I live next door to the monster who murdered my fiance... They got away with it. I don't care to explain because it's so painful, but they were 100% in the wrong and it was premeditated. I struggle with this exact situation daily. I had our son 1 month after he was killed. The justice system completely failed us. I struggle daily living next door to this person, I rarely leave my home or take my kids out. If I could financially move I would but my family caused what happened and I no longer have support or help due to me cutting them out of my life.
I’ve actually experienced this. I witnessed my mother's murder. I knew Aba personally and remember he donated 100$ towards my mom's funeral. My experience was a murder-suicide. I didn’t have an opportunity to hold that resentment, but I also made a conscious effort to not harbor any hate towards that man. It was wasted energy. I was left with 3 younger siblings. The paramedics told me when they found her killer, he had a gunshot wound to the head and they would let him die a slow and painful death. I can’t say that brought me any comfort, but I’m glad his last moments sucked. It’s been 7 1/2 years since it happened. I became homeless. I lost my siblings. I had to move states. But I’m doing better than ever. I have a great job. I live in a house. I live with my partner. My siblings are well. Life is hard and shit like this really becomes your whole personality. Therapy and community helped a lot. I understand why that man in the video did what he did in killing his mothers murderer, and I would have too given the opportunity. But hindsight is 20/20. I could have never imagined the life I live now, and I love it. ❤️ Edit: There's a couple idiots in the comments playing sherlock holmes, saying I made this up because no paramedic would ever do what he said he did. Even in the moment I knew what he was saying was wrong. I'm just sharing what I experienced. Consider this, he may have been lying to me to console me in his own way. But also, do you believe cops or judges are unable to be corrupt because it's against the rules? I wish I had the worldview of some of you, to always assume that because it's against the rules, it could never happen. I have absolutely no reason to be dishonest about this. Internet points don't feed my siblings and I.
Experiencing the loss of your mother due to murder is already a devastating situation. However, witnessing her murder is something that is beyond one's imagination. It is difficult to fathom how you managed to overcome this trauma and achieve success in your life. I am so terribly sorry for yours and your siblings loss. It is not unexpected for Aba to make a donation towards the funeral expenses of your mother. Both Aba and Preach appear to be kind-hearted individuals, and it is apparent that they inherited this trait from their mother’s❤❣️
I lost my mum suddenly earlier this year, I am probably around Preachs' age. The calls to their mums made me cry, but smile, they are good sons. Make time for your mums whenever you get a chance, you don't know what's coming tomorrow and my only regrets are the things that didn't happen / weren't said.
That's what I thought too. He didn't want the guy dead, he wanted to take his life. Maybe he wanted to see him suffer, or maybe he wanted to make sure the guy was terminated
@@MauZangetsu The guy killed his mother, and clearly he loved his mom, was close to her so finding the guy who murdered her yeah he is going to take his time and make him suffer.
If someone murdered my mother (or immediate family member) the safest place for them would be prison, because there is no way I could allow that individual to breath the oxygen of freedom.
Lord said revenge mine said the Lord trust in Jesus remember Jesus ask God forgiveness for killing him God did didn't strike need know only live can stop a lot hate but understand pain
My mother was victim of an attempted murder. After being shot she played dead and thus survived. This was over 40 yeara ago, and while the man was a suspect in multiple other murders, forensics was unable to obtain evidence. His ex-wife even told my mother's family that she knows he killed others, and to move state if he ever got released from prison. Last decade, he was released on parole, in his late 70s. Less than two years later he parked hia jeep on train tracks and let it remove him from life. The feelings I have towards him sway so much over the years. A kind of pity is always involved.
Your mom's responses have me weeping. They love you so much they do not want you to know the pain of taking a life or cheapening your character. Beautiful women . God bless you both. You fucked my day up with this post haha.
Agreed. This one took me out. I had to stop for a minute after they Both were able to just call their mothers to ask a question. It was so profound to me because shortly after my mother passed, I received this big award at work. When I found out I went to my desk and I took my phone out to call my mom. But I couldn’t. It was still such a natural reaction to me because I wasn’t used to her being gone. Sure I could have called my dad, but it’s just different. Nobody loves you like your mother will, not your spouse not your kids. Nobody like mom.
Hearing Aba switch between English, French and Amharic so seamlessly is incredible…and his mom is a typical African mom going into lectures and family info just from a hypothetical 😂
I lost both of my parents at 7 (dad) and 13/14 years old (mom). It made me so happy to see you both able to call your moms, ask a hypothetical question and witness both interactions w/the conclusion being very similar. That really warmed my heart 🥰 Thank you both❤️🩹👍🏽
*"Mother is god in the eyes of a child" - William Makepeace Tackery* If someone did this to my mother and I knew where they lived and didn't know them; YES; I would most likely hunt them down. A true mother who sacrifices everything for their kids doesn't deserve cruelty. The law be damned!
@@LeoLightningz i gotta wonder though how future mothers are going to be like because modern women are evil and hateful of men. And lots of modern women these days are not going to be good moms
Aba loves his mom very much. Infact his love for his siblings is also clear. I think he became the man of the house at a young age and that has a lot to do with it. Abaye very proud of u! Amarinya sitawera demo betam des tilalehe 😊
Honestly I think it's one of those situations where you have to be experiencing or had experienced it to know. My condolences to everyone who lost someone. But hey we got both Aba & Preach's moms on to guest star, vocally but still! Awesome! Thank you Aba & Preach!!
Mums have such a huge capacity for unconditional love that you will never find in anyone else! Every time I hear a mother's story or A story about them and what they do for their kids it just amazes me! Bravo for Mums.... GOOD Mums everywhere! xx
@@365DaysOfBald I mean that would get me to kill too, I'd just be more smart about it. So many unsolved murders in this country... Don't be one of the ones that gets caught.
As a daughter I wanted to avenge my father and the hate consumed me to the point of almost no return. I became pregnant and this was my blessing, to have new feelings and something to live for. Now that I have my daughter I wouldn't like for her to feel that kind of hate, God will take care of it. I believe that.
@@seeksolace2059 Im not religious but doesnt the bible say ""revenge is mine" said the lord"? Do you think god would forgive you knowing you intentionally and knowingly violated his sacred command?
@@metaLungiez revenge and judgement, though lots of different denominations, people in those churches are very judgemental, over trivial things and claiming to "know" where your soul will go if you do certain things, strange, I thought only one knew that kinda thing? It's almost like they don't believe what they preech
GoD bless both of your mothers! They are so beautiful! Seeing you both call your mom had such an unexpected reaction on me. It was just so beautiful to see. Made me miss my mother immensely more in that exact moment. Please continue to cherish every minute you get to spend with them. ❤
Dude...im so glad i clicked this vid.. the switch up in dialect with your parents was kool! I like hearing different languages otherr than English ESPECIALLY from you guys! Much luv fellas
This is how justice has always worked in human history. Justice belonged to the victim and their family. Most times the victim's family would want money and jail time, but if the family wanted to forgo that and wanted the death penalty for the criminal instead of the money, that was always an option. The government only started stepping in because of some families of criminals not accepting this justice and engaging in tit-for-tat blood feuds. But today, criminals are being let out altogether, so now I think justice belongs to the victim and family again.
@@thewowwall197 True...but in the heat of the moment you don't know what will happen but clarity always happens at the end for people are strong willed but sometimes you think in emotions.
The fact that both your moms had the EXACT same answer irrespective of the cultural and religious differences is wow to me! The part where they both said it wouldn’t bring me back!
that's how you can tell a mother's love is universal. very common response from good mothers. but what we should ask is the males in both families. then you might get more cultural nuances in the answer. in some muslim countries honor killings is seem as form of justice.
That doesn't mean sh** really lol what do you expect a parent to say? I swear the same mom's that will say that are a lot of the times that will call up their sons if they feel disrespected. It has nothing to do with universal motherly love lmfao.
It's not really a wow though. While it's different religions, it's still the 'same' religion in the sense that it's monotheistic omni beings that originated from the middle east.
For both Aba and Preech mother's response is an indication that age sometimes brings wisdom. Their perspective of the situation made me cry cause I was angry at God for taking my mother away through cancer, but God will it. I love how you both spoke in your dialect language
Aba's mother gave a gangster answer, even from a non-religious person. That outlook is so mature and level headed and speaks to her years as a mother and as a human being on this planet. Bravo to her, and bravo to Preach's mother for basically saying the same. Both of you have great dynamics with your mother at the surface level, its something not a lot of people get to have but seeing it first hand is so sweet to see.
I believe Preach’s mom meant that as a means of protection, he could defend his mom and do what needs to be done but if she’s already dead, then don’t take revenge.
24 hours is no time at all after finding out you lost a loved one. Emotions are still incredibly high. He should 100% be given a lighter sentence due to being blind by emotions. This is an actual thing. Look up what happens to people who killed their childrens abusers, etc.
Yeah, he had to be going THRU it. Just the 24 hours after a ~NON~ violent death can be an out of body experience. A violent death and an actual direction for your loss and rage? The body is moving, something primal gets the the driver's seat and the rational part of the brain goes for a walk elsewhere to mourn. I hope they lessen the sentence, even though if I'm honest on a basic level, the guy shouldn't do time. I know we can't go eye for an eye in everything, but temporary insanity seems like a fair plea to give.
@@princerak8881 Yes. People can lose days, weeks or months to pure emotion and blacking out. It's the body's way, the brain's way, of blocking out the trauma.
Then you see some who don't care if their children die or not. I remember see a news story from 2020 or 2021 and the reporter asked the mother or mabey it was a step mother about it and she nonchalantly seemed like she didn't care about her dead son/step son.
Your mums are the loveliest ❤. Its amazing how even from 2 different walks of life they are so alike. I wouldn't want my kids to suffer just for revenge either. Just live !
Shoutout to Aba and Preach's mothers for participating! My mother was murdered a few years ago, I wanted nothing more than revenge. The man who did it died on the scene after killing my mom. For a long time, I thought about how that made me feel. To be completely honest with you, as they alluded to, I feel a great deal better knowing that I don't have to live in the same world as the man who murdered my mother. I also accept that those feelings may make me a less than morally right person and I am okay with that. However, I do know that my mother would never had wanted me to take revenge. As a parent myself, if something happened to my father, I would want to take revenge myself but I know that, as a parent, you want your children to do and have better. So I accepted that I would have to deal with not being able to get my own revenge and moved on. But I do totally understand how that kind of trauma would make a person do something like that. Just my thoughts on the matter.
There was this case in Germany (I‘m German that’s how I know about it), where a 7 year old girl was kidnapped and murdered by a pedophile that had sexually abused two young girls before. During the court hearing her mother, Marianne Bachmeier, shot and killed her daughters killer and got 7 years for the murder, but got out after 3. It’s a very well known case and I know a lot of people that told me they would’ve done the same. I think your take is super interesting, just a different view on that topic…
In 1984 in US there was Gary Plauché who shot and killed his son's kidnapper as he arrived on airport for trial, and all of it was broadcasted live on news. I think he also didn't get actual prison, only a suspended sentence for manslaughter and probation.
Many young people have never considered what they would do in that situation, showing both mothers' sentiment on the matter was the best way this topic could have been put into the proper perspective.
We know our mothers wouldn't want us to risk throwing our lives away but most of us still would take revenge. It's in a sense not just for our mom, it's for ourselves. Cause who can live their lives knowing that injustice is there while they have a chance to do something about it?
Back when I was 13 I saw my father murdered in front of my eyes by 2 teenagers. Turns out my own mother planned everything… What also turned my world upside down was that she wasn’t a U.S. citizen and was deported back to Haiti a short time after. I was told around 15 years old that one committed suicide in prison, and the other one got off on time served. Fast forward I’m 41 now and I don’t know what got into me but I revisited my mom’s case. I found out where one of them lives and found out the other NEVER killed himself and lives 6 hours away from me. An overwhelming rage built up inside me and all of a sudden I wanted their families to fell the pain I felt all those years ago. I came to a quick realization that I have a wife and 2 kids that need me. I really feel for this man… but he will never find peace 😢
Fuck I'm kinda going through that. Holding onto her all her evidence for later. But I am pregnant a month after my mommy is gone. You saying this makes me know that revenge isn't worth it. Changing things from the bottom is the only way 😢. I'm sorry ur loss very hard story to hear yours. ❤❤
This man is going through the 5 stages of grief. He skipped denial and went just straight for anger. Which is absolutely understandable. His mother was just killed. That connection between a mother and son is special.
I would have done worse than a stab and bounce, I would have torchured him for months in the most agonizing pain imaginable. I would have myself became a monster that day.
This guy is the epitome of my philosophy. You kill my family and the only trial will be my own, and in prison I'll be a fucking hero. It might have been my family member's time to die, but by god that makes it your time too.
See! Listening to what both of your mothers had to say and knowing fully well my Mum has told me the same would make it that even harder for me to not send that hypothetical murderer to the after life to apologise to my mum.
Anyone did something like that to my mom, they're getting it to the full extent, no question. I feel sorry for anyone who wouldn't, the love between a child and their mother should be nothing less than this.
Their was nothing logical about their mothers response though, their response was based on religion, which is illogical. It was based on feelings and fantasy. There is no god there to punish them after they die and even if there was, the chance of it being your god is 1 in many thousands. If you're a person who would just allow the killer of your mother go free with the thought "god will sort them out" then you don't care about your mother.
I don't believe in killing apart from self-defense, and in that, best to just stay out of the situation. One person kills someone, then the loved one gets revenge and kills that person, then that loved one goes for revenge and so one and so forth. It never ends. Us killings still playing the game starts by Cain killing Able. lol. In short, when someone plays the killing game, everyone dies.
The amount of respect aba and preach had when addressing their mothers only speaks volumes on who they are as a person. I loved the amount of grace and wisdom that came out of their mouths
You could understand how she raised her son when Listening to Aba's mom on the phone. ❤️🙏🏼 A Religious woman with principles. It clearly shows when ABA talks. 👍🏼🇵🇬
yeah she sure raised an insecure incel, who goes around saying that to anyone that disagrees with them. they are just as bad as sneako. they sure are true men.
@@vlad1529 I think what he said it was is that as long as he lives life as a good person and stays as close to the right path that he can of there's a god and they won't accept him simply because he didn't believe after being such a beautiful person then he doesn't want to go to heaven
I lost my mom almost exactly a year ago and whenever I see other people react with their moms like this it makes me sad but it also makes me happy. Thank you for this. Your mother is amazing
I understand the aspect as a parent and not wanting your loved one to suffer due to your death. On the other hand i understand the idea of the son having a hard time not taking action when he apparently knew the killer. Its a sad situation all around as now 3 people effectively have lost their lives.
Your mama's answer made me cry; she is So right. I'm ashamed because sometimes I get hateful, vengeful thoughts. I know it's wrong (I was raised Catholic), and that vengeance is God's, not ours. Your mother's answer was beautifully, perfectly put. I am 73 years old, and I still learn from you younger people. God bless.
If everyone had your mentality we would live in an absolute hellscape where criminals would act with impunity knowing there would be no punishment until after death.
@blazerdude89 why would you say that? This person has shown they are willing to learn at an advanced age which is amazing! Many people aren't as growing and learning is more challenging at this age. and s/he acknowledges this. What is your point and what have you proved?
@@enken567 Thank you so much for your reply. You understood what I was trying to convey. You are so right; even if old dogs CAN learn new tricks, it sometimes takes a little longer. Spiritual issues can be a life-long struggle. God bless you for your understanding.
@@enken567 yeah sure you say that until your family and life is put to the test, all you religious fanatics always renounce on the verge of death or in direct consequences of your lax fallacy
I can completely understand both sides of this argument. Another point for taking out someone that took out your loved one is that it 100% stops them from doing it again. Something tells me the man who stabbed his mother to death is likely to do something like that again. Even if he would have went to prison, there is a chance he could get out or even stab someone while in prison.
Yeah someone who would stab someone to death for no good reason is insane and would do it again how I view it the pay for there actions and they could never harm anyone again
Yeh... didn't even think of that... good point.. especially since it didn't sound like this man and the mom were in a relationship. At least not stated in the news story.
I hear you but that would never be the reason to do the same to him. Plus there could be many reasons for why he did it such as drugs, he could get clean and never do it again. The only reason to st*b him is a selfish reason and that's revenge. And I'm all for that.
This is accurate. I see so many stories of people given every chance after committing dozens of assaults. They don't go to jail, and have no worry about bail. Then they torture a 90 year old woman to death.
Without your mother in this world your a lost soul especially in these tragic circumstances. Can you imagine trying to sleep at night knowing what happened to your mother. In my own personal opinion he did what had to be done simple as that. And that my friends is justice. Now he can speak to his mother in prayer and reassure her that justice has been done!!! 🙏 Peace and love to everyone out there
The man needs to be given a lot of support so he can deal with losing his mother, just because he avenged her does not change the fact he is deeply hurting inside.
I asked my mom this _same question_ years ago, and her answer still resonates with me: "Star, I could be taken away from you, gone to my Creator and be in perfect happiness, with the only sadness knowing you and your brother are in pain. But I'd never, ever be able to rest in eternity knowing that it caused you to go and burden _your_ soul by taking the life of another in cold blood." I don't think any parent would want to be the cause of their children doing something they can never come back from.
That's a woman talking. Sometimes when it comes to these things it's beyond that soft sweet shit. Sometimes people have to die. Especially if they're out there hurting innocent people. To allow that to continue is harboring that.
@@rachethippyproductions Not for god-fearing people. “THOU SHALL NOT KILL.” God is the only one who can cast that type of judgement on those solely responsible. For you to carry that axe, means you risk eternal damnation. Ego be damned.
I was so close with my mom. She’s my adoptive mother and she saved me from a life of hell even when sick and on dialysis. She made a shitty life I would have had into a decent one I’m glad I had. I always told her, if anyone killed her, I would stop at nothing to find and kill that person cause living without her would not be worth living. Especially how this world is. But I know for a fact, she wouldn’t want it cause she said even in heaven, she didn’t go through hell so I’d spend my life in jail for a one time payback. So even though I’d want to kill the person, her legacy is stronger than my vengeance.
And that in my opinion is how you properly honor your mothers wishes and legacy. She sacrificed so you can give to others and continue doing good for the world like she did. You can't do that from inside a cell. Respect!
I can't say what I would do (because I have never been in that situation, hope I never do). Except that I would do everything I can not to let wrath take hold. You fellas got some good moms.
Aba and Preach's Moms sounds so level headed and rational. Great responses and so similar. I believe that they would only want the best for you and not throw away your life, no matter how hard things were without them.
I lost my mother to natural causes when i was 16. Going into this video, I had the mindset of "heads will roll" but after hearing Aba & Preach's mother's speak, my mind has changed.
Imma be honest. She isn't here to complain. Mostly because the dude who caused her death was the same dude who made my and her life hell so as edgy as it sounds, I'm still going for him. I am proud of you for finding peace though, Lee. May the rest of your life be as peaceful and tranquil as you can feel now.
I wish I still had my mom here. The anniversary of her passing is this Saturday. Brings up all kinds of emotions. I lost my mother to natural causes, to lose her because she was murdered would be a different story. The loss is already painful, but even so I know she wouldn't want me to get revenge. I love you mom.
Sorry for your loss. I'm blessed to still have mine. She lives with my wife, kids and I, as she's retired on fixed income and has a hard time getting around with limited mobility. I try to treasure the time I have left with her. Blessings to you, friend.
This was such a deep video. I'm glad we got to her from the two wise moms who've passed on their wisdom to their sons- thanks for including it. As a Christian, I know my mom would say the same because we know that Revenge is the Lord's. But I've always told my mom that if she passes away before me, I'm hopping into her grave next to her. It's a thought that, while highly likely, is still more painful than I can bear. I'm a Christian but even I've had thoughts of doing grievous bodily harm to those who hurt my mom. So I understand the feeling.
@@yingyang7448 An eye for an eye goes back to Hammurabi's Code in Mesopotamia looong before the Old Testament was even written. And it was put in place to prevent people from committing even more egregious crimes. Not saying that was right but we are talking thousands of years ago here when the first cities were rising and the concept of law and order was still in its infancy.
@@SuperSpasticNinja And I would agree with you that it originates from hammurabi's code but my point being that christianity, the religion that is supposed to be of peace of mind/forgiveness/tranquility, had an incredibly wretched, revenge filled, flawed moral system in the old testament which, in a way, goes against what the original poster was saying about "revenge being for the lord".
His eyes to me scream out for help. He’s a baby wishing his mother could hold him one more time. Rip to his mother and may god protect him in the rough future he has ahead of him
This was honestly yalls best episode to date! The amount you opened your family to us and had a conversation, that to it's core forces your mothers to confront their own mortality. Their answers were the definition of grace and faith. Thank you for that peek into your private lives like that.
Leaving a like for Moms. It takes a whole lotta living and struggle to get to where Aba's mothers head is at and I'm jealous of it frankly. Imagine having that level of peace and assurance in your life at half our parents age. MUCH love and respect to the mothers that still hold down the Golden Rules as a general way of living these days. ❤
She’s a real Muslim with that faith and assurance ❤️ What she said is what Islam really engrains in our minds, that when it’s our time, it’s our time and nothing can stop or change that. What is meant to happen, will happen.
I’ve asked my mom the same thing and the answer she gave me had me thinking the whole night She said she’d rather I take my revenge by doing my best to live the best life I can and succeed in my personal goals than to go out and commit murder and spend the rest of my life behind bars
This is how our parents are. I’m middle eastern but I always say how similar our family is to people in Sudan or even Africa in terms of religion, beliefs, way of life, ect
I lost my father unexpectedly last week, I am a 32 year old man, and it was the hardest thing I ve ever dealt with in my life, and I ve dealt with some traumatic shit before, but flying from the US to Morocco and bury my father just killed a piece inside of me...May god bless and give long lives to your mothers/parents. All love.
So sorry for your loss, I unfortunately also lost my dad a few years ago when I was 26, I miss him dearly and even though the pain is less painful, I miss him the same as the first day I lost him. It'really hard. I'm not religious but even I pray often that my mom will at least live a looong and good life because I for sure ain't ready to lose any more loved ones. Even my dog died last not even a year ago and she's been with me for 14 years. Hurts the same as if i lost a family member.
I understand entirely the grief-stricken heartbreak you are enduring right now, Hatim. I too lost my father unexpectedly when I was about your age - and my heart goes out to you more than I can explain. The first six months after going through such a tremendous and unexpected loss comes with the most harrowing amount of grief. Thats when Enduring that roller coaster of crazy up and down emotions can be down right agonizing to bare through, but if I could offer you any advice, it would be to try your best not to suppress or rush through those stages - they are necessary to go through so that the healing can start to begin. Be patient and kind to yourself - cry when you need to - get angry when you feel mad, and by all means, laugh with your entire soul when it petitions you to do so. Sadly, I think a lot of us don't fully realize it until the day comes where the one and only man that we have loved, adored and have looked up to every day of our lives - passes on - and for the first time in our lives - we have to figure out how to go on living without him in the world. Slowly but surely, you find a way to put one foot in front of the other - and little by little - you begin to go on and it simply becomes a new way of life. With love and blessings to you.
There ain't no way. Just the thought of losing my mom hurts and to have it happen like that. Whoever did it better hope I never find them. Be the same with my dad or anyone else in my family but dude had restraint as they said knife wound as in one. That man set out to a job and he did quick, clean, and efficient.
Y'all's moms are precious. Protect them at all costs. Seeing you two look so happy when you were talking to them, tells us everything we need to know about how great they both are and how good the relationship between you two and them are. I lost my mom 2 days after my 9th birthday to cancer, and my Dad is 70 this year. Spend as much time with them as you can. Make the good memories so you can reflect on those and recall them for the best of times. If anyone did that to my Mom, I come from an Irish/Spanish family. You can probably figure out how it might go xD. ETA: We need more of y'all's moms on the show! (I'm still laughing about your roommate getting pulled in one of the other ones lol!)
@@blue... I looked a bit into Aba's life, and his mom is Eritrea before they moved to Canada. Eritrea has nine official languages: Tigrinya, Tigre, Saho, Kunama, Rashaida, Bilen, Afar, Beni, Amir, and Nera. Most people speak Tigrinya and the government uses Arabic. Considering his mom uses the phrase, "If God wills it," and God in Arabic is "Allah," my guess is that it's an Arabic dialect. Preach is speaking Haitian Creole, a French dialect from Haiti.
An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth. That guy lost his human rights when he took a human life. If the justice system actually punished and kept criminals locked up then maybe people wouldn't feel like they have to take things into their own hands
The son is NOT a threat to anyone else in society. Jury nullification. If YOU are ever a juror on a trial like this, not guilty. It only takes one not guilty.
As a son of an Ethiopian immigrant, I can’t explain how your mother’s response made me feel. Also as someone that’s sadly barely speaks Amharic it was a great listen 🥹
@@Sam-fs8sx Definitely, I used to go for 1-2 months during summers when I was a kid. By the end I picked it up pretty well, the diaspora where I live isn’t really deep so finding friends like that is tough
I'm in a similar situation, however wth my situation my dad is oromo and my mum is amharic. My dad didn't want us learning amharic. My mum was okay with both as she knew both amharic and oromo fluently. However my dad said nah only oromo so my mum was like I guess they aren't going to learn either then. Anywho after 30+ years of marriage they are finally separated.
@@beautyallaround_ I gotta say, as someone with mixed(ethnicity) Ethiopian roots, language was never an issue in my household since my parents were fluent in Tigrinya, Oromiffa and Amharinya and embraced all aspects of Ethiopian heritage. But it's wild to see how far some people take politics within their own homes. And the situation in Ethiopia is even more worse, as the country has been stuck in a continuous cycle of ethnic conflict since the introduction of this toxic system, which has torn apart the social fabric of society. I hope that one day Ethiopians will wake up and see just how vast and wonderful the world truly is. Or maybe open their hearts, embrace one another without judgment and labeling and strive to create a more peaceful, harmonious and unified society. 🙏
Have not finished the video yet but wanted to share my thoughts before hearing yours. This actually happened to me. My dad was shot 6 times 4 years ago and in the heat of the moment I would have killed the son of a bitch with my bare hands if I had him near me. There were a lot of intense emotions in that moment that I know would give me the inhuman strength to do it. In the end I recognised that killing this man would not bring my Father back. I did not forgive him, and he is in jail but I am at peace with myself. Acceptance is part of grieving, but it takes a long ass time to get to that point. It took me 2 years.
I already lost my mom a few years ago and it still hurts me to think about her. If someone murdered my mom I would definitely kill them with my own hands.
The problem is it’s about what your mom would want not what you want. I totally get it but just know it’s selfish action it’s not helping your mom at all. Like Aba’s mom said the greatest gift u can give your mom is to be happy and live your life, if I revenged murdered and went to prison my mom would kill me again in the afterlife 😂😂
My uncle lost his son. And, I've watched him struggle through life while he knew who murdered his son. He only moved on and made peace with the birth of his granddaughter. But, God knows how every day, for years, he wanted to pull up and kill those who murdered his son.
My great uncle was murdered in 1985. Owing to the nature of sexism in those days, the man who killed him was sentenced to death and his female partner only got 10 years. I’ve had to talk myself out of tracking her down a few times. If it was my mother we are talking about, I can’t imagine self-control winning out.
what i find interesting is that you'd go to the extreme for a female relative than you would for a male relative in general, assuming the same amount of closeness. Its the sexism at play on both sides. Though I do not call it sexism personally, its just our natural predispositions. All the advancements in modern society is what makes these things look unfair or sexist. You only have to think of hunter gatherer society or some hundred years back to understand why men receive harsher punishments or why men are required to protect the women and children of their clan/ethnicity/etc. We are animals first, we just happened to be so smart many of our biological features and differences became redundant. Imagine war with no advanced weaponry. Of course the group with the strongest men are going to win/rule.
@@Gwarzonicus I think lots of people would consider if not outright choose revenge for their mother’s killer. Mothers are usually the most important of an individual’s female relatives. Be it they grew up with male relatives or not. Through modern society, it has placed an emphasis on motherhood, leaving little room for fatherhood in the equation. And of course everyone’s situation is different when it comes to familial relatives. Many different circumstances too. I’m not sure how far one would consider this being sexist, but it’s certainly an interesting take with different perspectives. Just my thoughts.
@@Gwarzonicus your assumption is incorrect. I never even met my great uncle. I was only a few months old when he was killed. I only know how my grandfather never stopped suffering from the loss of his brother. So yeah, self-control would be harder to achieve if it was my mother.
Hearing both mom's pretty much was like hearing the spirit of my mom telling me the same thing. Enjoy your mom's wisdom and love while you can gentlemen - not a day goes by that I don't miss mine.
As a mom now and a black women I don’t want my beautiful black child going to prison for anything even if it’s avenging my murder…. What would kill this people more is seeing a black male thriving and surviving from all the trauma and adversaries that would be stacked against him
I ran the scenario to my mother. Her response was the same as y'alls mothers. She did add one extract thought. She told me to look at it from this perspective. If I were to seek revenge on her killer, then I'm not really doing it for her. I'm doing it for myself. She is gone. Any action taken after would be purely for myself.
I lost my mother when I was 18. We were very close. We had the type of relationship where I could talk to her about absolutely anything. What hurt the most is that her death was incredibly sudden. She was here one minute and then "BAM!" she was gone. She wasn't ill, didn't have a terminal disease, but was gone so quickly. I learned later that that is the way aneurysms are. They strike quickly and without warning. I was so angry for so long, but since she wasn't killed by a person and I don't believe in God, I had no place to direct my anger, so I turned it inward. I internalized it and still, at 40 years of age, I haven't fully recovered. It didn't help that my mother's death was followed by the death of my father and then my sister(the only sibling I was really close to because she saw the real me and never judged me) all within the span of 5 years. I am still troubled and broken by their passing. Birthday's and Mothers Day are almost unbearable. Sometimes I think that things may have been easier if there was someone responsible for my mother's death. Someone I could point to, single out and hold responsible for my pain and agony. Maybe I would've had a better chance of getting over her death if there was someone to blame. Idk. Maybe I'm wrong and it wouldn't matter. Maybe I am just suffering because I didn't process losing my loved ones correctly. Maybe I should've tried therapy or told someone I trust how much everything was eating me up inside. Oh well. That's life, I suppose.
I believe that your mom still suffers because your life was also taken away. Till this very day you have given yourself a life sentence by not thriving and letting your mom watch you be happy. Please don’t waste another minute being angry. Work towards what your life would have been like if your mom was still alive. You deserve to experience that life. Take care 💕
Did this make you feel better by posting and sharing it? If so id recommend you start therapy as its never too late. It sounds like you have some stuff you should really get out there and have someone to share it with. My life has been damn near the same. My brother died when i was 8 and that was 20 years ago and i still havent gotten over it. It was from cancer and because of that i always directed my anger towards god. To forget I turned to drugs and im still battling it. If i didnt have my own son i wouldnt be here
I live next door to the monster who murdered my fiance... They got away with it. I don't care to explain because it's so painful, but they were 100% in the wrong and it was premeditated. I struggle with this exact situation daily. I had our son 1 month after he was killed. The justice system completely failed us. I struggle daily living next door to this person, I rarely leave my home or take my kids out. If I could financially move I would but my family caused what happened and I no longer have support or help due to me cutting them out of my life.
How? So many questions
@@AbaNPreach what do yall think of capital punishment?
God damn, call some of your fiance's friends and have them come handle it
That's insane. You don't have to explain if it brings back painful memories but still so many questions
@@AbaNPreach Interview him.
I’ve actually experienced this. I witnessed my mother's murder. I knew Aba personally and remember he donated 100$ towards my mom's funeral. My experience was a murder-suicide. I didn’t have an opportunity to hold that resentment, but I also made a conscious effort to not harbor any hate towards that man. It was wasted energy. I was left with 3 younger siblings. The paramedics told me when they found her killer, he had a gunshot wound to the head and they would let him die a slow and painful death. I can’t say that brought me any comfort, but I’m glad his last moments sucked. It’s been 7 1/2 years since it happened. I became homeless. I lost my siblings. I had to move states. But I’m doing better than ever. I have a great job. I live in a house. I live with my partner. My siblings are well.
Life is hard and shit like this really becomes your whole personality. Therapy and community helped a lot. I understand why that man in the video did what he did in killing his mothers murderer, and I would have too given the opportunity. But hindsight is 20/20. I could have never imagined the life I live now, and I love it. ❤️
Edit: There's a couple idiots in the comments playing sherlock holmes, saying I made this up because no paramedic would ever do what he said he did. Even in the moment I knew what he was saying was wrong. I'm just sharing what I experienced. Consider this, he may have been lying to me to console me in his own way. But also, do you believe cops or judges are unable to be corrupt because it's against the rules? I wish I had the worldview of some of you, to always assume that because it's against the rules, it could never happen. I have absolutely no reason to be dishonest about this. Internet points don't feed my siblings and I.
Im glad you're doing better now. Well done for overcoming the terrible things that happened in your life 💛
very interesting take
all the best to you bro
Experiencing the loss of your mother due to murder is already a devastating situation. However, witnessing her murder is something that is beyond one's imagination. It is difficult to fathom how you managed to overcome this trauma and achieve success in your life. I am so terribly sorry for yours and your siblings loss.
It is not unexpected for Aba to make a donation towards the funeral expenses of your mother. Both Aba and Preach appear to be kind-hearted individuals, and it is apparent that they inherited this trait from their mother’s❤❣️
Thanks for sharing. I'm so glad that your doing so much better now. Stay blessed!
Even this is a dark topic, there was Something special about seeing Aba talk to his mom. She’s right. Both parents are right.
Ay what up Ruslan, big fan of you and young Don; keep up the good work 🎉
Ruslan and Aba&Preach collab???🤔
I lost my mum suddenly earlier this year, I am probably around Preachs' age. The calls to their mums made me cry, but smile, they are good sons. Make time for your mums whenever you get a chance, you don't know what's coming tomorrow and my only regrets are the things that didn't happen / weren't said.
Ruslan in the comment
Aba&Preach X Ruslan collab coming soon??
That fact that he used a knife instead of a gun, says a lot. It was extremely personal for him.
That's what I thought too. He didn't want the guy dead, he wanted to take his life. Maybe he wanted to see him suffer, or maybe he wanted to make sure the guy was terminated
I mean they killed his mom…
@@MauZangetsu The guy killed his mother, and clearly he loved his mom, was close to her so finding the guy who murdered her yeah he is going to take his time and make him suffer.
It was within 24 hours of her dying not everyone can get a gun with 24 hours of an instance happening.
If someone murdered my mother (or immediate family member) the safest place for them would be prison, because there is no way I could allow that individual to breath the oxygen of freedom.
Breathe*
@@Sirdonrattray🤫
Lord said revenge mine said the Lord trust in Jesus remember Jesus ask God forgiveness for killing him God did didn't strike need know only live can stop a lot hate but understand pain
People don't seem to understand that is different when you're talking about the flesh and blood that gave you life!!!
“God took away many things BUT HE GAVE ME YOU” That honestly made a grown man cry
Touch me soul, Fam
shit, glad im not the only one that got teary
I'm not the least bit religious but you could hear the conviction and love coming from his mother's voice that it put a lump in my throat
Yeah man... just came like a surge.
@@NinjaMaiku
Same here.
If i would ever want to be a Father, i have to be able, to have the same Conviction and Love for my potential Children.
As a parent I agree. A parent would never want their child to be punished forever and throw their lives away especially when the outcome won’t change.
How is this comment 2 days old????
Video is out for 3min....
@@Biolo-G_KJ 🤷♂️🤣😂
Revenge is good
@@Biolo-G_KJ patreon
@@Biolo-G_KJ patreon
My mother was victim of an attempted murder. After being shot she played dead and thus survived. This was over 40 yeara ago, and while the man was a suspect in multiple other murders, forensics was unable to obtain evidence. His ex-wife even told my mother's family that she knows he killed others, and to move state if he ever got released from prison.
Last decade, he was released on parole, in his late 70s. Less than two years later he parked hia jeep on train tracks and let it remove him from life.
The feelings I have towards him sway so much over the years. A kind of pity is always involved.
Thats wild
Your mom's responses have me weeping. They love you so much they do not want you to know the pain of taking a life or cheapening your character. Beautiful women . God bless you both. You fucked my day up with this post haha.
i'm riding on a n'ggah...
Agreed. This one took me out. I had to stop for a minute after they Both were able to just call their mothers to ask a question. It was so profound to me because shortly after my mother passed, I received this big award at work. When I found out I went to my desk and I took my phone out to call my mom. But I couldn’t. It was still such a natural reaction to me because I wasn’t used to her being gone. Sure I could have called my dad, but it’s just different. Nobody loves you like your mother will, not your spouse not your kids. Nobody like mom.
It’s not tarnishing your character. Stop being an idiot.
The fact that their mothers said the same exact answer in two different languages tells you how they were raised and why they are friends.
100%
What they say
@@GreaterSociety did you not watch the video with the subtitles?..
They aren't friends.
@@brandimaddox9342 I skip A&P videos
Hearing Aba switch between English, French and Amharic so seamlessly is incredible…and his mom is a typical African mom going into lectures and family info just from a hypothetical 😂
his amharic accent crazy tho🤣 an accent only a mom could understand
His mom was ready to spill all that family tea 😂
@@Its_Me_MKC loool facts 😂
typical you know africans?
@@princerak8881 I’m literally African sir 😂
I lost both of my parents at 7 (dad) and 13/14 years old (mom). It made me so happy to see you both able to call your moms, ask a hypothetical question and witness both interactions w/the conclusion being very similar. That really warmed my heart 🥰 Thank you both❤️🩹👍🏽
Same!! Lost my mother at 18 and watching them call their mothers put the biggest smile on my face.
@@Napptrully_Beautiful lost my mom last year at 20 and it made me smile too :) you certainly miss being able to call them for those random questions
*"Mother is god in the eyes of a child" - William Makepeace Tackery*
If someone did this to my mother and I knew where they lived and didn't know them; YES; I would most likely hunt them down. A true mother who sacrifices everything for their kids doesn't deserve cruelty. The law be damned!
When she said;
"God took away things but gave me you"
You know you have a mom that loves you with all her heart!
That brought a tear to my eye😅
Nothing stronger than a mothers love
His mom is so fucking sweet, I almost felt nostalgic.
Now I understand why you guys are such good friends. Ya we're raised with the same moral compass. Your mothers are awesome.
I really love that you guys called your mothers. The responses your mothers gave are the epitome of a mother’s love.
Dang didn’t think I would see you here Kaye, what’s up 👋🏾
@@LeoLightningz i gotta wonder though how future mothers are going to be like because modern women are evil and hateful of men. And lots of modern women these days are not going to be good moms
the fact they both said the same thing cracked me up..... :D I love them momma's
Breaking bones & eye gauging are also an option.
I would prefer leaving them broken & blind as revenge.
Fuck that noise I'm sliding 4 my momma n my kids better slide 4 me 😂😂😂
I’ve never seen Aba smiling that hard, you can tell his mom is so so special to him; and her answer was everything!!
Aba loves his mom very much. Infact his love for his siblings is also clear. I think he became the man of the house at a young age and that has a lot to do with it. Abaye very proud of u! Amarinya sitawera demo betam des tilalehe 😊
Habesha men are mama's boys. I'm one as well, I don't think I'd be able to hold off if someone hurt my mom.
Lol someone called me the same time Aba was calling his mom😅
Honestly I think it's one of those situations where you have to be experiencing or had experienced it to know. My condolences to everyone who lost someone.
But hey we got both Aba & Preach's moms on to guest star, vocally but still! Awesome!
Thank you Aba & Preach!!
Mums have such a huge capacity for unconditional love that you will never find in anyone else! Every time I hear a mother's story or A story about them and what they do for their kids it just amazes me! Bravo for Mums.... GOOD Mums everywhere! xx
My mother is literally everything to me. I would absolutely do what this man did. Without any regard for consequences or blinking an eye.
I don’t blAme him
Yeah real smart to ruin your life over something that can’t be changed
Trial by jury this man(if they even take it that far), and let him go free.
Easier said than done
@@365DaysOfBald I mean that would get me to kill too, I'd just be more smart about it. So many unsolved murders in this country... Don't be one of the ones that gets caught.
As a daughter I wanted to avenge my father and the hate consumed me to the point of almost no return. I became pregnant and this was my blessing, to have new feelings and something to live for. Now that I have my daughter I wouldn't like for her to feel that kind of hate, God will take care of it. I believe that.
This comment is probably the most important comment for this video love conquers everything
I understand your sentiment, but I might not let that slide. The only thing I'm worried about is if ill make heaven after the deed is done.
Yea but you gotta have kids if you don't
The rage probably would have consumed her
@@seeksolace2059 Im not religious but doesnt the bible say ""revenge is mine" said the lord"? Do you think god would forgive you knowing you intentionally and knowingly violated his sacred command?
@@metaLungiez revenge and judgement, though lots of different denominations, people in those churches are very judgemental, over trivial things and claiming to "know" where your soul will go if you do certain things, strange, I thought only one knew that kinda thing? It's almost like they don't believe what they preech
GoD bless both of your mothers! They are so beautiful! Seeing you both call your mom had such an unexpected reaction on me. It was just so beautiful to see. Made me miss my mother immensely more in that exact moment. Please continue to cherish every minute you get to spend with them. ❤
Dude...im so glad i clicked this vid.. the switch up in dialect with your parents was kool! I like hearing different languages otherr than English ESPECIALLY from you guys! Much luv fellas
I see absolutely no problem with this man avenging his mother.
Me neither.
I don't. But like the guys stated, my mom wouldn't want me to... that said. I'd kick his ass and THEN let the court handle it. Best of both worlds
This is how justice has always worked in human history. Justice belonged to the victim and their family. Most times the victim's family would want money and jail time, but if the family wanted to forgo that and wanted the death penalty for the criminal instead of the money, that was always an option. The government only started stepping in because of some families of criminals not accepting this justice and engaging in tit-for-tat blood feuds. But today, criminals are being let out altogether, so now I think justice belongs to the victim and family again.
So would it be worth leaving the rest of your family to fend for themselves whilst you rot in prison? Wrath is a terrible thing bro
@@thewowwall197 True...but in the heat of the moment you don't know what will happen but clarity always happens at the end for people are strong willed but sometimes you think in emotions.
The fact that both your moms had the EXACT same answer irrespective of the cultural and religious differences is wow to me! The part where they both said it wouldn’t bring me back!
that's how you can tell a mother's love is universal. very common response from good mothers. but what we should ask is the males in both families. then you might get more cultural nuances in the answer. in some muslim countries honor killings is seem as form of justice.
That doesn't mean sh** really lol what do you expect a parent to say? I swear the same mom's that will say that are a lot of the times that will call up their sons if they feel disrespected. It has nothing to do with universal motherly love lmfao.
@@swollencolon1839
"honor killings" is unIslamic,
in Islam only the state can apply punishments vigilante actions are forbidden.
It's not really a wow though. While it's different religions, it's still the 'same' religion in the sense that it's monotheistic omni beings that originated from the middle east.
@@thekasradamma9854 they don't want a murderer to ruin their son's life.
For both Aba and Preech mother's response is an indication that age sometimes brings wisdom. Their perspective of the situation made me cry cause I was angry at God for taking my mother away through cancer, but God will it. I love how you both spoke in your dialect language
This comment is beautiful
Praise the Lord for your moms. They put us all in our place. Awesome! Thanks for sharing that guys! ❤❤
Aba's mother gave a gangster answer, even from a non-religious person. That outlook is so mature and level headed and speaks to her years as a mother and as a human being on this planet. Bravo to her, and bravo to Preach's mother for basically saying the same. Both of you have great dynamics with your mother at the surface level, its something not a lot of people get to have but seeing it first hand is so sweet to see.
Are we not going to mention how preach's mother said but if she was alive, go merc him.
@@aaronmontgomery2055 go Mercedes him?
@@aaronmontgomery2055 Well, she said do something, not necessary kill him. And that is fair IMO.
Gangster isn't something to be proud of, let's not celebrate what a Gangster is
I believe Preach’s mom meant that as a means of protection, he could defend his mom and do what needs to be done but if she’s already dead, then don’t take revenge.
When the mom said ""God took away things but gave me you"" he really became emotional, thats how you know how mom's words go direct to the heart. ❤
God*
@@yingyang7448 bro you serious?
@@meettherandom4711 allowable as clarity is important.
@@meettherandom4711
Yes.
@@yingyang7448 what did you correct?
I loved both responses!! Your mothers sound so lovely! ❤️
Your mom made me cry. What a blessing. Lost mine to pancreatic cancer in 06. I'm good at times but man it's still difficult being here without her.
24 hours is no time at all after finding out you lost a loved one. Emotions are still incredibly high. He should 100% be given a lighter sentence due to being blind by emotions. This is an actual thing. Look up what happens to people who killed their childrens abusers, etc.
A lighter sentence? Bitch please guy killed his mom got what coming to him. He shouldn't be in jail
It really depends on the context. But without any other information there should be no sentence. 24 hours is indeed very short.
Yeah, he had to be going THRU it. Just the 24 hours after a ~NON~ violent death can be an out of body experience. A violent death and an actual direction for your loss and rage? The body is moving, something primal gets the the driver's seat and the rational part of the brain goes for a walk elsewhere to mourn. I hope they lessen the sentence, even though if I'm honest on a basic level, the guy shouldn't do time. I know we can't go eye for an eye in everything, but temporary insanity seems like a fair plea to give.
blind ? bro
@@princerak8881 Yes. People can lose days, weeks or months to pure emotion and blacking out. It's the body's way, the brain's way, of blocking out the trauma.
I love how your moms are from different countries, different languages but think the same. It’s the heart of a mom
Then you see some who don't care if their children die or not. I remember see a news story from 2020 or 2021 and the reporter asked the mother or mabey it was a step mother about it and she nonchalantly seemed like she didn't care about her dead son/step son.
Amen
Your mums are the loveliest ❤. Its amazing how even from 2 different walks of life they are so alike. I wouldn't want my kids to suffer just for revenge either. Just live !
Shoutout to Aba and Preach's mothers for participating! My mother was murdered a few years ago, I wanted nothing more than revenge. The man who did it died on the scene after killing my mom. For a long time, I thought about how that made me feel. To be completely honest with you, as they alluded to, I feel a great deal better knowing that I don't have to live in the same world as the man who murdered my mother. I also accept that those feelings may make me a less than morally right person and I am okay with that. However, I do know that my mother would never had wanted me to take revenge. As a parent myself, if something happened to my father, I would want to take revenge myself but I know that, as a parent, you want your children to do and have better. So I accepted that I would have to deal with not being able to get my own revenge and moved on. But I do totally understand how that kind of trauma would make a person do something like that. Just my thoughts on the matter.
There was this case in Germany (I‘m German that’s how I know about it), where a 7 year old girl was kidnapped and murdered by a pedophile that had sexually abused two young girls before. During the court hearing her mother, Marianne Bachmeier, shot and killed her daughters killer and got 7 years for the murder, but got out after 3. It’s a very well known case and I know a lot of people that told me they would’ve done the same. I think your take is super interesting, just a different view on that topic…
Saw it on yt shorts. God, that was terrible😭
In 1984 in US there was Gary Plauché who shot and killed his son's kidnapper as he arrived on airport for trial, and all of it was broadcasted live on news. I think he also didn't get actual prison, only a suspended sentence for manslaughter and probation.
@@korassssssss that’s super interesting, I haven’t heard of that case before. The one I wrote about was also in the 80s, I believe in 81…
@@helenal1080 if you look hard enough there's actual video of Gary shooting the guy
Fucking based.
Many young people have never considered what they would do in that situation, showing both mothers' sentiment on the matter was the best way this topic could have been put into the proper perspective.
why is this comment 2 days ago when this vid just released?
@@ForTheWitness right? This video was just released and he somehow was 2 days ago
@@ForTheWitness
Patreon you get vids early
He should go to a nice prison with his own tv and shit lol.
@@thebean6496 ahhh ok thx
My mom just said "God will take care of them" I told her "God will take care of them through me then" I love my mama
We know our mothers wouldn't want us to risk throwing our lives away but most of us still would take revenge. It's in a sense not just for our mom, it's for ourselves. Cause who can live their lives knowing that injustice is there while they have a chance to do something about it?
HAHAHA!!! We need a "Mom's opinion segment" !! This was FIRE!!!! Much love to Moms! ❤
This so much whenever Aba goes off the rails
Perhaps Preach could hit him with a slipper
No one actually knows how they will handle trauma in their lives until it happens.
👆🙄 words to live by
This is absolutely facts.
Fact
Knowing my history I'll snap and sad to say I'm a hood baby so I would take the chance and fuck it walk up and smoke and smoke anyone with u
True.
I'm Xicano, hearing both your mothers response. I hear my mom saying the exact thing. Miss you mom. Paz
I hope the jury and judge will show compassion to this young man, he was reckless but justified imo and I hope justice is served.
Back when I was 13 I saw my father murdered in front of my eyes by 2 teenagers. Turns out my own mother planned everything… What also turned my world upside down was that she wasn’t a U.S. citizen and was deported back to Haiti a short time after. I was told around 15 years old that one committed suicide in prison, and the other one got off on time served. Fast forward I’m 41 now and I don’t know what got into me but I revisited my mom’s case. I found out where one of them lives and found out the other NEVER killed himself and lives 6 hours away from me. An overwhelming rage built up inside me and all of a sudden I wanted their families to fell the pain I felt all those years ago. I came to a quick realization that I have a wife and 2 kids that need me. I really feel for this man… but he will never find peace 😢
Fuck I'm kinda going through that. Holding onto her all her evidence for later. But I am pregnant a month after my mommy is gone. You saying this makes me know that revenge isn't worth it. Changing things from the bottom is the only way 😢. I'm sorry ur loss very hard story to hear yours. ❤❤
Damn this is so sad but also sounds like a movie plot
Feel* you fucked up your spelling in your made up story
Your family needs you, loves you and looks up to you. I know it’s tempting but don’t throw your life away over some scum.
Put money on his head if you want.
This man is going through the 5 stages of grief. He skipped denial and went just straight for anger. Which is absolutely understandable. His mother was just killed. That connection between a mother and son is special.
And he was justified doing so. No Law stands between the anciant concept and blood of family
I would have done worse than a stab and bounce, I would have torchured him for months in the most agonizing pain imaginable. I would have myself became a monster that day.
This guy is the epitome of my philosophy. You kill my family and the only trial will be my own, and in prison I'll be a fucking hero. It might have been my family member's time to die, but by god that makes it your time too.
@@jeremiahmuli9147 That is not correct. This was allowed until the Ransom sacrifice. After this the vengeance doesn't belong to us anymore.
@@dbtest117says words in a book.
See! Listening to what both of your mothers had to say and knowing fully well my Mum has told me the same would make it that even harder for me to not send that hypothetical murderer to the after life to apologise to my mum.
Anyone did something like that to my mom, they're getting it to the full extent, no question.
I feel sorry for anyone who wouldn't, the love between a child and their mother should be nothing less than this.
Hearing your parents makes me understand why you both are who you are... Logical and Respectful.
Their was nothing logical about their mothers response though, their response was based on religion, which is illogical. It was based on feelings and fantasy. There is no god there to punish them after they die and even if there was, the chance of it being your god is 1 in many thousands. If you're a person who would just allow the killer of your mother go free with the thought "god will sort them out" then you don't care about your mother.
@@Death-999 Your opinion is your opinion no dispute here. O yeah and I was talking bout Aba and Preach.
@Death The chance that there isn't a God is an impossibility
@@cyberspace7208 Wrong.
@@Death-999 You sound just as sure as those who believe in god. you got that in common
Hearing you both talk to your Mothers was a very special moment. Thank you both. Much love from New Zealand
A colder morning today! 🥶
it was defintely cute, but his accent was incredibaly bad haha
She seemed so sweet
I don't believe in killing apart from self-defense, and in that, best to just stay out of the situation.
One person kills someone, then the loved one gets revenge and kills that person, then that loved one goes for revenge and so one and so forth. It never ends. Us killings still playing the game starts by Cain killing Able. lol.
In short, when someone plays the killing game, everyone dies.
The amount of respect aba and preach had when addressing their mothers only speaks volumes on who they are as a person. I loved the amount of grace and wisdom that came out of their mouths
You could understand how she raised her son when Listening to Aba's mom on the phone. ❤️🙏🏼 A Religious woman with principles. It clearly shows when ABA talks. 👍🏼🇵🇬
don't ruin your life ovr revenge, Allah will get him.
Lol
Aba is not religious himself though. He himself said he's indifferent to the topic of God
yeah she sure raised an insecure incel, who goes around saying that to anyone that disagrees with them. they are just as bad as sneako.
they sure are true men.
@@vlad1529 I think what he said it was is that as long as he lives life as a good person and stays as close to the right path that he can of there's a god and they won't accept him simply because he didn't believe after being such a beautiful person then he doesn't want to go to heaven
I lost my mom almost exactly a year ago and whenever I see other people react with their moms like this it makes me sad but it also makes me happy. Thank you for this. Your mother is amazing
Rest in peace and condolences to your mother. Death is extremely horrible.
I don't know you but love you bro I know EXACTLY what you goin through
Condolences to you my brother! Keep the memories alive and some kind of comfort will remain with you! Love
@bigfan2452 thank you so much i truly appreciate that
SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS FAM STAY STRONG
I understand the aspect as a parent and not wanting your loved one to suffer due to your death. On the other hand i understand the idea of the son having a hard time not taking action when he apparently knew the killer. Its a sad situation all around as now 3 people effectively have lost their lives.
This is not a crime, it’s justice.
Your mama's answer made me cry; she is So right. I'm ashamed because sometimes I get hateful, vengeful thoughts. I know it's wrong (I was raised Catholic), and that vengeance is God's, not ours. Your mother's answer was beautifully, perfectly put. I am 73 years old, and I still learn from you younger people. God bless.
If everyone had your mentality we would live in an absolute hellscape where criminals would act with impunity knowing there would be no punishment until after death.
@blazerdude89 why would you say that? This person has shown they are willing to learn at an advanced age which is amazing! Many people aren't as growing and learning is more challenging at this age. and s/he acknowledges this. What is your point and what have you proved?
@@enken567 Thank you so much for your reply. You understood what I was trying to convey. You are so right; even if old dogs CAN learn new tricks, it sometimes takes a little longer. Spiritual issues can be a life-long struggle. God bless you for your understanding.
Amen :)
@@enken567
yeah sure you say that until your family and life is put to the test, all you religious fanatics always renounce on the verge of death or in direct consequences of your lax fallacy
I can completely understand both sides of this argument. Another point for taking out someone that took out your loved one is that it 100% stops them from doing it again. Something tells me the man who stabbed his mother to death is likely to do something like that again. Even if he would have went to prison, there is a chance he could get out or even stab someone while in prison.
Yeah someone who would stab someone to death for no good reason is insane and would do it again how I view it the pay for there actions and they could never harm anyone again
Yeh... didn't even think of that... good point.. especially since it didn't sound like this man and the mom were in a relationship. At least not stated in the news story.
Kid did what he needed to do. Sucks that he is going to prison tho
I hear you but that would never be the reason to do the same to him. Plus there could be many reasons for why he did it such as drugs, he could get clean and never do it again. The only reason to st*b him is a selfish reason and that's revenge. And I'm all for that.
This is accurate. I see so many stories of people given every chance after committing dozens of assaults. They don't go to jail, and have no worry about bail. Then they torture a 90 year old woman to death.
Without your mother in this world your a lost soul especially in these tragic circumstances. Can you imagine trying to sleep at night knowing what happened to your mother. In my own personal opinion he did what had to be done simple as that. And that my friends is justice. Now he can speak to his mother in prayer and reassure her that justice has been done!!! 🙏 Peace and love to everyone out there
The man needs to be given a lot of support so he can deal with losing his mother, just because he avenged her does not change the fact he is deeply hurting inside.
I asked my mom this _same question_ years ago, and her answer still resonates with me: "Star, I could be taken away from you, gone to my Creator and be in perfect happiness, with the only sadness knowing you and your brother are in pain. But I'd never, ever be able to rest in eternity knowing that it caused you to go and burden _your_ soul by taking the life of another in cold blood."
I don't think any parent would want to be the cause of their children doing something they can never come back from.
Wow, what an elegant answer. Such beautiful wisdom, and thank you so much for sharing that.
Beautifully said, my friend. Thank you for sharing.
A true warrior has no enemies.
That's a woman talking. Sometimes when it comes to these things it's beyond that soft sweet shit. Sometimes people have to die. Especially if they're out there hurting innocent people. To allow that to continue is harboring that.
@@rachethippyproductions Not for god-fearing people. “THOU SHALL NOT KILL.” God is the only one who can cast that type of judgement on those solely responsible. For you to carry that axe, means you risk eternal damnation. Ego be damned.
I was so close with my mom. She’s my adoptive mother and she saved me from a life of hell even when sick and on dialysis. She made a shitty life I would have had into a decent one I’m glad I had. I always told her, if anyone killed her, I would stop at nothing to find and kill that person cause living without her would not be worth living. Especially how this world is. But I know for a fact, she wouldn’t want it cause she said even in heaven, she didn’t go through hell so I’d spend my life in jail for a one time payback. So even though I’d want to kill the person, her legacy is stronger than my vengeance.
And that in my opinion is how you properly honor your mothers wishes and legacy. She sacrificed so you can give to others and continue doing good for the world like she did. You can't do that from inside a cell.
Respect!
I can't say what I would do (because I have never been in that situation, hope I never do). Except that I would do everything I can not to let wrath take hold.
You fellas got some good moms.
Aba and Preach's Moms sounds so level headed and rational. Great responses and so similar. I believe that they would only want the best for you and not throw away your life, no matter how hard things were without them.
Aba's mom is an absolute treasure! I legit teared up listening to her response.
I lost my mother to natural causes when i was 16. Going into this video, I had the mindset of "heads will roll" but after hearing Aba & Preach's mother's speak, my mind has changed.
Imma be honest. She isn't here to complain. Mostly because the dude who caused her death was the same dude who made my and her life hell so as edgy as it sounds, I'm still going for him.
I am proud of you for finding peace though, Lee. May the rest of your life be as peaceful and tranquil as you can feel now.
I'm so sorry
"Would it bring me back from the grave?"
The perfect point. Grief and anger can become dangerous and it's all consuming.
He was right , justice served, no crime committed, life for a life
I wish I still had my mom here. The anniversary of her passing is this Saturday. Brings up all kinds of emotions. I lost my mother to natural causes, to lose her because she was murdered would be a different story. The loss is already painful, but even so I know she wouldn't want me to get revenge. I love you mom.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending you hugs from across the world.
I can feel the pain 😢❤❤❤
Sorry for your loss. I'm blessed to still have mine. She lives with my wife, kids and I, as she's retired on fixed income and has a hard time getting around with limited mobility. I try to treasure the time I have left with her. Blessings to you, friend.
rest in peace to your mother man. I’m so sorry for your loss.
condolences, i feel ya man....
This was such a deep video. I'm glad we got to her from the two wise moms who've passed on their wisdom to their sons- thanks for including it. As a Christian, I know my mom would say the same because we know that Revenge is the Lord's. But I've always told my mom that if she passes away before me, I'm hopping into her grave next to her. It's a thought that, while highly likely, is still more painful than I can bear.
I'm a Christian but even I've had thoughts of doing grievous bodily harm to those who hurt my mom. So I understand the feeling.
The irony of being a christian is the wretchedness of old testament. An eye for an eye. People were egregiously punished.
@@yingyang7448 An eye for an eye goes back to Hammurabi's Code in Mesopotamia looong before the Old Testament was even written. And it was put in place to prevent people from committing even more egregious crimes.
Not saying that was right but we are talking thousands of years ago here when the first cities were rising and the concept of law and order was still in its infancy.
@@SuperSpasticNinja
And I would agree with you that it originates from hammurabi's code but my point being that christianity, the religion that is supposed to be of peace of mind/forgiveness/tranquility, had an incredibly wretched, revenge filled, flawed moral system in the old testament which, in a way, goes against what the original poster was saying about "revenge being for the lord".
So sorry for the guy who's mom is dead. I say you let him go. We're in no danger from him.
His eyes to me scream out for help. He’s a baby wishing his mother could hold him one more time. Rip to his mother and may god protect him in the rough future he has ahead of him
This was honestly yalls best episode to date! The amount you opened your family to us and had a conversation, that to it's core forces your mothers to confront their own mortality. Their answers were the definition of grace and faith. Thank you for that peek into your private lives like that.
Leaving a like for Moms. It takes a whole lotta living and struggle to get to where Aba's mothers head is at and I'm jealous of it frankly. Imagine having that level of peace and assurance in your life at half our parents age.
MUCH love and respect to the mothers that still hold down the Golden Rules as a general way of living these days. ❤
She’s a real Muslim with that faith and assurance ❤️ What she said is what Islam really engrains in our minds, that when it’s our time, it’s our time and nothing can stop or change that. What is meant to happen, will happen.
@@Fairydust74k Praise be to God!!
It’s called being an adult it’ll happen to you eventually keep at it
Their moms response is also my mom's response. She always tells me, leave it and give it to God, he will take care of it.
I’ve asked my mom the same thing and the answer she gave me had me thinking the whole night
She said she’d rather I take my revenge by doing my best to live the best life I can and succeed in my personal goals than to go out and commit murder and spend the rest of my life behind bars
I teared up a little for some reason with your mum's answers! Even in death they still want what is absolutely best for you. Very sweet.
Same.
This is how our parents are. I’m middle eastern but I always say how similar our family is to people in Sudan or even Africa in terms of religion, beliefs, way of life, ect
That’s Because it makes you happy that there’s still people who have humanity, it means there’s hope. Because this world is Crazy.
@@bradleyborno71 true
I lost my father unexpectedly last week, I am a 32 year old man, and it was the hardest thing I ve ever dealt with in my life, and I ve dealt with some traumatic shit before, but flying from the US to Morocco and bury my father just killed a piece inside of me...May god bless and give long lives to your mothers/parents.
All love.
Peace be with you and your family Hatim. Sorry for your loss.
Sorry for your loss
Condolences
So sorry for your loss, I unfortunately also lost my dad a few years ago when I was 26, I miss him dearly and even though the pain is less painful, I miss him the same as the first day I lost him. It'really hard. I'm not religious but even I pray often that my mom will at least live a looong and good life because I for sure ain't ready to lose any more loved ones. Even my dog died last not even a year ago and she's been with me for 14 years. Hurts the same as if i lost a family member.
I understand entirely the grief-stricken heartbreak you are enduring right now, Hatim. I too lost my father unexpectedly when I was about your age - and my heart goes out to you more than I can explain. The first six months after going through such a tremendous and unexpected loss comes with the most harrowing amount of grief. Thats when Enduring that roller coaster of crazy up and down emotions can be down right agonizing to bare through, but if I could offer you any advice, it would be to try your best not to suppress or rush through those stages - they are necessary to go through so that the healing can start to begin. Be patient and kind to yourself - cry when you need to - get angry when you feel mad, and by all means, laugh with your entire soul when it petitions you to do so.
Sadly, I think a lot of us don't fully realize it until the day comes where the one and only man that we have loved, adored and have looked up to every day of our lives - passes on - and for the first time in our lives - we have to figure out how to go on living without him in the world. Slowly but surely, you find a way to put one foot in front of the other - and little by little - you begin to go on and it simply becomes a new way of life.
With love and blessings to you.
There ain't no way. Just the thought of losing my mom hurts and to have it happen like that. Whoever did it better hope I never find them. Be the same with my dad or anyone else in my family but dude had restraint as they said knife wound as in one. That man set out to a job and he did quick, clean, and efficient.
I loved hearing both of you talk to your mother's ❤❤ beautiful
Y'all's moms are precious. Protect them at all costs. Seeing you two look so happy when you were talking to them, tells us everything we need to know about how great they both are and how good the relationship between you two and them are. I lost my mom 2 days after my 9th birthday to cancer, and my Dad is 70 this year. Spend as much time with them as you can. Make the good memories so you can reflect on those and recall them for the best of times. If anyone did that to my Mom, I come from an Irish/Spanish family. You can probably figure out how it might go xD.
ETA: We need more of y'all's moms on the show! (I'm still laughing about your roommate getting pulled in one of the other ones lol!)
I know! It's so cute when men love their moms so unabashedly, Aba blushing 😊❤
If you put the murderer of my mother in my hands there is no question.
Listening to you guys speak to your moms in your mother tongue is so heartwarming
For real
Do you perhaps know what language is Aba speaking with his mother?
@@blue... I looked a bit into Aba's life, and his mom is Eritrea before they moved to Canada. Eritrea has nine official languages: Tigrinya, Tigre, Saho, Kunama, Rashaida, Bilen, Afar, Beni, Amir, and Nera. Most people speak Tigrinya and the government uses Arabic. Considering his mom uses the phrase, "If God wills it," and God in Arabic is "Allah," my guess is that it's an Arabic dialect. Preach is speaking Haitian Creole, a French dialect from Haiti.
@@channingtaintum Incorrect. She uses an Arabic phrase, but the language she is speaking is Amharic
@@03e-210a I said Arabic was my guess, not that it _was_ Arabic. Thanks for the clarification.
An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth. That guy lost his human rights when he took a human life. If the justice system actually punished and kept criminals locked up then maybe people wouldn't feel like they have to take things into their own hands
If a man is willing to do all that upon such tragic news, that must have been a very close and loving relationship he had with his mom.
She gave me life. She gave me the world. There isn’t a single thing I wouldn’t do for her.
Aba's Momma's response was beautiful. Just beautiful. Warms my heart. Both Abba and Preach mom.
She seems like such a sweet lady
The son is NOT a threat to anyone else in society.
Jury nullification. If YOU are ever a juror on a trial like this, not guilty. It only takes one not guilty.
I love how both of your Mother's answers were so simple and loving and thoughtful.
As a son of an Ethiopian immigrant, I can’t explain how your mother’s response made me feel. Also as someone that’s sadly barely speaks Amharic it was a great listen 🥹
It was fun seeing Aba speak Amharic, also try to surround yourself with Ethiopian friends and you will pick it up more quickly (:
@@Sam-fs8sx Definitely, I used to go for 1-2 months during summers when I was a kid.
By the end I picked it up pretty well, the diaspora where I live isn’t really deep so finding friends like that is tough
@@Ben-G7 I feel you man. There's always the wifey route too lol, hopefully you meet one that has good values. Good luck my guy.
I'm in a similar situation, however wth my situation my dad is oromo and my mum is amharic. My dad didn't want us learning amharic. My mum was okay with both as she knew both amharic and oromo fluently. However my dad said nah only oromo so my mum was like I guess they aren't going to learn either then. Anywho after 30+ years of marriage they are finally separated.
@@beautyallaround_ I gotta say, as someone with mixed(ethnicity) Ethiopian roots, language was never an issue in my household since my parents were fluent in Tigrinya, Oromiffa and Amharinya and embraced all aspects of Ethiopian heritage. But it's wild to see how far some people take politics within their own homes. And the situation in Ethiopia is even more worse, as the country has been stuck in a continuous cycle of ethnic conflict since the introduction of this toxic system, which has torn apart the social fabric of society. I hope that one day Ethiopians will wake up and see just how vast and wonderful the world truly is. Or maybe open their hearts, embrace one another without judgment and labeling and strive to create a more peaceful, harmonious and unified society. 🙏
Have not finished the video yet but wanted to share my thoughts before hearing yours. This actually happened to me. My dad was shot 6 times 4 years ago and in the heat of the moment I would have killed the son of a bitch with my bare hands if I had him near me. There were a lot of intense emotions in that moment that I know would give me the inhuman strength to do it. In the end I recognised that killing this man would not bring my Father back. I did not forgive him, and he is in jail but I am at peace with myself. Acceptance is part of grieving, but it takes a long ass time to get to that point. It took me 2 years.
Four months late. Thank you for sharing that and wishing your family the best 🙏
My Prayers and Condolences goes to that Man ...
I already lost my mom a few years ago and it still hurts me to think about her. If someone murdered my mom I would definitely kill them with my own hands.
💯
Not murder. Fair game
The problem is it’s about what your mom would want not what you want. I totally get it but just know it’s selfish action it’s not helping your mom at all. Like Aba’s mom said the greatest gift u can give your mom is to be happy and live your life, if I revenged murdered and went to prison my mom would kill me again in the afterlife 😂😂
@@QMS9224 good point . But thats still something you gotta think…i dont know if i could be happy knowing someone who killed my mom was out there
I agree with you, i would drag out that persons end so that they fully felt the impact of their actions before they left this world.
My uncle lost his son. And, I've watched him struggle through life while he knew who murdered his son. He only moved on and made peace with the birth of his granddaughter. But, God knows how every day, for years, he wanted to pull up and kill those who murdered his son.
Which country is that in?
That’s depressing he should deal with that dude
and he was too punk to do it. What a story.
no honest jury would convict him. Jury nullficiation is a thing.
My great uncle was murdered in 1985.
Owing to the nature of sexism in those days, the man who killed him was sentenced to death and his female partner only got 10 years.
I’ve had to talk myself out of tracking her down a few times.
If it was my mother we are talking about, I can’t imagine self-control winning out.
A women say they want equal rights..... (insert bill burr here)
what i find interesting is that you'd go to the extreme for a female relative than you would for a male relative in general, assuming the same amount of closeness. Its the sexism at play on both sides.
Though I do not call it sexism personally, its just our natural predispositions. All the advancements in modern society is what makes these things look unfair or sexist. You only have to think of hunter gatherer society or some hundred years back to understand why men receive harsher punishments or why men are required to protect the women and children of their clan/ethnicity/etc.
We are animals first, we just happened to be so smart many of our biological features and differences became redundant. Imagine war with no advanced weaponry. Of course the group with the strongest men are going to win/rule.
@@Gwarzonicus I think lots of people would consider if not outright choose revenge for their mother’s killer. Mothers are usually the most important of an individual’s female relatives. Be it they grew up with male relatives or not. Through modern society, it has placed an emphasis on motherhood, leaving little room for fatherhood in the equation.
And of course everyone’s situation is different when it comes to familial relatives. Many different circumstances too.
I’m not sure how far one would consider this being sexist, but it’s certainly an interesting take with different perspectives. Just my thoughts.
@@Gwarzonicus your assumption is incorrect.
I never even met my great uncle.
I was only a few months old when he was killed.
I only know how my grandfather never stopped suffering from the loss of his brother.
So yeah, self-control would be harder to achieve if it was my mother.
Hearing both mom's pretty much was like hearing the spirit of my mom telling me the same thing. Enjoy your mom's wisdom and love while you can gentlemen - not a day goes by that I don't miss mine.
Totally enjoyed the mom's call and them speaking their language...absolutely loved it, so beautiful. 🧡😊
Your mom has an interesting outlook on this tioic. She really had me thinking... Much love from Houston TX 🤘🏾
As a mom now and a black women I don’t want my beautiful black child going to prison for anything even if it’s avenging my murder….
What would kill this people more is seeing a black male thriving and surviving from all the trauma and adversaries that would be stacked against him
U just have to emphasize that you're black cuz that clearly matters i guess
I ran the scenario to my mother. Her response was the same as y'alls mothers. She did add one extract thought. She told me to look at it from this perspective. If I were to seek revenge on her killer, then I'm not really doing it for her. I'm doing it for myself. She is gone. Any action taken after would be purely for myself.
that's obnoxiously accurate. i hate it when moms are right.
I don’t think that’s accurate. I would want them to suffer because they made her suffer. It’s that simple.
@@samstits8982 Yeah, it's YOU that wants that anyways... not your mum, which is OP's point
@@samstits8982 She said youre doing it for yourself not for her and the first thing you said is 'I WANT' HAHAHAHA
Don't you hate how mothers are usually ALWAYS RIGHT😂. Shot out to your Mom. She sounds awesome.
I lost my mother when I was 18. We were very close. We had the type of relationship where I could talk to her about absolutely anything. What hurt the most is that her death was incredibly sudden. She was here one minute and then "BAM!" she was gone. She wasn't ill, didn't have a terminal disease, but was gone so quickly. I learned later that that is the way aneurysms are. They strike quickly and without warning. I was so angry for so long, but since she wasn't killed by a person and I don't believe in God, I had no place to direct my anger, so I turned it inward. I internalized it and still, at 40 years of age, I haven't fully recovered. It didn't help that my mother's death was followed by the death of my father and then my sister(the only sibling I was really close to because she saw the real me and never judged me) all within the span of 5 years. I am still troubled and broken by their passing. Birthday's and Mothers Day are almost unbearable. Sometimes I think that things may have been easier if there was someone responsible for my mother's death. Someone I could point to, single out and hold responsible for my pain and agony. Maybe I would've had a better chance of getting over her death if there was someone to blame. Idk. Maybe I'm wrong and it wouldn't matter. Maybe I am just suffering because I didn't process losing my loved ones correctly. Maybe I should've tried therapy or told someone I trust how much everything was eating me up inside. Oh well. That's life, I suppose.
I believe that your mom still suffers because your life was also taken away. Till this very day you have given yourself a life sentence by not thriving and letting your mom watch you be happy. Please don’t waste another minute being angry. Work towards what your life would have been like if your mom was still alive. You deserve to experience that life. Take care 💕
@@Pawcket514 she’s not conscious anymore, she’s not capable of caring or suffering
@@HAHAd2 That's what you say. Those who have experienced life after death, say otherwise.
@@SunkissedMalice unfortunately after your brain dies, there’s no coming back
Did this make you feel better by posting and sharing it? If so id recommend you start therapy as its never too late. It sounds like you have some stuff you should really get out there and have someone to share it with. My life has been damn near the same. My brother died when i was 8 and that was 20 years ago and i still havent gotten over it. It was from cancer and because of that i always directed my anger towards god. To forget I turned to drugs and im still battling it. If i didnt have my own son i wouldnt be here