NO CONTACT: Why it's POWERFUL and How to Do It Better
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In this video I talk about the power of the no contact rule, and the effect it has on women and people in general. I also go over some tips on how to best implement the no contact rule to be most effective.
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what you say is vague. When a girl 'comes back', how would you know if you've gone no contact? She messages, and you ignore it?
Started no contact with "This will help me get my ex back" ended with "I don't even care anymore".
Real😂
That's how it goes for real😂😂 Hey everybody, Do all these people are telling you to do. No contact and working on yourself brutally and doing what makes you "really happy" and especially getting better in life, that will increase your value as a person and trust!
That's how it should work
Did the same, finally wake up and see the whole Picture
If she wanted to stay she would have never left in the first place. The real woman would never ever leave. So never have a mindset of ‘ she will come back ‘ always think that it was meant to be thats why you’re ahead
Don't read old text messages is a big one
Damn..
Delete all that shit, photos, throw away clothes she bought you, sage your house, move on!
I deleted the number, messages and all pics straight away
I had to erase them
My ex had been driving me crazy for the past few years. Our texting devolved into her either asking me mundane everyday questions like when I'll be home from work, or what's for dinner, or accusing me of cheating, nagging or anything else negative.
I found out she cheated on me. I started feeling down a few weeks after our breakup, but reading through our texts reignited my anger at the way she'd treated me. The lies and hypocrisy I was seeing while reading them, now knowing what she was doing all along, reinforced my decision to stay away.
To all the guys and girls out there who either have been through no contact or are in no contact right now, I have so much respect for you and y’all should be super proud of yourself. It’s one of the hardest and most painful things you can do as I’m learning now.
Nothing a glass of wine after gym time can’t fix❤️
Update bro?
I hear ya, I had to break it off with a woman I deeply love. I constantly worry about her wellbeing, she on a self destructive path. I couldn’t help, so I decided I couldn’t watch it either.
So painful.
🫡
Cheaters don't have remorse.
This is so true and so helpful. Going to stop focusing on that one girl who left me in the cold for one misunderstanding and was ready to throw all the magical moments, memories, chemistry and connection we’ve built and shared over the last year. Her loss. Time to love on. I feel free and an endless sea of opportunities in front of me. Thank you Danny, needed to hear that! 🙏😎😊
Im going through the same bro, one misunderstanding and she made 360 degree turn on the relationship.. all the good times went down the drain.. im so lost .. i tried contacting her
. , message her how sorry i am , but she never came back to the girl i knew.. shd just kept on pushing me away .. i decided to go no contact and never look back.. had my feelings involve bur it is what it is.. more woman out there .. have to keep it pushing.
damn wow if there is ever an update pls let me know. I've been in no contact for a month now and broken up for 4 months. I'm staying strong.
Wow...me too....everything that happened over 6 years is flushed down the drain......it was our very first obstacle in the relationship and bam.....she went out cold.....wtf.....3 years on .and I'm still in awe..as to how someone can just go without explanation or even trying to fix things.......
Same! My ex was wanting to get married and have kids. And now im single. Last thing she said since she couldn't find a good reason to breakup. I wish you would have cheated on me would make this easier
Ouch man. That’s harsh for you Daniel
I did this recently when she rejected me and doesn't wanted to communicate with me. So, I removed her from all social media and within one month, I am feeling the freedom. Focus on yourself more.
Once happened to me
Did she comeback?
Yeah please tell us bro, did she come back..?
@@lars396they always come back in one way or another
@@ReivajLivethey only come back if your replacement leave them
Getting incarcerated/heartbroken by my first gf of 5yrs was the best thing that could’ve ever happened to me. I’m a month out now and am getting stronger physically, and mentally. I’m also excelling in my sales career, and the results are showing. I’m 22. Sky’s the limit from here. Thanks for sharing brother. Subbed
Hope it’s going well 😊
Facts fam . I’m 21|Cyber security degree|Enlisting in the national guard this summer to waive my student debt. Let’s get it ‼️
@@Cloudyyyy88 late reply but thanks man, still growing and learning! Hope you’re doing good too
@@Fashionkillacamm dude nice!! I regret not joining the army after HS. Seeing all the 11b 75th RR stuff is awesome but I honestly don’t know how I would transition after getting out lol. Sales is awesome and I’m just going to milk it from here. Lmk how BCT goes!!
stay straight... keep it up
My first gf left me for another guy when I was 19 , it was an instant wake up call to how the world operates. I am now 43 and have never feared a breakup since , guess I’ve been red pill my whole adult life without even knowing it
My first girlfriend left me when I was 18years old,we fell in love when we was both 14years old
Oh and I’m sure that is a fulfilling existence for you with zero depth and intimacy. Sounds like FEAR AND INSECURITY TO ME NOT A MAN
You know it's tough to forget about her when everything reminds you of her. Everything from going to Lowe's home improvement, to driving past a flower shop. I even got a reminder of her today from an add on Instagram. Sucks. 5 months no contact.
And still no sign?
@@asennde Nothing. Her mother follows me on Instagram watches all of my stories. She only follows a handful of people Her, her son, her husband me and some cat pages. Recently she got engaged to her ex husband. Who always treated her like crap. Then I saw a few times after that she was looking at my Instagram stories as well. But still no real contact from her. 6 months now.
Brother I agree with you, but I’m sorry. The “Lowe’s Home Improvement” had me dead, why you say it like that haha
@@asennde not a word. 8 years and now nothing.
@@atrain1k377 we used to do a ton of home improvement projects together. From landscaping to remodeling the house. Tons of gardening.
Algorithm gods, blow this channel up!
They did
Guys, NO contact WORKS! You know how your mother calls you sometimes mad ass hell because she haven't heard from you.. LOL!
Finally a person with common sense and logic towards dating and relationships.
You’re just a bad researcher. Alexander Grace, Pat Stedman, and TellYourSonThis have been around for years.
Amazing. That's what I exactly did. And my energy was finally restored. Finally, I won't tolerate disrespect.
So sorry U listened to this Coward. U should have’d Man up& thanked the girl/ woman 4 that beautiful feeling she made U feel& there is nothing wrong with it! She helped U grow into the Man U R today! 4 some reason a higher power put her in your life, I know it must have’d hurt. It will if U R human, ever hear of the song 2 all the girls I lovedB4.🤭✌️
I think you made lots of good points. I got to that point of being too into my ex, it was addictive like you said. And because of this I lost my sense of self respect and let her push my boundaries too far. I could see this happening and didn't not like that feeling of being to emotionally dependent on another person. No contact allows you to deal with that fear and get a sense of self back. When you get to that place you are much stronger. You need to get to the place where if she comes back you can set your boundaries without fear of walking away if she doesn't
Respect them. You basically have to be cool with being alone
One of the best and simple explanations for self-love to go for NO CONTACT. Yeah, guys. a girl ain't special unless you see or believe her to be special. She has just got the same assets as any other girl. She is gone for a reason. Don't try to get her back. You have around 4billion women in this world. Do you really think you would get someone better than the one that you let go? Seriously?? Do you really think she is more valuable than you really are? Think and act guys!
Begin to see that it was not even her capacity to love which made me feel special. It was my own, reflected back to me...by her. She's always lied, deceived, cheated on men and left them in the rain like wet dogs. NOT so loving behaviour in the first place...
the act of getting back with an ex, shows her your scarcity mindset. her respect for you will never go Up, it will only do down more as she tries do do more of the stuff that lead to the initial separation in the first place.
It's almost more than one month i am in no contact with her and its quite hard but you can actually do it just have faith in urself guys rather than to beg for someone who don't give u same respect n love back...the person who can't see ur efforts towards relationship and being in negative relationship...just focus on growing and learning things..and make urself a better high value man..So be strong just..✌️🤙🔥
I wish I did this two years ago. It would have saved me months of confusion, heartache, and from desecrating my skin with a tattoo out of insecurity. I'm still healing and in a much better place now. Im removing this tattoo now, because it represents that darker time in my life. Once its finally gone, and even if there is permanent scarring, ive left that experience as a much stronger man
I don’t normally reply but loved your post,many things happen in life that we ask a higher power as to the why of it, but Ever hear the song to all the girls I’ve loved B 4. It’s her loss!U didn’t coward to the feeling,U captured that feeling & lived. It doesn’t come around very often! U R a true find, absolutely a better man for having the courage to have’d lived, loved🤭✌️🦋
Thank you and this is really helpful for me. It's been three months since my ex had broke up with me and I've been struggling on what I should be doing next. I'm finding being in no contact helping me heal my own wounds and to focus on myself instead of that one girl who left me and I would rather not bother with her since I know who she really is now. It's about time that I should let things go between me and her and to focus on loving myself more than ever now and getting to my purpose.
This video is one of the reasons I love this channel Danny. No contact is a powerful tool. I've used it many times in the last 15 years. It was always for me and me alone. I didn't care if they came back. It was for my strength.
The times they did come back and yes the same behaviours popped back up it was an instant no contact again. One in particular did several times to the point I had to tell her enough...find someone else.
Stay strong men... we have the power. Indeed the ability to walk away without emotion, without explanation is a super power.
Well spoken and explained,, good advice for many who are being strung along or being used until someone better comes along,,,
I'm on day 7 of going no contact. There have been a couple times I almoooost reached out but I caught myself and didn't do it. Hasn't been easy but I know I'm doing the right thing.
One of the better videos that explain why this process is important.
My wife asked for no contact, she reached out after 8 days asking for divorce. At both intervals I couldn’t have cared less. I told her that my happiness is my responsibility and that I’ve accepted and moved on. She’s bitter about her choice but you never go backwards. Don’t chase after someone who let you go. Remember that the same woman who married you isn’t the same woman divorcing you. Wish them well and move forward, life must go on. Don’t fall into the trap of hurt and negativity, it ain’t gonna help you heal. Accept and let go. It took me two months to learn this. The faster you do this, the better. Make the room for someone better to enter your life.
I'm literally going through this right now. She said she's not sure she loves me anymore and she thinks its done. I packed my bag and left. I haven't spoken to her in 3 days and it is getting easier. I am going to have to go and get the rest of my stuff as we were married for 4 years and living together for over 7.
Amen brother🎉 Had to do this after the last toxic relationship I was in. Changed my phone number,deleted email she had and didnt let her know my address lol she still reached out to a good mate of mine chatting shxt asking if I wanted stuff I left behind at her place - even though we had already said our goodbyes etc. Apparently she emailed too but I wouldnt know because as I said I deleted it😂. Very glad I did that. I know she only tried to contact me to twist the knife. Anything I left behind she knew I didnt want. Anyway. Great video.
P.S. would never recommend moving in with a woman. Have your own place and own space. Js
This is the best video on this subject. Pure truth bombs here , Danny!
Thanks brother, appreciate the support
Keep Moving Forward
Great video man. I've been dealing with this myself for months and for me its been hard because before this one girl i pretty much shut myself for years not having any interest in relationships and finally taking that leap and trying again it all came crashing down and she got back with her ex and ghosted me and to top it all off I still have to see her from time to time because she works around where i live and I run into her way more then i want so its still a work in progress and anyone else going through it kudos and I have nothing but respect and love for all of you
Hi there, I thought you might like to hear from a woman’s point of view who’s gonna through same; she’s a Coward & did U a favor. Ever hear the song to all the girls I’ve loved B 4. For some reason a higher power put her in your life & think of that beautiful feeling U felt; that’s the beauty of LOVE, it only comes around seldomly U had the courage to B all in, U R a rare find, I know it might hurt still but just think of the Man u have grown into B of this experience🤭✌️
Spot on!!! Going all out with no contact really helps in getting over someone.
This is the absolute best video I've seen on this! You are 100000% right. I can't tell you how many points you hit on that spoke to me and I was honestly quite surprised you hit on those points!
powerful, no contact, was and is a relief, thank you so much
I needed to hear that exactly as you stated it. You were clear, concise, and on point the whole time. Thank you, for posting this👍
I learned this lesson about 13 years ago now. It’s easy for me to move on when the time has come. Everything this guy is saying is spot on.
Good video. It's about you. They are gone for a reason. It's not about getting them back. It is about you getting better.
I'm doing this already and I agree with most of what you said, but I remember following you for mens fashion lol .. I didn't expect this content.
This was such a well made video! Thanks for sharing
Great clarity, keep posting content!
Thanks for making and sharing these insightful, helpful, and impactful videos! Stay blessed and be well 👍🏼
i literally deactivated my socials and deleted every photo and video of us, since i caught her with another man at about two weeks ago,
the first week was hard, it was so hard that i literally focused on myself so much that i started to exercise and study harder to give my mind a stop, and here i am now, 2 weeks in and i’m feeling better and sharing my redemption as a man as
i started to care more about myself and treasure my worth as a loyal man that is starting to build himself from scratch as a lone wolf that is focusing on the present and accepting the past and building my future value as best as i could
Thank you for this! This is great info!
Everything in this video is SOLID GOLD ❤
Day 13 no contact, it gets easier fellas, I have now seen other girls, no one interesting enough but I'm doing me.
How long did it take? I’m really going through it. I don’t know how to take my mind off it
Stop counting days guys
13 days and already “seen other girls” your ex is better off without you
@@merys333 😂😂
Always remember that TIME HEALS everything. I’ve been wrecked so many times by women over the decades and all that works is time. Trust me
Time doessnt heal anything...it will only teach yoi how to live with pain
@@Dmzhkm That’s deep. Maybe you’re right
The content and the delivery was A1! I love this and watched it 3x’s !
The best video till now♥️♥️
Needed to hear this man. Instant sub
Bravo man! I just left mine and can walk away but I still love her after 4 years. But I’m walking, what will be will be.
Wow, best take on this subject I've come across so far 😮
Your channel will grow fast! Awesome quality in all aspects. You know what you are doing. 👊
Thank you bro 🙏
Great stuff! Very clear and useful.
Very well spokes, so easy to understand. 🔥 video
You explained it very well brother. Good video.
I needed this video today.
this is so good. thanks for your insight
Its okay to love them you just have to live and love your mission more and thats where your strength comes from. If you master that then you wont be on the floor you will be in your mission fully and reaping all the huge rewards from it.
Awesome videon! You have a new follower. No bullshit talking just straight facts
I should have seen this video a few months ago, I was in a relationship with a disrespectful woman, actually very dysfunctional person (adhd, traumas and insecurities) so I broke up with her multiple times but we had an amazing chemistry and sex life so we got together 5 times one way or the other! Recently I did it for the last time, I was fine but few days later I missed her and reached out to her, she went "no contact" so I'm the one had been wondering what happened but I'm sure I made the right decision breaking up with her 100% I just need to forget her once for all... Your explanation of why they don't deal well with rejection totally makes sense, every time I broke up with her, she went insane with insults Lol... Also I did burn all the stuff I got from her, total detachment! Thanks for the tips
bro looks like deadpool
Right on time thank you!!
Bro you cant imagine when i found this video...thank you..and also youtube for having me this video at perfect time.❤❤❤❤❤
Solid advice! 💯
I'm learning not to want someone thats bad for me .. I like how he says it . Exactly what I've been thinking. ... just be happy, single, guys .
I needed this badly
this video is really works i already know about these things but i still watched best things you should do.
Cried in New years eve, do to hurt and not understanding what I did wrong! Woke up New Years Day at peace , no longer bothered, he is now last year toxic mess.. I'm so much happier and ready to do me! No contact 2 months 😊 but he's reached out to me and my kids! Setting boundaries..
Bro spittin facts
Needed to hear this tonight haha
When she broke it off with me, it was the ultimate F U - but I took it in the chin and did not let it get to me. I deleted our chats right after since I did not want any reminders of her. Deep down I was angry but I turned it into fuel for motivation to do better for myself. I will not sit here and feel sorry for myself - I will get back to work and be the best version of myself.
I’ve been chatting with someone who I really like. She’s been pretty guarded but has let me in a bit. I wasn’t sure if she liked me as much so stepped back and gave her space. A few days in she messaged asking if I was ok and why I’d gone quiet.
Where were you !!! thks a lot for the message it was really worth it I have to see this video several times.
Very good video. Good insight!
fricking awesome advice thanks!
Continuing my No Contact because it is the right thing to do but the pain lingers......doesn't even seem to lessen.......I guess it will be a long time before it dissipates.....am keeping busy with some sports and other projects but it is tough.
Keep going it gets better
How are you now?
How's it going bro?
@@TheHamburgler123 i can tell you that you start to forget that person, two months ago I felt heartbroken but its get better
The only thing I disagree with is dating someone as fast as possible when you're fresh out of a relationship or whatever. You should date someone bc you WANT to, not to get over someone else. That isn't fair for that person bc they may really like you, and you're just doing it to, "see that other women are out there." Everything else is spot on though.
you get to make that abundance mindset, and to that you need to spin plates
I needed this video so badly… recently had a girl accuse me of trying to cheat for giving a coworker a ride home.. she freaked out and said she wanted to end it. Last night was very tough and even now I hate how this feels but this video definitely helps me see things in a new light
Left a somewhat quality woman over disrespect only regret is not commmunicating boundaries beforehand (I left after a pattern). Been back and forth a lot lately, Thank you 🙏🏾
Going through the same thing , no contact is the best way to deal with the loss . 😇 . I did it for my mental health . Once you make your mind up to let go , priceless . 🙏🏾👍🏾
Same. Here. Stay strong brother
Thanks . Great advice 😊
Woow this video is amazing, out of every video i have seen, this is without a doubt the best video, and the one that helped me understand what i need to do
Very well said bro!
I’m here for the comments, and feel your pain boys!
Yeah it really works I saved my life literally
Great Video !!
love the video!!
Excellent Video 👍
Thank you my man this really helped me
My gf brokeup with me (5year realation) just 2 days ago, we were having already a "disconnection" with eachother from a couple of months already, she has a little girl that now has 8yo, now she want me to be there for her whenever i need her and to her little girl too, (because she afraid that she goes for an "abandoned relation" from me to her little child), and all this thing hit me really hard, more than i even know it could, so i told her a day ago that i understand all of the situations in her life and that she doesnt love me anymore, but i do love her and for that i wanted to cut all conections, chat, calls, photos, everything, its been 2 days but i think i can make it, focusing on work now and trying to understand my feelings everyday and not blaming and more focusing on what not to do and trying to be better, hope it works well. Hugs to every dude in here that's being trough a breakup, be strong, be smart, be better!!! (sorry my english)
how’s it going bro bro
Now I get it! Helps me as a woman move on he currently has me as nc. It’s kinda fun but moving on both sides can do better always.
I can't love this video more...
Simple & effective especially in open relationships.
This is very much needed. Just broke up with someone today, and they're still texting me. Not responding, going no contact.
great words of advice
Why so less Follower? This channel is a Gem.
Great advice
Its the catch 22. Sometimes the relationship gets out of control and you have to hit the brakes. But you must accept she may not comeback. I havent spoken to my gf for about 10 days. While other say she will contact me, I dont think she will. Not all women deal with rejection the same. Some take it personally, that they arent good enough and grab another guy to forget. That being said I recently got a text from another girl I met 3 months ago. She is coming up to see me in Feb. Once you make that no contact you must accept it likely is over and you might as well go hang with other women because she is likely with another guy now. Dont use no contact as a tool to get a girl back odds are 60 per cent plus she is gone if she is reasonably attractive and has options.
Thank you.. this helps alot.
Self respect is all
I’m on day 3 of no contact I will update at day 30, 60 and 90.
update?
@@alejandradelossantos4582bro forgot lol. i’m on day 11, it’s still hard
Love it! 👍🏻 & Subbed
My gf of 2 years did this to me. It’s driving me crazy but I’ve been just focusing on myself. It’s even harder to move on when family and friends don’t wanna listen to you and just tell you to suck it up. Got my dog and that’s it. Just gotta keep going. You’ll love again and the pain is temporary
Keep your head up. I'm going through the same shit.