NO CONTACT: How to STOP Missing THEM

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    In this video go over some ideas & tips on how to stop missing the person you have gone no contact with, in order to heal and move on for good.
    0:00 Intro
    0:45 The biology issue
    2:58 Avoiding triggers
    4:32 Mindfulness & replacement
    7:12 Verbal & written outlets
    8:10 The social factor
    8:56 The physical shapes the mental
    #selfimprovement #nocontact

Komentáře • 91

  • @Ahmedabad-Single-Souls
    @Ahmedabad-Single-Souls Před 7 měsíci +55

    Ignore those who ignore you.

    • @stevo6891
      @stevo6891 Před 3 měsíci +3

      I agree

    • @Ahmedabad-Single-Souls
      @Ahmedabad-Single-Souls Před 3 měsíci +1

      @@stevo6891 👍

    • @stevo6891
      @stevo6891 Před 3 měsíci +2

      @@Ahmedabad-Single-Souls this one girl I liked in the past never gave me the time of day she tried talking to me one day I avoided her

    • @Ahmedabad-Single-Souls
      @Ahmedabad-Single-Souls Před 3 měsíci +5

      @@stevo6891
      No one has died of being single but many die a silent death everyday being with the wrong partner.

    • @Ahmedabad-Single-Souls
      @Ahmedabad-Single-Souls Před 3 měsíci +2

      @@stevo6891 Ignore those who ignore you.

  • @Sassquatch713
    @Sassquatch713 Před 2 měsíci +19

    Learn to be alone, learn to do the things you used to love to do. Finally learn to be happy or at least try. Love finds you , you don’t look for it. Just don’t hate the world and turn cold. Remember to smile even if it’s hard.

  • @mandocrafts4311
    @mandocrafts4311 Před 5 měsíci +43

    Day 3 of no contact.
    Every time I feel the urge to phone, I watch this video.

  • @michaelleewagaman301
    @michaelleewagaman301 Před 3 měsíci +13

    Use that pain as fuel for your inner fire to become the best version of yourself. Remember nobody cares about you, but you.

  • @jamessullivan5619
    @jamessullivan5619 Před 7 měsíci +66

    Still doing No Contact......38 Days now......Still in Pain.

    • @makingmodernmen8843
      @makingmodernmen8843 Před 6 měsíci +36

      Bruh I’m 6 months in and still think about her every day. It gets easier. But the only way to really heal is to fill your life. Hobbies, friends, exercise, work, new experiences. You have to rebuild a life and identity apart from them. You’re resetting your life

    • @mrteiko9629
      @mrteiko9629 Před 6 měsíci +8

      Day 130

    • @jessewright8930
      @jessewright8930 Před 6 měsíci +8

      Dude date other woman

    • @jessewright8930
      @jessewright8930 Před 6 měsíci

      @@makingmodernmen8843that’s facts but dating other women who are better physically and mentally is way better. Leave the past in the past who you are today is not who you was yesterday therefore women you use to date are women you probably would never date now. Only if your evolving would this makes sense.

    • @arik513
      @arik513 Před 5 měsíci

      ​@@makingmodernmen8843you got This broo god bless you

  • @duncanmac2195
    @duncanmac2195 Před 4 měsíci +15

    Guys go talk to other females even if its a plutonic one. They help give me new insights from the female view that guys miss. For example when you hurt a girl through withdrawl she may feel she isnt good enough and fade away. And even if she contacts you in say 2 months, your head maybe far away by then. I think its safe to say if you havent heard from her within a couple of weeks its time to move on. Some women never give in, no matter how much it hurts them and its for reasons men dont quite follow.

  • @thejovontorres
    @thejovontorres Před 8 měsíci +27

    When I went through my last break up, it was so hard to follow the no contact rule.
    I kept looking at her social media and missed her more until I finally blocked her and cut off all contact.
    The social factor was great for me to get over her. And working out kept my mind focused too.

    • @itsdannyvera
      @itsdannyvera  Před 8 měsíci +7

      For sure. That's good though that you were strong enough to finally say enough is enough and cut it off. It's tough for a lot of people to do that, but its necessary

  • @chamsAd
    @chamsAd Před 6 měsíci +21

    Its been 9 days no contact with a girl after an 8 years (as a GF ofc). Its hurt like hell but when i remember her words, i'm glad that i did NO CONTACT with her.

    • @riyz7599
      @riyz7599 Před měsícem +1

      How’s it going

    • @barabele
      @barabele Před 19 dny +1

      Did she reach out?

    • @chamsAd
      @chamsAd Před 19 dny

      @@barabele directly no, but i found that her sister stalking my ig.

    • @chamsAd
      @chamsAd Před 19 dny

      @@riyz7599 perfect, i found my inner peace.

    • @chamsAd
      @chamsAd Před 13 dny

      @@riyz7599 great tbh, I’m trying my best to heal from that RS.

  • @christianstaub9808
    @christianstaub9808 Před 8 měsíci +18

    My main physical destressor is judo. The problem is I met my ex at judo class, and we bonded deeply over that activity, but now it can be a bit of a trigger. This place is also my main social location. She doesn't attend anymore, but I'm still reminded of her. Yet I don't want to lose the primary destressor, source of fun, and physical activity in my life rn.

    • @itsdannyvera
      @itsdannyvera  Před 8 měsíci +11

      I dated a girl for awhile that went to my jiujitsu gym and it screwed with my mind for awhile too, but eventually it goes away and you don't associate the two anymore. Keep going brother and don't change up

    • @stevo6891
      @stevo6891 Před 3 měsíci

      I use to do Judo killed my joints over time

  • @nickl1288
    @nickl1288 Před 5 měsíci +9

    Girl here. You guys are sweet. It’s good to know some of you care😍😇

    • @vnln9
      @vnln9 Před 3 dny

      Why shouldn't we? We are human just like you are, no? "Some of you" makes it sound like there is a statistically higher chance of males being sociopaths.
      Well, I'll say it anyway. It's been a long time and I'm hurt. And what? She doesn't care. I was thrown away. Still, good to know some of you care, right?
      I'm sorry.

  • @Lev782
    @Lev782 Před měsícem +2

    1 year of No Contact. First 8 months were tough, but I’m happy that I went through it because of how rational my decisions in dating and time have become. Life will become simpler and better if you focus on the goals that you have that are bigger than a person that was part of your life

  • @kari.ethereal
    @kari.ethereal Před měsícem +3

    I`m an 18 year old girl and I needed a video like this. I wasn`t the one that chose to go no contact and that has made it significantly more painful. Me and this person hurt eachother constantly during the relationship, but I still wanted to stay so bad. the process has been really painful and I`ve been seeing this person in my dreams plenty times, missing them everyday and all that stuff. Just wanted to say thank you, to you and all the creators that make content like this, it really gives a sense of comfort and it is incredibly helpful 💗

    • @mjmj9213
      @mjmj9213 Před 20 dny

      Omg I'm 19 year old female and I've been going through that exact situation, that's crazy. Good luck to both of us I guess ❤️

  • @petrfilinger9205
    @petrfilinger9205 Před 7 dny

    Regression therapy is great. All that pain of from that little boy not getting enough love and attention from his mum and afraid he will lose her and die. That can be healed and then breakups are more factual and little unpleasant instead of crushing. Heal those parts in you

  • @DavidTramacchi
    @DavidTramacchi Před 4 měsíci

    Really appreciate you making this video mate 🙏

  • @aashishlama2005
    @aashishlama2005 Před 3 měsíci

    Love how you present your videos!!!

  • @ilovepapiler
    @ilovepapiler Před 7 měsíci

    Great content! Thank you.

  • @m1croN1337
    @m1croN1337 Před 7 měsíci

    This was helpful. Thank you, sir!

  • @TheRealTraivonNieves
    @TheRealTraivonNieves Před 8 měsíci +7

    Man Dani.. this hit deep! Thanks for the information! 👊🏽

  • @huihuiev2329
    @huihuiev2329 Před 3 měsíci +1

    Great videos sir ! Keep up the good job !

  • @yugiohvalley
    @yugiohvalley Před 8 měsíci +11

    Just in time. I needed this one.

  • @ilyneamari3398
    @ilyneamari3398 Před 6 měsíci +2

    First time passing by here, your videos are amazing! Love how you include science explaining everything. It helps a lot!

  • @deimosssgg
    @deimosssgg Před měsícem

    Thank you so much for this video. I tried no contact and even when I try so hard, still i get weak and start contacting. Failed many times. This time I hope it's permanent. I was doing some of the things you have discussed. Now I will try doing it all and do it more seriously. Thank you for explaining so well detailed. I hope everyone who is struggling, gets over this trauma one day.

  • @mdvarela99
    @mdvarela99 Před 2 měsíci +2

    It has been over one month of no contact from a girl who accused me of cheating on her and engaged in revenge sex only to learn that it was a false accusation. My life has been better and looks more filling looking back now at her immature self. Don't settle with the childish and low value, aim for the stars my boys 🎉

  • @MMKnight_1
    @MMKnight_1 Před 5 měsíci +10

    Hard when you see her everyday...

    • @OldMate35
      @OldMate35 Před 2 měsíci +2

      Agreed, that’s so hard. Doesn’t mean we can’t do it though. We’ve got this!!

    • @icebarker77
      @icebarker77 Před měsícem +1

      had to go through this too.. It is breakup on hard mode. Nevertheless, you get out even stronger once you are over it. There is a secret benefit in every situation. I believe in you guys!

  • @LeeEverett1
    @LeeEverett1 Před 16 dny

    I stopped counting the days but it's been a little over a month, I still think of her everyday but she doesn't consume my thoughts. It's getting easier each week but man I still miss her and the memories we had.
    Everytime I miss her though I remind myself of the way she discarded me and threw it all away like it was nothing.

  • @michaelleewagaman301
    @michaelleewagaman301 Před 3 měsíci

    Yup I tell myself to get the hell out of my head.

  • @Swaazie
    @Swaazie Před 7 měsíci +1

    It's bin about 4 months now and now and then I feel the pain sll over, but am doing better now and will be in the near future

  • @redpill5671
    @redpill5671 Před měsícem

    It was my fault that my girlfriend of 7 years broke up with me. I'm gonna take your advice to heart. All I have to do is move on and be better.

  • @sandramaracle-harder2891

    The no contact is hard. I used to call my neighbors granddaughter my grandneighbor. 8 years I watched and helped her grow. Now poof a disagreement over another grandneighbor and I have no contact, but she lives nextdoor. Very hard to get over. Any advice will help!

  • @lawrencemartin6883
    @lawrencemartin6883 Před 6 měsíci

    Love you videos, and i only see you a few days ago, i doing tbe no contact rule again, whit the mother off my son, shes been for a good wile showing low respect, and she also keeps texting me when i have my son,
    Has been my fault for a wile, by leeting her, and beeing to soft, but i defo want out my brain and life, i started meeting new girls, again, thanks for any advice

  • @brijukukreja7052
    @brijukukreja7052 Před 10 dny

    I am in no contact for 6months now and don’t intend to have her come back

  • @DalalAlqallaf
    @DalalAlqallaf Před 2 měsíci

    On my 5th day today 😢🙏🏽

  • @doladolakatang7381
    @doladolakatang7381 Před 3 měsíci +1

    12 days no contact

  • @rosasavo
    @rosasavo Před 2 měsíci

    Im struggling to move on from person i was “ dating” he never wanted relationahip and i was cool taking it slow but he says because his past he cannot move on. But he still wana talk and tell me everything about it

  • @deimosssgg
    @deimosssgg Před měsícem

    Failed to hold back After less than 20 days. This time I hope it's the last time. I hope this time it's forever. Been almost 3 months. Still in pain. Probably will take more time. Trying my best.

  • @Raizenaru
    @Raizenaru Před měsícem

    her parents are making us go no contact until she’s 18. She could sneak to talk to me, but she doesn’t want to because she tired of fighting it. She wants to just let what’s supposed to be be, just trust God. I love that idea, I love her ideas, I love her beautiful mind, and I love her. But I can’t do this. I can’t do no contact for 10 months when I love her so much.

  • @user-gj7rj8dk3p
    @user-gj7rj8dk3p Před 4 měsíci +1

    My bm block me so I only can call my son but even he gets told not to pick up

  • @VishalMishra-bq3gp
    @VishalMishra-bq3gp Před měsícem

    Day 1, but she works in the same company as I do..

  • @MyMarko84
    @MyMarko84 Před měsícem

    31 day.. still in pain.

  • @AlexGarcia-ke3qq
    @AlexGarcia-ke3qq Před 8 měsíci +5

    great content man
    recently broken up with a 34yr single momaa
    im 22
    lasted like 2 months but shit hurts i broke it off btw

    • @itsdannyvera
      @itsdannyvera  Před 8 měsíci +7

      Yeah man, sometimes the short ones can hurt the most. It's weird how that works. Stay strong bro, it'll get better

    • @AlexGarcia-ke3qq
      @AlexGarcia-ke3qq Před 8 měsíci +3

      @@itsdannyvera Thanks so much brother big blessings coming your way the channel is growing!

    • @bigdaddyslick4961
      @bigdaddyslick4961 Před 8 měsíci +2

      im 27 and recently broke up with a 31 yo single mama. lasted 2 months also but shes my coworker and i gotta see her ass every day with another dude now LMAO

    • @daleru14
      @daleru14 Před 8 měsíci

      @@bigdaddyslick4961don’t date single moms come on!

    • @debmalyadas6562
      @debmalyadas6562 Před 7 měsíci

      @@bigdaddyslick4961 lol

  • @archstanton3763
    @archstanton3763 Před 6 měsíci +1

    Sending pictures of yourself relaxing on a nice tropical beach works wonders. Drives them nuts that you can adapt overcome and ultimately triumph without them. The same applies for any activity, their jealousy is easily heightened.

  • @awa54321
    @awa54321 Před 5 měsíci +1

    First comment of 2024:
    I did this to a family member last year who showed disrespect to me that I told them, cut them out of my life for more than six months.

  • @chriscowell9823
    @chriscowell9823 Před 8 měsíci +2

    Yo Danny, I think you will be super popular and I have an interesting life, let's do a podcast together. I haven't done any btw. I have been kidnapped and had 4 businesses though

    • @makingmodernmen8843
      @makingmodernmen8843 Před 6 měsíci +1

      Brother, 4 subs… never done a podcast… what do you have to offer him lol, you just want free exposure

  • @thomasdsouza6842
    @thomasdsouza6842 Před 5 měsíci

    the no contact rule is really hard as no one knows how long it will take
    What if she wants to come back but she waiting for you to make the move

    • @comparecards5688
      @comparecards5688 Před 4 měsíci +7

      She’s no waiting for you she already got someone else!

  • @Stevanasorous
    @Stevanasorous Před 3 měsíci

    Danny Vera is Ryan Gosling's secret brother