I was the Villain.
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As an 18yr old that’s in his first actual serious relationship, that has these sort of thoughts, this is a great video to help me avoid these mistakes. Thank you
Just some advice from someone who's been in their first serious relationship for 6 years; love is hard, monogamy is work so take it seriously.
As someone who is incapable of love, you are weak
@@thanos7459 they should have gone for the head and left right after ?😂😂😂
@@thanos7459 Gamora?
Thanos I thought you’re dead 😂
Massive respect to a woman who left after the first incident. She was strong
@Jose diaz how
Boy
@Jose diaz you sound like you cheat on women for fun lol, go fuck yourself
I have no idea why i wrote boy o.o maybe because her a** better go XD
@Jose diaz you may not cheat but you sound like a massive asswipe. it's like you didn't even absorb what was said in the video you dense prick.
Imagine going online and admitting that you made a mistake... and everyone else is just like give us more content your personal life doesn't matter.... it takes a man to admit when he was wrong respect!
It takes a traitor
@Google Nutzer i was in a dark place at the time someone in my family cheated
@Google Nutzer It's pretty easy to tell someone else to not let emotions influence them, when thats a normal human thing to do. This video clearly shows how emotions will always end up influencing people even if its good or bad. The person wasn't feeling well and admitted that.
Exactly
honestly I don’t think cheating is a mistake but I’m glad he admitted it here
This was very honest. He said I was insecure and wanted to get with alot of women to fill up the insecurity.
Sometimes ladies its not you. Sometimes its them and you have to except they to aren't ready to be in a real relationship especially when your a good woman.
I think you meant accept, not except
@@elat9635 thank you yes I did.
If they are not ready then why did they agree to be in a relationship? You can't keep it in your pants stay single
@@shooklizard9039 could be security just knowing you have someone to fallback on.
@@shooklizard9039 sometimes you don’t know you’re not ready until it’s like 6 months in when that honey moon stage is over. 🤷🏾♂️
Many people won’t openly admit there wrong doings without anyone pressuring them. Good man
Vic Mignogna did as well. That man is still being wrongly accused sadly.
Just cause u admiit u did wrong ,dosent make u right an dosent make u a better person or good....dosent sound like he learned from his mistake at all,an he'll cheat again.....("I don't mind being wrong as long as I don't reapeat the mistake").
@@whynot9771 Yes it does at least in this case.
@@whynot9771 actually admitting you did wrong does make u a better person it means you are willing to make change it also means if you mess up again that you did it on purpose which makes u worse
@@whynot9771 By reading your comment I guess you're a Saint yourself right?
"Keep a memory of me, not as a king or a hero; but as a man: fallible and flawed."
Lame 😒I wanna be remembered As A king 👑 Like OZYMANDIAS
It's from BEOWULF. The mocap version.
Hjah!
@@wiredgamez9929 and become forgotten by the sands of time
Great fucking reference!
Yea don’t cheat. You will never get the same trust that your partner have for you back . You may be forgiven but it will never be forgotten.
That’s when they break up
Yeah I'd expect a break up if I cheated, same goes if someone cheats on me.
Yeah can’t really empathize or sympathize with Aba here. Respect him as a person but simply can’t respect this in particular, I don’t think cheating is just a mistake. Young and dumb, but I feel you should know.
@@him1517 Agreed, people always say the young and dumb shit. Fine, if you don't know the basics and foundation of trust and a monogamous relationship, if you do, then it's just an excuse for being caught.
I been that nigga forgiven a woman but never forget and end up talking to other hoes or whatever. I got what o rightfully deserved even if i got done wrong first. Moral of the story leave after a person breaks the trust. Don't stay after you know you can't forgive completely. Just be better. A lesson I learned
It really suks when you hurt a person that was honest and good to you. The pain and regret never leaves you.
Who else keeps coming back to check if they are back? WE MISS YOU......
Same
me
HAd to make sure youtube wasnt screwing me on my notifications
@@SunshyneA Did the exact same thing, like fuck me have they been posting the whole time and I haven't gotten any notifications??
I thought youtube fucked up my notification. This often happens when Channels get big. Especially when it's a duo. Sometimes they panic and don't know what to do. Then there's money issues. Splitting the revenue. This might turn into a call her daddy thing.
For anyone who says "ONCE A CHEAT ALWAYS A CHEAT", just think about how counter productive that kind of language is. It is the basis for Cancel Culture which so many of you claim to hate.
Do you not believe in rehabilitation, in growth? Have you never hurt/stolen/hit/lied about/wronged anyone? Does that action mean you will ALWAYS engage in that action? If people can never learn from their mistakes and you believe in that why are you even on this channel? Do you think we make commentary to cast stones at people? Its to discuss realities of our society and for people, INCLUDING US to learn from our bad behaviors and potentially lead better lives. If you wanna believe that "once a cheat, always a cheat" then go ahead but it wont stop me from looking at you like a sad hypocrite because I know we've ALL engaged in shitty behavior. Maybe not cheating, but youve done some bad shit.
WE LOVE YOU MY ETHIOPIAN BROTHER ❤❤❤
and here i thought you was gonna talk about the protest in Ethiopia
Kinda feel like i know much watching this. props on being able admit yo wrongdoings
I truly respect your openness of admit your wrongdoings.
I'm feeling sick too. I'm scared I have covid 😔
At least he feels regret and guilt. I know people like that repress to feel nothing. They just don't care enough.
Because the been wrong to the point of no return it’s 2020 they showing y’all new levels of evil I glad they going beast mode now y’all see how it feels
@@castingemail740 What do you mean?
It's hard to accept that we are the bad guy in the story sometimes. Probably one of the hardest things you have to do in life
But when the world needed them most they disappeared
They're the avatar
Ik right 🤣
where are theyy
*They vanished
@@xionsflame1 because of you I've been melting all the icebergs in the north pole.
“Commitment is not just a word, it is a series of actions” -Aba
Amazing quote
True
I've never cheated, If I am not happy in the relationship I would rather just end it and not see anyone for a while, including sex, and allow myself some time to just collect my thoughts, enjoy my time and space. I've heard too many stories of people who cheated and completely regret it, I cant say I fully understand cheating if I'm being honest and to me it's the equivalent to physically hurting a family member or friend.
Bru you sound just like me I try to understand because I know it is just a mistake sometimes good people make but I just can't imagine doing that to someone never have really highly doubt I ever will
@@daphneduck3294 Fr, I'm glad to hear there are other people who share the same outlook. I had a few opportunities to cheat but I never did because I cared too much for my exgf and never put myself in the situations to do so ( ex. Get girls numbers, hang out with girls alone, go drinking without my ex's ) because I knew that things could escalate and I wasn't about that life, not trying to sound morally upstanding but that's just how I handle it, cut the mess off before it gives you a chance to cheat. Feel me?
@@e.paradigm7415 you do the right thing. I think its important to know that most ppl arent ABOVE cheating on someone important to them, but they do need to take precautions to stay away from circumstances that could lead to it (Eg drinking too much, drug use, getting high)
@@MrEvldreamr that's actually a very important thing, staying away of stuff that aren't naturally part of you like those kind of things and circumstances or stuff that can damage,sick or taint or additions, things like drugs, alcohol, smokes or watching porn or anything that affects your body, your mind, or the way you are or who you want to be
And that it affects in a negative or unhealthy way and that pulls you towards bad stuff or unhealthy decisions
If you are already have values or are a honest person or want to be that kind of stuff affects you in a bad way
And is important to see when that happens and think (is this is the kind of person I want to be? If no then you got to make a stand and permit yourself to grow beyond it and do the rigth thing and be honest not only with others or that person but most importantly yourself
Unless a person is already part of that negative and bad unhealthy stuff and likes or loves it and just is a bad person who do bad stuff to people and that likes that or enjoys or even feel pleasure cause of it, which theres actually people are like that, that exist llike hat in this life that are really bad and messed up people
Cause even those circumstances can't be a excuse for bad behavior or people that really enjoy and takes pleasure in hurting others
Theres so many factors and possibilities and stuff in Life and in existence in this whole everything that it can even be overwhelming for people that overthink to much, and well the important thing is to not permit it to end you, gotta learn to deal with it the best and healthy way you can so you can learn from it, analyze and comunicate with people and help each other grow not only teach but learn form each other to make a better place not only for youself but for everyone and the next generations to.
@@w7y3a2t6t1 ill be the first to admit that ive done BAD things while under the influence and beinv outside of my confort zone. I think the most dangerous mentality i ever had was thinking i was ABOVE doing sth beneath me. Thats a very dangerous thought process to have bc no person is ABOVE any toxic behavior whether its cheating, being an alcoholic, getting obese, committing a crime, hurting the ppl they love or becoming suicidal or depressed...etc
If we understand that were human and are susceptible to making mistakes then we can take precautions NOT to let ourselves sink too far. Oftwn it is the ppl that NEVER THINK it can happen to them that suffer the worst when it does, bc they nvr took the precautions.
I been there bro. 10 years later and I still regret it cause I haven't found better yet. Sometimes we learn our lessons too late.
Cheating is corrosive. I forgave my ex but it was never the same. The trust was gone. My ex did a number on me, but even tho he was a a-hole i blame myself because i stood there. Learned alot about self love and not putting up with other peoples insecurities pr allowing my own to keep me around only to be mistreated.
This would not happen if you dated in your league. You want a guy that you see other women lusting for all the time but you don't want him to cheat on you, because you find good men "boring". You want the cake and eat it too.
Thoughts for 1000 I’m an okay man
I got cheated on once. But once was enough. I gave the chick everything. I gave her a place to lay her head, took care of the bills and showed her love and she cheated on me. After that day I got jaded. I turned cold. Till this very day I'm still recovering 7 years later. Being cheated on is tough. People underestimate it. Crazy because I would rather get hit by a car then get cheated on.
Amen!! Sending you love x
Mario Bros please take several seats, thank you and goodbye 👋
I feel like he's secretly hoping that she's watching
Still deeply thinking about her till this day for him to now make a video to what happened 10 years ago.
@@ccirish4519 how u know
@@Off_tomuch some people still check up on exes one and two times for no idea
Maybe he is. I ain't mad at it.
After I deleted my fb/instagram a year or so ago, I had 2 exes that i'm on good terms with text me a while after asking me if I blocked them. It's very possible (and likely), though not a guarantee that she is watching. Plus, Aba and Preach have been on the trending and recommended feeds a lot more over the last few months. Someone that's friends with his ex has found this video and already told her to watch it.
Doing things that I swore I’d never do is what made me more forgiving of others.
Same cause when you need someone to extend grace to you ...and you realize you'd never give it to them is a reality check
That’s true character development! Be proud of yourself because most people will never realize this fundamental concept or ever achieve it to give grace to others! Blessings and health be upon you!
as someone who has only ever been on the receiving end of cheating, it truly sucks and hurts in ways that fuck up self esteem and just every aspect of ur life. I get it tho. This perspective is refreshing. the accountability and the reasoning are refreshing and will seriously help someone who has just been cheated on
“We met randomly when she saw me dancing” subtle flex
Mmmmmhmmmm 😂
not so subtle...
lollll 😂😂😂
he had the moves quite literally
Yooo I saw this comment as he was saying it
"people can learn, people can be better" Yes, grandma agrees.
Not in today’s society. The insane left is hell bent on canceling everything in sight. Nobody is allowed to improve. Everyone remains the same once they make a mistake or say something stupid. The left are the arbiters of what is right and wrong.
@@TheReapersSon you dont need to make everything about politics
TheReapersSon The redemptions of a soul don’t have nothing to do with politics.
@@Iron-Soul Politics does become an issue when it goes far enough that it finds its way into everything. Nowadays id say it definitely is finding it's way into everything as far as the radical left goes. And when I say radical, I mean radical, not left leaning.
@@amitav5908 THANK YOU! I'm so over it too
There’s nothing like the pain & regret of knowing that it was YOU who ruined a good thing🥲
Vulnerable, open, honest declaration of your past mistakes, deep. Rare for a dude, but neccesary for growth.
Well put.
Rare for humand in general, this is not gender related. Most people don't want to take accountability
They went Avatar on us.
If my children's children find them frozen in ice/the videos from a weird reboot of the old worlds internet gaining access to YT I'd be so happy because they could help battle all the injustice with wisdom and logic.
Aba does kinda sound like APA. lol
😂
Numb what
Yeah, where did they go? I've been waiting for an upload every singly day 😭
Captain Price Aba got sick, probably the rona....
It’s been a min since you guys posted. I miss you guys. Hope you’re both doing well and you’re in my prayers
Did something happen?
yah man they broke up. this video is about him cheating preach
@@evangilmore3964 wait fr?
Seriously I was thinking the same I hope you guys are in a good place and are healthy. Take care of yourselves and your family we’ll be here when you get back ✌🏾🙏🏾
pb lol he’s joking
I cheated on a girl I was with after three years of being together. We were high school sweet hearts and she was a year ahead of me so she graduated and went away to go to school at Harvard. We did long distance for two years after being together for one and we would see each other whenever one of us had breaks and it was at this time in my life that summer became my favorite time of the year because I knew I would be able see her everyday and sort of make up for the time we were away from one another. I played division 1 college football and one night I was with people I thought were my friends at the time and ended up hooking up with this girl. Eventually she found out the truth and she cut me off. Eventually we would reconnect and get back together for a short time and then break up again due to trust and insecurity issues shared between the both of us. Not only did my mistake cause her to have trauma, but it led me causing trauma to myself as well. I still feel as though I haven’t forgiven myself for dumb mistakes I’ve made, maybe it’s because I’m still young. I still love this girl till this day and wish that I could just talk to her again without causing her pain and trauma to come back. I think that’s the worst part of it all, is that I have to live with the fact that I was the villain and that i inflicted that much pain on somebody I love more than anybody else in my life.
Can I ask what made you want to cheat?
At least you are able to reflect on yourself, see your mistakes and admit you were wrong.
This proves you are a better person today than you were back then. I hope you can learn to forgive yourself for your actions one day.
Respect for the honesty. Would totally understand tho if she never wanted to see you again. Learn from your mistakes, life's ahead of you.
Sounds like you really messed up and lost an extremely smart woman. That's a big step that you are able to admit that you were wrong to her. And I hope that she can forgive, because I've been cheated on, and I know it makes you feel worthless for a very long time. It's hard to forgive and forget. It took me a year after it happened to really feel confident again, and start dating.
Oh wow. Focus on getting therapy and dealing with what led you to cheat in the first place. If it's meant to be, it will be. However, she deserves to be happy with someone she won't feel insecure with. I wish you the best.
Thank you for your transparency here. As a woman who has been cheated on, the feelings of not being “enough” is something I grapple with every day.
If your personality matches you it face than yea you’re good enough lol
Am i the only one thats worried that they haven't uploaded in 3 weeks.
Edit: I guess not
YOO FR😭 i came here just to see if anyone is worried aswell
@@awsomeabe1 I'm starting wonder if they had an argument or something lmao
@@xyzmediaandentertainment8313 That's basically what all commentators do. And he made a video dedicated to owning up to his cheating past. I don't agree with everything they say, but you don't have to watch his videos if you don't like them, you're only giving them more views.
did they got mee too wtf 3 weeks no notice
@@xyzmediaandentertainment8313 I watch a lot of commentators on youtube, I've perhaps seen them all and their entire content is based judging others for views. And theres nothing wrong with that, we are all judgemental at times, they just take the oppurtunity of social media to make money of it. And Aba and Preach have made a lot of videos defending people. I actually think they're funny at times, what's funny to you may not be funny to someone else and vise versa because comedy is subjective. It's cool if you don't like them , but I wouldn't go as far to say they're bullies, maybe you just have different oppinions to them.
Ive cheated on my dog once .. i said “ good boy “ to some other dog on the street didn’t even know him/her name i feel ashamed
But all dogs are good bois...
*shocked pikachu face* you did not...
😂😂😂
How do you sleep at night?
I’ve also fucked another dog once...
or twice
Edit: three times
Cheaters are scum, and I don't think I could ever date someone who cheated on a past partner unless they could some how prove themselves. But you prove that people who cheat can change. 99% of people would never open up to anyone and admit how they cheated on a great partner and how they were the villain. Especially online for the whole world to see. That takes guts, strong character, and a will to improve yourself. Mad respect to you man.
This is cancel culture. Your belief that someone can’t change will prove detrimental to society. Sometimes it’s best to believe in the good of people
Cheaters are scum
No, that's a stretch callin cheaters scoms, unless they do it again and again
@@NativeTanSkin Sounds like something a cheater would say. Though they can definitely move on to be better people in the future. But being a cheater in the moment, is being a scum bag.
@@LogainTheHumane No, it's not what a cheater would say, and no, just cause you done it once don't make you one.... I can see you're not only ignorant but judgemental
i’m someone who’s been out of a relationship for the past year or so now. he was my first love. he was someone that also cheated on me. i held a lot of resentment in my heart because of it for a very long time (I chose to stay after finding out) but the things you speak about in this video are things I wish i heard from my ex. it took time to understand why someone would do such a thing. it took time for me to realize that i’m not below average or falling short of any margins. thank you for sharing your experiences
Fascinating and fantastically executed! Enjoyed this perspective and insight thanks for bringing us in ✌🏽
@@samlsd9711 wow don't you sound bitter
Stay out of people's business
I was waiting for your comment while watching the video lol, yours and another famous CZcamsr.
@Pain you seem angry though? 😂🤣😆😂🤣😆😂🤣😆😂🤣😆😂🤣😆
@@xxBlueCinnamonxx About what? 😂🤣 for asking ?
Oh boy! He cheated on Preach with another CZcams commentator lol
😂 😂 😂 💔
LMFAO 😂
*Andrew Schulz and Akaash Singh have left the chat*
PREACH IS MORE THAN ENOUGH MAN FOR HIM 😂😂
Lmao 😂😂
This was authentic. I appreciate you sharing this story. I was with a girl for 3 years and just like you she went through my macbook and saw the texts from other women. I took accountability for it and she simply left me. I didn’t blame her or anything but when you see how bad you hurt someone else it really does eat you up inside everyday because you know that you will never get that chance again. Just like you, it’s not that I wanted to hurt her but it’s the ego you have when your young and able to get that attraction from other women. It takes every ounce in my body not to reach out to my ex but I know I shouldn’t because I did wrong and she will never want to speak to me again. I faced a series of depressed stages in my life due to me taking accountability and letting it eat me up inside. I was a really bad alcoholic and ruined family relationships due to the fact that I can’t forgive myself. Now, I am ready to settle down and live that kind of life with one woman. Today, that pain still hurts but I have grown so much from it. Just like you said, cheating doesn’t happen because you want it to but there are other factors that come into it. Still no excuse on my part but I’m glad you shared this. Thank you. I need to hear this.
At least you took accountability. I found messages between my ex and another woman, telling her we weren't together and trying to get her to meet up with him...he blamed it on me and took no responsibility for any of it.
aba: *cheats on girl*
the girl: *crying in the cafe with her friend*
Aba: 🚶🏿♂️...👀 .....😀🤚....🚶🏿♂️
Aba: 🚶🏻♀️🚶🏼♀️🚶🏽♂️🚶🏽♀️🚶🏾♀️🚶🏿♀️... 👀 ....😃👋🏽 ... 🚶🏻♀️🚶🏿♀️🚶🏽♂️🚶🏾♀️🚶🏽♀️🚶🏼♀️
🐕🔪🔥🍖👍
....I don't get it.....
@@rememberme3762 you eat dogs? 👀
I don’t think this is funny to him
A lot of young men lose the woman/love of their lives having met her too early and acting foolishly.
That’s true. I’m one of em, but it made me stronger
this
met mine in 4th grade but i acted too immaturely over one thing and fucked myself over with regret
That’s bullshit.... she probably wouldn’t be the same forever. You’ll never know if you lost the girl of your life or the man... lol
MrTchupam you sound young.
“Commitment is a series of actions” so true. I think if more people embraced this idea we’d be better off.
Tf does this even mean Just some half assed idea to make you feel good
@@wiredgamez9929 It means that actions speak louder than words
Explain the "we" and what you mean by "better off" because it does make it sound half-thought-out
And comsent is a series of regrets. Never used until you didn't give it. Whenever that was.
@@wiredgamez9929 That's what Abba said .. you know that right?
This is processing guilt into something healthy. Hats off.
I feel like it's still a huge blow to your self esteem and mind when a cheating partner essentially says "its not you, its me" because its as if they knowingly dragged you into something they just didn't care how it would affect you. I had my husband tell me this and said he needs help and knows his actions were wrong but as for me I'm was just like ok, yes it may not have had anything to do with me but now it does because the damage is done that's not a uno reverse card for poor actions and judgment in a relationship in my eyes if someone wants to act single that's cool but then don't get into a relationship or marriage, idk seems obvious to me but hey what do I know?
I know this is a year old comment but Imma say this anyway. before I continue I'm not talking about serial cheaters because I don't have that experience.
As a person who has cheated I can say the intension isn't to cheat when got in the relationship. What happens is internally at some point you get this itch of wanting something outside of your relationship. Their are many reasons and they usually have very little to do with their partner. In my situation it was simply a case of when I started the relationship I wasn't desired by may and as I got older that desirability just grew and more opportunities were put in front of me which made me want to experience more with other people. Any way to get back on track, the conflict is that your having these feelings but you also really love this person and because of that you don't break it off in fact initially you don't even act on this feeling, if anything you reject it. but just like someone who holds their anger in at some point you break. Unfortunately this breaking point happens faster than you'd expect and the build up is so big that the consequences get over shadowed in that moment.
now I'm not saying all of this to justify someone's actions but to sort of get an understanding on the "it's not you it's me".
Had a 7+ year relationship end the beginning of this year. People still thought we were together in May and were asking me where she'd been. It ended with her basically being bitter and cheating on me because I emotionally cheated on her during our first 6 months together. It was a relationship that was built on a lack of trust, and her previous relationships were physically abusive. She'd abuse me here and there and we'd fight and argue. "Sugar and shit" is how it went. Either things were the best...or I wanted to fucking die. She almost never let me live the guilt of cheating on her down. In the end, I can't bare seeing her even though she wanted to stay friends bc I know that she wouldn't have treated me the way she did all of those years if I was doing right in the beginning. The truth is ugly. Sometimes we have to admit that we suck and should be better people. I still kinda suck though. The nostalgia of the good times with her makes the bottle and the extension cord look so fucking appealing. Gotta keep going though. Sometimes you gotta live for more than yourself. 🤷🏾♂️
If you finished reading this, then take care of yourself.
Edit: Didn't expect this much of a response. Thanks to everyone who gave uplifting words of encouragement. To clarify, early in the relationship I was a DJ and she kept accusing me of fucking around. Like an idiot, I confided my frustration about it to a female friend, and eventually we wound up flirting and talking about fucking around. We never did. My dumbass didn't delete the messages after we stopped, and she found them after snooping on my phone on NYE. Yeah, 2013 was rough bc of that. Almost died, but life said, "nah, nigga". My mother, muay thai, stand up, and my dog make things seem worth pushing on. Most people have no idea that my brawny ass tried to check out. Be good to each other or at least try to engage with less negative bullshit. I wanted to say "Fuck 2020", but at the year goes on, I'm realizing more that we all needed these growing pains. Things fall apart when shit isn't being addressed. I needed this to grow. I'm still hurting every...fucking...day, but pain is only a lesson if you don't let it handicap you. Stay safe. Wear a fucking mask. Social distance dat ass.
✊Keep fighting forward, brother
You will be fine
Must hurt, but it will be something your going to have to go through mentally to arrive at a better end result.
Oh I wish you the best for the future!
keep on moving forward! Hopefully things will get much better for you, praying for you!
A good person admits when they are wrong and tries to become better.
Yeah it's only valid when it's done willingly and premeditatedly. Unlike those sexual predators on twitter who gets exposed and suddenly 'admits' it and tries to 'become a better person' . It's an important nuance.
Not MiniLadd tho...not him
... on their CZcams channel for profit.
You idiot
When you're wrong, you're wrong.
Just admit it and learn from it. Everyone needs introspect and lord knows so many people need that.
Lachs geräuchert Do you not believe that people can change?
as a 19 year old who did the exact same thing for the first time about a year ago, these stories mean everything to me. I think that fuckup was the single most character building failure of my entire life. I quickly realized how much I loved the woman I hurt, and I still love her intensely to this day although I understand I can never go back. that period of time taught me what real love is, because I lost it before I found out what it was
I made a similar mistake when I was 16, and with my first real girlfriend. Before puberty hit girls always ignored me because I was unattractive and nerdy and shit. I had a glow up sophomore year, and started dating this girl who was beyond perfect, like and actual 10/10 in every way. I got fucked up at party and ended up hooking up with some girl that was in college for I think similar reasons that you did. It was hubris. She eventually found out and I lost her. I hated myself for a long time because of what I did, and I think I’ll always look back with deep regret and sadness.
Me 1 month ago: “WOW, Aba & preach has been the best quarantine YT channel find of ALL time.”
Me now: “come back dads 🥺”
Yooo! That's one of the best ways to describe them. Fatherly. Man you're making me miss them more.
Not on a fatherly level for me, more one of my guys
I thought “YT” stood for “white” lmao. I go on twitter too much.
@@ryanw459 I just choked on my water 💀💀
@@hoopla2671 how old are you guys?
"Admiration is the furthest emotion from understanding"
Said by Aizen Sousuke
Never thought I hear a quote from bleach.
The anime returns next year, and this comment makes me happy.
Love the anime and many of the quotes are timeless including this one.
❤️
Do you know how many great quotes Bleach have. Do you know how long they stand there and talk before a 40sec fight 😂
The amount of honesty....that’s rare in a man. At some points I could actually feel how uncomfortable/difficult/hurtful it was to share that experience. Thank you
That's rare in general, not just for men.
Fuck off with the sexism. There’s plenty of dishonest and honest people to go around in both sexes
@@steggyweggy yeah bro
More rare in woman
That sexism is ugly. You should work on yourself
Damn my guy out here pulling 27 year olds at 19 jheeez
He 19??? He looks 27 lool
@@shooklizard9039 when he was 19 lol
@@shooklizard9039 he's actually 26 good guess
@@shooklizard9039 believe it or not preach is 38
@@dma968 he’s aba
Honestly, intimate relationships are scary. You put yourself on the line trying to experience a great love, also leaving yourself open to great pain. Society does us all a disservice by treating romance so cavalierly. Movies, music, etc focus so much on butterflies and puppy love people really don’t understand the gravity of what they’re getting into. They just know they want a partner because other people have partners and being single is vilified. But singleness is an equal and alternative way of life. No more, no less. It took me far too long to come to that realization on my own. People will rarely tell you that truth.
So, I just want to say if you’re not really ready to take someone else’s life and heart into your hands, the RESPONSIBILITY of a relationship...please be content with singleness. Too many people are hurt in this world because of the lack of responsibility of others they’ve brought close.
I can agree with this. Though I’m only 19 so I’m really “young” compared to many, but I’ve never dated and I’m not really... looking for anybody. I somewhat don’t even WANT a relationship because it just seems like nothing more than stress with little payoff on my part. As a girl I’m expected to have sex whenever he wants no complaints, and also be a virgin coming into the relationship and be able to cook and blahblah list goes on. I don’t want that lifestyle.
I don’t want to be expected to go on dates a certain amount of times a month, text a certain amount, fuck a certain amount. I don’t want quotas and I don’t want that stress. So I’ll stay alone and live for myself, and I’m having fun like this. Maybe someday I’ll start hating myself and marry a man to become what ultimately amounts to his personal sex slave or something, but until then, I’m chilling at home and I’m having fun.
I’d rather do this than date and get cheated on, then be seen as a worthless whore because I’m no longer “pure” after that relationship. But what do I know, I’m still barely an adult, so I’ll change a lot in these coming years.
Having the time to discover what you want is vital, a relationship with someone else shouldn’t take from time to yourself. Life goes on when you arent together so what are you doing to better yourself?
Wonderfully said. At the moment I'm content with my singleness because I'm not willing to sacrifice my time and energy to someone else. I'm too selfish with my time and dating someone would only result in me using them for my needs. I can't substantiate anything of value to someone so I would only be taking in the relationship, never giving.
Once you get to a point of maturity where you can communicate who you are to a potential partner who is aiming to be just as ambitious as you, dont give up but use this time to rebuild and find purpose and who knows you may find someone you can grow with, thats our nature to grow
Well said.
It takes a big man to admit his mistakes, and a wise man to learn from them. I think you're both Aba, keep strong.
The wise ones don't do it in the first place.
@@wiredgamez9929 you sound like a child
beefortebrea damn you can can hear My voice all the way from there good Ears 👂Dumbo
Elrog3 Nobody's born wise
stargirl But everyone knows what is right and wrong. No need to be wise there, just human.
I literally did the same thing for the exact same reason. Years of being or feeling unattractive and finally coming into your own as a young man is really hard to navigate because you may be with someone but also its like when you finally get that first woman interested its like it takes that for the rest to deem you acceptable to be with, so THEN they start coming in force and its honestly kinda jarring when you arent used to it. In your youth its really hard to turn that stuff down even when the relationship is good cause youll still be like "well how i know i wanna be with her forever" like that gives you carte blanche to do something out of character. Props to you for expressing your story and holding yourself accountable.
I've never heard someone talk so respectfully and honestly. I know what it's like to be cheated on and hearing someone be responsible and take ownership in admitting they did something hurtful to someone, really makes me feel better and confident that not everyone is a lost case (datingwise).
Aba this was perfect timing for me, today i lied to my girlfriend, a small one. But still a lie, and i can tell she was hurt. I saw this video and i was like wow, i need to accept that i have done wrong and do better because of it. So thank you for your words.
Beautiful
Do the right thing because it's the right thing to do 👍
Don’t tell the truth Jacob, double down.
simp
@@1989Defiance yeah
this made me cry. i feel like a pussy. cheating is very painful, definitely makes you feel like something is wrong with you. i've never understood why people got into relationships if they knew they weren't able to commit. i appreciate this message, because i didn't get a sorry for the pain i was caused by a particular individual who really hurt me and cheated on me excessively. he would always try to come back, but no i wouldn't dare! not after everything he put me through; but i allowed conversation which i feel made him think everything was okay. but it wasn't, he hurt me the most and he never acknowledged it. got into another relationship and was cheated on again, i left it quick this time though (i learn from my mistakes). he apologized though, he really apologized and said he regretted it and then some, didn't expect it at all and it definitely provided solace i didn't know at the time i needed. made me feel like it wasn't me... cause it really wasn't, i'm not perfect but i always give my all in a relationship so when someone cheats it really makes you feel like you aren't enough. kudos to you for being grown enough to admit your wrong doings.
Crying/emotions aren’t pussy btw but that last sentence ‼️💯
not your fault
Cause people like that want to have the cake and eat it too
It’s Not About YOU Though.
Could be worse you could be me.. got cheated on on my birthday but that wasn't low enough for her a mear 24 days later she lied about getting raped. No apology no nothing
Dude, I have the same story, only time I ever hurt someone and it was someone who I loved who didn’t deserve it. It’s my burden to bear, and will bug me forever for whatever damage I may have done. And like you, I resolved to just do better, but it still feels like a total fail that I was such an ass…
Thanks for sharing this. I had a similar experience last year and one of things that will always haunt me is how I hurt this person. One of the hardest things to do is forgive yourself. I don’t know that I ever will but I have made my apologies and given them space to heal. This was an L that I will hold forever. I remember being around terrible influences and I regret allowing them into my head. Ultimately, as the villain it’s best to acknowledge the mistake, learn from it, and go back to being the hero that you can be.
Love your show. Peace and love from bk.
Women who go no contact and move on after being mistreated like this give off pure queen energy. People do make mistakes, and I'm glad to see growth and acknowledgment. Everyone is a villain in someone else's story at some point.
I wish more would understand this. I did it all the time with literally no regrets. Any person from the past. Needs to stay there
@@wiredgamez9929 agree
Nah, she did the right thing. If someone fails you, you have to move on and let that other person develop their character on their own.
So you saying I have king 🤴 energy
@@wiredgamez9929 Honestly. That's the type of shit that a girl with takis and a Starbucks drink would say.
Aba wasn’t cheating he had an entanglement
man, still waiting for them to make a video on that will smith video lmao
DEAD!!!!💀💀
Entanglement with August 🔥
Yo he just had a jada situation she should have understood like Will 😭... jk I feel like he need to forgive himself.
Lol
I got divorced after 20 yrs. He came to the realization of the pain and destruction he caused only after the divorce. I moved through with the divorce quickly once I realized he went completely in reverse and we weren't walking on the same path anymore. These things are complex. I definitely could have gone about certain things differently but I knew our foundation was shattered when I saw his level of indifference. A lot of times it's not the offense but how you move forward through things. Thanks for being vulnerable. It helped confirm that he feels some sort of remorse. I moved on though not waiting for it and living a much happier single life for the time being.
Did you have kids
I can imagine your gong gong smile and you waving😭how it seemed to her
The just the other day I was thinking “what is the worst thing I’ve ever done in my life?” I wrote down on my phone. My best friend in the whole world who I loved like family died when I was in highschool. We always tend to romanticize people after they die, but I can honestly say he was probably the one the best if not the best person that I knew. I don’t know why he was my friend in retrospect because I was a shit kid and friend. I was one of those insecure people who really wanted to look tough so I was jealous of his security and self assurance. Just a lot of things I was jealous of. Anyways there was one time we were arguing and I can remember about what and he just turned his back and walked away from me. I have no idea why I did this but I was so mad that I grabbed a rock and threw it at the back of his head. Idk how the fuck he did this or how he knew but he turned around in time and slapped the rock out of the air before it hit him, it was seriously like some kind of matrix shit. but still hurt him enough to make him cry. Looking back I realize just how dangerous that was and that I could have seriously hurt him. Now I won’t say it was all bad, we had tons of good times and loved the shit out of each other. But that moment will always be the capstone on how I let my insecurity influence me to hurt the person I honestly loved the most at the time and how I could have been a much better friend than I was. I will never get the opportunity to be better to him.
Reminds me of the story of David and Saul
mayne! 💙
Thanks for sharing man💯
Palmarah which ep of better call Saul was that?
Brother, I know that feel. I'm sorry.
-- "I'm just not happy" is a great way to break up with a perfectly fine partner. You can't help how you feel, and neither can they, so it's the closest thing to making a clean break.
-- All we can do is try our best to ensure that the worst thing we'll ever do in life is already behind us. Conscious change is the most admirable thing because anyone can do it and yet it’s so rarely done. Props for encouraging it.
I can really relate to this. This sounds exactly like what i have been through and how i have felt. I have experienced everything u have said in this video, and i realize that even if you say sorry u cant force them to be friends with you now. Have to really give them their distance because u did them wrong and you have to accept that you made that mistake. It is hard to accept that this good person will no longer view you the same ever again.
I'm glad that you said, "I messed up, I did her wrong, I wish I hadn't". Now days we always blame each other and don't realize that we had a part in the demise of our relationships. Thanks for the story.
I'm not saying it's like this for everyone, but the worst part of having been cheated on was seeing him regret it so much and still knowing it can never be good again. Because that was when I knew I had to break all ties to him if I wanted to move on, and so I lost a boyfriend and a best friend. Such a waste.
Thank you anyways for this. I can't look inside his head, but I feel like if he was able to express himself a little better, this is something he would've said. Sure hope so.
Weird how I can forgive my ex a little more because of some random dude on youtube :D
Hope we aren’t stupidly overreacting since you didn’t post in a minute, but ya hope y’all are okay
Edit 8/16 some normalcy returns lol might be time for them to hire an editor
They are trolling us
Jere Juntunen could be true
@@georgeshibley9529 its true if you put newest comments and scroll down you can see or check aba and preach reddit
Jere Juntunen oh for real? I hadn’t looked that deep into tbh
I think they’re just taking a break. They’ve been uploading nonstop since the lockdown
One of the hardest things for people to do is to realise when they are the villain of their story, some people would prefer to delude it or blame someone else, doing something bad is one thing but to never take blame or responsibility is another, i was cheated on and i was blamed for it, however ive also been the villain, there was someone who liked me, even had a crush on me, they were quite clingy but even still i treated them like shit and at first told myself they deserved it, i was very wrong, they were nice person to me just were a bit clingy and i could went about it very differently, funny enough years later we are best friends after he helped me get through the break up 🤣
I watched this at least 12 times today. I really needed to witness this amount of accountability for me to be brave enough to admit my own faults.
That'a good man, God bless.
So anonymous confession here: I'm talking to a girl for about 7 months now since we met but I honestly mean it when I say that everything feels so different with her... Like you said Aba, she and I feel like we can tell each other things that in previous relationships were harder for other people to converse with us because they blocked it out or simply because they weren't compatible with us truly.. But this girl is completely present when we talk, we have our differences of course but she's attentive and treats me with respect- and I do to her. Yesterday, I almost got to the point where I cheated ( We are in a long distance situation, not that it makes anything better) but I almost cheated even though she has told me before that she doesn't want me to feel deprived- yet it never sat well with me... Hearing this story today makes me feel that I did the right thing by not pursuing that carnal desire with someone else to replace what I want with her. I just wanted to share this here with anyone that might be in a similar situation- with the lockdown keeping us all from our loved ones, and I do love this girl- I honestly don't know what I would have done if I made that decision yesterday..
Altairego good on you!
I'm in a very long distance relationship rn (shes in Sweden, and I'm in america). And me and her have decided to be exclusive, but luckily I dont bond easily to other people on a romantic level lol. So, great job on jor doing that bro. I don't think I will though (but will keep this in mind to keep me from if it does come to that)
Sounds like you really do love her. Cherish her my dude
@Pariah Thank you for the insightful response, I have been feeling that way towards it too- when she first mentioned it to me I was also a little suspicious and we spoke about it, she told me that before the time that she had developed her feelings for me she was with someone else before (I knew about this person from before because we actually went on a date together and she told me about this guy, yet she was in two minds about whether she wanted to stay with him and didn't really know me well enough at the time) then she explained to me that she understands that I will have urges and although she doesn't want to act on hers because she isn't the type to sleep with someone else when she's thinking of another person, neither am I. Of course anyone reading this can say that I'm being lied to, "Played out" or taken for a fool and I should be suspicious of everything, maybe so- but my gut feeling tells me that she is being genuine. The same gut feeling told me to steer clear from a narcissistic ex girlfriend of mine and I didn't listen then, I'm listening now and like my gut told me yesterday- don't do it, it isn't worth it.
Wow good job 👏
"Then you shall judge yourself," the king answered. "that is the most difficult thing of all. It is much more difficult to judge oneself than to judge others. If you succeed in judging yourself rightly, then you are indeed a man of true wisdom." - The little prince
Is this from a book?
@@xdavier31 Yep, The little prince
@@noriyyo5908 Such an amazing book too.
Words 👌👌
Honest video. Youthfulness is full of fearlessness, foolishness, insecurity, ignorance and vigor. Being older is full of wisdom, regrets, resolve, strength and knowledge. We need both experiences to make us balanced human beings.
I sooooooo resonate with this. I hurt ppl I was in past relationships with and I regret that every day. I too have apologized to both men but now I’m in a different place in my life and I cringe at me in my 20s
I like Aba a lot. This made me like him more. He admitted exactly what he did and didn't try to blame anyone else. That is exactly what a real apology is. This is what everyone should be able to do. Self examination and change.
Dear CZcams,
Please send a task force to Aba & Preach's house to make sure they're okay.
Sincerely,
Their devoted fans. ❤
Eww you call yourself a fan.
@@headmaster6261 fanboy* sorry
I wonder what happened! They got me thought the last 2 months yo I miss them
@Wavybone Andretti whoever smelt it dealt it Lmao!
Aba has a couple of upload on his personal channel in the last couple of weeks since this upload.
I appreciate your honest reflection. I’ve always considered myself largely incapable of cheating, for various reasons, although I’ve still been very careful and anxious about anything that could lead that way. This helped me understand a bit more why/how someone could come to be in that situation.
Personally...I haven’t cheated that doesn’t mean I haven’t done any mistakes because I know I have and I’m just trying to grow and learn from them. This is really helpful! I’m glad you shared this I know it wasn’t easy. I personally like this type of videos because you can also learn from them.
As someone who has done wrong to partners in past relationships, I can attest to what Aba said. Don't make your partner go through hurtful and traumatic experiences. Today, even though I know that my exes are doing fine, and I feel happy for them, I still get hit by waves of guilt and anxiety every once in awhile.
David Chiocchetta de Souza yeah it stains you badly.
Do you disclose to your future partners that you have cheated? Does it get brought up in conversations? Do they see you differently?
That's why I avoid relationships at the moment. I'd only be taking and not giving anything in return. I'm too selfish with my time that I don't even bother looking.
Good.
It's good to feel regret, but you have to realize that no matter what you cant change what you've done, and you shouldn't fret over it, because you cant change it. Yes apologize, but after that.... there's really nothing you can do tbh.
when i was in high school there was this girl i bullied with a few others. i started bullying her because i was being bullied by this really big guy that no one could mess with in my school.
when i turned 18 i realised what i had done to her and messaged her on fb to apologize for what i had done. it was also after watching '13 reasons why' that what i had done hit me extremely hard, i could have been responsible for her death if she decided to commit suicide and thinking about it now stills makes me cry, because i never wanted anything like that when we were in school.
she said she doesn't hold it against me which i hope is true but i wouldn't blame her if she did.
she ended up going to oxford uni and started her own business as well.
this was 9-10 years ago now, and since then i always try my hardest to never bully someone or judge their appearance of how they were born.
it takes a lot of soul searching to say "i fucked up" and it will never go away but all you can do is learn from it. and try not to repeat the mistakes of the past.
Good on you for taking something positive away from this
we're proud
Good job!
Definitely + respect for owning your mistakes and trying to make amends
Na your a piece of shit for that man. You don't take shit out on others
I love how you're very transparent and honest with this. This video has taught me a lot.
I had a man force sex upon me many times and I didn’t see at the time I was being sexually assaulted. When someone says no just leave them alone don’t keep asking and touching them, 😕. I finally worked up the courage and broke up with him, I wanted to wait until marriage and he took that away from me, he raped my one wish away from me, but Jesus Christ is forgiving and so is our father god. I know Jesus doesn’t condemn me for what my ex did. I know god forgives me and it’s never too late to wait until marriage. I hope she can heal from the trauma, and I hope you can heal and find strength in becoming a better man, I don’t know you personally so I can’t say if you have grown but that’s up to you and your next partner to decide. The courage it has taken you to come and show your face on camera and admit your sins and the wrong you have done takes a lot. I pray for forgiveness for you and for you to heal. We all make mistakes as being human and borned sinners.
I am terribly sorry to hear this happened to you. You are not at fault for any sin. This doesn’t ruin your purity in any way. Even if it did, Jesus sought out sinners most of all.
Side note: I am an atheist but I used to be a Christian. I just wanted to make sure that you should in no way feel spoiled or guilty for any of that even in your own belief system.
@@steggyweggy thank you, I’m dealing better with god and Jesus in my life, and I know they know I’m hurting from that experience for I have cried many nights. If anything they would feel upset towards my ex for he is an unholy man who is a wolf in sheep’s clothing who has severe perversion and makes women into objects, and god believes woman should be cherished but protected, not harmed.
@@hiwelcometochilis7033 no problem. I’m glad you are doing better, I wish you the best
@@steggyweggy thank you 🙂, and Ik you said you’re now an atheist but, god bless you and I hope you’re doing good and that many doors will open for you in life
@@hiwelcometochilis7033 thank you
I was cheated on once. That was the last time I dated. I really does traumatise and a lot of people who decide to cheat don't understand that or care to think that far. Remember folks, it's always more noble to walk away from who you are with to get the other person you want than to cheat. Cheating is selfish and selfishness has potential to traumatise. Date safely.
My ex did both. Cheat and leave for the same girl. You can’t win dude.
That's sad but people who wants to cheat shouldn't date someone
@Zombie if your partner is trustworthy, you can continue with him... you have trauma and that's normal but try to trust him
They did you a favor
Sam yes focus on your self !! It’s important love your self. Be confident because I promise it’s important.
As someone who was recently cheated on, this was a difficult watch, but cathartic at the same time. Hearing you take full accountability and genuinely own what you did was refreshing. It's been 5 months since I found out my husband was cheating, and about two months since he finally cut off all contact and really started owning the decision he made.
I've had a really hard time working through it. My trust in him has been shattered, and in trying to pick up the pieces I've had to really take a hard look at the parts of me reflected in those pieces. He cheated because I've been neglectful. There are many reasons for that. My mental health has been on a decline for the last few years, our relationship has been rocky and unstable and at times very toxic, and in the last year, I lost my father. I closed off to him because I've been grappling with a lot of my own issues, but I closed off nonetheless. Sometimes when you're hurting, it's hard to see how badly you've been hurting others, even if they're a source of your own pain. The things that have happened in our marriage may have caused me to feel one way or another, but at the end of the day I stayed, and instead of putting in work to fix things, I shut down. I don't know what is going to happen in the future of my marriage, and I'm not even sure what I want to happen at this point. I guess I just had a lot to get off my chest. If I can impart any advice on others going through the same thing, it would be this: it is NEVER your fault if your partner cheats. Your actions might influence them one or the other, but at the end of the day, regardless of the type of partner you are, it was a decision they made on their own. That being said, if you're going to try to work things out, you need to really be willing to look back on the behavior and the history that brought you to this point. It might be ugly, and it might hurt like hell. Maybe you'll look back and see you really did do absolutely everything you could. Hell, I was doing everything I could despite what I was dealing with, it just happened to not be enough of what my husband needed. Either way, the only way to move forward is to look at the infidelity from both ends. It's the only way to get a clear picture that isn't clouded by anger or judgement. Thank you for this video Aba. Much love to you and to everyone else here. ♥️
Your probably not going to see thus but marriage is a really good thing and I hope your husband owns up to the mistake and I hope you both work through it.it might take a long time to forgive but during this times remember all the positive moments you guys had.and if you want to divorce that’s okay too
Monique thanks for sharing. What you decide to do moving forward is a choice you can only make alone. However, your story somewhat reflects one I had a few years back, so I thought I'd share. I was with a woman for 4 years, and at the beginning I was a strong, confident, and competent young man. Though there is no doubt that by the end I had let a few life events get the better of me; psychologically I was no longer the partner that she needed. I had become neglectful because of my own depression. This is not to excuse her for wanting to try and find something else that could fulfil her needs, but to remind ourselves that we always have a duty to try to uphold our side of the relationship, regardless of the shit we are going through. Everybody is allowed to grieve for losing loved ones, everybody is allowed to feel down for developing an illness and having a family member commit suicide (as happened to me), but eventually we have to pick ourselves up to a point where we can be a partner again, with everything that entails. I didn't do that quickly enough.
The way I see it: relationships are agreements, whether married or not, and if you continue to not uphold your side of the agreement for long enough, the other parter's empathy and patience will, rightly or wrongly, often run out. With regards to my ex girl, she then broke the other part of the agreement - that of fidelity. Instead, she should've told me that she could no longer be with me, as the relationship wasn't working for her. I would've respected her for that, even if I was heartbroken.
Last point: we kinda stayed together for a month or so afterwards as I was in such a bad place, and didn't know what to do. With my confidence on the floor, being alone was an equally terrifying prospect. Though I quickly realised it was over; I had to go. From MY experience, once somebody cheats, the bond is irrevocably broken, the trust cannot fully be rebuilt, and that teenage dream cannot be relived. I thank God for giving me the chance to be in love, but I also thank Him for giving me the understanding that it was time to leave.
Peace and love.
Sounds like you’ve got a really good grasp of where your responsibility in your relationship starts and ends. I’ve seen a number of friends who don’t own up enough to their own faults or blame themselves wayyyy too much for a failed relationship that’s turned sour. You can’t really expect anything from those without a conscience, but for those of us with actual morals, you’ve definitely summarized the best mindset to take in this type of situation.
Wow. Beautiful comment. I really felt this one. Thank you.❤
I heard two things in this comment. "instead of putting work in to fix things, I shut down" and "I did everything I could despite what I was dealing with". Im not trying to be rude by pointing this out it just confused me.
by far my favorite content yet. this side of you is so honest and real I actually feel like I know you better now thank you so much for sharing this today you have restored my faith and hope that good men still exist who are capable of growth and self reflection. I was especially moved by the part where you decided to double down I really related to that several times in my 20s I ghosted guys who really cared for me with no cause and no remorse and Ive often regretted that as a grown woman and mother I would hate for someone to do my daughter or son that way. Its definately a new perspective on dating and relationships being a single 40 something vs a single 20 something this covid/website dating is nothing but cheaters and scammers I am ready to just call it a day on my love life and enjoy the simple stress free life have built for myself.
I respect people who can truly admit how wrong they are and that they learned. Cheaters always want to act so hurt (and sure, they can be,) but they will never be as hurt as the people who were cheated on. Id take hurt of the cheater any day.
“Hello my name is bob and I’m a cheater.”
.....”Hey Bob.”
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
This comment is underrated...
@@immanuelmusongo5879 I don't get it...
@@bruceleeds7988 therapy sessions.
@@immanuelmusongo5879 in general? Or a certain show?
You can tell this man is remorseful. He’s so ashamed that he can’t even look directly into the camera for any extended period of time. The extreme vulnerability is apparent. Much respect Aba!
He learned from that mistake, but blackface is degrading and racist, yet Aba is in blackface day in and day out. Maybe his parents raised him to wear blackface, but that’s no excuse. He has experience and he’s 30 years old. I’m not sure how he affords all that makeup but this needs to stop.
@CreeWilly nah.. this time it's different... You can see it
James Trotter Nice one
@@jamestrotter103 nah, he looks just East African to me. Maybe Ethiopian, Eritrean, or Somali. Idk if he addressed it in another video, if I had to guess tho it would be Ethiopian.
... for profit.
You gormless tit
It takes a strong person to recognize their mistakes and learn from them. Thank you for your insight
This video made her face pop back up in my head. I didn't get to mature in the 4 years we spent together, but walking away did it. And while I'm glad that following through with my decision made me stronger, I do think that the level of understanding and supportiveness we had going on might have been a once in a lifetime thing. I just hope she's happy and doing alright, we both deserve it.
This is why I’m scared to date. It’s so much easier for me to be by myself than to date and go through all of the possible emotional trauma. I know I can’t and “won’t” be alone forever, but just knowing that someday my heart could be broken or I could break someone’s heart, is too much to think about right now. I’d rather be on my own
At least you have the self awareness to realize you are not ready for a relationship right now, you are already doing better than a lot of people.
@Gerardo Ojeda what?
I guess this is what it looks like when someone is actually keeping it real.
As someone who has once cheated and been cheated on, I agree that the guilt after cheating is something you will have to live with for the rest of your life. Once is enough. I'm not a douchebag, and I've learned it the hard way.
I've been following y'all for a little while now & I'm watching the older videos I missed. I appreciate this video. There are more times then not that only "fake perfection" is shown on social media.
Thank you for sharing your story
Haven't seen a post in a while just hoping everything is ok and hope to see more videos again soon stay safe and healthy
For reall
🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
Was just thinking the same thing when I saw this. Maynnne...hope they’re alright...🙏🏾💖
legit, I was thinking that last few days
They uploaded something on their podcasts channel
"Admitting you are wrong is half of the progression" What you did was wrong , very wrong , and you need to learn from it , and i am glad that you have. after all, "failure is the best teacher"
I have definitely been “ the villain” my mistake will always be not ending a relationship I no longer wanted to be in and in turn making the person feel like crap about them selves knowing it’s not them I just did not want them anymore.
In the same boat...
You should not make people think there is something wrong with them and treating them poorly. That would leave a scar in them forever, its much better to be honest that you want to be single and leave them.
Respect. Self awareness is so important and the integrity of this channel is so refreshing. Thank you for sharing with us.
The self-reflection and the accountability really inspires me to be a better person. Thank you for posting this out there
I used to “ jokingly” hit a male friend of mine and say that he can’t hit me back because I’m a girl and the hits weren’t violent but I used that “privilege” against him. After watching your guys’ videos and realizing I have a lot of personal growth to make, I actually reached out and sent him a video saying that I was completely wrong and I’ll never do that again and that it’s not okay that I did that and that I’m sorry if I made him feel any hurt. There’s just moments where I could really relate to u Aba where I could truly feel the guilt I’ve felt before and I just really appreciated this. There’s a lot of hurt in this world but guilt is a different type of pain.
I have to commend you for at least having the open mind too see Aba's perspective and admitting you were wrong. I hope you can spread this knowledge to others too@
Same here! You put it in words better than I could have.
There‘s nothing wrong with fucking around with your best friends. As long as it‘s jokingly and not abusive. A little hit on the shoulder never harmed anybody, girls be doing that all the time with me smiling and goofing around. I actually think it‘s cute and pleasingly cheeky, especially with the right swagger on her. Don‘t let this SJW bs suck all your fun out of your life, not all men/women are little soft ass punks crying about everything.
Downy Bleach „at least“, „admitting you were wrong“, „spread this knowledge“ damn you softer than a pillow. She didn‘t throw haymakers at them. If you feel assaulted by a little bit of banter there‘s a problem with your sorry ass attitude, toughen up g.
empathic pimp it more of depends on person. If you can clearly see they don’t like it STOP! Because eventually they’re gonna get sick of it you’ll lose a friend. If they enjoy that’s fine. But strate up hitting someone is not and using a privilege is not okay!
I just randomly came across this and is was needed. A honest and different perspective coming from a evolving man. I
Man that was deep, I felt that my man. I seriously hope you find someone like her or even her again down the line !