have never written a book :)
      I have once made a video on anxious thoughts on this channel, it might give you some insights on this topic!

  • @guylainelamoureux
    @guylainelamoureux Pƙed rokem

    Thank you Alina for all your videos. I watched a couple and I did what you suggest and I fell asleep easily three nights in a row👍 Everything you explain is so useful, every aspect, the efforts, the hyperarousal, etc. I have started binge watching your videos, I will like each one and comment briefly so you get more exposure from youtube. I wish you get more subscribers that way. Thank you so much. I will sleep!

  • @jessicaalonzo7125
    @jessicaalonzo7125 Pƙed rokem

    Hi Alina. This last few weeks I'm doing great with my sleep now but there were few nights when I woke up multiple times at night but it doesnt bother me that much anymore. I'm going through some videos about sleep and I read some comments about FFI which makes me worry now and having anxiety about it. Could you please say something about ffi for us who have trouble sleeping?

    • @FearlessSleep
      @FearlessSleep  Pƙed rokem

      The fear about FFI is really common. Considering that FFI is extremely rare (a few cases in the whole world!), I think almost all people with insomnia who has ever googled went through the phase of fearing this. It is even debatable that it has anything to do with insomnia.
      I love the series on FFI from the Sleep Coach School, I coulnd't have explained it better than Daniel, here is the whole playlist: czcams.com/play/PL6RQ1GS7B1cgjEXNFSpelP_HSsCpF56Ey.html
      I think it can put the mind at ease!

  • @christianoliveras2744
    @christianoliveras2744 Pƙed rokem

    Hi Alina, i have watched a few of your videos looking for answers or even someone who has my specific situation, bare with me as this may be quite long. Since May i have had many sleepless nights and days. When i say sleepless i mean i do not sleep one bit at night i lay in bed with my eyes closed but am awake all night. This all started with just the thought of not being able to sleep by worrying about it. It wasnt like i struggled with sleep before or anything it just was a thought and my mind started to worry that i wouldnt be able to stop fearing it and thinking of it. Next thing you know i did not sleep at all. The next day i did not sleep at all. In a span of 3 weeks i had 8 nights where i did not sleep at all and i never slept back to back days it might be 2 days no sleep 1 day sleep. It got so bad that I started becoming focused of the concious to unconcious our body is supposd to naturally do without thought but ive become aware of it. Ive started to focus on my eyes when i sleep which gives me anxiety because i know its not normal to think of these things. I koow the fear of not sleeping and these irrational thoughts are keeping me up but i cannot seem to let go of them and stop fearing or worrying about them. Its almost like i know how to keep myself up and i cannot control it. I started taking seroquil at a low dosage to sleep and although it knocked me out the first 2 times after that i would sleep but the meds never really made me sleepy anymore. For this reason i tried not to take them but each time i dont take them i dont sleep at all. I am sure this is psychological. But i cannot stop worring about if ill sleep or if ill keep myself from sleeping by purposely worrying myself that i wont sleep which then makes me not sleep. My life hasnt been the same i worry everyday if im gonna sleep at night even if i slept well the day before. I feel like i cant control this. I know my body is able to sleep but i am not confident that i can sleep anymore. Most people dont rhink about sleep u think about it everyday now and feel like ill never ever be unaware of sleep ever again. It has made me suicidal at times but i have a young son whom i love so much i jist want to be okay and go back being unaware of sleep. Any advice is apprecaiate.

    • @christianoliveras2744
      @christianoliveras2744 Pƙed rokem

      I forgot to mentiont that my phych said she thinks I have ocd but I really don't know how because I do not have compulsions of any sort. I know I have anxiety but cmon my anxiety shouldnt keep me up a whole night for multiple nights.

    • @FearlessSleep
      @FearlessSleep  Pƙed rokem

      @@christianoliveras2744 I can relate to your struggles a lot. So sorry you are going through this now ❀ Insomnia can shaken our confidence in our ability to sleep which can make us feel alert and scared at night. Our brain is a safety machine and when it feels threatened, it is natural that sleep becomes difficult (from the brain's logic "it is too unsafe to sleep now..because there is a threat of not sleeping" if that makes sense). I find that when we learn more about what is actually going on when we are hyperaroused and demystify this experience we can feel more and more safe at night, our reactions become more understandable, which can translate to more peaceful sleep gradually.

    • @user-zq4dj9ph3k
      @user-zq4dj9ph3k Pƙed 4 měsĂ­ci

      @@christianoliveras2744How’s your sleep now?

  • @ankaschannel
    @ankaschannel Pƙed rokem

    Hi Alina, ever since I moved into my new apartment, I have been struggling with terminal insomnia. I wake up around 3am frequently, and even if I manage to sleep through the night, I can't get more than 6-7 hours of sleep. I really miss sleeping like 10 hours on the weekends.
    At first it was the sounds in my new apartment that bothered me. But I don't really struggle falling asleep anymore, and even with earplugs I can't sleep through the night, so I don't think it's any sounds waking me up.
    What can I do? I feel so powerless because I can't control what happens while I'm asleep

    • @FearlessSleep
      @FearlessSleep  Pƙed rokem +1

      Hi! Sorry for delayed reply! I totally understand that early awakenings can be very frustrating. What usually happens is that when we interpret awakening as a failure or a bad thing, we start feeling scared and alert and that makes falling back asleep harder. So we might have perfect conditions without any external disturbance but the fear of an awakening is what creates the self-fulfilling prophesy. Changing that perception can really help. So first we learn to feel safe when awakening occurs - we can do it through education like awakenings are completely normal and everyone wakes up from time to time or we can do it by changing the way we respond to when awakening occurs.
      Here are some of the videos that might give you a bit more insight:
      On waking up at night: czcams.com/video/AyIhlXJWXAU/video.html
      On what to do when we can't sleep: czcams.com/video/GYqlS_i9JgQ/video.html
      Best wishes!

    • @ankaschannel
      @ankaschannel Pƙed rokem

      @@FearlessSleep Thank you so much :)

  • @user-zq4dj9ph3k
    @user-zq4dj9ph3k Pƙed rokem

    Hi Alina,
    I get that insomnia is all about letting go of control however sometimes I’ve heard it could be because of external reasons too such as a disease or some health condition. How true is this?
    Moreover why is it that when I’m in a relaxed state, I’m unable to sleep whereas when I’m actually thinking about sleep or whether or not I’ll be able to sleep, I sleep better

    • @FearlessSleep
      @FearlessSleep  Pƙed rokem +1

      Sleep disruption can happen due to various reasons, including health issues. Having a fever, pain, going through hormonal changes like menopause, sleep apnea, taking some medicine etc - they can disturb our sleep to some extent and this is what is typically referred to as secondary insomnia. This is why it is good to check health in case of any health concerns to rule out or address anything that may disrupt sleep. When the source of it is addressed and resolved, sleep comes back. There is also primary insomnia which is a stand-alone issue. And that is the self-perpetuating cycle of worrying about sleep and not sleeping because of it. Primary insomnia can either be the only issue or it can be added on top of secondary insomnia.
      For example, when I started my antibiotic treatment for my skin condition, the side effect of that was short term sleeplessness. Which was the secondary type, it had an apparent disruptor. But on top of that, I started fearing not sleeping which created an independent, self-maintaining insomnia, the primary type. After I stopped taking antibiotics, there was no longer any reason that would disrupt my sleep, but the fear and traumatic memory of that stayed which was creating the whole problem.
      So if you have any worries, it is totally reasonable to check that with your doctor. I did that too and it brought me some peace of mind.
      Feeling awake and not anxious at night is also a common experience because hyperarousal can take different forms, not just anxiety. It can be bewilderment, or an alert state. Hope this adds clarity!

  • @user-kp5im7dy9s
    @user-kp5im7dy9s Pƙed rokem

    Hi coach your videos are great now am less afraid of speedbumps but i have a problem before i started to learn about insomnia from your videos my sleeping pattern was (two or three days of average sleep and then a speed bump and then again two or three days of 5-6hours of sleep) but now the pattern changes ( one day of good sleep and then a speedbump and then a day of good sleep) so instead of getting more good sleep am experiencing more speedbumps every other day is this normal i thought because am learning how insomnia works and because am less anxious i will get more sleep but am experiencing the opposite i this a fail .i wonder if its gonna be fixed in the future

    • @FearlessSleep
      @FearlessSleep  Pƙed rokem +1

      So glad that the fear of speedbumps is getting lower! That said, I totally understand how upsetting it can be to see the change of the pattern when we experience less peaceful nights.
      It is not unusual for the journey though - to go through different sleep patterns. The journey is about teaching the brain to not fear our experiences, as unpleasant as they may be. And what typically happens is that when the brain tries to avoid something - the pressure grows and we start to experience what we really tried to avoid. For that reason when we are afraid of having less peaceful nights, the pressure can go up leading to experiencing more bumpy nights.
      Another aspect is that the brain constantly tries to look for logic in our nights and often it creates sleep patterns - it looks back on your week or two and notices some tendency which is then is given a label "a pattern".
      And the belief in a pattern is what keeps that pattern going on. So we believe that after one good night, we always experience more nights, we begin to mentally prepare for that, and that acts as a self-fulfilling prophesy. In reality however, sleep pattern is an illusionary mind construct. There are no nights that define 100% that you will sleep or not - our fear is what plays trick here.
      So as paradoxical as it sounds, becoming more open to experience the pattern is what can break it. Sleep patterns may seem tangible and fixed but in reality they can shake and dissolve at any moment when our belief in them gets shaken.
      Lets say we are convinced that after a good night we will for sure have a bad night, but then we may experience actually quite decent night - that's already a dent in our belief in that pattern and the brain may conclude that "hm, so even if I have one good night, it doesn't mean that I will for sure have a bad night after it, it can be any other outcome that can be better than i expect!"
      Looking at each night as a blank slate where anything is possible - including having more peaceful nights is what can help us break these sticky patterns!
      Hope this added some clarity!

    • @user-kp5im7dy9s
      @user-kp5im7dy9s Pƙed rokem

      Thank u a lot that's really helpful 😊

    • @user-zq4dj9ph3k
      @user-zq4dj9ph3k Pƙed 4 měsĂ­ci

      @@user-kp5im7dy9sHi
      How’s your sleep now? Still stuck in the same loop?

  • @drewwilson3793
    @drewwilson3793 Pƙed rokem

    Hi, Alina! I love your videos. I was wondering if you had a PO box for subscribers who want to send you letters. I'm so thankful for everything that you have shared with me and others, and I wanted to take a second to write you a letter of appreciation!

    • @FearlessSleep
      @FearlessSleep  Pƙed rokem

      Hi Drew! No, unfortunately I don't have a PO box. But I am so glad that you've been enjoying and benefiting from my content. Feedbacks like yours are very valuable to me

    • @drewwilson3793
      @drewwilson3793 Pƙed rokem +1

      @@FearlessSleep Oh, okay. Darn! I thought I would just share that I've reached that point that you talk about, of not caring about sleep and not making it a focus. I feel the tension melting away as the weeks go by. Keep up the content!

  • @user-kp5im7dy9s
    @user-kp5im7dy9s Pƙed rokem

    The more i learn about that the more i feel that is so complicated and difficult to recover😱

    • @FearlessSleep
      @FearlessSleep  Pƙed rokem +1

      Yeah, the journey is full of nuances and caveats. But I think that when we try to grasp it all at once it might not be so helpful. It might be an overload of information leading to the state when we feel very confused.
      For beginners, I made a special playlist called "Start here" with just the basics. I would focus on that for some time (of course if this is something that resonates with you) without adding any new learning until feeling ready to move on from there.

    • @user-kp5im7dy9s
      @user-kp5im7dy9s Pƙed rokem

      Thank you so much I appreciate your help you're a star

    • @user-kp5im7dy9s
      @user-kp5im7dy9s Pƙed rokem

      One more question please am learning from your experience and I Don't know if am making a mistake because I start sleeping in different room if I sleep I stay there and if I struggle to sleep i go to my bedroom and it works OK becouse I feel like no pressure.
      Could you give me an advice please should i start my journey from the beginning in my bedroom or is it OK to change the place if I struggle to sleep.and when should I sleep overnight in my bedroom?
      Please I'm waiting for your reply and many thanks.

  • @mh-mo4bj
    @mh-mo4bj Pƙed rokem

    How do you calm racing thoughts / racing mind when laying in bed with insomnia? Is it just letting them be?

    • @FearlessSleep
      @FearlessSleep  Pƙed rokem

      Good question! I once made a video where I named a few approaches - you might find it helpful: czcams.com/video/tZulhVcZ2ZE/video.html
      But overall, when we approach thoughts with force to calm them down, it might make them stickier. Rather, I find that when we don't view thoughts as enemies and see them for what they are (automatic signals sent by our brain), things get easier. We may realize that we can experience the thought and still keep doing our thing - without pushing it away or engaging with it. Without resistance a thought becomes fleeting again!
      Also I would be mindful of forcing ourselves to be in bed facing thoughts - in some cases, when done with too much force and without self-kindness it can turn into an unnecessary torture. I found for myself that when I was super frustrated and impatient in bed, changing the surroundings even for a while (even if it is like 5 minutes), could give me a break and help reset my mental state.
      Hope this adds some clarity!

    • @mh-mo4bj
      @mh-mo4bj Pƙed rokem

      Truly cannot thank you enough for your help and insight!!! Taking the time to respond to me truly means the world!! You are such an amazing person!

    • @mh-mo4bj
      @mh-mo4bj Pƙed 11 měsĂ­ci

      I think my only follow up question to this would be, when you would shortly get out of bed due to the racing thoughts, did you find ever that your body made a habit out of that? I’ve been trying it and now it seems as though my body won’t fall asleep until I lay there with the racing thoughts, get up for a little, and then go back to bed 🙈 I’m worried it won’t go to sleep now without it. Did you ever experience this?

  • @dodgdurango6128
    @dodgdurango6128 Pƙed rokem

    What do I do when my body is anxious but my mind is calm and recovered

    • @FearlessSleep
      @FearlessSleep  Pƙed rokem

      Hi! Not sure I fully understand what you mean. Mind and body are connected so typically when we are anxious we feel it in body and in mind. But perhaps some body oriented practices may help to ease the tension! I know that some people find the way to express their anxiety through exercise. When it is done as a way to practice self-care and kindness and not as a way to force sleep, then it can be quite helpful!

    • @dodgdurango6128
      @dodgdurango6128 Pƙed rokem

      When your body is still conditioned to be aroused to the bed but you yourself aren’t anxious.

  • @user-zq4dj9ph3k
    @user-zq4dj9ph3k Pƙed rokem

    How can I get a 1:1 session with you? I emailed you but the email address seems to be incorrect.
    I would like to have a 1:1 session with you.

  • @user-bl7hs9bt9t
    @user-bl7hs9bt9t Pƙed 11 měsĂ­ci +1

    Lmao thanks for saving my time by starting off with “I’m not medical doctor”

  • @user-jb9ow7uv3p
    @user-jb9ow7uv3p Pƙed rokem

    How old are you?

  • @alinvarghese
    @alinvarghese Pƙed rokem

    My coach đŸ„șđŸ„ș alina i am your client in bed tyme i am getting bad and good nights now on a bad speed bumbs and i found a channel like new volume and commented and his vidoe in channel that this is scamm đŸ„ș and the recovery story peoples were struggling again with the sleep what about the things is you really a recovered from insomnia I Asking from my bottom of my heart and can you give me a comment i always believe my coach and just need a replay â˜č i cant stop crying realy

    • @FearlessSleep
      @FearlessSleep  Pƙed rokem +2

      Hi @alinvarghese, I totally understand your worries. When we are on the journey of working with our fears it is not unusual at all to feel triggered and discouraged by something someone else says. And while we can’t control what others do or say, what truly matters is the big work that you’ve done already. Each person’s journey is individual: different people learn at a different pace and it is normal to stumble upon difficulties and doubt ourselves along the way.
      In fact when we read anything triggering and begin to fear more and have more rough nights - it only shows once again that the problem is fueled by fear. So in a way, triggering things that people say often reflect our own fears. Who didn’t have a fearful thought “what if I never get better?” or “what if my case is special and I am broken inside?” or “It’s not possible for me to get better” - so when we hear someone else expressing their fears and frustrations, it is natural that the first thing our brain will do is to try to use it to persuade us that we need to be afraid of wakefulness.
      I totally feel you. I’ve been through the same rollercoaster where a random word from someone would throw me off into panic and if I would have stopped half way there and believed completely my most fearful thoughts, I can’t imagine if I would have ever created this channel in the first place. You are not alone in this, Alin!

    • @alinvarghese
      @alinvarghese Pƙed rokem

      @@FearlessSleep hey Alina my coach I am worried much and doubted the knowledge I have and I realised after sometime that I have much good consequencnt nights after learning with you and people doesn't fully understood says this my gf says that stop searching CZcams and seeing comments you already have education and just experience and live with like you lived its make so much sense and believe in you always 💝

    • @alinvarghese
      @alinvarghese Pƙed rokem

      @@FearlessSleep people who were discouraging and not believimg in my coaches were comment I belive that fear and fear will fade when you didn't fear it simple answers 🌚

    • @FearlessSleep
      @FearlessSleep  Pƙed rokem

      @@alinvarghese I totally agree that a comment section, especially at a random discussion groups is not a helpful place for someone who is determined to get better. Plus, a lot of people who write triggering stuff do that from a triggered place - they are either scared or frustrated and they seek relief by expressing it publicly.
      So happy you had consecutive good nights! You've done an amazing job!

    • @alinvarghese
      @alinvarghese Pƙed rokem +1

      @@FearlessSleep very usefull coach it's good thanks alot 💝